The strength in your words are contagious. Thank you so much! I found myself in a stonewalling rut the last 24 hours which, my man doesn't deserve to suffer for due to the state of my destructive thoughts. Thank you for bringing me back to a productive mindset!
I missed or avoided the signs too. My control came from so many external factors that felt out of control. The more out of control it felt, the more controlling I became. He didn't open up about his perceptions. I believed it was external, he believed it was our marriage. My attempts to control was all with good intentions to protect us and our futures but I missed the signs. We created a tragedy, equally, together, all with the best of intentions. So sad. Dead zone. Chapter closed. Hope I can grow from this.
Thank you Monika. The content of your video is very good and I find them more interesting and useful than many marriage counseling, so the ads that some complains in their comments about are justified for such a good content. Personally, I have been married 29 years and little by little I have seen these Horses of the Apocalypse appear constantly and I am afraid I am at that point of no return. God bless your work!!
This is really good, and I only listen to the first 10 minutes of this video only because I listened to one of your other videos called "Emotional disconnection in Marriage" that I though was excellent. Looking forward to hearing more of your insight. Thank you!
Such great content - thank you, Monica. I have only come to see your very insightful, perhaps recurring patterns of relationships that are challenging. Much ti learn from your videos. Will soldier on and try to learn. 😊
Just stumbled onto Monika’s videos. Her material resonates w/ as a male. Spouse started to pull away about 7 yrs ago. Found out her friends were either cheating or separated. Found out spouse was expressing love to him. I’ve apologized for past behavior.. she hasn’t apologized much less admits an affair. We’ve each built a wall and simply co-exist. Thou I get a feeling that there are days she wants to be chased. I find that as a nonstarter,
This is us. She told me i had chances to change along thr way, but out of the fear of facing childhood problems with my father, i did didn't get thr help i needed until she wanted the divorce. She filed, moved out and is pursuing other relationships, even though I've made changes. There has to be some way to win her back, but it feels hopeless, now ive chased her so much, and she's lost all attraction, so she just sees me as a relative. Please tell me there's some way to still win her back before she moves on and marrys someone else!
Men don't open up and be vulnerable because it will be used against you in the future. Only good news, success, and winning are then shared while failures are obscured. That's the dynamic when contempt and criticism are what is often shown.
Hi Monika, appreciate your videos. Thank you! Currently going through something similar although we are not married, but finding these tips really helpful. Love all the way from Malaysia :) hoping things come through for my relationship, love this guy very much.
I would love to see a video where a man speaks on all of this so that I can show it to my husband and it may sink in. I love Monika and all of her work, but he simply won't take it in if it's coming from a woman. I'm not going to protect him, that's just the way it is.
I'm a man who is having marriage problems. Monica has helped me to understand a lot. If he can't take advice from someone just because they're a woman then that's no good. I see what you're saying though. I feel like if I showed my wife these videos she wouldn't take it well anyways even though it'd probably help because she's so spiteful right now
financial problems over and over due to someone making poor choices without including the other party in making decisions financially. We owned a business for 17 yrs and sold it made barely anything because of huge debts.
What kind of future a woman spect if the emotion are controlling ur self,get ur self guts and be realistic and the end of the days u will die no matter what u do or not do
And there's always a RETURN if u have the strength to not be a selfish and if ur couple don't want to cooperate it's very simple just look him at the eyes and tell him then u are going to fuc, someone else and watch the change he will make
Men's we are in most cases a provider's and we put the chest to the bullets,unfortunately there's idiots aut there like woman's wo cheats and fuc, everything up,if happiness is what u want u can party a lot bur remember not always its like that
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The strength in your words are contagious. Thank you so much! I found myself in a stonewalling rut the last 24 hours which, my man doesn't deserve to suffer for due to the state of my destructive thoughts. Thank you for bringing me back to a productive mindset!
I missed or avoided the signs too. My control came from so many external factors that felt out of control. The more out of control it felt, the more controlling I became. He didn't open up about his perceptions. I believed it was external, he believed it was our marriage. My attempts to control was all with good intentions to protect us and our futures but I missed the signs. We created a tragedy, equally, together, all with the best of intentions. So sad. Dead zone. Chapter closed. Hope I can grow from this.
I’m watching this crying, 52 years and he told me he wants a divorce, because of everything you just shared. I who’s I found you sooner❤
Thank you Monika. The content of your video is very good and I find them more interesting and useful than many marriage counseling, so the ads that some complains in their comments about are justified for such a good content. Personally, I have been married 29 years and little by little I have seen these Horses of the Apocalypse appear constantly and I am afraid I am at that point of no return. God bless your work!!
Thank you so much for the kind words🙂.
This is really good, and I only listen to the first 10 minutes of this video only because I listened to one of your other videos called "Emotional disconnection in Marriage" that I though was excellent. Looking forward to hearing more of your insight. Thank you!
This video is worth it’s weight in gold. Great insight and information. Thank you so much
Such great content - thank you, Monica. I have only come to see your very insightful, perhaps recurring patterns of relationships that are challenging. Much ti learn from your videos. Will soldier on and try to learn. 😊
I missed this! So glad you are finding the videos helpful
Thank you for this great video, Monika!
Just stumbled onto Monika’s videos. Her material resonates w/ as a male. Spouse started to pull away about 7 yrs ago. Found out her friends were either cheating or separated. Found out spouse was expressing love to him. I’ve apologized for past behavior.. she hasn’t apologized much less admits an affair. We’ve each built a wall and simply co-exist. Thou I get a feeling that there are days she wants to be chased. I find that as a nonstarter,
This is us. She told me i had chances to change along thr way, but out of the fear of facing childhood problems with my father, i did didn't get thr help i needed until she wanted the divorce. She filed, moved out and is pursuing other relationships, even though I've made changes.
There has to be some way to win her back, but it feels hopeless, now ive chased her so much, and she's lost all attraction, so she just sees me as a relative. Please tell me there's some way to still win her back before she moves on and marrys someone else!
Can you make a video why 50% of divorces regret it?
Really???
@@jp5419 if you dont want to watch it dont.
@@jp5419 really
I really appreciate this video thank you!
Thank you Debbie! ❤️
we’re watching this because we’re at that point …
Men don't open up and be vulnerable because it will be used against you in the future. Only good news, success, and winning are then shared while failures are obscured. That's the dynamic when contempt and criticism are what is often shown.
Hi Monika, appreciate your videos. Thank you! Currently going through something similar although we are not married, but finding these tips really helpful. Love all the way from Malaysia :) hoping things come through for my relationship, love this guy very much.
Thank you Sarah! Sending virtual hugs! ❤️
I would love to see a video where a man speaks on all of this so that I can show it to my husband and it may sink in. I love Monika and all of her work, but he simply won't take it in if it's coming from a woman. I'm not going to protect him, that's just the way it is.
I'm a man who is having marriage problems. Monica has helped me to understand a lot. If he can't take advice from someone just because they're a woman then that's no good.
I see what you're saying though. I feel like if I showed my wife these videos she wouldn't take it well anyways even though it'd probably help because she's so spiteful right now
Boy does this sound familiar.
This is a few years old. Are you still offering a free phone consultation ?
They do
financial problems over and over due to someone making poor choices without including the other party in making decisions financially. We owned a business for 17 yrs and sold it made barely anything because of huge debts.
What kind of future a woman spect if the emotion are controlling ur self,get ur self guts and be realistic and the end of the days u will die no matter what u do or not do
And there's always a RETURN if u have the strength to not be a selfish and if ur couple don't want to cooperate it's very simple just look him at the eyes and tell him then u are going to fuc, someone else and watch the change he will make
We are gonna get old no matter what, and watching ur grandchildren around u l think is more better then thinking about ur happiness been selfish
This is totally my situation!
Do you offer marriage advice one on one please?
Thank you
This is great but too much lip smacking, it's distracting.
I suppose that is the price of free content, sometimes things will bug you
People keeping for divorce he needs pay more money
Men's we are in most cases a provider's and we put the chest to the bullets,unfortunately there's idiots aut there like woman's wo cheats and fuc, everything up,if happiness is what u want u can party a lot bur remember not always its like that
So many Goddamn ads....