I feel worry that the time I take to feel absolute ready for a relationship, either I will become old, undesirable because I'm older, or you know, (fertility expiration). Men would want a woman 'to be wrapped up perfect gift to purchase' just like women do with men. It takes time to feel ready to be satisfactorily attractive and to welcome a new life partner into her life.
This was truly wonderful advice thank you. Maybe you can touch on some topics of how to deal with infidelity since it's such a big issue in our relationships now days. I'm thorn between staying and trying and moving on from one day to the next.
Thank you so much for watching! We actually have an abundance of videos on our channel that talks about infidelity. I hope you find the time to check it out!
Hey Adrian, I love all of the videos! But here's my story. My wife and I separated in October and she asked for a divorce in December. We haven't filled out the papers beside a couple of pages because it's slightly confusing. I don't want to but I respect her decision and she's mentioned it more than once about filing them and we've come up with a written plan for our son. We live 35 miles out of town,share a vehicle at the moment, and both work the same hours except she's added a couple of night shifts to counterbalance with our 10-month-old for daycare. We get along for the most part but she's still a little rough around the edges when we talk she slightly puts me down and I get its passive-aggressive behavior. I know she's putting me on the back burner and she tells me she loves me but doesn't feel that way anymore about me so she just wants to be best friends ugh.. But also tells me she doesnt know what the future holds or that if we ever got back together It wouldnt be for awhile. I am the main bill payer and if I move out she cannot afford the bills and she is so stubborn she says she will figure it out. Even if I spilt the bills 50/50 she can hardly pay all the bills. I love her and want her back but I think she's been flirting and maybe in a relationship through snap chat? She came home in January with a hickey on her neck and it broke my heart that she was going to keep it a secret till I asked but she said she didn't have sex with him because she thought of me? She's been playing me hot and cold for the past couple months by having sex with me or being sweet at times but holding my arm and putting her head on my shoulder while driving but then she gets cold if I flirt with her or after she has been sweet... Btw I am 130 days sober and have made many personality changes since then. Also how do I do radio silence with a child, mortgage, and I just feel bad when I don't help her out.. I cook, clean,dishes and help with all her pets, on top of being subway manager, going to college, and helping out a lot more with our son. I have no one in this area I can stay with to take a break unless I get my own apartment or move in with the closest family I have that's 5 hours away. What do I do!
You are acting as a beta which is why she is losing her attraction to you. Besides she was and perhaps still is seeing others at the same time. It is hard but I guess I would put some boundaries around her and show her who the man is! If she wants she can go away
As a woman, this sounds absolutely appalling and disrespectful towards you. Value yourself and the children, you have so many other reaponsibilities, cling on to your sobriety
@@hpulker I'm a woman, and I agree with this comment above. You are giving too much of yourself, and need to pull back, or perhaps separating would be a good idea. Work on your confidence, and focus on yourself. Find what makes you happy. Become attractive to her again.
It's tough to know what's going on, my ex and I haven't talked since breaking up, I know she has a new boyfriend now but I don't know where she's at in life or what she feels. She probably doesn't know what I'm going through either. I was clingy and she said she needed space. So I did, I haven't bothered her and left her alone. I even wished the new boyfriend would keep her happy(i knew him, we all worked at the same store) all I can do is hope that my silence would send a message to her that I'm trying to give her the space that she wanted, and that she might start to miss me in my absence
I’m getting a lot of these signs, she texts me every morning saying good morning and we FaceTime every night but we still have only seen each other once since the break up. She ended it kinda, but she moved out after 5 years and says she just needs to get her mental state right and find her self but why doesn’t she want to find herself with me, I’ve been threw a lot in our relationship and I never left her when I going threw it so I’m just confused why she would leave since she’s going threw something, I mean she’s staying with her mom that’s literally done nothing for her since we started dating.
I’m going through a divorce right now. It was all good leading up to the day I signed. Once I told her I didn’t sign she’s done a whole 360 on me and is telling me I need to sign asap but I refused and even got a lawyer. I believe it will be one of those messy divorces. I definitely didn’t want a divorce but I will give her what she wants just not on her time…. Also we still stay in the same house with 2 kids smh
Hello Adrian! I am in the first week of no contact, after a month and a half of my breakup. I was the one who broke up and literally 24h later, regretted my decision and asked him to get back together. He said no and asked for time. I continued texted him and even sent a gift two weeks in :S he kept asking for time saying he was in a very confused state. Last week I texted him after seeing he deleted all the pictures of us in social media :( his reply was very strong and hurtful. He said he did not want to get back together but that if he regretted the decision later on in time I would be the first to know. He ended the text saying he loved me today and always. I’m scared that applying no contact will not work, and after I give him enough time of it he will forget about me and move on to someone else. I really do love him and know that what we had was amazing. Could you please give me advice and reassurance that no contact works. I don’t want to lose him.
Hello. I read this and I feel bad about your situation and it seems tough. I would like to suggest, that you can take a complete break from this and the thoughts of it for 1-2 weeks or until you feel emotionally strong and stable. You can take time to rethink and finalize your decision. When you are ready, I suggest, you can reach out to him how you feel comfortable to have a real conversation. It is important to feel stable so you will be able to handle a conversation with him very well. I am speaking from my experience. I hope this helps. Thank you for reading.
@@effatsharmin8389mine is he brokeup with me three months ago. His mom involved that’s y. He told me he is taking some break to think about it n test on me. But he dont picking up my call n replying my text. Will he come back to me?
When my x broke up with me she said she did not feel her feelings were as strong to me as hers to me and that she felt that I deserved someone that can give what I'm looking for. She also said that braking up with me is going to be be devastating to her. She also said that no one has treated her as good as I have. Then she made a complete no contact but she called me to wish me a happy birthday but I didn't answer the phone . What do you make of all this ? I'm super confused. Thanks for all the excellent advice.
Hei i am in a relationship for 3 yrs. My partner told me he doesent love me anymore but he care about me. And he said he dont ask ne to get out in his house. What i am going to do. We still leave together.
My ex wanted to spend te weekend with me, but then cancelled. Later said he can't have sex, cause it creates the connection and he wants to stay away from it. When I asked if he wanted to loose me completely, he later asked me to come to him. Then nothing after that. Slept with someone else too after that.
My wife left me 3.5 years ago, I was mentally abusive to her, we have seen each other every since.. but here recently she has been dating another man. And tells me she's having sexual relations with him. We talk every day. I just don't know how to handle it... I have become clingy.. she tells me to take it one day at a time... but refuses to stop seeing the othe guy. What shall I do
Hi Adrian am Sofia from Uganda i badly need ur help my boyfriend sent me out the house telling me that he was tired of me he even gave me some money n told me to begin a new life do i stand a chance of having him back coz i really love him.
I recently went into no contact again because my ex won't give me clarity about where he stands with me. Like, he refused to give me an answer about it. I felt like I'd poured so much into the relationship and him, i had made efforts to clear where i stood on things, and his inability to give me a straight answer felt.... Insulting to say the least
I have already made the mistakes of being needy and desperate… do i still have any chances?? i just need to move on because i dont think he will ever see anything positive about me ever again
It's never too late to turn things around! Learn from your mistakes, focus on personal growth, and who knows, maybe he'll see the positive changes in you someday.
HI ADRIAN me and my girl are break up and after three days she called me and when I answered she told me to hold on and then hang up then she never call back but she tells her female friend that she was trying to call different number but instead she called me ok then two days later she called again but this time I missed her call then when I saw her missed call I didn't respond but I say to her you called so this time she denied the second phone call I laughed and don't say anything else now she is silent no call no nothing so what's that mean or can you tell me what she is up to we are not together in 15 days right now and I'm just waiting to see what she does next
Is there signs whether or not your partner will change their mind or not when they said they want to marry you but then they said they just want to be close friends?
When he reaches out after 3 weeks by sending me the video that i like once and we communicate nicely,after that he don't say anything do I have to be the 1st one to communicate or I just leave it like that and wait for him to reach out again?
What if you weren't needy or clingy whatsoever and he never wasn't cold towards u and everything went very well and he suddenly broke up..?? And after 10 days even blocked me???
Hi Adrian My gf applied no contact with me because I was not comiting to marry. Realising the situation I agreed to marry her.... Still she claimed that she was over with it as she felt betrayed by me running away from marriage....and she is no longer going to consider the marriage and she is done with me..... I responded to her by accepting the fact that she is not happy with me and should do what she feels best and i moved away... I contacted her after a week and she was way too sweet and settled up a meet .... Please guide I m not sexually attracted to her at this moment but really want to meet her
My situation is hard because we had a 6 month strong relationship. We rarely would have disagreements and would always communicate. But then his mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She only has a few months left. His mindset changed within one day that he found out about her. We were happy and it was around our 6 month. He broke it off two days later saying he didn’t know what love was. He did because of the things he did for me. He would ask how my day was after he hung out with friends every time? And he wanted to work on himself which I needed to but I don’t think that anything he said was true that he didn’t know what love was. He wouldn’t have said it back
What if she’s just so angry because you caught her cheating and saying you didn’t trust her? Even though you actually caught her? Sociopath?? And have kids together? Beyond help???
@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity Thanks friend, and I find your videos to be very insightful. I’ll definitely continue to follow. You’re doing the lords work just so you know!
I appreciate this, I waited 30 days, NC, radio silence. I don't want to be the "same" person, because that's why she left.
Got an update for us?
Any update dude?
I like that this video does not begin focussed on the ex but rather on ourselves
I feel worry that the time I take to feel absolute ready for a relationship, either I will become old, undesirable because I'm older, or you know, (fertility expiration). Men would want a woman 'to be wrapped up perfect gift to purchase' just like women do with men. It takes time to feel ready to be satisfactorily attractive and to welcome a new life partner into her life.
I think if it was possible i will move on and never look back and get someone else to love
watched your videos even those 3 , 4 years ago. I feel like i already know the coaches personally especially coach Adrian, Alex and Natalie. 😂
Thank you so much for being with us for that long! We deeply appreciate the support!
Why did I not see this at the beginning of the separation 🙈 I did all the opposite of what u just did
Me too. I made all the mistakes and probably blew my chance already. You are not alone. Hand in there. :)
Coach Adrian Thank You So Much 🙏
You've Just Rebuilt My Confidence ❤❤❤
This was truly wonderful advice thank you. Maybe you can touch on some topics of how to deal with infidelity since it's such a big issue in our relationships now days. I'm thorn between staying and trying and moving on from one day to the next.
Thank you so much for watching!
We actually have an abundance of videos on our channel that talks about infidelity. I hope you find the time to check it out!
After my Ex left for a rebound relationship there is no way I wanted him back. For me it was OVER. I moved on with my life.
Thanks fo your comment.
Ty for the success story! It is very motivating.
Thanks. I needed this video to feel hope
Glad to help you!
Hey Adrian,
I love all of the videos! But here's my story.
My wife and I separated in October and she asked for a divorce in December.
We haven't filled out the papers beside a couple of pages because it's slightly confusing. I don't want to but I respect her decision and she's mentioned it more than once about filing them and we've come up with a written plan for our son.
We live 35 miles out of town,share a vehicle at the moment, and both work the same hours except she's added a couple of night shifts to counterbalance with our 10-month-old for daycare.
We get along for the most part but she's still a little rough around the edges when we talk she slightly puts me down and I get its passive-aggressive behavior.
I know she's putting me on the back burner and she tells me she loves me but doesn't feel that way anymore about me so she just wants to be best friends ugh.. But also tells me she doesnt know what the future holds or that if we ever got back together It wouldnt be for awhile.
I am the main bill payer and if I move out she cannot afford the bills and she is so stubborn she says she will figure it out. Even if I spilt the bills 50/50 she can hardly pay all the bills.
I love her and want her back but I think she's been flirting and maybe in a relationship through snap chat?
She came home in January with a hickey on her neck and it broke my heart that she was going to keep it a secret till I asked but she said she didn't have sex with him because she thought of me?
She's been playing me hot and cold for the past couple months by having sex with me or being sweet at times but holding my arm and putting her head on my shoulder while driving but then she gets cold if I flirt with her or after she has been sweet...
Btw I am 130 days sober and have made many personality changes since then.
Also how do I do radio silence with a child, mortgage, and I just feel bad when I don't help her out.. I cook, clean,dishes and help with all her pets, on top of being subway manager, going to college, and helping out a lot more with our son.
I have no one in this area I can stay with to take a break unless I get my own apartment or move in with the closest family I have that's 5 hours away.
What do I do!
You are acting as a beta which is why she is losing her attraction to you. Besides she was and perhaps still is seeing others at the same time. It is hard but I guess I would put some boundaries around her and show her who the man is! If she wants she can go away
As a woman, this sounds absolutely appalling and disrespectful towards you. Value yourself and the children, you have so many other reaponsibilities, cling on to your sobriety
@@hpulker I'm a woman, and I agree with this comment above. You are giving too much of yourself, and need to pull back, or perhaps separating would be a good idea. Work on your confidence, and focus on yourself. Find what makes you happy. Become attractive to her again.
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But you said if a person is calm after the breakup that means they had enough and it might be a sign of it might be the beginning of the new end.
It's tough to know what's going on, my ex and I haven't talked since breaking up, I know she has a new boyfriend now but I don't know where she's at in life or what she feels. She probably doesn't know what I'm going through either. I was clingy and she said she needed space. So I did, I haven't bothered her and left her alone. I even wished the new boyfriend would keep her happy(i knew him, we all worked at the same store) all I can do is hope that my silence would send a message to her that I'm trying to give her the space that she wanted, and that she might start to miss me in my absence
Can you do an updated video of when your ex unfollows you from all social media? Thanks
Thank you for your advice Sir 🙏
This guy is good 🔥
What if you get zero feedback good or bad. There is just a whole lot of nothing
Very informative thanks
I’m getting a lot of these signs, she texts me every morning saying good morning and we FaceTime every night but we still have only seen each other once since the break up. She ended it kinda, but she moved out after 5 years and says she just needs to get her mental state right and find her self but why doesn’t she want to find herself with me, I’ve been threw a lot in our relationship and I never left her when I going threw it so I’m just confused why she would leave since she’s going threw something, I mean she’s staying with her mom that’s literally done nothing for her since we started dating.
I’m going through a divorce right now. It was all good leading up to the day I signed. Once I told her I didn’t sign she’s done a whole 360 on me and is telling me I need to sign asap but I refused and even got a lawyer. I believe it will be one of those messy divorces. I definitely didn’t want a divorce but I will give her what she wants just not on her time…. Also we still stay in the same house with 2 kids smh
Hopefully some good news here🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
It is a success but I'm scared he'll fails me
And what if he doesn't change
Hello Adrian!
I am in the first week of no contact, after a month and a half of my breakup. I was the one who broke up and literally 24h later, regretted my decision and asked him to get back together. He said no and asked for time. I continued texted him and even sent a gift two weeks in :S he kept asking for time saying he was in a very confused state. Last week I texted him after seeing he deleted all the pictures of us in social media :( his reply was very strong and hurtful. He said he did not want to get back together but that if he regretted the decision later on in time I would be the first to know. He ended the text saying he loved me today and always.
I’m scared that applying no contact will not work, and after I give him enough time of it he will forget about me and move on to someone else.
I really do love him and know that what we had was amazing.
Could you please give me advice and reassurance that no contact works.
I don’t want to lose him.
Hello,
Have you made any progress with yourself and or with your ex? I hope you are ok!
Hello. I read this and I feel bad about your situation and it seems tough. I would like to suggest, that you can take a complete break from this and the thoughts of it for 1-2 weeks or until you feel emotionally strong and stable. You can take time to rethink and finalize your decision. When you are ready, I suggest, you can reach out to him how you feel comfortable to have a real conversation. It is important to feel stable so you will be able to handle a conversation with him very well. I am speaking from my experience. I hope this helps. Thank you for reading.
@@effatsharmin8389mine is he brokeup with me three months ago. His mom involved that’s y. He told me he is taking some break to think about it n test on me. But he dont picking up my call n replying my text. Will he come back to me?
I really like 👍 thank you
Thank you so much for watching! I highly appreciate this!
When my x broke up with me she said she did not feel her feelings were as strong to me as hers to me and that she felt that I deserved someone that can give what I'm looking for. She also said that braking up with me is going to be be devastating to her. She also said that no one has treated her as good as I have. Then she made a complete no contact but she called me to wish me a happy birthday but I didn't answer the phone . What do you make of all this ? I'm super confused. Thanks for all the excellent advice.
Hei i am in a relationship for 3 yrs. My partner told me he doesent love me anymore but he care about me. And he said he dont ask ne to get out in his house. What i am going to do. We still leave together.
Is it a good sign when they are still wearing their wedding ring, being intimate with and still going out with you on dates?
What if you're showing multiple positive things yet one of you is still stuck in anger?
God bless you 🙏
Thanks a lot!
If she or he is evolving, let them go. Plain and simple. Get your stuff together and the right one will appear.
My ex wanted to spend te weekend with me, but then cancelled. Later said he can't have sex, cause it creates the connection and he wants to stay away from it. When I asked if he wanted to loose me completely, he later asked me to come to him. Then nothing after that. Slept with someone else too after that.
My wife left me 3.5 years ago, I was mentally abusive to her, we have seen each other every since.. but here recently she has been dating another man. And tells me she's having sexual relations with him. We talk every day. I just don't know how to handle it... I have become clingy.. she tells me to take it one day at a time... but refuses to stop seeing the othe guy. What shall I do
What about marriage superation while still living with them. Also a small child involved?
I don't understand your question.
Hi Adrian am Sofia from Uganda i badly need ur help my boyfriend sent me out the house telling me that he was tired of me he even gave me some money n told me to begin a new life do i stand a chance of having him back coz i really love him.
No hopes,, Move on
When after one ends no contact should one send a first text?
Hello from Bahamas Theresa
I recently went into no contact again because my ex won't give me clarity about where he stands with me. Like, he refused to give me an answer about it. I felt like I'd poured so much into the relationship and him, i had made efforts to clear where i stood on things, and his inability to give me a straight answer felt.... Insulting to say the least
I have already made the mistakes of being needy and desperate… do i still have any chances?? i just need to move on because i dont think he will ever see anything positive about me ever again
It's never too late to turn things around! Learn from your mistakes, focus on personal growth, and who knows, maybe he'll see the positive changes in you someday.
HI ADRIAN me and my girl are break up and after three days she called me and when I answered she told me to hold on and then hang up then she never call back but she tells her female friend that she was trying to call different number but instead she called me ok then two days later she called again but this time I missed her call then when I saw her missed call I didn't respond but I say to her you called so this time she denied the second phone call I laughed and don't say anything else now she is silent no call no nothing so what's that mean or can you tell me what she is up to we are not together in 15 days right now and I'm just waiting to see what she does next
I understand that
Coz every family member of mine was present do i stand a chance of him coming back this is Sofia from Uganda
Is there signs whether or not your partner will change their mind or not when they said they want to marry you but then they said they just want to be close friends?
Yes, the signs we mention in the video can apply to your situation.
What if there is a third party involved?
Well she got me blocked on social media but she didn’t block my number so who knows in the long run
When he reaches out after 3 weeks by sending me the video that i like once and we communicate nicely,after that he don't say anything do I have to be the 1st one to communicate or I just leave it like that and wait for him to reach out again?
How do I get the gift
What if you weren't needy or clingy whatsoever and he never wasn't cold towards u and everything went very well and he suddenly broke up..?? And after 10 days even blocked me???
Hello from the BAHAMAS
Hi Adrian
My gf applied no contact with me because I was not comiting to marry.
Realising the situation I agreed to marry her.... Still she claimed that she was over with it as she felt betrayed by me running away from marriage....and she is no longer going to consider the marriage and she is done with me.....
I responded to her by accepting the fact that she is not happy with me and should do what she feels best and i moved away...
I contacted her after a week and she was way too sweet and settled up a meet ....
Please guide
I m not sexually attracted to her at this moment but really want to meet her
My ex block me almost 2 years, now when I call her ,she is doing block, unblock, block, unblock .....i didn't understand.
2 years? Move on mate sorry
Mind blocked me for 4 years. And yet I am still here. You are not alone. Hang in there. :)
I will find sum1 better Dan her
I called him and hold the phone private and said I love you and I hung up what does that means.and he still has my keys on his key ring
My situation is hard because we had a 6 month strong relationship. We rarely would have disagreements and would always communicate. But then his mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She only has a few months left. His mindset changed within one day that he found out about her. We were happy and it was around our 6 month. He broke it off two days later saying he didn’t know what love was. He did because of the things he did for me. He would ask how my day was after he hung out with friends every time? And he wanted to work on himself which I needed to but I don’t think that anything he said was true that he didn’t know what love was. He wouldn’t have said it back
What if she’s just so angry because you caught her cheating and saying you didn’t trust her? Even though you actually caught her? Sociopath?? And have kids together? Beyond help???
She just wants to make you feel guilty because she knows she's the one to blame.
@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity Thanks friend, and I find your videos to be very insightful. I’ll definitely continue to follow. You’re doing the lords work just so you know!
Man, that is rough. Unless she’s shown guilt and a expressed a want to change, I only see more pain with that one.