That's why one of the things the lord hates the most is pride. That's what propelled the devil....and that's what keeps many from ever following the lord. That's also what motivated the hatred of Jesus. Pride is a dangerous thing.
@@gbrieannful Grey Rock. They are bullys. Don't react,you will look like the crazy one. They will drive you to that place. Just be firm in your understanding of how they behave. It will help you greatly to deal with them.
I actually tried the impossible tried to change one through patience and love. I haven't recovered from it yet and probably never will. I wanna atleast live at peace with myself.
Karthik Sankar Therapy can definitely help. Another thing is being much more transparent with yourself and your loved ones about what you’ve been through. You will heal as long as you give yourself some grace and intentionally focus on being kind and loving to yourself.
I was made to be the crazy person, I went to 4 doctors to prove I am not crazy. The good thing that happened is I was approved for medical marijuana for PTSD and anxiety due to this relationship. I am still married, trying to fix it but learning there is no way to repair this type of relationship. Doomed for failure, there is no team work in this type of situation either, only blaming and hurting
20 years married and just found out a few weeks ago about NPD and why he was the way he was all these years. I will be sharing my story one day and hopes of educating women. This should be a more out there topic. In all the therapy I had to get over 20 years for the anxiety and depression form his toxic behaviour not one psychologist ever mentioned this. And they knew his behaviours
the hardest part as an empath is dealing with the fact it was all just a lie from the beginning of the trauma bond,,,and not to mention its like dealing with a child...I was lucky to get away and now I`m a survivor
Watch the Hannibal films. Watch how charming, friendly, lovely he acts... until he doesn't. His victims would have the same perspective as you: 'they were such a nice person, why did they change?' They don't. It's all fake.
I had a narc mom, a narc bf and several narc best friends. I was a professional enabler my whole life. I'm in therapy because i had depression, panic attacks & anxiety. I'm 35 and finally starting to figure things out. Shoutout to everyone going through similar things!
So true.. I've stopped having any hobbies or caring to talk outside of small talk and it actually bothers him a lot. He tells me all the time that I need to find a hobby and be more productive. Yet when I do he seems jealous that he's not the one starting to find a way to function normally, and he complains about finances and not having any money for himself to do a lot, even though nearly every paycheck goes to what he wants anyways. I've learned to deal with no getting things other than every few months, already knowing when I do, he will still nearly within a day or two complain that I have gotten anything when he deserves all the money. (Though he doesnt use that phraseology exactly) also hates that i have more morals than he does. Gets mad and says I'm so much better than him (sarcastically) and pushed my buttons until I finally snap and then he becomes more peaceful like he's finally seen me act in a way that makes him feel better about himself. Also when he's home I literally have to give him ALL my attention. If I'm feeding the cat or doing a chore, it means hes less important (in his own head) and then i get treated poorly all because i didn't drop EVERYTHING i was doing immediately and give him ALL my attention.
@NoseKey the smear capaign. Do not try to correct anyone. They do this for damage control. They do it to their supposed friends,just in case someone tells others who they really are and it a source of paranoia for them they don't want their fake public image tarnashed.. They have a public image and a private image. They want everyone to believe the image on display in public. Oh no someone may find out they are undependable and lack self esteem so they bulldoze others to look like a strong person. And the acting award goes to the person who feels empty inside and in Need of constant validation because they can't validate themself.weak fragile creature w primitive defenses.
Talking about "sadistic high when they see you suffer" ...? Imagine this whole planet Earth being ruled and controlled by leaders like that. They are literally "sadistic/blood thirsty" and 98% of the global population has no clue about it. My playlists are full of proofs...
@@MakingLifeWork that's what I used to think then another one got into my life wasting my precious time. They still show up. After that situation I absolutely see them everywhere and will not allow them near me. I thought if I healed from the past god wouldn't be so cruel, I was wrong!! The only way is to pay attention to everyone new you meet. I got rid of all of them from the past. I have zero problem blocking them. I have no time being a gracious happy person just to be taken advantage of again. I'm sad it has come to this because it is not what I wanted for my life.
Something I have learned and want to share with anyone teetering with a Narcissist...they will never be happy no matter what you do. When you "reach" their happy bar, they just raise it. No win situation with a Narc. Get out.
Same here. I just moved out 2 days ago he couldn't bare the fact that i figured him out within 3 days. He gave me hell and more hell and abuse and wanted me out of the house in 2 weeks=> discarding!!!
My GOD u said it a " vampire " after I would be done hanging out with I felt so empty and sad..and never knew why..until now. GOD ALWAYS WARNED ME ..AND I DISOBEYED..SMH..
I've learned that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder have less gray matter in a part of the cerebral cortex called the left anterior insula, which controls empathy and guilt. (People with PTSD show abnormalities in the hippocampus, amygdala, and medial prefrontal cortex, which is an entirely different matter. Some defenders of narcissists seem to think that the brain is just one big lump.) I wish MRI scans for NPD were compulsory so normal people would be forewarned that they're dealing with a secretly sadistic being. Does anyone here have the power to make such a needed law come to pass? Our society would be much improved if: 1. Narcissists are NOT allowed to become parents or have any dealings with children. 2. Narcissists are NOT allowed to become caregivers, counselors, managers, religious figures, or public servants. 3. Narcissists are NOT allowed to own guns (apparently, mass shooters are narcissists who flew into a narcissistic rage). I'm sure the list could be longer, but that's all I can think of right now. I've been posting this in the hopes that someone in power will see it. For a comprehensive list of the personality traits of a person with NPD, google OUTOFTHEFOG.
The thing I struggle with is knowing that they will never apologize or concede that they were wrong about anything they put you through, all the while accusing you of the things they were doing to you.
My mom is finally calling out her husband of 37 years, my dad. She told him unless he gets professional therapy she will not be able to live with him anymore. You’d think that would be enough to make a normal person jump into therapy. Nope, he’s still trying to get out of going. I told her he doesn’t actually value their relationship because she’s not feeding his narcissistic supply anymore. She needs to get out but she’s scared to do something o drastic.
Pure evil is exactly what I experienced at the end. She went from the most highly respected person in my life to evil. I had no idea that Covert narcissism existed. And I had no idea I could feel this horrible. Covert narcissism is the hardest to detect and the most damaging in my opinion. Everything in this video is spot on from my experience. 19 yrs.
The gaslighting...omg I think my ex is a narc. He always tried to alter reality and make me think I didn't hear what I heard or see what I saw when I was 100% certain. It was like he was trying to make me think I was losing it but I KNOW what I heard, saw, felt etc. Gaslighting is truly frightening.
@@richmel27 Same here...you start questioning yourself even though you are certain what was said, heard, etc. One of the worst forms of emotional abuse but if you learn to identify it you are one step ahead of the narc!
Yes, absolutely! It's CRAZY MAKING!! And he had me thinking I was losing it. Till I began to write things down right when they happened. THAT'S when I KNEW.... THIS MAN IS THE ONE THAT'S NUTS! Journaling worked for me so well. When I left in July 2020, the first thing I did was create a zippered binder with copies of my journalings in it, so if I ever thought "perhaps I overreacted by leaving" or "didn't really remember things the way they really happened", I could pull that book out, and show myself: You are okay... and you made the right choice.
@@CherryBlossom-vr2dc Journaling helped me, right when something would happen. THen, I could look back at it, and know; THIS is the way it happened. I am NOT Crazy.
@@Lu5Ann I did that too! I wrote down some of the things he said minutes after he said them in secret and when I showed them to him later he still denied them AND called me crazy for taking notes on stuff he said. I did it to reread his abusive statements later because I was starting to think maybe I heard him wrong or something This worked wonders for me but it made him very angry because he knew I wasn't as dumb as he wanted me to feel! It helped me realize that he was gaslighting me pretty much from the end of the love bombing stage onward. I was NOT hearing things! Writing down his abusive comments helped me rationalize what I was hearing versus what he was trying to make me believe had been said.
Very much so! Adult-Bullying is a thing, they did just that at my brother in laws wedding mocking me etc across the room and then trying to cause more trouble by sending the sisters boyfriend to purposely invade the area where my husband was at I mean it's just beyond funny now looking back how much her and her two sisters plus her husband are all alike and what's more crazy is her younger sister is a psychologist or counselor who behaves the same way. Their mother is the same way it's a twisted family
I just got discarded by one it’s been a few months. Sometimes I’m so grateful that it happened . Other times I cry about it and really can’t help but think how crazy it was. But slowly I’m getting better about it.
It has been 3 weeks since I was discarded after setting a boundary. Most days I feel so free and some days I'm really sad... because I try to focus on what was good about it. When I use the logical part of my brain I realize how unhealthy it was from the start. The videos help. My biggest strength have been daily positive affirmations and living in the present moment.
Wow...just saw this video and opened my eyes really wide. I always suspected he was and when I'd confront him, he'd get so mad and then the silent treatment started. It's been just the 1st week since he discarded me and I'm just starting to deal with the damage and deep pain he made me go through. I'm thankful for these videos and people's comments as it helps to know I'm not alone. He moved out and asked for a divorce so I guess I should be grateful.
They all use the same Playbook it's ridiculous once you understand High Spectrum narcissism then you can pretty much use the same guideline and rules against them you know exactly what they're going to do what they're going to say and how they're going to act it is absolutely ridiculous
Or low contact if you absolutely have to talk to them! I have a child with the narc but we ONLY talk about the narc. I don’t answer questions about myself ever.
Your comment sums up my experience. My narcissistic ex wife was trying as hard as she could to drive me to the point of suicide. They are unrealistically sick individuals.
V : Trouble is, they don’t always know that......they think they are doing you a favor, tricking you and hurting innocent feelings......which they tried to receive by the way.....I call them “set up artists”. They ask for one thing, then punish you with mockery when you give it. Narcs are cowards. They are afraid of being human, being real, not being perfect. I feel sorry for them. They are such slaves to illusions about their own grandeur, and everyone them seems to know it......except them.
Absolutely correct. The problem is that they intend to hurt you as hard and as much as they can. And even strangers on RUclips leap to their defense, saying oh no, they don’t know, blah blah blah. They do know and it is their game to cause that confusion. They love to cause emotional pain and have no empathy.
"Everything they do to you is based on the fact that "they" are being "exposed"! I used to keep their behavior between us. Now, I expose them every chance I get!
My mind is really blown right now. The moment I finally set boundaries is when everything you just said came to light. I’ve learned if you wanna weed out any type of narcissist, just set a small boundary and you’ll see.
@@PriyankaGupta-ew1li l can tell from your reply that you have done this already, and know exactly what I am talking about. Their reaction is priceless, and you will see the true person for the first time.😉
O yes this sadistic narc continues to do death threats on my property with red blood paint, dents my car, my home. Pure Evil! I need a good attorney Anyone Please?
The best reaction is giving them NO REACTIONS...you win!! They have no more game play when you stop feeding into they're sick twisted games they love playing to feed off of....better yet it's ignoring them and gaining a huge strength within yourself. Its so hard to believe and accept that such evil people like these people even exist 💯 all of what you just said is so on point 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Oh its sooo hard! I relate dealing with a nar with trying to ignore my trolling 4 year old nephew. They neeeeed a response and will poke and prod until they get you to react. The gaslighting is the worst. Whyyyyy????? 😭
As a covert narcissist myself just figuring out the years of pain and manipulation i have caused. I dont know if there is truly fixing me. 100 percent, silence is my biggest enemy. Leave.
I live with 1.it took me 10 years to figure it out what is really going on and I am not the crazy 1 and loosing my mind .Now since I came a cross NPD ,I have got answer to each of my “why “!It is all so obvious now .Everything makes sense now .I m not ready to deal or face it yet but I am collecting all info as much as I can to work out some strategy to get out of this and make Hes mask drop !After all I have seen and read so far I can only wish for “God help me plz !” I am strong if u could live with this person 10 years so I think I will make to the end !and win !
That takes huge amount courage to admit it @buck cheese. I just left my narc ex after 2) years as I didn’t have the courage to leave before and I tell you I feel like I came out of a prison sentence. I appreciate every day that I’m free of that person. Thank God for our freedom to choose how we want to live and not be a slave to anyone. It’s not a life sentence to live with a person like that.
@@rondanatan6198 its been very tough for the last 3 months coming to terms with myself and why things fell apart with a relationship for 8 years. For the longest time i had been so jealous, so upset she left and found someone that made her happy. But i realized i never did really love her. At least i dont think.. i just wanted her.. if that makes sense. And then it all hit me. Thats how i feel about everything. Its control, selfishness, egocentric. And i cant help it. I cant help the way i think. I have been learning and trying to change, and even when i know who i am now, there is no changing me. The personality is in my core, and theres no changing it. I can fake it the rest of my life, which is what i will do for the most part... I dont think i will ever love, i can take care, and own, more or less. But this is why i warn for everyone. So many people have tried to help me throughout my life, many relationships, good ones too. Very good ones. That ive thrown away because i had no more use in my head. I guess in conclusion. This is why psychiatrists dont bother treating personality disorders because thats just what they are. Unless i were to have a lobotomy or a complete wipe and rearrangement of my brain. I will always be like this. And im not just talking to fluff anything up, this is how people like me think. This is why people like me do really good in our career. We are good at playing people. Its a game, the greatest game ever played. I recommend all that is reading this to check out this video. ruclips.net/video/bdPMUX8_8Ms/видео.html He puts everything in words better than i can here. I will give you the link after i find it. Cheers to all, and dont be afraid to cut ties and either be happy with yourself, or find someone who will truly care
When I confronted my mother as being a narcissist after many years of confusion and research to why she is the way she is, she responded with pure rage.
@@dirtysanchez941 nope fuel is fuel and its not about them needing to be perfect Its about they cause chaos and truama and pain on others as they recieve euphoria from causing others pain
@@dirtysanchez941 quote> "they freak out!". not all, at the end of an argument some will actually just yell "it's your fault" and run away, like a scared yelping puppy
My narc is mostly negative news on the TV radio going to the store gym church neighbors. My responding is that what you see think humm I understand what you're saying I'll look in to that nothing helps always have to leave.
This is so overwhelming at the beginning because you don't know what the hell is happening. Once you learn, it is so predicatable. Unfortunately the damage has been done. Thank you for explaining it so simply and so accurate!
i calculate that every 3,5 days he explod and make a big mess behind. I confronted him ,"you had promised me not to be so dramatic and violent next time ,now look what you have done. You wow only last less than 4 days ." After the confrontation, he became totally mad ,he shouted at me in public and said bad words towards me and ran .....This is a narc
They live in their delusional world. In the beginning everything is good and happy. But then when you don't meet their expectations you become their sourse of unhappiness
Purely scathing. Ratchet the gaslighting up to 10. Slamming things. Yelling. Pounding their chest. Looking down. Violent body language. Genuinely frightening. Had this happen recently. Realized rm was a covert narc and a conversation we had led us to discussing their priorities. Eventually they started saying things that alluded to the fact that they didn't care about me at all. When I called them out on that all hell broke loose.
It still blows my mind how a person can want to hurt another human being on purpose. I'm nearly two years no contact after seeing the mask drop. Dangerous disturbed individuals but my experience made me stronger, I learned how to speak my mind and value myself above all else. I truly came face to face with a demon, no exaggeration... Get away from them, stay safe. x
Ruby, well done for having the strength to put yourself first (for once) when you see their true self behind the facade it’s truly enlightening and horrific to see how they really are.
When you've realized that there's no way you can reason with these people and there's no way you can beat them and that they are feeding off your emotions to indulge in some sick pleasure from the pain they are causing you. That's when you realize these people are evil!
Exactly. I see this satisfaction in my husband’s face when he makes me worry for no reason or spoils my mood (and he does this when he sees me enjoying myself or happy) it’s really sick
You are wrong. There are ways you CAN beat them. If you don't know by watching these videos and reading other peoples comments, then I don't know what else to tell you.
Yep, as soon as I set boundaries our relationship came to an end. He couldn’t bear to not test the boundaries and see how much he could get away with. I’m so glad to be free of him.
The day I set boundries was the trigger for him to get more and more mad at me (he was very disrespectfull regarding touching me inapropiatly..) so every time I said no, I dont like it when you randomly grab my breasts/butt/crotch without consent.. and he was all like "o have you been watching too many RUclips video's", and "you dont love me anymore"... It's just crazy
Absolutely on the nose! They’re just paper thin shells that will go down a laundry list, based on namely what they see. This is a bit of advice I got from another video, on how to disarm a narcissist. You don’t have to look at this video if you don’t want to, but she gave some real can of whoop ass advice. One of the ways to disarm a narcissist, in four words, don’t look at them.
Todd B You are correct. In my comment I was referring to adults. I can’t even begin to imagine the heartache of a parent who’s children that have been manipulated to turn against them.
When you know and they don't know that you know, is the best place to be. When you discard them, to them, you are essentially discarding their mask. This causes the ULTIMATE narc injury and is a great way to avoid becoming public enemy number one through exposing them directly. A lot of victims feel the urge to let the narc know that they know, which causes unnecessary problems. Keeping them in the dark by them thinking that YOU are in the dark is a way that you can quietly sneak away from them and start a new life!
All of these comments are spot on! I did this recently and, although I wanted to expose the narcissistic person and let her know that I knew the truth, it’s much better to rid my life of her completely and just move on and close the book forever...
I figured him out after 3 weeks!! I wanted to tell him so badly what I know but I thought better not to, so I just blocked him! I told him it's over, his reaction was very good, like he is fine with it....I was surprised...I don't know if that is a tactic, maybe he thinks I will be back? But I will never ever!! I'm so glad he had no chance to do something bad to me or hurt me, but that love bombing exposed him! And when we met he was so cold like he has no feelings...his words didn't match his actions, so I already saw the red flag....Thank God who helped me and opened my eyes and brought me to all these videos about narcissist!!!
Holly crap this is spot on, the x has went to jail for domestic battery and last year and once her time was up with the good behavior she jumped ship to another person almost a week after hindsight is 2020 i guess she has been planning this ever since that happened unfortunately i was the one who worked 90 hrs every 2 weeks so what went on in my own home when i was at work i could only imagine and it angers me to the core, and she cheated on me with some random person and told me about it , the sheer emotional abuse and threats have been the most exhausting thing i have ever dealt with in my life...
@Blue Fox it's not in most cases, usually it happens the way I said it. The person has already been gone emotionally, and even if they haven't had sex with another person they've been talking to them, getting to know them. Men especially do this, always keeping a chick as a backup.
Be careful with narcissists. These are the people we see on Dateline, pretending to have no idea where their spouse is while being interrogated by the police. Later, they are convicted for murdering their spouse. Stephanie is helping you save yourself.
It would not surprise me if he has already done something like that to someone. That’s how scary the level of their cruelness can be. Really hard to grasp the level of their game right away (or at all), and then trying to process what’s happening as a normal individual starts crippling you mentally and emotionally (the birth of cognitive dissonance or denial). And, once you try to put things in a perspective and understand by combining their reality with the way they show up is just mind blowing. I felt like I would have an explosion/burst of brain chemicals in my body and mind that would never show up together naturally, ever. It’s just not human or natural. A really tough web the get out of. Everything becomes warped. 😕💔 I would like to see him in jail/prison. Whatever it is, he is guilty.
Amber Hayes, how are you now? Cry out to Jesus, He shall help you, reach out to christians who are trustworthy, so they can pray for your safety and freedom. I will pray for you.
Slowly separate yourself from family. Several years I haven't been around or spoken to siblings. They try to get a reaction from me by telling other family members or posting on fb. They still keep up with my current life and try to bring me down by their words...but I never reply to any of it because they fail to come to me directly. Overtime a person's true colors will revealed...other family members will learn to respect your reasons for parting ways with a toxic person.
I’ve called him a demon for the last year. I finally figured out he’s so dark & twisted and doesn’t care about anyone except himself. He’s either a demon or Satan himself. Glad I got rid of that creep.
The expert level narcissistic behavior is when you point out an issue such as ‘poison dripping’, they say you’re doing it turning it back on you for pointing it out. It’s a lose lose conversation that has no end and no resolution.
@@Lauren-gs1eh think about what you just typed. Waiting for someone to cheat on you and leave? GIRL. theres people out there who would kill to be in your dudes shoes. Fuck him.
I am in the discard phase now. She has already filed for separation. It took almost two years since me identifying the issue and slowly tightening my guards up. I don't believe she has found an alternate supply though. The supply will also have to be ultra religious like her for ease of manipulation.
@@Lauren-gs1eh I was there three weeks ago. You just aren't mentally ready to leave because him cheating is your excuse for why you don't leave now. You're scared. I snapped out of it
When I realized my ex boyfriend was a narcissist it was like I took a mask off him and realized the actual person I was dating was the devil. I still have ptsd from him on so many levels.
Me too got discarded from nowhere, completely broke down, and found out he is a classical NPD thanks to the videos like this. Like people say, whatever happened, good thing to get away from sick people like this. Stay strong sis
If you repeatedly attract narcissist, you likely need help for CPTSD or codependency. You aren't simply an empath or a nice person, although you can be those things as well, you are also likely to have poor boundaries and emotional trauma that needs to be delt with. Emotionally healthy people that have self respect and boundaries won't be repeatedly targeted by narcissist. Get yourself emotionally regulated, build your self worth, develop solid boundaries, and you will naturally began to ward off narcissist people ❤️ or at the least, spot them a long way off.
That's very true, i have been attracting certain kind of people in my life, past so many years, i couldn't get a grip, but now i understand that, everything starts with you, one needs to work upon themselves first, to stop attracting this kind of people...
I love being able to close the door on drama ! I am a mother and now I’m married and my life is absolutely thriving. My kid from my previous relationship his dad is an absolute narcissist and his wife. I have always spent my time trying to avoid the conflict. Now I have out my foot down and I feel so free ! Truly! I am so grateful for these videos
This is so true. Although it's hard when you know your friend/relative's new partner is one and you can't say anything. It's like having to sit and watch a car crash happen in slow motion.
5:55 I can see the pain in her eyes and hear in her voice. She has experienced this evil. I know what you mean. People like to play down the word "evil" like a cartoonish word you only hear on tv. But it is very real. The spirit of evil and demons are real. And when you come across somoene who has it and practices it on you it is really terrifying how a human being can damage so many people in so many ways and think little to nothing of it.
I’m in the middle of a battle with my Narcissistic sister she’s 4 years older than me and I finally completely cut her off with no explanation. I chose my mental health and peace over her. when I see her in family reunions I do my own thing and she sees me happy and not talking to her. She ended up making her drama in New Years. The whole family and I were all outside and She ran inside the house crying my mom went after her and she was trying to explain her pain because I no longer talk to her. Luckily most of my family agrees seeing her controlling pattern and only my mother who is also narcissistic took her side.
When I realized my brother is a narcissist, I didn't feel so nervous around him anymore. It's almost funny to see him play out his narcissistic personality in front of me. But I keep distance to him. And he doesn't want to see me either.
I waited 55 years and didn't have the courage to go non contact . Get out early. Be strong. Staying in Contact just magnifies the pain. I always gave second chances, forgiveness and renewed trust. What a horrible mistake!
I hadn't talked with my brother for almost five years. I sent a text or two on Christmas and his birthday. He finally called me, intoxicated at that, and ended up yelling at me and hanging up because I questioned his perspective.
You are right, it is funny when you see narcissist for what he/she actually is. Puffed up balls of empty air. Prick the ball and they collapse then you can laugh because you see this person as a me me me all the time. No real substance. It’s like when the balloon bursts, it’s gone, empty, just a bit of skin. Hilarious when you see how stupid they are .
Ended a long term friendship over someone who acted the EXACT way she described. Pointed the finger at me, lied, manipulated and very passive aggressive. I just wish I would’ve seen what people were telling me about them earlier because I’ve experienced so much drama, trauma, and ptsd. I had to learn to choose me first and learn what was best for me and move on. I’ve never felt so good not being around them. I’m just glad I have a good group of people around me now who see my worth. Really needed this video. Thank you, Stephanie for your helpful videos.
Even though none of us want to go through some of these experiences it forced us to wake up and learn a hard lesson that a lot of people still not know so you learned and grew from it.. hell I’d thank the person for teaching you what you didn’t know before. 👍
Stephanie Lyn Coaching that’s not how the rebound/breakup happened. I withdrew and reconnected n then he withdrew saying that he needs time to sort his own life. He said he is waste of my time. So does that mean that he is not a narcissistic person?
Yes, I was turning into him.. it was disgusting and I am so glad I am away from it now. No contact is the ONLY way and I resisted it for so long. I was only hurting myself until I got it!
First time hearing you.. I've been in this relationship for 15 years, high school sweethearts, married and 3 kids later.. I didnt notice the pattern until 5 or 6 years ago..fst fwd..IM FINALLY TIRED.. yesssss. I am a lil scared because of the rage part... the last incident made me pack me and my kids up.. and of course he says I made it all up. And I need help.. you know this too well. I'm glad I'm not alone. I'm just taking one day at a time. Anywho I love you 😘😘😘 thanks thanks THANK YOU!
Please leave. You are going to be so much better off and more safe. Love you! Take care. You're kids deserve to see you happy and healthy as well, don't stay for your kids.
@@ericag5346yes maam! I am! I am! Been gone before I made this post... at first it was hard.. but each day gets easier.. and easier. Sending love and hugs your way.. ❤
so true dear! I am facing this now! My mother married a narcissist but I am afraid to tell her she married a bad man because I don't want her to be broken hearted.
Right ... I hate that they always seem to get away with their behaviour .... funny thing is I was told I was toxic negative etc ..funny he was the only one that thought so ... so happy I'm out ..
@@natsdaley3543 that's projection at its finest! At least you are wise enough to see them for who they are, and have the fortitude to move past it, and not align with it. Don't worry they will get what's coming to them. There's so many kind people along their journey that try and show them a better way. In my humble opinion eveil is someone who try's to get their way no matter the cost to others. If someone goes around hurting people for their benefit they are evil. Their level of evil, and the acts they commit are merely splitting hairs, or semantics.
My ex-husband would tell me to leave and start packing up my things whenever I exposed him, as soon as he didn’t get the reaction of me begging or arguing but just leaving, he came putting back the stuff in the apartment and asking for one more chance. He felt so irrelevant when I no longer care.
@@teal1010 mine would pretend as if we didn't break up. He's actually doing it right now. I broke up with for the like fifth time in the last two months I've been trying to break free and was still stuck in the trap with the hoovering. I let him that I wanted to end things,he give me push back or tell me he wants to talk about it later but does. I'd usually bring it up but this time I waited and he never did. That was one of many reasons im in the process of planning my exit. Can't wait to leave
“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm [that they cause] does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves”. ~ T.S. Eliot
Yeeessssssss ugh 🙄 spot on! I used to cut the song off and say, ummm you got something you want to say, like an adult would? And of course they say, wow you really are psycho... not everything is about you, thats so childish. Meanwhile they have a shit eating grin. Everyone around us seems to be coerced by him as well. So frustrating.
During her love bombing phrase, she would buy me mediocre things such as a star wars t-shirt, a bed set, etc. And then, later on asked for more significant items for herself such as an $7,000 engagement ring, iPhone 11, etc. Which I never did! It was always about money with her. If I didn't comply then she would say that I wasn't a good boyfriend. And received the silent treatment. She would always threaten to break up with me. So, eventually I was discarded. Yes, I was down and depressed but your videos and other videos like this helped me realize that it was a great thing. Here are a few things I have gained back. My peace of mind, money in the bank, my will to do the things I used to do, no stress, no migraines, etc. I was worried about her being with someone else. But now I look at it like that's his problem now. Just like in Math an X is UNKNOWN. So, make sure your X become UNKNOWN meaning NO CONTACT! AT ALL! One more thing I would like to add, in order for new things to arrive in your life, you have to get rid of some old things. You aren't alone. We will get through this. If you look up, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel! So, keep your head up! And keep on smiling.
Mr_N10cT I was love bombed as well with so many gifts cheapest cologne ,cheapest sweets .She bought me a $5.00 set of sheets its was insulting .Yet she took so much valuable stuff from my house .Finally had me booked into the cheapest retirement home .That was it ,pulled the pin
@@brieze1233 True. All things dealing with a narcissist and/or a toxic person is sad. Good people judge others based on their own charisteristic, principles, and qualities. We can not allow negative people rob us out of our happiness. We must learn and grow from it. All successful people go through negative situation and circumstances. But they comes out on top stronger, more knowledgeable, and more powerful. Superman wouldn't be Superman if he didn't do through the challenges he face everyday in the this world. And we only have to face the challenges that are you our lives. So, we need to just focus on ourselves and be our own SUPERMAN.
I met my ex when we were 13 & 14 years old. We were married 31 years. When he got his mistress set up in a house and his family on board, he waited for me to Mess Up so he could tell me he couldn’t live with me anymore. He was sleeping with a girl our sons age. Actually, she slept with our son too. Yuck. My ex didn’t even seem familiar. He had become increasingly dismissive and unkind, but I never imagined he or his parents were capable of the level of cruelty our sons and I have been subjected to. My in laws haven’t spoken to me in almost a year. They managed to make me the villain again. My ex was always conflicted about his roll as an adult husband and father vs. the good, obedient son. Never did I think he would cast aside everyone who loved him so deeply, unconditionally and without ultimatums. Divorce is final. I must continue to reprogram 38 years and find a brighter place to live. Thank you for your help.
I also was married 38yrs before i left and understand what you are going through as I'm still trying to understand what really happened and it's a real nightmare i pray all goes well for all who have endured this hell.God bless all
New word I just learned: "gaslighting!" Check it out. I just parted ways with a "friend" of 40 years. I have noticed the improvement in my quality of life already. Good luck.
Stay single, as long as you can. I m practising abstinence since last 5 years, I m 34. This year was the most peaceful year, as I was working from home. The moment you get into friendship and u see red flag, quit peacefully. I can say that I m currently having zero narcissists, if there are some, then they are already blocked or will be blocked soon.
Wise Words! Since my experiance dealing with a narcissist i am very cautious of people too quick to try and be my friend. Friendships take time. They need to happen organically, not: " Hey lets take a vacation half way across the world together even though we just met." So many red flags and crazy things she said to my face in the very beginning.. I ignored them all... and paid for it. 🙁
I'm so sad that the " love" of my life was never real...he was the devil the whole time. Such a brutal shock to the system! Unbelievable. This is like it was scripted...EVERY narc is the same. They really arent that creative are they?
They are very creative... And it's bullshit!!...I have 2 beautiful daughters with one... And I don't want them to know their mother as a narcissist but that's the road it's going down...it sucks🤬😡🥺😭🤬
They will enjoy their 🏆 wins for the rest of their miserable lives..here how it works...kindness..they hate to see you shine, happy, trying something new, they really show us bla bla empy nothing, I have to choose between pleasure and ✌..I choose a peaceful lifestyle. They hate that. How to escape..?, difficult[ baby steps. .realizing how much destruction narcs created in exchange for a few fantasy moments..I struggle every day trying to understand this monster, handsome, well articulated, family oriented, so kind with strangers, very good at his job, praising integrity, clean, organized, old fashion lover, open and closing doors as a great movie character..and later..you know the rest ...horrifying blank mental abuse, day by day, disappearing, silently digesting my suffering..people run..there is no other way to make it....adrenaline in place and runnnnnnnn
Oh my word! This is so me; I am totally in love with my husband however now that was all fact or an act ! I am devastated. He took everything from me.... six years later I am completely without nothing because he slowly took friends; family; retirement savings; jobs; I still love him after 3 discards !!!! I believe in marriage not divorce I just don’t know when to give up!
Lived this almost exactly!!!! So nice to have this in my past. Refreshing to see a healthy future. Gotta love this ladys way that she communicates such a painful journey in life, but reaffirms there is hope and recovery!!!
@@iniubongnkanga9390 thanks but I'm way past that. Don't really care what she is up to, very toxic person. I focus on my future not her phone/social media...
When I tried to express the wrong before I knew the truth things went very wrong. It was all about the narc. Very true about the control how the person is seen.
You usually figure it out in the beginning.. I remember years ago, telling him: You suck me out like a vampire! But then you start feeling bad and over look things.. Hold them accountable and then get out ASAP! Slowly, withdraw, cut off the supply.
So perfectly articulated. Thank you sincerely. There is nothing which is "off limits" to a narcissist - they will stoop to the lowest of the low to inflict pain upon you. This is when you truly realize that you are not really dealing with a human being. You hear people say "I wouldn't wish *that* on my worst enemy" - well, I would not wish the soul-destroying pain and anguish of being with a narcissist upon my worst enemy. They truly do enjoy the harm that they cause to others. Personally, I will never forget the smirk that crossed the face of my ex when I was hurting so badly that I could hardly breathe. My pain literally turned him on, and sometimes, I was so distressed and exhausted that I could not fight off his advances. The shame that came with that broke me even further. But... I call him my ex for good reason. I compiled every ounce of my strength and I left him. Which was - and still is - hard, because I did truly love him.
My friend found new friends as I healed. He wasn’t happy with my boundaries. As of two weeks ago we are no longer friends and I’m already feeling better and my anxiety is going away. And I feel like I can finally be myself.
It’s a terrible thing that society promotes relationships with family being permanent and necessary, dismissing boundary setting with relatives as “well she’s family”. Once we learn to set healthy boundaries we have to set them with everybody. We don’t get to choose our family members, but we do get to choose how, when and whether we interact with them.
Katherine, I totally agree. People seem to think "family" means throw your hands up in the air and do absolutely nothing. What a joke. If anything, a family member (or relative) needs to get their shit together because the family has rules!
Swear my narc ex would say things as if I needed to be on a script that he never handed out it was a shock to him that I could think with my own mind he started to hotwire like a robot trying to blame me for why we weren't on good terms when he obviously never put much effort in it would be" it takes two to tango" "your the one who still deals with me" so if I leave him alone that's an issue too like "why arent you messaging me" You can't win with these people I noticed now I have been surrounded by these entities, had a narc of a best friend who would be little me or just used my insecurities and overly supportive nature to his advantage until I started to recognize my own strengths that rubbed him such a wrong way he couldnt handle my new found confidence and literally physically attacked me (head butted me!!) That's when I finally knew for sure this relationship was done I am still tryna grasp the concept of my mom being a narc as that is the hardest one I'll havta come to terms with... I need to be sure although there are signs I still can't pin point it but wow idk y these narcs aren't receiving any assistance (therapy; taser; tranquilizer 😂)
You never realize how much you risked everything till you have regained conciousness after the blurred vision of daily poisoning your mind. In the end, after a dust up of calling her traits out, fed up with projection and the humiliation of triangulation, it is always going to be pushed way past anyones tolerance capability. I havnt heard from her again. No amount of hoovering would ever work anyway. They know...you know. Some of this type know what they do. They don't care. Your just another broken tool of many. In hindsight, the lesson was all mine. And it will serve me well.
@@jonsmith8083 I do remember when my brain was literally numb from the cog diss. Mixed messages leave you always not knowing just wth is it. You like me or you like to diss me. It always gravitates toward realizing something is terribly, terribly off here. But you persist. That called not having early boundarys. Do now. It seems you have to just not give a f to prove you don't need them. An odd way to try to have a relationship. But that's the red flag saying this is not healthy what so ever.
Glad you are on the other side truly, and you are right its sad, they have no feeling, they use people and don't mind being a prostitute for the easy life, its deep sickness and they have no should in the end, whilst thinking ??? they are in control, ? what in control ? they sell themselves to have that and are empty and hollow, but it is scary and put me off woman can't help it, as like a horror movie, as when you try help them as you care, then it goes the opposite way from the best intended and true and caring way one meant, as you want to free them and show them a better healthier, Truer, and more open life which is healthy, yields a far far better deeper happier and gainful life, totally so we know this but do they ? no not interested as their mystique and childish simpleton game and ways conquers them completely, they aren't even interested in sampling it so they can choose :-(( they keep all their ex's on a hook and triangulate, but my ex's ex husband was filth himself, and so loved it and the game, he was a Thai hunter and get it....Control....Mr Big....do as you are told....and I am Mr Big.........obey me........so he was game for the sickness as got off on it, it was a nightmare, she kept him outside our door FFS :-(( Trianglation .......I left as couldn't be doing with it........ very sick people, but hers was by her parents who made her this, and then the ex loved it as goat the push pull and contrast of control then puppy, and the cycle just went on and on........ mind bending stuff and glad to be free and on my own truly :-) steph is an amazing coach, one of the very best out there for getting to the route of peoples suffering :-) and explaining it so unlocks the iron door of confusion and blame......bless her she's just leading the ways and healing millions by all she teaching, explains, is, and posts, good on her, truly a blessing to us out here :-)
@@jonsmith8083 That is a great description. The brain numbness, the cog diss, the fog... a person in a vulnerable situation or just naively doesn't know wth is happening is no match for the narcopath. You have to hit the wall and get the hell out. Once clear of the poison and when veins have purged all the toxin no one would ever go back. To me, its attempted murder.
@@daylilopez6350 Like nothing else on this earth. Notice how different one letter makes the word "earth" and "heart". One means we live from the earth god which we obey, or ego when the other means we are connected to Him in our hearts from where He feeds and instructs us about all things! This is now scientifically tested and proven with real methods that can practically expose whether or not anyone is stuck in the ways of the old earth/world or subconscious or ego! or whether they have been set free with a new mind activating all of their five lesser body-brains whenever they were in charge of even our heart through this invisible, yet very present ego, which has to go! Then we can begin to live and thrive with all of LOVE's invisible powers of wisdom and justice! so that we can finally love our own selves enough to fulfill the greatest of all commandments or recommendation: "Love your neighbour as YOURSELF" for unless we do, how pray tell, can we give it to anyone else? Whereas it would be impossible, with the Living Father, all things become absolutely possible! HalleluYah
@@daylilopez6350 In the future, should you pay attention, you will see and be revealed many things and begin to choose your own words, much more consciously! Etymology goes deeper than we think and reveals the satanic nature of the languages that were not the Living and Original Hebrew, which is perfect in every way and would never give the wrong impression or perception such as ours today: i.e. Hello=how low to hell can we send you today? Good-morning=Hoping you have mourning or the death of a loved one? Santa Clause=Satan's Claws? Nice! which means what? and which meant something rather unfair and ugly just 500 years ago! and the list goes on and on and on, to keep everyone in the darkest of places! rather than to let them be who they really are instead! Why do we do spelling courses? To provide spells! Ask anyone who read the Harry Potter collection what they got from it! They offered some of us hundreds of dollars just to read them. I declined the offer! as I will the mark of the beast! Thank you!
Everyone has narcissistic traits, but there is a difference in having a Selfish lifestyle that is a true Narcissist whom leaches and dominates a one sided relationship.
“Give me this this and this and I’ll be happy.” Spot on. My narcissistic mother’s favorite thing to say “if everyone would just do what I want then we wouldn’t ever have any problems.” Blind obedience. I’ve heard another person say this before.... my FIVE YEAR OLD niece. It’s like narcissists don’t mature past preschool age.
Her rage in April made me and my 15 year old son homless during 1st lockdown via police escort over me being relaxed with the kids studies. As she wanted to behave like Hitler with them. I acted like a shield and blocked her aggression towards them. She went MAD. 9 months on with no contact from me. I now have guardianship of my son and have moved into temporary accommodation as a single parent. It's a new start for us both for 2021.
@jaison stanley Marriage is a contract with government she'll use to rob you later when she nolonger can abuse you. You cant heal them they now see you as shit to be used and abused.mask off now. They will pretend to be the person you met before. Love bomb you again. Dont fall for it again and again . Now My life has improved and i live independently from a women in my life. I have obtained 20k in crypto already . My sons now 18yrs of age we go gym. my 16yr daughter just moved in with us this year. Still in no contact I'm single and free from ploice and false aligations I'd like to remain like that. Thank you.
@@jaisonstanley just from what I've dealt with.... Get far away from her! I've wasted twenty years of my life with one, I wish I'd found out before I married her.
The longer you wait, and put off leaving this type of person, the more pain and humiliation they'll put you through. Get out quick, as soon as you figure them out. Sure it's difficult, they're charming and wonderful, and then you say something nice about her/his perceived rival they'll humiliate and dominate you even more than before. They use your fear to control you. And their behavior is rooted in their insecurity. Run for your life.
My wife said I was a narcissist. So I've been studying this subject. After seeing this and reading other material, I'm very relieved that I'm not one. Narcissist usually call others what they are to smoke screen. Thanks for this info!
Name calling is huge with narcissists. Projecting themselves on you. They will scream at you all of their shortcomings it's actually pretty entertaining in the beginning. All you have to say, look in the mirror babe, and talk to yourself about yourself.
My ex said “I’m not narcissistic, I don’t even have social media, how can I post a bunch of pictures of myself” 🤦🏻♀️ after sending me 7 pics of himself I never asked for. 😂 that’s not what the disorder is and if it were, you just did that. So ridiculous, after healing I can just laugh at the absurdity now. Went grey rock then blocked him. When I found out he cheated on me hundreds of times, his answer was “ I’m a guy, I’ll do whatever I want”. They’re heartless and delusional. So glad I’m not a co-dependant doormat anymore. It was a tough road to recovery but worth it. Not today Satan!!!!!!
It's so crazy how all of these narcs say the same things and do the same behavior. I was 15 when met him and he was older so I was all doe eyed and naive. When I turned 17 we made the relationship official. He cheated me all through out the relationship when I found out about all these hundreds of women and confronted him he said "I'm a man, I can do that." I wanted to smack the smirk off his face but I decided not to. Because these narcs love drama! and me getting that angry would only stroke his ego even more. I walked away and didn't even argue. But can you imagine the nerve of someone to put your life at risk by sexing all kinds of loose women then telling you they could do that. They are cold and mean and ruthless.
Same here, and claims I take too many pics of myself when I only take pictures on the weekends but he takes a picture of himself and everything he does everyday. 🤦🏽♀️🙄
Definitely can relate. My ex always talked about how his baby mama was crazy and a narcissist. Well, now I know who was the real problem. And I love how laughable all the things they do and say become once you heal.
Very accurate. My sister married with a narcacist .24 years of mental abuse. Untill I wedged between them and helped my sister understand what her husband was doing to her. The guy even tried to do those mental abuses to me too, but I did what I tought my sister to do, stop all forms of communication! And threaten to break his jaw! They use a variety of methods, not just abuse, but also pretend temporary love. These people exists unfortunately, we have to be careful with whom we live with.
I hate it when they accuse you of doing something, and say that they have text screen shots, voice recordings,yet when you ask for them to show or play them for you, you get no response.
This is so true Stephanie! I was completely shocked to see another different person and that gave me so much chills in my back! How could I possibly have spent so much time with a monster!
My old boss was a Narcissist. I didn’t realize what was going on for so long and found myself continually trying to please them only to realize the more I tried to please them the more “they ate me for lunch”! Everything you say here makes perfect sense now. I actually had PTSD from a three year work relationship. I can now see where I became a huge target when “I unknowingly” exposed them.
This happened to me too! A very, very abusive boss. Not sure if she was a narcissist but very cruel, critical to an insane degree, ran hot and cold (some days they would seem so nice and they'd go into a cold rage) etc. Some sort of personality issue.
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"When the Devil can't reach you, he sends a Narcissist".
Lorraine woodwark omg so so true
Hit the nail right on!!! Amen sista
Seriously, that‘s how I feel about it. The devil can‘t woo me, but he keeps sending his spawns. I say: Bring it! 😂
Touche!
That's why one of the things the lord hates the most is pride. That's what propelled the devil....and that's what keeps many from ever following the lord. That's also what motivated the hatred of Jesus. Pride is a dangerous thing.
How do you win with a narcissist? Leave. Never, ever, ever go back. Ever.
What if it is a coworker?
@@gbrieannful Grey Rock. They are bullys. Don't react,you will look like the crazy one. They will drive you to that place. Just be firm in your understanding of how they behave. It will help you greatly to deal with them.
I actually tried the impossible tried to change one through patience and love. I haven't recovered from it yet and probably never will. I wanna atleast live at peace with myself.
Karthik Sankar Therapy can definitely help. Another thing is being much more transparent with yourself and your loved ones about what you’ve been through. You will heal as long as you give yourself some grace and intentionally focus on being kind and loving to yourself.
Bella Bijou I think that’s what happening to me. The devil have send me a narcissist.
It’s crazy how they try and make it seem that you’re the crazy person and turn everything back on you
Exactly! It's so hurtful
Every one i meet is doing this
I was made to be the crazy person, I went to 4 doctors to prove I am not crazy. The good thing that happened is I was approved for medical marijuana for PTSD and anxiety due to this relationship. I am still married, trying to fix it but learning there is no way to repair this type of relationship. Doomed for failure, there is no team work in this type of situation either, only blaming and hurting
So true I constantly got blamed for his behavior never changed.
I've heard her gasslight my kids. I've seen her call my son mad, my daughter mad, oh and don't forget about me, myself and I too.
After suffering through 22 years being married to a NARCISSIST, I finally left. There is a wonderful world out there, don’t settle for less.
This was helpful comment to me.
@@farnazganjeizadeh2799 Me too.🙌🏽
This is helpful indeed 😞
20 years married and just found out a few weeks ago about NPD and why he was the way he was all these years. I will be sharing my story one day and hopes of educating women. This should be a more out there topic. In all the therapy I had to get over 20 years for the anxiety and depression form his toxic behaviour not one psychologist ever mentioned this. And they knew his behaviours
I look forward to breating again
They always demand unconditional love and respect..... But NEVER leave a single chance to disrespect and hurt you.
This is absolutely spot on!!
Absolutely correct
Being in a abusive relationship with a narcissist is one. The after math is the hardest
Facts 💯 t
They are so needy..
the hardest part as an empath is dealing with the fact it was all just a lie from the beginning of the trauma bond,,,and not to mention its like dealing with a child...I was lucky to get away and now I`m a survivor
Watch the Hannibal films. Watch how charming, friendly, lovely he acts... until he doesn't. His victims would have the same perspective as you: 'they were such a nice person, why did they change?' They don't. It's all fake.
Have you heard of the Dark night of the soul?. Aleena green video have info. Peace out Brother.
Forgive that person. Please. Sometimes people are going through their own drama inside. Not an excuse for all. Just saying.
Is a trauma bond like how Venom is with Eddie Brock? The host dies slowly, while the symbiote lives?
@@bw6138 yes
Love all you empaths out there, stay strong my brothers and sisters 💙
We already know. Lol
You too! 😍💕
A curse and a gift
You too😌✌🏻🦋😍💞🤗
Its spiritual warfare-
Demons..
Keep being angels of light -
Let them go..
Love ❤️ y’all
I had a narc mom, a narc bf and several narc best friends. I was a professional enabler my whole life. I'm in therapy because i had depression, panic attacks & anxiety. I'm 35 and finally starting to figure things out. Shoutout to everyone going through similar things!
Sending you lots of love, please give me back some plus strength I am on the same boat hoping for a miracle
You're still a young person! Enjoy your life and enjoy being you!
Hell yeah. It took me until, just a month ago. Life is better with awareness of these sad souls. Fullness of living!
I realized after I'm 50.....
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They morph from a butterfly to a roach......
D. Lewis lol I couldn’t have explained it any better.. how true is that 👌🏼
D. Lewis 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Exactly!!!
Wow.
Butterfly to poo on a shoe
Lmaoooo. A flying roach
Sadistic high when they see you suffer. So don't tell them + or - things. They collect data and will use it against you.
So true.. I've stopped having any hobbies or caring to talk outside of small talk and it actually bothers him a lot. He tells me all the time that I need to find a hobby and be more productive. Yet when I do he seems jealous that he's not the one starting to find a way to function normally, and he complains about finances and not having any money for himself to do a lot, even though nearly every paycheck goes to what he wants anyways. I've learned to deal with no getting things other than every few months, already knowing when I do, he will still nearly within a day or two complain that I have gotten anything when he deserves all the money. (Though he doesnt use that phraseology exactly) also hates that i have more morals than he does. Gets mad and says I'm so much better than him (sarcastically) and pushed my buttons until I finally snap and then he becomes more peaceful like he's finally seen me act in a way that makes him feel better about himself. Also when he's home I literally have to give him ALL my attention. If I'm feeding the cat or doing a chore, it means hes less important (in his own head) and then i get treated poorly all because i didn't drop EVERYTHING i was doing immediately and give him ALL my attention.
@NoseKey the smear capaign. Do not try to correct anyone.
They do this for damage control. They do it to their supposed friends,just in case someone tells others who they really are and it a source of paranoia for them they don't want their fake public image tarnashed.. They have a public image and a private image. They want everyone to believe the image on display in public. Oh no someone may find out they are undependable and lack self esteem so they bulldoze others to look like a strong person. And the acting award goes to the person who feels empty inside and in
Need of constant validation because they can't validate themself.weak fragile creature w primitive defenses.
Talking about "sadistic high when they see you suffer" ...? Imagine this whole planet Earth being ruled and controlled by leaders like that. They are literally "sadistic/blood thirsty" and 98% of the global population has no clue about it. My playlists are full of proofs...
So true
Yep sure do
There are so many people like this. There's no way it's only 5% of the population. More like 40%. I'm so tired of these people.
True the 5% is just around me. Glad i know who the hell they really are
As you heal more and more from the painful relationships of your past, you will attract more of the kind of people that you want around you.
Andromeda
I agree , they say it is one in five people , that’s the last stat I heard 😦it’s horrific
@@MakingLifeWork that's what I used to think then another one got into my life wasting my precious time. They still show up. After that situation I absolutely see them everywhere and will not allow them near me. I thought if I healed from the past god wouldn't be so cruel, I was wrong!! The only way is to pay attention to everyone new you meet. I got rid of all of them from the past. I have zero problem blocking them. I have no time being a gracious happy person just to be taken advantage of again. I'm sad it has come to this because it is not what I wanted for my life.
Agree more like 40%,at least every second person I meet I'm so sick of it as well
I wish these things were taught to me earlier in my life.
Me too 😪😪😪😪
Yep......
Yes, but there are also so many gifts in the situation as well depending on how we look at it.
Better late than never! Part of live's learning curve I guess! 👍
It's never too late to learn!! I learned it one year ago :)
Something I have learned and want to share with anyone teetering with a Narcissist...they will never be happy no matter what you do. When you "reach" their happy bar, they just raise it. No win situation with a Narc. Get out.
So True ☝️ well said
Very True. Why do we try so
hard to hold on to them
That's soooo true !!
100% agree with you.
EXACTLY!!! My ex was NEVER happy. He saw faults in everyone, wrongs in everything.
I’m extremely empathetic and didn’t realize it until I exposed a narcissist... it was like vanquishing a vampire.
Same here. I just moved out 2 days ago he couldn't bare the fact that i figured him out within 3 days. He gave me hell and more hell and abuse and wanted me out of the house in 2 weeks=> discarding!!!
This exact thing happened to me! He turned into the 😈
Yes brilliant analogy I call them emotional vampires.
My GOD u said it a " vampire " after I would be done hanging out with I felt so empty and sad..and never knew why..until now. GOD ALWAYS WARNED ME ..AND I DISOBEYED..SMH..
I've learned that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder have less gray matter in a part of the cerebral cortex called the left anterior insula, which controls empathy and guilt. (People with PTSD show abnormalities in the hippocampus, amygdala, and medial prefrontal cortex, which is an entirely different matter. Some defenders of narcissists seem to think that the brain is just one big lump.)
I wish MRI scans for NPD were compulsory so normal people would be forewarned that they're dealing with a secretly sadistic being.
Does anyone here have the power to make such a needed law come to pass? Our society would be much improved if:
1. Narcissists are NOT allowed to become parents or have any dealings with children.
2. Narcissists are NOT allowed to become caregivers, counselors, managers, religious figures, or public servants.
3. Narcissists are NOT allowed to own guns (apparently, mass shooters are narcissists who flew into a narcissistic rage).
I'm sure the list could be longer, but that's all I can think of right now. I've been posting this in the hopes that someone in power will see it.
For a comprehensive list of the personality traits of a person with NPD, google OUTOFTHEFOG.
The thing I struggle with is knowing that they will never apologize or concede that they were wrong about anything they put you through, all the while accusing you of the things they were doing to you.
I used to think like that too, but leaving is better than the apology 😃
"You" don't need their admission of guilt or their apology!
That's what "they" need!
You "need" to protect yourself from them and people like them!
THIS
My mom is finally calling out her husband of 37 years, my dad. She told him unless he gets professional therapy she will not be able to live with him anymore. You’d think that would be enough to make a normal person jump into therapy. Nope, he’s still trying to get out of going. I told her he doesn’t actually value their relationship because she’s not feeding his narcissistic supply anymore. She needs to get out but she’s scared to do something o drastic.
I feel you brother.
Pure evil is exactly what I experienced at the end. She went from the most highly respected person in my life to evil. I had no idea that Covert narcissism existed. And I had no idea I could feel this horrible. Covert narcissism is the hardest to detect and the most damaging in my opinion.
Everything in this video is spot on from my experience. 19 yrs.
So true.
You, me and a million other men are surprised too. Hard to comprehend human nature to be evil.
Took me 29 yrs. to figure my ex out. I wanted to be the nice guy, and she totally used that against me.
I hear ya. My exhusband is a covert narc.
The gaslighting...omg I think my ex is a narc. He always tried to alter reality and make me think I didn't hear what I heard or see what I saw when I was 100% certain. It was like he was trying to make me think I was losing it but I KNOW what I heard, saw, felt etc. Gaslighting is truly frightening.
Gaslighting is the worst. Of all the horrible things, gaslighting caused me the most distress.
@@richmel27 Same here...you start questioning yourself even though you are certain what was said, heard, etc. One of the worst forms of emotional abuse but if you learn to identify it you are one step ahead of the narc!
Yes, absolutely! It's CRAZY MAKING!! And he had me thinking I was losing it. Till I began to write things down right when they happened. THAT'S when I KNEW.... THIS MAN IS THE ONE THAT'S NUTS! Journaling worked for me so well. When I left in July 2020, the first thing I did was create a zippered binder with copies of my journalings in it, so if I ever thought "perhaps I overreacted by leaving" or "didn't really remember things the way they really happened", I could pull that book out, and show myself: You are okay... and you made the right choice.
@@CherryBlossom-vr2dc Journaling helped me, right when something would happen. THen, I could look back at it, and know; THIS is the way it happened. I am NOT Crazy.
@@Lu5Ann I did that too! I wrote down some of the things he said minutes after he said them in secret and when I showed them to him later he still denied them AND called me crazy for taking notes on stuff he said. I did it to reread his abusive statements later because I was starting to think maybe I heard him wrong or something This worked wonders for me but it made him very angry because he knew I wasn't as dumb as he wanted me to feel! It helped me realize that he was gaslighting me pretty much from the end of the love bombing stage onward. I was NOT hearing things! Writing down his abusive comments helped me rationalize what I was hearing versus what he was trying to make me believe had been said.
It’s so scary to think that they are continuously looking for someone to control.
Yes, very much so. Much is they want to be the puppeteer master, they are actually puppets of the devil.
Right! Especially because there's really a demon that's controlling them.
True. So creepy. :/
Like a shark looking for prey. Narcs are so creepy!
Discrediting you is their tactic. They can be very cruel and bully like.
In truth they are a joke that wasn't even funny, in my opinion 😁
And the smear campaigns start.
He called me a swine, but I ignored it I didn’t want to express the conflict
Very much so! Adult-Bullying is a thing, they did just that at my brother in laws wedding mocking me etc across the room and then trying to cause more trouble by sending the sisters boyfriend to purposely invade the area where my husband was at I mean it's just beyond funny now looking back how much her and her two sisters plus her husband are all alike and what's more crazy is her younger sister is a psychologist or counselor who behaves the same way. Their mother is the same way it's a twisted family
So true.
I just got discarded by one it’s been a few months. Sometimes I’m so grateful that it happened . Other times I cry about it and really can’t help but think how crazy it was. But slowly I’m getting better about it.
💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
Stay strong
It has been 3 weeks since I was discarded after setting a boundary. Most days I feel so free and some days I'm really sad... because I try to focus on what was good about it. When I use the logical part of my brain I realize how unhealthy it was from the start. The videos help. My biggest strength have been daily positive affirmations and living in the present moment.
Wow...just saw this video and opened my eyes really wide. I always suspected he was and when I'd confront him, he'd get so mad and then the silent treatment started. It's been just the 1st week since he discarded me and I'm just starting to deal with the damage and deep pain he made me go through. I'm thankful for these videos and people's comments as it helps to know I'm not alone. He moved out and asked for a divorce so I guess I should be grateful.
❤
I ran into a narcissist and he taught me so many lesson on placing boundaries from the start and just loving myself.
Same
Took me years of counseling to figure out as an empath, loving ME comes first.
Same
Follow your instincts and get away from them.
*ASAP*
🏃 🏃 🏃 🏃
*NEVER EVER GO BACK*
*PERIOD* ⏪⏪⏪
Stop all communication.
I’m WOKE now!
How easy is it? I’ve known my wife for 10 years and married 7. We have two kids. How can I move on from this?
Isn’t it so funny how every narcissist is exactly the same. Like down to every detail pretty much
Exactly!! Soooo predictable!
They all use the same Playbook it's ridiculous once you understand High Spectrum narcissism then you can pretty much use the same guideline and rules against them you know exactly what they're going to do what they're going to say and how they're going to act it is absolutely ridiculous
Right? I was like.. have you met my dad? Cause you're talking about him like you know him...
Yes!!! Haha that's so true 😆😆😆
That's because they are flesh and blood "robots". No soul, just a bunch of programmed hive minded genetic creation...
I never knew what a Narcissist was, let alone a Cover Narcissist. I certainly do now. These videos are blessing for my healing. Thank you Stephanie!
NO CONTACT is the only way with these types. End of story.
*PERIOD* ⏪⏪
168 days NC.
Yes that’s how you have peace. Or dramas continue...
NC. The only way I found peace of mind
Or low contact if you absolutely have to talk to them!
I have a child with the narc but we ONLY talk about the narc. I don’t answer questions about myself ever.
Yes. They are sadists. They get off on your pain. They love to see you bleed.
Lisa Hamilton Hamilton Reality 2 the tee
Your comment sums up my experience. My narcissistic ex wife was trying as hard as she could to drive me to the point of suicide. They are unrealistically sick individuals.
*THEY ARE VAMPIRES*
*AND LEECHES*
V : Trouble is, they don’t always know that......they think they are doing you a favor, tricking you and hurting innocent feelings......which they tried to receive by the way.....I call them “set up artists”. They ask for one thing, then punish you with mockery when you give it. Narcs are cowards. They are afraid of being human, being real, not being perfect. I feel sorry for them. They are such slaves to illusions about their own grandeur, and everyone them seems to know it......except them.
Absolutely correct. The problem is that they intend to hurt you as hard and as much as they can. And even strangers on RUclips leap to their defense, saying oh no, they don’t know, blah blah blah. They do know and it is their game to cause that confusion. They love to cause emotional pain and have no empathy.
"You have to teach people who the new you is! "❤
This is hard
Yep. .👍💖
@@lollic307 “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life’s hard.”
@@Patricia-xz6ek slow and steady wins the race right
@@lollic307 Exactly:"inch by inch" minding our own business.
"Everything they do to you is based on the fact that "they" are being "exposed"!
I used to keep their behavior between us. Now, I expose them every chance I get!
Excellent job
My mind is really blown right now. The moment I finally set boundaries is when everything you just said came to light. I’ve learned if you wanna weed out any type of narcissist, just set a small boundary and you’ll see.
A really good way to tell if they truly are a narc is say the word " no" to them and watch how they react.😉
@@burniezarsoff4118 Hell Yessss! 😍
@@PriyankaGupta-ew1li l can tell from your reply that you have done this already, and know exactly what I am talking about. Their reaction is priceless, and you will see the true person for the first time.😉
Yup! Same here!
@@burniezarsoff4118 It really is priceless 👌🏼 they look at you like YOU have the audacity 🤣
They get mad when they know you figured them out.
Correct
Big time mad🙄
Lol true😂😂😂😂
How dare you expose them😂😂
O yes this sadistic narc continues to do death threats on my property with red blood paint, dents my car, my home. Pure Evil! I need a good attorney Anyone Please?
@@syg3540 wow what the hell...not to be in your business but doe he do this often?
The best reaction is giving them NO REACTIONS...you win!! They have no more game play when you stop feeding into they're sick twisted games they love playing to feed off of....better yet it's ignoring them and gaining a huge strength within yourself. Its so hard to believe and accept that such evil people like these people even exist 💯 all of what you just said is so on point 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Oh its sooo hard! I relate dealing with a nar with trying to ignore my trolling 4 year old nephew. They neeeeed a response and will poke and prod until they get you to react. The gaslighting is the worst. Whyyyyy????? 😭
As a covert narcissist myself just figuring out the years of pain and manipulation i have caused. I dont know if there is truly fixing me. 100 percent, silence is my biggest enemy. Leave.
I live with 1.it took me 10 years to figure it out what is really going on and I am not the crazy 1 and loosing my mind .Now since I came a cross NPD ,I have got answer to each of my “why “!It is all so obvious now .Everything makes sense now .I m not ready to deal or face it yet but I am collecting all info as much as I can to work out some strategy to get out of this and make Hes mask drop !After all I have seen and read so far I can only wish for “God help me plz !” I am strong if u could live with this person 10 years so I think I will make to the end !and win !
That takes huge amount courage to admit it @buck cheese. I just left my narc ex after 2) years as I didn’t have the courage to leave before and I tell you I feel like I came out of a prison sentence. I appreciate every day that I’m free of that person. Thank God for our freedom to choose how we want to live and not be a slave to anyone. It’s not a life sentence to live with a person like that.
@@rondanatan6198 its been very tough for the last 3 months coming to terms with myself and why things fell apart with a relationship for 8 years. For the longest time i had been so jealous, so upset she left and found someone that made her happy. But i realized i never did really love her. At least i dont think.. i just wanted her.. if that makes sense. And then it all hit me. Thats how i feel about everything. Its control, selfishness, egocentric. And i cant help it. I cant help the way i think. I have been learning and trying to change, and even when i know who i am now, there is no changing me. The personality is in my core, and theres no changing it. I can fake it the rest of my life, which is what i will do for the most part... I dont think i will ever love, i can take care, and own, more or less. But this is why i warn for everyone. So many people have tried to help me throughout my life, many relationships, good ones too. Very good ones. That ive thrown away because i had no more use in my head. I guess in conclusion. This is why psychiatrists dont bother treating personality disorders because thats just what they are. Unless i were to have a lobotomy or a complete wipe and rearrangement of my brain. I will always be like this. And im not just talking to fluff anything up, this is how people like me think. This is why people like me do really good in our career. We are good at playing people. Its a game, the greatest game ever played. I recommend all that is reading this to check out this video.
ruclips.net/video/bdPMUX8_8Ms/видео.html
He puts everything in words better than i can here. I will give you the link after i find it. Cheers to all, and dont be afraid to cut ties and either be happy with yourself, or find someone who will truly care
When I confronted my mother as being a narcissist after many years of confusion and research to why she is the way she is, she responded with pure rage.
10:36 - “A narcissist needs attention no matter if it’s negative attention or positive attention.” That right there answers a lot of questions.
Im not sure about the negative attention. They prefer to think of themselves as perfect. How they look to other's. If you blame them, they freak out!
@@dirtysanchez941 nope fuel is fuel and its not about them needing to be perfect
Its about they cause chaos and truama and pain on others as they recieve euphoria from causing others pain
Paul Zeigler yea , like a puppy! Lol!
@@dirtysanchez941 quote> "they freak out!". not all, at the end of an argument some will actually just yell "it's your fault" and run away, like a scared yelping puppy
My narc is mostly negative news on the TV radio going to the store gym church neighbors. My responding is that what you see think humm I understand what you're saying I'll look in to that nothing helps always have to leave.
This is so overwhelming at the beginning because you don't know what the hell is happening. Once you learn, it is so predicatable. Unfortunately the damage has been done. Thank you for explaining it so simply and so accurate!
Yes
i calculate that every 3,5 days he explod and make a big mess behind.
I confronted him ,"you had promised me not to be so dramatic and violent next time ,now look what you have done. You wow only last less than 4 days ."
After the confrontation, he became totally mad ,he shouted at me in public and said bad words towards me and ran .....This is a narc
They live in their delusional world. In the beginning everything is good and happy. But then when you don't meet their expectations you become their sourse of unhappiness
Soooo true
OMG EXACTLY
Wow. Yes. It was purely demonic. I am so shaken by the experience of the rage. The demonic eyes. Pure evil.
I agree!
Purely scathing. Ratchet the gaslighting up to 10. Slamming things. Yelling. Pounding their chest. Looking down. Violent body language. Genuinely frightening. Had this happen recently. Realized rm was a covert narc and a conversation we had led us to discussing their priorities. Eventually they started saying things that alluded to the fact that they didn't care about me at all. When I called them out on that all hell broke loose.
I can relate 100% my wife’s eyes looked like Satan looking back at me
It still blows my mind how a person can want to hurt another human being on purpose. I'm nearly two years no contact after seeing the mask drop. Dangerous disturbed individuals but my experience made me stronger, I learned how to speak my mind and value myself above all else. I truly came face to face with a demon, no exaggeration... Get away from them, stay safe. x
Ruby Muses 168 NC!!!
You’re inspirational!!
LIVE IT!!!!!
Ruby, well done for having the strength to put yourself first (for once) when you see their true self behind the facade it’s truly enlightening and horrific to see how they really are.
Saw the demon has well Ruby now you no your in spiritual battle for people’s souls
When you've realized that there's no way you can reason with these people and there's no way you can beat them and that they are feeding off your emotions to indulge in some sick pleasure from the pain they are causing you. That's when you realize these people are evil!
Exactly. I see this satisfaction in my husband’s face when he makes me worry for no reason or spoils my mood (and he does this when he sees me enjoying myself or happy) it’s really sick
You can beat them. Don't play their sick game.
My ex was the same, she would also seem annoyed if I was happy.. weird
You are wrong. There are ways you CAN beat them. If you don't know by watching these videos and reading other peoples comments, then I don't know what else to tell you.
Yep, as soon as I set boundaries our relationship came to an end. He couldn’t bear to not test the boundaries and see how much he could get away with. I’m so glad to be free of him.
Me too. Same story. I feel like every day is a gift now.
The day I set boundries was the trigger for him to get more and more mad at me (he was very disrespectfull regarding touching me inapropiatly..) so every time I said no, I dont like it when you randomly grab my breasts/butt/crotch without consent.. and he was all like "o have you been watching too many RUclips video's", and "you dont love me anymore"... It's just crazy
@sparky35242, spot on in my case. The moment I set boundaries, he made up a reason to get out. I followed with blocking the person everywhere.
Strict personal boundaries. Absolutely... Protecting yourself, best interest & mental well being is 100% the only way to defeat the narcissist...
True!
You are never in the relationship alone. Ever. They are always searching for supply.
It’s so F disgusting..
He likes to juggle 3 at a time. Eww
Yes. They treat everyone the same
Absolutely on the nose! They’re just paper thin shells that will go down a laundry list, based on namely what they see. This is a bit of advice I got from another video, on how to disarm a narcissist. You don’t have to look at this video if you don’t want to, but she gave some real can of whoop ass advice. One of the ways to disarm a narcissist, in four words, don’t look at them.
@@knowlightknowright Wow, that's almost Impossible to do! They get so Busted a lot, I mean, with the next to Nothing IQ these folks exude!!?!..
Unplug your heart and emotions for them and they can no longer hurt you!!
Sadly they'll try to turn family, children, coworkers etc against you.
Todd B If anyone doesn’t like you because of gossip, they aren’t worth your time.
@@itsokaytobeclownpilled5937 ideally. But kids are impressionable that's what hurts the most, when they turn kids against you.
Todd B You are correct. In my comment I was referring to adults.
I can’t even begin to imagine the heartache of a parent who’s children that have been manipulated to turn against them.
I am so on board with your comment! I’m still in process of unplugging, but I’m getting there fast!
When you know and they don't know that you know, is the best place to be. When you discard them, to them, you are essentially discarding their mask. This causes the ULTIMATE narc injury and is a great way to avoid becoming public enemy number one through exposing them directly. A lot of victims feel the urge to let the narc know that they know, which causes unnecessary problems. Keeping them in the dark by them thinking that YOU are in the dark is a way that you can quietly sneak away from them and start a new life!
Exactly
All of these comments are spot on! I did this recently and, although I wanted to expose the narcissistic person and let her know that I knew the truth, it’s much better to rid my life of her completely and just move on and close the book forever...
Yes! Then tell them you know more of their secrets but don’t tell them what you know.. that sent my now ex to a divorce attorney 😁
Well i sneak away from that idiot block him no contact ever again
I figured him out after 3 weeks!! I wanted to tell him so badly what I know but I thought better not to, so I just blocked him! I told him it's over, his reaction was very good, like he is fine with it....I was surprised...I don't know if that is a tactic, maybe he thinks I will be back? But I will never ever!! I'm so glad he had no chance to do something bad to me or hurt me, but that love bombing exposed him! And when we met he was so cold like he has no feelings...his words didn't match his actions, so I already saw the red flag....Thank God who helped me and opened my eyes and brought me to all these videos about narcissist!!!
It is a serious blessing to Love to be alone, it saves an individual from 90% of this narcissistic mess.
Whenever someone jumps immediately into another relationship, they were already seeing that person behind your back.
I wish he would. I have begged him to go find another woman to take care of him. I am done.
Holly crap this is spot on, the x has went to jail for domestic battery and last year and once her time was up with the good behavior she jumped ship to another person almost a week after hindsight is 2020 i guess she has been planning this ever since that happened unfortunately i was the one who worked 90 hrs every 2 weeks so what went on in my own home when i was at work i could only imagine and it angers me to the core, and she cheated on me with some random person and told me about it , the sheer emotional abuse and threats have been the most exhausting thing i have ever dealt with in my life...
I #AGREE!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
@Blue Fox WELL, THAT'S. #TRUE, 2!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯
@Blue Fox it's not in most cases, usually it happens the way I said it. The person has already been gone emotionally, and even if they haven't had sex with another person they've been talking to them, getting to know them. Men especially do this, always keeping a chick as a backup.
Be careful with narcissists. These are the people we see on Dateline, pretending to have no idea where their spouse is while being interrogated by the police. Later, they are convicted for murdering their spouse. Stephanie is helping you save yourself.
I am just now standing up to my Narcissist- and it's hard and I have actually given in after some very serious physical abuse. If I die - he killed.
Truth, just gave me chills
It would not surprise me if he has already done something like that to someone. That’s how scary the level of their cruelness can be. Really hard to grasp the level of their game right away (or at all), and then trying to process what’s happening as a normal individual starts crippling you mentally and emotionally (the birth of cognitive dissonance or denial). And, once you try to put things in a perspective and understand by combining their reality with the way they show up is just mind blowing. I felt like I would have an explosion/burst of brain chemicals in my body and mind that would never show up together naturally, ever. It’s just not human or natural. A really tough web the get out of. Everything becomes warped. 😕💔 I would like to see him in jail/prison. Whatever it is, he is guilty.
@En Joy
YUP
Like Amber Heard and Johnny Depp.
So happy that the court saw through HER.
Tons of videos on RUclips
Amber Hayes, how are you now? Cry out to Jesus, He shall help you, reach out to christians who are trustworthy, so they can pray for your safety and freedom. I will pray for you.
The worst is when it's a family member that you can't get away from.
This! The worst! :(
Absolutely!!
My grands mother is a narcissist. Pls pray for my beautiful grandchildren
Slowly separate yourself from family. Several years I haven't been around or spoken to siblings. They try to get a reaction from me by telling other family members or posting on fb. They still keep up with my current life and try to bring me down by their words...but I never reply to any of it because they fail to come to me directly. Overtime a person's true colors will revealed...other family members will learn to respect your reasons for parting ways with a toxic person.
@@KimmieGrace-7 I wish I could. I'm disabled and live with my parents. I have nowhere else to go so I'm stuck in this situation.
I’ve called him a demon for the last year. I finally figured out he’s so dark & twisted and doesn’t care about anyone except himself. He’s either a demon or Satan himself.
Glad I got rid of that creep.
That sounds scary. I was in similar relationship. Maybe a gun with silver bullets would do the trick lol. A t b.
Look info about Jezebel's spirit
"Demon" means "self", so you're spot on. He is possessed by the demon of self.
PreBound wow. He certainly is.
@Mike Knight satan him self
"None of their 'stuff' has anything to do with you, there isn't anything you could have done differently..."
Strong words. 🤘🤘
The expert level narcissistic behavior is when you point out an issue such as ‘poison dripping’, they say you’re doing it turning it back on you for pointing it out. It’s a lose lose conversation that has no end and no resolution.
THATS 90% OF FEMALES ROFL
@@SIR_REALIST_88 yikes, hope you have healthier interactions someday
@@lilgorgo I HOPE FEMALES WAKE BEFORE MEN ARENT HELD ACCOUNTABLE FER CHILDSUPPORT ANY MORE ROFL
@@SIR_REALIST_88 what are you even saying lol
@@lilgorgo SOMETHING U DONT THINK THAT CAN HAPPEN AND IT WILL.
"A little bit of backlash" when you withdraw from the narcisist is the understatement of the year.
My mom in law actually gave me a back lash with her erractic driving
"Once they've mentally jumped ship a discard will happen. But a discard will only happen once they find a new source of supply".. OOOF. that hit HARD
Same, so now It feels like I’m waiting for my boyfriend to cheat on me and then leave
@@Lauren-gs1eh think about what you just typed. Waiting for someone to cheat on you and leave? GIRL. theres people out there who would kill to be in your dudes shoes. Fuck him.
I am in the discard phase now. She has already filed for separation. It took almost two years since me identifying the issue and slowly tightening my guards up. I don't believe she has found an alternate supply though. The supply will also have to be ultra religious like her for ease of manipulation.
@@Lauren-gs1eh I was there three weeks ago. You just aren't mentally ready to leave because him cheating is your excuse for why you don't leave now. You're scared. I snapped out of it
Let it Hit hard. They will be sorry later on. Just for taking you for Granted and Using you for there own benefit.
When I realized my ex boyfriend was a narcissist it was like I took a mask off him and realized the actual person I was dating was the devil. I still have ptsd from him on so many levels.
I have C PTSD from my experience with My Ex Husband. People still believe him
@@angelagiuffrida7058 that's awful! I'm sorry. I hope some of the people who believe him are just humoring him.
Me too got discarded from nowhere, completely broke down, and found out he is a classical NPD thanks to the videos like this.
Like people say, whatever happened, good thing to get away from sick people like this.
Stay strong sis
Jesus, sorry to hear that miss
I'll have PTSD for the rest of my life, because my child got stolen from me and my family destroyed!
If you repeatedly attract narcissist, you likely need help for CPTSD or codependency. You aren't simply an empath or a nice person, although you can be those things as well, you are also likely to have poor boundaries and emotional trauma that needs to be delt with. Emotionally healthy people that have self respect and boundaries won't be repeatedly targeted by narcissist. Get yourself emotionally regulated, build your self worth, develop solid boundaries, and you will naturally began to ward off narcissist people ❤️ or at the least, spot them a long way off.
Well said Summer Grace :)
@@Shashaluk Thank you for bringing accountability to the forefront of my mind. Your comment put something on my mind that I need to confront.
Well said. I fell into this trap too many times. When Jesus saved me, everything started to change.
That's very true, i have been attracting certain kind of people in my life, past so many years, i couldn't get a grip, but now i understand that, everything starts with you, one needs to work upon themselves first, to stop attracting this kind of people...
Thankyou for saying this, this actually made me realize I was wrong too♥️
I love being able to close the door on drama ! I am a mother and now I’m married and my life is absolutely thriving. My kid from my previous relationship his dad is an absolute narcissist and his wife. I have always spent my time trying to avoid the conflict. Now I have out my foot down and I feel so free ! Truly! I am so grateful for these videos
Once you destroy one, next will be much easier to spot!
Hope so 😬
*Ricardo*
*ABSOLUTELY TRUE* ☝
This is so true. Although it's hard when you know your friend/relative's new partner is one and you can't say anything. It's like having to sit and watch a car crash happen in slow motion.
@@lorettanericcio-bohlman567
*It WILL*
*Have FAITH*
*Knowledge is POWER*
*Now We know the SIGNS*
*and the NARCISSIST*
*Behavior Patterns*
Spotted a covert within a couple months.
So I am getting better at spotting them quickly
"all your achievements are really mine."
Yes!
True. Take credit for everything and blame you for everything that goes wrong.
Yea, I Know, Right?!!.. Mine R my own
@@chiyo_darling Daaaammm, my darned Husband is the Exact Same acting at Fux'N 61yrs. old- I Mean, Grow Up Already!!
Omg! THIS!!!
5:55 I can see the pain in her eyes and hear in her voice. She has experienced this evil. I know what you mean. People like to play down the word "evil" like a cartoonish word you only hear on tv. But it is very real. The spirit of evil and demons are real. And when you come across somoene who has it and practices it on you it is really terrifying how a human being can damage so many people in so many ways and think little to nothing of it.
@Karl Lentz what are you talking about?
@Karl Lentz yeah... You probably watch way too much porn. Get a life bro.
Amen!
I’m in the middle of a battle with my Narcissistic sister she’s 4 years older than me and I finally completely cut her off with no explanation. I chose my mental health and peace over her. when I see her in family reunions I do my own thing and she sees me happy and not talking to her. She ended up making her drama in New Years. The whole family and I were all outside and She ran inside the house crying my mom went after her and she was trying to explain her pain because I no longer talk to her. Luckily most of my family agrees seeing her controlling pattern and only my mother who is also narcissistic took her side.
When I realized my brother is a narcissist, I didn't feel so nervous around him anymore.
It's almost funny to see him play out his narcissistic personality in front of me.
But I keep distance to him.
And he doesn't want to see me either.
siblings are the worst.
I waited 55 years and didn't have the courage to go non contact .
Get out early. Be strong.
Staying in Contact just magnifies the pain.
I always gave second chances, forgiveness and renewed trust.
What a horrible mistake!
I hadn't talked with my brother for almost five years. I sent a text or two on Christmas and his birthday. He finally called me, intoxicated at that, and ended up yelling at me and hanging up because I questioned his perspective.
My brother is in major denial as well
You are right, it is funny when you see narcissist for what he/she actually is. Puffed up balls of empty air. Prick the ball and they collapse then you can laugh because you see this person as a me me me all the time. No real substance. It’s like when the balloon bursts, it’s gone, empty, just a bit of skin. Hilarious when you see how stupid they are .
Nail on the head. Listen to this lady. She completely gets it!
My circumstances now. God show me the way out, strengthen me and give me courage to put it in action.
Omg I so needed this today. I literally just got discarded for a new relationship. And everything you’re describing is accurate. It’s almost scary.
Ended a long term friendship over someone who acted the EXACT way she described. Pointed the finger at me, lied, manipulated and very passive aggressive.
I just wish I would’ve seen what people were telling me about them earlier because I’ve experienced so much drama, trauma, and ptsd. I had to learn to choose me first and learn what was best for me and move on. I’ve never felt so good not being around them. I’m just glad I have a good group of people around me now who see my worth. Really needed this video.
Thank you, Stephanie for your helpful videos.
victoria Gray You are not alone!
We ALL went through this !
We are here for support!
Carrie Dillmann thank you so much!!
Even though none of us want to go through some of these experiences it forced us to wake up and learn a hard lesson that a lot of people still not know so you learned and grew from it.. hell I’d thank the person for teaching you what you didn’t know before. 👍
Stephanie Lyn Coaching you’re so right! You have been part of helping me through my growth I can’t thank you enough 💕
Stephanie Lyn Coaching that’s not how the rebound/breakup happened. I withdrew and reconnected n then he withdrew saying that he needs time to sort his own life. He said he is waste of my time.
So does that mean that he is not a narcissistic person?
My Lord I almost lost my mind reacting and I could not even recognize myself anymore .
This video is very helpful
Exactly 💯
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Yes, I was turning into him.. it was disgusting and I am so glad I am away from it now. No contact is the ONLY way and I resisted it for so long. I was only hurting myself until I got it!
First time hearing you.. I've been in this relationship for 15 years, high school sweethearts, married and 3 kids later.. I didnt notice the pattern until 5 or 6 years ago..fst fwd..IM FINALLY TIRED.. yesssss. I am a lil scared because of the rage part... the last incident made me pack me and my kids up.. and of course he says I made it all up. And I need help.. you know this too well. I'm glad I'm not alone. I'm just taking one day at a time.
Anywho I love you 😘😘😘 thanks thanks THANK YOU!
Hi beautiful
Please leave. You are going to be so much better off and more safe. Love you! Take care. You're kids deserve to see you happy and healthy as well, don't stay for your kids.
@@ericag5346yes maam! I am! I am! Been gone before I made this post... at first it was hard.. but each day gets easier.. and easier. Sending love and hugs your way.. ❤
@@itzkennzy5207 hi! 👋
@@ashleyvictoria7823 hope can we talk better pls
They don't care.. they still try to manipulate u to think ur crazy .
She literally said "Your acting weird, I don't care". It all makes sense now.
And they gaslight the fuck out of you
so true dear! I am facing this now! My mother married a narcissist but I am afraid to tell her she married a bad man because I don't want her to be broken hearted.
This is the truth
I'm so sick of people like this. 😡
Right ... I hate that they always seem to get away with their behaviour .... funny thing is I was told I was toxic negative etc ..funny he was the only one that thought so ... so happy I'm out ..
Their absolutely miserable people.
@@natsdaley3543 that's projection at its finest! At least you are wise enough to see them for who they are, and have the fortitude to move past it, and not align with it. Don't worry they will get what's coming to them. There's so many kind people along their journey that try and show them a better way. In my humble opinion eveil is someone who try's to get their way no matter the cost to others. If someone goes around hurting people for their benefit they are evil. Their level of evil, and the acts they commit are merely splitting hairs, or semantics.
Emjquay yes, and they’ll act the victim and tell you to mind your own business once you figure them out
S. Begay me too. My brother. I am so happy not interacting with him. But I know he lies to my family about me. He’s evil and sick.
So true! I always feel so drained when i have to deal with this. I have to remind myself to keep my head together and stay focused.
My ex-husband would tell me to leave and start packing up my things whenever I exposed him, as soon as he didn’t get the reaction of me begging or arguing but just leaving, he came putting back the stuff in the apartment and asking for one more chance. He felt so irrelevant when I no longer care.
Could this be a tactic to get you to let your guard down?
When you're trusting him again, he'll "pull the rug from
under your feet"?
@@teal1010 mine would pretend as if we didn't break up. He's actually doing it right now. I broke up with for the like fifth time in the last two months I've been trying to break free and was still stuck in the trap with the hoovering. I let him that I wanted to end things,he give me push back or tell me he wants to talk about it later but does. I'd usually bring it up but this time I waited and he never did. That was one of many reasons im in the process of planning my exit. Can't wait to leave
“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm [that they cause] does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves”. ~ T.S. Eliot
Sometimes they play music in the car, or wherever loudly, that reflects their thoughts, to also get under your skin.
Hold up were we dating the same person 😂😂😂😂
They can’t just be in a good mood vibing? 😂😂
The Buzz Inc for real they can’t vibe it always seems they angry and ready for a war like a ticking time bomb
Yeeessssssss ugh 🙄 spot on! I used to cut the song off and say, ummm you got something you want to say, like an adult would? And of course they say, wow you really are psycho... not everything is about you, thats so childish. Meanwhile they have a shit eating grin. Everyone around us seems to be coerced by him as well. So frustrating.
That sounds a lot like delusions of paranoia.
During her love bombing phrase, she would buy me mediocre things such as a star wars t-shirt, a bed set, etc. And then, later on asked for more significant items for herself such as an $7,000 engagement ring, iPhone 11, etc. Which I never did! It was always about money with her. If I didn't comply then she would say that I wasn't a good boyfriend. And received the silent treatment. She would always threaten to break up with me. So, eventually I was discarded. Yes, I was down and depressed but your videos and other videos like this helped me realize that it was a great thing. Here are a few things I have gained back. My peace of mind, money in the bank, my will to do the things I used to do, no stress, no migraines, etc. I was worried about her being with someone else. But now I look at it like that's his problem now. Just like in Math an X is UNKNOWN. So, make sure your X become UNKNOWN meaning NO CONTACT! AT ALL!
One more thing I would like to add, in order for new things to arrive in your life, you have to get rid of some old things. You aren't alone. We will get through this. If you look up, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel! So, keep your head up! And keep on smiling.
Mr_N10cT I was love bombed as well with so many gifts cheapest cologne ,cheapest sweets .She bought me a $5.00 set of sheets its was insulting .Yet she took so much valuable stuff from my house .Finally had me booked into the cheapest retirement home .That was it ,pulled the pin
Praise God Brother
Bro ..such a sad read but excellent advice🙏
@@brieze1233 True. All things dealing with a narcissist and/or a toxic person is sad. Good people judge others based on their own charisteristic, principles, and qualities. We can not allow negative people rob us out of our happiness. We must learn and grow from it. All successful people go through negative situation and circumstances. But they comes out on top stronger, more knowledgeable, and more powerful. Superman wouldn't be Superman if he didn't do through the challenges he face everyday in the this world. And we only have to face the challenges that are you our lives. So, we need to just focus on ourselves and be our own SUPERMAN.
Amen!!!
I met my ex when we were 13 & 14 years old. We were married 31 years. When he got his mistress set up in a house and his family on board, he waited for me to Mess Up so he could tell me he couldn’t live with me anymore. He was sleeping with a girl our sons age. Actually, she slept with our son too. Yuck. My ex didn’t even seem familiar. He had become increasingly dismissive and unkind, but I never imagined he or his parents were capable of the level of cruelty our sons and I have been subjected to. My in laws haven’t spoken to me in almost a year. They managed to make me the villain again. My ex was always conflicted about his roll as an adult husband and father vs. the good, obedient son. Never did I think he would cast aside everyone who loved him so deeply, unconditionally and without ultimatums. Divorce is final. I must continue to reprogram 38 years and find a brighter place to live. Thank you for your help.
Was long-term use of alcohol a factor in your ex-husbands deterioration.
I also was married 38yrs before i left and understand what you are going through as I'm still trying to understand what really happened and it's a real nightmare i pray all goes well for all who have endured this hell.God bless all
Karma Gal so good that you got out!!! I'll be praying for you!
I feel you.
The hardest thing to do it to leave! Congratulations!! 🙏🏽
Keep pushing forward and begin your self care/healing journey!!
New word I just learned: "gaslighting!" Check it out. I just parted ways with a "friend" of 40 years. I have noticed the improvement in my quality of life already. Good luck.
Stay single, as long as you can. I m practising abstinence since last 5 years, I m 34. This year was the most peaceful year, as I was working from home. The moment you get into friendship and u see red flag, quit peacefully. I can say that I m currently having zero narcissists, if there are some, then they are already blocked or will be blocked soon.
I’m on the same road, I’m trading sex for peace. Abstinence for the Lord. Only way to go
Wise Words! Since my experiance dealing with a narcissist i am very cautious of people too quick to try and be my friend. Friendships take time. They need to happen organically, not: " Hey lets take a vacation half way across the world together even though we just met."
So many red flags and crazy things she said to my face in the very beginning.. I ignored them all... and paid for it. 🙁
Yes, its the best to be self reliant and self sufficient
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Eight years for me. :-)
I'm so sad that the " love" of my life was never real...he was the devil the whole time. Such a brutal shock to the system! Unbelievable. This is like it was scripted...EVERY narc is the same. They really arent that creative are they?
They are very creative... And it's bullshit!!...I have 2 beautiful daughters with one... And I don't want them to know their mother as a narcissist but that's the road it's going down...it sucks🤬😡🥺😭🤬
They will enjoy their 🏆 wins for the rest of their miserable lives..here how it works...kindness..they hate to see you shine, happy, trying something new, they really show us bla bla empy nothing, I have to choose between pleasure and ✌..I choose a peaceful lifestyle. They hate that. How to escape..?, difficult[ baby steps. .realizing how much destruction narcs created in exchange for a few fantasy moments..I struggle every day trying to understand this monster, handsome, well articulated, family oriented, so kind with strangers, very good at his job, praising integrity, clean, organized, old fashion lover, open and closing doors as a great movie character..and later..you know the rest ...horrifying blank mental abuse, day by day, disappearing, silently digesting my suffering..people run..there is no other way to make it....adrenaline in place and runnnnnnnn
@@Jl-ou4jt yup😌✌🏻
Oh my word! This is so me; I am totally in love with my husband however now that was all fact or an act ! I am devastated. He took everything from me.... six years later I am completely without nothing because he slowly took friends; family; retirement savings; jobs; I still love him after 3 discards !!!! I believe in marriage not divorce I just don’t know when to give up!
You are spot on 👍 26 years!
Lived this almost exactly!!!! So nice to have this in my past. Refreshing to see a healthy future. Gotta love this ladys way that she communicates such a painful journey in life, but reaffirms there is hope and recovery!!!
@@iniubongnkanga9390 thanks but I'm way past that. Don't really care what she is up to, very toxic person. I focus on my future not her phone/social media...
What's Social Media?
When I tried to express the wrong before I knew the truth things went very wrong. It was all about the narc. Very true about the control how the person is seen.
Yes. It is all about control.
Elizabeth Ortiz So True!!
You usually figure it out in the beginning.. I remember years ago, telling him: You suck me out like a vampire! But then you start feeling bad and over look things.. Hold them accountable and then get out ASAP! Slowly, withdraw, cut off the supply.
So perfectly articulated. Thank you sincerely.
There is nothing which is "off limits" to a narcissist - they will stoop to the lowest of the low to inflict pain upon you. This is when you truly realize that you are not really dealing with a human being. You hear people say "I wouldn't wish *that* on my worst enemy" - well, I would not wish the soul-destroying pain and anguish of being with a narcissist upon my worst enemy. They truly do enjoy the harm that they cause to others.
Personally, I will never forget the smirk that crossed the face of my ex when I was hurting so badly that I could hardly breathe. My pain literally turned him on, and sometimes, I was so distressed and exhausted that I could not fight off his advances. The shame that came with that broke me even further.
But... I call him my ex for good reason. I compiled every ounce of my strength and I left him. Which was - and still is - hard, because I did truly love him.
My friend found new friends as I healed. He wasn’t happy with my boundaries. As of two weeks ago we are no longer friends and I’m already feeling better and my anxiety is going away. And I feel like I can finally be myself.
Yes boundaries are important. Less chances of being used
Sarah Swan, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓❤🌹🌹🌹and I will be glad to know you
Sarah Swan, you deserve better
A “little bit of backlash” - understatement of the year.
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Pure evil is such an accurate description.
It’s a terrible thing that society promotes relationships with family being permanent and necessary, dismissing boundary setting with relatives as “well she’s family”. Once we learn to set healthy boundaries we have to set them with everybody. We don’t get to choose our family members, but we do get to choose how, when and whether we interact with them.
Katherine, I totally agree. People seem to think "family" means throw your hands up in the air and do absolutely nothing. What a joke. If anything, a family member (or relative) needs to get their shit together because the family has rules!
“I want to control how you treat me, I want you to do this this & this and I’ll be completely happy. “ .. Whew
Swear my narc ex would say things as if I needed to be on a script that he never handed out it was a shock to him that I could think with my own mind he started to hotwire like a robot trying to blame me for why we weren't on good terms when he obviously never put much effort in it would be" it takes two to tango" "your the one who still deals with me" so if I leave him alone that's an issue too like "why arent you messaging me"
You can't win with these people I noticed now I have been surrounded by these entities, had a narc of a best friend who would be little me or just used my insecurities and overly supportive nature to his advantage until I started to recognize my own strengths that rubbed him such a wrong way he couldnt handle my new found confidence and literally physically attacked me (head butted me!!) That's when I finally knew for sure this relationship was done
I am still tryna grasp the concept of my mom being a narc as that is the hardest one I'll havta come to terms with... I need to be sure although there are signs I still can't pin point it but wow idk y these narcs aren't receiving any assistance (therapy; taser; tranquilizer 😂)
Same way they are
You never realize how much you risked everything till you have regained conciousness after the blurred vision of daily poisoning your mind. In the end, after a dust up of calling her traits out, fed up with projection and the humiliation of triangulation, it is always going to be pushed way past anyones tolerance capability. I havnt heard from her again. No amount of hoovering would ever work anyway. They know...you know. Some of this type know what they do. They don't care. Your just another broken tool of many. In hindsight, the lesson was all mine. And it will serve me well.
Brad McEwen it’s like coming out of a coma
@@jonsmith8083 I do remember when my brain was literally numb from the cog diss. Mixed messages leave you always not knowing just wth is it. You like me or you like to diss me. It always gravitates toward realizing something is terribly, terribly off here. But you persist. That called not having early boundarys. Do now. It seems you have to just not give a f to prove you don't need them. An odd way to try to have a relationship. But that's the red flag saying this is not healthy what so ever.
Glad you are on the other side truly, and you are right its sad, they have no feeling, they use people and don't mind being a prostitute for the easy life, its deep sickness and they have no should in the end, whilst thinking ??? they are in control, ? what in control ? they sell themselves to have that and are empty and hollow, but it is scary and put me off woman can't help it, as like a horror movie, as when you try help them as you care, then it goes the opposite way from the best intended and true and caring way one meant, as you want to free them and show them a better healthier, Truer, and more open life which is healthy, yields a far far better deeper happier and gainful life, totally so we know this but do they ? no not interested as their mystique and childish simpleton game and ways conquers them completely, they aren't even interested in sampling it so they can choose :-(( they keep all their ex's on a hook and triangulate, but my ex's ex husband was filth himself, and so loved it and the game, he was a Thai hunter and get it....Control....Mr Big....do as you are told....and I am Mr Big.........obey me........so he was game for the sickness as got off on it, it was a nightmare, she kept him outside our door FFS :-(( Trianglation .......I left as couldn't be doing with it........ very sick people, but hers was by her parents who made her this, and then the ex loved it as goat the push pull and contrast of control then puppy, and the cycle just went on and on........ mind bending stuff and glad to be free and on my own truly :-) steph is an amazing coach, one of the very best out there for getting to the route of peoples suffering :-) and explaining it so unlocks the iron door of confusion and blame......bless her she's just leading the ways and healing millions by all she teaching, explains, is, and posts, good on her, truly a blessing to us out here :-)
@@jonsmith8083 That is a great description. The brain numbness, the cog diss, the fog... a person in a vulnerable situation or just naively doesn't know wth is happening is no match for the narcopath. You have to hit the wall and get the hell out. Once clear of the poison and when veins have purged all the toxin no one would ever go back. To me, its attempted murder.
@@Carybarnes123 Clarity and the discernment of experience shall be our guide. This will not happen again.
This person I was dealing with always flipping the script on me. I started standing up for myself. I called him out.
"When the devil can't reach you, he sends a narc" I LOVE IT!!! Thank you Loraine! 💗
Laurie Oshell MAN!!
The blood of jesus christ has power 🙏
@@daylilopez6350 Like nothing else on this earth. Notice how different one letter makes the word "earth" and "heart". One means we live from the earth god which we obey, or ego when the other means we are connected to Him in our hearts from where He feeds and instructs us about all things! This is now scientifically tested and proven with real methods that can practically expose whether or not anyone is stuck in the ways of the old earth/world or subconscious or ego! or whether they have been set free with a new mind activating all of their five lesser body-brains whenever they were in charge of even our heart through this invisible, yet very present ego, which has to go! Then we can begin to live and thrive with all of LOVE's invisible powers of wisdom and justice! so that we can finally love our own selves enough to fulfill the greatest of all commandments or recommendation: "Love your neighbour as YOURSELF" for unless we do, how pray tell, can we give it to anyone else? Whereas it would be impossible, with the Living Father, all things become absolutely possible! HalleluYah
@@theresefournier3269 amen!! I never noddest earth and heart I love it thank you
@@daylilopez6350 In the future, should you pay attention, you will see and be revealed many things and begin to choose your own words, much more consciously! Etymology goes deeper than we think and reveals the satanic nature of the languages that were not the Living and Original Hebrew, which is perfect in every way and would never give the wrong impression or perception such as ours today: i.e. Hello=how low to hell can we send you today? Good-morning=Hoping you have mourning or the death of a loved one? Santa Clause=Satan's Claws? Nice! which means what? and which meant something rather unfair and ugly just 500 years ago! and the list goes on and on and on, to keep everyone in the darkest of places! rather than to let them be who they really are instead! Why do we do spelling courses? To provide spells! Ask anyone who read the Harry Potter collection what they got from it! They offered some of us hundreds of dollars just to read them. I declined the offer! as I will the mark of the beast! Thank you!
Everyone has narcissistic traits, but there is a difference in having a Selfish lifestyle that is a true Narcissist whom leaches and dominates a one sided relationship.
Because you sense I've got an ego,your gonna call me a narcissist,that's not right to judge me so harshly,fool💥
Yeah that's them and they SUCK.
“Give me this this and this and I’ll be happy.” Spot on. My narcissistic mother’s favorite thing to say “if everyone would just do what I want then we wouldn’t ever have any problems.” Blind obedience. I’ve heard another person say this before.... my FIVE YEAR OLD niece. It’s like narcissists don’t mature past preschool age.
I had a friend say this and it was a wake up for me!!!
Her rage in April made me and my 15 year old son homless during 1st lockdown via police escort over me being relaxed with the kids studies. As she wanted to behave like Hitler with them. I acted like a shield and blocked her aggression towards them. She went MAD. 9 months on with no contact from me. I now have guardianship of my son and have moved into temporary accommodation as a single parent. It's a new start for us both for 2021.
Jeez man . That’s brutal , you’re a hero
@@mattlofty5884 agreed! 👏🏾
Shafer , should I even marry knowing she is one ? Won't they ever heal ?
@jaison stanley Marriage is a contract with government she'll use to rob you later when she nolonger can abuse you. You cant heal them they now see you as shit to be used and abused.mask off now. They will pretend to be the person you met before. Love bomb you again. Dont fall for it again and again . Now My life has improved and i live independently from a women in my life. I have obtained 20k in crypto already . My sons now 18yrs of age we go gym. my 16yr daughter just moved in with us this year. Still in no contact I'm single and free from ploice and false aligations I'd like to remain like that. Thank you.
@@jaisonstanley just from what I've dealt with.... Get far away from her! I've wasted twenty years of my life with one, I wish I'd found out before I married her.
The longer you wait, and put off leaving this type of person, the more pain and humiliation they'll put you through. Get out quick, as soon as you figure them out. Sure it's difficult, they're charming and wonderful, and then you say something nice about her/his perceived rival they'll humiliate and dominate you even more than before. They use your fear to control you. And their behavior is rooted in their insecurity. Run for your life.
Absolutely. Run for your life & pray you get out unscathed.
My wife said I was a narcissist. So I've been studying this subject. After seeing this and reading other material, I'm very relieved that I'm not one. Narcissist usually call others what they are to smoke screen. Thanks for this info!
If you were a narcissist you would have never looked bc of something she said. Bc you wouldnt have cared about her saying it.
Name calling is huge with narcissists. Projecting themselves on you. They will scream at you all of their shortcomings it's actually pretty entertaining in the beginning. All you have to say, look in the mirror babe, and talk to yourself about yourself.
And let me guess, she was the narcissist projecting on you.
“I’m very relieved that I’m not one” said EVERY narcissist ever.
An accusation from a narcissist is also always a confession!! She is projecting her guilt onto you
My ex said “I’m not narcissistic, I don’t even have social media, how can I post a bunch of pictures of myself” 🤦🏻♀️ after sending me 7 pics of himself I never asked for. 😂 that’s not what the disorder is and if it were, you just did that. So ridiculous, after healing I can just laugh at the absurdity now. Went grey rock then blocked him. When I found out he cheated on me hundreds of times, his answer was “ I’m a guy, I’ll do whatever I want”. They’re heartless and delusional. So glad I’m not a co-dependant doormat anymore. It was a tough road to recovery but worth it. Not today Satan!!!!!!
It's so crazy how all of these narcs say the same things and do the same behavior. I was 15 when met him and he was older so I was all doe eyed and naive. When I turned 17 we made the relationship official. He cheated me all through out the relationship when I found out about all these hundreds of women and confronted him he said "I'm a man, I can do that." I wanted to smack the smirk off his face but I decided not to. Because these narcs love drama! and me getting that angry would only stroke his ego even more. I walked away and didn't even argue. But can you imagine the nerve of someone to put your life at risk by sexing all kinds of loose women then telling you they could do that. They are cold and mean and ruthless.
Same here, and claims I take too many pics of myself when I only take pictures on the weekends but he takes a picture of himself and everything he does everyday. 🤦🏽♀️🙄
Definitely can relate. My ex always talked about how his baby mama was crazy and a narcissist. Well, now I know who was the real problem. And I love how laughable all the things they do and say become once you heal.
❤🙌🙌 TYJ
Amen buster!
Very accurate. My sister married with a narcacist .24 years of mental abuse. Untill I wedged between them and helped my sister understand what her husband was doing to her. The guy even tried to do those mental abuses to me too, but I did what I tought my sister to do, stop all forms of communication! And threaten to break his jaw! They use a variety of methods, not just abuse, but also pretend temporary love. These people exists unfortunately, we have to be careful with whom we live with.
Boy, is that ever true about narcissistic rage - so glad I got out. That was the first and last encounter of that type with that person!
I hate it when they accuse you of doing something, and say that they have text screen shots, voice recordings,yet when you ask for them to show or play them for you, you get no response.
This is so true Stephanie! I was completely shocked to see another different person and that gave me so much chills in my back! How could I possibly have spent so much time with a monster!
My old boss was a Narcissist. I didn’t realize what was going on for so long and found myself continually trying to please them only to realize the more I tried to please them the more “they ate me for lunch”! Everything you say here makes perfect sense now. I actually had PTSD from a three year work relationship. I can now see where I became a huge target when “I unknowingly” exposed them.
This happened to me too! A very, very abusive boss. Not sure if she was a narcissist but very cruel, critical to an insane degree, ran hot and cold (some days they would seem so nice and they'd go into a cold rage) etc. Some sort of personality issue.
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