Hello Holly. I thank God for the knowledge and wisdom you accumulated over the decades. My wife finding you is a miracle itself. Thank you and thank you again for sharing your vast wisdom and knowledge with everybody that wants to learn. I have four children and a fifth on the way. My youngest are 2 and 1. I’m wondering if you’d recommend to blanket train the two youngest on the same blanket? If not, should I blanket train them in the same room on separate blankets?
I appreciate the kind words and I’m glad the channel is helpful! I recommend separate blankets. Same room is ok. The idea is that they learn to entertain themselves quietly and learn boundaries. If they are on the same blanket, the entertain themselves might not be accomplished. 😊
Thank you for your kind words. I am glad that you have found the RUclips channel helpful. It doesn’t really matter too much if you put two children on the blanket together if necessary. But part of what you’re trying to do is teach them to play independently. The other part is to teach them to stay within the boundaries of the blanket. So it’s probably best if you can do two separate blankets so they can learn to play independently. But it’s not that terribly important right now. Learning the boundaries is the first thing that matters. Then you can work on playing independently later. If you have not yet discovered my website, be sure and check it out. You can find my book and other resources there. That may be helpful too. Www.mommyanswerlady.com Thank you again for your comments and questions.💕
This is best advice ever; my child used to annoy me by exploring his world and making me take time to watch him. Now after tracing him like my dog, he just circles the blanket like my dog in the yard. I have so much more time to myself! Thank you!!!!
@@MommyAnswerLady You are advocating that torturing a human being, that has no concept of wrong or right, is morally ok. You are doing this so that parent's don't have to be parent's. You are sick. Sick!
@@MommyAnswerLady You're equating things that have nothing in common. everything except the potty training is done with adults or near adults, who have the ability to choose to participate or not. A child doesn't have that choice.
Hmm I don't like this training. Children are naturally curious. It looks as though you are trying to stifle this. Sounds more like training a puppy. The duggars use this method.
Thank you for your comment. This does not squelch curiosity. It creates boundaries in which they can safely play during blanket time. If the Duggars use it, that’s fine with me! 😊
My husband was born with a literal civil war infiltrating his environment. Even if a baby has a civil war happening outside his home, who are the two people who will protect him? Mama and Daddy! How warped is it to exercise your God-given curiosity (yes btw you are correct) and have Mommy hit you with an object……. AFTER MOMMY HERSELF TEMPTS THAT BEHAVIOR??? Btw Mashallah I have seven children.. I’m not speaking hypothetically.
@@LlamaLlamaMamaJamaac If you think this method tempts children to disobey and then snaps at them for it, you didn’t watch the video. You heard this from another source. When commenting on my methods, at least take the time to listen to them in the whole.
You train animals and teach and discipline humans, if someone is too stupid to understand what they’re doing is wrong hitting them is supposed to make them smarter? Punishing a child for experimenting with their environment is how you end up with adults that can’t formulate opinions or express themselves healthily.
The context of this video doesn’t suggest what your comment implies. Have you ever heard of potty training? On-the-job training? Military training? Vocal training? Training for the Olympics? Etc? Humans train all the time. Have you ever heard of a person doing something they shouldn’t and knowing it? Are you suggesting the only time people do things they shouldn’t is if they don’t understand? You don’t understand human nature. Clearly you didn’t understand the difference in the words “teach” and “train” --and you do both with humans. This video doesn’t suggest anything abusive whatsoever. Keep things in context.
@@Juia_S I suggest you look at the context of the conversation. The word “training” is applicable. All people train for things regardless of age. Children potty train, train to behave, sleep train, etc. Adults train for the military, do on the job training, train for sports, etc. There’s nothing wrong with using that word. And if that’s the only argument you have…let’s move on.
@@HappeningsatLamgoFarms The “redirecting” is answering the “question”. The video I linked talks about the objections people like you bring up. You don’t know what you’re talking about so If you have a question, ask it. Otherwise making flippant uninformed comments isn’t productive.
@@MommyAnswerLady sweetie- look up chaff and redirect. Again- you’re not answering why you feel this is NOT damaging a child? As a mom of 8, 26 yrs down to 4- I do know what both you and I are taking about. The psychological damage gentle blanket training causes is incredible. Of course it may not be expressed until they themselves are parents. I’m sorry you feel the need to be upset and rude in responding to me. Your lack of control in your answers kind of proves my point. If you don’t want others to question your practices, teachings and motives- a RUclips channel may not be the best thing for you.
I'm sure you know better than I about raising children. Oh... how many children have you raised exactly? Are they successful? And did you struggle as you raised them with their behavior? Thus, your advice and skill in it should definitely be considered above mine. Got it. I guess I'm in a snarky mood. Please forgive. It is one of my greatest weaknesses. In other words, you don't know what you're talking about.
Thank you for asking. I’ll answer your question and then I’d appreciate you answering mine. I am a certified parent educator through the Positive Discipline Association. I do not completely agree with everything the PDA teaches, but I do teach many of the same things because they teach from the perspective of Adlerian psychology which I mostly agree with and appreciate. Most of my methods come from experience in raising my own nine children and many years teaching, training and mentoring other parents with theirs. And from my understanding of the challenges parents face with young children and the flawed progressive parenting taught by many child “experts”. Now for my question. Where did you first hear about blanket training and under what circumstances?
@@MommyAnswerLady Hello, I am currently getting my masters in social work focusing on child therapy, so I study many different parenting techniques. I like to watch videos as well as reading journal articles to get various perspectives.
@@abigailliebing7469 Thank you for your reply. There is a huge is misconception about blanket training -- I have heard it is because others have taught it harshly or entice a child to disobey and then snap at them for it. This isn’t really blanket training as I have ever heard it myself, but there are many who cringe at the very words out of ignorance of the effective and reasonable method...and forgive the pun...they throw the baby out with the bath water! I’m goad you are looking at other perspectives. What is taught in a classroom setting or experimented in a social laboratory doesn’t always equate to the reality of life in the home with multiple children. This is why I believe many “experts” in the parenting field --though some things they teach are right on track--still have many flawed methods and perspectives that do cause a lot of stress and unnecessary difficulty for children and parents.
What are your qualifications? I find this technique abhorrent. Babies are meant to explore and mama is supposed to keep baby safe not flick their little hand.
If you don’t agree with this video, after you have watched it all the way through, what difference does it make what my qualifications are? It’s either a good piece of solid advice or it’s not. Did you watch this video at all? Or did you hear something about blanket training and make up your mind that it’s wrong before you ever even saw it? If I had a PHD in child development, would you suddenly believe this is good? Here’s the answer. I have raised nine children all grown and healthy productive members of society. I have done counseling and mentoring with parents for three decades. I have taught children for more than 35 years. Written a book on the subject --And lastly and definitely least, I am a certified parent educator--which really doesn’t matter imv. But does any of that matter? Not to you. So why ask?
@@MommyAnswerLady I think if you were a child psychologist you wouldn't be using this system or teaching it. And I watched it all. I don't understand why you think it's all right to flick a baby's hand or confine him/her to a blanket. It may be at a low level, but it's still abusive. Yes it works, but that's not the point, surely? The point is that the system, effective or not, is treating children like animals to be trained. You are using negative reinforcement to ensure they don't get off the blanket. It is unnecessary. Children can behave well and can be taken anywhere, without treating them in that way, which is based on fear. Yes, it takes more time and effort, but parents should take the time. I am appalled by this trend. Please at least consider why so many people are upset by this system, and whether you might develop and teach another that is not based on control by fear as with training a dog. You have a nice manner about you, seem convincing and put your idea across very well, and unfortunately this means that you are legitimizing a system that should not be followed ever, and is an invitation to more abuse from parents who will have less patience and control than you.
This isn’t abuse. You have appropriate and effective discipline confused with abuse…as do many parents today. That’s why so many parents are overwhelmed and so many children and unruly and unhappy.
Lol Well...first of all, I don’t think you actually watched the video. You have likely heard of another person talk about “blanket training” without listening to this video, and made a flawed conclusion. Second, what country has a law that doesn’t allow parents to teach their child to stay on a blanket?
@@Hambonehoven I have to admit I have no idea what you are talking about and must assume you didn’t watch the video. Please Stop commenting until you do. Secondly, there are many differences between adults and children. So many differences that this venue is insufficient to list them all. Your question is nonsensical. Once you have actually watched the video all the way through, and if at that point you have a coherent question, I’d be happy to reply.
Is this in any way related to The Pearls' book "To Train Up A Child"? aka do you advocate for using a switch as they suggest with blanket training in the book?
Kezia Bates Thank you for your question. No, this is not related to the Pearls and I do not advocate using a switch. Did you watch the video? It was very specific with step by step instruction.
You might want to change your title to “gentile” or “humane” blanket training. There is a form of child abuse called “blanket training,” where you try to entice your child to come off the blanket and, when they do come off the blanket, you hit them for it. It’s designed to make them associate leaving the blanket with physical pain and fear. People are all up in arms about this, as they should be.
@@HappeningsatLamgoFarmsTrue. Moms screaming at their kids and spanking them when they run into traffic is WAY more abusive than teaching a child to respect boundaries.
Hi! I just read about blanket training in another book. I googled it and came across your video. My question is, my baby is already 13 months old and I haven’t done any blanket training with him yet. He’s not quite walking, but he’s been crawling everywhere for months now. In your opinion, is it futile for me to even try to start blanket training him now? Seems to me like this is something you really have to start with right away when they start crawling for it to be effective. What are your thoughts? I wish I had heard about this training months ago. Thank You.
@@bbykatiekat that argument is so old. There’s nothing wrong with the word “training”, Potty training Military training On the job training Vocal training Olympic training Sports training Etc etc etc. Children need behavior training.
Okay, we've been doing this for a while now and are up to 7 minutes. But toward the end, they are both trying to get my attention by sticking their feet or hands off the blanket. I only repeat what you said, "Stay on the blanket. Don't get off the blanket" with appropriate tones and moving their hand. But they are developing this game to get my attention and get me to say it. I just rewatched and cannot find if I am supposed to restart the clock when they get off or not. Should I start over with one or two minutes, restarting after each time someone tests the boundary?
I been trying to do this with my 15 month old son for the past month and every chance he gets he runs. We do it once a day and it ranges for about 20-30 minutes. It seems after all the steps I take, he laughs and continues to purposely step off the blanket. He’ll stay on the blanket if I play with him on it. I’m trying to get him to play by himself. What can I do to get him to stay on the blanket?
Thank you for asking. I'm sorry you are struggling. The problem is that you have set up an expectation. The expectation is that if he gets off the blanket or doesn't cooperate, you will play with him. Think of it from the perspective of his little mind. How can he get mommy's attention? And, when he does that thing, what is your response? The consequence you have been giving him when he gets off the blanket is also not strong enough to make him decide to stay there. So, there is both an expectation set up that blanket time is when he does a certain thing, and then Mommy plays with him. AND, if he get off the blanket, the consequence isn't any problem for him at all. To change this, you need to change the expectation and the consequence. It will be harder than when you first started because a habit is harder to break than setting up a routine. Is he generally obedient in other areas but just not this one?
@@MommyAnswerLady that’s helpful. I forgot to mention he’s a strong willed child so he’s usually always testing his boundaries. I’ve been flicking him and it seems to hurt but he continues to step off the blanket
@@brittanyhannaberry3524 I see. I figured there may be some will going on here! Lol Playing with him on the blanket was not part of the plan and has likely confused him about what blanket time is for. If it were me, I would be stronger and more consistent until he understands you mean business. But you probably need to start all over and listen to the instructions again. Then do EXACTLY as they say. Hope this helps. I wish I could be there to help you! 😊💕
Very helpful! Only had a few sessions with my 8.5 month old (not yet old enough for CTM/ not pulling himself to standing) and he understands what I want and stays on the blanket. But he cries the whole time. I've been practicing doing the low eyebrows and low tone 'no' when he gets mad like this. Which upsets him more. How would you recommend I make this more enjoyable for him so he doesn't think blanket time is a sad time?
I wouldn’t do the “no” for if he is crying on the blanket. That’s just putting a negative tone on the whole thing. The “no” is only if he gets off the blanket. If things have been set up negatively, you’ll need to restart training in a positive way with a happy atmosphere. Do a few sessions with you and him playing together or reading in the blanket. The goal is for him to see it as a nice time. After a few sessions like that, start play and then slowly back away after he gets interested in something. Then ease into blanket time by himself. He should be ready to pull himself up soon, so watch for that. The pulling up is really just a measure for me to et parents have a clear picture of when CTM is ok. It doesn’t mean it can’t be done earlier. It just depends on the parent and the child. By pulling up time, any parent or child could be ready though.
Please don’t blanket train, this is a form of abuse for a little baby. Babies are meant to explore, that’s how they learn. Kids are meant to be full or energy and explore their world. Please allow your baby to be a baby. They will be a happier, smarter child in the future. They will also have a much better emotional connection with you.
@@rosegirl9874 It's not abusive the way I do it at all! Sometimes I need 20 minutes to do something where I can't be making sure he's not falling down the stairs. And trust me, every other minute of the day he has freedom to explore the house!
Hello Holly. I thank God for the knowledge and wisdom you accumulated over the decades. My wife finding you is a miracle itself. Thank you and thank you again for sharing your vast wisdom and knowledge with everybody that wants to learn.
I have four children and a fifth on the way. My youngest are 2 and 1. I’m wondering if you’d recommend to blanket train the two youngest on the same blanket? If not, should I blanket train them in the same room on separate blankets?
I appreciate the kind words and I’m glad the channel is helpful!
I recommend separate blankets. Same room is ok. The idea is that they learn to entertain themselves quietly and learn boundaries.
If they are on the same blanket, the entertain themselves might not be accomplished. 😊
This lady is CRAZY. Do NOT do this. Whack job.
Thank you for your kind words. I am glad that you have found the RUclips channel helpful.
It doesn’t really matter too much if you put two children on the blanket together if necessary. But part of what you’re trying to do is teach them to play independently.
The other part is to teach them to stay within the boundaries of the blanket. So it’s probably best if you can do two separate blankets so they can learn to play independently. But it’s not that terribly important right now.
Learning the boundaries is the first thing that matters. Then you can work on playing independently later.
If you have not yet discovered my website, be sure and check it out. You can find my book and other resources there. That may be helpful too. Www.mommyanswerlady.com
Thank you again for your comments and questions.💕
@@LisaKoffler lol. Ok then.
This is best advice ever; my child used to annoy me by exploring his world and making me take time to watch him. Now after tracing him like my dog, he just circles the blanket like my dog in the yard. I have so much more time to myself! Thank you!!!!
@@LisaKoffleri think it’s sarcasm, and if it l is it’s really disgusting and disturbing how the owner of this channel has liked it!
You train people too. Potty training, on-the-job training, military training, athletic training, etc.
Ridiculous. Did you even watch this video?
@@MommyAnswerLady You are advocating that torturing a human being, that has no concept of wrong or right, is morally ok. You are doing this so that parent's don't have to be parent's.
You are sick. Sick!
Thanks for the comments. They advance the algorithm. 👍🏻
@@MommyAnswerLady You're equating things that have nothing in common. everything except the potty training is done with adults or near adults, who have the ability to choose to participate or not. A child doesn't have that choice.
Hmm I don't like this training. Children are naturally curious. It looks as though you are trying to stifle this. Sounds more like training a puppy. The duggars use this method.
Thank you for your comment. This does not squelch curiosity. It creates boundaries in which they can safely play during blanket time.
If the Duggars use it, that’s fine with me! 😊
@@MommyAnswerLady Boundaries are rarely thought to children these days 😢
PUPPIES shouldn’t even be “taught” like this
My husband was born with a literal civil war infiltrating his environment. Even if a baby has a civil war happening outside his home, who are the two people who will protect him? Mama and Daddy! How warped is it to exercise your God-given curiosity (yes btw you are correct) and have Mommy hit you with an object……. AFTER MOMMY HERSELF TEMPTS THAT BEHAVIOR???
Btw Mashallah I have seven
children.. I’m not speaking hypothetically.
@@LlamaLlamaMamaJamaac
If you think this method tempts children to disobey and then snaps at them for it, you didn’t watch the video. You heard this from another source. When commenting on my methods, at least take the time to listen to them in the whole.
This is disgusting. RUclips should take the show down. Another Ruby Franke in the making. The child will not be happy.
I have nine children. They are all grown, happy and doing great. You don’t know what you’re talking about.
You train animals and teach and discipline humans, if someone is too stupid to understand what they’re doing is wrong hitting them is supposed to make them smarter? Punishing a child for experimenting with their environment is how you end up with adults that can’t formulate opinions or express themselves healthily.
The context of this video doesn’t suggest what your comment implies.
Have you ever heard of potty training? On-the-job training? Military training? Vocal training? Training for the Olympics? Etc?
Humans train all the time.
Have you ever heard of a person doing something they shouldn’t and knowing it? Are you suggesting the only time people do things they shouldn’t is if they don’t understand? You don’t understand human nature.
Clearly you didn’t understand the difference in the words “teach” and “train” --and you do both with humans.
This video doesn’t suggest anything abusive whatsoever. Keep things in context.
@Mommy Answer Lady you're nuts.
@@lfj6824
Great point. You’re logic has certainly convinced me and brought me over to your side. 😂
@@Juia_S I suggest you look at the context of the conversation. The word “training” is applicable. All people train for things regardless of age. Children potty train, train to behave, sleep train, etc. Adults train for the military, do on the job training, train for sports, etc.
There’s nothing wrong with using that word. And if that’s the only argument you have…let’s move on.
@@MommyAnswerLadyYou should stop replying to people that don't think like you. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion 🤫
Not cool, they are not dogs, I don't even treat my dogs like this, and yes i saw the whole video.
🙄 lol. I guessing you also believe boys can be girls and vice versa? Logic. I suggest you watch this:
ruclips.net/video/bTLveXXbcqk/видео.html
@@MommyAnswerLady really? Chaff and redirect?
Agree! I don’t even treat my dogs this way. This is clear abuse.
@@HappeningsatLamgoFarms
The “redirecting” is answering the “question”. The video I linked talks about the objections people like you bring up.
You don’t know what you’re talking about so If you have a question, ask it.
Otherwise making flippant uninformed comments isn’t productive.
@@MommyAnswerLady sweetie- look up chaff and redirect. Again- you’re not answering why you feel this is NOT damaging a child? As a mom of 8, 26 yrs down to 4- I do know what both you and I are taking about. The psychological damage gentle blanket training causes is incredible. Of course it may not be expressed until they themselves are parents. I’m sorry you feel the need to be upset and rude in responding to me. Your lack of control in your answers kind of proves my point. If you don’t want others to question your practices, teachings and motives- a RUclips channel may not be the best thing for you.
This comment section is so silly. This isn't abuse - it's sensible.
You best count your lucky stars only 13k have seen this
I'm sure you know better than I about raising children. Oh... how many children have you raised exactly? Are they successful? And did you struggle as you raised them with their behavior? Thus, your advice and skill in it should definitely be considered above mine. Got it. I guess I'm in a snarky mood. Please forgive. It is one of my greatest weaknesses. In other words, you don't know what you're talking about.
What is your qualification to be a "certified parent educator?"
Thank you for asking.
I’ll answer your question and then I’d appreciate you answering mine.
I am a certified parent educator through the Positive Discipline Association. I do not completely agree with everything the PDA teaches, but I do teach many of the same things because they teach from the perspective of Adlerian psychology which I mostly agree with and appreciate.
Most of my methods come from experience in raising my own nine children and many years teaching, training and mentoring other parents with theirs.
And from my understanding of the challenges parents face with young children and the flawed progressive parenting taught by many child “experts”.
Now for my question. Where did you first hear about blanket training and under what circumstances?
@@MommyAnswerLady Hello, I am currently getting my masters in social work focusing on child therapy, so I study many different parenting techniques. I like to watch videos as well as reading journal articles to get various perspectives.
@@abigailliebing7469
Thank you for your reply.
There is a huge is misconception about blanket training -- I have heard it is because others have taught it harshly or entice a child to disobey and then snap at them for it.
This isn’t really blanket training as I have ever heard it myself, but there are many who cringe at the very words out of ignorance of the effective and reasonable method...and forgive the pun...they throw the baby out with the bath water!
I’m goad you are looking at other perspectives. What is taught in a classroom setting or experimented in a social laboratory doesn’t always equate to the reality of life in the home with multiple children.
This is why I believe many “experts” in the parenting field --though some things they teach are right on track--still have many flawed methods and perspectives that do cause a lot of stress and unnecessary difficulty for children and parents.
@@LisaKoffler how so? Did you watch this video at all?
@@MommyAnswerLadythere is 0 evidence to suggest that blanket training works.
What are your qualifications? I find this technique abhorrent. Babies are meant to explore and mama is supposed to keep baby safe not flick their little hand.
If you don’t agree with this video, after you have watched it all the way through, what difference does it make what my qualifications are? It’s either a good piece of solid advice or it’s not.
Did you watch this video at all? Or did you hear something about blanket training and make up your mind that it’s wrong before you ever even saw it?
If I had a PHD in child development, would you suddenly believe this is good?
Here’s the answer. I have raised nine children all grown and healthy productive members of society. I have done counseling and mentoring with parents for three decades. I have taught children for more than 35 years. Written a book on the subject --And lastly and definitely least, I am a certified parent educator--which really doesn’t matter imv.
But does any of that matter? Not to you. So why ask?
@@MommyAnswerLady I think if you were a child psychologist you wouldn't be using this system or teaching it. And I watched it all. I don't understand why you think it's all right to flick a baby's hand or confine him/her to a blanket. It may be at a low level, but it's still abusive. Yes it works, but that's not the point, surely? The point is that the system, effective or not, is treating children like animals to be trained. You are using negative reinforcement to ensure they don't get off the blanket. It is unnecessary. Children can behave well and can be taken anywhere, without treating them in that way, which is based on fear. Yes, it takes more time and effort, but parents should take the time. I am appalled by this trend. Please at least consider why so many people are upset by this system, and whether you might develop and teach another that is not based on control by fear as with training a dog. You have a nice manner about you, seem convincing and put your idea across very well, and unfortunately this means that you are legitimizing a system that should not be followed ever, and is an invitation to more abuse from parents who will have less patience and control than you.
This isn’t abuse. You have appropriate and effective discipline confused with abuse…as do many parents today.
That’s why so many parents are overwhelmed and so many children and unruly and unhappy.
ABUSE!
Profound take on the video. Full of thoughtful insight. THanks for the comment!
@@LisaKoffler
In what way? Did you actually watch this video?
You’re teaching people how to abuse their babies with this? I can’t wait until this becomes illegal, this is so wrong.
You are delusional. Thanks for the comment though. 😊
This is illegal in so many country's!!
Lol
Well...first of all, I don’t think you actually watched the video. You have likely heard of another person talk about “blanket training” without listening to this video, and made a flawed conclusion.
Second, what country has a law that doesn’t allow parents to teach their child to stay on a blanket?
Many don’t allow physically hurting a child so that you don’t have to ‘carry a bulky pack and play’
@@Hambonehoven a light flick on the hand is not abusive. Lol
@@MommyAnswerLady it would be if you corrected an adult in that way. Why not with children?
@@Hambonehoven
I have to admit I have no idea what you are talking about and must assume you didn’t watch the video. Please Stop commenting until you do.
Secondly, there are many differences between adults and children. So many differences that this venue is insufficient to list them all. Your question is nonsensical.
Once you have actually watched the video all the way through, and if at that point you have a coherent question, I’d be happy to reply.
Is this in any way related to The Pearls' book "To Train Up A Child"?
aka do you advocate for using a switch as they suggest with blanket training in the book?
Kezia Bates
Thank you for your question.
No, this is not related to the Pearls and I do not advocate using a switch. Did you watch the video? It was very specific with step by step instruction.
@@MommyAnswerLady you might want to change the title
@@maggiedunn9826
Why do you think so?
You might want to change your title to “gentile” or “humane” blanket training. There is a form of child abuse called “blanket training,” where you try to entice your child to come off the blanket and, when they do come off the blanket, you hit them for it. It’s designed to make them associate leaving the blanket with physical pain and fear. People are all up in arms about this, as they should be.
@@arinzykes5715
Can you direct me to a video about that? I have seen a couple other instructional videos and none suggest enticing a child to disobey.
I do this with my dog 😱😱
Sometimes things that work with children will also work with pets. That’s ok. Nothing wrong with that.
@@LisaKoffler 🙄
I still think this abuse
But if it worked for you
That’s fine
It’s not abuse. Ridiculous.
Thank you for this video, is this for all ages? My son 2 yrs is this to late?
Not too late at all! Go for it!
this is child abuse and absolutely insane
@@TheSchreckse I guess you didn’t watch the video. I suggest you do that before commenting. 👍🏻
You're insane
Great argument. Well thought out. Real deep perspective. Your intelligence amazes me. Thanks for the comment.
Can you go teach Katie Joy (WOACB,) your methods and it’s not always an abusive situation with blanket training.
I’m a little confused about your comment. Who is Katie Joy?
Abuse is not always physical.
@@HappeningsatLamgoFarmsTrue. Moms screaming at their kids and spanking them when they run into traffic is WAY more abusive than teaching a child to respect boundaries.
@@Apocryphon1 I'm concerned that you think these are the only two options available. I hope you don't have children.
I really have appreciated this! It has been so helpful! She has been so happy doing blanket time and we cheer and clap when all done! Loves it ❤
I’m so happy you’ve discovered the benefits, and so has she. Awesome!
Hi! I just read about blanket training in another book. I googled it and came across your video. My question is, my baby is already 13 months old and I haven’t done any blanket training with him yet. He’s not quite walking, but he’s been crawling everywhere for months now. In your opinion, is it futile for me to even try to start blanket training him now? Seems to me like this is something you really have to start with right away when they start crawling for it to be effective. What are your thoughts? I wish I had heard about this training months ago. Thank
You.
You can start anytime. Teaching a child to stay in boundaries can happen anytime because they can learn anytime. Get started! 😊
I watched this and the video on CTM. I am wondering which you would recommend to train them with first. I have twins that are 14 months old.
They can both be done. Be gentle and start with the blanket training every day. CTM is used as needed. Hope this helps! 😊
your kids aren't animals, they don't need to be trained.
@@bbykatiekat that argument is so old. There’s nothing wrong with the word “training”,
Potty training
Military training
On the job training
Vocal training
Olympic training
Sports training
Etc etc etc.
Children need behavior training.
Okay, we've been doing this for a while now and are up to 7 minutes. But toward the end, they are both trying to get my attention by sticking their feet or hands off the blanket. I only repeat what you said, "Stay on the blanket. Don't get off the blanket" with appropriate tones and moving their hand. But they are developing this game to get my attention and get me to say it. I just rewatched and cannot find if I am supposed to restart the clock when they get off or not. Should I start over with one or two minutes, restarting after each time someone tests the boundary?
@@kristinav2526
How old are your children ?
Please my daughter will try to go everytimd I have a runner
The video gives exact instructions on what to do.
How old is your child?
I been trying to do this with my 15 month old son for the past month and every chance he gets he runs. We do it once a day and it ranges for about 20-30 minutes. It seems after all the steps I take, he laughs and continues to purposely step off the blanket. He’ll stay on the blanket if I play with him on it. I’m trying to get him to play by himself. What can I do to get him to stay on the blanket?
Thank you for asking. I'm sorry you are struggling.
The problem is that you have set up an expectation. The expectation is that if he gets off the blanket or doesn't cooperate, you will play with him. Think of it from the perspective of his little mind. How can he get mommy's attention? And, when he does that thing, what is your response?
The consequence you have been giving him when he gets off the blanket is also not strong enough to make him decide to stay there. So, there is both an expectation set up that blanket time is when he does a certain thing, and then Mommy plays with him. AND, if he get off the blanket, the consequence isn't any problem for him at all.
To change this, you need to change the expectation and the consequence. It will be harder than when you first started because a habit is harder to break than setting up a routine.
Is he generally obedient in other areas but just not this one?
@@MommyAnswerLady that’s helpful. I forgot to mention he’s a strong willed child so he’s usually always testing his boundaries.
I’ve been flicking him and it seems to hurt but he continues to step off the blanket
@@brittanyhannaberry3524
I see. I figured there may be some will going on here! Lol
Playing with him on the blanket was not part of the plan and has likely confused him about what blanket time is for.
If it were me, I would be stronger and more consistent until he understands you mean business. But you probably need to start all over and listen to the instructions again.
Then do EXACTLY as they say. Hope this helps. I wish I could be there to help you! 😊💕
@@MommyAnswerLady thanks I appreciate your help. I’ll keep you posted how it goes :)
Because he is a 15 month old child. You shouldn't be a pstent.
We used playpens! If they cry because they are in there to bad!!!!!! They will adjust
Not sure you grasped the point of this video.
@@MommyAnswerLady I guess not
Very helpful! Only had a few sessions with my 8.5 month old (not yet old enough for CTM/ not pulling himself to standing) and he understands what I want and stays on the blanket. But he cries the whole time. I've been practicing doing the low eyebrows and low tone 'no' when he gets mad like this. Which upsets him more. How would you recommend I make this more enjoyable for him so he doesn't think blanket time is a sad time?
I wouldn’t do the “no” for if he is crying on the blanket. That’s just putting a negative tone on the whole thing.
The “no” is only if he gets off the blanket.
If things have been set up negatively, you’ll need to restart training in a positive way with a happy atmosphere.
Do a few sessions with you and him playing together or reading in the blanket. The goal is for him to see it as a nice time.
After a few sessions like that, start play and then slowly back away after he gets interested in something. Then ease into blanket time by himself.
He should be ready to pull himself up soon, so watch for that.
The pulling up is really just a measure for me to et parents have a clear picture of when CTM is ok. It doesn’t mean it can’t be done earlier. It just depends on the parent and the child.
By pulling up time, any parent or child could be ready though.
You too
Let me be 1000000% clear. You are abusing babies. You are sick. I really hope you end up in prison.
Please don’t blanket train, this is a form of abuse for a little baby. Babies are meant to explore, that’s how they learn. Kids are meant to be full or energy and explore their world. Please allow your baby to be a baby. They will be a happier, smarter child in the future. They will also have a much better emotional connection with you.
@@rosegirl9874 It's not abusive the way I do it at all! Sometimes I need 20 minutes to do something where I can't be making sure he's not falling down the stairs. And trust me, every other minute of the day he has freedom to explore the house!
A child that age doesn’t understand boundaries, they need emotional response from parents and contact with them.
You’re torturing your son.