You really need to interview other people besides just dirtbags or criminals dude. There are many good reasons to not trust a dirtbag like Steve. Just because he seems honest and genuine by admitting he had multiple affairs doesn’t mean he is being completely truthful and unbiased. I guess interviewing well-adjusted people who don’t do human trafficking just doesn’t bring in the views apparently right?
I been living in Thailand for 26 years every single person goes through a different experience, I been married to a Thai lady for over 17 years and can tell you best person I could have found.some of this guys come here with different set of expectations.we do not leave in a perfect world.
great thing about youtube is these longform interviews w/ people who aren't famous, that you'd never see on network TV but still have just as valuable stories to tell. Will buy the kindle version.
Love how honest he was in the interview. Atleast if were lucky we all had experienced the one. But as a Christian who studied Buddhism, I learned the art of detachament and letting go. And changed my perspective to enjoying the journey and living in a state of gratefulness...and understand true suffering is holding on to the idea of permanence . That has helped me not to hold on to things that were not meant for me. I hope Steve finds his peace.
When you are young, is very hard to let go of an even younger, cute, girl who gave you the best sexual thrills you could imagine. I feel like I really began to deal well with this at around 30 years old. Finally, around 45, I met a woman closer to my age in Japan . She suffered in the corporate meat grinder in Japan. She said the best words I ever heard from a woman : 'we can survive this world better together'. After 27 yrs., we are still together both healthy and financially well off. Wasn't a perfect relationship, but we survived, as she had foretold over coffee in Japan.
I first visited Thailand in 1978 and ran into a Vietnam War vet/expat lamenting how terrible Thailand was compared to the glory days of the 60's. Yeah yeah, I said. Then I got married to a Thai, had a couple of kids in America, divorced, and came back in 1991 for a visit whereupon I found myself (you guessed it) bemoaning the lost glory days of the late 70's. Which didn't make either of us wrong.
My mate married a Philippines girl he brought her to Australia, she cleaned out his bank account sold everything in his house while he was away for 2 days working, all pre planned, she was the best actress 26 you could ever meet, he was 52
This interview reaffirms my belief that a good life is a life lived where I try to become a better person: more compassionate, wise, and kind. Steve seems to be looking outside rather than inside. I think things might have gone poorly regardless if he'd stayed in Thailand or not. I wish we lived longer so we had more time to figure things out.
Understand what your trying to say. Equally sometimes even the most self reflective of us are dealt pretty miserable hands. I just wish my own life had not been blessed with so many unsavory characters starting at the core of all of us. Our family experiences and circumstances.
Steve is the architect of his own diester, I am guessing he is also really bad with money, commitments, following through, he is where he is because of HIS choices, Steve needs to look inside himself, not from outside, nobody to blame except STEVE!!!!
What is mesmerizing, riveting, and draws you to Steve's life story is his agonizing honesty and "let the chips fall as they may" delivery. Without a doubt, Steve's story resonates with many westerners in this world. Thanks for the video! 🙏🙏 Cheers from Alaska
the older a man gets the more likely any relationship with a woman will be transactional especially if she is noticeably younger. The sooner we can learn that and plan accordingly the more likely we will be ready when the relationship exists. Love only exists on occasion for high school or college sweethearts who get married when young. They will probably still get divorced.
people sometime are so naive and ignorant to think that u can have a 20-30yrs gap and expect love. I mean it could happen if you catch the right one but it's like finding a unicorn with those odds. He should have stuck with sugarbabies probably cost less for the long run with much more pleasant experiences
Henrik, the Price Consort, was the father of Frederick, the Crown Prince. The father was a keen sailor and in the '90s used do come to Thailand for the King"s Cup Regatta, a week's sailing and partying event raced around the old King's Birthday on 5 Dec. I used to be in the Committee and handling some sponsorships. If I remember well, it was Steve Rosse who, after a wild beach party at Friendship Beach wrote: " probably the best party on Phuket since the 2 Heroines liberated Phuket from the Burmese! " One of the best compliments I ever got!
He is the kind of dude I just love to run into in my travels, and buy him coffee, or beer, or whatever he wants to hear him talk. He's LIVED it. Great interview.
What a great story teller. Love Steve’s honesty what a legend.. there’s plenty of us out there wish we had the balls to be so honest. great interview Pete.
You definitely will get over 5K of subscribers with interviews like that. Amazing interview Pete. I’ve been in Thailand over 26 years I’ve met the most incredible characters just like Steve who also have amazing stories.The characters individuals good or bad. The problem with Steve as he is one of those Americans who is brutally honest with people on a day-to-day basis. It’s actually not a problem but it is to people who can’t accept the truth. I myself have an amazing story like Steve but I’m far too young to write the book yet. You can’t be honest here in Thailand it gets you too many enemies as Steve found out. Great interview I’ve just subscribed keep up the good work.
Amazing story and the man is not shy of telling how he felt and how he made bad choice. Great to hear a real story. I live in Thailand so I understand much of what happened. Thailand is not the same but after 14 years here I still can find a way to enjoy the country. If I go visit my own country Canada, it is not the country I left anymore.
Canada has changed more than Thailand and believe me thailand has changed a lot jai yen and mai bpen rai has been replaced by cell phones. Spent late 80s to mid 90s living in Chiang Mai. And the next 11 or 12 years visiting the winter months in mostly Thailand and Philippines
Canada has changed more than Thailand? Not even close. If your specific about the cities, they’re on par with each other. In regards to nature, Canada is a massive country with an insane amount of outdoors you still can explore with barely a soul around. Love Thailand but, try that there lol Cheers
That was riveting. It's so inspirational to see a RUclipsr working his socks off to grow his channel. Each interview more engrossing than the next...this guy deserves to hit 50G subscribers....
Only just discovered your channel and I’m hooked! Such fascinating interviews and your delivery style is great, you allow people to talk without interjecting. You’ve a new subscriber!
He reminds me of a Dylan lyric. “I wish that I’d a been a doctor. Maybe I’d a saved some life that’s been lost, Maybe I’d a done some good in this world, Instead of burning every bridge I crossed.”
I can definitely relate to this. Retired US Military, decided to marry my Thai girlfriend, brought her to the US. Had a few great years, then it all went bad. Luckily for me, I’ve survived it all, learned a lot, still have my wealth and health, mid 50’s now, and will retire in Thailand soon. The reason I got out with my wealth intact was because I refused to have kids. But I will never, ever get married again. I do plan on having a Thai girlfriend again, I mean how can you not? They are just so beautiful. But I now fully understand the transactional nature of what I will be getting into. There is no such thing as love, it’s only about what we can do for each other.
@@steverosse Thanks for the reply. I’m just being a realist at this point. But I get your implied meaning here, that you never know what the future holds and that future relationships might exceed expectations. Here’s to hoping that will be true.
@steveross agreed 100%. Love is an illusion guys fall for, a construct created by women to manipulate men, and it's highly effective. If you lose money, they lose 'love' asap. Funny how that works.
Excellent interview Pete. It's good to see the interviewer asking the pertinent questions without having an overriding ego. For someone like me who has visited Thailand many times and dreams of one day living part of my life there I'm always fascinated by those who have done just that. I appreciate Steve's honesty which gives us an insight into his life and emotions. Not too many talk openly and honestly about failures. I get the feeling that Steve will be enhancing his retirement income with online content and books once he returns to his "soul land". I've always enjoyed his insightful essays and writings.
Great interview from both sides. There's so much going on here that can be analyzed but my abbreviated observation is crystal clear...the marriage was a terrible decision. That one decision had devastating effects. Impossible for a do-over. Steve's marriage reminds me of the opposite of the Rockwell painting called American Gothic. Those two are going to last forever. Steve's story seems all too common. I truly hope Steve can find some peace, happiness, and a good mate. Steve's journey has definitely made its mark on me. It's a crap shoot. Be careful at all times. Never rush. The young girl was a mirage. It wasn't ever real. Let it go. Anyone going to Thailand looking for true love or a wife is basically gambling. Nature likes balance. All relationships have to have balance. Pay attention to the scale. Who is always doing the heavy lifting? My gut says most Americans/Thai relationships are not ever balanced. This will cause the problems Steve is going thru. Young Thai women are danger to older men who are lonely. They spin the web and the man gets trapped. Especially the bar type women. Thx for the brutally painful honesty and best of luck to you.
Best of luck to you, too, Brian. As an aside, I'm from Iowa City, and I took a couple of Art classes in the studio Grant Wood was using when he painted American Gothic. You know that the model for the woman in that painting was his sister, and the model for the man was the local postmaster, right? They were not even in the same room when they posed. But I get your point. Thanks again for taking the time to comment. Why don't you subscribe to my channel? ruclips.net/channel/UCszZHYnE4-KwheMxAi-G8Vg
I am almost 100% sure that Steve was a regular contributor to Thailand Stories and Stickman Bangkok. A good essayist and from memory he had a running battle with a couple of other writers which made for good entertainment.
You just earned my subscription brother. That was a riveting interview, I should rather say “study” …without doing any pseudo-psychoanalysis you got the guy to totally open up, and give one of the most honest narratives on marital failure and expat disillusionment. His story is that of so many men… he made what seemed like a perfectly intelligent choice to marry her, she went cold on him, and he and ends up becoming the lonely “villain”. I really liked your question about false hope in regaining a lost world…was thinking exactly that as you asked it. It is not only that social environments change, but the man himself is now 64 not 36. As a 60 year old Thai/Japan expat (who also brought the lovely Asian wife back to USA only to discover misery between us) … I felt so sad for this fellow…the world, and you, have changed, the past is over, and you absolutely must rebuild your life view to match the current truth. He seems to know this (obviously bright guy) but is just choosing to stay stuck on his best “5 months and 10 days” peak experience. While seems crazy I still felt some compassion for the guy…anyway this was a deeply moving interview, you’re doing good work here Pete.
Love Steve Rosse , His Honesty and no Bull-,S No Excuses and no Apologies for Living and Loving his Life alone , with many many Friends and True to Himself ,🤗💙😊
This was superb and so very honest and interesting ! Great questions and appreciated how you let Steve finish the stories without interruption. Cheers🙏
Great interview and a compelling story. I am surprised by the many negative comments. Steve tells us an exciting story, he is self-critical and appears to recognize his flaws. No doubt he made several unwise decisions. He paid for them, and he still has his dreams. And he explains that there is no Plan B. He's fully committed.
Thanks for your kind words, Christopher. I'm beginning my second day in Thailand and you've given me encouragement. I much appreciate it. Please follow my channel to see what happens.
Very interesting to listen to your story. I’m interested in reading your book. May I ask which publisher published your memoir? I’ve written a memoir and I’m looking for a reputable publisher. Thank you for sharing your experience
My first two books were published by a legacy publisher, the old-fashioned way. But I cannot even name such a publisher in Thailand now. My last three books were published by myself on Amazon.
What a fantastic interview. Guys like Steve are the ones I want to hang out with. None of us have had a perfect life and his ability to admit mistakes, laugh at mistakes and keep smiling make Steve a man among men. Thanks for the interview and sharing this video with all of us.
I came to Thailand in 2006 for the 1st time, and I returned to live here in 2020. Thailand in the 2020s is not at all like it was roughly 15 years ago. I doubt Steve will find Thailand of the 1990s. The old Thailand is truly Gone with the Wind.
Recently returned to Thailand after more than 40 years lol There are still plenty of places to check out (don’t spend all your time in the touristy areas) Cheers
This man has all the ingredients to be successful. I think he is or was his own worst enemy. Hopefully in his golden years he can turn it around and have the best years of his life. Very entertaining interview.
Fascinating interview, I love to hear the stories of peoples lives, especially when they are as descriptive and accurate as Steve's are. We all have our story, both the was, and the will be. I hope Steve's future story will include happiness and fulfilment.
Very entertaining interview! I was watching PFTB that leads me to this video. So Steve, just curious... whose false was it - the Thai, the Danes or the French.
It’s good to put a face to all the stories he wrote for the Stickman website. It’s great that he sought therapy for his issues, however, the therapist would have really earned his money.
Love how expat men view their kids as being from their home country instead of understanding your kids are MIXED and your wife is already "home". So many problems with expat local marriages! I have only seen a handful of good, lasting mixed marriages. One was so sweet. Older Thai lady and older expat man. They were truly in love and so happy. They didn't have children together due to their age. Another was a very young couple. Not too many others but a lot of people in extreme suffering from mixed relationships on both sides.
My ex-wife and I raised our kids in Iowa, like I say multiple times in the interview. My kids speak no Thai. They know nothing at all about Thailand, and have no interest in learning anything about it. My ex-wife has not even visited Thailand in 22 years. What interview did you listen to?
OMG! 50K views! Congrats Pete! 👍 👍 👍 I'd say that this milestone will be tough to beat but I wouldn't bet against you !!! 😮 😮 😮 I'm looking forward to see what comes next !!! 🤩 🤩 🤩
all I can say is , Steve ... do it .. LIVE YOUR DREAM ... you will feel so much better in mind and soul , I wish you well and hope you reach your goals
Phuket in the 1990's and Phuket in 2020 are two different worlds that will never go back to the old days. I am Thai now and have been here 5 years. In that short time I have sen this country sink into a cesspool. My visa expires in May and I will be gone. I am hoping travel will be OK Covid wise.He is absolutely correct on the need for love in a relationship.
Interesting interview, alot to learn from him . Funny how life goes , I've made some of those decisions too. Hanging on to a fantasy of others way longer than they did to me. Hope Steve finds joy in his new life , maybe get even more of the fun Steve back that his old boss talked about lol.
There is a brutal honesty that comes from a man that has asked himself "What do you actually want?" and has tried to answer. I don't agree with everyone you interview but I respect that they are all searching, trying and have the courage to commit to their convictions. They might not all 'win' but I believe they will get closer than most.
This man has a great story to tell...the subject is not "how to win" which is so often boring and predictable, but an intense and creative life full of mistakes and victories. I'll cast my vote for him over those so ready to brag about their "wins" in life...
Really appreciate that honesty. Thailand is not only the good sides, everyone who spent more than a few weeks on vacation there knows that. Really like your channel and the interesting topic you pick! Would like to meet you the next time I´m in Bangkok. Already saw you once at T21 but was knocked out from having a cold and not able to stay hi haha :D
Great interview. I especially love the bit about the young girlfriend he hasn’t been able to get over. Thai 18 and going to high school. Brought her a school uniform. Hell thats going to be hard to get over. 😂
Addicted since found this channel,im irish 47 living in Belgium now 10 years having lived and worked in Switzerland 14 years, London and America and Australia not to mention my travels fluent in french and italien thanks to my mother repeating tge katin bible in my head😂 helped honest lol then met my husband had to stay in Belgium wasn't end travel choice but work is good and my child born here. I'm getting the itch again this why, love your story your wife's accent is adorable lil irish accent🎉 keep it up,you asked lots if questions here don't be so irush apologetic for it lol I still do that keep up good work loving it💚💫💫💫
Great interview and definitely an interesting character, like others said: Really appreciate that honesty. I really enjoy those interviews, hope you can do more of them.
Excellent interview and great camera work. I used to share a forum for writers in Thailand where Steve was a frequent contributor. It was many, many years ago and Steve and I exchanged lots emails at the time. We had a fair bit in common and seeing this interview added more to our similarities. In one of those emails he called me his shrink and wanted to know if a bill was coming his way for my services. But I can't charge without a licence and in any case I wouldn't charge a friend. My first trip to Thailand was in 1978 which predated him by a long shot. But I am a fossil compared to him. I'm living in Thailand again and just got married. I need a ghostwriter, where are you Steve?
When you are young, is very hard to let go of an even younger, cute, girl who gave you the best sexual thrills you could imagine.That happened to me too many times. Cute young girls know their power. I feel like I really began to deal well with this at around 30 years old. Finally, around 45, I met a woman closer to my age in Japan . She had suffered in the corporate meat grinder in Japan. Over a coffee, she said the best words I ever heard from a woman : 'we can survive this world better together'. After 27 yrs., we are still together both healthy and financially well off. Wasn't a perfect relationship, but we survived, and we always were there for each other, as she had foretold over coffee in Japan so many years ago.
"guest," not "guess." But thanks for your kind comments. And Pete has interviewed me twice since this one. Do you really think his audience can stand a fourth interview with Steve Rosse?
Love this guy A great honest guy and extremely smart Really great story teller And so cool I admire him alot You should keep in touch and get him To work with you Brilliant guy
I used to visit Thailand to buy stuff for my shop in the 1990’s.Lovely country and people.I loved northern Phuket but in 2004 they developed the jungle area behind the beach and I felt so sad and never went back.I remember seeing the first Macdonalds in Phuket town and seeing some of the Thais become chubby!
I remember seeing that first McDonald's in Phuket Town, and thinking, "Who the hell do they think is going to by that drek in Thailand?" They proved us both wrong, Berti. Hey, while I have your attention, why don't you subscribe to my channel? ruclips.net/channel/UCszZHYnE4-KwheMxAi-G8Vg
Thanks Pete for this informative video. A very long and complicated life experience for Steve, which he thankfully describes in a very open and entertaining manner. I think that many "male farangs" have paid a lot of "hardship" in the form of cash or emotional fluctuations in connection with Thailand as well. Of course I could also report on some confusing incidents, but not nearly as impressive as it was shown here in the case of Steve Rosse. Nice that Nune has recovered from her accident and thank you again for the video - Greetings from Sattahip - Gerd 🌈🍀💖🌴🌈
Glad you enjoyed it Gerd, Steve certainly had some interesting stories. We all have a story of why we came here and our life experiences in Thailand. I suppose some are more exciting or depressing than others. I do love hearing a good story
Pete, love your channel. Great stuff. You are a great interviewer and I respect your honesty and humility. I am hooked. This guest is gold, he's an open book and its interesting from my perspective. I am not Irish and I don't live in Thailand, but its great stuff. Well, truth be told, I am American of Irish descent and I resettled in Indonesia 22 years ago, happily married and four kids. I took that leap, like you, but at the age of 34 in a dead-end job. Best thing I ever did. Hope to meet you for a beer one day at the pub on the son's rugby tour to Bkk.
Steve is one of those guys that I could listen endlessly to his stories over a beer. Yes- Steve needs to get the hell out of the USA. That country has also changed ( for the worse: political tribalism, corporate greed over caring for others, expanding gun culture, expensive healthcare-and a culture that has little respect for anyone over 50 years old.) Thailand will be a breath of fresh air - ( but stay away from those grumpy old farangs that want to constantly complain).
Yes also agree about those grumpy old falangs. I came across one yesterday in the shopping centre. Chose to start an argument with me then followed up with an argument with his woman. I had to hold my tongue and not tell him to enjoy his trip to Thailand then he should f*k off back to his own country! No wonder the Thai govt is trying to get a different type of visitor here
Haven’t we all heard the story countless times? Doesn’t leave a sickening feeling in your stomach? Getting involved in drugs and alcohol and younger women, what could possibly go wrong?
You pointed very grim picture ove usa.. considered Thai women lives there with disability all expenses taken care of and she is not even US citizen... I love when some Americans complain about America,, it reminds me of privileged kids complaining about their parents.
Congrats on getting married, yours looks like a good match & I'm sure you'll both work to make it a success. 😊 I was in Thailand during 1st Gulf War(91), Phuket, Bangkok, Chiang-Mai, Mae Hong Son, Pattaya, & more & I remember everything operating as normal, i.e. Hotels, bars, restaurants(Thailand as usual neutral). What I do remember is the oil clouds over Chiang-Mai & watching the war on the TV in a shop on what is now Walking street Phuket. 👀
@@ThairishTimes Since 80's was very much a Buddhist cultured country very prominent with values very honest & at a slow pace of outstanding primitive beauty everywhere travelled, sadly yep it's been devoured by commercialism & its values which people originally went to Thailand to escape.
Great Interview, I remember Steve from Phuket in the early 90's, his articles for many of the newspapers and magazines at that time were great reading. He also used to write a column for Stickman in the Bangkok Post each Saturday. I recommend reading his earlier books as well.
@@Roberto-xc5xy I wrote a column for The Nation that ran every Sunday. Bernard Trink's column ran in the Post on Fridays. Stick launched his blog in 1998.
Pete it's Ian here from Dublin I just want to let you know that's one of the best ever interview you ever done very good pat on the back to you for that your natural at that looking forward to seeing more thanks Ian🤗
Another great interview Pete. You're onto a winner with your style, research and interesting characters to interview. Real life is fascinating and hearing about other's experiences so revealing. You just blasted past 5k subs. Will be 10k soon if you keep this going.
Great interview. Gotta love Steve's candor and honesty about his own mistakes. Steve obviously had some psychological damage, and by that I just mean that like many of us he was damaged in some way growing up, and that can lead to self destructive or self sabotaging behaviour. I can relate. Great to see that he's been to therapy and obviously gained some insight into those sabotaging behaviours. Bodes well for his chances of finding a happy life in Thailand again. I wish him the best of luck! Also, what he said about Phuket is SO true. It's a dump. Samui is going the same way. Steve if you read this - go check out Koh Lipe and Koh Phayam. Both (but Phayam especially) are still very much like the way Thailand used to be (before the main islands went to sh1t).
@@ThairishTimes A mate of mine went to Samui in 1982. It was difficult to get to and there was only a smattering of bungalows among the palm trees on Chaweng Beach. I went in the 90s and it was still pretty amazing but obviously a bit more development. Same in 2010. Was there last August after doing Phuket Sandbox and although it was novel having the place to ourselves almost with no other tourists, it's all so over-developed and ruined. All those white pool villas on the hills are terrible. Plenty of vloggers rave about Samui and Phuket. It's not their fault - they were just born a bit too late and pretty much all the adventure and secret places are now gone in the world. They don't know what they don't know, which is what it WAS like. There *are* a few spot in Thailand where you can find an island or beach that is worthy of the being called Secret Thailand, or Paradise, but you won't find them anywhere near where there is an airport or hotel chains.
@@stangoodvibes have you ever been to Koh Chang? Comparing it to Samui I much prefer Koh Chang. Both islands are similar sizes but Koh Chang is nowhere near as developed and still has that magical feeling of being on a tropical island. The expats on the island are much different to Samui too. The "changers" are a laid back bunch who all know each other and help each other out. Samui has a much wealthier long-term expat from what I've seen anyway. I've interviewed someone who owns one of those white villas. Video coming soon
@@ThairishTimes yeah man, I've been to ALL the islands, including BOTH Koh Changs (yes there is another one, but it's a bit of a secret so...shhhh 😅). I really liked the Chang down in Trat. Agreed it's got a great vibe. And mostly low key development. My two favourite islands are mentioned in my comment above. When I move back to Thailand permanently next year, I can't imagine every visiting Samui or Phuket ever again. There are just better islands.
Interesting interview with some important takeaways. Marrying someone you don't really love and vice versa is a marriage doomed to fail at some point. Coupled with that, Steve's happiest memory was his affair with a teenager that he reminisces about to this day and hoped it would last how long? Sorry Steve, she was only ever going to be yours until a better opportunity arrived on the scene, long past time to come to this realization. What deserved more emphasis was taking the Thai wife to the USA and its impact on their relationship, such as it was. So many, with sad breakup stories, who have done this strongly advise against taking the foreign wife away from their culture and family to transplant into western cultures. This seems to be a reliable recipe for marital failure where you're subject to lose half or more of your assets. Another important point, unless you have ample financial security in the form of a passive income stream and/or sizable savings then living in a foreign country like Thailand even if being frugal, you will eventually be forced to move back to your home country for financial reasons.
@@kelcat34 Thanks for stating the obvious. At least if you love your partner and vice versa there's a greater probability the marriage will stand the test of time. But then marriage today is generally a bad deal for men anyway and best avoided.
@Linda Lowther It's you who is confused about the point being made. My point was that taking an Asian woman away from her culture, family and life long friends is a bad idea in general. Their marriage was clearly on shaky ground from the start and while failure seems inevitable it was moving to the U.S. the brought about their ultimate demise. As for feminism, modern feminism and gynocentric divorce laws have had a massive negative impact on marriage and the nuclear family. Men are becoming wiser with marriage on the decline as they recognize what a rotten deal it is in general and how easily divorce law is exploited to ruin a man's life. Foreign women can use such laws to maximum financial benefit and frequently do. A "career woman" makes nowhere near the money in Thailand that she can in say the U.S. Marriage and divorce rewarded her far more than her "career" ever would have in Thailand, a fact you conveniently ignore. Steve's experience should be a cautionary tale to any man contemplating doing the same as he did.
When he said "the best 6 years of my life" I paused the video, went back and listened again. I always value someone's shared happiest moments in life. In his case a lady 18 years old and him being 38,( if I got that right around 20 years younger, ) was for him the best time of his life. I am guessing this is likely what would make ME the happiest ever and what I should look for: a much younger lady 29 years old or so (I am 49). I will try exactly that.
I said my time with the eighteen-year-old lady was the best five months and ten days of my life. I said my seven years on Phuket were the best years of my life. I don't know where you're coming up with six years, even after going back and listening again. But at any rate I was 33 and she was 18. Not 38. Are you absolutely sure it was this interview you listened to?
@@steverosseMy bad! 5 months. I wrote in a hurry. No need to jump on me and get so grumpy. On video u come across as a nice person, now u act like a little bit**. Relax and get a life. I can smell your unhappiness from here.
@@steverosse wrong about what? Not in the mood for a keyboard battle. You missed my point.(Beside, based on last interview you don't have a companion, so I doubt you are -or think you are - as happy as you say).
@@rgasta7765 Sorry, thought I was replying to a different comment. My bad. But I don't need a "companion" to be happy. I was unhappy for twenty-five years so I know what that feels like. What I feel on Turtle Beach is happiness. Come visit. I've always got good coffee in the house.
What an interview, and what an interesting man. I could have watched a 2-hour version of this. I wish him the best and hope he finds that slice of happiness he lost.
Moral of the story is.. don't do tens of thousands of dollars of Coke a year and expect not to end up with psychological problems. I can imagine this man as being controlling, selfish and a very difficult person to have a relationship with. His story about being in his 30's and trying to curate the life of an 18 year old thai girl in order to facilitate his own happiness was a bit of a strange one and gave off quite a narcissistic vibe. He reminds me of someone I know who was in his late 40's who married a 23 year old girl from a northern village (through an agency) who barely spoke any English, he didn't speak Thai at all and yet he was convinced they were in love after 2 meetings because ultimately he was shallow and only interested in his own needs. It's pretty sad really. I hope this guy makes some better decisions and finds a bit of peace.
@@steverosse A restrained response to such criticism from a complete stranger. The assumption being that the critic always considers themselves perfect, which is certainly not true in my case. Like they say.. "it takes one to know one".. or in knowing one you learn to recognise others at least. I hope your experience in therapy opened your eyes to the positive impact we can all have on others lives if we step away from our own ego and self interests and give to others with no expectation of reciprocation or even the need for it. It can lead us all to unexpected places. All the best with the book.
Having worked in the media in Phuket I had heard a lot about him, so it was interesting to hear it straight from the horse's mouth, so to speak. Excellent video and I have subscribed.
Iowa City? I did not know any Iowan who likes to live in Thailand, interesting though. I’m Thai and have lived in West Des Moines, Iowa for most of my life since I came to Iowa in 1982. Your story leaves me speechless. I’m not sure what to think. Most Thai women live in Iowa that I know they have a very successful marriage with Farang. Some have a very big age gap (10-15 years) between their husbands. My husband is a white Iowan guy who knew nothing about Asian culture and foods, but he loves Thailand (probably more than me hahaha). Btw, he didn’t pick me up from Thailand. We met at work in Des Moines. I came to the USA when I was 17 and went to university here in Iowa. I have a house in Chaing Rai. If you are interested to visit Chaing Rai, you are welcome there. Let me know by putting your comment here.
Steve come across as very transparent and you can't help but feeling sorry for the guy. Hope he finds some contentment going forward. Your interviewing was surprising good too! Asked good questions and allowed your guest the time to answer without interruption. Maybe a good format for future videos :)
Thanks Kev, Steve was super honest and didn’t hold back. Glad you like this style. This is usually how I do the interviews, nothing worse than someone interrupting all the time
I totally relate to Steve with respect to not being able to get over breakups. For guys, a breakup can be devastating. For women, it usually is no big disaster, because women can get 10 guys within the blink of an eye in every cafe. (except for in Thailand or eastern block countries) I also have been hurt so many times by a GF leaving me, and no matter how much people say that I should get over it, it is how I am wired, I hang on to things. Wow, Steve, you took the words out of my mouth.
Maybe indeed Steve should try Cambodia, Philippines, or Indonesia - these countries have many nice people. I love Thailand, but seems like a large portion of the population has been playing the Farang game too long and what they can get out of the guy. Thailand certainly has lost its luster from the 80's and 90's - I loved Phuket in the late 80's.
I'd say he's never going to forget his negative experiences, because if he did, he'd doom himself to repeat them. Not only this, but His story is one worth sharing with others so people can learn from his experience. You never forget when people wrong you, because otherwise you're naieve. You would only trust people because you're brave and have some smarts about you after being burned a few times in your life (various ways). Forgiveness is God's job only.
@@DoubtingThomas333 yet he did repeat his negative experiences, lol! Does God not say, if you don't forgive I won't forgive you? DoubtingThomas is that not God saying forgiveness is our job too... Made in his image and all that.
@@DoubtingThomas333 yet he did repeat his negative experiences, lol! Does God not say, if you don't forgive I won't forgive you? DoubtingThomas is that not God saying forgiveness is our job too... Made in his image and all that. And surely forgetting is not relevant to forgiving
@@KJ-lb4tj I can't factor for his mental problems. Could have a personality disorder. Could be on the spectrum. Anything is possible. Maybe he has a thing for malevolent women.
His early days in phuket are spot on I was there in 1988 in Patong and it was great. Left to live in Bangkok and now in Hua Hin and it is still has nice Thai people.
Like the interview? If you did you’ll like this one. It’s the story of an American’s life in Bangkok. ruclips.net/video/c88W91iiR8Q/видео.html
You really need to interview other people besides just dirtbags or criminals dude.
There are many good reasons to not trust a dirtbag like Steve. Just because he seems honest and genuine by admitting he had multiple affairs doesn’t mean he is being completely truthful and unbiased.
I guess interviewing well-adjusted people who don’t do human trafficking just doesn’t bring in the views apparently right?
I been living in Thailand for 26 years every single person goes through a different experience, I been married to a Thai lady for over 17 years and can tell you best person I could have found.some of this guys come here with different set of expectations.we do not leave in a perfect world.
Maybe because you give her everything 🤣
Ditto!
I’m currently binge watching Steve Rosse’s channel, fascinating guy!
great thing about youtube is these longform interviews w/ people who aren't famous, that you'd never see on network TV but still have just as valuable stories to tell. Will buy the kindle version.
Love how honest he was in the interview. Atleast if were lucky we all had experienced the one. But as a Christian who studied Buddhism, I learned the art of detachament and letting go. And changed my perspective to enjoying the journey and living in a state of gratefulness...and understand true suffering is holding on to the idea of permanence . That has helped me not to hold on to things that were not meant for me. I hope Steve finds his peace.
Whatva great comment. I wish I know the art or detachment.
Smart
@@rgasta7765 Just let go.
When you are young, is very hard to let go of an even younger, cute, girl who gave you the best sexual thrills you could imagine. I feel like I really began to deal well with this at around 30 years old. Finally, around 45, I met a woman closer to my age in Japan . She suffered in the corporate meat grinder in Japan. She said the best words I ever heard from a woman : 'we can survive this world better together'. After 27 yrs., we are still together both healthy and financially well off. Wasn't a perfect relationship, but we survived, as she had foretold over coffee in Japan.
Beautiful story...thank u for sharing . And beautiful words lets survive this together
I first visited Thailand in 1978 and ran into a Vietnam War vet/expat lamenting how terrible Thailand was compared to the glory days of the 60's. Yeah yeah, I said. Then I got married to a Thai, had a couple of kids in America, divorced, and came back in 1991 for a visit whereupon I found myself (you guessed it) bemoaning the lost glory days of the late 70's. Which didn't make either of us wrong.
and I imagine I'll be doing the same in a few years too
@@ThairishTimes I imagine you'll end up back in Ireland and I think you'll be happy. That's my prediction.
@@castorchua only he probably won’t be happy with shit weather, and expense.
@@jaywalkercrew4446 You miss cold weather when you're older and the expense is all relative when you get richer
😆 I say the exact same thing about my "early days" in Thailand (2004) compared to today.
My mate married a Philippines girl he brought her to Australia, she cleaned out his bank account sold everything in his house while he was away for 2 days working, all pre planned, she was the best actress 26 you could ever meet, he was 52
Sheeesh sounds like there could be a book written about that!
@@ThairishTimes or maybe just a short story 🤣
Does a 52 year old really think a 26 year old is after his love 🤣🤣🤣
@@lueyR i can imagine the wish and hope is there😅. Man keeps finding 18 to 24 very attractive.
If he is that naive at 56 .,....
This interview reaffirms my belief that a good life is a life lived where I try to become a better person: more compassionate, wise, and kind. Steve seems to be looking outside rather than inside. I think things might have gone poorly regardless if he'd stayed in Thailand or not. I wish we lived longer so we had more time to figure things out.
We only get a short time on this planet, yeah if we had more time life would be easier for sure
Understand what your trying to say. Equally sometimes even the most self reflective of us are dealt pretty miserable hands. I just wish my own life had not been blessed with so many unsavory characters starting at the core of all of us. Our family experiences and circumstances.
Steve is the architect of his own diester, I am guessing he is also really bad with money, commitments, following through, he is where he is because of HIS choices, Steve needs to look inside himself, not from outside, nobody to blame except STEVE!!!!
Whow what a sicko 😳 this is a lesson on a guy who needs therapy
@@ThairishTimes, true, but there are hordes of people across the ages who realize the truth in the same limited time frame.
Wow what a interview. Steve is brutally honest.. Each person has a story to tell. Wishing him the best.
What is mesmerizing, riveting, and draws you to Steve's life story is his agonizing honesty and "let the chips fall as they may" delivery. Without a doubt, Steve's story resonates with many westerners in this world. Thanks for the video! 🙏🙏 Cheers from Alaska
That's really well said
the older a man gets the more likely any relationship with a woman will be transactional especially if she is noticeably younger. The sooner we can learn that and plan accordingly the more likely we will be ready when the relationship exists. Love only exists on occasion for high school or college sweethearts who get married when young. They will probably still get divorced.
Go back to your mom's basement.
What? Apparently you've never time to develop relationships in your life. I say get out of mom's basement.
That's my story.
people sometime are so naive and ignorant to think that u can have a 20-30yrs gap and expect love. I mean it could happen if you catch the right one but it's like finding a unicorn with those odds. He should have stuck with sugarbabies probably cost less for the long run with much more pleasant experiences
@@tylertang2110 how old are you?
Henrik, the Price Consort, was the father of Frederick, the Crown Prince. The father was a keen sailor and in the '90s used do come to Thailand for the King"s Cup Regatta, a week's sailing and partying event raced around the old King's Birthday on 5 Dec. I used to be in the Committee and handling some sponsorships. If I remember well, it was Steve Rosse who, after a wild beach party at Friendship Beach wrote:
" probably the best party on Phuket since the 2 Heroines liberated Phuket from the Burmese! " One of the best compliments I ever got!
He is the kind of dude I just love to run into in my travels, and buy him coffee, or beer, or whatever he wants to hear him talk. He's LIVED it. Great interview.
yes Steve certainly can talk
@@ThairishTimes well you asked him to talk.
What a great story teller. Love Steve’s honesty what a legend.. there’s plenty of us out there wish we had the balls to be so honest. great interview Pete.
Thanks Dave, yes Steve certainly didn’t hold back. He has some great stories. I could have filmed for an hour
EXCELLENT. The verbal content is superb... top draw. Clever man & brilliant interview.
You definitely will get over 5K of subscribers with interviews like that. Amazing interview Pete. I’ve been in Thailand over 26 years I’ve met the most incredible characters just like Steve who also have amazing stories.The characters individuals good or bad. The problem with Steve as he is one of those Americans who is brutally honest with people on a day-to-day basis. It’s actually not a problem but it is to people who can’t accept the truth. I myself have an amazing story like Steve but I’m far too young to write the book yet. You can’t be honest here in Thailand it gets you too many enemies as Steve found out. Great interview I’ve just subscribed keep up the good work.
Thanks man, yes there are some great stories going around BKK and I do love a good story. I’ve got the next one lined up and it’a gonna be good
You ve been in TH 26 years, did you try any other country , like the Philippines? Id like to compare TH with other places
Israelis, Russians, and even British are typically more "blunt and upfront" than Americans even. But yeah it's still a big clash.
@@rgasta7765 not into the Filipinos so did do a year in South America.
@@TXKorea 100%
Amazing story and the man is not shy of telling how he felt and how he made bad choice. Great to hear a real story. I live in Thailand so I understand much of what happened. Thailand is not the same but after 14 years here I still can find a way to enjoy the country. If I go visit my own country Canada, it is not the country I left anymore.
Canada has changed more than Thailand and believe me thailand has changed a lot jai yen and mai bpen rai has been replaced by cell phones. Spent late 80s to mid 90s living in Chiang Mai. And the next 11 or 12 years visiting the winter months in mostly Thailand and Philippines
God Canada so fucked changed under Adolf Trudeau and his followers
Canada has changed more than Thailand? Not even close. If your specific about the cities, they’re on par with each other. In regards to nature, Canada is a massive country with an insane amount of outdoors you still can explore with barely a soul around. Love Thailand but, try that there lol Cheers
That was riveting. It's so inspirational to see a RUclipsr working his socks off to grow his channel. Each interview more engrossing than the next...this guy deserves to hit 50G subscribers....
Thanks for the inspiring words Niall. I’ve more to come 🙏
Only just discovered your channel and I’m hooked! Such fascinating interviews and your delivery style is great, you allow people to talk without interjecting. You’ve a new subscriber!
Thank you so much, I'm glad you like my technique
He reminds me of a Dylan lyric.
“I wish that I’d a been a doctor.
Maybe I’d a saved some life that’s been lost,
Maybe I’d a done some good in this world,
Instead of burning every bridge I crossed.”
I can definitely relate to this. Retired US Military, decided to marry my Thai girlfriend, brought her to the US. Had a few great years, then it all went bad. Luckily for me, I’ve survived it all, learned a lot, still have my wealth and health, mid 50’s now, and will retire in Thailand soon. The reason I got out with my wealth intact was because I refused to have kids. But I will never, ever get married again. I do plan on having a Thai girlfriend again, I mean how can you not? They are just so beautiful. But I now fully understand the transactional nature of what I will be getting into. There is no such thing as love, it’s only about what we can do for each other.
Yikes. Dude, that is one very bleak outlook. I would not want to live in your world. But best of luck to you in the future.
@@steverosse Thanks for the reply. I’m just being a realist at this point. But I get your implied meaning here, that you never know what the future holds and that future relationships might exceed expectations. Here’s to hoping that will be true.
@@steverosse 😮
@steveross agreed 100%. Love is an illusion guys fall for, a construct created by women to manipulate men, and it's highly effective.
If you lose money, they lose 'love' asap. Funny how that works.
Excellent interview Pete. It's good to see the interviewer asking the pertinent questions without having an overriding ego. For someone like me who has visited Thailand many times and dreams of one day living part of my life there I'm always fascinated by those who have done just that. I appreciate Steve's honesty which gives us an insight into his life and emotions. Not too many talk openly and honestly about failures. I get the feeling that Steve will be enhancing his retirement income with online content and books once he returns to his "soul land". I've always enjoyed his insightful essays and writings.
Thanks Brendan, glad you like this interview style. I think we’ll see Steve on YT in the future. He certainly can tell a story
Think you are probably right 🤞
@@ThairishTimes I liked your style too. Didn't try to get more than he was willing to give.
Great interview from both sides. There's so much going on here that can be analyzed but my abbreviated observation is crystal clear...the marriage was a terrible decision. That one decision had devastating effects. Impossible for a do-over. Steve's marriage reminds me of the opposite of the Rockwell painting called American Gothic. Those two are going to last forever. Steve's story seems all too common. I truly hope Steve can find some peace, happiness, and a good mate. Steve's journey has definitely made its mark on me. It's a crap shoot. Be careful at all times. Never rush. The young girl was a mirage. It wasn't ever real. Let it go. Anyone going to Thailand looking for true love or a wife is basically gambling. Nature likes balance. All relationships have to have balance. Pay attention to the scale. Who is always doing the heavy lifting? My gut says most Americans/Thai relationships are not ever balanced. This will cause the problems Steve is going thru. Young Thai women are danger to older men who are lonely. They spin the web and the man gets trapped. Especially the bar type women.
Thx for the brutally painful honesty and best of luck to you.
Best of luck to you, too, Brian. As an aside, I'm from Iowa City, and I took a couple of Art classes in the studio Grant Wood was using when he painted American Gothic. You know that the model for the woman in that painting was his sister, and the model for the man was the local postmaster, right? They were not even in the same room when they posed. But I get your point. Thanks again for taking the time to comment. Why don't you subscribe to my channel? ruclips.net/channel/UCszZHYnE4-KwheMxAi-G8Vg
I am almost 100% sure that Steve was a regular contributor to Thailand Stories and Stickman Bangkok. A good essayist and from memory he had a running battle with a couple of other writers which made for good entertainment.
You just earned my subscription brother. That was a riveting interview, I should rather say “study” …without doing any pseudo-psychoanalysis you got the guy to totally open up, and give one of the most honest narratives on marital failure and expat disillusionment.
His story is that of so many men… he made what seemed like a perfectly intelligent choice to marry her, she went cold on him, and he and ends up becoming the lonely “villain”.
I really liked your question about false hope in regaining a lost world…was thinking exactly that as you asked it.
It is not only that social environments change, but the man himself is now 64 not 36. As a 60 year old Thai/Japan expat (who also brought the lovely Asian wife back to USA only to discover misery between us) … I felt so sad for this fellow…the world, and you, have changed, the past is over, and you absolutely must rebuild your life view to match the current truth. He seems to know this (obviously bright guy) but is just choosing to stay stuck on his best “5 months and 10 days” peak experience. While seems crazy I still felt some compassion for the guy…anyway this was a deeply moving interview, you’re doing good work here Pete.
Thanks mate, glad you liked it
bad news is good news they say
so beautifully put, you write well
I would disagree, I don't think it was a "perfectly intelligent choice" to marry someone he admits he had no love for.
Love Steve Rosse , His Honesty and no Bull-,S No Excuses and no Apologies for Living and Loving his Life alone , with many many Friends and True to Himself ,🤗💙😊
This was superb and so very honest and interesting ! Great questions and appreciated how you let Steve finish the stories without interruption. Cheers🙏
Glad you liked it Derek. Yes Steve doesn’t hold back. It was a really brutally honest interview
Great interview and a compelling story. I am surprised by the many negative comments. Steve tells us an exciting story, he is self-critical and appears to recognize his flaws. No doubt he made several unwise decisions. He paid for them, and he still has his dreams. And he explains that there is no Plan B. He's fully committed.
Thanks for your kind words, Christopher. I'm beginning my second day in Thailand and you've given me encouragement. I much appreciate it. Please follow my channel to see what happens.
Very interesting to listen to your story.
I’m interested in reading your book.
May I ask which publisher published your memoir? I’ve written a memoir and I’m looking for a reputable publisher.
Thank you for sharing your experience
My first two books were published by a legacy publisher, the old-fashioned way. But I cannot even name such a publisher in Thailand now. My last three books were published by myself on Amazon.
What a fantastic interview. Guys like Steve are the ones I want to hang out with. None of us have had a perfect life and his ability to admit mistakes, laugh at mistakes and keep smiling make Steve a man among men. Thanks for the interview and sharing this video with all of us.
Thank you, Eddie. You might like my RUclips channel.
I came to Thailand in 2006 for the 1st time, and I returned to live here in 2020. Thailand in the 2020s is not at all like it was roughly 15 years ago. I doubt Steve will find Thailand of the 1990s. The old Thailand is truly Gone with the Wind.
Recently returned to Thailand after more than 40 years lol There are still plenty of places to check out (don’t spend all your time in the touristy areas) Cheers
I really enjoyed this interview , you should do a lot more like this Pete . Hopefully your channel gets a lot more subscribers .
Cheers,
Mikey
Cheers Mikey, appreciate that. Thanks for watching and hope you’re doing well
This man has all the ingredients to be successful. I think he is or was his own worst enemy. Hopefully in his golden years he can turn it around and have the best years of his life. Very entertaining interview.
Fascinating interview, I love to hear the stories of peoples lives, especially when they are as descriptive and accurate as Steve's are. We all have our story, both the was, and the will be. I hope Steve's future story will include happiness and fulfilment.
I love to hear them too Robert. Thanks for watching. I’ve another interview coming up shortly
Very entertaining interview! I was watching PFTB that leads me to this video. So Steve, just curious... whose false was it - the Thai, the Danes or the French.
Wow, fascinating.
We all have a story inside us, Steve's is amazing.
Thanks for putting the film together Mr T. Times.
Our pleasure!
Another great Interview. I watched another video of his, his Thai is pretty good. Interesting chap!
He certainly can talk
@@ThairishTimes lol
It’s good to put a face to all the stories he wrote for the Stickman website. It’s great that he sought therapy for his issues, however, the therapist would have really earned his money.
Love how expat men view their kids as being from their home country instead of understanding your kids are MIXED and your wife is already "home". So many problems with expat local marriages! I have only seen a handful of good, lasting mixed marriages. One was so sweet. Older Thai lady and older expat man. They were truly in love and so happy. They didn't have children together due to their age. Another was a very young couple. Not too many others but a lot of people in extreme suffering from mixed relationships on both sides.
My ex-wife and I raised our kids in Iowa, like I say multiple times in the interview. My kids speak no Thai. They know nothing at all about Thailand, and have no interest in learning anything about it. My ex-wife has not even visited Thailand in 22 years. What interview did you listen to?
OMG! 50K views! Congrats Pete! 👍 👍 👍 I'd say that this milestone will be tough to beat but I wouldn't bet against you !!! 😮 😮 😮 I'm looking forward to see what comes next !!! 🤩 🤩 🤩
Thanks mate, records are meant to be broken. The sky's the limit hehe
all I can say is , Steve ... do it .. LIVE YOUR DREAM ... you will feel so much better in mind and soul , I wish you well and hope you reach your goals
Phuket in the 1990's and Phuket in 2020 are two different worlds that will never go back to the old days. I am Thai now and have been here 5 years. In that short time I have sen this country sink into a cesspool. My visa expires in May and I will be gone. I am hoping travel will be OK Covid wise.He is absolutely correct on the need for love in a relationship.
You sound like one of those grumpy old farangs !! You are not Thai, if youre waiting for a visa to expire, and why wait, just leave !!!!!
Interesting interview, alot to learn from him . Funny how life goes , I've made some of those decisions too. Hanging on to a fantasy of others way longer than they did to me. Hope Steve finds joy in his new life , maybe get even more of the fun Steve back that his old boss talked about lol.
There is a brutal honesty that comes from a man that has asked himself "What do you actually want?" and has tried to answer. I don't agree with everyone you interview but I respect that they are all searching, trying and have the courage to commit to their convictions. They might not all 'win' but I believe they will get closer than most.
Hi, CC.
This man has a great story to tell...the subject is not "how to win" which is so often boring and predictable, but an intense and creative life full of mistakes and victories. I'll cast my vote for him over those so ready to brag about their "wins" in life...
@@beerman204 God bless your war on semantics, hope you win 🙂
@@castorchua Only the future will tell I guess. Let me go ask the I Ching 🤔
@@beerman204 Right? Did Cyrano win? Quixote? Hamlet?
Great story and great storyteller. keep up the good work! this is one of the most underrated channels on RUclips.
Thanks, lots more to come
Stumbled across your vid on fb and loved the interview. This is the content I find incredibly interesting, please keep it up Pete. Subscribed 👍
Thanks Shayne, new one coming tomorrow
Really appreciate that honesty. Thailand is not only the good sides, everyone who spent more than a few weeks on vacation there knows that. Really like your channel and the interesting topic you pick! Would like to meet you the next time I´m in Bangkok. Already saw you once at T21 but was knocked out from having a cold and not able to stay hi haha :D
Cool man, glad you like this content. Next time say hi
Superb honesty, so refreshing and relatable. Enjoyed every minute and will definitely be buying his book soon.
Glad you liked it Darren. Since you like Steve’s brutal honesty the book is worth the read
Well done Pete ,great interview, Thankyou ,keep them comming.
Great interview. I especially love the bit about the young girlfriend he hasn’t been able to get over. Thai 18 and going to high school. Brought her a school uniform. Hell thats going to be hard to get over. 😂
Thanks for simply repeating what I said.
Creep
Old perv
I love Steve's honesty, very refreshing in the media these days!
Yeah Steve calls it like he sees it for sure
I like Steve's honesty, not many like him these days. He's certainly lived an interesting life. Enjoyed this interview cheers Pete
Thanks Pat more interviews to come
Interesting is over-rated...there is the Chinese curse...may you live an interesting life.
58 here , never married. So glad I never did
Addicted since found this channel,im irish 47 living in Belgium now 10 years having lived and worked in Switzerland 14 years, London and America and Australia not to mention my travels fluent in french and italien thanks to my mother repeating tge katin bible in my head😂 helped honest lol then met my husband had to stay in Belgium wasn't end travel choice but work is good and my child born here. I'm getting the itch again this why, love your story your wife's accent is adorable lil irish accent🎉 keep it up,you asked lots if questions here don't be so irush apologetic for it lol I still do that keep up good work loving it💚💫💫💫
hi, really glad you like it. Cheers
Great interview and definitely an interesting character, like others said: Really appreciate that honesty.
I really enjoy those interviews, hope you can do more of them.
Thanks mate, I enjoy doing them too and I'm always looking out for a good story
Excellent interview and great camera work. I used to share a forum for writers in Thailand where Steve was a frequent contributor. It was many, many years ago and Steve and I exchanged lots emails at the time. We had a fair bit in common and seeing this interview added more to our similarities. In one of those emails he called me his shrink and wanted to know if a bill was coming his way for my services. But I can't charge without a licence and in any case I wouldn't charge a friend. My first trip to Thailand was in 1978 which predated him by a long shot. But I am a fossil compared to him. I'm living in Thailand again and just got married. I need a ghostwriter, where are you Steve?
Fantastic, there’s an opportunity here for Steve. Get after it Steve!
This guy lives on the edge most of his life… Fascinating !!
Ok. I love this guy. He knows how to tell a story! I could listen for hours.
Thank you, LU. You can listen all you like on my channel. I hope to see you there.
When you are young, is very hard to let go of an even younger, cute, girl who gave you the best sexual thrills you could imagine.That happened to me too many times. Cute young girls know their power. I feel like I really began to deal well with this at around 30 years old. Finally, around 45, I met a woman closer to my age in Japan . She had suffered in the corporate meat grinder in Japan. Over a coffee, she said the best words I ever heard from a woman : 'we can survive this world better together'. After 27 yrs., we are still together both healthy and financially well off. Wasn't a perfect relationship, but we survived, and we always were there for each other, as she had foretold over coffee in Japan so many years ago.
one could sit and listen to Steve for days on end , easy listening
Thanks, Geoffrey!
I love Steve's brutal honesty
Amazing! Spectacularly Great! These are amazing interviews….
Wow! Great interview! Steve is such a fantastic guess! Please interview him again.
"guest," not "guess." But thanks for your kind comments. And Pete has interviewed me twice since this one. Do you really think his audience can stand a fourth interview with Steve Rosse?
Love this guy
A great honest guy and extremely smart
Really great story teller
And so cool I admire him alot
You should keep in touch and get him
To work with you
Brilliant guy
Funny that you say that cos Steve will be back on the channel in a few weeks when he arrives back in Thailand
@@ThairishTimes i hope hes not looking for love again
I used to visit Thailand to buy stuff for my shop in the 1990’s.Lovely country and people.I loved northern Phuket but in 2004 they developed the jungle area behind the beach and I felt so sad and never went back.I remember seeing the first Macdonalds in Phuket town and seeing some of the Thais become chubby!
I remember seeing that first McDonald's in Phuket Town, and thinking, "Who the hell do they think is going to by that drek in Thailand?" They proved us both wrong, Berti. Hey, while I have your attention, why don't you subscribe to my channel? ruclips.net/channel/UCszZHYnE4-KwheMxAi-G8Vg
Thanks Pete for this informative video. A very long and complicated life experience for Steve, which he thankfully describes in a very open and entertaining manner. I think that many "male farangs" have paid a lot of "hardship" in the form of cash or emotional fluctuations in connection with Thailand as well. Of course I could also report on some confusing incidents, but not nearly as impressive as it was shown here in the case of Steve Rosse. Nice that Nune has recovered from her accident and thank you again for the video - Greetings from Sattahip - Gerd 🌈🍀💖🌴🌈
Glad you enjoyed it Gerd, Steve certainly had some interesting stories. We all have a story of why we came here and our life experiences in Thailand. I suppose some are more exciting or depressing than others. I do love hearing a good story
Pete, love your channel. Great stuff. You are a great interviewer and I respect your honesty and humility. I am hooked. This guest is gold, he's an open book and its interesting from my perspective. I am not Irish and I don't live in Thailand, but its great stuff. Well, truth be told, I am American of Irish descent and I resettled in Indonesia 22 years ago, happily married and four kids. I took that leap, like you, but at the age of 34 in a dead-end job. Best thing I ever did. Hope to meet you for a beer one day at the pub on the son's rugby tour to Bkk.
Hey William thanks for the support and best of luck in Indonesia. Look me up if you get to Bangkok
Steve is one of those guys that I could listen endlessly to his stories over a beer. Yes- Steve needs to get the hell out of the USA. That country has also changed ( for the worse: political tribalism, corporate greed over caring for others, expanding gun culture, expensive healthcare-and a culture that has little respect for anyone over 50 years old.) Thailand will be a breath of fresh air - ( but stay away from those grumpy old farangs that want to constantly complain).
Totally agree about the grumpy farangs hehe
Yes also agree about those grumpy old falangs. I came across one yesterday in the shopping centre. Chose to start an argument with me then followed up with an argument with his woman. I had to hold my tongue and not tell him to enjoy his trip to Thailand then he should f*k off back to his own country! No wonder the Thai govt is trying to get a different type of visitor here
well i think his issues started when he left the USA......loveless bad marriage, didnt pay taxes when he left, list goes on....
Haven’t we all heard the story countless times? Doesn’t leave a sickening feeling in your stomach? Getting involved in drugs and alcohol and younger women, what could possibly go wrong?
You pointed very grim picture ove usa.. considered Thai women lives there with disability all expenses taken care of and she is not even US citizen... I love when some Americans complain about America,, it reminds me of privileged kids complaining about their parents.
Love your interviews. I spent time in Phuket and Chiang Mai. Watching your videos makes me really miss it there.
Glad you enjoyed it 🙏🙏🙏
Congrats on getting married, yours looks like a good match & I'm sure you'll both work to make it a success. 😊 I was in Thailand during 1st Gulf War(91), Phuket, Bangkok, Chiang-Mai, Mae Hong Son, Pattaya, & more & I remember everything operating as normal, i.e. Hotels, bars, restaurants(Thailand as usual neutral). What I do remember is the oil clouds over Chiang-Mai & watching the war on the TV in a shop on what is now Walking street Phuket. 👀
Nice, I bet you’ve seen lots of changes in Thailand since then. I’ve often wondered what that period of time was like in Thailand
@@ThairishTimes Since 80's was very much a Buddhist cultured country very prominent with values very honest & at a slow pace of outstanding primitive beauty everywhere travelled, sadly yep it's been devoured by commercialism & its values which people originally went to Thailand to escape.
Great Interview, I remember Steve from Phuket in the early 90's, his articles for many of the newspapers and magazines at that time were great reading. He also used to write a column for Stickman in the Bangkok Post each Saturday. I recommend reading his earlier books as well.
Stickman had a column in the Bangkok Post? Didn’t know … I’m sure it was a great time … Nowadays not the same imo
@@Roberto-xc5xy I wrote a column for The Nation that ran every Sunday. Bernard Trink's column ran in the Post on Fridays. Stick launched his blog in 1998.
@@steverosse Thanks Steve.
Pete it's Ian here from Dublin I just want to let you know that's one of the best ever interview you ever done very good pat on the back to you for that your natural at that looking forward to seeing more thanks Ian🤗
Ian Brennan thank you very much🙏🙏🙏🇮🇪
Another great interview Pete. You're onto a winner with your style, research and interesting characters to interview. Real life is fascinating and hearing about other's experiences so revealing. You just blasted past 5k subs. Will be 10k soon if you keep this going.
Thanks Eddie, I’m glad you like the interviews and the way I do them. I do love hearing a good story. 10k here we come ☺️☺️🙏🤞
Great interview. Gotta love Steve's candor and honesty about his own mistakes.
Steve obviously had some psychological damage, and by that I just mean that like many of us he was damaged in some way growing up, and that can lead to self destructive or self sabotaging behaviour. I can relate. Great to see that he's been to therapy and obviously gained some insight into those sabotaging behaviours. Bodes well for his chances of finding a happy life in Thailand again. I wish him the best of luck!
Also, what he said about Phuket is SO true. It's a dump. Samui is going the same way.
Steve if you read this - go check out Koh Lipe and Koh Phayam. Both (but Phayam especially) are still very much like the way Thailand used to be (before the main islands went to sh1t).
I’m on Samui now. Although it’s nice it is very over priced
@@ThairishTimes A mate of mine went to Samui in 1982. It was difficult to get to and there was only a smattering of bungalows among the palm trees on Chaweng Beach. I went in the 90s and it was still pretty amazing but obviously a bit more development. Same in 2010. Was there last August after doing Phuket Sandbox and although it was novel having the place to ourselves almost with no other tourists, it's all so over-developed and ruined. All those white pool villas on the hills are terrible.
Plenty of vloggers rave about Samui and Phuket. It's not their fault - they were just born a bit too late and pretty much all the adventure and secret places are now gone in the world. They don't know what they don't know, which is what it WAS like. There *are* a few spot in Thailand where you can find an island or beach that is worthy of the being called Secret Thailand, or Paradise, but you won't find them anywhere near where there is an airport or hotel chains.
@@stangoodvibes have you ever been to Koh Chang? Comparing it to Samui I much prefer Koh Chang. Both islands are similar sizes but Koh Chang is nowhere near as developed and still has that magical feeling of being on a tropical island. The expats on the island are much different to Samui too. The "changers" are a laid back bunch who all know each other and help each other out. Samui has a much wealthier long-term expat from what I've seen anyway. I've interviewed someone who owns one of those white villas. Video coming soon
@@ThairishTimes yeah man, I've been to ALL the islands, including BOTH Koh Changs (yes there is another one, but it's a bit of a secret so...shhhh 😅). I really liked the Chang down in Trat. Agreed it's got a great vibe. And mostly low key development. My two favourite islands are mentioned in my comment above.
When I move back to Thailand permanently next year, I can't imagine every visiting Samui or Phuket ever again. There are just better islands.
@@stangoodvibes Every word you have spoken is Truth. Best of luck in your future in Thailand, David.
These interviews are very interesting.
Marrying someone with different culture background can be quite harsh and have to deal with conflict on every little thing.
communication is key
Communication and acceptance plus respect for your partners culture.
What culture do you speak of? This guy was screwing around and made all his decisions based on convenience. And she did the same thing.
Marrying someone with the same culture background can be quite harsh and have to deal with conflict on every little thing.
It can be in marriages from same culture…
Interesting interview with some important takeaways. Marrying someone you don't really love and vice versa is a marriage doomed to fail at some point. Coupled with that, Steve's happiest memory was his affair with a teenager that he reminisces about to this day and hoped it would last how long? Sorry Steve, she was only ever going to be yours until a better opportunity arrived on the scene, long past time to come to this realization. What deserved more emphasis was taking the Thai wife to the USA and its impact on their relationship, such as it was. So many, with sad breakup stories, who have done this strongly advise against taking the foreign wife away from their culture and family to transplant into western cultures. This seems to be a reliable recipe for marital failure where you're subject to lose half or more of your assets. Another important point, unless you have ample financial security in the form of a passive income stream and/or sizable savings then living in a foreign country like Thailand even if being frugal, you will eventually be forced to move back to your home country for financial reasons.
You’ve made some interesting points there
Even if you marry somebody you love it's a possibility that it will fall apart LOL
@@kelcat34 Thanks for stating the obvious. At least if you love your partner and vice versa there's a greater probability the marriage will stand the test of time. But then marriage today is generally a bad deal for men anyway and best avoided.
Great points.
@Linda Lowther It's you who is confused about the point being made. My point was that taking an Asian woman away from her culture, family and life long friends is a bad idea in general. Their marriage was clearly on shaky ground from the start and while failure seems inevitable it was moving to the U.S. the brought about their ultimate demise.
As for feminism, modern feminism and gynocentric divorce laws have had a massive negative impact on marriage and the nuclear family. Men are becoming wiser with marriage on the decline as they recognize what a rotten deal it is in general and how easily divorce law is exploited to ruin a man's life. Foreign women can use such laws to maximum financial benefit and frequently do. A "career woman" makes nowhere near the money in Thailand that she can in say the U.S. Marriage and divorce rewarded her far more than her "career" ever would have in Thailand, a fact you conveniently ignore. Steve's experience should be a cautionary tale to any man contemplating doing the same as he did.
When he said "the best 6 years of my life" I paused the video, went back and listened again. I always value someone's shared happiest moments in life. In his case a lady 18 years old and him being 38,( if I got that right around 20 years younger, ) was for him the best time of his life. I am guessing this is likely what would make ME the happiest ever and what I should look for: a much younger lady 29 years old or so (I am 49). I will try exactly that.
I said my time with the eighteen-year-old lady was the best five months and ten days of my life. I said my seven years on Phuket were the best years of my life. I don't know where you're coming up with six years, even after going back and listening again. But at any rate I was 33 and she was 18. Not 38. Are you absolutely sure it was this interview you listened to?
@@steverosseMy bad! 5 months. I wrote in a hurry. No need to jump on me and get so grumpy. On video u come across as a nice person, now u act like a little bit**. Relax and get a life. I can smell your unhappiness from here.
@@rgasta7765 Been here a year and happy as a clam. Ready to admit you were wrong?
@@steverosse wrong about what? Not in the mood for a keyboard battle. You missed my point.(Beside, based on last interview you don't have a companion, so I doubt you are -or think you are - as happy as you say).
@@rgasta7765 Sorry, thought I was replying to a different comment. My bad. But I don't need a "companion" to be happy. I was unhappy for twenty-five years so I know what that feels like. What I feel on Turtle Beach is happiness. Come visit. I've always got good coffee in the house.
What an interview, and what an interesting man. I could have watched a 2-hour version of this. I wish him the best and hope he finds that slice of happiness he lost.
Gracias, Jose!
@@steverosse You're very welcome Steve 🙏. I hope we run into one another on a sandy beach for a nice chat one day.
Moral of the story is.. don't do tens of thousands of dollars of Coke a year and expect not to end up with psychological problems. I can imagine this man as being controlling, selfish and a very difficult person to have a relationship with. His story about being in his 30's and trying to curate the life of an 18 year old thai girl in order to facilitate his own happiness was a bit of a strange one and gave off quite a narcissistic vibe. He reminds me of someone I know who was in his late 40's who married a 23 year old girl from a northern village (through an agency) who barely spoke any English, he didn't speak Thai at all and yet he was convinced they were in love after 2 meetings because ultimately he was shallow and only interested in his own needs. It's pretty sad really.
I hope this guy makes some better decisions and finds a bit of peace.
Me too!
@@steverosse A restrained response to such criticism from a complete stranger. The assumption being that the critic always considers themselves perfect, which is certainly not true in my case. Like they say.. "it takes one to know one".. or in knowing one you learn to recognise others at least. I hope your experience in therapy opened your eyes to the positive impact we can all have on others lives if we step away from our own ego and self interests and give to others with no expectation of reciprocation or even the need for it. It can lead us all to unexpected places. All the best with the book.
NPD possibly
Having worked in the media in Phuket I had heard a lot about him, so it was interesting to hear it straight from the horse's mouth, so to speak. Excellent video and I have subscribed.
Thanks mate, I hope you like the content and if you know anyone in BKK with a good story please put them in contact with me
Iowa City? I did not know any Iowan who likes to live in Thailand, interesting though. I’m Thai and have lived in West Des Moines, Iowa for most of my life since I came to Iowa in 1982. Your story leaves me speechless. I’m not sure what to think. Most Thai women live in Iowa that I know they have a very successful marriage with Farang. Some have a very big age gap (10-15 years) between their husbands. My husband is a white Iowan guy who knew nothing about Asian culture and foods, but he loves Thailand (probably more than me hahaha). Btw, he didn’t pick me up from Thailand. We met at work in Des Moines. I came to the USA when I was 17 and went to university here in Iowa. I have a house in Chaing Rai. If you are interested to visit Chaing Rai, you are welcome there. Let me know by putting your comment here.
Love Chiang Rai, went there Jan 2020 pre Covid. Beautiful temples, mountains, Kings mothers gardens and house.
Steve come across as very transparent and you can't help but feeling sorry for the guy. Hope he finds some contentment going forward. Your interviewing was surprising good too! Asked good questions and allowed your guest the time to answer without interruption. Maybe a good format for future videos :)
Thanks Kev, Steve was super honest and didn’t hold back. Glad you like this style. This is usually how I do the interviews, nothing worse than someone interrupting all the time
Really interesting interview. Pete, you are a great interviewer. And Steve has a fascinating story.
Thank you very much. More interviews to come
hi Pete, very interesting interview, Steve has certainly lived a thought-provoking life, and i,m sure more to come 🙏👍🙂
Thanks Andy, Steve has lived a different life to most that's for sure. Thanks for watching
I totally relate to Steve with respect to not being able to get over breakups. For guys, a breakup can be devastating. For women, it usually is no big disaster, because women can get 10 guys within the blink of an eye in every cafe. (except for in Thailand or eastern block countries)
I also have been hurt so many times by a GF leaving me, and no matter how much people say that I should get over it, it is how I am wired, I hang on to things. Wow, Steve, you took the words out of my mouth.
I can’t stop laughing watching this interview. He is so casual about every serious issues
Interesting interview Pete. Can't wait for the next one :)
My man!! thanks Frank
another great interview Pete keep it up mate
Maybe indeed Steve should try Cambodia, Philippines, or Indonesia - these countries have many nice people. I love Thailand, but seems like a large portion of the population has been playing the Farang game too long and what they can get out of the guy. Thailand certainly has lost its luster from the 80's and 90's - I loved Phuket in the late 80's.
Brilliant really enjoyed this one definitely be looking into getting his book an honest no messing fella
"If you're gonna marry someone you need love" No sh*t! Thanks for that pearl of wisdom.
It was news to me. Most human beings in history have not married for love.
New to the channel. I Enjoyed this. Thanks for producing.
You’re very welcome
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Over 50 thousand views well done pete the channel is really going places
Thanks Jake ☺️☺️☺️☺️
Exceptional interview. Let the interviewee do the talking. You nailed it. Let's have more.
Thanks Peter, I’ve more lined up
Spent time visiting a friend who worked at Le Meridien Phuket in the mid 90's, so was interested to hear about Steve's time on the island then.
What an amazing interview, exceeded my expectations.
I bought his book based on this interview. He possesses a neurotic and self-harming personality, but he is a good honest storyteller.
I'd say he's never going to forget his negative experiences, because if he did, he'd doom himself to repeat them. Not only this, but His story is one worth sharing with others so people can learn from his experience.
You never forget when people wrong you, because otherwise you're naieve. You would only trust people because you're brave and have some smarts about you after being burned a few times in your life (various ways).
Forgiveness is God's job only.
@@DoubtingThomas333 yet he did repeat his negative experiences, lol!
Does God not say, if you don't forgive I won't forgive you? DoubtingThomas is that not God saying forgiveness is our job too... Made in his image and all that.
@@DoubtingThomas333 yet he did repeat his negative experiences, lol!
Does God not say, if you don't forgive I won't forgive you? DoubtingThomas is that not God saying forgiveness is our job too... Made in his image and all that. And surely forgetting is not relevant to forgiving
@@KJ-lb4tj I can't factor for his mental problems. Could have a personality disorder. Could be on the spectrum. Anything is possible. Maybe he has a thing for malevolent women.
His early days in phuket are spot on I was there in 1988 in Patong and it was great. Left to live in Bangkok and now in Hua Hin and it is still has nice Thai people.
Sounds like you’ve lived an interesting life
Congratulations on living the dream, Robert. I hope you'll follow my journey on my YT channel.
I married an Ilocano in thirty one days. No love. Same Same But Different. 😢