The worst thing that happens is when I go to social networking or lunch with coworkers and I end up sitting across from someone who is also an introvert. We both just sit there in silence lol
1. Planning 2. Imagine things are going well 3. Look for open groups (body language) 4. Position yourself well 5. Be observant 6. Do not hesitate so much. Politely interrupt. 7. Keep the conversation light and fun 8. Good stories 9. Work on delivery 10. Be an active listener 11. Have an open body language 12. Practice in smaller settings
1:02 - Prepare ahead of time 1:52 - Imagine things going well 2:35 - Look for open groups 3:13 - Position yourself well 3:42 - Be observant 4:12 - Stop hesitating so much 5:12 - Share something relevant
Being a introvert I never thought that these are the things that make me extrovert and I can't wait to try these tricks...really thank you so much...love you man!!
Oh man, all the flashbacks from the networking events when I was trying to find a job as a student and when I already got a job. Honestly, it is terrifying even for an extrovert. Social gathering is pretty scary especially you are alone and you don't know anyone there. I am currently experiencing the same thing at work as I have a hard time participating during work meetings. Not because I don't want to but because I either don't know what to say or I am always getting too in my head and I am waiting for the perfect opportunity to speak. I like your tips about not hesitate too much and anticipate a good outcome. As most of the time, speaking up will only yield a good result and people will kinda forget what you say soon so no need to hesitate too much! Thanks for the tips!
@@SocialConfidenceMastery My biggest struggle is communicating through my eyes. Since we all wear our masks around each other, there is a lot I'm missing when I'm speaking with someone and vise versa... just because we can't see our facial expressions! :/ If I was to read and react through this nonverbal transaction, I think it would make my conversation so much more clear, simple and direct! What about you?
Thank you for this! I struggle with conversations a lot these days. I used to be so good at them when I was a kid. Part of the reason why i had a lot of friends but that died down really fast at highschool. it's like a factory reset. I didn't know how to even speak and have friends. My voice just bailed on me too. Even now at home, i still suck but i hope i get better. I'm going to see my friends this Saturday. I really hope to be able to practice there and be more myself without becoming a clam shell.
A lot of our social anxiety has to do with our subconscious fear of authority (the pack leader / loud one) ... be on their good side by using your talents (like giving them answers for a test or something) and they will naturally like you and support you! :) (assuming you’re in a good group of friends)
Thank you so much! ☺ I can totally relate to being a shy introvert and hesitating too much about what I want to say if it matters. So lesson learned, don't hesitate or doubt yourself. Just be open and chatty
i hung out for the first time in 4 years, it was with someone i've known for 8 years but haven't oficially met irl too (we live 15 minutes away from eachother) he had 2 other people over, when he told me that i already thought "hm i wonder how that's gonna go" im more of a listener. I can feel very included in the conversation without actually speaking, and i find too much comfort in it and i dont always realize that that is happening, i really do think along with them, i just dont say anythting until someone directly looks at me or mentions me. I asked him the day after what he thought of it, he said he had fun but was sad bc i gave such short replies. He told me multiple stories, and i really enjoyed them. I'm just never sure what to say, i always try to take the story apart and see what i can comment on, but sometimes it just isn't a lot. I definitely want to work on how to speak with people (btw i have no friends) bc i now realize how important it actually is. I just hope it wasn't a major setback for him that he may not want to invite me again, but only time will tell. Until then I will work on my social skills and think about what I can say in certain situations. I NEED THIS TO WORK lmao Edit: We met up again but then just the two of us. Haven't heard from him since, it was nice while it lasted lol
Tbh, for me, it's quite easy to talk to someone that is really strangers. But once I met someone who I somehow know (maybe just name, or a lil about them) I started to panicked how to talk to them. Idk why this happened, but it keeps happened.
I feel and have the exact same issue. I'm working on solving this by reading the news paper and mention something I've read about. If they don't engage in your conversation it's their problem, and you should not be responsible for their entertainment. Then also be quiet and work on being comfortable, being quiet.
Watch this other video to help you improve your group conversation skills: 👉 How to stop being ignored in a group: ruclips.net/video/fuxvcqKGe-I/видео.html
I have a question, what do you do when someone invites you to a social event and once there said person enganges in a conversation with someone else that doesnt pertain to you? Said something they experience together or they talking about gossip and then they totally ignore you? Last time that happened i disengaged and excused myself and left.
@socialconfidencemastery i love your videos and voice by the way. Keep it up. I just wanna add a tip for the viewers. The bed background. Kept me to darker scene maybe add some lighting so the viewers can focus on you. I felt i was waiting for a scare to pop out. That is all.
"Knowing how to be socially confident, or communicating with people well, socializing with people successfully is so important. It’s unfortunate, too bad, tragic, because the majority of the education we get in school, is academics like Chemistry, Physics, or Math, History. However in the real world, none of those things really matter. It’s really your ability to inspire, communicate, to lead, and engage people that’s going to move you in upper management if you’re climbing a corporate ladder, and what gets you a date if you’re single, befriend new people, and you want to put yourself out there, and even build a brand new network to advance professionally if you’re in a new city. That’s what it means to me." I wholeheartedly agree or just never truer words have been said or spoken
@@SocialConfidenceMastery For me, all the tips is very useful and I am going to try out all of it. But, the number one tip, which is prepare ahead of time doing some research is the best one
Everytime im sitting around a group with my buddies I feel like I never get the chance to say anything because they're all constantly talking at once and I'm afraid to cut in.
What if I had no good previous experiences? What do I do if I have zero clues on how to act? I just recently got in highschool and everyone was on the first day already talking to eachother like they knew them for years. Or at least it's how I see it. A little more than a month in, still no friends nor anyone really.
thanks I'm looking for a job and I'm 15 I practically changed myself ever since grade 8 but since I wanna get a job I need to get good social skills so I need to know this
@@SocialConfidenceMastery having the confidence to say something to a group of people also that when I do speak up I don't know what to say after making the conversation awkward and quiet
Ok, but like, how am I supposed to just start talking? Whenever I'm about to talk, someone else just starts instead before I can do anything. What do I do about that?
What do you do when the people you are talking to prefer speaking in a language you aren't used to and the topic is something you're not familiar with.
Fear will stop your brain from being able to think or function normally. Put on top of that an inner belief that what you have to say is worthless or unacceptable and you will find you can't implement any of these ideas. It's called social anxiety.
@@SocialConfidenceMastery I've read some books and done some counseling but nothing has helped all that much. It seems exposure to the situations you fear with a counselor is the only thing that has a chance of helping.
@@SocialConfidenceMastery personally people not laughing when you tell a funny story or not getting the joke right away and ending up laughing alone like a weirdo😂 or that no ones gonna respond because you’re in a group so everyone’s think the other person is gonna reply..so it ends up also awkward when someone says just anything to save the situation lol
The worst thing that happens is when I go to social networking or lunch with coworkers and I end up sitting across from someone who is also an introvert. We both just sit there in silence lol
I totally get that. I'm curious, what are you social goals?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery mainly to be able to keep a conversation going
@@123rockfan that's a great goal, have you seen my video on how to keep a conversation going?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery not yet, but I’ll definitely check it out!
@@123rockfan leave a comment on the video when you have so I know!
1. Planning
2. Imagine things are going well
3. Look for open groups (body language)
4. Position yourself well
5. Be observant
6. Do not hesitate so much. Politely interrupt.
7. Keep the conversation light and fun
8. Good stories
9. Work on delivery
10. Be an active listener
11. Have an open body language
12. Practice in smaller settings
1:02 - Prepare ahead of time
1:52 - Imagine things going well
2:35 - Look for open groups
3:13 - Position yourself well
3:42 - Be observant
4:12 - Stop hesitating so much
5:12 - Share something relevant
thanks so much
Thx
Being a introvert I never thought that these are the things that make me extrovert and I can't wait to try these tricks...really thank you so much...love you man!!
I'm so happy to hear that Naresh!
Any requests for future videos?
"remember positive interactions instead of negative ones" :)
You're so right!
Why did that tip stand out for you?
Oh man, all the flashbacks from the networking events when I was trying to find a job as a student and when I already got a job. Honestly, it is terrifying even for an extrovert. Social gathering is pretty scary especially you are alone and you don't know anyone there. I am currently experiencing the same thing at work as I have a hard time participating during work meetings. Not because I don't want to but because I either don't know what to say or I am always getting too in my head and I am waiting for the perfect opportunity to speak. I like your tips about not hesitate too much and anticipate a good outcome. As most of the time, speaking up will only yield a good result and people will kinda forget what you say soon so no need to hesitate too much! Thanks for the tips!
You're so welcome!
Thank you for sharing as well!
This is happening to me the same😢😢
This is gold. I completely lost my social skills because of COVID-19 isolation.
I'm so glad you found it helpful!
What would you say is your biggest struggle socially?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery My biggest struggle is communicating through my eyes. Since we all wear our masks around each other, there is a lot I'm missing when I'm speaking with someone and vise versa... just because we can't see our facial expressions! :/ If I was to read and react through this nonverbal transaction, I think it would make my conversation so much more clear, simple and direct! What about you?
@@amandacerami6143that makes sense for sure!
@@amandacerami6143thank you for sharing that!
Thank you for this! I struggle with conversations a lot these days. I used to be so good at them when I was a kid. Part of the reason why i had a lot of friends but that died down really fast at highschool. it's like a factory reset. I didn't know how to even speak and have friends. My voice just bailed on me too. Even now at home, i still suck but i hope i get better. I'm going to see my friends this Saturday. I really hope to be able to practice there and be more myself without becoming a clam shell.
You're so welcome Lily!
Have you seen my video on how to become a talkative person?
I also have a video on how to keep a conversation going.
@@SocialConfidenceMastery wow thanks! I'll watch them all your video is very helpful
A lot of our social anxiety has to do with our subconscious fear of authority (the pack leader / loud one) ... be on their good side by using your talents (like giving them answers for a test or something) and they will naturally like you and support you! :) (assuming you’re in a good group of friends)
This is a really good topic! I like the tip to share something relevant - it helps keep the conversation going and keeps everyone interested
Absolutely!
Thank you so much! ☺ I can totally relate to being a shy introvert and hesitating too much about what I want to say if it matters. So lesson learned, don't hesitate or doubt yourself. Just be open and chatty
i hung out for the first time in 4 years, it was with someone i've known for 8 years but haven't oficially met irl too (we live 15 minutes away from eachother) he had 2 other people over, when he told me that i already thought "hm i wonder how that's gonna go" im more of a listener. I can feel very included in the conversation without actually speaking, and i find too much comfort in it and i dont always realize that that is happening, i really do think along with them, i just dont say anythting until someone directly looks at me or mentions me. I asked him the day after what he thought of it, he said he had fun but was sad bc i gave such short replies. He told me multiple stories, and i really enjoyed them. I'm just never sure what to say, i always try to take the story apart and see what i can comment on, but sometimes it just isn't a lot. I definitely want to work on how to speak with people (btw i have no friends) bc i now realize how important it actually is. I just hope it wasn't a major setback for him that he may not want to invite me again, but only time will tell. Until then I will work on my social skills and think about what I can say in certain situations. I NEED THIS TO WORK lmao
Edit: We met up again but then just the two of us. Haven't heard from him since, it was nice while it lasted lol
wanna be friends? count me introvert
Tbh, for me, it's quite easy to talk to someone that is really strangers. But once I met someone who I somehow know (maybe just name, or a lil about them) I started to panicked how to talk to them. Idk why this happened, but it keeps happened.
Same! I can talk to people at the grocery store but get me at my kids school with all the other moms and i freak out and withdraw.
I feel and have the exact same issue. I'm working on solving this by reading the news paper and mention something I've read about. If they don't engage in your conversation it's their problem, and you should not be responsible for their entertainment. Then also be quiet and work on being comfortable, being quiet.
saaame 😮
Unfortunately me too
Watch this other video to help you improve your group conversation skills:
👉 How to stop being ignored in a group: ruclips.net/video/fuxvcqKGe-I/видео.html
I felt like he could read my mind.
He very well understands how introverts mind work.
I'm glad you found the video helpful!
That's a great point you bring up about being in the moment
Happy to hear that!
It's hard to be talkative if you're in your head all the time, right?
Solid stuff! Extra tip; Have a "Win, win, win" mentality
That's great advice!
Which tip stood out to you the most?
I awkwardly contribute, I will work on being confident and not focusing on my group conversation mishaps.
That's great to hear!
Keep me posted for sure!
Thanks man u saved me
This tips defenetly worked for me!!
Glad I could help!
Which tip did you find the most useful?
I have a question, what do you do when someone invites you to a social event and once there said person enganges in a conversation with someone else that doesnt pertain to you? Said something they experience together or they talking about gossip and then they totally ignore you? Last time that happened i disengaged and excused myself and left.
@socialconfidencemastery i love your videos and voice by the way. Keep it up. I just wanna add a tip for the viewers. The bed background. Kept me to darker scene maybe add some lighting so the viewers can focus on you. I felt i was waiting for a scare to pop out. That is all.
funny eyebrow work :)) enjoyed man thx
You're so welcome!
Which tip did you like the most?
"Knowing how to be socially confident, or communicating with people well, socializing with people successfully is so important.
It’s unfortunate, too bad, tragic, because the majority of the education we get in school, is academics like Chemistry, Physics, or Math, History.
However in the real world, none of those things really matter.
It’s really your ability to inspire, communicate, to lead, and engage people that’s going to move you in upper management if you’re climbing a corporate ladder, and what gets you a date if you’re single, befriend new people, and you want to put yourself out there, and even build a brand new network to advance professionally if you’re in a new city. That’s what it means to me."
I wholeheartedly agree or just never truer words have been said or spoken
Thanks for sharing that!
Thank you so much sir. This is very helpful
You are most welcome!
Which tip are you going to try out?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery For me, all the tips is very useful and I am going to try out all of it. But, the number one tip, which is prepare ahead of time doing some research is the best one
This made me more anxious
Sorry to hear that!
How can I help?
His eyebrows moved more than his mouth😂
Thanks for noticing!
I can definitely benefit from your tips! 🙌
Perfect!
Everytime im sitting around a group with my buddies I feel like I never get the chance to say anything because they're all constantly talking at once and I'm afraid to cut in.
Thanks for sharing that Jerry!
What would you like to happen instead?
thank you for sharing!
My pleasure!
Very Helpful!
Glad to hear!
Prep
Imagine things going well
Look for group that seems inviting
Be observant
You're exactly right!
Let me know how things go for you!
What if I had no good previous experiences? What do I do if I have zero clues on how to act? I just recently got in highschool and everyone was on the first day already talking to eachother like they knew them for years. Or at least it's how I see it. A little more than a month in, still no friends nor anyone really.
You know you're down bad when you gotta look up how to have a conversation
I used to be shy too and would look online to help me become more outgoing.
I think you're doing the right thing wanting to better yourself!
Where are you getting stuck with your interactions?
Lmao
thanks I'm looking for a job and I'm 15 I practically changed myself ever since grade 8 but since I wanna get a job I need to get good social skills so I need to know this
That's great to hear!
What would you say is your biggest struggle socially?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery having the confidence to say something to a group of people also that when I do speak up I don't know what to say after making the conversation awkward and quiet
@@Ethereality776thanks for sharing that!
@@Ethereality776have you seen my video on how to be more talkative and less quiet?
Thank you 😇🙏
Thanks for stopping by Dilpreet!
Which tip did you find the most helpful?
THESE ARE GOOD TIPS
I appreciate that!
Which tip did you find the most helpful?
Interjecting and adding something relatable also helps.
Thanks for sharing that!
Thanks man
You're so welcome!
Which tip did you find the most helpful?
Bro i need u in personal conservation bcz my social problem is different
Great tips! A little preparation goes a long way.
Yes it does!
Thanku 💗
You're so welcome!
Which tip did you like the most?
What about while at work. Being able to have group talk
You mean like public speaking or joining a group conversation?
What do you mean by not be so logical? Can you give me an example? Pc Great video
Thanks for the kind words.
Which part specifically don't you understand? Happy to explain.
I am not just shy but after some conversation little I can't find any topic to discuss what is way of it?
Most people usually talk about their work, upbringing, places they've been to, events they've attended and their interests.
Whenever you feel like you've reached the end of a topic, feel free to transition to another one by asking a question.
You can also go back to a topic that was mentioned earlier.
Ok, but like, how am I supposed to just start talking? Whenever I'm about to talk, someone else just starts instead before I can do anything. What do I do about that?
Focus on making small talk like the environment or situation you're in or mainstream media.
Gather some relevant information and then lead the interaction to something more meaningful!
What do you do when the people you are talking to prefer speaking in a language you aren't used to and the topic is something you're not familiar with.
Isn’t it kind of boring liking and replying to each comment?
I always appreciate people who stop by and watch any of my videos.
Discorso , mettersi davanti alle persone
Thanks but I still can't be talking
Come up with things to talk about!
I’m still tryna get into the same conversations as my friends I’ve had for 5 years😅 help?
How can I help?
Any boomer here who started a new course, doing online school, having a hard time catching up with group chat? ☺️
You're not the only one I'm sure!
What are you in school for right now?
Good video! It's thorough and easily digestible =D
I'm so happy to hear that!
Which tip did you find the most helpful?
My dad made me watch this video
He's a good man!
Tell him I said thank you for sharing it!
What did you think of the video?
Fear will stop your brain from being able to think or function normally. Put on top of that an inner belief that what you have to say is worthless or unacceptable and you will find you can't implement any of these ideas. It's called social anxiety.
I totally agree with you!
What have you done so far to resolve this issue for yourself?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery I've read some books and done some counseling but nothing has helped all that much. It seems exposure to the situations you fear with a counselor is the only thing that has a chance of helping.
U need to match the vibe and always say something to make space for other people to talk and make jokes that have a point
That's a good point!
What's been your experience doing that in social situations?
Telling a good story may be easier said than done. Some people might have a level of "poverty of speech" and have to work on it.
I don't want to watch or talk about The Bachelor. I also don't want to lie to people.
Shaketheirhandsknowthetopicssmilethinkpositive3secondrulecomplimentthem.. O.O I think I will look like a weird robot if I try to do all this
Give it a shot and let me know how it goes!
What do you do your best friend is more friends with those people and your not.. they are assholes and make u look Bad for no reason ?
I'm sorry to hear that!
I would definitely evaluate your relationship with that person.
@@SocialConfidenceMastery thank you. I figured that’s the answer lol Happy Holidays
@@johnblue8029 you're so welcome!
@@johnblue8029 Out of curiosity, what type of people would you like to meet?
Face throught tha video 😏
That would be interesting to see!
telling stories is what I am most afraid of.
What about it scares you?
@@SocialConfidenceMastery personally people not laughing when you tell a funny story or not getting the joke right away and ending up laughing alone like a weirdo😂 or that no ones gonna respond because you’re in a group so everyone’s think the other person is gonna reply..so it ends up also awkward when someone says just anything to save the situation lol
If 😗 emoji can speak
When I try the worser it gets
Just keep at it!
His phrasing is annoying.
Thanks for your feedback!
He is like 😉
Nice!
please make less face
Thanks for the feedback!