My Troubled Arrival to the US • StoryTime • Lost Russian Students • Trafficking?
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- This is the story of my first visit to the USA from Russia in 2005 through the "work and travel" program as I remember it. It was a very weird and scary situation but it has ended up being a stepping stone to a positive path in my life. Thank you for being respectful and understanding in comments even though it's a controversial topic. ♥
This is the story of my first visit to the USA from Russia in 2005 through the "work and travel" program as I remember it. It was a very weird and scary situation but it has ended up being a stepping stone to a positive path in my life. Thank you for being respectful and understanding in comments even though it's a controversial topic. ♥
Thank you for sharing your story, always, Maria. As an immigrant myself, I’ve looked to your videos for inspiration and support when it comes to hopes and dreams, dealing with missing my family so far away, finding new female friends as an adult in a new country, growing into your best self, and much more. Love you!
We're honored you are sharing this part of your story with us blessings to you and your family :)
Even during your hardest times, Maria, just know many of us look up to you as a strong, hard working role model. Thank you for both your channels ♥️
Thank you! xx
BE GRATEFUL...
That rushing you experienced at the airport, the "hurry up, decide" from the man, is a deliberate tactic used to create false urgency and override your ability to think clearly or rationally in your own best interest. It was done on purpose to you, to make a decision harder. This is a real-life PSA: *anyone who is actually acting in your best interest while "helping" you, will give you time to think and ask questions*
Thank for sharing your story Maria, it was brave and courageous and can help others.
Sarah Hanson That is such a good point to share. Thank you.
A lot of scams work like this too. This is a tactic to watch out for! I am so glad Maria is okay.
Absolutely. It's a script and they know exactly what to do to get people to trust them in desperate situations
It really is shocking. I hope so much other people in similar situations are watching this.. It's sick. Could Maria have gone to the police and got help? I'm not judging her I'm just wondering if the police would help people who have been abandoned this way. It's so terrible to hear... So sorry Maria x
@@remaininganonymous4129 Yes, the police would (should). But remember, they were offered "help" by a "random" Russian, the only familiarity, in the midst of a whirlwind predicament. They were not thinking clearly or wisely due to so many factors (fatigue, fear, inexperience, unfamiliarity). The traffickers pre-planned this vulnerability trap knowing that it works. But going to the police is an excellent idea! 👍
Maria: You were a victim of human trafficking. According to DHS “Human trafficking involves the use of force, fraud, or coercion to obtain some type of labor or commercial sex act.” There’s no shame for having fallen for it. It happened. You don’t need to explain yourself, but be a voice of awareness to speak against - if you want. These things are still happening to so many people around the world.
You have fought your way through this. You do something wonderful and meaningful for a living. You’re married to a man who you love and seems to be very supportive, and this love generated the most precious gift that life could give.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. 🙏🏼❤️
I saw her video that she made talking about this a few years ago and that was my first thought but I didnt want to say anything, I dont know why.
Durian Sidoni yes, and she wasn't so "naive" imo.. she was just 18 yo! .. I couldn't even tie my shoe laces at this age. Poor thing :(
I think she's aware.
Ocean Waves I’m so glad this sleazy dude’s ‘other option’ wasn’t going to be prostitution or marrying some balding American man with a fetish. I get that he probably believes he’s helping but he didn’t whatsoever. He took their money. He could’ve phoned the authorities or helped them contact someone at the airport or embassy to help them properly get home. He didn’t do any of that. He’s a scumbag. They could’ve been murdered.
@@SophieJackson1993 Totally right. But honestly I do believe that he didn't act in good faith and he knew what he was doing.
This is clearly trafficking. The "work and travel" agency should be reported for sure. I hope you can overcome this trauma, I'm sorry that you had to go through it.
This probably still happens to.
Tнe Princess Pink it for sure does. Young immigrant women are prime victims.
Seems planned to me that they flew in on a holiday weekend. 🤷🏼♀️ When everything was closed and there was absolutely no help.
A total set up. All of the students at the hotel were 'lost students' from the same program.
This is so scary, and it wasn't even so long ago. And such "agencies" still work and use helpless people to gain profit... :(
I remember this story from another video of yours from years ago. It broke my heart at the time and still does. You are so brave to share it in. I admire everything about you and am so proud of the woman you have become, Maria. ❤️
love you julia!!!! so amazing seeing you here 💖🥺
Joseph Mccracken GET TF OUT OF HERE WITH THAT SHIT! Dumbass fuck you and your umpa lumpa in office!
I remember her telling her story on her being attacked in an older video. Real Maria OG lol
Joseph Mccracken go get a life instead of senseless, pointless and faceless online comments.... 🤔😒
@@christinagarcia9631 the lip smacking video with the cherry background OGs 😍
“Some of the kindest people have been through the hardest things” and Maria is the embodiment of that saying.
It's the reason WHY they're kind.
What a very terrible experience. I really find your comments very scary and sad. I can see that after all the time since you had continued to be here in America. God bless you
I thought of Maria as a lump of coal after learning her background. She went through tough pressure, and became a strong and beautiful diamond
We should hold hotel businesses accountable for what “agencies” they work with to hire help.
Yes, I had the same thought. How the hell did Sheraton never have a clue of what was happening?
As someone who has worked at hotels, some have “private agencies” that provide workers. I met a lot of these workers when I worked at a Hilton. They’re a supposed to be legal and safe, I bet most are but some can be fishy.
Edit: The hotel team has no contact with these workers, they just have contact with the owner/manager of the agency.
That is what I was thinking too. Even if the business is legit, these hotels are responsible for the kind of labor that goes into it. It’s the same concept of fast fashion and modern day slavery.
Sadly, hotels do this all the time. They exploit their lower wage workers, often immigrants. They know what happens. That’s why they outsource instead of hiring them directly. It’s cheaper and they don’t have to “deal with” it.
Oh my goodness......that’s what I was thinking??? How could this happen with a large corporation????
You should also do this vlog in Russian! Young people in Russia need to hear this!
This is a really excellent idea. She will save many young people from terrible situations by telling her story.
She did
she did a vlog in russian on her main asmr channel GentleWhispering. Its kinda an older video probably from 2013.
Yes! I hope she tells her story in Russian so people can maybe know what to look out for
She told us, but it was a short video, so I wouldn't mind the extended version
“I’m not trying to make excuses”
You were 18. Goodness I’m 18. I’d like to think I’d be prepared, but also if I had to do it all by myself I’d definitely screw it all up and get lost.
I'm 18 and I'm still a baby 👶 😌
Right, 18 years old may be legal adults but they are not in any way ready to face the real world and all the dangerous people in it on their own. It takes years to learn to recognize them and avoid them or not fall for their manipulation.
Rubiecat you are absolutely right because when I was 18 years old... I fell for a narcissistic abusive person and I believed the lies he fed to me because I was a sheltered kid and didn’t realize that not everyone had good intentions. It happens all the time and if I knew it was abuse what he was doing then I would’ve called the police when I met him but I had no idea because they start small and see how far they push you and break your boundaries as quick as possible.
Im 22 and i cant imagine being in this scary situation. More power to u, maria ♡
I had a bad experience travelling at 18.... moved past it.... but I still fuck up to this day (27) when travelling. You can’t predict everything. Mobile phones help a lot but sometimes there’s an issue with it and you end up having to trust SOMEONE. And then you have to hope you’ve got a good sense for people.
My trafficking story happened much like this. Only i have been a resident my whole life so it is especially not your fault. these people are professional manipulators. The SECOND you said- no one was at the airport but a 'random' man who happened to speak Russian... i knew this was about to happen. that's more than a coincidence. Im so glad you're okay and safe now. human trafficking has many forms and faces that most people don't even realize they're being trafficked like myself. They made you poor by telling you not to bring enough money and made you NEED them.... classic trafficking move. sometimes they use drugs to reel you in or they will find what it is you love the most and offer it to you. it isn't people in cages as you would assume... just terrible!
May God have mercy on all of us!
Are you good now? Sorry that happened to you
@@titogee36 unfortunately a little while after this comment i got hit againnnn... by a married couple no less! Sad you cant trust ANYONE. Thankfully i am good now. Dang i really thought i was out of the water when i posted this last.
“I’m not there to meet anybody, I’m there to eat”. GIRL. PREACH.
Literally me at every party
maybe it is a little insensitive to say this to such a traumatic story :(
Great girl!!
Maria, I am an immigration attorney who works with trafficking victims and ever since you shared some of your story, I’ve always thought you were trafficked. Please don’t feel responsible or that it was your fault. These people prey on young girls and it sounds to me like that’s what happened. I’m so glad you found your way to safety and happiness.
Yeah I remember when I first started watching her channel in 2011 and watched the video of her story to the US and thought something was off too. This makes a lot more sense
I am so happy that things turned out for her the way they did in the end. What a scary story. She is a strong brave girl !!
Where did she get human trafficked at?
@@AbolishTheATF The thing was setup since the start for her and her friend to work at that strip club in New York. She was never going to be employed at any restaurants, it was a scam.
If you go to Ocean City, Maryland in the summer. Almost everyone working there is from Russia or surrounding. It always seemed very odd to me and never knew why. I have a clue now. WOW!!
Who else heard this story like 8-years ago on her ‘draw my life’ video?! 🙋🏻♂️
I was so scared for her!
I remember her mentioning it, but never the full details like this. It was terrible before but now it's even more horrifying and heartbreaking. The fact that she has gone through so many incredibly difficult and traumatic experiences and brings so many people peace at night with her love and gentle demeanor is truly admirable. I hold the utmost respect for this amazing woman
🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️ yes I remember, her story made me sad but I’m glad she overcame and is here telling this story now
Here
Yes. So sad. She's a very strong, and special woman
I think it is DEFINITELY a good thing that you've gotten this story out and documented. If nothing else, I think it's very very important to see if that "work and travel" program is still active in Russia. Even without the strip club connection and the 50% of your paycheck getting taken away- the fact that you were encouraged to *not* bring money, that there were that many other "lost" people from that program PLUS that there were Russian-speaking scouts already stationed at the airport to take full advantage of the position you were in and shuttle you around the country to a network of other Russian-speaking people-- that adds up to a very clear trafficking setup. Even if you don't remember a ton of the details, law enforcement needs to be made aware of what you do still remember.
You're also SO RIGHT to emphasize how different the experience feels in the moment vs how one imagines it might feel to be in a "human trafficking" situation. Both you and another woman who commented and told a similar story discussed being taken to parties within your small ex-pat network where you met men who- within a very short time of meeting you- seemed ready and willing to take you into their home and take care of you- and of course all three of you took the offer out of desperation/lack of other options- a situation you'd been manipulated into. (And your first friend that you came here with ended up in the same situation.) Though THANKFULLY it seems both you and your friend and the other commenter had/have healthy relationships with those men, the recurring theme of girls in those desperate situations finding themselves in the same place as wealthy men who speak their language and are interested in someone moving in with them immediately - that is not a coincidence. And though it may not "feel" like prostitution or mail-order-bride trafficking or whatever someone is expecting it to be called, it's very likely that men are being invited to those parties with the promise that there will be a crop of new broke desperate stranded girls who are currently living off one chicken thigh every three days. And I can't imagine every girl ends up in a happy healthy marriage.
Is it possible that the separate flights were part of the scheme? To get them kind of distraught and more vulnerable ?
So many questions about this
@@mariajoaoprimo7218 Either that, or Maria and her friend just booked their flights independently from each other and ended up on different planes that way. Either way, the fact that there was a Russian-speaking guy conveniently stationed at the airport to pick up distraught foreign girls is SUPER concerning.
I know right? The don’t bring much money was a huge red flag but then Maria and her friend and the others did this through their college so it gives the programme more credibility. They also didn’t advise them to avoid arriving on a public holiday and Cleveland is 7hrs drive to New York? Why weren’t they told to get a connecting flight/train/bus and meet him? Much easier for traffickers to deal with ‘lost’ students in one of the busiest airports in the world.
Thank you Maria for your courage in telling your story. Everything you did was in order to survive, and that is strength in itself.
For those of us watching and commenting: as much as it is important to name trafficking for what it is, and acknowledge that deliberately coercive and exploitative techniques were used against Maria, I want to bring focus back to the people in positions of POWER in this story. It is their fault that this happened. Maria, as a survivor of trafficking and someone who has experienced terror and abusive tactics, you are not obligated to report or react in any particular way. Every person reacts to crisis and threats to their safety/survival differently. You are finding your own path towards healing from this and it's not up to any of us to tell you how you should heal. As someone who has worked as a sexual assault support worker, reporting any kind of abuse to law enforcement can be a traumatic experience in itself. Some survivors may feel that they want to fight through the legal system as a way to access healing, but for others it may be more important to focus on establishing safety in their lives. For those of us who are listening and learning: we have immense privilege in this situation. Rather than dictating how survivors should respond, WE can take action to support organizations The Polaris Project in order to work towards ending trafficking and abuse. Please support survivors; let them heal how they need to. polarisproject.org/
Maria don’t apologize for thinking you were “naive”. You were young, in a foreign country with no help or resources, didn’t really speak the language and were taken advantage of and trafficked. I’m happy your life turned out to be happy, married to great guy and have a beautiful little girl.
I used to date a Russian girl named Dasha in the mid 2000’s who had the same exact story as you. I mean, really similar. She came to US with 3 other girls, their “chaperon” to their housing/job never showed up to the airport. They were actually split up after a few days at a motel, and Her job (where she ended up right near where I worked) took large chunks from her paycheck too.
I think you’re badass Maria. People who have struggled and who have street smarts have an edge over others. I could sense it in you from your first vids many years ago.
Wow that's crazy. There definitely was (or is?) some trafficking scheme of young Russian girls going on.
This is absolutely labor trafficking. Trafficking isn’t just sex work, it includes labor. And chances are it’s happening at your local restaurant or spa.
I think it's probably most common at hotels.
And nannies/au pair’s
YES. Trafficking is so common in the United States. Most people don’t realize it’s happening right in front of them. 😭
Are you serious?
No it isn’t. There was no force or coercion anywhere in her story unless I missed something.
Please don't blame yourself Maria, none of this was your fault. This entire ordeal is extremely traumatic and you are so brave for sharing this. Thank you so much, love and respect you.
It’s sickening to know that this goes on all of the time. Maybe there is a way that you can use your RUclips voice and influence to create a program that prevents this from happening to other students.
Thank you for bringing this to light.
Unfortunately the problem started in Russia. How does a university not have procedures in place to ensure the process is safe all the way through.
@@zuzanadubois1218 чел это буквально не русская программа лол
SHERATON needs to pay attention to what they're a part of. That's straight-up human trafficking. Insanely BRAVE of you to share your story! I hope more are able to come forward to bring this gross exploitation to light. and SHOUT OUT to those Russian Students who took you in! They got good karma coins so don't let that weigh you down. Survival girl.
Phrase: My job is to help lost students... Translation: run, you run in the opposite direction as fast as you can
But you know, it's 2005... No such thing as the whole wide internet in your pocket, specially for a russian 18yo that's in New York for like 0.2 seconds. I can't blame the girls that have fallen for this. It's a terrible situation
I think it was clearly organised and made so he met them exactly where they were, i mean.. What a coincidence
AniLehem You go to the airport staff. They would find you a translator, you get in contact with an embassy where they speak Russian, you get home. Never. Ever go with a dude that says it’s his job to help lost students there’s always another way.
AniLehem No one is blaming them, it’s a warning. It’s a lesson for other people. No one should blame Maria or her friend because they have nothing to be guilty of. They were victims.
@@SophieJackson1993 tbh you're right. I think that the first thing I would do is going to the staff. I mean someone had to be at the airport at the time
The “lost students” coming to America is so horrifying and terrible! You’re right Maria, why is this not being talked about?! Does this type of thing happen in any other country? Just horrible.
Yes unfortunately. Maria got very lucky and is a smart girl. Some girls are not given options and just taken. Young, scared and alone. People prey on that.
It happens all over the world. Trafficking is a worldwide thing I'm afraid.
It happens elsewhere but is a much bigger problem here due to the ease of obtaining visas and the enormous number of them given out every year. Plus the fact that more money can be made here makes it a more desirable destination than most other places
so sad that thats too much to ask since the gov wants to treat them like theyre not human
This might not be talked about because she probably doesn't want to talk about it and wants to forget it idk that's what I think
Maria, I’m so glad you’re okay and that everything turned out for the best. I remember watching your older video about this and thinking “definitely trafficking”. It’s so scary to think such people exist, that people manipulate kids and young adults like that. I’m very glad nothing terrible happened, and now you’re living your best life and bringing peace to so many people! ❤️
I had the same thoughts when i saw that video. It is terrifying that they corner you and pressure you into a decision that feels like the only way out.
Ok
SAME.
18 is just a kid.. Omg!
@@yvonneshanson1525 ok
I had a pit in my stomach the whole time watching this. So many predators were circling around you. You were put in desperate situation and you survived. And we are so lucky that you did. You’ve helped so many people with your ASMR and this video will help others, too. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Can we take a moment to enjoy how Maria described Daryl exactly when she was talking about her type? Because that really made me smile despite the horrors of the rest of her story.
Yeah that always strikes me when she's talking about her type LoL. Albeit not my type, Daryl is a good-looking dude and he seems to be a good dude too.
"Do we have any other options?"
And that right there is the position they put you in to make girls more vulnerable to being trafficked. I can tell you still feel really upset by what happened and It's absolutely not your fault. Y'all were practically kids and were victims of human traffickers who clearly knew what they were doing. This is so upsetting because I know for a fact it still happens today- I just hope that other girls have happy endings too
I’m so confused though because she DID have another option right? She had a job & place to stay she only had to wait 2 days to call back because of Memorial Day weekend. I’m super confused.
@@alison2649 The traffickers would have been using deliberate psychological tactics of manipulation to stop them from being able to think clearly and make them feel they didn't have a choice or anyone else to turn to. :(
Alison H I would have stayed in the airport for a couple of days. There’s evil in the world. Youthful ignorance? Glad they were OK.
Alison H I don’t think there was ever a legitimate job or place for her to stay in Cleveland. The whole thing was a scam. The guy that met her at the airport was in on it and I don’t think it would have mattered if she waited :/ Also yeah like people have said they were young and easily manipulated
Alison H she did not it is very clear that this “program” her and her friend did AND the travel agencies were all set ups and the fact that this hotel was also filled with other students from the same agencies shows that
Maria, you speak about this almost like you’ve normalized it in a lot of ways or allowed yourself to spiritually bypass some of the harm that was done. I can’t imagine how traumatic this was- you might consider finding a therapist who specializes in trauma to focus on this time in your life with you. The feelings of hopelessness, fear, and mistrust had to have rooted so deeply in you...make sure you keep taking care of that young girl inside you if those feelings resurface in other ways. You are such a strong woman and I’m so impressed with how you fought through that time and have come out so far ahead. We as a society need to keep working on ways to shed light on human trafficking and prosecute those involved. There’s still so much work to be done there. Thank you for sharing your story.
THIS!! Therapy is so important. Studies and funding are now moving ahead with MDMA for PTSD. Even just chatting with a professional who has experience with trauma and helps women who have been abused/manipulated/trafficked would be so deeply helpful. Maria, you help so many people with your words and caring energy - your ASMR is so popular and loved by so many. You clearly are a very giving person (sometimes this can work against us, and you had to use it to survive). We pacify people, we walk on eggshells, we are people-pleasers, we make too many compromises and we just try to reduce harm, but you clearly still have wounds (completely normal and understandable). I can only imagine how intense this would be thinking back on it now that you have your own daughter!
Just for anyone else reading this; anyone in a tough situation, or with little or no money, or are being pressured:
There is ALWAYS another way. You don't HAVE to do anything you don't feel comfortable with. You shoudl trust your INSTINCTS. There are good people out there, agencies, nonprofits, churches, government, police, so many people that you can reach out to if you find yourself in a similar situation. Even at the airport, they have security and police on site and ways to call people for you, or send you back home or at least let you find safete; STOP, THINK, ASK for help, for a phone call, NEVER go with a stranger who is so conveniently there to "help lost -------" whatever you might be. They are not there out of the goodness of their heart and it's not a coincidence. STAY SAFE!
I had the same thought--especially now that she's the mother to a daughter. I was sexually abused as a child and kept it on lockdown for YEARS, but it really resurfaced once I became a mother to two girls. I'm in therapy now which is helping immeasurably. Maria, you don't have to carry the burden of this trauma with you, even if you think you're okay now. You're amazing and you've overcome so much!
Yes I completely agree! Thank you for saying this!
I wholeheartedly agree! .. there's much trauma involved here.. and also a need to examine the reasons she let herself endure such cruel situations for so long.. Unhealed trauma can implode later in destructive forms to others or to ourselves.. Maria already talked about post weaning depression and such...
BeautifullyExtreme I agree. It sounds like she’s justifying what happened because “it all came out ok”. This was a scam from the get-go; even before she got on the plane to leave her own country! Of course we had the benefit of seeing scenarios like this on Law and Order back then, which she did not at that time. Undocumented illegal workers parlayed for the sex trade. Restrict their travel funds then take their money up front and make them helpless. . Thank the Lord she IS ok. Nothing in that story was “normal” except that at 18 she was too naive to realize how much danger she actually was in. This is not a criticism of her behavior. Just that she’s not recognizing (or saying out loud at least) how seriously bad and dangerous it was.
WHY ARE WE NOT HOLDING Sheraton Hotel accountable?!?!?!?!
Because it's murky AF and nobody in power wants to go there legally. It's the same thing over and over again everywhere. The hotels have contracts (that stipulates that everything has to be legal) with a subcontractor who then does all the shady shit.
If they get found out, the subcontractor just shuts down, creates a new business before the end of the week, and start up all over again - and the hotel goes free because it was all the subcontractors responsibility; they had their own paperwork in order. Oh they ABSOLUTELY know that they are getting trafficked people, but are just not saying it officially. Convenient blindness.
The only way to do anything about shit like this is education and boycott, because you're not gonna get any legislation to stop it - the underlying legal mechanics are too profitable, safe and convenient for rich people.
another reason im not going to that crapy place
The hotel industry has lobbyists in every State Capitol to ensure that tougher laws that would address these types of problems are never enacted. Secondly, since these girls are foreigners their (foreign) parents have no clout with elected officials here to ever change things.
Because no one cares who hires illegal immigrants. This, is fallout from that. The hispanic roofer, the russian stripper, and all the others are a direct result of lax immigration laws. Blame it on yourself, you let it happen everyday. Still think it doesn't affect you? INS should know who everyone working in the US is.
This is a horrifying story (at least the first part!) Seems to me this David was in cahoots with the people who sent you to America. Seems like too much of a coincidence that two Russian girls ended up in New York and there just happened to be a Russian guy there who found you...
Definitely, no question about it
And in addition those other "lost students". I think it's all planned, that guy at the airport knew they would be there and was waiting for them.
his "job"
Yes
And their arrival was just coincidentally on Memorial Day, when their employer would be closed and they would be particularly vulnerable.
Omg that’s so horrifying, imagine being 18 alone in a foreign country
Welcome to the immigrant life!
that actually happens a lot in Europe, as a lot of us are raised bilingual (or more!) so we get the opportunity to study at university in a different country! it's not as scary as it sounds tho, at least from my experience, you just have to be careful with whom you interact.
@@Heyflaviaahey studying at a foreign university is a lot different than a work program, though.
@@aliciashanks5239 I agree! but given that the comment was vague, I answered from a place of personal experience, as I haven't experienced a work program before :)
Not that scary. I got lost in a forest in a foreign country at 15.
I can't believe this was university sponsored :(
corruption at all levels ;_;
Exactly what I was thinking!
It happens here, too..
I know!! It's sickening!! 😓
In faux University, Russian "agency" sponsors you.
you definitely need to be mad at those guys who catcalled and harassed you. men standing outside your home is a terrifying situation and they should know not to do that. you are an incredibly strong woman who survived a lot. I'm so glad you have a happy, safe, and beautiful life now!
👏👏
A true rags to riches story, indeed.
Reading through most of the comments, I honestly thought this was gonna end up a LOT worse. Not to trivialize what you went through, but I feel like you dodged several bullets along the way. Props to you for not falling for the strip club gig. I'd bet my whole paycheck that job was something else entirely.
You didn't mention this, so I have to ask....are you/have you gotten therapy for all this? Because it definitely seems like you're not only still dealing with this, but still blame yourself for whatever reason. As others have said, this is NOT your fault! These guys obviously run a very intricate trafficking scheme. Which surprises me that they even allowed you to escape. But we're all glad that you did.
Call it success.
I love how shes like "im russian and its rough so im gonna just make a lighter torch if needed".
She’s talking about other stories she’s told us, like being assaulted when she lived in Russia
That’s just what living in Russia is like
Valeriya Pasternakova Are you Russian as well?
@@Buttsceatcgee her name is obviously russian
Little Lamb I know, I just want to make sure and not assume lol
The mere fact all the "helpers" had vans speaks volumes and is so cringy!..
I have a college age daughter. Vans scare me.
@@ramongonzalez2112 ikr?! Sending safe vibes to both ❤️...
Me too! When she said she went on a van, my heart stopped for a sec
Right?? You would think they would try not to be so conspicuous by now.
Omg yes! When I look at certain shady vans I think of this. In college I did a project on human trafficking and read lots of testimonies of survivors . I just think of victims being transferred from place to place in vans. Heartbreaking
2005 it's just like another world basic, seriously, and you was basically a teenager, thank God that everything turned out great
Maria, my heart goes out to you! You are incredibly brave going through all of that and figuring out life on your own in a foreign country. You're definitely saving lives with your story, thank you for sharing
Your story made me realize I was almost a victim of human trafficking myself... The same bs about work and travel, vague details, no or empty promises of work, everything being super rushed up. Thank you for sharing your story Masha, you're a lovely person and a strong woman.
Your friend basically abandoned you. I understand why you're not friends anymore. You're such a strong, intelligent person. Your videos have helped me so much and I'm sure this video will help a lot of youngsters too
But she saved her by inviting her to a bday party. Don't forget that.
Yea that’s fucked up how she rolled out and deserted her with a broken back as well!!
Evgeniya JZ how she saved her from taking her to a party? Saving someone is offering clothes, food, shelter, advice, money etc.
Cmon bruv
@@27management she saved her by taking her to a party, unknowingly. There, she met her future husband. If her friend didn't invite her, Masha would be in a big trouble and back in Russia hungry, malnourished and sick
Evgeniya JZ boy you’re an idiot and don’t get the point
she’s using this channel so much lately :) i love it!!
Maria, Did you ever confirm that the initial job offering in Russia was legitimate in New York? I am so sorry to hear how rough was your start here in US and it takes a lot of courage to tell your story. The guy in the airport was a trafficker and those jobs modern day slavery. My joy for you is you got out and made a wonderful life for yourself. You are a survivor and a warrior.
She said at the start that the job was in Cleveland and she talked to the employer over the phone for an interview in Russia.
@Lalealyn wasn't it set up through her university? This story is awful and I don't mean to be rude but it's odd that she didn't just rent a cheap hotel on her own and contact the original employers after memorial day
@@angelicaengel6952 they did speak English, they attended a linguistics uni and in a previous video Maria stated the job had something to do with her proficiency in English. I find it hard to believe they were so naive they didn't know how to find a hotel. But maybe it was just a different era back then and she was naive, and maybe some bits of her story are forgotten or she's protecting her privacy
@@dandelion5410 dude she didn't even have a cell phone, today you can search for hotels, get an Uber and contact your parents on the other side of the world instantly but it wasn't the case back then. They arrived at night what makes it even worse too.
Lalealyn well yeah totally bs job. I was just answering your question about what verifications she said she got before. I guess you just trust a business/agency and someone they put you in touch with. Scary stuff.
This must have been a really hard experience. I’m sorry this happened to you, but thank you for sharing ❤️
Ok
You're Russian?! Your English is better than most native speakers.
Well, while I'm very disturbed with how you were introduced to our country, I'm very glad you decided to stay. The world needs good people like you very badly. The silver lining to all trauma is the ability to help others.
Makes me think about how bullshit the saying that your 20s are the best years of your life. We are vulnerable, don't know much, fragile. It's not the best, I'm 27 now and I feel like I'm better off that naivety, anger, and being impressionable that is fading away with experience.
I 100% agree with you
The narrative about our 20s (and/or teens/childhood) being the best time or our life IS absolute bullshit. These years are no better or worse than our older ones, they are at the foundation of our life and are only there to pave the road for the rest. Period. Indeed, we are considerably more vulnerable at younger ages, and predators of all kinds know this all too well! Many go through really rough times at these ages, including because of this. No idea why some people would pick this kind of mess over being a confident adult...
I have to agree and disagree with you on this. Part of the reason why young peolle today are saying that its BS is because they were never prepared properly by their parents to live independently to the point where they can "have the best time of their life". I was 20 when I moved out, worked and went to school full time, and learned the hard way about life. But by the time I was 25 I had a good job, I lived in a nice apartment and was making enough money to pay rent and eat live comfortable. Today young people have helicopter parents that teach them nothing or buttloads of student debt because they think getting able degree in advanced lesbian studies will help them in life. Young people are being led astray by their parents and this is the reason why they feel that way. Now that being said, I will say my 30s have been the best years but that is because I got married and had children. But I couldnt have done it had it not been for the foundation of the 20s. Anyway, that's my 1 cent. Enjoy your life to the fullest and make smart decisions and you will be successful.
@@loveamerica5725 nice apartments and jobs with sustainable paychecks don't exist anymore, so..
@@loveamerica5725 mmmh how do you think young people are living now?
WOW, I feel like you were scammed from the beginning by your language school. I'm a US citizen and got a one year visa to live in Sweden in 1999 as part of my language studies (I was 19). Even in that era, throughout my stay, I was in constant contact with my home university via email (using public library computers), and they and my employer abroad had to pass strict government approval before I was even approved for a visa. Also, the preparation was extensive, and I was given advice on how to set up a bank account (in addition to bringing a credit card). I had so many "outs" once I arrived if something went wrong. I could find a computer and email someone, and I always had an emergency phone card with me (which came with directions on how to call outside countries) in case there was trouble. Plus, I think my employer and my university were required to alert authorities if I didn't show up upon entering the country. To me, your story sounds like a Russian bride service or something was working with your language school to offer a totally bogus program to lure young women into their net. I'm just so confused how either government didn't catch that during the visa process. Especially when it sounds like many women from the program stayed in the US beyond their return date due to marriage. I'm so glad you made it through that ordeal safely, and that it led to your beautiful life now!
I remember you sharing this story years ago - it was a lip smacking video, I believe titled “How I Came to USA”, or something similar. The difference in maturity and articulation in the way that you reflect on this experience in this video vs the old one is astounding. I remember watching the other video years ago and feeling so sad for you - and I still do, in a way. But now, I watch this one and I also feel a sense of pride in your growth as a person. This video feels as though you’ve reclaimed the experience and are able to reflect from a more objective and happier standpoint now in life. Hugs to you, Maria ❤️
I can’t believe how well she speaks English.👍
Me too I was shocked when she first told this story in 2011 or so and how she spoke about it in such a laissez-fair type way but I think that's a defense mechanism
Me too....i still have it saved to my playlist.I could never hear the whole story until now as I would always fall asleep. I'm glad she told it in her regular voice.
Big facts
I cried. I legitimately cried. you are seriously one of the strongest women I know, and one of my biggest role models.
I was more irritated than sad but I agree with you. Does she even have papers? Illegal immigration is terrible. Did she say she was a stripper after staying in the country illegally? Mija we need to contact ICE. 🤬
Nick, she was a victim of abuse!!! What is your problem?! Maybe you should read up on trauma so you can have a better appreciation of what she went through. You are focused on the wrong issue!!
@@GaryNightHawkDid you even watch the video? Do either of your 2 brain cells work?
@@GaryNightHawk she’s married to an american, bruh, and her kid is an american. If you marry an american you get to stay in the country legally regardless
I can hear the pain in her voice and it breaks my heart. She’s such a beautiful soul and I hate people are put in these situations.
What's ur Instagram's?
I just want to go back in time and give teenage Maria food, shelter and a job!
i don't know why... but this comment makes me cry
I would too but then there's the possibility that she wouldn't have met Darryl
Same. So sad that this is probably still happening right now
Ahhh I’ve been curious more about this ever since your “Draw My Life” waaaaay back in the day 😂 Looking forward to learning more about you ♥️
Sameee
oh my god yes same! it’s been so long
Same here. I've wondered since what happend to Maria's friend, and now I got the answer: the friend got a boyfriend and started working at a restaurant😊
yess i had a feeling it was this back then
Same!
It was not your bad. You were barely a young adult, more of a child ❤️
These people knew what they were doing. It is modern slavery and trafficking.
Echoing the other voices here reminding you that you were in no way, shape or form responsible for any of this. That you spend so much time and effort to bring peace to others speaks volumes about your character. I've admired you as a content creator for years and the more I learn about you the more I'm amazed by your outlook on life. Thank you for sharing your story.
Maria this is an extremely traumatic situation to go through. I’m not trying to amplify anything but I can’t even imagine the fear and confusion you must have felt during all of this. Please please please take care of yourself and if you haven’t processed this with a counselor/therapist please consider it. ❤️❤️❤️ I am so glad you’re okay. NONE of this is your fault. You were unfairly taken advantage of.
It seems like you’ve had bad experiences in telling this story in the past. It seemed clearly very hard to share, I noticed you tensing up, pulling away from the camera, offering up defenses for your actions and thoughts back then. I could feel your anxiety through the screen.
It makes it hard to watch because you are so clearly so uncomfortable and I feel terrible that you feel the need to arise to your own defense like that, and that people have made enough assumptions that you anticipate them like that, and that people will continue to do so and question your panicked brain thinking and forced “choices”. I’m sorry that has happened. That’s a terrifying situation to be in. I only got trapped in an airport without a way to have full control over the situation of getting myself home one time and it was just in Arizona, one state over from California. I had no money of my own but I also had someone to call, and that was scary and panic-inducing enough. I can’t imagine having no one to call for help and being thousands and thousands of miles away from home in a completely different country and having to think and speak in two languages. And back in 2005, smart phones didn’t exist. You had every right to be scared. Don’t blame yourself.
Thank you for your courage in sharing your story.
I made it through the entire video but I too picked up on her anxiety and sheer fear retelling her story. Definitely had a hard time watching this but glad I did, very much worth the listen.
Hi- C People have been leaving judgmental and victim blaming comments and I’m so disappointed. I was really hoping people wouldn’t be so awful, but alas.
I worked as a housekeeper in hotels for years and it is NO JOKE. Very hard work and you are never appreciated and at least in my experience you are treated like you are beneath everybody. So I really appreciate the acknowledgement, especially from one of my favorite asmr artist. 😊💜
I think you need to address the ppl at that school that offered the program bc seems like that is the place that lead to all of that...and perhaps is still doing it to other girls
The program still exists
This story makes me side eye these hotels and how they hire these housekeepers. I'm SO sorry you experienced this Maria! I remember you briefly sharing this story in your "draw my life" and thinking "that was a strange way to come to America" and of course i was still in high school when i found your asmr videos. I'm an adult now and know you are a survivor of human trafficking and I hope you received all the therapy and healing from that awful situation!
Your friend just basically leaving u behind broke my heart. Just unbelievable. I'm so sorry you went through all that. It sounds terrifying, especially being so young. Lots of love, Maria.
The tone in your voice alone retelling this made my stomach drop. We’re so, so thankful you’re ok.
Amen.
Masha, sharing is part of healing. This macho system threatens in every one of its forms, from human trafficking (because that's what you lived through), the intimidating boys outside your building, getting married in order to survive. It is that same culture, that same society which turns its back on you and makes you feel guilty and thus continue to function. You were a victim, in each of those circumstances. Give a hug to your teenager self, who had the strength to survive and another to your current self who has the courage to tell this raising awareness in this matters. Lots of love 💕
It's not a macho system. There are plenty of women who traffic young girls into sex trades. Stop sounding like a dumb liberal.
Camilla thank you!.. It's a Patriarchal world, all the way
Yes, and it's the same "macho" system as well that would "deal" with these scumbags. Where ever there is 1 bad person, there are 5 more people that are good.
@@TheGoodfella7272 yeah, right.. probably y this system is so allowed to run rampant to this day, huh?..
@@yvonneshanson1525 lol, I think he means it "would" deal with them in a n o t h e r l i f e, you know, the one where they "would" leave their couch and the porn 😝🤣🤣
I'm so sorry. I sound like you are still blaming yourself though a bit and it is NOT your fault. The whole thing seems to have been orchestrated for trafficking. Lots of western countries have this going on. I'm in the UK and have met people from poorer European countries who have been used basically as slave labour as 'au pairs' or in car washes. The set up is that all your money goes on expenses, or they create 'debt' so you can never get out.
Bless your heart, I'm so glad your life is happy and healthy now ❤️
I knew when you started talking about the guy at the party, that it was going to be your ex. I'm so sorry that all of that happened to you. I'm glad it all worked out and you have your beautiful family.
This is one of the scariest, most heartbreaking, and also amazing stories I've ever heard. I could actually FEEL the anxiety and stress that jerk was putting on you, trying to get you to move faster, make a decision, act now! That's how traffickers work, sadly. Get you all riled up and panicked, so you just agree to whatever they say. I wish you hadn't had to feel those things, or experience that dire situation. I am glad that you survived it, and became the amazing woman you are today. You have a wonderful husband and a beautiful daughter now, and that's such a blessing. A world without Maria would be a terrible and sad place. ❤️❤️❤️
Those guys sitting outside your place stalking you should be blamed. They were sexually harassing you and intimidating you so badly that you were afraid to leave your house!
I’m SO happy you ended up being safe and happy in the end of it all. I don’t even want to think what could have happened. You are SO strong and just wow. All the best to you and your family in the future, Maria
The idea behind the "rush" is to keep you reacting, not thinking. It's a very calculated, effective way to control people, to keep them vulnerable and from making good decisions. This was absolutely well-organized trafficking and you did the best you could. Thank you so much for sharing this. The world is a much better place with you in it, and we're all so glad you're on the other side of this experience.
I remember this story with the cherry background, I’m so happy to get to hear it again with a new perspective
This is so heartbreaking. I remember feeling like a grown-up too at 18 and I'm sure I would have wanted to handle everything by myself too, but now at 30 I realize I was absolutely not a grown-up, I was a kid. Your story is sad. It's sad that you were met with so much evil and so little compassion at such a young age. I am glad that you were able to make the best out of your situation, however. I hope you are happy and fulfilled now, but the feeling I take away from this is "holy crap, does this happen to kids every day? is it still happening right now?".
I wish your dad helped you vet the arrangements you made. Encouraging independence is fine, but help out a little. Also, why didn’t your parents arrange for you to come home? Did you not want to go home at that point?
One of my go-tos for planning a trip overseas is to locate the Embassies/Consulates for my country nearest to where I'm staying. I write down the address, the phone number, and basic directions from either the place I'm staying or a major landmark. I also look at the google map street view for a better feel. Then I memorize how to get there. There are now apps that you can download for safer travel and they can send you updates about safety/threat levels.
But in 2005, we didn't have smartphones or apps. I myself flew to st louis from Russia in 2005 and got stuck in New York due to a snowstorm so had to figure out how to get the hotel for the night and food and all by myself with a pay phone and a very little English.
@@EvgeniyaJZ Yes...I'm aware we didnt have smart phones in 2005. The comment was about recent travel. When i traveled overseas in 2005 i had a piece of paper the size of a business card with how to call my country from the country i was in, the number of the local Embassy(with address), and emergency numbers used in that country. Most airports at the time had calling card you could buy and put money on instead of using coins. I also emailed my family regularly from internet cafés which were very common at the time. The orginal comment are all just things that can help someone now who's traveling for the first time overseas and may have some anxiety because i did the first time i traveled so far from home. (Girl Scouts/People to People Student Ambassador were two programs I was involved in as a child/teen. They have in depth information and meetings prior to traveling that I still use to this day. Just passing some of that on.)
They definitely preyed on you both and kept it fast paced on purpose so you had no time to think, only time to be manipulated. I'm glad the story has a happy ending but I'm sure there are so many stories where it doesn't have a happy ending :(
Oh my hunny. I remember being so concerned when I heard about this in your draw my life video. I am so so sorry that you had such a scary experience. I am so glad that you got through it relatively safe. Your poor mama, must have been terrified when she got that call. Please don’t be hard on yourself about this. You were so young, and none of this was your fault.
"I don't need no flirting, don't even touch me" lol vibes
I took the strip club route when I was homeless as a teenager. It was hard but it kept me alive for sure. Your situation reminds me of mine and is also a harsh remembrance of how rough it is to be a young woman alone in the USA.
Did the "travel agency" that sent you to the US get reported?
Work and travel is a government program that still exist in 2020 and is still riddled with abuses and exploitation. A man in Florida was arrested in 2015 for trafficking girls through this program. If you google: "work and travel usa exploitation" you will find a lot of stuff. Truly disgusting
@@Sophya7 and yet no one stops them, truly disgusting.
It's pretty much active. I'm not sure if Maria was contacted by the actual company though. I knew people who had a contract with "Work and travel". Once they went to the States and Turkey, they never came back. Not like "they disappeared", more like "they liked it so much that decided to stay". Listening to Maria's story I'm worried about the girls. Were the prospects so bright or was it something darker? Feels like I've dodged a bullet.
So many of us went through this man... It's been 13 years since my "from Russia with love" story, but talking about it still makes me anxious. Being a minor, not speaking the language, trusting the people with your "background and culture"...
Some of my friends had their passports and SS cards taken from them by some Armenian mob, they worked for like $2/h cleaning motels day in and day out...
Your video brought so many bitter memories, but I thank God for all those kind people we met along the way, who cared enough to drag us out of that nightmare.
Oh my gosh, Im so sorry that this happened to you too. I hope you are doing well now.
Tot I sure do, thank you so much 🙏🏻 I went from not speaking a word of English to obtaining two degrees and becoming a business owner. So what doesn’t break us definitely makes us stronger!
@@4erkeshenka wow! Im glad people like you move to America and make our country a better place! I wish you the best. Like Maria, you're so much braver than I could ever be! 🙏
@@4erkeshenka you are so incredible! a resilient and inspiring woman. I'm going to university this September, nervous because I don't think I'm good enough. But reading your story I have no excuses. Love and blessings always from London :) x
Lucky best of luck, darling! You can do anything you put your mind to!
Maria!! I’ve followed you for YEARS and waited a long time to know more of this story and here it is - you inspire, strengthen, calm and encourage me every day and I love you!
Maria if you felt threatened by the actions of those Men sitting on your porch then they weren't "hitting" on you, they were verbally and sexually assaulting you. And they are very much to blame for their actions. We need to start calling this stuff out.
'try to flirt'... nope, still sexual harassment.
Agreed. No shade on her but saying she doesn't blame them was frustrating
When I heard about these guys trying to "hit on", I was so flabbergasted. They could easily break into her room and rape her, or kidnap her to prostitution slavery. She's so lucky I cannot even imagine how.
What a horrible experience, but you pulled through it and have made a great life for yourself! Much respect for your strength and perseverance.
Oh sweet girl. I can see you've had to stop/edit because you were crying..And I'm only 13 minutes into the video. Not saying the vid looks bad. It doesn't. It looks great, you're as beautiful as ever. I can just see the tears behind your eyes, and the remnants of the ones that have already fell. It absolutely breaks my heart that you went through this. I'm ashamed of my country for allowing this.
We love you Maria. We admire you. And most of all, we are PROUD of you. 💜 💛 💚 🧡
Did you ever turn this agency in to the authorities?
I have always thought this situation was fishy from your very first videos speaking of it and I'm so sorry it happened to you, but I'm so glad you have the life you do now.
Also it was NOT your fault. I wish we could find whoever made that program and sue them.
I have a teenage daughter and tell her to never go with strangers. But these predators are omnipresent, conniving and deceptive. Terrifying.👹
I am sorry you were a victim of human trafficking, Maria. I am happy that things turned out so happy for you in the long run. So many do not have a happy ending. Telling your story is so important for those who may be preyed on in the future.
If someone chooses to be a stripper I suppose that is their choice but most girls do that to support drug habits or as a result of sex trafficking. It is a victim filled industry.
this could literally be a movie
It's called, "Taken"
Maria.... You have a voice. Speak out about this human trafficking scheme. You are a survivor. Be a champion for those who are yet to be taken advantage of.
As much as such enthusiasm is appreciated, I do not think we are in a position to tell Maria what to do, especially not in the imperative mood.
Yes!!! Please use your platform and audience to spread awareness and give hope to other victims. You are amazing and you are so brave! Thank you 🙏
@@eyered6349 because she has the courage to bring it up, is when one must strike while the iron is hot. Thus do I try to help push her forward. Every opportunity must be taken to eliminate these sick and outright...evil people. But I get where you are coming from. 👊😎
Your point about how these events were scary but not as "intense" as most movies show human trafficking to be is so important, I think - the way these ventures persist is by being insidious and manipulating situations rather than being overtly aggressive. They do everything in their power to create a situation where you are vulnerable and feel obligated to go with them of your own "free will" (even though you are actually being coerced) and ease you into what is happening. I think there's a good chance they offered the second housekeeping option because that way, the girls who took the strip club option because they were too afraid to leave New York or needed money more immediately would be made to feel that working there was their "choice" and wouldn't report it to the police.
Girl- traveling to a different country is confusing at any age- much less a teenager! You were a victim of circumstances and predators. I'm so happy you are OK and have blessed us with your gifts
I hear you Maria. My arrival here from Brazil in 2007 wasn’t very smooth either. I was 21 and alone. I missed my connection from NY to Green Bay and had no clue how to get anywhere or call the agency. I had $500 as well and spoke broken English. Definitely a tough learning experience. Glad things worked out for both of us. 🙂
Omg I would have been sketched out just to get in a VAN.
That's exactly what I was thinking. A van? VAN? Egads!
What a nightmare. I think I would have flown home straight away or walked to my embassy. I wouldn't have had the courage to stay. Respect!
I was thinking the same thing.... what a terrible situation to be in.
I would never send my teenage daughter alone like that to a dangerous country.
The agency you coordinated with sounds like the definition of sketchy. A huge red flag should have been that you were flying into New York to meet an employer from Cleveland, Ohio(!) Those are two totally different regions of the country--500 miles apart! Also, American restaurants are never closed on Memorial Day weekend. This supposed employer almost certainly never existed. I know you were legally an adult, but I feel like your parents should have done some research.
Parents of kids in this situation are probably just seeing it as an opportunity for them to get to the US and therefore an opportunity to have a better life
@@a9029k Right, but even so, most parents wouldn't want their children stumbling into a sex trafficking ring. That's clearly what this was, since this David fellow who channelled girls into the strip club was conveniently waiting for them at the airport.
NerveBible frankly it sounds like the goal, or at least the hope, all along was exactly what ultimately happened.. meeting someone to marry and not going back to Russia. At one point she mentions having a return flight booked for 3 months later but never says what happened with that, but presumably she did not use it, nor did the friend she traveled with, and I assume this was the case for many of the other girls. I’m sure they were aware when they decided to go that this was how it ended up working out for other girls who’d done this in the past. And I would imagine her parents had a decent idea when she left that it would likely be a permanent move.
@@a9029k That may be a hope of many women on temporary visas but I doubt they (or their families) would go along with it if they knew it was a "bait and switch" operation in which they're lured with the promise of legitimate work and then pressured into stripping and likely prostitution.
NerveBible People from Eastern Europe had no idea what the USA was back then. They thought that it was the most free, democratic, rich country, just like it was presented in Hollywood and The Voice of America. Sending your kid there meant that the kid will be taken care of by good rich people from a superior race, who knew right from wrong and were taking directions from Jesus himself. So thinking about Ohio New York distance is the last think parents would think in a situation like this. The thought of being kidnapped and trafficked only occurred after getting out of the plane, not before that.
I'll be honest with you, I really didn't want to finish watching this because it made me feel very uneasy. But I'm glad I did. I'm very proud of you for keeping your head on straight and persevering and ending up where you are today. You're a very special person and I have enjoyed seeing all the supportive comments by your "RUclips Family". Thanks for sharing. 😷🛤
You were a lump of coal. Doing well under immense pressure, you are now a diamond. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Maria!
Wow, what an incredible and difficult journey. Thank you for sharing!
I can’t even imagine the stress you went through during your arrival. You were so young how could you have known what to expect!
This hurts my heart so much 😢 It’s a miracle you’re still alive. Just think of all those lost students who were forced into awful situations. Or, who sadly did experience the worst when they were waiting at a phone booth in the middle of the night, trying to phone home. Or those who never managed to buy that chicken thigh 💔 You are a warrior Maria! 💪 How can we stop this awful human trafficking and modern day slavery?! Please use your platform to keep raising awareness for this ❤️
This is a throwback, I remember when you did that draw my Life thing and many people were telling you that you were being trafficked.
“No time to think” that’s how conmen/con-women prey on vulnerable individuals.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am grateful you found your way to this place safely. If you have any guilt, know that you have helped so many people, in a real way, when you were in a place to be able to help. You are so kind, gracious, generous and humble. Thank you for being you.