Hello friends, today I'll talk about my journey into motherhood from wanting no children to now being in my second pregnancy. The ups, the downs, the fears, the unexpected things while trying to conceive again. I'm recovering from a bit of a cold, sorry for my voice. 00:00 Intro 02:14 Not knowing if we wanted children 04:36 Fertility first time at 31 05:21 Zero to 1 transition, mental struggle 07:52 Fertility second time at 36 09:40 Health issues while trying 14:08 Doubting my decision 14:56 Supplements that I recommend Prenatal multi amzn.to/4hdDi3r Prenatal DHA amzn.to/4dWMjLn Active B9 Folate (this helps my anxiety, somehow) amzn.to/48kJv9C Men's Fertility go.sylikes.com/eNkXKuiWrRoW 16:19 Miscarriage 17:28 Steps that helped us get pregnant, unconventional 19:51 Insulin spikes tracking during ovulation 22:04 Believing in perfect timing 23:58 Fears about being older parents 27:15 Nesting, getting supplies ready 30:04 Hypnobirthing 34:15 Why I didn't share about this journey sooner
Hi Maria & family Congratulations it's a wonderful blessing to have kids ......me and my husband are trying for our 4th one and our three kids are - 16yr , 14yrs & 10yrs
Congratulations!!! I'm really excited for you guys. I know this is gonna sound nuts but I had a hunch you're expecting because you have changes in your face. So beautiful but there was a subtle change I noticed in your previous videos. Love u and your openness. ❤❤❤
Hello Maria, I just wanted to recommend that you check out Once Upon a Child (there are a few in the greater Sacramento area) for second hand children’s things. I am amazed at how many parents aren’t aware of this store! Best wishes to you and your beautiful family! 💙
Dear Maria, I recommend the book Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, it really helped me have a different birthing experience compared to my 1st baby. I cannot recommend this book enough.
Masha- it’s beautiful of you to share this. I was so thrilled when you shared your pregnancy online because I’ve been following your videos for 10 years, and suddenly I find out we are both pregnant at the same time! I’m at ten weeks and this is my first successful pregnancy so the IVF (as it has been a journey). My wife and I are a lesbian couple who have been through both multiple egg retrievals and multiple IVF cycles and we are thrilled now and blessed for our little growing one. Thank you for bringing awareness to this *under-discussed* topic and caring to talk about. You are beautiful inside and out and I’m thrilled for you and your beautiful family. Congratulations and much love to you ❤🎉😊@sassymasha
My mom had me at age 43. I’m turning 30 in November and my mom just turned 73. My older parents have poured so much wisdom into me. I can’t imagine it any other way
“The dance” 😂 Maria I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your humor, candor and openness. You don’t have to share your life so intimately with us, you don’t owe us anything more than you already have given us, but it’s so special to get such a glimpse into your life. I know there are so many people that your content helps and makes them feel seen and less lonely. You’re very special and we love you so much! So happy for you and your family.
Hey!! Quiet watcher over here 🫶🏼 but I just want to say that my mom was 39 when she had me (I’m 21 right now) and I can say she really is my best friend!! So no need to worry about relating to your child at an older age!! Your bond is not gonna be any different 😘
This is so true!! I had a baby at 44 yrs. She is 17 now and we are the best of friends . I enjoy being an older mother because I'm wiser and with a child... I never felt old.
I just had my first child at 41, I have definitely worried about being an older parent but, I am so blessed to have her. I have always wanted to be a mother, so having her was the greatest blessing. ❤️
I had my first (and only) child at 41. She's now 13; I'm 54. I am a WAY better parent than I would have been if I'd had her when I was young. I am glad I waited to have a child. P.S. This wasn't really a choice so much as life circumstance. I married when I was 40; just sharing that it's ok to have a child later in life.
@@abbieliz396that’s not a kind comment it’s our bodies and we can wait however much longer we want. The pressures to be a mother at certain age is ridiculously toxic so telling someone that they shouldn’t wait that “long” is very rude. Everyone’s body , timing, finances etc are different. My mother had me at 37 and I have a lot of aunts that had my cousins in their 40s we are all healthy. I might add I’m 38 no kids and I don’t need to rush bc someone like you thinks women shouldn’t wait “too long” what happens if a person hasn’t met the right person or they have been unsuccessful ? It’s OUR choice and responsibility.
I had my first and only child at 41 too. He's 4 now and I'm 45. I didn't wait on purpose, my life journey just worked out that way. But I too know that I'm a much better mom than I would have been had I had a baby earlier. This kid is the light of my life and I wouldn't change anything about our journey.
As a nearly 38 year old woman who has experienced 3 pregnancy losses and is struggling with fertility I'm SO grateful for not only this video but the comment section. Reading the experiences of so many women and hearing your vulnerability gives me hope that whatever is meant to be will be. So much love to you all 💜
Сочувствую вам🙏🏻 я потеряла однажды ребёнка, и больше беременности не наступало. Сейчас я без отношений, но всё же у меня остаётся маленькая надежда, что я стану мамой. И вам того же желаю 💕
My mother was 37 when she had me. She told me the same thing. That she was afraid that she would be (as she put it) an old "fuddy duddy." That she would be too old when I was a teenager and she wouldn't know how to relate. That couldn't have been further from the truth. She was an awesome mother. I think just the fact that you're worried about it speaks volumes. Congratulations to you both, Maria. I'm so happy for you!
My husband and I tried to conceive for 7 years after I got off the pill at age 28. I found out it was my stressful job that was forbidding pregnancy. As soon as I quit that stressful job and found another less stressful job, I got pregnant 3 months later. I'm sharing this story for others to not give up hope. We went through so many treatments and doctors appoints and it turned out it was me and my stress levels. I finally gave birth to a healthy baby girl 3 months after my 35 bday.
Dear Maria, I started watching you when I was 12, and I am 23 now! I have always felt a motherly energy from you, and having basically grown up with you, I think you are an amazing woman who I aspire to be! Also, don't be scared of being an old parent- you will have more wisdom to share :)
My mom had me at 38! I’m the fifth child. My dad was 48. Im 26 now and even though my parents are “old” it’s oddly extremely comforting. My parents have so much life experience and share with me what their youth was like. It’s truly special. Don’t be afraid Maria! A parent-child bond has no age limit. You’re not alone :))
My kiddos were total opposites, so I suggest getting the essentials (car seat, stroller) and seeing what you and baby need when he gets here. Mila may have hated the baby carrier, but your son might love it. I had one child who loved to be swaddled and one who absolutely hated it. These days, it is easy to get things delivered within a week, so if you need something or think something would be useful, you can have it very quickly. Sending so much congratulations to your family ❤❤❤.
My babies always hate the bucket seat, so after the first few weeks we make the switch to a regular seat. I also took my last baby to the chiropractor a few times after birth and she did so much better.
I love how open and candid you are about your "process!" 😂 I must say, my mom was almost 42 when she had me, and we have a fantastic relationship, and my romantic partner loves her. Having retired parents in my 20s has been amazing. They travel, they have free time to help when my life gets busy, and I've never seen my father so happy. You guys are going to do GREAT.
That Diva cup tip makes so much sense! I’ve heard about the legs in the air afterwards, but that’s next level. Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us, Masha. I am 34 and not financially in a place to have children, but I would like to someday. Maybe we won’t be able to make it happen, because the world is very unstable and I work in a freelance niche industry that doesn’t pay very well, but your tips give me hope that if by some miracle my husband and I make 6 figures combined in the next 4 years, all hope is not lost. Also, even if I can’t make it happen, being alongside your motherhood experience, even in this small way, makes me feel like I’m not totally missing out. Congratulations! ❤
i love that you say “you know” and “you remember” when talking about your trips and experiences and im thinking how i really do remember! i love being able to follow along in your life. you are such a shining light and amazing example to my young mind ♥️
Oh wow! I didn't know we were the same age! I'm 38 and, after 20 years of waiting and 9 years of actively trying, my husband and I are finally getting ready to welcome our first wee one in January. We had pretty much given up and accepted that it was just going to be the two of us. I got saved about 3 years ago and was finally able to give the sadness and disappointment to God and let it go and learn to enjoy being a wife again. Then, out of nowhere, it happened. God's timing is perfect and I can't even begin to express the joy I feel. God bless you and your family and I pray for you all!
I know it can be so hard to openly talk about this subject, and I have to say: you are just…the purest definition of woman. You amaze me everyday Maria, and your son (and Mila/Daryl of course haha) is so lucky to be born to such a wonderful person like you. Best of health and all my love!! ❤
Hi Maria! I’m so happy for you. I still remember when you were pregnant with Mila. She will be a beautiful older sister. My momma had me at 38- I’m 25 now! And she will be turning 64 this year. Something I’m grateful for, is that me having an older mother has taught me to show more respect for her. Kind of like having a younger grandmother (in no offense), but it has taught me to be patient, kind, and more caring/careful towards her as she gets older. I’ve heard different stories of children not getting along with their mother when younger, as the closeness in age can come with different clashes. There’s good and bad to both sides! One thing, however: take care of your joints! The hardest thing for me is having to see my mother suffer with knee pain and arthritis. But rest assured- your children will love you regardless! 💞💞💞
My mom and I are nearly 40 years apart in age, there’s no need to worry about the age gap because when it comes down to it, I just see my mom as my mom, and she sees me as her daughter. It it never even crosses my mind about our ages because that’s been my entire life!
Hi Maria! I just had my second son at home in a tub. Fully natural after having a fully medicated induction with my first son was scary, but I knew it’s what I wanted. I think for you, since you want an unmedicated hospital birth you should get a doula. For me, she was SO important for my pain management and my endurance. A midwife is great for the education up to the birth and to perform the birth, but their main concern is the baby. A doula’s main concern is YOU. She can also be an advocate for you when you are at the point in the pain where you can’t think anymore and where Daryl is too focused on you to talk to the medical staff. Ultimately, it’s all up to you but this is something that really helped me. And ABSOLUTELY use the tub!! It made my contractions more bearable. Best of love and luck to you ❤
It's also important to remember that how a child comes into this world is pretty much irrelevant. The 18 years after matter though 😊 the birthing garbage is really about some weird obession of some mothers who feel inadequate in other areas of life and feel defined by this. Im a mother with c-sections wohth friends who have had natural births. Neither more of a mother and the child couldnt care less. I was as badly affected as my friends... it sucked either way but the beautiful child mattered!
@@RedParis20 I disagree. Birth trauma is REAL for both mom and baby. No one needs to suffer through a traumatic birth and/or obstetric violence. A happy baby is important, but the mother's well-being is equally important and will set the stage for her whole postpartum and well into her whole life.
Maria I just wanted to say, my mom had me when she was in her 40s, and if anything it made her an even better mom. She had that much more wisdom and perspective and I feel like I learned more confidence and knowledge from her because of it. We are still extremely close. So don’t worry about being an older mom at all! ❤
Also a 38 year old mother here. I share the worries about providing and budgets. I am a solo parent and the sole provider for my daughter. I am working my butt off right now with a full time job as well as studying to get a related degree in the hope it gives me more options and security. This is not how i invisioned my parenthood journey. It has major challenges, but I would not change a thing. Thank you for sharing your journey. I hope baby #2 is well and also kind to your body.
Maria you have no idea how much comfort you are giving your viewers by being this vulnerable. I’m only 23 but I’m wildly anxious about my fertility. I’ve struggled immensely with endometriosis and my doctors refuse to assess whether or not it has affected my fertility because I’m still young. My partner and I are wanting to have a kid in 4ish years but I still think about it all the time. Even though my situation is not at all the “one woman watching” in your position, this video is comforting and helpful nonetheless. ❤❤ congratulations on your pregnancy 🐣
Also- my parents had me when my mom was 35 and my dad was 42. Being older parents doesn’t make them connect or relate less. Both of them are on tiktok and everything, lol. The only way it’s really impacted me is that I want to have a child before my 30s because I want my kid to have the most time possible with my parents 🥰
Commenting as im watching . Amazing news for you and your family. My wife and I had our first child at 38, 8 months ago and this was a rollercoaster ride for her to get a healthy pregnancy and going through a lot of miscarriages before. Thanks for sharing your journey and share info to women out there who might be in this situation and struggling with becoming a mother. Ladies, don't despair, life will find a way. Much love from France, Maria!
I always appreciate the moms who keep it real about the newborn days. It makes us all feel less guilt & pressure when we aren’t glowing and our best selves. You also never know, each baby is different and you know yourself better each year. Sleep when you can & go for lots of walks. So much love to you & your growing family!
That one woman is ME! Thank you so much for telling a different version of the motherhood story, and honest one, one so similar to mine. It brings me to tears to think about having hope of making it through a second pregnancy with a healthier mindset.
Hi Maria! I’m from the Netherlands and here it’s quite common to have home births and therefore a natural birth. What helped me the most was indeed hypnobirthing. But the MOST important for me was thinking that me and the baby were giving birth together, not only me. The baby was on an adventure too. That helped me so so so much with dealing with pain, I was breathing towards the baby in my belly. All the best, dear Maria ❤
I had a first baby home birth (Australia, but half Dutch heritage!) And it went well and was the best choice for me. Strongly advocate for home birth for low risk mothers wanting natural birth. 🖤
I’m 20 and I’m 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. The first and second trimester was a bit of a rough patch but the third trimester was so much better 😊 hopefully baby boy of yours is easy on you like mine was for third trimester ❤
the comments here are making me cry tears of joy. Been ttc for 3+ years. It's hard but I have hope. I also worry about my age but seeing everyone's comments has been so beautiful. Just so happy for you two, Maria!!
О, Мария.. Боже, какая чудесная новость! Как же радостно за Вас! С этим упавшим ютубом, мы пропустили столько новостей! Мне 37 . Есть трое уже больших детей. Мой муж очень хочет ребенка. Ссоры на этой почве. А я столько лет говорила себе, что никогда больше не рожу, что это стало для меня будто табу что ли. Он просит бросить пить противозачаточные. А я не могу перешагнуть этот барьер в душе. Мне скоро 40. Время идет. И одни сомнения. Я безумно благодарна вам за это видео.( Ну, и Яндекс переводчику. ) счастья Вам. Сын. У Милы будет братик!!! Ура!!!
When I hear you talk, it’s like listening to a sister who lives far away❤ the amount of love I feel for you, Maria ✨ I loved listening to you motherhood experience, I am shocked right now too 1.5 y post-partum ❤️ I’m also someone who puts a lot of pressure on myself to be perfect as a mother but it’s impossible! Congratulations on your second pregnancy 🎉
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm getting nearly 30 in next month living in Japan thinking my next carrier goal while doing a part-time job temporarily. Your fertility journey might not immediately relate to my current life, but your personal buy very positive and humorous words meant a lot to me. Your video made my morning so inspiring in thinking my plan today 😊 I hope my message will reach you, Maria. I've been following your channel for more than a decade and I love you. ❤
We were both 45 and now I’m 59 and our daughter is 13. Being older bothered me in the early years but not anymore. My great grandmother had my grandmother at 47 so if your body can get pregnant then you’re not too old. Having her was the best thing I ever did.
Thanks for sharing all of this! It's so personal, but so helpful to many women ❤ I was able to have my son naturally, unmedicated in a bath. The biggest piece of advice I have for you is to do the mental work early in pregnancy and often. Birth is hard, and it takes a lot of mental strength and endurance. Immerse yourself in positive birth stories, don't let anyone try to scare you out of it with negativity. You can do it!! My son was a big surprise at birth. He was 10lbs 8 oz and I did it 💙 sending all positive vibes your way, Maria! 💓
I had a midwife and had an absolutely amazing experience (I was induced at 42 weeks, but was unmedicated and was able to birth vaginally). I also did hypnobirthing (took classes with an instructor) and it was an amazing tool to manage all the sensations (and to help me adapt to a different plan). I feel like since you're someone who can reach those kind of trance zones, you'll really respond to it. Sending you lots of love and a healty pregnancy and birth.
My mom was 42 when she had me! She is my closest friend and confidant beside my husband. I’m confident you will have such an incredible and sweet relationship with your little one!
Maria, can you pls at some point show the PT exercises you received? I've had 4 kids and now in chronic pain at 53. Can't sleep or function without it. PS. I had my last child at same age as you're rt now. She is an amazing child and is now 15. I'm so much wiser of a parent than I was before. It's an absolute blessing. My first was born when I turned 29, second at 30 and third at 35. Children keep you thinking younger and feeling younger as well. Unfortunately I left my marriage at 49. Now in a sonography program at 53....so life has a way of working itself out. Best wishes to you and Darryl!
I am sorry to hear you miscarried, but very happy to hear you are now expecting your son 🧡 Thank you for sharing so openly about your experience. As usual you are very charming even when talking about the not so charming subjects 😆❤ I'm only 27 and do not have any children yet but I hope to go through this journey at some point in my life. And I am very happy to hear you speak about your experience openly. I wish all the best for your family!
my husband and I are now 32, our moms are in their 73, we both were raised by single moms during very tough times in Russia and we are so happy now! living in New York and received our greencards for talent. please don't worry about age difference! it's all will matter of what they decide to do in their life, I'm sure you're a very modern great mom and your babies are super blessed with you!
I absolutely adore how honest and frank you are in these stories and that you say them with such a practical viewpoint vs letting certain things be overwrought with emotion. it's deeply comforting to let other women know how normal many of these things are, to not get overwhelmed or overly emotional/anxious, and to stay positive. your opinions and sharing are always so appreciated
RE: Buying Wait to buy the bigger items when baby arrives. We bought a $1,500 stroller and my snuggly mini refused to travel in anything other than a front carrier. Save your money. So much depends on the personality of your baby. You have what's most important -- love and experience. You can stock up as you see your baby's preferences.
This is a very important journey to share. Out now, 36 yr old daughter just gave birth to our first grandchild. We were not sure she would want to be a mother. Things are so much more difficult for young people. From buying homes, choosing mates, to having children. It all seems unacceptable for so many . Congratulations, to you .
It’s really not that bad. Having children should never be put on the back burner if it’s something a woman desires. There is an undeniable biological clock.
We got our beautiful daughter, when I turned 38 after a hard struggle for three years. During that time you gave me calm and relaxation - also while being pregnant because I had to deal with a lot of fears. We might be old parents but we don't care - our daughter is the greatest treasure life granted us. I am so happy for you and I wish you and your family all the best! ❤ Feel hugged!
Maria, I had twin boys when I was 39 and my husband was 47. Totally naturally with no fertility treatments, and a natural vaginal delivery. My boys are now 26. Don’t let anyone scare you about your age. It is absolutely doable and highly enjoyable . Age also brings wisdom and perspective to the table. Good luck!
4 yrs of secondary infertility after my husbands chemo. My daughter is very close to Mila’s age. We both wanted 3-5 kids…. We start IVF very soon… hopefully it’ll be successful.
thank you for your honesty its so important for stories like this to normalise the different experiences and please dont ever feel like you have to justify what you share and why you share it!!
Loved this. Don’t worry about age too much. My mother had her first at 17 and her last at 38. You both are very healthy and mindful about your future. You got it!
Hi, I just want to thank you for helping me through a terrible time in my life, you will never know how much you have helped me and you deserve all of the happiness possible ❤xx
I had my first baby at 41, except we had twins! Being an older parent is totally ok. My boys are 25 and I’m 68. We dont know anything else and all I can say is we’re blessed.
I had my son at 33 and my mental health suffered severely. I think it was because I was so used to just selfishly living for myself. He’s almost 4 now and I’m 37 and I was one and done but now that my mental health is better, I really would love another one. I want my son to experience a sibling. I’m close to mine. Your video is so inspiring. Your story is so relatable.
I honestly think it’s worth considering the truth than many people aren’t close to their siblings or siblings can be very different to the first born in terms of extra needs and this can also be a part of considering if one and done is right after all. I wish you the best in your choices, but wanted to offer something a little bit taboo as a thought experiment - sibling rivalry and eventual estrangement is common.
@@noemiromero584It’s obviously your call, but having had a brother with autism, adhd, ODD and bipolar… I’m not positive I’d cope with motherhood to a child like my brother and have decided against it, with some regret. As a sibling, it was traumatic to say the least. My parents did their best but it’s impossible to know how siblings might be and I think it’s impractical to assume it’s like a built-in best friend always so I worry there’s a pressure to grow families without this sort of perspective available to balance it out. The loneliness of sibling abuse/rivalry is difficult to express and feels shameful and painful to talk about with those who haven’t experienced it, but I’m told it’s fairly common and shouldn’t be underestimated as a possible outcome. Being an only child is potentially wonderful without having a crystal ball. Like I said - I’m wishing you all the best for your family and personal journey and whatever is right for you and yours.
Thank you so much for sharing your fertility and pregnancy journey with us Maria! Sending you positive thoughts and prayers with your next delivery and sweet little boy. I’ve had three unmedicated labors in the hospital and I just wanted to say how much better a recovery it is overall. My third birth I had a midwife and it made all the difference! They really help you with different labor positions and help you get through the pain. You can do this and it will be so worth it in the end! I’d recommend unmedicated to anyone if it’s safe for mom and baby. So much better. Wishing you all the best Maria!! 💜💜
Oh my, dear Maria, I (35) have been your follower since your first crappy marriage, and all I can say to you is not to worry about you guys being "older" parents, that is so funny for you to think. You guys are healthy individuals, in love, and for sure you do look at least 10 years younger, it goes for you and the Deryl. You are allready great as parents, but most of all great partners, which is the most valuable thing in this day and age. God bless you, and your family, congratulations for thriving. Love you girl ♥
I think every pregnancy is different. Have a birth plan but be ready to go with the flow. What's most important in the end is a healthy baby and mother. You are not a failure if there needs to be a change to the plan. My first child was induced and I was open to medication if I needed it. Eventually I took the epidural and slept half the day, it was great. I was rested and ready to push when the time came. My 2nd pregnancy was twins. Pretty easy pregnancy and my labor went so fast that I never had any pain relief. And I love that expression "doing the baby dance" So sweet
This was so generous of you to share. I am 34 and have wanted to be a mom my whole life and sometimes worry it’s too late. I really appreciate hearing your experience of trusting the timing of your life and being flexible and leading with love. You are allowed to keep as much of your life private as you want to. You don’t owe us anything! But I am grateful for what you do share. Thank you 💛
I’m 36 and having my first (years of infertility issues and finally happened with IVF!) and my mom was 38 when she had me. I am SO close with my mom and always have been. I loved having older parents for so many reasons. I got to enjoy their established relationship and stable life. I’ve been watching you for 10 years and feel so excited to be almost at the same point in my pregnancy you are! The future is all scary, but things will work out as they are supposed to.
Aw I'm sooo happy for you and your family! 🥰 Try not to stress about the future and just live in the moment. The idea of "what if" doesn't really help anyone because the different good and bad future possibilities are endless. When you start to doubt or become to in your head about the "what ifs" try visualising all wonderful positive happy moments of your past instead. Hope this helps! Sending you all the best wishes during your pregnancy 🩵 xx
As an IUI/IVF mom and a mom who has lost 3 babies, I really appreciate your candor and how positive you have stayed through this whole process. Congratulations on your rainbow baby - they are so incredibly special!
Your openness is astounding, such an amazing quality you have. Sharing your journey will help so many women and give them hope, which many doctors can't even do. Dont worry about the future. It will all work out. Enjoy life with your lovely family ❤
Hi Maria! I’ve been watching since I was 13 and I am now. 26. I felt a sense to comment because my parents were also later in life parents. My dad was 45 when I was born and I’ve never felt like he missed out or did things differently that a “younger “ parent would do. Does he not understand TikTok …. Sure but it’s funny and It’s add to his charm. He is such an adventurous person and my childhood reflected that and still does. Hope this brings comfort. ❤
my mom had me at 39 and it all worked out. I feel like having “older” parents somehow made me closer to my parents than my friends who had younger parents. You are very empathetic, intuitive, and kind. Both of you will be the same excellent humans you are at your core. ❤❤❤❤
My comment to myself when the vid ended - goodness you're wonderful! You have the most wonderful voice and come across very genuinely. From someone like me viewing any of your vids you come across as almost perfect. So how can you have such negative thoughts about yourself and your abilities? It just goes to show how our thoughts can control us and to be kinder to ourselves, be kinder to others and don't compare our lives to other people's. Thanks for sharing you and your family with us. 🤗
Maria, I follow you and have been, but tonight I have been researching prenatals and how to get pregant. I am currently 31 and have no children. I have been anxious and feel like time is running out. We have been trying for almost 2 years. I have been desperately researching and then I see you post this video. I believe this is a sign. Thank you so much for giving me hope. Also, you are glowing!
Masha, I had an emergency c-section with my first and had an unmedicated v-bac with my second (just used gas and air). We have midwives in my country, so I think your decision to have a midwife is great. Getting to birth myself was such a healing experience and I hope you get to experience that!
My mom was 39 and my dad was 46 when I was born. They are still both in great health and are super involved grandparents. My dad is 82 and is still able to run after my almost 2 year old. I have all the confidence in the world that you’ll both be great. ❤
This talk came at the perfect time. I am a bit older than you and have been ttc for 6 months and will give the diva cup a try. Thanks for the tip, Maria. I feel more hopeful and appreciate you sharing your story. ❤
Hi Maria! Looong time viewer but rare commenter - I've recently married, and my wife and I are trying for our first! I think it's so cool that you made a video about this, it's nice hearing you talk open and candidly about it all. I'm a younger guy without many people besides my wife to talk about this stuff with, so I appreciate hearing your take on it, as well as hearing about your journey. I wish you both the best!
Thank you for sharing this Maria! As many others have similarly commented, my mom had me at 38, and we are extremely close! She is a great mom and I never felt that I wished she was younger or anything. If anything I think having more time to grow as a person and parent will make you an even better and wiser mom, and Mila will be an excellent little helper now that she's a bit older. Personally, I'm 31 and it's terrifying because I really want a child some day but I'm definitely not in an ideal situation to have one yet. Plus I have PCOS and my partner has circumstances that would also make it more difficult physically. I feel this heaviness and depression because my body is telling me I need to do it NOW before it's too late. Your mention of being inexplicably sad at getting your period from your last video is so relatable! But realistically I know it would be both difficult fertility wise (and probably incredibly stressful and depressing to fail when I'm already very anxious overall) and irresponsible financially. I always thought I'd have a child before I was 30, it's funny how naive that was. Sometimes I feel like I should just accept that I'll never have a child to avoid the depression of failing physically in the future. But it's encouraging to hear about your journey and to know that even if it might be more difficult later, it's absolutely still possible and that I shouldn't rush or give up completely. I'm so glad to see your happiness and hear your thoughts about everything on your journey. Wishing you a healthy and comfortable pregnancy, Maria! You're already an amazing mom and you're going to do great this time around too!! 💜💜💜
I love hearing your stories ❤ I’m 40 and I have an IUD… so things aren’t completely shut down because I don’t know if I want to have another child. The experiences you had after Mila, I have had after my second son and he’s now 3. I have been sleep deprived since he was born. So it scares me that if I have another child, my mental health will decline further. It’s definitely an adjustment going to two children. Things may get a little crazy, but you can do it. I’ve always thought you have been a spectacular mother to Mila from what I’ve seen. I know that you will be the same for your new baby 😊 If you have any questions, I am here for you, girl.
I have a friend who gave birth to her first child at 45 😃💐 they have two kids now and they are all doing good and healthy 😃 Thank you Maria for sharing your story with us. I find it really helpful. I can relate to your feelings and I congratulate you and wish your entire family Good Health, Happiness and Prosperity 🌻🍀🌽💐😃
as someone who is 34 and has been trying for 2 years and 4 months, I appreciate this video. I finally had a CP at 2 years 2 months so that for sure gave me so hope, still sorry you had to go through a loss, but glad you saw the bright side.
Also! As for the older mom/younger kiddo. My mom was 20 when she had my sister, and was 34 when she had me. Quite the difference! My mom and I never struggled to relate. There were things she didn’t understand about me, and things I didn’t understand about her, but we put those differences aside and had such a solid foundation despite those differences. She is the warmest, most loving person- and I feel as though you are the same :) so don’t worry too much about the relatability/being there for them with the age gap. You will (and are!) do great.
I love how you always say "My Darryl" it's just so freaking cute. I basically grew up watching you and now as i'm getting older and I'm starting to feel like I want to marry someday and have kids and this video truly touched me ❤
I’m so happy for you both Maria. It’s so interesting to hear about your journey and things you tried. I’m 27 right now and I know I’ll be wanting kids before I know it so I appreciate you sharing! ❤
My parents were essentially the same ages you and Darryl will be when I was born!! I just turned 30, my mom is 68, and my dad will be turning 75 this coming year. You can do this!!
lol Both of my grandmas had their last kid at 40. My dads sister had her first kid at 40. I was 36 and 38 when I had my kids. Women are not geriatrics before 40 or after.
Hearing you talk about being worried you'll be too old to relate to your daughter when she gets older, starts dating etc. made me so emotional tbh I'm 24 and lost my mother to cancer when I was 18, she was also an older mother but I had such a close bond with her The way you consider these potential future problems makes me feel like your worries could never be true, I know I only know you through your videos but you seem like such a careful and considerate person and I'm sure your children will see that too
This is such a personal- vulnerable post and i really appreciate it. Dont worry about being an older parent. you will relate just fine. The fact that you WANT to relate makes all the difference. Also, despite your back troubles theres no reason to believe you wont be very healthy well into your elder years. Especially with your new knowledge about inflamation and insulin resistance. We have a narrative in our society that says we are going to be unable to function past a certain age but i dont think thats a certainty. i think the modern diet and lifestyle contribute to very early decline. Im so happy for you! Many blessings to you and your beautiful family. And thanks for helping me get to sleep every night!💖🥰
Wow Maria I have been a follower of yours for 10+ years, and I remember we were pregnant at the same time with Mila and my first daughter. I didn’t know anyone else with children at the time so I felt connected to you going through the same thing. I also had to have a c-section with my first daughter and fought to have a natural birth my second time around, and we succeeded!! Congrats on your second little one and all the best with the rest of your pregnancy. I’m always so grateful for your videos ❤
Hi Maria. I’m not one to usually comment on people’s videos, but as your story is quite similar to mine, I felt you should know I had my son at age 36 and my daughter at age 39. I never regretted having them in my 30’s. They have kept me young! My daughter is now 22 and we have a great relationship! She even steals my clothes to wear to work.
My mother was 37 when I was born. My father was 41. Dad lived to be 96! I feel like I have a wider generational experience as a result. I learned things that my peers didn't know. It has been great culturally, and I feel richer because of it. I'm 57 now, and I only appreciate my parents and their perspective more and more.
Omgosh...Seems like just yesterday you had shared with us your life as a new mommy and Daryl as a new daddy with the lack of sleep and feedings then later her milestones. Such a beautiful blessing my dear.❤
I did the tub at home until about 8cm. Took me like 32 hours or so. Then I tapped out and went to hospital and got that epidural! Tub definitely helped!
Oh wow I related to you so much when you were talking about the newborn phase. I was very (and still am in many ways) consumed by EVERYONE’S advice. Once I started listening to my body and my instincts, it got so much better. My son is 7 and I’m just now considering having another baby. It took me forever to “recover” after having him, and now I feel much calmer about parenting. Almost feeling as if I’d like the opportunity to try it again as this wiser, more knowledgeable woman. I was so hard on myself the first time. I’d like to do it more naturally just once if I can.
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Hello friends, today I'll talk about my journey into motherhood from wanting no children to now being in my second pregnancy. The ups, the downs, the fears, the unexpected things while trying to conceive again. I'm recovering from a bit of a cold, sorry for my voice.
00:00 Intro
02:14 Not knowing if we wanted children
04:36 Fertility first time at 31
05:21 Zero to 1 transition, mental struggle
07:52 Fertility second time at 36
09:40 Health issues while trying
14:08 Doubting my decision
14:56 Supplements that I recommend
Prenatal multi amzn.to/4hdDi3r
Prenatal DHA amzn.to/4dWMjLn
Active B9 Folate (this helps my anxiety, somehow) amzn.to/48kJv9C
Men's Fertility go.sylikes.com/eNkXKuiWrRoW
16:19 Miscarriage
17:28 Steps that helped us get pregnant, unconventional
19:51 Insulin spikes tracking during ovulation
22:04 Believing in perfect timing
23:58 Fears about being older parents
27:15 Nesting, getting supplies ready
30:04 Hypnobirthing
34:15 Why I didn't share about this journey sooner
Hi Maria & family
Congratulations it's a wonderful blessing to have kids ......me and my husband are trying for our 4th one and our three kids are - 16yr , 14yrs & 10yrs
Congratulations!!! I'm really excited for you guys. I know this is gonna sound nuts but I had a hunch you're expecting because you have changes in your face. So beautiful but there was a subtle change I noticed in your previous videos. Love u and your openness. ❤❤❤
Hello Maria, I just wanted to recommend that you check out Once Upon a Child (there are a few in the greater Sacramento area) for second hand children’s things. I am amazed at how many parents aren’t aware of this store! Best wishes to you and your beautiful family! 💙
Dear Maria, I recommend the book Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, it really helped me have a different birthing experience compared to my 1st baby. I cannot recommend this book enough.
Masha- it’s beautiful of you to share this. I was so thrilled when you shared your pregnancy online because I’ve been following your videos for 10 years, and suddenly I find out we are both pregnant at the same time! I’m at ten weeks and this is my first successful pregnancy so the IVF (as it has been a journey). My wife and I are a lesbian couple who have been through both multiple egg retrievals and multiple IVF cycles and we are thrilled now and blessed for our little growing one. Thank you for bringing awareness to this *under-discussed* topic and caring to talk about.
You are beautiful inside and out and I’m thrilled for you and your beautiful family. Congratulations and much love to you ❤🎉😊@sassymasha
Am I trying to get pregnant? No. Am I in late 30s? No I’m 27. Did I watch the whole thing? Absolutely yes.
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Same here, but decades older! 😊
Haha same with me at 22 not even knowing if I'll end up wanting to have kids 😂
Same here
Yes! Same here but 50 yrs old and never had children. I absolutely adore and appreciate Maria, so I'm here to give support and listen
I had my first at 40 and my second at 42. I’m hoping anyone reading this will keep their hope.
❤❤❤ Thank U ❤
❤thanks for sharing 😊
Thank you ❤❤❤
“My Darryl” 🥺😭
❤when she said it like that!!!!
Best hubby and Daddy ❤
@@kathyQ393 he and Mila have a most precious relationship!! It will be awesome to see him with a son!!
My heart melted 🥹
My mom had me at age 43. I’m turning 30 in November and my mom just turned 73. My older parents have poured so much wisdom into me. I can’t imagine it any other way
My dad is 68 and had me at 43 also. I personally loved having a boomer dad that could tell me stories about the 70s lol
“The dance” 😂 Maria I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your humor, candor and openness. You don’t have to share your life so intimately with us, you don’t owe us anything more than you already have given us, but it’s so special to get such a glimpse into your life. I know there are so many people that your content helps and makes them feel seen and less lonely. You’re very special and we love you so much! So happy for you and your family.
I could not have said this better ❤
This comment is spot on xx
Hey!! Quiet watcher over here 🫶🏼 but I just want to say that my mom was 39 when she had me (I’m 21 right now) and I can say she really is my best friend!! So no need to worry about relating to your child at an older age!! Your bond is not gonna be any different 😘
Love this ❤
This is so true!! I had a baby at 44 yrs. She is 17 now and we are the best of friends . I enjoy being an older mother because I'm wiser and with a child... I never felt old.
TRUTH. I’m 40 years older than my Kid and so happy every day to be their mom.
People worry too much about age gaps and such. Age is mostly really just a number. Yes, some biological things are age related. But not love.
I just had my first child at 41, I have definitely worried about being an older parent but, I am so blessed to have her. I have always wanted to be a mother, so having her was the greatest blessing. ❤️
I had my first (and only) child at 41. She's now 13; I'm 54. I am a WAY better parent than I would have been if I'd had her when I was young. I am glad I waited to have a child. P.S. This wasn't really a choice so much as life circumstance. I married when I was 40; just sharing that it's ok to have a child later in life.
That’s great for you but women who want children should never wait that long to start- many women literally cannot conceive anymore in their 40s.
@@abbieliz396that’s not a kind comment it’s our bodies and we can wait however much longer we want. The pressures to be a mother at certain age is ridiculously toxic so telling someone that they shouldn’t wait that “long” is very rude. Everyone’s body , timing, finances etc are different. My mother had me at 37 and I have a lot of aunts that had my cousins in their 40s we are all healthy. I might add I’m 38 no kids and I don’t need to rush bc someone like you thinks women shouldn’t wait “too long” what happens if a person hasn’t met the right person or they have been unsuccessful ? It’s OUR choice and responsibility.
I had my first and only child at 41 too. He's 4 now and I'm 45. I didn't wait on purpose, my life journey just worked out that way. But I too know that I'm a much better mom than I would have been had I had a baby earlier. This kid is the light of my life and I wouldn't change anything about our journey.
@@wut2100She’s writing about her own experiences. She’s not perpetuating anything.
@@wut2100yeah no it’s not her job to do that.
As a nearly 38 year old woman who has experienced 3 pregnancy losses and is struggling with fertility I'm SO grateful for not only this video but the comment section. Reading the experiences of so many women and hearing your vulnerability gives me hope that whatever is meant to be will be. So much love to you all 💜
Сочувствую вам🙏🏻 я потеряла однажды ребёнка, и больше беременности не наступало. Сейчас я без отношений, но всё же у меня остаётся маленькая надежда, что я стану мамой. И вам того же желаю 💕
The father's health is *very* much important too. It is not all on the mama. So happy for you, Maria! You are such a beautiful soul.
Maria's voice is so calming even when she isn't trying😇
My mother was 37 when she had me. She told me the same thing. That she was afraid that she would be (as she put it) an old "fuddy duddy." That she would be too old when I was a teenager and she wouldn't know how to relate. That couldn't have been further from the truth. She was an awesome mother. I think just the fact that you're worried about it speaks volumes. Congratulations to you both, Maria. I'm so happy for you!
I’m 36 and currently pregnant with my first. I’m so excited to watch you along your journey. Congratulations!
Congrats!!
My husband and I tried to conceive for 7 years after I got off the pill at age 28. I found out it was my stressful job that was forbidding pregnancy. As soon as I quit that stressful job and found another less stressful job, I got pregnant 3 months later. I'm sharing this story for others to not give up hope. We went through so many treatments and doctors appoints and it turned out it was me and my stress levels. I finally gave birth to a healthy baby girl 3 months after my 35 bday.
The weight of stress is so true! I’m so happy for you!!
"My Daryl" 🥺🥺🥺 I've watched you since the first episode. You deserve all the happy things. Bless you, babe🩵
Dear Maria, I started watching you when I was 12, and I am 23 now! I have always felt a motherly energy from you, and having basically grown up with you, I think you are an amazing woman who I aspire to be! Also, don't be scared of being an old parent- you will have more wisdom to share :)
My mom had me at 38! I’m the fifth child. My dad was 48. Im 26 now and even though my parents are “old” it’s oddly extremely comforting. My parents have so much life experience and share with me what their youth was like. It’s truly special. Don’t be afraid Maria! A parent-child bond has no age limit. You’re not alone :))
My kiddos were total opposites, so I suggest getting the essentials (car seat, stroller) and seeing what you and baby need when he gets here. Mila may have hated the baby carrier, but your son might love it. I had one child who loved to be swaddled and one who absolutely hated it. These days, it is easy to get things delivered within a week, so if you need something or think something would be useful, you can have it very quickly. Sending so much congratulations to your family ❤❤❤.
My babies always hate the bucket seat, so after the first few weeks we make the switch to a regular seat. I also took my last baby to the chiropractor a few times after birth and she did so much better.
I love how open and candid you are about your "process!" 😂 I must say, my mom was almost 42 when she had me, and we have a fantastic relationship, and my romantic partner loves her. Having retired parents in my 20s has been amazing. They travel, they have free time to help when my life gets busy, and I've never seen my father so happy. You guys are going to do GREAT.
That Diva cup tip makes so much sense! I’ve heard about the legs in the air afterwards, but that’s next level. Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us, Masha. I am 34 and not financially in a place to have children, but I would like to someday. Maybe we won’t be able to make it happen, because the world is very unstable and I work in a freelance niche industry that doesn’t pay very well, but your tips give me hope that if by some miracle my husband and I make 6 figures combined in the next 4 years, all hope is not lost. Also, even if I can’t make it happen, being alongside your motherhood experience, even in this small way, makes me feel like I’m not totally missing out. Congratulations! ❤
i love that you say “you know” and “you remember” when talking about your trips and experiences and im thinking how i really do remember! i love being able to follow along in your life. you are such a shining light and amazing example to my young mind ♥️
Oh wow! I didn't know we were the same age! I'm 38 and, after 20 years of waiting and 9 years of actively trying, my husband and I are finally getting ready to welcome our first wee one in January.
We had pretty much given up and accepted that it was just going to be the two of us. I got saved about 3 years ago and was finally able to give the sadness and disappointment to God and let it go and learn to enjoy being a wife again.
Then, out of nowhere, it happened.
God's timing is perfect and I can't even begin to express the joy I feel.
God bless you and your family and I pray for you all!
MANY BLESSINGS!!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️✨
This is so sweet and encouraging. Thank you for sharing and God bless you!
This is amazing 🤍 bless your sweet family
I love this story. I’m so happy for you. Gods timing is not always on par with ours. Blessings to you and your family. ❤
God's timing is perfect, indeed. Congratulations! 🥰
I know it can be so hard to openly talk about this subject, and I have to say: you are just…the purest definition of woman. You amaze me everyday Maria, and your son (and Mila/Daryl of course haha) is so lucky to be born to such a wonderful person like you. Best of health and all my love!! ❤
Hi Maria! I’m so happy for you. I still remember when you were pregnant with Mila. She will be a beautiful older sister. My momma had me at 38- I’m 25 now! And she will be turning 64 this year. Something I’m grateful for, is that me having an older mother has taught me to show more respect for her. Kind of like having a younger grandmother (in no offense), but it has taught me to be patient, kind, and more caring/careful towards her as she gets older. I’ve heard different stories of children not getting along with their mother when younger, as the closeness in age can come with different clashes. There’s good and bad to both sides! One thing, however: take care of your joints! The hardest thing for me is having to see my mother suffer with knee pain and arthritis. But rest assured- your children will love you regardless! 💞💞💞
My mom and I are nearly 40 years apart in age, there’s no need to worry about the age gap because when it comes down to it, I just see my mom as my mom, and she sees me as her daughter. It it never even crosses my mind about our ages because that’s been my entire life!
Hi Maria! I just had my second son at home in a tub. Fully natural after having a fully medicated induction with my first son was scary, but I knew it’s what I wanted. I think for you, since you want an unmedicated hospital birth you should get a doula. For me, she was SO important for my pain management and my endurance. A midwife is great for the education up to the birth and to perform the birth, but their main concern is the baby. A doula’s main concern is YOU. She can also be an advocate for you when you are at the point in the pain where you can’t think anymore and where Daryl is too focused on you to talk to the medical staff. Ultimately, it’s all up to you but this is something that really helped me. And ABSOLUTELY use the tub!! It made my contractions more bearable. Best of love and luck to you ❤
It's also important to remember that how a child comes into this world is pretty much irrelevant. The 18 years after matter though 😊 the birthing garbage is really about some weird obession of some mothers who feel inadequate in other areas of life and feel defined by this. Im a mother with c-sections wohth friends who have had natural births. Neither more of a mother and the child couldnt care less. I was as badly affected as my friends... it sucked either way but the beautiful child mattered!
@@RedParis20 I disagree. Birth trauma is REAL for both mom and baby. No one needs to suffer through a traumatic birth and/or obstetric violence. A happy baby is important, but the mother's well-being is equally important and will set the stage for her whole postpartum and well into her whole life.
Maria I just wanted to say, my mom had me when she was in her 40s, and if anything it made her an even better mom. She had that much more wisdom and perspective and I feel like I learned more confidence and knowledge from her because of it. We are still extremely close. So don’t worry about being an older mom at all! ❤
Also a 38 year old mother here. I share the worries about providing and budgets. I am a solo parent and the sole provider for my daughter. I am working my butt off right now with a full time job as well as studying to get a related degree in the hope it gives me more options and security. This is not how i invisioned my parenthood journey. It has major challenges, but I would not change a thing. Thank you for sharing your journey. I hope baby #2 is well and also kind to your body.
Maria you have no idea how much comfort you are giving your viewers by being this vulnerable. I’m only 23 but I’m wildly anxious about my fertility. I’ve struggled immensely with endometriosis and my doctors refuse to assess whether or not it has affected my fertility because I’m still young. My partner and I are wanting to have a kid in 4ish years but I still think about it all the time. Even though my situation is not at all the “one woman watching” in your position, this video is comforting and helpful nonetheless. ❤❤ congratulations on your pregnancy 🐣
Also- my parents had me when my mom was 35 and my dad was 42. Being older parents doesn’t make them connect or relate less. Both of them are on tiktok and everything, lol. The only way it’s really impacted me is that I want to have a child before my 30s because I want my kid to have the most time possible with my parents 🥰
Commenting as im watching . Amazing news for you and your family. My wife and I had our first child at 38, 8 months ago and this was a rollercoaster ride for her to get a healthy pregnancy and going through a lot of miscarriages before. Thanks for sharing your journey and share info to women out there who might be in this situation and struggling with becoming a mother. Ladies, don't despair, life will find a way.
Much love from France, Maria!
I always appreciate the moms who keep it real about the newborn days. It makes us all feel less guilt & pressure when we aren’t glowing and our best selves. You also never know, each baby is different and you know yourself better each year. Sleep when you can & go for lots of walks. So much love to you & your growing family!
I had my first baby at 37 my second baby at 39. It's crazy but amazing! Congratulations to you and your family ❤
That one woman is ME! Thank you so much for telling a different version of the motherhood story, and honest one, one so similar to mine. It brings me to tears to think about having hope of making it through a second pregnancy with a healthier mindset.
Hi Maria!
I’m from the Netherlands and here it’s quite common to have home births and therefore a natural birth.
What helped me the most was indeed hypnobirthing. But the MOST important for me was thinking that me and the baby were giving birth together, not only me. The baby was on an adventure too. That helped me so so so much with dealing with pain, I was breathing towards the baby in my belly.
All the best, dear Maria ❤
I had a first baby home birth (Australia, but half Dutch heritage!) And it went well and was the best choice for me. Strongly advocate for home birth for low risk mothers wanting natural birth. 🖤
I’m 20 and I’m 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. The first and second trimester was a bit of a rough patch but the third trimester was so much better 😊 hopefully baby boy of yours is easy on you like mine was for third trimester ❤
the comments here are making me cry tears of joy. Been ttc for 3+ years. It's hard but I have hope. I also worry about my age but seeing everyone's comments has been so beautiful. Just so happy for you two, Maria!!
О, Мария.. Боже, какая чудесная новость! Как же радостно за Вас! С этим упавшим ютубом, мы пропустили столько новостей! Мне 37 . Есть трое уже больших детей. Мой муж очень хочет ребенка. Ссоры на этой почве. А я столько лет говорила себе, что никогда больше не рожу, что это стало для меня будто табу что ли. Он просит бросить пить противозачаточные. А я не могу перешагнуть этот барьер в душе. Мне скоро 40. Время идет. И одни сомнения. Я безумно благодарна вам за это видео.( Ну, и Яндекс переводчику. ) счастья Вам. Сын. У Милы будет братик!!! Ура!!!
When I hear you talk, it’s like listening to a sister who lives far away❤ the amount of love I feel for you, Maria ✨ I loved listening to you motherhood experience, I am shocked right now too 1.5 y post-partum ❤️ I’m also someone who puts a lot of pressure on myself to be perfect as a mother but it’s impossible! Congratulations on your second pregnancy 🎉
OH MY GOD MARIA I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!! A SECOND BABY IS COMING, OH MY GOD! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!!! 🥰❤️✨
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm getting nearly 30 in next month living in Japan thinking my next carrier goal while doing a part-time job temporarily. Your fertility journey might not immediately relate to my current life, but your personal buy very positive and humorous words meant a lot to me. Your video made my morning so inspiring in thinking my plan today 😊 I hope my message will reach you, Maria. I've been following your channel for more than a decade and I love you. ❤
We were both 45 and now I’m 59 and our daughter is 13. Being older bothered me in the early years but not anymore. My great grandmother had my grandmother at 47 so if your body can get pregnant then you’re not too old. Having her was the best thing I ever did.
Your experience is so heartening to hear! Thank you for sharing.
that's wonderful. was it natural or IVF? if you don't mind me asking. I'm trying to get pregnant as well. I'm 46.
Thanks for sharing all of this! It's so personal, but so helpful to many women ❤ I was able to have my son naturally, unmedicated in a bath. The biggest piece of advice I have for you is to do the mental work early in pregnancy and often. Birth is hard, and it takes a lot of mental strength and endurance. Immerse yourself in positive birth stories, don't let anyone try to scare you out of it with negativity. You can do it!! My son was a big surprise at birth. He was 10lbs 8 oz and I did it 💙 sending all positive vibes your way, Maria! 💓
I had a midwife and had an absolutely amazing experience (I was induced at 42 weeks, but was unmedicated and was able to birth vaginally). I also did hypnobirthing (took classes with an instructor) and it was an amazing tool to manage all the sensations (and to help me adapt to a different plan). I feel like since you're someone who can reach those kind of trance zones, you'll really respond to it. Sending you lots of love and a healty pregnancy and birth.
My mom was 42 when she had me! She is my closest friend and confidant beside my husband. I’m confident you will have such an incredible and sweet relationship with your little one!
Maria, can you pls at some point show the PT exercises you received? I've had 4 kids and now in chronic pain at 53. Can't sleep or function without it.
PS. I had my last child at same age as you're rt now. She is an amazing child and is now 15. I'm so much wiser of a parent than I was before. It's an absolute blessing. My first was born when I turned 29, second at 30 and third at 35.
Children keep you thinking younger and feeling younger as well. Unfortunately I left my marriage at 49. Now in a sonography program at 53....so life has a way of working itself out.
Best wishes to you and Darryl!
I am sorry to hear you miscarried, but very happy to hear you are now expecting your son 🧡 Thank you for sharing so openly about your experience. As usual you are very charming even when talking about the not so charming subjects 😆❤ I'm only 27 and do not have any children yet but I hope to go through this journey at some point in my life. And I am very happy to hear you speak about your experience openly. I wish all the best for your family!
Congratulations, Maria and Daryl! I've been with you since 2011! You've helped me SO MUCH! I'm very grateful for you! ❤
my husband and I are now 32, our moms are in their 73, we both were raised by single moms during very tough times in Russia and we are so happy now! living in New York and received our greencards for talent. please don't worry about age difference! it's all will matter of what they decide to do in their life, I'm sure you're a very modern great mom and your babies are super blessed with you!
I absolutely adore how honest and frank you are in these stories and that you say them with such a practical viewpoint vs letting certain things be overwrought with emotion. it's deeply comforting to let other women know how normal many of these things are, to not get overwhelmed or overly emotional/anxious, and to stay positive. your opinions and sharing are always so appreciated
RE: Buying
Wait to buy the bigger items when baby arrives. We bought a $1,500 stroller and my snuggly mini refused to travel in anything other than a front carrier. Save your money. So much depends on the personality of your baby. You have what's most important -- love and experience. You can stock up as you see your baby's preferences.
This is a very important journey to share. Out now, 36 yr old daughter just gave birth to our first grandchild. We were not sure she would want to be a mother. Things are so much more difficult for young people. From buying homes, choosing mates, to having children. It all seems unacceptable for so many . Congratulations, to you .
It’s really not that bad. Having children should never be put on the back burner if it’s something a woman desires. There is an undeniable biological clock.
We got our beautiful daughter, when I turned 38 after a hard struggle for three years. During that time you gave me calm and relaxation - also while being pregnant because I had to deal with a lot of fears. We might be old parents but we don't care - our daughter is the greatest treasure life granted us. I am so happy for you and I wish you and your family all the best! ❤ Feel hugged!
Maria, I had twin boys when I was 39 and my husband was 47. Totally naturally with no fertility treatments, and a natural vaginal delivery. My boys are now 26. Don’t let anyone scare you about your age. It is absolutely doable and highly enjoyable . Age also brings wisdom and perspective to the table. Good luck!
4 yrs of secondary infertility after my husbands chemo. My daughter is very close to Mila’s age. We both wanted 3-5 kids…. We start IVF very soon… hopefully it’ll be successful.
May Good bless you!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️✨
Hoping so much for you that you are able to have successful IVF 🥰
thank you for your honesty its so important for stories like this to normalise the different experiences and please dont ever feel like you have to justify what you share and why you share it!!
Loved this. Don’t worry about age too much. My mother had her first at 17 and her last at 38. You both are very healthy and mindful about your future. You got it!
Maria, you are loved by many! You are a lovely person. I am happy for you and your family. Take care of yourself and don't work too hard!
Hi, I just want to thank you for helping me through a terrible time in my life, you will never know how much you have helped me and you deserve all of the happiness possible ❤xx
I had my first baby at 41, except we had twins! Being an older parent is totally ok. My boys are 25 and I’m 68. We dont know anything else and all I can say is we’re blessed.
I had my son at 33 and my mental health suffered severely. I think it was because I was so used to just selfishly living for myself. He’s almost 4 now and I’m 37 and I was one and done but now that my mental health is better, I really would love another one. I want my son to experience a sibling. I’m close to mine. Your video is so inspiring. Your story is so relatable.
I honestly think it’s worth considering the truth than many people aren’t close to their siblings or siblings can be very different to the first born in terms of extra needs and this can also be a part of considering if one and done is right after all. I wish you the best in your choices, but wanted to offer something a little bit taboo as a thought experiment - sibling rivalry and eventual estrangement is common.
@ I would hope not in our case. I do think about another child often but my son does have autism.
@@noemiromero584It’s obviously your call, but having had a brother with autism, adhd, ODD and bipolar… I’m not positive I’d cope with motherhood to a child like my brother and have decided against it, with some regret. As a sibling, it was traumatic to say the least. My parents did their best but it’s impossible to know how siblings might be and I think it’s impractical to assume it’s like a built-in best friend always so I worry there’s a pressure to grow families without this sort of perspective available to balance it out. The loneliness of sibling abuse/rivalry is difficult to express and feels shameful and painful to talk about with those who haven’t experienced it, but I’m told it’s fairly common and shouldn’t be underestimated as a possible outcome. Being an only child is potentially wonderful without having a crystal ball. Like I said - I’m wishing you all the best for your family and personal journey and whatever is right for you and yours.
Thank you so much for sharing your fertility and pregnancy journey with us Maria! Sending you positive thoughts and prayers with your next delivery and sweet little boy. I’ve had three unmedicated labors in the hospital and I just wanted to say how much better a recovery it is overall. My third birth I had a midwife and it made all the difference! They really help you with different labor positions and help you get through the pain. You can do this and it will be so worth it in the end! I’d recommend unmedicated to anyone if it’s safe for mom and baby. So much better. Wishing you all the best Maria!! 💜💜
Hi Maria. My mom had me when she was 35 and my brother when she was 38. She’d be 80 today. Well, all the best during this special journey!
dude.....we love you so much maria.
Oh my, dear Maria, I (35) have been your follower since your first crappy marriage, and all I can say to you is not to worry about you guys being "older" parents, that is so funny for you to think. You guys are healthy individuals, in love, and for sure you do look at least 10 years younger, it goes for you and the Deryl. You are allready great as parents, but most of all great partners, which is the most valuable thing in this day and age. God bless you, and your family, congratulations for thriving. Love you girl ♥
I think every pregnancy is different. Have a birth plan but be ready to go with the flow. What's most important in the end is a healthy baby and mother. You are not a failure if there needs to be a change to the plan. My first child was induced and I was open to medication if I needed it. Eventually I took the epidural and slept half the day, it was great. I was rested and ready to push when the time came. My 2nd pregnancy was twins. Pretty easy pregnancy and my labor went so fast that I never had any pain relief. And I love that expression "doing the baby dance" So sweet
This was so generous of you to share. I am 34 and have wanted to be a mom my whole life and sometimes worry it’s too late. I really appreciate hearing your experience of trusting the timing of your life and being flexible and leading with love. You are allowed to keep as much of your life private as you want to. You don’t owe us anything! But I am grateful for what you do share. Thank you 💛
I’m 36 and having my first (years of infertility issues and finally happened with IVF!) and my mom was 38 when she had me. I am SO close with my mom and always have been. I loved having older parents for so many reasons. I got to enjoy their established relationship and stable life. I’ve been watching you for 10 years and feel so excited to be almost at the same point in my pregnancy you are! The future is all scary, but things will work out as they are supposed to.
Aw I'm sooo happy for you and your family! 🥰 Try not to stress about the future and just live in the moment. The idea of "what if" doesn't really help anyone because the different good and bad future possibilities are endless. When you start to doubt or become to in your head about the "what ifs" try visualising all wonderful positive happy moments of your past instead. Hope this helps! Sending you all the best wishes during your pregnancy 🩵 xx
As an IUI/IVF mom and a mom who has lost 3 babies, I really appreciate your candor and how positive you have stayed through this whole process. Congratulations on your rainbow baby - they are so incredibly special!
Your openness is astounding, such an amazing quality you have. Sharing your journey will help so many women and give them hope, which many doctors can't even do. Dont worry about the future. It will all work out. Enjoy life with your lovely family ❤
Hi Maria! I’ve been watching since I was 13 and I am now. 26. I felt a sense to comment because my parents were also later in life parents. My dad was 45 when I was born and I’ve never felt like he missed out or did things differently that a “younger “ parent would do. Does he not understand TikTok …. Sure but it’s funny and It’s add to his charm. He is such an adventurous person and my childhood reflected that and still does. Hope this brings comfort. ❤
what a sweet comment that made me giggle about tik tok so sweet
my mom had me at 39 and it all worked out. I feel like having “older” parents somehow made me closer to my parents than my friends who had younger parents. You are very empathetic, intuitive, and kind. Both of you will be the same excellent humans you are at your core. ❤❤❤❤
My comment to myself when the vid ended - goodness you're wonderful!
You have the most wonderful voice and come across very genuinely.
From someone like me viewing any of your vids you come across as almost perfect. So how can you have such negative thoughts about yourself and your abilities?
It just goes to show how our thoughts can control us and to be kinder to ourselves, be kinder to others and don't compare our lives to other people's.
Thanks for sharing you and your family with us. 🤗
Maria, I follow you and have been, but tonight I have been researching prenatals and how to get pregant. I am currently 31 and have no children. I have been anxious and feel like time is running out. We have been trying for almost 2 years. I have been desperately researching and then I see you post this video. I believe this is a sign. Thank you so much for giving me hope. Also, you are glowing!
Masha, I had an emergency c-section with my first and had an unmedicated v-bac with my second (just used gas and air). We have midwives in my country, so I think your decision to have a midwife is great. Getting to birth myself was such a healing experience and I hope you get to experience that!
My mom was 39 and my dad was 46 when I was born. They are still both in great health and are super involved grandparents. My dad is 82 and is still able to run after my almost 2 year old. I have all the confidence in the world that you’ll both be great. ❤
This talk came at the perfect time. I am a bit older than you and have been ttc for 6 months and will give the diva cup a try. Thanks for the tip, Maria. I feel more hopeful and appreciate you sharing your story. ❤
Hi Maria! Looong time viewer but rare commenter - I've recently married, and my wife and I are trying for our first! I think it's so cool that you made a video about this, it's nice hearing you talk open and candidly about it all. I'm a younger guy without many people besides my wife to talk about this stuff with, so I appreciate hearing your take on it, as well as hearing about your journey. I wish you both the best!
Thank you for sharing this Maria! As many others have similarly commented, my mom had me at 38, and we are extremely close! She is a great mom and I never felt that I wished she was younger or anything. If anything I think having more time to grow as a person and parent will make you an even better and wiser mom, and Mila will be an excellent little helper now that she's a bit older.
Personally, I'm 31 and it's terrifying because I really want a child some day but I'm definitely not in an ideal situation to have one yet. Plus I have PCOS and my partner has circumstances that would also make it more difficult physically. I feel this heaviness and depression because my body is telling me I need to do it NOW before it's too late. Your mention of being inexplicably sad at getting your period from your last video is so relatable! But realistically I know it would be both difficult fertility wise (and probably incredibly stressful and depressing to fail when I'm already very anxious overall) and irresponsible financially. I always thought I'd have a child before I was 30, it's funny how naive that was. Sometimes I feel like I should just accept that I'll never have a child to avoid the depression of failing physically in the future. But it's encouraging to hear about your journey and to know that even if it might be more difficult later, it's absolutely still possible and that I shouldn't rush or give up completely.
I'm so glad to see your happiness and hear your thoughts about everything on your journey. Wishing you a healthy and comfortable pregnancy, Maria! You're already an amazing mom and you're going to do great this time around too!! 💜💜💜
I love hearing your stories ❤ I’m 40 and I have an IUD… so things aren’t completely shut down because I don’t know if I want to have another child. The experiences you had after Mila, I have had after my second son and he’s now 3. I have been sleep deprived since he was born. So it scares me that if I have another child, my mental health will decline further.
It’s definitely an adjustment going to two children. Things may get a little crazy, but you can do it. I’ve always thought you have been a spectacular mother to Mila from what I’ve seen. I know that you will be the same for your new baby 😊 If you have any questions, I am here for you, girl.
I have a friend who gave birth to her first child at 45 😃💐 they have two kids now and they are all doing good and healthy 😃
Thank you Maria for sharing your story with us. I find it really helpful. I can relate to your feelings and I congratulate you and wish your entire family Good Health, Happiness and Prosperity 🌻🍀🌽💐😃
as someone who is 34 and has been trying for 2 years and 4 months, I appreciate this video. I finally had a CP at 2 years 2 months so that for sure gave me so hope, still sorry you had to go through a loss, but glad you saw the bright side.
Also! As for the older mom/younger kiddo. My mom was 20 when she had my sister, and was 34 when she had me. Quite the difference! My mom and I never struggled to relate. There were things she didn’t understand about me, and things I didn’t understand about her, but we put those differences aside and had such a solid foundation despite those differences. She is the warmest, most loving person- and I feel as though you are the same :) so don’t worry too much about the relatability/being there for them with the age gap. You will (and are!) do great.
I love how you always say "My Darryl" it's just so freaking cute. I basically grew up watching you and now as i'm getting older and I'm starting to feel like I want to marry someday and have kids and this video truly touched me ❤
You do have an army of people behind you
This is so relatable. Thank you for sharing this. I’m 35 and going through my third round of IVF. Hoping for my rainbow baby. Congrats, Maria!
I’m so happy for you both Maria. It’s so interesting to hear about your journey and things you tried. I’m 27 right now and I know I’ll be wanting kids before I know it so I appreciate you sharing! ❤
You’re so beautiful and I want the best for y’all. I’ve been watching you for a decade. We all appreciate you for being you!!
My parents were essentially the same ages you and Darryl will be when I was born!! I just turned 30, my mom is 68, and my dad will be turning 75 this coming year. You can do this!!
lol Both of my grandmas had their last kid at 40. My dads sister had her first kid at 40. I was 36 and 38 when I had my kids. Women are not geriatrics before 40 or after.
Hearing you talk about being worried you'll be too old to relate to your daughter when she gets older, starts dating etc. made me so emotional tbh I'm 24 and lost my mother to cancer when I was 18, she was also an older mother but I had such a close bond with her
The way you consider these potential future problems makes me feel like your worries could never be true, I know I only know you through your videos but you seem like such a careful and considerate person and I'm sure your children will see that too
This is such a personal- vulnerable post and i really appreciate it. Dont worry about being an older parent. you will relate just fine. The fact that you WANT to relate makes all the difference. Also, despite your back troubles theres no reason to believe you wont be very healthy well into your elder years. Especially with your new knowledge about inflamation and insulin resistance. We have a narrative in our society that says we are going to be unable to function past a certain age but i dont think thats a certainty. i think the modern diet and lifestyle contribute to very early decline. Im so happy for you! Many blessings to you and your beautiful family. And thanks for helping me get to sleep every night!💖🥰
Wow Maria I have been a follower of yours for 10+ years, and I remember we were pregnant at the same time with Mila and my first daughter. I didn’t know anyone else with children at the time so I felt connected to you going through the same thing. I also had to have a c-section with my first daughter and fought to have a natural birth my second time around, and we succeeded!! Congrats on your second little one and all the best with the rest of your pregnancy. I’m always so grateful for your videos ❤
Hi Maria. I’m not one to usually comment on people’s videos, but as your story is quite similar to mine, I felt you should know I had my son at age 36 and my daughter at age 39. I never regretted having them in my 30’s. They have kept me young! My daughter is now 22 and we have a great relationship! She even steals my clothes to wear to work.
Making me emotional. Really happy for you. Telling the stories once they are tied up peacefully and in wisdom within you is a very good move
My mother was 37 when I was born. My father was 41. Dad lived to be 96! I feel like I have a wider generational experience as a result. I learned things that my peers didn't know. It has been great culturally, and I feel richer because of it. I'm 57 now, and I only appreciate my parents and their perspective more and more.
Omgosh...Seems like just yesterday you had shared with us your life as a new mommy and Daryl as a new daddy with the lack of sleep and feedings then later her milestones. Such a beautiful blessing my dear.❤
I did the tub at home until about 8cm. Took me like 32 hours or so. Then I tapped out and went to hospital and got that epidural! Tub definitely helped!
I got my third and last daughter at 40. Send you lots of love and greetings. And thank you for your wonderful videos that helps me to sleep.
So much love to you and your growing family! ✨💛✨
Oh wow I related to you so much when you were talking about the newborn phase. I was very (and still am in many ways) consumed by EVERYONE’S advice. Once I started listening to my body and my instincts, it got so much better. My son is 7 and I’m just now considering having another baby. It took me forever to “recover” after having him, and now I feel much calmer about parenting. Almost feeling as if I’d like the opportunity to try it again as this wiser, more knowledgeable woman. I was so hard on myself the first time. I’d like to do it more naturally just once if I can.