Hey man! Then it's about time you do something about it! It's just a matter of baby-stepping the level of social exposure so you progressively can overcome it. And working on building that self-esteem. Trust me, it can absolutely be done. Not saying it will be easy, but if there's a will, there's hope:)! Do you ever try to challenge yourself?
@@alexanderSnilsson Hej, first of all, thank you for answering, No, I don't, My problem I don't dare to talk with whenever i liked a girl, I feel they feel the same, The same case is repeated just mutual seeing
@@hawkinskid555 Hey man, I just want people like you and me to realize we don't have to stay in that place, that we can do something about it. Since talking to girls like that is what scares the crap out of you, that's not where you need to start. Instead, build that social confidence by progressively challenge yourself in social situations, starting with asking people for the time, the direction, having a chat with old people. Just getting used to the random talking to strangers before moving closer to your real objective. It's like training for the real game, you don't go for the real target straight away, that will mostly end up creating emotional scars if you're not mentally prepared to handle the rejection, or socially skilled to take it anywhere. But that's where you'll eventually end up:) . Try and have a look at my Fundamentals playlist for how to talk to strangers and see if that helps as a starter! ruclips.net/video/_UQbSw3VpCU/видео.html
@@alexanderSnilsson Hey brother, Your words are logical and rational, that's right I'm not ready for the real objective, it's hard when you feel alone, but I'm gonna try to ask people like time or direction... as you said, maybe I can get out of my bubble. Do you think to talk to stranger girls on Strandvägen is a good idea ??
@@hawkinskid555 I know the feeling. I've been out practicing this when been alone for 99% of the time. When you do it with friends it gives you false comfort, because they are not always going to be around. So alone is in my world the best way to practice, because then you also need to learn how to have the right mindset and talk yourself UP! Nice to hear that you're walking the streets of Stockholm too! I think the easiest way to get started is to be in an environment where you can ask natural questions. Like in the grocery store. That's where I do most of my small talking, but it may also be because I'm most convenient there :D. A gym is also a good place for me. But honestly, any type of environment where you can come up with a natural question to the context you're in. Like asking for a piece of equipment at the gym, or some particular foods in the store ( or tips on how to make something or inspirational tips), or if you're out walking on strandvägen - ask for direction or if they know any good place to get ice cream around there! It helps you to get used to just opening up. And when you're used to that you can stalk focusing in on the actual conversation. For now, in and out.
Damn, I remember that story. 2017, has it been that long? I remember watching it back then. So much has changed, but some things didn't change. But the lesson is that facing fears is important, but taking care of ourselves is also important, it can break us and make us stronger. Just like the gym. I often seem to forget the benefits of facing fears and taking care of myself. Thanks for reminding me this and thanks for the nice story.
Hey Armando! I now, it's crazy right? I told the story very briefly during a live stream and showed some poor quality footage in the background. Being in my current situation I thought I'd give the story a more worthy presentation! Indeed you are right there. The daily actions I did back then really made me so socially comfortable. I can see the spark in my eyes in a way I don't fully feel at the moment, with everything I'm going through. So looking back at all this has made me hungry to start exposing myself to more awkwardness again, but at a level I can handle right now. Your gym comparison is still valid - if you have an injured should you need to rehab before pushing it too hard again! No, Thank you Armando for doing all this together with me for all these years! Your deep and thoughtful comments and share of perspective has been big part of all this. So thanks, and stay strong :)
Like those DUMBO ears you get with the hat 😅 With love
Great and inspirational video. Also nice to see the date up close. Must've been an exceptional camera guy!
Haha... You wouldn't know ha?! Equal cred to you for making this possible my dear old friend!! Best camera guy ever!!
Shyness ruins my life
Hey man! Then it's about time you do something about it! It's just a matter of baby-stepping the level of social exposure so you progressively can overcome it. And working on building that self-esteem. Trust me, it can absolutely be done. Not saying it will be easy, but if there's a will, there's hope:)! Do you ever try to challenge yourself?
@@alexanderSnilsson Hej, first of all, thank you for answering,
No, I don't, My problem I don't dare to talk with whenever i liked a girl, I feel they feel the same, The same case is repeated just mutual seeing
@@hawkinskid555 Hey man, I just want people like you and me to realize we don't have to stay in that place, that we can do something about it.
Since talking to girls like that is what scares the crap out of you, that's not where you need to start. Instead, build that social confidence by progressively challenge yourself in social situations, starting with asking people for the time, the direction, having a chat with old people. Just getting used to the random talking to strangers before moving closer to your real objective. It's like training for the real game, you don't go for the real target straight away, that will mostly end up creating emotional scars if you're not mentally prepared to handle the rejection, or socially skilled to take it anywhere. But that's where you'll eventually end up:) .
Try and have a look at my Fundamentals playlist for how to talk to strangers and see if that helps as a starter! ruclips.net/video/_UQbSw3VpCU/видео.html
@@alexanderSnilsson Hey brother,
Your words are logical and rational, that's right I'm not ready for the real objective, it's hard when you feel alone, but I'm gonna try to ask people like time or direction... as you said, maybe I can get out of my bubble.
Do you think to talk to stranger girls on Strandvägen is a good idea ??
@@hawkinskid555 I know the feeling. I've been out practicing this when been alone for 99% of the time. When you do it with friends it gives you false comfort, because they are not always going to be around. So alone is in my world the best way to practice, because then you also need to learn how to have the right mindset and talk yourself UP!
Nice to hear that you're walking the streets of Stockholm too! I think the easiest way to get started is to be in an environment where you can ask natural questions. Like in the grocery store. That's where I do most of my small talking, but it may also be because I'm most convenient there :D. A gym is also a good place for me.
But honestly, any type of environment where you can come up with a natural question to the context you're in. Like asking for a piece of equipment at the gym, or some particular foods in the store ( or tips on how to make something or inspirational tips), or if you're out walking on strandvägen - ask for direction or if they know any good place to get ice cream around there! It helps you to get used to just opening up. And when you're used to that you can stalk focusing in on the actual conversation. For now, in and out.
Damn, I remember that story. 2017, has it been that long? I remember watching it back then.
So much has changed, but some things didn't change. But the lesson is that facing fears is important, but taking care of ourselves is also important, it can break us and make us stronger. Just like the gym.
I often seem to forget the benefits of facing fears and taking care of myself. Thanks for reminding me this and thanks for the nice story.
Hey Armando!
I now, it's crazy right? I told the story very briefly during a live stream and showed some poor quality footage in the background. Being in my current situation I thought I'd give the story a more worthy presentation!
Indeed you are right there. The daily actions I did back then really made me so socially comfortable. I can see the spark in my eyes in a way I don't fully feel at the moment, with everything I'm going through. So looking back at all this has made me hungry to start exposing myself to more awkwardness again, but at a level I can handle right now. Your gym comparison is still valid - if you have an injured should you need to rehab before pushing it too hard again!
No, Thank you Armando for doing all this together with me for all these years! Your deep and thoughtful comments and share of perspective has been big part of all this. So thanks, and stay strong :)