@Daniel Mwima Yup, there's a difference between nice guy and a kind/good guy. A nice guy won't say no and disrespects himself by neglecting his own needs.
i needed to hear this as a WOMAN. There are many women who struggle with these habits too… not being able to set boundaries and feeling like you need to prioritize those around you instead of yourself. Thanks for this.
Nice guy means dishonest yesman. But maybe there si also "genuinelly nice man" Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener, not approval seeking man. Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they say their ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them" not for approving them. which creates empathy and connection, between people. I listen to your ideas and you listen to my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense and connection. So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually, and women are attracted to men verbally. so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people. So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but also listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest. Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think that successful men listen to their customers with a genuine interest, not neccessarily with constant approval, but with interest.... so the customers feel heard and come back. If customers feel heard and come back, she feels that he will also listen her ideas, and it encourages her ask his ideas and create connection.....it encourages her to give empathy to him as wella nd listen to him. instead of contradiction, they create a compromise that benefits both, or that also benefits their future children based on their low age and innocence ,so the compomises are important. If she stops falling in love with you, its because she feels like you stopped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes... or ordinary stuff because she will think that if you stop listening to her she can not simultaneously listen to your ideas, create connection and perception or that in future you will not even listen to your own children as father, if you dont make some time to listen the ideas of your wife, how can she expect thatyou will do it with the family. Because when she feels heard, she also feels loved, and when a man feels heard, he feels loved she doesnt want advice but genuine interest and connection. Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
There was a woman I helped once because I genuinely had empathy for her and she was going through a hard time. We did go out once, but nothing romantic ever happened. Now it seems that she only contacts me when she needs money. I had to tell her no, because she thinks of me like a bank and I am not responsible for all of her problems. I was generous and caring initially, but now it becomes annoying that she sees me as nothing more than a money giver and I am not interested in that, so I politely cut her off financially and instead offered to bring her to church. You have to know your limits when it comes to being kind or that trait will be abused.
You handled that quite beautifully by inviting her to church 💖. I just went through something very similar and I’m just now coming to the realization of things. I took my territory back! Spiritually speaking. They were using my desire to be close to God against me to manipulate me financially. Stay blessed!
Facts I just cut off a girl who tried to make me feel like her issues are mine as well…texting me n calling me cuz She ran outta gas, saying she need food to feed her son…this isn’t my responsibility
It's true that when you find the right girl for you start to feel the desire of improving and being better for her. This doesn't mean you change as a person, but it's a great stimulus to become a better version of yourself. I wish I started watching your videos before I met her so I can prevent many of the situations we've been in but I guess it's better to make a mistake and try to understand why you made that mistake in the first place, in my case by staring to watch your videos, and how you can prevent this from happening later in life, rather than just staying with the idea that you've made a mistake and never from learn it. I'm 17 and your videos have a great impact on my self-improvement and my vision on different aspects of life and relationships in particular, as I've always been a few steps ahead of my friends and I've always had a more mature vision of life. Thank you
You're 17 and doing self improvement and gaining knowledge?! Soooo much Respect for you! You're an amazing young individual. This 54yr old mother/grandmother is proud of you. 🙏✨💖
Thank you man! It's so nice to finally have someone address the real issue of the "nice guy" debacle. We need to be nice to the woman while also being nice to ourselves. Boundaries 😎🤙🏽
Nice guy means dishonest yesman. But maybe there si also "genuinelly nice man" Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener, not approval seeking man. Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they say their ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them" not for approving them. which creates empathy and connection, between people. I listen to your ideas and you listen to my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense and connection. So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually, and women are attracted to men verbally. so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people. So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but also listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest. Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think that successful men listen to their customers with a genuine interest, not neccessarily with constant approval, but with interest.... so the customers feel heard and come back. If customers feel heard and come back, she feels that he will also listen her ideas, and it encourages her ask his ideas and create connection.....it encourages her to give empathy to him as wella nd listen to him. instead of contradiction, they create a compromise that benefits both, or that also benefits their future children based on their low age and innocence ,so the compomises are important. If she stops falling in love with you, its because she feels like you stopped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes... or ordinary stuff because she will think that if you stop listening to her she can not simultaneously listen to your ideas, create connection and perception or that in future you will not even listen to your own children as father, if you dont make some time to listen the ideas of your wife, how can she expect thatyou will do it with the family. Because when she feels heard, she also feels loved, and when a man feels heard, he feels loved she doesnt want advice but genuine interest and connection. Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
Keeping it 100% I went through everything you talked about. I was dating a older, very attractive young woman in my teens. I felt she was the prize and thought I was very luck to be with her. So to keep her happy, I was a yes man.😪 The day I couldn't do for her, I saw a side that I never thought I would see! All I can say is learn to put yourself number one in this world and if it doesn't feel right chances it isn't right. A person that love you will never ask you to over extend yourself! A person that appreciate you, will understand when you say you can't or no. Never put any one on a pedestal in my opinion.
I learned this with the imposter. When god sent a real amazing woman I became gunshy and scared to look weak when i did acts of service. The fear got me both times.
Very appreciated 🙌🏼🙏🏼! I NEEDED to hear this; some of these habits have held me back a long time. Despite past trauma and experiences, as an adult male, I always try to take full accountability, but also, guidance is necessary as well, for ignorance will have you stagnant/repeating cycles.
I would even add neglect their health both physically and mental health. Also neglected their financial, spiritual and emotional health. I love nice guys and meet many since I am a kind person but omg! They are man child because they think taking care of themselves are jerk moves.
My wonderful gf (a really cool Jamaican girl incidentally) finally told me last night that I'm too soft. She meant nice guy. So now at least we have an agreement that I'll play the role she wants me to. The thing is she thinks it's funny when I do it, but also kind of hot. On the plus side,she at least *says* she loves me no matter what as long as I'm comfortable with who I am. Awesome channel. I like how you're NOT peddling so called redpill BS.
To be honest life is complicated and we never know if we`re doing the wrong things or the right things with other people. It`s really up to discretion and who we`re dealing with, the are no hard and fast rules.
You AIN'T old enough! take a roll of duct tape, and wrap it around the bottom half of your head so only your eyes and your ears are exposed. then wrap some around the tips of your fingers.
I do believe many of us give a lot due to rejection, wanting to feel accepted. As I'm on my healing journey I am learning to love and give more to myself. I am a giver at heart but I have to ask GOD, be lead by THE HOLY SPIRIT to know when to freely give. I'm no longer giving my last or not saving for myself. It is hard for me to ask for help from people because I feel like I will owe them something. I just heard THE HOLY SPIRIT say "the reason why I've not answered your prayers is because you're not asking for help." This makes so much since now. I'm truly scared to ask for help. SMH. I'm growing. Some days are good and some days are challenging. I'm learning, growing, one day at a time. PRAISE ALMIGHTY YAHWEH IN JESUS CHRIST.🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️🌟
I'm talking with a woman right now that lives right across the street from me like 50 feet from my house. Me and her have been hanging out and getting to know each other for about 6 months now. Just hanging out and taking our time to get to know one another and can get along over a prolonged period. We are just living in the moment and seeing where it goes if it does. I'm single father and she is a single mother
I don’t like the feeling that if I treat you like shit, give nothing, barely make time for you, and in general don’t respect you you would still bend over backwards for me. Now, I’m not gonna use you and mistreat you, but I’m not going to respect you either. I just wont want to be in your life. 2 things, 1. Why would a woman respect and like a man who doesn’t respect himself? 2. UNLESS you are incredibly wealthy (I’m near Miami, so some people eat sushi like it’s McDonald’s and it’s not a stretch for them) being TOO generous can be incredibly uncomfortable. I’m gonna share a few scenerios. 1. A guy and girl have been close for a while, they finally go on a date and it’s a SUPER nice one. This is incredibly sweet. One guy I’d known for 4 years and I hooked up one night. He then took me on a date. We went to a steak dinner and a comedy show. All n all, it was probably 400-450$ date. It was INCREDIBLY sweet, I had a great time, I loved that he included me in something he loves (stand up comedy) and he set the tone for what a great partner he could be and no I didn’t expect every date after to be some glorious rondevu. Also, if I REALLY liked a guy and he took me on a nice date it would win my heart a litttttle quicker than a non nice one, but a non nice wouldn’t be a deal breaker and he would still win it either way. 🖤 Basically, I am saying that spending money on a girl who likes you is incredibly sweet, hopefully she’s appreciative, and it definitely shows you in a positive light. (Not saying normal dates or activities not involving money don’t). HOWEVER, I have been on the receiving end of guys basically trying to buy my love in ways I HAVE NOT asked for. If I was on the fence and someone asked me out (again, if they’re a millionaire and would be going to a 5 star steak house anyways I really dgaf, of course I like nice steak!) but if someone else took me somewhere very nice it would make me uncomfortable. Guys giving too much often gives an energy that they want to receive. Getting a normal dinner, or paying for parking while we walk around somewhere isn’t high pressure. My platonic friends and I often take turns doing this for eachother. But anythkng that feels like a stretch for the guy generally IS NOT something most woman like. I mean, I could be wrong, but most people don’t like using others or feeling pressured for sex. That’s literally how it feels, I was beating around the bush, but all it does is make it mroe awkward saying Ok! Bye at the end of the night. ALSO, if I was only somewhat into a guy (and unsure if that would change) I might agree to a second date. But if I feel like he’s gonna be bending over backwards doing a lot for me everytime we hang out I’d be uncomfortable and probably not go. It’s so uncomfortable when someone gives too much. Again, if the girl is giving HIGH signs of interest, excited affection, and so on, it’s amazing to give back, whether it’s financially or otherwise. But if she is lukewarm and you are doing the most, it’s just uncomfortable. Just wanted to add my perspective as a woman on a scenerio. Also, woman love nice guys. Guys with no backbone who give into every little thing and bend over backwards for no reward are not nice. They are weak, and sometimes they are UNKIND when the intention behind their actions is to guilt a woman into having sex with them. That’s not a nice man. That’s a pathetic man. I think the thing is, woman also like assholes (as long as they’re sweet enough to them). Nice guys and sometimes jerks have their perks, weak beta guilt tripping men remind me of garden shrubs. To put it bluntly lol.
Keep going Andrew; hold boundaries, ask for your needs to be met, know your relationship Must Haves, say YES only when it's authentic, you are that WORTH IT. Attachment Theory works ❤
There is an ex girlfriend that owes me 5,000 dollars.she didnt want to pay me i broke both of her kneecaps.im very mean its not even funny.im mean as fuck.
I don't take an advice from you. you put down men so badly on your women channel. You don't promote an good for men when you go on others channels. that's sad. You arent really helping anyone but one side of the fence and yourself .
Don't you let to learn hacking, stalking, ChatGPT skills? Treating woman, social skills seem not matter. Hijacking, scrapping data, watching through hidden camera, contacting stalking staffs, doing smearing campaign. That is more valuable in this modern dating market. Nowadays, people gaslit to take partner, but also to take down rivals.
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Nice guys don't stop being nice I'm winning as a nice guy. All you have to do is check disrespect and say no to anything you don't like
Facts…I’m learning the hard way right now!!
You're a good man then, not a nice guy.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️ 🙏
@Daniel Mwima Yup, there's a difference between nice guy and a kind/good guy. A nice guy won't say no and disrespects himself by neglecting his own needs.
My biggest issue
i needed to hear this as a WOMAN. There are many women who struggle with these habits too… not being able to set boundaries and feeling like you need to prioritize those around you instead of yourself. Thanks for this.
My pleasure ❤️
This was hitting me similarly! This is going in my favorites for sure…
Nice guy means dishonest yesman.
But maybe there si also "genuinelly nice man"
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener, not approval seeking man.
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they say their ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
not for approving them.
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen to my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense and connection.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but also listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think that successful men listen to their customers with a genuine interest,
not neccessarily with constant approval, but with interest....
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If customers feel heard and come back, she feels that he will also listen her ideas, and
it encourages her ask his ideas and create connection.....it encourages her to give empathy to him as wella nd listen to him.
instead of contradiction, they create a compromise that benefits both, or that also benefits their future children based on their low age and innocence
,so the compomises are important.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stopped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes... or ordinary stuff
because she will think that if you stop listening to her
she can not simultaneously listen to your ideas, create connection and perception
or that in future you will not even listen to your own children as father, if you dont make some time to listen the ideas of your wife,
how can she expect thatyou will do it with the family.
Because when she feels heard, she also feels loved,
and when a man feels heard, he feels loved
she doesnt want advice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
There was a woman I helped once because I genuinely had empathy for her and she was going through a hard time. We did go out once, but nothing romantic ever happened. Now it seems that she only contacts me when she needs money. I had to tell her no, because she thinks of me like a bank and I am not responsible for all of her problems. I was generous and caring initially, but now it becomes annoying that she sees me as nothing more than a money giver and I am not interested in that, so I politely cut her off financially and instead offered to bring her to church. You have to know your limits when it comes to being kind or that trait will be abused.
You handled that quite beautifully by inviting her to church 💖. I just went through something very similar and I’m just now coming to the realization of things. I took my territory back! Spiritually speaking. They were using my desire to be close to God against me to manipulate me financially. Stay blessed!
The trouble is that we sort of have to start as we mean to continue. A single act seems like a solid precedent.
This happened to me except I got blocked as soon as I caught on and called her out on it.
Facts I just cut off a girl who tried to make me feel like her issues are mine as well…texting me n calling me cuz She ran outta gas, saying she need food to feed her son…this isn’t my responsibility
It's true that when you find the right girl for you start to feel the desire of improving and being better for her. This doesn't mean you change as a person, but it's a great stimulus to become a better version of yourself. I wish I started watching your videos before I met her so I can prevent many of the situations we've been in but I guess it's better to make a mistake and try to understand why you made that mistake in the first place, in my case by staring to watch your videos, and how you can prevent this from happening later in life, rather than just staying with the idea that you've made a mistake and never from learn it. I'm 17 and your videos have a great impact on my self-improvement and my vision on different aspects of life and relationships in particular, as I've always been a few steps ahead of my friends and I've always had a more mature vision of life. Thank you
Thank you for sharing, I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you. The blessing is that you learned your lesson, and you’ll be better off at it 😊
You're 17 and doing self improvement and gaining knowledge?!
Soooo much Respect for you!
You're an amazing young individual.
This 54yr old mother/grandmother is proud of you. 🙏✨💖
Thank you man! It's so nice to finally have someone address the real issue of the "nice guy" debacle. We need to be nice to the woman while also being nice to ourselves. Boundaries 😎🤙🏽
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Correct! Being a "nice guy" can be rooted in fear.
Most definitely!
Nice guy means dishonest yesman.
But maybe there si also "genuinelly nice man"
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener, not approval seeking man.
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they say their ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
not for approving them.
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen to my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense and connection.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but also listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think that successful men listen to their customers with a genuine interest,
not neccessarily with constant approval, but with interest....
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If customers feel heard and come back, she feels that he will also listen her ideas, and
it encourages her ask his ideas and create connection.....it encourages her to give empathy to him as wella nd listen to him.
instead of contradiction, they create a compromise that benefits both, or that also benefits their future children based on their low age and innocence
,so the compomises are important.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stopped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes... or ordinary stuff
because she will think that if you stop listening to her
she can not simultaneously listen to your ideas, create connection and perception
or that in future you will not even listen to your own children as father, if you dont make some time to listen the ideas of your wife,
how can she expect thatyou will do it with the family.
Because when she feels heard, she also feels loved,
and when a man feels heard, he feels loved
she doesnt want advice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
You hit the nail right on the head with this one. Genuine kindness, and being genuine in general, takes courage
Basically energy. Woman are attractive to masculine energy, not fearful frequency.
Keeping it 100% I went through everything you talked about.
I was dating a older, very attractive young woman in my teens. I felt she was the prize and thought I was very luck to be with her.
So to keep her happy, I was a yes man.😪
The day I couldn't do for her, I saw a side that I never thought I would see!
All I can say is learn to put yourself number one in this world and if it doesn't feel right chances it isn't right.
A person that love you will never ask you to over extend yourself!
A person that appreciate you, will understand when you say you can't or no.
Never put any one on a pedestal in my opinion.
I learned this with the imposter. When god sent a real amazing woman I became gunshy and scared to look weak when i did acts of service. The fear got me both times.
🙏
This is reallt good wisdom. I'm deep cleaning while listening to you. Thank you, Stephan for all you do! YOU ARE A KING! GOD BLESS YOU IN JESUS.🙏🏽❤️🌟
You are so welcome 🙏
Well articulated. Thank you for your interpretation.
I am a recovering people pleaser also.
You can be a good guy just never allow disrespect have boundaries and stand on what you say and don’t be a pushover for nobody
Very appreciated 🙌🏼🙏🏼! I NEEDED to hear this; some of these habits have held me back a long time. Despite past trauma and experiences, as an adult male, I always try to take full accountability, but also, guidance is necessary as well, for ignorance will have you stagnant/repeating cycles.
I would even add neglect their health both physically and mental health. Also neglected their financial, spiritual and emotional health. I love nice guys and meet many since I am a kind person but omg! They are man child because they think taking care of themselves are jerk moves.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
ABSOLUTELY EXCELLENT CONTENT!!! THANKS FOR BEING "REAL" AND MAKING SUCH EMPOWERING INFORMATION SO READILY AVAILABLE!!! 💯💯💯💯💯
Thanks Stephen for the great message! I appreciate you
God bless you Stephan...You've just made my day. Big up
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
My wonderful gf (a really cool Jamaican girl incidentally) finally told me last night that I'm too soft. She meant nice guy. So now at least we have an agreement that I'll play the role she wants me to. The thing is she thinks it's funny when I do it, but also kind of hot. On the plus side,she at least *says* she loves me no matter what as long as I'm comfortable with who I am.
Awesome channel. I like how you're NOT peddling so called redpill BS.
That's called reciprocity of expectations. When you give in hopes of something in return
Not every problem is yours to solve. Protect your emotional energy and allow God to tone your "no."
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I RESONATE!!
To be honest life is complicated and we never know if we`re doing the wrong things or the right things with other people.
It`s really up to discretion and who we`re dealing with, the are no hard and fast rules.
You AIN'T old enough!
take a roll of duct tape, and wrap it around the bottom half of your head so only your eyes and your ears are exposed.
then wrap some around the tips of your fingers.
Wow, I’m speechless! You just put so many things in perspective for me. I appreciate you for making this content. Peace God.
I need to learn to be kind more than being nice
So many gems were shared! Amazing video!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
All facts man. Good video.
Getting a lot better at saying no.
This was good brotha. Thank you. 👊🏾
I do believe many of us give a lot due to rejection, wanting to feel accepted. As I'm on my healing journey I am learning to love and give more to myself. I am a giver at heart but I have to ask GOD, be lead by THE HOLY SPIRIT to know when to freely give. I'm no longer giving my last or not saving for myself. It is hard for me to ask for help from people because I feel like I will owe them something. I just heard THE HOLY SPIRIT say "the reason why I've not answered your prayers is because you're not asking for help." This makes so much since now. I'm truly scared to ask for help. SMH.
I'm growing. Some days are good and some days are challenging.
I'm learning, growing, one day at a time. PRAISE ALMIGHTY YAHWEH IN JESUS CHRIST.🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️🌟
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen, Thank you very much! I'm all on the men's channel. Smh...lol.😂❤
I needed to hear this from someone😊Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
Thanks. This helped me tremendously.
I'm talking with a woman right now that lives right across the street from me like 50 feet from my house. Me and her have been hanging out and getting to know each other for about 6 months now. Just hanging out and taking our time to get to know one another and can get along over a prolonged period. We are just living in the moment and seeing where it goes if it does. I'm single father and she is a single mother
I love nice guys, however when men are overly smothering or doting on me, it's a turn off. Just know when to be nice and when to be masculine.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
I just received my first order today from Dr. Price. I'm on a new journey.🔥
How do I say you're looking good without coming off flirty?😊❤
So how about people who are taking advantage of nice people? What can you say about them?
They are selfish users. Not much more to say about that.
Interesting wisdom. Thanks for the reminders
My pleasure ❤️
Excellent point about interventions ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
you help me a lot, thank you
My pleasure ❤️
Facts.
Too much SIMPIN and not enough PIMPIN by fellas for too many years, now!! Nice guys finish last!! Fellas need to be real with females and bold!
Thanks brother
Never will you finish last Stephan youll be first ❤❤
I don’t like the feeling that if I treat you like shit, give nothing, barely make time for you, and in general don’t respect you you would still bend over backwards for me. Now, I’m not gonna use you and mistreat you, but I’m not going to respect you either. I just wont want to be in your life.
2 things, 1. Why would a woman respect and like a man who doesn’t respect himself?
2. UNLESS you are incredibly wealthy (I’m near Miami, so some people eat sushi like it’s McDonald’s and it’s not a stretch for them) being TOO generous can be incredibly uncomfortable. I’m gonna share a few scenerios.
1. A guy and girl have been close for a while, they finally go on a date and it’s a SUPER nice one. This is incredibly sweet. One guy I’d known for 4 years and I hooked up one night. He then took me on a date. We went to a steak dinner and a comedy show. All n all, it was probably 400-450$ date. It was INCREDIBLY sweet, I had a great time, I loved that he included me in something he loves (stand up comedy) and he set the tone for what a great partner he could be and no I didn’t expect every date after to be some glorious rondevu.
Also, if I REALLY liked a guy and he took me on a nice date it would win my heart a litttttle quicker than a non nice one, but a non nice wouldn’t be a deal breaker and he would still win it either way. 🖤
Basically, I am saying that spending money on a girl who likes you is incredibly sweet, hopefully she’s appreciative, and it definitely shows you in a positive light. (Not saying normal dates or activities not involving money don’t).
HOWEVER, I have been on the receiving end of guys basically trying to buy my love in ways I HAVE NOT asked for. If I was on the fence and someone asked me out (again, if they’re a millionaire and would be going to a 5 star steak house anyways I really dgaf, of course I like nice steak!) but if someone else took me somewhere very nice it would make me uncomfortable. Guys giving too much often gives an energy that they want to receive. Getting a normal dinner, or paying for parking while we walk around somewhere isn’t high pressure. My platonic friends and I often take turns doing this for eachother. But anythkng that feels like a stretch for the guy generally IS NOT something most woman like. I mean, I could be wrong, but most people don’t like using others or feeling pressured for sex. That’s literally how it feels, I was beating around the bush, but all it does is make it mroe awkward saying Ok! Bye at the end of the night.
ALSO, if I was only somewhat into a guy (and unsure if that would change) I might agree to a second date. But if I feel like he’s gonna be bending over backwards doing a lot for me everytime we hang out I’d be uncomfortable and probably not go. It’s so uncomfortable when someone gives too much. Again, if the girl is giving HIGH signs of interest, excited affection, and so on, it’s amazing to give back, whether it’s financially or otherwise. But if she is lukewarm and you are doing the most, it’s just uncomfortable. Just wanted to add my perspective as a woman on a scenerio.
Also, woman love nice guys. Guys with no backbone who give into every little thing and bend over backwards for no reward are not nice. They are weak, and sometimes they are UNKIND when the intention behind their actions is to guilt a woman into having sex with them. That’s not a nice man. That’s a pathetic man. I think the thing is, woman also like assholes (as long as they’re sweet enough to them). Nice guys and sometimes jerks have their perks, weak beta guilt tripping men remind me of garden shrubs. To put it bluntly lol.
Buck I always say yes because of fear of other opinions if I say no they will get mad?
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Do you have in a form of audio book ?
Man this hits hard
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Keep going Andrew; hold boundaries, ask for your needs to be met, know your relationship Must Haves, say YES only when it's authentic, you are that WORTH IT. Attachment Theory works ❤
What is a simp Stephan?
Nice 👍
I hate when you tell them how much you have done for then and they say .. NO ONE ASKED YOU TOO....
They're right... Lol. You're not doing it out of the kindness of your heart if you're doing that.
Being kind is the actual way of being versus being nice. Look up the etymology of the word nice.
Wow🤔. (and this was a year ago.)
I feel sorry for that guy he actually used for this thumbnail.
Im not nice anymore.use to be nice no more.im not a doormat.
There is an ex girlfriend that owes me 5,000 dollars.she didnt want to pay me i broke both of her kneecaps.im very mean its not even funny.im mean as fuck.
I dont nobody shit but my simple as that
Stop being nice period.
Who is this guy just asking because I’m cautious of taking advice message was heard but who is this dude.....credible?
Yooooo
I take offense you got a white guy as a simp in the thumbnail. thats racist lol
I don't take an advice from you. you put down men so badly on your women channel. You don't promote an good for men when you go on others channels. that's sad. You arent really helping anyone but one side of the fence and yourself .
Do you feel better you got that off your chest@@koolbeans8292
Don't you let to learn hacking, stalking, ChatGPT skills?
Treating woman, social skills seem not matter.
Hijacking, scrapping data, watching through hidden camera, contacting stalking staffs, doing smearing campaign. That is more valuable in this modern dating market.
Nowadays, people gaslit to take partner, but also to take down rivals.