Thank you for this. I would also add monogamy and consistency as HUGE factors in building and maintaining a woman's trust. A woman will never submit to a man who struggles to remain faithful or whose words are inconsistent with his actions.
@@texasgoddess323 I mean faithful AND monogamous. I can only speak on faithfulness in relation to monogamy since I'm not into the poly thing. I can't define what faithful means in that situation.
@@4u2cre8 It's the same thing. As long as its all in the open and you don't keep secrets, you are faithful. You can cheat in a poly relationship the same way. Keep secrets, don't be honest, etc. It's the same concept.
This is false… Monogamy is a made up construct. Women will submit to a man with multiple woman as long as it doesn’t withhold him from being a complete man for her
You are so right!! My man is what I call a real man. He leads and I’m happy submitting to him, cooking, and dressing for him. I feel very protected and safe in every aspect. I don’t have to worry about anything except to support his decisions, goals, and dreams. He’s truly the best man I know. God blessed me when He brought him to my life.
Please help me understand this. Don't you have dreams, goals and ambitions of your own? Don't you want to support yourself? Are you prepared for when he leaves, cheats or dies or a combination of those?
I work with my man. I love his wisdom the most. When I become emotional, he notices my body language. He'll speak softly and even if I'm across the room, I hear his voice and i beome alerted to his words. I immediately calm down and I follow his wisdom. We've never had sex nor even kissed yet but I would follow him wherever he leads. He has proven that I can trust his wisdom and I feel safe and secure.
Like he's talking about submission. I learned about being submissive in church and God guiding me. Submissive 15yrs but to the wrong one. But the experience was good cause I learned a lot. People need to understand submission isn't about a woman being treated any way. When you have a woman who is on this level she has respect, love, trust, she is virtuous with her partner and family. Most important she is humble. A woman on this level let's the man be a man even while working and taking care of kids. Been there but a man who doesn't step into his role as a man doesn't deserve a submissive woman. I wanted to feel protected, loved, respected, encouraged, but got none of this but I didn't let that discourage me from being submissive. This subject means a lot to me.💯💯💯💯
I have all you just mentioned. I believe in a a balance. I’m a professional with a career that I love, make my own money, have hobbies, friends, family, and always have a project going on. I set goals for myself with deadlines and I meet them all. Submitting to my man and supporting with his goals doesn’t mean I don’t have my own career, goals, or life. I do. And that’s one of the things I love about myself. I take care of my man, but I take care of myself too. I travel, and pamper myself. If he ever leaves, I’m fine because I have my own life and don’t depend on him financially or emotionally. I just walk in my feminine energy. We have a great communication. He encourages me when I share my goals with him and soothes me when I’m going through something.
Stephen, I want to take this moment to tell you what a blessing you are to the body of Christ. Thank you! Your wisdom and insight that God has given you is making a difference in the lives of men and women. God will richly reward you as a good and faithful servant to both God and man.
Wow, another powerful video that will change lives! This is why you’re the best in your field…. you truly get /understand what women need and how men can embody/be those needs without compromising their masculinity. Powerful!!!🙏🏾
Once again Stephan, you are on point. You’re the GOAT! Thanks for helping me determine what type of men I deserve as a VERY feminine woman. Thanks for making me finally understand that as a feminine woman, there’s is nothing wrong with me when I am not treated well. I WILL NO LONGER TAKE IT PERSONAL!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💋💋💋💋
Trust is absolutely necessary for complete or full submission from a woman to a man. I have to be able to trust a man more and more over time in order to submit to him more. As a woman who believes in being submissive I will tell you, there’s levels to my submissive tendencies and my Husband (that I will one day have, given it’s in Gods will) is the one who will get the MOST and best submission from me. However, even a Husband can cause his wife he’s already married to, to trust him less and less over time. Whereas, the wife should trust the Husband more and more over time.
Help me understand this. Don't you have ambitions, goals and dreams of your own? Are you prepared for when he leaves, cheats, dies or a combination of those?
2pac said this in an interview in the mid 90s men have forgotten their roles as men so the women have forgotten their roles as women that’s why theirs all this duplicity in relationships
Divorce rates 40%, and the amount of partners ppl go thru before marriage is disgusting. People want a perfect partner and keep looking and hurting eachother.
As much as you can contribute to it, add to her internal/external environment being decluttered, stable and orderly, and she will more likely be consistently submissive
My pastor said a woman needs to learn how to grieve. The context was the difference between witnessing to men vs witnessing to women but I think this applies also to a woman ability and willingness to submit. A women sees and approach life as an adventure. We go about collecting tools to aid us in this adventure but because our nature does not want to settle on one thing, we keep collecting and have difficulty in discerning what to let go of and what to keep, so we end up keeping all or too much of it and that weighs us down because indeed it is literally weights attached to our minds and then of course because women are their bodies, we feel it in our bodies and we act upon those feelings. The woman collects because on this adventure she knows resources will keep her alive and aid her in times of need or desperation. Smart of her, wise of her but foolish of her to not discern what is no longer useful or has never been and therefore what needs to be discarded. This is where the masculine really gets to shine in her life...giving her hope, also. The man has the ability to lighten her burdens. By first: not adding onto them. Secondly: stabilizing her focus so she can see what she ought to be aiming at/for (men are really good at single focus while women focus on multiple things at the same time). And thirdly, helping her remove the unnecessary weights or tools (remember those tools are her security) by getting her to see she can trust in you and rely upon you, (you, instead, becomes her security). She then will begin to let go and grieve those loses (her old securities) and hold onto you, instead. You would then get her strength and her power. She will glorify you. But men want to be rewarded without putting in much effort to get the gold. So, most men never get to tap into the many treasures of the woman, which tends to be abundant. Most men do not know what's it's like to be served...and happily so by the woman. Who's fault is it? Both. Just remember the feminine needs to be able to move freely because its' nature is fluid and lite like air and most women are burdened too much to be able to move gracefully and be happy. That is what you are seeing and experiencing from women. The feminine perfectly fits in with the masculine, even though, it is very different from it and the masculine molds the feminine to perfection.
Thought I would watch video for guys. It takes two to tango. Submission? No problem. As long as genine MUTUAL connection, attraction, chemistry is there submission is easy, and it facilitates clarity and vulnerability. Submission is part of a deeper relationship, deeper love. It is FREEING, not CONTROLLING.
Great topic. Submission is not hard it just takes wisdom to recognize the man we should submit to. Submit to a man who follows Godly principles, one who is not led by his flesh but more in tune spiritually. A masculine man with God at his guide is the only one to submit to.
Give them something to submit to I guess. Be respectful and respectable, have integrity, be emotionally intelligent (know when to just listen or when to give solutions, when to be a rock for her or a pillow if you get what I mean), be able to teach them things without making her feel stupid (essentially be competent), provide value to her and the people you care about economically and intellectually, have standards and respectfully but assertively require them of her and reward and appreciate the behavior you desire more of when she displays it. But then again I'm just 18 and I only got into my first relationship ever like 2 weeks ago so... 🤷🏾♂️What do I know. Take my advice with a grain of salt. Also have clear defined goals that you work towards and support hers too. If she's tripping just be playful with her and love on her then after she stops tripping, respectfully and lovingly address that this behavior can't go on. Lastly, but most importantly make sure she CHOOSES to submit to you. NEVER FORCE OR MANIPULATE her into it. She will RESENT YOU FOR IT. Good luck guys.
I agree but also disagree with you about younger men having to wait until they build their resume. This is because a lot of people spend time focusing only on their careers but have no idea about managing a relationship by the time they are in their mid-30s. They don't spend any time exploring their romantic and emotional side and don't know what they want from their partner. It is important to be in a few relationships early on and even fail in them. These relationships, if taken positively, prepare us to handle a good relationship when it comes across.
This is a very good point. I'm dating a man that was career focused and I've asked him questions he's never thought about such as "what makes you feel most loved?". He's barely dated and doesn't really know what he wants/needs in a relationship. On the flip side, I wasn't interested in dating anyone until recently however I did do some work to find my love language and such and have done some research such as watch some dating videos to get an idea of dating challenges and pitfalls.
@@pikalee3492Yes, it is important to love and do it wrong and even fail. I still haven't found the right woman but after multiple dating and relationships I feel I am a wiser person. I know what I want and what I can provide in a relationship.
Good advice. I thought that I needed to find a wife before becoming successful. I am close to achieving the financial success with new skills and business endeavors. I am learning to focus on purpose first.
I've had no problem with submission at any age, because I stay in my masculine frame, and for those who tested, they typically come from trauma and a lack of respect for men in general, which is plenty of people nowadays, but if a man stays in his masculine frame, he's got a long history making good decisions even with a few mistakes thrown in, even the most masculine woman that is on the healing journey will settle into submission over time, but they're going to test you in a lot of men who have a lot of choices. Don't like the Tests and only that man can decide if that particular woman is worth his energy
👍 I agree that "even the most masculine woman" will settle into submission of a man that holds his masculine frame. Like when there's chaos, his presence/behavior brings order.
@@newmindsetdaily agree and course they're not gonna believe it at first they're going to test you a bunch to see if that's consistent but once they see consistency with it and they know they can rely on it. Those walls will start coming down.
1 Corinthians 11:3 The scripture says that the man is the head of the woman. Yet; what religious faith I am from teaches from the podium that the man should always cherish the woman, take what she says into consideration, and take her seriously. That definitely takes humility, because the man needs to understand that she may have a better idea than he has and he should be willing to implement it instead of learning the hard way. 😊 My parents were married for 62 years and they had pow wows every day with their cup of coffee. They were always talking and understanding each other and loving each other. I also saw my grandparents and great-grandparents have fabulous long loving relationships,.. they run in my family, and I think that it's a little harder now with modern society, but still doable if you find someone who's willing to compromise and not see themselves as Superior to you, or has princess syndrome.😮😅
All I wanted was to grow up now am grown up am still struggling to learn women. Learning never ends but man women the more I try to learn about them the more I get confused.
Can a woman bringing an ex back as “ Just A Friend” in to the current relationship cause her to feel that the current relationship partner isn’t leading correctly,not trust if it was going perfectly well until the ex was brought in? The relationship was going along perfect for a year and a half,I had raised a child by myself,made good money,paid bills.owned property,was good with her kids and family.
Do you mean they are your children and her ex is coming back in, or, they are his children and she’s bringing him back in. If they are his children he’ll always be around if involved, if they are your children you need to shut that down.
Thank you so much for putting this message out here. Give us something to submit to! And stop looking for women to “build you”. Women are not builders we are creators and enhancers to your success. If I have to do any building, it will be to build me and my success. 😊👍🏽
A man will become successfully independent to attract a woman. Everything a man does is to attract a woman. A woman will become sucessfully independant so she doesn't need a man. The difference btw man and woman. I would say some men and some women. This is not my quote. I just heard it yesterday. I found it interesting and explains alot.❤❤❤
As a woman, who doesn't believe in being "submissive" as such, this still makes sense. We will flip over backwards to keep our man happy, when he treats us right and inspires respect & trust - Heck, sometimes we do anyways 🙃
In a relationship, both parties lead at different times, according to skill set, their strengths and weakness, knowledge base, etc. That's the way it should be. This idea that women need to submit and men need to lead is absurd to me. Both parties should be making decisions together. It shouldn't be the man wants to do things this way and the woman doesn't, but they're going to do it his way because he's the man, despite how she feels. That's ridiculous. Women are not children or dogs, we don't need to be lead anywhere.
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Most women who make as much or more money than a man won’t submit. If she makes financially equal, she will think that she and her partner are equal. If she makes more, she wants to take control of the relationship.
@@blam9360 I like to look at it as, we are different. Are men superior to women? No. Women are not slaves, but they should be submissive, and being submissive is trusting a man’s leadership. Men should be the leaders in the relationship. Men should be providers and protectors. If a man breaks into the house, and if we are equal, she should be standing next to the man defending the residence? Or should she be in front of the man? No. Should a man have 100 Pete cent control? No. Stephan does say that men should be leaders and than she should trust in his leadership. That is being submissive, and it’s hard for a woman to be submissive if she makes more money.
@@Halgame99 lol what a joke. I already know "something" about men and women. I know a LOT about men and women, I think *you* need to learn something first. In fact, you probably have more to learn than I did when I was 3. Quit being arrogant.
I can’t take back everything wrong I did there was nothing there I didn’t get it from the beginning or know what,what all you guys have been writing in here is beyond me you guy need more help then I do
God Bless You! Stephan...Let's not forget an oppressive patriarchal system and lifestyle Black men and women have assimilated into. We identify and emulate a European culture where black men have no economic stability and black women have been used as pawns against healthy, healed and balanced relationships. ❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit
Submit to the man who submits to Christ. "The head of man is Christ." Lots of boys wanna ignore this and play gods. We're not the top of the chain. A woman cannot follow a man who does not know his place.
@Alegna Rolyart depends on the type of man. If he's narc or trash lil boy.. ..then yes, you're right. But if he's a righteous grown man who knows who he is ....a WIFE who submits to him leading, providing, and protecting is him being a high quality man and nothing less. He doesn't want a combative argumentative, disrespectful wmn/wife fighting him for being himself.....a real man.
@Dominique Mathews if you want to "co-lead" like a man....are you okay with taking on the same responsibility of providing and protecting your husband as well? Are you okay with "covering" him financially and ensuring his safety at all times in every way?? With leadership comes accountability when your leadership fails. When that happens, will you take responsibility for your failures by admitting them and logically re-strategize a plan of correction for success? Can you build the vision you have for your family, manage the finances inclu budgeting, saving, investing for you, your husband and childrens future, protect your family, and provide provision.....all while nurturing, teaching, and raising your children and unconditionally loving and respecting your husband? This is how a righteous grown man leads naturally....so you can do this 50/50 "co-leading" consistently and happily til death do you part? Or.....do you just want to overrule a man and "co-lead" from a wmns perspective bc you refuse to submit and admit the differences between men and wmn?
Like kevin Samuels said “ the world doesn’t owe anyone understanding “ you sound ok my dude, but I see you making a lot of excuses for these women. Its funny how women need love , faithfulness, money, words of encouragement, and all these other things, but a man wants a hot plate , piece and quiet , then Its I will do that for the right man . However, men half to spend money, resources time and give protection to women from the very beginning. Yet women can see if its the right man , make sure he’s making a bunch of money before they submit.(hypocrisy)Once again kevin Samuels said”These women want the men they gave their best years and highest sexual market place value to ( 18-25) “ Unless she was previously married or in a long term relationship they will never submit to you because they will never see you or be attracted to you like the men who didn’t want them or that wouldn’t commit to them. Its biology. Men you have to except that no virgins or women with more boyfriends before you are there for resource extraction. Im nit saying dont date , Im not saying dont marry . Im saying except that you will always be second to her kids, and the man she wants but couldn’t get or keep. Get your woman early and you have a chance (even this in 2023) isnt a for sure bet. This is an ok channel I respect you trying, just sounds like a lot of pandering to women once again. I get it make your money 💴
IMO, no woman will submit to a boy who uses jealousy games to measure her interest. No games. Trust that there’s no sneaky links, girls in your DMs or text msgs or putting other girls above her-whether she’s around or not. If you badmouth her to everyone you work with she will not submit to you cause you can’t be trusted. If there are issues with her or your relationship you come to HER about them. Keep your relationship issues private but be proud to show her off in public. Be her pillow, her rock, her best friend she can trust to confide in (your not going to run around telling everyone her business). She will have no problem helping you build if you’re both building a solid foundation of mutual respect and trust. She needs to be respectful and trustworthy also, of course. Without trust and respect, a woman will always have her guard up and therefore, always carry her masculine energy as a defense. She needs to feel safe and secure (mostly emotionally but also physically and much less so financially) in order to settle into her natural feminine energy. Communicate what you need from her to feel like you can trust her and vice versa-then BOTH actively do those for your partner to build that trust. Once trust is established you will both be the pillow and the rock when either needs to be. Reciprocity, honesty, and being faithful are based in respect. It’s not rocket science. It isn’t about control as many so misguided people believe. It’s not one above the other or a competition-just the opposite- it is teamwork as you are equal just with different roles as man and woman are very different -both bringing important natural qualities to the table -balancing out the relationship, as they are built to do.
Games players can’t be trusted full stop. They are self seeking. These are dangerous people who will play, test and abuse. No one wants to be someone’s second or last option because at some point these people will cheat when a another option they deem more exciting shows up.
You also want the person to grow they arent gonna grow just by talking about things they hate or dont do. Women are suppose to want what the man wants thats how it works not the other way around.
I'm not chasing any man's validation. I don't need a man to validate me. If a man is playing hard to get, then he's not for me. He thinks that he has all of these options, so it's easier for him to make me an option. No thank you.
The title of this video is highly disturbing. If a man needs a woman to submit to him, that reveals a psychological issue within him. Most probably, he wants to experience a submissive woman as a compensation for the way he himself (unwillingly) submitted to his mother when he was a baby or child. And I don't think your book will help such men.
Ive met this 22yr old that is completely submitted by me…. Im 34. It appears that if the sex is spectacular they’ll just beg to be with you lol. she also states that im way out of her league..(which i am)
That's lust and an ego stroke for you....not love. Therefore, there's no true submission....she's smitten. A wmn only submits when she's in love and safe with a man. One of yall will get bored soon.
Thank you for this. I would also add monogamy and consistency as HUGE factors in building and maintaining a woman's trust. A woman will never submit to a man who struggles to remain faithful or whose words are inconsistent with his actions.
My pleasure ❤️
Do you mean faithful, not monogamous? You can be faithful or unfaithful in a poly situation.🌻
@@texasgoddess323 I mean faithful AND monogamous. I can only speak on faithfulness in relation to monogamy since I'm not into the poly thing. I can't define what faithful means in that situation.
@@4u2cre8 It's the same thing. As long as its all in the open and you don't keep secrets, you are faithful. You can cheat in a poly relationship the same way. Keep secrets, don't be honest, etc. It's the same concept.
This is false… Monogamy is a made up construct. Women will submit to a man with multiple woman as long as it doesn’t withhold him from being a complete man for her
You are so right!!
My man is what I call a real man. He leads and I’m happy submitting to him, cooking, and dressing for him. I feel very protected and safe in every aspect. I don’t have to worry about anything except to support his decisions, goals, and dreams. He’s truly the best man I know. God blessed me when He brought him to my life.
Please help me understand this. Don't you have dreams, goals and ambitions of your own? Don't you want to support yourself? Are you prepared for when he leaves, cheats or dies or a combination of those?
@@ElimEx1im a 55 year old man, if she is who her posts presents, a Man would happliy give his life for her.
I work with my man. I love his wisdom the most. When I become emotional, he notices my body language. He'll speak softly and even if I'm across the room, I hear his voice and i beome alerted to his words. I immediately calm down and I follow his wisdom. We've never had sex nor even kissed yet but I would follow him wherever he leads. He has proven that I can trust his wisdom and I feel safe and secure.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Trust in leadership by demonstrating competency. It's the same in sales and marketing. It makes perfect sense.
If I have a distrust for a man, its usually due to what that man has shown me, not because of any other man.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Yes, &/or possibly what you know you are doing that he wouldn't like if he knew
Like he's talking about submission. I learned about being submissive in church and God guiding me. Submissive 15yrs but to the wrong one. But the experience was good cause I learned a lot. People need to understand submission isn't about a woman being treated any way. When you have a woman who is on this level she has respect, love, trust, she is virtuous with her partner and family. Most important she is humble. A woman on this level let's the man be a man even while working and taking care of kids. Been there but a man who doesn't step into his role as a man doesn't deserve a submissive woman. I wanted to feel protected, loved, respected, encouraged, but got none of this but I didn't let that discourage me from being submissive. This subject means a lot to me.💯💯💯💯
Polarity in relationships equal harmony. Masculine & feminine energy compliment eachother but must stay balanced.
I have all you just mentioned. I believe in a a balance. I’m a professional with a career that I love, make my own money, have hobbies, friends, family, and always have a project going on. I set goals for myself with deadlines and I meet them all. Submitting to my man and supporting with his goals doesn’t mean I don’t have my own career, goals, or life. I do. And that’s one of the things I love about myself. I take care of my man, but I take care of myself too. I travel, and pamper myself.
If he ever leaves, I’m fine because I have my own life and don’t depend on him financially or emotionally. I just walk in my feminine energy. We have a great communication. He encourages me when I share my goals with him and soothes me when I’m going through something.
Stephen, I want to take this moment to tell you what a blessing you are to the body of Christ. Thank you! Your wisdom and insight that God has given you is making a difference in the lives of men and women. God will richly reward you as a good and faithful servant to both God and man.
Thank you very much, I truly appreciate that 🙏
Wow, another powerful video that will change lives! This is why you’re the best in your field…. you truly get /understand what women need and how men can embody/be those needs without compromising their masculinity. Powerful!!!🙏🏾
So true !!! Love it
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Once again Stephan, you are on point. You’re the GOAT! Thanks for helping me determine what type of men I deserve as a VERY feminine woman. Thanks for making me finally understand that as a feminine woman, there’s is nothing wrong with me when I am not treated well. I WILL NO LONGER TAKE IT PERSONAL!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💋💋💋💋
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I like how your channel doesn't promote the manipulative tactics used just to get laid. Real advice for long lasting relationships and not a fling.
Trust is absolutely necessary for complete or full submission from a woman to a man. I have to be able to trust a man more and more over time in order to submit to him more. As a woman who believes in being submissive I will tell you, there’s levels to my submissive tendencies and my Husband (that I will one day have, given it’s in Gods will) is the one who will get the MOST and best submission from me. However, even a Husband can cause his wife he’s already married to, to trust him less and less over time. Whereas, the wife should trust the Husband more and more over time.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Help me understand this. Don't you have ambitions, goals and dreams of your own? Are you prepared for when he leaves, cheats, dies or a combination of those?
Wisdom, I truly wished I had and applied earlier in my life. Blessing, brother, and thank you.
2pac said this in an interview in the mid 90s men have forgotten their roles as men so the women have forgotten their roles as women that’s why theirs all this duplicity in relationships
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Divorce rates 40%, and the amount of partners ppl go thru before marriage is disgusting. People want a perfect partner and keep looking and hurting eachother.
Man thank you so much for this!
This is 🔥🔥🔥 I’ve been missing 1 or 2 of these I really appreciate that.
As much as you can contribute to it, add to her internal/external environment being decluttered, stable and orderly, and she will more likely be consistently submissive
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
My pastor said a woman needs to learn how to grieve. The context was the difference between witnessing to men vs witnessing to women but I think this applies also to a woman ability and willingness to submit.
A women sees and approach life as an adventure. We go about collecting tools to aid us in this adventure but because our nature does not want to settle on one thing, we keep collecting and have difficulty in discerning what to let go of and what to keep, so we end up keeping all or too much of it and that weighs us down because indeed it is literally weights attached to our minds and then of course because women are their bodies, we feel it in our bodies and we act upon those feelings.
The woman collects because on this adventure she knows resources will keep her alive and aid her in times of need or desperation.
Smart of her, wise of her but foolish of her to not discern what is no longer useful or has never been and therefore what needs to be discarded. This is where the masculine really gets to shine in her life...giving her hope, also.
The man has the ability to lighten her burdens. By first: not adding onto them. Secondly: stabilizing her focus so she can see what she ought to be aiming at/for (men are really good at single focus while women focus on multiple things at the same time). And thirdly, helping her remove the unnecessary weights or tools (remember those tools are her security) by getting her to see she can trust in you and rely upon you, (you, instead, becomes her security). She then will begin to let go and grieve those loses (her old securities) and hold onto you, instead.
You would then get her strength and her power. She will glorify you.
But men want to be rewarded without putting in much effort to get the gold. So, most men never get to tap into the many treasures of the woman, which tends to be abundant. Most men do not know what's it's like to be served...and happily so by the woman.
Who's fault is it? Both.
Just remember the feminine needs to be able to move freely because its' nature is fluid and lite like air and most women are burdened too much to be able to move gracefully and be happy. That is what you are seeing and experiencing from women.
The feminine perfectly fits in with the masculine, even though, it is very different from it and the masculine molds the feminine to perfection.
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I never looked at it that way thank you so much you just change my life just with this information
Thought I would watch video for guys. It takes two to tango. Submission? No problem. As long as genine MUTUAL connection, attraction, chemistry is there submission is easy, and it facilitates clarity and vulnerability. Submission is part of a deeper relationship, deeper love. It is FREEING, not CONTROLLING.
Great topic. Submission is not hard it just takes wisdom to recognize the man we should submit to. Submit to a man who follows Godly principles, one who is not led by his flesh but more in tune spiritually. A masculine man with God at his guide is the only one to submit to.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
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Give them something to submit to I guess. Be respectful and respectable, have integrity, be emotionally intelligent (know when to just listen or when to give solutions, when to be a rock for her or a pillow if you get what I mean), be able to teach them things without making her feel stupid (essentially be competent), provide value to her and the people you care about economically and intellectually, have standards and respectfully but assertively require them of her and reward and appreciate the behavior you desire more of when she displays it. But then again I'm just 18 and I only got into my first relationship ever like 2 weeks ago so... 🤷🏾♂️What do I know. Take my advice with a grain of salt. Also have clear defined goals that you work towards and support hers too. If she's tripping just be playful with her and love on her then after she stops tripping, respectfully and lovingly address that this behavior can't go on. Lastly, but most importantly make sure she CHOOSES to submit to you. NEVER FORCE OR MANIPULATE her into it. She will RESENT YOU FOR IT. Good luck guys.
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Well said! I am a 66 year old woman and I see great wisdom in you.
Spot on! Are you sure you're only 18?😅
You are a wise 18 year old 🌻
I love this channel u r given men some advice that’s needed
You are a blessing to the world, may God guide you and protect you
I agree but also disagree with you about younger men having to wait until they build their resume. This is because a lot of people spend time focusing only on their careers but have no idea about managing a relationship by the time they are in their mid-30s. They don't spend any time exploring their romantic and emotional side and don't know what they want from their partner. It is important to be in a few relationships early on and even fail in them. These relationships, if taken positively, prepare us to handle a good relationship when it comes across.
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This is a very good point. I'm dating a man that was career focused and I've asked him questions he's never thought about such as "what makes you feel most loved?". He's barely dated and doesn't really know what he wants/needs in a relationship. On the flip side, I wasn't interested in dating anyone until recently however I did do some work to find my love language and such and have done some research such as watch some dating videos to get an idea of dating challenges and pitfalls.
@@pikalee3492Yes, it is important to love and do it wrong and even fail. I still haven't found the right woman but after multiple dating and relationships I feel I am a wiser person. I know what I want and what I can provide in a relationship.
Good advice. I thought that I needed to find a wife before becoming successful. I am close to achieving the financial success with new skills and business endeavors. I am learning to focus on purpose first.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏
I've had no problem with submission at any age, because I stay in my masculine frame, and for those who tested, they typically come from trauma and a lack of respect for men in general, which is plenty of people nowadays, but if a man stays in his masculine frame, he's got a long history making good decisions even with a few mistakes thrown in, even the most masculine woman that is on the healing journey will settle into submission over time, but they're going to test you in a lot of men who have a lot of choices. Don't like the Tests and only that man can decide if that particular woman is worth his energy
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👍 I agree that "even the most masculine woman" will settle into submission of a man that holds his masculine frame. Like when there's chaos, his presence/behavior brings order.
@@newmindsetdaily agree and course they're not gonna believe it at first they're going to test you a bunch to see if that's consistent but once they see consistency with it and they know they can rely on it. Those walls will start coming down.
First point is spot on , been through it
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Bro your style is on point
1 Corinthians 11:3
The scripture says that the man is the head of the woman.
Yet; what religious faith I am from teaches from the podium that the man should always cherish the woman, take what she says into consideration, and take her seriously.
That definitely takes humility, because the man needs to understand that she may have a better idea than he has and he should be willing to implement it instead of learning the hard way. 😊
My parents were married for 62 years and they had pow wows every day with their cup of coffee. They were always talking and understanding each other and loving each other.
I also saw my grandparents and great-grandparents have fabulous long loving relationships,.. they run in my family, and I think that it's a little harder now with modern society, but still doable if you find someone who's willing to compromise and not see themselves as Superior to you, or has princess syndrome.😮😅
This is truly brilliant.
All I wanted was to grow up now am grown up am still struggling to learn women.
Learning never ends but man women the more I try to learn about them the more I get confused.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
So Much Wisdom In This Content.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Can a woman bringing an ex back as “ Just A Friend” in to the current relationship cause her to feel that the current relationship partner isn’t leading correctly,not trust if it was going perfectly well until the ex was brought in? The relationship was going along perfect for a year and a half,I had raised a child by myself,made good money,paid bills.owned property,was good with her kids and family.
Do you mean they are your children and her ex is coming back in, or, they are his children and she’s bringing him back in. If they are his children he’ll always be around if involved, if they are your children you need to shut that down.
I often hear the term “You need to Heal” what does that even me or even look like and how do you know if you even healed from X?
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Thank you so much for putting this message out here. Give us something to submit to! And stop looking for women to “build you”. Women are not builders we are creators and enhancers to your success. If I have to do any building, it will be to build me and my success. 😊👍🏽
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"Building" is synonymous with "Creating". You are effectively saying "We will not do A, we are meant to do A instead."
great advice,very helpful!
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I'm listening what a teaching
I love it thank you brother ❤❤🙏🙏
My pleasure ❤️
What if you live in California, and you spend your days working just to pay rent. How would you handle a situation?
Move or get roommates
Handsome king.,.thanks for sharing your knowledge 🙌🏽💪🏽
My pleasure ❤️
A man will become successfully independent to attract a woman. Everything a man does is to attract a woman. A woman will become sucessfully independant so she doesn't need a man. The difference btw man and woman.
I would say some men and some women. This is not my quote. I just heard it yesterday. I found it interesting and explains alot.❤❤❤
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Very well said!!!
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As a woman, who doesn't believe in being "submissive" as such, this still makes sense.
We will flip over backwards to keep our man happy, when he treats us right and inspires respect & trust - Heck, sometimes we do anyways 🙃
In a relationship, both parties lead at different times, according to skill set, their strengths and weakness, knowledge base, etc. That's the way it should be. This idea that women need to submit and men need to lead is absurd to me. Both parties should be making decisions together. It shouldn't be the man wants to do things this way and the woman doesn't, but they're going to do it his way because he's the man, despite how she feels. That's ridiculous. Women are not children or dogs, we don't need to be lead anywhere.
Love ya, Stephan!!!!!
I would hesitate to equate submissive and feminine. I’m quite feminine but 0% submissive. Being feminine isn’t a background role.
Never never never. Id fight to the death.
First and foremost my brother we have to encourage our fellas our men to be become like me and you homie 🤣😂❤️😂😎😘❤️🥰👍😍😍🤩❤️🤩😘🤩😻🤩🤣
A man shouldn’t grab on a woman at all his masculine energetic and how he leads makes women submit not no grabbing us up
Thanks Hun For The Prayers Means alot I just Emailed You on an item I didn't receive its been over a week ago don't know what happened but Wheres6 wall wants to know where her CUP IS AT ????? SIPS TEA WAITING FOR A ANSWER😂😂😂😂❤❤❤ IS IT LOST IN THE MAIL OR NAH
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Great video
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Definitely not your job to fix a woman’s issues with being feminine but you can definitely build yourself up to attract those who are feminine.
You're absolutely right!
"You're her son" 😂😂😂
Mines isn't emotional aware at all
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Big Daddy energy in this video 🙂
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Most women who make as much or more money than a man won’t submit. If she makes financially equal, she will think that she and her partner are equal. If she makes more, she wants to take control of the relationship.
Women don’t date men who make less than they do
She's not equal? So you're superior to her...? That's a wrong mentality and not what Stephan is teaching.
@@blam9360 I like to look at it as, we are different. Are men superior to women? No. Women are not slaves, but they should be submissive, and being submissive is trusting a man’s leadership. Men should be the leaders in the relationship. Men should be providers and protectors. If a man breaks into the house, and if we are equal, she should be standing next to the man defending the residence? Or should she be in front of the man? No. Should a man have 100 Pete cent control? No. Stephan does say that men should be leaders and than she should trust in his leadership. That is being submissive, and it’s hard for a woman to be submissive if she makes more money.
@@blam9360 no learn something about men and women first
@@Halgame99 lol what a joke. I already know "something" about men and women. I know a LOT about men and women, I think *you* need to learn something first. In fact, you probably have more to learn than I did when I was 3. Quit being arrogant.
I can’t take back everything wrong I did there was nothing there I didn’t get it from the beginning or know what,what all you guys have been writing in here is beyond me you guy need more help then I do
God Bless You! Stephan...Let's not forget an oppressive patriarchal system and lifestyle Black men and women have assimilated into. We identify and emulate a European culture where black men have no economic stability and black women have been used as pawns against healthy, healed and balanced relationships. ❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit
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No 7:11 doesn't even make sense!!!wtf
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Tormenting in evryway...most ip mouchhhhh disrespectful treatment
Submit to the man who submits to Christ. "The head of man is Christ." Lots of boys wanna ignore this and play gods. We're not the top of the chain. A woman cannot follow a man who does not know his place.
I don't understand why submission is so important to men??????
They need to feel like they are in control.
They don’t feel like men otherwise.
@Alegna Rolyart depends on the type of man. If he's narc or trash lil boy.. ..then yes, you're right. But if he's a righteous grown man who knows who he is ....a WIFE who submits to him leading, providing, and protecting is him being a high quality man and nothing less. He doesn't want a combative argumentative, disrespectful wmn/wife fighting him for being himself.....a real man.
Right. Why is leading yourself not enough? Can men be open to co-leadership? Women are very capable of leading and it doesn't mean dominating men.
@Dominique Mathews if you want to "co-lead" like a man....are you okay with taking on the same responsibility of providing and protecting your husband as well? Are you okay with "covering" him financially and ensuring his safety at all times in every way?? With leadership comes accountability when your leadership fails. When that happens, will you take responsibility for your failures by admitting them and logically re-strategize a plan of correction for success? Can you build the vision you have for your family, manage the finances inclu budgeting, saving, investing for you, your husband and childrens future, protect your family, and provide provision.....all while nurturing, teaching, and raising your children and unconditionally loving and respecting your husband? This is how a righteous grown man leads naturally....so you can do this 50/50 "co-leading" consistently and happily til death do you part? Or.....do you just want to overrule a man and "co-lead" from a wmns perspective bc you refuse to submit and admit the differences between men and wmn?
The juice isn't worth the squeeze too much work for next to zero return and with massive risk.
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Like kevin Samuels said “ the world doesn’t owe anyone understanding “ you sound ok my dude, but I see you making a lot of excuses for these women. Its funny how women need love , faithfulness, money, words of encouragement, and all these other things, but a man wants a hot plate , piece and quiet , then Its I will do that for the right man . However, men half to spend money, resources time and give protection to women from the very beginning. Yet women can see if its the right man , make sure he’s making a bunch of money before they submit.(hypocrisy)Once again kevin Samuels said”These women want the men they gave their best years and highest sexual market place value to ( 18-25) “ Unless she was previously married or in a long term relationship they will never submit to you because they will never see you or be attracted to you like the men who didn’t want them or that wouldn’t commit to them. Its biology. Men you have to except that no virgins or women with more boyfriends before you are there for resource extraction. Im nit saying dont date , Im not saying dont marry . Im saying except that you will always be second to her kids, and the man she wants but couldn’t get or keep. Get your woman early and you have a chance (even this in 2023) isnt a for sure bet. This is an ok channel I respect you trying, just sounds like a lot of pandering to women once again. I get it make your money 💴
Oh so this what y’all be listening to huh😂😂😂😂
IMO, no woman will submit to a boy who uses jealousy games to measure her interest. No games. Trust that there’s no sneaky links, girls in your DMs or text msgs or putting other girls above her-whether she’s around or not. If you badmouth her to everyone you work with she will not submit to you cause you can’t be trusted. If there are issues with her or your relationship you come to HER about them. Keep your relationship issues private but be proud to show her off in public. Be her pillow, her rock, her best friend she can trust to confide in (your not going to run around telling everyone her business). She will have no problem helping you build if you’re both building a solid foundation of mutual respect and trust. She needs to be respectful and trustworthy also, of course. Without trust and respect, a woman will always have her guard up and therefore, always carry her masculine energy as a defense. She needs to feel safe and secure (mostly emotionally but also physically and much less so financially) in order to settle into her natural feminine energy. Communicate what you need from her to feel like you can trust her and vice versa-then BOTH actively do those for your partner to build that trust. Once trust is established you will both be the pillow and the rock when either needs to be. Reciprocity, honesty, and being faithful are based in respect. It’s not rocket science. It isn’t about control as many so misguided people believe. It’s not one above the other or a competition-just the opposite- it is teamwork as you are equal just with different roles as man and woman are very different -both bringing important natural qualities to the table -balancing out the relationship, as they are built to do.
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Games players can’t be trusted full stop. They are self seeking. These are dangerous people who will play, test and abuse. No one wants to be someone’s second or last option because at some point these people will cheat when a another option they deem more exciting shows up.
wtf does judgemental even mean? People are suppose to be judgemental how you gonna grow if your not being judged?
You also want the person to grow they arent gonna grow just by talking about things they hate or dont do. Women are suppose to want what the man wants thats how it works not the other way around.
The term submit... doesn't set well...
Sorry what is wrong with you?.............😳
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She must chase your validation and you must not be won over too easy. A woman is used to chasing the Alpha who has other options.
A woman chasing is not in her feminine energy
She won’t submit if she is the pursuer as that is a masculine role
@@bigtreecombatacademy2927right lol
@@bigtreecombatacademy2927 Totally disagree
I'm not chasing any man's validation. I don't need a man to validate me. If a man is playing hard to get, then he's not for me. He thinks that he has all of these options, so it's easier for him to make me an option. No thank you.
Lol 🐂💩
The title of this video is highly disturbing. If a man needs a woman to submit to him, that reveals a psychological issue within him. Most probably, he wants to experience a submissive woman as a compensation for the way he himself (unwillingly) submitted to his mother when he was a baby or child. And I don't think your book will help such men.
Ive met this 22yr old that is completely submitted by me…. Im 34. It appears that if the sex is spectacular they’ll just beg to be with you lol. she also states that im way out of her league..(which i am)
That's lust and an ego stroke for you....not love. Therefore, there's no true submission....she's smitten. A wmn only submits when she's in love and safe with a man. One of yall will get bored soon.
Yuk. It sucks to be alive in 2023 with men roaming around like this 😭
You sound very immature
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Predatory
Should Not Your Picture On The Screen Be Of A BLACK WOMAN? As Your Audience I am Sure Is PREDOMINANTLY BLACK WOMEN.
& How do we know this?
He has mixed audiences.
Most women not trying to submit
Where is the scholarship. I never see you give one statistic.
This common sense
You should talk statistics first then the logic.
So basically the resume is having a job and a place.. lol
You say it comes down to trust. That’s is crap
Nope it's true.