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As a woman, I have to agree wholeheartedly with all of these. As I’ve told male friends of mine over the years, if she’s a “good woman” she will do these exact things and be happy to do them because it’s in our nature. Inherently, we want to please/pour into/cater/nurture our man; and if she’s not doing these things then she might still be “good/great” but she’s not your woman.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. It’s a good thing to look for in both partners.
So true I met a guy who supposedly had his Bachelors and Masters degrees well this encouraged me to get my Masters well come to find out dude was lying about being educated according to his fiancé anywho I dumped him but did get my Masters degree and will be starting my Doctoral program on August 28th 🎉
While listening to this, I recognize that most of my real female friends act the same way. Not saying they are in love with me, just having the reflection that there's not much of a difference between a lover and a friend. Bringing it back to the idea that if you're not friends with your lover, it's probably not going to work in the long run.
As a woman, I agree with all of these. I’ve been showing this one guy all these things on the list. I told him, I’ll never change him. I like you the way you are. With that said, I think I’m falling for him. I see we are both giving each other equal attention and needs. By doing that it’s a powerful thing, when two ppl give each other equal everything. Can bring a positive result.
I'm in the same boat over here, I keep wondering if I'm going to do something to mess it up and he's going to start acting like all the liars and cheats from the past and time after time he shows me he's genuine and responds to my love with the same care and understanding I'm giving him. I really had given up on ever meeting a guy who was even capable of care and understanding, let alone sharing it with me. The more I listen to Stephan the more I wonder at how he responds to me and treats me the way Stephan coaches. It's kinda amazing.
@@MW-uk5ji Me too, I’ve been listening to him after I broke up with my ex. I think you should trust yourself. And if it feels natural and he brings you peace. And he stay genuine. Ask god if he is the one and what the next step you should do. Stay positive, good will come to a woman if she keep going forward. With a good out look. Guys don’t like negative, self-conscious and depressed women. If he see you can move on, even if it didn’t work out between you two. It will draw him or more men to a confidence woman like yourself.
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Can you imagine how this men thinks 😢. You actually wanted to take her for granted because she loves.so if not for the video you would have hurt that innocent lady. This why they're lots of coaches teaching women how to ignore and treat men like trash 🗑️ to get love out of them.because most men don't appreciate good women 😢
I met a woman a few months ago, she is so amazing so far , she is everything I want in a woman and she says I am everything she wants in a man, yesterday she asked me a question why I chose her over eduacated women, she hasn't gone far in her education, but she is very intelligent, smart , matured , respectiful etc, it got me worried about that question ? what would you do if a woman was to ask that question, for me I told her that I am looking for a wife not an education, I said to her that having a masters or PHD is not the only measure of education
Tell her that intelligence is not measured by a degree, diploma, career or even level of knowledge. It’s gauged by level of wisdom using those elements I mentioned above and putting it into action. If you can have wisdom without these elements, then you don’t need them you have true knowledge & power.
Great video with a ton of value within. I learned more than half of the “she doesn’t” lessons the hard way over a decade period of being mixed up with the wrong woman. My man just lined all of it up for you all in a half hour.
Halfway through and I could cry. Stephan is a genius. I’m like these in some ways w all guys I’ve cared for but I’m this to the extreme w someone I really love rn. Like I’ll be intentional in cheering him up and encouraging him and sometimes do that instead of my hw lol, while w different relationships it was more a natural encouragement I’d give to any loved one
She was all beautiful in and out just as you said for 2years and close to the 2nd anniversary she started acting distant, neglecting and selfish. I started seeing signs, I tried to understand but she stopped letting me in. I moved on heartbroken 💔. We haven't spoken for 8months. She was alot in both appearance and character, until I prayed one night asking God that if she's the one or not show me signs... Not upto a month I started seeing those things my heart wouldn't let my eyes see. I miss her still. I respected her and we maintained a balanced relationship and connection. God bless her wherever she may be RN
Man this my situation right now, we were going on 3years then she started acting the same way, distant, caring less, arguments started a lot about me being around my friends(which i figured stems from the bad choices i make when it comes to friends since childhood) and about me starting to feel a bit insecure about this male friend of hers i had a suspicion about….Its so painful that she left and struggle everyday to get over her cos i feel she a good woman
I was showing all of these signs toward a man I truly cared about, yet he dismissed everything and kept emotionally and mentally abusing me. When I could no longer deal with his disrespect I broke down and blew up, saying some things that hurt his ego (I told him how he made me feel based on his words and behavior and that I was tired of ignoring this behavior). He finally just cut me off and went ghost. It's sad because he told me many of the previous women he met did not behave this way toward him. He said they'd ask him for money etc. For whatever reason he felt I was not right for him despite my genuine love for him. Instead he kept talking about his ex , comparing me to her and focusing on my flaws while dismissing all of the sacrifices I made for him. I miss him and still love him, but he told me he didn't want me. I was "too emotional". Sometimes both men and women are still single because they are not willing to give chances to people who demonstrate authenticity. They only seek based on physical attraction and then hope they can mold personality afterward. I just give up seriously.
instead of blowing up you shouldve just discussed what you felt calmly on the phone with him 9 out of 10 times he would understand absolutely if not he is not worth being with anyways
@@sanane66543 I wish I could have. The man would never answer my calls. He was a mostly text all the time guy. Phone calls were rare and visits even more rare. Part of the "blow up" was because he refused to just have a nice 5 minute phone call where we could talk like adults. It's hard to discuss things via text. Whatever the case might be he has reached out at least 3 times this year. He doesn't talk to me but just checks in to let me know he's still alive. I've decided to just leave the door open and if he wishes to have something with me I am here and if not then whatever. I'm tired of chasing these men.
My ex met all these criteria! But I never believed she was in love because of the pull backs. The one foot in, one foot out. The failure to talk about the future, to make purchases together, to endlessly express doubts about our compatibility and take issue with my shortcomings, not in a constructive way. We drove each other away because of those actions -- and because of my reaction to them. She was coming out of a deeply traumatic breakup, which explains a lot, while I was 100% ready for a long term relationship. It was all about the timing, and I go back and forth about whether to give up on her or continue to harbor hope. Would love to see a video on this!
I can tell you right now that she was either still in love with her ex or cheating on you. If you give her the impression that you will always be there for her then she will never want to be anywhere with you. A woman who shows love and good signs but then goes cold out of nowhere is a woman who is cheating on you. She loves your security but not you.
@@KokoFox-n1vnot true. If you feel like she’s gone without a good reason then it’s probably because you’ve made her feel unsafe due to your behaviour around her. Safety and a sense of peace are very important to people coming out of toxic relationships
This message advice is so on point!🤗 Another golden nugget to help folk, relationships go the long distance for longevity relationships and marriage. May God continue to Bless you exceedingly in every area of your life. 🙏❤
Great content! I'd like you to address men who have been emotionally damaged to the point where when they find a good woman, they believe that it is too good to be true, & subsequently end up sabotaging the relationship. If you've already addressed this, please provide the link. Thnx for all u do 💜
@@brainyguy6734 I'm Going To Tell You The Truth Even If You Feel Distress Or Indignant , Well It's 2022 You Need To Increase Your Sex Appeal And Fashion Game To A Point Where Women Feel Irresistible For You, If You Good Looking But Don't Have Above Average 💰 It would Be deal breaker and in case If you're in living in less exotic place looks will seal the deal for you.always remember change the changeable, accept the unchangeable and remove yourself from unacceptable, and keep moving forward in life.
I'm talking with a woman right now that we happen to meet by chance and had just got out of a bad abusive relationship with a guy with now a 3rd time domestic charge and a few other relationships where they stalked her and she just has had a bad situation after bad situation and she a bit broken right now. We connected and by circumstance and hit it off but I can tell and she has inner conflicts. We've sat down for hours and for all night till morning talking. Right I can tell she can't be in relationship. I do like her and I know she does for me. We've just been hanging out as friends since this past August I know she isn't in the mental state for a relationship and I havent been pushing for it. She just needs a friend right now. The crazy thing is that she shows most of these signs and we both have many things in common.
I'm seeing men open up to female friends, but not to women that they've jumped into a relationship with. This is making me think that men are listening to what society tells them to look for in a woman to marry, instead of listening to their heart. Men are choosing celebrity wannabes to have as arm candy instead of a woman they actually share a real connection with.
This video made me cry, I'm still emotionally healing, the man I've been talking to for months has brought in a light emotionally. I've been doing these things you listed, but I don't want to be in love. It scares me so much. We enjoy our companionship. It is at its infancy. Is this bad. We are both spiritual.
Fear and Love can't exist on the same plane. God is Love. Fear is the opposite of Love. If you're living in Fear, you're not serving God. You must conquer your fears. Fear is the enemy. ❤Love and light. 🙏
I love this list and coming from a man for a change. Number 9 can be debateable because a man can be so in love with a woman, that he is blinded to the fact that she doesn't loves him. Therefore, he is inspired by his love for her and not her love for him. I could add nother sign to the list and make it 10 or it could be number 9 😊. But when a woman loves a man, she seeks his opinion! I feel a woman seeking a man's opinion is the ultimate sign of trust and respect. As we know, a woman who respects a man, will continue to love that man. 🙏
This has helped me. Going through a break up now. And I really loved this girl. But I am pretty certain she love bombed me early on. And she does not exhibit alot of these things you list. I think I am better off even tho it hurts.
Accountability. Reciprocation. I wish I was kidding when I say that I’m not sure that commonly exists nowadays. Don’t know where those women are, but for me, most women don’t communicate or reciprocate. And it’d be one thing if I was a “simp” but I’m not. It’s hard to find real quality. Respect, communication, love, affection, and chivalry are lost to the modern dating scene. “I want a gentleman” then they get one and take it all for granted. It’s madness right now. People acting so respectful and enthusiastic for 1-3 months only to turn around and do the opposite of every good quality they had that you fell for. It makes you go crazy.
You're not kidding, especially the more education she has. It's better just to become business partners with a woman you want to have kids with or for any other reason as long as the man doesn't get destroyed.
Thank you Stephan for these explanations that are not easy to notice with such clarity. Now he knows from a man’s perspective that gives so much validity to a loving relationship.
I'm talking with a woman right now that we happen to meet by chance and had just got out of a bad abusive relationship with a guy with now a 3rd time domestic charge and a few other relationships where they stalked her and she just has had a bad situation after bad situation and she a bit broken right now. We connected and by circumstance and hit it off but I can tell and she has inner conflicts. We've sat down for hours and for all night till morning talking. Right I can tell she can't be in relationship. I do like her and I know she does for me. We've just been hanging out as friends since this past August I know she isn't in the mental state for a relationship and I havent been pushing for it. She just needs a friend right now
You are truly a BLESSING to our community with both of these channels. I’m really happy you have this one for our men because so many refuse to go to or are hesitant to participate in traditional therapy. Although I’d rather know the man in my life is in therapy or has completely therapy, it’s understandable that the lack of practitioners in the mental health space that look like them and have similar backgrounds is very rare and so our brothas don’t trust the profession at all.
1.Question' a woman changing you what say she's goes to church and you don't go to church' and she's wanted you to go to church like she do' that's a good thing? or a bad thing?
You are the best id like to thank you for interview that I didn't watching you and following you Scott a lot of sense and meaning to me thank you and I support And God blessing
I’ve encountered a majority of these qualities from the last girl I dated. We dated for 5 months and it was awesome. Prior to meeting this girl, I did a lot of personal development. I manifested many qualities that I wanted in a new girl, and it came true. She would meet me half way on everything. She would play tennis with me. She would support my car racing hobby. She would meet me for lunch during work.She always wanted to see me during the week. She would also cook me dinner, or bake me cookies, etc. And of course I reciprocated the same energy to her because it was so natural to do kind things for her and with her. Sadly, we broke up last weekend. I got a text, saying that she wasn’t ready for a full relationship and she didn’t want to go further. It is unfortunate and will take some time to heal, but I am grateful for the moments we shared together. I guess the moral of the story is: you must enjoy the moments that you have with someone because we’ll never know when it will come to an end.
IMO the moral is “Don’t date unless you’re ready to commit.” Honestly, it’s irresponsible. I’m sure she meant well, but if she isn’t ready, and she seems like it to you, she hurt you. Better to know now that after a year, but 5 months should be long enough to at least say “yeah I’m committed”. To date let someone fall in love with you, only to take it away because you’re not ready is pretty crappy.
@@caurbine1228 I agree. After 4 or 5 months, you should know if you want to commit or not. Maybe she’ll come back, but I think it is better to move forward and focus on myself. Thanks for your feedback.
@@ChristianStefanovich yeah. It’s just selfish. But at least she told you. But that’s 5 months of time you could have been working on yourself or open to someone else so hopefully there’s lessons you got from it. I just got out of a 6 month relationship that was amazing in the beginning. We aligned of almost everything and I was careful to be sure it wasn’t fabricated by her. Then she got cold. Withheld intimacy. Made excuses. Started pushing me away for no reason. Disrespecting me and the relationship. The final straw was when she lied about going to a party, didn’t invite me, and was totally unapologetic. She was a big waste of time. The lesson I learned is to never give anyone the benefit of the doubt unless they earn it.
hi i appreciate your view on topics like this one, i have learned that how people process Love now a days is pretty much low near disposable Unfortunately… i know a man that had a woman that had this check list lol he just let her go after experiencing the connection was strong.. he ghosted her, stop answering or responding to text however will heart and like many different woman’s photos . her faith in god spiritually so had to process being in love open heart as unconditionally loving this man from a distance with hope that love Conquers all. Kindness is free you don’t need to love anyone to be kind if men are not ready they should not date several women until they love themselves as well as women. i do appreciate listening and your words thank you
❤ Valuble information, as a woman i agree if we are in love with the man we will want to care for him, and inspire him. I need to send this to my brother. ❤❤🎉🎉😊😊😊 Another great video Sir.❤🎉😊😊
A woman once told me that she was in love with me, only to later tell me that she lied! So even if a next one thinks or says that and seemingly means it, I will not believe her.
well my ex wanted to totally rebuild me,I didn’t know I needed to be rebuilt,what i have learned that i coulda used a little work on communicating and dealing with her specific issues but she wanted me to quit working my job and be there for her complete schedule.or whatever that was about,but she didn’t even mention working on herself till the end after we had broken up and she moved on..
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I'm struggling right now. I just left my kids mom. I have 2 kids with her and adopted the 2 she had when we met. I've given everything to her. And just get shit back. I have become too mentally unstable dealing with her. I don't know Eben know what to do now that I'm not with her. This is my 2nd night away and I'm losing my mind. I know she is already entertaining other men. She told me so. And has nothing to say to me other then how I'm the issue and the reason for our problems. But I've been the only one making changes for years now I'm been jumping Through her hoops. And it is always something new why she isn't happy. Why I've pushed her to look outside our relationship for emotional needs. Idk why I'm spilling my guts here I have no one else to talk to.
Mate if she’s got kids and In 2 days telling you she’s talking to other men you gotta stay strong and cut your losses. She’s damaged, manipulative and incapable of real love. Zero capacity for honour, morality or respect. It’ll only get worse if you stay. Respect yourself and walk away.
Hi Stephans, thanks for all your great speaking moments. They are excellent. Unfortunately for my male friend, this current video 9 Great Signs A Woman Is In Love With You, does not translate in French in the subtitles on RUclips, but rather twice in Filipino. It would be greatly appreciated if the correction was made. Thank you
NOTE: Please help me to the right answer. Could someone please assist me? I recently got into a connection with a widow and her two children. Today, she went out with one of the 53-year-old American guys, but we are in Indonesia. She has a lot of male pals, even as of this evening. However, she said he was only a friend. She gets along well with me even while we are together. But right now, I'm pretty puzzled. Thank you
@@nikclo9907 Thank you for suggesting this. I do love to write. I did buy a card to send him, but I chose to call instead. I needed to hear his voice. He did answer while working, but I felt disrespectful, because he was busy. He’s been away on business, since early July. He’s on a task force team and working 15 hours and more a day, in a different time zone. He said that I did not push him away, but we use to communicate every day, and now I hear nothing. He told me to let it go. I sent a few more text, but he did not respond. The Lord told me to be still and not to reach out again; seek Him only for three months, and not to accept a date from anyone. I cannot contact him again, much to my dismay. I would be happy to write him. How it would heal me to see his face and to hear his voice. There is a fine line between humility and humiliation. There’s nothing more I can do. He’s silent. I pray for him, and he’s constantly on my mind. I appreciate the scripture that says “Those who sow in tears will reap in joy.” I just cannot know what that joy will look like.
So perfect Mr Stephen, hiw couldn't men ever see all this in me, really they thought Am too good to be true 😢😢😢😢, but Am sure it's not too late, thanks 😊
Don't forget that men need to differentiate between focus on money and arguing "about money" When in reality, it's not the money, it's the underlying emotion that she might feel like money is more of a priority than her.
let's continue for tomorrow it's late now. I appreciate so much some guidance efforted you at this time ok and good morning! take care always I miss you!
Isnt changing someone to not smoke or drink wanting them to be better? Cuz when they dont smoke or drink, theyre no longer the person they were before. Which is someone who acts like theyre always high and drunk.
I can sum it up in a nutshell. If she or he is represented as a MO (motivating operation) meaning your significant other naturally motivates you to be the best version of yourself... Godsign
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As a woman, I have to agree wholeheartedly with all of these. As I’ve told male friends of mine over the years, if she’s a “good woman” she will do these exact things and be happy to do them because it’s in our nature. Inherently, we want to please/pour into/cater/nurture our man; and if she’s not doing these things then she might still be “good/great” but she’s not your woman.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Male friends, or validators waiting for their chance to score? Thanks for the advice tho
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I love the comment you're very blessed with the knowledge of God to be able to previously discern this. Blessings to you and your family.
I held this up for 8 years…
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
It’s a good thing to look for in both partners.
It’s good you quoted Scripture: The Bible has every guideline we need. Thanks for sharing!
So true I met a guy who supposedly had his Bachelors and Masters degrees well this encouraged me to get my Masters well come to find out dude was lying about being educated according to his fiancé anywho I dumped him but did get my Masters degree and will be starting my Doctoral program on August 28th 🎉
While listening to this, I recognize that most of my real female friends act the same way. Not saying they are in love with me, just having the reflection that there's not much of a difference between a lover and a friend. Bringing it back to the idea that if you're not friends with your lover, it's probably not going to work in the long run.
As a woman, I agree with all of these. I’ve been showing this one guy all these things on the list. I told him, I’ll never change him. I like you the way you are. With that said, I think I’m falling for him. I see we are both giving each other equal attention and needs. By doing that it’s a powerful thing, when two ppl give each other equal everything. Can bring a positive result.
I'm in the same boat over here, I keep wondering if I'm going to do something to mess it up and he's going to start acting like all the liars and cheats from the past and time after time he shows me he's genuine and responds to my love with the same care and understanding I'm giving him. I really had given up on ever meeting a guy who was even capable of care and understanding, let alone sharing it with me. The more I listen to Stephan the more I wonder at how he responds to me and treats me the way Stephan coaches. It's kinda amazing.
@@MW-uk5ji Me too, I’ve been listening to him after I broke up with my ex. I think you should trust yourself. And if it feels natural and he brings you peace. And he stay genuine. Ask god if he is the one and what the next step you should do. Stay positive, good will come to a woman if she keep going forward. With a good out look. Guys don’t like negative, self-conscious and depressed women. If he see you can move on, even if it didn’t work out between you two. It will draw him or more men to a confidence woman like yourself.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
All the best to you two.
I love the part where you said if she loves you she will want to be better for you. I always want to be better for him
To the Men who's getting these 9 signs from a woman, I salute you Kings. Mad respect.
I'm a woman and I'm watching this too. It helps to understand more about a female perspective.
As a woman, I admit I’m watching this to know if I’m in love, that helps 😅 thanks for that !!
My pleasure ❤
It's a great self check, but most of already know before watching haha!
Damn. My girl checks all 9 signs and i was about to throw it all away overthinking smh. I gotta do better. Thanks for the video! I'm subscribed now
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Don’t take her for granted.
Then you’ve got a diamond, so make sure you keep making a shine
Can you imagine how this men thinks 😢. You actually wanted to take her for granted because she loves.so if not for the video you would have hurt that innocent lady. This why they're lots of coaches teaching women how to ignore and treat men like trash 🗑️ to get love out of them.because most men don't appreciate good women 😢
I met a woman a few months ago, she is so amazing so far , she is everything I want in a woman and she says I am everything she wants in a man, yesterday she asked me a question why I chose her over eduacated women, she hasn't gone far in her education, but she is very intelligent, smart , matured , respectiful etc, it got me worried about that question ? what would you do if a woman was to ask that question, for me I told her that I am looking for a wife not an education, I said to her that having a masters or PHD is not the only measure of education
She just wants to feel her man values her so respond by telling her what you love about her
@@iandiru6433 Thanks , I outlined the reasons why I love her
@@michaelsongiso4877 i am wishing you all the best in your relationship
Tell her that intelligence is not measured by a degree, diploma, career or even level of knowledge. It’s gauged by level of wisdom using those elements I mentioned above and putting it into action. If you can have wisdom without these elements, then you don’t need them you have true knowledge & power.
Tell her because you were looking for a great woman, not an educated woman and list what you love about her
Great video with a ton of value within. I learned more than half of the “she doesn’t” lessons the hard way over a decade period of being mixed up with the wrong woman. My man just lined all of it up for you all in a half hour.
I'm happy you find this helpful, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Halfway through and I could cry. Stephan is a genius. I’m like these in some ways w all guys I’ve cared for but I’m this to the extreme w someone I really love rn. Like I’ll be intentional in cheering him up and encouraging him and sometimes do that instead of my hw lol, while w different relationships it was more a natural encouragement I’d give to any loved one
So true. It gives me hope not just watching your videos but seeing how many men watch them too.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
She was all beautiful in and out just as you said for 2years and close to the 2nd anniversary she started acting distant, neglecting and selfish. I started seeing signs, I tried to understand but she stopped letting me in. I moved on heartbroken 💔. We haven't spoken for 8months. She was alot in both appearance and character, until I prayed one night asking God that if she's the one or not show me signs... Not upto a month I started seeing those things my heart wouldn't let my eyes see. I miss her still. I respected her and we maintained a balanced relationship and connection. God bless her wherever she may be RN
Thank you for sharing I appreciate that 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen Thank you for the videos and words
Let that go
Man this my situation right now, we were going on 3years then she started acting the same way, distant, caring less, arguments started a lot about me being around my friends(which i figured stems from the bad choices i make when it comes to friends since childhood) and about me starting to feel a bit insecure about this male friend of hers i had a suspicion about….Its so painful that she left and struggle everyday to get over her cos i feel she a good woman
I am a woman, and I am speaking for myself. This is how I love my man, everything Stephan said. But he has healing to do.
Love this! ❤️
Excellent video!👏🏼💯
For me… a man’s heart, love, loyalty, honesty, etc., is far more valuable than money & other earthly possessions.
This guy really knows this stuff in a deep level. Always learning...
I was showing all of these signs toward a man I truly cared about, yet he dismissed everything and kept emotionally and mentally abusing me. When I could no longer deal with his disrespect I broke down and blew up, saying some things that hurt his ego (I told him how he made me feel based on his words and behavior and that I was tired of ignoring this behavior). He finally just cut me off and went ghost. It's sad because he told me many of the previous women he met did not behave this way toward him. He said they'd ask him for money etc. For whatever reason he felt I was not right for him despite my genuine love for him. Instead he kept talking about his ex , comparing me to her and focusing on my flaws while dismissing all of the sacrifices I made for him. I miss him and still love him, but he told me he didn't want me. I was "too emotional". Sometimes both men and women are still single because they are not willing to give chances to people who demonstrate authenticity. They only seek based on physical attraction and then hope they can mold personality afterward. I just give up seriously.
instead of blowing up you shouldve just discussed what you felt calmly on the phone with him 9 out of 10 times he would understand absolutely if not he is not worth being with anyways
@@sanane66543 I wish I could have. The man would never answer my calls. He was a mostly text all the time guy. Phone calls were rare and visits even more rare. Part of the "blow up" was because he refused to just have a nice 5 minute phone call where we could talk like adults. It's hard to discuss things via text. Whatever the case might be he has reached out at least 3 times this year. He doesn't talk to me but just checks in to let me know he's still alive. I've decided to just leave the door open and if he wishes to have something with me I am here and if not then whatever. I'm tired of chasing these men.
Heal pray and move forward
My ex met all these criteria! But I never believed she was in love because of the pull backs. The one foot in, one foot out. The failure to talk about the future, to make purchases together, to endlessly express doubts about our compatibility and take issue with my shortcomings, not in a constructive way. We drove each other away because of those actions -- and because of my reaction to them. She was coming out of a deeply traumatic breakup, which explains a lot, while I was 100% ready for a long term relationship. It was all about the timing, and I go back and forth about whether to give up on her or continue to harbor hope. Would love to see a video on this!
I can tell you right now that she was either still in love with her ex or cheating on you.
If you give her the impression that you will always be there for her then she will never want to be anywhere with you.
A woman who shows love and good signs but then goes cold out of nowhere is a woman who is cheating on you.
She loves your security but not you.
@@KokoFox-n1vnot true. If you feel like she’s gone without a good reason then it’s probably because you’ve made her feel unsafe due to your behaviour around her. Safety and a sense of peace are very important to people coming out of toxic relationships
I have been burned multiple times. I just trust and believe in GOD that she's out there ❤
As a lady I totally agree with all 9 points.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
This message advice is so on point!🤗 Another golden nugget to help folk, relationships go the long distance for longevity relationships and marriage. May God continue to Bless you exceedingly in every area of your life. 🙏❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Great content!
I'd like you to address men who have been emotionally damaged to the point where when they find a good woman, they believe that it is too good to be true, & subsequently end up sabotaging the relationship. If you've already addressed this, please provide the link. Thnx for all u do 💜
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Sincerely I'm damaged emotionally. Good woman doesn't exist mehn
@@brainyguy6734
I'm Going To Tell You The Truth Even If You Feel Distress Or Indignant , Well It's 2022 You Need To Increase Your Sex Appeal And Fashion Game To A Point Where Women Feel Irresistible For You, If You Good Looking But Don't Have Above Average 💰 It would Be deal breaker and in case If you're in living in less exotic place looks will seal the deal for you.always remember change the changeable, accept the unchangeable and remove yourself from unacceptable, and keep moving forward in life.
Believing something is to good to be true is the same as believing you don't deserve it.
I'm talking with a woman right now that we happen to meet by chance and had just got out of a bad abusive relationship with a guy with now a 3rd time domestic charge and a few other relationships where they stalked her and she just has had a bad situation after bad situation and she a bit broken right now. We connected and by circumstance and hit it off but I can tell and she has inner conflicts. We've sat down for hours and for all night till morning talking. Right I can tell she can't be in relationship. I do like her and I know she does for me. We've just been hanging out as friends since this past August I know she isn't in the mental state for a relationship and I havent been pushing for it. She just needs a friend right now. The crazy thing is that she shows most of these signs and we both have many things in common.
I'm seeing men open up to female friends, but not to women that they've jumped into a relationship with. This is making me think that men are listening to what society tells them to look for in a woman to marry, instead of listening to their heart. Men are choosing celebrity wannabes to have as arm candy instead of a woman they actually share a real connection with.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@Randall Glatt exactly. Stay stoic and masculine in front of your girl. Share that other stuff with your homies
@@DinoSouth where do you creatures get your stupidity? A damn cereal box?
Great points made Bro! I can relate to most, definitely know your stuff 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
This video made me cry, I'm still emotionally healing, the man I've been talking to for months has brought in a light emotionally. I've been doing these things you listed, but I don't want to be in love. It scares me so much. We enjoy our companionship. It is at its infancy. Is this bad. We are both spiritual.
Fear and Love can't exist on the same plane. God is Love. Fear is the opposite of Love. If you're living in Fear, you're not serving God. You must conquer your fears. Fear is the enemy. ❤Love and light. 🙏
Well said I’m glad I have a great women 7 yrs strong 🙏🏼💪🏼
Bro this is a really good video well balanced and non bias. Well done.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
You are killin it!!!!👍🏾🏆Thanks. A lot of truth.
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I love this list and coming from a man for a change. Number 9 can be debateable because a man can be so in love with a woman, that he is blinded to the fact that she doesn't loves him. Therefore, he is inspired by his love for her and not her love for him. I could add nother sign to the list and make it 10 or it could be number 9 😊. But when a woman loves a man, she seeks his opinion! I feel a woman seeking a man's opinion is the ultimate sign of trust and respect. As we know, a woman who respects a man, will continue to love that man. 🙏
As always… wonderfully said. Thanks Steph 💯🙏🏾
My pleasure ❤️
Spot on, now I understand I am actually on love with this guy and I'm not crazy 😂😅❤️
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Keep up the good work a big fan of the show
Just remember ladies never hit a man where he's weak cause he'll never forget 🙏💪🏼
You saw the video too! Lol
This has helped me. Going through a break up now. And I really loved this girl. But I am pretty certain she love bombed me early on. And she does not exhibit alot of these things you list. I think I am better off even tho it hurts.
But she does make me want to be a better man. Maybe she really did live me? And my overthinking ruined it.
Bro, you should have WAY MORE subscribers...
Thank you Stephan for everything you do! God bless you brother.
My pleasure ❤️
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Accountability. Reciprocation. I wish I was kidding when I say that I’m not sure that commonly exists nowadays. Don’t know where those women are, but for me, most women don’t communicate or reciprocate. And it’d be one thing if I was a “simp” but I’m not. It’s hard to find real quality. Respect, communication, love, affection, and chivalry are lost to the modern dating scene.
“I want a gentleman” then they get one and take it all for granted. It’s madness right now. People acting so respectful and enthusiastic for 1-3 months only to turn around and do the opposite of every good quality they had that you fell for. It makes you go crazy.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
It's like most are cliche clone drone parroting pssitacorum 🦜... nothing inside...a hollow superficial she'll, with no real consciousness.....
You're not kidding, especially the more education she has. It's better just to become business partners with a woman you want to have kids with or for any other reason as long as the man doesn't get destroyed.
I am totally in love with my husband, hes everything to me and he tells me the same. We bounce off each other. He will always be my baby
This is powerful 👏 Luv it Steph ya did it again 😎👍
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Great insight! Thanks bro🙏🏾!
My pleasure ❤️
Thank you Stephan for these explanations that are not easy to notice with such clarity. Now he knows from a man’s perspective that gives so much validity to a loving relationship.
Glad I could help 🙏
I'm talking with a woman right now that we happen to meet by chance and had just got out of a bad abusive relationship with a guy with now a 3rd time domestic charge and a few other relationships where they stalked her and she just has had a bad situation after bad situation and she a bit broken right now. We connected and by circumstance and hit it off but I can tell and she has inner conflicts. We've sat down for hours and for all night till morning talking. Right I can tell she can't be in relationship. I do like her and I know she does for me. We've just been hanging out as friends since this past August I know she isn't in the mental state for a relationship and I havent been pushing for it. She just needs a friend right now
You are truly a BLESSING to our community with both of these channels. I’m really happy you have this one for our men because so many refuse to go to or are hesitant to participate in traditional therapy.
Although I’d rather know the man in my life is in therapy or has completely therapy, it’s understandable that the lack of practitioners in the mental health space that look like them and have similar backgrounds is very rare and so our brothas don’t trust the profession at all.
1.Question' a woman changing you
what say she's goes to church and you don't go to church' and she's wanted you to go to church like she do'
that's a good thing? or a bad thing?
Thank you! This was amazing!
You are the best id like to thank you for interview that I didn't watching you and following you Scott a lot of sense and meaning to me thank you and I support
And God blessing
Definitely got a understanding in so much levels
🙏 ❤️
Thank you sooooo much for this video! :)
My pleasure ❤️
Thank You for Sharing
My pleasure ❤️
I’ve encountered a majority of these qualities from the last girl I dated. We dated for 5 months and it was awesome.
Prior to meeting this girl, I did a lot of personal development. I manifested many qualities that I wanted in a new girl, and it came true. She would meet me half way on everything. She would play tennis with me. She would support my car racing hobby. She would meet me for lunch during work.She always wanted to see me during the week. She would also cook me dinner, or bake me cookies, etc. And of course I reciprocated the same energy to her because it was so natural to do kind things for her and with her.
Sadly, we broke up last weekend. I got a text, saying that she wasn’t ready for a full relationship and she didn’t want to go further. It is unfortunate and will take some time to heal, but I am grateful for the moments we shared together.
I guess the moral of the story is: you must enjoy the moments that you have with someone because we’ll never know when it will come to an end.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
What a wonderful story
IMO the moral is “Don’t date unless you’re ready to commit.” Honestly, it’s irresponsible. I’m sure she meant well, but if she isn’t ready, and she seems like it to you, she hurt you. Better to know now that after a year, but 5 months should be long enough to at least say “yeah I’m committed”. To date let someone fall in love with you, only to take it away because you’re not ready is pretty crappy.
@@caurbine1228 I agree. After 4 or 5 months, you should know if you want to commit or not. Maybe she’ll come back, but I think it is better to move forward and focus on myself. Thanks for your feedback.
@@ChristianStefanovich yeah. It’s just selfish. But at least she told you. But that’s 5 months of time you could have been working on yourself or open to someone else so hopefully there’s lessons you got from it.
I just got out of a 6 month relationship that was amazing in the beginning. We aligned of almost everything and I was careful to be sure it wasn’t fabricated by her. Then she got cold. Withheld intimacy. Made excuses. Started pushing me away for no reason. Disrespecting me and the relationship. The final straw was when she lied about going to a party, didn’t invite me, and was totally unapologetic. She was a big waste of time. The lesson I learned is to never give anyone the benefit of the doubt unless they earn it.
Yr awesome brother. Thank you for doing what you do.
Is it possible to get books personally autographed by you? I am interested in purchasing 2 for a gift. Please advise. Ty
Very good content ❤❤❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Twerkin and cookin. lol Such great content brother! Very accurate.
This is so informative
When I am in love with a man, I become a exceptional listener to what he has to say.....and smile a lot!
hi i appreciate your view on topics like this one, i have learned that how people process Love now a days is pretty much low near disposable Unfortunately… i know a man that had a woman that had this check list lol he just let her go after experiencing the connection was strong.. he ghosted her, stop answering or responding to text however will heart and like many different woman’s photos . her faith in god spiritually so had to process being in love open heart as unconditionally loving this man from a distance with hope that love Conquers all. Kindness is free you don’t need to love anyone to be kind if men are not ready they should not date several women until they love themselves as well as women. i do appreciate listening and your words thank you
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
I know my wife is in love with me because she's put up with me for 30 years!
❤ Valuble information, as a woman i agree if we are in love with the man we will want to care for him, and inspire him. I need to send this to my brother. ❤❤🎉🎉😊😊😊 Another great video Sir.❤🎉😊😊
A woman once told me that she was in love with me, only to later tell me that she lied! So even if a next one thinks or says that and seemingly means it, I will not believe her.
I needed to watch this video ❤
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
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well my ex wanted to totally rebuild me,I didn’t know I needed to be rebuilt,what i have learned that i coulda used a little work on communicating and dealing with her specific issues but she wanted me to quit working my job and be there for her complete schedule.or whatever that was about,but she didn’t even mention working on herself till the end after we had broken up and she moved on..
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
WOW 🫣 I am/was the push & pull woman… 🥺… NO MORE… all-in 🙏🏾💘 WISH ME LUCK GOOD PEOPLE! 😅 In it for the LONG HAUL!!! 🥰😌🥰
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The woman I am in love with fits ALL of the CRITERIA...The PROBLEM is HER FEAR. Maybe BOTH of us have FEAR...
🙏 I hope you both reach the point of truly doing what is best.
I feel u on that
First 45 seconds is the realest thing I’ve heard
I'm struggling right now. I just left my kids mom. I have 2 kids with her and adopted the 2 she had when we met. I've given everything to her. And just get shit back. I have become too mentally unstable dealing with her. I don't know
Eben know what to do now that I'm not with her. This is my 2nd night away and I'm losing my mind. I know she is already entertaining other men. She told me so. And has nothing to say to me other then how I'm the issue and the reason for our problems. But I've been the only one making changes for years now I'm been jumping Through her hoops. And it is always something new why she isn't happy. Why I've pushed her to look outside our relationship for emotional needs. Idk why I'm spilling my guts here I have no one else to talk to.
Go to counseling. Not as a couple, individually. It will make a world of difference.
Mate if she’s got kids and In 2 days telling you she’s talking to other men you gotta stay strong and cut your losses.
She’s damaged, manipulative and incapable of real love.
Zero capacity for honour, morality or respect.
It’ll only get worse if you stay.
Respect yourself and walk away.
So I love all of this and it’s true but you are also very much right in saying men have to make sure you make her feel safe enough to do that
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Thank you Stephan. 🎉
My pleasure ❤️
I want him to take in knowledge that can change him, NOT ME change him. (John 17:3)
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Hi Stephans, thanks for all your great speaking moments. They are excellent. Unfortunately for my male friend, this current video 9 Great Signs A Woman Is In Love With You, does not translate in French in the subtitles on RUclips, but rather twice in Filipino. It would be greatly appreciated if the correction was made. Thank you
Sorry to hear that. The corrections have been made 🙏
In a relationship right now and I've been burned so many times all I can think about it is when it'll end. It always seemed to good to be true
NOTE: Please help me to the right answer. Could someone please assist me? I recently got into a connection with a widow and her two children. Today, she went out with one of the 53-year-old American guys, but we are in Indonesia. She has a lot of male pals, even as of this evening. However, she said he was only a friend. She gets along well with me even while we are together. But right now, I'm pretty puzzled. Thank you
“Dream killer” love the name. Beware all dream killers.
@STEPHANSPEAKS MAKE YOUR NEXT TOPIC ON THE SINGLE WOMAN WITH A CHILD WHO JUST MAY NOT BE MARRIAGE MATERIAL AND WHY
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
@@StephanSpeaksforMen Great I'm really in tuned with your RUclips channel.
Go ask your mother 🤷🏾♀️
My prayers and thoughts are for my brother God bless you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Good list
Oh no! I’m in love!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Why is it so bad?
@@nikclo9907 - It’s bad that I am in love with him, because I became very frightened, and I mistakingly pushed him away.
@@TheBestOfLisaRenee have you tried to write him a letter?
@@nikclo9907 Thank you for suggesting this. I do love to write. I did buy a card to send him, but I chose to call instead. I needed to hear his voice. He did answer while working, but I felt disrespectful, because he was busy. He’s been away on business, since early July. He’s on a task force team and working 15 hours and more a day, in a different time zone. He said that I did not push him away, but we use to communicate every day, and now I hear nothing. He told me to let it go. I sent a few more text, but he did not respond. The Lord told me to be still and not to reach out again; seek Him only for three months, and not to accept a date from anyone. I cannot contact him again, much to my dismay. I would be happy to write him. How it would heal me to see his face and to hear his voice. There is a fine line between humility and humiliation. There’s nothing more I can do. He’s silent. I pray for him, and he’s constantly on my mind. I appreciate the scripture that says “Those who sow in tears will reap in joy.” I just cannot know what that joy will look like.
Thanks!
My pleasure ❤️
This man is preaching the gospel💯
Spot on!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
So perfect Mr Stephen, hiw couldn't men ever see all this in me, really they thought Am too good to be true 😢😢😢😢, but Am sure it's not too late, thanks 😊
I really would like u to elaborate on the first point of conversation, just would like some clarity.
This is Great Content
Thank you!🎉
When I think of that she wants to be better for you, in other words, she wants you to be proud of her, and in turn, please you.
Don't forget that men need to differentiate between focus on money and arguing "about money"
When in reality, it's not the money, it's the underlying emotion that she might feel like money is more of a priority than her.
Thank you James Harden. ❤
let's continue for tomorrow it's late now. I appreciate so much some guidance efforted you at this time ok and good morning! take care always I miss you!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Could this also be titled, when to know it's your turn? 🤔🤔🤔
Isnt changing someone to not smoke or drink wanting them to be better? Cuz when they dont smoke or drink, theyre no longer the person they were before. Which is someone who acts like theyre always high and drunk.
Watching this a woman I an realizing that I really am in love with the man I am currently dating...
Hands down, all facts! 👍🏾👍🏾
I can sum it up in a nutshell. If she or he is represented as a MO (motivating operation) meaning your significant other naturally motivates you to be the best version of yourself... Godsign
God Bless You 🙏🏻