Talking to Our Children About Gender and LGBT: A Conversation on Practical Tips for Muslim Parents
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
- A Conversation with Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi, Ust. Mobeen Vaid & Dr Sharif El-Tobgui!
Useful Links & Resources (clickable links are in the comments section)
- The LGBTQ+ Issue: Moral, Historical and Political Considerations by Dr. Yasir Qadhi / Link: shorturl.at/gzW79
- Understanding The LGBT Issue From An Islamic Perspective by Dr. Yasir Qadhi / Link: shorturl.at/bktGS
- Fatwa Regarding Transgenderism in Islam by Dr Yasir Qadhi / Link: shorturl.at/ptxMV
- Person & Identity Website by the Catholic Women's Forum / Link: catholicwomens...
- A Way Beyond The Rainbow by Waheed Jensen / Link: shorturl.at/etwPT
- From a Same-Sex Attracted Muslim: Between Denial of Reality and Distortion of Religion / Link: muslimmatters....
- Islam and "LGBTQ": Gender, Sexuality, Morality & Identity with Dr Carl Sharif El-Tobgui / Link: shorturl.at/lyN35
- Can Islam Accommodate Homosexual Acts? Quranic Revisionism and the Case of Scott Kugle / Link: muslimmatters....
- Where The Rainbow Ends: American Muslims And LGBT Activism / Link: muslimmatters....
- “And the Male Is Not like the Female”: Sunni Islam and Gender Nonconformity (Part 2) / Link: muslimmatters....
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I'm from a Catholic background and I've come to find much peace in learning of and from Islam. Hearing the Seerah of Muhammad pbuh, and the Sahaba (may God be pleased with them all) and al Qasas in the Holy Quran. It has giving purpose to better/improve my taste in life redefine my needs and wants for things that truly matter. Today I feel the West has done us a disservice by keeping true Islam in the dark for so long. Today I thank God The One and Only to have guided me to sheikhs like you Yasir Qadhi. I admire your work for your exceptional knowledge and attention to details. May Allah be please with your kind work. May he grant you a long life full of health.
ps: What prayer, surah is being recited at the beginning of this/many of Sheikh Yasir's videos?
It's not a surah from the quran but islamic poetry about calling on Allah swt
I'm thankful for Yasir Qadhi and the other Imams for their sincere comments about the LGBT issues. May Allah guide and protect them. Sabreen
@@nazkhan7141 After doing audio search I found the nashee. Later on I found the citation on Qadih's videos about section. I listen to that nashee often. The sound, the meaning always gets the best of me. My tears just come out. I've much to go so much knowledge to gain and put in to practice. I feel like a kid discovering the world for the first time. May the peace and love of Allah swt be with us all.
@@sabreenmujahid3686 Amen
I will do my best to translate!
How wretched am I, how embarrassed am I, when my God says to me, 'Did you not feel ashamed to disobey Me, not fearing chastisement, hiding the sin from My Creation, turning away in your passions near Me [or: refusing in your passions to draw nearer to Me],' so repent from what you had committed, in the hopes of attaining the Lord's Pleasure."
Catholic here. We're all dealing with these problems. Ultimately we're going to have to fight back and retake these institutions. They're being run by a fringe minority and most Americans hate it.
In the meantime, a good approach is Pod schooling, where groups of like-minded parents come together and essentially make a communal homeschool based on the parents' expertise. My kids are in one. My husband teaches math, the English and History teachers are Mormons, the Science teacher is Evangelical, all with real training and experience in their fields.
I'd recommend, where there isn't an available Islamic school, reaching out to other families and finding Christian Pods like ours, or organizing one yourselves. Plenty of Christians are looking for options and the schools and culture are so corrupt that we have to all be in this together.
This is a great idea.
As the Christian Negus of Abyssinia reportedly remarked to one of our Prophet’s companions many centuries ago, our faiths are like rays of light from the same source. Even as certain aspects like theology and law diverge over time, values and virtues tend to stay similar. In the face of unprecedented institutional and moral corruption, we need all hands on deck.
Love the points you’ve raised.
Unfortunately today’s evangelical Christians and other Christian groups are so full of hatred against us Muslims that it is really hard to believe that they are good people.
That is such a brilliant idea for parents with young kids.Bless you
Awesome!
Look who's here! 👋 Brother Paul 💗
I'm sure this was inspired by your great video with Dr Sharif!
I hope to see ustad vaid back to Blogging Theology brother Paul. His talk is always beneficial
It's the main man brother Paul!
PAULLLLL
Useful Links & Resources:
- The LGBTQ+ Issue: Moral, Historical and Political Considerations by Dr. Yasir Qadhi / Link: shorturl.at/gzW79
- Understanding The LGBT Issue From An Islamic Perspective by Dr. Yasir Qadhi / Link: shorturl.at/bktGS
- Fatwa Regarding Transgenderism in Islam by Dr Yasir Qadhi / Link: shorturl.at/ptxMV
- Person & Identity Website by the Catholic Women's Forum / Link: catholicwomensforum.org/introducing-the-person-identity-project/
- A Way Beyond The Rainbow by Waheed Jensen / Link: shorturl.at/etwPT
- From a Same-Sex Attracted Muslim: Between Denial of Reality and Distortion of Religion / Link: muslimmatters.org/2016/08/22/from-a-same-sex-attracted-muslim-between-denial-of-reality-and-distortion-of-religion/
- Islam and "LGBTQ": Gender, Sexuality, Morality & Identity with Dr Carl Sharif El-Tobgui / Link: shorturl.at/lyN35
- Can Islam Accommodate Homosexual Acts? Quranic Revisionism and the Case of Scott Kugle / Link: muslimmatters.org/2016/07/11/can-islam-accommodate-homosexual-acts-quranic-revisionism-and-the-case-of-scott-kugle/
- Where The Rainbow Ends: American Muslims And LGBT Activism / Link: muslimmatters.org/2022/01/07/where-the-rainbow-ends-american-muslims-lgbt-activism/
- “And the Male Is Not like the Female”: Sunni Islam and Gender Nonconformity (Part 2) / Link: muslimmatters.org/2020/12/30/and-the-male-is-not-like-the-female-sunni-islam-and-gender-nonconformity-part-2
Assalamu alaykum sheikh, how may I ask you a question? Thanks.
Sheikh Yasir this is so great, please invite guests and have these types of Podcast-like conversations more regularly. This will also protect you from being singled out and bullied lol.
Being Yasir Qadhi is waking up to walk in a thin rope where if you fall left your own brothers will slaughter you in the name of Deen, if you fall right you will be framed as a fundamentalist to justify Islamophobia in the secular world.
Saving this
Saved these resources/links. JAK
Sheikh Yasir this is so great, please invite guests and have these types of Podcast-like conversations more regularly.
Watching from Bangladesh 🇧🇩
May Allah protect us from the rainbow 🤲
I hear that Bangladeshis have dealt with this rubbish rather well
Bangladesh is running by The Indian, Modi. Who is promoting homosexuality, anyone dare to speaks Against, Going to BEHIND Bar. Everything for destruction Of Family life.
Good to see Dr yasir qadhi looking into such issues!. Thank you!.
this is especially difficult for parents in the west, thank you for this great lecture
VERY DIFFICULT
Regrouping in a Muslim country is the solution.
This is the main issue that makes me want to move to a muslim country. The very idea of my future children being exposed to activist teachers, drag queens, and grooming at public school is revolting. Only option is Islamic private school in Canada/America.
Muslim countries like UAE are supporting such ideas at least not openly
Move to a conservative area like Texas or Alabama
It's beginning to pop up as well here in Australia.
No where to hide fella
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 No they are not.
Really appreciated this conversation. I do want to note, I've seen a lot of kids in this generation and how they've reacted to different parenting styles. And the confident Muslims who continue to practice for the rest of their lives, never come from the teenagers who were sheltered and didn't have opportunities to make mistakes, have open conversations, and learn to present themselves and their religion to the world naturally and without so much fear of judgement. Bc that fear comes from a lack of real experience. As Muslims, we only have sex in a very specific set of conditions and that's that. And if you're living in America, for the most part ppl will leave you alone for those religious beliefs as long as you're not encroaching on their freedoms. Being unapologetically Muslim and true to those beliefs have to come from the teenager having the opportunity to choose that for themselves rather than mama and baba are forcing me to live a certain way.
Definitely internet restrictions growing up are necessary. However, every Muslim kid I've seen that has had limited social media and no phone in high school has always turned to the other extreme or grown up resentful of their parents bc whether you're in Islamic school or not, that's very obviously not the norm. It's really important to shelter your kids especially when they're younger but also give them the freedom to learn to stand on their own and learn to be confident in the world outside that shelter.
May Allah reward you this is i believe the one of the most important lecture we need to hear as Muslim community in the west
Asalamaulaikum Dr. Qadhi,
This is a very good discussion format. Please keep doing this kind of programs this will improve understanding of different kind of topics muslims and spiritual people in general could benefit. Jazzak Allahu khairan.
Teach your children how cancerous or just bad Tiktok, Twitter, or other social medias are and teach them how to be independent and critical thinking skills. In many ways, I would say addiction and dependency go in hand-in-hand.
I really liked how the sheikh discussed how you can’t have two mommies, very good way to explain to young kids
I never missed a podcast with ust. Mobeen vaid. Always insightful. Also thanks allot to Sh.YQ and Dr..shariff for a beneficial talk.
May Allah Accept your works, and make it a means of acceptance and Guidance for the Ummah!
Jazakallah khair to the Sheikh and the two brothers. Very informative and beneficial. Allah swt bless you all for your efforts.
Three of my favorite people. This is amazing.
JazakAllah Khyr for the great conversations. It's the time we all need talk about this issues and educate about it.
Sh. Yasir, Dr Sharif and Ust. Mobeen Jazakumullahu khair. I hope this is the start of many more discussions to come.
Teaching our children the difference between facts and opinions, definition of woman and man.
Some notes
- ulema are parents as well and they too struggle with dealing with this and other issues. No one is perfect and people struggle and get things wrong.
- parents have to think long term and not be reactionary to one off incidents.
- start early. Marry someone who can support a good Muslim family environment. Speak to your spouse about how you can make a good Muslim role model environment.
- if the child can't see Islamic role models in their household, then it will create issues down the road.
- human beings are naturally believers in Allah. But we live in a society which is "like acid" to the fitrah, it burns that natural disposition to God.
- we need to contextualise LGBT as a behaviour which is disobedience to Allah, just like drinking or any other zina.
- every era has its own focus of aqeedah, we don't fear our children taking Jesus as a God because we've tackled this question and now we need to address the issue of LGBT.
- we should ally ourselves with the Christian groups who are strong and experienced in tackling this issue. For example lots of Christian children's books promote traditional family models without theological issues. Also famous podcasts with hundred+ hours on these topics produced by the Christian community.
- there's a deliberate cultural framework where there are materials produced to undermine traditional family models.
- the issue of morality, liberalism and sexualisation is the biggest challenge of our times.
- we need to provide our children with traditional gender role models, from our own homes and from the seerah.
Jazakum Allahu khayran, Yaseen TV, for the very helpful notes. Just one substantial correction though: the excellent podcast with 88 episodes and something like 150 hours of listening material is not from Christians but from OUR own community, alhamduillah. It is called A Way Beyond the Rainbow. I know of no other comparable resource in any other religious community. In fact, it seems that even some Christians have been listening to and benefitting from it. It can be accessed through a simple Google search (RUclips hasn't been letting me post the link here for some reason). Wassalam.
@@csel-tobgui8849 jazakAllah khair, apologies for this. This video was very powerful mashaAllah.
One of my favorite schooler may Allah bless him and protect him
Never clicked on something so fast. Jazakallah ya sheikh
Alhamdulillah - this was a brilliant discussion with much invaluable guidance and advice for parents in these testing times. May I request Sheikh that you turn these discussions into an ongoing series and perhaps even expand to other important topics that are proving to be challenging for Muslims in the west?
MashaAllah Sheikh.May Allah reward you and your guests.JazakaAllah
“It takes a village to raise a child”. Muslims need to form communities wherever possible, and start thinking seriously about hijra (whether it’s to another city, state or country) to safeguard their emaan. In some places and contexts there may even be alliances between Muslims and non-Muslim conservatives based on shared values, depending on the local relationships between communities.
What’s clear is that there needs to be a divorce between the mainstream Muslim community and open peddlers of degeneracy. Hindsight is 20/20 and at some point before it may have been expedient (or necessary) to ally with the liberal left, but it’s time now to take stock of the damage this relationship has done to our communities in the west.
The USA specifically is undergoing a “great sort” and heading towards a “national divorce” of sorts where people in general are making “Hijra” along socio-political lines. In this time of upheaval the Muslims need strong and wise leaders who are able to safeguard our values and build bridges with the right people. Wallahualam and may Allah guide us all.
Nothing is more revolting to me than the Muslim relationship with the degenerate left.
It's all in the hands of the mother, Guidance is upto Allah.
No matter how hard I try to teach my children about Islam and Islamic values, if the mother is not aligned in it, it's really hard to make things happen. The children tend to lean on the mother more than the father.
Trinitarians are shirk.
Your last 22 minutes of conversation is really important it should have been longer. Please do another episode.
Mashallah, thank you for your work for the ummah
I do pray dua for myself and my family in prayers to become righteous and ask hidayat and piety for ourselves and coming generations. May Allah make us all among the righteous. Ameen ya Rabbul Alameen
We need more programs like this. JazakAllahu Khair
Brothers and sisters protect yourselfs your familys, especially the kids, and your friends, from the fitna of these very awful times.
May Allha bless you all for this and make it means of guidance and benefits for countless struggling out there.
Lovely lecture as always mashaAllah ❤️
Well done. Thanks for this. Jzk Khair
Wauw wauw wauw mashallah. This is so useful and important. I am sharing the link to this video to people in my community. So many great tips and tricks how to deal with issues we face here in the west. I would like to ask if you could do more of these lectures. May allah bless you for all your efforts.
Thank you for talking on this topic, I always wondered what should be the right time and age for children to teach them about marriage, sex or how babies are born. I thought that parents who are well educated, teach their children at a very young age like maybe 4 or 5, because they have a better understanding of these topics, however LGBT topic has started to rise recently.
All muslim parents should devote time to educate themselves to deal with this problem.
Jazakallah Khairan.
Wa alaykumassalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
When it comes to discussing this issue with younger children I think it’s important to help them understand that it’s ok to be different. Rather than demonising their friend’s family with two moms for example. Teach them the Islamic way. Explain family dynamics in age appropriate ways.
Focus on you, not them. Teach them compassion and resilience. Teach them by example, that it’s ok to be misunderstood and be confident to live within your own values. Especially in a time where everyone’s rights are being acknowledged and promoted and protected.
Delve deeper into the issue as they come to you with those conversations, and be open to listening to their thoughts and ask them questions in order to find out how to navigate the conversation and what you need to address. Rather than shutting them out with statements.
The reality is whatever we teach them at home they will learn from outside world. I often have conversation on this topic with my college going daughter and son. About LGBT community, both of my kids tell me that people are born that way and that we have to coexist with them. My opinion is that we cannot impose our faith on other people. If people want to be lesbian or gay, we cannot stop them. I feel sorry for these people but there is nothing we can do for them. It’s best to ignore them and live our own lives.
they arent born that way
there are MANY environmental factors that warp sexuality
It's time to change that reality and build the new reality.
Great podcast and I really appreciate the tools you have shared.
Pls what is the name of the podcast that was mentioned
Unfortunately, it is impossible to find muslim book stories and novels for growing up kids 9-12.
Most book I can find in English or French are very childish, for 3-5 yrs old. Maximum.
The book are very expensive for the number of pages they contain, 20-40 pages.
Unacceptable. Shame on the muslim community.
Check out Naoimi Roberts books...there are quite a few other authors who have written for that age range, which I often see in the Islamic bookshop...just gotta keep a lookout.
Completely agree, there is stuff out there but nowhere near enough and to a high quality.
Take away for me: deliberately plant seeds in our children at a very young age about what a family is. Ie. Mommy and Daddy.
Jazakallahu Khayran Ahsanul Jaza
Mashallah very good discussions
The existence or rather the prominence of the rainbow I believe is our test in modernity.
Yet who are we to decide if we are guided and they are not. We hear even of divorces where husbands all of a sudden decided they are attracted to males and vice versa.
Alhamdulillah for الله’s guidance when we seek it everyday through our prayer.
I believe the prayer of a Muslim is the unseen fortress that he or she could build EVEN if they have been afflicted with the notion of same sex attraction.
I believe a revisit to every rukun and aqeedah points in our religion, especially that of salah should suffice. Of course by doing these by extension we are also learning the Qur’an and Seerah.
Brilliant from ustadh sharif
More of this!!
Agree we don't spend enough time with our children
we have to do better. let's do better
Sir.... plz make a series on 99 name of Allah.... describing one name at a time. Plz sir.
د جااسم المطوع:
افضل الطرق المجربه لتعزيز حب الله في قلوب الاطفال:
اسماء الله الحسنى (حب الله تعالى)
سير الصالحين (حب المستقيمين)
السياحه الدينيه (حب الحياه الطيبه)
Where can I find more of Mobeen Vaid, regarding homeschooling? Would love for someone to point my in the right direction. JAK
@Mobeen vaid. I am very curious what homeschool curriculum you (or others) use
As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Skh. I would love to hear this conversation after you've watched the RUclips docu, "What is a Woman". This program makes out clear the agenda and ther source of this Homosexual/transgender assault on humankind.
Al hamde li Allah. الحمد لله
MashaAllah
Assalamu alaikkum Jazakallah khair Sheikh
Thanks. Good points. Father of 3. Looking for same solutions. Thank you.
Asalamualaykum. Any advice or suggestions? My daughter went to an Islamic school for 3 years. She knows the story about Prophet Lut (S.W) and she is aware of what the lgbtq community is since it is being forced down everyone throat, especially in kids cartoons, in stores, commercials, schools, ect. Once I put her in a public school in 5th grade, she was exposed to it more since that is all they talk about unfortunately. They are already asking kids to label themselves. Once in 6th grade it is even worse!! Her Best friend from 5th grade is a nice and sweet girl but is now gay with a girlfriend. Most of the people around her circle is gay. She is starting to ask me why is it haram and they are nice and "love is love" I teach her it isn't our business but it is also not right and we don't follow that. Now she labels herself as A-sexual. I am like what? we are not labels. She said that means I am not sexually attracted to anyone. I said that just means your to young to be anyways but the correct terminology is straight. DON"T fall into the whole labeling thing. I am just worried if she hangs around this group what else might influence her. Any suggestions so I can stop it right before it gets worse?
This video is most possibly going to be removed by RUclips, how can we download it and keep and spread among others.
One problem is that the younger generation feel Islamic teachings are outdated.
Yes because they live in the west like America, France, etc. Why people in Africa, or the Muslim countries don't think it's outdated?
The younger generation are sharper and more inclined to follow Islam without the baggage of 9/11 pushback.
The biggest pushers of dengeracy amongst Muslims - ilhan omar, rasheeda taleb, Linda sarsour, ingrid maddison - are all above 40 ... the youth are the ones pushing back.
liberalism is just as old
In UK it’s been made compulsory to schools to teach about LGBT to kids from 4 years old. Sadly to even Islamic schools
Not to islamic school in the UK, I live here.
Please your library tour sheikh
What is the nasheed at the start pls?
It's like we teach pork and how to avoid it. The samething - we have to teach the Rainbow in order to avoid it in today's world.
To be blunt by sensoring kids is also not healthy the day when they have liberty it.may backfire
Please comment
Not censoring. But I believe I'd like to explain things to my kids on my terms, not on their terms. I know that my 5 daughter will eventually be exposed to lgbtq (alphabet soup). But, that doesn't mean I'm just gonna let her watch a show that has it. I'm gonna do what I can as a parent and when I feel the time is right, I will bring it up. And if she's exposed to it beforehand, then we'll discuss it. But I'm not just going to give up and submit. That's defeatist.
Kids NEED to be censored from evil. That's why we have parents.
Yes, rebound rebellion is a very real thing. When children feel they have been constrained and restricted, the moment they get a bit of freedom, they can explode like a fizzy drink opened...the key is to give them appropriate freedom. Dont give them a smartphone even if your lives depended on it.
Salams Teachers and Shaikhs
Putting them in islamic school isnt fool proof. We are in one of the top largest city of US- islamic is just a name- speaking from sending my children in islamic throughout till high school-
Rainbow is coming from home to the schools- closet gays/lesbians exist there as well.
But it's still better than the public school. At least they hear about Allah at school and home.
I disagree with Sheikh Yasir regarding not giving children their own computers. This will break trust in a way that is hard to repair. In creating an atmosphere of mistrust with your kids, they will always see you as someone who doesn’t trust them, and this will be hard to fix as they get older. Just tell them not to do something, and trust Allah to do the rest.
Don't look at it as not trusting them, but as Shaytan doing all he can to lead them astray. No one is immune to that. Also, like Dr. Yasir said, they can have a common computer
@@mmss3199 correlation doesn't equal causation
That's not true , I know a family with 5 kids, no computer or even TV. The kids did turn up well and are forever grateful to their parents they didn't give in to buy a computer or TV.
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Hijrah. Hijrah. Hijrah. Allahu akbar. Children raised in muslim communities RARELY adopt atheism, lgbt, homosexuality, open sexual promiscuity. If you admit medina is different than las vegas, you admit every city is not the same. Allah sub7ana wa t3ala is ArRazzaq no matter where you live. What is the excuse for exposing our children to all the incredible danger outlined in this lecture?
LGBTQ is widely spread in Muslim countries but not openly.its part of vision 2030 in Saudi Arabia
truth is white people bomb the heck out of us. We need to live in the west and become dawah machines if we live here. Sad thing is muslims don’t care about dawah at all in canada and America overall
"Children raised in muslim communities RARELY adopt atheism, lgbt, homosexuality" - uh, no. It's just more hidden.
I use the word rare, meaning uncommon. If you have any statistics I would appreciate if you share. The reality is that in the west the rate of atheism among those born muslim is significantly higher than in muslim majority communities. The fact they keep it secret is actually a positive thing. As far as where, there are a huge number of countries to choose from, a small sample would be indonesia, malaysia, qatar, jordan, brunei, tanzania, maldives, comorros, anatolian turkey etc. Each individual should do their own research just like their parents did when they immigrated to the west. The need for due diligence is the same.
So all of us should move to Medinah??? 😂. Or ALLAH’s mercy and guidance is only in Muslim countries ??? Are u really suggesting this as a practical solution for the ummah? Gosh!! SMH 🤦🏽♀️!!
سلام عليكم..
Islam dealing realistic about Sexuality ..
We are Told separate siblings when reaching certain age by not using the same blanket.
Also aura defined clearly..
This is deeply disturbing..
Great Scholars and Thinkers are Talking more openly about this..
الحمد الله..
More evidence that you should not live in dar ul kufar. But the Sheikh will not say this
I wonder what Hamza Yusuf has to say about this issue. He is akin to Al Ghazali of our times.
Yasir Qadhi, perhaps that of Ibn Taymiyyah.
الله guides whom He wills.
Steady on
Why not one month ago?