Hunter, Gather, Parent is my absolute favorite parenting book. It’s so eye opening because it’s counterculture to what we do in the US yet these approaches have been tested for many generations and proven to be effective. Love all these recommendations and this video is reminding me I need to finish Simplicity Parenting 😂❤
I’m a new orthodox Christian and all of this tips are so inline with everything I’m learning about how to view and practice intentional parenting. Adding all of these books to my reading list, thank you!
I have been working on a list of non fiction books to read in 2025 and all of these have been added! Thank you for another great video and would look forward to more book recommendations. God bless!
I've read many of the same parenting books as you. I read simplicity parenting when my oldest who is now 9 was a baby and it changed my trajectory as a parent. I often keep the principles in it in the back of my mind.
I’m so thankful to have found your channel and the way I was able to relate to my life and motherhood journey and seek improvement through your content❤
Really liked this video. I also loved simplicity parenting so much, so I decided to give your other recommendations a go… and I can confirm that hunt, gather, parent is brilliant! Just started your last one now ☺️
This is irrelevant to the actual video but I just want to take a moment to appreciate how cool your hair looks. The silver sheen legitimately looks so great against the brown color, like something you might see on a girl in an anime or something haha. Weird compliment but I just appreciate that you’re not hiding your gray and you also totally pulling it off.
Simplicity parenting is my bible when it comes to parenting, I’ve been reading Hunt, gather, parent and thank you for recommending Hard is not the same thing as bad, it’s going to be the next one. Loved your idea of bringing three things of each of the books and would love to watch more of how you implement lessons in your day to day life. ❤
There definitely seems to be interest in diving more deeply into the books and their application in day-to-day life. I'll have to think about how I can incorporate this into future videos.
This is SUCH a gem of a video. Sending straight to my husband!! I’ve listened to Abbie’s other book M is for Mamma and it was GOOD - you have motivated me to want to properly get down to these three books (I have an 8 month old) and am super keen to learn from you. Love your warmth, openness and honesty!! Such a tidy edit and generally brilliant video! Thank you :) best from London! 😊
@@papertownhome Definitely. Thanks for some stonkingly good content this end of the year - I think I found you when the toys video went viral and so grateful for your thoughtful content in my life. Have a great Christmas, God Bless xx
I always learn from your videos. Thank you! I am wondering if you have sped them up a bit? If so, would it be possible to just have them at normal speed and people could speed them up if they wanted? I tend to be a bit wound up and a slower speed would be more calming 😊
I have read the 1st book and your decluttering videos and others leading to minimal toy set up and no toy rotation now! I definitely want to read the next two listed and hope it's on my kindle unlimited lol. I'm currently reading the ruthless elimination of hurry and resignate alot with it. Also a newbie to Christianity and trying to learn and believe especially so blessed with my family and community. Thank you for your videos ❤
I'd probably lean toward reading one book at a time, but that might just be me. Sometimes I get overwhelmed if I divide my attention between too many things.
@papertownhome thank you for replying!! :) Slow living and minimal is so hard for us especially with my spouse in the Army which is all about routines and crazy schedules. Had a rough night over a his work xmas party and I should've stayed home calm and with my toddler but I didn't want it to be odd his family not going. From now on tho I'm not going cause we argued all night and now I have 0 motivation to do anything. Sorry quick vent no need to respond lol
Great video! When I found Kim's book many years ago I shared it with everyone! There wasn't any youtube videos about it yet so i'm glad that so many Mama's can reap the benefits of it❤.
Excellent. I added all of them to my Amazon cart. My mom tells a story about when I was little and I "helped" her clean the litter box by dragging litter and cat poo all over the house to the toilet to flush it away. She said she was mad, and then I had a meltdown because I said I was trying to help and didn't understand why she was mad. Which of course mad her feel lousy. I don't remember it, but I still take it as a learning experience into my own mothering. I'm pretty decent with the things you listed here, but some good reminders and tips are always beneficial. I taught high school for over a decade and had the misfortune to witness many unpleasant, and weird, things at parent/teacher conferences. As a result, I'm rather hyper aware of what to definitely not do. :/
You’ve just gained a new subscriber. You’re an excellent speaker and I hope your spiritual journey takes you deeper with God. Thank you for this video.
I just adore your videos. I so needed to hear all this today (rough parenting/homeschool day), so thank you for the timely reminder 🤍 Also, Kim John Payne has several other books, and his book “The Soul of Discipline” is also fantastic! And my other fave book is “Hold onto Your Kids” by Gabor Mate. What a blessing that we can learn from the wisdom and experience of others!
Oh yes! My sister was reading "The Soul of Discipline" and I've been curious to check it out. And, I'm so happy the video was timely. I've had those rough days too!
I absolutely love the first two books and have not heard of the third. So excited to dive in. Thank you! I really liked this video and would love to have you dive deeper into specific elements/ tactics and explore how you approach or implement them in your life. New series! Lol.
Really enjoying Elevating Childcare by Janet Lansbury at the moment. I had to buy the kindle one as well as the audible one because I kept having to replay it to take notes
I have had Hunter Gather Parent for like a year! I need to read it. I know your kids are younger but back in the day🤭... there used to be this series on mom's parenting around the world in this blog i think it was called Cup of Joe or Cuppa Joe. And it was my absolute favorite 😍. This book reminds me of that. I'm a Francophile and really enjoyed Bringing Up Bebe and French Kids Eat Everything both fantastic books on Parenting!
I loved Hunt, Gather, Parent as well. // Wanted to tell you that the idea of slowing down "to let our souls catch up to our bodies" comes from nomadic Australian aborigines. They wander, but every once in a while, they just stop. When an observer asked why, he was given that explanation. Peace, Melanie
I’ve watched your videos and they’ve been really helpful for organizing my house. I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I’m curious-what do you do for a living? Your explanations sound so professional that it made me wonder😅
I've done a lot of things professionally. Right now, I'm home with my kids and I produce RUclips videos, but my background includes 10 years in marketing and four years as a career coach. Though my speaking may be a family trait. We've been accused of being quite "proper" and "formal" in how we communicate 🤣
That's awesome you create videos too! I've learned a lot about how to structure videos from the channel Creator Booth. You might find his weekly emails helpful. And, if you want to message me on Instagram, I can share links to some of my favorite videos. :)
I’m a stay at home dad of a 2 year old boy. I’ve enjoyed several of your videos and was especially delighted to learn more about your journey to becoming a Christian and how that has affected your parenting. Thank you for your work in studying books like these and influencing us other parents trying to parent our best for these beautiful children of God who are given to us!
My one year old takes clean laundry out of the dryer and tosses it back into the dirty hamper and takes toys she’s done with directly to the trash. 😂 the wheels are turning but not quite there yet
I havent ordered the books yet because im still very early into religion and trying to believe. Is HGP and HINTSAB okay to still read if im not super religious yet?
Hey! HGP isn’t a book based on any religion. It’s about the author’s experience learning about how parenting is done by indigenous and hunter-gatherer tribes. HINTSAB is from a Biblical perspective. I certainly don’t think it’ll hurt to read it, but it is from the Christian worldview.
I love how the Lord is using you here in the RUclips world. Your videos are always so encouraging. Thanks for making them! I am currently in the middle of reading simplicity parenting, I’m excited to add these other two books to my reading list for 2025. Would love to hear your testimony sometime in a video if you feel led to share!
Currently reading Hunt Gather Parent but I’ll definitely have to add the others to my list. I would love to pick your brain on something you mentioned in your video. I sent you an Instagram message so I’m hoping it reaches you❤️
You might find Abbie Halberstadt’s e-book, “The Gentleness Challenge” helpful. She’s the author of the third book I mentioned and her e-book is all about calling on The Holy Sprit to help shift or hearts and transform the anger. Also, Hunt, Gather, Parent is the best book I’ve read about learning to have less anger with my kids. Anger was an area that the author really struggled with.
You might enjoy Jennifer Pepito's books as well as Jamie Ericksons books. Also I just want to make sure I am understanding correctly but you just have two young kids correct? That's all I've seen in your movies but didn't want to assume as some RUclipsrs I watch have older kids who don't want to be filmed. And I have two littles but also two teens so both sets of kids are separated by ten years.
@@papertownhome Oh gotcha, thanks for that. I read Simplicity parenting with my third and really liked it. I was surprised because I was already intuitively doing a lot of the things mentioned so it was gratifying that by me going rogue and trusting myself as a Mom and the Holy Spirit it was the right call. No all the books stand alone and are really about different areas of a Moms life, hospitality, homeschool, reading aloud.
First, I’d recommend reading “Hunt, Gather, Parent”. Public tantrums were a huge issue for the author and she addresses it thoroughly. Best guidance on that subject that I’ve ever read. Second, de-escalating with stillness can work wonders (even in public), and there are examples in the book of how to adapt it, in those circumstances. But, I think it’s less effective if the parent is agitated from it being a public display. So, in that context I’d probably rely on another strategy from the book.
So, it can be discouraging wheb you're still figuring things out and your oldest is an 11 yo boy! I've skimmed some good books, heard good ideas, but my implementation SUCKS! I've realized slowly 🐌 amd more so the padt 2 years that my own disappointment with myself stifles me and doesn't allow me to believe ANYTHING I DO could work. I tend to think, everything my children do wrong, is MY fault. I am the comman denominator of all things horrible - they just need a different mom! Well, I don't get far with this mindset. I've tried to be giving and understanding and calm but firm, i find it difficult, but i just try. I have found myself doing all the chores while the kids play or do their jobs, which they don't usually get done unless i do it with them - even the 11 and 9 yo!! So THAT needs to change. But one good thing - my 2 yo boy has a quick temper and he becomes MORE angry with reprimands, calling me, "you meanie, mama" (haha its horrible) but the other day he threw a huge tantrum at the library of all places and I took him to the bathroom (i wanted to spank his little leg) I sat him on a changing counter and he couldn't get off. I didn't say anything i just stared stoically and within 3-5 minutes, he was ready for me to pick him and have a conversation and move on! I was so surprised at this and then i listed to this... Oh, it's a thing you're supposed to do!!
Hunter, Gather, Parent is my absolute favorite parenting book. It’s so eye opening because it’s counterculture to what we do in the US yet these approaches have been tested for many generations and proven to be effective. Love all these recommendations and this video is reminding me I need to finish Simplicity Parenting 😂❤
Hard is not the same as bad!!! Literally one of my favorites! Listened to it and then bought the hard cover to take notes in and I love her podcast!!
I’m a new orthodox Christian and all of this tips are so inline with everything I’m learning about how to view and practice intentional parenting. Adding all of these books to my reading list, thank you!
I'm so glad it's resonating with you!
New Christian and mom as well! You are so on point about how our culture views parenting and how hard it is to fight and pray through those times
I have been working on a list of non fiction books to read in 2025 and all of these have been added! Thank you for another great video and would look forward to more book recommendations. God bless!
I've read many of the same parenting books as you. I read simplicity parenting when my oldest who is now 9 was a baby and it changed my trajectory as a parent. I often keep the principles in it in the back of my mind.
I’m so thankful to have found your channel and the way I was able to relate to my life and motherhood journey and seek improvement through your content❤
That's amazing! I'm so glad it's been helpful!
I read Simplicity Parenting. It helped me so much!! I recommend the book Hold On to Your Kids by Gabor Mate.
Really liked this video. I also loved simplicity parenting so much, so I decided to give your other recommendations a go… and I can confirm that hunt, gather, parent is brilliant! Just started your last one now ☺️
This is irrelevant to the actual video but I just want to take a moment to appreciate how cool your hair looks. The silver sheen legitimately looks so great against the brown color, like something you might see on a girl in an anime or something haha. Weird compliment but I just appreciate that you’re not hiding your gray and you also totally pulling it off.
Thank you so much! I was recently questioning if I should dye it 😂 so this was very reassuring!
Yes for Simplicity Parenting! The best. I also rate Hunt, Gather, Parent. And thanks for the completely new recommendation for Hard Is...
Simplicity parenting is my bible when it comes to parenting, I’ve been reading Hunt, gather, parent and thank you for recommending Hard is not the same thing as bad, it’s going to be the next one.
Loved your idea of bringing three things of each of the books and would love to watch more of how you implement lessons in your day to day life. ❤
There definitely seems to be interest in diving more deeply into the books and their application in day-to-day life. I'll have to think about how I can incorporate this into future videos.
This is SUCH a gem of a video. Sending straight to my husband!! I’ve listened to Abbie’s other book M is for Mamma and it was GOOD - you have motivated me to want to properly get down to these three books (I have an 8 month old) and am super keen to learn from you. Love your warmth, openness and honesty!! Such a tidy edit and generally brilliant video! Thank you :) best from London! 😊
Thank you! I’m so glad it was valuable to you!
@@papertownhome Definitely. Thanks for some stonkingly good content this end of the year - I think I found you when the toys video went viral and so grateful for your thoughtful content in my life. Have a great Christmas, God Bless xx
I always learn from your videos. Thank you! I am wondering if you have sped them up a bit? If so, would it be possible to just have them at normal speed and people could speed them up if they wanted? I tend to be a bit wound up and a slower speed would be more calming 😊
I’m the same! I like to adjust the playback speed a little!
Love your work! Thank you for this, and I'll definitely read these recommendations.
I have read the 1st book and your decluttering videos and others leading to minimal toy set up and no toy rotation now! I definitely want to read the next two listed and hope it's on my kindle unlimited lol. I'm currently reading the ruthless elimination of hurry and resignate alot with it. Also a newbie to Christianity and trying to learn and believe especially so blessed with my family and community. Thank you for your videos ❤
I ordered the hunt and hard books 😊 Is it recommended to read one book at a time or 1 chapter of each each time? Thanks
I hope you find those books helpful too! It's so rewarding to find resources that resonate with your parenting AND your faith journey!
I'd probably lean toward reading one book at a time, but that might just be me. Sometimes I get overwhelmed if I divide my attention between too many things.
@papertownhome thank you for replying!! :) Slow living and minimal is so hard for us especially with my spouse in the Army which is all about routines and crazy schedules. Had a rough night over a his work xmas party and I should've stayed home calm and with my toddler but I didn't want it to be odd his family not going. From now on tho I'm not going cause we argued all night and now I have 0 motivation to do anything. Sorry quick vent no need to respond lol
Love love love this video. ❤ thank you
Thank you!
Thank you for an insight for hunt, gather, parent.
Great video! When I found Kim's book many years ago I shared it with everyone! There wasn't any youtube videos about it yet so i'm glad that so many Mama's can reap the benefits of it❤.
Excellent. I added all of them to my Amazon cart. My mom tells a story about when I was little and I "helped" her clean the litter box by dragging litter and cat poo all over the house to the toilet to flush it away. She said she was mad, and then I had a meltdown because I said I was trying to help and didn't understand why she was mad. Which of course mad her feel lousy. I don't remember it, but I still take it as a learning experience into my own mothering. I'm pretty decent with the things you listed here, but some good reminders and tips are always beneficial. I taught high school for over a decade and had the misfortune to witness many unpleasant, and weird, things at parent/teacher conferences. As a result, I'm rather hyper aware of what to definitely not do. :/
You’ve just gained a new subscriber. You’re an excellent speaker and I hope your spiritual journey takes you deeper with God. Thank you for this video.
I just adore your videos. I so needed to hear all this today (rough parenting/homeschool day), so thank you for the timely reminder 🤍
Also, Kim John Payne has several other books, and his book “The Soul of Discipline” is also fantastic! And my other fave book is “Hold onto Your Kids” by Gabor Mate. What a blessing that we can learn from the wisdom and experience of others!
Oh yes! My sister was reading "The Soul of Discipline" and I've been curious to check it out. And, I'm so happy the video was timely. I've had those rough days too!
I absolutely love the first two books and have not heard of the third. So excited to dive in. Thank you!
I really liked this video and would love to have you dive deeper into specific elements/ tactics and explore how you approach or implement them in your life. New series! Lol.
Thank you for this! I would also recommend Messy Family Podcast ❤ it’s Christian centered but also is relevant to secular parents in many episodes.
That's great to know! I'll have to check it out!
Really enjoying Elevating Childcare by Janet Lansbury at the moment. I had to buy the kindle one as well as the audible one because I kept having to replay it to take notes
I've read that too! It's been a long time, but I so appreciate her deep love for young children. She sets such a fantastic example.
I have had Hunter Gather Parent for like a year! I need to read it. I know your kids are younger but back in the day🤭... there used to be this series on mom's parenting around the world in this blog i think it was called Cup of Joe or Cuppa Joe. And it was my absolute favorite 😍. This book reminds me of that. I'm a Francophile and really enjoyed Bringing Up Bebe and French Kids Eat Everything both fantastic books on Parenting!
Oh yeah! I've heard of those books but never read them. There's a lot of fun stuff out there to learn from.
I loved Hunt, Gather, Parent as well. // Wanted to tell you that the idea of slowing down "to let our souls catch up to our bodies" comes from nomadic Australian aborigines. They wander, but every once in a while, they just stop. When an observer asked why, he was given that explanation. Peace, Melanie
You are amazing! Carry on.
That’s so kind of you to say! 😄
I’ve watched your videos and they’ve been really helpful for organizing my house. I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I’m curious-what do you do for a living? Your explanations sound so professional that it made me wonder😅
I've done a lot of things professionally. Right now, I'm home with my kids and I produce RUclips videos, but my background includes 10 years in marketing and four years as a career coach. Though my speaking may be a family trait. We've been accused of being quite "proper" and "formal" in how we communicate 🤣
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truly impressed and amazed by the way you create videos👍🏻 As someone who also makes them, I understand how challenging the process can be🥹
That's awesome you create videos too! I've learned a lot about how to structure videos from the channel Creator Booth. You might find his weekly emails helpful. And, if you want to message me on Instagram, I can share links to some of my favorite videos. :)
@ that’s very sweet of you :) I’ll check it out, really appreciate your comments❤️
I’m a stay at home dad of a 2 year old boy. I’ve enjoyed several of your videos and was especially delighted to learn more about your journey to becoming a Christian and how that has affected your parenting. Thank you for your work in studying books like these and influencing us other parents trying to parent our best for these beautiful children of God who are given to us!
My one year old takes clean laundry out of the dryer and tosses it back into the dirty hamper and takes toys she’s done with directly to the trash. 😂 the wheels are turning but not quite there yet
😂😂 your daughter sounds wonderful! Already trying to figure out how to help her mama.
I havent ordered the books yet because im still very early into religion and trying to believe. Is HGP and HINTSAB okay to still read if im not super religious yet?
Hey! HGP isn’t a book based on any religion. It’s about the author’s experience learning about how parenting is done by indigenous and hunter-gatherer tribes. HINTSAB is from a Biblical perspective. I certainly don’t think it’ll hurt to read it, but it is from the Christian worldview.
I love how the Lord is using you here in the RUclips world. Your videos are always so encouraging. Thanks for making them! I am currently in the middle of reading simplicity parenting, I’m excited to add these other two books to my reading list for 2025. Would love to hear your testimony sometime in a video if you feel led to share!
Currently reading Hunt Gather Parent but I’ll definitely have to add the others to my list. I would love to pick your brain on something you mentioned in your video. I sent you an Instagram message so I’m hoping it reaches you❤️
Just sent a reply!
I just cant seem to get a grip on my anger. I need to pray so much more because my daughter (five) deserves a better role model.
You might find Abbie Halberstadt’s e-book, “The Gentleness Challenge” helpful. She’s the author of the third book I mentioned and her e-book is all about calling on The Holy Sprit to help shift or hearts and transform the anger.
Also, Hunt, Gather, Parent is the best book I’ve read about learning to have less anger with my kids. Anger was an area that the author really struggled with.
You might enjoy Jennifer Pepito's books as well as Jamie Ericksons books.
Also I just want to make sure I am understanding correctly but you just have two young kids correct? That's all I've seen in your movies but didn't want to assume as some RUclipsrs I watch have older kids who don't want to be filmed. And I have two littles but also two teens so both sets of kids are separated by ten years.
Oh man, my own book list is growing! 🤣 I have two little kids. My daughter if 4 and my son is 2. I need to remember to give that context in my videos!
Another quick question, any book you'd recommend starting with from those authors?
@@papertownhome Oh gotcha, thanks for that. I read Simplicity parenting with my third and really liked it. I was surprised because I was already intuitively doing a lot of the things mentioned so it was gratifying that by me going rogue and trusting myself as a Mom and the Holy Spirit it was the right call.
No all the books stand alone and are really about different areas of a Moms life, hospitality, homeschool, reading aloud.
What about tantrums in public spaces?
First, I’d recommend reading “Hunt, Gather, Parent”. Public tantrums were a huge issue for the author and she addresses it thoroughly. Best guidance on that subject that I’ve ever read.
Second, de-escalating with stillness can work wonders (even in public), and there are examples in the book of how to adapt it, in those circumstances. But, I think it’s less effective if the parent is agitated from it being a public display. So, in that context I’d probably rely on another strategy from the book.
So, it can be discouraging wheb you're still figuring things out and your oldest is an 11 yo boy! I've skimmed some good books, heard good ideas, but my implementation SUCKS! I've realized slowly 🐌 amd more so the padt 2 years that my own disappointment with myself stifles me and doesn't allow me to believe ANYTHING I DO could work. I tend to think, everything my children do wrong, is MY fault. I am the comman denominator of all things horrible - they just need a different mom! Well, I don't get far with this mindset.
I've tried to be giving and understanding and calm but firm, i find it difficult, but i just try.
I have found myself doing all the chores while the kids play or do their jobs, which they don't usually get done unless i do it with them - even the 11 and 9 yo!! So THAT needs to change.
But one good thing - my 2 yo boy has a quick temper and he becomes MORE angry with reprimands, calling me, "you meanie, mama" (haha its horrible) but the other day he threw a huge tantrum at the library of all places and I took him to the bathroom (i wanted to spank his little leg) I sat him on a changing counter and he couldn't get off. I didn't say anything i just stared stoically and within 3-5 minutes, he was ready for me to pick him and have a conversation and move on! I was so surprised at this and then i listed to this... Oh, it's a thing you're supposed to do!!