How to Find a Christian Wife or Husband: 3 Christian Relationship Tips on How to Get Married

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  • Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
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    How does God want you to find a Christian wife or husband? Are you supposed to wait on the Lord for a husband or are your supposed to pursue a Christian woman if you want her to be your wife? What does the Bible say about finding a Christian husband or wife? In this video I give you 3 ways to find a Christian wife or husband.
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  • @jordanmcintyre8640
    @jordanmcintyre8640 3 года назад +68

    I have been single my whole life and am now 25. I have been quite introverted up until now. Joining small groups and serving in church is giving me the ability to branch out and be social. I no longer consider myself an introvert and much but somewhere in the middle. I am having more interactions with people in church than ever and I am growing immensely from it. I have faith that God will allow the right woman to cross paths with me when the time is right. Singleness is a time of preparation.

    • @lukejack9551
      @lukejack9551 2 года назад +6

      25 is nothing

    • @leviholston9102
      @leviholston9102 10 месяцев назад

      Hey mate did you find the one for you? Please tell🙏

    • @jordanmcintyre8640
      @jordanmcintyre8640 10 месяцев назад

      @@leviholston9102 28 now, dated a beautiful woman of God but it wasn't right for us. But God was teaching me to pit Him first in all my ways and build my relationship with Him. To be a good husband we have to know God for ourselves. I know that right woman will come into my life but I have to sort our some Foundations in my own life to learn how to love and be loved.
      Bless you brother

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 10 месяцев назад +3

      ​@lukejack9551 It's a long time when you've never been in a relationship. Some of you people in your 30s and 40s thinking that's nothing have been in multiple romantic relationships while we've been single for 25 years and never experienced anything. So maybe you've been single for a handful of years while us for 25 years.

    • @melissawolf9759
      @melissawolf9759 8 месяцев назад +1

      I haven’t experienced anything really either and I’m 49
      Faithfully waiting. Had a few almost attractions but nothing

  • @moroccanluv8810
    @moroccanluv8810 6 лет назад +255

    I’m so love With God and I used to think my man will just come . But not putting action or effort in trying to meet anyone and expecting God to do it is silly . You got to meet people . Don’t lose your self or settle . Be patient talk to people and prayer and see if there Christ like if not that a No . I’m a x-Muslim so growing up In a Muslim home a man will see a picture or ask his mom about you and ask you for your hand . But I was an undercover Christian at the time . But my family knows now . Yea I’m an out cast to my family but that ok because I don’t live for them I live for Christ now ;and they all know now . So I used to think a man should just ask for my hand . But I did get asked for my hand in marriage when my family thought I was a Muslim but God was convicting my heart like what are you doing . So I end up turning him down . Thank God for God discernment that I said no and a few months later I told my parents I cAnt Marry him. My mom was so confused. But God told me what are you doing my child . So I got kicked out for my faith in Christ but that the best thing that ever happened to me . I’m still single ,and talking to Guys seem hard at times . But I keep on praying and asking God to help me in this area . And God is making me more brave . I’m not dating yet but I know God is helping me . I know my values I’m 29 at the moment and I’m content. I know my values and Gods timing is the best . So takes time go out around other believers and see if we have connection and that your evenly yoked . God is good . And He only want to gives his best to you . Don’t get me wrong many man approach me and God tell me nope not Him . God knows your heart and your desire. Always pray that your desire line up with Him .

    • @leahluvvanderson3131
      @leahluvvanderson3131 6 лет назад +16

      Moroccanluv88 wow beautiful story, praise God for the work He has done and is doing in you!

    • @ifeo.9774
      @ifeo.9774 6 лет назад +9

      God bless you and keep you dear sister!🙏🏾

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  6 лет назад +34

      Wow Moroccanluv88, thanks you so much for sharing this with us. What a great example of following Christ. And I think your perspective on relationships is very wise. God bless!

    • @lenkachladkova1762
      @lenkachladkova1762 6 лет назад +8

      You go girl! God's smiling big looking at you!

    • @moroccanluv8810
      @moroccanluv8810 6 лет назад +8

      janetlaw1 I’m from Chicago! Born and raised . My dad is Moroccan and mom is Palestinian .

  • @valeriedhodson3014
    @valeriedhodson3014 6 лет назад +73

    Good video. I decided to work on me and put dating aside. I decided to be the best me first and be someone I would want to marry if I was a guy. Than when I feel I am that I will try again to meet the guy God wants for me. God has not put a datable man in my path so its super easy to not date. My Christian community is super small here. The guys at my church are married or are seniors. The guys where I volunteer are homeless and/or have addictions. Keep up the good work on helping Christian singles. God bless.

  • @TRANSCENDEDINSTITUTE
    @TRANSCENDEDINSTITUTE 8 месяцев назад +3

    The best advice I’ve received. Pursue other desires and don’t be anxious. Trust God

  • @wysefavor
    @wysefavor 3 года назад +33

    Folks its good to have a partner But focus your life on pursuing and fulfilling the work God has for you on earth...Pray this: Lord Explain clearly and show me my work on earth : I receive it now

  • @OrangeDrink
    @OrangeDrink 4 года назад +22

    I'm single, Says in the word that good wife is a blessing from God.

  • @marthajanet2924
    @marthajanet2924 6 лет назад +27

    Love how you interpret the Bible just as is. Your such a wise man, I’m 100% your a great great dad!

  • @rosannadana2922
    @rosannadana2922 6 лет назад +57

    You said take few months. Some need several years...
    Dont do missionary dating...
    If there not yoked. move on fast no matter how beautiful.

  • @deborahbeeluved4449
    @deborahbeeluved4449 6 лет назад +25

    Oh man i really love what you said. I have done just being at home waiting. That's not working so i started going out more now. You never know who you might meet in the unlikely places. Great points.

  • @EBUNNY2012
    @EBUNNY2012 5 лет назад +172

    Don't look too hard. God knows where you are and knows where they are.

    • @elderepyper
      @elderepyper 5 лет назад +11

      Fact. When I gave it up forever, that's when God brought him

    • @7773moses
      @7773moses 4 года назад +13

      Im 53, is the compass broke?

    • @davidsebastianvegas3534
      @davidsebastianvegas3534 4 года назад

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    • @ileardgz7691
      @ileardgz7691 4 года назад

      Cheers for the video content! Sorry for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you thought about - Denrooklyn Wedlock Enhancer (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a smashing one of a kind guide for discovering a proven system to please your partner and make great love without the hard work. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my close friend Aubrey got amazing results with it.

    • @thechristianpsychologer3865
      @thechristianpsychologer3865 3 года назад +9

      @@7773moses 😂😂🤣 OMG. 33 here. I feel your pain

  • @jermainedonaldson6871
    @jermainedonaldson6871 Год назад +5

    I like your point Mark when you mentioned that people need to make friends more that means something, such as common interests, beliefs and personalities etc. This helps me a lot. Very informative. 😊🙏✝️

  • @TheyCallMeSUCCESS
    @TheyCallMeSUCCESS 6 лет назад +13

    I can always count on this channel for solid advice!

  • @gmariemay
    @gmariemay 6 лет назад +13

    Excellent Mark!! That's good :) Gonna save this to a playlist and come back to it for the reminder.

  • @lovejesus7775
    @lovejesus7775 2 года назад +3

    God bless you, I can just see your a kind hearted man just by the video alone. God is def working in you brother!

  • @nelodypond9282
    @nelodypond9282 6 лет назад +36

    "If he's not willing to work, let him not eat."

  • @hannahberry2662
    @hannahberry2662 Год назад +6

    I’m tired of being single . What happens when you are active in the community at church , but you can’t seem to meet anyone with true biblical convictions? Also people my age are so immature. I’m not looking to “play the field “ or “explore my options “ . Please pray for ya girl 🙏 Patience is not my strong suit , but I do want a God-loving & God-fearing spouse

  • @lisawiebe6678
    @lisawiebe6678 3 года назад +5

    I am 38 years woman I wait for The Lord tells me what time I have a Christian partner

  • @db2888
    @db2888 3 года назад +5

    I really enjoy Mark’s videos and this channel. On this subject: I really believe each person must pray and ask God which is the way He would desire him/her to go…To be active in looking for their mate or wait on the Lord doing nothing. The Lord told me to not date and did not release me from that command until 15 years into my waiting. Now, five years later and 42 yrs old, though now I do online dating, I am still single. But I truly believe even if you are not active in pursuing a partner, isn’t God big enough to bring that person to you?? If God knows your heart is waiting on Him, why would He not help you when you are simply doing what you feel is right. When someone says if you don’t look, God can’t or won’t bring you a husband/wife. That sounds as if God will punish you for not looking. I understand God might want you to be active and pursue but, if you felt He didn’t, I don’t think He will not answer your prayer simply because you didn’t go about it the way others have.

  • @josephmccurdy7425
    @josephmccurdy7425 Год назад

    This is real teaching I was the kind of guy that pray about my health eat healthy but never want to go to the doctor's office to see improvements.

  • @engineer9528
    @engineer9528 3 года назад +6

    6:43 Absolutely. I also am with you that it's BOTH, and in the order 1) Seek Lord and 2) Go and do something, whatever you believe would be helpful. But sitting only at the point 1 results in waiting forever, because Lord has created "fish" and it is there for me to "catch". But my part is to cast that hook. Otherwise I am like a fisherman waiting the fish to jump into my boat itself. Could happen, but too unlikely. That's not fishing. Apostles also had to cast their nets although Lord could make the fish fill the boat without them casting nets. But He ordered them to cast.

  • @missprincessd1842
    @missprincessd1842 6 лет назад +14

    Hmmm...I guess I need to figure out what interests me besides studying my Bible and naps. (Yes, I am an introvert)

    • @Flinabin
      @Flinabin 6 лет назад +2

      MissPrincessD Sounds nice though😁!

  • @liltin32
    @liltin32 6 лет назад +13

    This is great and all but the reality is that for every 10 single female Christians in church there are like 2 or 3 single Christian men... There is too much competition especially for 26+ women who didn't meet anyone in their younger years because the guys their age are dating much younger girls 18-24 yr olds. It's not as easy as just going out, taking action and pursuing someone. The other part of that is what if no one is interested, then what? It's super frustrating because when I was in my early twenties I said no to dating non-christians, served in ministries, attended youth and young adult groups, never met a Christian guy that was interested in me back then. So now I wonder where I went wrong in my life, watching the younger generations getting married and starting their families...

    • @slinkyrobb
      @slinkyrobb 6 лет назад +2

      Keep looking and you will find someone, remember that a lot of that competition isnt quality competition. My first wife I met in church and she ended up just going to church to find someone to rescue her from her home, she later left me for someone with a bigger bank account, and my second wife I met on eharmony, she ended up being a mental health disaster. After her abuse went physical I left. Work on being a quality person and you will stand out. Just remember not every person in church is a true christian and not every true christian is in church. I go from time to time but I spend my worship time watching sermons on tv or my phone, listening to christian audio books and reading my bible. Sometimes you have to go online to meet christian men.

    • @edwinjameshorca6041
      @edwinjameshorca6041 5 лет назад

      :-)

    • @khappy1286
      @khappy1286 5 лет назад +3

      Most people are not getting married here in America. It is not you it is the culture. Possible path::Keep praying and serving and create a nice life now and embrace the joy of the Lord. Let Him guide you. Be happy.

    • @socallawrence
      @socallawrence 5 лет назад +2

      Any updates ?

    • @landonic81
      @landonic81 4 года назад

      You're hot. You should have no trouble finding a dude. 99% of dudes would smash you. Even the gay ones

  • @jules6959
    @jules6959 Год назад +1

    Did all this..22 plus years still single. Feel at this point it will just be a miracle.

  • @Talaya33
    @Talaya33 4 года назад +1

    I appreciate the CS Lewis reference and discussion about friendship. It changed my perspective...

  • @trishg8852
    @trishg8852 6 лет назад +6

    Great video!
    Very good points about introvert and extrovert.very helpful! Thank you and God bless!

  • @PrasannaKumar-qg7me
    @PrasannaKumar-qg7me 6 лет назад +11

    Hi Mark it was useful to me thank you God Bless...

  • @chaoticgemini8564
    @chaoticgemini8564 5 лет назад +4

    I love God above all and felt like I could happily remain single and just be married to the Lord, especially after my mistake of having an unevenly yoked marriage experience...
    But now that I have found my passion - supporting my child and seeing to her spiritual health, taking care of my parents, helping out with the Church and local charities, etc.- I have felt God heal my heart and suddenly I feel like not being alone anymore. I feel as if God wants His daughter to be complete. Women were created to be Man's companion...
    I'm not going to stop doing what I'm doing. God has put on my heart to serve others and help the less fortunate and I have no intention of stopping. Even if I do get married, my spouse will have to understand and accept that. God will always be first in my life, Family will always be second but above all other worldly things.

    • @Jesusislord930
      @Jesusislord930 4 года назад +1

      The Handmade Lolita at least you have a child. Maybe I should do it your way and come to God after? Please pray for me people at my church are married and have kids yet I am still single and looking. Please pray that God will provide a good Godly wife.

    • @chaoticgemini8564
      @chaoticgemini8564 4 года назад +1

      @@Jesusislord930 It's all in God's time and when you least expect it. Listen to the Holy Spirit and He won't steer you wrong. Pray on it every step of the way.
      I never thought I'd be willing to date, much less get married, again but when I was going to turn down an old friend like I had others who had asked me out the Spirit said "Stop. Delete that and say yes." I prayed from the very beginning to make sure that what I was doing was God's will. He has been in it every step of the way.
      We're getting married this month.
      Don't go looking because you're lonely. Put God first and He will provide.
      Another example? My Dad was almost 50 when I was born. Why? Because God knew that my Dad would need me to be young and strong for him later in life. If I were my half brother's age? (Yeah, Dad jumped the gun like you're thinking and that caused a lot of misery) I couldn't do half the things that I am doing nowadays for my Dad 😊
      So it's all in God's time. Don't rush it. God's will be done, not your will 😊
      I pray that you find the one that God has for you 🙏

  • @ripperj1714
    @ripperj1714 4 года назад +2

    Fantastic Video, I like your point about staying balanced between trusting God’s plan and also taking action.

  • @elizabetha2341
    @elizabetha2341 6 лет назад +14

    Hi Mark, I have not been actively dating. I have been more on the passively wait on God type. I haven't met a Chtistian man that was "walking the walk" and we are both interested in each other. Some identify as Christians but the fruit isn't there. What are Christian dating sites out there that you would recommend?

  • @TheBlessedZone
    @TheBlessedZone 6 лет назад +12

    Great video 👐👏👏👌Thank you Mark! Praise the Lord for your insight! It shows by your thorough explanation on this topic. Thanks for highlighting that"marriage is a big deal to God". We need to have the same attitude and not trivialize this sacred union.
    Perhaps, in one of your videos you can remind us all to Seek God and His righteousness and what that means, the implications for eternity. Holy Spirit help us to be a blameless and spotless bride every day of our lives as Jesus is our Ultimate Spouse, our All in All, the One and Only True Lover of our soul. I don't think many of truly us understand what that really means and we need to because He's coming for US! if we did understand, there wouldn't be much love drama, headaches and heartaches in our lives....pain which leads to a great deal of brokenness that takes many years to heal. So, I believe if We know our true identity in Christ, whose we are, what it means to be His sheep, to hear His voice, to be worshippers in truth and in spirit(first and foremost, to be all of this first like you said about Seeking Him First, falling in Love with Him first... then,we will have a clear direction in life and say I'm ready, I know where I'm going and I know who I would like to come and join me on this journey called life to be my help mate.
    Thank you so much for encouraging us to in like manner see marriage and everything we do on a day to day as an act of worship. I loved your use of two wonderful portions of Scripture so close to my heart. So thankful for your channel. Thank you for all that you do in service of the King and the Kingdom. 👐👐👐👐☝👍. Dios te bendiga hermano! ---Erika

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  6 лет назад +3

      Amen TheBlessedZone, great words of wisdom and encouragement here! And I'm so glad to hear this video and channel have been helpful to you. God bless!!

  • @vitaliiukraine4662
    @vitaliiukraine4662 6 лет назад +4

    Thank you Mark ! Your videos are so good and bring a really good advices !

  • @tacksgmvs2070
    @tacksgmvs2070 5 лет назад +4

    I’m a very shy person and it’s pretty hard for me to start a conversation with a woman. But I just pray that whoever God has for me that He gives me the courage to talk to her. But I pray that she speaks to me first. Maybe she could be complimenting me on something like my looks, maybe my eyes (I’ve always been told I have nice eyes) then I would know that she’s interested, and I can talk to her a little better. That’s the one flaw about me. I’m too shy. I pray that God helps me get over that.

    • @carriezhao3097
      @carriezhao3097 4 года назад +2

      TacklessMiner24 awww that is so cute. Shy guys are cute

    • @tacksgmvs2070
      @tacksgmvs2070 4 года назад

      Carrie Zhao Thanks

    • @feijolly
      @feijolly 4 года назад +2

      Yea shy guys are so attractive. You'll definitely get your person @ TacklessMiner 24. Keep on trusting and hoping in God.

  • @katiee5903
    @katiee5903 6 лет назад +8

    what do you think about a christian women who knows in her heart that she truly wants to be married and it hasnt happend yet, and she truly believes that God has called her to marriage becuase her desire is so so strong. ?

    • @Kyllian82000
      @Kyllian82000 6 лет назад +10

      "Delight thyself also in the Lord, and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart" Psalm 37 v4

  • @jrg7951
    @jrg7951 6 лет назад +2

    Get someone that likes to relax like you do and likes to have fun like you do. If you like exercising and are high energy, find someone high energy and one that likes working out. However, if you are lower energy and would rather watch a movie, find someone that would rather watch a movie than run a mile to relax. If you get someone that is high energy and you are low energy, you will be going different directions. They will be itching to run a marathon on a Saturday morning and you will want to sleep. If you are calmer and shy, get someone like you. If the other person is the life of the party and you are shy, they will chide you for not talking and being social. A shy person will totally understand you and both of you will be in unison.

  • @hopetube5084
    @hopetube5084 2 года назад +1

    What an amazing message God bless you Brother.

  • @avullrich
    @avullrich 3 месяца назад

    You have excellent content. I wish I knew these things years ago. Thank you. 😊

  • @mariamariemarimar666
    @mariamariemarimar666 5 лет назад +7

    I’m still waiting Lord 🙏🙏🙏😁

  • @SimplySage854
    @SimplySage854 6 лет назад +5

    Thanks for unpacking this

  • @tlit3284
    @tlit3284 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for the video 🙏🏻👍🏻
    What you think about divorced people?
    Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @JamesPrime1
    @JamesPrime1 6 лет назад +2

    Sounds about right to me.! Nice video 👍🏾

  • @Poussyeater-w5e
    @Poussyeater-w5e 6 лет назад +12

    Hey, what's the difference between having a normal crush and being led by the Holy Spirit?

    • @muthangyam
      @muthangyam 4 года назад +3

      You have to talk to a person first, then pray about it. Skip kissing and others

  • @hollywarehouse7938
    @hollywarehouse7938 6 лет назад +43

    Eyes on Jesus first☝🏼🎚💪🏼

  • @ashleyrose5170
    @ashleyrose5170 3 года назад +11

    I pretty much canceled a “date” last week because this guy asked where I work, which is at a bar, I’m a cocktail waitress. And he pretty much said that it was weird and that he could never see himself being with someone involved “In that kind of profession” like the fact that that person couldn’t even wait to hear my story or even wait until the hangout to find out why I’m a cocktail waitress 😂😂😂 it was seriously one of the most immature things I ever saw. I immediately just said “we don’t have to hangout” and deleted him. The one for me seriously won’t be that quick to judge!

    • @ashleyrose5170
      @ashleyrose5170 3 года назад +2

      Ironically this person even suggested going to a burger bar to hangout too. 🙄

    • @missmarcia9572
      @missmarcia9572 3 года назад +1

      There are some weird people out there..lol sorry about that

    • @npbdesignstudio
      @npbdesignstudio 2 года назад +1

      This is shallow

    • @zayazaya7385
      @zayazaya7385 Год назад +3

      Sister, I've managed in this industry, its toxicity, temptation and the devils playground. Clear as day as to why he didn't like it, i'm confused as to why you don't see it from this view ? Why are you in this industry in the beginning anyway ? Even if you aren't doing anything but serving, not how it works. Do you even know why this industry is a bad place to work in ? You said yourself "we dont have to hang out" and deleted it after, YOU didn't even tell him the story, sure he could've maybe reacted differently Idk how he did, but you never bothered to tell him. It shouldn't be a surprised to you that men are revolted by the idea of who work in these pathetic industries. I know you've asked yourself why you're still working there and not anywhere else, but ask yourself this, is your work over what the Lord wants from you ? Sweety I quit my job at that resteraunt, had connections overseas in Dubai, I was set for life with my plan, till I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became born again, with the Holy Spirit living inside, it is the Holy Spirit who speaks to you not me. I recently quit a jewellry store job with great commission and flexibility, why ? because of the workers filthy talk, sexual talk and lost minds, after preaching the word there to most of them I left, and the Lord will open another, because I put HIM over my work.

  • @beanie_bae
    @beanie_bae 2 года назад

    I do agree with these points! Take action while still waiting on God and putting Him first, not following your personality type but following God, and goign after the desires God put on your heart where there is a chance you could meet someone!
    I am a 3w2 ESFJ ambivert, so I tend to take action in some ways while still waiting on the Lord. So it works out for me cause I am not an extreme extrovert or introvert, I do both. I also joined a descipleship program and met someone who we have similar interests besides going after God's heart.
    Also, when you said "hanging out with friends on Wednesdays playing board games," that is literally what my small group does the 2nd Wednesday of the month 😂

  • @Jesusislord930
    @Jesusislord930 4 года назад +3

    But at church some people block me when I try making casual convo with single females. I don’t know why. Now everyone is married accept me.

  • @angeliquep8391
    @angeliquep8391 5 лет назад

    Great advice! That's exactly what we should be doing when it comes to finding other like minded Christians of the opposite sex!

  • @sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699
    @sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699 6 лет назад +6

    Great video God Bless!

  • @aliciakiarie372
    @aliciakiarie372 6 лет назад +2

    Such a blessed message ....God bless you!

  • @jeadeeey18
    @jeadeeey18 2 года назад

    Amen in God's time I'll meet and see you soon. I'll just continue to seek God first. ❤️🙏

    • @paulkizito6580
      @paulkizito6580 Год назад

      Amen God is faithful Am also waiting for wife from God.

  • @alangwhiteTheBoss
    @alangwhiteTheBoss Год назад

    Dating is a numbers game. God will protect from bad ppl if let Him but sometimes He will let evil in then to glorify Him

  • @Midnight_Lantern
    @Midnight_Lantern 6 лет назад +10

    I have an issue. I have a disability physically and a lot of pain which keeps me housebound a lot. I can't get out much, and cannot work, have children or drive due to this. Will a Godly man still be out there? How do I find him if I can't get out? It's frustrating, as it is beyond choice. Would a man still desire a woman despite this? It is very hard to know how to navigate this. I am also in my early thirties and always attempt to put God first but feel I was designed for marriage.

    • @benrex7775
      @benrex7775 6 лет назад +7

      As a young man I can say that a physical disability is no compete turnoff. Of course it makes things more difficult but so dos having sinned or whatever. If you have a uplifting personality, you seek god of your own and have your own desires there is plenty to love about you. Men like to provide and they like to know that their help is wanted.
      But what I don't think is that you can't meet people. How about inviting people to you home? I thought about telling the closest immigrant shelter to offer the immigrants a meal per week at my home. _(I cant do that jet since I'm an university student and still live with my parents.)_ Another thing that you can do is host board games at your home to your lokal church members or friends. Or you could play online games. Doing RUclips videos like you started doing this year is also a possibility. Those are all things that do not require you to go out of your house and still interact with people. If you are hospitable and have a strong character you are interesting to men. But if you do these things just to get a man you seem shallow and uninteresting to a lot of people.
      Even though in a worldly view being at the age of 30+ you lost your change of having children and you stopp looking as nice as you once did. But that does not matter to god. He can still give you a godly man. Lock at the age where Sarah had her first child. An do not make the same mistake as Sarah did when she compromised her calling and said that Abraham could have a child with her servant. Because of that the Israelis and the Arabs are in a war ever since.
      And just to mention it shortly, god is capable of healing you and he might do it at one point. That would be nice and a testimony to tell around. But often it is an even greater testimony if someone beliefs in struggle then if she just gets healed and everything is fine ever after.

    • @Midnight_Lantern
      @Midnight_Lantern 6 лет назад +1

      Well, I have a strong personality, and have a lot of love to give but I wouldn't describe myself as an "uplifting" personality. I don't like small talk, not a big smiler, and I find meeting new people to be difficult because I am an introvert, even though I really want a husband and close friends and have a lot of love to give. I have no problem accepting help, and appreciate it. I seek God of my own, have my own interests, am intelligent and spiritually deep. I prayed for years for God to heal me and he never did. I dont do things just to meet men. Thanks for your reply.

    • @benrex7775
      @benrex7775 6 лет назад +1

      I would like to say that I feel with you but I do not know if I could honestly say that. I'm 23 and never had a girlfriend or someone I could consider calling a girlfriend. I am a very patient person even in this topic. Even though I'm pretty sure I will have a wife at some point I could always give that longing in gods hands. By the way I know how huge of a blessing this is.
      The only way I could help you is by telling you about a person I know of and two videos which motivate me in that topic. I do not know how much the stories will help you since they possibly have somewhat different problems then you.
      One is a member of my church of about my age. She was single until about one or two years ago as far as I know. Then someone came to my church through another church (Switzerland is small enough that it isn't uncommon that you go to several churches at once). He was that christian with a clear understanding of what he wanted and what he thought of a christian should do.And what he told us aligned with the bible. Then she and him got together. That worked out nicely for a while as far as I know. But after about a year she went to a foreign country for a few months because of education stuff. About midways in he wrote her an message that god sends him to Germany to go to some cooking school and if she wanted to come along she could. She was still in America (I think this was the country) when this message came. He didn't call her or communicated with her in an way. He just left and if she wanted she could kind of come along. He never even broke up with her till this day. And he was this kind of great moralizer. Of course she felt pretty bad and if I remember correctly someone of you church even went to comfort her during holidays. After that it didn't take long (a few months again) until she got a new friend. And they still come to our church. I'm pretty glad that she didn't turn away from god because of the misdeed of a Christian. But to me as an outsider who didn't talk to her that much it seemed like she fleed from this one broken relationship to the next one in the hope that this one is better. Since I never was in a relationship before I can not feel with someone who lost something as precious as a broken relationship. It must be like an empty hole in your live. But these kinds of stories are the reason why I want to never have sex outside of marriage.
      And these are the two videos:
      ruclips.net/video/CQMoQhsw4yc/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/qgRBuX0d3Dc/видео.html
      But I can tell you that god wants to see how much you trust him before he gives you blessing all day. I can also tell you that you should do the same like Job did and praise the lord in blessing and sorrow. One of my favorite verses of the bible is from Job 1.21:
      _"Naked I came from my mother’s womb,_
      _and naked I will depart.[a]_
      _The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;_
      _may the name of the Lord be praised."_
      But one thing I'm struggling is that my live is too good. I've grown up as a christian, I never went astray, compared to the people around me I know a lot about the christian faith and then there is the parable of the lost son. In there is the elder brother that never left home. How can I realize how much sins I have which god forgave me. How can I know that I will stay with god in hard times? Among the non Christians I'm a good person. Among the Christians I' a good person. I'm bad at noticing my errors and bad at communicating them. So people think I'm perfect. I live a live of bliss and humbleness. If you would take ten people and scale them from good to bad I would probably be ranked around number 1 or 2 from a worldly point of view. And if you would look at how little sorrow came across my live I would rank the same or even better. How could I give you hints on how to live with sorrow like you have? I know that I'm a sinner and I would go to hell just as much as Hitler will. Only the grace of god keeps me from going there. But one of the problems I face now is that I do not realize the holiness of god and the brokenness of me. That is one of the reasons why I can not help you in your problem.
      If you want I could tell you some other thoughts of mine. If guys only want a certain level of closeness to you that could have two reasons. Number one is that you have a personal problem that you need to solve first. Number two is that god doesn't want you to meet your spouse jet and he wants you to stay off of other men. I think the first as well as the second ones are fitting to me. I've heard someone say that if you do not work to be the best person possible gods best partner for you will not recognize you when he/ she is ready.
      And let me judge you a bit according to the few minutes I watched from your videos. It will be heavily biased according to my first impression of you. The way you set up the video (ruclips.net/video/utsmlR-inkY/видео.html) you seemed o me like a christian who has a bit of esoteric stuff mixed into them. Like the content is christian and the music, the way you speak and the images are more like I expect a fortuneteller to talk like. I don't want to judge you about that since if you want to reach people of the esoteric community you need to talk like them for them to understand. But in my case this isn't very appealing. One thing that could be is that if you act differently then you belief, then you attract men with your behavior and you reject them again with your belief. But these are just heavy accusations with only the first impression to base them of off. So take what is true and get rid of what is wrong.

    • @Midnight_Lantern
      @Midnight_Lantern 6 лет назад

      Thanks for sharing all of that. Thanks for the feedback, :) and I can see why you may think that, but rest assured I am complete Christian and not Esoteric or occult in any way. My material covers a lot of deeper issues and strange things and topics, but always from the christian perspective and plumbline of scripture. My presentation style is just who I am. The lantern in the dark is about being a light in the darkness like scripture says. :) The music is my own preference, and while it is mysterious or intriguing it is not occult in any way.
      I cannot talk like most mainstream Christians. I tried many different styles of presenting when I started my channel and this is the only one that was me. All the others I tried sounded fake. But don't worry everything on my channel is biblicaly sound. If something isn't supported by scripture, I will not upload or support it. I know it is personal preference too, as there are a lot of other channels that have a very obvious "christian" vibe based on their presentation, (the overtly bubbly channels), which isn't my thing, but even though that's not my style I try to hear what their message says. I guess not all styles will appeal to all people. We are all different that way. :) I humbly and kindly ask please if you would take the time to hear out what I have to say in my videos and the quality of the content and let that speak for itself. Even if the presentation style may not be your preferred thing. :)
      Thanks for the videos, and for your thoughts. I appreciate that, I will check them out. Yes I always try to show thanks to God despite suffering, but I have honestly, the only way I could say it is that suffering has made up the majority of my life, in different ways.
      Yeah I have often though and believed that one of the reasons men seem to go by the wayside after a while is that God is protecting me for the one he has designed for me. I am also working to become the best person and woman I can be as a wife for my future guy. Sounds like that is what you are doing too! I appreciate your comments.

    • @benrex7775
      @benrex7775 6 лет назад +1

      I just watched the entire video I linked in my past comment and our intro video. The reason for only watching those two videos is that I'm not interested enough in the topics. _(And from tomorrow onward I have barely any freetime left to watch several hour long videos again because of university.)_ I didn't doubt you being entirely christian from the content. I just said the setting seemed esoteric. But this is the same like with the metal bands I listen to. The lyrics are entirely christian as are their lifestyles. But if someone doesn't like metal music he says that the metal scene is something satanic and the main topic is war and death. That's the way I tried to position myself at with your videos.
      When I was a little child I prayed to god (I think I never even told my parents) that I only ever want to have a girlfriend when I know god personally. I'm still on my way to that but just about one or two months ago I was at a Sunday service and just after the sermon Jesus gave me this moment (of the length of a song) where I really felt his presence. During this time with him I felt two main things. For one I felt just at home. Do you know Narnia, Prince Caspian? The scene where Lucy hugged Aslan? This was the first moment in my live where I had a moment of such closeness with Jesus. I could have bowed down to him, I could have praised him but in the end I did the same as Lucy did. I just ran to him and embraced him with my whole live. It was so nice I was crying and sobbing. Just now that I'm writing this a few tears came again. And I knew it is just the first of many to come. The other thing I felt was that if I have a relationship this close to Jesus I'm ready for my wife. This was the answer to my prayer 15 Years ago.
      It's funny that recently I've watched quite a few videos on marriage and such even though I never had such a strong longing as you have. In the recent time I also start to take a lot of things of the bible a lot more seriously then I did before. God is preparing me for something big. Like a miracle of dying and raising from the dead as a newborn christian. I know I've been christian all my live. I believed the right things, I knew a lot and I prayed to god but I never had a personal relationship with god. I was never bluntly aware how miserable of a being I am and how much dependent I am on gods grace. That is about to change. The beautiful thing is that I can also right now see how god is changing the live of my father from a christian living in a figurativ desert to a christian who lives what he believes. I wish that you may experience the same and better thing wherever you are.
      By the way at the moment I'm just watching a video about how a christian family should live like. ruclips.net/video/IYFGIz8v4bM/видео.html It is really eyeopening. And after I finish this video I will go to sleep.

  • @tjaspire
    @tjaspire 2 года назад

    Thank you Mark! This is really good advice.

  • @anthonydomingo6788
    @anthonydomingo6788 2 года назад

    Thank you for your share. I appreciate your video Mark

  • @beatriceojwando1122
    @beatriceojwando1122 5 лет назад +1

    Thanks for the video. I am trusting God for a godly husband

  • @t-squared6406
    @t-squared6406 4 года назад +2

    I have done both and come up empty,why did God even give me a desire to get married if it never is going to hapoen,the train left the station so long ago,why God never filled that desire or helped me in that area I"ll never know!!!

  • @kalkhan816
    @kalkhan816 4 года назад +1

    Really good advice! Thanks

  • @courteouscolette1112
    @courteouscolette1112 4 года назад +4

    It can be so lonely sometimes....

  • @theresastephens6146
    @theresastephens6146 3 года назад +3

    Trust God be active!

  • @roxanababat3003
    @roxanababat3003 4 года назад +1

    God bless I always watch your topic very good topic

  • @Jesusislord930
    @Jesusislord930 4 года назад +11

    Please pray for me. I’m still single but my friends at church are married and have kids. Yet I am still single. Please pray that God will provide a Godly beautiful wife 🙏🙏🙏

    • @nanjala.123
      @nanjala.123 Год назад +1

      Keep on praying.
      Am also single lady still waiting upon the Lord

    • @abigaelzabron8326
      @abigaelzabron8326 11 месяцев назад

      I am also a single lady and age gone
      All my friends are married and they have children. I cried and cried why not me 😢😢
      God please hear my prayers

  • @flothronk.2588
    @flothronk.2588 6 лет назад +3

    Hi Mark, thanks for the Video. It's a very actual topic for me. Till last year in august I made a voluntary year in a christian community with 8 other people. And at the time of New years eve I was there again for a some days with other youths to hear something on a christian topic. There I got a little crush on a girl from my team in my voluntary time.
    Some time passed by and I saw her again in March for us to plan a back meeting with people we met in Ecuador. We both are responsible for the presents. Since then we are writing a Lot and I closing her more and more into my heart. But I don't know what she think about me, if she likes me like I like her.... I'm afraid to hit on the friendship that we got and make it awkward.
    Do you have any tip for me Mark?
    I'm on a middle way like you said. Trusting god but also trying to get to a date or something.
    Greetings from germany and god bless for your words and advise.👍😇

    • @TheyCallMeSUCCESS
      @TheyCallMeSUCCESS 6 лет назад +1

      I would pray and ask God if you should pursue her as more than a friend.

  • @helenalalsawmkimi5805
    @helenalalsawmkimi5805 Год назад

    Very truthful words thank you.
    I am a divorce women spending time with loneliness, i want a good friends up to 60 ages

  • @WarriorKingRules
    @WarriorKingRules 7 месяцев назад

    I agree with what you said in this video. Now, what about those of us who are in our 50s and up? Dating these days is extremely stressful and daunting for people in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Does the principles you mention in this video work for us Gen Xers?

  • @Nicolee7764
    @Nicolee7764 3 года назад

    Very good points given & made.

  • @katiee5903
    @katiee5903 6 лет назад +4

    but she is worried that it wont happen for her. what should she do aside from of course above all else trust in the lord?

  • @rickygilpin7913
    @rickygilpin7913 5 лет назад +2

    I learned allot from this video

  • @jrg7951
    @jrg7951 6 лет назад +33

    Shy guys avoid loud and forward women. They will try to run all over you! Get a shy woman that will be more in line with your personality. High energy people need high energy spouses and low energy people need low energy people. Opposites do not attract except initially and then they annoy each other and pull apart. She wants to go to the noisy gym to workout and then run a mile and you want to travel to the mountains and sit by a quiet stream. The art of dating has been lost today. Try your best to keep the physical attraction out of it until you can really see how compatible you are together. If you like history and going to antique stores, find someone that likes to do the same thing. If you are a reader and love books, find someone that loves books. You want to experience life on the same road and not going different directions and at different paces.

    • @Brainwaves_in_Books
      @Brainwaves_in_Books 5 лет назад +2

      JR G Amen! It’s hard to find people who like those things

    • @georgiajaeger8567
      @georgiajaeger8567 4 года назад +4

      It depends on the person, what they like and dislike. Sometimes people need someone who is not like them. It just depends on the person. The main thing is spending time with God and being whole to begin with.

  • @JanW51
    @JanW51 Год назад

    Good video, thanks💪🏻

  • @pjseries1082
    @pjseries1082 5 лет назад

    Thanks for your content bro

  • @TEWMUCH
    @TEWMUCH Год назад

    I like the point about follow things you are interested and called to, to meet people that you can fall in love with. Ive been following my calling for 7 years now. I havent found any Godly men tho, but hey maybe one day.

  • @GodswillOhis
    @GodswillOhis Год назад

    Pastor the video was so great 😂but I've try many ways to see mine world❤ prayer and fasting and other

  • @joyboy7692
    @joyboy7692 2 года назад +4

    I pray for a wife every night, it’s hard not to get weary

    • @nanjala.123
      @nanjala.123 Год назад +1

      Continue praying and trust in God

  • @noahdir2977
    @noahdir2977 5 лет назад +2

    So, if I’ve been praying for a spouse in God’s timing and His will, but haven’t really been active in getting to know Christian women in social gatherings or asking someone out to coffee, and I feel like God has put the desire within me to get to know a woman or put a possible Christian woman in my life, then I should go try it out to test the waters while still trusting God in the process?

    • @jacobgarcia4826
      @jacobgarcia4826 4 года назад +2

      That's the situation I'm in currently. If you think about it, the Bible doesn't give any special formula on how to know who to marry. From what I can recall, men in the Bible went out and found their wives. There was only one time in all of the Bible where God told a man to marry a specific woman. God told Hosea to marry a prostitute, but this was for a specific purpose. If you're familiar with the story, the prostitute did what prostitutes do: have sex with men for money. She did this while still married to Hosea and she left him several times. God told Hosea to go after her and bring her back each time. If you read the story, you'll see that God's purpose was to illustrate His relationship with rebellious Israel. God calls Israel the Harlot, aka whore, but God always brought them back to Himself.
      So as far as pursuing a woman the right, if you're both following Jesus and being faithful to Him then pursue that and see what happens. Constantly pray for wisdom and guidance in doing so, and trust God's sovereignty. Trusting the sovereignty of God in something like pursuing a woman will save both of you from heartache if it doesn't work out.

  • @diezlol6425
    @diezlol6425 4 года назад +1

    Hold on follow God i never got a Message or something but i trust him and pray for him anyone can help me?

  • @dustinlee4566
    @dustinlee4566 Год назад

    Thank you this was helpful

  • @marcoramirez313
    @marcoramirez313 3 года назад +1

    Wise words brotha

  • @stephanieshanahan3137
    @stephanieshanahan3137 5 лет назад

    Wow! I’ve been wondering about a guy I recently reconnected with through an online dating site and he has become a wonderful friend and we enjoy each other’s company. When the other person reaches out, we mutually drop what we are doing to help the other person and we definitely have chemistry and I’ve noticed tension and we look at each other the same way when we are together. I’m almost wondering if he’s just as nervous as I am to take a step in that direction to see if there’s more there to explore.

  • @albertrobinson4133
    @albertrobinson4133 2 года назад +1

    It’s hard out here in these streets

  • @jeffreyhooper4307
    @jeffreyhooper4307 Год назад

    I only dated two girls in my whole life but didn't really understand how to date at the time

  • @eloiseprays
    @eloiseprays 6 месяцев назад

    I need this book ❤

  • @maryswenson5357
    @maryswenson5357 6 лет назад +25

    Kinda feel like I'll find my guy out in the woods because if he's not Christian and doesn't thrive out in nature I just don't care

    • @nicolelewis2503
      @nicolelewis2503 6 лет назад +5

      Mary Swenson same gurl. Just join outdoor things or Christian outdoor events! Just do what you love and he will come along

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  6 лет назад +6

      Mary, hahaha, I love your bluntness 😂 thanks for sharing :)

    • @thelmathomas3437
      @thelmathomas3437 5 лет назад +2

      Mary Swenson that's what you but that might not be what the Lord has for you

  • @carladurland5194
    @carladurland5194 4 года назад +1

    Thank God for his guidance

  • @YouTuberr285
    @YouTuberr285 10 месяцев назад

    Such a good video wow

  • @kellymorrell3508
    @kellymorrell3508 2 года назад

    I’m so confused. Everyone keeps telling
    me to wait. I’ve dated but always end up feeling more discouraged than before. God told me He had someone for me20yrs ago. I am very active and extroverted but I don’t believe I’ve ever come across this person. I’m so tired of waiting but I can’t do it on my own. Any advice is appreciated. Have I waited in vain? God please clarify!!

  • @kendradrinkard6236
    @kendradrinkard6236 4 года назад +2

    I believe that God choose every situation according to his calling on your life.. and if he has led you to be paired with someone to marry not only is that a blessing but that means God trust the two of you together to carry out not only your individual callings but to make the power that marriage radiates be acknowledged in a way that will make others want to learn how you managed to make it work..that's why it is very important to know yourself and choose the right person.. because you need to have accurate and precise answers to help people understand how the marriage process works.. I think marriages do not work out because they are not assigned by God.. in marriage your mate is supposed to be extra strength for every area that you have already mastered.. extra help with your calling.. to reproduce.. and to reap all of the benefits of obedience .. MARRIAGE SHOULD BE PURE GENUINE AND HANDLED WITH EXTREME IMPORTANCE!!! (My thoughts)..only a few

  • @kodymosley7763
    @kodymosley7763 2 года назад +2

    Unfortunately most people do not understand and know the true definition of Christian another point is most people don’t realize it is not good to become unevenly yoked

  • @anointed1302
    @anointed1302 6 лет назад

    Hey Pastor Mark! I’m not dating now and it’s been 2.5 years since I last dated. He was not a Christian and I lost interest in him. In addition, I’m also a divorced/single parent. It’s hard...😖

  • @halliebateman4797
    @halliebateman4797 6 лет назад

    I love your discernment bro! Haha gretness

  • @thewatcher2270
    @thewatcher2270 4 года назад

    I've been Praying about getting on a Christian Dating Site. I have not heard from Him answering my Question. There really isn't anyone "Christian Men" that I have met that even interest me and they are far and few in between. I feel like they are my Brothers and nothing more. I used to be on Dating Sites before I was a Christian and met some nice men. Also, met a lot of not nice men. This is very important for me that he be sold out to the Lord Jesus Christ...I"m at a complete stand still!! Lord help me.

    • @jeffmcmann2145
      @jeffmcmann2145 4 года назад

      Hey keep on moving forward im single quite a while myself

  • @athena.mt111
    @athena.mt111 6 лет назад +3

    Amen ..thank you..

  • @tvm-growthisunlimited9023
    @tvm-growthisunlimited9023 3 года назад

    nice word

  • @davidbermudez7704
    @davidbermudez7704 5 лет назад

    God bless you Pastor

  • @xjay1234
    @xjay1234 5 лет назад

    9:20 it's a double edged sword tbh!!! I see both sides in that.

  • @jbaisac0227
    @jbaisac0227 5 лет назад +2

    Is there a Christian Dating site can anyone recommend?

  • @Mike-bk5yc
    @Mike-bk5yc Год назад

    Mark what do I do if my family is against the idea for me

  • @lukejack9551
    @lukejack9551 2 года назад

    Secondly you can't compare "mariage" to having a job, or looking for food or health care. It's not the same. You can still change jobs if one does not fit you, but once you get married, YOU CAN'T GET DIVORCE. So you need to be sure God gave you his okay.

  • @soccerlube
    @soccerlube 3 года назад

    I been playing adult rec coed soccer almost a decade and half.. and have only to go on a couple of dates with one person i met. Also on my third tour of online dating and nothing. Guess I just need to keep trying or try harder.

  • @achorpaam2380
    @achorpaam2380 6 лет назад +4

    All ALLGLORY TO GOD

  • @littlefroe3316
    @littlefroe3316 5 лет назад

    I think a spouse is not an object it’s a bit different and it’s hard to give someone advice for that kind of thing to me

  • @jessefoster2832
    @jessefoster2832 Год назад +1

    I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
    PHIL 4:13