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Hi... I'm a 17 year old girl, very insecure and dealing with depression. Today is my birthday, and I'm still in bed, not wanting to leave my room. At least, that's how I felt before this video. After listening to you, I've found myself a little motivation to try and have a nice day. Thank you so much 💫❤️
Self-love has motivated me to meditate, to eat healthier, to work out, to sleep, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, not beat myself up for a missed assignment, for a food cheat day, or for a missed day in my self-care schedule. It helps me feel content, no matter the how great or okay my day is.
Self love has made me aware that i have to take care of myself first before others . As i was raised to no think selfishly , i should care about other people feelings but the older i grow , i realised that i need my own happiness . Self love has teach me to calm down and relax my mind to take things one step at a time as this world is not a competiton . I used to envy others who are smarter than me but i feel like who cares ? Its my life i have my own way . Thanks for the advise luv 💕💕💕
I have become less dependent, am more happier, am not lonely even when am alone, am always craving to see myself become better... I love myself so much ❤ love you 💘
you're free to step into your greatness , you're free to be fabulous , you're free to be a light in the world , you're free to be YOURSELF .. these are the best lines i've listened to lately .. and ma sad mood for two years has brightened up from this moment to have a new better self love journey .. thank you aileen .. thank you so much
Heyy thats good to hear i hope yoou are okay and your sad mood will eventually go away and happiness will enter your life, please always be happyyy and strongg take care!
This video is encouraging and inspirational and something probably most of us need to hear!! Forgiveness is SO important because harboring un-forgiveness gives you internal stress and turmoil and is so bad for your health! I personally know it can be very hard to not care what other people think or say, but honestly some people don't have your best interest in mind or maybe they're just having a bad day ... and the best thing to do is really for us just let it go, don't take it personally, if it applies and can help you improve that's great, but it is not possible to make everyone happy and we will drive ourselves crazy if we try to. Thank you for sharing!!
I think after watching this, i realised how much I have improved. I used to despise myself and not think that i was ever gonna be good enough, but I changed my mindset and took my life into control. I learned a lot from the past two year, researched a lot about self-love, productivity, being better really. But in the end I did not see that i actually was getting better everyday. And now this made me cry because I have... Succeeded? Does that make sense? 😂 I'm glad to know that all the hardships, the process was worth it.So thank you Aileen ☺ Self love taught me that I am enough and that I honestly just live for myself, not what everybody else say. Still gonna work on it, but you know, feels good now 😂 So again thank you 😆 Go Aileen Go! (May i mention that lipstick? It looks AMAZING on you 👍🏾 )Have an awesome day!~May.
Wow that’s amazing!! Yeah sometimes we don’t even notice our transformation until we stop and reflect. It was after meeting with a friend and explaining self love to them that I realized how much I’ve grown over the years! That inspired me to make this video 😊✨
This is so true. When I was in my teens, I don't love myself and I just keep thinking I wasn't good at anything and so I ended up with high expectations on myself that doesn't help. I'm always unhappy and wondering what to do with my life. Right now as an adult, I've learned to start from self-awareness to self-understanding to self-love. This is actually so important. It will boost ur confidence once u know what u want and what u can do and believe it. Believe in yourself. It'll make u succeed bit by bit and that's what makes life meaningful than u ever thought. 💕 As with anything, start from yourself because u can control what u wanna be. 😊
I'm 16 years old, and all this time i have lack of confidence and always comparing myself to everyone that cooler than me, like you, i just put a high expetation on myself, i feel i cant do anything right.... May u give me some advice?
The power of gratefulness has created the ability of self love for me. When I started looking for beauty in life and for small things to be grateful for suddenly those things began to show themselves to me in abundance! Then self love started growing in me.
Self love made me see than I’m so much more than I thought. I was wasting so much time by caring what the others could think about me than loving me and being myself. Basically, I was just judging me for doing something. Lesson learned, your judment about yourself does more damage on you than others judgment.
I am struggling with self love. I have had an E.D, battle with Depression and have many issues dealing with social situations and my health. I do my best to practice meditation daily, and to continue trying to develop a "dream." I'm a *professional* mermaid, and work with many great people... so being my very best for them is what keeps me going. I know that I have to try to love myself more so that I can set a good example for those that I interact with daily. Self-love is work... and it isn't easy... but it is necessary! 💜
Great video! Self love has helped so much with getting over my depression and also I am so much happy with me, my body, even with my art! Because I understand now that I can make mistakes but I'm learning and eventually I'll get where I want to be ✨And more importantly, made my relationship with my boyfriend so much better ❤️
Oh, self-love has saved my life! I went from standing in the mirror and hating every inch of my body, hurting myself, laying around depressed with feelings of unworthiness to a completely different person to the point where people ask me if I'm happy all the time. Self-love allowed me to see I am deserving of happiness. It allowed me to slowly peel back the layers of what a unique and amazing human being I am. I learned I am deserving of love and that I love myself no matter what. xoxo thank you lavendaire, great content
Dear Lavandaire. My name is Fernanda. I am the 68 year old lady who wrote to you before. Every day you amaze me. I have to learn consistency. I have done so many course on self development but I lack consistency. I so admire you.
well, i have started the journey of self love after i discovered your channel; i can say with out any hold back that you make me see life as if it is a positive, light and colorful thing all of a sudden when i believed it was a grave , and i am soooo thankful for that. i have started my morning pages , exercising, going out for a walk, reading and a new job ...... after almost 2 years of being stressed and depressed. so i am doing most of the things you talk about in these video. you have changed my life for the better ...... thank you sooo much much love and respect xoxo
You are litterally my example in my lifetime .cuz once i listen to you , i feel like im trying to forgive myself , get deepet into my self and more than that, loving myself much more than before .so i litterally purple you thank you so much. Self love journey has helped me to accept who iam and to be proud of of me no matter what without comparin myself to others .self love has also taught me to seek strongly to improve myself a lot .it also taughts me to go easy on me rather than making self judgments or beating myself up.
Just wanted to say since I started watching your videos I feel way more positive and I realised that my life is not looking the best that it could look. So, I have started changing to be a more responsible, productive and nicer person so thank you so much because you inspired me.
Honestly I thought self love is like being selfish but then after watching your video, it mean to stop doubting yourself because I have been very hard on myself lately until I had this chat with my cousin the other day, it was about showing good energy and a good attitude so that was self love would have meant to me
Truly empowering and inspiring. I tried practicing gratitude by writing gratitude notes on my journal and it truly made a difference in my life. Thank u for sharing tips on self love!
Lavendaire where is the bell??? I agree with you on self love it does make a difference in our lives I’m still growing I tell my children to love them selfs thank you I love your new color of hair it looks great
I don't think I consciously was aware of any self love I have for myself until I started noticing that the things I used to have high tolerance for - bad relationships, settling for less than I deserved in life and feeling guilt for any good that happened to me - and seeing the people around me struggling with choosing their paths because of what others thought were things that I no longer had to deal with. I seemed to increase my self love by providing support for others in a way that I started to for myself as well just as a side effect. I removed the toxic relationships, I learned to deal and move on from things I can't control. I live by the motto "Everything happens for a reason." And I'm working toward things I want in life, while I see friends who have wasted time on things their family want them to do, only to drop them in the end and still being miserable. I encourage them, so why not encourage myself as well? I still struggle from time to time. But I'm still trying. Thank you for also being a motivational force. Your videos have been helping me to improve and grow, and I hope to someday have the same confidence in myself as you radiate. :)
Thank you for another great video Aileen. Self love Change my life in a way that my perspective about myself changed. I used to look at myself as being a visually impaired who is bound by the limitations set by the society about us persons with disability. Now I gain self confidence and I am now an advocate of inclusive education. Self love made me accept who I really am and use my strength to empower myself and others.
Poetically Serine your right about , when you're in solitude , you will attract serenity , contentment and clarity, which's espectacular ....... i wish you well for the rest of your life .... I'll see you in heaven
My biggest Inspiration ever ❤️ Aileenn you are amazing and i have found so much growth in my self after joining you over here ❤️❤️❤️ I started meditation , morning pages and it feels so good that i don’t find any good words either to praise you or thank you ❤️ I love you so much .
Hey by morning pages I meant that when I woke up, the first thing I do is grab a pen and my notebook and i write down all the things i want to do , like my goals, things i m going to do for the rest of the day, or all the good things that i have learned and things i will learn.In short i just let my mind flow and get it free from all the things going on in my mind.After this believe me i feel so relaxed ,calm and fresh for the day. I Hope you got me.
Wow! This was really helpful! I have a big passion for self love and self care! Self love helped me in so many things, like : enjoying time with myself, reducing anxiety and overthinking too much, discovering love for yoga and meditation! Of course, it's a process but also the secret for a beautiful and happy life! Thank you so much ! Loved this powerful and motivational video!
I have been on my journey of self love since 2016 and I have fallen back into my old fears and beliefs since November 2019. Today this video has reminded me of all the new beliefs I had created for myself. I realized how far off my progressive path I've fallen. Thank you for this new found courage. I am a new fan! My astrology chart also reads to the bottom and the right. I feel like you are a soul who looks at life like I do, or did, before I went back to fear. But no longer, I am going to get back to healing myself. Thank you again 💞
Aileen, thank you so much for another beautiful vid to start my day. Deep thanks for reminding me that self love is mandatory for a well lived life, especially when one easily forgets and judges oneself on auto pilot. Everything starts with an intention. You are such a lovely inspiration! Thank you.~ Karen.❤️
It changed my entire life. I had a bad way of talking to myself and I made myself feel bad everyday for not beeing who I wanted to be. Then I got really sick and had to take time off from my job. I got depressed and hated my life. Then I decided that I will take care of myself. I will love myself no matter what cause me is all I got! I have now come a long way. I started my journey almost three years ago. I now have more days I love myself then I have days when I dont. But its coming along :)
I guess I don't fully love myself because I'm always insecure about what others say.. but I know deep down I've tried my best.. Maybe I really should stop being so hard on myself and not care about what people say
I really needed this video! lately I’ve been questioning myself (my actions and the position that I am) and thinking that maybe I’m not as great or valuable as I think I am or maybe I’m doing something wrong and that everything I do is just a mistake and stuff like that. After watching this video I remembered how happy I am when I make decisions that will be beneficial for me and that will make me more happy with my body and my mental state, HOW GREAT IT IS TO NOT GIVE ANY F*CKS! and see yourself growing from that. I remembered that I am important and my happiness and health matters and even if it seems wrong to some people, as long as I am not causing any harm to anybody, I can do it! And I’ll be happy with the decisions that I make and things that I change in my life!
Im just 17 , im suffering so bad , i cry all the time , now im so tried of being sad all the time i started browsing stuff like this . Thank you so much , im feeling so much better ❤
I've been trying to gain self love and self-worth since I was a kid. I had an abusive childhood. And not very good encouraging parents. Stuck in a job that I hate. And I feel like I'm going nowhere. I keep trying to love myself and be my best friend. But I'm My Own Worst Enemy. I keep trying to work out and do positive affirmations. But I've been doing it for so long and I still hardly love myself. I just don't know how. I'm tired of letting people's words tear me apart... I'm tired of bullies. I'm tired of not being able to love myself. When all I want to do is that. I just have no idea what to do, when life has been nothing but constant stress and let Downs. really love this video though.
LetsPanic sending you love. Don’t give up. You have the desire to love yourself, and with patience and care, you will get there. Start with journaling your thoughts (even the scary ones) but always end the session with a love letter to yourself!! Meditate daily on the idea of loving and protecting yourself. Catch your self talk when it becomes negative and turn it into positive and loving. Good luck!!
I was very insecure before, frequently comparing myself to others and feeling 'small' whenever around people especially with friends that high achiever. But 1.5 years ago, I found a wise post in path (social messenger) about 'people has their own time' where whatever takes us to success, we will get it in our own 'time' and 'timing' will play a significant role in a person life. Since then I believe that the biggest competitor in our life is not our colleagues, not our friends, not our sibling. Our biggest competitor is ourselves, how we can able to change ourself to be better, how we have to focus more with self development and how we can fight our fear and weaknesses. Now after 1.5 years, I found myself more happy and worry less. If that one post can change my life, this video certainly able to change many people's life.
I've discovered your videos, and reality actually hit me again to where I need to remind myself to love myself again. I've been going through a tough time in my relationship, because it has put me in a situation where I don't know if I should stay or leave, and listening and watching your videos has made me felt a lot better. Thank you so much!
This makes so much sense now. It's been three decades and I have not understood these concepts before. #6 Happiness still doesn't make a ton of sense to me yet. I've always believed it was selfish and making a choice without considering EVERYone who was involved seemed like the opposite of love. But telling everyone else yes while telling myself no has not yielded me favorable results at all. That tells me something all on its own. My happiness has to matter to me but I was deathly afraid before to hurt the people I love. Thank you for this video.
Self-love has changed my LIFE. I used to hate myself but then I've realized that Self Love is something which is so important. I went through a phase of hating myself to loving myself and being confident :) I can not preach more about it! If you're happy within yourself nothing else matters...
I completely agree with every point made. I grew up in a broken family unit, had no father, and an insecure attachment type of relationship with my mother. The result was me being VERY nervous, anxious, self conscious, caring about what others though of me since I was always on the receiving end of the teasing. I had ZERO self love since it felt like I didn't get any love from others. I didn't care about what I ate, or drank, my health in general, or anything else. I used to smoke cigarettes, pot, exercised less and less.. I didn't put too much though into my appearance. All of that resulting in others taking advantage f me when I trusted them, and eventually into known anxiety depression, sleep apnea and probably pre-diabetes.. I have to say, while I practice a lot more self love now, I spent a LOT of my life not practicing self love and gratitude, only learning and practicing that as a middle aged adult. A lot of time wasted and living a mediocre life. While I'm still not where I want to be, I' definitely feel I'm in a lot better position, without the toxic people and lifestyle as before. Maybe I'll even progress, as opposed to feeling "stuck".. Not wasting time dwelling in the past, worrying about the future, and focusing on the present to make things better. Glad to say I'm a LOT healthier now. I quit the cigarettes and pot, quit the junk food, fast food, soda, started exercising more, cut 56 pounds so far and counting, quit all caffeine, no more pre-diabetic symptoms. No more toxic "friends" or other people. I practice gratitude for what I have, don't dwell on the past like before, although I still worry about the future. Watching motivational videos, positive affirmations, snapping pics of quotes that resonate with me, reading more, listening to more chill music, trying to make more time and money for the hobbies I love. Working on the financial situation to hopefully be able to chase some dreams, travel, before this life ends.. To figure out what I actually feel passionate about. Hopefully a whole lot more.. And of course, I spend a lot of time here on RUclips watching videos like this.. =)
Self love has allowed me to do a photoshoot makeup free, natural hair blowing in the wind, in the busy streets of NYC earlier this week. Self love may be difficult to achieve but is worth the process!✨ Thank for sharing your wisdom ❤
I remember time when I was depressed about my school, relationship and family. And so, I didn't care about my body and mind. I could stay all night long doing homework or cry my eyes because arguments with my parents. Then I realized that I was treated myself badly. I started analyzing my actions and thoughts, managing my time so that I could have more sleep and free time. I started taking care of my hair and skin. So my life became much better, I feel more confident and happier now. Analyzing yourself is a really important skill, believe me.
Here are some good ones on cultivating self-love: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It - Kamal Ravikant The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem - Nathaniel Branden Psycho-Cybernetics - Maxwell Maltz Letting Go - David Hawkins I've listed them in order of complexity and digestibility 😁 hope it helps!
self love has made my life extremely better. I am genuinely happy. I don't put a show on for anyone elses happiness. I realized can do what I want when I want just because i want and i don't have to explain myself to others. Also noe that im confident, I am not scared to try my best and be extra , most people get scared to perform at their best ability, but im not anymore. I can recognize my abilities with clear unbiased eyes. I also am not scared to let others love me , because i lovr me too :)
Self-love taught me not to settle for crap - whether it is with people, places, or things. I can easily identify when things do not match my values or worth and can let go of which that does not serve me a lot easier. And instead of being angry that it didn't work out, I see it more of a lesson.
I'm an English teacher in Brazil and a student of mine who is going through a hard time in her personal life asked me for suggestions on how to practice her listening skills. I told her to watch your videos knowing that she would be not only practicing the language but also absorbing high quality content that would help her go through said hard times. It's been two weeks and she has improved SO MUCH on dealing with difficulties and believing in herself. I'm happy to be a teacher with whom the students feel comfortable to talk to about their issues, and happy to be able to use your content to help them considering that it has personally helped me in the past. Thank you for everything you so kindly share with us and for helping me make a difference in someone's life through it. Keep doing your thing! ♡
11 ways self love will change your life: 1. Health 2. Relationships 3. Confidence 4. Style & Swag 5. Friends & Family 6. Happiness 7. Drive and motivation 8. Less f*cks given 9. Easier failures 10. Less insecurities, more humility 11. Freedom Thank you for making this video, love it! :)
Thanks for doing this so much! Self love = self compassion and you hit those points. Self-love has taught me to find security within my insecurities "It's okay" and acted as a motivation for me to be the better version of who I am
Wow. This was really AMAZING. Thank you for sharing this! My self love teacher me the most important thing: what I want from my partner in a relationship. I got out of a bad relationship because I knew I deserved better. And a year later, I have the greatest guy in my life. It is ABSOLUTELY true that once you know your worth, you attract people that treat you right and respect your worth. Thank you again!
I love myself for writing. There was a time when I couldn't write anything because I thought it was strange, but thanks to repeating what I wanted to say and answering in my heart, I can see you now. I love you!
I used to hate myself, I never had confidence in myself, I was always feeling shame and whenever I was neglected about my life and did something for others sake just to gain their agreement but I couldn't... Sorry myself I wasted all 34 years of my life I didn't live, I really couldn't feel alive, I never loved life. But..... I decided to take a journey of self loving I realized that I also deserve to be loved and respected by others. (I wrote this comment with tears) YOU that read this comment: never ignore yourself to do something for others no one is more deserve than you! I passed on this road I know how harmful is it. Wish me good luck pl
I have been doing alot of soul searching and i thought at at first, stay positive, think about all i want to accomplish in life that will make me feel complete and happy. For example, better job, house, ect.. but it just hit me the other day after i got done reading the alchemist. Haha no joke! I been focusing and asking my spirit guides for the wrong guidance. It starts with me, i need more self love!!! I been neglected as a child and i know it stems from my childhood. I have been meditating more. Holding more Crystals. Educating myself on how to heal my charkas. Staying in nature more, being more present in the moment than dwelling on the past or stress about the unknown. I honestly feel like I'm going though a spiritual awakening.. thank you for your page!!! Sending you love!💗💗
This video really came right in time.. I faced a lot of failures lately, which totally went off my and others’ expectations on me. I’ve been losing my self confidence and sometimes I think to myself “You don’t deserve to be loved even by yourself”. This, totally, lifts me up. I love me, and I love you!!
Seeing this list hurt heart because I see so many people who don't have self love and what makes it worse is if they have children so they're affected too. I can love them to the moon and back and care for them and equip them with what they need but they gotta love themselves in order to truly get out of their ruts. At that point all I can do is pray for them. 💔🙏
It makes me feel so much better to say to a friend "wow, I look so cute!" And have them agree then ask "do I look okay?". For a long time my appearance was my greatest anxiety, and now I dont even care! Self love has made me more relaxed...about my appearance that is haha
Self love give you the power to say NO, no to that what hurts you, no to that friend who is always laughting at you, no to your parents who want you to study that carrer...The power to say NO is the biggest present self love has given to me. Thanks !
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Hi... I'm a 17 year old girl, very insecure and dealing with depression. Today is my birthday, and I'm still in bed, not wanting to leave my room. At least, that's how I felt before this video. After listening to you, I've found myself a little motivation to try and have a nice day. Thank you so much 💫❤️
Hey i hope you are okaaayy stay stronggg beautifulll!! love you. im here if u need someone to talk to
Hope you're feeling better 🌷
nicky mint m 17 too
Hope u be fine !
nicky mint how are u doing now?
Who else loved her red lip?! 😊
Alaina Nicole meeeeeeeeeeeee 😍 i love everything about her anyway 💖
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I hope you are feeling better dear ...stay strong and be happy ..life always opens her arms to you if you want and will ...you r gorgeous ..love u 😘
The thumbnail picture looks absolutely stunning, radiant, fabulous!
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Justine Leconte officiel 🤗 thanks Justine
Justine good to see you here
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1. Health (self-care)
2. Relationships
3. Confidence
4. Style & Swag
5. Friends & family
6. Happiness
7. Drive & motivation
8. Less f*ck giving
9. Easier failures
10. Less insecurity
11. Freedom
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Enjoy video!♥️
Self-love has motivated me to meditate, to eat healthier, to work out, to sleep, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, not beat myself up for a missed assignment, for a food cheat day, or for a missed day in my self-care schedule. It helps me feel content, no matter the how great or okay my day is.
Self love has made me aware that i have to take care of myself first before others . As i was raised to no think selfishly , i should care about other people feelings but the older i grow , i realised that i need my own happiness . Self love has teach me to calm down and relax my mind to take things one step at a time as this world is not a competiton . I used to envy others who are smarter than me but i feel like who cares ? Its my life i have my own way .
Thanks for the advise luv 💕💕💕
Nurul Fatihah when you love yourself first, then you can love others more unconditionally. So happy to hear this ✨
Your channel is one of the best things that I have discover this year💖💖
Julia M 💕💕
I have become less dependent, am more happier, am not lonely even when am alone, am always craving to see myself become better... I love myself so much ❤
love you 💘
Emma Mkoba yassss amazing ✨✨
you're free to step into your greatness , you're free to be fabulous , you're free to be a light in the world , you're free to be YOURSELF .. these are the best lines i've listened to lately .. and ma sad mood for two years has brightened up from this moment to have a new better self love journey .. thank you aileen .. thank you so much
menna khattab ah thank you!! So happy this could help you ✨✨ NOW GO BE YOUR AMAZING SELF 💜
thank you so much
Heyy thats good to hear i hope yoou are okay and your sad mood will eventually go away and happiness will enter your life, please always be happyyy and strongg take care!
Self love makes me step up for myself and take more risks and watch beautiful things bloom 🌺 in life
This video is encouraging and inspirational and something probably most of us need to hear!! Forgiveness is SO important because harboring un-forgiveness gives you internal stress and turmoil and is so bad for your health! I personally know it can be very hard to not care what other people think or say, but honestly some people don't have your best interest in mind or maybe they're just having a bad day ... and the best thing to do is really for us just let it go, don't take it personally, if it applies and can help you improve that's great, but it is not possible to make everyone happy and we will drive ourselves crazy if we try to. Thank you for sharing!!
Style My Sweets yes! Agree with everything!
Style My Sweets, so true about harboring un-forgiveness.
I think after watching this, i realised how much I have improved. I used to despise myself and not think that i was ever gonna be good enough, but I changed my mindset and took my life into control. I learned a lot from the past two year, researched a lot about self-love, productivity, being better really. But in the end I did not see that i actually was getting better everyday. And now this made me cry because I have... Succeeded? Does that make sense? 😂 I'm glad to know that all the hardships, the process was worth it.So thank you Aileen ☺ Self love taught me that I am enough and that I honestly just live for myself, not what everybody else say. Still gonna work on it, but you know, feels good now 😂 So again thank you 😆 Go Aileen Go! (May i mention that lipstick? It looks AMAZING on you 👍🏾 )Have an awesome day!~May.
Wow that’s amazing!! Yeah sometimes we don’t even notice our transformation until we stop and reflect. It was after meeting with a friend and explaining self love to them that I realized how much I’ve grown over the years! That inspired me to make this video 😊✨
AWW THIS IS SO NICE TO READ! IM PROUDOF YOU STAY STRONG AND KEEP FIGHTING YOURE ABEAUTIFUL SOUL! IMM SO GLAD YOUVE MADE IT
This is so true. When I was in my teens, I don't love myself and I just keep thinking I wasn't good at anything and so I ended up with high expectations on myself that doesn't help. I'm always unhappy and wondering what to do with my life. Right now as an adult, I've learned to start from self-awareness to self-understanding to self-love. This is actually so important. It will boost ur confidence once u know what u want and what u can do and believe it. Believe in yourself. It'll make u succeed bit by bit and that's what makes life meaningful than u ever thought. 💕 As with anything, start from yourself because u can control what u wanna be. 😊
Yuuka Shinohara yes!!! I’m so proud of you 💜💜
Yuuka Shinohara 👍$o tru💜
Loved to read ur comment💖😘
Lavendaire Thank U~!!😊💗 I love ur positive vibes as always. 💗 Let's all grow and be better version of ourselves.👍
are you okaaay? stay strong
I'm 16 years old, and all this time i have lack of confidence and always comparing myself to everyone that cooler than me, like you, i just put a high expetation on myself, i feel i cant do anything right.... May u give me some advice?
Thanks for improving me by this video!
The power of gratefulness has created the ability of self love for me. When I started looking for beauty in life and for small things to be grateful for suddenly those things began to show themselves to me in abundance! Then self love started growing in me.
Leann M nice! I agree!
Yes LOVE and gratitude in life❤️
Self love has helped me heal my inner child wounds and served as the crux of emotional growth and development.
Manal Khan 💕💕
Self love made me see than I’m so much more than I thought. I was wasting so much time by caring what the others could think about me than loving me and being myself. Basically, I was just judging me for doing something. Lesson learned, your judment about yourself does more damage on you than others judgment.
I am struggling with self love. I have had an E.D, battle with Depression and have many issues dealing with social situations and my health. I do my best to practice meditation daily, and to continue trying to develop a "dream." I'm a *professional* mermaid, and work with many great people... so being my very best for them is what keeps me going. I know that I have to try to love myself more so that I can set a good example for those that I interact with daily. Self-love is work... and it isn't easy... but it is necessary! 💜
Great video! Self love has helped so much with getting over my depression and also I am so much happy with me, my body, even with my art! Because I understand now that I can make mistakes but I'm learning and eventually I'll get where I want to be ✨And more importantly, made my relationship with my boyfriend so much better ❤️
Melissa Ugalde beautiful 💓💓
Oh, self-love has saved my life! I went from standing in the mirror and hating every inch of my body, hurting myself, laying around depressed with feelings of unworthiness to a completely different person to the point where people ask me if I'm happy all the time. Self-love allowed me to see I am deserving of happiness. It allowed me to slowly peel back the layers of what a unique and amazing human being I am. I learned I am deserving of love and that I love myself no matter what. xoxo thank you lavendaire, great content
That lipstick shade looks amazing on you lavendaire!😚
Dear Lavandaire. My name is Fernanda. I am the 68 year old lady who wrote to you before. Every day you amaze me. I have to learn consistency. I have done so many course on self development but I lack consistency. I so admire you.
well, i have started the journey of self love after i discovered your channel; i can say with out any hold back that you make me see life as if it is a positive, light and colorful thing all of a sudden when i believed it was a grave , and i am soooo thankful for that. i have started my morning pages , exercising, going out for a walk, reading and a new job ...... after almost 2 years of being stressed and depressed. so i am doing most of the things you talk about in these video.
you have changed my life for the better ...... thank you sooo much
much love and respect
xoxo
linda Ethiopiawit wow that is so amazing!! I’m so proud of you!! 😍😍
i owe it all to you my dear
I wish I could get so many people to watch this and take it to heart.... So absolutely true!
I loved the video . I think in today's world everybody need such kind of motivational video . thank you 😊
cristen william I agree! :-) Mindful greetings, Simple Happy Zen
You are litterally my example in my lifetime .cuz once i listen to you , i feel like im trying to forgive myself , get deepet into my self and more than that, loving myself much more than before .so i litterally purple you thank you so much.
Self love journey has helped me to accept who iam and to be proud of of me no matter what without comparin myself to others .self love has also taught me to seek strongly to improve myself a lot .it also taughts me to go easy on me rather than making self judgments or beating myself up.
Thank you I needed this so much right now
Sweet2Rani that’s so beautiful. I’m so happy for you!!
aww thank you :) much love
Just wanted to say since I started watching your videos I feel way more positive and I realised that my life is not looking the best that it could look. So, I have started changing to be a more responsible, productive and nicer person so thank you so much because you inspired me.
I never thought about some of these ways self love can change your life- even more of a motivation to work on my own self love
Being more at peace with myself, having clarity, being confident to take bigger risks, taking the time out to grow myself
Two things I learned from u and it really changed my whole life 💜
▪Gratitude✨
▪self lo√e💖
& many more ...but these two really changed my life💚
Ñïhäríkä Mïshrâ I’m so happy to hear that!! 💓✨
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Honestly I thought self love is like being selfish but then after watching your video, it mean to stop doubting yourself because I have been very hard on myself lately until I had this chat with my cousin the other day, it was about showing good energy and a good attitude so that was self love would have meant to me
Truly empowering and inspiring. I tried practicing gratitude by writing gratitude notes on my journal and it truly made a difference in my life. Thank u for sharing tips on self love!
Mary Ven Cossid ✨✨
Lavendaire where is the bell??? I agree with you on self love it does make a difference in our lives I’m still growing I tell my children to love them selfs thank you I love your new color of hair it looks great
I don't think I consciously was aware of any self love I have for myself until I started noticing that the things I used to have high tolerance for - bad relationships, settling for less than I deserved in life and feeling guilt for any good that happened to me - and seeing the people around me struggling with choosing their paths because of what others thought were things that I no longer had to deal with. I seemed to increase my self love by providing support for others in a way that I started to for myself as well just as a side effect. I removed the toxic relationships, I learned to deal and move on from things I can't control. I live by the motto "Everything happens for a reason." And I'm working toward things I want in life, while I see friends who have wasted time on things their family want them to do, only to drop them in the end and still being miserable. I encourage them, so why not encourage myself as well? I still struggle from time to time. But I'm still trying.
Thank you for also being a motivational force. Your videos have been helping me to improve and grow, and I hope to someday have the same confidence in myself as you radiate. :)
Thank you for another great video Aileen.
Self love Change my life in a way that my perspective about myself changed. I used to look at myself as being a visually impaired who is bound by the limitations set by the society about us persons with disability. Now I gain self confidence and I am now an advocate of inclusive education. Self love made me accept who I really am and use my strength to empower myself and others.
Beverly's Diary wow that is so beautiful. You are an inspiration, Beverly!!
Beverly's Diary I'm so jobilant for you... I wish you well in your journey ....
I'm really connected with the word "when your humble and kind with your loved ones when they failed, why would you be so hard for yourself😊🤗"
Self-love is a state of balance and innerpeace that will eventually lead to success and healthy growth ! Beautiful Video Lavendaire ♡♡♡
Poetically Serine ✨✨
Poetically Serine your right about , when you're in solitude , you will attract serenity , contentment and clarity, which's espectacular ....... i wish you well for the rest of your life .... I'll see you in heaven
*Self Love is the ultimate teaching.*
My biggest Inspiration ever ❤️
Aileenn you are amazing
and i have found so much growth in my self after joining you over here ❤️❤️❤️
I started meditation , morning pages and it feels so good that i don’t find any good words either to praise you or thank you ❤️
I love you so much .
Saman Khaan love you so much! I’m so happy to hear that!!
❤️❤️❤️ live long
Saman Khaan darling wat do u mean by morning pages?
Hey
by morning pages I meant that when I woke up, the first thing I do is grab a pen and my notebook and i write down all the things i want to do , like my goals, things i m going to do for the rest of the day, or all the good things that i have learned and things i will learn.In short i just let my mind flow and get it free from all the things going on in my mind.After this believe me i feel so relaxed ,calm and fresh for the day. I Hope you got me.
Saman Khaan aah sounds amazing...il try to do the same. Thankss
Wow! This was really helpful! I have a big passion for self love and self care! Self love helped me in so many things, like : enjoying time with myself, reducing anxiety and overthinking too much, discovering love for yoga and meditation! Of course, it's a process but also the secret for a beautiful and happy life! Thank you so much ! Loved this powerful and motivational video!
Such a powerful and motivational video 💕
love how there is no music and no need for it because her words captivate tons.
Self love helped me to be less scared of public speaking and it’s such a big step for me . Love your videos Aileen 🐝✨
Jin's Windshield wiper laugh nice! 💓💓
I have been on my journey of self love since 2016 and I have fallen back into my old fears and beliefs since November 2019. Today this video has reminded me of all the new beliefs I had created for myself. I realized how far off my progressive path I've fallen. Thank you for this new found courage. I am a new fan! My astrology chart also reads to the bottom and the right. I feel like you are a soul who looks at life like I do, or did, before I went back to fear. But no longer, I am going to get back to healing myself. Thank you again 💞
Aileen, thank you so much for another beautiful vid to start my day. Deep thanks for reminding me that self love is mandatory for a well lived life, especially when one easily forgets and judges oneself on auto pilot. Everything starts with an intention. You are such a lovely inspiration! Thank you.~ Karen.❤️
It changed my entire life. I had a bad way of talking to myself and I made myself feel bad everyday for not beeing who I wanted to be. Then I got really sick and had to take time off from my job. I got depressed and hated my life. Then I decided that I will take care of myself. I will love myself no matter what cause me is all I got! I have now come a long way. I started my journey almost three years ago. I now have more days I love myself then I have days when I dont. But its coming along :)
I guess I don't fully love myself because I'm always insecure about what others say.. but I know deep down I've tried my best.. Maybe I really should stop being so hard on myself and not care about what people say
Roselia it’s a journey 🙏🏼 sending you love & strength!
I really needed this video! lately I’ve been questioning myself (my actions and the position that I am) and thinking that maybe I’m not as great or valuable as I think I am or maybe I’m doing something wrong and that everything I do is just a mistake and stuff like that. After watching this video I remembered how happy I am when I make decisions that will be beneficial for me and that will make me more happy with my body and my mental state, HOW GREAT IT IS TO NOT GIVE ANY F*CKS! and see yourself growing from that. I remembered that I am important and my happiness and health matters and even if it seems wrong to some people, as long as I am not causing any harm to anybody, I can do it! And I’ll be happy with the decisions that I make and things that I change in my life!
yes you can!!
I was just thinking about this a day ago, literally! Thank you for this X
Im just 17 , im suffering so bad , i cry all the time , now im so tried of being sad all the time i started browsing stuff like this . Thank you so much , im feeling so much better ❤
Literally speechless. You shine so much love thank you for this video💞
Self-love has absolutely transformed my life into something so much more beautiful than it was before.
I've been trying to gain self love and self-worth since I was a kid. I had an abusive childhood. And not very good encouraging parents. Stuck in a job that I hate. And I feel like I'm going nowhere. I keep trying to love myself and be my best friend. But I'm My Own Worst Enemy. I keep trying to work out and do positive affirmations. But I've been doing it for so long and I still hardly love myself. I just don't know how. I'm tired of letting people's words tear me apart... I'm tired of bullies. I'm tired of not being able to love myself. When all I want to do is that. I just have no idea what to do, when life has been nothing but constant stress and let Downs. really love this video though.
LetsPanic sending you love. Don’t give up. You have the desire to love yourself, and with patience and care, you will get there. Start with journaling your thoughts (even the scary ones) but always end the session with a love letter to yourself!! Meditate daily on the idea of loving and protecting yourself. Catch your self talk when it becomes negative and turn it into positive and loving. Good luck!!
I was very insecure before, frequently comparing myself to others and feeling 'small' whenever around people especially with friends that high achiever. But 1.5 years ago, I found a wise post in path (social messenger) about 'people has their own time' where whatever takes us to success, we will get it in our own 'time' and 'timing' will play a significant role in a person life. Since then I believe that the biggest competitor in our life is not our colleagues, not our friends, not our sibling. Our biggest competitor is ourselves, how we can able to change ourself to be better, how we have to focus more with self development and how we can fight our fear and weaknesses. Now after 1.5 years, I found myself more happy and worry less. If that one post can change my life, this video certainly able to change many people's life.
This was so inspiring Aileen, thank you. :) I've been working towards self-love for some time now; it is not an easy journey but is so important!
Self love n value has helped me getting rid of “low quality n high demands” relationships.
by the way you are looking awesome in red lipstick. Keep it up
I've discovered your videos, and reality actually hit me again to where I need to remind myself to love myself again. I've been going through a tough time in my relationship, because it has put me in a situation where I don't know if I should stay or leave, and listening and watching your videos has made me felt a lot better. Thank you so much!
God bless u #Aileen I am so greatful to u fr making this video ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I really need it today💜💖👍
Thanks fr reminding it again✌💛
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This makes so much sense now. It's been three decades and I have not understood these concepts before. #6 Happiness still doesn't make a ton of sense to me yet. I've always believed it was selfish and making a choice without considering EVERYone who was involved seemed like the opposite of love. But telling everyone else yes while telling myself no has not yielded me favorable results at all. That tells me something all on its own. My happiness has to matter to me but I was deathly afraid before to hurt the people I love.
Thank you for this video.
I love myself ......
DIAMOND GIRL finally
Self-love has changed my LIFE. I used to hate myself but then I've realized that Self Love is something which is so important. I went through a phase of hating myself to loving myself and being confident :) I can not preach more about it! If you're happy within yourself nothing else matters...
always waiting for your videos
I completely agree with every point made.
I grew up in a broken family unit, had no father, and an insecure attachment type of relationship with my mother. The result was me being VERY nervous, anxious, self conscious, caring about what others though of me since I was always on the receiving end of the teasing. I had ZERO self love since it felt like I didn't get any love from others. I didn't care about what I ate, or drank, my health in general, or anything else. I used to smoke cigarettes, pot, exercised less and less.. I didn't put too much though into my appearance. All of that resulting in others taking advantage f me when I trusted them, and eventually into known anxiety depression, sleep apnea and probably pre-diabetes..
I have to say, while I practice a lot more self love now, I spent a LOT of my life not practicing self love and gratitude, only learning and practicing that as a middle aged adult. A lot of time wasted and living a mediocre life. While I'm still not where I want to be, I' definitely feel I'm in a lot better position, without the toxic people and lifestyle as before. Maybe I'll even progress, as opposed to feeling "stuck".. Not wasting time dwelling in the past, worrying about the future, and focusing on the present to make things better.
Glad to say I'm a LOT healthier now. I quit the cigarettes and pot, quit the junk food, fast food, soda, started exercising more, cut 56 pounds so far and counting, quit all caffeine, no more pre-diabetic symptoms. No more toxic "friends" or other people. I practice gratitude for what I have, don't dwell on the past like before, although I still worry about the future. Watching motivational videos, positive affirmations, snapping pics of quotes that resonate with me, reading more, listening to more chill music, trying to make more time and money for the hobbies I love. Working on the financial situation to hopefully be able to chase some dreams, travel, before this life ends.. To figure out what I actually feel passionate about. Hopefully a whole lot more..
And of course, I spend a lot of time here on RUclips watching videos like this.. =)
so good ! subscribed
Self love has allowed me to do a photoshoot makeup free, natural hair blowing in the wind, in the busy streets of NYC earlier this week. Self love may be difficult to achieve but is worth the process!✨ Thank for sharing your wisdom ❤
Thank you. I hope to be more confidence . I want to learn say no and love my self more. It very helpful, inspiration for me ☺️
AngieARTmanga 💕💕
I remember time when I was depressed about my school, relationship and family. And so, I didn't care about my body and mind. I could stay all night long doing homework or cry my eyes because arguments with my parents. Then I realized that I was treated myself badly. I started analyzing my actions and thoughts, managing my time so that I could have more sleep and free time. I started taking care of my hair and skin. So my life became much better, I feel more confident and happier now. Analyzing yourself is a really important skill, believe me.
please recommned some books on self love ..great topic ❤
Bait Byoot بيت بيوت I want it too😄
Here are some good ones on cultivating self-love:
Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It - Kamal Ravikant
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem - Nathaniel Branden
Psycho-Cybernetics - Maxwell Maltz
Letting Go - David Hawkins
I've listed them in order of complexity and digestibility 😁 hope it helps!
philosophia thanks 😄😄
Anytime! 😁 Best of luck. Sending you good ~vibes~🙌
Some of my favorites:
A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson | amzn.to/2ix2Pvj
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle | amzn.to/2gDyib8
self love has made my life extremely better. I am genuinely happy. I don't put a show on for anyone elses happiness. I realized can do what I want when I want just because i want and i don't have to explain myself to others. Also noe that im confident, I am not scared to try my best and be extra , most people get scared to perform at their best ability, but im not anymore. I can recognize my abilities with clear unbiased eyes. I also am not scared to let others love me , because i lovr me too :)
You inspire me on a daily basis. Keep making these videos. Much love. 🖤
And *YOU* deserve to love yourself !!
Love yourself and selfie are different:)
Self-love taught me not to settle for crap - whether it is with people, places, or things. I can easily identify when things do not match my values or worth and can let go of which that does not serve me a lot easier. And instead of being angry that it didn't work out, I see it more of a lesson.
Hey Aileen, I was have one of those days today. Thank so much for this video xx
I'm an English teacher in Brazil and a student of mine who is going through a hard time in her personal life asked me for suggestions on how to practice her listening skills. I told her to watch your videos knowing that she would be not only practicing the language but also absorbing high quality content that would help her go through said hard times. It's been two weeks and she has improved SO MUCH on dealing with difficulties and believing in herself. I'm happy to be a teacher with whom the students feel comfortable to talk to about their issues, and happy to be able to use your content to help them considering that it has personally helped me in the past. Thank you for everything you so kindly share with us and for helping me make a difference in someone's life through it. Keep doing your thing! ♡
wow!! that's so amazing. thank you for sharing my videos. I'm so so happy it can help
You're an inspiration. 💙
11 ways self love will change your life:
1. Health
2. Relationships
3. Confidence
4. Style & Swag
5. Friends & Family
6. Happiness
7. Drive and motivation
8. Less f*cks given
9. Easier failures
10. Less insecurities, more humility
11. Freedom
Thank you for making this video, love it! :)
I'm in love with your channel! Happy new year! 😊
Thanks for doing this so much! Self love = self compassion and you hit those points. Self-love has taught me to find security within my insecurities "It's okay" and acted as a motivation for me to be the better version of who I am
Cheryl Kong wow so proud of your growth! 💕
Lavendaire ❤️ Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re such an encourager!
needed the message this morning. thanks
Wow. This was really AMAZING. Thank you for sharing this!
My self love teacher me the most important thing: what I want from my partner in a relationship. I got out of a bad relationship because I knew I deserved better. And a year later, I have the greatest guy in my life. It is ABSOLUTELY true that once you know your worth, you attract people that treat you right and respect your worth. Thank you again!
I love the video. It really changed my life.
I love myself for writing. There was a time when I couldn't write anything because I thought it was strange, but thanks to repeating what I wanted to say and answering in my heart, I can see you now. I love you!
Tqsm.. Keep making more videos on self love❤️
Kushboo Sankhla 💕💕 Check the description for the self love playlist!!
I used to hate myself, I never had confidence in myself, I was always feeling shame and whenever I was neglected about my life and did something for others sake just to gain their agreement but I couldn't... Sorry myself I wasted all 34 years of my life I didn't live, I really couldn't feel alive, I never loved life. But..... I decided to take a journey of self loving I realized that I also deserve to be loved and respected by others. (I wrote this comment with tears)
YOU that read this comment: never ignore yourself to do something for others no one is more deserve than you! I passed on this road I know how harmful is it.
Wish me good luck pl
That lipstick looks great on you! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I have been doing alot of soul searching and i thought at at first, stay positive, think about all i want to accomplish in life that will make me feel complete and happy. For example, better job, house, ect.. but it just hit me the other day after i got done reading the alchemist. Haha no joke! I been focusing and asking my spirit guides for the wrong guidance. It starts with me, i need more self love!!!
I been neglected as a child and i know it stems from my childhood.
I have been meditating more. Holding more Crystals. Educating myself on how to heal my charkas. Staying in nature more, being more present in the moment than dwelling on the past or stress about the unknown. I honestly feel like I'm going though a spiritual awakening.. thank you for your page!!! Sending you love!💗💗
How to have self love ? & how to eliminate negative thoughts & self sabotaging ? Please
Mar.Ash Check description or card for the self love playlist! I have a lot of videos there :) and I’ll make more on this topic soon!
Thank you so much :) love your videos they're so inspirational
This video really came right in time.. I faced a lot of failures lately, which totally went off my and others’ expectations on me. I’ve been losing my self confidence and sometimes I think to myself “You don’t deserve to be loved even by yourself”. This, totally, lifts me up. I love me, and I love you!!
Bóng Bay Love you!
Thanx for inspiring us ur so beautiful and i like ur lipstick shade,god bless u thank u again
Seeing this list hurt heart because I see so many people who don't have self love and what makes it worse is if they have children so they're affected too. I can love them to the moon and back and care for them and equip them with what they need but they gotta love themselves in order to truly get out of their ruts. At that point all I can do is pray for them. 💔🙏
i'm more confident in my abilities ❤
farida that’s amazing!
It makes me feel so much better to say to a friend "wow, I look so cute!" And have them agree then ask "do I look okay?". For a long time my appearance was my greatest anxiety, and now I dont even care! Self love has made me more relaxed...about my appearance that is haha
Your lipstick 💋 and your dress 👗 so so so awesome Aileen 😍😍😘😘😘😘😘😍😍😍😘😘
Mathi Sekar 😘😘
Self love has allowed me to forgive myself and others. In doing that I am able to move forward and create the results that I want
Self lo√e 💖 changed my life 💜
Thanks #Aileen 💗 for let me know how beautiful personality I have !!
Very nice video😃
So much love to u💓always😘
Self love give you the power to say NO, no to that what hurts you, no to that friend who is always laughting at you, no to your parents who want you to study that carrer...The power to say NO is the biggest present self love has given to me.
Thanks !
INSPIRING ❤