The hint I gave you for content creation still stands...as far as useful writing, the abstract reasoning section of my mind is stuck on wide open... this is problematic in areas of empathy and kindness. Just so you know.
I'm 40. Before going NC with narc parents, I at age 14 once blurted out to narc mother, "You can never defeat me because I can endure a lot. You don't have the patience to go on forever. I have a pure soul while you don't."
I figured them all out at 25 in 2020 during the lockdown and pandemic! The universe gave me Ella Enchanted which is my favorite childhood movie of all time! Funny I then understand narcissism.. I discovered Barbie Life in the Dreamhouse in 2020 where I realized my narcissistic female bullies were all on the series 😊😂 I exposed and put them all on blast on a billboard in Times Square in 2023 😂❤I then now look up my past female narc bullies and see the dead empty eyes… 😂 lol that’s their karma. While here I am on a billboard in Times Square as the first Asian American young lady as Raquelle as a human 😊❤
Well said...but ur this reaction itself is the win for them....ur right even be4 saying this and you are right even after saying this... unfortunately they are evil..they don't think as normal people do...ur reaction is their win....I'm going thru the same thing..my father, my brother , my uncle, my best friend, all are narcs some are pathological some are BPD....so I know what one has to go thru... unfortunately the only way is no contact...and if not then only one way....bluff bluff bluff or always stay on guard with them....but now I am tired of even playing their games... because even that doesn't stop....even if they get defeated they will change the reality.....so avoid avoid avoid as much as u can...it's just draining
Are you sure you said that at age 14 ?? Hope so. Didn't she laugh at you ?? You can't win with words with a Narc. You can only win with isolation and COMPLETE discard. And Silent treatment. They are Immune and Shameless to words.
I'm proud to overcome evil. I am a victor, a winner thanks to the Grace of God. Thank you Lord for saving me, rescuing me from the claws of the narcissists!!!
Isn't that the truth! Some people you should show love and gratitude to, I try to, they abuse everyone when actually no one should be abused, we all try out best but with them nothing's good enough and we're expected to try and impress them, no going to happen!
True. The nice mask is for everyone on the outside. His wife & children got no mask. They usually just take worst out on closest behind closed doors tho mine acted out in public & at family functions. Very true
I had to forgive myself for marrying this man. I truly didn't know how awful he was. Abuse in every form...he tried to destroy me. I felt such shame about it all. You have helped me so much. I found the strength to tell my family and friends what was happening. They rallied around me. I'm not free yet but I'm mentally free.
Thank you Danish. This is exactly the uplifting message I needed today. You reminded me of a story I once heard about two men in a concentration camp. One of them still prayed in their barracks, emotionally giving thanks to god. The second man asked the first how he could be so thankful, given their situation. The first man replied "at least... I'm not like them".
That's just great and also what I am grateful for... We see our differences! Live our differences, an old miserable bud would claim to be Christian yet whined "Where is God?" It is a disgusting remark!
I remember in Elie Weisel's memoir 'Night' that other prisoners were urging him, for his own sake, to take his sick father's rations and give up At the time, he had given up on faith and God. But, despite everything, he would treat his father well. That was the shred of his humanity that he refused to let go.
Weisel was dedicated to his faith and fascinated with the Torah- he writes in the memoir that he felt trust, hope and belief were folly, and that was what brought his family and neighborhood to Birkenau. No one could believe the stories being told. They hoped the war would end before the Nazis would get to their village. They had too much trust in God and in humanity. Faced with the unspeakable at the camp, he could not see or feel God. But even in that place, he knew he must hold on to the love of his father, or lose himself. Evil people want us to lose hope, belief and trust.
I didn't figure out things until I was 59 years old right after my mother died, I realized I was "getting along with" a narcissist sister for her sake. I told that sister, "I am done with you, you are no longer my sister and I never, ever want to speak to you again for the rest of my life." It's been almost 13 years and my life has been so wonderful without her. She sent me an e-mail last year that said, "My friends think you look like Catherine Zeta Jones", which was her way to get back and start the abuse all over. I completely ignore her message. BTW, her husband calls her a bully. Thank you for your message today, it brought be full circle.
I'm about to discard my narc-sister, thank you for sharing! She was always so jealous of me, I'm super smart and beautiful, she couldn't get over it! 😔 As a child, i thought I'm the ugliest person in the world, some kind of mutant.. But in reality, I'm gorgeous, actually 😎👏 Years of emotional and physical abuse, no one EVER protected me, my mother was always on her side, punishing me for self defense. I'm 28 now, and she's living with me currently (sneaked through my compassion and kindness). I can see clearly, they never change. Little, ungrateful, filthy brat.
@@serenityisaproblem Get away from her, sweetheart, as fast as you can. Learn before I did/could. I believe you're gorgeous which only made her mental illness worse. And the longer it goes the more damage she'll do to you. Trust me, she'll destroy any friends or family you have. I have 7 brothers and 0 sisters (now) and she alienated 4 of those 7. I was alone and demonized all those years. Remember, God wants you to take care of yourself, you being alive is a blessing on our earth. Stay healthy and beautiful it'll drive her insane.
@@RebelsBestFriend Thank you so much, you're such a beautiful human being! So heartworming, i will save and keep youre message ❤️🥺 I will escape for sure, I'm independent, free and almost healed. It's quite bizarre for her to think, that this relationship is important to me and i will stay no matter what 🤔 It seems, she's utterly insane 😁 I wish you happiness, stay strong and kind 💖
@@heatherhall3452 Bless you for thinking about donating!🎇 I clicked on the three dots to the right of "Share" under the video. I then clicked on "Thanks". ⛲
My grandmother's funeral was a few years ago, and I could not attend because I'm abroad. That being said, the male figure who raised me went to his mother's funeral. I found out through a cousin that he actually disrespected my grandmother's funeral so badly that he may as well have NEVER GONE in the first place. My cousin told me, "As soon as he started with the crocodile tears, that's when I said I'm done." Now, to make things even worse, when my grandmother was alive, she spent two years with him. They did nothing but financially abuse her, probably emotionally as well.
@@jbrown2908 I'm utterly speechless for you. My condolences. I mean, two and a half milliseconds is hard enough with a narcissistic person, never mind having a funeral. How else were you supposed to react with gum drops joy and butterflies? It's a funeral it's a validated emotion.
@@jbrown2908My condolences to you. Tell me you cried anyways regardless what he said? My response to him would of been...."It will be at your funeral, that I won't be crying."
@jbrown2908 I understand what you mean. When you gain the knowledge of what these narcs are made up of. You realize it's not YOU, it's totally THEM all along, and the crazy world they create.
Forgiving oneself is indeed the hardest thing especially if you yourself made mistakes you regret deeply and that have nothing to do with the narc abuse but the choices you made yourself. I often think being abused is what I deserve.
I don't expect this to heal you right away, since healing from abuse is a challenge after all. But please pay attention... You do not deserve abuse. No one deserves. What makes the abuse abuse is exactly that: the unfairness of it all. With time, you will know which mistakes you committed related to the abuse, and which ones you made by yourself. Anyway, everyone makes mistakes; there's no shame in that. If you learned from them, that will be more strength for you. And you deserves the strength. Have that in mind. Here's to a journey of healing.
@@CinzaChumbo i think my mistake is somewhat related to my childhood with both parents not behaving theyd better be but, I dont take off responsibility ftom myself either since not all people with narcissistic parents do bad things. Thank you for your words I did learn from my mistakes well now only hope to better my health and have some peaceful life.
I like to think that we are more 'evolved' than narcs because of our empathy. Until very recently, I used to care a lot about what others thought of me. I also wished that people would realize the truth and stop associating with the narcs. Now, I've learned not to expect any good will from narcs and their associates. Instead, I try to avoid or distance myself from them, both physically and mentally. We deserve so much better...and we should be unafraid and unapologetic for being our best self.
“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves. Be ye therefore wise as serpents and harmless as doves. -Matthew 10:16. Don't worry, God is watching. Be patient and let God fight for you. Justice will be served.🙏❤️✝️
Forgive yourself and also forgive all the people that were fooled and tricked into turning on you. You did not know what to do and the people turned against you didn't either.
The more videos like yours and others on the same topic the easier it is to interpret people who behave like this. If required to be around my mother, coworkers, etc the moment they begin talking I know anything coming out of their mouths is garbage. Watching others rolling their eyes or completely tuned out when a narcissist is talking makes me chuckle. I wish I knew about these people before. So much of my time wouldn't have been wasted interacting with them
When I met my now Ex I thought he was kind of dead inside bc his wife had left him out of the blue 4 y ago. His mind seemed frozen. Never seen a man like that. After 5 years I left the relationship as I had recognized that he IS dead and surely always was. Thats why his first wife got a stroke in her 20ths and his second wife left the golden cage and told friends she was afraid of him. Fortunatly I was prepared having dealt with Ns my whole life. I never showed him.my true thoughts, feelings, secrets, ignored his attempts to triangulate me with his exwife and the other stupid stuff for a while. I enjoyed the golden period which lasted 4 years. When devaluation started I left pretty quickly. Imagine all empaths knowing narcissists and get with them only as long as the lovebombing lasts ... then quit 😂
Thank you Danish, your videos give me courage to think that I was’t wrong in the relationship. I did my best to hold on for 47 years but had to leave to be sane for the remaining life.
How are you not at a million sub. You are amongst my top three NArC recovery survivor. 1 Dr Ramani 2 You 3 Narcdically. You all have different styles but are all unique in your special way. I thank you all.
This is such a beautiful declaration of love to empaths❤ thank you so much. It filled my heart with thanks to your words an to these gifts that you see in us which I always considered as weakness. Now I feel a little bit proud und very, very thankful for beeing who I am. And as well I feel some kind of pity for my expartner because he's not able to feel and act as deep, kind and loving as I can. What a poor life full of posessions. I'm grateful.
Thank you for all you do, Danish. Your videos have helped me so much in recovering and in breaking my trauma bond with my narcissist ex. Any time I’m hurting or thinking I’m missing him, I watch your videos and feel grounded again. Thank you for making us feel heard, seen, and for helping us so much in our healing journeys.
The difference is that I am not event trying. I am who I am. But they try so hard; being somebody is so important to them. You can really tell they are hurting if they are nobody. I want to be a nobody. I just exist, and life happens. And it's nice that way.
Danish Thank you for explaining this. I know my Toxic ex hated I had other people who showed genuine interest in me, my family and friends. I'm happy they were concerned for me, this is what helped me even more to get out of the controlling relationship I was in. They knew I wasn't myself. He didn't like that.
I really appreciate how you talk about survivors of narcissistic abuse. I just got out of a relationship with someone with what I suspect is BPD and/or NPD (and yes I know they’re different disorders but abuse is still abuse and the abuse is so similar). So many other videos stress that the partner must have codependency (which could be true) but it’s hard to hear over and over again that the only reason you even started dating them is because you’ve got issues. Especially when there were almost no red flags for 8 months.
You started dating them because you were lied to, that is not your fault. The narcissist recognized that you are a lovely person willing to give and they exploited that lovely gift. That is not codependency at all.
You are such a special person, dear Darnich. I saw your wonderful pictures on Facebook where you were just enjoying peace and beautiful scenery. You wouldn’t know it’s me though because I’m not using my actual profile name or name. God bless you. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
You are correct brother......My husband gets blank face when i give reply to his words with my moral values....But soon he just says something rubbish.....
It's so hard to believe that someone can be so evil. I struggle with this but I know 10 years of living with a narcissistic has changed me. I'll never marry again.
The Narcissist has, in fact; weaponized their emotions and reasoning to overpower other humans. As in all activity, bad or good... the fruit you determine exists, shaped by their voices, acts and deeds, shapes your path, in predictable ways.
Danish you are absolutely right! I had no idea what I was dealing with!! I am so Thankful for watching your videos, Dr. Ramani and others. This has helped me so much!!
Danish, this was SO encouraging. I am going to watch it over and over and over again. P.S. You have a wonderfully soothing voice and a nice face - you don't need those little video clips interrupting your excellent content. Please keep on being your kind, compassionate, intelligent, helpful self.
Thank you, thank you for these beautiful words... I really need them today... You are an angel 😇. Thanks for all this content you create, it is very very helpful for all off us ... Survivors ❤
Danish kudos to you for every word you have said is so enlightening and encouraging.. Yes,we do feel everything seems useless and wasted at times but believing that GOD has a purpose for this endurance....
@narcabusecoach Thank You so much for this video 🙏 It was amazing and really made me feel understood. To hear our good, kind, empathetic qualities praised was so lovely because sometimes those things do feel like a curse because they made us a target for narcissists.
Danish near all of them i was becoming one of them that is what i believe just to survive i wasnt myself ,that energy takes you not just in survive but in a fight mode
There are certain things u can achieve at a particular age and that age is gone..it's becz of my narc mother and brother I was a topper but they ruined me so much that I used to fail almost all exams.....my brother was so jealous that he used to say all those words that he was himself and my mother a blind follower of him....both were so cruel that they never left me alone they just kept on giving me hundreds of names for no reasons I cried in silence for more then five years without loosing a single day....I almost used to cry the whole day they were pleased with a smile on their faces on seeing me in that condition..... how can they do so I am 30 now and failed in achieving my goal.... they won I failed This is what the reality is
Was in ldr and came for him. 26 hours in bus asking more and more guilt-tripping , always his friends around, who make yuu feel really if they don't like you. I have no contact. Was so shady. He just uses people for money and being with him in private was so abusive. I am in now in no contact. But afraid to meet new people and i isolate myself. He just wanted me to show of at his friends. Really depressed😔
Love this title! Smiled wide and said, I want to hear that. 😘…So didn’t like the the part about they will be alone. The survivor is often alone too in a predatory world where one must pay for everything. Some may be sad to know you died but are not close enough to know and too busy to help or care for you, especially if you don’t have mush to offer them more than you already have @Danish. 😢🤷🏾♀️
I struggle to see them as evil because I understand the trauma. But I don't like myself fall into the traps. I try my best to change their speaking language and correct them on how to address me with their 'issues'. It seems to defuse the situation well.
It's about the right not easy. And right comes with difficulties. That's exactly what I told my ex repeatedly and yet she surrendered to the other path. It's like they can't help themselves with their mentality and behaviour approach towards everything and everyone in life. Her past ways were all the same. Therefore the person has not changed for atleast the last 10 years or more.
The tricky part is that you’re also dealing with evil spirits when you’re dealing with a narcissist. And with evil spirits we can’t fight alone. That’s why we need to submit to God. The abuse can get really bad if you’re relying on your own strength.
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The hint I gave you for content creation still stands...as far as useful writing, the abstract reasoning section of my mind is stuck on wide open... this is problematic in areas of empathy and kindness. Just so you know.
I'm 40. Before going NC with narc parents, I at age 14 once blurted out to narc mother, "You can never defeat me because I can endure a lot. You don't have the patience to go on forever. I have a pure soul while you don't."
I figured them all out at 25 in 2020 during the lockdown and pandemic! The universe gave me Ella Enchanted which is my favorite childhood movie of all time! Funny I then understand narcissism.. I discovered Barbie Life in the Dreamhouse in 2020 where I realized my narcissistic female bullies were all on the series 😊😂 I exposed and put them all on blast on a billboard in Times Square in 2023 😂❤I then now look up my past female narc bullies and see the dead empty eyes… 😂 lol that’s their karma. While here I am on a billboard in Times Square as the first Asian American young lady as Raquelle as a human 😊❤
Well said...but ur this reaction itself is the win for them....ur right even be4 saying this and you are right even after saying this... unfortunately they are evil..they don't think as normal people do...ur reaction is their win....I'm going thru the same thing..my father, my brother , my uncle, my best friend, all are narcs some are pathological some are BPD....so I know what one has to go thru... unfortunately the only way is no contact...and if not then only one way....bluff bluff bluff or always stay on guard with them....but now I am tired of even playing their games... because even that doesn't stop....even if they get defeated they will change the reality.....so avoid avoid avoid as much as u can...it's just draining
@@annamalayadevi Oh yeah... this happened when I was 14. I have been NC with narc parents since 15 years.
Are you sure you said that at age 14 ?? Hope so.
Didn't she laugh at you ?? You can't win with words with a Narc. You can only win with isolation and COMPLETE discard. And Silent treatment.
They are Immune and Shameless to words.
I ❤️ that! Never ever lose your pure heart and soul! The world needs you 🙏 🕊 💕
To all the survivors reading this, YOU are beautiful, YOU are worthy, YOU are going to heal. It takes time but YOU are worth it!
Thank you.
I'm proud to overcome evil. I am a victor, a winner thanks to the Grace of God. Thank you Lord for saving me, rescuing me from the claws of the narcissists!!!
You already won because you have an identity.
Exactly
Yes. Indeed.
This. ❤
Thanks for saying this
Realize it is not personal. They do it to everyone. Knowing that will set you free 🦋🙏
Isn't that the truth! Some people you should show love and gratitude to, I try to, they abuse everyone when actually no one should be abused, we all try out best but with them nothing's good enough and we're expected to try and impress them, no going to happen!
True. The nice mask is for everyone on the outside. His wife & children got no mask. They usually just take worst out on closest behind closed doors tho mine acted out in public & at family functions. Very true
I don't know if that's entirely true cause a lot of people couldn't believe me, he was was an angel to everyone but I knew what I went through at home
Yes. It’s like Alligators and snakes. It’s instinct. That’s why they’re good at it.
They used us but we defended ourselves with good care
I had to forgive myself for marrying this man. I truly didn't know how awful he was. Abuse in every form...he tried to destroy me. I felt such shame about it all. You have helped me so much. I found the strength to tell my family and friends what was happening. They rallied around me. I'm not free yet but I'm mentally free.
Thank you Danish. This is exactly the uplifting message I needed today. You reminded me of a story I once heard about two men in a concentration camp. One of them still prayed in their barracks, emotionally giving thanks to god. The second man asked the first how he could be so thankful, given their situation. The first man replied "at least... I'm not like them".
That's just great and also what I am grateful for... We see our differences! Live our differences, an old miserable bud would claim to be Christian yet whined "Where is God?" It is a disgusting remark!
I remember in Elie Weisel's memoir 'Night' that other prisoners were urging him, for his own sake, to take his sick father's rations and give up At the time, he had given up on faith and God. But, despite everything, he would treat his father well. That was the shred of his humanity that he refused to let go.
Weisel was dedicated to his faith and fascinated with the Torah- he writes in the memoir that he felt trust, hope and belief were folly, and that was what brought his family and neighborhood to Birkenau. No one could believe the stories being told. They hoped the war would end before the Nazis would get to their village. They had too much trust in God and in humanity. Faced with the unspeakable at the camp, he could not see or feel God. But even in that place, he knew he must hold on to the love of his father, or lose himself. Evil people want us to lose hope, belief and trust.
I didn't figure out things until I was 59 years old right after my mother died, I realized I was "getting along with" a narcissist sister for her sake. I told that
sister, "I am done with you, you are no longer my sister and I never, ever want to speak to you again for the rest of my life." It's been almost 13 years and my
life has been so wonderful without her. She sent me an e-mail last year that said, "My friends think you look like Catherine Zeta Jones", which was
her way to get back and start the abuse all over. I completely ignore her message. BTW, her husband calls her a bully. Thank you for your message today,
it brought be full circle.
I'm about to discard my narc-sister, thank you for sharing!
She was always so jealous of me, I'm super smart and beautiful, she couldn't get over it! 😔
As a child, i thought I'm the ugliest person in the world, some kind of mutant.. But in reality, I'm gorgeous, actually 😎👏
Years of emotional and physical abuse, no one EVER protected me, my mother was always on her side, punishing me for self defense. I'm 28 now, and she's living with me currently (sneaked through my compassion and kindness). I can see clearly, they never change. Little, ungrateful, filthy brat.
@@serenityisaproblem Get away from her, sweetheart, as fast as you can. Learn before I did/could. I believe you're gorgeous which only made her mental
illness worse. And the longer it goes the more damage she'll do to you. Trust me, she'll destroy any friends or family you have. I have 7 brothers and
0 sisters (now) and she alienated 4 of those 7. I was alone and demonized all those years. Remember, God wants you to take care of yourself, you being
alive is a blessing on our earth. Stay healthy and beautiful it'll drive her insane.
@@RebelsBestFriend Thank you so much, you're such a beautiful human being! So heartworming, i will save and keep youre message ❤️🥺
I will escape for sure, I'm independent, free and almost healed. It's quite bizarre for her to think, that this relationship is important to me and i will stay no matter what 🤔
It seems, she's utterly insane 😁
I wish you happiness, stay strong and kind 💖
I donated $15.00 but nothing showed up to write to you that this one is particularly good for me today. It's my thanks.
Thanks Cynthia. Received with love.❤️
@@heatherhall3452 Bless you for thinking about donating!🎇 I clicked on the three dots to the right of "Share" under the video. I then clicked on "Thanks". ⛲
Surviving narc abuse made me realize how strong I really am. Thank you for encouraging us to celebrate who we truly are ❤
Thank you for reminding us decent, common sense people that it isn't our fault that we make sense and they don't on purpose.
My bipolar malignant narcissist mom died in 2017. I have yet to shed a tear.
Well said.
My strength and gifts come from the Lord Jesus and everlasting life.❤
Let your light shine for all to see.
Amen - God is faithful and will not abandon us
My grandmother's funeral was a few years ago, and I could not attend because I'm abroad. That being said, the male figure who raised me went to his mother's funeral. I found out through a cousin that he actually disrespected my grandmother's funeral so badly that he may as well have NEVER GONE in the first place. My cousin told me, "As soon as he started with the crocodile tears, that's when I said I'm done." Now, to make things even worse, when my grandmother was alive, she spent two years with him. They did nothing but financially abuse her, probably emotionally as well.
@@jbrown2908 I'm utterly speechless for you. My condolences. I mean, two and a half milliseconds is hard enough with a narcissistic person, never mind having a funeral. How else were you supposed to react with gum drops joy and butterflies? It's a funeral it's a validated emotion.
@@jbrown2908My condolences to you. Tell me you cried anyways regardless what he said? My response to him would of been...."It will be at your funeral, that I won't be crying."
@jbrown2908 I understand what you mean. When you gain the knowledge of what these narcs are made up of. You realize it's not YOU, it's totally THEM all along, and the crazy world they create.
@@francalatona591 Yes, and the patterns are easier to connect (well I find).
“Their conscious is dead” 💯
Forgiving oneself is indeed the hardest thing especially if you yourself made mistakes you regret deeply and that have nothing to do with the narc abuse but the choices you made yourself. I often think being abused is what I deserve.
I don't expect this to heal you right away, since healing from abuse is a challenge after all. But please pay attention...
You do not deserve abuse. No one deserves. What makes the abuse abuse is exactly that: the unfairness of it all.
With time, you will know which mistakes you committed related to the abuse, and which ones you made by yourself. Anyway, everyone makes mistakes; there's no shame in that. If you learned from them, that will be more strength for you. And you deserves the strength.
Have that in mind. Here's to a journey of healing.
@@CinzaChumbo i think my mistake is somewhat related to my childhood with both parents not behaving theyd better be but, I dont take off responsibility ftom myself either since not all people with narcissistic parents do bad things. Thank you for your words I did learn from my mistakes well now only hope to better my health and have some peaceful life.
I like to think that we are more 'evolved' than narcs because of our empathy. Until very recently, I used to care a lot about what others thought of me. I also wished that people would realize the truth and stop associating with the narcs. Now, I've learned not to expect any good will from narcs and their associates. Instead, I try to avoid or distance myself from them, both physically and mentally. We deserve so much better...and we should be unafraid and unapologetic for being our best self.
“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves. Be ye therefore wise as serpents and harmless as doves. -Matthew 10:16. Don't worry, God is watching. Be patient and let God fight for you. Justice will be served.🙏❤️✝️
This is a truly inspiring way to encourage abused and devastated people
Thank you for your wisdom. You say it as it is. When I think of the abuse you endured It gives me hope. You are an amazing healer.
Forgive yourself and also forgive all the people that were fooled and tricked into turning on you. You did not know what to do and the people turned against you didn't either.
Not just zombies…demons.
This ^ . They are far worse than zombies, complete demons is what they are, especially malignant narcissists.
You get it!
The more videos like yours and others on the same topic the easier it is to interpret people who behave like this. If required to be around my mother, coworkers, etc the moment they begin talking I know anything coming out of their mouths is garbage. Watching others rolling their eyes or completely tuned out when a narcissist is talking makes me chuckle. I wish I knew about these people before. So much of my time wouldn't have been wasted interacting with them
Danish your amazing keep up the support for us all 🎉
When I met my now Ex I thought he was kind of dead inside bc his wife had left him out of the blue 4 y ago. His mind seemed frozen. Never seen a man like that. After 5 years I left the relationship as I had recognized that he IS dead and surely always was. Thats why his first wife got a stroke in her 20ths and his second wife left the golden cage and told friends she was afraid of him.
Fortunatly I was prepared having dealt with Ns my whole life.
I never showed him.my true thoughts, feelings, secrets, ignored his attempts to triangulate me with his exwife and the other stupid stuff for a while. I enjoyed the golden period which lasted 4 years. When devaluation started I left pretty quickly.
Imagine all empaths knowing narcissists and get with them only as long as the lovebombing lasts ... then quit 😂
Thank you Danish, your videos give me courage to think that I was’t wrong in the relationship. I did my best to hold on for 47 years but had to leave to be sane for the remaining life.
Peace to you Danish and everyone dealing with a narcissist in their lives. Let’s pray for our enemies but guard our own hearts at all times.
yes, you´re right - let the healing begin
Thanks!
Thanks. It gives courage...to move on..I suffered a lot for the past 10 yrs.....now I'm get separated and going to settled..
How are you not at a million sub. You are amongst my top three NArC recovery survivor. 1 Dr Ramani 2 You 3 Narcdically. You all have different styles but are all unique in your special way. I thank you all.
This is such a beautiful declaration of love to empaths❤ thank you so much. It filled my heart with thanks to your words an to these gifts that you see in us which I always considered as weakness. Now I feel a little bit proud und very, very thankful for beeing who I am. And as well I feel some kind of pity for my expartner because he's not able to feel and act as deep, kind and loving as I can. What a poor life full of posessions.
I'm grateful.
Thank you, Danish, for your wisdom and encouragement. God bless and preserve you always.❤🌷
just to care about myself only seems like it's so hard to do. I feel terrible trying to gain my own strength back and coming out of this abuse
Today is the one year anniversary of the discard day. The healing has been tangible.
Thank you for all you do, Danish. Your videos have helped me so much in recovering and in breaking my trauma bond with my narcissist ex. Any time I’m hurting or thinking I’m missing him, I watch your videos and feel grounded again. Thank you for making us feel heard, seen, and for helping us so much in our healing journeys.
Thank you !!!! You are helping a lot of people with your videos!
The difference is that I am not event trying. I am who I am. But they try so hard; being somebody is so important to them. You can really tell they are hurting if they are nobody. I want to be a nobody. I just exist, and life happens. And it's nice that way.
Danish Thank you for explaining this. I know my Toxic ex hated I had other people who showed genuine interest in me, my family and friends. I'm happy they were concerned for me, this is what helped me even more to get out of the controlling relationship I was in. They knew I wasn't myself. He didn't like that.
I really appreciate how you talk about survivors of narcissistic abuse. I just got out of a relationship with someone with what I suspect is BPD and/or NPD (and yes I know they’re different disorders but abuse is still abuse and the abuse is so similar). So many other videos stress that the partner must have codependency (which could be true) but it’s hard to hear over and over again that the only reason you even started dating them is because you’ve got issues. Especially when there were almost no red flags for 8 months.
You started dating them because you were lied to, that is not your fault. The narcissist recognized that you are a lovely person willing to give and they exploited that lovely gift. That is not codependency at all.
@@palalechatyou were targeted because of your goodness they wanted to leech off !
You are such a special person, dear Darnich. I saw your wonderful pictures on Facebook where you were just enjoying peace and beautiful scenery.
You wouldn’t know it’s me though because I’m not using my actual profile name or name.
God bless you.
From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Choosing and seeking truth and love. “Just passing through…..”
You are correct brother......My husband gets blank face when i give reply to his words with my moral values....But soon he just says something rubbish.....
It's so hard to believe that someone can be so evil. I struggle with this but I know 10 years of living with a narcissistic has changed me. I'll never marry again.
The Narcissist has, in fact; weaponized their emotions and reasoning to overpower other humans. As in all activity, bad or good... the fruit you determine exists, shaped by their voices, acts and deeds, shapes your path, in predictable ways.
God bless you for helping people who go through the darkness and destruction of narc abuse to find light and hope!
Danish you are absolutely right! I had no idea what I was dealing with!! I am so Thankful for watching your videos, Dr. Ramani and others. This has helped me so much!!
Thank you so much for this video! 👍💯🎯❤️
Thank you so much.These are the most beautiful words I have heard as a victim if narcissists.
Yahweh bless you, Danish!
Danish, this was SO encouraging. I am going to watch it over and over and over again.
P.S. You have a wonderfully soothing voice and a nice face - you don't need those little video clips interrupting your excellent content. Please keep on being your kind, compassionate, intelligent, helpful self.
thank you, Danish! I needed to hear this and you told is very eloguently🙏🏻
Thank you, thank you for these beautiful words... I really need them today... You are an angel 😇. Thanks for all this content you create, it is very very helpful for all off us ... Survivors ❤
❤ that is amazing Grace.🎉 Danidh have a blessed day spreading that kindness and love. Thank you😊
I know good wins versus evil and I stick to be good no matter what .
Very significant, heart touching Reading, Sir. At last, Thanks
When my father died my reaction was both sorrow and relief. Sadness for what should have been, relief for the release of trauma
Thank you so much Danish...actually you helped me to defeat the narcissist in my life 🙏🙏 ❤
Danish kudos to you for every word you have said is so enlightening and encouraging..
Yes,we do feel everything seems useless and wasted at times but believing that GOD has a purpose for this endurance....
Aww ty Danish i adore u i needed to hear this
Thank you for this!💯💫💫💫
Thank you Danish. Just thanks (:
💜Thank you!💜
@narcabusecoach Thank You so much for this video 🙏 It was amazing and really made me feel understood. To hear our good, kind, empathetic qualities praised was so lovely because sometimes those things do feel like a curse because they made us a target for narcissists.
Thank you for your very wise words Danish. ❤
Thank you Danish...you are appreciated
Very soothing vedio. Really healing begins after listening to this💕
Thanks. Pls post more videos like this ❤
Danish near all of them i was becoming one of them that is what i believe just to survive i wasnt myself ,that energy takes you not just in survive but in a fight mode
Thank you Danish.
Thanks D big respect.
Thank you Danish..this is a good one
Very good 📸 video once again and Thank-you for the expert knowledge of these empty, void people their end is never good for any of them.
Thank you......I needed to hear this........
Thank you Danish for this 1 post.
There are certain things u can achieve at a particular age and that age is gone..it's becz of my narc mother and brother I was a topper but they ruined me so much that I used to fail almost all exams.....my brother was so jealous that he used to say all those words that he was himself and my mother a blind follower of him....both were so cruel that they never left me alone they just kept on giving me hundreds of names for no reasons I cried in silence for more then five years without loosing a single day....I almost used to cry the whole day they were pleased with a smile on their faces on seeing me in that condition..... how can they do so I am 30 now and failed in achieving my goal.... they won I failed
This is what the reality is
*Much Respect
Thanks for the videos Danish!
Thank you. This is very helpful and encouraging. 😊
This is so good thank you.
You understand exactly how I feel 🎉Thank you for your work in this field
Thank you
You are so sharp. I admire you.
Thanks a lot you hit the nail on the wall.. OMG
Thanks so very much dear Danish, at this very moment i was needing this dose of yours
Thank you for speaking the truth!
Mr. Bashir is on point
Thank you, Danish. God bless you
Thank you Danish 😊 God bless you❤
Was in ldr and came for him. 26 hours in bus asking more and more guilt-tripping , always his friends around, who make yuu feel really if they don't like you.
I have no contact. Was so shady. He just uses people for money and being with him in private was so abusive.
I am in now in no contact. But afraid to meet new people and i isolate myself. He just wanted me to show of at his friends.
Really depressed😔
Very comforting words.
Your speech is good
Love this title! Smiled wide and said, I want to hear that. 😘…So didn’t like the the part about they will be alone. The survivor is often alone too in a predatory world where one must pay for everything. Some may be sad to know you died but are not close enough to know and too busy to help or care for you, especially if you don’t have mush to offer them more than you already have @Danish. 😢🤷🏾♀️
I struggle to see them as evil because I understand the trauma. But I don't like myself fall into the traps. I try my best to change their speaking language and correct them on how to address me with their 'issues'. It seems to defuse the situation well.
Thank you 😢
I watched this again today❤
You are my god❤ thank you
It's about the right not easy. And right comes with difficulties. That's exactly what I told my ex repeatedly and yet she surrendered to the other path.
It's like they can't help themselves with their mentality and behaviour approach towards everything and everyone in life.
Her past ways were all the same. Therefore the person has not changed for atleast the last 10 years or more.
The tricky part is that you’re also dealing with evil spirits when you’re dealing with a narcissist. And with evil spirits we can’t fight alone. That’s why we need to submit to God. The abuse can get really bad if you’re relying on your own strength.