I remembered my ex who told me a couple of times that his ex's were all terrible and always hurt him 😂 because I was too naive I believed him. Guess what.... I ended the relationship because he was too toxic and draining. Thanks God 😄
1. Love bombing 2. A guy that talks a lot about money. (Flaunting) 3. A guy willing to change himself to fit the mold you want him to be. (To be your dream guy) 4. When every single one of his exes he claims was crazy for one reason or another. 5. When your guy partner is overly focused on your looks. 6. Someone that always insists they are right. 7. A guy that is a dictator. (Presents as a take charge but is a little more pushy or by his rules, his ways) 8. He doesn’t share much about himself and dodges questions. (Not emotionally available) 9. Bad grammar on an online dating profile. 10. When friends and family aren’t a fan. Wow. These all hit home in one form or another. 😬
You also have to consider culture, in Latino/Italian culture it’s expected to be told many compliments, North American culture May mistake this as love bombing, when this is the way people interact.
On “they throw everything away” I’ve seen it from nice guys who don’t come on so strongly with it but all they do say about past relationships focuses on the faults of the other people, but never on what they learned or how they’ve grown since then. So maybe not every ex is crazy but they will casually discuss “my ex said such & such” so that didn’t last long. That may be true, but if you throw everything away you throw away the lesson too. I like people who can say I’m a different person now than when I went into that relationship and I wouldn’t choose that for me again.
I’ve been dating a sweet guy for about 3 years and it’s important to me that we serve at church and join a Bible study together so that we can grow in our faith together. While he wants to grow in his faith, he doesn’t want to commit to going every week, volunteering or going to study group every week. So when do we decide that we aren’t compatible?
I absolutely agree with the red flag for someone being willing to change too much about who they really are... in order to be with you. 🚩that’s not being authentic and true to yourself
I dated a narcissist off and on for seven years… During that time, I heard the same stories over and over about how ALL of his exes (and there were many) were crazy and in detail would tell me everything that They all did wrong. He never took ownership in any of his failed relationships🚩 He was obsessed with his own, looks, and constantly admired his own body! He nitpicked everything that I did. Nothing was ever good enough for him. He was always right and I was always wrong…….There was no compromising. If I didn’t do things his way or agree with him, he would always ask me if my mother dropped me on my head because I seemed stupid! I was an A student 🤨 After the putdowns came the verbal abuse, then the physical and financial abuse, then the discard And ghosting for several months, And then back to the hovering and Love bombing again He always played the victim card… Poor me. He wanted so much sympathy. He also stated All women are bad news 😮 And all of his exes and children wanted nothing to do with him. He had no family. He had no friends, except for me. The list goes on and on. Love listening to you guys. I agree with everything that you’ve been saying so far. Thank you for your insight 🙏🏻🥰
It just occurred to me that bad grammar may be due to him /her being a foreigner. Legally in the US and ok otherwise. Great lecture, informative and easy/fun to listen to. Thank you very much!
I went on a date with a guy who freely admitted, he would conform for a woman. Into someone, she would want him to be. I thought to myself…. Whoa, that’s not good. Immediate deal breaker. Yeah, never saw him again
Leave the cabinets all open is often ADD [ADHD]. I do that myself. There's seven or eight different types of ADHD... and only two of those types are treated with stimulants
Love your strategy videos.I dated a guy who literally slept every single time I visited him.I dated him for a year and 3 months.I left him soon after he decided too do that and more .He made feel as if I wasn't worthy to be his girlfriend. He disregarded the fact that I was there on weekends.He didn't even pay much attention o thefact that when he was in the area close to where I live he can Pop in for a visit.He didn't really appreciate the fact that I cook and clean up after him when I am there or would help his mother.He badmouth me all the time
@@kaoshi_kutie Jip I did.I immediately deleted and blocked him.I tried messaging me from other numbers and I blocked them too.I never want to have that done to me again.In fact I met someone in November last year,who is the perfect guy and gentleman.He ticks all my boxes.
What about a guy who stays friends with all his exes? He tells me that he reaches out to them to say “hi” and find out how they’re doing. Is that someone who wants to leave the door open to go back to any one of them if he feels like it isn’t going well in his current relationship?
I talked to a guy who was recently divorced for two weeks and the first video call he brought up his divorce and immediately wanted to jump into a serious relationship. Big smooth talker. Yeah never talked to him again.
Why do couples with opposite sex, jump into a romantic relationships first before being a friend for 5/10 years? I feel like if they got to know each other as friends for 2 or 5 years that would give him better idea if they should pursue a romantic or potential husband, or wife partner.
Third time I saw him, he was wearing a Sweater Vest. It was almost a deal- breaker, even though it was at church… but I cut slack b/c he had just moved here. If we end up together, could I quietly donate it to the Thrift?
I have a guy friend who still in touch with his ex~girlfriends, he (or they) celebrates birthdays together! They are still in touch on a regular basis, it bothers me! He said they broke up in good terms so it is fine to keep in touch….. I m the type of people I let the past stay in the past. I m Asian, he said it is about different cultures! Is it really a cultural thing? I need some advices!
I'm not Asian, and still I don't understand why someone wants to be in touch with their ex/s?.. If they have kids together, I can get it. Otherwise, it's big no-no-no.
You guys are being too sweet about family saying stuff about how are dating. My adult kids tell me my picker is off. You are right about asking your family about it, they can see things you don’t.
No i do mot want someone to bend over backward for me. That is not their true self. And i take it as a guy with no balls. No backbone to say that is not who i am
I remembered my ex who told me a couple of times that his ex's were all terrible and always hurt him 😂 because I was too naive I believed him. Guess what.... I ended the relationship because he was too toxic and draining. Thanks God 😄
1. Love bombing
2. A guy that talks a lot about money. (Flaunting)
3. A guy willing to change himself to fit the mold you want him to be. (To be your dream guy)
4. When every single one of his exes he claims was crazy for one reason or another.
5. When your guy partner is overly focused on your looks.
6. Someone that always insists they are right.
7. A guy that is a dictator. (Presents as a take charge but is a little more pushy or by his rules, his ways)
8. He doesn’t share much about himself and dodges questions. (Not emotionally available)
9. Bad grammar on an online dating profile.
10. When friends and family aren’t a fan.
Wow. These all hit home in one form or another. 😬
You also have to consider culture, in Latino/Italian culture it’s expected to be told many compliments, North American culture May mistake this as love bombing, when this is the way people interact.
On a first date, I had a man telling me the body fat ratio of his ex. No to a second date.
Honestly.....not the brightest button in the box was he?
he’s abscessed with weight… most of us die round of sure. So we don’t need the pressure
Great content, thank you guys for putting things into perspective.
Just found your program and love it! Fun bantering with humor and solid advice. 😊 I’m looking to get back in the dating game … with caution
On “they throw everything away” I’ve seen it from nice guys who don’t come on so strongly with it but all they do say about past relationships focuses on the faults of the other people, but never on what they learned or how they’ve grown since then. So maybe not every ex is crazy but they will casually discuss “my ex said such & such” so that didn’t last long.
That may be true, but if you throw everything away you throw away the lesson too. I like people who can say I’m a different person now than when I went into that relationship and I wouldn’t choose that for me again.
Love this channel. ❤
Great episode thank you❤
Thank you for helpful hints! I heard about guy on NPR collected pet rats like 15 running lose in his apartment.He said it turns most ladies OFF. Ugh!
NPR?
Very good advice! And I agree with all of these!
I’ve been dating a sweet guy for about 3 years and it’s important to me that we serve at church and join a Bible study together so that we can grow in our faith together. While he wants to grow in his faith, he doesn’t want to commit to going every week, volunteering or going to study group every week. So when do we decide that we aren’t compatible?
When you decide what you actually want and what you are willing to compromise on
When you stop being so controlling and bossy 😊
Love your videos! ♥️✨🙏🏻
I absolutely agree with the red flag for someone being willing to change too much about who they really are... in order to be with you. 🚩that’s not being authentic and true to yourself
Thank you and amen
I dated a narcissist off and on for seven years…
During that time, I heard the same stories over and over about how ALL of his exes (and there were many) were crazy and in detail would tell me everything that They all did wrong. He never took ownership in any of his failed relationships🚩
He was obsessed with his own, looks, and constantly admired his own body!
He nitpicked everything that I did.
Nothing was ever good enough for him.
He was always right and I was always wrong…….There was no compromising.
If I didn’t do things his way or agree with him, he would always ask me if my mother dropped me on my head because I seemed stupid! I was an A student 🤨
After the putdowns came the verbal abuse, then the physical and financial abuse, then the discard And ghosting for several months, And then back to the hovering and Love bombing again
He always played the victim card… Poor me. He wanted so much sympathy.
He also stated All women are bad news 😮
And all of his exes and children wanted nothing to do with him. He had no family.
He had no friends, except for me.
The list goes on and on.
Love listening to you guys. I agree with everything that you’ve been saying so far.
Thank you for your insight 🙏🏻🥰
It just occurred to me that bad grammar may be due to him /her being a foreigner. Legally in the US and ok otherwise.
Great lecture, informative and easy/fun to listen to. Thank you very much!
First comment. I hate people complimenting whether fake or not. 😢
Beige flags, sound like quirks. All of us have quirks
I went on a date with a guy who freely admitted, he would conform for a woman. Into someone, she would want him to be. I thought to myself…. Whoa, that’s not good. Immediate deal breaker. Yeah, never saw him again
He dumped you?
@@jccuchvjvj no, he dumped me. Was never in a relationship
No. No. No. it’s fake if they even THINK about changing FOR someone else!!
Leave the cabinets all open is often ADD [ADHD]. I do that myself. There's seven or eight different types of ADHD... and only two of those types are treated with stimulants
Love your strategy videos.I dated a guy who literally slept every single time I visited him.I dated him for a year and 3 months.I left him soon after he decided too do that and more .He made feel as if I wasn't worthy to be his girlfriend. He disregarded the fact that I was there on weekends.He didn't even pay much attention o thefact that when he was in the area close to where I live he can Pop in for a visit.He didn't really appreciate the fact that I cook and clean up after him when I am there or would help his mother.He badmouth me all the time
Hope you ended things for good!
@@kaoshi_kutie Jip I did.I immediately deleted and blocked him.I tried messaging me from other numbers and I blocked them too.I never want to have that done to me again.In fact I met someone in November last year,who is the perfect guy and gentleman.He ticks all my boxes.
From the videos ive watched you are doing way too much for him. You need someone who reciprocates your effort in the relationship.
Lesson learned.....hopefully. 😅
What about a guy who stays friends with all his exes? He tells me that he reaches out to them to say “hi” and find out how they’re doing. Is that someone who wants to leave the door open to go back to any one of them if he feels like it isn’t going well in his current relationship?
I would not date someone who gets in touch with his exes! That’s so immature way of handling past relationships and unfair to the current one!
Nope! That's a guy who just wants to keep his "options" open
I talked to a guy who was recently divorced for two weeks and the first video call he brought up his divorce and immediately wanted to jump into a serious relationship. Big smooth talker. Yeah never talked to him again.
Why do couples with opposite sex, jump into a romantic relationships first before being a friend for 5/10 years? I feel like if they got to know each other as friends for 2 or 5 years that would give him better idea if they should pursue a romantic or potential husband, or wife partner.
I’m assuming hoarding is a huge beige flag - RUN …..
Third time I saw him, he was wearing a Sweater Vest. It was almost a deal- breaker, even though it was at church… but I cut slack b/c he had just moved here. If we end up together, could I quietly donate it to the Thrift?
Avid reader of road signs.
PS- leaving cupboards open is a major symptom of ADD.
I have a guy friend who still in touch with his ex~girlfriends, he (or they) celebrates birthdays together! They are still in touch on a regular basis, it bothers me! He said they broke up in good terms so it is fine to keep in touch….. I m the type of people I let the past stay in the past. I m Asian, he said it is about different cultures! Is it really a cultural thing? I need some advices!
Sounds like he hoping they ask him to come back...why keep in touch still ?
Run and don't look back! He's keeping in touch with them as a backup. Run!
I'm not Asian, and still I don't understand why someone wants to be in touch with their ex/s?.. If they have kids together, I can get it. Otherwise, it's big no-no-no.
@@cryinadream I m Asian, but he is a French!
@@cathylam344 My point is it could be a personal choice, not something "cultural".
You guys are being too sweet about family saying stuff about how are dating. My adult kids tell me my picker is off. You are right about asking your family about it, they can see things you don’t.
Adam’s sniffing in every video is his beige flag but I will still take your advice.
I think 'poor' grammar is correct, not 'bad' grammar.
No i do mot want someone to bend over backward for me. That is not their true self. And i take it as a guy with no balls. No backbone to say that is not who i am