Coming out later in life is not selfish
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- Опубликовано: 7 ноя 2021
- Are you feeling guilty for connecting to your sexuality later in life and like those around you, family, friends and your spouse are all saying you are selfish? Or maybe you are afraid you will be seen as selfish and haven't told anyone yet about your sexuality? If so, this video is for you.
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I think of the people who kept us in the closet as being the selfish ones.
"just can't pretend anymore" that speaks volumes.
I've spent my whole life feeling like I was forcing relationship with men because of my family upbringing. I've never felt connected to or good enough when I had a relationship with a man. I'm 45 and divorced 5 years now and I have no desire for men anymore. I'm just beginning to accept that I'm attached to women. I'm comfortable with it but I've never dated a woman yet.
I came out to my adult kids when I was 63. Coming out is NOT selfish. Its the choice to live an authentic life and no longer to pretend to be someone I am not. When I was younger it was illegal to be gay. But my wife was totally accepting. We were married 51 years and she had MS for 26 years before she passed in 2022. Near the end I thanked her for accepting me as her gay husband and she said "Of course, That was easy. Why wouldn't I?" She was amazing. But I am now free to me the gay man I was born to be. That was medically proven in my case.
Good for you. Thank you for sharing this!
Wonderful segment. Hope to hear much more from you about your journey
Well Said! 💯
I'm a guy, great video! Loving the shirt and necklace, it looks cool!
Victimizers have their own issues sadly. When they blame us being selfish, they have their own shame surfacing, otherwise they would not care at all... and if it how they demonstrate their love for us, then its not worth it to keep them around... thanks for your video ☀
Thank you for sharing and YES!! 100%. Unfortunately women feel that they are meant to make everyone else happy and therefore this reaction can really stop their progress on this journey
My friends and relatives joked that I was gay before I even knew gay existed. I was raised in a cult environment. I was beaten up in school for befriending a girl who was out as gay. I asked her what the bullies were beating us up for and even after she told me, I thought it was whatever. Like what's the matter with being gay? I didn't even notice that I hid in the locker rooms so I'd not stare at girls and women. I just told myself I was shy. I didn't realize I had crushes equally on girls and boys. I was 35 when I had sex with a woman and I felt like I got hit with a bolt of lightning! But... I'm married to a very sweet man. My best friend. I had to tell him. When I did, he scooped me up and said that he loved me still and is alright if I loved women. I'm staying with him in a polyamorous relationship and I'm very content. It just happened when it did. I was never in denial, only mentally manipulated by cults
Thank you so much for this video. This absolutely described my situation. I just got divorced and things are starting to make sense to me
I am so glad. Feel free to check out my free guides on my website for women coming out later in life.
I want to come out but my family will reject me!!!
What is a lesbian curiosity coach?
I work with women in all stages of exploring their sexuality later in life, typically for those who have only been with men. It’s essentially for women who are curious and would like coaching and guidance to connect to their authentic sexuality.
@@samanthafoxLCC Thank you for your response. I am an ‘out’ married lesbian married to a lesbian who is also out. We are both originally from a country where many lesbians are unable to come out of the closet and end up with a very narrow social network. Many lesbians in that position find themselves traumatized and taken advantage of by women married to men who are simply seeking a different sexual experience with no intention of establishing any emotional or romantic connection. Such women often describe themselves as curious - for them it is not a search for authenticity, it’s simply exploitation of vulnerable lesbians. Thank you for clarifying your role and perspective. Cultural nuances are important.
I have heard this from many life long lesbians and in fact have been doing a lot of research on this topic, as so many life long lesbians are wary of newer lesbians and late in life lesbians. I hear many stories of women who feel toyed with and not treated with respect by women who are looking to find out if they are attracted to women, and women who don't tell the truth about their marital status. I use the word curious in my title because my coaching programs are based in women learning to question things and find curiosity in themselves instead of just going with what they have been told they must do (based on all of our systems of oppression).
Chicks who turn out other chicks!
Honestly I feel bad for the straight spouse because they feel they were lied to and betrayed. Imagine finding out your whole marriage was a fraud and the other person never loved you. You had kids with a person who never loved you anyway. Imagine being married and you find your marriage was based on deception.
Yep. What makes matters worse is that the other one is supposed to just “deal with it or get right used to it.” Happened to some guys out there. Heck it be on shows and shows the Husband/Dad Being a bit dimwitted and too goofy and let things slid. Happened to one friend who’s friend was a lesbian and womanizer who slept with his wife. She confessed she was lesbian even before their marriage. All I know is he had to leave Now before he end up hurting someone.