We made a video on SIGNS you're not a bad person, it's your trauma. Did you get a chance to watch it? ruclips.net/video/L19rogwrnm0/видео.html We would love to know your thoughts on more content like the above and if it's helpful.
I liked that video, and yes you shouldn’t judge yourself too harshly for what you do as a response to trauma, self love and forgiveness is important, but you are still accountable for what you do. I think you should have made that clear too. Great video though.
If someone were to look just a week into the future, they'd be surprised by the impact their "small" words have on someone. Remember that people. Be kind.
Even sometimes emotional abuse can be way more worse than physical abuse. Nobody should compare their traumas and all, everyone's feelings are valid. Abuse is abuse no matter which way it is.
Just because there's no physical signs of the abuse, doesn't mean that it doesn't leave a lasting impression on you. You all are stronger than you realise.
Yes, very well said. It seems like my mom and me have both kind of acknowledged that my younger sister has been doing this to me but it’s difficult to pull out of the situation (financial I can’t put distance between us).
My mom would always say that no one can see injuries on me but they can on her. I would grab her wrists in self defense. She bruises easily so any small thing lasts on her. Back then, I didn't even know something was wrong with my life. I eventually talked to friends about it who said that what I was going through was very obvious. One said that she noticed but didn't think she had the right to say anything. Another, who I didn't talk to for years, said that my mom treated me pretty bad and predicted that something drastic would happen to me eventually. I was surprised at how noticeable my treatment was.
I do agree with this. BUT, Being neglected and abused by the people we love is hard to accept. We all are strong. I've never been emotionally or psychically abused, But I do know it could lead to trauma, self-hate, and thoughts of suicide. I have a friend who is experiencing this, and I have great trouble understanding what he's saying. Very well said, but just a few simple words could hurt someone's emotional branch. Words can hurt badly.
Literally the entirety of my childhood, it’s amazing how the parents who abuse in this way don’t actually think that they’re doing anything wrong. Even though i’m in my mid-twenties and have a lot of issues now, my parents still act like they raised me well and that they never did anything wrong.
Im 19 and starting to realise im experiencing however due to my dads upbringing and geniune love for me and my siblings im hoping he break the habit of treating his kids like this
Yea, when my dad used to hit me, it was just a Tuesday for him. But for me it was a brain breaking experience... It's the worst when narcissistic parents grow old and feeble, because now the wolves literally turn into sheep and that messes with our reality and personal experience. Now we are supposed to feel sorry for them... and how dare we bring up uncomfortable issues like past abuse.
I cried during the entire video in deep sadness from the clarity provided, the recognition and as well I felt very grateful for it. I cried for the children who are now adults, I’m aware of who have suffered from it and who are now suffering from it and and for the children currently suffering in it. And then … I cried out to Omnipresent, Omnipotent Creator, Great Spirit, God “please use me, my eyes that see, my ears that hear, my heart that loves to help these children as guided. Please assist me in thwarting the auto-fear that arises before I know it which sometimes hinders me from stepping up as I know in my mind it was a survival tactic from years long ago and I am no longer in need of it. Please use me Lord and remind me my courage is not manifested in simply being a human yet is born of my own long and ongoing journey of healing and through trusting as a sentient being, as a spiritual being, a child of your connecting universe that I am empowered to make a positive difference in service - may my intuition lead me, may your voice be far greater than my own and may I follow your will Lord over any “I don’t feel I can” - be it my own words or those spoken over me as a child/adolescent, any that comes up in my head, my fear memory, or is spoken to me today in an attempt to stop me. I am so beyond grateful Lord you have stuck by me, waited for me to ask, saw me falter and recede, welcomed my return to me being me, and encouraging me to recognize the blessing of those who have helped me, given me the tools to use well so that I may proceed in living the gift, the divinity of purpose I am led to follow and take on. May my actions be THROUGH your Love, your Will and not solely, merely upon my own. In trust of all-encompassing Divine Love I am free to trust myself and help these children know they ARE beautiful, worthy, and beloved. And may I become an example in the time remaining for me, of breaking the chains that bind us historically and today. May the Blessings BE. In gratitude, Amen”
IT IS.... AND I DEEPLY CONSIDER PEOPLE. FOR MY PSYCHIC ABILITIES.... PEOPLE DON'T DESERVE THAT.... or don't need that.... they deserve every day well in matter. in the case in words it is... IT REALLY REALLY DOES. IN A MATTER OF TIME.... IT REALLY IS...🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬😔😔😔😔
As a toddler, I was neglected, and am still being emotionally abused. I love that people are recognising that emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical.
@@Anonymous-lq2bs Toddlers still remember things, and even if those memories were pushed down (like with me), as much as I can remember I now know it wasn’t good. The mental scarring & habits that stem from abuse become apparent as you get older, either to yourself, other people, or both. /lh
My condolences. That must have been tough, especially when you were too young to realise what was happening. I hope that you're in a happier stage of your life now.
I was abused mentally for five years, mostly over the phone. That kind of abuse is real, and leaves all sorts of scars, and it is VALID. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise
Hey, just wanted to say I can relate with you.. as I also went through mental and emotional abuse through phone last two years.. I know how hard it is as even after an year I am still going through the trauma everyday.. I hope you are doing amazing now and are well.. 💜
I mean, yes your behaviours and the logical things that happenned are valid. But it isn't okay or valid in the sense of greatness, to produce all sort of scars and to disrespect yourself. And others are valid aswell by telling you otherwise
I agree. When you/others tell friends or family that they have something like emotional abuse. Most friends and family will be like "get over it". But that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.
I have been verbally and emotionally abused for over 10 years, by the same person. They have completely brainwashed me and have taken control of my life to this day. I have really just now been understanding what has happened to me over these years, and I watch videos like to see if I’m overreacting. I am very sorry to all of you who are watching this video and realizing that you relate to these 6 signs. I hope that one day you will be free.
#1 withdrawal #2 low self esteem and worthlessness #3 changes in appetite or weight #4 frequent crying or angry burst #5 blaming themselves for things #6 fears law enforcement officers
Let's hope that, whosoever this gangrenous ulcer may be; the one who is robbing you of a joyous life, that he will never find peace nor ever live his life happily ♡
This was very helpful. The physical branch of your body is extremely important. Abuse and neglect needs to stop. I don't understand why people get away with this. Being abused and neglected could lead to self-hate and suicide. It can permanently damage someones social, mental, and emotional branches. Thank you for recognizing this. All of this needs to stop.
@@superabi5214 I agree. But we can't predict the future. It will just get more and more violent if we don't do something. I assure you that there will be a time where we all have to flee from our homes because of war and violence.
@@superabi5214 Nope. EVIL people hurt people. I've been hurt and abused all my life and I still go out of my way to be kind to others. Stop letting these abusive, emotionally retarded demons off the hook!!
Felt this happening to me for almost an entire year. It wasn't until I got in tune with who I was, what I went through, constantly reminding myself that everything will work it self out, and getting a therapist, that I was able to slowly get back up and be happy again. Life goes on. Just need to remember to love yourself when it feels like no one else does. You got this Kings and Queens! Stay strong!
I've been starting to apricate these videos more and more as I start the healing process. Sometimes they deliver a cold truth that makes me feel uncomfortable at times. At this stage I am tired of running, and now I'm facing what I've kept berried for so long. I feel like these videos supply a constructive way to face, and later make peace with my problems. This one really hit home as I've started to face the fact that my parents were abusive. Since it was rarely physical I felt I wasn't worthy of saying I had an awful childhood. However even here I am finding validation for my pain. I want to thank you for making these videos, not only for new insight, but a solution to fight the inner demons.
To further validate it if I can; physical and mental related abuse have different, but similar effects at the same time. They're similar in the ways of PTSD, anxiety, social isolation, lashing out, uncontrolled emotions, impulsiveness, and sometimes lack of self worth (I feel like I'm listing medicine side effects jesus christ) Both are equally serious and there is absolutely no reason to ignore or insult your own child to the point it effects their mental health. You seem to have a really healthy way of facing this, and I'm proud of you for that! :)
@@firebuggg7383 It wasn't easy, had to tear down a pretty thick wall to get here first. Then have a few fantastic friends convince me not to build another. Only problem I'm starting to run into, is if I'm too open. Then again I am also finding as I get older, Open and Honest communication can go A Long way.
Unfortunately enough, I relate to every single one. Even more unfortunately, I can't really do anything about it for two main reasons: 1) The abuse comes from the family and I can't get my own even rental apartment yet 2) There's no good mental health specialists in my area and going out of town to meet a good one is not affordable So yeah... I guess I'll try to hang in there for now. Edit: Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and understanding but there are some things I need to clarify. 1) I am an ex-student, volunterely dropped out of college after 4 years (that was about 2 years ago as of editing this comment), currently working 2) I am not from US, or Europe, so some of the options mentioned in the comments are simply unavailable to me. I hope that those who can use them do so without any trouble Thanks for reaching out and sharing your experiences. I hope that you have a great day, and a wonderful future ahead, free of problems of today. We will make it!
Just talking to people helps, even if it's not a therapist. It allows for self reflection and acceptance, and I'd recommend talking to a close friend that you can trust for an hour or so every week about it :)
It's worth looking into Berea College, in Berea, Kentucky... Check up on scholastic requirements, letters of recommendation, and trying to get in for the ACT/SAT... and the like. You seem like about mid-high school age, if I had to guess, but the thing is childhood IS temporary... AND there are lots of ways to move up from High School to University/College, and get a career and all that... Berea College seeks out high school grad's who need help, specifically. They have guidance for filling out all the paperwork, and function in a "Federal Work-Study Program" where you work for the College a couple hours a day, and they help fund your education through to a full diploma. Many students graduate Berea without a dime in student debt... Post-grad' studies are a different picture, of course, and not every student manages to squeak through without investment... BUT even those who don't are surprisingly LIGHT on the stuff... Every class numbers 1500 students, by design... AND you get your own laptop(s) assigned at the beginning of freshman (1st) year. It's not an easy school, but then no proper college is going to be easy... Here's the thing... IF you plead your case to a counselor, they will help you with the FAFSA (Federal Student Aid applications) and how to apply such that you can completely separate yourself from the family, and TAKE control of your life. There are mental health advocates and professionals available, too. AND you can LIVE in the dormatories on campus, pretty much year around if that's your choice. It WILL BE YOUR CHOICE... Now, I don't know you. I don't have any idea how you "stack up" as a student... BUT this is a start, with a solid chance to get the hell out of a bad situation if you need. They aren't the only school in all of North America that advocates for their students, provides help with federal forms and functions on the work-study programs... They ARE a starting point for your research, though. ...AND especially if you are in high school right now, you NEED to be thinking ahead. I know that's hard when vision is blurred with the struggles of dealing day-to-day, especially with abuse (regardless of type) and everything else crashing in as it were... BUT it's worth the investment to your future to start doing research and planning ahead now, so you can make moves OF YOUR OWN when the time comes... It's how my brother got out... He is arguably smarter than me. I joined the Navy rather than face the imminent probability of prison time for murdering my father... I traveled the world, fought in countries that don't even exist anymore, and found a whole new kind and level of trauma (physical AND psychological) that I hadn't dealt with before... I don't regret it, but it's not easy either... I mention it here, because it's ALSO a way "out". It worked for me. It's not necessarily the "best" or "brightest" way, but it was a fair trade. ;o)
Throughout my entire childhood I have experienced emotional abuse. I have been belittled for my feelings, been blamed for things I didn’t do. Had to mature at an early age in order to keep the environment better for the angered party. And had to suppress my true self. When I was younger I acted “weirder” then my parent wanted me to be. They always called me names and blamed me for mistakes that were out of my control. Now when I bump into a wall I apologize to it. I was treated like I wasn’t a good enough child for them. I felt like that impacted how I made friends and relationships later on in my life, deeply….
Today’s episode on; I don’t understand myself mentally! Have I been traumatized? Have I been emotionally abused or neglected? Are these just hormones? Do I have depression? Or are all of these symptoms stemming from my bipolar depression/bipolar disorder mood swings?
This actually made me cry, because these actually happened to me. It’s been my elder brother and my stepdad. They would tell my sister and I that we don’t make sense or something that hurts our emotions. I know where I went wrong of being a sister, and I want to help my sister. When I have an emotional break down at school, I feel like some people see me as an “attention seeker”. Since I’ll be in 8th grade, I feel even more terrified. The fact that I don’t know who will be in my class terrifies me. I try not to cry in school because I don’t want to feel like the attention seeker, and I don’t even want everyone crowding me just to comfort me. So thank you for posting this video, it helped me a lot. ^w^
Sometimes I feel that way too when I'm having a rough time. A lot of days in school I would just feel so weighed down and numb. It was really hard to participate in conversations like usual, and people would notice and ask if I was okay. I've found that most of the time the people who ask if you're okay are the ones who care about you. I went and found the exact thing I said to one of my friends (online): "I feel like when I say stuff like that it has to make you guys feel like I'm fishing for sympathy or something" and they said "I feel like that too- but it doesn’t feel like you want attention. We know you aren’t attention seeking" everyone has bad days and the vast majority of people probably know that you're not attention seeking even if they don't know you because we all go through similar things.
@@Tufflewithyourballs183 Thank you, thank you so much. You don’t even know how happy I feel just by reading your reply to my comment. You made my day better! 🥹
I do a lot of these things and I've been torn between whether my parents are abusive or if it's just me making stuff up and overreacting in situations, but when the video was talking about how abusers will try to scare the victim into being afraid of authorities I realized both my parents have done that for years. With not only scaring me of police and CPS, but also scaring me of strangers and causing me not to trust close family. I think my parents are abusive my next steps are to figure out how to get out of my situation. My parents being abusive explains a lot of how I act and how much I struggle.
Reminder that this is different for EVERYONE. These are the most *common* symptoms, but I was emotionally, mentally, and physically abused and I show my symptoms differently. Emotional outbursts is the main one, but others may do the exact opposite: supress their emotions. Fear of being wrong is one I have, and many others as well. Not a fear, but that's the closest explanation word for it. Like being uncomfortable after being told you were wrong. Different mental illnesses can result in different reactions, as my differences were likely caused by my ADHD. This kind of abuse is serious, and don't let anyone tell you it isn't. Verbal abuse is shit. Getting past the horrible thoughts after is one of the worst times. If anyone needs to vent, feel free to in my replies, but clarify if it's an "advice" vent or a "I just need to get it off my chest" vent, because both are valid. I genuinely hope anyone reading this has a good day :)
The fear of being wrong oh my god I thought I was the only one! For me it's also bad when someone tells me to stop doing something. I remember when I was in rtc and we went to the music studio to listen to music and sing as therapy and I was showing my friend a cover of a song on RUclips and the mentor walked in, shook his head at me and said "no videos", and when I went back to the house and cried about it. It felt so stupid at the time but now it makes sense.
I can relate to the same level. I was gaslighted, emotionally abused, and physically and emotionally neglected as a child for a decade by two narcissists, both of whom are alcoholics, and one of whom has untreated mental health issues. I had to suppress pretty much all of my emotions whenever I was with my abusers (my father and stepmother), and was taking care of myself since I was five. While I don't have the fear of being wrong, like you, I have a phobia of vulnerability, and severe trust issues. Something I also don't tell anyone is that I have really bad back/neck pain and headaches despite never being physically touched. This was something my abusers did, and it was intimidate me, for lack of a better word. They did it to such a point that I was scared that they were going hurt/kill me when I was eleven. What makes emotional abuse so dangerous is the fact that it's next to impossible to spot, and even harder to prove. I'm sorry to hear that you went through what you did, but know that you're not alone.
The being wrong one... I relate to it so much and so many other symptoms of emotional abuse/neglect, but I'm struggling to understand why, yknow? Like, I can't ever remember really being emotionally abused, maybe neglected, but still.
ok thank you, idk if im being emotionally neglected or abused, but i feel so uncomfortable,angry and awkward after i have been told i was wrong.especially from certain ppl (mainly family) . my mum always tells me im lazy,thick/dumb, self centered and selfish and i dont like it,she says i waste my time all day and do nothing but its because i dont WANT to do anything anymore. and she always used to compare to my best friend and recently told her to stop because i didnt like it-she thought it would "keep me going" ????????????? And i think my mum underestimates my abilities which i find annoying because i feel like i have to PROVE to her how clever i am at schoolor woteva coz she just ignores me, and whenever i got test results bak or smt she always asked for my best friend's and didnt have a reaction or reply to my score -_-, my mum never spends time with me and just puts her work or other priorities first. and like other ppl are saying im scared of people being mad or disappointed in me
@@goosegoose632 I'd cry as well if I was told that! Do you also have a fear of others being mad at/disappointed in you? I break down when anyone is repremanding me or seems mad. My fear of being wrong gets to the point I'll delete my comment/reply on something if I state a fact that I'm not 100% sure about -^-
I’ve been neglected from food and drink for a while at my fathers house (my parents are divorced) and was also mentally abused. A lot of things happened in my life like sexual assault, harassment, bullying, etc. my dad would always blame his problems on me and my siblings and he would make us feel bad to do things for him. He said that I deserved everything that happened to me and I had really low self esteem. He made me feel honestly really worthless and helpless throughout the years. He used to make me work in the summer outside with no shade from 12-23:30. He made me pay for all of his food and we didn’t get any food in return. He didn’t pay us at all, except for our brother. He’s the only biological sibling. He often shamed me for being gay and trans and even more often took me and my sister to church to both fix his marriage, and to pray that me and my sister would end up being women with a nice man. My sister is also a lesbian. I haven’t visited him in a while and I don’t really want to. He forced a lot of things on me and my sister. Not my brother simply because he’s a cis man. It got bad to where I tried to commit suicide a couple times. I was also self harming which also got me in a mental facility. Every time he would call and say “just act happy and you’ll get out soon” and more creepy things like “I’ve been sleeping in your bed for the past week”. He would throw my medicine down the sink and force me to give him all that I had. He hurt our mother too, more than he hurt us, but that is not my story to tell. I hope you all stay safe ❤️ Edited to say that I have all the signs in the video
If you have any thoughts of self harm still, I'd recommend always having a hairtie on you and snapping it on your wrist, because the pain is there, but it doesn't last as long and is a good transition to finding better coping mechanisms that may work for you
@@firebuggg7383 thank you. I do have a few coping mechanisms like drawing on myself with red to imitate bleeding without actually, you know, bleeding. Thank you so much for the suggestion.
@@Saaikha No problem! I'd suggest to not snap it too hard because it'll leave small welts and likely attract attention, but it's a really good transition mechanism Drawing with red also is a good one! If you want the full visual of cuts, food dye on the hairtie maybe, but that's kind of messy and hard to clean off Plus snapping a hairtie on your wrist is something you could do in public without attracting much attention :) I've never tried this mechanism as have enver self harmed, but I've heard it's helpful!
@@Saaikha thank god your alright, I feel so terrible for you, hopefully your dad is either far away from you and your siblings, or dead, just keep moving forward, and don’t give up, no matter the cost
I’ve had a rough life but since 16 I ran away from my parents due to neglect and homelessness. I am in college now and I ended up homeless on my own again due to mental health reasons, and got caught in domestic violence for another 6 months after escaping a traumatic childhood. Life is a battle everyday for me, but I am seeing a therapist and I hope things get better. I’ve cried everyday being here and it gets worse and worse, abuse never gets better it eats u alive.
Check out Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani on the subject of narcissism. Please keep watching videos and writing and reading comments. You will learn so much. You can cure yourself in about a year. It's not ready but so worth it for the rest of your life yet to come. Good luck 💙💕👍❤️😁👍👍
“Victims of emotional abuse can experience more severe psychological reactions. A victim may feel their emotions are affected to such an extent that he or she no longer recognizes their own true feelings related to issues or situations the abuser is trying to control. As a result, the victim’s self-concept, confidence, and independence are systematically broken down.” - Barrie Davenport
I was told that adhd doesn’t exist, but in the same breath they said that I can control it. How can I control something that “doesn’t exist”? I’m not allowed to take medicine for it. It is frustrating.
People has always tried to change me/withdraw me. I’ve been saying those phrases a lot because I feel worthless and hated. Everyone is unique in their own way but for me people has judged me for being that way. Edit: I do have this problem and now I know because i watched this Ty.
I love how everyone is sharing their stories in the comments. I can’t help but notice how broken everyone feels...I’m so sorry you’re going through. I relate to 2 out of 6 of the signs. I hope you guys get better soon :(
Relationships freak me out, many times things was blamed on me for sharing my concerns and needs. I really felt this video overall. I continue to strive with boundaries and letting go when I see things aren’t possible
I’ve been emotionally abused by others as a community as a kid. My elementary school was messed up and didn’t like how pushy or annoying I was and didn’t like that I had autism. I ended up thinking I was stupid and mean and a total attention seeker so I had an adverse reaction and started being overly giving to everyone but myself. I degraded myself and abused myself, told myself I was a monster. I thought something was totally wrong with me and I had a mental illness. I couldn’t keep people around me due to my issues with myself and it didn’t help. Eventually I decided I had enough of my abuse and stood up against my ego. Now I am healing.
Hey I want to thank you for this video. A few months ago I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship that went on for 5 years. Thankfully I have a few good friends that helped me realize what was wrong and let me lean on them emotionally to help end it. It has taken a bit and I'm still dealing with emotional scars and trauma but now I'm feeling a lot better and I even have a new GF who actually cares and treats me right emotionally as strange a feeling as that is now. I thank you because this video would have been my wake-up call if I didn't have those friends to help.
I've experienced a lot of these symptoms after being emotionally abused by a close friend of mine. One sign I'd probably add to this though is the fear of making mistakes. That's what started the emotional abuse. I was emotionally compromised one day due to some terrible events happening in the family, and I said some things I shouldn't have. Yes, I was definitely in the wrong, and I tried to apologize and work towards fixing what I did. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough. They kept giving me prolonged silent treatments (months), and they started to exclude me from meetings with our friends. Eventually it ended up being another friend telling me things like: "You realize you're the reason they never want you around, right?" and "It's because of you that plans I had for our friend group are ruined." Still, I admit that I was in the wrong for everything that happened. My last meeting with this friend was a few weeks ago. They were willing to talk, but only if a "moderator" was watching, yet the moderator only took her side the entire time. During that time they shamed me, yelled at me, and kept insisting they were a bigger victim, and acted like all my life experiences would never be considered as bad as theirs. Then they made a proposition: either we end the friendship, or if I want to try to mend the friendship, I'd have to submit and consent to a load of emotional abuse. These included: being given the silent treatment whenever they felt like it, making me change my views and beliefs, hating myself, etc. Their words: "Sometimes you have to suffer to do what's right." This is why I'm afraid to make mistakes. Sometimes mistakes are never forgiven, and I don't want to be emotionally abused for them either.
For normal ppl mistakes fade in time and are forgiven. Try to watch many videos on RUclips. Narcissism may be a subject for you idk though. Just throwing it out there. Keep your head up, it gets better with she and how she regulates your emotions more. School years are very very hard. Hang in there cuz it does get better in time. 😁💕💙😊❤️💕👍👍
I can relate to this because I’ve had traumatic experiences when I was growing up and it was difficult for me to cope through the loss of my grandmother and being emotionally neglected
Lately, this channel has been bringing so many issues to the surface. It makes me think of how damaged I am, how much parents can suck, and my resentment towards them is reinforced
This is facts; I experienced all of this when growing up with my Narcissistic mother. I had no idea.... I've learned so much over the years. This has helped reaffirm this. Thank you for making this ❤
Those cartoons illustrate the problem in a way that makes you feel sorry for people with that problem. Ive seen bullies at school where i could tell their parents were bullies.
Growing up in an emotionally neglectful and abusive home has had lasting effects and has damaged my adult life. I wonder if I’ll ever feel normal or confident in myself.
Check out videos on narcissism. It might help. Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are good. Good luck. It takes time but you can cure yourself. I did but you have to stay at it for about a year 💕😁💕👍💙😊
Thank you so much for giving a voice for people like me who suffered in silence for many many years to the point I was suicidal and inflicted self-harm and almost lost and damaged my life to suicide attempt 💔💔💔. I can relate to all the signs mentioned about emotional neglect and abuse. I really don't know how else to express my appreciation and gratitude that this RUclips channel is doing advocating and raising awareness on mental health related issues🙏🙏🙏. People often underestimate the importance of mental health/mental illness. They don't acknowledge and validate that mental and emotional wellbeing is so important for a person to live a happy peaceful life. It feels really lonely isolating and suffocating to not have anyone who truly understands what people like me are going through. I find peace and contentment in my faith that God (Allah) is always there for me and He will help me to get through this life no matter how hard it gets. Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🥺🥺🥺
I survived ten years of this as a child. Have back/neck pain, headaches, and (what can only be described as) an inhuman amount of hidden anger. I'm only a teenager right now. I should be feeling young and free--not like I'm 80!!
Ten years later… I’m still exhibiting many of these symptoms. And yet, I’m considered to be getting better/not letting things go by my therapist/family.
I stopped doing a thing I used to enjoy for almost 20 years because a teacher told me I wasn't good enough at it. I wish I never listened to the teacher.
Yup. Some of these definitely resonated. I had to cut out my parents because they put me through emotional abuse. I'm an independent 27 year old and they don't like that, so when i lived with them, they did everything to belittle me such as locking me outside, yelling at me, gaslighting me into thinking im effed up, not giving me proper nutrition, and the list goes on. Since I've moved out, im slowly getting better, but i do experience some of this.
My parents were verbally abusive. I was told that I would never amount to anything, that they were ashamed to let people know I was their daughter and then turn around and buy me nice things as a means of "apologizing"
i’ve been in foster care since i was 5 (16 now) and i’ve experienced all kinds of abuse, emotional abuse has been the worst for me to handle, the most painful. thanks for this video i sometimes think i’m just being dramatic
I've been emotionally abused by my family for a while now. It did cause me to get so many mental health problems. They always blame me for things that are super small. They always say it's my fault. I keep taking their criticism, and then blame myself when future problems come. I keep sitting in my room alone, not talking to anybody. I also often hurt myself because of what I'm going through, and ask myself "what's the point". My parents feel like they're raising me right, but i feel hurt
I was always saying I'm sorry to everyone. So glad that the monster of a husband I had for 40 years is gone. I am still struggling with low self esteem but getting stronger
Do you know about narcissism. Mb that's what your husband had? If so Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are good videos to check out. Good luck and lots of love 💙💕👍😁❤️👍👍
I did not even know about the last one. I have been constantly told not to ask help from anyone, whether a law officer or even friends. And I do realize how much I have internalised it. And the worst part is that, I don't think I myself will ever feel comfortable enough to ask for help from anyone.
My mom has made me always the bad guy when i do nothing wrong, invalidates how i feel, makes fun of me, expresses she is jealous of me, and has made me feel crazy by saying what i know to be correct is incorrect, its been like this my whole life and i still have to deal with it till i move out in a few years, this is real, our pain is real, dont shrug us off, we need validation and comfort
I'm surprised how much this video has helped me. I'm already aware that I have a abusive relationship with my mother, but this video made me realize where some of my issues come from (I'm underaged so there's not much I can do about my relationship) I withdrawal from people often because I'm afraid of being judged, yet when I do I feel lonely. and I've never considered that fear of being myself around people coming from my abuse. I've also have had many many outbursts of anger and sadness recently, and warning sign 4 felt far too close to home as this happens all the time and sometimes I even feel like my feelings are irrational due to these outbursts.
Inside my head I get verbal abused and I’m so close of taking my own life from it. And I have schizophrenia. I get called ugly and useless and dirty. I get bullied every time I speak or do something they don’t like inside my head
I often forget just how many people go through the very same thing that I go through everyday. The part about apologizing to inanimate objects really struck home. It made me realize just how often I do that during the day and how many times I apologize for every little perceived wrong I do even if no one else is here. It made me cry but at least this video reminded me I'm not alone. I think sometimes we feel so alone and isolated. 💔😥
I've been through every abuse you can even think of in my lifetime. All the years and years of abuse changed me as a person. I've been through abuse almost my whole entire life. I carry those abusive scars all the time and I realized that those scars don't go away.
From your shirt comment it sounds like you grew up with abusive parts or parent. Narcissism is a good topic to check out. Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are good. Good luck 😊👍💕😁👍❤️
@@jerirasulo9543 I have an excellent doctor and counselor. I have complex-ptsd major depression and anxiety and ocd. I have to take my medications every day and every night for the rest of my life. The fight and struggle is real.
@@kimberlydavis5034 I'm so glad you have the diagnosis and med situation sorted out! Bc that can be v difficult with some therapists who don't understand situations in depth. I tried for years to get help. They tried, but it didn't help bc the problem was my mother and all the while I thought it was me. (She's a covert, malignant narcissist.) Thanks for writing back, it really makes me happy to know you are on a journey of healing! 👍It's hard, but so worth it in my case 😁. If your life has been touched by a narcissist (they're everywhere lol) Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are two doctors on RUclips that I like and have helped. Good luck, sending love and best wishes from Hawaii 🌴💕👍😀
@@jerirasulo9543 Thank you so much for your kind words and your understanding. I've had to deal with more than one narcissist and it drains you tremendously in an unhealthy way. Believe me I completely understand more than you know.
I am neglected constantly by my family which is why I stopped doing the things I loved. Everyday when I'm with people I pretend to be this friendly kid but when I'm finally alone I let my emotions out. They all think of me as the person with no feelings. I was abused emotionally before and it causes me to have trauma. I still have flashbacks to this day😱
Just had a fight with my mom before finding this video in my recommendations. I understand that she's depressed over losing a leg to diabetes and stuck in a wheelchair for life but she has no right to take it out on me. This video was helpful BTW
I truly relate to all these. No one seems to understand, especially not my parents. I try to tell them that what they do hurts me but they don’t listen.
Last year I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I couldn’t eat anything. This video really made me realise how bad it was for me. I relate to this video. Thank you @Psych2Go! X
Oh man, I didn’t even realize that police thing was commonly used tactic. I remember my mom would threaten to call the police. And she would always make it seem like that they’re going to side with her. So if she has to call the police, it’s gonna be bad for me. And that made me nervous and scared because I’m just a kid. I don’t want the police called on me. That’s scary.
Emotional abuse is when you’re emotions are manipulated so you are dependent on the manipulator. Mental abuse is when someone messes with your reality, like gaslighting.
I was physically and emotionally abused by BOTH of my parents since preschool. 24 years later, I still am. But every family member and relative always and constantly berates me, while telling me my parents did everything for me. Even my brother thinks I'm a lazy spoiled brat when I'm really just extremely depressed most of the time and anxious every time I go out and enter the house. I've been threatened of being disowned repeatedly growing up (earliest preschool) just for standing up for myself and my beliefs. I was beaten black and blue with large, steel, clothes hangers until it split into two. With everything they put me through, I'm amazed they always just blamed me for being messed up when they made me like this.
I am disabled and have to live with my parents, which feels like being trapped. I don't feel that my parents abuse me, but my aging father keeps becoming more and more self-focused to the point of doing things that hurt me without having contact. He has emotional problems that he has lived through and never closed when trying counseling, so there is no hope of things getting better. That has added into my tendency of depression and other mental problems from having brain surgery, so 4 out of 6 of these apply to me. I am legally and financially incapable of moving out to live on my own, though, so nothing can change.
I can't get any of that for myself. I was ruled as incompetent to handle any financial or legal matters, so my mother is my extremely conservative and protective guardian who doesn't want me to live my own life if she doesn't agree with something.
Hello , I can feel how hard it must be for you ,sending you lots of love virtually ❤❤ if you cannot move out just try setting boundaries at home ,you can have a separate room for yourself and you can do things which you think are good for your mental health without caring about others around you 🤍🤍🤍🤍
For the longest time, I’ve always wondered why I was afraid of the police. I never had a bad encounter and yes, my abusers made sure to make me feel horrible if I tried to call the police. So honestly, I brushed it aside but as I aged, the extreme fear never went away. Every time im near a cop, I get so anxious that I tend to run away. Honestly, this makes sense since I was emotionally and psychologically abused.
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I was in a emotional abusive relationship for 2 years. Took me over 6 years to be in a relationship again and my current boyfriend is amazing!!! He's so comforting and makes me feel safe, whenever I have a break down he's always there to give me a hug and let me cry it out. He's so understanding and I can't be more happy with him💖
I've been abused emotionally by my family and my last relationship to the point where Ive withdrawn all social activities minus work and seeing my brother for his kids. When I try to game I just feel I'm wasting my time and shouldn't enjoy myself or have fun. The last two days at work at the pharmacy I can't make eye contact I barely can talk and a complete anxiety overload being around ppl. I don't trust ppl to talk to them since they use it against you. I don't have friends or family I talk to. I'm all alone with God trying to get by day by day.
Damn. These videos are really helping me learn to understand myself. I need to have a long conversation with my dad to make sure this doesnt happen to my siblings
Yeah, i just woke up and immediately touched my phone then i scrolled then found this which is very relatable, can't believe that this is very accurate.
I relate to 1, 2, 4 and 5, mostly from childhood. Not really a romantic relationship but moreso from things that happened in family and SORTA with friends but not really something they did wrong NECESSARILY, it mostly just worsened specific aspects. I mean those things still apply just to a WAY lesser extent for me, so I kinda feel called out XD. 3(the appetite part) only really applies when I get distracted or focus too much on something or when I'm feeling too down.
I've been mentally abused and emotional abused by my dad, he emotional, mentally abused me my mama and my sister but my sister got the physical side of it too. It hurts when your mom is on your sisters side because she got the physical. My mom would always say I'm fine. Just because I didn't get physically abused by my dad that doesn't mean you can just treat one kid great and not the other. I'm not jealous or anything.. It just hurts me so bad seeing your mom helping your sister but not you yk? Like she knows I have bad mental health issues but she doesn't want to help me no more... I guess my mental health doesn't matter to my mom.
My grandmother knew for years that meat based diets cause me rashes and pain, my doctor wanted me on a plant based diet. She terrorized me about it for more than a decade shaming me every time for being "mean". After my dad died of cancer I stayed with her because I didnt want to be alone, and learned she was an abuser. She began putting meat based products in my food and lying to me about it. And after 2 months of rashes and pain (and getting yelled at for not doing enough while I was in pain), she revealed she was putting things in my food. "YOULL KEEP EATING IT RIGHT!?" "ITS NOT IN THE FOOD ITS JUST FLAVORING THE FOOD!" She was so abusive, but I thought i was crazy and was convinced i did something wrong.
My dad was neglecting me when I was growing up (4-10). I'm now 15 and I used to grow up with my grandma baby sitting me since both my parents worked till 6. (My dad was a lawyer and my mom worked for an airline company) he always was coming home from work and whenever I was messing around or just was simply being a kid ("not following rules") or just simply wanting attention, my dad always made me feel like I was just an annoying kid. Or he made it so exaggerating when I just got tempered at my grandma (from him) that he would almost scream at me. I sat there and had so much fear when my grandma told him how I was behaving and would constantly yell at me like I'm a soldier or in a very mean tone. Like the kind a man talks to another man when there angry at each other. I remember once he even kept on knocking on my head when I sat there in tears telling how I never get the things he tells me to do. And it was very hard to follow as I was just a kid. He kept on doing it to the point I got a bump on head and told mom about it. When I did, she said I shouldn't have acted that way. But I believe no matter how a kid misbehaves I don't think they deserve a bump on the head. I cried and felt so angry the next morning. Being around him was like he was some sort of a stranger I was so scared of. Whenever we visited to his parents his mom could see how scared I was being around him. And he just denied it. Car rides was the scariest one for me. I was sitting in the car when he did this on purpose. He would ask me what I learned in school everyday and couldn't even answer a simple question on the rare times he was being normal to me. I couldn't find what to tell him and he made me so nervous. Then he criticized me everytime. Or when I answered, he would make me go in details and when I say I don't remember the details, he then also would get angry. And also would bring my older sister along he favorites and would try to make fun of me in front of her when I couldn't answer And stuttered. Thankfully my sister wasn't a jerk like him and stood up for me. And not to mention the worst car ride is when me and my classmate were having an argument once about who's drawing was the best and I got tempered at her and raised my voice to stop judging my drawing. (She started anyway) and the teacher told on me that I have raised my voice at her (the way my dad always did to me) and was then so scared when he told me "follow me" then he took me to his car and showed me his car. It was teared from the sides and I didn't even know what I did for him to do that. It traumatized me and I still remember. Then we got in the car and he asked me why I raised my voice at her and I sat there with fear. Not answering. Because I knew he would get pissed no matter what I told him nor if I was right, I just couldn't speak. He then pinched my leg hard when I wasn't answering and I finally told him and he began yelling. I was never crying as I was already numb and used to this as a kid. But at that time when he did that, I was almost going to burst into tears and was trying to hide my tears. (I don't know why I didn't just burst into tears when it was so right to do that) then when he got home he pretended like nothing happened and started to joke about how me and my classmate just got into a silly fight. I couldn't believe him. And not to mention he also once took me to his bedroom with my mom and grandma being there as they were there because they knew I was so scared. He blamed me for some scratch on the computer and kept on going on and on and on about asking me what I did to the computer, even though I had no idea what happened and I was in tears. He kept on yelling at me and my legs were tired of stand that I just told him that I had an eraser and rubbed it on the computer. (Which I didn't) I already had a lot of fear itself telling him that but there was no other option. He yelled at me asking me why? I was just stunned. I told my mom afterwards I didn't actually scratched by an eraser and she said she knew it. I thought this also was normal. And he probably did many other things to me as a kid I but I don't remember. Those are the worst I can say. I'm now having anger issues and always am harsh to my little brother with tone. Like how he was. I also have learning disability and tics, adhd, and ed. Oh and also depression. Thought I got out of it but just started again. Most of it is because of him. And how he raised me. I try to remember a time when he scolded my older sister or my little brother but I realize it was suddenly only me he hated. I hate him and wish I can explain what he did to me and what an a** hole he is. And now he scoldes me and wonders why I'm so harsh and why I'm always angry at them. Even my mom and dad are so ignorant when I tell them that I think it's because I was raised by him like that. I remember at the times when I was in kindergarten I was the most quietest kid there and never did any harm. (my mom was more close to me at the time so that's why I learned it from her. Being patient and loving) now this is why I have anger issues. And tics.It's all because if how harsh he made me. It is all his fault and he always sided with my sister or brother. Never me. He doesn't think I'm smart or social now. And it's All because of him. He told my sister to punch me if I did didn't listen to my older sister that "knows It all" apparently. But I do NOT deserve that as I'm already so f****d up because of him. HE deserves a good face ouch and more. I'm planning on moving away like my older sister because she sometimes also had fights with him and blamed on ME for her moving "because of my little fights with her" even when it wasn't a big deal and siblings fight and nobodys perfect. AND even when she's FRICKING 2̲3̲!!! He needs to grow up and understand it's natural for her to move and she lived first cause of him, she moved cause she had better job opportunities there, and she's 23!! And now apparently I need therapy. Good luck to them paying it because it's all his fault. I will also leave him. Disgusting. Even my mom denies his being unfair today. I still didn't get to tell him what an a** hole he was to me when I was a kid. Nobody treats their child that way if they actually love them. I wanna now punch him and run over him. I don't even care if he dies.
On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
These videos tend to make me feel better about my mental health and struggles. Mainly because it’s a lot of validation, especially when you’ve been emotionally neglected.
Just yesterday my aunt was talking about my mentally abusive Uncle claiming that he is not abusive and that I was overreacting. I have all these signs.
I am 16 as of now. My father, is an alcoholic, and hasn’t been the best parent since I was 11 right after my mom passed in 2017. I have had all of these signs, and I don’t know what to do. I want to get therapy but I don’t know how to ask, and he’s been saying he’s been “trying” to quit drinking, but he still does it. I feel like he messed me up. Luckily he has never gotten physically violent, except he will shout and break things while insulting me. If anyone knows what I could do and could tell me, I would greatly appreciate it.
been there , done that . it was hard for me to ask for help , you just need to find the confidence and the right time to ask . its never to late to ask for help . asking cant do anything bad , trust me . things will get better :)
Oh mate, I've experienced that and it can be the scariest thing ever :( There are two options I could think of -Meetings with your school counselor. It won't be as good as normal therapy, but talking to people relieves stress a LOT. -Rip off the bandage and ask. It's definitely scary, but it'll only get better from there. It sounds like your dad is an angry person when he's drunk, so I'd recommend asking when he's sober.
I am currently being abused. I live with two very abusive people. I don't have a way out, and I feel like I am dying inside. I eat very little and am losing weight very quickly. I don't care if it unalives me, for it seems to be the only way out.
My mother and father would always emotional abuse me and physically, for example that happened to me, My parents are divorced and i made a drawing for my dad when i was 9 i told mom with a proud attitude but she just reply’s “Oh, so you didn’t make me one?” And guilt tripped me.
I think the worst part about it is that I know my parents love me, but it still hurts. Another thing I also notice, building off that last point, is being afraid of any kind of punishment. Not only does the punishment usually feel like a sucker punch to the gut, but what makes it worse is that my parents kinda... Just brought it up casually in conversation with another parent (who also talked about how they punished their child). The worst part was that I WAS THERE, and I felt so embarrassed. I just wished they stopped talking about it and just moved on! And they sounded proud! God, I hated it. I just want to move far away from my family and actually do things I want to do instead of being afraid I'm gonna do something bad. And without having to share my location, mind you.
We made a video on SIGNS you're not a bad person, it's your trauma. Did you get a chance to watch it?
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We would love to know your thoughts on more content like the above and if it's helpful.
Yes!! Very informative 🙏🏽
Thanks
I liked that video, and yes you shouldn’t judge yourself too harshly for what you do as a response to trauma, self love and forgiveness is important, but you are still accountable for what you do. I think you should have made that clear too. Great video though.
Never stop doing this! You’re doing great things!
Hey psych2go
"Verbal abuse is still abuse. It's abuse in the form of words. Don't assume that a few hurtful words won't cost them their life. Words hurt."
And words linger and echo.
If someone were to look just a week into the future, they'd be surprised by the impact their "small" words have on someone. Remember that people. Be kind.
Even sometimes emotional abuse can be way more worse than physical abuse. Nobody should compare their traumas and all, everyone's feelings are valid. Abuse is abuse no matter which way it is.
"Words hurt"...SO true. Verbal abuse should be talked about more.
@@annconforti9294 Along with the blatant disrespect that goes along with it.
Just because there's no physical signs of the abuse, doesn't mean that it doesn't leave a lasting impression on you. You all are stronger than you realise.
Yes. Very well said. This could totally be our video description!
Yes, very well said. It seems like my mom and me have both kind of acknowledged that my younger sister has been doing this to me but it’s difficult to pull out of the situation (financial I can’t put distance between us).
My mom would always say that no one can see injuries on me but they can on her. I would grab her wrists in self defense. She bruises easily so any small thing lasts on her. Back then, I didn't even know something was wrong with my life. I eventually talked to friends about it who said that what I was going through was very obvious. One said that she noticed but didn't think she had the right to say anything. Another, who I didn't talk to for years, said that my mom treated me pretty bad and predicted that something drastic would happen to me eventually. I was surprised at how noticeable my treatment was.
I do agree with this. BUT, Being neglected and abused by the people we love is hard to accept. We all are strong. I've never been emotionally or psychically abused, But I do know it could lead to trauma, self-hate, and thoughts of suicide. I have a friend who is experiencing this, and I have great trouble understanding what he's saying. Very well said, but just a few simple words could hurt someone's emotional branch. Words can hurt badly.
I know I'm strong mentally but this is my limit.
Literally the entirety of my childhood, it’s amazing how the parents who abuse in this way don’t actually think that they’re doing anything wrong. Even though i’m in my mid-twenties and have a lot of issues now, my parents still act like they raised me well and that they never did anything wrong.
So damn true.. Same here❤😔🙏.. Please leave as soon as u can, to a safe and peaceful environment ❤
Most of them think this way which is sad
@@useo.haessal Really Sad.. Hope and pray you get out soon.. You are stronger than you think..Prayer will give you strength..tc❤❤🤗🙏
Im 19 and starting to realise im experiencing however due to my dads upbringing and geniune love for me and my siblings im hoping he break the habit of treating his kids like this
Yea, when my dad used to hit me, it was just a Tuesday for him. But for me it was a brain breaking experience... It's the worst when narcissistic parents grow old and feeble, because now the wolves literally turn into sheep and that messes with our reality and personal experience. Now we are supposed to feel sorry for them... and how dare we bring up uncomfortable issues like past abuse.
It’s really sad to see how many people relate to these signs 🥺
I cried during the entire video in deep sadness from the clarity provided, the recognition and as well I felt very grateful for it. I cried for the children who are now adults, I’m aware of who have suffered from it and who are now suffering from it and and for the children currently suffering in it. And then … I cried out to Omnipresent, Omnipotent Creator, Great Spirit, God “please use me, my eyes that see, my ears that hear, my heart that loves to help these children as guided. Please assist me in thwarting the auto-fear that arises before I know it which sometimes hinders me from stepping up as I know in my mind it was a survival tactic from years long ago and I am no longer in need of it. Please use me Lord and remind me my courage is not manifested in simply being a human yet is born of my own long and ongoing journey of healing and through trusting as a sentient being, as a spiritual being, a child of your connecting universe that I am empowered to make a positive difference in service - may my intuition lead me, may your voice be far greater than my own and may I follow your will Lord over any “I don’t feel I can” - be it my own words or those spoken over me as a child/adolescent, any that comes up in my head, my fear memory, or is spoken to me today in an attempt to stop me. I am so beyond grateful Lord you have stuck by me, waited for me to ask, saw me falter and recede, welcomed my return to me being me, and encouraging me to recognize the blessing of those who have helped me, given me the tools to use well so that I may proceed in living the gift, the divinity of purpose I am led to follow and take on. May my actions be THROUGH your Love, your Will and not solely, merely upon my own. In trust of all-encompassing Divine Love I am free to trust myself and help these children know they ARE beautiful, worthy, and beloved. And may I become an example in the time remaining for me, of breaking the chains that bind us historically and today. May the Blessings BE. In gratitude, Amen”
IT IS.... AND I DEEPLY CONSIDER PEOPLE. FOR MY PSYCHIC ABILITIES.... PEOPLE DON'T DESERVE THAT.... or don't need that.... they deserve every day well in matter. in the case in words it is... IT REALLY REALLY DOES. IN A MATTER OF TIME.... IT REALLY IS...🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬😔😔😔😔
As a toddler, I was neglected, and am still being emotionally abused. I love that people are recognising that emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical.
How would you know if you were abused as a toddler lol
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I truly hope you get out of your current situation and find the love you deserve
@@Anonymous-lq2bs Toddlers still remember things, and even if those memories were pushed down (like with me), as much as I can remember I now know it wasn’t good. The mental scarring & habits that stem from abuse become apparent as you get older, either to yourself, other people, or both. /lh
My condolences. That must have been tough, especially when you were too young to realise what was happening. I hope that you're in a happier stage of your life now.
Sorry to hear that. How are you doing now? If you don't mind, how have those experiences shaped you?
I was abused mentally for five years, mostly over the phone. That kind of abuse is real, and leaves all sorts of scars, and it is VALID. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise
Hey, just wanted to say I can relate with you.. as I also went through mental and emotional abuse through phone last two years.. I know how hard it is as even after an year I am still going through the trauma everyday.. I hope you are doing amazing now and are well.. 💜
I mean, yes your behaviours and the logical things that happenned are valid. But it isn't okay or valid in the sense of greatness, to produce all sort of scars and to disrespect yourself. And others are valid aswell by telling you otherwise
I agree. When you/others tell friends or family that they have something like emotional abuse. Most friends and family will be like "get over it". But that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.
@@elpuertolas.6191 what??? It is valid no matter what, you don’t know how sensitive someone is!
@@ChocoParfaitFra Who cares, I do not
I have been verbally and emotionally abused for over 10 years, by the same person. They have completely brainwashed me and have taken control of my life to this day. I have really just now been understanding what has happened to me over these years, and I watch videos like to see if I’m overreacting. I am very sorry to all of you who are watching this video and realizing that you relate to these 6 signs. I hope that one day you will be free.
Stay strong dowg
My Dad emotionally abused me for two decades. My Mum ignored his abuse.
I didn't know what was wrong with me. This video has helped. Thank you.
#1 withdrawal
#2 low self esteem and worthlessness
#3 changes in appetite or weight
#4 frequent crying or angry burst
#5 blaming themselves for things
#6 fears law enforcement officers
Then my mom asked why I was so sad. I would’ve just told her “ITS BECAUSE OF YOU DIPSHIT!”
thanks for making this, as a person who’s continuing to be emotionally abused for years it can be just as bad
Let's hope that, whosoever this gangrenous ulcer may be; the one who is robbing you of a joyous life, that he will never find peace nor ever live his life happily ♡
I am so sorry this happen to you 😞,i hope you are okay now
This was very helpful. The physical branch of your body is extremely important.
Abuse and neglect needs to stop. I don't understand why people get away with this. Being abused and neglected could lead to self-hate and suicide. It can permanently damage someones social, mental, and emotional branches.
Thank you for recognizing this. All of this needs to stop.
Hurt people hurt people, it's our responsibility to stop the cycle of violence
@@superabi5214 I agree. But we can't predict the future. It will just get more and more violent if we don't do something. I assure you that there will be a time where we all have to flee from our homes because of war and violence.
@@superabi5214 Nope. EVIL people hurt people. I've been hurt and abused all my life and I still go out of my way to be kind to others. Stop letting these abusive, emotionally retarded demons off the hook!!
Felt this happening to me for almost an entire year. It wasn't until I got in tune with who I was, what I went through, constantly reminding myself that everything will work it self out, and getting a therapist, that I was able to slowly get back up and be happy again. Life goes on. Just need to remember to love yourself when it feels like no one else does. You got this Kings and Queens! Stay strong!
I've been starting to apricate these videos more and more as I start the healing process. Sometimes they deliver a cold truth that makes me feel uncomfortable at times. At this stage I am tired of running, and now I'm facing what I've kept berried for so long. I feel like these videos supply a constructive way to face, and later make peace with my problems. This one really hit home as I've started to face the fact that my parents were abusive. Since it was rarely physical I felt I wasn't worthy of saying I had an awful childhood. However even here I am finding validation for my pain. I want to thank you for making these videos, not only for new insight, but a solution to fight the inner demons.
To further validate it if I can; physical and mental related abuse have different, but similar effects at the same time.
They're similar in the ways of PTSD, anxiety, social isolation, lashing out, uncontrolled emotions, impulsiveness, and sometimes lack of self worth (I feel like I'm listing medicine side effects jesus christ)
Both are equally serious and there is absolutely no reason to ignore or insult your own child to the point it effects their mental health.
You seem to have a really healthy way of facing this, and I'm proud of you for that! :)
@@firebuggg7383 It wasn't easy, had to tear down a pretty thick wall to get here first. Then have a few fantastic friends convince me not to build another. Only problem I'm starting to run into, is if I'm too open. Then again I am also finding as I get older, Open and Honest communication can go A Long way.
Don't forget you may have been raised by a narcissist. Good topic if it fits. Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani on RUclips 😁❤️
*appreciate
Unfortunately enough, I relate to every single one.
Even more unfortunately, I can't really do anything about it for two main reasons:
1) The abuse comes from the family and I can't get my own even rental apartment yet
2) There's no good mental health specialists in my area and going out of town to meet a good one is not affordable
So yeah... I guess I'll try to hang in there for now.
Edit: Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and understanding but there are some things I need to clarify.
1) I am an ex-student, volunterely dropped out of college after 4 years (that was about 2 years ago as of editing this comment), currently working
2) I am not from US, or Europe, so some of the options mentioned in the comments are simply unavailable to me. I hope that those who can use them do so without any trouble
Thanks for reaching out and sharing your experiences. I hope that you have a great day, and a wonderful future ahead, free of problems of today. We will make it!
Maybe you could look into therapy online until you can get to a physical therapist.
It will get better , trust me bro ive been through it . Find people that you feel safe with talking to , hang in there dude .
Just talking to people helps, even if it's not a therapist. It allows for self reflection and acceptance, and I'd recommend talking to a close friend that you can trust for an hour or so every week about it :)
It's worth looking into Berea College, in Berea, Kentucky... Check up on scholastic requirements, letters of recommendation, and trying to get in for the ACT/SAT... and the like.
You seem like about mid-high school age, if I had to guess, but the thing is childhood IS temporary... AND there are lots of ways to move up from High School to University/College, and get a career and all that...
Berea College seeks out high school grad's who need help, specifically. They have guidance for filling out all the paperwork, and function in a "Federal Work-Study Program" where you work for the College a couple hours a day, and they help fund your education through to a full diploma. Many students graduate Berea without a dime in student debt... Post-grad' studies are a different picture, of course, and not every student manages to squeak through without investment... BUT even those who don't are surprisingly LIGHT on the stuff...
Every class numbers 1500 students, by design... AND you get your own laptop(s) assigned at the beginning of freshman (1st) year. It's not an easy school, but then no proper college is going to be easy...
Here's the thing... IF you plead your case to a counselor, they will help you with the FAFSA (Federal Student Aid applications) and how to apply such that you can completely separate yourself from the family, and TAKE control of your life. There are mental health advocates and professionals available, too. AND you can LIVE in the dormatories on campus, pretty much year around if that's your choice. It WILL BE YOUR CHOICE...
Now, I don't know you. I don't have any idea how you "stack up" as a student... BUT this is a start, with a solid chance to get the hell out of a bad situation if you need. They aren't the only school in all of North America that advocates for their students, provides help with federal forms and functions on the work-study programs... They ARE a starting point for your research, though.
...AND especially if you are in high school right now, you NEED to be thinking ahead. I know that's hard when vision is blurred with the struggles of dealing day-to-day, especially with abuse (regardless of type) and everything else crashing in as it were... BUT it's worth the investment to your future to start doing research and planning ahead now, so you can make moves OF YOUR OWN when the time comes...
It's how my brother got out... He is arguably smarter than me. I joined the Navy rather than face the imminent probability of prison time for murdering my father... I traveled the world, fought in countries that don't even exist anymore, and found a whole new kind and level of trauma (physical AND psychological) that I hadn't dealt with before... I don't regret it, but it's not easy either... I mention it here, because it's ALSO a way "out". It worked for me. It's not necessarily the "best" or "brightest" way, but it was a fair trade. ;o)
Im in the same situation. Your not alone friend, you can do it we all believe in you:)
Throughout my entire childhood I have experienced emotional abuse. I have been belittled for my feelings, been blamed for things I didn’t do. Had to mature at an early age in order to keep the environment better for the angered party. And had to suppress my true self.
When I was younger I acted “weirder” then my parent wanted me to be. They always called me names and blamed me for mistakes that were out of my control. Now when I bump into a wall I apologize to it. I was treated like I wasn’t a good enough child for them. I felt like that impacted how I made friends and relationships later on in my life, deeply….
Check out Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani on the subject of narcissism. Good luck. You can cure yourself if you keep at it for about a year. I did 😁👍💕👍😁❤️
Abuse is abuse; the form is irrelevant. Sending positive energy and good vibes towards healing!🦋✨️
Right
thank you juila
Today’s episode on; I don’t understand myself mentally!
Have I been traumatized?
Have I been emotionally abused or neglected?
Are these just hormones?
Do I have depression?
Or are all of these symptoms stemming from my bipolar depression/bipolar disorder mood swings?
This actually made me cry, because these actually happened to me. It’s been my elder brother and my stepdad. They would tell my sister and I that we don’t make sense or something that hurts our emotions. I know where I went wrong of being a sister, and I want to help my sister. When I have an emotional break down at school, I feel like some people see me as an “attention seeker”. Since I’ll be in 8th grade, I feel even more terrified. The fact that I don’t know who will be in my class terrifies me. I try not to cry in school because I don’t want to feel like the attention seeker, and I don’t even want everyone crowding me just to comfort me. So thank you for posting this video, it helped me a lot. ^w^
Sometimes I feel that way too when I'm having a rough time. A lot of days in school I would just feel so weighed down and numb. It was really hard to participate in conversations like usual, and people would notice and ask if I was okay. I've found that most of the time the people who ask if you're okay are the ones who care about you. I went and found the exact thing I said to one of my friends (online): "I feel like when I say stuff like that it has to make you guys feel like I'm fishing for sympathy or something" and they said "I feel like that too- but it doesn’t feel like you want attention. We know you aren’t attention seeking" everyone has bad days and the vast majority of people probably know that you're not attention seeking even if they don't know you because we all go through similar things.
Those people that call you attention seekers are stupid, hopefully you’re doing alright and moving forward!👍
@@Tufflewithyourballs183 Thank you, thank you so much. You don’t even know how happy I feel just by reading your reply to my comment. You made my day better! 🥹
@@AGachaDweller your very welcome, hopefully your doing alright by now!👍
I do a lot of these things and I've been torn between whether my parents are abusive or if it's just me making stuff up and overreacting in situations, but when the video was talking about how abusers will try to scare the victim into being afraid of authorities I realized both my parents have done that for years. With not only scaring me of police and CPS, but also scaring me of strangers and causing me not to trust close family. I think my parents are abusive my next steps are to figure out how to get out of my situation. My parents being abusive explains a lot of how I act and how much I struggle.
Reminder that this is different for EVERYONE. These are the most *common* symptoms, but I was emotionally, mentally, and physically abused and I show my symptoms differently.
Emotional outbursts is the main one, but others may do the exact opposite: supress their emotions.
Fear of being wrong is one I have, and many others as well. Not a fear, but that's the closest explanation word for it. Like being uncomfortable after being told you were wrong.
Different mental illnesses can result in different reactions, as my differences were likely caused by my ADHD.
This kind of abuse is serious, and don't let anyone tell you it isn't. Verbal abuse is shit. Getting past the horrible thoughts after is one of the worst times. If anyone needs to vent, feel free to in my replies, but clarify if it's an "advice" vent or a "I just need to get it off my chest" vent, because both are valid. I genuinely hope anyone reading this has a good day :)
The fear of being wrong oh my god I thought I was the only one! For me it's also bad when someone tells me to stop doing something. I remember when I was in rtc and we went to the music studio to listen to music and sing as therapy and I was showing my friend a cover of a song on RUclips and the mentor walked in, shook his head at me and said "no videos", and when I went back to the house and cried about it. It felt so stupid at the time but now it makes sense.
I can relate to the same level. I was gaslighted, emotionally abused, and physically and emotionally neglected as a child for a decade by two narcissists, both of whom are alcoholics, and one of whom has untreated mental health issues. I had to suppress pretty much all of my emotions whenever I was with my abusers (my father and stepmother), and was taking care of myself since I was five. While I don't have the fear of being wrong, like you, I have a phobia of vulnerability, and severe trust issues. Something I also don't tell anyone is that I have really bad back/neck pain and headaches despite never being physically touched.
This was something my abusers did, and it was intimidate me, for lack of a better word. They did it to such a point that I was scared that they were going hurt/kill me when I was eleven.
What makes emotional abuse so dangerous is the fact that it's next to impossible to spot, and even harder to prove.
I'm sorry to hear that you went through what you did, but know that you're not alone.
The being wrong one... I relate to it so much and so many other symptoms of emotional abuse/neglect, but I'm struggling to understand why, yknow? Like, I can't ever remember really being emotionally abused, maybe neglected, but still.
ok thank you, idk if im being emotionally neglected or abused, but i feel so uncomfortable,angry and awkward after i have been told i was wrong.especially from certain ppl (mainly family) . my mum always tells me im lazy,thick/dumb, self centered and selfish and i dont like it,she says i waste my time all day and do nothing but its because i dont WANT to do anything anymore. and she always used to compare to my best friend and recently told her to stop because i didnt like it-she thought it would "keep me going" ????????????? And i think my mum underestimates my abilities which i find annoying because i feel like i have to PROVE to her how clever i am at schoolor woteva coz she just ignores me, and whenever i got test results bak or smt she always asked for my best friend's and didnt have a reaction or reply to my score -_-, my mum never spends time with me and just puts her work or other priorities first. and like other ppl are saying im scared of people being mad or disappointed in me
@@goosegoose632 I'd cry as well if I was told that! Do you also have a fear of others being mad at/disappointed in you? I break down when anyone is repremanding me or seems mad.
My fear of being wrong gets to the point I'll delete my comment/reply on something if I state a fact that I'm not 100% sure about -^-
I’ve been neglected from food and drink for a while at my fathers house (my parents are divorced) and was also mentally abused. A lot of things happened in my life like sexual assault, harassment, bullying, etc. my dad would always blame his problems on me and my siblings and he would make us feel bad to do things for him. He said that I deserved everything that happened to me and I had really low self esteem. He made me feel honestly really worthless and helpless throughout the years. He used to make me work in the summer outside with no shade from 12-23:30. He made me pay for all of his food and we didn’t get any food in return. He didn’t pay us at all, except for our brother. He’s the only biological sibling. He often shamed me for being gay and trans and even more often took me and my sister to church to both fix his marriage, and to pray that me and my sister would end up being women with a nice man. My sister is also a lesbian. I haven’t visited him in a while and I don’t really want to. He forced a lot of things on me and my sister. Not my brother simply because he’s a cis man. It got bad to where I tried to commit suicide a couple times. I was also self harming which also got me in a mental facility. Every time he would call and say “just act happy and you’ll get out soon” and more creepy things like “I’ve been sleeping in your bed for the past week”. He would throw my medicine down the sink and force me to give him all that I had. He hurt our mother too, more than he hurt us, but that is not my story to tell. I hope you all stay safe ❤️
Edited to say that I have all the signs in the video
If you have any thoughts of self harm still, I'd recommend always having a hairtie on you and snapping it on your wrist, because the pain is there, but it doesn't last as long and is a good transition to finding better coping mechanisms that may work for you
@@firebuggg7383 thank you. I do have a few coping mechanisms like drawing on myself with red to imitate bleeding without actually, you know, bleeding. Thank you so much for the suggestion.
@@Saaikha No problem! I'd suggest to not snap it too hard because it'll leave small welts and likely attract attention, but it's a really good transition mechanism
Drawing with red also is a good one! If you want the full visual of cuts, food dye on the hairtie maybe, but that's kind of messy and hard to clean off
Plus snapping a hairtie on your wrist is something you could do in public without attracting much attention :)
I've never tried this mechanism as have enver self harmed, but I've heard it's helpful!
@@Saaikha thank god your alright, I feel so terrible for you, hopefully your dad is either far away from you and your siblings, or dead, just keep moving forward, and don’t give up, no matter the cost
@@Tufflewithyourballs183 thank you. He is across the country in Berlin, so I do not have to visit him.
I’ve had a rough life but since 16 I ran away from my parents due to neglect and homelessness. I am in college now and I ended up homeless on my own again due to mental health reasons, and got caught in domestic violence for another 6 months after escaping a traumatic childhood. Life is a battle everyday for me, but I am seeing a therapist and I hope things get better. I’ve cried everyday being here and it gets worse and worse, abuse never gets better it eats u alive.
Check out Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani on the subject of narcissism. Please keep watching videos and writing and reading comments. You will learn so much. You can cure yourself in about a year. It's not ready but so worth it for the rest of your life yet to come. Good luck 💙💕👍❤️😁👍👍
“Victims of emotional abuse can experience more severe psychological reactions. A victim may feel their emotions are affected to such an extent that he or she no longer recognizes their own true feelings related to issues or situations the abuser is trying to control. As a result, the victim’s self-concept, confidence, and independence are systematically broken down.” - Barrie Davenport
I finally got a therapist for my adhd and i’m really happy about it 😁
Glad to see that you're on that journey!
Congratulations 🙌
I was told that adhd doesn’t exist, but in the same breath they said that I can control it. How can I control something that “doesn’t exist”? I’m not allowed to take medicine for it. It is frustrating.
@@MadStreamzthey're uneducated...
People has always tried to change me/withdraw me. I’ve been saying those phrases a lot because I feel worthless and hated. Everyone is unique in their own way but for me people has judged me for being that way. Edit: I do have this problem and now I know because i watched this Ty.
I love how everyone is sharing their stories in the comments. I can’t help but notice how broken everyone feels...I’m so sorry you’re going through. I relate to 2 out of 6 of the signs. I hope you guys get better soon :(
I hope u get better too
I was neglected by my parents. they were there physically but not emotionally
Another one...
...same boat here.
Relationships freak me out, many times things was blamed on me for sharing my concerns and needs. I really felt this video overall. I continue to strive with boundaries and letting go when I see things aren’t possible
I’ve been emotionally abused by others as a community as a kid. My elementary school was messed up and didn’t like how pushy or annoying I was and didn’t like that I had autism. I ended up thinking I was stupid and mean and a total attention seeker so I had an adverse reaction and started being overly giving to everyone but myself. I degraded myself and abused myself, told myself I was a monster. I thought something was totally wrong with me and I had a mental illness. I couldn’t keep people around me due to my issues with myself and it didn’t help. Eventually I decided I had enough of my abuse and stood up against my ego. Now I am healing.
Hey I want to thank you for this video. A few months ago I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship that went on for 5 years. Thankfully I have a few good friends that helped me realize what was wrong and let me lean on them emotionally to help end it. It has taken a bit and I'm still dealing with emotional scars and trauma but now I'm feeling a lot better and I even have a new GF who actually cares and treats me right emotionally as strange a feeling as that is now. I thank you because this video would have been my wake-up call if I didn't have those friends to help.
I've experienced a lot of these symptoms after being emotionally abused by a close friend of mine.
One sign I'd probably add to this though is the fear of making mistakes. That's what started the emotional abuse. I was emotionally compromised one day due to some terrible events happening in the family, and I said some things I shouldn't have. Yes, I was definitely in the wrong, and I tried to apologize and work towards fixing what I did. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough.
They kept giving me prolonged silent treatments (months), and they started to exclude me from meetings with our friends. Eventually it ended up being another friend telling me things like:
"You realize you're the reason they never want you around, right?" and
"It's because of you that plans I had for our friend group are ruined."
Still, I admit that I was in the wrong for everything that happened.
My last meeting with this friend was a few weeks ago. They were willing to talk, but only if a "moderator" was watching, yet the moderator only took her side the entire time. During that time they shamed me, yelled at me, and kept insisting they were a bigger victim, and acted like all my life experiences would never be considered as bad as theirs. Then they made a proposition: either we end the friendship, or if I want to try to mend the friendship, I'd have to submit and consent to a load of emotional abuse. These included: being given the silent treatment whenever they felt like it, making me change my views and beliefs, hating myself, etc. Their words: "Sometimes you have to suffer to do what's right."
This is why I'm afraid to make mistakes. Sometimes mistakes are never forgiven, and I don't want to be emotionally abused for them either.
For normal ppl mistakes fade in time and are forgiven. Try to watch many videos on RUclips. Narcissism may be a subject for you idk though. Just throwing it out there. Keep your head up, it gets better with she and how she regulates your emotions more. School years are very very hard. Hang in there cuz it does get better in time. 😁💕💙😊❤️💕👍👍
I can relate to this because I’ve had traumatic experiences when I was growing up and it was difficult for me to cope through the loss of my grandmother and being emotionally neglected
Lately, this channel has been bringing so many issues to the surface. It makes me think of how damaged I am, how much parents can suck, and my resentment towards them is reinforced
This is facts; I experienced all of this when growing up with my Narcissistic mother. I had no idea.... I've learned so much over the years. This has helped reaffirm this. Thank you for making this ❤
Those cartoons illustrate the problem in a way that makes you feel sorry for people with that problem. Ive seen bullies at school where i could tell their parents were bullies.
Growing up in an emotionally neglectful and abusive home has had lasting effects and has damaged my adult life. I wonder if I’ll ever feel normal or confident in myself.
Check out videos on narcissism. It might help. Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are good. Good luck. It takes time but you can cure yourself. I did but you have to stay at it for about a year 💕😁💕👍💙😊
Thank you so much for giving a voice for people like me who suffered in silence for many many years to the point I was suicidal and inflicted self-harm and almost lost and damaged my life to suicide attempt 💔💔💔. I can relate to all the signs mentioned about emotional neglect and abuse. I really don't know how else to express my appreciation and gratitude that this RUclips channel is doing advocating and raising awareness on mental health related issues🙏🙏🙏. People often underestimate the importance of mental health/mental illness. They don't acknowledge and validate that mental and emotional wellbeing is so important for a person to live a happy peaceful life. It feels really lonely isolating and suffocating to not have anyone who truly understands what people like me are going through. I find peace and contentment in my faith that God (Allah) is always there for me and He will help me to get through this life no matter how hard it gets. Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🥺🥺🥺
I survived ten years of this as a child. Have back/neck pain, headaches, and (what can only be described as) an inhuman amount of hidden anger. I'm only a teenager right now. I should be feeling young and free--not like I'm 80!!
You might have cPTSD. It makes your body feel terrible bc of what you're mind has been through 💕👍😁❤️👍👍
Same I'm angry that I can't enjoy my youth... I'm only 19 😢 I also have so many responsibilities and I can't focus on my wellbeing and happiness
Ten years later… I’m still exhibiting many of these symptoms. And yet, I’m considered to be getting better/not letting things go by my therapist/family.
Same buddy same
I used to relate to all of these... Two years of healing and making peace with myself. I'm not as grumpy as I used to be.
I stopped doing a thing I used to enjoy for almost 20 years because a teacher told me I wasn't good enough at it. I wish I never listened to the teacher.
Yup. Some of these definitely resonated. I had to cut out my parents because they put me through emotional abuse. I'm an independent 27 year old and they don't like that, so when i lived with them, they did everything to belittle me such as locking me outside, yelling at me, gaslighting me into thinking im effed up, not giving me proper nutrition, and the list goes on. Since I've moved out, im slowly getting better, but i do experience some of this.
My parents were verbally abusive. I was told that I would never amount to anything, that they were ashamed to let people know I was their daughter and then turn around and buy me nice things as a means of "apologizing"
i’ve been in foster care since i was 5 (16 now) and i’ve experienced all kinds of abuse, emotional abuse has been the worst for me to handle, the most painful. thanks for this video i sometimes think i’m just being dramatic
I've been emotionally abused by my family for a while now. It did cause me to get so many mental health problems. They always blame me for things that are super small. They always say it's my fault. I keep taking their criticism, and then blame myself when future problems come. I keep sitting in my room alone, not talking to anybody. I also often hurt myself because of what I'm going through, and ask myself "what's the point". My parents feel like they're raising me right, but i feel hurt
I was always saying I'm sorry to everyone. So glad that the monster of a husband I had for 40 years is gone. I am still struggling with low self esteem but getting stronger
Do you know about narcissism. Mb that's what your husband had? If so Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are good videos to check out. Good luck and lots of love 💙💕👍😁❤️👍👍
For five years I have lived in a negative household and my mental health just fell apart
I did not even know about the last one. I have been constantly told not to ask help from anyone, whether a law officer or even friends. And I do realize how much I have internalised it. And the worst part is that, I don't think I myself will ever feel comfortable enough to ask for help from anyone.
KEEP WATCHING VIDEOS!!! And read the comments. You will learn so much. It's not ready to fix yourself but you can. I did. Good luck 💙💕👍😁👍💕
My mom has made me always the bad guy when i do nothing wrong, invalidates how i feel, makes fun of me, expresses she is jealous of me, and has made me feel crazy by saying what i know to be correct is incorrect, its been like this my whole life and i still have to deal with it till i move out in a few years, this is real, our pain is real, dont shrug us off, we need validation and comfort
I'm surprised how much this video has helped me. I'm already aware that I have a abusive relationship with my mother, but this video made me realize where some of my issues come from (I'm underaged so there's not much I can do about my relationship) I withdrawal from people often because I'm afraid of being judged, yet when I do I feel lonely. and I've never considered that fear of being myself around people coming from my abuse. I've also have had many many outbursts of anger and sadness recently, and warning sign 4 felt far too close to home as this happens all the time and sometimes I even feel like my feelings are irrational due to these outbursts.
Inside my head I get verbal abused and I’m so close of taking my own life from it. And I have schizophrenia. I get called ugly and useless and dirty. I get bullied every time I speak or do something they don’t like inside my head
I often forget just how many people go through the very same thing that I go through everyday. The part about apologizing to inanimate objects really struck home. It made me realize just how often I do that during the day and how many times I apologize for every little perceived wrong I do even if no one else is here. It made me cry but at least this video reminded me I'm not alone. I think sometimes we feel so alone and isolated. 💔😥
This art style is really nice as are all of the other ones. They’re all so great! :))
Thank you! What did you like most about this art style?
@@Psych2go i liked the simplicity of it
I also love the more detailed ones ya’ll can balance the colors and style so well :)
This video me recognized & understand why I tend to isolate when I get angry.
Thanking you 🙏
I've been through every abuse you can even think of in my lifetime. All the years and years of abuse changed me as a person. I've been through abuse almost my whole entire life. I carry those abusive scars all the time and I realized that those scars don't go away.
From your shirt comment it sounds like you grew up with abusive parts or parent. Narcissism is a good topic to check out. Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are good. Good luck 😊👍💕😁👍❤️
@@jerirasulo9543 I have an excellent doctor and counselor. I have complex-ptsd major depression and anxiety and ocd. I have to take my medications every day and every night for the rest of my life. The fight and struggle is real.
@@kimberlydavis5034 I'm so glad you have the diagnosis and med situation sorted out! Bc that can be v difficult with some therapists who don't understand situations in depth. I tried for years to get help. They tried, but it didn't help bc the problem was my mother and all the while I thought it was me. (She's a covert, malignant narcissist.) Thanks for writing back, it really makes me happy to know you are on a journey of healing! 👍It's hard, but so worth it in my case 😁. If your life has been touched by a narcissist (they're everywhere lol) Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani are two doctors on RUclips that I like and have helped. Good luck, sending love and best wishes from Hawaii 🌴💕👍😀
@@jerirasulo9543 Thank you so much for your kind words and your understanding. I've had to deal with more than one narcissist and it drains you tremendously in an unhealthy way. Believe me I completely understand more than you know.
I am neglected constantly by my family which is why I stopped doing the things I loved. Everyday when I'm with people I pretend to be this friendly kid but when I'm finally alone I let my emotions out. They all think of me as the person with no feelings. I was abused emotionally before and it causes me to have trauma. I still have flashbacks to this day😱
For me I let my emotions out even in front of people
Just had a fight with my mom before finding this video in my recommendations. I understand that she's depressed over losing a leg to diabetes and stuck in a wheelchair for life but she has no right to take it out on me. This video was helpful BTW
I truly relate to all these. No one seems to understand, especially not my parents. I try to tell them that what they do hurts me but they don’t listen.
Very evil of them.
Last year I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I couldn’t eat anything. This video really made me realise how bad it was for me. I relate to this video. Thank you @Psych2Go! X
Oh man, I didn’t even realize that police thing was commonly used tactic. I remember my mom would threaten to call the police. And she would always make it seem like that they’re going to side with her. So if she has to call the police, it’s gonna be bad for me. And that made me nervous and scared because I’m just a kid. I don’t want the police called on me. That’s scary.
Emotional abuse is when you’re emotions are manipulated so you are dependent on the manipulator. Mental abuse is when someone messes with your reality, like gaslighting.
I was physically and emotionally abused by BOTH of my parents since preschool. 24 years later, I still am. But every family member and relative always and constantly berates me, while telling me my parents did everything for me. Even my brother thinks I'm a lazy spoiled brat when I'm really just extremely depressed most of the time and anxious every time I go out and enter the house. I've been threatened of being disowned repeatedly growing up (earliest preschool) just for standing up for myself and my beliefs. I was beaten black and blue with large, steel, clothes hangers until it split into two. With everything they put me through, I'm amazed they always just blamed me for being messed up when they made me like this.
I am disabled and have to live with my parents, which feels like being trapped. I don't feel that my parents abuse me, but my aging father keeps becoming more and more self-focused to the point of doing things that hurt me without having contact. He has emotional problems that he has lived through and never closed when trying counseling, so there is no hope of things getting better.
That has added into my tendency of depression and other mental problems from having brain surgery, so 4 out of 6 of these apply to me. I am legally and financially incapable of moving out to live on my own, though, so nothing can change.
I can't get any of that for myself. I was ruled as incompetent to handle any financial or legal matters, so my mother is my extremely conservative and protective guardian who doesn't want me to live my own life if she doesn't agree with something.
Guardians and other stuff is set up, but she isn't believing in me.
Hello , I can feel how hard it must be for you ,sending you lots of love virtually ❤❤ if you cannot move out just try setting boundaries at home ,you can have a separate room for yourself and you can do things which you think are good for your mental health without caring about others around you 🤍🤍🤍🤍
It started when I was 11. I’m 17 now, but it hasn’t gotten any better.
For the longest time, I’ve always wondered why I was afraid of the police. I never had a bad encounter and yes, my abusers made sure to make me feel horrible if I tried to call the police. So honestly, I brushed it aside but as I aged, the extreme fear never went away. Every time im near a cop, I get so anxious that I tend to run away. Honestly, this makes sense since I was emotionally and psychologically abused.
"You are worthy and you deserve to be happy."
Any relationship that makes you feel worse about yourself, rather than better, is toxic! When you are left feeling unloved, drained and have been attacked in any way, is a sure sign that you're in a toxic relationship. No one is worth staying in a relationship that causes you constant pain and heartache.💔
💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
I have been divorced for 16 years and still have trauma everyday of my life. It never goes away.
I was in a emotional abusive relationship for 2 years. Took me over 6 years to be in a relationship again and my current boyfriend is amazing!!! He's so comforting and makes me feel safe, whenever I have a break down he's always there to give me a hug and let me cry it out. He's so understanding and I can't be more happy with him💖
I love the voice over!
Man, we all have those thoughts before, it happened to me before. 💙🙏🇰🇭🇺🇸💗 Thank you.
But I’m sure parents are always nice, and we may have gotten into hard things but they love us, well most of them.
It’s depends, but I’m sure mine they’re nice!
I know the feeling all to well it's why I keep convincing myself that I'm better off alone
I've been abused emotionally by my family and my last relationship to the point where Ive withdrawn all social activities minus work and seeing my brother for his kids. When I try to game I just feel I'm wasting my time and shouldn't enjoy myself or have fun. The last two days at work at the pharmacy I can't make eye contact I barely can talk and a complete anxiety overload being around ppl. I don't trust ppl to talk to them since they use it against you. I don't have friends or family I talk to. I'm all alone with God trying to get by day by day.
Me, too
@@annconforti9294 today was a little better. I hope your day was also.
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Damn. These videos are really helping me learn to understand myself. I need to have a long conversation with my dad to make sure this doesnt happen to my siblings
I identify with four of these signs although I only recently realised I have been severely neglected in childhood.
Yeah, i just woke up and immediately touched my phone then i scrolled then found this which is very relatable, can't believe that this is very accurate.
I relate to 1, 2, 4 and 5, mostly from childhood. Not really a romantic relationship but moreso from things that happened in family and SORTA with friends but not really something they did wrong NECESSARILY, it mostly just worsened specific aspects. I mean those things still apply just to a WAY lesser extent for me, so I kinda feel called out XD. 3(the appetite part) only really applies when I get distracted or focus too much on something or when I'm feeling too down.
I've suffered from emotional abuse and neglect my entire life.
i experience the first two exactly and the next 3 in a bit of a different way, but online relationships can make some things different
I've been mentally abused and emotional abused by my dad, he emotional, mentally abused me my mama and my sister but my sister got the physical side of it too. It hurts when your mom is on your sisters side because she got the physical. My mom would always say I'm fine. Just because I didn't get physically abused by my dad that doesn't mean you can just treat one kid great and not the other. I'm not jealous or anything.. It just hurts me so bad seeing your mom helping your sister but not you yk? Like she knows I have bad mental health issues but she doesn't want to help me no more... I guess my mental health doesn't matter to my mom.
I would like to do a video on nightmares/night terrors that involve dreaming of the abuser(s). I get them often and they’re truly terrifying
Thank you so much for all your love and all your encouragement. We love you. Thank you.
My grandmother knew for years that meat based diets cause me rashes and pain, my doctor wanted me on a plant based diet. She terrorized me about it for more than a decade shaming me every time for being "mean". After my dad died of cancer I stayed with her because I didnt want to be alone, and learned she was an abuser. She began putting meat based products in my food and lying to me about it. And after 2 months of rashes and pain (and getting yelled at for not doing enough while I was in pain), she revealed she was putting things in my food. "YOULL KEEP EATING IT RIGHT!?" "ITS NOT IN THE FOOD ITS JUST FLAVORING THE FOOD!"
She was so abusive, but I thought i was crazy and was convinced i did something wrong.
Christ, she’s a crazy bitch, hopefully your doing alright, keep moving forward, no matter the cost!👍
this makes me so sad. and angry. all my suffering every single day due to a narcissist who still acts the same way since i was a child
My life was full of it (and when I was little there was physical abuse too 😖).
Only since this year I have escaped it, because I'm independent now 😊
My dad was neglecting me when I was growing up (4-10). I'm now 15 and I used to grow up with my grandma baby sitting me since both my parents worked till 6. (My dad was a lawyer and my mom worked for an airline company) he always was coming home from work and whenever I was messing around or just was simply being a kid ("not following rules") or just simply wanting attention, my dad always made me feel like I was just an annoying kid. Or he made it so exaggerating when I just got tempered at my grandma (from him) that he would almost scream at me. I sat there and had so much fear when my grandma told him how I was behaving and would constantly yell at me like I'm a soldier or in a very mean tone. Like the kind a man talks to another man when there angry at each other. I remember once he even kept on knocking on my head when I sat there in tears telling how I never get the things he tells me to do. And it was very hard to follow as I was just a kid. He kept on doing it to the point I got a bump on head and told mom about it. When I did, she said I shouldn't have acted that way. But I believe no matter how a kid misbehaves I don't think they deserve a bump on the head. I cried and felt so angry the next morning. Being around him was like he was some sort of a stranger I was so scared of. Whenever we visited to his parents his mom could see how scared I was being around him. And he just denied it. Car rides was the scariest one for me. I was sitting in the car when he did this on purpose. He would ask me what I learned in school everyday and couldn't even answer a simple question on the rare times he was being normal to me. I couldn't find what to tell him and he made me so nervous. Then he criticized me everytime. Or when I answered, he would make me go in details and when I say I don't remember the details, he then also would get angry. And also would bring my older sister along he favorites and would try to make fun of me in front of her when I couldn't answer And stuttered. Thankfully my sister wasn't a jerk like him and stood up for me. And not to mention the worst car ride is when me and my classmate were having an argument once about who's drawing was the best and I got tempered at her and raised my voice to stop judging my drawing. (She started anyway) and the teacher told on me that I have raised my voice at her (the way my dad always did to me) and was then so scared when he told me "follow me" then he took me to his car and showed me his car. It was teared from the sides and I didn't even know what I did for him to do that. It traumatized me and I still remember. Then we got in the car and he asked me why I raised my voice at her and I sat there with fear. Not answering. Because I knew he would get pissed no matter what I told him nor if I was right, I just couldn't speak. He then pinched my leg hard when I wasn't answering and I finally told him and he began yelling. I was never crying as I was already numb and used to this as a kid. But at that time when he did that, I was almost going to burst into tears and was trying to hide my tears. (I don't know why I didn't just burst into tears when it was so right to do that) then when he got home he pretended like nothing happened and started to joke about how me and my classmate just got into a silly fight. I couldn't believe him. And not to mention he also once took me to his bedroom with my mom and grandma being there as they were there because they knew I was so scared. He blamed me for some scratch on the computer and kept on going on and on and on about asking me what I did to the computer, even though I had no idea what happened and I was in tears. He kept on yelling at me and my legs were tired of stand that I just told him that I had an eraser and rubbed it on the computer. (Which I didn't) I already had a lot of fear itself telling him that but there was no other option. He yelled at me asking me why? I was just stunned. I told my mom afterwards I didn't actually scratched by an eraser and she said she knew it. I thought this also was normal. And he probably did many other things to me as a kid I but I don't remember. Those are the worst I can say. I'm now having anger issues and always am harsh to my little brother with tone. Like how he was. I also have learning disability and tics, adhd, and ed. Oh and also depression. Thought I got out of it but just started again. Most of it is because of him. And how he raised me. I try to remember a time when he scolded my older sister or my little brother but I realize it was suddenly only me he hated. I hate him and wish I can explain what he did to me and what an a** hole he is. And now he scoldes me and wonders why I'm so harsh and why I'm always angry at them. Even my mom and dad are so ignorant when I tell them that I think it's because I was raised by him like that. I remember at the times when I was in kindergarten I was the most quietest kid there and never did any harm. (my mom was more close to me at the time so that's why I learned it from her. Being patient and loving) now this is why I have anger issues. And tics.It's all because if how harsh he made me. It is all his fault and he always sided with my sister or brother. Never me. He doesn't think I'm smart or social now. And it's All because of him. He told my sister to punch me if I did didn't listen to my older sister that "knows It all" apparently. But I do NOT deserve that as I'm already so f****d up because of him. HE deserves a good face ouch and more. I'm planning on moving away like my older sister because she sometimes also had fights with him and blamed on ME for her moving "because of my little fights with her" even when it wasn't a big deal and siblings fight and nobodys perfect. AND even when she's FRICKING 2̲3̲!!! He needs to grow up and understand it's natural for her to move and she lived first cause of him, she moved cause she had better job opportunities there, and she's 23!! And now apparently I need therapy. Good luck to them paying it because it's all his fault. I will also leave him. Disgusting. Even my mom denies his being unfair today. I still didn't get to tell him what an a** hole he was to me when I was a kid. Nobody treats their child that way if they actually love them. I wanna now punch him and run over him. I don't even care if he dies.
On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
These videos tend to make me feel better about my mental health and struggles. Mainly because it’s a lot of validation, especially when you’ve been emotionally neglected.
My whole life has been like that.
Just yesterday my aunt was talking about my mentally abusive Uncle claiming that he is not abusive and that I was overreacting. I have all these signs.
I am 16 as of now. My father, is an alcoholic, and hasn’t been the best parent since I was 11 right after my mom passed in 2017. I have had all of these signs, and I don’t know what to do. I want to get therapy but I don’t know how to ask, and he’s been saying he’s been “trying” to quit drinking, but he still does it. I feel like he messed me up. Luckily he has never gotten physically violent, except he will shout and break things while insulting me. If anyone knows what I could do and could tell me, I would greatly appreciate it.
Just a thought, maybe you could try your school counselor.
been there , done that . it was hard for me to ask for help , you just need to find the confidence and the right time to ask . its never to late to ask for help . asking cant do anything bad , trust me . things will get better :)
Oh mate, I've experienced that and it can be the scariest thing ever :(
There are two options I could think of
-Meetings with your school counselor. It won't be as good as normal therapy, but talking to people relieves stress a LOT.
-Rip off the bandage and ask. It's definitely scary, but it'll only get better from there. It sounds like your dad is an angry person when he's drunk, so I'd recommend asking when he's sober.
I am currently being abused. I live with two very abusive people. I don't have a way out, and I feel like I am dying inside. I eat very little and am losing weight very quickly. I don't care if it unalives me, for it seems to be the only way out.
My mother and father would always emotional abuse me and physically, for example that happened to me, My parents are divorced and i made a drawing for my dad when i was 9 i told mom with a proud attitude but she just reply’s “Oh, so you didn’t make me one?” And guilt tripped me.
This explains why I’m always depressed
This channel is good with including stuff I have dealt with or just have.
This probably explains a lot of intrusive thoughts I have, especially #4 when you talk about flashbacks.
2:30 but, What if I can’t cry anymore..
Same here..
Yes, I had a abusive father and to this day still struggle with anxiety and depression
Where’s Amanda Silvera’s voice 😔😔😔😔😔😔😔
I think the worst part about it is that I know my parents love me, but it still hurts. Another thing I also notice, building off that last point, is being afraid of any kind of punishment. Not only does the punishment usually feel like a sucker punch to the gut, but what makes it worse is that my parents kinda... Just brought it up casually in conversation with another parent (who also talked about how they punished their child). The worst part was that I WAS THERE, and I felt so embarrassed. I just wished they stopped talking about it and just moved on! And they sounded proud! God, I hated it.
I just want to move far away from my family and actually do things I want to do instead of being afraid I'm gonna do something bad. And without having to share my location, mind you.