3 Ways Past Trauma Can Show Up | Dr Julie
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Heyy my parents are toxic they hate never apriciate me like tomorrow i am getting a badge in my school which is a huge achievement and they don’t care like rn they are yelling at me and shit and it’s 3 weeks since I saw myself happy…
Hey Julie!How are you doing??
I just want to say thank you,seeing your videos helps me so much and youre such a big inspiration for me
I hope someday i can be a psychologist too and help&inspire people just like you do.
are you a therapist bc idk what the dif is between a physiatrist and a therapist and if you are tell me how to find you please i need help but everyone i’ve tried telling left me
Tell the solution Julie 🙂 Not everyone can get your appointment cuz in 3rd world nations ppl don't have Paypal
Can I ask what I'm feeling or something
Lately, no not lately, it started years ago actually.
I always feel empty, like dead empty. I don't get the feeling of excitement upon hearing good news or anything, food always taste the same to me, I constantly joke around just to fake a smile, I laughed easily even if it's a dumb joke then be conscious about, I get very sensitive about little things about me. Then lately I surprised myself when I got suicidal.
Someone once asked me what the world is like and I answered "it's like a circular toy train that repeat again and again, goes on and on every single day it's always the same nothing new. The sun goes up we wake up do the things we need to do, work, eat, then work, eat . sleep.Agian an again, just a tirelessly set of motions that we need to do everyday and for what? Just to die in the end"
I'm actually quite scared of myself, and how empty I feel, is there something I can do about this? Cause I feel like death is the only relief and its terrible.
I wish you were my therapist.....u really understand things I can't even put into to words!!
Yess
Me too
Same
Same 😞
Same I wish I can talk to her about a lot of things I can’t explain with simple words
Is anyone else just watching her like “please don’t burn yourself” and then by the end of it like “wait I wasn’t even listening” 😂 sorry 🫣
That's was exactly me 😂😂😂😂😂
Same 😂😂
No…not me.
Yes
Us😓
Me the whole time: that matchstick 😳
How to stress out people with anxiety 👍
@@amybooth1993 yea
Omg yes my heart hurts so bad lol
@@amybooth1993for me a it does bring a lot of anxiety but also brings up past memories that I'm working on for self harm cuz I used to burn my skin
It’s distracting and I couldn’t pay attention to what she was saying
She burnt her finger 😭
0:19
Yeah she cares about us that much
can you give me a timestamp lmao i didnt see it
edit: 0:19
HOW DID YOU GET A TIMESTAMP ON A SHORT?!
I was just watching the flame. Even though she probably did on purpose, as a visual aid to the content, it still must have hurt.
@@itsnoelletoo.1422 I was watching it on her channel lol
"Nobody can connect with you - not even you" - I never thougt anyone understand this fact.
Yeah
I wish my parents would understand this and have patience
@@oninkzy3202 Before I got depressions I couldn't understand why people hurt themselves. Now I learned they/we do only to feel ANYTHING. Before I lost myself in depression I could'nt understand that it is even possible. We also have to have patience with the ones who love us. And we have to talk about our feelings or not feelings. Otherwise they will never be able to understand...
@@oninkzy3202 I wish you all the best on your way 🥰
@@cocobo22 so this is possible that while suffering to depression either u feel too much it don't feel anything at all?
I started hating myself alot
Bcz i had no patience,bad memory, insensitivity or too sensitive, not able to concentrate and over excitement or over reacting (kinda)
But right i feel like there's something missing
I am missing something very important and 2thing i am feeling is there hole or big burden in my heart
3 sometimes I feel totally confused like too much
@@oninkzy3202 Depression has so many faces. 3 years ago i began to forget so many things - I argued I got dementia.
Then I began to cry out of nowhere.
I was confused. I could'nt feel love for people I really love.
When the doc told me, I suffer from depression, I could'nt believe.
I had to go to therapie for 3 month. It was a group of 25 people with depression and there where so many different signs for depressions!
Meanwhile I learned to handle it and to see my signs.
I felt what she said. I have this moments of uncontrollable anger, and I feel disconnected from the world. I feel so stressed that I think I can’t made it. This feeling appears from nowhere, and I struggle trying to exit this state.
it doesn't help that the "world" is no longer human, and people have become screens.
The third one is ME. Like nothing and nobody matters even life itself. We operate from flight mode until we can come to ease. Sending love, light and healing.
Past trauma destroys everything. Your happiness, your self worth, your your job, your friendships.. I'm not able to work, I've had friends who said they could no longer be friends anymore because of this. It makes me feel like I'm a bad person. But that's also the trauma. It's so complicated en conflicting with everything. 😭
They are not true friends
This will pass believe me but you cannot give up
Fight
@@ddd7099 Thank you so much. You are right. I 've end the 'friendship' with these 'friends' a few months later. I won't stop fighting.
@@Butterfly_486 I'm so happy you are going to fight
YOU ARE WORTH IT
Love and light to you
@@ddd7099 thank you so much ❤️
@ butterfly 🦋
You are so worth it, pick a fight with yourself! Push through. Life is so much more than our past. Is what the future holds for you after your hard work, fight! 🫂 🤗
My mom got used by her parents as a child. They made her do all the housework and screamed at her when she did something not perfectly. She had a breakdown yesterday and she cried the whole time and talked to herself. She said things like “stop, please stop. Please leave me alone.” It hurt so much to see her like that.
I’m so sorry. Perhaps she could do with a counsellor. Doctor can refer in England for ten free sessions. ❤
I am even crying while reading this sorry mum went through this 😢 hugs and kisses to her
There is a process of healing ❤️🩹 so mom can know it was wrong she knows I know ( things I went thru were wrong) I’m noticing just ACKNOWLEDGING it IS WRONG Helps ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
So now I know why my anger shows up out of nowhere...no money for therapy...thank you♡
there are places that can do it on a sliding fee scale or close to free depending on where you live. I had to find the same option due to the expenses
@@breezystl777 not in my country. Thank you, anyway:)
@@kucibaba aw I'm sorry. I'm in the US. I hope youre able to find a way to get whatever help you need and deserve 💪❤
This is what has caused my anxiety and I'm getting help now since i have been through a traumatic time In my childhood
wishing you strength and peace on your road to healing 💜
It caused my OCD
I hope you can recover im still trying to recover from my childhood truama ^•-•^|||
I've been feeling numb for so long that I don't even know what it it feels like to be fully connected to my emotions.
I love the way that she's looking at the camera and in our perspective, it looks like she really is talking to us.
Thank you Dr Julie you are making me come out of my depression
Same, amazing yap?
@@user-jy6fk4ty4v Ya it is!
Every single word you say is true in my case. Your English/voice/ dialect is so calming
Can you please make a video on how to help yourself with trauma
Just go and kick the parent who did it to you.
Yes please
Please
Research it and try an online platform like 7 cups of tea. It's a big issue and you need to give yourself time. Such a pain in the ass thing to say but exercise can be super helpful for symptoms. "It's not about the ass, it's about the brain"
This book about CPTSD: "From surviving to thriving", by Pete Walker, is amazing and so very helpful 🤗🙏🏻🌟
(In case someone doesn't know, "CPTSD" stands for: complex post-traumatic stress disorder)
This is such a lovely channel. I know that being aware is half the battle, but give a simple advice on completing the other half.
Try somatic exercises. If you research that, I hope you will find videos suitable for you.
i literally need you as a therapist… seriously- everything you talk about is stuff i struggle with
Who else wants Julie to be your therapist?💝
👇
Dont do this for likes 💀
@@idkwhoam1lol What?! Maybe that's what you'd do......
I love this! The best physiologist I've ever seen! I love how the candles were moving with what you were talking about (Anger: It went kind of high and looked like anger)
The anger explosions are too relatable, I seriously threw myself into a wall with like metal spikes or something on over a couple of boxes falling over in my storage room..
My therapist speaks softly and kind like you. I'm hopeful
You present these things so well and I feel some relief.
It's so hard to control and to get over with it 😔. I'm trying my best. I hope I can overcome this trauma and so does everyone else who's experiencing it as well 😔
I guess you are already doing your best. You have identified there's something wrong, and now you're sharing part of your experience, taking care of the point that others will be interested in reading. I guess you are on the right direction. Sometimes to do the cleaning you have to move things from one place to another. Delete, or get rid of what you do not need.
This is so true to me, and I hate it, I feel like I'm pushing those who love me further away.
SHE is SO CREATIVE ON HER SHORTS. SO CUTE
I relate to her videos so much that a lot of times it gets me into tears.. and i feel its because i have so much locked up inside myself that i just dont want to open and ignore that its even there..and her videos just hit the right place.
But i am just curious is depression a sign of being emotionally weak.
Because i see a lot of people who just so loud and open they dont seem to have these emotions.
Threee things:
1. Depression is not weakness, it is a lack of hope for the future, almost like your standing in a dark tunnel, and the only way forward seems to difficult to walk. I've been there, things get better, keep trying, do things that are good for your mental health, take care of yourself, put yourself before other people, it's not selfish, and try to find things to hope for.
2. Extroverts can absolutely have depression, I can personally testify, we are just REALLY good at hiding it from other people, or they might not have depression. No matter what I can promise you no one has had an easy life, I know it's been hard for you and maybe you feel really lonely, but your not alone, we've all cried to ourselves in a dark room alone wishing we were different and stronger and better. It's gonna be okay.
3. Start Journaling. Write down all your feelings in a journal, give each emotion a chance to talk. Track your emotional fluctuations to try and find it what is causing you the most emotional pain and try to fix it. Write down the things you're grateful for every day, guaranteed to make life seem a little more beautiful.
I wish you every happiness, keep going, your not alone, we're all just trying to exist.
What is killing me is my own awareness and understanding
I would rather not know..but i do. Memories pop up like raindrops all day every day
Disconnected from mostly evrybody i know. My son is my only lifeline, yet its very conflicting to live for somebody else but not yourself..
You said it damn well... I need a friend like you around 💓
I had this happen last week, it sucks, literally when i just started the process of healing, but I'm still strong! and slowly recovering, these videos really help me understand my terrible feelings and memories, thank you so much.
My ptsd is being abandoned bcz my mum used to tell me that she’ll leave me if I misbehave I used to cry at nights biting my bedsheets
Edit : I feel I have a lot of mental illnesses like DID,depression,anxiety,ADHD and more I feel messes up but I know I’m not alone and I can go through this over time, stay positive anyone reading this! You are loved!
That's too hot to handle👀
Mate i felt that burn thats dedication eesh your like the genuine and good sane person many of us lost
This. And this is why I'm struggling currently. I want to overcome it and feel like myself again and focus on the present so I can do what I want.
I just subbed. I had never heard of you before but you just nailed all 3 things for me. Thank you I guess. I mean it’s not like I can walk into your office and finally get cured after all of this time but I do appreciate how you put it all together.
Thank you so much Glenda. thanks for subscribing 🥰
By the time now, already known my situation! Just tell me ow to overcome
I agree with these. I don’t get angry (because i am afraid showing too much emotion will land me in an institution USA) I repress & have the same experience out of nowhere tears or anxiety that doesn’t match the trigger.
Those last words really hit me
How I’m in shock this exactly my problem
How can i remember my trauma so that i can really face what i feared that i have forgoten?
Feel the same. Stuck in a rut
Deep hypnosis with a qualified therapist
the first explosion looked so cool, i’m sorry 😭
Wow! This is exactly how I'm feeling right now. I just want to feel better and get out of this vicious cycle. I would like to stop crying, find hope again and be happy...
It's happening with me right now. Nobody can connect with me, not even me. Feeling all numb and emotionless. 😊
Im learning so much about myself just from your RUclips shorts. I really should watch more so I can learn how to heal myself emotionally
Hi Dr. Julie you are the best. Easy to understand and very insightful and inspiring. Thank you !
Precisely 🤌
From recently diagnosed PTSD.
Even knowing all that, as a former therapist myself that retired because of trauma, it's so hard to look at my own behaviors that clearly as I do what I can to work through the traumas so I can find some peace again.
I'm so glad you're here, teaching people that don't understand these things, and reminding the rest of us that do but forget while we're the ones in the thick of an issue or set of issues. It's been so helpful.
I am in your same boat!!! I could've written everything you did 🥹
I just can't stop thanking Dr Julie for her videos. So helpful, so interesting to watch!
You really help me to realize the reality and see myself in there and see myself as third person...thankyou
I love your videos. They open my eyes and are teaching me compassion for myself and for others.
Yes, yes. THIS is exactly where i am at in my Healing Journey.
I at least am having moments of happiness coming through. ☺️
I can relate to all of that yes. My wife died 23 years ago and it still affects me daily.
When you are triggered and you begin to experience these three responses it's so important to allow yourself to feel, process and work through your feelings and emotions, so that you can release them. It is helpful to reflect on what was it about the trigger that made you feel such a strong wave of emotion. Journaling helps as well. By trying not to stuff them within and working through them you are more able to stay in control of the emotion instead of letting the emotion take control of you. Sending prayers of strength and peace to everyone on the healing path.🙏💪🕊️✨ It is not easy, but it is worth it and it does get better.💛 Dr. Julie you truly are such a blessing to this community. 🫶
True, im a Paramedic and we deal with lots of trauma it never stops
This is every minute of every day. And when this book is finished I'll need to figure out how to forget about it, Let it go, and move forward.
You know what also sucks?
The way the past has conditioned my behavior. I have to try not to act like a scared rabbit.
I have muscle cramps every time i remember something bad ❤️
My special guy truly needs to heal from past trauma. Totally unconditionally love him, even knowing that he can be triggered and lash out.....again, unconditionallly love him and stand with him❤❤❤❤❤
and these same ppl, hurt others too, in the same way they got hurt... and this gives them pleasure ..
You describe things to a t, I know it won't last for ever and its getting less often , you really do so awesome at explaining things thankyou so much.
And all 3 are happening! How accurate!
U r really good in explaining problems and their solution in easiest ways.....
I like the way you are using your actions to convey the message!
It's admirable how you kept going despite the fire almost burning your finger
this is beyond validating, thank you
I've never had any trauma, but I still sometimes get really anxious about little things that happened in the past. I've practically forgotten the things that triggered the anxiety, yet the anxiety is still there. Why?
Thank you, I'm grateful that there are people who know.
My full focus on the exact timing to drop the matchstick.
I forgot to listen
Then I listened back.
I wish you were my therapist💙✨
"No one can connect with you,not even you at that moment", I felt that
It just took one word and i remind everything happened to me and then my level of anger is just i can't explain and i become so cold hearted and cry for hours
Thank you so much, you helped me so much as a person. As an asian, when i speak to my parents about these things they say that it's just a phase, it'll go away, they never try to understand. So, thank you so much for helping me grow even stronger, thank you so much.
You are literally explaining about myself to me😢…. I feel numb….. that’s the word exactly that I was looking for to know why I’m having NO feelings for anything and everything that is happening around me…..😢
Wow this makes sense and you actually put it into words! Thank you!
For much time, I thinked that something was wrong whit me, and all of these things hapends to me at least once a week, I am working on that.
Thank you!
You have such a nice and calming voice!
I'm suffering with this very situation. Have lots of painful memories/ trauma and I suffer from PTSD. You seem so understanding and have a soothing presence. I wish it would be possible to see you for therapy.
Yes, yes, & yes...thanks for your creative videos, positivity, smarts & ❤.🕊
Dr. Lulie thank you very much.I was okay, so I remained silent your lecture is good.
Omg everything you just said has been happening to me every day and I literally did not realize it until i saw this😔…so true😔
Wow, you have just said what I have been struggling with for the last 25 yrs. That no NHS therapist has ever said. Thank you. Maybe now I can find the help. I need instead of just keep changing medications. xx
...you helping me a lot in distance....THANK YOU SO MUCH
You really just explained so much of what I couldn’t, it could be the littlest thing and a burst of anger comes out of nowhere so much that I just start breaking down. Ty for making this so I at least know why now
Yes! To all…especially the anger part….I feel triggered constantly & extreme frustration exploding into anger……
You are helping me. Please carry on.
Very relatable. Relate to all the points
That means I’m suffering from post trauma 🥹 . Can you please make a video of how to overcome it .
Thank you for being here 😊
This just is perfect timing! I just experienced this due to the holidays . Hypnosis was the only thing to get me out of it finally.
You just described by 14 year old daughter. We left DV almost 2 years ago now and she struggles so much with the trauma of what he did. Please could you consider making a longer video on what you’ve spoken about in this short ❤ thank you 🙏
Dr. Julie, thank you for your videos and the love you are putting out there by not only speaking for those with mental health issues, but also providing understanding to those who may be struggling to understand a loved one that has a mental health issue. I wish you could be my psychologist!
You just explained what I’ve been going through for so long. Thanks
The whole time I'm staring at the flame mumbling "don't burn yourself!"
Dr. Hema tharoor from chennai apollo is really a wonderful therapist whose caring actions speak louder than thousands of words
That first one about anger hit me hard. What am I supposed to do in a rage?
You’ve helped me so much I wish I could have therapy sessions with you no one has helped me like you have thank you you’ve helped me with my depression and suisidal thoughts
Awesome post and that is so true because I have gone through all these stages the last one more so you speak the truth thanks for that and speaking the truth ♥️🦋
Nailed it. Suddenly things make sense. Now I need to figure out how to deal with the trauma. Maybe I should read those many books I have on the topic. 🤔😊
The battle of my life. To love the people that have destroyed me.
It’s like this lady been following me all my life
Thank you, your advice has been so helpful. I feel so bad sometimes. Xx
The candles match the words.
Love it
The words worked on me.
Love it
I got relieved
Love you
2/3. i can still make it through. 💪🏼 wish me luck 🍀