Same thing happens to me. You stand out, take it as a compliment, for whatever reason you draw attention. It took me years to come to terms with this, way too many and like you I was anxious and self-conscious about it. I believe it is an energetic thing now; your energy is different (not saying special) but it is a different vibration and that will always peak interest. We are all musical notes; most play a similar note but some of us are playing a rather unique note and that is going to stand out.
i don’t look at anyone even when I’m driving. i don’t feel obligated to look at anyone as I don’t work for them or owe them anything. i was born alone in this world and I will die alone.
Your real strength here Nathan is the same as mine when I was your age...you are not a sheep like the vast majority...embrace it and it will serve you well in your years ahead. Being different to others and not a sheep has really been a blessing to me. It will come to you too. You are NOT paranoid, hang on in there kiddo.
@@nathanricetalks You are welcome Nathan...you are one cool dude. One other thing I would say is that some people will try to bring you down because they are jealous of others who are unique (which you are) But please stick to being different, and as you are already much more mature than others of your own age and continue to mature, this will give you an insight into being what you want to be and doing what you want to do in life. Sure I myself have had struggles but I have always come out on top and you will too Nathan. I see a lot of myself in you and I just wanted you to know that although not many in number...there are others like yourself, including me...and it takes one to know one, and I/we will always be batting on the same side. Stay cool kiddo.
Your dad is right, and there's another layer to it maybe: Everyone looks at you because you're paranoid that they're looking at you. You feel like an outsider so you don't integrate well into social situations. I can relate to that when I've had panic attacks. I'm 40 now and I don't get like that much anymore. Anyway what happens is that people get unnerved and start to worry around you because they recognize that instead of integrating and being cognizant of the social situation you're in, you're stuck in your head, and that makes you unpredictable. Humans have a hard time with chaos, and that's what unpredictability signals; chaos. If you want my unsolicited advice, I think maybe you should try to get out of your head when you're around other people, show them that courtesy. The real secret to self-improvement/enlightenment/individuation and the hardest thing for us to do is to learn to relate to other people and learn to relate to ourselves. Take an active interest in the people around you because they are your experience. Through them you'll learn what you might be lacking, what they might be lacking that you have, and you'll learn more about your psyche through interacting with the psyches of others. That's what brings you closer to God if you want to use that word. *Abstract philosophies and psychological theories can lead you into an analytical loop where you're thinking about life instead of living it.*
I am going to go against a lot of these comments and say it isn't paranoia. You look interesting in a good way, people are looking at you. Your style is really working.
I also think I am paranoid and have anxiety but I do have the same thing. I say the same things. Have same experience. And you look cool man. I think people envy us for living how we want and having our own thoughs, and that can be transparent to others, you have something man, something that attracts others, imo it's good, like charisma.
This is exactly what I believe is happening. It's happened to me for years & years now. It's my vibration people are attracted to...I live my life with intention & authenticity, which has a certain glow about it. Hope that didn't come off as sounding conceited, I'm actually 100% down to earth & totally approachable. 💛
I can relate this feeling of being looked at a lot. I used to have social anxiety, but after a lot of therapy, I feel much more at peace with myself. But people still look at me. The honest answer to your question is that you will never know the reasons why people are looking at you, unless you ask each person, and even then you may not still have a clear, single reason. The true answer to why people are looking at you is complex and unknowable. But this unknowable truth actually sets you free - now you are free to make up your own reason why people are looking at you. So my advice is think of a positive reason why people are looking at you, and just assume that. When people stare at me now, I tell myself they think I'm good looking or a good person. An alternative solution is to take control and make something about you stand out - for example, I intentionally dye my hair bright colours (I'm a man), just because I like coloured hair, no other reason. If I see people staring at me, I smile back at them and assume they are looking at my bright hair colour.
Everyone glances at everyone in their vicinity. It's a natural human nature, hunting fight or flight thing. Our peripheral vision is really good too so if we sense someone staring at us we'll start back to see what's going on. Also, it is generally not socially acceptable or is kind of rude to stare. You are going around staring at people and they're probably wondering what's wrong with you. A couple of girls might think you're attractive, sure but have you ever looked at a dude and thought, "man, he's good looking"? I know I haven't. When I was a teenager I thought I was so good looking that people were like staring at me and admiring me but I'm pretty sure they were just thinking, "WTF is that weirdo looking at!!" 😂
I asked the same thing to my mom. She told me they look at me because I was looking at them 😂 which was true. I realized I was so worried of being seen/looked at I would look around all the time. Anyway since I kinda changed, that changed too for me
People don’t know the feeling but it does not mean that people are not looking at them and yes there’s nothing extraordinary that would cause people to look. Or you are getting so self conscious about it that you are the one actually instigating the eye contact
Are you afraid of being judged or ridiculed? Are you worried people are thinking negatively of you in their head? Are you scared of publicly embarrassing yourself? Do you feel agitated when ppl stare like you are under a spotlight? Do you fear performance situations where attention is on you? If so you probably have social anxiety. I did too, for years. Therapy for me did wonders. I am so much more confident now. There’s a thing called selective attention. Basically we’re biased to overestimate the threat in our environment and we seek out evidence that confirms our biases. If not that, there is also the possibility that people are staring bcos you look like Brad Pitt (which is a massive compliment btw). When I first saw your thumbnail I thought why is Brad Pitt paranoid. It’s why I clicked.
I wonder this exact same thing. People stare at me ALL THE TIME. I'm not ugly by any means, but there are far more beautiful women than me, so it's slightly perplexing. Maybe it's our aura? I've thought it could be that I seem "cool", as silly as that sounds. When I used to go out & had a social life, I always somehow got VIP access at nightclubs, for example, but that's only one example. At this point I've gathered that I give the impression that I'm someone to know & hang out with, to put it simply. Not trying to sound arrogant, I'm actually super approachable & down to earth, but happened now for so many years. Not to mention what I've been told over the years, and that's just from the people bold enough to also tell me. I guess what I'm saying is, you/we look important, like cool people to know, plus we're attractive & confident...star quality! ⭐
@@nathanricetalks I got old. Lololol I turned 48 last month. Ugh. 🤣 I did so much clubbing in my teens, 20s & 30s that I now it's hard to go anywhere socially. These days I'm tired at 10pm! A far cry from the nights spent dancing to house music till the sun came up! 💛
Look back into their eyes, give the nod and a small smile. Let them know you see them too, maintain your confidence, be kind, stay humble and say a passing hello. It's the Aussie way
@@nathanricetalks Remember no one person or thing is above you, nor below you. Each individual has a world in them just like your own. see their world like you see yours and you will find yourself meeting the most wonderful people with some great conversations with strangers :) Enjoy your life my friend, no fear.
This video got sujested for me and I think they are recording my phone. Like wtf. Anyone else finds it weird and can relate? You'll know what I mean.. ❤
I dont think you’re paranoid - I have similar experiences, I used to ‘dress down’ as I experienced jealousy and other emotions which I didn’t know and was not taught to acknowledge and handle . I am much older than you but look younger ,and still get the ‘looks ‘ - Coincidentally (or maybe not ). I decided yesterday that i will be myself , dress how i want to , regardless of others , as I’ve wasted too much time trying to tone myself down , am sure others can relate . You are obviously handsome , and will stand out , - my son always has too , people are constantly staring at him! I hope you find a way to just realise that what you notice and feel is relevant ,whatever others say , especially those who are less sensitive . Wishing you well .
Hey you look good man but you also look normal. Just say Hi. I go running and people look all the time so I say hello and people do the same back. Try to enjoy the interaction and always see other people as friendly. It will change your life.
It maybe social anxiety creeping in. You are increasingly looking (hyper vigilance) for signals in peoples faces indicating expressions of threat vs approval. Interestingly enough, we are all looking at everyone else for those same signals. The only judgement you can be sure of is the one you hold about yourself. Unless of course you are bold enough to ask the person who is looking at you why they may be staring at you. And would they give you an honest response?
Honestly, I'm not trying to downplay what you're going through but I truly think it is a combination of overthinking and paranoia. I feel this exact thing, in fact I regularly tell my partner when it happens and she always calms me down by saying "don't worry, most people really only care about there own appearance and aren't really paying that much attention to you at all, it just seems that they are because you're looking for it". Human perception is wired to find faces (and eyes) in the environment (this is why when people have hallucinations they typically see faces/eyes in inanimate objects like clocks, trees etc.). Because of this, when you glance at someone from a distance it is only natural and completely normal for your eyes to be drawn to their face and eyes. It would be strange if every time you walked by someone you only looked at their shoes and disregarded their face entirely! So basically, I have an inkling that you're overthinking this, when in fact what you're experiencing is actually very natural/normal/common. The overthinking has led to paranoia, hence why you're on RUclips seeking solutions/answers. But I truly don't think there is anything wrong with you. Remember that eye contact takes TWO people ("it takes two to tango"). Maybe try to stop looking at people and try not to care as much whether they look at you or not. 🙂 If this doesn't help, and your issue continues to bother you, I would suggest you see a counsellor just to open up about it to someone with a bit more experience with matters of the mind.
You may be looking at their eyes brother & that can become a nervousl habit ...its polite to acknowledge the person if you make eye contact...that doesnt mean you are obligated if you're keeping your eyes to yourself thats polite too..practice that . Been there myself
@@gusraymond9562 Yes, i do look in their eyes because where i come from (it's more like a county) it's expected to greet the people you meet so of course you look at them. Maybe that's just still in my habitus.
They are picking up on your energy, maybe you're an empath or you have some intense energy that doesn't fit the norm. THis cannot be stated well enough Your belief of self will Manifest into very subtle body language that others will pick up on and find strange or interesting. Start going up to these people and talking to them to break the tension... People can also pick up on shyness or introvertedness and use eye contact as a way to gain domination or social hierarchy status over you. We are social animals and our brains are wired to pickup slight weaknesses and body language in others. CHange the way you feel about yourself, start generally sociallizing yourself into the crowd in order to change this shyness or anxiety. As you climb the human-primate hirearchy, others will notice in your body language.. those stares will become less and women will be approaching you more etc. This has been my experience as someone who was a full-on nerd as a kid and now I seek out uncomfortable situations in order to have my brain chemistry centered around high self-worth.. for which others will read and treat you less as a lesser.
@@Dogmaticattack-yp9se Seeking uncomfortable situations is actually a very good practice! Nothing makes you grow more imo. I strongly believe that we are able to feel other people's energy.
I’ve heard that sunglasses increase the amount of people who look at you because they can’t see your eyes and think you might be looking at them. So if you wear those a lot it could have to do with it
Nearly a quarter of a century ago, in Walthamstow, east London outside the Dukes head pub. Upper trap, wound 2"away from my spine. Police had my case down only as an unsolved wounding with intent although In the resulting mele, one of my pals suffered a collapsed lung. They were youngsters from an 'apparently' well known north London family. Cowards really and nothing these days.
Yeah I get it. I can't barely breathe being out in the world from paranoia and anxiety. Walking on a normal footpath with cars whizzing by is awful. My wife just says my features are striking but I hide behind sunglasses too. I prefer wide open spaces.
@@simonostermann5284 but if I can see them looking at me out of the corner of my eye it annoys me, sometimes I can't help but return the glare. Sunglasses avoid all of this though. And I barely ever need to walk down busy streets on footpaths anyway.
@@justaguy9451 "if I can see them looking at me out of the corner of my eye it annoys me" It seems like you are focussing on it too much. Have you considered seeing a therapist? Genuine question. They might be able to help you lessen your attention on what others are doing/thinking, and also help you cope better when you're feeling annoyed by it. You see, it's not necessarily helpful to be annoyed by others glances, but I understand what you're feeling, it does suck! But the truth is, no one is going to be able to help you, only you can make changes to your outlook on life which will make it easier to cope.
It's happening to me for the last few years even before COVID. To be fair i know it's happening for two reasons: 1. I am avoiding for some time now eye contact with others and i do have my reasons. So the others can see that so they are looking back because they are probably curious why i am doing this. 2. We just live in a very uncivilized era in which people have become very rude and they don't care if they are rude. So that's the two main reasons i believe i am being stared by people. I think.
Everyone does this, everyone looks at everyone, it's normal, we look at each other to perceive potential threats. If you don't look at other people and keep you're head down, you're just a future victim.
Maybe ppl are admiring you. Your look your glasses. Maybe your a muse. Maybe you posess an energy🎉 also long haired ppl get attention ppl be like bro why have you not got a haircut😂
You look a bit like Brad Pitt. I can't see your eyes or walk though. You are just more observant, not paranoid. My psychologist told me I am. It's your physiology (instinct to escape predators ) or can be trauma history. I hope it is not trauma. You truly seem very normal to me.
@@nathanricetalksThanks for your openness around this topic. Few are. What was your longest streak.. When I am on a long streak, I am definitely focused towards other people (especially women). I notice them moving into my view and fumbling their hair and stuff. Trying to say my overall focus towards the NVC - non verbal communication of others increase and by being that, it probably goes both ways. Who noticed you/her/him/us/them first? A cascade of Millions of bidirectional micro NVC information bits gets triggered.
@@TaeglicheNarzisst Ich vermute anhand deines Usernamens jetzt mal, dass du deutsch sprichst. Mein längster Streak war so um die 36 Tage... Und in der Zeit hab ich auch, vor allem am Anfang (1. Woche oder so) dieses Phänomen erlebt. Mir kommt es immer so vor, als würden die Anderen zuerst mich wahrnehmen, und erst DANN schau ich zufällig in deren Richtung und hab plötzlich Augenkontakt mit jemandem.
@@nathanricetalks Ja Tag 90 hier. Ich versuche 1000 Tage, was sich schon im anbetracht der weiblichen Interessen als schwer gestalten wird. Die Reihenfolge die Du beschreibst sehe ich auch, aber vielleicht bemerken dich andere vorher, da Du gewisse NVC Signale eben zuerst aussendest, ohne schaun zu müssen, das scheue Tier schaut zuerst, nur eine Theorie. Schau dir mal "Beyond The Alchemy" an, das ganze SR macht nur Sinn wenn man es einbindet in gesunde Ernährung, Schlaf und Umgang.
Autisme is not an illness.. it’sbeing authentique and non mainstream… maybe you should just talk to the people you ´eyelock’with to find out why… instead of making a weird video…
Same thing happens to me. You stand out, take it as a compliment, for whatever reason you draw attention. It took me years to come to terms with this, way too many and like you I was anxious and self-conscious about it. I believe it is an energetic thing now; your energy is different (not saying special) but it is a different vibration and that will always peak interest. We are all musical notes; most play a similar note but some of us are playing a rather unique note and that is going to stand out.
@@Whisky_Warrior Thanks! That's a beautiful metaphor.
I like your username tho
Spot on! I'm INFJ Sigma female, and your comment makes sense of it all accumulatively. 💛
@@chickenfriedsteak9330 Thanks, it might be an INFJ way of thinking LOL cause I am INFJ too but in my case a Sigma Male. Nice to meet you 😁
@@Whisky_Warrior likewise, kindred spirit friend! 💛
It's the sunglasses making them stare at you happens with me all the time when I'm out wearing sunglasses
you could be suffering from social anxiety
Its just the goatee my man. Not a bad thing at all. Ya got style and peeps are checkin ya out.
i don’t look at anyone even when I’m driving. i don’t feel obligated to look at anyone as I don’t work for them or owe them anything. i was born alone in this world and I will die alone.
Thats fucking great
You look like Brad Pitt, so i would say yes people are looking at you.
@@THENEONARCADE21 lmao, I've head Johnny Depp before but Brad Pitt is a new one😂
I thought Brad Pitt too from the thumbnail
Your real strength here Nathan is the same as mine when I was your age...you are not a sheep like the vast majority...embrace it and it will serve you well in your years ahead. Being different to others and not a sheep has really been a blessing to me. It will come to you too. You are NOT paranoid, hang on in there kiddo.
@@jamestrent-nw9zb Thanks man i appreciate the comment!
@@nathanricetalks You are welcome Nathan...you are one cool dude. One other thing I would say is that some people will try to bring you down because they are jealous of others who are unique (which you are) But please stick to being different, and as you are already much more mature than others of your own age and continue to mature, this will give you an insight into being what you want to be and doing what you want to do in life.
Sure I myself have had struggles but I have always come out on top and you will too Nathan. I see a lot of myself in you and I just wanted you to know that although not many in number...there are others like yourself, including me...and it takes one to know one, and I/we will always be batting on the same side. Stay cool kiddo.
Enjoy the attention. It's more than most people get.
Your dad is right, and there's another layer to it maybe: Everyone looks at you because you're paranoid that they're looking at you. You feel like an outsider so you don't integrate well into social situations. I can relate to that when I've had panic attacks. I'm 40 now and I don't get like that much anymore. Anyway what happens is that people get unnerved and start to worry around you because they recognize that instead of integrating and being cognizant of the social situation you're in, you're stuck in your head, and that makes you unpredictable. Humans have a hard time with chaos, and that's what unpredictability signals; chaos.
If you want my unsolicited advice, I think maybe you should try to get out of your head when you're around other people, show them that courtesy. The real secret to self-improvement/enlightenment/individuation and the hardest thing for us to do is to learn to relate to other people and learn to relate to ourselves. Take an active interest in the people around you because they are your experience. Through them you'll learn what you might be lacking, what they might be lacking that you have, and you'll learn more about your psyche through interacting with the psyches of others. That's what brings you closer to God if you want to use that word. *Abstract philosophies and psychological theories can lead you into an analytical loop where you're thinking about life instead of living it.*
Strong answer! :) I can relate
Amazing
sounds exactly right. I just don’t know how to get my head around it.
I am going to go against a lot of these comments and say it isn't paranoia. You look interesting in a good way, people are looking at you. Your style is really working.
@@roxyspence Thanks bro, i appreciate it!
I also think I am paranoid and have anxiety but I do have the same thing. I say the same things. Have same experience. And you look cool man. I think people envy us for living how we want and having our own thoughs, and that can be transparent to others, you have something man, something that attracts others, imo it's good, like charisma.
This is exactly what I believe is happening. It's happened to me for years & years now. It's my vibration people are attracted to...I live my life with intention & authenticity, which has a certain glow about it. Hope that didn't come off as sounding conceited, I'm actually 100% down to earth & totally approachable. 💛
I can relate this feeling of being looked at a lot. I used to have social anxiety, but after a lot of therapy, I feel much more at peace with myself. But people still look at me.
The honest answer to your question is that you will never know the reasons why people are looking at you, unless you ask each person, and even then you may not still have a clear, single reason. The true answer to why people are looking at you is complex and unknowable.
But this unknowable truth actually sets you free - now you are free to make up your own reason why people are looking at you. So my advice is think of a positive reason why people are looking at you, and just assume that. When people stare at me now, I tell myself they think I'm good looking or a good person.
An alternative solution is to take control and make something about you stand out - for example, I intentionally dye my hair bright colours (I'm a man), just because I like coloured hair, no other reason. If I see people staring at me, I smile back at them and assume they are looking at my bright hair colour.
Because you are special. Don't you know?
Everyone glances at everyone in their vicinity. It's a natural human nature, hunting fight or flight thing. Our peripheral vision is really good too so if we sense someone staring at us we'll start back to see what's going on.
Also, it is generally not socially acceptable or is kind of rude to stare. You are going around staring at people and they're probably wondering what's wrong with you.
A couple of girls might think you're attractive, sure but have you ever looked at a dude and thought, "man, he's good looking"? I know I haven't.
When I was a teenager I thought I was so good looking that people were like staring at me and admiring me but I'm pretty sure they were just thinking, "WTF is that weirdo looking at!!" 😂
My self-esteem is too low to think of it as I'm looking good enough to be looked it. It must be because there's something wrong with me
@@starfeel6127 I don't believe there's something wrong with you. Just keep on doing the things you love!
I asked the same thing to my mom. She told me they look at me because I was looking at them 😂 which was true. I realized I was so worried of being seen/looked at I would look around all the time. Anyway since I kinda changed, that changed too for me
@@meltemfahliogullari Well I'm not saying i want it to change tho...
But thanks for sharing your experience!
People don’t know the feeling but it does not mean that people are not looking at them and yes there’s nothing extraordinary that would cause people to look. Or you are getting so self conscious about it that you are the one actually instigating the eye contact
Are you afraid of being judged or ridiculed? Are you worried people are thinking negatively of you in their head? Are you scared of publicly embarrassing yourself? Do you feel agitated when ppl stare like you are under a spotlight? Do you fear performance situations where attention is on you? If so you probably have social anxiety. I did too, for years. Therapy for me did wonders. I am so much more confident now.
There’s a thing called selective attention. Basically we’re biased to overestimate the threat in our environment and we seek out evidence that confirms our biases.
If not that, there is also the possibility that people are staring bcos you look like Brad Pitt (which is a massive compliment btw). When I first saw your thumbnail I thought why is Brad Pitt paranoid. It’s why I clicked.
Have you ever thought those ppl are thinking the same thing
@@scowlsmcjowls2626 Of course i have but that's not the case in every situation
I wonder this exact same thing. People stare at me ALL THE TIME. I'm not ugly by any means, but there are far more beautiful women than me, so it's slightly perplexing. Maybe it's our aura? I've thought it could be that I seem "cool", as silly as that sounds. When I used to go out & had a social life, I always somehow got VIP access at nightclubs, for example, but that's only one example. At this point I've gathered that I give the impression that I'm someone to know & hang out with, to put it simply. Not trying to sound arrogant, I'm actually super approachable & down to earth, but happened now for so many years. Not to mention what I've been told over the years, and that's just from the people bold enough to also tell me. I guess what I'm saying is, you/we look important, like cool people to know, plus we're attractive & confident...star quality! ⭐
@@chickenfriedsteak9330 yeah you sound cool i gotta say!
What happened to your social life tho?💀
@@nathanricetalks I got old. Lololol I turned 48 last month. Ugh. 🤣 I did so much clubbing in my teens, 20s & 30s that I now it's hard to go anywhere socially. These days I'm tired at 10pm! A far cry from the nights spent dancing to house music till the sun came up! 💛
@@chickenfriedsteak9330 lmao I'm 23 and I'm tired at 10pm aswell
@@nathanricetalks just call us the tired twinsies! 🤣
WELL the 1970s called and they want their sunglasses back.....😅
@@gretchen2428 And i answer the phone and tell them hell yeah take me with you
Look back into their eyes, give the nod and a small smile.
Let them know you see them too, maintain your confidence, be kind, stay humble and say a passing hello.
It's the Aussie way
@@soulfullcreations7308 That should be the way everywhere!!
@@nathanricetalks Remember no one person or thing is above you, nor below you. Each individual has a world in them just like your own. see their world like you see yours and you will find yourself meeting the most wonderful people with some great conversations with strangers :)
Enjoy your life my friend, no fear.
Plot twist - He's not wearing pants.
@@baronvonhoughton lmao you just made my day😂😂
This video got sujested for me and I think they are recording my phone. Like wtf. Anyone else finds it weird and can relate? You'll know what I mean.. ❤
I dont think you’re paranoid - I have similar experiences, I used to ‘dress down’ as I experienced jealousy and other emotions which I didn’t know and was not taught to acknowledge and handle .
I am much older than you but look younger ,and still get the ‘looks ‘ - Coincidentally (or maybe not ). I decided yesterday that i will be myself , dress how i want to , regardless of others , as I’ve wasted too much time trying to tone myself down , am sure others can relate .
You are obviously handsome , and will stand out , - my son always has too , people are constantly staring at him!
I hope you find a way to just realise that what you notice and feel is relevant ,whatever others say , especially those who are less sensitive .
Wishing you well .
@@denisecouchman9289 Thanks for the comment! Be yourself, everything else is a waste of time. Best of luck to you and your son aswell!
@@nathanricetalks Thank you 🙏
You must be looking at People to see Them looking at You. Maybe They're thinking the same thing?
@@nickjohnson7277 Maybe. Still weird.
Hey you look good man but you also look normal. Just say Hi. I go running and people look all the time so I say hello and people do the same back. Try to enjoy the interaction and always see other people as friendly. It will change your life.
It maybe social anxiety creeping in. You are increasingly looking (hyper vigilance) for signals in peoples faces indicating expressions of threat vs approval. Interestingly enough, we are all looking at everyone else for those same signals. The only judgement you can be sure of is the one you hold about yourself. Unless of course you are bold enough to ask the person who is looking at you why they may be staring at you. And would they give you an honest response?
Honestly, I'm not trying to downplay what you're going through but I truly think it is a combination of overthinking and paranoia. I feel this exact thing, in fact I regularly tell my partner when it happens and she always calms me down by saying "don't worry, most people really only care about there own appearance and aren't really paying that much attention to you at all, it just seems that they are because you're looking for it".
Human perception is wired to find faces (and eyes) in the environment (this is why when people have hallucinations they typically see faces/eyes in inanimate objects like clocks, trees etc.). Because of this, when you glance at someone from a distance it is only natural and completely normal for your eyes to be drawn to their face and eyes. It would be strange if every time you walked by someone you only looked at their shoes and disregarded their face entirely!
So basically, I have an inkling that you're overthinking this, when in fact what you're experiencing is actually very natural/normal/common. The overthinking has led to paranoia, hence why you're on RUclips seeking solutions/answers. But I truly don't think there is anything wrong with you. Remember that eye contact takes TWO people ("it takes two to tango"). Maybe try to stop looking at people and try not to care as much whether they look at you or not. 🙂
If this doesn't help, and your issue continues to bother you, I would suggest you see a counsellor just to open up about it to someone with a bit more experience with matters of the mind.
Maybe they will stop looking when you stop peacocking with that chain on display and giant lettering on your shirt being a mobile advertisement.
Don't worry, it's paranoia
You may be looking at their eyes brother & that can become a nervousl habit ...its polite to acknowledge the person if you make eye contact...that doesnt mean you are obligated if you're keeping your eyes to yourself thats polite too..practice that . Been there myself
@@gusraymond9562 Yes, i do look in their eyes because where i come from (it's more like a county) it's expected to greet the people you meet so of course you look at them. Maybe that's just still in my habitus.
They are picking up on your energy, maybe you're an empath or you have some intense energy that doesn't fit the norm. THis cannot be stated well enough Your belief of self will Manifest into very subtle body language that others will pick up on and find strange or interesting. Start going up to these people and talking to them to break the tension... People can also pick up on shyness or introvertedness and use eye contact as a way to gain domination or social hierarchy status over you. We are social animals and our brains are wired to pickup slight weaknesses and body language in others. CHange the way you feel about yourself, start generally sociallizing yourself into the crowd in order to change this shyness or anxiety. As you climb the human-primate hirearchy, others will notice in your body language.. those stares will become less and women will be approaching you more etc. This has been my experience as someone who was a full-on nerd as a kid and now I seek out uncomfortable situations in order to have my brain chemistry centered around high self-worth.. for which others will read and treat you less as a lesser.
@@Dogmaticattack-yp9se Seeking uncomfortable situations is actually a very good practice! Nothing makes you grow more imo.
I strongly believe that we are able to feel other people's energy.
Im 6-7.... 2 metres tall...seems almost no one notices me.. most of my life...its good and bad...as i do not like to be center of attention
@@HANZELVANDERLAAY To each their own! Thanks for your comment tho.
The "Spotlight effect" as coined by Thomas Gilovich.
same here. it’s terrible
@@GodSpeed-eo9pc I don't think it is. Sorry that you think that way!
I’ve heard that sunglasses increase the amount of people who look at you because they can’t see your eyes and think you might be looking at them. So if you wear those a lot it could have to do with it
@@bretttaylor7743 that could be it, where did you hear that?
it takes two to tango, you are probably eyeballing people in actuality.
@@glens18accountIf i am then not on purpose, I'm just looking around at my surroundings
I got stabbed in the back (literally), moments after locking eyes with a complete stranger.
Probably that nakefatty status
@@nakefatty9167 dude who are you?
@@nathanricetalks I'm a roofer from London. A father, social recluse largely unknown.
@@nakefatty9167 And how did you get stabbed?
Nearly a quarter of a century ago, in Walthamstow, east London outside the Dukes head pub. Upper trap, wound 2"away from my spine. Police had my case down only as an unsolved wounding with intent although In the resulting mele, one of my pals suffered a collapsed lung.
They were youngsters from an 'apparently' well known north London family. Cowards really and nothing these days.
Yeah I get it. I can't barely breathe being out in the world from paranoia and anxiety. Walking on a normal footpath with cars whizzing by is awful. My wife just says my features are striking but I hide behind sunglasses too. I prefer wide open spaces.
The trick is to avoid looking at others if it isn't necessary. It takes two to tango!
@@justaguy9451 Damn that must suck!
@@simonostermann5284 but if I can see them looking at me out of the corner of my eye it annoys me, sometimes I can't help but return the glare. Sunglasses avoid all of this though. And I barely ever need to walk down busy streets on footpaths anyway.
@@justaguy9451 "if I can see them looking at me out of the corner of my eye it annoys me"
It seems like you are focussing on it too much. Have you considered seeing a therapist? Genuine question. They might be able to help you lessen your attention on what others are doing/thinking, and also help you cope better when you're feeling annoyed by it. You see, it's not necessarily helpful to be annoyed by others glances, but I understand what you're feeling, it does suck! But the truth is, no one is going to be able to help you, only you can make changes to your outlook on life which will make it easier to cope.
That means you're the chosen one.
@@penamuuri6767 Please, i knew that before already...😂
yeah man people have sight
@@thatkidraven6452 Not me bro, i can barely see my own face in the mirror
You look very similar to Brad Pitt. Actually - quite a lot like Brad Pitt. No judgement or suggestion....just an observation.
Yes your chosen in Jesus name
It's happening to me for the last few years even before COVID. To be fair i know it's happening for two reasons:
1.
I am avoiding for some time now eye contact with others and i do have my reasons. So the others can see that so they are looking back because they are probably curious why i am doing this.
2.
We just live in a very uncivilized era in which people have become very rude and they don't care if they are rude.
So that's the two main reasons i believe i am being stared by people.
I think.
Everyone does this, everyone looks at everyone, it's normal, we look at each other to perceive potential threats. If you don't look at other people and keep you're head down, you're just a future victim.
Maybe ppl are admiring you. Your look your glasses. Maybe your a muse. Maybe you posess an energy🎉 also long haired ppl get attention ppl be like bro why have you not got a haircut😂
You look a bit like Brad Pitt. I can't see your eyes or walk though. You are just more observant, not paranoid. My psychologist told me I am. It's your physiology (instinct to escape predators ) or can be trauma history. I hope it is not trauma. You truly seem very normal to me.
@@TheWhiteLily44 Thanks for the comment, appreciate it!
If you do semen retention, it is real.
@@TaeglicheNarzisst I have done it in the past but not recently, no...🤔
@@nathanricetalksThanks for your openness around this topic. Few are. What was your longest streak.. When I am on a long streak, I am definitely focused towards other people (especially women). I notice them moving into my view and fumbling their hair and stuff. Trying to say my overall focus towards the NVC - non verbal communication of others increase and by being that, it probably goes both ways. Who noticed you/her/him/us/them first? A cascade of Millions of bidirectional micro NVC information bits gets triggered.
@@TaeglicheNarzisst Ich vermute anhand deines Usernamens jetzt mal, dass du deutsch sprichst.
Mein längster Streak war so um die 36 Tage... Und in der Zeit hab ich auch, vor allem am Anfang (1. Woche oder so) dieses Phänomen erlebt.
Mir kommt es immer so vor, als würden die Anderen zuerst mich wahrnehmen, und erst DANN schau ich zufällig in deren Richtung und hab plötzlich Augenkontakt mit jemandem.
@@nathanricetalks Ja Tag 90 hier. Ich versuche 1000 Tage, was sich schon im anbetracht der weiblichen Interessen als schwer gestalten wird. Die Reihenfolge die Du beschreibst sehe ich auch, aber vielleicht bemerken dich andere vorher, da Du gewisse NVC Signale eben zuerst aussendest, ohne schaun zu müssen, das scheue Tier schaut zuerst, nur eine Theorie. Schau dir mal "Beyond The Alchemy" an, das ganze SR macht nur Sinn wenn man es einbindet in gesunde Ernährung, Schlaf und Umgang.
Autisme is not an illness.. it’sbeing authentique and non mainstream… maybe you should just talk to the people you ´eyelock’with to find out why… instead of making a weird video…
@@gompie5975 Then call it neurodiversity if you will, it comes down to the same thing, which is a delay in neuronal development.