HEALING LONELINESS
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- HEALING LONELINESS is about BEING with the emotion or experience and letting it be exactly as it is without needing it to be different.
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Acknowledging our emotions is a powerful step in the healing process. Took me 65 years to learn this but once I did, my life changed for the better and I continue to heal more and more each day.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm 57 and still working on this.
I am trying to learn this right now!
“Loneliness comes from feeling alone in our pain”. I really love this perspective of allowing ourselves to be with ourselves and others and validating our feelings.
This is so enlightening. I have always DEEP down felt alone/lonely-no matter where I am or who I am with. This really makes sense with the way I grew up. Invalidated. All of the time.
I am so much better off alone and comfortable in my own skin than forcing myself to hang with people or person who THINKs they're expressing empathy, but instead are forming judgment as to why I might be in pain.
This was an awesome video. Thanks! Yes, it's a struggle to find anyone willing to be with you in so-called "negative" emotions. Everyone seems to want to "fix" it. I realized that I was triggering their own repressed emotions which made them uncomfortable. "I" didn't make them uncomfortable....their own hidden emotions trying to surface did. That was huge for me. I always used to think "no one likes me unless I'm happy". Now I understand it better. I've always wanted to hear..."I hear you, I see you, it's understandable to feel this way", and get a hug. So far that's only come from me...and often I forget myself!
Great
Just accept it bc what hurts even more is pretending to be someone your not and realising all your relationships are a facade built on a lie and you know what they say about lies
Dra Ter its lonely when you have to pretend to be someone else. Hard lesson i had to learn. Thank you for sharing this.
Omg I've tried explaining this to certain family members so many times. They are just soo ingrained in this toxic positivity way that it's autopilot to them. Sooo hard.
I have to leave my family. They are too negative to be around. I have to find positive people to be around. I want to live in joy and fulfilling whatever I came to this earth to do and standing in my power wisely. I don't want to go back to the family that hates me. I'm at the park now and it is very cold.
I never had words for this until now. Thank you!
If I had a dime for everyone that told me to just get over it when I told them I feel sad or hurt or angry ....
If you show them your sadness they notice their own, projected disownership of self occurs.
It is the case when we disown others, we disown ourselves and vica versa. I am so tired of it.
to go from being lonely to alone with no1 there you have to be there for yourself. Engage in journaling so that you let out the pain and simultaneously are there for yourself.
Thank you! Thank you! This is just what I needed to hear. I have been going through a lot of loneliness because I lost a lot of people in my life and do not have friends right now. I do have a wonderful therapist who hears me and listens to me and does somatic work with me. This video has given me another piece of information that I needed to work with and through my loneliness and to really be there for myself. Thank you again!
Video after video you hit it right on the head. Its so true we need to validate ourselves no matter what anyone else says or thinks.
Thank you, Candace. This is how I felt and stop telling other my pain. But then again I didn't tell them to just listen that all I need. It bee clear now. I'm grateful for the sight. It helps a lot.
You are sweet and kind. Bob
You are really a soothing soul
You are multidimensional beautiful! ILY!
Awwww Thank you so much!! ;-))
Powerful. You expressed everything I've always wanted to say...
You're like an older sis...
jon lenon ha ha everyone says that 😁✨
@@CandacevanDell For me you are my soulmate
Thanks, I needed to hear this. Great message Candace!
nail on the head
Thank you for this! Bookmarking it :)
Thank you Candace. You're wonderful. I'm grateful I found you first and stuck with you. :)
Candace's hair is incredible haha just thought i'd put that out there
WISDOM! Thank you.
Thankyou I needed to hear this today
Hey just came across your channel couper days ago. It have helped me. Thank you! 💕
Thank you with all my heart 🙏I am healing my wounds and I hope I can be a healer for others too..
😍 thank you Candace
Love this!!
So full of gratitude for this... Beyond words.
Beautiful explanation ❤🙏
Wow! I love this one. Thank you
Thank you Candace 😊
This is amazing! Thank you!
This is important for peolpe who can't cry ingrot of others and always say they are ok.while they are not
I always watch your videos after I've been listening to London Grammer as I'm convinced you are the angelic voiced
singer :p
This is a fantastic video. Thank you so much for your help and support. A really important puzzle piece for healing xx
This is great, never would have thought of acceptance part. Thank You 😊👍
Gajanan K. Kshirsagar 😁💫
your videos are amazing like you are helping me immensely
Oooo, thank you ~ explains so much!! ♥️🎞
Thank you candance ❤️ love from Puerto Rico
Wow I needed this
Thank you for this explanation :)
wow, well said thankyou
This is an area im having to work really hard at right now.
So so powerful
I think you confused the two concepts a little bit here Candace, @ 4:36: one can in fact BE alone - as you said, on ones own - yet not FEEL lonely. On the other hand: one can BE accompanied and still FEEL alone/lonely, for the reasons you mentioned. So, one can BE ALONE but not FEEL LONELY at all because one is not going through any shadow process and one can actually enjoy ones own company... :-)
Well said.
@@Daniel-pr4uk thank you!
thank you, now i know why i feel so uncomfortable with my Chinese therapists, she denied my feelings, only cares about herself
Great video thank you for sharing this, it's amazing to see or hear how we continue conditioning ourselves by almost only allowing "positive" thoughts and try to push out any other thought that we don't like as they make us feel ...........(filling the gap is for everyone individual) . No wonder why dating apps etc.and any other forms of distraction have become so successful as it's painful to truly sit and validate our emotions. Thanks again
I don't want to be with pain. Pain shouldn't exist.
I feel understood
Get real with what you feel to heal. I love her 💖💖💖.
i love u candace
I'm extremely lonely. And embarrassed about it.
Have you guys seen the TED talk called how to practice emotional first aid by Guy winch?
So gd ❤❤❤
The color of your shirt matches the color of your gorgeous eyes 😊. Thanks for your insight.
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I’m lonely and I self sabotage because of it but I’m not sure what negative emotion I’m hiding from
I feel like i'm an island and i became lonely and worse yet alone in spite of all my efforts. I can't help thinking that my personality is to blame especially because there was this one person who said i wasn't nice and he'd rather stay away from me. Now i want to reclaim my own value by wacking anyone who thinks i'm unpleasant. While i don't wanna please everybody and be a doormat i don't wanna go and challenge everybody either. The big question is how do i find my balance?
Can you make a video about crystal children please?💓💎
If you were here i wouldnt be lonely
This is a spectacular video....wow!
I feel like this but I've gotten used to being alone. I open up more to nature when I walk in the woods by myself too.
I live with someone but their negativity and verbal abuse pushed me completely away of having a friendship with this person. (We're just somewhat of good ol friends in the first place anyways) Now it's like I'm rediscovering myself through an spiritual initiation. Thank you for this video!!!💗💗💗💗
Always so resonate with your insights. I'm Indigo also so that may be part of the reason. Right trying to fix it that's the reflex; it's part of the left brain scientific mind control and it doesn't really do anything. I just want to be heard. How many times have you heard women say this? That's the heart; I respect it.
We can’t heal loneliness with people, it’s only healed knowing God is with us, Angels are around us and feeling our own presence by connecting to self rather than other people, feeling your own fullness will allow you not to seek outside attention or validation.
Off topic, you remind me of Natalie Portman :)
Respectfully disagree. 6:36-6:39 you say "my feelings just need to be seen and heared". That is dependence on having your inner emotions being validated through the company of others. Once you become one with yourself having and your feelings, having your emotions seen and heared is not necessary. Loneliness disappears when you develop a relationship with yourself.
Isaiah the entire video is about self validation. Maybe watch it again 😉
@@CandacevanDell My eyes are even more open. Something was blocking me from seeing the bigger picture.
@Winchestah I'm going to tell you what she told me and said in the video, Self validation is the entire video. When we learn yo validate ourselves we won't need external validation. At the same time in my opinion we are still allowed to express them
Well, I am yet to find those people willing.I have always been one who cared & loved more than anyone else. I am tired.
Isaiah exactly my thoughts, relationship with self heals core loneliness & need for any kind of attention of outside validation!
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Beautiful I needed to hear this! I love your channel! Thank you! ❤️🙏🏼
Nobody is interested in my story or my pain. Heck they r not even interested in hearing anything I say they just want me there to use me all they want
then leave them.
...C h u r c h
Candace, it is always very interesting to hear you, but I'd like to respectfully ask if you'd consider changing this horrible intro "music". It just feels very unpleasant and fake to come to a video and subject that touches the heart very deeply and is concerned with healing and wholeness and with tenderness and sensitivity, and then be confronted with this artificial synthetic shopping mall corporate "music" (if you can even call that "music"). It makes the whole thing feel cheap, commercial and fake.
Daniel - interesting. I don’t get that vibe at all. And I’m sensitive to music.
This is total bullshit and such an over simplistic interpretation of the problem of loneliness! While I agree it is important to learn how to stay with and deeply feel these emotions it just doesn't go away just by thinking " oh there are other people in the world that feel lonely". The truth is that when you have no family or friends and for whatever reason in life you find yourself totally isolated, this feeling becomes unbearable.
Easy for you to put out this kind of video when you have a husband and support network around you isn't it?!
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