The Privilege of a Broken Heart | Mara Abbott | TEDxBoulder
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2016
- The Olympics are thrilling to watch but rarely do we hear from the athletes on what their experiences are. What is it like to train to be the best in the world and what is it like to cross the finish line just missing a metal? Mara Abbott explores the idea of being the best cyclist in the world and what it means physically and mentally to be in the race until the end.
Mara Abbott was born and raised in Boulder, Colorado. She has spent the last ten years competing as a professional road cyclist. During that career she has won the women's Giro d'Italia twice and is a two time national champion. Most recently she finished fourth in the road race at the Rio Olympic Games. Off the bike she is a certified yoga instructor, a columnist for the Daily Camera and helps sort out the mushy tomatoes for Cure Organic Farm at the Boulder Farmers' Market. She is frequently to be found hauling ambitious loads around town on her commuter bike.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I realized that being broken was the best experienced of my life because it taught me how to be strong. I will not be who I am today if I he didn't broke my heart. I was lucky enough to have given a chance to find someone who deserves my heart and that was the best thing I could ever ask for.
A New Love Official I, too have my heart broken and it's devasting but it's also a unique opportunity to look deep down at yourself and invest your love on the person's who is gonna be with you forever, yourself, rather on others.many times we use relationships as a emotional crutch so that it becomes easier to deal with the harshness of life, but people always come and go, so through a heartbrek we can learn how to face life without relying on someone else's support.. and also some nice people have to leave our lives to give space to better ones... My brain knows this, now try convincing my heart..
I've had my heart broken and while I miss her immensely. I've become more reflective and self aware me I learned many areas where I can be a better partner and what to look for in a partner I'm grateful for this experience because I've become a better me
A New Love Official my separation from my wife is turning out to be the best thing that ever happened to me,glad to have seen this video,I did the best I could do,but now I'm getting stronger mentally every day,plus I started writing short stories,
can i ever recover from heartbreak,i dated him for 9 years and then suddnly he give up on me.just bez our parents say no ,is this a way im trying but he just give up can i ever forget him .in just 2 months he is now engaed .i dont knw what to do.can i ever be fine
@@ayushisharma413 your pain is same as mine though it was not 9 years but still the pain is heart wrenching. He didn't even ask his parents we are just far away from marriage but he says his parents won't agree. Even though I told him to ask once he never did. I can understand the pain of imagining your man with other women and that too they are going to be forever. Just try to move on make strong reasons to move remember he did not fight for you for the love you both have he already healed I hope so and now it's your turn it's going to take time but don't give up.
""here is a thing about 'enoughness' -- no one else gets to decide what is or is not enough for you"
"unless we are willing to face the specter of the things that we *cannot* be, we are never going to be able to grasp the things that we can be" :)
one of a kind talk. Don't have words to appreciate it. I could feel her pain when she said "i finished 4th"; heart breaking yet motivating.
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Yes. She's truly special in our hearts. Almost wish we could try to win the race for her today some kind of majestic way b/c I really felt so moved by her actual performance at the race, but even more so by getting to know the kind of person she is through this Ted Talk.
Ivan B
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At the age of 16 when I was head over heels in love with a girl, I decided to marry her at 18. She was agree with my decision too, but at 17 when she broke my heart I tried to commit suicide but moved on later though it took me 2 years of depression. I still look back what could have been if we had got married. Today i am happy that she broke my heart and i would never be the person I am today without her. I wouldn’t be here where I stood today. I am really thankful to her
The most exciting and moving TED video I´ve ever seen. Wherever you are Mara, you ARE enough! thankyou for talking so sincerely about something that broke you. I send you a big hug.
Well done, Mara! And remember, a broken heart allows more places for love to flow through it. Thanks for being courageous enough to tell your story. More people should hear it! Keep 'em spinning! ♥ Kathy Bedell, Leadville, CO
Thank you for this gift!
I have listened to this about 5 times now and it gets me every time. A great talk. . . .
"It is an earned privilege; this sort of broken heart." #GoosebumpsAndTears Thank you I needed to hear this.
Wow I love her humility
I am in tears, relieved, sad and grateful.. I dunno how to describe my feelings from
this video. I just wanna say thank you for sharing this with your smile.
No one ever regretted trying their best...
Love this!
Commit, Believe, and Keep going!
My fiance died one week after my 23rd birthday. That was almost 7 years ago now. It's only in the last two years that I've come to some peace and have taken the life lessons from that period and have built my life around those lessons. Life is so tough at times and it seems so simple to give up. Just don't forget, it does get better and if you haven't heard it today...
I love you ❤❤
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ve seen it before and now watching it again still with tears. No words you are such an inspiration
Brought tears to my eyes
I have listened to this for at least 10 times. Helped a lot in keep going.
Thanks
One of the best! you can hear her voice quiver at 5:00 pa lang huhu love her spirit!!
Omg 😭 the best video I seen in a while! Thank you!!!!!
Another video was recommended but I looked for this one and this video deserves way more likes or views. I guess people judged it from its cover but fine by me, this video needs you to follow her story to know how deep and strong message this video has.
I'm watching it again because I believed that change is inevitable and as fast as you can you can adapt it, the better you get.
I've made myself from my mistakes and I have to learn to make mistake, I'm just like that.
So moving and touching. The best Ted Talk I've seen and by far the most powerful. You embody greatness by who you are inside as a person. Loved every second of this talk and emotions ran high as I listened to your reflection and breakdown of the race. Nothing I can say can probably uplift you. You have inspired me immensely and I'm sure you have inspired many others. But it's not about you inspiring us; it's more about us being in your corner and we wanted to see you cross that line in 1st. But nothing we can say or do can change the outcome. But in spite of that, I see much more than I ever could have imagined by how you have handled and responded. Who you are is the REAL gold medal. You truly went for it with everything you had (internal, external, etc.). Ur an absolute winner in the grand scheme of things. You've got soooo much potential for greatness in this life. I'm so glad I got to see you perform and even prouder I got to see you speak :-) Thank you for being YOU. Keep being YOU. You are truly all heart, honorable dignity and a rare and special human being :-)
love your kind message
+Bodien Thank you. It's truly beyond words at this point. She's a legend in the sense that because of Mara Abbott, I'm very much interested in women's professional cycling. Wish I would have been more aware in the past, I would have followed the sport more. And finally, I do not even remember who placed in Rio for her race and I don't care to know. I remember Mara Abbott and how great of a race she rode and just that incredible fire and desire. That fitness was insane and I loved how determined she was. Nothing can change the outcome, and also, nothing can change the fact that she's remembered more in that race. And not for getting passed. To me, I remember seeing the American dream play out on the TV screen. She owned the moment and just, amazing. She epitomizes greatness ☺
+Ivan B you are absolutely right. This is what a great athlete looks like! She overwon herself and for that alone she is a winner already.
Bodien :-)
Wow. That you are sharing this deeply moving Story with us might be of even more significance than the medal itself..Thank you very much. You are truely amazing
Thanks. This does help me manage recovery. Take care.
Love it! Thank you! I cried
It brought tears to my eyes!!!! Absolutely loved this speech!!!!!
Touched my soul.
Absolutely lovely story brought me to tears actually🌹👍🇺🇸
Inspiring! Thanks!
Awesome, rare look into a unique world the rest of us dream of.
Ha! That's exactly right. She did what most of us dream of. And it still wasn't enough; understandably. So moving on many levels.
Marilyn Smith -Stoner, you look stunning 🌹 🌹🥀🥀 🥀🌷🥀
Great talk.
I have learned a lot from the video.
love you Mara!
such an epic lady you are
excellent talk as well !
Thank you ❤️
Wow incredible
i loved that. i never thought about it like that.
She is ...increadible !
sobbing 😭
@8:41 "It was fine time for them to take interest in woman's cycling." Words that describe me perfectly. It was Saturday morning and I tuned into Olympics unaware that I was about to watch one of the most memorable sport events of my life.
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awesome.
Does anybody know where to find a replay of the ENTIRE race? It seems it is nowhere on the internet. Thanks in advance!
04/05/2019 she left me while I love her in my heart but I felt bad but I never give up in my goals and she return back 01/05/2020 and also I left her and blocked because I hate her so much even if she alone in this world I don't want her
damn, those muscles!
She has very little muscle mass. You can only see what little there is because her body fat is so low. That's called anorexia. She has spoken openly about it.
Yingdi Han fuckin magnificent ●♤☆
Thank you for this heartfelt message. Feeling the strength of your heart.
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Beautiful
Wow, I remember having tremendous respect for you when you were there with Annemiek van vleuten during the end of that race. She fell at that dangerous course and I really felt sorry for her.. To be honest I didn't care about anything past that, I just hoped that that dutch girl was allright.
These are the humans that have allowed the human race to come back from the brink of extinction.
At 1:00 she sounds like the Animatrix. "This would be my last chance to prove them ... wrong"
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champignonn I doubt you've ever worked hard enough to have this kind of heartbreak
Tim Novak sorry what mate?
Wow
Wisdom
Dear Miss Merry,
A man had made a promise to my mom that he would marry me this year. A month later, I found that he did the same thing to another woman. Then I asked him to choose me or her. Two weeks ago, he texted me that he did choose her.
Today is the day he married her.
Can you imagine how I feel?
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😑 Going through the same.
I am so sorry nobody should have to go through this devastation but love rejoices in truth and just because he didn't choose you does not mean that you are not chosen honey you are loved dearly by the Lord and if it's his will that you have someone you will have someone just for you baby stay in courage and keep moving forward love on you babe keep yourself busy God loves you and he has a wonderful plan for your life
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I feel better.
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Mara Abbott was heartbroken to finish 4th in the Olympics ... But Annemiek Van Vleuten had several broken vertebrae during her fall! I can understand her disappointment but if Annemiek Van Vleuten had not fallen, she would be Olympic champion. So Annemiek Van Vleuten may have more regrets than Mara Abbott.
I think when you had 1 km.away from the finish line, you should have finished it off to be sure. but you were confident. At that moment, the people who were watching your competators at your back were overwhelmed and thrilled at the thought they will beat you up. You were aware of their gaze , it hinted you to put up more speed. And when you finally heard the three roaring at your side for a kill, you should have exerted the last ounce of courage instead of being demoralized looking at them. You were already the sure winner. But accident will happen.
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She's got nice legs!
She's fighting anorexia :(
Really?
KelseyJ orthorexia
Just skip to 9:00. Waste 9 minutes of my life learning about bike riding
Kylie Hitchcock thx!!!
she makes no sense
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You love competition??? Really, this speech sounds like excuses!! Three riders beat you in the end to the podium. The last 50 meters of the race you gave up!! How embarrassing!!
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There is no such thing as a broken heart. Creating this concept of "broken heart" is just a label, or word, idea for some kind of condition occuring that is completely self created and self - imposed and has never been done to anyone by someone else.
Simon Nilsson Yes there is. Ever lost anyone you loved. The physical effect can be deadly.
I didn't take any lesson from this
This has NOTHING to do with a broken heart! These videos are always mislabeled. So you lost a big race!? Really? Train harder and hit it harder next time. Disappointing yes, but not cause for a broken heart surely. People with real broken hearts would probably like to hear more about that subject. Not about some cycling race. where you got caught by sprinters at the end. I have no use for this video.
Perhaps you didn't find this video useful but that does not mean no one else will. And, I am sure there are better ways to express your disapproval.
I haven't watched the whole video, but this made me lol
You did not understand this video and you did not understand the sport.
Cycling has been her relationship for the past decade. She is committed to it. Loving. Works hard to maintain it. To make it grow and succeed. Yes it is the very best definition of a relationship. And she hit a low point on it. Like all relationships do, eventually. Still, it is a privilege to be able to have lived it. You certainly did not get the msg.
chris meadows glad I saw this comment. Thanks for saving me time from watching it.
Jeez, eat an apple or something.