Owning Alone: conquering your fear of being solo: Teresa Rodriguez at TEDxWilmington

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  • Опубликовано: 22 май 2024
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  • @husqvarna17
    @husqvarna17 4 года назад +1276

    I talk to myself, we never argue and we like the same things.

  • @lilflamingo9529
    @lilflamingo9529 7 лет назад +1662

    Eating alone doesn't bother me, I use to being alone but it would be nice to have meaningful conversation with someone.

    • @pebblepod30
      @pebblepod30 7 лет назад +9

      Luana Robbins
      Yup me too, here in Australia.

    • @b.d7021
      @b.d7021 7 лет назад +21

      can i join you guys? what time are we meeting?

    • @arsensaakyan2821
      @arsensaakyan2821 7 лет назад +5

      Luana Robbins Lets have a diner.I will cook for you.

    • @arsensaakyan2821
      @arsensaakyan2821 7 лет назад +3

      Josh Uddin No problem

    • @arsensaakyan2821
      @arsensaakyan2821 7 лет назад +3

      Tell me when

  • @1diagram
    @1diagram Год назад +43

    The loneliest times I’ve spent in my life have been while in a bad relationship or in my broken family dynamic, not while I was actually living alone.

  • @HayleyJeffs
    @HayleyJeffs 4 года назад +151

    1. Be brave 07:40
    2. Be faithful (to yourself) 08:14
    3. Be wise 09:05
    4. Be light (leave fear, shame and embarrassment behind) 09:36
    5. Be beautiful (confidence and patience) 10:45
    6. Be generous (give of yourself, give back, give compliments) 11:58
    7. Be soulful 12:52

  • @lewpal
    @lewpal 5 лет назад +1168

    I'm in a deep place of depression and this video has helped a little. I feel so rejected and used but this gives me a little hope. I'm not alone, we're not alone in feeling this.

    • @rosebudd5724
      @rosebudd5724 5 лет назад +36

      Lewis Murphy, I am so sorry you feel this way but you are right, you are not alone. Although it may seem otherwise, please know there are people that care about you that you do not know, and I am one of them. I hope you find happiness and peace of mind - this comes from within, not from outside of yourself. I wish you the very best! X

    • @jadealexander8233
      @jadealexander8233 5 лет назад +5

      Lewis Murphy, you are loved no matter what you did there is a chance of reconciliation and there is everlasting love ready to befall on you from the grace of Christ. God loves you and his children, including myself, love you.

    • @radermachera8204
      @radermachera8204 5 лет назад +8

      Hope you’ve overcome your depression by now. Just remember - this too shall pass as there’s nothing permanent in this world, whether it’s sadness, happiness, etc. Life is like that.

    • @kyle-cl1by
      @kyle-cl1by 5 лет назад +7

      I hope by now you are no longer depressed. I am currently going through just what you were feeling. It's terrible I feel alone even when I'm with the people closest to me and i don't know what to do. I just got a car for my 16th birthday, and I thought that would help but now it feels like the only time people want me around is to drive them places. But the second after I drive them somewhere it feels like they stop caring about me. I dont even know what I want anymore. It just feels like the harder I try to make myself happy the more lonely I feel, and less happy. I dont want to tell my parents or go see a therapist cause I feel like people will judge me, or tell me that I'm wrong for feeling the way I do. Being depressed has such a negative stigma so I try to avoid it, and I act as happy as possible but it just feels fake. I dont feel like I'm being genuine with my self or others. If you have any tips that helped you get over it or deal with it I'd be glad to hear.

    • @paulcooper5748
      @paulcooper5748 5 лет назад +6

      Im the same i can relate.

  • @Tungsten96
    @Tungsten96 6 лет назад +939

    I intentionally stay alone when I can. The universe has me cross paths with people for a reason so they stick around until they feel like leaving. Being alone has more benefits than people realize. It clears your head and gives you peace.

  • @snowleopard7952
    @snowleopard7952 3 года назад +121

    Rejection is good for the ego.
    Heartbreak opens the heart ♥️
    That’s my experience.

  • @Swanky95472
    @Swanky95472 5 лет назад +507

    the title of this was misleading. This talk is all about TRAVELING alone, not being alone on the daily.

    • @Jakerski
      @Jakerski 4 года назад +58

      Swankster My interpretation is that she’s talking about traveling in your own life. Going through your life alone. You don’t have to be with someone to do stuff alone and be faithful to your own self.

    • @mitch1668
      @mitch1668 4 года назад +20

      This is one of worst ted talks

    • @enhmurron
      @enhmurron 4 года назад +5

      ty for saving 10min of my life

    • @blackrose4101
      @blackrose4101 3 года назад

      @Kevin Tewey yeah i was nice to listen to but not helpful since I have hardly nothing to my name and now stuck in the house thanks to covid i would love to travel but cant, I cant even really go in to town what are you meant to do when your stuck in the house and have no friends thanks to being isolated by your ex?

    • @alainapowerchick2025
      @alainapowerchick2025 3 года назад +5

      The travel is a metaphor. She's talking about navigating your life alone.

  • @thereaIitsybitsyspider
    @thereaIitsybitsyspider 7 лет назад +759

    Wow, I would never want to be rejected in the way this woman was. It's admirable that she was able to turn things around.

    • @lonewolf3564
      @lonewolf3564 7 лет назад +5

      Theitsybitsyspider she did nothing great

    • @sarahcox4161
      @sarahcox4161 5 лет назад +8

      Atul Lall Uh, what?

    • @pamemarald3601
      @pamemarald3601 5 лет назад +7

      that is bcoz u haven't heard the other side of story, the man's side. He must have gone through a lot as well :)...!! don't u think

    • @fancys4783
      @fancys4783 5 лет назад +4

      Spot on Pam there's two side to every story.

    • @pamemarald3601
      @pamemarald3601 5 лет назад +6

      @@fancys4783 well she told nothing about the guy, just nothing how was he to her, how were they spending time in Australia. Thats not fair just got no fair assessment about her situation, just one sided one dimensional story, incomplete, irritating

  • @anewloveofficial9137
    @anewloveofficial9137 6 лет назад +203

    Nobody wants to be left alone but it is when you're alone that you discover your inner strength. Learn to be tough because it's the only way for you to get the upperhand of the relationship.

    • @BigHenFor
      @BigHenFor 4 года назад +16

      It's not about being tough: it's about self-love and self-respect. When you know yourself, and know how to take care yourself, you can afford to say, and to hear the word 'No', and not be araid or crushed by it.

    • @tabithashayla
      @tabithashayla 4 года назад

      BigHenFor I think that’s what my lesson has been for my whole journey.

    • @JessMaccain
      @JessMaccain 4 года назад

      @@BigHenFor Well said ! Kudos:)

    • @JessMaccain
      @JessMaccain 4 года назад

      @@BigHenFor Well said! Kudos!

  • @thebrain678
    @thebrain678 5 лет назад +67

    Thing that sucks being alone is when you cook you know you always got to the dishes.

    • @pepinicico6193
      @pepinicico6193 4 года назад

      Muy buena wey jajajjajsjja

    • @kateSullivan3927
      @kateSullivan3927 3 года назад +6

      that's what paper plates are for, my friend, LOL

    • @dolospears8681
      @dolospears8681 3 года назад +2

      @@kateSullivan3927 and disposable cutlery lol

  • @elizabethk3238
    @elizabethk3238 4 года назад +114

    Divorced 30 years with never a desire to cohabit with anyone again. Love living alone. At 71 I occasionally wonder about having no one around if I should fall ill...but still no desire to live with someone.

    • @MsGeminorum
      @MsGeminorum 4 года назад +18

      I'm like that also. I divorced at age 30 and now I am 58 and no desire to remarry. I love my peace.

    • @iveolovarria9390
      @iveolovarria9390 4 года назад +10

      Elizabeth K
      I feel the same. I love being alone

    • @rogerkomula8057
      @rogerkomula8057 4 года назад

      Darn, I really was hoping. Top of my list is 71-year-old stuff.

    • @marshamcdonald1475
      @marshamcdonald1475 4 года назад +9

      Elizabeth: nothing was more
      Agonizing, terrifying than
      Marriage to the so called males I married. I was so
      Alone and was being abused
      Financially, emotionally,
      Physically all in the name
      Of marriage. Never again
      Will I marry . Look at the
      Rate of domestic violence
      Against women and children.
      The shelters are overflowing.

    • @sotest4427
      @sotest4427 3 года назад +2

      But these is not being alone, you have empathy here and some kind of friendship here!!

  • @lavieestbelle6068
    @lavieestbelle6068 5 лет назад +37

    Be faithful to yourself, have a plan, make it clear, be brave, be cautious, use wisdom and go do what you said you would.

  • @Restless_Vibes27
    @Restless_Vibes27 6 лет назад +173

    being alone for long enough you eventually dont feel anything anymore, it numbs your emotions, you really start to believe youre invisible to the world and that everybody is enjoying life and happy and youre just drifting through life day by day empty and nobody notices you or your pain or cares

    • @BigHenFor
      @BigHenFor 4 года назад +43

      That's loneliness, which is differs from being alone. Being alone is an act of agency and autonomy. You can have relationships but don't need them to feel good about yourself. If you really want to reconnect with people, it's best that you that you reconnect with who you are. What things you like doing, eating, drinking, what make you laugh, what gives you joy. Then go out and do those things. The energy you'll give off will be more attractive. Don't take things personally.

    • @janiskacon
      @janiskacon 4 года назад +18

      @@BigHenFor Agreed, Being alone is far different than being lonely which can happen while in a marriage or other supposedly intimate relationship. For example, if you live with a mate who ignores you experience loneliness along with rejection which combined is extremely painful.

    • @moreadventure3627
      @moreadventure3627 4 года назад +3

      agreed

    • @craiga7652
      @craiga7652 4 года назад +4

      It's different for different people.

    • @keithgood7181
      @keithgood7181 4 года назад +11

      I agree with the above comments you're talking about loneliness NOT being alone!! I'm alone, never married, haven't had a girlfriend in almost 30 years!! It's been tough after I got paralyzed in an accident almost 30 years ago BUT.. I'm alone and I'm doing fine! Sure, I would like a girlfriend but it's not going to bring me down not having one!! I'm comfortable in my own skin and YES you have to be because if you're not strong minded it can destroy you!! On the other hand I'm not TOTALLY alone!!! I have TWO of the GREATEST friends in the world/universe... my best friend of almost 45 years Anthony Duarte and another best friend of 54 years (that's my age) that friend is JESUS CHRIST!!!
      *_GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!_*

  • @ichoosejoy2712
    @ichoosejoy2712 Год назад +18

    We really need more videos like this, not ones that scare you with severe health warnings about being alone but how to live a great, fun life alone.

  • @BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama
    @BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama 4 года назад +30

    Being faithful to ourselves is the most challenging part

  • @michaelj1368
    @michaelj1368 6 лет назад +131

    Im a grown man and traveling alone sounds scary. I'm inspired by you brave ladies.

    • @sylvanafow1340
      @sylvanafow1340 5 лет назад +5

      Come on, do it! :)
      Start to another city by yourself for a couple days. You can do it!

    • @BigHenFor
      @BigHenFor 4 года назад +5

      I loved it, I love it because travelling with others can be stressful.

    • @jamesvincent9135
      @jamesvincent9135 4 года назад +4

      They're grown women. Are you suggesting that being a grown man makes you stronger?

    • @petersaternusbrazil
      @petersaternusbrazil 4 года назад +1

      I feel the same. Couchsurfing helps

    • @ifkanoloshuwaaallah.2341
      @ifkanoloshuwaaallah.2341 4 года назад +10

      Lol I am a woman and I love solo travel. I think Its more dangerous for a woman in general.

  • @hotcarmel12
    @hotcarmel12 7 лет назад +366

    It's all about doing what works for you. What makes you smile instantly? What makes you feel good about you? And learning to enjoy your company. You enjoy your own company and other's will enjoy you. Also get out of the comparing and competing crap. Be proud, happy and love the life you have.

  • @josuenunez6541
    @josuenunez6541 3 года назад +18

    After being with someone for 8 years only to have her leave me and break my heart I fell into a hole of depression... it’s been a long period of grieving but this video helped a lot

    • @user-mi4yc7pr3x
      @user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 года назад

      hope you're better now mate

    • @beforethelastpetalfallz7888
      @beforethelastpetalfallz7888 Год назад +1

      Hope you are doing great now. My husband left me last month after being married for 9 years and I am so depressed.

    • @TeresaRodriguezSF
      @TeresaRodriguezSF 3 месяца назад

      @@beforethelastpetalfallz7888 I hope that you are doing better! YOu got this! Teresa

  • @deborahbattle-og4nz
    @deborahbattle-og4nz 2 месяца назад +1

    I thought it was just me. I'm happily single and about to turn 62. I've had many relationships, but so much more comfortable in my skin. People expect me to be a "bitter old lady", but the only expectations I have to keep are my own. I'm glad to know others are out there like minded as me.

  • @nata3467
    @nata3467 Год назад +5

    I am alone but not lonely. I love traveling solo. I love my small cabin and my time in the quiet.

  • @lynnsottak4512
    @lynnsottak4512 5 лет назад +16

    Be brave, be faithful, be wise, be light, be generous, be soulful.

  • @muna7033
    @muna7033 5 лет назад +11

    Balance is everything. We strive for wholesomeness. There will be times that you may find yourself alone and you'll have to make it by yourself. There will be times when you need people around and they won't be there not because they don't want to but because you've isolated yourself and decided to prove that you can do fine all by yourself and you made people believe that you don't need anyone... even though sometimes you may actually want someone around... Connections are great.. Being comfortable with your solitude is also great... Both are necessary in life

    • @mlimun
      @mlimun 3 года назад

      Great comment, couldn't agree more!

  • @elhadjdiallo633
    @elhadjdiallo633 4 года назад +4

    Frankly speaking being alone is the best thing that has ever happen to me biblically speaking .... Iam in love with myself , self love is the cure to self loath ....

  • @pattymarquez1063
    @pattymarquez1063 6 лет назад +38

    I am currently visiting San Antonio with myself. It does feel a bit odd and yet liberating. I just got out of a one year relationship that was tearing me up and this trip could not have been planned at a better time. I am meeting the coolest people. Air BnB is helping me afford this trip. She is a bit scattered..however I get her point

  • @suelisak1031
    @suelisak1031 8 лет назад +98

    I am sharing this with our Women Healing Wounds Group. Being with ourselves is the hardest step. As women, we have been conditioned to serve others. This is a true test to serving the higher self. Thank you.

    • @lonewolf3564
      @lonewolf3564 7 лет назад +2

      sue lisak no one has conditioned women to serve others, only sheep follow the herd

    • @lonewolf3564
      @lonewolf3564 7 лет назад +4

      I can totally understand what you're saying. I'm from the USA, but of East Indian ethnicity. Indian culture treats women very poorly and has halted their progression for centuries. I do agree that in the past women were conditioned to only have a homemaker role, but today it's very different. I'd say those old gender roles were done away for at least 20 years now. Women get paid the same, and actually have a lot more rights than males today. Just look at sexual harassment cases/domestic abuse/sexual abuse/divorce... Men have far less rights in these areas. However, I'm very glad to see strong independent women making a life for themselves; but I also see a lot of overcompensation/false feminism/man hating from women -particularity millennial women, but crazy millennials are a whole different issue in their own.
      I just felt the lady in this video was tooting her own horn too proudly when what she went through was just a rough break up... I showed my mother this video and she laughed at this entitled white woman and said she never seen real suffering. My mother also said only spoke of first world problems and that far worse things can happen to a woman than being left at the alter.
      I see a lot of this "the world should cheer for me" attitude from a lot of white women, particularly in the Silicon Valley area where I live in CA. I mainly feel this is becasue white women, like white males generally have it a lot easier than people/women from other cultures; and so when they encounter any minor hardship that most women from another country/culture would find trivial, they're very quick to throw a parade for themselves.
      Like you so eloquently said, women from other cultures have had a rough time breaking the mold. My grandmother had to deal with war/civil unrest/genocide/famine/domestic imprisonment during the partition times in India; being left at the alter would've been the easiest thing to deal with for her. This is TED talk so I think only people who very extreme/unique stories should be called to get up on that stage, and for me this lady really had nothing spectacular to say; and this talk just felt more like reaching for attention and that she still didn't really learn much from what she went through.
      From what you wrote, you sound like a very sweet, wonderful and intelligent woman... I think you'd be better suited to go on that stage and talk over this lady. Being alone is not easy for anyone, whether woman or man... No woman "needs" a man, and no woman is less than any man. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing your viewpoint.

    • @sculder85
      @sculder85 7 лет назад

      What if the woman is a never-married single mother over 25? Is that even worse in the Russian culture? Just curious.

    • @PsychoLogicalGrl
      @PsychoLogicalGrl 5 лет назад

      I'd love to be a member of your group. Is it online?

    • @dorcasphoebe8062
      @dorcasphoebe8062 5 лет назад

      sue lisak can you please add me

  • @lindaredlick8821
    @lindaredlick8821 6 лет назад +20

    If you change your scenery even if it's just the next town you change your perspective therefore changing your mind.

  • @kikonyc68
    @kikonyc68 5 лет назад +40

    I have NO CHOICE but to do things alone.

  • @eyesee1212
    @eyesee1212 4 года назад +10

    Years ago I had my heart broken, (had quite a few broken hearts before this one) but after 7 months I sat in my car and realised I wasn't in love with no one, I didn't hurt anymore, and you know what? for once in a long time I felt exactly as she said, it was like I was a child again in the way I felt free, no broken heart, not even lonely, only happiness and delight, it was the best feeling ever. it's nice to be free. yes I'm happily married now.

    • @user-mi4yc7pr3x
      @user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 года назад

      how you realized that ? i dont get it? i miss being that happy as when i was a child...i really really crave for that feeling of simple happiness...i can't even smile anymore...

    • @eyesee1212
      @eyesee1212 2 года назад +1

      @@user-mi4yc7pr3x I don't know what happened at that stage it's like I just got over it. it didn't last for long once I got into another relationship and then life gets to you, but in the end you have to find inner peace, do you remember what made you happy as a child, was it nature or an animal that made you smile, are you holding grudges against people, because before we can heal we have to forgive, not what action they did but just as a human being. I grow a veggie garden that makes me happy seeing that seed grow into a big veggie, just to cuddle my little dog makes me happy when she is happy, and my husband makes me happy when he is laughing and happy.

    • @user-mi4yc7pr3x
      @user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 года назад

      @@eyesee1212 yeah it's always good to find another gf/bf. But if they are a strange person it's only gonna make it worse

  • @user-dj7gc1wo7b
    @user-dj7gc1wo7b 4 года назад +11

    I love this!!!! Thank you!!!! Strangely, despite me being alone, I do not feel alone ❤️

  • @wenilynpastolero
    @wenilynpastolero 2 года назад +8

    I recommend a podcast called Solo by Peter Mcgraw. It's empowering and I'm encouraged to not be afraid being single my whole life and being solo.

  • @lavieestbelle6068
    @lavieestbelle6068 5 лет назад +6

    Yes, the key is to live in the now. Enjoy each day, tomorrow will take care of itself.

  • @lisaguerra4577
    @lisaguerra4577 4 года назад +5

    Ouch! Poor lady thank you for sharing your growth with us. You are a great lady. Bravo. I know that hurt so badly. I’m so proud of you for your victory!

  • @trentlong1796
    @trentlong1796 5 лет назад +7

    I needed this it’s ok to be single and even if it’s forever.
    It’s ok to...This is a touching reminder nothing is forever..

  • @larryjones9773
    @larryjones9773 Год назад +2

    I have found that if I am working out, things like fear of being alone, are greatly diminished. Solution: a long walk or jog.

  • @shizzle1903
    @shizzle1903 4 года назад +13

    Thank you for sharing your story Teresa. You are a strong woman. I’m 43 man and although my struggle is not with someone else, but a struggle with myself. I’ve lost my way but working towards finding it. This was a helpful piece to add to my stash of enlightening videos.

    • @TeresaRodriguezSF
      @TeresaRodriguezSF 3 месяца назад

      I hope that you are doing better! Thank you for sharing! Teresa

  • @marcuservin9990
    @marcuservin9990 4 года назад +11

    Solitude is Truly brave and beneficial

    • @amandawhidden6844
      @amandawhidden6844 4 года назад

      And involuntary, therefore pointless. It doesn't give us what we truly need or want. It's just business. Business is not fulfillment. 💔

  • @gaber6382
    @gaber6382 7 лет назад +64

    Holy shit. This made me realize that I have been living my life on neutral.

  • @mitukur2120
    @mitukur2120 3 года назад +1

    I was stuck in life, playing games all day and doing nothing, and then a friend introduced me to this program called Forwago. Now I'm on a clear path forward and enjoy every day.

  • @madebyluv
    @madebyluv 6 лет назад +47

    She's so strong. She's such an inspiration. She gives so much hope!!!! ❤️❤️

  • @markaldredmagtibay1775
    @markaldredmagtibay1775 3 года назад +3

    Words simply can not describe how helpful to me Forwago is. It completely changed the way I think and feel about everyday things. This program is too good and it is too bad that many people don't know about it.

    • @mr.jeeva.s8829
      @mr.jeeva.s8829 3 года назад

      if anyone needs some motivation, start right now because if u don’t, a year from now u would’ve wished u started earlier. do it so your future self will thank u!!

  • @MDN418
    @MDN418 7 лет назад +37

    There are places on earth where its worst to be a woman. Once you meet them kind, you will feel sorry for them. You will cry with them as they say how lucky you are being careless and free. I am thankful that I wasn't born that way. Freedom is everything. Being alone sometimes will take you to a place where not everyone have been. Cheers to #strongwomen

  • @dark_architect1644
    @dark_architect1644 4 года назад +2

    Im 23 years old, just got divorced after 1 year of mirrage, car broke down, and lost my job all in 2 months.
    Being alone is scary but i think its my best chance to grow as a person and be happy with no responsibility.

    • @davidbolha
      @davidbolha 4 года назад

      Don't forget to go MGTOW. 😉😎🖒

  • @caligurl2027
    @caligurl2027 Год назад +1

    I have no problem with it just being my dog and I. She’s my best friend. I talk to her and let her know how much I love her….she’s well loved. I will always have a dog that’s my one and only friend/best friend. I guess I’m considered an introvert/extrovert. I have no problem talking to people…I just don’t want to make any friends. I love my time with just my dog and I. I’m very independent. The downside of not having friends is that if I ended up in the hospital or something where I wasn’t able to take care of my dog I don’t know who would. It couldn’t be just anyone so that is my fear. I love being single and alone. I can do whatever I want anytime whenever however….
    I talk to myself and my dog all the time. When I’m at work and I’m thinking out loud, I really have to watch what I say

  • @cheekyfox4123
    @cheekyfox4123 7 лет назад +627

    lesson learned: don't trust ANYONE.

    • @lonewolf3564
      @lonewolf3564 7 лет назад +28

      Cheeky Fox you clearly didn't learn anything at all

    • @brianbeeler1715
      @brianbeeler1715 6 лет назад +52

      Cheeky Fox "Trust but verify." - Ronald Reagan. Never trust anyone over yourself. Always be open and a skeptic.

    • @jamesgentry13
      @jamesgentry13 6 лет назад +9

      Atul Lall I don't even trust myself

    • @tehsafura5371
      @tehsafura5371 6 лет назад +3

      Dont trust anyone even your own self hehehe

    • @farhita6282
      @farhita6282 6 лет назад +2

      Omg yessss

  • @fatifleur-hp6jr
    @fatifleur-hp6jr 4 года назад +9

    We come to this life alone we will leave it alone this is a good lesson👌

    • @mayaalsir9986
      @mayaalsir9986 4 года назад +2

      fati fleur big facts

    • @claireoconor7986
      @claireoconor7986 4 года назад +1

      fati fleur. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN GUARANTEE TO WAKE UP WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS YOURSELF, SO GET TO KNOWN YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. I LOVE THIS QUOTE BECAUSE IT IS SO VERY TRUE!

  • @jnick4218
    @jnick4218 5 лет назад +8

    Love yourself, that is the only solution to everything, if you know how to love yourself first before love someone then you will have no problems at all, even if you get betrayed cos the first reaction you should have is to love yourself and make sure you're not hurt.

  • @c.9850
    @c.9850 5 лет назад +7

    It's wonderful. Don't be afraid.

  • @wami6328
    @wami6328 4 года назад +5

    It's the space between the notes that makes the music.

  • @sensitivestronger337
    @sensitivestronger337 3 года назад +5

    7:00 Create space for yourself for something New by leaving ALL labels about yourself behind. 👍
    Be Brave (committed)
    Be faithful (individual happiness = world peace)
    Be safe, be light (fear says no, You're not allowed to, no it can't happen...)
    Be Beautiful, Be Generous, *Be Soulful (share *encouragement, understanding & wisdom with others).

  • @brittanyjackson6432
    @brittanyjackson6432 5 лет назад +4

    Hello, this is remarkable and refreshing to hear thank you so much! I'm so glad you bounced back Ms. Teresa I can relate to your story.

  • @dorcasyoga8137
    @dorcasyoga8137 4 года назад +6

    Love this! I’m a nomad and my family don’t get it! You experience growth with every country, culture and person you encounter!

  • @monikatamang2562
    @monikatamang2562 6 лет назад +16

    Every time i feel alone i listen this

  • @vinylninja
    @vinylninja 2 года назад +3

    in 2012 as a young 21-year-old, I backpacked around North America on my own for 3 months. My only plan was to enter the first pub I see as soon as I leave the airport and I did. My life changed, I lost all of my depression and the world opened up for me.

    • @user-mi4yc7pr3x
      @user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 года назад

      how you're doing now mate?

    • @vinylninja
      @vinylninja 2 года назад

      @@user-mi4yc7pr3x Never better in all my days haha thanks for asking. Actually going solo on an ayahuasca retreat in less than two weeks as it happens

    • @user-mi4yc7pr3x
      @user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 года назад

      @@vinylninja found some love in the meanwhile also?

  • @lovedandhighlyfavord
    @lovedandhighlyfavord 4 года назад

    I believe there are no accidents, upon just leaving my love, I have been diving into sadness, coming across this video may very well be an intricate part of changing my life. Thank you so much !

  • @louchieamartinez6878
    @louchieamartinez6878 3 месяца назад

    I love this talk it feels like I understood it since it's the same as the voice I hear in my head.

  • @FlowerOverviews
    @FlowerOverviews 5 лет назад +6

    Wow! This video truly inspired me.
    It’s funny how sometimes we judge things too quickly. At first I wasn’t very interested in keeping the video rolling but a few minutes in and I felt very connected to what she was saying. Beautiful words.

    • @TeresaRodriguezSF
      @TeresaRodriguezSF 4 года назад

      Thank you Angel Rose. :-) You made my day. - Teresa

  • @dosesandmimoses
    @dosesandmimoses 2 года назад +5

    Being alone is not so much a problem as long as one has friends and family or even coworkers to give support. But it is tough without a support network; think of tom hanks’ character in castaway. It’s not that one can’t survive, it’s more that having people in your life can enrich your life.

  • @zachbaker5259
    @zachbaker5259 4 года назад +1

    Career in the service industry working with many other human beings every day helps me understand the value of being alone, which I think is really just a state of mind anyway. Most of my free time is spent with myself, doing whatever I want and whenever I want to.

  • @iiAngelic
    @iiAngelic 4 года назад +1

    I solo travel often, but this video really put into words what happens when you commit to your dreams and vision for yourself.

  • @ruianna5875
    @ruianna5875 5 лет назад +8

    She reminds me on how I used to travel by myself. I just dont do it anymore because I am busy looking for someone to travel with.
    I should start packing again.
    Thank you :D

  • @Saffron.Aerowyn_07
    @Saffron.Aerowyn_07 6 лет назад +5

    Well said ... being solitary is underrated. 🦋

  • @easymathstutor
    @easymathstutor 2 года назад +2

    I'm willing to take on this journey to be single and take care of myself. It's a journey no human being can run away from

  • @aprameyaananda8046
    @aprameyaananda8046 7 лет назад +3

    Great and challenging subject for many! I was in absolute denial of the fear I had around being single. It surfaced when by my own decisions I found myself on my own. What 'saved' me was my beloved Guru and the spiritual solutions he offered. This was a turning point in my life. I have decided to dedicate my life to Nithyananda's mission and now am a Hindu monk.

    • @tejaswinilakkaraju258
      @tejaswinilakkaraju258 Год назад

      Good to see you here🙏. What better life than that of brahmachari.

  • @emilythesongbird2306
    @emilythesongbird2306 7 лет назад +5

    Beautiful talk! It seems you are addressing the Hero's Journey, the transformation that occurs through the willingness to leave what is familiar and take risks that force you to grow or die. Thank you for sharing your story. It is empowering and encouraging for us all to follow a deeper impulse in us to be the true spiritual travelers we are. Thank you.

  • @laurashay7740
    @laurashay7740 Год назад

    Such good words and Ms Rodriguez makes alot of good scents. Here is a flower for a fabulous lady like you. ⚘

  • @Liz-em6nj
    @Liz-em6nj 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It was beautiful and uplifting.

  • @mickymouse2222
    @mickymouse2222 4 года назад +4

    She's amazing. Thank you for sharing the journey you were on and the lessons learnt. Over 6 years from getting your talk posted on RUclips, your story is still bestowing practical knowledge to those who see this video.

    • @TeresaRodriguezSF
      @TeresaRodriguezSF 3 месяца назад

      Thank you! I hope that you are doing well. ~Teresa

  • @juliand.l.4310
    @juliand.l.4310 3 года назад +3

    “I was alone, but I was alone in London.” Hahahahaha!

  • @sanakoamin3996
    @sanakoamin3996 3 года назад +1

    The one thing that really made me feel better, energized, and determined to reach my goals was Forwago. Thank you so much !!!

    • @budiantahadimartana1740
      @budiantahadimartana1740 3 года назад

      I tried Forwago way back in a private group, don't know if it's publicly available yet

  • @amrice62
    @amrice62 3 года назад +1

    I'm doin' it!!!! Just sold my house with no idea where to go BUT, have great ideas... I just had been getting freaked out and this timing couldn't be better🙏

  • @olganadal9775
    @olganadal9775 5 лет назад +12

    Great topic, so happy people are talking about it now

  • @sadhusai5645
    @sadhusai5645 6 лет назад +6

    Yes dinning alone is most scariest thing.
    Your speech is inspiring.

  • @nxi96
    @nxi96 2 месяца назад

    "World peace through individual happiness."🥰

  • @TZach1987
    @TZach1987 8 месяцев назад

    This woman is on to something. I need to come back to this

  • @tanyaattarwala
    @tanyaattarwala 5 лет назад +11

    Nice talk👍🏽. Things happen for a reason in our life and a positive attitude can make all the difference! Thanks for sharing!🙏🏼
    Marz

  • @missmann9327
    @missmann9327 2 года назад +3

    fear of living alone? i lost count of how many times i have looked around my home and thought "WOW this is awesome" look at what all i have and i can do what i want, when i want, and how i want. no arguing, being controlled, manipulated, etc. no wife = happy life.

  • @Howlite__
    @Howlite__ 2 года назад +1

    I actually enjoy being alone because I never have to worry about relying or worrying about anyone else wirh me. It gives me time to be at peace and have self love. But part of me is still afraid. That no one will love me if I am alone. And I also wish that I had the courage and confidence to stand alone and tell others there is nothing wrong with it.

  • @bluesign3034
    @bluesign3034 Год назад +1

    I needed this. Thank you a lot. 😭

  • @iAmTheSquidThing
    @iAmTheSquidThing 9 лет назад +253

    Maybe wanderlust is part of human nature. Perhaps we're supposed to be a bit nomadic, and having a fixed home is just a side-effect of the agricultural revolution which is unhealthy for some people.

  • @maaryxart1170
    @maaryxart1170 7 лет назад +62

    Elephant and Castle sounded magical.... I nearly spit out my tea laughing. Anyone from London knows it's anything but!

    • @heyimalice8633
      @heyimalice8633 7 лет назад +1

      Maria M anything but?

    • @BeaDem
      @BeaDem 5 лет назад +1

      Mav Mav hahahahha agree E@C is the last place to be magical

    • @sonjak8265
      @sonjak8265 5 лет назад +2

      The name is magical. It is the place where I spent a night at an abandon building with the London homeless when I was working illegally in London.

    • @kiwifruit0074
      @kiwifruit0074 5 лет назад

      That magical place Elephant & Castle lol. I knew it in the 90s...maybe its improved.

    • @anthonybalarkas118
      @anthonybalarkas118 4 года назад

      Mav Mav my thinking exactly 😂

  • @shng6658
    @shng6658 2 года назад +1

    I do it all most all the time, and I really enjoy it.

  • @JulietaLicumbi
    @JulietaLicumbi 4 года назад

    What a wonderful speech!!

  • @beejo9485
    @beejo9485 5 лет назад +53

    This is scattered. Are we talking about being alone or going on a vacation alone?

    • @crossroads670
      @crossroads670 5 лет назад +1

      😂😂 yes, she was a mess? Wtf

    • @emmiedelweiss
      @emmiedelweiss 4 года назад

      Exactly.

    • @samanthachildress1091
      @samanthachildress1091 4 года назад +2

      She used that as her own personal example to show the importance of being alone. Traveling was the platform she used to express this in her talk. Can you not connect the dots? Much like mythology uses stories to express the deeper meaning of how life events effect us on a soul level.

    • @amandagarten9793
      @amandagarten9793 4 года назад +1

      Galaxy’s Animations Yes! Thank you so much for saying that. I wish that everyone with negative thoughts would keep them to themselves. Spread positivity not negativity.

  • @Tombrosapien
    @Tombrosapien 5 лет назад +17

    It’s not the fear I need to conquer, it’s the BOREDOM of being alone ☠️

  • @arlinegeorge6967
    @arlinegeorge6967 3 года назад

    Lovely talk . inspiring. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

  • @chrissylyles7884
    @chrissylyles7884 5 лет назад +1

    I loved this. When she started talking about traveling alone it really spoke to me. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about going on trips by myself. This helped a whole lot

  • @Shaniloka369
    @Shaniloka369 5 лет назад +3

    I'm so glad you conquer that hurt in your life. You have made me stronger today. Thank you.

  • @princesslve
    @princesslve 5 лет назад +4

    This is one of the best talks I’ve listened to. Your words made me feel humbled and reminds me that no matter what you’re going through, there is always room for perseverance.
    Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @catalinojrdazo809
    @catalinojrdazo809 2 года назад

    This made me cry. Thank you. 👍

  • @patrickhennessy3224
    @patrickhennessy3224 Год назад

    Who could leave this gorgeous, intelligent lady?

  • @ekennahutchinson1636
    @ekennahutchinson1636 5 лет назад +4

    I am going to trust the universe to take care of my wellbeing

  • @crismeloearth
    @crismeloearth 6 лет назад +78

    Not "every" girl. I never wanted the white wedding.

    • @bunnycat4153
      @bunnycat4153 4 года назад

      This whole talk is actually problematic from a “white” narrative standpoint, unfortunately.

  • @robrobrobrobify
    @robrobrobrobify 3 года назад +1

    I'm 38, and until I was 35 I'd always in one relationship or another, with never more than a 3 or 4 month break. The last 3 years of my life, the last 3 FREE years of my life, had been the best, most progressive, most accomplished, most enjoyable.. I honestly never want to be in a relationship again. I just can't see it. Never ever live your life for someone, because you'll end up without a life of your own.

  • @priyankasingh6753
    @priyankasingh6753 3 года назад

    She is awesome.. it's TRUE when our mood is off and still if someone compliments us we forget that sadness for a while..
    Be kind and understandable.. spread happiness u will love urself.. beleive me

  • @aysaramos09
    @aysaramos09 5 лет назад +6

    I do everything alone.

  • @gina2032
    @gina2032 7 лет назад +5

    you are so strong & great and what a good advice.
    thanks for sharing your experience

  • @reillybab1
    @reillybab1 4 года назад

    So beautiful.., thank You 🙏❤️

  • @tmr2320
    @tmr2320 7 лет назад +103

    This is not about owning alone. It's about traveling alone. Unless you're privileged it's not realistic to "travel the world" as a means of therapy. Also she said this happened in the 80's but she referenced a book by Elckhart Tolle which was written in 1997 as if she had read it back then. ????

    • @PsychoLogicalGrl
      @PsychoLogicalGrl 5 лет назад +13

      I got that traveling made her feel she was in the now. A concept she had discovered for herself before the book was written.

    • @t3xmex165
      @t3xmex165 5 лет назад +1

      THANK YOU

    • @NoName-qc3ms
      @NoName-qc3ms 4 года назад

      She meant the 80s wedding dress.

  • @emmiearnold5431
    @emmiearnold5431 5 лет назад +8

    I appreciate the general sentiment of this so much, but the precedent of throwing out inpatient paperwork and flying halfway around the world isn't a one-size-fits-all policy - it's pretty dangerous. I'm so glad it worked out for her!

    • @kathykonkle1097
      @kathykonkle1097 Год назад

      Yeah. Ted talks only apply to the able-bodied who are struggling with mental issues. Nothing can help a person not feel lonely if they aren't physically able to get around and if no one has time for them.