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Boxing and jiu-jitsu are my 2 best arts and I am very blessed to have those skill sets. "It's better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war" ~
It makes a man walk with confidence, and others respect you, it also makes you respect peace, I've noticed throughout my adult life, that most men who advocate for war (politicians) have never been in conflict
@@anthonysmith3349 Thank you for your service sir. My father in law was over there twice, ended up dying from non-hodgekins lymphoma from exposure to Agent Orange..
My man spit straight facts. I train MMA and I can’t even be near people who don’t know what real fighting is about. All that bravado and tough talk dudes do is just plane bs.
Facts, I had a cocky basketball player friend who said he could beat me in an actual fight, But in a spar when I started to humble him in the second round he took off running. 😂
A lot of gardeners went to war. Theyre responsible for the vast arsenal we have on battle fields. If you can reap grass you can reap combatants. Gardeners, masons, laborers in general are strong.
@zeroshepard9513the statement shouldn't be taken literally. It's widely understood that someone with fighting skills has a better chance in a confrontation than someone without them, like a gardener. Most gardeners are not trained for combat. Consequently, they are typically seen as non-aggressive and harmless, making them more likely to be perceived as easy targets. If you were to meet a gardener, the last thing you'd think of them would be as a fighter.
@dudleyviban2764 Historically, gardeners can handle themselves. Im a lot stronger than a lot of people on the jujitsu mat because i work hard. Desk jockeys cant get that at the gym.
In high school I helped guys start training with weights, bodybuilding. Most gave up after a couple workouts. The guys that stuck around for a few months started looking different. They walked more confidently, shoulders squared, fluid movements, more eye contact. The difference is remarkable after only 2 or 3 months.
MMA changed my life as a man. I'm very confident and physically capable of protecting myself and my loved ones. Thank you for your video. I agree with everything.
Started boxing at 27 a couple months ago, I’ve always been big into fitness and weightlifting but this was a game changer, the confidence alone is worth it.
Wrestling first... best if it's learned from a young age.... then striking. We see this in the UFC the lifelong wrestlers dominate everyone. Guns and knives are great but knowing hand to hand is probably the most important thing.... the others would be aided by these abilities.
I’ve been boxing and practicing BJJ for years, on top of growing up in a rough area where I fought often. When you learn how to defend yourself, people sense it, and all of the sudden you have no more problems.
ABSOLUTELY AGREE. Also took up boxing and wrestling. The confidence is almost crazy, but you know when and when not to shoot off. Learning combat is a superpower fr fr
As a woman who grew up being bullied relentlessly, has had too many bad experiences with scary dangerous men bothering me while out and about, and has taken different types of personal defense, I totally agree. Once I took kickboxing, Aikido to get out of grasps, some Karate, and women’s personal defense, I was able to gain so much more confidence. That confidence has allowed me to be less afraid, walk confidently, and properly and realistically defend myself when needed.
I think boxing is the very best one, especially if one knows zero about fighting. Its much more versatile than people think. One of the most taught combat methods for by militaries around the world. It's also universal. In close quarters, even if you're old and your legs maybe don't work as good as they used to, you can still get off a pretty good 'ol one two. It's not exactly easy to learn, but it is simple. Simple concepts and lots of practice and you can do pretty good in a street fight. Great place to start and get into shape as well.
There something called using excessive force. You can go to jail if you really hurt someone bad for something stupid. It wouldn't be fair. legally you soppose to use the same amount of force your opponent is giving you to defend yourself. You’ll be surprised how much power you can have with just pepper spray and a gun. It's better to dominate your opponent with the lease violence as possible. Trust me. You don't want to appear as the main aggressor. In america you can go to jail very quick. You can be in for jail for 6 months awaiting trail for a murder case until your county D.A investigates in the incident
Would 100% recommend grappling. Started out in boxing at 15 on and off for 6 years. Never felt secure, competent, first 6 months into bjj/wrestling I have gained WAYYYYY more confidence.
You are an exception because you had hands before grappling. Hands are a must and s ground is a great addition. The whole confidence thing is all in the head. It is a presumption you can handle anything; you can't.😮
And most decent men should really know how to fight. Another problem is many men highly overestimate their ability to fight. A lot of times it’s the bad guys. But the bad guys are usually looking for someone they think they can take. As confident as they are(falsely or legitimately), they’re not looking for contenders…
As a 5 time world champion martial arts fighter, the first foreigner to win a Lethwei title and the only human being ever to be both Lethwei champion and Muaythai champion. While preparing for the first ever 200 man Kumite which will complete I tell every one of you that there is no best 1 art for self defense, discipline and building self confidence. A combination of at least 3 or more separate arts so you are truly immersed in each of them is best. Ground, striking, street striking/self defense and a well conditioned mind and body. Then and only then will a man be truly a man which is like a machine with the ability to be compassionate and fierce. OSS 🥋
Damn bro you a head bussa! I agree though. Ideally, you should be proficient on your feet and on the ground. My beef with the ground stuff for street fights is that if your first instinct and only training is to be on the ground, you're gonna be in a bad way on concrete with no rules. First thing should be to get the hell out of there, but if you can't, never leave your feet. The homies can get involved, you're easier to stab, and we can't forget the unforgiving concrete/pavement.
I've been training in boxing/kick boxing techniques for 25 years. I'm now 44 years old but actually have a better physique now then I did when I was 34. I can fight longer now than I could when I was 34. I can take bigger punches now than I could when I was 34. This is not because I am a pro championship martial artists like you, it's because I practice energy body stimulation, or chi body stimulation. I have gone beyond merely physical fighting with another man. I'm now capable of exiting my body and travelling to different realms and exploring this universe in a way that would normally be impossible as a mere man. My question for you as a five-time world champion is have you evolved beyond just being a human being physical warrior? Have you transcended your ego?
@ in a world full of confusion, twisted perceptions of the truth, and a whole lot of pain and wrong doing. My faith in Yahweh has not much at all to do with religion and my ego exist only because of cowards and those who trend in the paths of cowards that need humbling when they over step their boundary. Please do not allow my confidence to rub you the wrong way. Stay blessed. OSS
You can win in the mind put you as a person of society will never outrun the soft kill from the potato Irish famine to the covid shop to the trail of tears were the native Americans we're giving poison blankets dear Lord please protect the meet the week the elderly and install righteous anger to the able body man I shall carry my cross I own my original sin as a free man let this sink go into all government crucified Jesus Christ if you have the nerve just look at the crucifix it's a horror show then look to the heavens
@@MattKearns-zi4rc "Righteous anger" and "Physical violence" are two entirely different things. And yes if you can win in the mind, your god will see you to safety. God will carry you through this nonsense leaving you wondering exactly how you survived it all. Anyone who thinks violence is the answer need to enlist and go fight in Americas wars as they will get their fill of violence.
Yeah...I agree, even the lions are looking for the weakest antelopes, the easy prey...I also like the : Better to be judged by 12, than carried by 6 quote.
Totally agree with this. Retired law enforcement here. I remember we were told in the academy long time ago, don't know how true it was but a study was done on convicts who killed cops. Most of them said upon coming up on the cop the killed they sized him up as being soft. And they were asked if the cop appeared to be more assertive would they have still engaged. Most of them said they wouldn't.
No matter how civilized we are, we live in a "Will to Power" world where the Strong prey on the weak. This isn't just about Physical Strength but also Competition, Collective Action, Politics, Your Career and even interpersonal relationships.
Was working in a ship, - time hardened saylors. They would ,, prey '' on the week. Sometimes, we would have students/deck cadets on board. Majority of time they would be weak, so the old men would prey on them except for few like me, bosun and other ,, good guys '' . Been in their shoes myself, so don't do that. However, occasionally, a large fit student would arrive. The old farts would keep their mouths shut then. Wanted to challenge them ,, Why don't you say anything now huh... ? :) '' But meh... Had few months left, until switched jobs so whatever. Fit myself, nothing big, like Brad Pit in Troy, maybe slightly less. Been for 20 years since 2006~. Never had a problem, even while working in security.
Sometimes the weak are preying on the strong because they have a bunch of weak dudes backing them, plus a weapon to reclaim their manhood. You know, the guys that won't do a thing by themselves, but they are suddenly bout it with their homeboys or a weapon?
John lovell ( warrior poet society) said once that " ..we're men of compassion, but we must also be men capable of extreme violence..". Jordan Peterson says that your compassion doesn't matter if you are not capable of doing harm.
The absolute best martial art or fighting system in the world is the one you practice. Not the one you talk about not the one you debate others about endlessly but the one you actually put time and dedication into. All I ever see online is keyboard warriors debating on which martial art is better. Get on the mat and practice. Put effort into mastering something while gaining discipline and watch the difference in yourself. Keep in mind this beautiful quote. It is better to be a warrior and a garden than a gardener in a war. -Miyamoto Musashi
As a student in Kenpo, I have avoided fights by simply assuming Kenpo fighting stance referred to as the Neutral Bow. It was amazing how quickly one backs down by simply assuming the stance
When I was fighting false allegations, I avoided many fights in jail just due to my ability to defend myself without weapons. I recommend everyone learn how to fight.
My wife and I fight all the time, she is 6 foot tall and weighs 200 pounds. I’m 150 lbs., she can’t take me. She cut me one time and I have several scars from past engagements. She sometimes will attack me unprovoked. She wants me to be combat ready all the time. She has a lot of fighting experience and has really helped me.
I've been boxing for a good couple years now and submission wrestling is paramount for a complete arsenal, there are many circumstances even if you don't use it wherin being able to escape a hold and flip someone on their back and grapple with them is necessary. Striking is essential, ground work is essential, you need both so that in case the situation calls you are prepared, not all fights are striking only, and not all fights involve people grabbing onto you. Wrestling is so powerful and explosive and through history it has been the essential component of unarmed combat
@@EdLatimore1Sure but grappling helps with that to especially wrestling. Say the guy shoots on you without wrestling how do you stuff the takedown? In addition if you can grapple and he can't then if you do end up on the ground. Your grappling skills are paramount to get back up off the ground. Personally I'm a striker and very much prefer standing but I still know how to grapple
25 years of Muay Thai training and fighting. Australia and Thailand. I've earned my stripes can't be bothered starting another martial arts from scratch my body is too old..😂
Animal spirit. You think the CEO's and high paying people and intelligent people are fighting, arguing, trying to prove a who is the big, tough guy? No. They let the stupid animals do the heavy labor. They have security to protect them and they they enjoy life letting the stupid fight amongst themselves. And we weapons are superior to any size and aggression.
Yeah I’m a chill guy and I don’t like starting problems so people think I won’t do anything since I keep quiet and to myself… thing is I took second place in state when I use to wrestle only lost by two points Sudden death period: A one-minute period where the first wrestler to score wins… and I’ve trained boxing and Thai boxing… but yeah I’ve managed do manhandle people twice my size a purely on wrestling…. And only fought two times in the last 15 years… in the street… I agree w you … it helps avoid a lot fights knowing to can handle yourself
When I was a young man there was a time when I was bullied and in all honesty I was afraid. My father who was a former hand-to-hand combat instructor in the military saw this and he taught me how to fight. Really a combination of boxing some wrestling and how to get out of basic holds such as headlocks chokes that sort of thing. Well I stood up for myself and it made all the difference and that confidence I carried for many many years and I actually got into training many different martial arts and achieved the 4th degree black belt. Your message is a good one and I agree I think everyone should learn to defend themselves on some level but the other side of that coin is you should avoid a fight whenever possible. Excellent video!
As an experienced bouncer in the Los Angeles area with experience in BJJ and Muay Thai, I highly recommend BJJ training for fighting. The caveat is that one has to seek out a gym that offers the self defense portion along with the sport curriculum. BJJ is the fighting art I’ve used on the job and it has been effective every time with the most extreme incident being me defending myself against an armed gangster that was actively drawing down on me. Of course, striking should be added to grappling for the sake of completeness.
@@EdLatimore1If he’s a bouncer he probably wasn’t alone. His homies were probably just as scary as the other guy’s. I never really subscribed to the ‘friends stomping you out’ argument. In most situations both parties have friends.
BJJ is very dangerous in a street fight especially a club. One of our doormen swore by it. Got too confident after chokin a guy or 2 out. Then he challenged 3 guys one time cause there was an argument about cover charge. I told him and the guys straight up you all aren’t jumping me. Had all my gear so weapons was included. He told me go inside lock the doors and nobody is to come in. He literally tried to arm bar the first guy and the others rushed in. He was not responsive within 50 seconds. I wouldn’t grapple or go the ground unless I’m in a cage with a ref or literally have your people on the side to help if you get outnumbered.
@@EdLatimore1 I take every fight that I can to the ground so that I can gain better control over the person. I usually work with a group of guards so I don’t worry much about getting stomped out. Usually a double leg to mount or knee-on-belly will end the fight. There are exceptions like the altercation I had last months with a group of Russians where I had to ground and pound.
@@assassinmanx6128 Your doorman made an unwise decision and suffered the consequences. BJJ itself is the most effective combat art when you’re using it correctly. I’m not saying one should ONLY know BJJ but it is king in one on one situations for sure. It’s the only art that had me dominating guys as a white belt.
10 seconds in and I’m subscribed. I need more content creators that speak the same language as me. I’ve been a practitioner of Kung-Fu since’89. 5 Animal Shaolin Fist and Filipino 5 Ancestors Fist. I’m also, apparently, in the minority of training at Kung-Fu schools that had sparring and grappling. Haven’t had to actually test hands in years, but even knowing how to conduct myself has saved me from potential violence
Never like fighting. Still dont. But its necessary. Definitely all men need to know how and be in a few. As long as you dont like hurting people but are capable of it.
Very good points on the topic. I think its also mental. The awareness of your own potential to react in a situation is something to carry besides a gun
When inwas a younger man I worked as a bouncer, seen alot of fights. If you want to defend yourself and others have really solid boxing and wrestling fundamentals and be in really good shape. Past that it's dumb luck, I've seen BJJ black belts get knocked out, fat drunks that spend entire day at over a beer glass pick people up and throw them over the bar, tiny little dudes throw hands and big Samoans just run people over. You want to sprinkle in some Muay Thai and Karate and Judo all good stuff. The things that over and over that I actually seen were guys that were really strong or could box or could wrestle were the ones that came out on top in bar fights more often than not.
I've led a more passive life than I should've. But in high school and college I sparred daily with older guys and learned to box and it was one of the most worthwhile things I've ever done. I have never felt vulnerable even as a small guy, and girls I was with had confidence in me.
I grew up in a semi tough neighborhood in Tarrant County Texas. We ALL fought as boys in the 60's and 70's. In my 20's I bounced at a bar, worked at several fully occupied, maximum security prisons.. I thought I could fight, and take a punch. Then started Taekwondo in my mid-30's. Black Belt at 41. That's when I discovered that only thought I could fight before. Our school was a very popular one in North Texas. People would come from all over on fight night. We all went to tournaments. Competed with large varieties of skill levels, styles, sizes. Attended seminars. Weapons classes. Many of those older instructors have passed over the recent years. Doing forms (or kata) in competition teaches to filter out the noise, as you mentioned. I can say I've taken punches and kicks from some of the hardest hitters in Texas and Oklahoma. So I'm confident going into a street fight. I've done some joint lock stuff, but found it too time consuming and unpredictable in a street fight. Plus, on the street, other attackers can appear out of no where if you're kicking their friends ass, or even her husbands ass. Strike and move on is my method. Wrestling around with someone on the streets chancy at best. You also mentioned firearms. They say every bullet (or pellet) has a lawsuit attached. Even if I have to use a firearm in self defense in my own home, I'm at least spending the night in jail. Better chance of sleeping in my own bed if the attacker ends up with a few broken ribs and broken ego, from some bare handed "pushing and shoving". lol I'm mid-60's now, but still train on the heavy bag each morning at 4:30, then kettle bells, slam ball, some resistance. Not intention of tooting my own horn here, just using the example I know best and why I choose striking over grappling.
💯. When you know how to fight, you move different. I don’t mean with arrogance, I mean with a quiet and calm demeanor with an extreme capability for violence. You know that saying about the gardner in a war…
But what does it matter when someone has a knife and uses guile on the fighter? " No, I don't want any problem with you, you're a fighter, I'm sorry ." Fighter turns around and leaves and then the other takes advantage and the fighter gets stabbed or shot. Then what. Intelligence is what matters, not fighting skills and size.
My uncle is one of those well trained fighters that says he actually tries his best to avoid violence because he knows he's more than capable of putting someone on their ass. He also is a wealthy and well employed guy that is usually facing someone who isn't on his level. While you're walking around mad at the world, he's living the American dream in America and abroad.
@@rgw1380rw the equalizer is a knife or a gun with cunning. Does not matter how big and bad anyone thinks they are or capable of fighting. The defender always has the advantage of pulling out a weapon first whenever someone comes off threatening or hostile. It is best to stay out of problems. A lot of guys just have ego problems and want to feel like the baddest and be respected. It is insecurity and character weakness behind the front of aggression and dominance.
@ yea these people being pacifist rely on others to carry out act of violence. When in reality violence is naturally the equalizer in many situations. Sometimes a job requires dictation other times it requires hands.
True, came from the poor sides of the city, bullied by the bigger kids from 6 till 12, I learned how to fight and take hits, boxing and wrestling helped me deal with physical violence, and street smarts taught me how to talk and have a sharp mouth, Being a man is a BLESSING. 💪👊🙏✝️ I'm 28, and I'm still learning, and you sir, are a blessing.
After watching the video in its entirety, I wanted to make one more comment. I agree with you 1000 % that boxing and or kickboxing is mandatory. it doesn’t matter if you’re in middle school, high school, college or are a 40-year-old man. If someone wants to hurt you, they’re probably gonna be trying to throw strikes at you first. However, I also believe wrestling is equally important to know. Maybe I’m a little biased because I wrestled in high school. American Folkstyle wrestling is great as well. That confidence of knowing what you can do to somebody if you want to, we feel that too. In fact, a boxer who knows American Folkstyle wrestling on the even high school or collegiate level is even more dangerous…. I knew a guy like that.. Wrestling is also all about control and you don’t want to knock everyone out cold all the time. You want the option. In high school, no one messes with anyone on the wrestling team. No one. Not even football players. lol. But start with striking in boxing, kickboxing, or even Muay Thai. But round out with a grappling art if you want to be complete.. If you are a kid in high school, unless basketball or football is your thing, I don’t understand why you’re not not on the wrestling team. Even Terence Crawford, a world-class pound for pound boxer, has his kids in wrestling. Bud wrestled in high school in addition to his boxing. Don’t ask me how he did it. Even he told Joe Rogan if you’re an excellent boxer and you don’t know any wrestling, you could be in trouble one day against the right person. The good thing is, for the most part boxers and wrestlers aren’t going around starting fights…it’s bullies and punks- kids and adults...
I remember when I learned that about Crawford. I was like, this makes so much sense. I even trained with a wrestler when I was boxing to learn how to deal with clenches. My whole point is that for street encounters, the ground the LAST place you ever want to be. So many things go wrong and it's not like a mat with rules. Being able to do both is great, I agree...but deal with the adrenaline pump of real danger is something that's impossible replicate in wrestling.
@ I agree with you on boxing. It still amazes me that most men thing they know how to box when they have never even trained. lol. I’m just saying wrestling is important as well. They say in MMA a wrestler will decide where the fight takes place. A wrestler does not have to go the ground if he does not want to. But he can pick someone up and slam them, which could end the fight or destroy the confidence to continue in the other guy…. If an untrained person swings on and punches a wrestler, you just pissed him off and I pray for them.. lol.. And unless the attacker is a wrestler, they are never taking him down. Or if it’s more than one person, and they surprise attack and take down the wrestler, he’s getting right back up and there’s nothing the untrained opponent can do about it.. So if someone can start with boxing, I agree, go for it. Man, I wish I could have done that.. But wrestling is equally as good. Again, can you imagine how dangerous someone who is competent in both? I knew a guy that was state champ in HS wrestling and started boxing when he was in college- like you, he even went pro and had like 15 pro fights. Very dangerous man, IMO.. It all works..
@nmr20067 your not biased at all. You are 100 % correct. Boxing paired with wrestling or Judo. those two combined and your good. I don't care for BJJ because in real life situations, it always goes to the ground but BJJ if multiple attackers, your useless on the ground where as the throwing grappling arts, your chances for survival , victory I feel are better. Just my thoughts.
I agree about the underlying mindset and aura being the best deterrent. That i believe is a huge benefit of nearly any standup or ground martial arts: the quiet confidence and body language that dissuades most people looking for a soft target. The high kicks or ground fighting might not match the environment, but the calm demeanor in the face of conflict would have many people think twice.
This is so true. I have a masters degree and work in a credentialed profession. But I still carry myself with the respect and awareness that comes from knowing fist hand that I can get my ass beat. I also carry myself with the confidence of knowing I can take it and fight back. At the end of the day, as long as we have bodies, we never stop being animals.
I've seen many prevent learning BJJ because the idea of glass on the floor, friends jumping in, the concrete. All that are excuses because most fights end up on the ground. And if your excuse for not learning BJJ is because of glass on the ground or getting jumped. You'll be in a worse position not know BJJ than knowing it when the fight hits the ground. It's better to know it, than come up with excuses not to know.
I really think wrestling is better than BJJ in a street fight. BJJ takedown are not nearly as effective and you don't want to be on bottom in a street fight
Man, good to see you on RUclips Ed. Your tweets got me into boxing and MMA way back in 2019. And even though those training hours were brutal, they were so worth it. Funny thing, I've never had to square up with anyone outside the gym. It's just like you mentioned in the video - you want to be a DETERRENT, not looking for a fight. I'm pretty much a walking deterrent at this point, and knowing I could hold my own if it ever came down to throwing hands outside the gym is peace of mind enough. Much love from Nigeria.
Speaking for myself i know i can handle myself and fight alot better when im calm and focused. My wrestling coaches in junior high and high school installed that in us when we were competing on the mat
I come from a family of fighters, my uncles were fight trainers so fighting was in the blood. A good fighter will never let you know how good he is, he is always humble and will try to walk away from a fight before he unleashes hell on you.
People around me say oh i got a knife so what i can beat you but idc, as a 19yo i told myself i must learn how to fight especially in this messed up world. I'm not trying to prove anyone but to myself that martial art can improve not just mentally but also physically. I'll only fight when the time comes and when i do I'll do whatever it takes. Being a man needs to learn how to fight
I stand with you, brother. A true man embodies both strength and restraint-a dangerous man, not by recklessness, but by wielding the power to defend those he holds dear. He is a guardian, prepared to unleash righteous force when the moment demands it, yet tempered by wisdom and honor.
This is an important lesson to pass on. I started wrestling @ 5, judo, jiu-jitsu blackbelts. So on so forth. I put my daughter and son on the same path when they turned 3.
As a 20+ yr martial arts practitioner, instructor and a man that's trained with multiple military vets over the years, I 100000% co-sign this message. Simply being a man should make this message undeniable, especially if you're a husband and or father. 💯
I studied Kyokushin Karate, Shaolin Kempo,Kung Fu, Muay Thai, Ninjutsu, and Judo/Jiu jitsu for 15 years I started my martial arts journey when I was a teenager and I spar at least twice a week do work on my technique but I have been a situations where I had to defend myself physically 💯
Went into the USAF and while in South Korea, I started martial arts. Did a six year run. Loved it. Its not the ability to fight, its the self discipline. Its the ability to look into something you fear and not turn and run from it. Jordan Peters said something like this and I agree with it... You learn to fight, and you keep that fight "sheathed" only to use it when absolutely necessary.
Beautifully stated. I’ve always told my sons, you train not just to have the ability to handle any situation. But, it builds a confidence that others can see. I always recommend parents raise their kids in a martial art and a sport. It’s a confidence builder. Contact sports force children to stand up for themselves and have others respect your space.
This man is talking truth! When you walk in a martial art gym, you will notice people there are the nicest people on earth. Trainning doesn’t just give you the fighting skills, it teaches you discipline, humility and confidence in your ability. The hardest opponent is yourself.
1:03 Simply being confident you can handle yourself in a fight can be enough to keep you out of a fight, and in those moments where it's not, well, you at least know what you CAN do to defend yourself.
I was at the playground with my daughter the other day, my intuition made me turn around, when I turned around there was a gigantic unneutered pitbull about 15 yards away in stalking mode, even though he was on a leash being walked by a young teenage girl. Once I turned around I could see the pitbull reanalyzing the situation since I was now aware of his presence. I spoke to the dog like it was another human, the girl tugged the leash and it took a second but the dog eventually went back for its walk. I could also tell the girl was nervous because of the way her dog was acting. Once I turned around she already looked nervous. She would of let the dog walk her up to me and my daughter if I hadn't turned around.
You must be able to defend yourself and your family everything seems fine right now but what about when things are not. You are correct sir, preparation is a must.
I mean bro, this message is not new. We all learned this from the 1984 movie The Karate Kid. Mr. Miyagi: "Why train?" Daniel: "So I don't have to fight." Miyagi: "Ahh, yes Miyagi have hope for you."
Exactly, let me add something to it. Leaning how to handle yourself in possible high adrenaline situations, if you are constantly exposed to low levels of it while practicing martial arts makes you that confidence which makes you even talk your way out quite easier. Saved me to throwing punches too many times. And I live in Latam so its quite a useful skill 😅
I reckon the very best MOST effective self- defence is an aptitude for withering put downs. I know and have known people who never need to use their fists (but they could) but theyve already won the fight with their tongue! No,not some bizarre obscure and ancient form of battle. Just a judicious mix of quick sharp brain and acerbic spoken word. I so wish I could do that. Im sure you can do that. But yes i do think its a good idea for men to know how to manage their physical strength.
That's all good until someone takes the retort too seriously. When I was younger, I got into a fight with a guy because I said the exact same insult back to him, and he couldn't handle it, so he threw fists. I maintain the best defense is carrying yourself like someone to not mess with.
I’ve done full contact sparring and studied Jeet kune do and wing chun and then I trained under Paul vunak this guy is a pure street fighter and trained seal team 6 and all of the full contact sparring I learned is nothing like the streets fighting and this what Paul teaches straight street fighting everything goes biting eye jabs this is most real combat training I’ve ever learned
I have been training Filipino Kali for the last 4 years which have different subsystems for weapon and empty hand combat. Lately, I have been learning some orthodox boxing because it helps with my Filipino dirty boxing, and now I am delving into dumog/buno grappling and really dirty fighting like fingerlocks, using blunt weapons on pressure points, eye jabs, catch wrestling, etc. I have bascially dabbled in most cases which would address different situations on the street, including training against 2-3 opponents coming from different angles. After 4 years of hard and experimental study, I finally feel like I have the confidence to ride the Chicago CTA again after an incident I was involved in 4 years ago. I am confident to the point that I understand my situational awareness that I can see it coming and I can do what I need to avoid a confrontation. Martial arts has taught me to remain calm and start looking for solutions long before I might need it.
This is the best explanation of the necessity of learning to fight for self defence. I’ve been in Security in England for over 10 years and am now leaving the industry for construction but over those 10 years I’ve learnt to read people, their eyes, their body and their posture more than their words. But once I met a semi-pro MMA fighter, ripped and muscular about my height, 5ft6 and didn’t weight much more than I do (140 pounds), he looked at us all like we were breakfast. He was nice bloke with a calm demeanour but I could tell why he was calm and relaxed by the look of him and that is invaluable. I am not big but construction has put some extra muscle on me and I do various advanced bodyweight exercises throughout my week and I train every day, plus I do 100 neck bridges a day. My traps naturally sit up and my neck is taught from training and I’m willing to fight to the death if necessary and people leave you alone if you that have look in your posture and your eyes. Thanks man for a great video.
You're right... this is the world of Man, not necessarily Man-kind... As a Man, you must be able to handle yourself. Acting capable isn't enough, you must know how to take a hit and give back. I hope your msg will inspire more youth to know the bullies cannot be "negotiated" with. They don't know win-win... they only know zero sum games, so let them understand that and take that zero when they throw down with you.
From a practical standpoint I here what you're saying... head on a swivel at all times, situational awareness is key, but avoidance is always the best and safest best option... violence never solves anything, if anything it will create more problems... _Boyz N the Hood_ and _Menace to Society_ are good examples of movies, with proverbial truth to them, ‘violence only begets more violence’ and violence is always cyclical...
As an amatuer Boxer with one state title under my belt, and bronze medalist in Free-style Karate, Kick-boxing and Kodokan Judo, i agree completely. I train in Boxing and MMA religiously for exercise and to keep my fighting skills sharp because one never know when one might need them. Plus i own firearms. I've been in at least 5 street fights( over a toxic biotch no less) where the guy is actually trying to kill me. My skills and wits served me well. My granddad always told me, "NEVER GO LOOKING FOR TROUBLE, BUT ALWAYS BE READY FOR IT!" Formerly working security has also taught me this. I aim to become one of the best fighters in the USA if not the world. And i am on my path of knowledge, balance, self-improvement and purpose. These are what matters most to me.
I'm currently training in Muay Thai. I've been doing it for over a year now, and still getting my ass handed to me by the boys at the gym, but it's all good. lol I know I'm getting better at it and will continue to do so. My next goal will be to get familiar with BJJ so I can have a decent understanding of grappling whenever the situation will call for it. For me personally though, Muay Thai is going to be my bread and butter.
Straight facts! Great message As a smaller guy with years of boxing experience I transitioned to BJJ when I realized how dangerous it was getting hit by a much bigger person even when they weren’t experienced and in a street fight I would have to fight within close range to get clean shots in which would most likely result in me getting grabbed. BJJ has given me the capability of neutralizing bigger dudes. Although there’s a lot of stuff in BJJ that wouldn’t work in a street scenario there’s still a lot that will. However if you are already a bigger guy over 200lbs boxing or muy Thai would be better for you.
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@@ogsilverback971 Thanks man! Much appreciated
Very well articulated.
Amazing achievements! Looking forward to reading it as our outlook is aligned. 😁👏
@@EdLatimore1 I fear the combatant pulling out a knife on me over anything in a potential conflict.
Boxing and jiu-jitsu are my 2 best arts and I am very blessed to have those skill sets. "It's better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war" ~
Agreed!
One of my favorite quotes ❤
How come warriors pillage gardeners then?
@@tjthrillajawcorny pseudo-intellectual comment
The gardening skill set is also great.
It makes a man walk with confidence, and others respect you, it also makes you respect peace, I've noticed throughout my adult life, that most men who advocate for war (politicians) have never been in conflict
Fa sho. Can't fake that confidence
Straight facts! But also I could add that most politicians had never fire a gun or a weapon.
I'm a retired black Veit Nam vet 🪖🤼👊🏿 and that's a good point
@@anthonysmith3349 Thank you for your service sir. My father in law was over there twice, ended up dying from non-hodgekins lymphoma from exposure to Agent Orange..
TRUE WORDS
My man spit straight facts. I train MMA and I can’t even be near people who don’t know what real fighting is about. All that bravado and tough talk dudes do is just plane bs.
Facts my guy. Casual bravado is thr worst
@@EdLatimore1 And it's often at the bars. And the "dude bros" are usually alcoholics and out of shape.
Grappling, biting, shoving and stomping is the true way a man is designed to fight. If you’re not fighting like a caveman everything else is just BS
Facts, I had a cocky basketball player friend who said he could beat me in an actual fight, But in a spar when I started to humble him in the second round he took off running. 😂
I agree with ya man. That macho bravado is soooo fucking irritating.
"It's better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war." That statement alone sums up all what you said.
A lot of gardeners went to war. Theyre responsible for the vast arsenal we have on battle fields. If you can reap grass you can reap combatants. Gardeners, masons, laborers in general are strong.
@zeroshepard9513the statement shouldn't be taken literally. It's widely understood that someone with fighting skills has a better chance in a confrontation than someone without them, like a gardener. Most gardeners are not trained for combat. Consequently, they are typically seen as non-aggressive and harmless, making them more likely to be perceived as easy targets. If you were to meet a gardener, the last thing you'd think of them would be as a fighter.
@dudleyviban2764 Historically, gardeners can handle themselves. Im a lot stronger than a lot of people on the jujitsu mat because i work hard. Desk jockeys cant get that at the gym.
In high school I helped guys start training with weights, bodybuilding. Most gave up after a couple workouts. The guys that stuck around for a few months started looking different. They walked more confidently, shoulders squared, fluid movements, more eye contact. The difference is remarkable after only 2 or 3 months.
I wish they'd make fitness metric a requirement for graduating high school
@@EdLatimore1 Thats a bit OD 😂 but we do need fitness in schools
MMA changed my life as a man. I'm very confident and physically capable of protecting myself and my loved ones. Thank you for your video. I agree with everything.
MMA is the toughest haha. Much respect!
Started boxing at 27 a couple months ago, I’ve always been big into fitness and weightlifting but this was a game changer, the confidence alone is worth it.
Yay! Love when the fitness weight lifting guys get into combat sports!
As a former corrections officer and now full time law enforcement i approve this message. Boxing and wrestling are two of my super powers.
That's the jungle in there too haha
That and having a gun and qualified immunity.
Wrestling first... best if it's learned from a young age.... then striking.
We see this in the UFC the lifelong wrestlers dominate everyone.
Guns and knives are great but knowing hand to hand is probably the most important thing.... the others would be aided by these abilities.
@@ericfierro1693 CO's pack?
@@EdLatimore1in MANY states COa have "Peace Officer" powers of arrest so yes we did carry. (NYS)
I’ve been boxing and practicing BJJ for years, on top of growing up in a rough area where I fought often. When you learn how to defend yourself, people sense it, and all of the sudden you have no more problems.
They don't want the smoke
TRUTHFULLY SO 👍💯😁
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ABSOLUTELY AGREE. Also took up boxing and wrestling. The confidence is almost crazy, but you know when and when not to shoot off. Learning combat is a superpower fr fr
As a woman who grew up being bullied relentlessly, has had too many bad experiences with scary dangerous men bothering me while out and about, and has taken different types of personal defense, I totally agree. Once I took kickboxing, Aikido to get out of grasps, some Karate, and women’s personal defense, I was able to gain so much more confidence. That confidence has allowed me to be less afraid, walk confidently, and properly and realistically defend myself when needed.
I'm happy to hear you took your safety into your own hands that way. More women should follow your lead
You should have stayed at home where women belong. Not out and about.
Absolutely right on predators and picking off the weak. It is good to not be f**ked with.
Facts my brotha
That's why I train in boxing, jui jitsu and wrestling cause I feel like they apply to street fight situations
You'll always be ready this way
Right. Which is most likely to occur when majority of people throw haymakers and end up grappling on the ground
I think boxing is the very best one, especially if one knows zero about fighting. Its much more versatile than people think. One of the most taught combat methods for by militaries around the world. It's also universal. In close quarters, even if you're old and your legs maybe don't work as good as they used to, you can still get off a pretty good 'ol one two. It's not exactly easy to learn, but it is simple. Simple concepts and lots of practice and you can do pretty good in a street fight. Great place to start and get into shape as well.
It's brutally challenging and painful. Forces you develop courage under fire as well.
Musy Thai is King.
Boxing is a sport.
There something called using excessive force. You can go to jail if you really hurt someone bad for something stupid. It wouldn't be fair. legally you soppose to use the same amount of force your opponent is giving you to defend yourself. You’ll be surprised how much power you can have with just pepper spray and a gun. It's better to dominate your opponent with the lease violence as possible. Trust me. You don't want to appear as the main aggressor. In america you can go to jail very quick. You can be in for jail for 6 months awaiting trail for a murder case until your county D.A investigates in the incident
@@jordannorris2406 Muay boran actually
You have to keep a little crazy in yourself. And when the time comes, unleash the beast.
Gotta be able to touch the dark place
That's easy, just live in Canada, you'll go crazy.
Would 100% recommend grappling. Started out in boxing at 15 on and off for 6 years. Never felt secure, competent, first 6 months into bjj/wrestling I have gained WAYYYYY more confidence.
You are an exception because you had hands before grappling. Hands are a must and s ground is a great addition.
The whole confidence thing is all in the head. It is a presumption you can handle anything; you can't.😮
You already had the hands so i think you're more complete now
High school wrestling.
You need it all. Like others have said, now you have both.
That's subjective
And most decent men should really know how to fight. Another problem is many men highly overestimate their ability to fight. A lot of times it’s the bad guys. But the bad guys are usually looking for someone they think they can take. As confident as they are(falsely or legitimately), they’re not looking for contenders…
My next video is alp about the mindset of bullies, both physical and mental
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As a 5 time world champion martial arts fighter, the first foreigner to win a Lethwei title and the only human being ever to be both Lethwei champion and Muaythai champion. While preparing for the first ever 200 man Kumite which will complete I tell every one of you that there is no best 1 art for self defense, discipline and building self confidence. A combination of at least 3 or more separate arts so you are truly immersed in each of them is best. Ground, striking, street striking/self defense and a well conditioned mind and body. Then and only then will a man be truly a man which is like a machine with the ability to be compassionate and fierce. OSS 🥋
Damn bro you a head bussa! I agree though. Ideally, you should be proficient on your feet and on the ground. My beef with the ground stuff for street fights is that if your first instinct and only training is to be on the ground, you're gonna be in a bad way on concrete with no rules. First thing should be to get the hell out of there, but if you can't, never leave your feet. The homies can get involved, you're easier to stab, and we can't forget the unforgiving concrete/pavement.
I've been training in boxing/kick boxing techniques for 25 years.
I'm now 44 years old but actually have a better physique now then I did when I was 34.
I can fight longer now than I could when I was 34.
I can take bigger punches now than I could when I was 34.
This is not because I am a pro championship martial artists like you, it's because I practice energy body stimulation, or chi body stimulation.
I have gone beyond merely physical fighting with another man.
I'm now capable of exiting my body and travelling to different realms and exploring this universe in a way that would normally be impossible as a mere man.
My question for you as a five-time world champion is have you evolved beyond just being a human being physical warrior?
Have you transcended your ego?
Also what religion are you?
Do you have a religion at all?
@ in a world full of confusion, twisted perceptions of the truth, and a whole lot of pain and wrong doing. My faith in Yahweh has not much at all to do with religion and my ego exist only because of cowards and those who trend in the paths of cowards that need humbling when they over step their boundary. Please do not allow my confidence to rub you the wrong way. Stay blessed. OSS
@@EdLatimore1 🙏🏾
Violence is not the answer.
It is the question, and the answer is yes.
Haha indeed
thats a maxor refrence ye ?
@@justadude189 No, I got it from HK-47 in KOTOR LOL.
@@MAWSAFGJP-p5b oh, ok !
@@justadude189 I doubt it, since I'm not sure what you're referring to
The battlefield is in your mind.
Win there and you can win anywhere
@@EdLatimore1 Win there, and you don't need physical violence at all.
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You can win in the mind put you as a person of society will never outrun the soft kill from the potato Irish famine to the covid shop to the trail of tears were the native Americans we're giving poison blankets dear Lord please protect the meet the week the elderly and install righteous anger to the able body man I shall carry my cross I own my original sin as a free man let this sink go into all government crucified Jesus Christ if you have the nerve just look at the crucifix it's a horror show then look to the heavens
@@MattKearns-zi4rc "Righteous anger" and "Physical violence" are two entirely different things. And yes if you can win in the mind, your god will see you to safety. God will carry you through this nonsense leaving you wondering exactly how you survived it all. Anyone who thinks violence is the answer need to enlist and go fight in Americas wars as they will get their fill of violence.
Yeah...I agree, even the lions are looking for the weakest antelopes, the easy prey...I also like the : Better to be judged by 12, than carried by 6 quote.
Yo I never heard this before. I'm definitely adding it to my repertoire
Totally agree with this. Retired law enforcement here. I remember we were told in the academy long time ago, don't know how true it was but a study was done on convicts who killed cops. Most of them said upon coming up on the cop the killed they sized him up as being soft. And they were asked if the cop appeared to be more assertive would they have still engaged. Most of them said they wouldn't.
Wow. That's telling
Interesting I guess military and police should integrate some aggressive learn basic self defense.
That's incredible I wish that study was something that could be shared with all these so-called self-defense teachers.
No matter how civilized we are, we live in a "Will to Power" world where the Strong prey on the weak.
This isn't just about Physical Strength but also Competition, Collective Action, Politics, Your Career and even interpersonal relationships.
Truth
Was working in a ship, - time hardened saylors. They would ,, prey '' on the week. Sometimes, we would have students/deck cadets on board. Majority of time they would be weak, so the old men would prey on them except for few like me, bosun and other ,, good guys '' . Been in their shoes myself, so don't do that. However, occasionally, a large fit student would arrive. The old farts would keep their mouths shut then. Wanted to challenge them ,, Why don't you say anything now huh... ? :) '' But meh... Had few months left, until switched jobs so whatever.
Fit myself, nothing big, like Brad Pit in Troy, maybe slightly less. Been for 20 years since 2006~. Never had a problem, even while working in security.
Sometimes the weak are preying on the strong because they have a bunch of weak dudes backing them, plus a weapon to reclaim their manhood. You know, the guys that won't do a thing by themselves, but they are suddenly bout it with their homeboys or a weapon?
John lovell ( warrior poet society) said once that " ..we're men of compassion, but we must also be men capable of extreme violence..". Jordan Peterson says that your compassion doesn't matter if you are not capable of doing harm.
The absolute best martial art or fighting system in the world is the one you practice. Not the one you talk about not the one you debate others about endlessly but the one you actually put time and dedication into. All I ever see online is keyboard warriors debating on which martial art is better. Get on the mat and practice. Put effort into mastering something while gaining discipline and watch the difference in yourself. Keep in mind this beautiful quote. It is better to be a warrior and a garden than a gardener in a war.
-Miyamoto Musashi
Agreed. I tell all guys to just train for a year and take a fight. That will do so much better
As a student in Kenpo, I have avoided fights by simply assuming Kenpo fighting stance referred to as the Neutral Bow. It was amazing how quickly one backs down by simply assuming the stance
When I was fighting false allegations, I avoided many fights in jail just due to my ability to defend myself without weapons. I recommend everyone learn how to fight.
Damn good plan man. Sorry about the false allegations. That's gotta suck!
Agreed big dog. I am 50 and still learning .
Never too late to start learning!
My wife and I fight all the time, she is 6 foot tall and weighs 200 pounds. I’m 150 lbs., she can’t take me. She cut me one time and I have several scars from past engagements. She sometimes will attack me unprovoked. She wants me to be combat ready all the time. She has a lot of fighting experience and has really helped me.
Are you messing with me lol?
Bruh…what?
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I've been boxing for a good couple years now and submission wrestling is paramount for a complete arsenal, there are many circumstances even if you don't use it wherin being able to escape a hold and flip someone on their back and grapple with them is necessary. Striking is essential, ground work is essential, you need both so that in case the situation calls you are prepared, not all fights are striking only, and not all fights involve people grabbing onto you. Wrestling is so powerful and explosive and through history it has been the essential component of unarmed combat
This is true. Just make sureyou don't end up on rhe ground too
@@EdLatimore1Sure but grappling helps with that to especially wrestling. Say the guy shoots on you without wrestling how do you stuff the takedown? In addition if you can grapple and he can't then if you do end up on the ground. Your grappling skills are paramount to get back up off the ground. Personally I'm a striker and very much prefer standing but I still know how to grapple
3:20 This is my definitive reason why I agree. Knowing how to defend oneself causes others to think twice before marking you as a target.
Facts! Keeps your family safe
PROUD proud Thai fighter here. Couldn’t agree more brotha
It's the damn truth. You guys are way tough than us haha
25 years of Muay Thai training and fighting. Australia and Thailand. I've earned my stripes can't be bothered starting another martial arts from scratch my body is too old..😂
Its the warrior spirit.
Animal spirit.
You think the CEO's and high paying people and intelligent people are fighting, arguing, trying to prove a who is the big, tough guy? No. They let the stupid animals do the heavy labor. They have security to protect them and they they enjoy life letting the stupid fight amongst themselves. And we weapons are superior to any size and aggression.
Yeah I’m a chill guy and I don’t like starting problems so people think I won’t do anything since I keep quiet and to myself… thing is I took second place in state when I use to wrestle only lost by two points Sudden death period: A one-minute period where the first wrestler to score wins… and I’ve trained boxing and Thai boxing… but yeah I’ve managed do manhandle people twice my size a purely on wrestling…. And only fought two times in the last 15 years… in the street… I agree w you … it helps avoid a lot fights knowing to can handle yourself
Happy to hear the confrontation didn't go worse
Ima say this… knowing you can fight satisfies your ego and the itch to prove yourself… (at least most of it 😅)…
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@@Grind2Excellence Haha I think that's all men want to feel. That they're capable of being to take an ass-kicking...or dish one out.
When I was a young man there was a time when I was bullied and in all honesty I was afraid. My father who was a former hand-to-hand combat instructor in the military saw this and he taught me how to fight. Really a combination of boxing some wrestling and how to get out of basic holds such as headlocks chokes that sort of thing. Well I stood up for myself and it made all the difference and that confidence I carried for many many years and I actually got into training many different martial arts and achieved the 4th degree black belt. Your message is a good one and I agree I think everyone should learn to defend themselves on some level but the other side of that coin is you should avoid a fight whenever possible. Excellent video!
As an experienced bouncer in the Los Angeles area with experience in BJJ and Muay Thai, I highly recommend BJJ training for fighting. The caveat is that one has to seek out a gym that offers the self defense portion along with the sport curriculum. BJJ is the fighting art I’ve used on the job and it has been effective every time with the most extreme incident being me defending myself against an armed gangster that was actively drawing down on me. Of course, striking should be added to grappling for the sake of completeness.
Did you ever worry about getting taken to the ground and the perps homies stomping you out?
@@EdLatimore1If he’s a bouncer he probably wasn’t alone. His homies were probably just as scary as the other guy’s. I never really subscribed to the ‘friends stomping you out’ argument. In most situations both parties have friends.
BJJ is very dangerous in a street fight especially a club. One of our doormen swore by it. Got too confident after chokin a guy or 2 out. Then he challenged 3 guys one time cause there was an argument about cover charge. I told him and the guys straight up you all aren’t jumping me. Had all my gear so weapons was included. He told me go inside lock the doors and nobody is to come in. He literally tried to arm bar the first guy and the others rushed in. He was not responsive within 50 seconds. I wouldn’t grapple or go the ground unless I’m in a cage with a ref or literally have your people on the side to help if you get outnumbered.
@@EdLatimore1 I take every fight that I can to the ground so that I can gain better control over the person. I usually work with a group of guards so I don’t worry much about getting stomped out. Usually a double leg to mount or knee-on-belly will end the fight. There are exceptions like the altercation I had last months with a group of Russians where I had to ground and pound.
@@assassinmanx6128 Your doorman made an unwise decision and suffered the consequences. BJJ itself is the most effective combat art when you’re using it correctly. I’m not saying one should ONLY know BJJ but it is king in one on one situations for sure. It’s the only art that had me dominating guys as a white belt.
most of the men that start fights, are harmless, they couldnt hit the right side of the barn
Haha that's true. Or they packing a weapon
@@EdLatimore1 they wont stand much either if shot back at it takes guts and skill to excel in a gunfight where the match is even!
@@johnanderson6946Biiingooow! Fighters aren't exactly on easy street with the cowards walking around nowadays.
10 seconds in and I’m subscribed. I need more content creators that speak the same language as me.
I’ve been a practitioner of Kung-Fu since’89. 5 Animal Shaolin Fist and Filipino 5 Ancestors Fist. I’m also, apparently, in the minority of training at Kung-Fu schools that had sparring and grappling.
Haven’t had to actually test hands in years, but even knowing how to conduct myself has saved me from potential violence
Welcome! And I'm just speaking from my experience. Good to connect with others who get it.
Never like fighting. Still dont. But its necessary. Definitely all men need to know how and be in a few. As long as you dont like hurting people but are capable of it.
Very good points on the topic. I think its also mental. The awareness of your own potential to react in a situation is something to carry besides a gun
Right on
When inwas a younger man I worked as a bouncer, seen alot of fights. If you want to defend yourself and others have really solid boxing and wrestling fundamentals and be in really good shape. Past that it's dumb luck, I've seen BJJ black belts get knocked out, fat drunks that spend entire day at over a beer glass pick people up and throw them over the bar, tiny little dudes throw hands and big Samoans just run people over. You want to sprinkle in some Muay Thai and Karate and Judo all good stuff. The things that over and over that I actually seen were guys that were really strong or could box or could wrestle were the ones that came out on top in bar fights more often than not.
Just gotta stay away from all of that shit. Reduce the chances almost to zero
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I've led a more passive life than I should've. But in high school and college I sparred daily with older guys and learned to box and it was one of the most worthwhile things I've ever done. I have never felt vulnerable even as a small guy, and girls I was with had confidence in me.
I grew up in a semi tough neighborhood in Tarrant County Texas. We ALL fought as boys in the 60's and 70's. In my 20's I bounced at a bar, worked at several fully occupied, maximum security prisons.. I thought I could fight, and take a punch. Then started Taekwondo in my mid-30's. Black Belt at 41. That's when I discovered that only thought I could fight before. Our school was a very popular one in North Texas. People would come from all over on fight night. We all went to tournaments. Competed with large varieties of skill levels, styles, sizes. Attended seminars. Weapons classes. Many of those older instructors have passed over the recent years.
Doing forms (or kata) in competition teaches to filter out the noise, as you mentioned.
I can say I've taken punches and kicks from some of the hardest hitters in Texas and Oklahoma. So I'm confident going into a street fight.
I've done some joint lock stuff, but found it too time consuming and unpredictable in a street fight. Plus, on the street, other attackers can appear out of no where if you're kicking their friends ass, or even her husbands ass. Strike and move on is my method. Wrestling around with someone on the streets chancy at best.
You also mentioned firearms. They say every bullet (or pellet) has a lawsuit attached. Even if I have to use a firearm in self defense in my own home, I'm at least spending the night in jail. Better chance of sleeping in my own bed if the attacker ends up with a few broken ribs and broken ego, from some bare handed "pushing and shoving". lol
I'm mid-60's now, but still train on the heavy bag each morning at 4:30, then kettle bells, slam ball, some resistance.
Not intention of tooting my own horn here, just using the example I know best and why I choose striking over grappling.
That's great you're still training. Hell yeah man!
Very well said; your mind is reflected in your body language, your "non-verbal motor cues."
You can deter a lot of bullshit with strong body language!
Also it's Very Important to Understand the Difference Between Tournament Fighting and Street Fighting !
Very true. Lot of this tournament stuff will get you killed
"Owning a firearm does not make one armed anymore than owning a piano makes one a musician" The late Colonel Jeff Cooper.
Cool quote!
💯. When you know how to fight, you move different. I don’t mean with arrogance, I mean with a quiet and calm demeanor with an extreme capability for violence.
You know that saying about the gardner in a war…
It's a quiet and controlled confidence
Facts bruh! Facts!
But what does it matter when someone has a knife and uses guile on the fighter? " No, I don't want any problem with you, you're a fighter, I'm sorry ." Fighter turns around and leaves and then the other takes advantage and the fighter gets stabbed or shot. Then what. Intelligence is what matters, not fighting skills and size.
My uncle is one of those well trained fighters that says he actually tries his best to avoid violence because he knows he's more than capable of putting someone on their ass. He also is a wealthy and well employed guy that is usually facing someone who isn't on his level. While you're walking around mad at the world, he's living the American dream in America and abroad.
@@rgw1380rw the equalizer is a knife or a gun with cunning. Does not matter how big and bad anyone thinks they are or capable of fighting. The defender always has the advantage of pulling out a weapon first whenever someone comes off threatening or hostile. It is best to stay out of problems. A lot of guys just have ego problems and want to feel like the baddest and be respected. It is insecurity and character weakness behind the front of aggression and dominance.
I practice American boxing, kungfu and grappling. I have found learning multiple fighting style better than learning one.
I completely agree! Gotta have a solid skill set!
The same people who say violence isn’t the answer, will vote or call for others to do violence in their name.
Yep. Pacifist don't realize the price of peace because they refuse to pay but reap the benefits
@ yea these people being pacifist rely on others to carry out act of violence. When in reality violence is naturally the equalizer in many situations. Sometimes a job requires dictation other times it requires hands.
Innit funny how that works..?
Extreme Violence
Always.
True, came from the poor sides of the city, bullied by the bigger kids from 6 till 12, I learned how to fight and take hits, boxing and wrestling helped me deal with physical violence, and street smarts taught me how to talk and have a sharp mouth,
Being a man is a BLESSING. 💪👊🙏✝️
I'm 28, and I'm still learning, and you sir, are a blessing.
After watching the video in its entirety, I wanted to make one more comment. I agree with you 1000 % that boxing and or kickboxing is mandatory. it doesn’t matter if you’re in middle school, high school, college or are a 40-year-old man. If someone wants to hurt you, they’re probably gonna be trying to throw strikes at you first.
However, I also believe wrestling is equally important to know. Maybe I’m a little biased because I wrestled in high school. American Folkstyle wrestling is great as well. That confidence of knowing what you can do to somebody if you want to, we feel that too. In fact, a boxer who knows American Folkstyle wrestling on the even high school or collegiate level is even more dangerous…. I knew a guy like that..
Wrestling is also all about control and you don’t want to knock everyone out cold all the time. You want the option. In high school, no one messes with anyone on the wrestling team. No one. Not even football players. lol.
But start with striking in boxing, kickboxing, or even Muay Thai. But round out with a grappling art if you want to be complete.. If you are a kid in high school, unless basketball or football is your thing, I don’t understand why you’re not not on the wrestling team. Even Terence Crawford, a world-class pound for pound boxer, has his kids in wrestling. Bud wrestled in high school in addition to his boxing. Don’t ask me how he did it. Even he told Joe Rogan if you’re an excellent boxer and you don’t know any wrestling, you could be in trouble one day against the right person. The good thing is, for the most part boxers and wrestlers aren’t going around starting fights…it’s bullies and punks- kids and adults...
I remember when I learned that about Crawford. I was like, this makes so much sense. I even trained with a wrestler when I was boxing to learn how to deal with clenches. My whole point is that for street encounters, the ground the LAST place you ever want to be. So many things go wrong and it's not like a mat with rules. Being able to do both is great, I agree...but deal with the adrenaline pump of real danger is something that's impossible replicate in wrestling.
@ I agree with you on boxing. It still amazes me that most men thing they know how to box when they have never even trained. lol.
I’m just saying wrestling is important as well. They say in MMA a wrestler will decide where the fight takes place. A wrestler does not have to go the ground if he does not want to. But he can pick someone up and slam them, which could end the fight or destroy the confidence to continue in the other guy…. If an untrained person swings on and punches a wrestler, you just pissed him off and I pray for them.. lol.. And unless the attacker is a wrestler, they are never taking him down. Or if it’s more than one person, and they surprise attack and take down the wrestler, he’s getting right back up and there’s nothing the untrained opponent can do about it..
So if someone can start with boxing, I agree, go for it. Man, I wish I could have done that.. But wrestling is equally as good.
Again, can you imagine how dangerous someone who is competent in both? I knew a guy that was state champ in HS wrestling and started boxing when he was in college- like you, he even went pro and had like 15 pro fights. Very dangerous man, IMO.. It all works..
@nmr20067 your not biased at all. You are 100 % correct. Boxing paired with wrestling or Judo. those two combined and your good. I don't care for BJJ because in real life situations, it always goes to the ground but BJJ if multiple attackers, your useless on the ground where as the throwing grappling arts, your chances for survival , victory I feel are better. Just my thoughts.
With great power comes great responsibility. The more dangerous I become, the more respectful I become to others.
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I agree about the underlying mindset and aura being the best deterrent.
That i believe is a huge benefit of nearly any standup or ground martial arts: the quiet confidence and body language that dissuades most people looking for a soft target.
The high kicks or ground fighting might not match the environment, but the calm demeanor in the face of conflict would have many people think twice.
exactly. The best fight is one you don't get into. Make people think twice.
This is so true. I have a masters degree and work in a credentialed profession. But I still carry myself with the respect and awareness that comes from knowing fist hand that I can get my ass beat. I also carry myself with the confidence of knowing I can take it and fight back. At the end of the day, as long as we have bodies, we never stop being animals.
I've seen many prevent learning BJJ because the idea of glass on the floor, friends jumping in, the concrete.
All that are excuses because most fights end up on the ground. And if your excuse for not learning BJJ is because of glass on the ground or getting jumped. You'll be in a worse position not know BJJ than knowing it when the fight hits the ground.
It's better to know it, than come up with excuses not to know.
That's an interesting argument. Mind you, I'm not against it for sport and I think it's challenging. I just don't think it translates to street
I really think wrestling is better than BJJ in a street fight. BJJ takedown are not nearly as effective and you don't want to be on bottom in a street fight
@@washlifeusaAgree
Man, good to see you on RUclips Ed.
Your tweets got me into boxing and MMA way back in 2019. And even though those training hours were brutal, they were so worth it.
Funny thing, I've never had to square up with anyone outside the gym. It's just like you mentioned in the video - you want to be a DETERRENT, not looking for a fight.
I'm pretty much a walking deterrent at this point, and knowing I could hold my own if it ever came down to throwing hands outside the gym is peace of mind enough.
Much love from Nigeria.
Hey thanks for the love. Happy ti hear I got you into fighting! Hope you're keeping it up
@@EdLatimore1 Yeah I still do. Learning everyday.
Speaking for myself i know i can handle myself and fight alot better when im calm and focused. My wrestling coaches in junior high and high school installed that in us when we were competing on the mat
Mistakes are made when your emotions get the best of you
1:35 threatening a cat’s family is a death sentence. He must not have known that cats are faster than snakes.
Lolz
I come from a family of fighters, my uncles were fight trainers so fighting was in the blood. A good fighter will never let you know how good he is, he is always humble and will try to walk away from a fight before he unleashes hell on you.
People around me say oh i got a knife so what i can beat you but idc, as a 19yo i told myself i must learn how to fight especially in this messed up world. I'm not trying to prove anyone but to myself that martial art can improve not just mentally but also physically. I'll only fight when the time comes and when i do I'll do whatever it takes. Being a man needs to learn how to fight
Fa sho. Knife play is serious though. Buy definitely be able to throw hands
Bro, you're on point! I grew up in the Bronx & how you carry yourself dictates how you survive.
Great video! Its more about the character development
thanks my guy. make sure you subscribe
I stand with you, brother. A true man embodies both strength and restraint-a dangerous man, not by recklessness, but by wielding the power to defend those he holds dear. He is a guardian, prepared to unleash righteous force when the moment demands it, yet tempered by wisdom and honor.
Preach. Deterrence holds true all over the world.
Indeed
This is an important lesson to pass on. I started wrestling @ 5, judo, jiu-jitsu blackbelts. So on so forth. I put my daughter and son on the same path when they turned 3.
As a 20+ yr martial arts practitioner, instructor and a man that's trained with multiple military vets over the years, I 100000% co-sign this message. Simply being a man should make this message undeniable, especially if you're a husband and or father. 💯
Thank you sir
I studied Kyokushin Karate, Shaolin Kempo,Kung Fu, Muay Thai, Ninjutsu, and Judo/Jiu jitsu for 15 years I started my martial arts journey when I was a teenager and I spar at least twice a week do work on my technique but I have been a situations where I had to defend myself physically 💯
That's a solid regime!
People are less likely to be mean to you when they know you are physically capable man.
Very true. Looking like you can mess stuff up keeps people honest.
Went into the USAF and while in South Korea, I started martial arts. Did a six year run. Loved it. Its not the ability to fight, its the self discipline. Its the ability to look into something you fear and not turn and run from it. Jordan Peters said something like this and I agree with it... You learn to fight, and you keep that fight "sheathed" only to use it when absolutely necessary.
Thanks for your service! And there are so many benefits
Fear is toxic natural,but can be your greatest fuel 🔥
For sure!
Beautifully stated. I’ve always told my sons, you train not just to have the ability to handle any situation. But, it builds a confidence that others can see.
I always recommend parents raise their kids in a martial art and a sport. It’s a confidence builder. Contact sports force children to stand up for themselves and have others respect your space.
I agree 100%. You’re not a real man, if you don’t know how to fight.
And if you fight, you better be proficient with guns
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This man is talking truth! When you walk in a martial art gym, you will notice people there are the nicest people on earth. Trainning doesn’t just give you the fighting skills, it teaches you discipline, humility and confidence in your ability. The hardest opponent is yourself.
Thank you sir!
1:03 Simply being confident you can handle yourself in a fight can be enough to keep you out of a fight, and in those moments where it's not, well, you at least know what you CAN do to defend yourself.
Exactly. A lot of these folks want an easy target, and that's it. If you don't look like an easy target, you save yourself a lot of trouble
I was at the playground with my daughter the other day, my intuition made me turn around, when I turned around there was a gigantic unneutered pitbull about 15 yards away in stalking mode, even though he was on a leash being walked by a young teenage girl. Once I turned around I could see the pitbull reanalyzing the situation since I was now aware of his presence. I spoke to the dog like it was another human, the girl tugged the leash and it took a second but the dog eventually went back for its walk. I could also tell the girl was nervous because of the way her dog was acting. Once I turned around she already looked nervous. She would of let the dog walk her up to me and my daughter if I hadn't turned around.
amazing how that tends to work!
Boxing or jiu jitsu should be mandatory
Along with a physical fitness test like the APFT. Just to graduate high school. That would make American healthy again.
You must be able to defend yourself and your family everything seems fine right now but what about when things are not. You are correct sir, preparation is a must.
I’m just a chill guy 🧍🏽♂️
Haha me too brotha
As a BJJ practitioner I'm happy I got the opportunity to see this video! Very well stated Sir! Salute!
Thank you sir!
Looking forward to your conversation with Jesús Enrique Rosas‼
Date, Time, Channel??
If he's doing it live, it's tomorrow Nov 28th, 3 pm EST.
@@EdLatimore1 thank you!!
I live in Atlanta. Every word that you stated here is the truth. I hope some young man learns from this discussion.
Thank you. You and me both!
All facts.
Thanks my guy
Agree brother! I've trained in various arts and defensive tactics for over 50 years.
This skill set has helped me many times throughout my life!
I mean bro, this message is not new. We all learned this from the 1984 movie The Karate Kid. Mr. Miyagi: "Why train?" Daniel: "So I don't have to fight." Miyagi: "Ahh, yes Miyagi have hope for you."
Ha I'm not trying drop anything no one's ever heard lol
@@EdLatimore1 Well I'm just tryin to make a joke and be funny too, I don't mean no harm on your channel...
Exactly, let me add something to it. Leaning how to handle yourself in possible high adrenaline situations, if you are constantly exposed to low levels of it while practicing martial arts makes you that confidence which makes you even talk your way out quite easier. Saved me to throwing punches too many times. And I live in Latam so its quite a useful skill 😅
I reckon the very best MOST effective self- defence is an aptitude for withering put downs. I know and have known people who never need to use their fists (but they could) but theyve already won the fight with their tongue! No,not some bizarre obscure and ancient form of battle. Just a judicious mix of quick sharp brain and acerbic spoken word. I so wish I could do that. Im sure you can do that. But yes i do think its a good idea for men to know how to manage their physical strength.
That's all good until someone takes the retort too seriously. When I was younger, I got into a fight with a guy because I said the exact same insult back to him, and he couldn't handle it, so he threw fists.
I maintain the best defense is carrying yourself like someone to not mess with.
I’ve done full contact sparring and studied Jeet kune do and wing chun and then I trained under Paul vunak this guy is a pure street fighter and trained seal team 6 and all of the full contact sparring I learned is nothing like the streets fighting and this what Paul teaches straight street fighting everything goes biting eye jabs this is most real combat training I’ve ever learned
Learn all styles your cup is never full 💯
This way you'll be ready for whatever!
I have been training Filipino Kali for the last 4 years which have different subsystems for weapon and empty hand combat. Lately, I have been learning some orthodox boxing because it helps with my Filipino dirty boxing, and now I am delving into dumog/buno grappling and really dirty fighting like fingerlocks, using blunt weapons on pressure points, eye jabs, catch wrestling, etc. I have bascially dabbled in most cases which would address different situations on the street, including training against 2-3 opponents coming from different angles. After 4 years of hard and experimental study, I finally feel like I have the confidence to ride the Chicago CTA again after an incident I was involved in 4 years ago. I am confident to the point that I understand my situational awareness that I can see it coming and I can do what I need to avoid a confrontation. Martial arts has taught me to remain calm and start looking for solutions long before I might need it.
You're at the point where you will probably never need to use your skills, but you have them just in case. That's a fine place to be.
@@EdLatimore1that’s right where I want to be!
This is the best explanation of the necessity of learning to fight for self defence. I’ve been in Security in England for over 10 years and am now leaving the industry for construction but over those 10 years I’ve learnt to read people, their eyes, their body and their posture more than their words.
But once I met a semi-pro MMA fighter, ripped and muscular about my height, 5ft6 and didn’t weight much more than I do (140 pounds), he looked at us all like we were breakfast. He was nice bloke with a calm demeanour but I could tell why he was calm and relaxed by the look of him and that is invaluable.
I am not big but construction has put some extra muscle on me and I do various advanced bodyweight exercises throughout my week and I train every day, plus I do 100 neck bridges a day. My traps naturally sit up and my neck is taught from training and I’m willing to fight to the death if necessary and people leave you alone if you that have look in your posture and your eyes.
Thanks man for a great video.
Yep! A lot of fighters are very respectful people. Getting your ego dragged does that. And thanks for enjoying.
2:00 spot on man. I've had a couple of situation deescalate simply by eye contact.
Amazing what good eye contact and a strong posture can accomplish
Very true knowing muay thai for a little over year has allowed me to discover a deeper layer of confidence.
Makes you feel so much more confident and capable.
Hand to hand combat, bladed/impact weapons and firearms are what every competent men need to know and be proficient in.
Totally relate. Been training consistently for 4/5 years now salute
Keep it up. Best habit in the world
You're right... this is the world of Man, not necessarily Man-kind... As a Man, you must be able to handle yourself. Acting capable isn't enough, you must know how to take a hit and give back. I hope your msg will inspire more youth to know the bullies cannot be "negotiated" with. They don't know win-win... they only know zero sum games, so let them understand that and take that zero when they throw down with you.
Havin said that... make sure your daughters also know how to handle themselves. It's not enough to be a princess waiting for "rescue".
I just talk about that yesterday on a podcast. Women need special precautions too, but training is one of them.
From a practical standpoint I here what you're saying... head on a swivel at all times, situational awareness is key, but avoidance is always the best and safest best option... violence never solves anything, if anything it will create more problems...
_Boyz N the Hood_ and _Menace to Society_ are good examples of movies, with proverbial truth to them, ‘violence only begets more violence’ and violence is always cyclical...
As an amatuer Boxer with one state title under my belt, and bronze medalist in Free-style Karate, Kick-boxing and Kodokan Judo, i agree completely. I train in Boxing and MMA religiously for exercise and to keep my fighting skills sharp because one never know when one might need them. Plus i own firearms. I've been in at least 5 street fights( over a toxic biotch no less) where the guy is actually trying to kill me. My skills and wits served me well. My granddad always told me,
"NEVER GO LOOKING FOR TROUBLE, BUT ALWAYS BE READY FOR IT!"
Formerly working security has also taught me this.
I aim to become one of the best fighters in the USA if not the world. And i am on my path of knowledge, balance, self-improvement and purpose. These are what matters most to me.
Boxing taught me how vulnerable, absolutely helpless most men are
They're very fragile as well
The greatest thing my Dad ever did for me was to enable me to protect myself and the people I love.
That's how a man leads
I'm currently training in Muay Thai. I've been doing it for over a year now, and still getting my ass handed to me by the boys at the gym, but it's all good. lol I know I'm getting better at it and will continue to do so. My next goal will be to get familiar with BJJ so I can have a decent understanding of grappling whenever the situation will call for it. For me personally though, Muay Thai is going to be my bread and butter.
Keep up the good training my guy!
Straight facts! Great message As a smaller guy with years of boxing experience I transitioned to BJJ when I realized how dangerous it was getting hit by a much bigger person even when they weren’t experienced and in a street fight I would have to fight within close range to get clean shots in which would most likely result in me getting grabbed. BJJ has given me the capability of neutralizing bigger dudes. Although there’s a lot of stuff in BJJ that wouldn’t work in a street scenario there’s still a lot that will. However if you are already a bigger guy over 200lbs boxing or muy Thai would be better for you.