Are You Trying Too Hard to Meet Someone or Not Hard Enough? (Biblical Relationship Advice)
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Are you trying to hard to meet someone? Or are you not trying hard enough? Here are some Christian relationship tips and 4 healthy motives for Christian marriage.
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I just want to honor God married or not. God bless Mark.
That's a good attitude. Hold onto that.
I agree with you, but I do in fact want to be married.
@@bradleychampagne9103 Yeah, same here, at some point.
Truth! Amen!!!
Why is it so hard? I want to find God & a God loving Man. Celibate for 4years & good Christian men are hard to come by especially with celibacy
I think this is where Christian friendship comes in. We need each other as Christians, especially as friends. Do not be so obsessed with being married that you miss out on friendships that could bless you and your future spouse for decades to come. Every Christian needs to be out there in fellowship. If there are no single people at your church, get out of there and go where they are. Get some Christian friends! So many Christians have so few friends! God knows you and if you are walking with him. Get out there and 1st make friends. That is the first step! Then get to know those people. These Christian people, both male and female are fantastic resources for you spiritually! These Godly friendships will make you strong and they will protect you. These friendships will be good to stabilize you spiritually in preparation for your future spouse.
Definitely
I have tried everywhere to meet someone. I've tried dating at my college, work, church, going out to bars/clubs in the past, and even online dating... with no luck. I've come to find over the years is that the reason why I can't find the right person is because it's not in the right timing, and I think God wants me to focus on myself and my school than meeting a guy. So for anyone reading this that may be in a similar situation my advice is that it's better to wait, and wait for the right person, than to rush, and end up with the wrong person. TRUST me. It only leads to destruction if you're not patient (Psalms 1:6) YOU WILL meet the right person, as long as you're patient, and you have an open mind (for instance, the guy who always talks to you at church and you put him in the friend zone because he wears flip flops, etc)
Flip flops 😂😂😂👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
I’ve been single for 5 long years most by choice.! But I’ve started dating online the last few years no luck there. And I’ve been going out to meet someone no luck haha I’m also praying daily God answers my prayer I’m in my 30s so I don’t want to waste anytime
D M I’m in a similar situation except in my 20’s. Online dating is a waste of time imo . Best advice I can say is to focus on yourself and when you’re not looking, he’ll come along.
No not me friend! I was just using an example from someone I knew. I knew someone who was picky right down to a guy wearing flip flops and she met a guy who didn't fit her rules exactly, fell in love, and literally around 2 weeks ago they got married.
And don't just settle for anyone. I can give a personal example. I was lonely in the past and a guy came along I worked with and ended up doing things with him I shouldn't of because of the loneliness I felt. Ended up regretting it entirely, and rumors spread about me and this person. This is why you wait for the right person !
I just want to be happy with life and have an amazing woman to love.
I have this planted in my heart ever since I was little child to marry and be a dad. I'm 25 now and still struggling to find a Godly woman that is even interested enough to go out on a date. Very frusterating when I see everyone around me getting married and having kids. It sucks because I know I am good looking, wealthy and love the Lord with all my heart but no girl I meet even cares it feels like...
We are the same. But I believe that the Lord is preparing and will send the one He has for you. Be patient, faithful and keep on praying.
i understand your frustration truly! but maybe in this season of singleness God wants you to continue work on your relationship with God and yourself and in his timing you will meet the one !!
I am feeling and going through the exact same , I hope things have Gotten better for you .. 🙏🏾🌺
I'm in the same boat. Hold on there bro. God's timing is always perfect.
To be honest I was going to have a Girlfriend. But than she changed her mind and thought we were too similar. I've been struggling a lot lately because of her rejection. But I know God has the right woman for me and I'm sure he has the right woman for you. God's in control. His will and timing is perfect. Hang in there. God bless.
Be patient. I had my first child when I was 37; my brother had his first at 42.
This is the season for all of these videos! You add in new videos that answer my questions from the previous video. Thank you so much for these and for your ministry! May God continue to bless you and open more doors! These are life changing for me.
Mita Love Amen! Agree, Right on time! Praised God!! So needed
Amen, so glad to hear this :)
Looking forward to the course when it comes out!
I agree with your comment.
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SAME HES ON POINT praise the Lord!
The Father delights in you so much!! You are so blessed
So I desire to be married, some for selfish reasons and some for Godly reasons. I opened up to God last night and told him everything. I trust that he will time my marriage when he sees fit. Being single is hard sometimes because all you do is wonder. Wonder why. Paul says to get married rather than burn in passion. I'm 30 now and learning everyday who I am, what i tolerate and what i dont. God please remove anxiousness off my heart, in the name of the most high . AMEN.
My God is faithful. The most important role is to play your part and let God do his own too. I know my future husband will find me soon
actively being involved in your community is a great way to meet people also your church but God knows when it's time and he always is in the waiting. Thanks mark
I'm 54 and born again. I am hoping to marry before I die.
I’ve been single almost 4 years and I’m really in no rush. I’m growing in my faith so much. I get a little upset when people have marriage as an idol. I do think when I feel like I’m getting a nudge from God I will take steps to put myself out there, but in my stage of life, I am not feeling that heavily. I think some ignore the pulls of God on their heart in order to go for their own version of what they want
Thank you, Mark! I have been struggling with this over the last week. My motives are unhealthy. I needed this today. Pray for me. What about doing a video on depression and anxiety as Christians?
God doesn't want you under oppression or sickness. Holy Spirit will deliver you. By the blood you are healed.
Some of us need to take a hard look at ourselves. Are we wierd? Big ego? Bad hygiene? Fix all that first.
Bad hygiene is so overlooked!
I don't understand how anyone could be oblivious to cleaning themselves up before a date, lol.
I never thought about it that way; about the motives. This was very helpful, and a bit of a relief to hear. Thank you, I needed it.
I definitely think I’m being too passive lol online dating is not for me at allll. It’s so awkward. I’ve idolized marriage before & don’t want that anymore. I want to be married but I’d rather have pure motives so I’m just praying about that. I just waited for God to play matchmaker for the longest time lol and I think that’s what frustrated me. Now I feel like God has been showing me that I need to be more active in singles groups & if I just meet a friend, I’m totally ok with that. I have so much other stuff going on in my life at the moment that I’m ok with not starting a relationship right now but I do feel like I need to take a little more of an active role.
God is FAITHFUL with HIM impossible is possible 🙏🏾
Thanks for these relationship tips brother. I absolutely enjoy the content you put out here and how you connect these verses from Gods word to real life relationship experiences and dating probabilities. God bless Mark 🙏💙💙
Amen, so glad these videos are being used to bless people. Thanks for the encouragement :)
I recently overcame a relationship that wasn't healthy and I am praying for a helpmete. I have a few contenders right now and a couple that seem to be serious. I have been asking God for a sign which one is right for me and me for him. God will be the right person to me eventually.
Yes you can have a pure motive but you could still be in unbelief by “trying to help God”. So the litmus test for me would be are you operating out of conviction or fear that God won’t come through?
Amazing ministry, keep it up in Jesus Christ Amein Amein
Great video! I’m really looking forward to the classes.
Me too :) I'm going to offer a lot in the course so it's taking me a long time. I'm hoping to launch it in January 2019 at the latest :)
Right!! 🙌🏽
Mark...Thank you ☺ This not only explains the reason why one should marry, but also the reasons why one should not. I appreciate your answer. God bless!
I wish the women can have an online conference session with Bethany. I think that'll be really cool!
I will try to get her back on the channel soon!
I can’t wait till your course becomes available. All your videos are so helpful.
So basically It doesn’t really matter the approach that I take in dating it’s the motive in my heart . I also thought that online dating would be taking things into my own hands but What a great clarification and understanding that it’s really the motive in your heart that God looks at ❤️
Thank you Mark for opening my spiritual eyes
Thank you so much for this, you saved me from so much self condemnation when I realized all these healthy reasons you have listed are the deep desires of my heart. Thank you for the work you are doing in God's kingdom ❤
Thank you for this explanation! It's completely cleared up my uncertainty about my motives for wanting marriage
Ur messages we awesome Marc. God showed me my girl.I'm happy he is leading us but she is an elder than Me. We may Hv a prob with family god said everything wil be alryt Amen.pls remember us in ur prayer tq
Age is only a number afterall. Plus there's always adoption, or God can open up any womb or cause it to happen naturally. If that's His will, He can make anything happen accordingly. He's a God of miracles.
I have had a complicated journey regarding relationships and love...I believed when my church have preached to “wait on the Lord and believe and He will bring the one to your life” and have seen the likes if Billy Graham saying in one of his tv crusades “God has someone picked out just for you” and as a young man I took those words serious and stood wholeheartedly for it and somehow have comes up empty handed or friend zoned by girls mostly from church... with a few exceptions of a few girls that I believe God moved away for my good...also what it seems not to help me that I’m pretty shy and introverted and have been passive or not very active in my search for a woman for fear of being rejected or in a drastic case be obnoxious so that’s always been a fear...but I’m still holding on to God’s word and believing in Him I’ll find her someday.
Even online dating isn’t magical. I tried it all summer and nothing happened. So there’s no guarantee you’ll meet someone if you do that either.
I think the seasons anology is overused. People confuse waiting with not taking action. All they do is wait....1 year, 5 years.....that is ridiculous.
I never really looked at 1 Corinthians 7 in that light.
But I don't know. Maybe I need to wait. I don't see anyone around me worthwhile, and I feel I just cannot approach anyone. It seems as though such a relationship will have to just occur naturally somehow.
Yet, I have a strong desire for Godly companionship, lavishing someone with love, encouraging and praying with a future spouse and growing in the Lord. I just want someone to nurture and love in that way, and whom I can connect with in the faith.
I thought I had that with one special lady, but she seems to have abandoned me without any explanation as to exactly why. Wish I could get some closure, but I guess it doesn't always happen.
Yes, this can be very hard. Life is certainly messy. Thankfully our God is always with us to lead and guide us when we have a relationship with him through Jesus Christ.
There aren't many strong Godly men out there. God please lead me accordingly 🙏
Am really pleased and encouraged by the references you shared from the word. Each time I learn alot from your videos.
I have given up after 35 years !!!! There is no one for me.
Awesome vedio! Healthy motives ❤
It's impossible to try too hard . Every woman I meet is either somebody's wife or girlfriend, so I can't try anything ! The most wonderful words a woman can say are "I don't have a boyfriend !", and she has to make sure she can say them ! The woman I should have married was aborted by her parents !
By not seeking to be married at all! I want to stay unmarried for serving God alone, and not being distracted by the world.
God will grant your desire. My question is, if you've already decided that, why are you watching these videos?
you seem to have left out sex and children as reasons for marriage. You did briefly mention intimacy but, seemed to bypass sex. We are told if we burn- we should be married. you left that out. why?
I really appreciate your video and thoroughly enjoyed it. Mr. Mark you are doing great and let God use you and bless you and your family always.
So all Christian people in healthy marriages only got married because they wanted to glorify God? None of them wanted to be in a relationship and not die alone, or wanted to be able to have Biblical sexual interactions, not any of them wanted the security that comes from sharing your life with someone you can put on your emergency contact list. All of them were successfully paired up because they wanted to glorify God and nothing else. Pssssht .... please!!! Love your channel Mark but that’s really odd to me.
Hey... For 5 years I had been praying for a spouse.. But I didn't gt even a boyfriend.. Can u please pray for me
I'm learning....let Gods will be done..
Same here
I had just graduated nursing school. The Lord told me that I was to help somebody. But he would not give me any details. I kept asking who and what I was to do. He had told me when I purchased my house, that I would move somewhere. Again, he left out the details. So I tried not to get attach to my house, because I knew I would be moving again. God never tells you the whole plan. I am not sure why? Sometimes I feel like if I had known the plan, I wouldn't have made bad decisions. I wonder?? I just have to catch up to where I need to be quickly! So we can do the work of the Lord. So I can help him... that's my goal or my reasoning.
Very Nice! Thanks a Lot! :)
Superb
Pastor Mark, is it also a healthy and beneficial reason to marry to avoid adultery and sinning in lust? In 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 and 1 Corinthians 7:9, Paul says that if a man or lady cannot contain that it is better to marry and also to avoid fornication. What is your perspective on this viewpoint?
I am really trusting God but been feeling so discouraged. Like I’m honestly not even sure what to do. Should I go out? If I do where should I go? Who should I talk to? Or am I just suppose to go about my business and I will meet my husband? I’m really lost right now. I believe the motives that you stated are my hearts desires but kinda getting frustrated because I’m not sure what move I’m suppose to make
rini moses pray about it & ask God. Go to him about all of it and wait for him to answer you
What about women who have waited DECADES to be married? What can you say to them?
Right I see a lot of people in the comments saying "I'm in my 20's and I've been single for some time..." I don't want to belittle them, but I want to laugh. I'm in my 40's and I've been single my whole life. The struggle is real, but come back to me when you've been single for decades and you'll really know frustration.
@@SomethingBeautifulHandcrafts
What about someone who is sixty?
Frustrating to say the least.
I hope I'm not still single by then.
@@ms.bizlady2956 I got you beat since i just turned 67.
This is so good.
My motives are actually healthy but nothing. 🤷♀️
...yet
hey Mark thanks for another great video. my question is what guidelines do you advise once dating in terms of boundaries and investment ?
I have no other choice but getting to know someone online, concerning my current surroundings (no single men). I can wait in my room, then find someone at 50+ and not be able to have children. But what I DON'T do is date "for fun", plus I don't chat anyone up, I wait for guys to talk to me, because maybe one day the spouse God has chosen for me will be amongst them (and it should be a fellow believer). Yes, God has sanctified marriage - unlike in some of Paul's statements that contradict God's Word... (remember, there are doubts if Paul even wrote all his epistles and if you think of what God the Father and Jesus have said or compare to e.g Peter's or John's writings, it is a real possibility!)
I definitely do have desires to be married someday, yet I am not sure whether I'm in a season to date right now;
I'm a 22 year old Christian male who's been single and dateless all my life. While I definitely can say that I am a competent, diligent and mature young adult, and I'm definitely not super ugly, my season of life right now is filled with quite a bit of emotional and spiritual unrest. My mother suddenly died of leukemia this January, I'm still living with my dad and sister with no independent source of income, and I'm uneasy about what the future holds for me despite me having a sense of direction (I'm starting a two-year Teacher's Education program in September at a local university).
Because of my belief that I'm not in a season of dating, I've been hot and cold with a few girls at my local church who showed interest in me (half I were interested in, half not) and always point out their major flaws, my current situation and/or other factors (ex. Them moving away to university in a town hours away) as my reason(s) not to date. I also fear that I wouldn't date for Godly reasons and/or I would end up in a relationship destined to end and cause more harm than good for both myself and the person I'm dating.
In short, I don't think I'm in a season of dating right now despite my desires for marriage. Is this logic sound?
4Tifier This seems logical to me. I have a desire for marriage, but I know I am not ready for a relationship. Continue your studies and God will bring you a spouse when you are ready and you least expect it. I understand how hard it is to wait, but during the wait draw closer to God and your calling. I hope this helps.
Thank you for your reply. I've learned recently about my faults in regards to relationships that I needed to fix; which helped me draw closer to God. There's still so much for me to learn and improve upon, and I'm now in a better place with my relationship with God.
+Repent and Believe That last part is especially true. I've discovered recently that I have a bad habit of developing crushes and interests in people for the wrong reasons, and that's drawn me closer to God.
Sounds...sound. No pun intended! I've been in a similar situation, on the female side, and realized stability is huge no matter your gender. Not that dating can't happen during school, but in my limited experience, times of transition, especially work/grief, haven't been ideal. Just want to encourage you as a sister in Christ that God's got you and taking time to develop independence and heal is huge!
Paul says it's better not to marry.
For some but not all, 1 Corinthian 7 states it is better for some to marry and for others to stay single
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger it's too bad that most churches are focused on married couples and families.
I desire to serve in ministry with a Godly man husband. I'd love a companion helper
I don't know if these are in a specific order but unfortunately I honestly feel that companionship is pretty high up there for me, hopefully not higher than glorifying God though, because there's not much else that's been on my mind lately.
I’m just curios this accent is from which area of America
This was driving me crazy, I finally figured out who you look like and talk like Tim Tebow. He's a Christian ex NFL player and you guys could be twins. Lol.
Haha! Maybe this is what happened to Tebow! XD
@@Marcusmarcb0tI we have never seen the two of them together, lol
@@snoopval Actually, I never really got a good look at Tim Tebow. I just appreciated that he was gutsy enough to give some kind of credit or acknowledgment to God even at the risk of his own career.
I'm better at reading news headlines than with facial recognition. Bwahaha!
@@Marcusmarcb0tI I agree, I think it is bold when anyone acknowledges faith in Jesus, there was a Mic'd video of Tim Tebow that to me REALLY showed his character, he was uplifting his teammates and singing praise and worship songs during the football game, which was cool. That being said, he looks exactly like Mark, lol, exactly, it's hilarious.
@@snoopval That's really cool to hear. I hope Mr. Tebow grows in the grace and holiness of Christ.
Here in Kansas, it's more common to see people openly expressing Christian faith... Bible Belt and all.
But on national TV, the audience is dominated by the populace of the major cities which hold an anti Christian sentiment. So it takes more guts for Tebow than it does for someone living in the country side like meself.
I am 27. Still single. Worried about future husband. When will I get a godly man? I haven't found anyone in church or outside of church (of course Christian). So I am little worried about the timing because I think it's my time to get married as I am already 27 😩😧
Queen devi I understand your concern. God will bring you your spouse when you least expect it. Continue to serve God. Age is only a number. I am in my 30s and have never been in a relationship.
weenieboys 2 Thank you. I will serve GOD first.
Repent and Believe Thank you so much
Repent and Believe Amen 😇😇
Same here, in my 40's and never have had a relationship. You just gotta trust the process.
Ahhh MOTIVES!
God only bless outsiders,
Why is your shirt buttoned to 11?
Religious purposes 😀
You talk like someone who’s been married for years and years. Things are different now Mark. It’s way harder to find Christian singles when you aren’t in your 20’s anymore
Does it mean I'm still single because I keep pursuing to have a partner.? I'm must wait in the right time in God's will.
I think whether your single depends on a lot reasons. Varying from person to person.
For example I work near a city and have dated and asked out women my age. I'm still single even after work on myself.
So it's more I have not net the right person at the right time.
In the past I did nothing and single.
It depends
I guess so it may happen in the right time & the right place or maybe be single for the rest of my life. I don't know only God knows..
@@leahlozarita8975 you have to keep trying. What if God is preparing you to truly appreciate a man by having you wait so long.
Also I hired a dating coach and went on a date last month. It didn't work out for theological reasons but it was great experience.
Hire a coach and work on your self love, confidence and most important your walk with God.
I know after the 20+ women it didn't work out with I will not take a woman for granted.
Isaiah 40:31 means wait in expectation like a child waiting for a gift. You do things in expectation. Not sitting still. The true Hebrew meaning is lost in the English.
@@fightwithbiomechanix I think trying hard to have a man in life is a big mistake I've ever done, coz it ends me up disappointed. Maybe best thing to do now is wait for God's work on me 😊. Hiring coach my opinion not worth it. Being with someone & naturally fall each other is the best with the guide of heavenly father. ✌😊
@@fightwithbiomechanix this self love & confidence I'm trying to work it out now, I guess this is the one I'm lack of. Thanks for advice
Since God prevent, we open to none Christian
So here is the thing.. When God put a curse on Eve in the garden.. Genesis 3:16 NLT.. Why even bother with women? Why do men have to be in the power struggle now? , the conditions aren't like they were in the Garden anymore. Battle of the sex's began. As we know the heart is wicked so women would tend towards taking control. This is why in the NT it says women have to submit and be quiet...the odds of this happening would be a miracle as she tries not to scratch that curse fueled itch to take control..as Paul says.. It is better to be single as he was. He understood the hassle factor the "itch" would bring..
Erm, "the heart is wicked" also includes men... This entire comment is ungodly and full of pride. You sound like the Pharisee who was talking about how he wasn't as sinful as the other person praying to God.
Ur messages we awesome Marc. God showed me my girl.I'm happy he is leading us but she is an elder than Me. We may Hv a prob with family god said everything wil be alryt Amen.pls remember us in ur prayer tq