Thanks for sharing your story! My question is how do i navigate the difficulty of when my partner is showing CLEAR signs of depression but they NEVER wanna admit it and they NEVER think they need any help. It brings so much conflict each time I even wanna empathize with her and suggest ways for her to feel better. How do you help a partner that doesn't think they are depressed (even when they are) and thinks they don't need ANY help? Any advice and resources you can share would be helpful. Thanks!!
Tola, this is such a hard question to answer, because the situation varies from person to person. I think about it this way... It's easy to become an over-functioner. To try to control your partner and make them do the things that you believe will make them happy, you haapy, and the relationship happy. This is a response to anxiety, and rarely works out well. "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink." We need to allow our partners the time and space to make decisions around their mental and emotional health on their own... But, at the same time, there comes a point in every person's journey where they do need some help. They may need someone to step in and advocate for them when they won't advocate for themselves. The hard part is telling these 2 things apart... am I overstepping and controlling, or am I drawing a line in the sand because my partner genuinely needs me to? If it's the latter, the best thing you can do is lovingly get curious about your partner's mental health. Go over the symptoms of anxiety and depression with them. Ask them how they feel. Ask them if they want to feel better. Let them know what your limitations and desires are. See if you can get them on board for a better version of your relationship. Stand up for the fact that it's not a bad thing for you to want things to be better than they are right now... especially if your version of better is not unattainable or unrealistic.
This is exactly how I am feeling. Like to a T!! My husband and I don’t have children but I do have depression and it’s ruining a lot of things in my life. Including my marriage. My husband is a pharmacist and I’m in pharmacy school. I don’t want to overstep, because I have taken medication for depression before and honestly it ended up being worse than without it. Is there any way I could know what kind of medication your wife is taking? I would love to know. Thank you so much for this!! Amazing!!
@@TheGrowthMarriage Thanks! Sadly I have tried that one. But I’m trying something new soon! Seriously these videos are so SO helpful for us. Thank you!
Thanks Nate, for keeping up good content, I really appreciate it.
By the way you got lots of hats
Lol. I have like 3 here in Costa Rica. I love a good hat.
Such great sharing and resources you two! Thanks for posting!
Thanks for tuning in, Natalie!
Thanks for sharing your story! My question is how do i navigate the difficulty of when my partner is showing CLEAR signs of depression but they NEVER wanna admit it and they NEVER think they need any help. It brings so much conflict each time I even wanna empathize with her and suggest ways for her to feel better. How do you help a partner that doesn't think they are depressed (even when they are) and thinks they don't need ANY help? Any advice and resources you can share would be helpful. Thanks!!
Tola, this is such a hard question to answer, because the situation varies from person to person.
I think about it this way...
It's easy to become an over-functioner. To try to control your partner and make them do the things that you believe will make them happy, you haapy, and the relationship happy. This is a response to anxiety, and rarely works out well. "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink."
We need to allow our partners the time and space to make decisions around their mental and emotional health on their own...
But, at the same time, there comes a point in every person's journey where they do need some help. They may need someone to step in and advocate for them when they won't advocate for themselves.
The hard part is telling these 2 things apart... am I overstepping and controlling, or am I drawing a line in the sand because my partner genuinely needs me to?
If it's the latter, the best thing you can do is lovingly get curious about your partner's mental health. Go over the symptoms of anxiety and depression with them. Ask them how they feel. Ask them if they want to feel better. Let them know what your limitations and desires are. See if you can get them on board for a better version of your relationship.
Stand up for the fact that it's not a bad thing for you to want things to be better than they are right now... especially if your version of better is not unattainable or unrealistic.
This is exactly how I am feeling. Like to a T!! My husband and I don’t have children but I do have depression and it’s ruining a lot of things in my life. Including my marriage. My husband is a pharmacist and I’m in pharmacy school. I don’t want to overstep, because I have taken medication for depression before and honestly it ended up being worse than without it. Is there any way I could know what kind of medication your wife is taking? I would love to know. Thank you so much for this!! Amazing!!
Celexa has worked really well for her.
@@TheGrowthMarriage Thanks! Sadly I have tried that one. But I’m trying something new soon! Seriously these videos are so SO helpful for us. Thank you!