Do narcissist behave the same in every relationship??
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Are narcissists the same in every relationship? Join me, Lee Hammock, a clinically diagnosed narcissist, as we dive into this intriguing question in episode 954 of the Narcissist Code. Discover whether narcissists exhibit consistent behavior patterns across different relationships or if they adapt their tactics to manipulate each individual. Don't miss out on this thought-provoking discussion - subscribe now!
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Thank you so much
He did say we had alot in common at the beggining of the relationship/ love bombing. He mirrored me, observed, stared at me and repeated throughout the relationship. They lack/have no identity so they take yours. I'm at peace🙏
I'd always catch him staring intently at me. It was so weird. He also took on my 'catchphrases' which was creepy and annoying.
Same with me as well, took him back a 2nd time and now I’m healing all over unfortunately.
Yup. He did all the above with me. And I loved being worshipped. Apparently that's something I have to work on. Lol
Who knew!
Yes, I just said this recently. Mine took my phraseology too. That's when I realized he was discreetly mirroring me and had no idea why he was doing it. Just slightly, but enough to notice. Picking up on my wording. He since stopped doing that. I always thought he highly respected me and looked up to me (we've known eachother for years.) He ALWAYS treated me with the highest respect until he knew I was in his web.
They definitely take your identity. Mine wanted everything I had even the type of house I lived in
Give it 3-6 mos and the colors begin melting away of the Camilian 😉 and then grab the popcorn 🍿.
So true. It never last very long. It doesn’t matter who they are with,if you get into a relationship with one of these monsters, heartache and sin is inevitable. Run as fast as you can and never look back
chameleon
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I was a victim of a narcissistic relationship. Today I went to the grocery store looking for cinnamon. I literally chose a more expensive brand because the cheapest one was in her kitchen cabinet and it triggered me. It’s insane.
Those triggers are real!
I’m sorry you had to go through that
I can't shop for male clothing....I know it sounds weird but when I shopped for my ex narcs they were not appreciative or forgot I bought them something. Whether it was real or not. It triggers me.
Those triggers will slowly fade away as long as you stay no contact. The countless ah ha moments of their now predictable envious stupidity will one day seem laughable. Be patient and kind to yourself. It's kinda like you have to retrain your brain from all the constant negativity/ push and pull mood swings. Keep reminding yourself of the fact of the matter and that it's no longer your drama to deal with. If someone can't be real and accountable on a daily basis, words don't match actions that is not a healthy relationship. Enjoy the holidays, knowing that (as usual character for them) they are no longer there to ruin them.
There is nothing wrong with getting name brand stuff. Change up a lot of things in your life. Make new friends, get rid of gifts, and memories that might cause triggers. Not everyone deserves a seat at your table of life. You are stronger and wiser, having gone through the fire. Own it.
This is so true I don’t buy Coca Cola any more only Pepsi, and especially cherry Pepsi, because he never would let me buy it even though they’re pretty much the same .It’s crazy.
But eventually they will treat that person in the same way as they did with their previous partners they are unable to evolve or change unfortunately. The ones go to therapy are able to maintain themselves but still a narc. No body can put real love, honesty and empathy into someone who isn’t programmed to have those qualities
Why do they always seize the opportunity to cause pain? The bullying is the most confusing part to me because what did they gain?
N plus they grown WHY aren't you too old to be bullying people n they'll bully anyone they don't care what age they are
They bully to feed their ego that they had control and a final say.
Money, power, status, and semen.
Yes, they will shape themselves into whoever they need to be to get the next prey. Snakes in the grass!
💯 truth
Just from my personal experience...
The begining of the relationship they treat you according to your interests , and that's different in every case.
However the abuse is the same.
A narcy is like math. Even tho there's different ways to get there, in the end your all trying to get to the same answer.
And that's to conquer
And sit back and Revel at what you did
@dittehompoth1469 your guy was progressing. Like rpsts or serial killers. They will do what works. My first narcy was twisted, by the time I left him, he had already emotionally destroyed me , then he dropped a curling iron down the back of my shirt and bear hugged me, knocked my teeth in, broke my neck , and while wearing a neck brace , he broke my nose. I was 17
@@proanimaluver6487and you didn't kill his a** for that. Lucky guy.
Umm my ex isn’t physically abusing his new supply it’s literally totally different how he’s treating her makes me wonder if I was the problem 😢
@KaylaHarmon-cp5bt it's always guna look good looking from the outside in. You don't see behind close doors. It's a lie. They will play house longer with the next person but it's guna happen. It's not you. You were good before him right? He did that to you. No one deserves abuse. You don't. The next girl don't. But she's guna get it. If he hasn't gotten help for his mental problems....yes an abuser has mental problems, then he's going to do it again and again. No one is safe from him. Whatever he told you that makes you believe it was all you..
It's a lie. Take back your life.
A little advice from an old women who's seen alot..... if he abused you, you will attract other abusers. Don't ask me how that is cuz I don't know but it's real and it's a thing. Your best bet after getting out of an abusive relationship is DONT DATE ANYONE FOR 2 YEARS.
go thru the missing him , the sadness , the anger all that. Get thru it, and work on yourself.
Find out how to protect yourself mentally and then to know the Suttle moves an abuser makes . After getting over him and getting your joy back then date again. You will be surprised at realizing what your worth and finding someone worthy of you.
Yup 2 yrs. I had a counselor tell me that in a home for abused women and children. Unfortunately I didn't listen until after another abuser klld our baby. I was pregnant with twins. One lived. Her name is Patience .
After him. I didn't date anyone for a 2 yrs and now I've been with a man for 27 lol.
You got this.
Just remember...it's not you with the problem.
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Yes! Yes! Yes! I have dated 3 narcissistic guys. And they all were the same to me!!!
Post breakup from my narcissist makes it hard to enjoy things now because he caused me so much anxiety when I tried to enjoy myself (he made me feel guilty esp. when he was drinking)
It gets better. Trust me. Just take it one day at a time. 💯
@@MsFox2uthank you. I hope so.
@@LDTwin92 You're welcome 😊
I’m in the same situation 😢 it’s hard but 2 weeks away now and I have peace.
It doesnt mean they are happy conforming to what the new supply's likes. It doesnt last.
My ex definitely did certain things I begged for for his current gf. Like he’d buy her flowers and small things like that. But the abuse was the same.
how can exactly same like my case. really doesnt matter any countries, gender, education and so don ,...and so on.....
How do you know what your ex was doing for and to his new girlfriend? 🤔
Spot on video.
Narcissist learn from old supplies just what they can and can't get away with . Basically they hone their manipulative tactics. Camilian is a good analogy. They also give the next target everything they didn't give you in hopes that you are pining over them.
The shower part is funny. That used to just piss me off. I'm glad I'm finally over that and yes before I blocked him I saw him nicely dressesed and showered for her. It's not worth the space in my mind. She will have to figure it out on her own. They will triangulate the new supply by indirectly telling the new supply and his/ her family of flying monkey's how not to treat them ( narc) from what pissed them off from the old supply. They use that tactic as part of their victim role play. It never ends people, they don't change.
No contact is an absolute must if at all possible.
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Chameleon**
This is a good video! My ex-husband’s ex-girlfriend (the ex before me) reached out while he and I were still married. She told me her side of how she was treated by him. We realized that we both were victims of his abuse. There were similarities but also differences. Overall, he was a liar, manipulator, cheater, gaslighter with both of us. He was physically abusive to both of us. He was full of rage and said evil things to both of us. The main difference was that they had a child together. He and I have no kids together. He and I were married. He and his ex-girlfriend didn’t get married.
Having children with these people is a nightmare, keep his ex and their children in your prayers and consider yourself (decently) lucky
@@bombinspawn yes I feel bad for his son and the mom. I still reach out to the boy’s mom to check in. I also still buy birthday and Christmas gifts for him.
@nicolebeard6051 Iv thought about reaching out to someone , thing is they have their own disorder but are the victim of a narc as far as I can tell , he was totally manipulative with my interaction with her and caused her to ignore all her issues(boderline personality, a narcs favorite victim) and he claimed I was the narc bc I got mad at her treatment .
The thing with her I feel she is incredibly emotionally vulnerable and wanted to believe his fairytale . I feel bad for her despite how she acted w me . I want her to Atleast be warned , but then I look like a narcissist who won’t leave her alone !
@@heythere6983 I totally understand where you are coming from. You have to do what’s best for you. It’s a tough decision.
In my relationship was different from his other relationships with his other women he beat them but I never laid his hands on me but he was a liar and cheater
You get who they’re capable of in the beginning then you get the REAL true 100% who they really are . From my experience. I’m going through a divorce after 26 years of my life . That’s half of my life . I don’t know who he is . He’s not the person who i married. I don’t know him . I’ve learned sooo much from Lee & some other people and it validates soooo much & it makes sooo much sense now . I’m still learning and will continue to learn. I may never learn everything lol but I’m hoping to . Thanks Lee for your help and I’m glad to hear your advice! Thanks
The narcissist changes colors to fit into a new relationship. But the narcissist doesn't change. Their personality goes back to the old whatever they are, especially if they want to manipulate you. They are going to be back being mean and evil. It's just being nice in the beginning to fit the narrative.
I remember in another video of Lee's where he says that it doesn't matter how the narc is in the new relationship. What matters is how he/she treated you. S, it doesn't matter if the narc appears to reset the new person better. It matters how you are treated.
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He he said that it doesn’t matter that his actions never matched his words. It was just that he liked me and every time I think about that as a response, I realize that he is a manipulator, but at the time I didn’t, and it is just so mind blowing that he literally admitted to me how toxic he was, and I still thought that I was the problem.
Thats because we yearn so much for someone genuine that we ignore the red flags and subconsciously think our good nature will be enough to make the relationship move forward. It's so not the case. I did the same thing. Saw every red flag. I didn't even know about covert narcs until him. I knew something was wrong so I looked up silent treatments and the rest came straight to me. we just have to learn from it.
Well, if you have to ask yourself if you’re a narcissist and then chances are you’re not because they have no accountability and they don’t think anything is wrong with them
I would argue narcissists are different people therefore different however there is a pattern in common and this narcissistic pattern does repeat itself in every relationship.
Real people think for themselves. They all need helpers. Handlers who puppet them.
My ex narc told on herself one day and said I thought I could get you with sex and she did spend the night with me the first night and we had sex. Im an empath and I can feel other people's feelings and I started feeling different after sex and we were having sex everyday because she would right it down and keep track of it . I started having bad feelings and I couldn't have sex with her for awhile and I would tell her I didn't feel good and she didn't care at all. She would go from being mad at me to pretending to cry and I knew what she was doing. She told me the reason she would cry is because she loved me so much and was so attracted to me that she felt like she had to have me sexually everyday but I knew she was crying because I wasn't falling for her attempt to love bomb me and get me hooked on her. After having sex with her for almost three weeks straight I started feeling tired and sick so I had to stop having sex for awhile and it took over three weeks for me to start feeling normal again. It's not safe to have sex on to be around narcissistic women because they are victim players and energy vampires and while she's sucking something else she's actually sucking the life out of you. By the time I got away from her I'd gone through so much mental, emotional and physical abuse I was almost dead. When you see those traits run away and never look back. Sorry my comment was so long
You know why they need sex constantley. They practice autoerotism - so it is all about them (not you). In fact they use you to stimulate themselves. And you have to praise them - because they always want to feel like kings or queens. They are really ill-minded. Sex with a narcissist is like sex with a robot.
Damn I felt so drained and exhausted after having sex with my ex narc. Took me days to get back to my normal energy levels
They're behavior changes and you can see it if you pay attention.
8:23 "came to bed with their whole ass stinking". 😂😂😂
Thank you for telling us the truth. This is more helpful for survivors of narcissistic abuse than saying "feel good" stuff. We need to become wiser.
you’re welcome
The narcissist that I was involved with always treated me as a lady. He always respected me as well.He put me in a 3rd party situation. He then started acting weird and I left him 😮
You are amazing accepting your Lot and turning tables, telling, Healing and taking your Power away from this disorder, Lee! Thank you! A real man doing something in correcting misunfortunate behaviors!
So true. My narcissistic ex is now in college majoring in the same thing I do for a living. He used to say “I want to be like you”. Now he’s doing just that.
I would say to him: Good luck with that. It is just crazy because nobody is like another human-being. ...
That's a very common phrase that they say. That evil twin effect.
Hello I’m a new subscriber, you broke everything down so well! I’m just getting out of a 10 year relationship with a narcissist, I was abused mentally and physically, I have anxiety and depression from the 10 year relationship, he was 8 years older than me and I just knew, I had hit the jackpot dating an older man he was damn near perfect in my eyes until he started revealing the devil he really was, and I’m in the process of healing from him but it’s super hard because how can co-parent with a person who has completely destroyed you for so long *yes I have a beautiful little girl with a narcissist*
Thank you Lee for speaking up n telling your story n helping us pre n post narcissistic abuse survivor
Its true. Suddenly he hates all of his fav spicy food, brushes his teeth , take shower every morning , listening to all latino hip hop music annnnnnddddd start vaping. Hahahahaha
A try is worth it
They're not going to be a "better person"... They're just better at their manipulation skills. I'm praying for my ex's next supply. He's able to change SURFACE things, but he'll always be abusive, self- centered, and controlling. THAT'S never going to change. 😢
I love you my brother Lee for keeping it so 💯💯💯thank you!!👑
Off topic but love your new intro branding…spot on!
The color blue or turquoise your wearing is really beautiful 🕊🙏.
Thank you for reminding us that, Lee! 🙏❤️
My pleasure!!
Getting married just makes it last longer
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Excellent and necessary message for many to hear! 👍
My Narc had a chameleon as a pet also!
I heard reptiles had no feelings at all, something like that. That's why these losers like them. Dead like 'em guess.
Lmaooo wow that’s funny
Thanks Lee, you're helping me on my healing journey
so grateful for you! from the horse's mouth, is always the most truthful and authentic. you are so spot on. thank you.
WOW! Thank You For This Absolute Truth ‼️ I've experienced This. Elizabeth Cunningham from New London North Carolina ❤️
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Please explain how narcissist use their money to control you, to love you, to keep you, and how they use the money to control you with the children in your life. Please.
Easy...get a I G baddie to jailbreak your phone then they slowly drain it. So you start depending on them. Begging them. Hostage situation
This is very true everything my ex MIRRORED me to a T all the way down to my verbiage so freaking weird
I just came over from your TikTok live ❤
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I don’t watch my ex wife at all. All my post relationship information voluntarily comes through our child. I don’t want to shut my child down when she is telling me things but it can be torturing. But I’m glad my ex is doing great.
I can’t imagine your pain as I don’t have kids, but I can relate to what ur going through. It’s really great you’re being a great father to your child, when they grow up they’ll come to their own conclusions. And most likely they’ll be the right ones. You just continue doing you. Ur doing great, and I hope you have a great day
THE NOT SHOWERING PART 4ME‼️👀😆😬🤣🤣🤣🥴😵🫠🫡
My soon to be ex husband told women before me he was in the FBI (complete with running out in the middle of the night!) but then with me he was a music producer. My bff thought something was off, Googled him and discovered he worked at Rent-a-Center! We practically shared a brain in the beginning we were so alike, but after I was done suddenly “we’re just so different.”
FBI to music producer to RENT A CENTER 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you Lee! I’ve been wondering about this🙏🏽
They'll do anything to not end up alone, expecially as time is not on their side...
Bay bee… he can’t keep up with my colors! I cannot be mirrored. lol. Many have tried. He can imitate some things , but never will be able to keep up. I’m just too unique.
I’m bitter…so let him be the same with the next. He will treat her the same. My dad told me, hopefully she will see him for who he is.
Narcs are like bedbugs, they morph their bites to suit the circumstances 😝
😂😂😂😂 I love the analogy especially since nobody wants those or them (once they get clear and healed).
@@gigga693 yes you're so right!😅
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The only thing I begged him for is to acknowledge his part in our issues. To apologise and acknowledge how he had hurt me in our fights. I wonder if he is actually doing this with the new supply? Actually going against his natural narcissistic self? 🤔
6:50 Now the question I have is are they narcissistic in every relationship...
I am because my narcissist is a family member and he treats his family bad and it's manipulative, but it doesn't seem like he treats 'some' of his friends like that...
Lee you make me laugh.
Funny thing the ex narc never used to bathe and brush when I met him. When we started living together I told him if he doesn’t brush and shower he’s not getting in the bed with me. I have him on a whole new routine. Now someone else gets to benefit.
No one benefits from being with a narcissist. Just be thankful you're free.
Why the regret over him brushing his teeth for the next VICTIM ? Doesn't negate his narcissism 😂
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And I just can’t believe that there are people in this world that exist like that a person that can say some thing, but deep down, know that they will never be that or a person that can do all these actions, but not say what they truly mean it is just so mind blowing and disgusting and I want to vomit thinking that there are people out there trying to be this nice person but it’s all just a façade it’s crazy I don’t want to think about it
Yes very true....I could go on and on about this
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My interests are being a better person and it would be lovely to set things right with you as well. I am not your ex since we were still married when you died in a past life. Yet you were my husband and I do know that healing is important and there is care from my side as well . I am focusing on why we are truly here on earth . To carry good fruit and stop being mean with bad intentions and actions as well. 🕊🙏❤
Gm you right
Mine literally caused the biggest scene ever to his kids on a pick up day.
Caused scenes all month about pick up dates and last minute says again can't make court ordered set pick up times..... I need to meet later, I'm working. I'll call the police. Meanwhile had plans for his brother to come for a month. Dates in place all yr🙄🫤 called me every name in the book to my daughter and he wasnt even the one meeting and never told me. I had to have the kids call his mom.✌️🖖
At the end we all die so i dont understand how some people waste their time doing bad things to other people..
What about when they repeat your entire relationship with the new person? Also, to add context, I was around first but I was a "secret" which was fine for me. I also encouraged the person to see other people after his divorce because I didn't want to date him full time. I knew what he was about, he told me what he was about and honestly, I still accepted him. When he started seeing someone else, his attention shifted, which was also not a big deal. But then he started being deceitful toward me about it. I called him out. After that, he started telling me TOO much. He started describing activities that we did together. Very specific activities. He also bragged about pushing her boundaries and ended up calling me to tell me that he was having the same fights with her. Like, accusing her of things that, specifically about how anyone prior to him was "better", in terms of um...manhood. Honestly, that was kind of funny. His "manhood" his great. But he wanted to be the MOST. It took a while but I ended up going no contact.
Do you think that repeating the same activities with her, especially while we were still seeing each other (she didn't know about me) and telling me about it was an attempt to hoover or manipulate?
Also, for context, these were activities that his ex-wife apparently wouldn't do with him. But since I was a secret, he couldn't rub that in her face. After the wife left and when I was backing away, he started posting pics (which made me unfollow him on social media) and he was telling me they did these things, even after I told him that bothered me (that was my mistake, I'm aware,).
I could go on because that's the nature of the dynamics but that was my main question. Was it just maybe a double manipulation tactic?
It's just my opinion, but from an outsider's perspective, it sounds like it's reasonable to assume he was trying to burn you. You showed you didn't give a crap by telling him to date other people. He was trying to affect you. He may not have done those specific things at all (?) that he told you he's done with the next one. Or he very well may not care since you show that you don't care, so he's got nothing to lose by trying to get on your nerves. I think we should assume that they knowingly try to hurt us, gaslight us, and bs us to get reactions. Reactions give them power. How did you react when he was telling you all of this? I think his point was to prove to you, "I can replace you quickly."
Just my thoughts. I too am a third party as he was "on his way out" and the story was that they were just "co-parenting." He made such a mess of me that he's well aware of it. The strange thing is he unblocked after hurting me severely by messing with my mind over and over, and get I'm the one that took all the blame. But he's being extremely "careful" now and I'm not understanding it. His behavior makes me feel like he's possibly stringing me along, but also, it seems he saw that I lost my mind and went into a dark place and now he's treating me with "kid gloves". He blocked me a number of times after stonewalling me and putting me through torture. But then I asked myself, "Was I just being too controlling?" One of the first things he told me joking around was "After you sleep with them once they go crazy and I'm like whooa, gotta keep these bitches under control." But he made it appear it was all "banter." Now, I think it was a warning shot that I totally missed.
His sweet disposition is the one thing making me wonder if he's really a Narcissist. After some of the crazy sh%@ I accused him of and threw in his face, he should never want to talk to me again. But even now, he's got me wondering wtf he's up to and whether I'm still "next on the list" or whether he's really sorry for what he's done. He doesn't express it, and it's like he is changing his tactics but doing it in such a way that I don't get angry. It's fn unnerving. He will randomly stop texting at night which has always been my trigger. And I would FLIP OUT over it, thinking he was talking to other women. Now, it seems I'm so *tired after it all* that he's doing it almost every single night either to show he won and will never stop doing it, or to "friend zone" me, or to try to get me angry again. And now? He texts me first during the day. Before I complained that I always texted him first. By him ghosting and not saying goodnight, he is removing that as a special thing that meant a lot to me, and now I can't even get a goodnight at all. Power & control. Is he now getting away with talking to someone else? It's rattling my cage and I can't say anything, or he'll punish me again and put me through the torture of being blocked.
I've never had my mind be so controlled by anyone. And yet... he invited me to make me dinner for the first time last night on Christmas Eve, knowing it would mean everything to me. I just don't understand how you could seem so unaffected by it and have told yours to go date others. What a mess that would make of me to say those words.
This makes sense... I wondered why buttt I NEVER Asked 🤔
Mr. Hammock,
Thank you, so much for this vlog in particular. Since cutting OUT and OFF that extremely profound malignant narcissist, in my PAST 👀 I've found myself often wondering how that person (Satan) is with others...
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No originality or uniqueness of oneself!!! Didn't bother to hide who he really was & had the nerve to say I was the girl version of him. Pleaaaasse no where near like him even though he wanted me to be. Like Lee said he had every last narcissistic trait. Hope his new supply doesn't waste their time on this "shape shifting chameleon" he's no where need the time, energy or space he wasted when I was dealing with him. He's never going to change & become a "better human being".💯💯💯💯💯💯
Spot on.
appreciate it
Nice intro!!!
Yup!
As a positive until pushed narcissist myself, …I don’t even know 😂😂😂
That’s mirror the new supply
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I must say Lee that you always have the best explanations & you saved my life, I'm too broke to join today but I will...do you ever speak to ppl 1 on 1?
Allow 3 questions lol😂
I have a tip for you a video jk
I got a couple questions to help me to get loose from Narc hell
Good question
I believe they can be different at least to a point…
Juan is rarely home the last thing we did together was going to Sun City . We do have things planned for Christmas and New Years as well . Then I will not see him again for months . In March we will see each other again . Juan and I only see each other during holidays or birthdays or Christmas we have a holiday marriage . The rest of the year he works .Juan only takes of if its my birthday or if we have a holiday planned . He use to have hobbies outside of work these days his job is his hobby . If you ask me what type of marraige I have I have a holiday marriage it sounds funny actually . We only spend time together during the holidays.
yes.
Is that mean they’ll be better and better parson to become after each relationships?
Then they’ll be happy eventually.
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@@MentalHealness I don’t know if they’ll be happy honestly. But I wish that they will. Even they hurt me so bad, broke me, I still not wish that they’ll be stay in dark side alone forever.
Please protect my Family and my
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😂😂real but funny. Then back serious😢
It’s been months since we split up and he still won’t stop contacting me. How do I get him to leave me alone for good?
Wow!
Came to bed stinking!!! 😂😂😂
So this randomly just made me think about my ex best friend...... i have ALWAYS wondered if she was actually a narcissist too (my mom is malignant and i was her scapegoat, whereas i must've been my bff's golden child? But anyways, I was talking to a newer friend one day who made a comment about my tshirt from hot topic (Harry Potter) and was talking about how i had got it back in high school with bff because we used to shop there together all the time, but when she started dating her new/old (current) bf, which is like this country dude she like COMPLETELY flipped her ENTIRE image from straight-up nothing-but-black-goth to camo, daisy dukes, and cowboy boots, pretty much overnight. I have recently been diagnosed as autistic and i realize i might have been oversharing in that instance now... but all of a sudden i started hearing her talk about me when i was out of the room and calling ME a narcissist... even though i hadn't done or said anything that i can even wrap my head around as being narcissistic. I just get really excited/nervous when i talk and tend to blurt/overshare without meaning to or without realizing something like that might be offensive... she never said a word of it to my face either.... but "pretended"to be my friend a few more weeks before sending me a text saying "I don't think we should hang out anymore".... i was so broken i was never able to write back (she clearly didn't want me to anyways). She was the ONLY best friend i ever had, and it lasted for about 15 years and it honestly FELT like a situation only someone like my mother would put me in.... so i am wondering, but could my ex-bff be a narcissist? Do they change their entire appearance for whomever their current partner is?
I guess I have a question I'm not really sure if it is I'm trying to figure everything out this was my second discard but something he told me when we first got together and I don't think he was lying about it he said I changed to be with you and we were good for 4 years he was his self I was myself so does a narcissist really fall in love with someone and try to change I guess is my question but I guess after so long he couldn't hide who he was so the last 2 years he showed his true colors I just want to know why that was
How can i help a narcissistic man,when i do love him unconditionally and care for his soul?
He Drinks alcohol to much drive in car, and brings his beloved/"beobsessed" little children in danger.
HE risk bis own life everyday.
Him treated me very disrespectfull ...but i Think every human have earned/is Worth for help,healing,love.
How ,really how can i help such a person??
He cannot be helped. Start focusing on you and your children.
Thank you. But that is not a exact answer to my question ... i really look for a professional tipp/advice...
I told to the Police him drinking alcohol in the car whit little children...
I told to his exwife what he is doing whit his children st weekend time . .. how or where is help for such a person
@@einwienerlebenThere isn't. Run! Go no contact. You deserve better.
Church is a blessing I am so embarrassed for not going in years . I know two pastors that actually preach people free and not preaching them happy Fanie and Stephan they are wonderful . I don't believe in woman pastors woman can help in Sunday school yet not lead the church itself . The main pastor is always a man I do fact check everything afterwards and I do read the bible to get to the true message . I have found a couple of pastors that took verses out of context yet Fanie and Stephan they understand the bible correctly .I even worked with Fanie on projects years ago . Stephan also has a lot of books it is in Afrikaans he has a lot of wisdom on the word of God as well. I haven't spoken to him in years . His books are sold at CUM books and exclusive books in South Africa . Not all pastors are bad or use Gods word for manipulation that is the truth 🕊🙏❤ .
No!
Its the same cycle
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lol. Not whole azz stankin! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
They're the same in every relationship they just adapt for the moment to lure their new prey in an back to the same person ive witness this pretend to love you tell u they dont have anyone n all the while still entertaining ex from previous relationship to see if they still have feelings for them until they get that new supply realed in n then may discard if that supply fits the bill
Mine was not only controlling but physically abused me and I know he wasn't to his exes I am still trying to understand why he physically abused me.
maybe he knew it had happened to you before or he could get away with it
Lee how do you keep your npd in check? I’m wondering why some narcissist seem to have successful relationships after becoming self aware? What is the difference ?
8:20-8:32 OMGeee!! You’re so goofy 😂😭
They are camelions In fact, the narc once gave me a stuffed animal. It was a chameleon now I don’t know if there’s any correlation between the motive behind that, or just thought it was a cute thing to give me.
Is so hard doing that so nasty 🤮 every time you have to change u personality for get someone have to be fucking tired doing that omg 😩
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Pls can you add me to your membership? I would like to be apart of your live conversations
Narcissist cheating to his family hiding his relations .
🙋🏻♀️ My severely NPD mother does this thing where during the process of me gray/yellow rocking and transitioning into no contact (without any explanation from me, of course, she’s fully aware of what she said and did) where she’ll harass everyone around me, including my husband and MIL, blowing their phones up with texts and calls pretending like she’s genuinely confused about why she’s being blocked when in reality she just refuses to be ignored due to the need for control and her ego.
What is this behavior/action of hers called? I cannot find anything about it anywhere, it’s so frustrating.
What should the people around me do? Should they also block her?
Please help ☹️
Sounds like your Mom is manipulating others to get to you..depending how what she is saying she also could be gaslighting...saying things that make you seem like truth is not truth....
So basically the narc change in a new relationship until he or she gets in good with the new new...and then they begin to be the same way they was with you and others in the past. Mmmm got cha
lee i saw this narc for 7 months it was just sex he. would not let me in ..he did not open up hes in open marriage for 35 years..he left his wife for some reason asked me for commitment..but it was lies fake he was just using me for sex and what i was giving him .i was good to him too kind towards him nice caring...i asked him for nothing not even a cigarette..he lived with his family..i stayed the odd night..but behind my back he was sleeping with her and mocking me together she told him lies about me he believes her lies she told him to ghost me he did,3 years ago now..ok 👌 bye then ..why did he get angry he ghost me..he slander me judas behind my back smear campaign...sent me black magic death spells evil eye hexes vooodoo mind control spells tried to set me up for the jail too wanted to swap destiny's with me and gangstalked me on Facebook .the tarot reading saud its because you didn't chase him .. wtf 🤡..ye im going to chase that..
Getting treated very badly..i was good to him..thats cruel
Hook Worm!! 😂😂😂😂
Are you sure you're not describing borderline personality disorder?
there's crossover and overlap
@@MentalHealness I see, ty for the feedback bro
Narcissistic they treat the other person the same so they could manipulate them I know my ex did it