I just want my peace. I have been hurt too many years by my narcissistic boyfriend to where I don’t want him and I don’t want anyone else. I’m getting too old anyway. Just leave me alone, and trust me I will be okay and happy!
That’s exactly how I feel, I don’t want anyone else, maybe in the next lifetime…..I’m never ever gonna trust anyone ever again, it’s like I woke up from the matrix
HUMPH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you could hear how loudly i said HUMPH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!reading your comment which i 1000% FEEL!!!!!!!!! IF YOU ONLY KNEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i told dude I KNOW HOW TO BE ALONE. I WAS NOT LONELY WHEN I MET YOU. I WILL NOT BE LONELY AFTER YOU!!!!!!! CLAIM YOUR PEACE!!!! IT'S YOURS!!!! TAKE IT, EMBRACE IT TIGHT!!!!!! AND SAFEGUARD IT for the rest of your years!!!!!! no repeating history!!!! allowing fools and nuts to disturb it!!!!! now, send me a mental dap!!!! lol!!!!!!!!!!!!! (that's my first time using that: "a mental dap") hahahaaaaaaaaaaa ... PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@ItsSoarTime Mental dap sent!!…. I know that’s right!!…I will be just fine. I’m not about to keep dealing with this toxicity. Leaving me alone means I have no time for you and more time for spiritual growth in the Lord, and more time with friends and family and do what I want and need to do, when I want and need to do it!!!!… I’m tired of being disrespected, lied to, manipulated, and dealing with the high grandiosity thinking. I’m better off by myself!!!…..Sayonara Satan!!!!!…
@@treshasstarr1513 I know what you mean!!…. I will never be able to trust so there is no point in dating again or getting into another relationship because I refuse to date another narcissist, anyone with ADHD, a sociopath, psychopath, schizophrenic, or bipolar person… keep all that away from me.!!!
My ex moved on. Moved his new gf in. Gave her my car. Found out I was dating someone almost a year later and she called me to warn me he was driving down to my house to beat him up. He rang every apt until he could get in then banged on my door screaming util he left. This was my FIRST narcissistic relationship and it just went down hill from there. Now that I’ve healed my inner child, my new husband is incredible. Take your power back! Take your life back!
@@AmbiLane998 nothing. Previous to this, He trashed my house once, tired to unalive himself, destroyed my stuff and had to be put in the mental hospital. I moved while he was admitted. I called the cops as it was happening and they wouldn’t call me back for a restraining order. The legal system isn’t there for many people.
The irony of a narcissist they would cheat on you and also want a hold of there previous partners and new partner(s) and yet wouldn't want you to be happy . Yet they mistreat you until you leave. 🤦🏻♀️
I'm not even moving on with somebody else. I'm just leaving my current city to pursue better opportunities for myself, and already my narcissistic ex is flipping her lid. She moved halfway across the country to move in with this guy she left me for, but now that she's found out that I am leaving the town we both used to live in... She has really stepped up her stalking game and she is asking mutual friends what they know about my plans. She specifically wants to know when I'm moving and where I am moving to. I'm pretty sure it's because she knows she's going to end her current relationship and wants to try and Hoover, So she wants to make sure I'm going to be in town when she does it. So it's not even about another person, she doesn't want me moving someplace where she won't have access to me and I will be free to start over and have a chance at happiness.
humph!!!! THANKS FOR THE HEADS UP BECAUSE i'm on my way out of...ASSachusetts!!!!! THAT was planned BEFORE we met. told him. he doesn't believe it. knows he's been asking at least one person in the building if i'm still here. lives in the same building. .... telling you as i'm TELLING MYSELF: GO ON WITH DOING YOU!!!! BIGGER AND BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!! SOAR BABY!!!! SOAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HIGH ABOVE THAT NONSENSE!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Runnnnnn! Move in silence. If possible, don't tell anybody!!!! Because if she finds you, she will destroy your life in ways you didn't think possible. Im a woman, and very pro women's right, but I'm also aware of how women have a unique way of making your life hell and society won't believe you as a man. She could accuse you of abuse, SA, anything really, and your reputation and life would be in ruins and nobody would believe you. Document any interactions she tries to have with you and Runnnnnnnnnnnnn! All the best of luck!!!!
They can have supplies but God forbid you try to move on with someone else. They want you to tend to them while they get supply on the side. It's abuse and they're not worth the misery.
Left his rebound supply saying he couldn’t get it up w her anymore and has been watching videos of me to get off. Then he asked for me to come back so he could give it all to me (marriage and kids) I said boy bye… you had 6 yrs to do all that and now I got a man who participates in a loving and honest relationship. No thanks. Now go live with yourself 👋🏼
Happened to me... I tried to go out to eat with someone, he wasn't clayme or nothing but stuck on me daily..BBQs.. funerals, family parties. But kept telling people I was only a friend. So I decided to go out with someone to eat and he saw us...( I wasn't hiding) and he went crazy... Came in the restaurant and told all my medical business to the restaurant during my medical leave and everything... The guy I was with said, "I thought u don't like her like that", and he responded and said "so", but she said she loves me😂 .. he admitted and still got kicked out the restaurant trying to gain his so called control. By the way, your amazing for helping .
Lol. I divorced him probly bout 13 years ago...and hes still my nieghbor. Nope. Hes never been happy for me for anything...except for when I get my taxes. He knows he dont get his fix from me anymore, but he still tries our grown kids. Shame on him and his guilt trips. 62 year old child.
Mine is 69, I'm 5yrs younger You would think that at that age the games would have been over, but that's before I knew what he was, he called me one night and insinuated that it sounded like I was out, so I immediately so I played a long told him that I was at dinner with a friend, he accused my friend of being a man, so I immediately thought this is my chance to get out of this miserable situation, yeah he took me to this seafood restaurant when I wouldn't tell him the name of the restaurant, he Hung up on me, so I blocked him, and then he turned around and blocked me, I didn't give a darn, I'm just 27 days out, I don't think he's going to try and come back, after 7yrs keep stepping, That's exactly what I'm doing, feeling better every day, thanks Lee I wished I had known about Norsisist years ago, I would not have stayed with my kids dad for as long as I did, hince this is not my first rodeo with a narcissist, but thank God it will be the last, because of people like you I'm truly thankful 🙏❤
Right before I knew he was going to discard me I beat him to the Punch, made him think that I was out to dinner with a man, and he lost it, hung up on me, I seize the opportunity to block him, Best feeling I had with him in along time, after 7yrs I'm free,
NOT WORRIED IN THE LEAST BIT BECAUSE I TOLD DUDE DAY 1 THAT I AM VERY VINDICTIVE. no, not proud about that. but THAT is a fact. WE ARE ALL FLAWED. i don't bother folk, i won't stand to be bothered! it's that simple. and that's why i walked away after 2 weeks. I DON'T DO DRAMA!!!!!!!! SO, FOR HIS SAKE I HOPE WE NEVER CROSS PATHS AGAIN, just in case HE LOSES HIS MIND and causes me to lose mine!
they say they want you happy but when you meet someone and you truly are happy… watch out. stalking following you moved 30 miles away… and he found me. drove by my house videoing in someone’s car not his… crazy crazy
We were together 12 years, I'm 2.5 years free, and about a yr into a healthy relationship. He hates it so much. He replaced me quick everytime, and had a girl. It's still a problem.
I appreciate your honesty and insight on narcissistic personality disorder. You have been a real blessing and eye opener for many people like me. Thank you.💕
HOW did you get out safely? I desperately need help getting out. 😢 He is like a “squatter” in our home. Completely ignores me or RAGES, then abuse. EVERY attempt to get out he interferes and ruins for me but screams at me to “LEAVE!” Regularly or threatens not to pay our mortgage. I’m like, WTF?! Great! Don’t pay it. Let the home go in to foreclosure please. Whatever! Then screams at me to “Get a job!” Dude, let me. Stop hacking into my accounts and doing crazy shit so I can pay the mortgage myself and leave. It’s so crazy! I was the breadwinner for 5.5 years and he had the best life and more money than he’s ever seen. He spent all of my money then was the CAUSE of me not working now. His mask didn’t drop until 9 months ago but when it did- HOLY hell! It has been an absolute Nightmare. Like dateline TV sh&t. W.T.H.?
Yes , Lee ! My ex covert-narc husband told me he was happy for me and my boyfriend, but I got scared when he said that and I paid attention to my moves . I know what he is capable of ! Thank you 🙏 again , Lee ! ❤ Bless you , you got this 🙏❤️🥳!
I changed my phone number the last time my ex-husband hoovered me from a different phone number. I hope he doesn’t hear about me moving on. I know he wouldn’t be happy. I want nothing to do with him. I made my mind up 2 years ago when I separated from him.
hhmmm, "different phone number." i swear I'M FEELING dude tried to do that to me recently. but i NEVER answer my phone ... changing the number soon when i relocate anyway. take care Ms. Beard!!!
@@ItsSoarTime yes it is possible! Sometimes you can block them and they’ll try to get around it. It can be scary. That’s good that you’re changing your number soon. Stay strong and take care!
1 of the Best EFFN videos yet! Twisted Humor had me rolling😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Found my husband out recently n came across you and been listening since. $h!t is sooo on point it's ridiculous! Every video has been a "Dammmmnn̈n!!!" Moment fa me and has helped TREMENDOUSLY!! ❤❤❤Thank you so much and I appreciate 5he raw a$$ humor. 😂Gotta hear that coz those sugar coated truths don't hit tha same!! #FACTSFACTSFACTS 💯 💯 #Therapeutic
Lee, I believe my family of origin is also narcissistic and never wanted anything good for me. They love to see me all by myself. At 53 yrs, I am figuring out on my own what a healthy relationship looks like. I am going to do my part to figure out healthy relationship look like for the sake of teaching my children. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
It was bad I was consistently calling the police last year and the year before that my license plate was getting stolen every other week... He will be sitting at my window walking around my crib knocking on each window to keep me up terrorizing whoever was in here including my son it was just horrible... I have never encountered such a thing or seen it on a movie u wouldn't believe the shiiiii I went through
Omg this is so true! everything you are saying! they hate seeing you moved on and happy. My ex hoovers each and every time he thinks I'm dating again. The new one is the same way. THe ex used to ghost me but the new one is the annoying type that never ghosts and you pray he does. He nags tf out of me and it's annoying!!!!! he can't do anything for himself. i beg him to call other women he just loves to torture me and have me there with him.
They dont f care. They hate themselves. Everything is a joke game to them, including life itself. My ex has personality disorder. She hates herself and plays the victim. She is toxic. I dont want to say i regret knowing her but it is what is. Lesson learned.
I met a super attentively communicative man at church - he gleefully said he has full custody of his daughter & his ex is homeless living under an overpass. What I really heard was- girl, I'm vicious. I will ruin anyone & I mean, Anyone by spreading lies so No One will trust you & No one will help you.
Can you please tell me why he comes back around when he BLAMED ME for everything..? Told me I ruined everything.. but why? Why would he continue to reach out, show up and text, message and call and say nonsense like, “I hope I get to see you soon” if I was such a horrible person. Please explain to me why? It’s so exhausting
He hates you but needs you to self regulate his emotions. He needs you for projection and distortion of his behavior. He is mentally unstable. It's best and safer to cut all communication with him, change your number or he won't stop harassing you.
My first husband ( big narcissist ) after 25 years of divorce is still whining about how he’s supposedly so happy for me etc…and how he wishes we could have stayed married. So damn discretion his wife 😡😡
My 68 year old Ex was dating a 24 year old sugarbaby for over 5 years. I'm 7 years younger than he and finally started dating a 58 year old man 3 years my junior 7 years after our divorce. He won't confront other men but he will attack women when their back is turned literally. He hit me upside the back of my head when I wasn't expecting it causeing a stroke and an inoperable blood clot in my brain.
It's crazy because I experienced 18 months and the experience was worse than every bad relationship combined times infinity. I'm so annoyed with myself for not catching on sooner. I was so gullible it's embarrassing. I'm not a dumb person but I didn't trust my own feelings. I kept suppressing my own feelings for someone who wasn't even trying! He wasn't trying because he was doing everything he wanted everywhere. I'm so angry with myself. It's so painful and I won't admit it to them again because they enjoy my pain so much. Part of me hopes and prays they're tormented more than usual.
I left my ex, packed up everything got a uhaul and left while she was away havent heard from her at all. We had a dog business and some monies are supposed to be transfered to me but ntn has been said or done. Im trying to accept w.e comes my way. Let it Go. Even if you love them, miss them, want to be with them... Let. Them. Go. Thanks Lee.
Yes I'm glad that it's not that I used to be with and I know him for well almost 55 years and you know what he discarded me to go back with his ex-girlfriend but lie I'm glad he did cuz I got a lot of blessings but I haven't heard from the start for be honest 8 months and I'm glad and I 🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you for this journey that I'm still on hearing you hearing your RUclips videos and I appreciate it Lee.🎉
My soon to be ex husband went straight into another woman’s house from our matrimonial home. He seemed happy with his new supply. When he started seeing me with other men, a serious smear campaign and threatening any guy that he thought was interested in me 😂
Hey Lee, I have a question for you. I have been NO Contact for 52 days now! What's my ex thinking ? He can't call, text, or hoover me! Has he realized it yet that I am not coming back? Please answer my question! Thanks ❤
I got confused when I spoke to him on the phone and he was with his girlfriend and he was fine with me saying we're getting a divorce. When it came up again during his visit with the kids he said he'd disappear like he's said in the past.
He found out via friend I was seeing someone new, and I was sorting for him to finally collect his stuff, I said He should just be happy for us, man alive LOL, the b*stard, he spent 3 days trying to ask me who on Facebook, read some messages he's been sent from our friend, and was like "well he's no friend of mine" blah blah blah lol! I was like, that was almost fun because I said to my ex "I'm not telling you who I'm seeing you deserve to know" he spent 3 days finding out even with new supply lol!
I started talking about my personal journey of narcissistic abuse online when an ex narc came in to view. Next thing I know they told people I was bashing them. Apparently I triggered them and I wasn't even mentioning them or how they treated me. This was my personal journey to also help other people I know. So clearly, I struck a nerve. They also told me that they were happy that I moved on and got married. Clearly now I see they lied. I was told that I broke their heart for the last time. what??? They always ghosted when things were getting close ( he was married when we met and this was the reason for his behavior.). He showed me divorce papers before we dated but never went through with it. I discarded him for that. He only tried to hoover me after his wife passed away and when I declined, he moved on to another. That didn't work either.
I've been dating a lot since my separation from my ex....she's seen me with a handful of women and even followed me and a date to the grocery store and cornered us ...saying "you know we're still married."...🤷
When I finally get my divorce, I'm going no contact. Then only if it's about the kids, he can use one of these parenting apps. Won't even have my phone number. He'll be blocked on everything else.
Literally sent your vids to the ex after she admitted she was a narc & manipulative (was hoping for change, I was delusional🙄) & she said “I can’t follow the way he talks” Guess who else she said that about? Me! 😂👏 Why? Cuz we are calling her out & spitting truth & they HATE that! What an idiot. Waiting for my 90days to hit. It gets easier EVERY day. Ty ty Lee!! ❤
I broke no contact several times God knows it won't happen again. Blocked her numbers and she texted with a new number, I blocked it immediately. Unfortunately, her cousin is my neighbor and that's the only way she can sees and that's why I broke no contact. I'm standing my ground now because she don't exist to me anymore. Ignoring her physical always drove her crazy and imma start doing that again.
I think mine is being triggered because he has no access to me, he does not know anything what's happening in my life. He does think though, that I have hooked up with people and have fun with another man. When I'm actually alone af 😂 and grateful, wanting to stay this way for a loooong time. He needed to find a reason of me breaking up, rather than himself.
5 years later...still hoovering.. Completely lost his 💩 when I moved on. Kept tabs on me through my innocent 6 yr old daughter and then 1 day burst into my house and threatened me! I have moved on, been with a great man for the past 4 yrs and this foo still texts me, like I would really leave my man, to go back to hell with him and keep on digging😅😅😅 NEVERRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!! He really thinks I belong to him. SICK!!💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾🙏🏾💪🏾🙏🏾💪🏾
I told her I wanted her to be happy because I broke up with her and she was cheating on me with multiple people so what does that mean for me when she sees me on a date?
They see us as property. My nex always would say once we got married (2.5 months after getting together) I’ve got papers on you B$&@$ I always thought it was just him joking, but I realized real quick he was For Real!
Record, ask police for advice and notify them - it is always good precautin to get restraining order in future. You can talk with layer... make that official. Listen to H.G.Tudor
Im so confused because this ex of mine has multiple personalities besides being a narcissist.he has border line personality disorder, major depression, bipolar and a drug addict. What the heck could you believe about this one. He was always blaming me , never wanted yo hear when he did wrong. He slept with crackheads yet it was me. I was tried of the arguing it wasnt healthy for my disabled son. I sometimes feel bad for him because none of his family wants him around , now i see. His abuse and trauma from childhood is still with him at 50. He was horrible.
The narc who i have one young child with has apparently moved and im unbothered and wish them well ,but im unsure if she is real he has tried to get my attention by friends posing as there partners .Now a baby is on the way. My question why are they so consumed and concerned for me to know about it all. I chose to be on my own so confusing these characters are nuts. Does it ever get better
You’re right Lee. It never happened but I can imagine. I could be walking down the street with a neighbor. Just walking to the store. And bump into him. Ohhh so this the MF u been cheating on me with. Then a whole altercation starts. And it won’t stop bcuz nowwwww he’s right. And Nuttin ever was the case. Smh
Had a couple of narristic boyfriends....then meet a guy been married 28 years to and been with 31 years....just happier.... Never want them.....love my life.... And have more money....married a guy that suppprted me fully😊
My player told me to find another man and I told him, he is not in the position to tell me what to do. And I am not a whore, jumping from man to man. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
My ex narcissist said I want you to be happy,he says he never left me and then says I will never find no one better than him and I don’t want or need to hear from him I’m moving on and healing and loving my self and my peace
Lmao. I don't want him back. If I was happy with someone else and I left a good relationship for a devil, then I wasn't happy in the first place. The old/new supply can keep him. I've never walked away from someone so me walking away was for a reason. Bye bye!
Just started watching your channel ❤ but my opinion an ex not only a narcissist knowing what that definition is that's not rarely because a narcissist is someone who can bring you right back
Nope ..he has said he just wants me to be happy, and he has said that all of our marriage. 36 yrs. Since Ive left, hes told me that more than once. Gimme a break...🙄
oh, p.s. MILK IT, MR. LEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! about your course, congrats, and, again, MILK!!!! IT!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!! i am NOT mad at you!!!!!!! i ain't!!!!!!!! lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Like number 262, this Happened to me.
That's move on and get your life back they will suck you dry of happiness get a job and move on
Done it Lee. Thank you
I just want my peace. I have been hurt too many years by my narcissistic boyfriend to where I don’t want him and I don’t want anyone else. I’m getting too old anyway. Just leave me alone, and trust me I will be okay and happy!
That’s exactly how I feel, I don’t want anyone else, maybe in the next lifetime…..I’m never ever gonna trust anyone ever again, it’s like I woke up from the matrix
HUMPH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you could hear how loudly i said HUMPH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!reading your comment which i 1000% FEEL!!!!!!!!! IF YOU ONLY KNEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i told dude I KNOW HOW TO BE ALONE. I WAS NOT LONELY WHEN I MET YOU. I WILL NOT BE LONELY AFTER YOU!!!!!!!
CLAIM YOUR PEACE!!!! IT'S YOURS!!!! TAKE IT, EMBRACE IT TIGHT!!!!!! AND SAFEGUARD IT for the rest of your years!!!!!! no repeating history!!!! allowing fools and nuts to disturb it!!!!!
now, send me a mental dap!!!! lol!!!!!!!!!!!!! (that's my first time using that: "a mental dap") hahahaaaaaaaaaaa ...
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@ItsSoarTime
Mental dap sent!!…. I know that’s right!!…I will be just fine. I’m not about to keep dealing with this toxicity. Leaving me alone means I have no time for you and more time for spiritual growth in the Lord, and more time with friends and family and do what I want and need to do, when I want and need to do it!!!!… I’m tired of being disrespected, lied to, manipulated, and dealing with the high grandiosity thinking. I’m better off by myself!!!…..Sayonara Satan!!!!!…
@@treshasstarr1513
I know what you mean!!…. I will never be able to trust so there is no point in dating again or getting into another relationship because I refuse to date another narcissist, anyone with ADHD, a sociopath, psychopath, schizophrenic, or bipolar person… keep all that away from me.!!!
I pray for your healing, and not for you to miss something good because this demon left a bad taste in your mouth. Don't let him win.
“They will take you to the darkest depths of hell and tell you to keep digging”😂😂😂 thanks, I needed that!😆
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I Love that Lee keeps it real. Divorcing after 35 years of marriage.
This💛
My ex moved on. Moved his new gf in. Gave her my car. Found out I was dating someone almost a year later and she called me to warn me he was driving down to my house to beat him up. He rang every apt until he could get in then banged on my door screaming util he left. This was my FIRST narcissistic relationship and it just went down hill from there. Now that I’ve healed my inner child, my new husband is incredible. Take your power back! Take your life back!
Wow! 😢 To God be the glory! Was the police called? What happened as a consequence?
@@AmbiLane998 nothing. Previous to this, He trashed my house once, tired to unalive himself, destroyed my stuff and had to be put in the mental hospital. I moved while he was admitted. I called the cops as it was happening and they wouldn’t call me back for a restraining order. The legal system isn’t there for many people.
@@awakeningyourspirit Wow. So sorry to hear that. Thank God you're on the otherside of this.
@@AmbiLane998 healing from my narcissistic parents was the best thing I’ve ever done. This cycle repeated for years, until now. Thank you !
Omfg
The irony of a narcissist they would cheat on you and also want a hold of there previous partners and new partner(s) and yet wouldn't want you to be happy . Yet they mistreat you until you leave. 🤦🏻♀️
Stupid, right?!
Never, ever, take them back!
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I'm not even moving on with somebody else. I'm just leaving my current city to pursue better opportunities for myself, and already my narcissistic ex is flipping her lid.
She moved halfway across the country to move in with this guy she left me for, but now that she's found out that I am leaving the town we both used to live in... She has really stepped up her stalking game and she is asking mutual friends what they know about my plans. She specifically wants to know when I'm moving and where I am moving to.
I'm pretty sure it's because she knows she's going to end her current relationship and wants to try and Hoover, So she wants to make sure I'm going to be in town when she does it.
So it's not even about another person, she doesn't want me moving someplace where she won't have access to me and I will be free to start over and have a chance at happiness.
Lee You make me laugh
humph!!!! THANKS FOR THE HEADS UP BECAUSE i'm on my way out of...ASSachusetts!!!!! THAT was planned BEFORE we met. told him. he doesn't believe it. knows he's been asking at least one person in the building if i'm still here. lives in the same building. .... telling you as i'm TELLING MYSELF: GO ON WITH DOING YOU!!!! BIGGER AND BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!! SOAR BABY!!!! SOAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HIGH ABOVE THAT NONSENSE!!!!!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Runnnnnn! Move in silence. If possible, don't tell anybody!!!! Because if she finds you, she will destroy your life in ways you didn't think possible. Im a woman, and very pro women's right, but I'm also aware of how women have a unique way of making your life hell and society won't believe you as a man. She could accuse you of abuse, SA, anything really, and your reputation and life would be in ruins and nobody would believe you. Document any interactions she tries to have with you and Runnnnnnnnnnnnn! All the best of luck!!!!
Exactly
Yep, 3 strikes, Im out. I got me back and thats the only relationship I need
Same here 🎉
Everytime I get my life together she finds a way to come along and ruin it. Not this time 🎉🎉
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They can have supplies but God forbid you try to move on with someone else. They want you to tend to them while they get supply on the side. It's abuse and they're not worth the misery.
Left his rebound supply saying he couldn’t get it up w her anymore and has been watching videos of me to get off. Then he asked for me to come back so he could give it all to me (marriage and kids) I said boy bye… you had 6 yrs to do all that and now I got a man who participates in a loving and honest relationship. No thanks. Now go live with yourself 👋🏼
Happened to me... I tried to go out to eat with someone, he wasn't clayme or nothing but stuck on me daily..BBQs.. funerals, family parties. But kept telling people I was only a friend. So I decided to go out with someone to eat and he saw us...( I wasn't hiding) and he went crazy... Came in the restaurant and told all my medical business to the restaurant during my medical leave and everything... The guy I was with said, "I thought u don't like her like that", and he responded and said "so", but she said she loves me😂 .. he admitted and still got kicked out the restaurant trying to gain his so called control. By the way, your amazing for helping .
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Awwwwww man that's just sad
Lol. I divorced him probly bout 13 years ago...and hes still my nieghbor. Nope. Hes never been happy for me for anything...except for when I get my taxes. He knows he dont get his fix from me anymore, but he still tries our grown kids. Shame on him and his guilt trips. 62 year old child.
unh!!!! "62-year old CHILD!!!" UNH!!!!!!!
Mine is 69, I'm 5yrs younger You would think that at that age the games would have been over, but that's before I knew what he was, he called me one night and insinuated that it sounded like I was out, so I immediately so I played a long told him that I was at dinner with a friend, he accused my friend of being a man, so I immediately thought this is my chance to get out of this miserable situation, yeah he took me to this seafood restaurant when I wouldn't tell him the name of the restaurant, he Hung up on me, so I blocked him, and then he turned around and blocked me, I didn't give a darn, I'm just 27 days out, I don't think he's going to try and come back, after 7yrs keep stepping, That's exactly what I'm doing, feeling better every day, thanks Lee I wished I had known about Norsisist years ago, I would not have stayed with my kids dad for as long as I did, hince this is not my first rodeo with a narcissist, but thank God it will be the last, because of people like you I'm truly thankful 🙏❤
Right before I knew he was going to discard me I beat him to the Punch, made him think that I was out to dinner with a man, and he lost it, hung up on me, I seize the opportunity to block him, Best feeling I had with him in along time, after 7yrs I'm free,
Mine betrayed me. I pretended I still wanted to be with him, just so I could end it😂😂😂 he never saw it coming
Good for you guys 😅
If they see you with someone else or hear about it and they ignore you, they are still loosing their minds.
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Mine went insane
Asked who I thought I was tried to ruin what I have and posted on Facebook about how cruel I was lmao
damn. smh. sorry. pitiful. still smh!!!!!
Me: "it's easy for me to find a man, I found you, didn't I?"
Him: " Not a good man."
Me: "You, Sir, are NOT a good man"
Literally! Like he said “You never find the one” and I’m like “Well at least I know you’re not”
@@greybun5273 😅 they are so delusional as if they're the best thing since sliced bread.
😂😂😂 mine swears he's different. Oh you're different alright, being that you're worse cuz you wear a twisted mask😂
I see his answer as a freudian slip.
"Not a good man" was him unknowingly admitting he wasnt a good man.
@@CrankyBarista oh wow! I never thought about it like that. He was basically telling on himself. Wow. Thanks for shining a light on that!
NOT WORRIED IN THE LEAST BIT BECAUSE I TOLD DUDE DAY 1 THAT I AM VERY VINDICTIVE. no, not proud about that. but THAT is a fact. WE ARE ALL FLAWED. i don't bother folk, i won't stand to be bothered! it's that simple. and that's why i walked away after 2 weeks. I DON'T DO DRAMA!!!!!!!! SO, FOR HIS SAKE I HOPE WE NEVER CROSS PATHS AGAIN, just in case HE LOSES HIS MIND and causes me to lose mine!
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 right on!
they say they want you happy but when you meet someone and you truly are happy… watch out. stalking following you moved 30 miles away… and he found me. drove by my house videoing in someone’s car not his… crazy crazy
Restraining order through court immediately
We were together 12 years, I'm 2.5 years free, and about a yr into a healthy relationship. He hates it so much. He replaced me quick everytime, and had a girl. It's still a problem.
I appreciate your honesty and insight on narcissistic personality disorder. You have been a real blessing and eye opener for many people like me. Thank you.💕
You’re welcome
um-huh, him and his boy at Raw Motivations ...
That's how Diddy acted with Kim Porter when she moved on to someone after he got with J. Lo
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Thank You for educating me on how to play the game. It helped me get out safely
go 'head Ms. Holmes!!!!!! LIVE IN PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND SAFETY!!!!!!!!!!
HOW did you get out safely? I desperately need help getting out. 😢 He is like a “squatter” in our home. Completely ignores me or RAGES, then abuse. EVERY attempt to get out he interferes and ruins for me but screams at me to “LEAVE!” Regularly or threatens not to pay our mortgage. I’m like, WTF?! Great! Don’t pay it. Let the home go in to foreclosure please. Whatever! Then screams at me to “Get a job!” Dude, let me. Stop hacking into my accounts and doing crazy shit so I can pay the mortgage myself and leave. It’s so crazy!
I was the breadwinner for 5.5 years and he had the best life and more money than he’s ever seen. He spent all of my money then was the CAUSE of me not working now.
His mask didn’t drop until 9 months ago but when it did- HOLY hell! It has been an absolute Nightmare. Like dateline TV sh&t. W.T.H.?
You are very funny and entertaining and it really helps take in content that can otherwise be very painful for narc survivors. Thank you
Yes , Lee ! My ex covert-narc husband told me he was happy for me and my boyfriend, but I got scared when he said that and I paid attention to my moves . I know what he is capable of !
Thank you 🙏 again , Lee ! ❤
Bless you , you got this 🙏❤️🥳!
It’s like they have a radar that goes off when you’re happy 😂
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Thank you for the vid my guy
You’re welcome
Haha...nope my ex specifically told me 'I don't wish you well and don't want you to be happy'. So classy. :)
I changed my phone number the last time my ex-husband hoovered me from a different phone number. I hope he doesn’t hear about me moving on. I know he wouldn’t be happy. I want nothing to do with him. I made my mind up 2 years ago when I separated from him.
hhmmm, "different phone number." i swear I'M FEELING dude tried to do that to me recently. but i NEVER answer my phone ... changing the number soon when i relocate anyway. take care Ms. Beard!!!
@@ItsSoarTime yes it is possible! Sometimes you can block them and they’ll try to get around it. It can be scary. That’s good that you’re changing your number soon. Stay strong and take care!
1 of the Best EFFN videos yet! Twisted Humor had me rolling😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Found my husband out recently n came across you and been listening since. $h!t is sooo on point it's ridiculous! Every video has been a "Dammmmnn̈n!!!" Moment fa me and has helped TREMENDOUSLY!! ❤❤❤Thank you so much and I appreciate 5he raw a$$ humor. 😂Gotta hear that coz those sugar coated truths don't hit tha same!!
#FACTSFACTSFACTS 💯 💯
#Therapeutic
Love it!!
Thanks Lee I'm gettin there kinda slow, but gettin there all the same ... 😊
Lee, I believe my family of origin is also narcissistic and never wanted anything good for me. They love to see me all by myself. At 53 yrs, I am figuring out on my own what a healthy relationship looks like. I am going to do my part to figure out healthy relationship look like for the sake of teaching my children. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
It was bad I was consistently calling the police last year and the year before that my license plate was getting stolen every other week... He will be sitting at my window walking around my crib knocking on each window to keep me up terrorizing whoever was in here including my son it was just horrible... I have never encountered such a thing or seen it on a movie u wouldn't believe the shiiiii I went through
😢 omg smh how's things going now? Hopefully u have a restraining order against him by now
This is my biggest fear. I especially worry about it now that my wife is pregnant
I'm glad I found this channel. Atlanta GA over here.
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Thank you 🙏🏾 i don’t want him back ✌️😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯
WHEN YOU GHOST THEY ASS LIKE FAST FAST...GAHAHAHAHAHAH AND WHAT NOT, I LOVE IT!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Omg this is so true! everything you are saying! they hate seeing you moved on and happy. My ex hoovers each and every time he thinks I'm dating again. The new one is the same way. THe ex used to ghost me but the new one is the annoying type that never ghosts and you pray he does. He nags tf out of me and it's annoying!!!!! he can't do anything for himself. i beg him to call other women he just loves to torture me and have me there with him.
They dont f care. They hate themselves. Everything is a joke game to them, including life itself. My ex has personality disorder. She hates herself and plays the victim. She is toxic. I dont want to say i regret knowing her but it is what is. Lesson learned.
Facts 🎉
U so funny Lee! Thanks! .., I love hearing your info! I been through it have the t shirt but it’s nice to listen
You are entertaining! Seriously crack me up. Your input helps me stay out of hopium though, which is crucial. Thank you!
I met a super attentively communicative man at church - he gleefully said he has full custody of his daughter & his ex is homeless living under an overpass. What I really heard was- girl, I'm vicious. I will ruin anyone & I mean, Anyone by spreading lies so No One will trust you & No one will help you.
Can you please tell me why he comes back around when he BLAMED ME for everything..? Told me I ruined everything.. but why? Why would he continue to reach out, show up and text, message and call and say nonsense like, “I hope I get to see you soon” if I was such a horrible person. Please explain to me why?
It’s so exhausting
He hates you but needs you to self regulate his emotions. He needs you for projection and distortion of his behavior. He is mentally unstable. It's best and safer to cut all communication with him, change your number or he won't stop harassing you.
Thank you sooo much for your insight, your perspective has really helped me in my transition out of a narcissistic non-sexual situationship.
Mine vanished, never heard from her again 🤷🏿♂️
I WISH.
7:12 this is *exactly* what I needed to hear. Thank youuuuuuu
My first husband ( big narcissist ) after 25 years of divorce is still whining about how he’s supposedly so happy for me etc…and how he wishes we could have stayed married. So damn discretion his wife 😡😡
Nightmare lol that part was funny AF.
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You saved my life! Thank you! ❤
Glad it helped!
My 68 year old Ex was dating a 24 year old sugarbaby for over 5 years. I'm 7 years younger than he and finally started dating a 58 year old man 3 years my junior 7 years after our divorce. He won't confront other men but he will attack women when their back is turned literally. He hit me upside the back of my head when I wasn't expecting it causeing a stroke and an inoperable blood clot in my brain.
Look internally YEAH !
It's crazy because I experienced 18 months and the experience was worse than every bad relationship combined times infinity. I'm so annoyed with myself for not catching on sooner. I was so gullible it's embarrassing. I'm not a dumb person but I didn't trust my own feelings. I kept suppressing my own feelings for someone who wasn't even trying! He wasn't trying because he was doing everything he wanted everywhere. I'm so angry with myself. It's so painful and I won't admit it to them again because they enjoy my pain so much. Part of me hopes and prays they're tormented more than usual.
I left my ex, packed up everything got a uhaul and left while she was away havent heard from her at all. We had a dog business and some monies are supposed to be transfered to me but ntn has been said or done. Im trying to accept w.e comes my way. Let it Go. Even if you love them, miss them, want to be with them... Let. Them. Go.
Thanks Lee.
Yes I'm glad that it's not that I used to be with and I know him for well almost 55 years and you know what he discarded me to go back with his ex-girlfriend but lie I'm glad he did cuz I got a lot of blessings but I haven't heard from the start for be honest 8 months and I'm glad and I 🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you for this journey that I'm still on hearing you hearing your RUclips videos and I appreciate it Lee.🎉
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My soon to be ex husband went straight into another woman’s house from our matrimonial home. He seemed happy with his new supply. When he started seeing me with other men, a serious smear campaign and threatening any guy that he thought was interested in me 😂
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I've experienced that
Hey Lee,
I have a question for you. I have been NO Contact for 52 days now! What's my ex thinking ? He can't call, text, or hoover me! Has he realized it yet that I am not coming back?
Please answer my question! Thanks ❤
Lee....Lee...you are on point.
I got confused when I spoke to him on the phone and he was with his girlfriend and he was fine with me saying we're getting a divorce. When it came up again during his visit with the kids he said he'd disappear like he's said in the past.
Still file for the divorce. Let him explain to his girlfriend why he wants to disappear
Omg you are absolutely correct! Mine call me 3am and said’ he dream I messed around on him 😮
Very handsome shirt. Nice compliment. 🙂
Lee the lifesaver! Literally
He found out via friend I was seeing someone new, and I was sorting for him to finally collect his stuff, I said He should just be happy for us, man alive LOL, the b*stard, he spent 3 days trying to ask me who on Facebook, read some messages he's been sent from our friend, and was like "well he's no friend of mine" blah blah blah lol! I was like, that was almost fun because I said to my ex "I'm not telling you who I'm seeing you deserve to know" he spent 3 days finding out even with new supply lol!
you get stalked. mine has been doing it for over a year
I started talking about my personal journey of narcissistic abuse online when an ex narc came in to view. Next thing I know they told people I was bashing them. Apparently I triggered them and I wasn't even mentioning them or how they treated me. This was my personal journey to also help other people I know. So clearly, I struck a nerve.
They also told me that they were happy that I moved on and got married. Clearly now I see they lied. I was told that I broke their heart for the last time. what??? They always ghosted when things were getting close ( he was married when we met and this was the reason for his behavior.). He showed me divorce papers before we dated but never went through with it. I discarded him for that. He only tried to hoover me after his wife passed away and when I declined, he moved on to another. That didn't work either.
I've been dating a lot since my separation from my ex....she's seen me with a handful of women and even followed me and a date to the grocery store and cornered us ...saying "you know we're still married."...🤷
When I finally get my divorce, I'm going no contact. Then only if it's about the kids, he can use one of these parenting apps. Won't even have my phone number. He'll be blocked on everything else.
Literally sent your vids to the ex after she admitted she was a narc & manipulative (was hoping for change, I was delusional🙄) & she said “I can’t follow the way he talks” Guess who else she said that about? Me! 😂👏 Why? Cuz we are calling her out & spitting truth & they HATE that! What an idiot. Waiting for my 90days to hit. It gets easier EVERY day. Ty ty Lee!! ❤
you’re welcome
I broke no contact several times
God knows it won't happen again. Blocked her numbers and she texted with a new number, I blocked it immediately. Unfortunately, her cousin is my neighbor and that's the only way she can sees and that's why I broke no contact. I'm standing my ground now because she don't exist to me anymore. Ignoring her physical always drove her crazy and imma start doing that again.
Hey Lee.. your a trip😅.
I know they dont like it at all.n just may make himself known ..
I think mine is being triggered because he has no access to me, he does not know anything what's happening in my life. He does think though, that I have hooked up with people and have fun with another man. When I'm actually alone af 😂 and grateful, wanting to stay this way for a loooong time. He needed to find a reason of me breaking up, rather than himself.
Idk why they like to have relationship with their neighbors, I can’t even imagine… I moved to another country to never see him again.
💯💣 excellent video!
My mom told my narc ex I moved on and she texted me at midnight talking about some stupid shit.
5 years later...still hoovering.. Completely lost his 💩 when I moved on. Kept tabs on me through my innocent 6 yr old daughter and then 1 day burst into my house and threatened me! I have moved on, been with a great man for the past 4 yrs and this foo still texts me, like I would really leave my man, to go back to hell with him and keep on digging😅😅😅 NEVERRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!! He really thinks I belong to him. SICK!!💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾🙏🏾💪🏾🙏🏾💪🏾
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I told her I wanted her to be happy because I broke up with her and she was cheating on me with multiple people so what does that mean for me when she sees me on a date?
means you win
Thank You So Fucking Much Lee For All You Do! One Love Namaste
you’re welcome 🙌🏾
They see us as property. My nex always would say once we got married (2.5 months after getting together) I’ve got papers on you B$&@$ I always thought it was just him joking, but I realized real quick he was For Real!
What is best action being followed ?
Record, ask police for advice and notify them - it is always good precautin to get restraining order in future.
You can talk with layer... make that official.
Listen to H.G.Tudor
Im so confused because this ex of mine has multiple personalities besides being a narcissist.he has border line personality disorder, major depression, bipolar and a drug addict. What the heck could you believe about this one.
He was always blaming me , never wanted yo hear when he did wrong. He slept with crackheads yet it was me. I was tried of the arguing it wasnt healthy for my disabled son.
I sometimes feel bad for him because none of his family wants him around , now i see.
His abuse and trauma from childhood is still with him at 50.
He was horrible.
My Ex told people he would make me pay him when he stole money from me behind my back.
The narc who i have one young child with has apparently moved and im unbothered and wish them well ,but im unsure if she is real he has tried to get my attention by friends posing as there partners .Now a baby is on the way.
My question why are they so consumed and concerned for me to know about it all.
I chose to be on my own so confusing these characters are nuts.
Does it ever get better
So when narcissism isn’t in a love relationship and in a family/friendship setting it’s shows up as an envious temper tantrum??
You’re right Lee. It never happened but I can imagine. I could be walking down the street with a neighbor. Just walking to the store. And bump into him. Ohhh so this the MF u been cheating on me with. Then a whole altercation starts. And it won’t stop bcuz nowwwww he’s right. And Nuttin ever was the case. Smh
I haven’t moved on And he’s still acting as if I did. SMH.
Had a couple of narristic boyfriends....then meet a guy been married 28 years to and been with 31 years....just happier.... Never want them.....love my life.... And have more money....married a guy that suppprted me fully😊
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Narcissists have an unhealthy belief in their lufe of abundance, while falsely believing their partner has oneitis
My player told me to find another man and I told him, he is not in the position to tell me what to do. And I am not a whore, jumping from man to man. Thank you Lee 🙏☺
I was happy without him and can be happier without him. At least I'm safe from his violent, manipulative and deceiving nature.
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I've lost out on at least 5 relationships because I kept going back because they made me feel guilty
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My ex narcissist said I want you to be happy,he says he never left me and then says I will never find no one better than him and I don’t want or need to hear from him I’m moving on and healing and loving my self and my peace
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My ex--boss is so jealous of my super caring husband. He tried to mirrow me with his wife, I feel sorry for her!
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Lmao. I don't want him back. If I was happy with someone else and I left a good relationship for a devil, then I wasn't happy in the first place. The old/new supply can keep him. I've never walked away from someone so me walking away was for a reason. Bye bye!
Just started watching your channel ❤ but my opinion an ex not only a narcissist knowing what that definition is that's not rarely because a narcissist is someone who can bring you right back
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They'll try to hover me back in
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What happens if he gets the correct mediction and proper help
that takes time
Nope ..he has said he just wants me to be happy, and he has said that all of our marriage. 36 yrs. Since Ive left, hes told me that more than once. Gimme a break...🙄
oh, p.s.
MILK IT, MR. LEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! about your course, congrats, and, again, MILK!!!! IT!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!
i am NOT mad at you!!!!!!! i ain't!!!!!!!! lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mine is looking at jail time too