The fact that these kinds of things happen every day despite of the work field only reinforces for me the idea that adults on work are exactly like little children on school. We didn't change a bit. No maturity, no kindness
Show up maximize your time and go home Do not tell other co-workers secrets you overheard or your opinion of others DO NOT bad mouth others period Let friendships be something occurs overtime on its own
PREACH 🙌🙌. We all honestly have to recognize when this is happening. We desperately need to check our own energy and intentions when speaking on and about others in the work space. That is the time when we need to self evaluate and self improve if or when we find ourselves doing these very same things that you've spoken of. Great comment 👏🏽
My Co-workers gossip so much about one another. They will smile in your face than 2 seconds later talk about you behind you back. I'm quiet and don't say much and just today I said right in front of my gossipy co-workers that I know I get talked about but guess what? I don't care what anyone thinks about me. 2 of them got quiet and started acting extra nice to me. It's laughable!!
They are pushing me out the door. Since I am quiet, they use this to the advantage to make up lies on me. The next thing I know I am being attacked by everyone based on something I did not even say.
"Sometimes we create this unspoken bond with people that only exists in our head." Oh yeah. Will remember this. Great talk, good ideas which I reckon will be workable. Thanks.
Please do not have a vent buddy at work. Don't scream and swear either at work. Work through the problem after you have cooled down afterwards at home. Try to put water on a work fire not gasoline. Lastly learn from your mistakes and play the game differently next time.
DON'T SHARE ANYTHING AT WORK UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES. YOU CANT TRUST A WORK VENT BUDDY. I TRIED THAT AND PAID FOR IT FOR YEARS AFTER ENDING THE FRIENDSHIP
@@komphatak3395 dealing with one currently. God, the amount of rudeness and childlike behaviour I cop from this individual had me go grey. I've already similar toxic coworker at previous job, though am dying to leave, with the pattern I had, next job another weirdo awaits me and am tired off it.
I enjoy talking about politics because people opinion about Trump or Biden don’t really bother me. 🤷♀️ I try and respect people though so I don’t even mention politics why cause drama for mentioning it? Best to not talk about it though I agree because even though one person may be able to talk about politics someone else may not be able to talk about it in a mature manner
I think if you're creating scenarios in your head of imaginary confrontations at work - you need to get a new job. That to me is a sign that you can no longer maintain the boundary between work & home/play/down time & that you're becoming jaded with your occupation. I'm currently job hunting for that reason.
Nah if ur creating scenarios and imaginary confrontations then that might mean u have an inferiority complex. Ur prob doing it in personal relationships too
That’s been about 99.9 percent of most of my jobs haha. I do sit and wonder what part I played in my jobs I’ve had in the past and am trying to change my behavior. What’s odd is that people here in Southern CA don’t know how to even have a personal conversation this is usually how the conversations goes, Me: hi where are you working… Future co worker: I’ll be working in this area… Questions people ask me = 0. And this is how everyone is in Southern CA. No one can communicate with anyone it’s sad. People are so predictable in CA everyone’s the same and it’s sad.
I really admired the message...and yes, the "high road" - I was thinking to myself that it does get easier and then you start to love it because of the stillness and peace that comes of it; and then she said that. I love it. I think this talk is sound.
Love the last step, #5. “We need to take a walk.” Release and protect your energy for yourself. 💖 This lady is so full of wisdom! Professionally walking down the high road is key with finding like-minded people. Workplace drama definitely feels like the worse thing going, but then we need to remember it is a blessing in disguise and that better opportunities are coming for us.
I don't quit the job... I quit the horrible people that "work" there. It should be illegal to start drama at work and these companies should find out who starts it and prosecute them accordingly.
I agree it should be illegal yet if you come to work drunk or high you get fired? Why is drama not dealt with the same way? I just heard today that a customer complained about gossip and miserable workers. So yes customers will not go back if they aren’t respected, also co workers will quit if they see cliques and drama and gossip. I just think if one wants to creat drama then it’s time to get fired. I’m 37 so I let go of that crap a long time ago.
You are truly amazing and gracious. Such a beautiful young woman with a beautiful mind and knowledgeable message. This message hit home for me as I've experienced this upset and work drama a time or two. I've instantaneously internalized all of your advice driven steps, and subconsciously I can recognize when I too have implemented some of these steps of without even knowing that's what I was doing. Thank you, thank you, and thank you. May God be with you and continue to bless you on your journey and bless your endeavors.
Also you can talk to others at work. I have been bullied when I keep my mouth shut. Sometimes peoples behavior needs to be talked about ! Listen to your NEW workers too since they’re not adapted to the culture they are the ones who can tell you where the problems lie since they see it from a fresh view ( not always but sometimes, also teach new workers how to address these situations because we are often brought into the drama !!! And if we don’t want to be we get turned on )
Get away is the easy way, not the simple way. If you’re in a situation where you really thinks you should share with the person you’re working with, despite if it is going to be hard for both, go for it. Not just walk away.
@@brdamaso, you're completely right and that is a more accurate summary of the talk, but pisoo is just making a reference to a popular vine. Here's a link: m.ruclips.net/video/fUDekRHZD3U/видео.html
While I am watching and listening to her,I'm like ,nodding, and saying aha,yeah...oh that's true and i smile..seems like she's talking to me..she's amazing speaker..
Removing yourself from drama at work is essential for maintaining professionalism and fostering a productive, harmonious environment. Workplace drama not only distracts from the core tasks at hand but also undermines team morale and collaboration. It often leads to unnecessary conflicts, reduces focus, and creates a toxic atmosphere that negatively impacts both personal well-being and organizational outcomes. Engaging in or fueling drama detracts from meaningful work and can erode trust among colleagues, making it difficult to build strong, effective teams. Choosing to stay above the fray and focus on your responsibilities and relationships in a professional manner sets a positive example for others. It helps you maintain your own peace of mind, reduce stress, and contribute more effectively to the goals of your team and organization. In turn, this approach encourages a healthier work culture, where people can engage in constructive dialogue and work together towards common objectives without the distractions of unnecessary conflicts.
Wonderful talk Anastasia. I believe one of the most powerful things one can do is regarding your point #2 - 'It needs to stop.' Stop creating stories (usually negative ones) in your head, believing them and then acting accordingly. This alone has thrown a wet blanket on many success stories from starting. Thanks. BTW - if I got 4 yellow starbursts back to back, I probably would not be happy either... :)
I so needed this. I shared so much of my personal life with people I created bonds with in my head who definitely did not hold my discretion. I became the topic of alot of conversations among those very same people. This video had helped me tremendously as I go through the painful realization that none of them are the Friends I told myself they were.
Thanks for posting this video! I attract so much workplace drama especially when i do thing the right way and all my older coworkers are doing things the "easy" way instead and they always make me look like i'm a bad person because i'm usually the youngest in the room! My usual solution is to go find work somewhere else! 😭
It took me so long to learn this. The most difficult part was not to fall back in my own petty behaviour. Now I really appreciate a good detached professional relationship
At my workplace, you might apply all these steps then your co-workers have one problem;being selfish /unhumaine!! Then I would apply the"walking away strategy" A very nice talk
What if it's a decent job with good benefits.. but yet nearly your whole shift of coworkers including the supervisors all seem to be directing toxicity only to you and you never done anything wrong and mostly keep to yourself in an attempt to not add fuel to the fire?
I’m currently dealing with that. If I’ve done something wrong, no one has ever pulled me aside and said anything. I’ve tried to talk to leadership about it, and I feel it was turned around me. I’m going to try really hard to apply the advice given in this Ted Talk and hopefully things will improve.
@@Nurse_Shelly44 I recently started experiencing it, and what helped me was keep being good and keeping light on the situations and set boundaries by not making yourself too available. Show yourself when it's advantageous to you, your reputation, and puts you on a positive light. And hopefully by then, management will find your cause noteworthy and puts you on a positive light and in turn will make people like you better. It's a lot like a dance, of being extremely low key and showing yourself just a little everytime it's advantages to you. Over time, those positive moments increments and becomes a big thumbs up to your reputation. But yeah, keep yourself out of it for the most part. I'd be interested how your situation is going now, whether you've done anything to remediate it or learned something moving forward?
@@spiritualwarrior3033 Hi! Since my last post, I did try to speak to leadership ship again with dates, and times of incidents, but didn't receive any response. That was 2 weeks ago now. I've accepted that no response is a response. So I've been keeping to myself, reinforcing my boundaries, and trying to engage as little as possible. I do know that workplace bullying/ toxic work culture leads to burnout for me. But I'm feeling better after work with removing myself from the negativity as much as I can. I know I'll have to move on soon, but until I can make that move, protecting my peace while updating my resume and cover letter has done wonders!!!
You know what ??? You’re the odd one out. You’re the only one NOT being rude and you’re the one who they don’t like because you actually don’t care to be immature/ petty !
I have had that happen and I believe that it's because a dysfunctional company often needs a scapegoat. Someone to take there frustrations on because the really problem lies within the structure and culture of the organization. I had to leave because once I realized that I knew nothing would change.
I started dating a colleague and a select few others decided they didn’t like this. For about 4 months all any of those people did was make drama about it and we’d hear about it from the rest who didn’t care. Some people are just bored 🤷♀️
Step 1: Avoid talking about personal things, avoid gossip and telling complaints with co-workers and focus on your job. Step 2: Don't treat co-workers like friends. They are not. Focus on your money. Step 3: Don't DATE at the workplace! REPEAT: DO NOT DATE!
@@iSharShar sometimes it works, sometimes it is not. So be dynamic about it, I think. Being friend if they are really good partners. But don't be so friendly, you will get drag into drama or gossip.
Step 1: promote class consciousness Step 2: organize with fellow coworkers Step 3: seize the means of production Step 4: reorganize the workplace Step 5: no owner class, no drama
This was great! Only part that I found mildly irritating was the characterization of the new generation of workers. It comes off as the overused stereotype that young people only exist online, and cannot function in a traditional setting, despite the fact that most have been in schools without extensive technological interference.
Mind your own business if someone’s rude call them out and then move on. Learn who you can and can’t talk to because people are in it for themselves most of the time at work. No loyalty
I believe this talk's title it wrong, it's more like "How to walk away instead of talking about and establishing healthy bounties and behaviors at work". How are your co-workers supposed to know you didn't like something if you just walk away instead of discuss what happened that you didn't like & how to do it differently next time?
Well I can say no job is perfect. But it is essential you get along with management and co workers. If you do not. Leave. Take it from me. It is not worth staying. Find a place where you can at least be cordial. If not you will be your worse self and you will bring it out in the others. Thank God I left. Everyday I am happy with my decision.
🤍🤍🤍 The m&m part and the part when she said "safe to assume they typed it with their middle fingers", had me laughing so hard 😊. Really wonderful workshop. Thank you so much!
I gothroufh this everyday! One co worker wants to gossip all day long a befriend everyone and get in their personal business and do NO WORK. But I just sit and do my job with a smile and stay out of the hen house. I hear then talking about me all the time like I'm not there. Then try to pry in my business and ask is something wrong. Im literally smiling and working!! God she is so toxic!!!
I don't know if it's just me or not, but all she seemed to share with us was common knowledge. The provided examples were minor uncomfortable interactions with co-workers. I was hoping this presentation would cover more severe situations & altercations. Such as, . Coworkers intentionally bullying others. Sabotaging coworkers to gain more praise and promotions. Lazy unqualified coworkers purposely making others look bad to make themselves look better. As well as other more severe situations that do unfortunately take place in the workplace. Unfortunately some people carry over High School Foolery into the workplace and you can end up destroying or hurting others and it's quite sad. Please excuse any errors in my grammar or punctuation oh, I was using talk to text and did not have time to edit this comment.
For real like i work in a thrift shop is stressful. Like sometimes my boss assumes im doing something wrong and im thinking this needs to stop and its stressful and my boss speaks Spanish so i do my best to ignore any negative drama. I shake my head and put my headphones in. But, really i have no idea what I'm doin sometimes and suffer with asthma and ADHD. I work hard to do what i can
The fact that these kinds of things happen every day despite of the work field only reinforces for me the idea that adults on work are exactly like little children on school. We didn't change a bit. No maturity, no kindness
Right. When i started working I expected everyone to be mature and professional. I stabbed myself with the back with that expectation.
@@zZastik Learned many painful lessons I will never forget.
My current work is high school 2.0. It being slightly better because we get paid lol
Reminds me of the saying "The more things change, the more they stay the same."
you're adult too right?
Show up maximize your time and go home
Do not tell other co-workers secrets you overheard or your opinion of others
DO NOT bad mouth others period
Let friendships be something occurs overtime on its own
Nicky I was literally trying not to gossip badly about my future costume I may have to wear at work. Lol! That was my negativity today lol
PREACH 🙌🙌. We all honestly have to recognize when this is happening. We desperately need to check our own energy and intentions when speaking on and about others in the work space. That is the time when we need to self evaluate and self improve if or when we find ourselves doing these very same things that you've spoken of. Great comment 👏🏽
My Co-workers gossip so much about one another. They will smile in your face than 2 seconds later talk about you behind you back. I'm quiet and don't say much and just today I said right in front of my gossipy co-workers that I know I get talked about but guess what? I don't care what anyone thinks about me. 2 of them got quiet and started acting extra nice to me. It's laughable!!
They are pushing me out the door. Since I am quiet, they use this to the advantage to make up lies on me. The next thing I know I am being attacked by everyone based on something I did not even say.
Same for me. Now I can work well and better than them.😅
One time I walked in on my co workers talking about me. I said I know I suck , and every thing got super awkward and quiet
"Sometimes we create this unspoken bond with people that only exists in our head." Oh yeah. Will remember this. Great talk, good ideas which I reckon will be workable. Thanks.
This is true ‼️
This was quite a nugget for me! I Will remember this!
Please do not have a vent buddy at work. Don't scream and swear either at work. Work through the problem after you have cooled down afterwards at home. Try to put water on a work fire not gasoline. Lastly learn from your mistakes and play the game differently next time.
I'm going to need you to explain this to me further like I'm currently working around how to survive the workplace
Well said.. no vent buddy .. work is private. What you say and do can be held against you…
I stopped listening at vent buddy..🙄🙄Having a “vent buddy” actually creates more drama. And is not taking “high road” either. Ugh..
My vent buddy is my dad 🤣 we live in different states lol
My vent buddy is my dad 🤣 we live in different states lol
This is so very true. Being away from a dramatic work place keeps all of us very efficient and effective. Thanks for the inspiration.
1. Work from home
2. Work from home
3. Work from home
4. Work from home
5. Work from home
Right on!!!
this!!!
Not always the case
Not always the case
Not always the case
Not always the case
Not always the case
@@kennywise237 🤣
Or alone ❤️
When she said "It is safe to assume they typed it with their middle fingers," I started laughing and haven't stopped yet. I needed this talk.
Am I the only one who really admired her voice?
She’s got a beautiful voice of a parent. You can tell children love her
NO, YOU ARE NOT. I LOVE HER VOICE.
I was too busy digging her golden eyeshadow
DON'T SHARE ANYTHING AT WORK UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES. YOU CANT TRUST A WORK VENT BUDDY. I TRIED THAT AND PAID FOR IT FOR YEARS AFTER ENDING THE FRIENDSHIP
Workplace drama can be exhausting. One of the many reasons why I don't get into politics and/ gossips 🤷♀️
Some people will drag you in the drama, they are the office devils/stirrers, every work place has toxic people like that
@@komphatak3395 dealing with one currently. God, the amount of rudeness and childlike behaviour I cop from this individual had me go grey. I've already similar toxic coworker at previous job, though am dying to leave, with the pattern I had, next job another weirdo awaits me and am tired off it.
@@komphatak3395 this is so true, some will want to drag you to thier mess...
I enjoy talking about politics because people opinion about Trump or Biden don’t really bother me. 🤷♀️ I try and respect people though so I don’t even mention politics why cause drama for mentioning it? Best to not talk about it though I agree because even though one person may be able to talk about politics someone else may not be able to talk about it in a mature manner
@@kichwthey are everywhere, cannot get avoid them, unfortunately.
I just keep my mouth shut, work and go home! I only speak when spoken to, simple.
@elizabeetle13 Exactly. That’s there problem, not mine. As long as your kind to people who gives a rats!
And even then mf still mess with me
I tried that but then I was talked about as being rude and unsociable
I think if you're creating scenarios in your head of imaginary confrontations at work - you need to get a new job. That to me is a sign that you can no longer maintain the boundary between work & home/play/down time & that you're becoming jaded with your occupation. I'm currently job hunting for that reason.
Nah if ur creating scenarios and imaginary confrontations then that might mean u have an inferiority complex. Ur prob doing it in personal relationships too
Omg guys so at this point I think I’m crazy lol
That’s been about 99.9 percent of most of my jobs haha. I do sit and wonder what part I played in my jobs I’ve had in the past and am trying to change my behavior. What’s odd is that people here in Southern CA don’t know how to even have a personal conversation this is usually how the conversations goes,
Me: hi where are you working…
Future co worker: I’ll be working in this area…
Questions people ask me = 0.
And this is how everyone is in Southern CA. No one can communicate with anyone it’s sad. People are so predictable in CA everyone’s the same and it’s sad.
Might be the most beautiful smile to ever grace a TED stage. #Gorgeous
I have found being up front, assertive, but professional is the best policy when dealing with work place drama.
@jessicaras4540 literally what does that have to do with this??
Any phrases to being upfront clear but also respectful?
I really admired the message...and yes, the "high road" - I was thinking to myself that it does get easier and then you start to love it because of the stillness and peace that comes of it; and then she said that. I love it. I think this talk is sound.
Really good talk about an important topic. She has great charisma and perfect voice, got my full attention the whole time ☺
Having a great revelation that the root of my workplace stress is me. How freeing!!
She’s an incredible speaker, so engaging.
it's hard because when i don't talk people assume i'm always angry about something
I can relate
@lydiaholland5752, I experience the same where I'm working.
Love the last step, #5. “We need to take a walk.” Release and protect your energy for yourself. 💖 This lady is so full of wisdom! Professionally walking down the high road is key with finding like-minded people. Workplace drama definitely feels like the worse thing going, but then we need to remember it is a blessing in disguise and that better opportunities are coming for us.
I don't quit the job... I quit the horrible people that "work" there. It should be illegal to start drama at work and these companies should find out who starts it and prosecute them accordingly.
I agree it should be illegal yet if you come to work drunk or high you get fired? Why is drama not dealt with the same way? I just heard today that a customer complained about gossip and miserable workers. So yes customers will not go back if they aren’t respected, also co workers will quit if they see cliques and drama and gossip. I just think if one wants to creat drama then it’s time to get fired. I’m 37 so I let go of that crap a long time ago.
Need to remove the leech at the first instance
They promote it, plus every place has its own snitches.
You are truly amazing and gracious. Such a beautiful young woman with a beautiful mind and knowledgeable message. This message hit home for me as I've experienced this upset and work drama a time or two. I've instantaneously internalized all of your advice driven steps, and subconsciously I can recognize when I too have implemented some of these steps of without even knowing that's what I was doing. Thank you, thank you, and thank you. May God be with you and continue to bless you on your journey and bless your endeavors.
I removed my self from the drama at work. I quit.
I retired early
ditto
Same here 😀
That's step 6: When it's chronnically toxic, get the f*** out of there!
Also you can talk to others at work. I have been bullied when I keep my mouth shut. Sometimes peoples behavior needs to be talked about ! Listen to your NEW workers too since they’re not adapted to the culture they are the ones who can tell you where the problems lie since they see it from a fresh view ( not always but sometimes, also teach new workers how to address these situations because we are often brought into the drama !!! And if we don’t want to be we get turned on )
When there’s too much drama at work, all you gotta do is: walk aWaYayAy.
When pride seems to get, in our wayyyyyy
Slash their tires
Get away is the easy way, not the simple way. If you’re in a situation where you really thinks you should share with the person you’re working with, despite if it is going to be hard for both, go for it. Not just walk away.
@@brdamaso, you're completely right and that is a more accurate summary of the talk, but pisoo is just making a reference to a popular vine. Here's a link: m.ruclips.net/video/fUDekRHZD3U/видео.html
jisoo* oops got the name wrong
While I am watching and listening to her,I'm like ,nodding, and saying aha,yeah...oh that's true and i smile..seems like she's talking to me..she's amazing speaker..
Removing yourself from drama at work is essential for maintaining professionalism and fostering a productive, harmonious environment. Workplace drama not only distracts from the core tasks at hand but also undermines team morale and collaboration. It often leads to unnecessary conflicts, reduces focus, and creates a toxic atmosphere that negatively impacts both personal well-being and organizational outcomes. Engaging in or fueling drama detracts from meaningful work and can erode trust among colleagues, making it difficult to build strong, effective teams.
Choosing to stay above the fray and focus on your responsibilities and relationships in a professional manner sets a positive example for others. It helps you maintain your own peace of mind, reduce stress, and contribute more effectively to the goals of your team and organization. In turn, this approach encourages a healthier work culture, where people can engage in constructive dialogue and work together towards common objectives without the distractions of unnecessary conflicts.
Wonderful talk Anastasia. I believe one of the most powerful things one can do is regarding your point #2 - 'It needs to stop.' Stop creating stories (usually negative ones) in your head, believing them and then acting accordingly. This alone has thrown a wet blanket on many success stories from starting. Thanks. BTW - if I got 4 yellow starbursts back to back, I probably would not be happy either... :)
Her voice is so unique and special. Loved the content as well.
Step 1: Avoid getting involved with people in general.
That was easy.
So be antisocial?
I needed this solace right now. Thank you Stacy. I’m only 1/4 of the way through and the amount it’s resonating with me right now.
I so needed this. I shared so much of my personal life with people I created bonds with in my head who definitely did not hold my discretion. I became the topic of alot of conversations among those very same people. This video had helped me tremendously as I go through the painful realization that none of them are the Friends I told myself they were.
Thanks for posting this video! I attract so much workplace drama especially when i do thing the right way and all my older coworkers are doing things the "easy" way instead and they always make me look like i'm a bad person because i'm usually the youngest in the room! My usual solution is to go find work somewhere else! 😭
Don’t let them make you quit. Especially if you like what you do. I have to tell myself this often.
*The high road*
And as you're traveling down this amazing high road, you see billboards of things you shoulda said and things you shoulda did...💯
It took me so long to learn this. The most difficult part was not to fall back in my own petty behaviour. Now I really appreciate a good detached professional relationship
At my workplace, you might apply all these steps then your co-workers have one problem;being selfish /unhumaine!!
Then I would apply the"walking away strategy"
A very nice talk
So right, protecting your energy is really important 👌 💯
This talk was relatable as well as practically useful.
Thank you!
What if it's a decent job with good benefits.. but yet nearly your whole shift of coworkers including the supervisors all seem to be directing toxicity only to you and you never done anything wrong and mostly keep to yourself in an attempt to not add fuel to the fire?
I’m currently dealing with that. If I’ve done something wrong, no one has ever pulled me aside and said anything. I’ve tried to talk to leadership about it, and I feel it was turned around me. I’m going to try really hard to apply the advice given in this Ted Talk and hopefully things will improve.
@@Nurse_Shelly44 I recently started experiencing it, and what helped me was keep being good and keeping light on the situations and set boundaries by not making yourself too available. Show yourself when it's advantageous to you, your reputation, and puts you on a positive light. And hopefully by then, management will find your cause noteworthy and puts you on a positive light and in turn will make people like you better.
It's a lot like a dance, of being extremely low key and showing yourself just a little everytime it's advantages to you. Over time, those positive moments increments and becomes a big thumbs up to your reputation. But yeah, keep yourself out of it for the most part.
I'd be interested how your situation is going now, whether you've done anything to remediate it or learned something moving forward?
@@spiritualwarrior3033 Hi! Since my last post, I did try to speak to leadership ship again with dates, and times of incidents, but didn't receive any response. That was 2 weeks ago now. I've accepted that no response is a response. So I've been keeping to myself, reinforcing my boundaries, and trying to engage as little as possible. I do know that workplace bullying/ toxic work culture leads to burnout for me. But I'm feeling better after work with removing myself from the negativity as much as I can. I know I'll have to move on soon, but until I can make that move, protecting my peace while updating my resume and cover letter has done wonders!!!
You know what ??? You’re the odd one out. You’re the only one NOT being rude and you’re the one who they don’t like because you actually don’t care to be immature/ petty !
I have had that happen and I believe that it's because a dysfunctional company often needs a scapegoat. Someone to take there frustrations on because the really problem lies within the structure and culture of the organization. I had to leave because once I realized that I knew nothing would change.
Thank you for providing tips regarding co-existing with co-workers. We are able to live full out by creating a healthy work environment.
Coulda used this 7 years ago. Better late than never. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! 🍻❤😎
Thank you. This is a great listen, and you're a fabulous presenter. My work sent this out for all staff to learn from.
I started dating a colleague and a select few others decided they didn’t like this.
For about 4 months all any of those people did was make drama about it and we’d hear about it from the rest who didn’t care.
Some people are just bored 🤷♀️
you guys still dating?
Omg so it’s a global problem 🤦🏻♀️
Albino Rhino
Yep
Right? It’s like no one cares get a life. Lol!
@@TheLovelymix it is for them who will they talk about now? Lol!
Step 1: Avoid talking about personal things, avoid gossip and telling complaints with co-workers and focus on your job.
Step 2: Don't treat co-workers like friends. They are not. Focus on your money.
Step 3: Don't DATE at the workplace! REPEAT: DO NOT DATE!
Daniel Deautriell sounds like alienate yourself and every person at work...
@@iSharShar sometimes it works, sometimes it is not. So be dynamic about it, I think.
Being friend if they are really good partners.
But don't be so friendly, you will get drag into drama or gossip.
I have a co worker who breaks all these rules. And trains new coworkers to do the same by be friend them.
Step 1: promote class consciousness
Step 2: organize with fellow coworkers
Step 3: seize the means of production
Step 4: reorganize the workplace
Step 5: no owner class, no drama
Very nice and realistic presentation. No sugar coated typical hypothetical stories.
I struggle with negativity sometimes though lord knows I try to smile in this crazy world
I've been watching TED for years. I liked their videos. That is why I decided to create my own sci-fi/futurist Channel. 👍🙂
Drama is one thing, toxic and sexist environment is another matter.
Brilliant, smart, witty and charismatic. I am sharing this with all my groups. Great action items.
I so needed this video today, THANK YOU!
This was so good and much needed!
This was great! Only part that I found mildly irritating was the characterization of the new generation of workers. It comes off as the overused stereotype that young people only exist online, and cannot function in a traditional setting, despite the fact that most have been in schools without extensive technological interference.
Is it because of coming from such schools they are over indulged in online presence? A thought.
I just loved this video cause she is speaking nothing but pure facts!!!!
Thank you, this was supportive, and it resonated with my spirit. Being accountable for the putcome, its very empowering.
Every where you go, you will find toxic people, you just have to focus on your priorities - Gopal Das
Very helpful! Going to take this information with me. ❤
This was a really good one! Thank you
Also applies to most interpersonal relationships as well!
Story of my LIFE!
Mind your own business if someone’s rude call them out and then move on. Learn who you can and can’t talk to because people are in it for themselves most of the time at work. No loyalty
My second time watching this video and I love it.
something that continually fuels my social anxiety
Thank you Anastasia!
I believe this talk's title it wrong, it's more like "How to walk away instead of talking about and establishing healthy bounties and behaviors at work". How are your co-workers supposed to know you didn't like something if you just walk away instead of discuss what happened that you didn't like & how to do it differently next time?
I believe she established that with the teacher reference. She said, "No more coming to Jesus talks. It's time to walk away."
Great talk. I will use it right away.
I feel like, I've needed this video, my whole life.
So true. Let it out and change the situation!
Great advise and just what I needed to hear!
VERY GREAT AND BEAUTIFULLY EXPLAINED 👍
Yes that last bit haha! Thanks 🙏 letting it go!” 😊
Well I can say no job is perfect. But it is essential you get along with management and co workers. If you do not. Leave. Take it from me. It is not worth staying. Find a place where you can at least be cordial. If not you will be your worse self and you will bring it out in the others. Thank God I left. Everyday I am happy with my decision.
Another GREAT resource is a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook - a LOT of eye-popping, non-obvios stuff!
Thank you! This is good career guidance and a learning opportunity. So applicable to work/social life balance. 🤔❤🇺🇸
God this is so true. There were so many gossipers back at school and so many people who feed on drama
Very wise, I wish she was my co-worker
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The m&m part and the part when she said "safe to assume they typed it with their middle fingers", had me laughing so hard 😊.
Really wonderful workshop. Thank you so much!
Beautiful message, beautiful face, too!❤
This video really helped!
I gothroufh this everyday! One co worker wants to gossip all day long a befriend everyone and get in their personal business and do NO WORK. But I just sit and do my job with a smile and stay out of the hen house. I hear then talking about me all the time like I'm not there. Then try to pry in my business and ask is something wrong. Im literally smiling and working!! God she is so toxic!!!
wow same here!!! Did it ever get better?
Great job! It’s so hard not to have an attitude with them though. I admire you for this.
I don't know if it's just me or not, but all she seemed to share with us was common knowledge.
The provided examples were minor uncomfortable interactions with co-workers.
I was hoping this presentation would cover more severe situations & altercations. Such as, . Coworkers intentionally bullying others. Sabotaging coworkers to gain more praise and promotions.
Lazy unqualified coworkers purposely making others look bad to make themselves look better. As well as other more severe situations that do unfortunately take place in the workplace. Unfortunately some people carry over High School Foolery into the workplace and you can end up destroying or hurting others and it's quite sad.
Please excuse any errors in my grammar or punctuation oh, I was using talk to text and did not have time to edit this comment.
Thought it was just me. I still waiting on the tips promised!
Nothing ia going to change ever. The evil, the drama and all stresses of this life are here to stay. It may change when we die.
Thanks Anastasia for the positive energy. 👍🏾
4 yellow Starbursts back-to-back 😂
I’d probably be just as pensive if that happened to me.
I LOVE her!!!
For real like i work in a thrift shop is stressful. Like sometimes my boss assumes im doing something wrong and im thinking this needs to stop and its stressful and my boss speaks Spanish so i do my best to ignore any negative drama. I shake my head and put my headphones in. But, really i have no idea what I'm doin sometimes and suffer with asthma and ADHD. I work hard to do what i can
humorous and
truly insightful!
Such useful wisdom. Thank you!
Great talk Anastasia! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Really great speech. Well done
Interesting content. I'm gonna watch it over again.
This is very helpful, and does work.
People complain and I listen but do not get involved in the drama. I am sure they complain about me too so I don't judge people by what others say.
Here are my 5 steps
Drama -> Romance
Romance -> Action
Action -> Crime
Crime -> Thriller
Thriller -> Horror
Yes, four yellow Starburst back to back would have me with a confused look...lol
Thank you .
I think the best thing is not to be friends with anyone at work
Pray before you go to work.
Definitely helpful information thank you
This was totally cool and informative 🙂👍
This should prepare me for tomorrow’s shift 😂