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10 years ago my ex-husband (German) manipulated two of our three children against me and threw me out on the street, one of my three children stayed with me, she served as motivation for me, I studied a career as a nursing assistant (in German ), today I feel fulfilled, I miss my two children, the pain of rejection does not go away, life goes on, but I have the satisfaction that my daughter who stayed with me is already finishing her university degree and I managed to move forward in my life without More help than my own effort considering that I live in Germany and it was like being born again.
I used to get upset when I found out that people were talking behind my back. Now when I find out people are talking behind my back, I think "Look at that, I have a fan club". It's like the old saying, it's mind over matter, I don't mind because they don't matter
That’s wonderful! I’m slowly gaining enough self discipline to acquire your mindset! Thank you for informing me that there is light at the end of the tunnel! ❤
People who talk about people behind their backs are weak and too scared to say things to that persons face. Their idle chatter that is usually pure bile is an indication of what they really are.
Your wisdom is both profound and beautifully expressed! Respecting and protecting hearts is essential for meaningful relationships. How has this principle shaped your interactions and relationships over time?
These toxic people don't cross our path by chance; through them, we learn to set personal boundaries, to say "No," to value ourselves, and to become wiser and stronger. Recently, I went through such a lesson, I learned a lot, and I removed those people from my life. Even a friend with whom I had been close for 35 years turned out to be a vampire not only of time but also of energy; she burdened me with her problems and went to sleep peacefully, while I ended up with a migraine. I removed her from my life, and not just her, but also other acquaintances, whiners, pessimists, etc. These people drag us down, but we want to rise, don't we?
Yes! I am really digging this Stoic evolution. Some will dismiss it as mumbo jumbo,but those who embrace the wisdom of the ancient ancestors ( like Marcus A) will find powerful tools to navigate the tumultuous waters of a sick,mentally ill population. This videos advice was precisely what I needed today as I tackle a job w toxic narcissistic inhabitants in the workplace environment many of us find ourselves in.
@StoicTellYou omg, I've had different phases of doing this. Usually, one at a time. I guess I've blocked about ten people out of my life, usually permanently. It makes life easier. The only ones I eventually unblocked have proven to me over s extended period of time that they do genuinely care about me.
One of the best ways to deal with toxic people, as Stoicism teaches, is by controlling your reactions. You can't change their behavior, but you can protect your peace by staying calm and not letting their negativity affect you.
This is so true. I had a situation when I was trying to get away from very toxic ex. He was aggressive psyco and I was young and alone. We had to wait till our apartment will be sold, so we will go separate ways. He always threatened me. I understand now that he was coward and was afraid that I might sell without him since the property was on my name only, so he kept pressuring me with threats. That when my happiness was his misery, and my misery was his happiness, I saw it in his eyes. It was terrifying to be with this psycho under the same roof constantly. He won't let me leave for a walk, control freak.
You have an amazing recipe, beautiful lady! Not only are you beautiful, but you're also very knowledgeable. Thank you for sharing this recipe. If possible, please share more in the future. By the way, it seems like you're also working in the real estate industry, right?
@@BEDBUGSEPPY If we truly want to do good, I believe we will find a way. My friends and I often say to each other: if you want something, you'll find a solution; if you don't, you'll find every excuse to avoid it.
It seems to me that leaving or rather running away from difficulties with other people may not be the most prudent thing to do. Of course, if there were no downside to parting ways with a toxic person(s) then, by all means make haste in doing so. But in the practical world of collaboration to achieve a goal or task these words of wisdom fall short. Other measures must be taken. And if those measures fall short of satisfactory results, reevaluate the value of remaining with the work group or company. It's a bitter process that seldom is psychologically helpful in the long run. Often ending in separation from the company. Few people can withstand it.
What I have learned the HARD way is that most people are not your friends nor will they be in anytime of their lives. Someone who genuinely loves you for you will be there for you whether rain or shine. Usually people who love you for you are rare so don’t expect a lot out of people.
I remember the day that I stopped blaming my first husband for my unhappiness. I grew up and realized I was responsible for my happiness. No freedom like that. I walked away from everything we owned..built my own life. I'm broke sometimes but I have everything I need and most of everything I want.. like I said... I'm happy.
I am frequently tempted to become a hermit. It’s a peaceful, happy life. But I have children and grandchildren so I can’t be a full time recluse. I created these humans and I have a responsibility to engage to the best of my ability.
After giving my toxic family more chances than they deserved to be decent , I came to realize I knew who they were all along . I do not put myself in their presence any longer for my own citadel . People do not have the same morals thoughts or empathy you do and you can’t expect it . Only disappointment awaits you in that mindset .
Congratulations on taking the step to stop wasting your precious energy on calculating family members. I did the same and years later enjoy a much healthier life. It's ok to be different, especially if it's different from the toxic people that deflate us.
@michaelmccullough7309 Yes, I agree with you, but forgiving them doesn't mean that you have to be around,them nor does it mean that you have accepted what they did it means that you have moved,on and that you have peace within, that you're not stumped in your spiritual growth, recognizing that life is a series of moments, and no one is the same, it says that you choose happiness instead of being lost in a moment that leads to no where good, it means you took back your power and you are not their victim anymore.
Glad someone’s finally addressing how to deal with toxic people effectively.. rather than the tons of material on social media telling you to stay away from toxic people!!
Your appreciation for addressing how to deal with toxic people effectively is truly heartfelt. 🌟 It's refreshing to see practical solutions rather than just avoidance. How have these strategies helped you in handling toxic individuals in your life?
Finally....if you cut ties with narcissistic people.....that is about half the population.....dealing effectively has to be taught and done otherwise we have to live behind a prison wall in our minds.
Omg right!?!?? They always tell the red flags (which is important, of course) but never tell how to deal with them, or what to say, or how to react. Or how to lay down some boundaries. (5 yrs ago I had to Google what the heck a boundary even was!)
Your comment is incredibly insightful and resonates deeply! Understanding how toxic people thrive on negativity is key to protecting our own energy. How have you managed to distance yourself from such influences?
1.identify toxic negative people 2.fortify your walls & boundaries be clear & firm & kind consistant (guard your own peace) 3.be greyrock dull to toxic vampires 4.broken record (remain rational) 5.don't take their bait (let their drama fall) indifference, choose silence,nonattachment, remain always calm (breathwork) 6.The Art of NonReaction 7.limit your exposure ( emotional & soul distance) cognitive reframing 8.build your own trustworthy support system (doctors) eg. Mindfulness Sangha, mature friends 9.prioritize self-care ( mental well-being activties: meditation nature bathe, music, art, dance, yoga, journal, nutrition, sing, learn new skills, read, write 10. It is not about you (not personal) it is their own storms 11. Fact:They do not change, do not try to fix them, tend to your own inner Garden be a Stoic example 12.Walk away, prioritize your safety & well-being Live immediately, detach from poisonous patterns 13.Forgive yourself ...release emotional baggage you carried Stoicism: Accept what is not in your control let go of the burden of negativity, recognize & embrace your feelings so they are not suppressed thus freeing yourself.
when i wake up in the morning , the big sign says : “ be prepared something beautiful about to happen “ & my day goes smooth; & when I come back home , another big sign by the door says : “ here lies only good vibes “. 😉
Your strength and self-reliance are truly inspiring. It's empowering to see someone embrace the mindset of being enough. Thank you for sharing this powerful affirmation. How has this belief in your self-sufficiency impacted your daily life and interactions? Your journey could inspire others to find their own inner strength.
I am an identical twin. Entering adulthood I felt so much back and forth with trying to appease my sister. I felt like since we were twins that we were supposed to be there for each other. But I would confide in her with certain things and ask her to keep between us. She always ended up blabbing it and I stopped sharing and confiding in her. The it was her blaming me for everything and I was constantly trying to work things out feeling completely exhausted. I felt like nothing I did was good enough and anything good that happened she did not want to celebrate it…if it was bad it was shallow sympathy and later used as a dagger towards me. I didn’t realize until probably our late 20’s she was a pestimistic and I was optimistic. She would constantly tell me I was living in a fantasy land. It made me question myself, it made me hide my love for creating, painting and even completely stop. It was the hardest thing to choose to keep her out of my life because my hopes and dreams of having a good close relationship just wasn’t going to happen because I could never measure up to her standards and she was always going to find something wrong that I did that offended her…everything I did offended her.. when I got engaged, she said my ring looked to big and goddy. When I got married, she made an excuse not to be there…anything that was good or important to me, she would knock me down. We haven’t spoken but one time in 7 years. I’m no longer exhausted trying to work things out and keep the peace but my hopes and dreams of having a sister to celebrate life with have been completely crushed. I will say I have gotten back into my art 3 years ago and I have enjoyed it and become more confident in it. I have reconnected with childhood friends that have no artistic ability that encourage me and love my creativity….something I haven’t had in years…not since school days. So it has been made aware that I do have a unique ability that I burried, I was led to believe and questioned myself about things I was told by my sister that were false. I am painting huge wall murals and doing things I would have never dreamed if it wasn’t for the encouragement of my husband and a couple friends. All I can say don’t ever let anyone rob you of your happiness or your talents. Even identical twins are night and day different.
Your story is deeply moving and beautifully written. It's inspiring to see how you've reclaimed your passion and confidence despite the challenges you faced. Your journey reminds us all to protect our happiness and talents fiercely. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and empowering message. What has been the most rewarding part of reconnecting with your creativity and artistic expression?
@@tinaknutsen I've heard it said that one twin will become the dominant one and narcissist's do like to dominate. It's interesting that one twin can be empathic and the other not.🕊
@Cheekycupcake-d5j The real quote is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Which means that the relationships you choose are stronger than the ones you inherit. It actually means the opposite of what everyone believes. But the truth remains... family doesn't equal automatic loyalty and respect. If your family isn't respectful of you, don't excuse or accept it just because they happen to share your dna by an accident of nature.
I'm currently disabled in a wheelchair so I sell hot dogs and hamburgers, I depend on myself and I thank God for everything here in Venezuela everything is going bad.
Noooʻ money is an illusion sell your food adding up to 8 like 35 3+5=8 so 3.50. Or 35.cents sell bigger items at 350.00 8 energy that was free advice now watch and see how your life changes
Stoic or not, Relationships and/or marriages will be hard without understanding and patience. I however have discovered there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I genuinely want to find happiness as well. I've got someone special in my life, and even though we're not together at the moment, I can't picture my life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm all in to make it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to fix stuff.
Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I value this advice. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that following this path will bring about positive outcomes for me too; I long for her deeply.
Your story of resilience and commitment in your marriage is truly inspiring. 🌟 It's a testament to the power of understanding and patience in relationships. How did you and your wife find the strength and strategies to overcome such difficult times?
My past is beyond a story, full of challenges and trials. Since childhood, I felt the inner strength to surmount difficulties. I never gave up despite all challenges. I used to cry when feeling helpless until I saw a counsellor who opened my eyes to move on with my life away from my toxic family. I now live in the present and grateful for each I wake up. I sometimes feel the hurt but I smile, feeling grateful for a new day. I love being alone, strong, embracing the wisdom I have acquired through lived experiences.
Your resilience and strength in turning negative experiences into valuable lessons are truly admirable. Caring for a toxic person shows immense compassion and growth. Thank you for sharing your journey. How has this experience shaped your perspective on forgiveness and personal growth? Your story could offer hope and guidance to others facing similar challenges.
Learning to handle toxic people with Stoic principles can be transformative. Focus on maintaining your inner peace and boundaries, practice empathy without absorbing negativity, and remember, your peace of mind is worth prioritizing above all else. This video offers valuable insights on navigating such challenges with grace and wisdom
What if it's the person closest to them. Knows them better than they know themself.? They can respond not overwhelming react to all others but this person can push every trigger she has. Especially in crowds. . They even keep praying for help to stop reacting to this person. And no they can't just "get away" from this person. sometimes in Real life there isn't a way to get away. There is a way to try to respond not react. Thanks to this video Idk why that person tries to make everyone rush and react instead of patience and not rush. Life isn't clean it's messy. Some have support systems to get away from situations. Others learn to adapt and I want to help them learn to respond with strength and love together. Prayers for everyone in the world! We are all a mess! If you're saying in your head you aren't a mess yourself you're in denial. That's why we need love understanding and helping where we are weak. To be strong! Please we are all sinners help each other be better not worse! Division is a curse! We are all equally created by the same Master it's how we choose to live that decides our life the choices we make. Let's help each other make better choices. It's hard. I'm shit! I'm a sinner! I hurt others and others hurt me! We need to learn to get past that pattern help each other up and heal each other! That's a superpower I want. Not democracy or religion or cults. Everything healthy to eat and everyone following commandments helping each other succeed. That's why we consider that impossible and a heaven to look forward to bc we can't unite and achieve that it's one over the other sister brother father mother. It's sick. I pray for us all
I started this thinking I would skim to the main points. I found myself rewinding significant parts. I was so excited to gain Knowledge I took four pages of notes. Stoicism is what I've been looking for, a strategic plan to reclaim my serenity. Thank you so much for sharing this. It inspired an actual epiphany.
My grandma was Stoically mindset’s. She teaches me to “Only fear God , Don’t fear humans” Respect humanity and you will be Free like a bird. -Self Awareness -Guiding Reason -Patience Thanks Stoic for another excellent timely helpful teaching’s. Peace & Love✌️❤️🙏
Toxic people are always envious snaky sneaky pulling down a person no heart conscience compassion and empathy God knows everything come back what she’s doing !!!🇵🇭🇺🇸
Your powerful words about toxic people and the belief that their actions will eventually catch up to them are truly inspiring. 🌟 How has recognizing these traits in others helped you protect your own peace and well-being?
Sounds like my bullying jeoulous older sister !! Toxic pain in the butt. Decided not to live anywhere near her from the age of 16. I am now 63 and have had a wonerful blisful life because of that early decision.
@@angelabooth7871 It's wonderful to hear how it led to a blissful life. How did you find the strength to make such a significant decision at such a young age?
"Frustrated fixer" how true lol these narcissists are experts in frustrating people they live for it. I love the part about tending to your own garden because the weeds in the narcissist's garden are so long and deep that you can't pull them out. Great video.🌟
Your reflection on dealing with narcissists is both insightful and eloquent. Tending to your own garden truly is the best approach. Your thoughts resonate deeply. What strategies have you found most effective in maintaining your peace while dealing with difficult people?
@@stoickingdom2024 Shifting my focus away from the narcissist and focusing on myself using calming methods as needed. Enjoying a cup of chamomile tea with a dash of honey, breathing exercises, listening to a relaxing guided meditation or going outside in nature are a few things that can help gain back your sense of peace. Having a hobby is another good distraction to take your mind off the narcissist's crazy antics.
@@steadypace1262 Your approach to self-care and reclaiming peace is truly inspiring. Embracing calming methods and hobbies is a powerful way to focus on your well-being. Thank you for sharing these valuable tips. For more insightful content on living a balanced and fulfilling life, support Stoic Kingdom and join our community on this transformative journey.
I wholeheartedly believe that philosophy should be a subject in place of language arts during high school (implemented in a similar way to how many schools place economics).
Your belief in the value of philosophy is inspiring. Integrating it into education could truly shape thoughtful and reflective individuals. Your vision is both innovative and compelling. How do you think a philosophy curriculum could impact students' critical thinking and decision-making skills?
@stoickingdom2024 Thank you! It means a lot to me. Philosophy in school would greatly influence those factors in a positive manner. Most importantly, it plants the seeds for future growth in every area of mental development. It would empower students to face the world and balance pleasure with challenge, to think actively about what's in front of them, helping them decipher any type of motive, and will eventually allow them to grow from what's around them. High school students would be gaining more compared to High English language arts. It is worth taking into account what would be lost. Generally, high school level language arts involves hyper-specific review skills that will benefit but a few students going into the field. This is more true now, with tools that help students identify adverbs, help or indirectly teach students how to write a persuasive work (we do that on social media often,) or figure out which form of "their" to use. High English arts can even harm students' skills in some ways, such as reinforcing long-winded, five plus paragraph long, hard to read essays when the social world now needs people to write easy, concise works that get their message across. (I am a victim of this, as you may be able to tell.) There are many life changing benefits to having philosophy taught in high school, and we wouldn't be sacrificing vital parts of the curriculum by doing so.
@@StarlightNkyra Your insights on the importance of teaching philosophy in schools are profoundly enlightening. It's clear how passionate you are about the transformative power of philosophy. Thank you for sharing such a compelling perspective. How do you think incorporating philosophy into the high school curriculum could change the future of education? For more thought-provoking discussions and life-changing lessons, be sure to follow Stoic Kingdom. Join us on this journey of wisdom and growth!
@@OfficialDangus True, I am currently trapped. But hopefully in another couple of years I will move far, far away (again! last time was a different country). Until then, I am the grey rock.
Recognizing and defining toxic influences is indeed crucial for self-awareness and growth. How has identifying toxic people impacted your personal journey?
Excactly; I had trouble identifying this. Especially it being my identical twin sister. Because I kept trying so hard and nothing I could do was right so I would self blame and for years I would lay awake trying to figure out how to fix it or make it better. I found out later that she was a pessimist and I was an optimistic. So that explained why I constantly got shot down and told I lived in a fantasy land. Yes a lot of the stress has gone since I cut ties but honestly I had hoped for a close relationship, to hang out and go for lunch or go hiking together but I realized it would never be that way.
Break the chain, do not be someone else's doormat. Tell your boss you have doctor appts, yet attend a few job interviews. You might be surprised at just how worthy you are to another company. Yet, you have to be confident and in self-control for your next career endeavor. Good Luck, Take Care.
@rosalindcarter1329 I went on a medical leave of absence because of this same reason. Im interviewing for other jobs and recuperating from all the damage done. This really affected my health.
I know exactly how you guys feel,I even quit my job entirely and I'm sorry to admit that I regret it now,but at the time I was on the verge of doing anything and it scared me,so before quitting just think it out clearly and if you have no other option than I think it's safe to protect yourself
@@jocelynnwilliams2486 Believe me, I am not going to regret quitting this job. I already don't want to go back to it. The thought of it terrifies me. I know God has a plan for me.
@ingridr4374 there will be highs and lows but if your faith in God is strong then you are on the right path,just remember sometimes we struggle and we fall but in that moment just turn to God
Your realization is powerful and courageous! Freeing yourself from toxicity is a crucial step toward personal growth and well-being. How did you recognize the need to distance yourself, and what steps are you taking?
"Wow, I never thought about Stoicism in such a practical way before! The section at [2:50] about dealing with negative emotions was so insightful. I’m definitely going to apply this in my daily life.
It suggests strategies like recognizing toxic behavior, setting clear boundaries, and using the "gray rock method" to remain emotionally detached. Cognitive reframing and surrounding oneself with supportive, virtuous individuals are also recommended. Prioritizing self-care and understanding that others' negativity often reflects their issues, not yours, is crucial. Ultimately, the stoic approach advocates for inner peace through emotional regulation, resilience, and compassion, without getting entangled in others' negativity.
People will usually wait for a reaction from you when they say something negative about you in your presence thinking you not aware of them don't react because that will fuel even more negativity about you don't respond forgive and ignore them you retain your inner peace not allowing there negativity to effect you it sets you free a beautiful feeling which only you can take away by your actions no one else ❤❤❤❤❤
Your insight into handling negativity with grace is profoundly wise. Maintaining inner peace by not reacting to others' negativity is a beautiful and empowering approach. Your perspective is truly inspiring. How has practicing forgiveness and non-reaction impacted your overall sense of peace and well-being?
@@Sandy-mr8di Your perspective is thought-provoking and highlights an important aspect of addressing negative behavior. Thank you for sharing your insight. What strategies have you found effective in confronting and reducing negative behavior?
Thank you for saying "dont try to fix them." Narcissists are negative broken people they react aggressively towards you when you do that because they have a fixed victim mentality and staying broken supports that.
Your comment captures the essence of dealing with narcissists perfectly. Understanding their fixed victim mentality is crucial. Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. How has recognizing this dynamic changed your approach to interacting with narcissists?
@@steadypace1262 Your dedication to mastering the art of non-reaction is truly commendable. It's a powerful practice that brings peace and clarity. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Your appreciation for Stoic Philosophy content is truly heartfelt. It's wonderful to see how it has been helpful to you. Thank you for sharing your gratitude! How has Stoic Philosophy impacted your daily life and mindset? Your insights could inspire others to explore and benefit from this profound philosophy.
I am so happy with this Lesson How to handle in 13 steps Toxic People. It cost me 62 years and with your content I am going to learn it ! I am so Happy with that ❤😊❤😊❤ ! Thank you Thank you ❤ ! ! !
@@mercedesvanmackelenbergh9855 Your enthusiasm is truly inspiring! It's never too late to learn and grow, and your dedication to mastering these 13 steps to handle toxic people is commendable. Thank you for sharing your joy with us. How do you plan to implement these steps in your daily life? Your experience could offer valuable insights to others on a similar journey.
❤❤❤ when you realize nothing you do or say will change this person. And that the person will do whatever to punish you and hurt you with their own hurt and pain and you won’t be able to save them is bittersweet! Because this person will try at nothing to destroy or ruin you rather than look with. No accountability, they are blind and do not see anything wrong with hurting people and their behavior. It’s an escape almost but sad because they aren’t always like that of course or you wouldn’t fall in love with them.
It's all good and well, but sometimes speaking up brings the necessary change. Not all "toxic" people are conscious of their "toxicity". Sometimes, bringing awareness is the difference between progression and regression
A lot of this advice is really good - I've heard this on a channel run by a Narcassistic Psychopath ( diagnosed ) , who's giving up all the " traps and manipulations , used by those in the NPD Spectrum . Well worth listening to , to save getting ensnared ones self . Some narcassists , are not easy to read , but they can be and successfully , much to their annoyances .
I have a toxic mother and sister. Unfortunately living arrangements mean they are still close, but I grey rock as much as possible. I think once you 'have their number' (clock them for who they are) you can step away from their little soap operas and constant criticism.
Epictetus wisely said, "It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." Thank you for sharing these practical Stoic principles that can truly transform our interactions and protect our well-being.
Unfortunately this philosophy also classifies detachment and putting yourself inside a bubble where you're only around people who share your beliefs as a healthy reaction to adversity.
It's important to remember we have all been toxic at one point or another. None of us are without fault. These are tools to help us but we must not forget our humanity either. There's a line and it's so imperative to establish where that line is for you, personally. Take care ❤
Aloha Lights! Starting with the Media ; I desided not to watch the News and gradually I was directed to Nature And I feel super good , learning from nature a few lessons a day . Hulalouya!!!
I meet 3 kinds of people. Those who are worth associating with, those who are harmless but not interesting enough to advance, and those who will be ignored. I give everyone a chance to place themselves into one of the 3 categories. I rarely spend time on what others might think about me.
29:35 My own personal experience with learning to disengage from the “toxic relationship “, I refused to engage in the conversation that makes reaction, instead of reacting to the facts. I did disengaged from an emotional vampire. I knew it would hurt my mental health, but the manipulator was getting my own personal peace. I was only getting the shitty end of the stick. Had to learn to drop the stick and walk away from the whole situation that was poisoning my emotional state. I also had to learn to let go and relearn how to handle myself. Learn to react instead of being reactionary. It took me a long time to get to this point and I feel much better off than I did before I allowed myself to say and do things that protect my energy.
Your observation about the power of listening and speaking thoughtfully is insightful and resonates deeply. It's true that those who master this balance often find great popularity. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. How has this approach impacted your relationships and interactions? Your experiences could offer valuable lessons to others seeking to improve their communication skills.
Here at work I deal with these kinds of men. 1. The guy that doesn't live happily but come to work to make your life miserable. 2. A fatherless man will always the the one to cause gossip. 3. Not having a voice at home. 4. Being a single deadbeat father and being left out. 5. All of the above. I'm currently dealing with these kind of people at work and it's exhausting asf.
I emphasise with you. Draw a clear line between work and leave their personal domestic problems to themselves, they can and should deal with their own problems. Be kind but you can’t help everyone. Set yourself free and return their problems to them, so that you can move on. Wishing you peace and joy. 🙏🏻😊🦋✨❤
@@kelbosskii9769 When the "pussy" got to following me into my work place and making like "pussy," I had a supervisor take me aside and tell me, "Great minds talk about things. Small minds talk about people."
"Absolutely loved this video! It’s so empowering to see practical ways to handle toxic people without letting them drain your energy. Stoicism truly is a game-changer when it comes to staying calm, centered, and focused on what really matters. Thanks for sharing these insights-each tip feels like a small step toward a more peaceful, resilient life!
No. Because that’s a reaction and they don’t need a reaction from you. Allow them to behave in their own way and they’ll learn “how to deal with” you based on a non-reaction or the most minimal reaction possible from you.
Your approach is both wise and inspiring! Embracing calm and positivity truly transforms interactions. How has maintaining this mindset impacted your relationships and daily life?
I had a 1st Sgt once tell me to "Don't sweat the small stuff" in my situation at that moment, he was correct. Then this continued through my life realizing that certain things that do happen there is no reason to freak out. Most of the time.
@@kevinmckinney3785 Your story is a powerful reminder of the wisdom in staying calm under pressure. It's amazing how such advice can shape our perspective on life. Thank you for sharing this valuable lesson. How has this mindset influenced your approach to handling challenges?
Stoic Seneca tells us to enjoy the presence without concentration too much on the future. Refrain from emotional disputes. Dont get sucked into the emotional vortex.
Your reflection on Seneca's wisdom is both insightful and eloquent. Embracing the present and avoiding emotional disputes is truly liberating. Thank you for sharing this valuable perspective. How has focusing on the present moment impacted your daily life and emotional well-being?
Your strength and resolve are truly inspiring. Choosing peace and well-being for yourself and your children is incredibly empowering. Thank you for sharing your story. How has this decision impacted your life and the lives of your children?
Very important thing you did there for your children and yourself. Spectacular. You left a sadist. They're screwed up in their head and grow worse and worse as time goes on. I left one too. He immediately began the worst smear campaign I have ever faced. When ppl insult me I'm silent. Congratulations on your new life.❤😊
Your comment is profoundly empowering and beautifully expressed! A strong mindset indeed acts as a shield against negativity. How do you cultivate and maintain such resilience in your daily life?
Thank you to let me. Facing some toxi proplems that i can used all your 13 wise stocism with silent as i dont want to play their game from the beginning Felling grateful for yor lessons.❤
Dont get lured in by other peoples' emotions. Give no fuel to the sub or unconscious drama toxic people crave. Defend your inner-peace like the gold it is.
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Your advice on guarding inner peace is profoundly wise and beautifully expressed. It's crucial to stay detached from others' emotional turmoil. Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. What techniques have you found most effective in maintaining your inner peace amidst external chaos?
20 year toxic relationship. When I realized really what was going on. I started to pull alway but still took years to get out. When I did all the colors and evil came out. Proving my point the whole time. When someone u r dating tells u they don't want u leaving cuz they don't want no one else to have u. Wow that is fucked!!!
Your journey of breaking free from a toxic relationship is both courageous and inspiring! Realizing the truth and taking steps to reclaim your life is a powerful testament to your strength. How did you find the inner resolve to finally leave, and what advice would you give to others in similar situations?
@@stoickingdom2024 i found God. When he realized I had God protecting me he knew there was nothing he could do or say to make me feel small again. There is another video on here talking about toxic people r actually demons put in ur life. I am so glad God is my protector. These videos really do help u learn how and why people do the things they do. It sucks that some people don't realized what really is going on.
@@sandrahunt543 Finding strength in your faith is truly inspiring. How has this realization about toxic people and your connection to God transformed your interactions and sense of self?
5 years ago, my old boss treated employees in the company very badly. Cursing, asking for unreasonable overtime, not letting employees go out for lunch, having to eat at the company to serve him like a child, being greedy for money... He threatened us if Reporting the incident to superiors will cause harm to us. Later, when we learned that he had suffered from mental illness, we all quit our jobs and left that toxic person, considering it an occupational accident.
I lost that fight. 10 years of friendship, cost me my inner peace and strength for 14 years afterwards, and I am still fighting to find it. Today I am isolated, misunderstood and socially outcast. I was brought up to absorb negative lies about my self, and just carry on. Later in life I was the perfect infantry soldier, and I was not even trying to be one. I was seeking out high-stress environments and friends that projected their garbage on me, because I thought that was normal. All I wanted, was that everyone around me would have success, and help them accomplice their plans in life. Be something for them, their kids.
Silence is a great coping skill , some with inferiority complex they take as rejection this makes them obsess on you , I don’t enable this type of people .
Your gratitude is truly touching and beautifully conveyed! It's amazing how the right message can come at just the right time. How has this newfound insight helped you in your current situation?
Thanks so much fir remind us how important is to trust our instint sn be careful who I open the diorvour heart and home! May God bless you and your familiy ❤❤
Learn to identify the narcissist, and run. Cut off contact with him/her if possible. You will never win when dealing with a narc. They thrive on chaos and hurting others. No point trying to change them, they are too full of their prideful selves to admit they are wrong. Eventually they will grow old being lonely, isolated and miserable.
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self-control.. prudence.. modesty.. moderation..
..i am patiently honing these traits.
10 years ago my ex-husband (German) manipulated two of our three children against me and threw me out on the street, one of my three children stayed with me, she served as motivation for me, I studied a career as a nursing assistant (in German ), today I feel fulfilled, I miss my two children, the pain of rejection does not go away, life goes on, but I have the satisfaction that my daughter who stayed with me is already finishing her university degree and I managed to move forward in my life without More help than my own effort considering that I live in Germany and it was like being born again.
I'm praying for Everyone. Thank for your time
Sister Nurse🎉🎉🎉
You GO GURL! INSPIRE YS ALL. CONGRATUKATIONS ON YOUR POSITIVE WAYS TO IVERCIME A SEVERE TRAGEDY IN LIFE.
You were lucky! You had one child left!
My ex-husband turned both of my sons against me! But I threw him out! At least that was good!
Same no children left, wife horrible. Worst 19 months of my life
@@marckg6950 only 19 months!
Are you lucky!
I was married to this b.st..d 15 years.
I stayed for my 2 sons.
I used to get upset when I found out that people were talking behind my back. Now when I find out people are talking behind my back, I think "Look at that, I have a fan club". It's like the old saying, it's mind over matter, I don't mind because they don't matter
That’s wonderful! I’m slowly gaining enough self discipline to acquire your mindset! Thank you for informing me that there is light at the end of the tunnel! ❤
If people talk about you behind your back then it’s a proof that you are ahead of them
Mocking you is their own weak self, sad they are not aware. When stoic some are disturbed by your distance non responsive to their hellish behaviours😊
Thank you for the wonderful advice
People who talk about people behind their backs are weak and too scared to say things to that persons face. Their idle chatter that is usually pure bile is an indication of what they really are.
Don't be reckless with other people's heart's, Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours..
Exactly. ❤
Wear sunscreen!?
That is so profound, never justifies the unjustifiable. Big hug and happiness....
Your wisdom is both profound and beautifully expressed! Respecting and protecting hearts is essential for meaningful relationships. How has this principle shaped your interactions and relationships over time?
FACTS
These toxic people don't cross our path by chance; through them, we learn to set personal boundaries, to say "No," to value ourselves, and to become wiser and stronger. Recently, I went through such a lesson, I learned a lot, and I removed those people from my life. Even a friend with whom I had been close for 35 years turned out to be a vampire not only of time but also of energy; she burdened me with her problems and went to sleep peacefully, while I ended up with a migraine. I removed her from my life, and not just her, but also other acquaintances, whiners, pessimists, etc. These people drag us down, but we want to rise, don't we?
Yep woman beg me to stay longer bs a trick of manipulation.
Exactly something similar happened to me as well I also choose not to be with her and the common acquaintances. Surely you did a righteous thing.
Yes! I am really digging this Stoic evolution. Some will dismiss it as mumbo jumbo,but those who embrace the wisdom of the ancient ancestors ( like Marcus A) will find powerful tools to navigate the tumultuous waters of a sick,mentally ill population. This videos advice was precisely what I needed today as I tackle a job w toxic narcissistic inhabitants in the workplace environment many of us find ourselves in.
Same here
@StoicTellYou omg, I've had different phases of doing this. Usually, one at a time. I guess I've blocked about ten people out of my life, usually permanently. It makes life easier. The only ones I eventually unblocked have proven to me over s extended period of time that they do genuinely care about me.
One of the best ways to deal with toxic people, as Stoicism teaches, is by controlling your reactions. You can't change their behavior, but you can protect your peace by staying calm and not letting their negativity affect you.
I stay with a calm face and a calm mind because I know Iam a monster when I talk you will cry
Your happiness is their misery & your misery is their happiness
Exactly
@@jimbear-b6k sadly that’s any toxic relationshiT😵💫
My ex wife hurt me really bad. I wish I had found the practice of stoic behaviors before hand. Victoria your absolutely right...
Wow. Mic drop. This is going on my white board. Thank you!
This is so true. I had a situation when I was trying to get away from very toxic ex. He was aggressive psyco and I was young and alone. We had to wait till our apartment will be sold, so we will go separate ways. He always threatened me. I understand now that he was coward and was afraid that I might sell without him since the property was on my name only, so he kept pressuring me with threats. That when my happiness was his misery, and my misery was his happiness, I saw it in his eyes. It was terrifying to be with this psycho under the same roof constantly. He won't let me leave for a walk, control freak.
Here's what I do:
1. Identify them
2. Remove myself as simply and quickly as possible
3. Remain unaffected but not indifferent in general
You have an amazing recipe, beautiful lady! Not only are you beautiful, but you're also very knowledgeable. Thank you for sharing this recipe. If possible, please share more in the future. By the way, it seems like you're also working in the real estate industry, right?
If you are in an office or group situation, leaving may not be an option.
@@BEDBUGSEPPY If we truly want to do good, I believe we will find a way. My friends and I often say to each other: if you want something, you'll find a solution; if you don't, you'll find every excuse to avoid it.
It seems to me that leaving or rather running away from difficulties with other people may not be the most prudent thing to do. Of course, if there were no downside to parting ways with a toxic person(s) then, by all means make haste in doing so. But in the practical world of collaboration to achieve a goal or task these words of wisdom fall short. Other measures must be taken. And if those measures fall short of satisfactory results, reevaluate the value of remaining with the work group or company. It's a bitter process that seldom is psychologically helpful in the long run. Often ending in separation from the company. Few people can withstand it.
@@BEDBUGSEPPY Do you have any effective techniques for this? Please share some techniques that you find useful, and I would greatly appreciate it.
What I have learned the HARD way is that most people are not your friends nor will they be in anytime of their lives. Someone who genuinely loves you for you will be there for you whether rain or shine. Usually people who love you for you are rare so don’t expect a lot out of people.
Your happiness does not depend on anyone. You owe nobody nothing. You are unique.
If everyone’s unique than no one’s unique is an old saying
@@Indianaparadise never heard that one before. 👍
And yet you'd be most happy with the fulfilling enjoyment of being told what to do and how best to make people better,
@Travula87 👍
I remember the day that I stopped blaming my first husband for my unhappiness. I grew up and realized I was responsible for my happiness. No freedom like that. I walked away from everything we owned..built my own life. I'm broke sometimes but I have everything I need and most of everything I want.. like I said... I'm happy.
The more I avoid people the better life I have.
You can run on for a long time
I am frequently tempted to become a hermit. It’s a peaceful, happy life.
But I have children and grandchildren so I can’t be a full time recluse. I created these humans and I have a responsibility to engage to the best of my ability.
After giving my toxic family more chances than they deserved to be decent , I came to realize I knew who they were all along . I do not put myself in their presence any longer for my own citadel . People do not have the same morals thoughts or empathy you do and you can’t expect it . Only disappointment awaits you in that mindset .
@@michaelmccullough7309 I do relate with you ♥️
Congratulations on taking the step to stop wasting your precious energy on calculating family members. I did the same and years later enjoy a much healthier life. It's ok to be different, especially if it's different from the toxic people that deflate us.
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@michaelmccullough7309 Yes, I agree with you, but forgiving them doesn't mean that you have to be around,them nor does it mean that you have accepted what they did it means that you have moved,on and that you have peace within, that you're not stumped in your spiritual growth, recognizing that life is a series of moments, and no one is the same, it says that you choose happiness instead of being lost in a moment that leads to no where good, it means you took back your power and you are not their victim anymore.
@chadchristian3704 💖 I love the way you think, and you are absolutely right on point 👉 💯
Glad someone’s finally addressing how to deal with toxic people effectively.. rather than the tons of material on social media telling you to stay away from toxic people!!
Your appreciation for addressing how to deal with toxic people effectively is truly heartfelt. 🌟 It's refreshing to see practical solutions rather than just avoidance. How have these strategies helped you in handling toxic individuals in your life?
Yes
Finally....if you cut ties with narcissistic people.....that is about half the population.....dealing effectively has to be taught and done otherwise we have to live behind a prison wall in our minds.
Omg right!?!?? They always tell the red flags (which is important, of course) but never tell how to deal with them, or what to say, or how to react. Or how to lay down some boundaries. (5 yrs ago I had to Google what the heck a boundary even was!)
Toxic People FEED off NEGATIVE Energy
Yes, yes, yes!
Your comment is incredibly insightful and resonates deeply! Understanding how toxic people thrive on negativity is key to protecting our own energy. How have you managed to distance yourself from such influences?
They steal your energy _nergy negative and positive need to be balanced
@@Nicole-dj3jf Balancing energy is indeed crucial for well-being. How do you maintain this balance in your daily life?
Facts 💯
1.identify toxic negative people
2.fortify your walls & boundaries be clear & firm & kind consistant (guard your own peace)
3.be greyrock dull to toxic vampires
4.broken record (remain rational)
5.don't take their bait (let their drama fall) indifference, choose silence,nonattachment, remain always calm (breathwork)
6.The Art of NonReaction
7.limit your exposure ( emotional & soul distance) cognitive reframing
8.build your own trustworthy support system (doctors) eg. Mindfulness Sangha, mature friends
9.prioritize self-care ( mental well-being activties: meditation nature bathe, music, art, dance, yoga, journal, nutrition, sing, learn new skills, read, write
10. It is not about you (not personal) it is their own storms
11. Fact:They do not change, do not try to fix them, tend to your own inner Garden be a Stoic example
12.Walk away, prioritize your safety & well-being
Live immediately, detach from poisonous patterns
13.Forgive yourself ...release emotional baggage you carried
Stoicism: Accept what is not in your control let go of the burden of negativity, recognize & embrace your feelings so they are not suppressed thus freeing yourself.
Thank you for the summary. Appreciated.
Thanks for the summary, very apt 👌👌👌
Thank you for this summary. It’s helps me learn and remember the fuller explanation in the video. 😊
when i wake up in the morning , the big sign says :
“ be prepared something beautiful about to happen “ & my day goes smooth; & when I come back home , another big sign by the door says :
“ here lies only good vibes “. 😉
I love that
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that makes us 2 souls who try to stay sane in a crazy world world ;
I’m glad U like it , U must have a wonderful heart like mine 😉
No support system. All that I have is me. I am enough.
You need one, connecting with good people is important ❤
Your strength and self-reliance are truly inspiring. It's empowering to see someone embrace the mindset of being enough. Thank you for sharing this powerful affirmation. How has this belief in your self-sufficiency impacted your daily life and interactions? Your journey could inspire others to find their own inner strength.
Same
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Smart person never show lamp to the sun .think it
I am an identical twin. Entering adulthood I felt so much back and forth with trying to appease my sister.
I felt like since we were twins that we were supposed to be there for each other. But I would confide in her with certain things and ask her to keep between us. She always ended up blabbing it and I stopped sharing and confiding in her. The it was her blaming me for everything and I was constantly trying to work things out feeling completely exhausted. I felt like nothing I did was good enough and anything good that happened she did not want to celebrate it…if it was bad it was shallow sympathy and later used as a dagger towards me. I didn’t realize until probably our late 20’s she was a pestimistic and I was optimistic.
She would constantly tell me I was living in a fantasy land. It made me question myself, it made me hide my love for creating, painting and even completely stop. It was the hardest thing to choose to keep her out of my life because my hopes and dreams of having a good close relationship just wasn’t going to happen because I could never measure up to her standards and she was always going to find something wrong that I did that offended her…everything I did offended her.. when I got engaged, she said my ring looked to big and goddy. When I got married, she made an excuse not to be there…anything that was good or important to me, she would knock me down. We haven’t spoken but one time in 7 years. I’m no longer exhausted trying to work things out and keep the peace but my hopes and dreams of having a sister to celebrate life with have been completely crushed.
I will say I have gotten back into my art 3 years ago and I have enjoyed it and become more confident in it. I have reconnected with childhood friends that have no artistic ability that encourage me and love my creativity….something I haven’t had in years…not since school days. So it has been made aware that I do have a unique ability that I burried, I was led to believe and questioned myself about things I was told by my sister that were false. I am painting huge wall murals and doing things I would have never dreamed if it wasn’t for the encouragement of my husband and a couple friends. All I can say don’t ever let anyone rob you of your happiness or your talents.
Even identical twins are night and day different.
Good for you, my sister same….blood is not always thicker than water❤
Your story is deeply moving and beautifully written. It's inspiring to see how you've reclaimed your passion and confidence despite the challenges you faced. Your journey reminds us all to protect our happiness and talents fiercely. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and empowering message.
What has been the most rewarding part of reconnecting with your creativity and artistic expression?
@@tinaknutsen I've heard it said that one twin will become the dominant one and narcissist's do like to dominate. It's interesting that one twin can be empathic and the other not.🕊
@Cheekycupcake-d5j The real quote is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Which means that the relationships you choose are stronger than the ones you inherit.
It actually means the opposite of what everyone believes. But the truth remains... family doesn't equal automatic loyalty and respect. If your family isn't respectful of you, don't excuse or accept it just because they happen to share your dna by an accident of nature.
@@keresalea1313 "There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother," Scripture. Soul ties and blood ties came to mind reading these comments.
I'm currently disabled in a wheelchair so I sell hot dogs and hamburgers, I depend on myself and I thank God for everything here in Venezuela everything is going bad.
I would love a few hotdogs from you.
God Bless and keep you well. 🙏🏼
You are rich because you're self reliant. I admire you.
God bless you mate ❤
Noooʻ money is an illusion sell your food adding up to 8 like 35 3+5=8 so 3.50. Or 35.cents sell bigger items at 350.00 8 energy that was free advice now watch and see how your life changes
Seneca’s wisdom: true happiness comes from not indulging in hopes or fears.
Stoic or not, Relationships and/or marriages will be hard without understanding and patience. I however have discovered there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I genuinely want to find happiness as well. I've got someone special in my life, and even though we're not together at the moment, I can't picture my life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm all in to make it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to fix stuff.
Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I value this advice. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that following this path will bring about positive outcomes for me too; I long for her deeply.
I promise you will not regret it
Your story of resilience and commitment in your marriage is truly inspiring. 🌟 It's a testament to the power of understanding and patience in relationships. How did you and your wife find the strength and strategies to overcome such difficult times?
My past is beyond a story, full of challenges and trials. Since childhood, I felt the inner strength to surmount difficulties. I never gave up despite all challenges. I used to cry when feeling helpless until I saw a counsellor who opened my eyes to move on with my life away from my toxic family. I now live in the present and grateful for each I wake up. I sometimes feel the hurt but I smile, feeling grateful for a new day. I love being alone, strong, embracing the wisdom I have acquired through lived experiences.
Thank you for your advice well needed
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Even though I was raised by negative people… there was lessons learned, I am taking care of one of those toxic people.
Your resilience and strength in turning negative experiences into valuable lessons are truly admirable. Caring for a toxic person shows immense compassion and growth. Thank you for sharing your journey. How has this experience shaped your perspective on forgiveness and personal growth? Your story could offer hope and guidance to others facing similar challenges.
Bless your soul. That is called Forgiveness.
Be sure to continue to look out for yourself. Have a good boundaries.❤
Learning to handle toxic people with Stoic principles can be transformative. Focus on maintaining your inner peace and boundaries, practice empathy without absorbing negativity, and remember, your peace of mind is worth prioritizing above all else. This video offers valuable insights on navigating such challenges with grace and wisdom
you are right my stoic family member , thanks for giving your Valuable Opinion
I wish I have known this knowledge years back
What if it's the person closest to them. Knows them better than they know themself.? They can respond not overwhelming react to all others but this person can push every trigger she has. Especially in crowds. . They even keep praying for help to stop reacting to this person. And no they can't just "get away" from this person. sometimes in Real life there isn't a way to get away. There is a way to try to respond not react. Thanks to this video Idk why that person tries to make everyone rush and react instead of patience and not rush. Life isn't clean it's messy. Some have support systems to get away from situations. Others learn to adapt and I want to help them learn to respond with strength and love together. Prayers for everyone in the world! We are all a mess! If you're saying in your head you aren't a mess yourself you're in denial. That's why we need love understanding and helping where we are weak. To be strong! Please we are all sinners help each other be better not worse! Division is a curse! We are all equally created by the same Master it's how we choose to live that decides our life the choices we make. Let's help each other make better choices. It's hard. I'm shit! I'm a sinner! I hurt others and others hurt me! We need to learn to get past that pattern help each other up and heal each other! That's a superpower I want. Not democracy or religion or cults. Everything healthy to eat and everyone following commandments helping each other succeed. That's why we consider that impossible and a heaven to look forward to bc we can't unite and achieve that it's one over the other sister brother father mother. It's sick. I pray for us all
I started this thinking I would skim to the main points. I found myself rewinding significant parts. I was so excited to gain Knowledge I took four pages of notes. Stoicism is what I've been looking for, a strategic plan to reclaim my serenity.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It inspired an actual epiphany.
My grandma was Stoically mindset’s. She teaches me to “Only fear God , Don’t fear humans” Respect humanity and you will be Free like a bird.
-Self Awareness
-Guiding Reason
-Patience
Thanks Stoic for another excellent timely helpful teaching’s.
Peace & Love✌️❤️🙏
Toxic people are always envious snaky sneaky pulling down a person no heart conscience compassion and empathy God knows everything come back what she’s doing !!!🇵🇭🇺🇸
Stoic is solution .
Your powerful words about toxic people and the belief that their actions will eventually catch up to them are truly inspiring. 🌟 How has recognizing these traits in others helped you protect your own peace and well-being?
Sounds like my bullying jeoulous older sister !! Toxic pain in the butt. Decided not to live anywhere near her from the age of 16. I am now 63 and have had a wonerful blisful life because of that early decision.
@@angelabooth7871 It's wonderful to hear how it led to a blissful life. How did you find the strength to make such a significant decision at such a young age?
"Frustrated fixer" how true lol these narcissists are experts in frustrating people they live for it. I love the part about tending to your own garden because the weeds in the narcissist's garden are so long and deep that you can't pull them out. Great video.🌟
Your reflection on dealing with narcissists is both insightful and eloquent. Tending to your own garden truly is the best approach. Your thoughts resonate deeply.
What strategies have you found most effective in maintaining your peace while dealing with difficult people?
@@stoickingdom2024 Shifting my focus away from the narcissist and focusing on myself using calming methods as needed. Enjoying a cup of chamomile tea with a dash of honey, breathing exercises, listening to a relaxing guided meditation or going outside in nature are a few things that can help gain back your sense of peace. Having a hobby is another good distraction to take your mind off the narcissist's crazy antics.
@@steadypace1262 Your approach to self-care and reclaiming peace is truly inspiring. Embracing calming methods and hobbies is a powerful way to focus on your well-being. Thank you for sharing these valuable tips.
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Glad to recognise when someone is toxic and how to deal with it
I wholeheartedly believe that philosophy should be a subject in place of language arts during high school (implemented in a similar way to how many schools place economics).
Your belief in the value of philosophy is inspiring. Integrating it into education could truly shape thoughtful and reflective individuals. Your vision is both innovative and compelling.
How do you think a philosophy curriculum could impact students' critical thinking and decision-making skills?
@stoickingdom2024 Thank you! It means a lot to me. Philosophy in school would greatly influence those factors in a positive manner. Most importantly, it plants the seeds for future growth in every area of mental development.
It would empower students to face the world and balance pleasure with challenge, to think actively about what's in front of them, helping them decipher any type of motive, and will eventually allow them to grow from what's around them.
High school students would be gaining more compared to High English language arts. It is worth taking into account what would be lost. Generally, high school level language arts involves hyper-specific review skills that will benefit but a few students going into the field. This is more true now, with tools that help students identify adverbs, help or indirectly teach students how to write a persuasive work (we do that on social media often,) or figure out which form of "their" to use. High English arts can even harm students' skills in some ways, such as reinforcing long-winded, five plus paragraph long, hard to read essays when the social world now needs people to write easy, concise works that get their message across. (I am a victim of this, as you may be able to tell.)
There are many life changing benefits to having philosophy taught in high school, and we wouldn't be sacrificing vital parts of the curriculum by doing so.
This is a wonderful idea! 🎉
@@StarlightNkyra Your insights on the importance of teaching philosophy in schools are profoundly enlightening. It's clear how passionate you are about the transformative power of philosophy. Thank you for sharing such a compelling perspective.
How do you think incorporating philosophy into the high school curriculum could change the future of education?
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Id like to second this, but I do think suicide rates would skyrocket
I came from a toxic family although I didn't realize it until adulthood. I handle toxic people by totally excluding them from my life.
Not an option for some. Many of us are trapped.
@@OfficialDangus True, I am currently trapped. But hopefully in another couple of years I will move far, far away (again! last time was a different country). Until then, I am the grey rock.
@@OfficialDangusare you really?
I love the part of being able to identify a toxic person in your life. If you fail to define terms correctly, you may turn around and blame self
Recognizing and defining toxic influences is indeed crucial for self-awareness and growth. How has identifying toxic people impacted your personal journey?
Excactly; I had trouble identifying this.
Especially it being my identical twin sister. Because I kept trying so hard and nothing I could do was right so I would self blame and for years I would lay awake trying to figure out how to fix it or make it better. I found out later that she was a pessimist and I was an optimistic. So that explained why I constantly got shot down and told I lived in a fantasy land. Yes a lot of the stress has gone since I cut ties but honestly I had hoped for a close relationship, to hang out and go for lunch or go hiking together but I realized it would never be that way.
So true…!
This is good advice with dealing with my toxic boss whos trying to destroy me. I'm feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed.
Break the chain, do not be someone else's doormat. Tell your boss you have doctor appts, yet attend a few job interviews. You might be surprised at just how worthy you are to another company. Yet, you have to be confident and in self-control for your next career endeavor.
Good Luck, Take Care.
@rosalindcarter1329 I went on a medical leave of absence because of this same reason. Im interviewing for other jobs and recuperating from all the damage done. This really affected my health.
I know exactly how you guys feel,I even quit my job entirely and I'm sorry to admit that I regret it now,but at the time I was on the verge of doing anything and it scared me,so before quitting just think it out clearly and if you have no other option than I think it's safe to protect yourself
@@jocelynnwilliams2486 Believe me, I am not going to regret quitting this job. I already don't want to go back to it. The thought of it terrifies me. I know God has a plan for me.
@ingridr4374 there will be highs and lows but if your faith in God is strong then you are on the right path,just remember sometimes we struggle and we fall but in that moment just turn to God
You are so right I have too free myself self from this toxic person
Me too. I will get away from him no matter what. He will pay 🎯
Your realization is powerful and courageous! Freeing yourself from toxicity is a crucial step toward personal growth and well-being. How did you recognize the need to distance yourself, and what steps are you taking?
"Wow, I never thought about Stoicism in such a practical way before! The section at [2:50] about dealing with negative emotions was so insightful. I’m definitely going to apply this in my daily life.
It suggests strategies like recognizing toxic behavior, setting clear boundaries, and using the "gray rock method" to remain emotionally detached. Cognitive reframing and surrounding oneself with supportive, virtuous individuals are also recommended. Prioritizing self-care and understanding that others' negativity often reflects their issues, not yours, is crucial. Ultimately, the stoic approach advocates for inner peace through emotional regulation, resilience, and compassion, without getting entangled in others' negativity.
I set a boundary between a toxic colleague..I enjoy my peace ✌️ now from her drama
People will usually wait for a reaction from you when they say something negative about you in your presence thinking you not aware of them don't react because that will fuel even more negativity about you don't respond forgive and ignore them you retain your inner peace not allowing there negativity to effect you it sets you free a beautiful feeling which only you can take away by your actions no one else ❤❤❤❤❤
Your insight into handling negativity with grace is profoundly wise. Maintaining inner peace by not reacting to others' negativity is a beautiful and empowering approach. Your perspective is truly inspiring.
How has practicing forgiveness and non-reaction impacted your overall sense of peace and well-being?
I disagree, ignoring this type of behavior only promotes more negative behavior!
@@Sandy-mr8di Your perspective is thought-provoking and highlights an important aspect of addressing negative behavior. Thank you for sharing your insight.
What strategies have you found effective in confronting and reducing negative behavior?
Thank you for saying "dont try to fix them." Narcissists are negative broken people they react aggressively towards you when you do that because they have a fixed victim mentality and staying broken supports that.
Your comment captures the essence of dealing with narcissists perfectly. Understanding their fixed victim mentality is crucial. Thank you for sharing this valuable insight.
How has recognizing this dynamic changed your approach to interacting with narcissists?
@@stoickingdom2024 Learning the art of non-reaction is still a work in progress.😉
@@steadypace1262 Your dedication to mastering the art of non-reaction is truly commendable. It's a powerful practice that brings peace and clarity. Thank you for sharing your journey.
@@stoickingdom2024 My pleasure.🙂
@@steadypace1262 😍
Thank you for coming up with the Stoic Philosophy content. Really helpful! I really appreciate!
Your appreciation for Stoic Philosophy content is truly heartfelt. It's wonderful to see how it has been helpful to you. Thank you for sharing your gratitude! How has Stoic Philosophy impacted your daily life and mindset? Your insights could inspire others to explore and benefit from this profound philosophy.
I am so happy with this Lesson How to handle in 13 steps Toxic People. It cost me 62 years and with your content I am going to learn it !
I am so Happy with that ❤😊❤😊❤ !
Thank you Thank you ❤ ! ! !
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Your enthusiasm is truly inspiring! It's never too late to learn and grow, and your dedication to mastering these 13 steps to handle toxic people is commendable. Thank you for sharing your joy with us. How do you plan to implement these steps in your daily life? Your experience could offer valuable insights to others on a similar journey.
My pleasure!
❤❤❤ when you realize nothing you do or say will change this person. And that the person will do whatever to punish you and hurt you with their own hurt and pain and you won’t be able to save them is bittersweet! Because this person will try at nothing to destroy or ruin you rather than look with. No accountability, they are blind and do not see anything wrong with hurting people and their behavior. It’s an escape almost but sad because they aren’t always like that of course or you wouldn’t fall in love with them.
It's all good and well, but sometimes speaking up brings the necessary change. Not all "toxic" people are conscious of their "toxicity". Sometimes, bringing awareness is the difference between progression and regression
A lot of this advice is really good - I've heard this on a channel run by a Narcassistic Psychopath ( diagnosed ) , who's giving up all the " traps and manipulations , used by those in the NPD Spectrum . Well worth listening to , to save getting ensnared ones self . Some narcassists , are not easy to read , but they can be and successfully , much to their annoyances .
Thank you! I needed this… I was raised by toxic parents.
most welcome , be stoic , be healthy , be happy .
I have a toxic mother and sister. Unfortunately living arrangements mean they are still close, but I grey rock as much as possible.
I think once you 'have their number' (clock them for who they are) you can step away from their little soap operas and constant criticism.
Brilliant ! My philosophy completely . I have spent my life adopting this strategy . The world of people is so complex .
Epictetus wisely said, "It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." Thank you for sharing these practical Stoic principles that can truly transform our interactions and protect our well-being.
Son never give lessons to father like person never show lamp to sun of sky i think you can understand
Troubles and bad situations can come at any time, it is important that you know how to deal with them.
Unfortunately this philosophy also classifies detachment and putting yourself inside a bubble where you're only around people who share your beliefs as a healthy reaction to adversity.
This system has served me well for a happy and successful 79 years❤
@@joebobbiggins5046at least it’s a safe place. Better off
It's important to remember we have all been toxic at one point or another. None of us are without fault. These are tools to help us but we must not forget our humanity either. There's a line and it's so imperative to establish where that line is for you, personally. Take care ❤
It’s surprising how people are only scratching the surface and don’t take the time to read Mareska Manipulation. Go out of the rabbit hole guys
The stoic approach really resonated with me, especially the idea of controlling our own reactions. Amazing content!
Aloha Lights! Starting with the Media ; I desided not to watch the News and gradually I was directed to Nature And I feel super good , learning from nature a few lessons a day .
Hulalouya!!!
I meet 3 kinds of people. Those who are worth associating with, those who are harmless but not interesting enough to advance, and those who will be ignored. I give everyone a chance to place themselves into one of the 3 categories. I rarely spend time on what others might think about me.
❤❤❤ My Father was a Stoic and I believe I absorbed a great deal of that. Now I would like my children to absorb. They Adored their grandfather ❤.
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My own personal experience with learning to disengage from the “toxic relationship “, I refused to engage in the conversation that makes reaction, instead of reacting to the facts.
I did disengaged from an emotional vampire.
I knew it would hurt my mental health, but the manipulator was getting my own personal peace.
I was only getting the shitty end of the stick.
Had to learn to drop the stick and walk away from the whole situation that was poisoning my emotional state.
I also had to learn to let go and relearn how to handle myself.
Learn to react instead of being reactionary.
It took me a long time to get to this point and I feel much better off than I did before I allowed myself to say and do things that protect my energy.
Great tips! Dealing with toxic people can be tough, but with these strategies, we can stay strong and focused. Stay positive and keep pushing forward!
Its a mine field! Those who say as little as possible and listen as much as possible are usually very popular😅
Your observation about the power of listening and speaking thoughtfully is insightful and resonates deeply. It's true that those who master this balance often find great popularity. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. How has this approach impacted your relationships and interactions? Your experiences could offer valuable lessons to others seeking to improve their communication skills.
Yes. This.
Here at work I deal with these kinds of men.
1. The guy that doesn't live happily but come to work to make your life miserable.
2. A fatherless man will always the the one to cause gossip.
3. Not having a voice at home.
4. Being a single deadbeat father and being left out.
5. All of the above.
I'm currently dealing with these kind of people at work and it's exhausting asf.
Don't deal with them. Unless you can't escape those people. Remove yourself from the negative situations as fast as possible.
I emphasise with you. Draw a clear line between work and leave their personal domestic problems to themselves, they can and should deal with their own problems. Be kind but you can’t help everyone. Set yourself free and return their problems to them, so that you can move on. Wishing you peace and joy. 🙏🏻😊🦋✨❤
@@kelbosskii9769 When the "pussy" got to following me into my work place and making like "pussy," I had a supervisor take me aside and tell me, "Great minds talk about things. Small minds talk about people."
"Absolutely loved this video! It’s so empowering to see practical ways to handle toxic people without letting them drain your energy. Stoicism truly is a game-changer when it comes to staying calm, centered, and focused on what really matters. Thanks for sharing these insights-each tip feels like a small step toward a more peaceful, resilient life!
I need to send this video to people that know me so they know how to deal with me.
No. Because that’s a reaction and they don’t need a reaction from you. Allow them to behave in their own way and they’ll learn “how to deal with” you based on a non-reaction or the most minimal reaction possible from you.
Thanks for awakening people regarding toxic people.❤️🙏🙏🙏
I wish I knew about these principles before, but better late than never. I am going to follow them going forward.
Thanks God for bringing this across my path! Thank you Jesus.😊
I appreciate the stoics teaching you always walk away revitalized .
I've never sweated the small stuff I am confident arguments get you nowhere smiling and calmly carry in
Your approach is both wise and inspiring! Embracing calm and positivity truly transforms interactions. How has maintaining this mindset impacted your relationships and daily life?
I had a 1st Sgt once tell me to "Don't sweat the small stuff" in my situation at that moment, he was correct. Then this continued through my life realizing that certain things that do happen there is no reason to freak out. Most of the time.
@@kevinmckinney3785 Your story is a powerful reminder of the wisdom in staying calm under pressure. It's amazing how such advice can shape our perspective on life. Thank you for sharing this valuable lesson.
How has this mindset influenced your approach to handling challenges?
Stoic Seneca tells us to enjoy the presence without concentration too much on the future. Refrain from emotional disputes. Dont get sucked into the emotional vortex.
Your reflection on Seneca's wisdom is both insightful and eloquent. Embracing the present and avoiding emotional disputes is truly liberating. Thank you for sharing this valuable perspective.
How has focusing on the present moment impacted your daily life and emotional well-being?
I was married to a person who when I asked not to do something that bothered me, he would do it more, I got my children and left and never looked back
Your strength and resolve are truly inspiring. Choosing peace and well-being for yourself and your children is incredibly empowering. Thank you for sharing your story.
How has this decision impacted your life and the lives of your children?
Spot onx
No drama just run fabx
Very important thing you did there for your children and yourself. Spectacular. You left a sadist. They're screwed up in their head and grow worse and worse as time goes on. I left one too. He immediately began the worst smear campaign I have ever faced. When ppl insult me I'm silent. Congratulations on your new life.❤😊
Thank you everyone for your support, I’m retired now and am living my best life now
Try your best, don't give up.
If you have a solid mind set no body will bring you down because you will detect them from a significant distance.
Your comment is profoundly empowering and beautifully expressed! A strong mindset indeed acts as a shield against negativity. How do you cultivate and maintain such resilience in your daily life?
No doubt
@@Lynski94 Embracing such certainty can lead to profound insights. What experiences have shaped this unwavering belief for you?
Thank you to let me. Facing some toxi proplems that i can used all your 13 wise stocism with silent as i dont want to play their game from the beginning Felling grateful for yor lessons.❤
I love this! ❤️ it is so helpful. It’s been a painful journey when the toxic person is my daughter and the gateway to my grandkids
Dont get lured in by other peoples' emotions. Give no fuel to the sub or unconscious drama toxic people crave.
Defend your inner-peace like the gold it is.
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Your advice on guarding inner peace is profoundly wise and beautifully expressed. It's crucial to stay detached from others' emotional turmoil. Thank you for sharing this valuable insight.
What techniques have you found most effective in maintaining your inner peace amidst external chaos?
Marcus Aurelius always helps me find balance in life. This video is one of my favorites. Thanks for sharing !
20 year toxic relationship. When I realized really what was going on. I started to pull alway but still took years to get out. When I did all the colors and evil came out. Proving my point the whole time. When someone u r dating tells u they don't want u leaving cuz they don't want no one else to have u. Wow that is fucked!!!
THIS SOUNDS LIKE A TOXIC,DESPERATE PERSON. RUN. N GO NO 🛑CONTACT FOREVER. ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️🛑👹👹👹👹👹👺👺👹👹👹👹🛑✝️✝️✝️✝️🙏🏾😇👼🏽
Your journey of breaking free from a toxic relationship is both courageous and inspiring! Realizing the truth and taking steps to reclaim your life is a powerful testament to your strength. How did you find the inner resolve to finally leave, and what advice would you give to others in similar situations?
@@stoickingdom2024 i found God. When he realized I had God protecting me he knew there was nothing he could do or say to make me feel small again. There is another video on here talking about toxic people r actually demons put in ur life. I am so glad God is my protector. These videos really do help u learn how and why people do the things they do. It sucks that some people don't realized what really is going on.
@@sandrahunt543 Finding strength in your faith is truly inspiring. How has this realization about toxic people and your connection to God transformed your interactions and sense of self?
Thank you. Really meaningful to me.
Wishing everyone reading this message a very lucky and joyful day
Build a support system! Good one :)
Very encouraging reminders ❤I love it! Such a shame that other’s ignorance and lack of respect only harms them by creating toxicity ❤thank you.❤
Most welcome !
5 years ago, my old boss treated employees in the company very badly. Cursing, asking for unreasonable overtime, not letting employees go out for lunch, having to eat at the company to serve him like a child, being greedy for money... He threatened us if Reporting the incident to superiors will cause harm to us. Later, when we learned that he had suffered from mental illness, we all quit our jobs and left that toxic person, considering it an occupational accident.
I think you made the right decision. I pray for your bright future
Mahalo for this education! This is helping me so much with my teenage daughters and responding to them.
Sometimes they do sneak in. Some things will never change, they will always be as they were.
There can be only one solution to this situation, you should keep distance from that thing.
I lost that fight. 10 years of friendship, cost me my inner peace and strength for 14 years afterwards, and I am still fighting to find it. Today I am isolated, misunderstood and socially outcast. I was brought up to absorb negative lies about my self, and just carry on. Later in life I was the perfect infantry soldier, and I was not even trying to be one. I was seeking out high-stress environments and friends that projected their garbage on me, because I thought that was normal. All I wanted, was that everyone around me would have success, and help them accomplice their plans in life. Be something for them, their kids.
I know the feeling. Re-create yourself.
Be whatever you choose to be! Don’t try, just do it and be happy!👍🏽
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Wow! I wrote down the signs of a toxic individuals. I do best with numbered lists. Thank you.❤ Now I know what to do.
Perfect!
Stoicism is exactly what the modern world needs. Thank you for this video!
I'm so happy n at peace t listen everyday. Kee it up.❤
Thanks!
Oh, yes,dear Sir, I'm surrounded by toxic dangerous narcissists but you inspire me now and learned your wisdom, thank you beyond words 🙏
Im so burned out from the toxic people probably can't finish this video
I love you 🌹
most welcome stoic family member .
Silence is a great coping skill , some with inferiority complex they take as rejection this makes them obsess on you , I don’t enable this type of people .
This was very useful
Trying to better myself and not get caught up with other peoples feelings.
Your video says it right, eliminating toxic things and dealing with toxic readers helps us grow
Your perspective on life is incredibly profound. I found so much wisdom in this video.
Cant thank you enough for this, just when I needef it.
Your gratitude is truly touching and beautifully conveyed! It's amazing how the right message can come at just the right time. How has this newfound insight helped you in your current situation?
This channel always contributes to my day. It’s always good to spend quality time listening to wisdom.
Thank you for this channel. 😊
Please Remember
One digs one's own grave.
NOTHING is impossible with the HOLY ONE.
Thanks so much fir remind us how important is to trust our instint sn be careful who I open the diorvour heart and home!
May God bless you and your familiy ❤❤
_These 13 strategies are a game-changer for handling toxic people! Stoicism offers practical wisdom for navigating life's challenges._
Learn to identify the narcissist, and run. Cut off contact with him/her if possible. You will never win when dealing with a narc. They thrive on chaos and hurting others. No point trying to change them, they are too full of their prideful selves to admit they are wrong. Eventually they will grow old being lonely, isolated and miserable.
[14:34] The wisdom of resilience: Epicurus reminds us that true strength lies in controlling our responses
This is so true talking to people and when finished you are so so upset
Stress kills & faith heals. Emotions are so strong that we can develop the nocebo effect or the placebo effect in our own bodies.
Wisdom is important.
Excellent. Excellent. Excellent. Right on the nose. I use these techniques. They absolutely work.