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  • Опубликовано: 29 дек 2022
  • Jael and her mother Jackie have always had a tumultuous relationship but now Jael is ready to cut the cord. She claims that she had an abusive childhood and Jackie makes up lies about her. Jackie took care of Jael’s children while her daughter was in rehab and fears her daughter is still using. Can Karamo help Jael and Jackie see each other in the present and not the past?
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Комментарии • 654

  • @smmythcrtr
    @smmythcrtr Год назад +1305

    Two siblings in the same house can have two entirely different experiences, Jael being 15 when he was born is definitely enough time for her to experience and remember the abuse without the brother seeing or remembering.

    • @Ms.NigeriaParker
      @Ms.NigeriaParker Год назад +41

      Agree

    • @hannibal-elmrs.6275
      @hannibal-elmrs.6275 Год назад +97

      THATS A FACT!
      My siblings are 15 yrs younger then me- they got a calm, patient, soccer mom- I got the stressed out young mom 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Nille0212
      @Nille0212 Год назад +33

      ​@@hannibal-elmrs.6275same!!! I'm 18 years older than my sister and I got the Tiger Mom, while she got the cool mom. My sister thinks that I'm lying about certain things that happened to me. She wasn't physically abusive, but she definitely traumatized me emotionally and mentally. I was seen as an extension of her instead of my own person. We are very similar but she's literally cussed me out about my dislike of cheese. FUCKING CHEESE!!! So I get it. It took my grandmother's dying to really bring us together and we're good now. But it was a 30 yr journey to get there.

    • @reginabyrd8903
      @reginabyrd8903 Год назад +25

      You can tell that those siblings had a different mom.

    • @alexish4542
      @alexish4542 Год назад +5

      Exactly not including the toddler stage which means she was already legally grown by time he could really comprehend anything

  • @Hephbeu
    @Hephbeu Год назад +1220

    Perfect example of raising your daughters and loving your sons
    So many toxic mothers out there projecting their shortcomings on their children ESPECIALLY their daughters

    • @dannblair
      @dannblair Год назад +35

      so true. i see that happening so much on my mother's side of the family. her sister always favored my cousin (her son) more than her two daughters. to the point where for awhile my cousins stopped talking to each other.

    • @smallahhtoes
      @smallahhtoes Год назад +2

      @@dannblair not always like that but ok

    • @Leeleesfiiles
      @Leeleesfiiles Год назад +9

      SOMEBODY SAID IT

    • @Davonciaaa_Tv
      @Davonciaaa_Tv Год назад +5

      Yes this is so true

    • @dannblair
      @dannblair Год назад +18

      @@smallahhtoes i just said i see that happening in MY family. i never said that it happens to everyone. read the comment before you reply

  • @Jessthebes
    @Jessthebes Год назад +1701

    To me it seems like the daughter has a lot of trauma that nobody cares to acknowledge. They only see her “problematic” behaviour but they don’t care about why she’s acting like that

    • @Rriellesmommy
      @Rriellesmommy Год назад +52

      facts i went through a lot of the same things

    • @kirascullark5224
      @kirascullark5224 Год назад +54

      Yeah, trauma from her abusive so called Mother! She should get counseling and cut ties with her.

    • @TruthPursuit
      @TruthPursuit Год назад +9

      If they didn’t care they wouldn’t be there

    • @phyliciarobinson2056
      @phyliciarobinson2056 Год назад +12

      This is sooooo my life right freaking now 😣

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +13

      Thanks I have gone no contact and my older sibling has reached out and agrees my mom has a personality disorder we just can't figure out why she is so delusional but I do love her and I have tried everything to mend things but there is zero accountability and continued lies and accusations. It's a nightmare. Healing one day at a time tho and I have my kids back 😌. God is good.i enjoy seeing all the other opinions of those who are fooled by my moms perfect act. I'm used to that response. She counts on that.

  • @brittanyhunter3331
    @brittanyhunter3331 Год назад +1055

    The son is the golden child, and the daughter is the scapegoat. The daughter has a completely different experience than the son, and the mother is projecting all of the things about herself that she doesn’t want to address in herself. Her mother is trying to control her every move, and keep her under her thumb forever.

    • @phyliciataylor7226
      @phyliciataylor7226 Год назад +8

      huh? The daughter made poor decisions and the son chose a different path. How is the daughter the scapegoat when was caught in a lie several times and stepped up for grandchildren. It isn't a figment of her imagination, the daughter was not fit to raise her children and the grandmother showed up. She is controlling to stop her daughter from falling again and her having to continuous bare the burdens of her child's mistakes. I will never help somebody again, people put you in their shit, then blame you for helping. The grandma should fully trust her daughter, but if she messes up again, just don't help. Simple enough.

    • @t.antoinette2383
      @t.antoinette2383 Год назад +3

      I was just commenting about that. I very much so agree!

    • @rnbsteenstar
      @rnbsteenstar Год назад +1

      That's usually how those things go.

    • @Shestheman013
      @Shestheman013 Год назад +3

      Typical narricist, they need one to belittle and pin everything on while rasing up another one. She had 15 years of her mother being whoever she was and being raised by a narricist can give you so much trama and that led the daughter to drinkning and other drug use. The son only saw the good version of mom. He got 19 years of good while the sister got dust and gaslighting.

  • @briannataylor2964
    @briannataylor2964 Год назад +786

    I’m sorry but the brother aggravated me. He saying that he “really doesn’t care” about what his sister is saying is ridiculous. He didn’t see his mother’s abuse to her all he saw was the effects she had from the abuse.

    • @glazzeddonut3317
      @glazzeddonut3317 Год назад +45

      And that's on enableing gaslighting and resignation... ugh

  • @liftedenergy3693
    @liftedenergy3693 Год назад +426

    The sad part is he will eventually see his mother's true colors and it will make him rethink his whole childhood.

    • @joybirdine5273
      @joybirdine5273 Год назад +25

      Most likely when he starts dating or gets married

    • @s_lopez8052
      @s_lopez8052 Год назад +28

      That boy shouldn't even be speaking because this is between the mom and sister and he has no idea of their relationship when he was born when she was 15

    • @liftedenergy3693
      @liftedenergy3693 Год назад +1

      @@s_lopez8052 who silenced you when you were a child?

    • @MScoachDANI
      @MScoachDANI 3 месяца назад

      Probably not, she was probably coddle him his WHOLE life

  • @keniasharpe1610
    @keniasharpe1610 Год назад +359

    Mama calmed down when she found out her daughter was not on drugs 😂😂😂

    • @pixelk8261
      @pixelk8261 Год назад +71

      Oh for sureeeeee. Her attitude switched like THAT bc she was proven wrong in front of an audience

    • @LovelyyyyyyDove
      @LovelyyyyyyDove Год назад +3

      Lmao 😂

    • @foreverANDalways1106
      @foreverANDalways1106 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@pixelk8261I think it was more relief that she was wrong and she can’t use that as a reason. She’s parenting in fear. And like Karamo said. She needs to now let go.

  • @necee11
    @necee11 Год назад +607

    The brother needs to just sit down and hush up. He clearly has no idea what is going on ...hes going off his mother's energy. The ending was the best part Lol Karamo says IT TOOK ME SOME TIME BUT WE GOT TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS SITUATION 🤗🤗🤗 Love me some Karamo!

    • @LJDiariess
      @LJDiariess Год назад +26

      Litterally because he said he doesn’t have. Relationship with his sister that’s sad

    • @pennypillow4445
      @pennypillow4445 Год назад +33

      the brother doesnt want to be the target of his mother's narcissism. he knows the mum is abusive to his sister but he doesnt care, hes too young to understand but im sure hes aware

    • @VONiiE8
      @VONiiE8 Месяц назад

      @@pennypillow444519 is not too young to understand abuse.

  • @TheREALQueenJay
    @TheREALQueenJay Год назад +645

    I love the way she articulates herself. You can tell she's done the work. 🖤

    • @e.l.c.4298
      @e.l.c.4298 Год назад +4

      I agree with you. Yes you can tell.

    • @tammiross6427
      @tammiross6427 Год назад +1

      Yes 🫶🏿

    • @battlerudee
      @battlerudee 4 месяца назад

      I mean being able to articulate can just be that…she is able to

  • @Omerftz
    @Omerftz Год назад +690

    The mom is a straight narcissist just like my mom...she scapegoats her daughter because she hates herself and hides behind her daughters mistakes to cover her own....Karamo I love you so much for this episode!

    • @prettygirltee8
      @prettygirltee8 Год назад +13

      EXACTLY!!

    • @sabrina21clark
      @sabrina21clark Год назад +12

      How does she scapegoat her daughter? By having custody of HER kids? How does she hate herself? She looks well, speaks well, isn't on drugs nor Marijuana, never been in rehab and never left her kids to be with a looser. I'm sorry for what happened to you. But not every mother/daughter problem dynamic is gonna be the same as yours. If you can't open up enough to see the difference here or at least see where the real problem is then you're not fully healed and should refrain from commenting on similar issues until you are. I understand a part of healing is relatability but you're only seeing from a narrow view. Prayers for you. 🙏🏾

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +7

      Also my mom is the pill popper not me she projects CONSTANTLY. I FEEL BAD FOR HER AND IM NOW NO CONTACT.

    • @andrenemurdock8288
      @andrenemurdock8288 Год назад

      @@jael-mariewade4510 you need to stop trying to play victim while slandering your mother. quit while you are ahead. you are just as toxic. stand up lady because this comment mean you are still sitting down.

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +19

      @Andrene Murdock with all due respect I have never said anything untruthful about my mother. You don't know us and you certainly don't know me. I have been on a good path for 2 yrs and my mother still continues to spread lies. Even now recently on my partner as well. My other siblings are now realizing the manipulative behaviors too. It is getting worse. You have never dealt with it so you don't know. I wish you well but please do not judge what you are not capable of understanding. Lying about child abuse is a serious thing and can ruin lives especially when things are made up. Cps did a recent visit with my kids and it came out that SHE is the only one who abuses them and lies on everyone else. WHY? I DONT KNOW AND IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE. She is also keeping my brother from currently going to college she will keep him home and control him as well. ✌️ I don't need you to understand I spoke my truth and I know the facts 💯

  • @Myshelleallen
    @Myshelleallen Год назад +295

    Boy bye! The brother is controlled by his mom . Her mom is full of it and I’m not sorry. I loved this so many people hold my pass against me it’s not fair! Baby girl keep doing you and take care of those babies !!

  • @nsenloo2685
    @nsenloo2685 Год назад +101

    The 19 years old is a mama boy’s who see everything through his mom eyes. We see their relationship is different the way she behaves when she look at him.

  • @smustipher
    @smustipher Год назад +48

    I LOVE how the mother came out and launched into an attack on the daughter. Kept up with accusation after accusation and denied ANY responsibility for the rift in the relationship. And the brother....a classic son husband. Tells his sister that she's "not a good person". Mom demanding a drug test, claiming that her daughter is "not emotionally present". Guess what, it isn't SAFE to be emotionally present in the presence of an abuser.

  • @klove7365
    @klove7365 Год назад +141

    I totally get where the daughter is coming from when she tells her brother you do not know mom like I know her. She like the boy has been brainwashed from his momma. I’m sure the mother treats him way better.

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +15

      Im glad some people can see what's going on. Scary shit and I look back and wonder why she do these things to me and then deny it. She would probably deny ever even being on the show🙄

    • @klove7365
      @klove7365 Год назад +2

      @@jael-mariewade4510 so sad I’ve seen these exact same things going on in my family.

    • @missluxxe6541
      @missluxxe6541 Год назад +6

      Frrrr it’s like they were bullying her up there

    • @klove7365
      @klove7365 Год назад +5

      @@missluxxe6541 she needs to just live her life without them.

    • @missluxxe6541
      @missluxxe6541 Год назад +3

      @@klove7365 agreed

  • @lisapolk9391
    @lisapolk9391 Год назад +84

    And she is right her brother do not know in the last 15 years he wasn't there.

    • @COURTNEYVCK
      @COURTNEYVCK Год назад +20

      Right he needs to sit down, shut up and stay out of it

  • @zohrabaybay
    @zohrabaybay Год назад +28

    The little brother needed to stay in a child’s place.

  • @carolinekamya2339
    @carolinekamya2339 Год назад +118

    boy - golden child - daughter - scapegoat - mom - narc big time

  • @MimiTthatsMe
    @MimiTthatsMe Год назад +185

    It seems as though the mother doesn't want to address what her daughter feels about her.... so she attacks her daughters motherhood

  • @melyblazegardens1883
    @melyblazegardens1883 Год назад +91

    This is the most genuine talk show host I’ve ever watched. He truly cares for his guest and audience. Karamo heals families and relationship’s and gives his guest the strength and tools they need to cut toxic people from their life.

  • @carolynwhite9975
    @carolynwhite9975 Год назад +301

    I know what it feels like when your parents want let you live down your mistakes, constantly holding your mistakes against you, never seeing the good , the improvements, achievements you have made.

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +17

      It's even worse when they try to secretly turn your kids and your lovers against you because of how they feel about you. But live and let live. Life must go on. Doubting yourself 24 7 can only happen if you allow them to change the way you feel about yourself. And we not doing that!!

    • @brittanyhunter3331
      @brittanyhunter3331 Год назад +2

      In reality, your parents hold you to a higher standard than they held themselves, and 9/10 made the same or worse mistakes themselves. I know mine have, yet they are so punitive and judgmental, and won't acknowledge all of the growth and achievement.

    • @kilambuchapula5955
      @kilambuchapula5955 Год назад +1

      But we’re all human so you can’t really blame your parents for feeling that way because you’ve been like that. But your parents also need to understand that you’re changing

    • @theobserver8
      @theobserver8 Год назад +2

      @@kilambuchapula5955 what exactly do you mean by that?

    • @kilambuchapula5955
      @kilambuchapula5955 Год назад +1

      @@theobserver8 it’s hard for people to understand that you’re changing when all they have seen is how you were. I’m not saying the mom is write but the has the benefit of doubt

  • @tcrump212IsLmbrJck_t
    @tcrump212IsLmbrJck_t 11 месяцев назад +40

    Jael is giving "FREE" energy.
    It's the WHOLENESS for me.

  • @tashacraig4999
    @tashacraig4999 Год назад +243

    I love the fact Jael is admitting to her mistakes. Stay focus love ❣️🌹❣️

  • @pennypillow4445
    @pennypillow4445 Год назад +61

    its not actually about the daughter, the mum is projecting everything she hates about HERSELF onto her own daughter. she sees her missed youth, all the nights looking after the daughter. mothers like this are vile, they know how to act in front of people but behind closed doors they are the most abusive

  • @unknownuser7064
    @unknownuser7064 Год назад +234

    I feel like her mom is ignoring how she feels and how she is trying to do better for herself and her kids

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +20

      She has always been like this and it's getting worse. She has made up the abuse accounts as well and I am tired of arguing and trying to prove myself. Me taking back control has caused her to completely lash out and now I'm no contact for my own mental sanity.

    • @mahoganyshanae6116
      @mahoganyshanae6116 Год назад +3

      @@jael-mariewade4510 I been through this as well. I cut my mother and sister out 3 years ago. Go on with your life u can do it

    • @torronbrown4107
      @torronbrown4107 11 месяцев назад +1

      My mom does the same

    • @britonyabanks
      @britonyabanks 6 месяцев назад

      Hang in there Love. You got this. You’ve done the work. We are so proud of you!!

  • @1tressaht
    @1tressaht Год назад +58

    That was exactly my family. It's actually scary. She was 15 when he was born. Of course he has no relationship and had a completely different mother.

  • @7Tiffany
    @7Tiffany Год назад +502

    I just want to say, if you are a parent who is struggling and you feel the need to contact CPS, do it! There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for support and resources!

    • @patricianyandoro5606
      @patricianyandoro5606 Год назад +20

      Do they allow you to take back your kids when you are ready

    • @davis5218
      @davis5218 Год назад +7

      I just want to say I definitely agree with your comment and my name is Tiffany Davis also so Hey Girl!

    • @7Tiffany
      @7Tiffany Год назад +1

      @@davis5218 Heyyy 💜

    • @keepingupwithtristan
      @keepingupwithtristan Год назад

      I WISH I HAD THE BALLS.......

    • @Prettypaid16
      @Prettypaid16 Год назад +4

      @@patricianyandoro5606 no it’s gonna take a minute

  • @FRANKIBABI_
    @FRANKIBABI_ Год назад +215

    I believe the daughter and the son is on his mom's side which means he's gonna move how his mom moves because him and his sister don't have a relationship it's like he don't even know her🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @sabrina21clark
      @sabrina21clark Год назад +3

      The son spoke on he and his sister's absent relationship. He didn't even speak on he and his mother's relationship. He also spoke about having to speak directly to CPS on separate occasions. Y'all see and hear what you want to!

    • @FRANKIBABI_
      @FRANKIBABI_ Год назад +11

      @@sabrina21clark no what he did was lie on here about CPS, let mee tell you something if CPS come 3 times you better believe some kind of action is gonna take place what he did was take his mother side.

    • @sabrina21clark
      @sabrina21clark Год назад

      @@FRANKIBABI_ not true. It depends on the severity of the case. And if there are family members that will help they will let them take the kids.

    • @thatonepersonyouknowtheper1741
      @thatonepersonyouknowtheper1741 Год назад +1

      @@sabrina21clark if he talked to cps that much and they still didn’t take her kids then the people calling cps were either lying about the situation or over exaggerating it. It’s super easy to get cps to take action when a mother is actually abusive. Even in cases where mothers aren’t abusive but lack finances they could lose custody. It seems like her mom was making false claims to cps, cps opened a case, talked to family and searched for evidence of abuse, didn’t find any, and closed the case.

    • @pixelk8261
      @pixelk8261 Год назад +2

      Also with sons of narcissistic mothers, they are often seen as the golden child that cannot do any wrong. The sons (especially little brothers) witness how disobeying the mother can escalate, and they want to avoid that conflict. It's also EASIER for them to avoid that conflict, bc the mom is usually much more lenient with sons - the mom sees her own self hatred in her daughter, so she projects onto her

  • @jael-mariewade4510
    @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +143

    I appreciate everyone's feedback. Happy New Year!

    • @sareyah_lxnai
      @sareyah_lxnai Год назад +16

      Happy new year!!! I hope everything is well for u and ur family❤

    • @makaylahenry79
      @makaylahenry79 Год назад +1

      You need to listen to your mother because when she’s gone no one is gonna love your kids like her. You may have been hurt in the past but your mother is right!

    • @christinalewis3635
      @christinalewis3635 Год назад

      .

    • @AminaBeans205
      @AminaBeans205 Год назад +3

      Why did you leave your kids with your mom if you think she’s toxic?

    • @anaisjohnson1880
      @anaisjohnson1880 Год назад

      Happy new years and God will Lead The WAY 🙏😇💪

  • @reddalchemy5970
    @reddalchemy5970 Год назад +121

    I literally stopped talking to my mother after the very last straw that broke my back. She treated me like crap growing up and never really showed any interest in me or showed any love for me at all. She always treated my brother like platinum and there was always a sense of hatred toward me. I felt horrible all the way into my adult years and a few years ago I finally had it. I Haven't spoke to her in at least 6 years, and have no idea if she is still living or not. During the coronovirus outbreak, and me living in Cali at the time, I did not get one single phone call or reach out from her or my family to even see if I was okay. I consider them to be strangers that I lived with and when people ask me about my "family," I say I am an Orphan. I have had such peace since breaking with them and live a nice and quiet life, with no drama at all.

  • @katherineraquelle1930
    @katherineraquelle1930 4 месяца назад +5

    I need to be on this show and bring my narc mom on it too 😊😂 lmao ❤

    • @victoriaaa4865
      @victoriaaa4865 4 месяца назад

      was just tellin my sister we need to bring our dad on here

  • @tatiunamatthews9145
    @tatiunamatthews9145 Год назад +46

    SOME PEOPLE TAKE THEIR OWN LIFE AND THEIR CHIDRENS WHEN THEY HAVE MENTAL BREAKDOWNS, This woman is trying and she is healing! Kepp up all your hard work. We all go through depression but brighter days are ahead.

  • @niqueness2988
    @niqueness2988 Год назад +68

    I believe the daughter and there is no reason for the mom to be saying horrible things behind her back. Why behind her back? Say how you feel to her face. That's shady.

  • @thephoenixrising4614
    @thephoenixrising4614 Год назад +43

    The minute the Mother said "I never did anything...."- Lies lady. Lies.

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +7

      Zero accountability for anything and never will. I love her but I had to let go and move on. At least now I know she thinks I'm a drug addict liar who abuses her kids. At least I got to hear it straight from her mouth and not other people. Closure was needed.

    • @334steven3
      @334steven3 Год назад +1

      @@jael-mariewade4510 I truly hope you’re at peace now!

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ Год назад

      @@jael-mariewade4510 just hope you don't run off with another man again an drop your kids off with your mom so you can be free

    • @poohchi6205
      @poohchi6205 Год назад

      Where is the lie? She take care of her kids. Y’all sooooo traumatized adults go see a dam therapist and stop blaming your parents

    • @thephoenixrising4614
      @thephoenixrising4614 Месяц назад

      @@jael-mariewade4510 I'm so happy for you. Healing, growth and closure. We as daughters deserve peace.

  • @ahearttoascend
    @ahearttoascend Год назад +88

    Go Jael go! I believe her. I wish nothing but more blessings, more health & healing, more open doors, & more happiness for her and her children. They deserve it!💕

  • @YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BOND
    @YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BOND Год назад +24

    I had to cut ties with a few family members... the generational curses, dysfunctional behaviors, toxicity mindset, gossiping lies, and their thoughts of who we are were uncanny... The grandparents said who we are, but once the generational transitioned, the next generation came up with a whole different story... I can't deal with all of that mess!

    • @CfrmBr
      @CfrmBr 9 месяцев назад

      Life is too short fa da unnecessary bs tbh

  • @LifeMyAsJoana223
    @LifeMyAsJoana223 Год назад +15

    It’s the fact she call the cps on herself because she was out of control and had nobody else to lean on!! leaving her kids with her mother would be a worst option than leaving them with a stranger!!! That says everything you need to know. Good job on holding yourself accountable! You are strong and beautiful 🌸 you did rehab and got the custody of your kids!!! She is doing more than fine 🌼 mom needs to stop using this narrative to control her. I would quickly move away from her.

  • @terrencehead6213
    @terrencehead6213 5 месяцев назад +5

    Her family is gaslighting her, making her seen crazy, they know exactly what there doing. 😮

  • @SweetUareDesi
    @SweetUareDesi Год назад +19

    This woman is hella self aware- damn❤. I want a girl friend like her🥇

  • @JillianSmall_ChildofGod
    @JillianSmall_ChildofGod 4 месяца назад +4

    Wow that son is full of it. He needs to take several seats. The mother is a toxic narcissist who is accusing her daughter of things she herself is guilty of. Unbelievable.

  • @t.antoinette2383
    @t.antoinette2383 Год назад +10

    If the mother is a true narcissist the son could very well be the Golden Child and have been manipulated by the mother to go against his sister.

  • @ClayMastah344
    @ClayMastah344 Год назад +19

    Unsurprised. Treat daughter like shit and gaslight her, treat boy like gold and use him against her, next caller.

  • @angelphilbert
    @angelphilbert 4 месяца назад +4

    The mother came to fight. Even her clothing shows how she wants to be combative. The brother is still living in the home with the mom. He truly cannot speak about things he knows nothing about. Jael should stay away from her mother. When the mother asked for Jael to do a blood test, she looked disappointed when she passed.

  • @candy123444
    @candy123444 Год назад +45

    This Mom said she's never done anything. She lost me right then. I believe the daughter. She stepped up and owned her mess. Her mother owned nothing. What I will give her is that she took her grand kids in. Mine did nothing for my child, so kudos to her for that, but she needs to face her faults.

  • @tracijvanderbilt7552
    @tracijvanderbilt7552 Год назад +30

    Whew chile us 80s baby mannnn our parents did a number on us and will never admit to their faults. I'm 37 and gave up on those conversations with my parents

    • @klove7365
      @klove7365 Год назад +8

      Yes they never will admit there faults ,then want to tell you how to raise your children

    • @dendenne4856
      @dendenne4856 Год назад +3

      And when you gave up on them, they complain because you never talk to them. This is an endless cycle, since I stopped trying with my mom my life is more peaceful

    • @tracijvanderbilt7552
      @tracijvanderbilt7552 Год назад +2

      @@dendenne4856 Mines is peaceful as well. I love my parents from a distance and nothing is wrong with that❤

    • @branbranshenanigans1693
      @branbranshenanigans1693 Год назад +3

      This!!!!! I'm 41 years old and still not entitled to my own opinion.

    • @sss_Shaq1496
      @sss_Shaq1496 4 месяца назад

      This is my mom’s situation. She’s an 80s baby with an abusive mom. My grandmother did apologize, especially when she was on her death bed. But it was too late because my mother still harbored hatred towards her.

  • @Brook-ct3kk
    @Brook-ct3kk Год назад +52

    Karami missed the mark! He never questioned the mother’s behavior

    • @PrettyColorsDoe
      @PrettyColorsDoe Год назад +5

      He realized they’re one in the same and stuck to the facts presented to him

    • @jolonda6961
      @jolonda6961 Год назад +10

      He always misses the mark! Always!

    • @fawn4271
      @fawn4271 Год назад +11

      He often misses the mark, just like with defending the pink sauce lady

    • @poohchi6205
      @poohchi6205 Год назад +1

      What behavior exactly that her daughter going through something that’s why she does not have her children? Bcuz she spoke about the situation? Bcuz CPS had to speak with the family? All I heard was the mother speaks facts. If you want to say inappropriate or rude that she explaining or answering a question …..oh well it’s fact. I would not bite my tongue. The truth is the truth sugar coat it or hide it for what? To protect the daughter feelings???? Did she consider her mother feelings dropping her kids off

    • @teegreen3909
      @teegreen3909 Год назад

      Yea he is basic

  • @MissTreStar
    @MissTreStar Год назад +38

    I never understood how people can “cry” without shedding a tear😳 sobbing, sniffling, blinking yet not a tear in sight. Sure comes in handy when you don’t wanna mess your makeup.
    Glad Karamo was able to get to the bottom of it though.

  • @brittbritt6857
    @brittbritt6857 Год назад +65

    BayBee, you did an awesome job getting both of them to agree to respect each other's space & trust each others headspace

  • @ThatGirlGiGiNYC
    @ThatGirlGiGiNYC Год назад +30

    We need to talk about the toxic relationships that African American women have with their moms…This is not surprising…I know a number of women who have cut their mother's off because of toxicity! Mothers are sometimes jealous of their daughters…but we dont want to talk about that!

  • @Aqua-sm5lf
    @Aqua-sm5lf 8 месяцев назад +2

    She say her mom is toxic but I bet no one else was going to step up to the plate to take care of those kids for her.

  • @sherikaofficial8079
    @sherikaofficial8079 Год назад +24

    I think there is so much more left unsaid between both parties , I don't think this is properly resolved

    • @jael-mariewade4510
      @jael-mariewade4510 Год назад +6

      You're right but half the stuff she had to say about me was the first time I was able to hear it from her mouth to my face so that was good to know she thinks I'm a pathological liar and bad mom. Bc I had only heard those things through other people before. So it let me have closure.

    • @wentoshiarichards1690
      @wentoshiarichards1690 Год назад

      @@jael-mariewade4510 I'm glad you and your kids are doing well ❤️‍🩹 You hold the power so this doesn't become a generation issue cut the toxicity out(mom, so called friends, siblings, whomever, and whatever) so ur not dealing with this from your children when they're grown I'll keep you in prayer God Bless you 🙏🏽

    • @insydi0us92
      @insydi0us92 Год назад +1

      That would take 3 episodes lol

  • @quianapreston8513
    @quianapreston8513 Год назад +17

    Daughter still looking for mother's hugs

    • @Kisses2die4
      @Kisses2die4 4 месяца назад +1

      Sadly it don’t happen often

  • @terrisilaphoenix3695
    @terrisilaphoenix3695 Год назад +6

    Jael needs to cut ties with her mother period and her brother. Live her own life. Bye mom.

  • @nakuro2686
    @nakuro2686 Год назад +6

    Damn kids born in the late 80s and 90s have been severely traumatized! Like damn!

  • @helenburke3499
    @helenburke3499 Год назад +6

    Back in 1977, I joined the women's army back here in the uk, to get away from my toxic mother...watching from the south east of England 🇬🇧

  • @onlythebrave4655
    @onlythebrave4655 Год назад +14

    my mother is a mess too.all ties cuts.

  • @dianamosley540
    @dianamosley540 Год назад +18

    He played around that mother/ brother jealous envious mean behavior
    I know I'm a mom with a first born man child that treats me this same way due to my horrible past choices in life😭
    Baby the struggle is real 😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @1991Meka
    @1991Meka Год назад +3

    7yrs ago I was very overwhelmed by life. I was MISERABLE at my job, behind on bills, and dealing with my child's unreliable father, all while being pregnant. So I was vulnerable with my only sibling and told her that sometimes I don't want to wake up she told me she was going to call CPS on me. Huh? I didn't say I was going to hurt my kids or myself. I said Iife is getting the best of me and I need a break. How about let me take the kids for a few days. Luckily, God held my hand through the storm and pulled it together.

  • @SlimBitchBam
    @SlimBitchBam Год назад +3

    Our generation, 90’s kids please let’s be conscious of how we love our kids PLEASE!!!!! We have to break this cycle. My daughter KNOWS I don’t play with her. But I listen to my child, I apologize to my child, I make her know she is a HUMAN and not just MY CHILD! I love her so much and I want her to remember our experience in a good way 😊😊. LETS HEAL!

  • @kathysneed4020
    @kathysneed4020 Год назад +5

    I celebrate this young lady for getting to a better place in life. And thanks grandma! I think both ladies have their truths. It’s hard dealing with folks who are on drugs, so grandma had a point. They both will do best by leaving the past in the past.

  • @yve747
    @yve747 Год назад +4

    I really enjoyed KARAMO SHOW..I love how he listens to his guest and how he comes out with the right results..He’s super handsome, so cool, compassionate, soft spoken and, Karamo treats all his guest so nicely and respectful,toward all his guests..Karamo Show is going to be around for a longtime..kudos to Karamo Show keep doing what you doing on your show..It’s helping many people’s..I will be watching all his videos..

  • @Matilda-re1wm
    @Matilda-re1wm 8 месяцев назад +4

    My mother would never even come on something like this. They act innocent but they know fine well what they’ve done. They’re very aware. They do know what they are.

  • @jvmcghee854
    @jvmcghee854 Год назад +15

    This story hits home now that I am older with my own children, motherhood is hard and no one is perfect- everyone has a past. I like the fact that Jael is standing in her truth and trying to do better. The mom for me has a past too so we don't know the whole story, but you can see that there are scars on both sides and the advice Karamo has given was spot on. In my opinion, cutting ties is never the answer because the trauma & issues will still there. It's all about establishing boundaries in relationships, whether its her mom, brother, her man.... she has to determine what she will and will not tolerate. If its space you need- take it. LOVE IS THE MEDICINE.

  • @bgipper4109
    @bgipper4109 Год назад +6

    There is no shame in making mistakes in your past, owning up to them, and then doing what you need to do to move forward. Mom is toxic, our mothers gave birth to us but that doesn’t make them a amazing mother. There is a difference.

  • @Poptartsthatareplain101
    @Poptartsthatareplain101 10 месяцев назад +2

    I love how the host really respected everybody in this episode. That is a good man and a good person.

  • @marierosario2773
    @marierosario2773 Год назад +8

    I love that he actually gives great advice

  • @salemhopson7676
    @salemhopson7676 Год назад +7

    I get so sick to my stomach watching this, but feel so seen. it's very bittersweet. this is the biggest example i can show of the difference in daughters and sons to their mothers.. And her brother has been an ear to all of his mother's grievances, and he doesn't know anything other than that or before him. it makes me so sick how he's been turned fully against her.

  • @trinityrae409
    @trinityrae409 Год назад

    I thought I loved Steve and Jerry etc and the subtle love yourself advice etc but this man hits different! So much truth in what he speaks.

  • @deliciahudson1529
    @deliciahudson1529 Год назад +10

    I feel her.... The grown daughter.

  • @sueparks-ld4ru
    @sueparks-ld4ru Год назад +2

    hes amazing and right the mother was just worried for her and the kids,i hope now they can fix all the problems

  • @veronicawiltshire682
    @veronicawiltshire682 Год назад +9

    I am so proud of the daughter, when you can see that you need help and make a decision you are going to get it, that is a big plus, your mother did not even congratulate you on getting this far, she is ready to say all the things you were doing, making it more difficult to more dangerous drugs, You are a beautiful person, hold your head high and do not let your mother pull you down if she was as good a mother as she is trying to say she is, she would have stopped smiling with her lies and hugged you for taking such a huge step to change for you and your children, only God knows what you went through as a child with her, she like she never like you. I am rooting for you so continue on this path, even if you can ease off the marijuana do it also....love that you took that step🙏🙏🙏❤

  • @CoffeeandCreamBookclub
    @CoffeeandCreamBookclub Год назад +3

    I like this show. The host is such a positive light.

  • @amsay9688
    @amsay9688 Год назад +27

    this video right when I needed it im currently having a headache depressed in my bed.

    • @pinkunicorn359
      @pinkunicorn359 Год назад +12

      I’m sorry to hear this but keep going and keep pushing. It’ll get better very soon, I promise 😘❤️

    • @jozey555
      @jozey555 5 месяцев назад

      SAME LOL

  • @mrs.reeves1006
    @mrs.reeves1006 Год назад +38

    So, Gmama is SO toxic she abandoned them in her care🤔

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ Год назад

      EXACTLY what I just said

    • @oceanbella
      @oceanbella Год назад +23

      I've seen this plenty of times, with my aunt for example... they would literally treat the grandkids way better than they treat their actual children it's weird..

    • @Marina-dl2bg
      @Marina-dl2bg Год назад +6

      @@oceanbella true. My mom was not a good mother but she is my sons favorite person.

    • @pariikayy6472
      @pariikayy6472 Год назад +1

      Yea My Mom Doesn't Love Me . Thats Just How I Feel But She Does For My Children But Me And Her Dont Get Along

    • @mrs.reeves1006
      @mrs.reeves1006 Год назад +1

      @Parii Kayy do your children feel the same about you? What dysfunctional characteristics have you corrected to prevent a similar relationship between you and yours? Children emulate what they see, hear and experience.

  • @vivicasmith5376
    @vivicasmith5376 Год назад +18

    The mom probably takes care of the brother still so he has no choice but to side with the mom

  • @antanaejones7373
    @antanaejones7373 Год назад +30

    She left her kids to run off with a man??

    • @_bucket_head_bihh9830
      @_bucket_head_bihh9830 Год назад +25

      She was in the wrong state of mind its a lot of cases of women running off with men, so I understand what she was coming from.

    • @longbranch11207
      @longbranch11207 Год назад +7

      Yet she wants to
      Blame her mother and make her mother out to be this monster while she ran off leaving her kids. Her mother had to take them in she sounds ungrateful to me

    • @iamidrac
      @iamidrac Год назад +21

      @@longbranch11207she acknowledged she was wrong y’all aren’t listening, the mom still did something to her and won’t acknowledge that

    • @334steven3
      @334steven3 Год назад

      @@longbranch11207 y’all really dumb asf. She held herself accountable and blamed herself for that mistake. Gtfo.

    • @yellej3314
      @yellej3314 Год назад +4

      @@longbranch11207 She said her mom was abusive beforehand, she had to go through something at home to make her do that in the first place. She is repeating her moms mistakes, classic case of generational curses but the point is she changed & her mom keeps bringing up the past when she is doing fine now. She already paid repercussions & seems like shes in a good place now.

  • @castrolauraand5588
    @castrolauraand5588 Год назад +9

    She's playing in the victim triangle. We all fall in those patterns when our family has been unhealthy, we have been programed to fail in that way. They will fight to keep us acting like that. It's better to separate to truly heal

    • @COURTNEYVCK
      @COURTNEYVCK Год назад

      Who’s playing the victim triangle? The mom or the daughter?

    • @lifeofneacy3891
      @lifeofneacy3891 Год назад +3

      @@COURTNEYVCK I would said the mother is

  • @mariacrouch7109
    @mariacrouch7109 Год назад +14

    What matters is now and that what counts and parents aren't perfect they make mistakes they either fix them mistakes or they don't

  • @deliciahudson1529
    @deliciahudson1529 Год назад

    By the 4th minute when she described her mom, hits home a little.

  • @rororidley5829
    @rororidley5829 Год назад +5

    I thank the Universe for my mother. ❤

  • @SharonPHolliman
    @SharonPHolliman 2 месяца назад

    I LOVE HER ATTITUDE FOR LIFE!!!!
    GOD KNOWS THE REAL TRUTH AND HE WILL AVENGE THE RIGHTEOUS JUSTLY.❤❤❤

  • @mines5033
    @mines5033 Год назад +44

    Her mom didn't have to care for her kids when she ran off either. They both need help

    • @papinaomi7808
      @papinaomi7808 Год назад +3

      She didnt but she chose to

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ Год назад +12

      EXACTLY my point, if her mother was so bad why leave them there

    • @julianna0404
      @julianna0404 Год назад +2

      @@heathab...._-_ Based off all the things going on in that part of her life, i don't think she had the money for a nanny for 2 years . Lol

    • @Sabrewood13
      @Sabrewood13 Год назад +4

      @@heathab...._-_ she probably didn’t wanna drive off the cliff with them

    • @ashwiththebash6905
      @ashwiththebash6905 Год назад +6

      Mothers who did wrong by their children tend to look for a second chance through their grandkids

  • @Ms.GeminiBabe
    @Ms.GeminiBabe Год назад +4

    Wow what an amazing story ❤I’m going through similar things with my mom 😢

  • @latashalogan8502
    @latashalogan8502 Год назад +21

    Your show is so good but so short! Please give us longer episodes

  • @armenthiagarmon
    @armenthiagarmon Год назад +4

    The brother was born when she was 15 a really critical age of a young girl who needs and wants the attention of her mother. What may seem trifling to one maybe paramount to another, especially in a child. Girls tend to be more vocal than boys, emotions can be all over the place. I think mom and daughter needs stop judging each other for the past and in their future come up with a workable plan for their future.

  • @mayawilkins9365
    @mayawilkins9365 4 месяца назад +1

    as someone who WAS the golden child of a narcissist parent, he will realize everything that his mom was telling him was just to divide and accomplish her own ulterior goals. She wants him on her side to vouch and verify HER perspectives based on “experiences” she’s fed him about his sister. like she said she’s had to live and deal w her mom over a decade before him.

  • @ablacksquare
    @ablacksquare Год назад +9

    I was mad confused at first. Karamo hit the nail on the head.

  • @katherinegruber499
    @katherinegruber499 Месяц назад

    Reminds me of my mom. I recently cut her off. She played the victim the whole time in group therapy. She was crying about how she helped me so much with my kids and did nothing wrong. She also talks terribly about me to other people and is extremely controlling. My mom told me my sister doesn’t care about me and my kids and is jealous of us. Enough was enough.

  • @sabrina21clark
    @sabrina21clark Год назад +22

    These days everyone wants to feel bad for the adult child and vilify the elder parent. And in some cases it's warranted. But this case is quite simple. If the adult daughter thought her mother was so toxic and wants to cut ties with her why does she have custody of her children??? Why are they with her 5 days a week to go to school? How you gonna cut ties with someone who has your children 5 days a week? If the title was at all true she would have come on the show saying "I'm gonna keep my kids at home with me and they won't go back to their grandma's because she's toxic, emotionally manipulative and I'm cutting ties with her." Period! But as we see, that's not the case. Her mother seems quite stable and straight forward, is doing a great job seeing to her grandchildren that she doesn't HAVE to! The adult daughter seems spoiled and needs to prove herself to her children. She's placing the blame of her mistakes on her mother who is bearing the burden of her kids. Ridiculous! Grandma didn't walk away from her kids and run off with a guy. SHE did. We're definitely in the time where people make what's good evil and what's evil good. The Bible says it would happen and children will be against their parents. That's all this is. And she can't in one breath say "you're being controlling and emotionally manipulative and need to take a step back from being over protective or scared" and in the next breath throw up in her mom's face "well if that's the case, you have legal custody of my kids so why didn't you do something, you also have a responsibility to them" bih what??? Now if THAT ain't some emotional manipulation! See y'all don't catch this ish because you're too busy blaming the matriarchs and coddling the self proclaimed grown brats! And to Karamo, how is she gonna back all the way up when she has ALL of HER kids???

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ Год назад +5

      EXACTLY everything you said

    • @jamesgibson3716
      @jamesgibson3716 Год назад +5

      Whoooooo!!!! You are making too much sense here..the last thing she needed was to become a single mother. It's hard enough taking care of yourself. People gotta make better choices.

    • @ariamarshall5161
      @ariamarshall5161 Год назад +3

      🎉THANK YOU!!!!! I’m reading the comments like are we all watching the same show?

    • @poohchi6205
      @poohchi6205 Год назад +2

      Thank you, you said it better

  • @mines5033
    @mines5033 Год назад +12

    Cut ties? What about when and if she needs her to TAKE her kids again???

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ Год назад +3

      EXACTLY because it seems to me a man is more important then her kids

  • @reginaharrigan7454
    @reginaharrigan7454 Год назад +17

    Her mom full of it and her brother seems like a mom's boy good luck with that

  • @killinmesoftly5417
    @killinmesoftly5417 9 месяцев назад +1

    On God it’s like watching my life play out with someone else as me in a play. This is triggering to me on so many levels my mom does the same thing. Tell me I’m a great mom but tell my family other wise. Lord I need to be on the show to find out why my mom does the same thing. 😢😢😢😢😢

  • @truself108
    @truself108 Год назад +8

    I believe tht the mom genuinely loves her kids and grandkids, but she has probably been taught some toxic behaviors that she hasn't recognized yet. The same is happening with the son. The mom has painted a bad image of his sister. But overall I think they all have some work that needs to be done

  • @mahoganyprather3298
    @mahoganyprather3298 Год назад

    You gave her a good encouragement❤❤❤

  • @gibsontaxes3344
    @gibsontaxes3344 Год назад +3

    If she cuts her mom out, does she still want the mom to watch the kids? I'm so confused. Others I know who feel as she does, take their children once their life has improved. She says she is appreciative of her mom, but not really.

  • @inukoko2012
    @inukoko2012 Год назад +14

    Idk I’m kinda believing the daughter more. I think the son has a great relationship w/ his mom so he’s gonna take her side. He’s 15 yrs younger than his sister & he doesn’t know what his mom and sister went through before he was born. Maybe the sister should just continue getting help, taking care of her kids & cut her mom out her life. It’s a reason she feels that way…..the mom isn’t innocent.

  • @diamonddb
    @diamonddb Год назад +2

    Whew!! She described my mother! Which is why I cut mine off and refuse to look back.

    • @bem6344
      @bem6344 Месяц назад

      My mom so toxic! I'm tired of trying. I feel your pain!!

  • @jollymollyramram9702
    @jollymollyramram9702 Год назад +2

    Her mother is very overbearing - shutting down any attempt from her daughter to address how she feels. Very cold. And the brother, maybe he was nervous, but he came across a bit cocky and may have been fed some lies about his sister to be like this.The daughter seems like a good person I just hope she doesn’t smoke weed in front of her children. That’s unacceptable in my opinion, just as with cigarettes. Always take that outside.

  • @judylett5090
    @judylett5090 Год назад +1

    her story is t embarrassing its empowered to others ....she shared determinations

  • @zeina2409
    @zeina2409 Год назад

    To anybody who has one or multiple toxic person in their lives, please I'm begging y'all to leave, leave and cut the ties because they will never change. It's their veins, and sadly it takes a LOT to change a very deep and toxic behavior/personality. If I can picture it, it would be the same as uproot a 100 years old tree, the roots are so deep in the ground that it's better to leave it as it is.. Leave as soon as you can, take any opportunities and leave !! And DO NOT feel ashamed, do not because if they understood, loved and respected you I promise you they will never acted that way. They would change right away after you explain to them what words or actions from them harmed you..
    May all of us live peacefully and successfully, we all deserve love, abundance and respect ! Love y'all and wish you good luck 🤞🏽🤍

  • @tara_oscar2
    @tara_oscar2 Год назад +2

    She loves her son more than her daughter.. She maybe even dislikes the girl