123. What is the dumper feeling?
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- In this video Rory talks about what the dumper goes through after a breakup. This video can help you get your ex back by using some of the knowledge of what the dumper is going through to ease your own worry. Make sure to continue to focus on yourself!
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my ex reached out when i started seeing someone else. just move on everybody, there are better people out there for you.
Yes you're right and you don't see the quality of other people when you're in the cage with the lion! Yep they're your ex for a reason!
@@Kal.El1 Well I was the dumper but I feel great. No more Cluster B drama. She'll never get as good as me. She never did in her prime so definitely won't now. I'm imprinted on her and it's her loss. Yes you're right the next supply will be of much poorer quality!
@@Kal.El1 My situation is that I have a woman who is quite obsessed with me. I caught her driving past my work a few months ago and know she tried to hoover me a few weeks after that. Like I've mentioned before she's an Alpha widow and I know enough about her to know that she must still be hurting after all this time. My friends have always said she will try and find a way back BPD do, but to me it's her loss and my freedom. Enjoy your life and love yourself first.😎
Happy Me borderlines just do the same shit all over again . They can’t love anyone, not even themselves nor biological family. They are incapable of it. I know! Because I loved one and he just couldn’t love me back nor love anyone. Terrible illness.
@@Happy-Me. Well I agree the dumper is many times better off. I am sure you thought about leaving her before you.actually left. Sometimes we need to find someone more compatible and appreciates us.
I love it when Rory says “ leave them 100% ALONE” And i stand by that statement
She didn't hurt me....she opened my eyes
Same, She dumped me because she pleaded with me to get my life together. I wouldn't of until she broke up with me
myownpeace Preach
@@moussafusa So happy for you guys, I left my bf od 2years who I loved dearily for the same reason, and i HOPE he eventually gets his life together, the same as I hope for myself :)) It was tough and my heart's been breaking for awhile now...
Victoria Qhdudb I haven’t gotten back with her I’m hoping that’s why she did. I’m glad she did though bevause I’ve changed everything around
@@moussafusa That's exactly what I was saying.. Even though I know he feels hurt and broken now..I hope he will look back one day and realise it was for the better for both of us.. :))
No contact is brutal, its equal to drugs withdrawl. My best advice is try to completely remove the source, after around the 2 months mark you will feel way better because your brain will normalize and get used to being on your own again but before that you will seriously go through a lot of pain. Just hang in there, by the time you hit either the 3 months mark or summer, you will be healed, I promise :)
Cant wait still feeling like damn plus I'm dating another woman but still I keep thinking of my X and I kissing when she said she needs space and give it time been in NC for 4 months and been apart from her 7 months now. I need close your I just that my brain trying to hold on smfh.
@@darylcampbell5952 I know that feeling so well... in case she did the break up you need to give her space and also get your mind off her, should be actually easier if you are dating someone new. The mistake I did was obsessing over facebook and whatsapp, just delete the app from your phone and her as a contact from whatsapp, trust me on this one. The thing is you see, you probably dont miss her as the person she is but rather what she represents to you, like the sex, warmth and comfort. Try to make peace with you and the feeling will vanish trust me you will be fine :)
Thanks 💪😌 but that last kiss got me very CONFUSED smh
You can't promise that, you don't know that. It is different for every person, depends on how much the person meant. It can very it isn't always 2-3 months. Not true, for women it is 5-6 years and guys 2-3 and for me it was over 20 years.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
When they reach out after no contact you don't want them back. No contact allows you to heal, grow, and move on. Don't go back. They're not going to change.
Speak for yourself fool.
@@jackassfat mine came back as she realised what a good guy I am I liked her but she broke that bond so I won't take her back she needs to learn and reflect on what she did, she can always have her two ex's who cheated on her back so good riddance to her. They always treat the cheaters well and the good guys they try to break
unless they were immediately I broke a girls heart when I was 15 and didn't give any shits im almost 19 and sinse I've been like 16 I've been really emotional and mature and I'm I went vegetarian when I was 16 and I'm even vegan now but what I'm saying only applies to if ur immature from not being old enough
but ud probably still have to fall in love with them again because you had feelings for them when u were immature (of course if you broke up with them and like cut them off)
Of course they can change. If you're changing and you're growing during that time, who are we to say that they are not in the process themselves?
Somebody dumps you - erase them from your life. Delete pics, throw away presents, delete number, don't even mention them in conversation. Have some self respect damnit.
Couldn't have said it better!!👏
Getting dumped doesn't automatically mean that the dumper was in the wrong. Maybe you were too afraid to do it. In my opinion it is unfair to blame the dumper for ending a relationship that he thought didn't work out anymore. Respect that opinion.
people shouldn't get in relationships if they're Not sure what they want and if Some thing is wrong why not let the person know? Instead of saying it's not You it's me that's what's happening a lot even if both are in the wrong the dumper should admit the truth to the break up it's Not about who was in the wrong or not it's about Hurt feelings!👌
@@kaiana3047 true indeed. But still there's not always discretion from your partner after mutliple times of telling them what in fact is wrong inside the relationship. Many times the dumper didn't do any wrong or disrespect his partner by ending a relationship. It could very well also just be better for the relationship between them. That can even be the case if one of the two or both are still in love with each other.
But yeah I get the point you're trying to make.
@@tigrex_gamer every break up is different some dumpers don't do it to hurt you and maybe it really has some thing to do with them but like I always say the situation depends on who u attract and if they are still in love why not work it out? Why move on but anyway that's the last of what my opinion for this video is
I was the dumper and that is exactly how everything went down from beginning to end its amazing
@julieeee1111 I did reach out and she was in a rebound relationship and during the time she was in the relationship I started to actually enjoy my single life so I maintained being single even after she contacted me back 3 months later I told her that I was happy being where I was at and now I'm just happy being me
@@johnkehm7331 After how long did you reach out to your ex?
Ex checks up on me after breaking up with me
@AMOreflection333 bruh
I used to worry about him going to someone else but I realized everything happens for a reason and I was blessed to have him removed out of my life he only used me and I knew it but my self worth was very low
Petrina Sunshine Louis good for you ❤️
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
From my experience, the first 3 months dumpers don’t give a rats ass bout ya.it seems like once you’re healed or moving on they reach out to you
Ha, ha. I hope you are wrong. I dumped him. It has been 2 months and life has never been better. I hope my poor judgement doesn't return and I reach out.
Ps. Sorry you are on the other side. Been there too. It sucks. Both positions suck. Break ups are lame!
Sandra Chatwin lol there’s a reason you are watching this video 🤔
@@stillencharger yeah, I started watching videos like this back in 2014 when I got dumped by someone I really loved. They helped me get through that. Going through another break up now and they help so much, for either party.
Sandra Chatwin smart girl, my breakup is so unique its something that you only will see it in a soap opera, all my friends tell me to write a book about it, but I will say I’m the strongest person physically and mentally, I did not know I was capable of all the thinks I’m able to do, and yes you are right these videos a good source to keep your life in check, to be honest this break up was the best thing that ever happen to me, I wish my ex all the best to live a happy and healthy life.
3 months...? god how am i gonna wait that long.. its been 3 weeks and i want to kill myself.
I woke up this morning obsessing about my ex and her rebound. This video is exactly what I needed to hear today. I have a day off and I'm gonna go out and have some fun.
Go for it! Keep climbing for a better tomorrow and more adventures, my friend 😉
Take comfort in the fact that he is a rebound, and likely will get dumped himself. Also, chances are he's fucking up royally, if he's like 97% of all men. Also, she will be comparing him to you every step of the way. The minute that guy really messes up, expect to hear from her. In the mean time, do not wait, but improve yourself. The new improved you might not want her back at all. Keep up the good fight!
@Nas Nalbaz same man
Actually i do no contact with my ex for 1 month,and she got into a rebound with one of her friend right after we broke up..then i heard that they broke up now,and she started to used my gift again..but she hasnt reach me yet,i dont get it
Hey.. How are you right now
31 days of NC. This hurts more than anything I've ever experienced.
Hows it going now. I am also in no contact. But for myself. She absolutely has no clue what she is going to miss with me. But that is fine. I was too kind and warmhearted also. Some women are simply more horrible than you think can be. I have thus no expectation from the one who broke up with me. There is a likelihood that she will contact me. But Im not certain anymore about wether to do anything about it. Because I stood for your relationship like a rock, where she was going from 4 months of heaven from both ends, to 4 weeks after that of nothing but confusion, blaming, evasion, not messaging back, a week no contact for her (which hurt me a lot not knowing anything because she left me lingering like that), not actively engaging in solving anything. Just no goodwill, no way to reason with her and so on. She made it frankly impossible for me. And that is something like 10 red flags when looking at having a really amazing relationship that she crossed. So basically that would never work. If she comes back, I will without question have to confront her with that and that I can never be in a relationship with someone who can be like that. Then it will depend if she is able to see that and fight for being very differently from there on.
But as I said. I give that a small chance. So in the meantime I focus fully on myself. Reflected endlessly, checked 1001 video's, read books. To know my flaws and her flaws, what they mean, and so on. It also made me much more sure about that what I did was in no way something that cannot be solved (very few incidental minor differences between me and her, which she blew up), and her continuous horrible ways of 4 weeks straight of dealing with the relationship like that, spitting on everything else and reducing all the goodness we had to a single thing. That I cannot forget.
@@Ptolemy336VV Its day 91 of NC and she hasn't reached out. Its going to be nearly 8 months since the breakup. Your person sounds A LOT like mine. Now that I have had this time apart from her, i have realized that everything she did to me and how she ended things had also more to do with her own self than what I was doing to her in the relationship. I was good to her. I really was. If I was a piece of crap, I would not be hurting as much as I am right now because I would accept the things that happened as a "that's what you get for treating her the way you did, you piece of crap" but I didn't treat her badly. Yes, I wasn't perfect and I did do the annoying things that other guys do to their significant others and like every person, there were things I could improve on but I was not a horrible person to her and did not deserve to be broken up with the way I was. My story is similar to yours but I don't want to go into the details because it's just going to hurt again. I have been doing good for the past 3 days without crying but up u til last month, I cried every damn day. I can go a few days without crying but eventually i think too much and the feelings and thoughts just catch up and I am on the floor in tears. I also believe she will reach out to me. The last time we communicated was me telling her that I had all the rest of her things packed up and I could meet her somewhere to give them to her and so she could give me my belongings back and after this I would respect her wishes and leave her life for good (I still wanted her in my life because the problems we had were not horrendous issues and they were little things we could work on together to fix but when somebody dumps you, they want you to exit their life and I was not going to keep trying to be with somebody who didn't want me so I was respecting her wishes and wanted to exchange items to close the door for good). She agreed and said "I can't this weekend but lets meet up next weekend" and I said "Okay, please let me know when you know you will have time" and she said "Okay, I will. I hope you have a good tay today". I wished her a good day as well and then I never heard from her again. It's been over 3 months since that last text exchange and "next weekend" has never came.
I think she doesn't even know what she wants. The items we have of each other are the last thing keeping us connected. After we give each other our things back, its over for good. She doesn't want to finish things and that is why she never contacted me. Either that, or she is done for good and is going to keep my things and doesn't want her things back. In either case, I am working on myself and am reading a lot of self- help books and am exercising and eating healthy. I weighed 300 when the breakup happened and I have lost 47 pounds. I am falling apart emotionally and I am still in a lot of pain but I feel great physically. Hopefully things work out for me in the end regardless if I get my ex back or not. I won't take her back unless she works on herself as well though. She had her own issues that caused the relationship to fall apart and she made me feel like I was the one to blame. Please don't let this destroy you like it has done to me. I am a wreck and i would not wish this on anybody. I am glad you are working on yourself. Keep it going and don't stop.
You seem like a good person(like me), thats how we end up bro, accept the fact that she ain't coming back and stop acting like a pussy over little things just don't give a fuck we are men and we lack emotions, a man should love his ambitions not a women that's a big turn off, grow some balls and man the fuck up!
20 days today but my ex is still messing with my head blocked me everywhere but her username is now broken heart wtf
If someone leaves you once they might leave you again
They will
I sadly agree
Yes I agree
I agree. Cheated on me and gave another chance however he left me again saying he fell out of love
There is a lot of honesty and dignity about dumping people face to face, it's hard because (as often is the case) it's the right thing to do, 1000 time better than just ghosting someone.
CoolJL I think at least a text or warning some people think it’s a win to make people feel like shit tbh
Absolutely agree, tried many times to make plans, he always kept giving excuses, spending time with Dad, Mom not feeling well, daughter needs her car fixed. I didn't give it a second thought, next thing I knew, he moved another woman, (coworker) into his house. What? There is no end date. It's been 3 years, I'm finally coming out of being in shocked. We work in the same building, I finally asked why, he said we weren't on the same page, not even the same street. We dated for years, I said, let's get a house together, he said no, he wasn't moving. I excepted that. We still dated for years after, then 3 years ago is when things went south. He never said a word, just moved her in, she's now the cook, the maid and anything else He Wants her to be. I would never do this to anyone. If I was ending a relationship, I would be direct & honest. Did request a closer meeting, he agreed, 35 minutes of my life I'll never get back. He wanted me to move into his house that he shared with his ex wife, I just couldn't do it. I wanted our own place. Slowly putting my life back together.
I have been dumped that many times, I don't think I could ever have sympathy for the dumper.
that’s exactly what she is doing- partying every weekend which she never did before.... it makes me angry and hurts because she doesn’t seem to care at all anymore....as if 2,5 years meant nothing and never happened....
Same here bro. Been about a month since then and its like 2.5 down the drain with no remorse smh
Update?
Stay strong y’all.. I’m here with y’all 😢
Update? 2.5 years was also trashed. Never heard of him or what hes been upto since i blocked him in social media as he requested
Why does most relationship turns sour at 2 or 2.5 years mark? Me too 😭
It's been a week and a day since I got dumped. I just keep moving... don't stop. But I had a fever and was bedridden for the last few days and that gave me time to think. And it hurt so much. He reached out three days ago but I replied as much as what was needed. I miss him too but I will not let him walk all over me... not anymore, especially after he was the one who broke things off. Thank you for your video, I will go and live my best life now ☺️
knoxxis people need more forgiveness. If he’s being genuine then maybe hear him out nobody is perfect
After the breakup, and I focus to grow myself, I found myself hard to deal with immature and players in dating app, so I deleted dating app and focus in reality, its much better lol
This only applies in certain relationships.. Some dumpers acknowledge that they’re hurting you and they are okay with it. They can live with it, they move on and start seeing new people. They don’t ever contact you again, and that’s that. This whole “rebound/contact you again, emotional regression” is not always the case. Some people simply never loved you and you were just the clown lol
True
That's very true if they never contact you back it just shows they never really cared or even missed you enough to reach out. Some people are cold-hearted which is why I have trust issues
Although I'm well over this stage of the process, I stopped what I was doing to listen to you because it's what everyone should do Rory! :) Keep up the good work!
If you feel they ain’t giving you 100% dumping isn’t always a bad thing..
When I look back at the few weeks before the break up, I can clearly see his struggles, and I found myself sympathizing for him. The first three weeks or so were a constant rain of tears it was painful and still so but now so much so now. I also thought "wow I would never do to someone what was done to me" Rory is so right on he must feel so free and happy. Right now I think how I want him to be happy even if it doesn't include me. All I can do now is focus on myself. I am so appreciative of your videos, they have helped clear up the fog in my brain, so thank you!
i needed this Thanks my man Rory, my ex actually contacted me a little over a month ago, of course during no contact I focused on the gym, work, school, some hobbies I neglected ( reading books, comics, and gaming ) .When I do interact with her I keep it short be playful and positive. I did ask her out but she doesn't give concrete answers just a I'll let you know I do sense some hesitation tho, but I just keep working on myself, hell she didn't do any indirect approach, she directly messaged me ( by unblocking me lol randomly too ) and asked me how I was doing. If she wants to spend time with me she'll let me know until than, I'll continue doing me. P.S; you are the MAN Rory gives great advice, a dog lover and Zelda fan ;)
Stop giving af people! Honestly it works !
junesdairyVevo When I tried to be faithful and make things workout just blew up in my face 🤦🏽♂️ stuff sucks. One of the hardest things for me to do was change my ways of being a player.
Aww
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I have found that it takes about half the amount of time that you were together to get over it! That sucks but I was in a relationship for a little over 2 years and have been apart with no contact for 11 months. I would never go back now but a few months ago I probably would have. Thank God she is out of my life!
My ex dumped me when our daughter was born. I was emotionally and mentally devastated. I want to be in my daughter's life. I don't want to get back together with my ex. I am ready to be in a relationship as a single father.
your advice is so dead-on, this channel is awesome
This! Going through a 6 yr breakup and now i see him doing reckless behavior like smoking with females and what not. I was hurt but now i realized hes not worth it and karma will soon get to him. You can tell hes hurt by acting cool but we both know that its not gunna last all that fun..
Michelle N I remember you sis. I re-watch this video again. My ex reached out saying he misses me, will be in my town, wants to meet up then disappear....
Action speaks louder than words. I’m done with his shit. I deserve someone who values my time.
i told my ex the whole "if this won't change i don't see a future with you and i'd have to break up and kick you"
she dumped me instead to kinda do it on her terms instead of trying. did at my favorite gas station by my job after i got out of work in front of all of her friends the day after christmas.
Just carry on, she sounds like a great person
No contact period! The arrogance sealed the deal, I would never go back. If you couldn’t respect me the first time, why would I think you’ll respect me the 2nd time? I have way too much respect for myself and my energy. 🤔
Shieron2468,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!
Thank you Rory! Today was a good day, it’s always up and down but so glad I heard this on an up day ❤️❤️❤️
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Stop giving a shit, that always works. Thank you again Rory, your videos helped me a lot, I'm finally healing.
Some video ideas I'd love to hear about:
- What if the break up was mutual?
- emotional unavailability/distance
- what if the relationship was hurt by outside factors, long distance, parents not approving, friends making pressure and so on?
Comin' right up!
@@TheLoveChat hey what if you initiated the break up (heat of the moment type thing) and you did all the begging pleading straight away and they just went cold on you straight away and acted indifferent, like somehow I feel as if I was broken up with because of the rejection.
Keeping this short. Post 2 mo breakup. 8 yr relationship & live together. Did 3 weeks NC. Was a complacent male/dumpee. Back sleeping in same bed. Hot/cold behavior. Had great sex 5 of last 7 days! Made self 1st priority, quit drinking, lost 40 lbs, and working 3 jobs.
Now, dealing w/ breadcrumbing, other men in her life chasing her, & even attacking me on FB cuz they know she is free now... Being strong, not responding negatively, or making myself seem jealous or weak...
My strength and mind/hearts power are depleting & need advice?
TIA
Congrats on your weight loss. People who mock you on FB over this woman are not your friends..block them. You want a woman who wants you. Guys chasing her boosts her ego. Focus on yourself. When you think of her cut the cord. Change your thoughts. When I thought of my guy I would go ride my bike. It helped.
Been watching some of these videos. Excellent content, and a remarkably ear-friendly voice. I think you were born to speak in RUclips-videos.
The comments on these videos are evidence to why so many of us struggle with love. We have to humble ourselves.
Wow, this is why I got dumped.. I didn't bring enough to the relationship and I was warned. Now I'm sick and I miss her badly...
Give it about 2 months... you will feel better.... been through it on month 3 atm.... you will still think a iut her all day everyfay but it wont hurt as much....
@@jaydang9855 maybe they'll eventually.reach out
@@ett2 maybe but by that time you would have probably moved on by then and want to experience new things as well... just make sure you learn from this... always cherish those who love you because no matter how much they love you, eventually, their feelings for you will fade over time and they will end the relationship...
What do you mean?
Same happened to me, but my thing was I couldn't bring enough to the relationship during that time. I told her honestly that I wasn't fully ready for a relationship. I loved her soo much and I know she did to. I just hope she knows that I couldn't be the best possible boyfriend at the time, but I know I could be
My ex left me, his dad accidentally texted me recently and I haven’t texted him since 2017, I find that strange it’s been 5 months since my ex and I nc..
Update
I know my ex for 5 years and we lived together for 3 years as I move to her country we lived each others she even said she can't imagine her self with other guy but all was lie and feeling at that moment well when I move to her country we get house in same street where her brothers live but surprise and shocked that her family all drug dealers growing weeds in deferent houses and her family wants me to be part of the busines I refuse and they start putting drugs in our house as they all have keys and I fill out with them all and I asked my wife let's move from here and get other house she said don't worry they say they will never come to our house and they will leave us alone I was OK then but after a month she she messaged me while I was at work she said my brothers said we have to move from here I said OK I save money it took me a month to offored deposit and rent they we find house I was happy and she was just pretenting she's happy the. In that first month in the new house she start bringing her coworker to have affair in my bed and I didn't know but I realised something going on as she didn't fix her cloths and everything still in bags I was stupid didn't know was game that she plan with her family then one day I was tired didn't feel going work as I do night shift she was no you have to go to work I said yeah I should go I was just tired but we need the money then I see that she was texting and when ever I'm next to her she hide phone and I can hear text but she don't answer unles I pretend going ckitchen or something then she can replay back then I was about to go to work I left my laptop recording voice I don't want yo say what I heard when u play the audio I wasent surprised because I know it's game then i went to bed next to her she wake up she look like divel in her eyes I said who was here last night she said wtf u don't trust me there was no one what are you talking about I said OK I play the audio you know what she did she said we breakup and move now and she called her brothers and she pack my suatcase and she said go now before my brothers arrive well I know if her brothers come at that time I would of missed up with them all so I left where I have no where to go all doors closed in my way I stayed at friend for 2 days till I found accommodation now it's almost 2 months she blocked me from everywhere and after few weeks she email me with angr and she said home back to your country if you report my family to the police you get in trubel I don't know what trubel she talk about and now my visa will end in 3 months and she don't want to cancel it now because if she do she will think I will put all of them in deep shit, it really hurts how I loved this girl we had so much together memories holidays laughs and we both in real love as she always pot on fb I'm in love with my husband she was very proud of me and one day she become monster I don't think I will ever get her back as she hates me for no reason well reason is because I didn't take the her familes offer its like be like us or u won't have ur wife. Now I have some friends are her friends in fb telling me she have someone ales and she seems happy and posting things about me like I was bad guy selfish and he don't deserve me, trust me guys when you dumped everyone will leave you even close friends you will find yourself alone and you even lose your mind of thinking what hell happened to me but watching thoes videos wake me up I'm more better then her and I deserve the best I'm very proud of my self I didn't become drug dealers I wanted sempl life and work for living but she want someone who can take the offer and make her happy that way I'm sorry for long comment but really no one to feel you and I'm sure here some people will feel the pain. My English is not good but I try to share this with you all.
Thank you for this video. Until next time. 🙂♥️
Clarence Payaqui,you look stunning 🌹🌹🌷🌷
I heard my ex is drinking, smoking, partying, and talking to other guys, and not only that she is now dating another girl. It’s only been a month after the break up and this is all happening, it’s very sad, it’s crazy, but now I have zero hope of us getting together and I don’t want her back at all, she’s going crazy and that’s all bad and I don’t know what to do
jesus uvalle same, they regress. Then they hit the wall and will contact you.
@melted blue even if she does hit the wall that is her problem she completely shut the door for me personally
U were just another in her chain of false links. Her happiness is more inportmant than growing old with someone.
Hope you forgave her since then
He's voice effect at the end of the video scared the s*** out of Me as I was half asleep. Thoughts some demons or something was trying to talk through my TV 😂
No that wasnt a dream , they are trying to talk through your TV.
future topic "I dont feel that connection I had with him or her"
it means there are no emotional turmoil anymore and she got bored of your ass , we love peace and quite women love chaos . if there is no chaos they get bored
What if they dump you and the reason isn’t you but they say they can’t give it 100%? He never reached out
to say how are you doing...
They just wanted to let you go in an easy way . Same happened me it's a common excuse unfortunately. Go with the expert advice walk and improve
Excellent video. It works for me at this time of my broken heart
I am the one who ended things and I blocked him. All of what you said is true for me. I was relieved, through some guilt, indecisiveness, but ultimately, I know it was for the best.
I am happy again. I was actually surprised he respected the block and he went into no contact. It has been two months. I don't plan to ever reach out to him, just want to move on now that the hard part is over.
With him it is just drama, drama, drama. It is so draining. Unless he truly changes, there is no way in hell I'd trade my current level of happiness for that crap. I am just doing me now. I don't have a replacement lined up and no one new in sight. But lonely looks pretty damn good compared to his guaranteed drama.
Sandra Chatwin is he really blocked in your mind and heart?
Blocking someone online is not healthy for both and it shows you’re not indifferent to him. Plus, even if you hasn’t blocked him doesn’t mean he’d reach out
Would you give him another chance if he truly put forth effort into becoming aware of his issues and improving them?
@@Bond10000 I am definitely still in the process of healing so he is not gone from my heart or mind and never will be. Blocking is truly best at this point. I hate that it came to that but he was commenting on my social media business page with completely inappropriate comments.
@@smileyone6733 If he truly changed, yes. I never left cause I didn't love him or want him. I left because it was too unhealthy to stay.
Sandra Chatwin What does it mean when your ex jumps into another relationship six months after the breakup? We were together for almost five years. She’s been posting pictures of her new relationship on Instagram. Just nine months ago she cancelled the wedding and our relationship. I know I was wrong for being emotionally abusive, but I swear I am good person. Any advice?
You have a great radio voice. I like listening to you. Perhaps you might go a bit longer on some of the subjects you cover. Other than that, I love the stuff you talk about. I put my head phones in and sometimes I fall asleep but I play them over and over again to pickup on ever detail. I always have my dictionary handy. P. S. I minored in Psych. So I love this stuff plus going through a breakup led me here. Take care. :) I'm slowly getting better. no word from the ex for 7 weeks. Maintaining no contact and working on myself. Every little bit helps. :)
This is the 3rd time her and I broke up. It's almost a year now and I still miss her. I've taken time to myself, thinking I could erase the hurt of her leaving but that hasn't changed anything within. There has been some contact. I've invited her to meet up for drinks a few times and her response was, "I still don't think it's a good idea" so I stopped asking. I've been dating other people for a several months now and I still feel hollow/ numb. Emotionally void of giving what these other people are desiring. Outside of having sex, I'm tapped out. My heart is not there. I've given so much of myself to my ex, that I have nothing else to give to someone new. I don't know what to do or how else to feel. I love my ex and really want her back. It's a daily struggle to keep from reaching out to her. Even though I know it won't help situations if I do. I'm lost for real!!!!
You are awesome Rory!!
From my experience I was the dumpy with my first love..and she’s not the dumper that matches the discription 2 weeks after she broke up with me she got with someone else😂 and it just so happens they lasted for a long long time but 6 years later and now she’s doing her best to come around me and. Try to get me back i don’t want her back tho she was a manipulator good riddance
This is so accurate. Thank you
I kept going back but trust me all you do is go back through the pain over again if it was going to work yall will never break up
Thanks Rory you're the man. 👍
yeah, i think so, the dumper dumped me because she doesn't believe in my working plans, she wanted instant rich life, which she think she can find to someone else, I think I don't deserve that kind of partner
My ex (aka The Dumper) never wanted to be around when life got tough (like a death of a family member....he would simply vanish). although he always promised to be there, he never was. He only wanted to be around when life was great. He started seeing someone else while i was caring for my dying mother. He broke up with me because i was upset that it took him 4 days to call me after i left a msg that some crazy guy car chased me. 4 days?!
What "boyfriend" waits 4 days to call back unless he really doesnt care at all. He had no interest in trying to work on our relationship, ever! He never wanted to talk about it or work on our relationship. He left me because he had someone else he was flirting with. He didnt want to break up with me till he had an excuse. It was then he could villianize me, & not feel bad about leaving me.
He came back 2 months later, but only because he was lonely! Thank God the "love goggles" are off! I can finally see his selfish behavior patterns that i was so blind to before!
Thanks Rory for the advise! Kinda glad to hear he suffered a bit without me. I was really good to him, he just never appreciate me.
Now i will wait for the right man to come along who will appreciate me!
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Actually i heard last week that he just got married to someone he has barely known a year or less. I feel bad for the girl.....she has no idea what she is in for
Nah! I gave my situation a lot of thought and there were more minuses than pluses! Too many read flags! No regrets. I'm glad I got rid and that was a year ago! 😎
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
She broke up with me and telling me that no one can replace me in her heart but saying that she needs time to fix herself to love the proper way. She also told me that I should not close my door for possibility for us in the future. And also assured me that there's no 3rd party involved. I want to move on, but im still hoping that we can be together. Need your opinion.
Update? Im in the same shit.. She needs time, we might still be together. Let us take just a break. I dont even know if we broke up or we are on a break, its so confusing
@@OnFeature hey man, Fortunately she came back to me (that was Jan 1) I think a week after i wrote my comment here. Sadly, she was seeing different guy 5 days after we broke up which may be a valid reason that 3rd party is not involved. Just before we broke up (during her need space period) i was able to get into her fb account but just to received notif. And I constantly receiving notif that this guy is chatting with her. On the day she came back, she told me that she realized that i am special that she could not find someone as good as me. After all the questioning she confessed that she is seeing someone. I'll leave the rest of the story to your imagination :)
Despite of what happened you may still find this stupid but I accepted and forgave her after a month of being no contact with her and contemplating. Trust is still on the process for me.
My realization:
1. Never blame yourself on what your relationship had become. Instead think on how you can make your relationship grow. Always include your partner
2. Constant little Effort always counts. When we broke up she was telling me of the little things that i miss to do which I thought doesnt matter anymore. And I was to complacent that I neglected her emotions. Women are generally emotional being as we know. And we need to constantly feed that. And it will also bounce back to us.
3.. Forgive yourself. Forgive the past. This is truly the hardest act in a relationship that you need to do and give. If you genuinely love a person, you too can forgive. For me, Forgiveness is the final form of love.
@@OnFeature I know you still love her and you want her back. But on this moment of her life. Give her all the time she needs. Apply the no contact. The no contact should have work for me but I got tempted and aggressively calling and texting which lead her broke up with me.
@@reymagz4929 yeh but i think mine wont come back. We were together for 7 years. We even lost all our friends bcs we were together rather then going out. We are 25yo now.
Ans i think she has that graass is greener. She suddenly wanted to go out party, rather be with friends then me, planning vacations with friends rather then me. She became distant without any reason so I pushed her even more, whats wrong and she never had an answer.. I need to work on myself is not you its all me. I was a bit jealous too bcs she works in a bar and guys literally text her everyday, she doesnt reply but one time she might. So she knows she can get anyone she wants. Anyway its just confusing, one night she just wrote via text that she has enough, that we need a break, that she is not the same, that she is a bitch now. I just thanked for everything, said sory and done. No contact. On day 7 i broke it bcs i wanted some kind of closure, she didnt reply. Few days ago she reaxhed out to say happy bday. I said tnx. And thats it.
Its the social media and friends.. She was allways aa loook my friend has a house, the other ones are on vacations bla bla.. I know i adapted alot to her, changed myself alot for her, we never argued, but she was allways the one who cared less, allways turning guilt on me, lately shes been avoiding me. Idk idk. And i still dont know if we are just on a break or if its over idk rly.. I wont reach out, wont post anymore more and wait, but more time passes less i think it will be possible thats why im scared
@@OnFeature one thing is for sure, there will be fa more better than her. Give value to yourself, give time to your family or friends. One thing also ive learned that we should not depend our happiness to other people bcoz if they're gone we will also feel hopeless. Find a person that you can share happiness with and not because they are the reason of it. Just stay strong!
What if you didn't want the break up but his actions forced you to become the dumper? Is he considered the dumper or dumpee in this case?
Thanks Rory, always great advice and wisdom, I also play guitar, have some Strats and a few Les Pauls.
This is really helpful and thank you so much
And then dumpee becomes the Dumper 😂
I guess I'm in the 'social media' phase. She is one of the first people watching my instagram stories, even though I haven't watched hers. Yeah, I know, no mindreading. But at least she seems quite interested in what I'm doing.
Right now I'm at a point, where I dont really care if she comes back. I mean, I still miss her like hell and would do almost anything to get her back. But I can't and I won't wait for her and chasing a ghost.
umpalumpa2019 screw it man let’s move on together they left us for a reason Bc we weren’t meant to be
Did numeours times, almost for an entire month i dealt with high anxiety and my body was tense af, still nothing changed
I'm also going through the same time 😭 i hope time heals everything
The voice effect scared the shit out of me man!
Why does an ex prank call the dumpee? (he accidentally left a voicemail & I recognized his voice) I've moved on but its been over 2 months of no contact.
Rory, thanks .. been a few months since I got dumped... fair to say the dumper isn't feeling anything?? lol
No way to know for sure!
@Deon Soto no, she wasn't a narcissist.. But there is certainly a coldness about her that I cannot muster with my ex's where I broke up with them..
@Deon Soto women are disloyal hypergamous creatures... they will always trade up (jn their mind)... she's never really yours, its just your turn my friend.... Don't do like I did, and break NC more than once... keep your dignity and never look back.
@@Sams911 😲😲
@Deon Soto Female solipsism at it's finest. They tell you they love you and want to spend their life with you and 2 weeks later they're off with that one guy you didn't have to worry about, classic.
I don't know if I was cheated on or if she has someone new by now, but I definitely had some telling incidents with my ex. One time she wanted to let a dude sleep at her place because he helpe me ONCE. Another time she began fantasizing about an ex she was with for 4 weeks after one conversation. Or that one handsome guy in her dance class. In the end, one of the reasons for the break up was because she wanted to "explore". Rubbish.
I'm sorry mate, no one deserves to get treated like that. Focus on yourself, enjoy life and have fun, and stop giving a f... . That's when they come crawling back and/or better people arrive.
The sound effect at the end scared the absolute fuck out of me, anyways, good video!
There will be people who will mean the word love
Indeed. I'm going through this. Thanks really needed this.♥️
This is what I needed!
It is good information, however tooo much work... someone does that to me... the door never will open up that wide again... no sense in making a enemy.... hi how are you, period.
He’s right about it being hard to break up with someone. And the initial metaphorical weight loss.
Pure truth, Preach
Would they go through the same process if they dumped twice? He broke up with me for the same reason during the 2nd break (logistics in being in the same city). When he begged to come back after the first break, he promised that the logistics is not an issue anymore, that he'll make it work. But alas, same reason when he broke it off again.
I walked away when he broke up the 2nd time around (I said, if you don't want to be with me, I don't want to be with you) and NC since then. Don't want him back, but my ego is screaming: "I hope he regrets it SO HARD."
Yeah nothing was going to change. It was a 2 year long distance relationship. She was amazing. I still love her but I couldn't take another two years of long distance.
Same case but she dumped me a week ago
~Be more attractive~ Okay!
Indeed! He was cold when I reached out to him several days after break up. I texted him after the call, was really emotional. No response as well. But after that one time, I tell myself I will never ever talk to him anymore unless he is the one who reach out!
Poppie Moe did he reach out to you?
Festina Gashi no never. Dont think he will. I’ll stay strong and focus on me..
Any update?
Do a video about break up text and if the dumpee should respond to it.
LRF49 I wouldn’t. My ex dumped me six weeks ago. Next day after dumping me, I ignored him, second day after, emailed me, I IGNORED HIM again. Four days later I emailed him, seemed like if he was waiting for my response to his email cause it was marked read two minutes after I sent it, not common with him. Anyway, I told him sorry, that I wasn’t gonna be in the friend zone to get lost 😂. He responded MESSAGE RECEIVED 😂. Never again Gerard from him and never again he will hear from me either.
It’s been a year so there’s no “you just got dumped”. I stopped caring what they are thinking and what they are going through. I miss them still but she chose to go stay with her husband. Her loss
Some people need to be dumped because of inappropriate behavior.
Agreed
I needed to be dumped because of inappropriate behavior. But i know how to get back to my old self and im 100% better than his baby mama. Shes terrible for him
Well I got dumped cause I was warning her of the dangers of something she was doing and she thought I was controlling
So an ex unblocking you means they are thinking about you? But what if only on one social media and not the rest I've been blocked at?
Hey Rory! Can you do a video about what to do/how to act when you run into your ex at a party?
Sure!
You say hi and enjoy other people. Act happy and don't get drunk.
@@barbarariley3488 I'm already over it by now but thanks anyway ;)
My ex kept threatening break up and on one occasion (excluding now) we have broken up once before. These threats would occur because of my trust issues, minor differences of opinion, she even suggested break up over a scenario in the future that hasn't even happen yet... Basically whenever she got pissed off, her first thought is breakup, not the last...
This breakup she claims is certain because she feels that even though our relationship has always been close, supportive, caring, she believes she will not be happy because we have moments of times being good and moments of times being bad... (Which is normal)
So is this time certain?
That's pretty much what my ex told me but even then they are bound to be back because they'll remember the good and not the bad after a period of no contact
just completely leave her alone maybe she'll reach out after a couple of months
@@Luminous.Dynamics I left her alone and don't want her back even of she reached out. Now I'm experiencing alot of future potential so might as well start fresh as and when it enters my life, for now, I'm not even looking for it... The bare necessities of life will come to me! :-)
Update???
@@akshaykumar-ex4bc This was two years ago. However 4 months later I get a message asking me if I was ok because of the Lockdowns. This followed by saying she heard I had already replaced her - this was because a friend of hers saw me with another girl who was absolutely stunning. I said I haven't replaced no one, just focusing on myself. We spoke for a little but then it fizzled out. Few months after this she asked if I missed her or is she history, I replied saying it's irrelevant now. She the says but you were supposed to always love me, I replied works both ways and wasn't enough clearly. Plus you'll find someone better as will I. She said that was harsh, she wouldn't find better, maybe different but not better. I then said hey your decision to walk away was the best thing you done for me, I wasn't in the best frame of mind, quite toxic situation, so it was the correct outcome. She was like oh right. And that was it. She later wished my kids happy birthday etc but then that was the last I heard from her.
So what happened was, I gained so many options I realised I could do alot better and felt better being single to the point I didn't want her back.
Nobody has mentioned the following about going NO CONTACT.
Due to a narcissist discarding me i had zero choice but to go no contact with my cousin who totally got me doing it...when i popped in to see them a year later, i happened to ask how there Best Man at there Wedding was....he had a heart attack and collapsed during
NO CONTACT.
HE MAY AS WELL HAVE COLLAPSED RIGHT THEN AS I WAS TOLD....HE WAS AN ADORABLE CHAP..A REALLY NICE GUY.
SO..BE PREPARED FOLKS..NO CONTACT POPS UP WITH SOME SAD SURPRISES AND SHOCKS.
What if I am a girl and I am not comfortable with asking my ex for a coffee every time when he reaches out. As I always try to be cool and independent in front of him and doing it may make him doubt that I am still not over him?
awesome video❤️Rory plz can you do video on my ex blocked me I will highly appreciate that plz thank you!
You bet!
Can't wait thanks!
Rory, another great vid. If you don't share mutual friends will they sometimes contact your friends if they reach the missing you stage? He's stayed friends with my girlfriend on fb.
Why would someone block you for expressing your love toward them? Completely love bomb me then I caught feelings. She’s playing mind games she wants me then she don’t then she does. Blocks me unblocks me then blocks me again. Literally wrote half a book expressing my love toward her and blew her phone up. Yes biggest mistake ever. But this is crazy. All she had to do was pick the phone up and tell me what’s going on. Any advice this is ridiculous? Found out she was messing around with her ex fiancé but don’t know if it’s true or not. She says write me a poem so I did then says it’s over. Back on good terms talk about having a family. Saves the images then dumps me again. 💔😂😞 love sucks lol she pulled it’s me not you card. Now I’m confused and lost.
TeiubescDM Thank you so much. Yeah I told her she was miserable inside. And deserve so much better. Gave everything I had to her.
My ex felt relief. She's not coming back. That hurts.
General Waste what happened. How is it going
@@rateorhate11 Not great, but thank you for asking. My brother has been amazing support, can't thank him enough.
General Waste they do try to come back when shit goes wrong and the start to see the things you did for them. But don’t expect it. Best to try and move on. Funny thing when you do. They come back but you don’t want them back because you find someone better lol.
Any update?
@@FM-zg5hz She's now with someone I consider a former 'best friend'. He was using me to get to her in the end.
Can you do an long distance dumper video?
I’ve been dumped and it hurts bad it’s like a runaway train blind sided you but I’m still here and alive and I will come back a better person and stronger and I will be at peace with god !
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I got nuthin' lol . I'm going on a date tonight, though!
How it's goes a date
@@TheElizabethjoanna It's someone that I have known for twenty plus years, and it was an absolutely wonderful night! We watched the sun set over a lake, and then sat in the dark in his truck and talked for the rest of the night. Pretty safe to say I'm moving on 💜
I am happy to hear 🤗😍.. I can't move on yet there is no meaningful person yet but I did met few but I still compering them to him 😔
My ex reached out about a week of No contact but she's upset. She seems to think I'm hiding something...? She also made a comment like "I see you're getting home later" (She broke up with me because I broke her trust) but those comments are something she would say as if we were still together...
What if they married you and after we separated, they moved without telling you and now you can’t find them and they won’t reply their new address for me to file divorce papers? I really want a divorce.
Relif, relif, relif. Some more relif.
For me he left me for another girl and they are together for over 8 months now so it’s a relationship they went on vacation , introduced her to friends 😢…i need to move on !
Very good video! Thank you Rory!!
What do u do if your ex hit you up and you not sure if you want them back u literally 50/50
And what if my ex is working in another country? 4 more months
My gf dump me she was saying I was not honest from beginning I don't really understand what she mean I was loyal with her and my even social media was login in her phone and tell me for now she don't want any relationship I begged her but she is acting cold all time and so from today I started to don't contact her
I want her back in my life
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
I like your approach bro 🤔
If the dumper don’t care, why even think about what he or she is feeling. My girl dump me and she gave no solid reason and I ask how she feels. She said she feels horrible. But do she really feel horrible? I’ll say f-them. Why want her back, when if you get her back, she can do it again! I would just let it go!