Why I'm Not a Woman (featuring old pictures and art) 💅🏼👔🏈

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  • Опубликовано: 13 мар 2019
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    LGBT+ song and musician at beginning: “Obsession” by Sinclair, open.spotify.com/artist/0IbWN...
    Bg music: smoothaviator.bandcamp.com/tr...
    Artists in video (I tried my best to do the order of appearance! If an artist did not supply a link, I credited with a name. If you think I missed you or someone please let me know!!! Email ashhardellbusiness@gmail.com)
    “Boy” art:
    reth_starle...
    Insta: @peach.fuzz.draws
    pBjvMQvHjJ...
    Insta: @_queercatdad_ (insta)
    / ladyeren
    Insta: @jaxk_blue
    Michaela
    “Girl” art:
    / @christinelouis7106
    404.artist.not.found
    Ash
    Kai Twitter: Kai2971
    Daimerly IG: diamonddrawss
    Rem Twitter: PixielArt
    Jemma IG: the_doodle_dragon
    Amy-Lee FB: amyleenyx
    Simon IG: plant_5o
    Luc DA: floramy
    Kukui
    Jordan
    IG: rvryhg
    Tallulah
    Lola IG: lolamarie.doodles
    Toni
    Brennan IG: halt726_artstuff
    Max IG: themaximusmonster
    Kody IG: kodyavery.art
    Alex YT: TheBlackAdder42
    Cassie IG: still_in_the_making
    Sydney IG: blluurredlines
    Taya IG: hey_watch_me_grow
    Julia IG: juliamakesvideos
    Alex IG: entityofnobody
    Noir
    Claire IG: blacksummer_colouring
    Mae IG: maemakesdoodles
    Suzy IG: walrus_boondoggle
    IG: pervert_co
    Sakeri IG: sakeri.graphics
    Jess
    Skye
    IG: vaclavness
    Skriblz IG: skriblz_skrblz
    Kenzie IG: somanywaystoskechbook
    Grace
    Grace
    Katarine IG: katarineinis
    Damien
    Jess IG: jessfaithwallace
    Justyna IG: justyna_the_rainbow_ballerina
    Val IG: shadesoflife628
    Shade IG: arctic_animation177
    Michaela IG: mi.sunka
    Anna IG: thinking_outside_da_box
    Andi DA: captainkingbog
    Tamara IG: scorpions_is_my_mind
    Emery
    Matthew IG: matty.p.studios
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Комментарии • 1,9 тыс.

  • @HeyThere005
    @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +1259

    Ahhhh, this was sure something! While it's not always 100% comfy to remember, I also have a fond place in my heart for side ponytail Ash :) How do you experiment with appearance? Also, please share an embarrassing fashion phase or dorky hairstyle you sported in your past to make me feel better. Thank you XP

    • @ZeldaRoseSongbook
      @ZeldaRoseSongbook 5 лет назад +38

      Ash, thank you for being a voice for those nonbinaries who need it. I'm struggling to be more open with my own nonbinary nature; seeing you openly discuss your gender journey is inspiring!

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +23

      Nakomis Brislin *sending love* 💙💙💙

    • @ZeldaRoseSongbook
      @ZeldaRoseSongbook 5 лет назад +15

      @@HeyThere005 *sending love and happiness* 💛💜🖤😁

    • @Weath3rreport
      @Weath3rreport 5 лет назад +11

      Usually I play with how my hair looks, aswell as clothing,(I've totally been stealing clothes from people) and since i have short hair it makes it pretty easy for me to look like anybody😀

    • @chai9302
      @chai9302 5 лет назад +7

      i had an emo hair style even tho i was not emo i had hair to shoulders and then i had hair in front of my face im so embarrassed looking back on my hair it was just ugh

  • @kyz0o
    @kyz0o 5 лет назад +1953

    “This girl is badass” Don’t you mean badAsh?

  • @MewWolf5
    @MewWolf5 5 лет назад +1686

    You still had the side ponytail when I first started watching your videos.

  • @kayleespears7732
    @kayleespears7732 5 лет назад +441

    I’m a female and I’ve always been one. I never understood what it felt like to not love who I am. My cousin is transgender and I wanted to understand him better. When I started watching you Ash you helped me understand him more! Thank you!

    • @leahphilby5397
      @leahphilby5397 5 лет назад +19

      Kaylee Spears you could say you are cis female

    • @nerdyhamster3452
      @nerdyhamster3452 5 лет назад +3

      Ash is not the common transgender person. Watch more people such as Kalvin Garrah or ty turner

    • @lysmith3454
      @lysmith3454 5 лет назад +43

      If you're going to watch any trans RUclipsrs, I wouldn't go for Kalvin. Go look at JammieDodger, he's a pretty chill dude with the same energy as Ash.

    • @vermillion6805
      @vermillion6805 4 года назад +1

      wh how do you know this person is a transtrender

    • @ravenclawthestral3964
      @ravenclawthestral3964 4 года назад +15

      {} get a life. Stop trying to invalidate others gender expressions and feelings.

  • @likeMindpower
    @likeMindpower 5 лет назад +467

    I'd say your hair is "ash" blonde (insert finger guns here)

    • @aWERFRGT6545BGFG
      @aWERFRGT6545BGFG 5 лет назад +13

      I say ash brown

    • @ameloc8356
      @ameloc8356 5 лет назад +2

      MissesKitty I agree

    • @LifesGood22
      @LifesGood22 5 лет назад +2

      Dark Ash Blonde same as mine

    • @ashlaughs790
      @ashlaughs790 5 лет назад

      My hair is Ash blonde
      1: My hair is Ash Blonde
      2: Ash blonde is lighter

    • @jude8067
      @jude8067 4 года назад

      Mousy brown- I have the same color

  • @null3638
    @null3638 5 лет назад +379

    Ash’s hair in this video is so cute. Ash is cute in general, but I’m digging this hair on them! I loved the “why I’m not a boy” video, so I’m so excited about this one.

  • @Sam-ic6cu
    @Sam-ic6cu 5 лет назад +584

    My school dance is tomorrow
    (I’m female) And the theme is
    Dress your Best so I am going
    In a suit and tie
    BREAK THE GENDER RULES

    • @sansgirlfriend
      @sansgirlfriend 5 лет назад +12

      Great!! 🤟❤️❤️

    • @trinitylivingston1286
      @trinitylivingston1286 5 лет назад +12

      You go girl! ❤❤

    • @hermiesrokmysox
      @hermiesrokmysox 5 лет назад +19

      That’s awesome, I’ve always really loved traditionally male fashion. It’s so flattering!

    • @Sam-ic6cu
      @Sam-ic6cu 5 лет назад +6

      Jillian L. I know right

    • @kaylathomasson9619
      @kaylathomasson9619 5 лет назад +14

      I'm nonbinary and mostly wore dress pants instead of dresses for those occasions!

  • @rowanthehuman4403
    @rowanthehuman4403 4 года назад +144

    Ahh yes the three genders:
    Nail polish, button-up shirt, and football.

    • @dvision4203
      @dvision4203 2 года назад +1

      I like the joke, but you can give off any vibe you want regardless of gender! ❤️

  • @hlpark
    @hlpark 5 лет назад +43

    I love that you said to "draw you as a girl" and still used gender neutral terms for almost every drawing

  • @Olivia-qz2tu
    @Olivia-qz2tu 5 лет назад +321

    10:35 you’re an.... Ashtronaut......

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +21

      Bluebutterman ‘eeeeeeeyyyyy!!!

    • @pixxi_
      @pixxi_ 5 лет назад +4

      I'm dead! 😂

    • @savannahnolan1716
      @savannahnolan1716 5 лет назад

      Ash Hardell heyy I’m your biggest fan xxxx

  • @pachoncita
    @pachoncita 4 года назад +71

    I'm bi, I'm married to a guy, I love gothic clothes and guys clothes. Sometimes I look super girly, and sometimes I look like a dude with boos lol. I'm so glad my husband loves all of me

  • @HannahLeeKidder
    @HannahLeeKidder 5 лет назад +132

    I remember ponytail/colorful sunglasses/ukulele/fake mustache baby Ash like it was yEsTeRdAy. You're so precious ilysm

  • @RubberDuckKid
    @RubberDuckKid 5 лет назад +104

    I'm loving all the "you can dress as whatever" vibes you always give. I'm nonbinary (fem aligned) and I dress pretty femininity. Sometimes I feel weird-ish about that because sometimes it feels like anyone nonbinary at all has to be 100% androgynous, so that you for the positive reinforcement!

    • @Special-mg5kh
      @Special-mg5kh 5 лет назад

      Ace of Cats tbh I really don’t understand this at all. If you are non-binary doesn’t that mean you don’t want to be identified as exclusively male or female. How can your opinion of what your gender is change overnight and day to day. I don’t even understand what an agendered person would be able to wear that would make them feel comfortable. I can understand not feeling like a male and feeling like a female, and vice versa, but I don’t understand changing genders everyday. You don’t have to change your gender or identify as something different to put on different clothes. just dress however you want to??? Not trying to be rude, seriously just trying to understand where you’re coming from.

    • @MercurialMoon
      @MercurialMoon 4 года назад +6

      @@Special-mg5kh 1. non-binary isn't just agender. It's an umbrella term for anyone who isn't strictly woman or man. Some of them have no gender but a lot of them do have one, it's just not woman or man, or both at the same time. 2. gender identity and gender expression are two different things. Non-binary people can look feminine or masculine and that doesn't make them less non-binary. Like girls can wear boy clothes and vice versa but that doesn't mean they'd identify themselves as the opposite gender. Hope that makes sense.

  • @savannahparker7961
    @savannahparker7961 5 лет назад +382

    This is such a positive channel. I’m not trans or non binary at all but you’re so positive x

    • @lee_likes_bees
      @lee_likes_bees 5 лет назад +10

      I agree, they always cheer me up.

    • @jsbpdrama8456
      @jsbpdrama8456 5 лет назад +4

      Same here, I'm not even apart of the LGBT+ community at all (besides supporting obviously) but Ash is just such a chill person, I could watch them all day!

    • @amaliacollins5691
      @amaliacollins5691 5 лет назад +10

      Plus their message is so universal: be yourself, because who you are is valid.
      The things Ash teaches us about gender can be applied to so many other facets of life. That identities don't always fit cleanly into boxes, that it's okay to play around with your identity to figure it out. That it IS okay to fit cleanly into a box if that's what feels best for you. I could go on.

    • @Levi-rl1yi
      @Levi-rl1yi 5 лет назад +1

      With all due respect, but if you're trying to educate yourself on trans issues, please seek out a channel that's based on medical evidence and facts rather than this. I'm all for people being themselves, but this doesn't represent the actual transgender community in the slightest.
      Transgender literally means; when a person identifies with a different gender than their assigned sex. Medically, only 2 genders and sexes (unless you count intersex) are recognised aka none of the god knows how many tumblr genders. As a transgender man who's been diagnosed with dysphoria and has been through the majority of his transition, I'd simply like you to know that this does not mirror what trans is to 99% of the transgender community and I think it's important to keep that in mind ; ) Everything Ash is talking about has no medical or scientific evidence to show for it.

    • @jsbpdrama8456
      @jsbpdrama8456 5 лет назад

      Levi - I completely agree with you and have done a lot of my own research. I just like the atmosphere of their channel. 😊💕

  • @whitsolo1736
    @whitsolo1736 5 лет назад +192

    I have a friend with your hair color. She calls it "squirrel"... as if squirrel is a color 🤣

    • @RihannaIsInMyHeart
      @RihannaIsInMyHeart 5 лет назад +6

      Many Germans call this colour street-tyke-blonde :D

    • @CoRLex-jh5vx
      @CoRLex-jh5vx 4 года назад +9

      Its totally squirrel tho your friend is a genius

    • @emmakrumm6399
      @emmakrumm6399 3 года назад +1

      Hungarian has a word for non brownary, It's called seszinü (with accents my keyboard doesn't know), meaning "non-of-it-coloured", but instead of being a term for all colour-non-conforming hair shades, it describes a specific mix of brown, blond and a bit of grey. What a lenguage.

  • @silverquill101
    @silverquill101 5 лет назад +263

    My brain automatically tried to gender you when I first saw you and it just came up blank so you're doing good

    • @randompanperson8061
      @randompanperson8061 5 лет назад +27

      Sounded like a girl, looked like a guy gave off the vibes of a non-bi!

    • @briannalopes-amorim4583
      @briannalopes-amorim4583 4 года назад +25

      {} I hate people like you

    • @emperortamarinfan
      @emperortamarinfan 4 года назад +43

      {} you realize being both transgender and non-binary are completely scientifically proven, right??

    • @dazthespaz69
      @dazthespaz69 4 года назад +12

      {}
      Ha, I'm sorry let me stop laughing.
      You are one pathetic loser.

    • @dazthespaz69
      @dazthespaz69 4 года назад +18

      {}
      Actually honey, it is.
      You just don't understand basic knowledge.
      Don't worry, we will get you help.
      And non-binary is a thing, it means that you have no gender identity.
      Thank you for reading my rant of the day.😁

  • @laterkater4213
    @laterkater4213 5 лет назад +19

    I love how many artists drew different types of girls, including cis and trans girls! They were all beautiful! ❤️

  • @theorosef
    @theorosef 5 лет назад +93

    if you asked people to "draw you as nonbinary", i'd expect that a lot of people would just draw you as you currently are! interesting, but probably not super productive, haha

  • @brandysims8575
    @brandysims8575 5 лет назад +7

    When I look at old pictures of myslef I just imagine my old self as a different person. It really helps me alot for some reason

  • @natatellla
    @natatellla 5 лет назад +5

    I love how you gave lots of them little personalities! Just makes it so much more fun to watch and get intertwined to each “girl”

  • @nkelly5851
    @nkelly5851 5 лет назад +244

    Your editing is absolutely amazing as usual

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +27

      Lydia Kelly oh I love that name and the reasoning for it!!

    • @lightaflamethrower8573
      @lightaflamethrower8573 5 лет назад +15

      Casper is a cool name, and a friendly ghost!

    • @sleepyaugust2182
      @sleepyaugust2182 5 лет назад +3

      I like that name i just hope no one calls you casper the ghost...

    • @strawberrycassette
      @strawberrycassette 5 лет назад +1

      Casper is an awesome name :) it's my middle came (but with a K)

    • @lenaemfs5347
      @lenaemfs5347 5 лет назад +3

      💜 and Cas is a nickname for a genderless angel! (On TV show supernatural)

  • @miamikyu
    @miamikyu 5 лет назад +139

    this is amazing ash, it's great that you felt comfortable enough to share this on RUclips. we're all behind you xx

  • @spegnagmaglorious3590
    @spegnagmaglorious3590 5 лет назад +58

    "If hair is a spectrum
    I'm non-blondary"
    👏👏👏👏

  • @PmpknHead
    @PmpknHead 3 года назад +15

    I have drawn myself in the final stages of my transition. 🏳️‍⚧️ It made me so happy seeing an image of me with top surgery scars and short hair. I haven’t come out to my mom and I’m planning on doing it soon, since I want to start an official transition.

    • @insidiousmischka
      @insidiousmischka 2 года назад

      Have you transitioned or grown out of this phase?

  • @Christine_990
    @Christine_990 5 лет назад +209

    I'm a lady, i express as a lady, hell I wish I could have better lady hair n makeup n slightly bigger chestbumps. I was born a lady n never had to question it. I think I'm lucky in some ways, to not struggle with identity & social pressure.. But I love watching your videos & I like seeing you happy & I love seeing the community & the art.. Idk. I'm just rambling thoughts I think. Love the video as always.

    • @mimiwinkelman7623
      @mimiwinkelman7623 5 лет назад +1

      Me too

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +10

      Lady Vertical you go lady!!!!! 💕💕💕

    • @Christine_990
      @Christine_990 5 лет назад +1

      @@HeyThere005 thank you Ash xoxo lots of love to you & Grace xox

    • @natparlane9488
      @natparlane9488 5 лет назад +2

      Me too!!! I love seeing (and being) supportive cis people who are just amazing also!!!

    • @acriticnamedpanem1141
      @acriticnamedpanem1141 5 лет назад +2

      Saaaaaammmeeee

  • @noahgentili1433
    @noahgentili1433 5 лет назад +477

    This vid: why I'm not a woman
    Me: because you just aren't. It just ain't you
    (edit: OH MY GAAAAWD ASH LIKED MY COMMENT!!!)
    (another edit: thx for all the likes)

    • @unitedpundit7023
      @unitedpundit7023 5 лет назад +6

      panic at.the.shasha she’s a girl.

    • @noahgentili1433
      @noahgentili1433 5 лет назад +25

      @@unitedpundit7023 you know nobody asked you to be such a jerk. They are whatever they want to be. So f off and leave them alone

    • @unitedpundit7023
      @unitedpundit7023 5 лет назад +2

      panic at.the.shasha so if I was 30 and I wanted to be 12 could I be. Then I could go out with 12 years olds and argue with the police and say that I’m 12 and not 30. Plus no one asked you to comment that shit in the first place

    • @noahgentili1433
      @noahgentili1433 5 лет назад +31

      @@unitedpundit7023 age and gender/pronouns are different

    • @kittokattxx
      @kittokattxx 5 лет назад +30

      @@unitedpundit7023 comparing pedophilia to being transgender... you sound like a fun person to be around.

  • @starsong9711
    @starsong9711 5 лет назад +46

    I'm just now starting to express who I truly am. I've never liked my chest so I've finally started looking for ways to bind and it makes me more comftorble in my own skin, I'm not in a very accepting family so I can't get an actual binder. I've also asked my friends to refer to me as they/them and as Alex. I've been more comftorble with myself. It took me forever to come out to myself as non-binary/genderfluid, and then took me longer to ask my friends to refer to me with they/then pronouns and with a more gender nuteral name. I've been happier with mt self ever since, and I'm so luck to have such accepting friends and a teacher around me, wich from what I know is bi so yay.

    • @youaregood9aj73
      @youaregood9aj73 3 года назад +2

      ayy my fellow genderfluid peep. Hi!! I also have a very unaccepting family as well! I have wanted to wear a binder too bc I never liked my chest. Of course, my mother dislikes anyone under the trans umbrella so I couldn't get one. I told all of my friends to call my by my chosen gender neutral name which is Ro and I use all pronouns so they change on a day to day basis. I like to wear a bracelet to represent each set of pronouns and the great part is, my mother doesn't know what it means lol. pink= she/her green= they/them Blue=he/him.
      You are not alone on this journey and you have so many people out there to support you! hope you are stayin safe and healthy out there!
      -Ro

    • @starsong9711
      @starsong9711 3 года назад +3

      @@youaregood9aj73 I’m glad you found a way to express yourself! You’re really sweet, I do apologize cause I’m not gender fluid an I have no idea why I put that I am >< hopefully one day you can get a binder, my step brother gave me his old one.

    • @youaregood9aj73
      @youaregood9aj73 3 года назад +2

      @@starsong9711 Yea its been rough but I found a way :p Awe thanks. I believe you should treat everyone with kindness and respect because you never know what someone is going through and one act of kindness could brighten someones day! :D in this world, we are all just figuring ourselves out. I am so happy that you found the strength to be who you truly are. Darn imma probably just save up to get myself a binder lol But until then i've just been wearing lots of layers. Do ya have any tips on how to bind without a binder perhaps? :)

    • @starsong9711
      @starsong9711 3 года назад

      @@youaregood9aj73 something I did was take one sports bra put it on normally then take another one and put in on backwards, it helped a bit. I seen you can also make a binder out of an old pair of leggings. You can find videos on it!!

    • @youaregood9aj73
      @youaregood9aj73 3 года назад +2

      @@starsong9711 Oh my goodness those are great tips! Thank you so much!

  • @user-ve4cf2dn6n
    @user-ve4cf2dn6n 5 лет назад +9

    I had really long hair that went down to the back of my knees, and 3 week ago I decided to bite the bullet and cut it all of to a medium bob.
    And yes I donated it to charity to make weaves ☺️

  • @shayne_has_landed2511
    @shayne_has_landed2511 5 лет назад +68

    I think Ash’s hair is châtain, or “dark blond” when translated to English
    (I feel like French class is leaving an impactful change in my vocabulary...)

  • @hallwnby
    @hallwnby 5 лет назад +60

    “It feels good... not to hide anymore” *smiles*
    ASHHH

  • @AP-pw2nk
    @AP-pw2nk 5 лет назад +38

    Ash:“Do I have blonde or brown hair i don’t know”
    Me: SAME LIKE WHAT COLOR IS IT!

    • @alyssaconstable402
      @alyssaconstable402 3 года назад

      sameeee some people say its blonde some people say it's brown. some people even say it's red. we have RAINBOW hair

    • @emmakrumm6399
      @emmakrumm6399 3 года назад

      Same hair colour over here, and this is what helps me: Hungarian has a proper word for non brownary. It's called seszinü (with accents my keyboard doesn't know), meaning "non-of-it-coloured", but instead of being a term for all colour-non-conforming hair shades, it describes this specific mix of brown, blond and a bit of grey. Love that lenguage.

  • @aWERFRGT6545BGFG
    @aWERFRGT6545BGFG 5 лет назад +13

    But let me say that being feminine, wearing dresses, liking pink DOES and NEVER will determine if you're female or not
    As nonbinary but leaning only slightly to female. I hate being feminine..but I have a lot of friends that are girls that hate being feminine but they still say they are female...soo.
    Theirs no such thing as looking like a boy/girl.
    Ive worn neutral clothing since 5 and always tomboy clothes..but felt weird with being seen as male...or being male..

    • @soda_fairy
      @soda_fairy 4 года назад

      Incorrect there is such thing as looking male or female in the society we live in HOWEVER there's not hard lines on where you want to express yourself there

  • @NikiPhilippart
    @NikiPhilippart 5 лет назад +62

    This doesn't have anything to do with the video (which was awesome) but I thought I'd mention that there is a non-binary person on Big Brother Canada which I thought was awesome since there is so little representation of non-gender confirming people in mainstream media!

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +3

      Niki - oooooh I want to watch! What season???

    • @NikiPhilippart
      @NikiPhilippart 5 лет назад +2

      @@HeyThere005 Season 7, it's airing right now :) Started last week.

  • @thevoid8393
    @thevoid8393 5 лет назад +109

    The funny thing to me is my name is Grace and I have dysphoria like really bad and only one of my friends knows. (that friend is great)(10/10 person) but every time Ash says Grace i think someone is talking to me. i thought that was kinda funny.

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +21

      Grace Null I feel the same way when people say my old name. I go on like high alert and am like, “WHAT WHO WHY WOULD SAY THAT....oh.”

    • @sadisticsweet3140
      @sadisticsweet3140 5 лет назад +3

      There's a girl in my class that has the same name as me and the teacher put us next to each other... Yay....

    • @thevoid8393
      @thevoid8393 5 лет назад +3

      @@sadisticsweet3140 heck there are so many graces at my school. you never know who is talking to who. we all just have to wait for a last name.

  • @nelsalyy
    @nelsalyy 5 лет назад

    i just wanna say that i greatly appreciate your videos. i don’t have any of the same struggles but they’re so informative and they boost my mood TONS. you’re just so kind and calm...i wish you lots of success and happiness ❤️

  • @tictachikes6156
    @tictachikes6156 5 лет назад +23

    11:45 Ash comes out again!! Non-blondary/questioning 😂😂😂

  • @RaeDole
    @RaeDole 5 лет назад +198

    I think that you have light brown hair

    • @AliceDiableaux
      @AliceDiableaux 5 лет назад +5

      It's definitely dark blonde

    • @alexanderhaynes8558
      @alexanderhaynes8558 5 лет назад

      Oh god-

    • @joannamarierogue
      @joannamarierogue 5 лет назад

      I agree.

    • @freyjasvansdottir9904
      @freyjasvansdottir9904 5 лет назад

      Yeah their hair is level 5 which is light brown as opposed to level 6 which is dark blond.

    • @ncskitty
      @ncskitty 5 лет назад +2

      My hair is about the same shade and I've always called it blonde (it used to be lighter when I was a kid)

  • @kyliedroid
    @kyliedroid 5 лет назад +29

    Your hair looks to be a mix of level 5/6 which is literally lightest brown/darkest blonde. So... Both are correct! Haha!

  • @stephaniejohnson2445
    @stephaniejohnson2445 4 года назад +8

    I'm just getting into figuring myself out, and I really love the separation or gender identity and gender expression. it feels really nice to know I can be a girl and be more masculine presenting 💛💛

  • @sodapopbuchanan2835
    @sodapopbuchanan2835 5 лет назад

    I've been following you since your side pony days, and Ash, you're the reason why i chopped off all my hair, watching your video about your hair really inspired me! Thank you for sharing your story and continuing to grow with us.

  • @CaptainAce2187
    @CaptainAce2187 5 лет назад +12

    I subscribed and have been following since the side-ponytail and Beer & A Chat days. Great video, Ash!

  • @aliceangel3623
    @aliceangel3623 5 лет назад +15

    i cut my hair like yours because it looks so good

  • @jennawelch9272
    @jennawelch9272 5 лет назад

    I can not get over how amazing this is honestly. For you to be so comfortable in your own body. You're not just nonconforming to piss off the world it's just who you are... a beautiful person inside and out. Watching your videos has helped me a lot as I've started transitioning myself and I just can't thank you enough for being so amazing.

  • @shanies6477
    @shanies6477 5 лет назад +2

    i feel like i’m the only straight and cis person watching ash’s videos. the main reason i do is because i genuinely like they’re personality. they’re so fun and bubbly. they also teach and inform me about gender and sexuality 💘💘

  • @mr.lookalike8666
    @mr.lookalike8666 5 лет назад +53

    omg I jumped when I saw that pic with u in the purple dress..
    Lepidopterophobia. Im afraid of butterflies XD

  • @jeanz638
    @jeanz638 5 лет назад +6

    "There is no real way to look like a woman"
    Love yourself! you're so freakin' beautiful everyone! You got this.

  • @bean669
    @bean669 5 лет назад +1

    Ash is such an inspiration to me. They have helped me figure out who i am and accept that i don’t need to label myself to feel comfy; i don’t need to explain myself to anyone and my happiness should be my main goal. a lot of the time i forget these things but Ash, along with their beautiful wife Grace have guided me along this journey. So thank you!!! 💖💖

  • @emmae3219
    @emmae3219 5 лет назад

    i love how supportive ash is of all of the artist. They always appreciate every single piece. so wholesome. so kind.

  • @isi4556
    @isi4556 5 лет назад +18

    "🎶 I like this drawing and I feel like this drawing and I think this drawing is me🎶"
    love this😁
    oh, and i'd like to thank you, ash, for your videos ( I love your videos😅). I really feel like you understand me/ my current situation. Thank you!😺

  • @flootzavut30daychallenge
    @flootzavut30daychallenge 5 лет назад +2

    I haven't watched an Ash video in ages and I'm watching this and going "why have you not watched more of these videos". Which is a long winded way of saying I'm so glad RUclips suggested one of your videos.
    I don't think I ever saw your with purple hair but you're super cute in pictures!
    That girl in the red dress looks amazing. That's fantastic art!

  • @evag-s5177
    @evag-s5177 5 лет назад

    Watching you begin to express yourself authentically encouraged me to do the same. I remember watching the videos where you were contemplating cutting your hair and put a wig on, and then experimenting with my own hair and eventually cutting it. You have been a great inspiration to me, so thank you.
    Also, your hair is brown. Light brown, but brown.

  • @HitTheReplayButton
    @HitTheReplayButton 5 лет назад

    So cool to look at everyone’s art and hear what you have to say, Ash! I hope you and everyone knows that there’s no need to explain “why” or “why” not you are a certain identity to anyone; you’re valid no matter what others might think or say. No one should be obligated to explain themselves if they are not comfortable or happy doing so!

  • @pam1256
    @pam1256 5 лет назад +8

    That hair pun made me laugh so hard oh my god yes

  • @iGoBySinclair
    @iGoBySinclair 5 лет назад +4

    Dude... Love you're work & am CRAZY honored that you used Obsession

  • @Meeko4eve39
    @Meeko4eve39 5 лет назад +1

    Honestly? Even just completely out of context and with no explanation or reasoning behind it for why you chose that haircut... That haircut just genuinely looks so good on you. I really like it a lot.

  • @Radien
    @Radien 5 лет назад +1

    What I get from those photos is that even when you were confused and uneasy and perhaps not entirely aware of your dysphoria, you still looked like you were a riot to be around!! ♥️

  • @joannaarlene561
    @joannaarlene561 5 лет назад +11

    I love all of your videos, thank you for uploading. you make my day when i watch your videos.

  • @mothsterling8204
    @mothsterling8204 5 лет назад +21

    “They must be gender queer because of the FLEG” midwestern accent gang ❤️

  • @yuvalne
    @yuvalne 5 лет назад

    Seeing you talking right next to your old photos make me so happy, because you look much happier and satisfied with yourself today than in in the photos.
    I'm so happy you found your good place.

  • @emb63
    @emb63 5 лет назад

    I've been watching since the side pony and honestly it makes me so happy to see how far you have come and how happy you are now

  • @angairbender
    @angairbender 5 лет назад +82

    I have a question Ash. I really hope you read this!!
    Because you are pronoun indifferent, are there any situations where you feel misgendered?
    Great vid btw!

    • @HeyThere005
      @HeyThere005  5 лет назад +65

      A W I will probably talk about this in a video soon, it’s a great question :)

    • @angairbender
      @angairbender 5 лет назад +13

      Ash Hardell awesome! Curious because I’m not sure if I should identify as NB when I also don’t mind being called she. Just wanted to hear your take on it!
      Thanks for being so cool and open!!

    • @sleepyaugust2182
      @sleepyaugust2182 5 лет назад +3

      @@angairbender i would just do whatever you want so if you feel comfortable as female then identify as female and if you are uncomfortable then your probably non binary.

    • @evag-s5177
      @evag-s5177 5 лет назад +16

      ​@@angairbender I don't know about Ash, but I'm pronoun indifferent too and I don't feel misgendered when someone says "she," but I do when someone says "girl," "ma'am," "sister," "daughter," etc. As far as I'm concerned, being nonbinary is about not identifying strictly as male or female, not about what pronouns I identify with.

    • @LeafyBoy155
      @LeafyBoy155 5 лет назад +9

      @@evag-s5177 oh my gosh EXACT SAME for me. I go by any pronouns, but I HATE it when someone calls me "girl", "daughter", etc. (all of your examples)

  • @heta5190
    @heta5190 5 лет назад +35

    Coming from the land of blondes(Finland) I'd say you're definitely a brunette!

  • @isabellagonzalez4622
    @isabellagonzalez4622 5 лет назад +3

    Ahhh I’m so happy that you used this song bc I love Sinclair, btw such a great vid ily💜

  • @zoefoster4738
    @zoefoster4738 5 лет назад

    WHY IS ASH’S HAIR ALWAYS ON POINT 😩😂 I’ve been watching you for ages and I love your videos so much!! You gave me the confidence to come out :)

  • @LaurenSchwartzbard
    @LaurenSchwartzbard 5 лет назад +5

    Watching this video made me feel very empowered to just dress how I want to so thank you!

  • @lain2551
    @lain2551 5 лет назад +127

    I love you Ash

  • @AvoryFaucette
    @AvoryFaucette 5 лет назад +1

    I'm amused at how your smile in those photos is so often "I'M FINE EVERYTHING IS FINE OMG WHAT IS HAPPENING SOMEONE GET ME OUT OF HERE."

  • @zoomcrjh
    @zoomcrjh 5 лет назад

    That intro was amazing! I love the way you talk, you are really clear and precise. What a great idea for a video.

  • @natlock6206
    @natlock6206 5 лет назад +3

    I love your videos❤️ also I can totally relate my hair literally never comes out of its ponytail

  • @eemiaa10
    @eemiaa10 5 лет назад +3

    The binary of hair commentary made me LOL!! 🤣🤣

  • @aaaaaaaaaaaaa5378
    @aaaaaaaaaaaaa5378 3 года назад

    Im currently battling in my own mind about what I do and don't want to do to my body(im talking the prospect of top surgery y'all) and there's a whole lot of anxiety with that, but you and your videos are helping me make up my mind and calm down a bit. Thank you Ash :)

  • @ashtynstormes1734
    @ashtynstormes1734 5 лет назад +1

    Seeing photos of pre-figured-out Ash makes me so sad because I can see the sadness in their eyes.

  • @Breeeeee
    @Breeeeee 5 лет назад +7

    I love love love how you brought up Miss. Honey as if everyone has watched Matilda

  • @Canemikat
    @Canemikat 5 лет назад +46

    I'm a cis lady but lately i've been feeling the more masculine look lately. Button up shirts all the way kind of thing. Bow ties or necklaces. I was invited to a wedding and instead of a dress I decided to wear a blazer and pants and saddle shoes. I'm heteroflexible, and I only say this because its sort of expected that women express femininely to attract masculine men, but I don't feel that compulsion. I like men and I like expressing myself masculinely.

    • @jadepaesk8369
      @jadepaesk8369 5 лет назад

      TheWonderGinger I feel the same, I think I’m more comfortable expressing myself masculinely but I’m still not brave enough to show it. If I was invited to a wedding I would probably miss it cause I’m not comfortable wearing dresses and I don’t have the courage to show up wearing a blazer :(

    • @PrincessofKeys
      @PrincessofKeys 5 лет назад

      Honestly I never even thought of this before until now, never really think of the expectations society have for women...it makes me think

    • @C_And_P
      @C_And_P 5 лет назад +2

      Same. Phew. I'm not alone. I like men and I like expressing myself more masculine (although I am feminine sometimes) as well.

    • @Teajay21
      @Teajay21 5 лет назад

      Yep I'm experimenting with this too. I still have my more feminine go to's but I've started buying men's button ups in fun prints. Next step is to get a skinny tie.

  • @lunawolfheart336
    @lunawolfheart336 5 лет назад

    i was looking through my old Facebook photos when i had long hair i felt dysphoric but also it was fun to look back and see how far ive come in finding what i belived im my sexuality and gender

  • @beckybee3687
    @beckybee3687 5 лет назад

    agh i just feel so much happiness watching this like i just have so much love for every single human being this made me happy

  • @keegan9935
    @keegan9935 5 лет назад +4

    I'm also nonbinary, and I used to have hair that was pretty long, below the shoulders. I decided a while ago to cut my hair much shorter, and it was the best decision I have ever made regarding my appearance (that and wearing a tie -- 10/10 would recommend)

  • @jamsammich6961
    @jamsammich6961 5 лет назад +5

    Hi Ash! I just wanted to thank you. I remember adding you on TrevorSpace! Though I'm not trans or non-binary you helped me come out to my family as gay. So thank you, you've helped me grow into the person I am today. ❤

  • @katelynnstverak5666
    @katelynnstverak5666 4 года назад +2

    I’m a completely straight woman, and I was very conservative, that you’re born a girl and you stay a girl and marry a man. UNTIL, my mom married a man, and his son is having a lot of self identity problems. I think he’s scared of being judged. We would support him no matter what btw. But my step sister came out as Bi this past summer and I seriously credit my open mindedness to people like you. It opened up my mind and saw that not all people are the same and people in the LGBTQ+ are some of the most down to earth, AMAZING people ever. So thank you. ❤️

  • @film9491
    @film9491 5 лет назад

    That's so cool you are paying the people that sent fan art! All of it was great!

  • @leximontes6433
    @leximontes6433 5 лет назад +5

    7:15 made me giggle lol! I just wanted to say that I appreciate everything you do for the LGBTQ+ community. I am a supporter, not a part of it, but I think it is good for people to feel confident in there own unique body and mind! Love your videos!

  • @cordeliaistheone
    @cordeliaistheone 5 лет назад +3

    I realised I was non-binary in 2016 because of you and your book and I've come out to a lot of people this year and everyone's been really lovely. Thank you so much for all you've done for me and so many people you're such a wonderful human being 💜

  • @jacquelineavery
    @jacquelineavery 5 лет назад

    Skillshare is such a smart sponsorship for this channel. Every time I watch you I think about learning to edit, and then BAM here's a website where you can learn that!

  • @keybladewizard49
    @keybladewizard49 3 года назад

    The flower pictur at 10:05 seems to be expressing a fanfiction trope called Hanahaki, which is where flowers grow in the chest and on the body in response to unrequited love or unresolved feelings.

  • @dragonslayer1787
    @dragonslayer1787 5 лет назад +4

    Ash, where do you get the get the music in your intros is it a playlist or anything?

  • @bionicbladderboo
    @bionicbladderboo 5 лет назад +4

    You are a wonderful human Ash. Thank you for sharing your journey, you’ve been such a beacon of light for the nonbinary and lgbtq community as a whole. Much love and solidarity to you 💛

  • @lianna3814
    @lianna3814 5 лет назад

    You've grown happier and more confident lately and it shows :) I'm so happy for you!

  • @carterdavis3556
    @carterdavis3556 5 лет назад

    Ahhh! I was so excited when I saw this because I haven’t been able to watch your latest videos (nothing personal just not my thing) but this one was awesome! All the art and pictures were so cool to look at.

  • @aviezerscop401
    @aviezerscop401 5 лет назад +9

    Guys, Ash isn't a woman...
    Ash is FABULOUS.

    • @kyngdee3603
      @kyngdee3603 5 лет назад +1

      Wrong ash is a women yet still fabulous

    • @susanwilliams2392
      @susanwilliams2392 5 лет назад

      @@kyngdee3603 Sorry but Ash isn't even one woman, let alone multiple women. Why are you even here if you refuse to learn?

    • @kyngdee3603
      @kyngdee3603 5 лет назад

      @@susanwilliams2392 she is one woman

    • @kyngdee3603
      @kyngdee3603 5 лет назад

      Genetically speaking she is a female

    • @kyngdee3603
      @kyngdee3603 5 лет назад

      Her reproductive system produces eggs right

  • @llawlietis2thic2vent48
    @llawlietis2thic2vent48 5 лет назад +30

    I love you so much youyou taught me it's ok to be MASC or fem no matter your gender

  • @nancypeteja6560
    @nancypeteja6560 5 лет назад

    Alot of talented people out there!🎨

  • @berryrhubarb
    @berryrhubarb 5 лет назад

    I remember your side ponytail days! I’m so glad to see you feel happier. ♥️

  • @unfortunatedisgrace246
    @unfortunatedisgrace246 3 года назад +4

    gosh i miss ash :(

  • @liampje9384
    @liampje9384 5 лет назад +5

    You are so inspirational for so lots of teenagers❤️

  • @jayflight
    @jayflight 5 лет назад

    My first step was shaving half my head (I had longgg blue hair), and it felt really good. Once I got around go shaving all around the sides and cutting down the top, it felt really great! I fell way more in tune with myself now♡♡

  • @meganeff
    @meganeff 5 лет назад

    Ash, your editing is always on point. I love it.

  • @zuckellaoderso9363
    @zuckellaoderso9363 5 лет назад +5

    Every time you talk about gender expression I get the urge to try out more androgynous stuff, catch me looking at button downs and snapbacks for the next few days😂

  • @faith0676
    @faith0676 5 лет назад +4

    8:43
    Love that
    “Hip leather things?!” -Ash

  • @MayiMinecraft
    @MayiMinecraft 5 лет назад

    Ash I adore you! I connect so much to you and your identity! It's nice to see someone on my screen that I strive to be. I'm still scared as hell to take the steps to be more myself but knowing that you did it gives me strength and hope. Thanks for being so inspiring, and also an amazing educational channel. I've learned so much from you! Thank you!

  • @eleanorbarsic8065
    @eleanorbarsic8065 4 года назад

    Omg! So many pcs of ash art! That was great.