Today a random guy stood very close to me in line, so i looked back at him a few times, thinking he might get the hint and back up but he was oblivious so i finally asked him if he could please back up a little because he was in my personal space bubble, and he proceeded to argue with me that i felt uncomfortable. I couldn't believe it.
I am a big believer in personal space. I have chemical sensitivities so basically I'm allergic to most people. I really don't think standing as close as you can next to a person in a grocery store line is a good thing. I also don't think everyone wants to be touched. There is a difference of confidence and personal space.
Ugh I have this coworker who started to stand close to me or started to make approaches to touch me (tickling or something, but thanks to corona distance he is restraining himself i think). I dread it so much but eventually I have to talk to him about it. And honestly about 80% of the people I talked to they act either offended or just point out, that noone ever said that to them and thats a weird thing to say. One guy even tried to gaslight me about not wanting a shoulder massage (wtf). *sigh* but whatever it has to be said because I believe that he wont get it
You need to be less polite. Stare them right in the eye and very calmly, with a poker-face, tell them that if they touch you again you'll break their arm. I stress, *calmly*. If you seem emotional they may try to dismiss it and ask you why you are in such a mood today. But with a quiet, steady voice and dead mackerel eyes they wont know what to make of it(it's the uncertainty that is going to have the desired effect - extraverts hate feeling uncertain around people - which is why they don't like quiet people like me). And make sure they are the one to break eye contact, not you. They wont tell you that you are weird after that. But they will feel less, "touchy-feely" around you. Of course it would be most effective on the first occasion before they get a chance to develop a sense of entitlement regarding your personal space but it's still worth a go either way imh.
So your mother intimidates you with spacial pressure or you intimate bubble it bigger than your mother realises. Next time she approaches you and before she can invade your space, face her and confidently say hello or hi and take a step towards her. If you are sitting down look at her and say hi or hello and then ask her how she is doing.
I still don't understand. What is a personal bubble. I understand what a personal bubble is on a conceptual level but for the life of me i don't understand what it is on a emotional level. What is a personal bubble!?
Today a random guy stood very close to me in line, so i looked back at him a few times, thinking he might get the hint and back up but he was oblivious so i finally asked him if he could please back up a little because he was in my personal space bubble, and he proceeded to argue with me that i felt uncomfortable. I couldn't believe it.
I am a big believer in personal space. I have chemical sensitivities so basically I'm allergic to most people. I really don't think standing as close as you can next to a person in a grocery store line is a good thing. I also don't think everyone wants to be touched. There is a difference of confidence and personal space.
Ugh I have this coworker who started to stand close to me or started to make approaches to touch me (tickling or something, but thanks to corona distance he is restraining himself i think). I dread it so much but eventually I have to talk to him about it. And honestly about 80% of the people I talked to they act either offended or just point out, that noone ever said that to them and thats a weird thing to say. One guy even tried to gaslight me about not wanting a shoulder massage (wtf). *sigh* but whatever it has to be said because I believe that he wont get it
You need to be less polite. Stare them right in the eye and very calmly, with a poker-face, tell them that if they touch you again you'll break their arm. I stress, *calmly*. If you seem emotional they may try to dismiss it and ask you why you are in such a mood today. But with a quiet, steady voice and dead mackerel eyes they wont know what to make of it(it's the uncertainty that is going to have the desired effect - extraverts hate feeling uncertain around people - which is why they don't like quiet people like me). And make sure they are the one to break eye contact, not you. They wont tell you that you are weird after that. But they will feel less, "touchy-feely" around you. Of course it would be most effective on the first occasion before they get a chance to develop a sense of entitlement regarding your personal space but it's still worth a go either way imh.
My mother absolutely violates my personal space, it bothers me to no end
How’s you deal with it I’m so struggling now
So your mother intimidates you with spacial pressure or you intimate bubble it bigger than your mother realises.
Next time she approaches you and before she can invade your space, face her and confidently say hello or hi and take a step towards her. If you are sitting down look at her and say hi or hello and then ask her how she is doing.
I still don't understand.
What is a personal bubble. I understand what a personal bubble is on a conceptual level but for the life of me i don't understand what it is on a emotional level. What is a personal bubble!?