I helped my stepson for 8 years and he ended up smashing up my kitchen and spitting on my head. Spoilt and ungrateful. If you childfree run in the other dir. They bleed you dry. Complete waste of time and effort.
I don’t like that any step parent feels the need to overstep or criticize anyone who is a biological parent,… especially if they have no children of their own. It’s not your place to be at all! Also especially if their own family situation and personality isn’t even remotely perfect at all. To me it’s jealousy, insecurity,control and manipulation and competition which is totally unnecessary and unwelcome. Step person should focus on themselves and their own issues and that’s it. Why should I, as a parent, take the brunt of someone else’s decision to not have children and deal with animosity just because they are insecure or comparative or lacking confidence in themselves. The one I deal with goes out of her way to try to make sure I’m in defense and placing a wedge or conflict and covertly manipulating and insulting. Do they think creating drama and stress and defending their own negative actions, attacking me or my parenting and pretending they are healthy is helping my child? It’s not! Also they have him 2 days a month and their home is filled with anxiety and alcoholism. The two of them just work together to verbally abuse me and attempt to keep me down because they themselves are down. I’m not part of their cycle I’m outside of it and so using me as a distraction or deflection or projection to hide their own crap is not ok or welcome at all
If someone decides to make their partner a step-parent than they asked them to overstep. They aren't a parent when you decide they are. Therapist will tell you either, you are all in or not in at all. Procreation doesn't automatically make you a better parent.
@@gerkea0611 That’s insane,… being in a partnership with someone doesn’t entitle them automatically to be anything more than your partner. Being a step parent doesn’t automatically make you able to raise children and it certainly doesn’t give you the same connection as a biological parent and it never will. Fact! And again to prove my aforementioned point,… the part where you mentioned it wouldn’t necessarily make biological parent “better” is a sign that your thought process isn’t right in the first place. It’s not about Better,.. it’s about that particular connection and about the fact that there is no need for any form of attempt at competition with the biological parent. There are some cases I can see a need for a step parent or foster parent but it won’t change the fact that the child is imprinted at birth by genetics and by God and the fact they have their own individual personalities and don’t need to be molded, so to speak, but rather just nurtured to the point where they can go off and be on their own
@@hawkverity835claims that you just want a partner would be fine with most childfree ppl but the truth is that you want a partner who watches your kids, cleans up after them, helps them when they are in need and contributes to a household of more than just one partner BUT when your kids are disrespectful or acting up, you scream that the stepparent "overstepped" 😂 You are the posted child of a toxic single parent and i pity the fools who will get involved with you and let your children run over them because "they are your kids" 😂
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I.can relate to her as a childless stepmom.
I helped my stepson for 8 years and he ended up smashing up my kitchen and spitting on my head.
Spoilt and ungrateful. If you childfree run in the other dir. They bleed you dry. Complete waste of time and effort.
I needed this so much today! Thank you for this ❤️
This was really helpful, thank you!
Never marry a man or woman with kids! Not worth the hassle.
Vice versa never marry a child free individual as the understanding is totally different
This was so helpful!😊
Hi, I really appreciate your video, I want to implement the 5-5-5 rule when I see something I don't like. Thank you. 😊
Interesting I don’t get see or hear any communication between my person and their child’s mother. I don’t know if it’s a secret or what.
Great video
Tell me more about these adopted chinese kids lol
What if it's been 4 years and she still acts like I don't exist?
That's so hard Megan! How old is she? Feel free to email us too at everythingalwaysco@gmail.com
Don’t do it!
👌 🆗️ so you know a lot of chinese adoptive kids
I don’t like that any step parent feels the need to overstep or criticize anyone who is a biological parent,… especially if they have no children of their own. It’s not your place to be at all! Also especially if their own family situation and personality isn’t even remotely perfect at all. To me it’s jealousy, insecurity,control and manipulation and competition which is totally unnecessary and unwelcome. Step person should focus on themselves and their own issues and that’s it. Why should I, as a parent, take the brunt of someone else’s decision to not have children and deal with animosity just because they are insecure or comparative or lacking confidence in themselves. The one I deal with goes out of her way to try to make sure I’m in defense and placing a wedge or conflict and covertly manipulating and insulting. Do they think creating drama and stress and defending their own negative actions, attacking me or my parenting and pretending they are healthy is helping my child? It’s not! Also they have him 2 days a month and their home is filled with anxiety and alcoholism. The two of them just work together to verbally abuse me and attempt to keep me down because they themselves are down. I’m not part of their cycle I’m outside of it and so using me as a distraction or deflection or projection to hide their own crap is not ok or welcome at all
If someone decides to make their partner a step-parent than they asked them to overstep. They aren't a parent when you decide they are. Therapist will tell you either, you are all in or not in at all. Procreation doesn't automatically make you a better parent.
@@gerkea0611 That’s insane,… being in a partnership with someone doesn’t entitle them automatically to be anything more than your partner. Being a step parent doesn’t automatically make you able to raise children and it certainly doesn’t give you the same connection as a biological parent and it never will. Fact!
And again to prove my aforementioned point,… the part where you mentioned it wouldn’t necessarily make biological parent “better” is a sign that your thought process isn’t right in the first place. It’s not about Better,.. it’s about that particular connection and about the fact that there is no need for any form of attempt at competition with the biological parent. There are some cases I can see a need for a step parent or foster parent but it won’t change the fact that the child is imprinted at birth by genetics and by God and the fact they have their own individual personalities and don’t need to be molded, so to speak, but rather just nurtured to the point where they can go off and be on their own
@@hawkverity835claims that you just want a partner would be fine with most childfree ppl but the truth is that you want a partner who watches your kids, cleans up after them, helps them when they are in need and contributes to a household of more than just one partner BUT when your kids are disrespectful or acting up, you scream that the stepparent "overstepped" 😂
You are the posted child of a toxic single parent and i pity the fools who will get involved with you and let your children run over them because "they are your kids" 😂
So I'm guessing you don't ask/expect for support from your partner?
@@whyaminotoriginal I’m guessing you should mind your business just like my partner would lol