👋🏻Heya! Hope you enjoyed this one! LMK if you're an ADHDer who suffers fromRejection Sensitive Dysphoria! 👇🏻 🚨Wanna join my free Relationship Bootcamp? be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp - Chris
I spent a lot of my life ghosting my relationships that I thought was not working out instead of having that conversation and possibly being rejected. It has taken a lot of time and effort on my part to change that behaviour and to actually have those hard conversations. Great video, thanks.
Thanks so much! Yeah, taking the time to lean in and face those difficult conversations is empowering! It's not easy, but it is easier than simply trying to avoid rejection!
Very surface level information here. You miss narcissistic abuse, covert narcissists, unreliable narrators. You only give us message that we need to be less egocentric (without using the term egocentrism which is worrying). Yes - we need to be open to constructive criticism and learn from mistakes. But RSD happens with abusers and manipulators and controllers too who blame shift, shift blame, on purpose due to power dynamics - you do not mention that at all. You do not mention Shame Culture countries -where we live in ambient that is intrusive and shameful. When society is toxic.
@@BeUltranormal I'll give you some tips to investigate: These are all interchangeable: RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) = Social anxiety = Emotional Dysregulation = Complex Trauma = Toxic shame = After-effects of ACoA & ACE = After-effects of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse = Hypervigilance/hypovigilance = PureOCD = Unfavorable power dynamics = Trauma response = Trauma bonding = Neurodivergence = Spectrum, not binary thinking = Amygdala hijacking = Trauma triggers and flashbacks = being criticized for something you can't control = having high moral and ethical standards and enforcing them = someone random complains about our errors when we done superhuman efforts to avoid ALL mistakes which 98.5% percent of people never invest neither physically nor mentally = toxic person complaining and expecting us to know something for the first time without mistakes = Perfectionism = Protesting: someone toxic complaining without fair assessment and basing their protest on bias and prejudice and oversimplification = Protesting: to express OUR OWN judgement and negative evaluation and holding criminals narcissists accountable for their crimes and hidden selfish agenda of exploiting others = Not conforming = Conforming (fawning) to unreasonable standards and neurotypical norms = Conforming to narcissistic abuser and psychopath who would punish us if we don't conform to their Coercive control, hidden agenda and manipulation and pathological lying = Being authentic true speaking the truth to fake people and toxic people who have hidden covert agenda to exploit others = being Agreeable (Big 5 personality trait) = being Open (Big 5 personality trait) = Being Neurotic (Big 5 personality trait) = being healthy, friendly and open to life and people = Attachment issues = Codependency = Listening to our gut feeling = Quiet BPD (PureBPD) = BPD Splitting = Inner critic = Imposter syndrome = Being exposed to Operant Conditioning of Negative reinforcement (rejection, cold shoulder) = Being exposed to Negative reinforcement Breadcrumbs hoping positive reinforcement will come instead = doing the best we can to avoid and mitigate negative reinforcement = Avoidance "People expect the quiet one to adapt to the loud people but not the other way around"
👋🏻Heya! Hope you enjoyed this one! LMK if you're an ADHDer who suffers fromRejection Sensitive Dysphoria! 👇🏻
🚨Wanna join my free Relationship Bootcamp? be.ultranormal.co/relationship-bootcamp
- Chris
I spent a lot of my life ghosting my relationships that I thought was not working out instead of having that conversation and possibly being rejected. It has taken a lot of time and effort on my part to change that behaviour and to actually have those hard conversations. Great video, thanks.
Thanks so much! Yeah, taking the time to lean in and face those difficult conversations is empowering! It's not easy, but it is easier than simply trying to avoid rejection!
""life ghosting my relationships" is Borderline. Not RSD issue.
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Hell yeah!!
I simply concentrate my will on ignoring fear in crucial situations
Great! Does that work for you?
@@BeUltranormal Not without stress but yes. I also can't do anything else that day
I need to that but it scares me to my core.
I've been scared of so many things in my life, I'm learning much more to lean into fear, fear is temporary. :)
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Very surface level information here.
You miss narcissistic abuse, covert narcissists, unreliable narrators.
You only give us message that we need to be less egocentric (without using the term egocentrism which is worrying).
Yes - we need to be open to constructive criticism and learn from mistakes.
But RSD happens with abusers and manipulators and controllers too who blame shift, shift blame, on purpose due to power dynamics - you do not mention that at all.
You do not mention Shame Culture countries -where we live in ambient that is intrusive and shameful. When society is toxic.
Hey! Thank for the comment! And yeah, I can see how you're probably feeling like there was a lot of nuance missing from the video, I imagine?
@@BeUltranormal I'll give you some tips to investigate:
These are all interchangeable:
RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) = Social anxiety = Emotional Dysregulation = Complex Trauma = Toxic shame = After-effects of ACoA & ACE = After-effects of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse = Hypervigilance/hypovigilance = PureOCD = Unfavorable power dynamics = Trauma response = Trauma bonding = Neurodivergence = Spectrum, not binary thinking = Amygdala hijacking = Trauma triggers and flashbacks = being criticized for something you can't control = having high moral and ethical standards and enforcing them = someone random complains about our errors when we done superhuman efforts to avoid ALL mistakes which 98.5% percent of people never invest neither physically nor mentally = toxic person complaining and expecting us to know something for the first time without mistakes = Perfectionism = Protesting: someone toxic complaining without fair assessment and basing their protest on bias and prejudice and oversimplification = Protesting: to express OUR OWN judgement and negative evaluation and holding criminals narcissists accountable for their crimes and hidden selfish agenda of exploiting others = Not conforming = Conforming (fawning) to unreasonable standards and neurotypical norms = Conforming to narcissistic abuser and psychopath who would punish us if we don't conform to their Coercive control, hidden agenda and manipulation and pathological lying = Being authentic true speaking the truth to fake people and toxic people who have hidden covert agenda to exploit others = being Agreeable (Big 5 personality trait) = being Open (Big 5 personality trait) = Being Neurotic (Big 5 personality trait) = being healthy, friendly and open to life and people = Attachment issues = Codependency = Listening to our gut feeling = Quiet BPD (PureBPD) = BPD Splitting = Inner critic = Imposter syndrome = Being exposed to Operant Conditioning of Negative reinforcement (rejection, cold shoulder) = Being exposed to Negative reinforcement Breadcrumbs hoping positive reinforcement will come instead = doing the best we can to avoid and mitigate negative reinforcement = Avoidance
"People expect the quiet one to adapt to the loud people but not the other way around"
@ranc1977 great, thanks!
@@BeUltranormal It is difficult to understand the universe if you only study one planet.
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Great analogy, thanks :)