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Much appreciated, Wingmam! On a similar note, I was thinking of making a secondary RUclips channel talking about commentary and relationships/dating. But regarding the relationships and dating aspect, I would also like to talk about the other side of the coin: Men who want masculine or dominant women, and women who want feminine or submissive men. Any advice for those kinds of vids?
Most men agree, John! However, if you prefer being the lead (alpha) in a relationship make sure to show proofs of that after she's approached. You'll either discover she appreciates that or that's she's a feminist or dominant woman (which is fine if that's what you're looking for). :)
@@YourWingmam I rather approach them and be the initiator but it's a nice feeling when the women who actually do it as it shows the interest and also that she can be comfortable under her own skin :-)
It’s my experience that if you have to work at keeping the conversation going she’s not into you. If you click the conversation will just flow. If she’s into you she’ll comment off of every thing you say. Here’s an example that happened to me, I was talking to the girl I’m dating, we were talking about directions and said I learned the directions by Never.Eat.Shredded.Wheat as the directions. Then I said but shredded wheat isn’t bad I prefer the frosted ones. And she said she liked shredded wheat. If she’s into you there will be no awkward silence. You both will be blabbering nonstop
I was going to make the same comment, I've started conversations first by saying hello then saying something like........soooo, do you really believe the universe is expanding? If she is at all interested she'll most likely start giggling and say something like.......nice one! Any off the wall bullshit will work.
Not always. A million factors at play. I was recently on a first date with someone with whom it didn’t flow naturally. Guess what…the date ended in my bedroom regardless. Just like the following second date. She was just a bit intimidated the first time according to her.
Another one I like to use is if you're in any place of business ask the girl behind the counter "so..........do you come here often?" You gotta ask just right or it doesn't quite work lol but it is good for a laugh if she has any sense of humor at all, believe me it's gone wrong a few times
Not always bro, sometimes it is Platonic Love. Love which does not have any sexual or physical desires of intimacy but just the Soul and Emotional Connection. It is like finding a friend who is always there to talk to you, listen to you and give you validation for whatever you say. Platonic Love makes you less Masculine. Something that JP, Hamza, Andrew Tate and guys like those been preaching. We have to learn to be Masculine as a male bro. I realized this little late in my life too. Which is why not always the same for everyone. Million factors at play and you are just really lucky if you get everything perfect in your dating life.
No more conversations with a woman for me at all. My past choices were so bad that I decided that the only thing for me to do now is avoiding women altogether. So if I'm out at some social gathering (which is rare for me anyway) I avoid any conversations with the women. Makes things so much easier...
Knowing, liking, respecting and accepting! Indeed. The ability to assess important aspects of yourself both favorable and not so much, having clarity, acceptance and doing the work to heal those wounded parts is a very attractive human trait!
Again, great tips and thanks for sharing. @0:42 - this is so true. I've been married for the past 15 years and talking to women is no big deal. You know why? I don't put pressure on myself. Of course, I have no romantic objective. So perhaps take a hint from those like me. Go in with no expectations. Don't make it weird for either of you by expecting an outcome. Have an experience. Some experiences progress and others don't. If you have an outcome in mind, it's too easy to psych yourself out. @2:00 - this pairs with what I wrote above. Confidence is not expecting a specific outcome, it's being able to handle whatever happens. @5:45 - engage in the experience. If you get past the opening line, engage in the experience. As she said, make a comment about the surroundings, her book, something she has, maybe you met her on a bike trail, so ask about the trails or her bike, etc. @9:45 - good idea. The tatoo (if you are into that sort of thing) is a great opening as you can notice it and ask her to share the significance of it. Or, if you think that's too personal, maybe ask where she had it done, assuming you are even remotely interested in getting some ink. While I'm not a fan, it does make for a great opening as it's not just something she was born with. Instead, it's something she chose, so presumably, it says something about who she is or what she may value, etc. I suppose it could be a landmine as well. Just an opportunity to show you are confident enough to handle it. Like if she says something like, "It was not my best decision..." and laments the body art, just be understanding, don't press and say you get it, you have some choices that makes you wish life offered a few mulligans from time to time. Or the presumptive way, "once we get to know each other better, you may have to tell the story about the tattoo." This combines the tease with the presumption that there is more to come. In general, I'd say work on some of the initial "chat-up" skills with folks you ARE NOT drawn to. Why? To make them a natural part of who you are. Part of that is just being a good human being. I didn't say nice, I said good. No reason not to be kind to the cashier at the coffee shop, or the staff at the gym, etc. Plus, it helps develop the skill without having an outcome tied to the event. You are going in with no outcome other than trying to be a good and kind human being. This makes it easier to do so when you are besotted with that vision of loveliness you see in the coffee shop. You've made it a reflexive skill that you know you can pull off because you've done it before. Goes back to confidence as mentioned above.
Wonderful topic tonight! "It's only awkward if you make it awkward": Superb observation! As someone who has done a LOT of public speaking, I had to figure this out. The audience will largely reflect your energy. If the Q&A time yields lots of potentially awkward quiet times, don't panic -- roll with it. I learned this doing a trade show a few years back where my boss said, "We need to hold this crowd for 30 minutes until we start the big giveaway." I took the mic and started talking to the crowd. What did I say? No idea; my brain was about 1 1/2 seconds ahead of my mouth. But I just kept reading the crowd and entertaining them until the proper time. I didn't allow myself to feel awkward or unprepared; I just rolled with it -- and they rolled with me! "Just because you can have her doesn't mean you should have her": Absolutely! This isn't like sports, where every win counts the same. Go for the one win with the right woman! Your energy looked excellent today -- not exactly Italian hands, but the eyes and head action were notable! Hoping this was a great week with more to come! Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/Tuckered T too tired to tail thump tonight. ;)
High five for rolling with it and reading the room! Many people would rather drive off a cliff than do pubic speaking. Great analogy to sports! Only one win necessary. Your prayers may be working, energy has been a little better!! Thank you, Russ! Scratch for a Tired Mr. T. :))
Great observations - for those who are uncomfortable speaking to a crowd, there are groups that help with public speaking. Toastmasters is an example. Not only can this help you with speaking with women, it can also help in your career (working on yourself).
Each of your meticulously constructed videos is an expression of love. Certainly to actually embrace you would be a moment of tranquility. Wingmam is like a nurse to a wounded soldier. PS: lovely as always.
Some of your videos I need to watch five times to pick up everything that you're putting down because they're so much important information in there. This video s one of them. Anna, you don't have to ask if we would like for you to make a video on a topic. The answer is yes, we would like for you to make a video on everything you find important and not so important.
In my state it's amazing how women you meet either in a professional setting such as work or in other places can't help injecting the phrase "my husband " into the first 2 sentences they speak ,in our exchange.
Needed to see this one. There is a issue that I've always had to some degree, that this video brings up though. You are right on point about the "approach anxiety". I liken the feeling to standing at the open door of a plane with you ready to leap for the novice but yet even the seasoned veteran at times. The "coffee shop approach"...you have a course on that. I may have to do it because almost any coffee shop, is double or triple the approach anxiety because you now have an audience. Coffee shops are popular and most of the time busy. There is no din from muzac usually, some from people conversing. Not unusual to see attractive women , sometimes in groups. If a guy gets up from one table and walks across the room to another table and chats up a female, every adult who sees that will know what's going on and likely watching the show. (yes I know that equates to a confidence issue, but rolling the dice on crash and burn with an audience...?) NBD if you are successful, but cold approaches main feature is that they are NOT successful (getting her number) even half the time unless you aim too low. So to me, simply because of the more open, usually well lit, but cozy setting of a coffee shop or similar, brings you that audience, I just likely wouldn't even do an approach there, even though I've wanted too several times, without some signal from her first. What's really funny is, I have no problem with all the people at the table listening (like at ladies night), got over that decades ago at dance clubs. But in that environment, women expect to be approached. If you have secrets to Coffee Shop approach that work, in my mind, it's worth weight in gold because to me, that is one of the toughest environments. If you can do it there, you should be able to do it about anywhere. Just talked myself into it. On my To-Do list.
What I like about your focus Anna Maria is how you want men to be better. I was playing tennis last night with one of my younger friends (almost granddaughter age and we were the final champions so we walked away victorious) and I hugged her at the end, a totally spontaneous act. I thought about it and suggested this morning by text that I hope I hadn't offended her. And she came back and said I could not do that. And yes, men have to work on themselves before they have anything to offer.
Thank you for this video, Anna. As I have told you you and everyone else that watches your informative videos, I am learning Argentine Tango Dancing. Although still struggling with it, I ask many ladies to dance with me. With 85% saying yes. Guess I am getting better at it. Anyway, what you are saying in this video about the conversation I can do AFTER the dancing and if she is not there with a boyfriend or husband. But then, I still have a plain conversation with them without crossing boundries.
Wow. I was asked that question before. I could not give an answer. I would like to travel to and thru New England. I took a road trip for almost two weeks in 1994...2001...2008....going to different locations throughout the area...and Eastern New York. They were good times when I had the opportunity, the money and the time. My priorities have changed, Lini, so travel for that amount of time is impossible for me right now. How about you?
Sometimes just being relax and talking casually with someone is the best way, think like a salesman w.o the sales pressure. No need to be over the top like the Butabi brothers with their Emilio Estevez pick up line. The tips mentioned here is down to the ground no bs approach
Part of growing as a man is learning to step into the fire, not avoid it. Interactions with women are just another proving ground, another arena of performance. Soon enough you can become immune to embarrassment, unfazed by rejection. Awkwardness isn't a barrier because you can laugh and roll with it. Women respond to energy. Positive energy is attractive, and even more so is staying positive in the face of negative energy (her sh!t tests).
Great video AJ ! at this stage of the game for me being an old geezer if there is a woman in the right place at the right time say while I am walking...rare thing I don't walk much...but it happens. And I have a chance to say something I'll say it and keep sort of walking on ....Oh a Chihuahua guard dog I hope it's had it's lunch already.. if they respond in a positive way I'll listen and look for a wedding ring..and just have a nice talk till they end it or I do. Looks are important you need to be attracted to her and her to you .....I hope everyone can find their match and have a happy life or I will see you sometime in Portugal or somewhere around there...lol...
For me, confidence is being self activated instead of being reactive, which means to always be the aware cause of what I'm doing instead of going on reactive autopilot, reacting to any automatic emotion that arises from a situation. Emotions are what automatically moves us IF we are in the reactive mode (and it can move us in the wrong direction), but if we are in an active, causal mode, we can actually activate the desired body energies (usually called "emotions") that are usually automatic, and then these energies activate our mind in a certain way adapted to a situation, for example to know spontaneously what to say to someone. Some people probably call it a state of "flow", but the important thing to understand is that it is caused by an awareness that is self activated, impervious to the exterior, in a certain way (its core), and which activates various modes of body energies at will, which in return activate the mind in a certain way to spontaneously adapt to the situation. This is a feedback process between the mind and the body. The body and the mind form a whole, and I sometimes say that we think with our body, but all that feedback loop must be activated by the untouched unreactive but active, self activating awareness core. At a certain level, we can call it "The Will", but it is different than what people usually mean by "will", which is usually just a fight against automatic reactivity. "Will", is actually the aware "I", the "I am" of the mystics, the real self awareness that establishes the right hierarchy between the self activating core of awareness and the mind-body, or body-mind.
@@YourWingmam I know that what I wrote is too general and will try to make it more practical. It has to do with the hierarchy of purposes and goals. If someone is like a reactive pinball in a pinball machine, he has no direction of his own but is at the mercy of various external impulses. For example a man in relation to women can be in a situation where he faces a whole confusion of goals and purposes he is unable to order: "should I do this, should I want that, or that... what should I do, what should I want" (a human asks himself those questions, a mere "biped" has animal purposes). This applies to all kinds of life situations, not just male-female relationships. Someone aware of his "I", his inner causal core, someone self activated, becomes aware of himself as the initial aware purpose, aware self activated life. One realizes that one is life and aware life. That life is the purpose. Then this is articulated into a hierarchy of more specific life purposes and goals serving those purposes,which is the articulation of awareness into all dimensions and aspects of life, it is a process of maturation of life, a process of becoming an adult. So many people don't become adults in many aspects of their lives, particularly in M-F relationships, and it would help them to establish this awareness of purposes and goals from the top, the self activated awareness to specific articulations of that life core in all aspects of their lives. They would have a clear direction, and confronted to various situations, they would not be at their mercy, but would assess them in relation to their own direction. This is what I call clarity - the clarity of purposes and goals from the top, the awareness of self, the aware life, the "I". M-F relationship is also a question of life and awareness of the purpose of that life union and make it a real functional union of the unit of life that is the couple. Having that purpose in mind one can assess other people and if they are capable to be part of that, and become that union of life and grow into adulthood in that direction. In this World this is a problem, and it would be the role of a Man to lead in that direction, but clarity in that area is very deficient.
And when one becomes confident and self assured in Clarity, one can become very playful inside it and also develop strong emotions in accordance to that Clarity. This is not a stern "discipline", it's life. And another detail: The "I AM" always stays the I AM, but it also integrates and absorbs all its purposes and goals in itself.
Being vunerable works if you do it right. Pretending you just got devastated in a breakup and don't want to live anymore, will never know love again, yada yada...this actually hooks really well.....strangely enough.....lol
I find the real answer is to be diverse on subjects. I know lots of fragments of information so when a women says she like "x" I usually know a bit about it.
Another really good video here Anna, now i'm not good with any of these but especially that first one on confidence, i really, really don't like, respect or accept myself in fact i hate myself, i am trying to get better with this though just not sure i'll ever get there, but i am trying, also my mom says that until i do i'll never get any friends or a girlfriend.
I really like the, I've gotta go soon strategy you mentioned I'm definitely going to use it going forward. You're really good at what you do, you don't pull any punches, thank you 👍
When I see a lady reading or texting, I think she does not want to be interrupted. I thought the lady would be annoyed by someone trying to chat her up. When I see an attractive lady, I look at their body language, and usually see them looking focused on their task, not open to talking. I did talk easily to a lady today because I met her once before and learnt she has rescue dogs. Animals are a big interest of mine, so easy to talk about, and she is a super nice lady...but married, but good to talk to. Great video, and wish I could do it as described here.
She was good practice then! Some women will be annoyed if you interrupt them, it's a roll of the dice, but you'll never know unless you try. Do watch for body language though, of course.
A woman liking animals is a huge filter. To me it shows she has compassion, humility and patients. Not that people that don't like animals can't have those traits but you will know immediately if she doesn't like them then you won't want her in your life
@@64maxpower 100% agree. That lady has 3 rescue dogs. She takes them to be with her at her work. She is a 10. Great looking and great personality. She makes conversation easy. A lady liking animals is a huge positive for me. My cat travelled 11,450 miles with me from New Zealand to England.
@@64maxpower Yes, I know I am supposed to think that, but if I get a successful relationship, I will consider myself very lucky. I used to think I have had too much rejection and attempted scammers for it to happen. Just need to find that right one. I will not put her on a pedestal. She will have to treat me with respect and most importantly is we enjoy each other and have fun times. I feel I can tell if a lady is genuine. That Russian lady I have mentioned in previous videos. She was good and I very much hoped we would work, except she treated me badly at times. So I rejected her. She did make contact again, I have now friend zoned her. Not heard from her since July, maybe coz I have expressed my exact thoughts about Adolf Putin. She does not like the war, but has not given an opinion. That might be a fear of reprisal from government.
I had conversations with women that went nowhere . Takes 2 to tango . A guy can do what you say but if the counterpart is not willing to keep it positive , it will go nowhere .
Don't ask for her number. Give her your's. My little brother is a good example of how well this works. He asked this girl for her number after he fumbled his way through his approach. He came to me and our older brother for advice after she brushed him off. I had this idea. I told him to give her his number. If you think about it, this one move is several. It takes pressure off of both of you. Because you don't have to ask her for something, you don't have to worry about seeming desperate. She doesn't have to commit to anything upfront. It demonstrates confidence, shows you're not attached to any outcome. He did a little better the second time around. He came prepared. He gave her his number. She called him the next day. They've been together a year.
@@YourWingmam what would you think if a guy, after approaching you and having a short conversation, wrote his personal number on his business card and gave it to you?
I really enjoy the common sense approach Anna brings out in her videos, I could see myself in those very situations she described so I know now that's its ok to hold back a little. I can see that she let her hair grow out because she had a real cute short haircut earlier on....
So glad you enjoy my approach and are finding value in my videos! If I ever get waifs again I may cut my hair, but I'd feel like a potato right now lol
This has been a great video, offering some very good advice. I have been watching and rewatching your videos and using your advice and suggestions. There is a very noticeable difference in myself and my interaction with women in general as well as those I find attractive and flirt with. Offering my sincere thanks to you. Also, That's a very interesting pillow on the couch behind you. Looked like something you'd almost want to give a name and pet. Take care and Keep that advice coming, please. You're really making a positive difference in our lives.
I second this motion and stand by everything that Anna said in this video. Keep creating these outstanding videos and content and keep up the good work, Anna. I'm proud of you! You content never disappoints me.
Ho guardato qualche volta questo video, sottotitolato in italiano. È stato molto arricchente il come approcciare a freddo. Penso che se la ragazza dovesse dire che è già fidanzata, anche lì può andare bene il dirle ed andarsene. Non avevo idea della parte riguardante l'avvicinarsi ed il guardarsi.
I have no trouble with striking up a conversation with a woman. But Recently, I was at a singles event where we were playing pool and I walked up to the event organizer and started talking to her. I had no agenda in mind, I was feeling bored and wanted to chat with someone for a minute. Well, not long into the conversation, she used the word 'we' in connection with some projects she was working on at home, obviously playing the old "I have a boyfriend" game. Naturally, that begged the obvious question, which was that if she has a boyfriend, then what the hell is she doing being the organizer of a singles group? It's kinda like the way some women say, "I can't go out with you on Saturday, because I'm washing my hair that night." What? You mean you're washing it all night?? LOL Then there was the woman I ran into in a grocery store. I was getting something off a shelf and when I turned around, there was a woman in front of me, and she looked at me with a wide-eyed look of surprise, even though I didn't know she was there. She went to one of the checkout lanes, and I followed because it was the shortest line. While there, I tried to strike up a conversation with her. She wasn't having it and tried to get me to go elsewhere by saying, "You know, there are a couple of other checkout lanes available." In both cases, what the women were really saying was, "You are ugly, and automatically a creep for even daring to talk to me. Get the fuck away from me." Like I really needed to be reminded that I'm ugly and deserve to be treated poorly because of it. No wonder why so many men are not dating anymore and walking away from relationships. Me included.
I would say to not let it bother you at all, it happens.Let it roll right off your back! Be whatever about it. On to the next. Don’t give up, smile, best wishes!
Put a smile on your dial. A stiff upper lip. Learn not to spook the game. Keep on keeping on. Practice makes perfect. Laugh and the world laughs with you. Mrs palmer and her daughters. Will keep you happy in the meantime.
Hi Anna! I must apologise for being distracted by the lovely cat behind you, waiting for it to move. Well, youve got me there😂 or is it a very patient cat? I promise, I was listening at the same time. Do you think that's a good trait for a man. To be able to multitask?
I'm not able to have that mindset, that I'm the prize. But I can think "she just wasn't right for me", instead of "is there something wrong with me?", if I go in with the right mindset. Thinking that I'm the prize is a little too advanced for me for now. How can I get there quicker?
Hi Anna, kinda on topic- was reading an article recently that stated 44% of men don’t initiate a conversation with a woman for fear of being creepy. That number seems high but in todays world, maybe not 😊.
they measure you by the top 3 guys they had in the past. if you aren't matching them in looks they call you creepy. and if you do match them they'll still say no just to pretend they're better than you. it's completely pointless to try. even if you're lucky and pick one that doesn't say no that one probably never ever says no or is completely desperate. everything points to the solution which is marry young while you're still naive and don't have many friends who will tell you what's out there. basically the amish.
Oh I have no problem going up to anyone. Hehehe. I'm an extrovert. I think I might scare folks at times. 😮😮 But they see that I'm a good man. Then they join in the conversation. Oh I will Flirt. And joke 😂😂. Keep up the good work Red. Your the Best. 😊😊. Looking beautiful darlin. 🥰🔥❤💯🙏. What a Doll 😍 😍. See I'm flirting already. 😂😂 👍💪💯
"if " a guy has the perfect conversation skills with a girl he could almost have any girl he wants because as we know a great conversation is the way to a girls heart ..
@@YourWingmam I'm more the type of guy that will go to pubs and pick up girls for a one stand rather than a relationship and I can say me just having the " perfect conversation" with girls have gotten me what I wanted.. So yeah I would agree with what you are saying !! Most girls want a man that's being himself and able to hold a conversation ( most men ) can't even do this and gets embarrassing sometimes lol
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Confidence is the key. I’m way older now, in fact retired. Not that it’s a dating relationship situation, But as a 15 year old I had a job in retail, it was a trendy mens and women clothing store. No matter the woman, no matter the age difference or beauty didn’t stop me from approaching women, be it a teen, a college girl or career woman. I went in with confidence knowing that I’m knew every item in the store and she could benefit from me. I could point her to items we just got in, or items that had just been marked down. I knew her size without asking her and could tell if she was trendy. Also I introduced myself and asked their name ( first name ) and I used it. I was a top performer even at age 15. I learned a lot from that job about starting and making conversations with any and all women. But I also was voted by my schools senior class as the best flirt in the school. I flirted with them all, from sophomores to the seniors, age or status, bookworm or cheerleader it made no difference to me. If she was desirable she was a target of opportunity. As my boys got to the age of interest in girls and dating, I was constantly telling them they needed to be confident who they were.
So, it all comes to confidence which is something I lacked before but now I'm having full of confidence, but I used to be in fear even talking to my friend who is a women because what I am sharing the information no one likes. I don't know about you but I really do wanted to share that information with you as well which will benefit you Anna. I do know when we can initiate in a conversation and when we don't based upon women's reactions we will react to it, and I know that my friend. Not every womens are funny and good like you. If we have a conversation together and set out for the date we will have only one result that we will able to have a healthy relationship and if everything works then marriage. Hahaha 😅😂 I'm imagining things the modern womens we have to deal with them little differently. You are traditional still defends traditional values. You know what you describing flirting is not flirting at all. I could it's just only getting closer and teasing and touching isn't even awkward like I know. It's all just normal 😂 you know you mentioned and depending upon there reactions we will advance. Anna Jorgensen you are such and nice and fun 😊 lady dear.
I like to talk to a woman about ordinary things. I like to share my views about all kinds of things, but never anything that would make her uncomfortable. Through the course of that conversation, she will find out about my confidence, ethics, strength, morals, goals, interests, and work ethic. Always treating a woman like a person first is important. I don't refer to her gender. A little humor in good taste is always great too. If a woman is interested in you, she'll find every word you say and don't say to be interesting and revealing.
Anna, did you know that men have a need to tell women they are beautiful? I wish I lived in a world where a man can respectfully approach a woman and say "Excuse me, I hate to interrupt you, and I don't want anything from you, but I just wanted to tell you that you have the most beautiful hair, the most beautiful smile, and the most beautiful essence of femininity. Thank you for allowing me to express that to you, and I wish you a wonderful day". Why will women not allow men to do that? It breaks my heart.
This is so true Anna, listen to your intuition and you'll really know if she's really into you or not, the way you both click back and forth 👍 Anna thanks for the video 🦋 BTW you look amazing 😍 today.,
I did a cold approach walking into walmmart. The lady was walking at the same direction in the parking lot I was, she was wearing scrubs. She was pretty cute. I had seconds only to attack. Just got close to her and asked “ are u an MD? She kind of smiled and said she was a student. We exchanged few words and then I said goodbye. No names or numbers. I am practicing.
Ah , the JP story ! lol Comprehensive video jam-packed with information. I'm good at it ( conversation , naughty lady ! ) but i sometimes overdo the smartass ' humor ' ( as you well know ) I've learned that if i get uncomfortably tense or nervous with a woman , it's usually not because she's beautiful , but because she's not a very warm or consistent ( hot and cold ) person. Sounds a bit negative , but i find too many women underestimate the impact of their personality : if she is a warm, consistent ( very important to me ) lady who has the persistence to repeatedly show her interest in me ( i can be surprisingly dense in not picking up those signals ) in a clear way , she's in. ( i'm a direct , clear and persistent person myself ) Unfortunately , a big majority of women are not like that. By the way , you saying the vulnerability sentence " ... and i can't deal with it " sounded Scottish ... lassie ! ( not the dog ) Sorry for the long comment , smart lady , but at least i didn't insult your outfit this time !
Glad you enjoyed the video and are good at it (conversation, that is)! ;) Too many women also lack conversation skills so to be the only one holding it together takes extra skill. Think about those situations as practice to see if you can pull more engagement out of her. No loss if not, something learned if you can. ~ Lassie (not the dog) ;)
👍🏻 Heartfelt examples. Very striking. 🎭 A fool who can't take anything useful from this! I like the “giggle” that pops up unexpectedly every now and then. I will definitely stay loyal to this channel. 🤭
Back in the 80's in my 20's I worked at the local Hardware Store. It was so easy to meet and date single ladies who were shopping and doing there own DIY projects. I enjoyed working on Saturday's cuz that was perfect to meet a lady for a Saturday night date 👍🏻😀
@@YourWingmam Hi Anna, It was a good ice breaker to walk up to lady and ask if she needed help with her DIY project .. She had no ring on and said she was doing this project herself. It was a great signal to me that she didn't have a man ..It was really enjoyable to get to first base 😃
I don't know why but it feels like I would never be able to even approach a person dating anyone is just another thing , if I approach with this attitude it will never work and I don't have a clue on how to fix this.
I'd be interested in your opinion, Anna, on.....when concluding a brief conversation, rather than asking for her number, you offer to give her yours? (putting the ball in her court) It seems that's a very "non-threatening" way to let HER exercise her own choice as to whether there's a follow-up meeting. If she was just being polite talking to you, (without any real interest) she'll simply never call, and there's your answer. Will women (in general) have the courage and integrity to make the next move? Or, do they have so many options (or think they do) they'll just wait for the next simp to come along, and feed her ego by chasing her? Thanks.
Good question, could be worth a video! Get her number. If she's unsure of you she won't want to initiate and give you hope on a maybe. It also shows leadership. The good ones have options because dominant men get their numbers. It's not about ego unless she's damaged. :)
Just curious , what if you just spill a little coffee on her book and don't say sorry ? 😁 he he Thank you Anna Stunning as usual , and your videos just get better and better ! 👍
So was it better back in the day when the village elders would pair match a young couple for marriage? Since they have already been through it all while the young ones have no idea yet.
Anna, I'm so glad I'm not young anymore and don't have to do any more of this shit. Going up to a stranger in a park and starting a conversation. The mere thought of it is sickening. "Listen and be curious", haha. "Don't interrogate or interview her". Right. "Ask open-ended questions" because she is too dull to carry on a conversation. Good Grief, Charlie Brown.
Wingmam I wish I could meet you and learn from you… I believe you could also guide me on how to go for a kiss on first dates as I also need some kissing tutorials from you
yup, the way the man talks and interacts is what makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around, what do you think? the way the man talks or performs in an interaction, conversation, between a man and a woman, is what makes or breaks attraction, thats what it seems. The way a woman talks or interacts in conversation, interaction, doesn't really get the man attracted to her as much as the other way around it seems. I don't like it but it will never change no doubt.
ya, when people and society think men have the better end of the stick, it pisses me off so much, it makes me feel like wanting to just literally hit them in the face
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Can you make a video about women who sport different hair color. Are there any differences? I've always liked red-heads. :)
Much appreciated, Wingmam! On a similar note, I was thinking of making a secondary RUclips channel talking about commentary and relationships/dating. But regarding the relationships and dating aspect, I would also like to talk about the other side of the coin: Men who want masculine or dominant women, and women who want feminine or submissive men.
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I like it when a woman approaches me, it shows me that she has confidence
Most men agree, John! However, if you prefer being the lead (alpha) in a relationship make sure to show proofs of that after she's approached. You'll either discover she appreciates that or that's she's a feminist or dominant woman (which is fine if that's what you're looking for). :)
@@andrewjones575 Very much aware but I'm only saying that the ones that do approach have the confidence
@@YourWingmam I rather approach them and be the initiator but it's a nice feeling when the women who actually do it as it shows the interest and also that she can be comfortable under her own skin :-)
@@johngonzalez4298if you where an alpha you would no that replying to her is meaningless. Proof being she did not respond nor should she have.
It’s my experience that if you have to work at keeping the conversation going she’s not into you. If you click the conversation will just flow. If she’s into you she’ll comment off of every thing you say. Here’s an example that happened to me, I was talking to the girl I’m dating, we were talking about directions and said I learned the directions by Never.Eat.Shredded.Wheat as the directions. Then I said but shredded wheat isn’t bad I prefer the frosted ones. And she said she liked shredded wheat. If she’s into you there will be no awkward silence. You both will be blabbering nonstop
Most definitely!
I was going to make the same comment, I've started conversations first by saying hello then saying something like........soooo, do you really believe the universe is expanding? If she is at all interested she'll most likely start giggling and say something like.......nice one! Any off the wall bullshit will work.
Not always. A million factors at play. I was recently on a first date with someone with whom it didn’t flow naturally. Guess what…the date ended in my bedroom regardless. Just like the following second date. She was just a bit intimidated the first time according to her.
Another one I like to use is if you're in any place of business ask the girl behind the counter "so..........do you come here often?" You gotta ask just right or it doesn't quite work lol but it is good for a laugh if she has any sense of humor at all, believe me it's gone wrong a few times
Not always bro, sometimes it is Platonic Love. Love which does not have any sexual or physical desires of intimacy but just the Soul and Emotional Connection. It is like finding a friend who is always there to talk to you, listen to you and give you validation for whatever you say. Platonic Love makes you less Masculine. Something that JP, Hamza, Andrew Tate and guys like those been preaching. We have to learn to be Masculine as a male bro. I realized this little late in my life too. Which is why not always the same for everyone. Million factors at play and you are just really lucky if you get everything perfect in your dating life.
No more conversations with a woman for me at all. My past choices were so bad that I decided that the only thing for me to do now is avoiding women altogether. So if I'm out at some social gathering (which is rare for me anyway) I avoid any conversations with the women. Makes things so much easier...
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Knowing, liking, respecting and accepting! Indeed. The ability to assess important aspects of yourself both favorable and not so much, having clarity, acceptance and doing the work to heal those wounded parts is a very attractive human trait!
Most definitely!
Concerts, shows, small venues are a great conversation starter.... your both into the same genre of music... BAM!
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Again, great tips and thanks for sharing.
@0:42 - this is so true. I've been married for the past 15 years and talking to women is no big deal. You know why? I don't put pressure on myself. Of course, I have no romantic objective. So perhaps take a hint from those like me. Go in with no expectations. Don't make it weird for either of you by expecting an outcome. Have an experience. Some experiences progress and others don't. If you have an outcome in mind, it's too easy to psych yourself out.
@2:00 - this pairs with what I wrote above. Confidence is not expecting a specific outcome, it's being able to handle whatever happens.
@5:45 - engage in the experience. If you get past the opening line, engage in the experience. As she said, make a comment about the surroundings, her book, something she has, maybe you met her on a bike trail, so ask about the trails or her bike, etc.
@9:45 - good idea. The tatoo (if you are into that sort of thing) is a great opening as you can notice it and ask her to share the significance of it. Or, if you think that's too personal, maybe ask where she had it done, assuming you are even remotely interested in getting some ink. While I'm not a fan, it does make for a great opening as it's not just something she was born with. Instead, it's something she chose, so presumably, it says something about who she is or what she may value, etc. I suppose it could be a landmine as well. Just an opportunity to show you are confident enough to handle it. Like if she says something like, "It was not my best decision..." and laments the body art, just be understanding, don't press and say you get it, you have some choices that makes you wish life offered a few mulligans from time to time. Or the presumptive way, "once we get to know each other better, you may have to tell the story about the tattoo." This combines the tease with the presumption that there is more to come.
In general, I'd say work on some of the initial "chat-up" skills with folks you ARE NOT drawn to.
Why? To make them a natural part of who you are. Part of that is just being a good human being. I didn't say nice, I said good. No reason not to be kind to the cashier at the coffee shop, or the staff at the gym, etc. Plus, it helps develop the skill without having an outcome tied to the event. You are going in with no outcome other than trying to be a good and kind human being.
This makes it easier to do so when you are besotted with that vision of loveliness you see in the coffee shop. You've made it a reflexive skill that you know you can pull off because you've done it before. Goes back to confidence as mentioned above.
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Wonderful topic tonight! "It's only awkward if you make it awkward": Superb observation! As someone who has done a LOT of public speaking, I had to figure this out. The audience will largely reflect your energy. If the Q&A time yields lots of potentially awkward quiet times, don't panic -- roll with it. I learned this doing a trade show a few years back where my boss said, "We need to hold this crowd for 30 minutes until we start the big giveaway." I took the mic and started talking to the crowd. What did I say? No idea; my brain was about 1 1/2 seconds ahead of my mouth. But I just kept reading the crowd and entertaining them until the proper time. I didn't allow myself to feel awkward or unprepared; I just rolled with it -- and they rolled with me! "Just because you can have her doesn't mean you should have her": Absolutely! This isn't like sports, where every win counts the same. Go for the one win with the right woman! Your energy looked excellent today -- not exactly Italian hands, but the eyes and head action were notable! Hoping this was a great week with more to come! Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/Tuckered T too tired to tail thump tonight. ;)
High five for rolling with it and reading the room! Many people would rather drive off a cliff than do pubic speaking. Great analogy to sports! Only one win necessary. Your prayers may be working, energy has been a little better!! Thank you, Russ! Scratch for a Tired Mr. T. :))
Great observations - for those who are uncomfortable speaking to a crowd, there are groups that help with public speaking. Toastmasters is an example. Not only can this help you with speaking with women, it can also help in your career (working on yourself).
Each of your meticulously constructed videos is an expression of love. Certainly to actually embrace you would be a moment of tranquility. Wingmam is like a nurse to a wounded soldier. PS: lovely as always.
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It's starting to make sense to me! I'm 43 and never been in a relationship. I learn a lot on RUclips and see will apply it.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@@YourWingmam Definitely. If I put myself out there it wil happen eventually. I subscribed to your channel
@@Ray-ms5vo Why did it take you so long? Were you just put-off with trying.
Some of your videos I need to watch five times to pick up everything that you're putting down because they're so much important information in there. This video s one of them. Anna, you don't have to ask if we would like for you to make a video on a topic. The answer is yes, we would like for you to make a video on everything you find important and not so important.
Wow, thank you so much for your appreciation and encouragement!
In my state it's amazing how women you meet either in a professional setting such as work or in other places can't help injecting the phrase "my husband " into the first 2 sentences they speak ,in our exchange.
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Senor Stuffy!!
I find that starting out the convo with "Women shouldn't be allowed to vote because..." works great.
Ha! You'll quickly find out if she has a sense of humour or where her values are. I approve this message! ;)
Needed to see this one. There is a issue that I've always had to some degree, that this video brings up though. You are right on point about the "approach anxiety". I liken the feeling to standing at the open door of a plane with you ready to leap for the novice but yet even the seasoned veteran at times. The "coffee shop approach"...you have a course on that. I may have to do it because almost any coffee shop, is double or triple the approach anxiety because you now have an audience.
Coffee shops are popular and most of the time busy. There is no din from muzac usually, some from people conversing. Not unusual to see attractive women , sometimes in groups. If a guy gets up from one table and walks across the room to another table and chats up a female, every adult who sees that will know what's going on and likely watching the show. (yes I know that equates to a confidence issue, but rolling the dice on crash and burn with an audience...?)
NBD if you are successful, but cold approaches main feature is that they are NOT successful (getting her number) even half the time unless you aim too low. So to me, simply because of the more open, usually well lit, but cozy setting of a coffee shop or similar, brings you that audience, I just likely wouldn't even do an approach there, even though I've wanted too several times, without some signal from her first.
What's really funny is, I have no problem with all the people at the table listening (like at ladies night), got over that decades ago at dance clubs. But in that environment, women expect to be approached. If you have secrets to Coffee Shop approach that work, in my mind, it's worth weight in gold because to me, that is one of the toughest environments. If you can do it there, you should be able to do it about anywhere. Just talked myself into it. On my To-Do list.
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Thank you lovely Wingmam x I'm sure I speak for all of your followers in wishing YOU every happiness with your OWN friendships and relationships x
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
What I like about your focus Anna Maria is how you want men to be better. I was playing tennis last night with one of my younger friends (almost granddaughter age and we were the final champions so we walked away victorious) and I hugged her at the end, a totally spontaneous act. I thought about it and suggested this morning by text that I hope I hadn't offended her. And she came back and said I could not do that. And yes, men have to work on themselves before they have anything to offer.
Great story! Glad you didn't hold back! And yes, we all have work to do on ourselves, really. :))
Thank you for this video, Anna.
As I have told you you and everyone else that watches your informative videos, I am learning Argentine Tango Dancing. Although still struggling with it, I ask many ladies to dance with me. With 85% saying yes.
Guess I am getting better at it.
Anyway, what you are saying in this video about the conversation I can do AFTER the dancing and if she is not there with a boyfriend or husband. But then, I still have a plain conversation with them without crossing boundries.
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Mountain person. I enjoy decent lengthed hikes on the trails the area that I live has to offer. It is my form of meditation.
Wow. I was asked that question before. I could not give an answer.
I would like to travel to and thru New England. I took a road trip for almost two weeks in 1994...2001...2008....going to different locations throughout the area...and Eastern New York. They were good times when I had the opportunity, the money and the time. My priorities have changed, Lini, so travel for that amount of time is impossible for me right now.
How about you?
Sometimes just being relax and talking casually with someone is the best way, think like a salesman w.o the sales pressure. No need to be over the top like the Butabi brothers with their Emilio Estevez pick up line.
The tips mentioned here is down to the ground no bs approach
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Part of growing as a man is learning to step into the fire, not avoid it. Interactions with women are just another proving ground, another arena of performance. Soon enough you can become immune to embarrassment, unfazed by rejection. Awkwardness isn't a barrier because you can laugh and roll with it. Women respond to energy. Positive energy is attractive, and even more so is staying positive in the face of negative energy (her sh!t tests).
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Well said... rejection is just part of life. You win some and lose some. ..simple
Great video AJ ! at this stage of the game for me being an old geezer if there is a woman in the right place at the right time say while I am walking...rare thing I don't walk much...but it happens. And I have a chance to say something I'll say it and keep sort of walking on ....Oh a Chihuahua guard dog I hope it's had it's lunch already.. if they respond in a positive way I'll listen and look for a wedding ring..and just have a nice talk till they end it or I do. Looks are important you need to be attracted to her and her to you .....I hope everyone can find their match and have a happy life or I will see you sometime in Portugal or somewhere around there...lol...
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For me, confidence is being self activated instead of being reactive, which means to always be the aware cause of what I'm doing instead of going on reactive autopilot, reacting to any automatic emotion that arises from a situation. Emotions are what automatically moves us IF we are in the reactive mode (and it can move us in the wrong direction), but if we are in an active, causal mode, we can actually activate the desired body energies (usually called "emotions") that are usually automatic, and then these energies activate our mind in a certain way adapted to a situation, for example to know spontaneously what to say to someone. Some people probably call it a state of "flow", but the important thing to understand is that it is caused by an awareness that is self activated, impervious to the exterior, in a certain way (its core), and which activates various modes of body energies at will, which in return activate the mind in a certain way to spontaneously adapt to the situation. This is a feedback process between the mind and the body. The body and the mind form a whole, and I sometimes say that we think with our body, but all that feedback loop must be activated by the untouched unreactive but active, self activating awareness core. At a certain level, we can call it "The Will", but it is different than what people usually mean by "will", which is usually just a fight against automatic reactivity. "Will", is actually the aware "I", the "I am" of the mystics, the real self awareness that establishes the right hierarchy between the self activating core of awareness and the mind-body, or body-mind.
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@@YourWingmam I know that what I wrote is too general and will try to make it more practical. It has to do with the hierarchy of purposes and goals. If someone is like a reactive pinball in a pinball machine, he has no direction of his own but is at the mercy of various external impulses. For example a man in relation to women can be in a situation where he faces a whole confusion of goals and purposes he is unable to order: "should I do this, should I want that, or that... what should I do, what should I want" (a human asks himself those questions, a mere "biped" has animal purposes). This applies to all kinds of life situations, not just male-female relationships.
Someone aware of his "I", his inner causal core, someone self activated, becomes aware of himself as the initial aware purpose, aware self activated life. One realizes that one is life and aware life. That life is the purpose.
Then this is articulated into a hierarchy of more specific life purposes and goals serving those purposes,which is the articulation of awareness into all dimensions and aspects of life, it is a process of maturation of life, a process of becoming an adult. So many people don't become adults in many aspects of their lives, particularly in M-F relationships, and it would help them to establish this awareness of purposes and goals from the top, the self activated awareness to specific articulations of that life core in all aspects of their lives. They would have a clear direction, and confronted to various situations, they would not be at their mercy, but would assess them in relation to their own direction.
This is what I call clarity - the clarity of purposes and goals from the top, the awareness of self, the aware life, the "I".
M-F relationship is also a question of life and awareness of the purpose of that life union and make it a real functional union of the unit of life that is the couple. Having that purpose in mind one can assess other people and if they are capable to be part of that, and become that union of life and grow into adulthood in that direction. In this World this is a problem, and it would be the role of a Man to lead in that direction, but clarity in that area is very deficient.
And when one becomes confident and self assured in Clarity, one can become very playful inside it and also develop strong emotions in accordance to that Clarity. This is not a stern "discipline", it's life.
And another detail: The "I AM" always stays the I AM, but it also integrates and absorbs all its purposes and goals in itself.
Very good response, quite deep for the common thinker, but worthy to be mentioned.
Sarah Brightman said hi to me I absolutely caved in... Her English accent.. the concert was great
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Being vunerable works if you do it right. Pretending you just got devastated in a breakup and don't want to live anymore, will never know love again, yada yada...this actually hooks really well.....strangely enough.....lol
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I find the real answer is to be diverse on subjects.
I know lots of fragments of information so when a women says she like "x" I usually know a bit about it.
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Another really good video here Anna, now i'm not good with any of these but especially that first one on confidence, i really, really don't like, respect or accept myself in fact i hate myself, i am trying to get better with this though just not sure i'll ever get there, but i am trying, also my mom says that until i do i'll never get any friends or a girlfriend.
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.
@@YourWingmam Thank you for that Anna, i really appreciate that a lot and thank you for always being so nice to me ☺
HI, hope all is well with you. Just thought I'd stop by, it's been awhile. Enjoyed the video. Keep Smiling and have a great evening.
Thanks Anna 👍, if she still wants to see you after the first date, you are doing v well lads!! 🤓👍 Happy Paddy's Day, from Ireland 💚
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I really like the, I've gotta go soon strategy you mentioned I'm definitely going to use it going forward.
You're really good at what you do, you don't pull any punches, thank you 👍
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When I see a lady reading or texting, I think she does not want to be interrupted.
I thought the lady would be annoyed by someone trying to chat her up.
When I see an attractive lady, I look at their body language, and usually see them looking focused on their task, not open to talking.
I did talk easily to a lady today because I met her once before and learnt she has rescue dogs. Animals are a big interest of mine, so easy to talk about, and she is a super nice lady...but married, but good to talk to.
Great video, and wish I could do it as described here.
She was good practice then! Some women will be annoyed if you interrupt them, it's a roll of the dice, but you'll never know unless you try. Do watch for body language though, of course.
A woman liking animals is a huge filter. To me it shows she has compassion, humility and patients. Not that people that don't like animals can't have those traits but you will know immediately if she doesn't like them then you won't want her in your life
@@64maxpower 100% agree. That lady has 3 rescue dogs. She takes them to be with her at her work. She is a 10. Great looking and great personality. She makes conversation easy.
A lady liking animals is a huge positive for me. My cat travelled 11,450 miles with me from New Zealand to England.
@@marklion just don't forget who the prizes here
@@64maxpower Yes, I know I am supposed to think that, but if I get a successful relationship, I will consider myself very lucky.
I used to think I have had too much rejection and attempted scammers for it to happen. Just need to find that right one.
I will not put her on a pedestal. She will have to treat me with respect and most importantly is we enjoy each other and have fun times.
I feel I can tell if a lady is genuine. That Russian lady I have mentioned in previous videos. She was good and I very much hoped we would work, except she treated me badly at times. So I rejected her. She did make contact again, I have now friend zoned her. Not heard from her since July, maybe coz I have expressed my exact thoughts about Adolf Putin.
She does not like the war, but has not given an opinion. That might be a fear of reprisal from government.
Anna, please do a video on that whole vulnerability thing. That you're one you're talking about thank you
You had some alluring chuckles in this, Anna Maria. Great dress, too. Good advice!
Glad you enjoyed the chuckles! Fun memories for me.. and thank you!!
Great video Anna...approaching a woman strikes fear in the heart of many men 😅🤦♂
Absolutely!
I believe being calm, cool, and not caring much whether she accepts or rejects is 80 percent of the game...
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I had conversations with women that went nowhere . Takes 2 to tango . A guy can do what you say but if the counterpart is not willing to keep it positive , it will go nowhere .
You're absolutely right!
Don't ask for her number. Give her your's.
My little brother is a good example of how well this works.
He asked this girl for her number after he fumbled his way through his approach.
He came to me and our older brother for advice after she brushed him off. I had this idea. I told him to give her his number. If you think about it, this one move is several. It takes pressure off of both of you. Because you don't have to ask her for something, you don't have to worry about seeming desperate. She doesn't have to commit to anything upfront. It demonstrates confidence, shows you're not attached to any outcome.
He did a little better the second time around. He came prepared. He gave her his number.
She called him the next day.
They've been together a year.
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@@YourWingmam what would you think if a guy, after approaching you and having a short conversation, wrote his personal number on his business card and gave it to you?
Hi Anna. These are great tips, everything helps. Appreciate it.
Glad I could help 🙏
As usual You have great advice Anna. Hopefully I,ll get over my fear of talking to women without a few drinks in me
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.
I really enjoy the common sense approach Anna brings out in her videos, I could see myself in those very situations she described so I know now that's its ok to hold back a little. I can see that she let her hair grow out because she had a real cute short haircut earlier on....
So glad you enjoy my approach and are finding value in my videos! If I ever get waifs again I may cut my hair, but I'd feel like a potato right now lol
Anna, I want you to create a video expanding on the differences in men vulnerability. I know the video will be dope. I look forward to seeing it.
Request noted! In the meantime, here's a related video on balance masculinity and emotions: ruclips.net/video/t9K2gSuPKmc/видео.html
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Thank you.
This has been a great video, offering some very good advice. I have been watching and rewatching your videos and using your advice and suggestions. There is a very noticeable difference in myself and my interaction with women in general as well as those I find attractive and flirt with. Offering my sincere thanks to you. Also, That's a very interesting pillow on the couch behind you. Looked like something you'd almost want to give a name and pet. Take care and Keep that advice coming, please. You're really making a positive difference in our lives.
Thank you *so* much, you have no idea how happy it makes me! Cat name: Stuffy 👀 In previous videos often hiding but there somewhere lol
Thank You. You ARE the Best. Period. Full stop.💯
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
I second this motion and stand by everything that Anna said in this video. Keep creating these outstanding videos and content and keep up the good work, Anna. I'm proud of you! You content never disappoints me.
Thank you so much, appreciated! :)
I love that cat pillow. Thought it was real at first!🤣
lol, 🙂 thank you!
Ho guardato qualche volta questo video, sottotitolato in italiano.
È stato molto arricchente il come approcciare a freddo. Penso che se la ragazza dovesse dire che è già fidanzata, anche lì può andare bene il dirle ed andarsene.
Non avevo idea della parte riguardante l'avvicinarsi ed il guardarsi.
I have no trouble with striking up a conversation with a woman. But Recently, I was at a singles event where we were playing pool and I walked up to the event organizer and started talking to her. I had no agenda in mind, I was feeling bored and wanted to chat with someone for a minute. Well, not long into the conversation, she used the word 'we' in connection with some projects she was working on at home, obviously playing the old "I have a boyfriend" game. Naturally, that begged the obvious question, which was that if she has a boyfriend, then what the hell is she doing being the organizer of a singles group? It's kinda like the way some women say, "I can't go out with you on Saturday, because I'm washing my hair that night." What? You mean you're washing it all night?? LOL
Then there was the woman I ran into in a grocery store. I was getting something off a shelf and when I turned around, there was a woman in front of me, and she looked at me with a wide-eyed look of surprise, even though I didn't know she was there. She went to one of the checkout lanes, and I followed because it was the shortest line. While there, I tried to strike up a conversation with her. She wasn't having it and tried to get me to go elsewhere by saying, "You know, there are a couple of other checkout lanes available."
In both cases, what the women were really saying was, "You are ugly, and automatically a creep for even daring to talk to me. Get the fuck away from me." Like I really needed to be reminded that I'm ugly and deserve to be treated poorly because of it. No wonder why so many men are not dating anymore and walking away from relationships. Me included.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I would say to not let it bother you at all, it happens.Let it roll right off your back! Be whatever about it. On to the next. Don’t give up, smile, best wishes!
Put a smile on your dial. A stiff upper lip. Learn not to spook the game. Keep on keeping on. Practice makes perfect. Laugh and the world laughs with you. Mrs palmer and her daughters. Will keep you happy in the meantime.
Hi Anna! I must apologise for being distracted by the lovely cat behind you, waiting for it to move.
Well, youve got me there😂 or is it a very patient cat? I promise, I was listening at the same time. Do you think that's a good trait for a man. To be able to multitask?
The best quality content on the internet on this topic
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That is good what hearing from you Anna !! Thanks lot
Thanks for listening!
I'm not able to have that mindset, that I'm the prize. But I can think "she just wasn't right for me", instead of "is there something wrong with me?", if I go in with the right mindset. Thinking that I'm the prize is a little too advanced for me for now. How can I get there quicker?
Very intriguing information.😁🧐
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Hi Anna, kinda on topic- was reading an article recently that stated 44% of men don’t initiate a conversation with a woman for fear of being creepy. That number seems high but in todays world, maybe not 😊.
they measure you by the top 3 guys they had in the past. if you aren't matching them in looks they call you creepy. and if you do match them they'll still say no just to pretend they're better than you. it's completely pointless to try. even if you're lucky and pick one that doesn't say no that one probably never ever says no or is completely desperate. everything points to the solution which is marry young while you're still naive and don't have many friends who will tell you what's out there. basically the amish.
@@eotikurachopefully they all don’t expect the Amish to look like Harrison Ford ( Witness) 😂
I don't know the stats but I wouldn't be surprised if it was even higher than that!
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I am going to use these examples
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Does this stuff apply to all age groups!
Oh I have no problem going up to anyone. Hehehe. I'm an extrovert. I think I might scare folks at times. 😮😮 But they see that I'm a good man. Then they join in the conversation. Oh I will Flirt. And joke 😂😂. Keep up the good work Red. Your the Best. 😊😊. Looking beautiful darlin. 🥰🔥❤💯🙏. What a Doll 😍 😍. See I'm flirting already. 😂😂 👍💪💯
You rock, Anna! Keep up the good work. 😊
7:00 OH MY GOSH! Animation? I am an animator! I have a chance now? haha.
lol, 🙂 thank you for watching!
"if " a guy has the perfect conversation skills with a girl he could almost have any girl he wants because as we know a great conversation is the way to a girls heart ..
Women are less influenced by looks than men are (brain scans prove this).. so yes, conversational skills are key!
@@YourWingmam I'm more the type of guy that will go to pubs and pick up girls for a one stand rather than a relationship and I can say me just having the " perfect conversation" with girls have gotten me what I wanted..
So yeah I would agree with what you are saying !! Most girls want a man that's being himself and able to hold a conversation ( most men ) can't even do this and gets embarrassing sometimes lol
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Confidence is the key. I’m way older now, in fact retired. Not that it’s a dating relationship situation, But as a 15 year old I had a job in retail, it was a trendy mens and women clothing store. No matter the woman, no matter the age difference or beauty didn’t stop me from approaching women, be it a teen, a college girl or career woman. I went in with confidence knowing that I’m knew every item in the store and she could benefit from me. I could point her to items we just got in, or items that had just been marked down. I knew her size without asking her and could tell if she was trendy. Also I introduced myself and asked their name ( first name ) and I used it. I was a top performer even at age 15.
I learned a lot from that job about starting and making conversations with any and all women. But I also was voted by my schools senior class as the best flirt in the school. I flirted with them all, from sophomores to the seniors, age or status, bookworm or cheerleader it made no difference to me. If she was desirable she was a target of opportunity.
As my boys got to the age of interest in girls and dating, I was constantly telling them they needed to be confident who they were.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
So, it all comes to confidence which is something I lacked before but now I'm having full of confidence, but I used to be in fear even talking to my friend who is a women because what I am sharing the information no one likes. I don't know about you but I really do wanted to share that information with you as well which will benefit you Anna. I do know when we can initiate in a conversation and when we don't based upon women's reactions we will react to it, and I know that my friend. Not every womens are funny and good like you. If we have a conversation together and set out for the date we will have only one result that we will able to have a healthy relationship and if everything works then marriage. Hahaha 😅😂 I'm imagining things the modern womens we have to deal with them little differently. You are traditional still defends traditional values. You know what you describing flirting is not flirting at all. I could it's just only getting closer and teasing and touching isn't even awkward like I know. It's all just normal 😂 you know you mentioned and depending upon there reactions we will advance. Anna Jorgensen you are such and nice and fun 😊 lady dear.
I'm glad you gained confidence! Thank you for watching and appreciating my videos! :))
@@YourWingmam You are super cool Anna Jorgensen and I love all your videos.
I like to talk to a woman about ordinary things. I like to share my views about all kinds of things, but never anything that would make her uncomfortable. Through the course of that conversation, she will find out about my confidence, ethics, strength, morals, goals, interests, and work ethic. Always treating a woman like a person first is important. I don't refer to her gender. A little humor in good taste is always great too. If a woman is interested in you, she'll find every word you say and don't say to be interesting and revealing.
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I'd love to hold a conversation with you. By the way you look absolutely stunning today.
Wonderful compliments, thank you! :)
My name is Kyle now we're not stranger's anymore
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Hi there. Can you make a video about the doe's and don'ts on vulnerability please? Thank you 😊
Great question! In the meantime, watch this on balancing masculinity and emotions: ruclips.net/video/t9K2gSuPKmc/видео.html
Anna, did you know that men have a need to tell women they are beautiful? I wish I lived in a world where a man can respectfully approach a woman and say "Excuse me, I hate to interrupt you, and I don't want anything from you, but I just wanted to tell you that you have the most beautiful hair, the most beautiful smile, and the most beautiful essence of femininity. Thank you for allowing me to express that to you, and I wish you a wonderful day". Why will women not allow men to do that? It breaks my heart.
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@@YourWingmam But you did not answer the question(:
The key word it's confidence!
True story!
@@YourWingmam its 1:39 a.m. here 🌹🥳😜
This is so true Anna, listen to your intuition and you'll really know if she's really into you or not, the way you both click back and forth 👍 Anna thanks for the video 🦋 BTW you look amazing 😍 today.,
Exactly! And thank you!
I did a cold approach walking into walmmart. The lady was walking at the same direction in the parking lot I was, she was wearing scrubs. She was pretty cute. I had seconds only to attack. Just got close to her and asked “ are u an MD? She kind of smiled and said she was a student. We exchanged few words and then I said goodbye. No names or numbers. I am practicing.
Perfect!! When you get comfy chatting you can take it to the next step. Best to start with simple goals (talking to) not lofty (get a date). :)
@@YourWingmam I will! Thanks again
Thank you Anna...
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I loved your cringe on complimenting her tattoo. My sentiments exactly! Do you know how many girls have tats these days? Too many…
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Ah , the JP story ! lol Comprehensive video jam-packed with information. I'm good at it ( conversation , naughty lady ! ) but i sometimes overdo the smartass ' humor ' ( as you well know ) I've learned that if i get uncomfortably tense or nervous with a woman , it's usually not because she's beautiful , but because she's not a very warm or consistent ( hot and cold ) person. Sounds a bit negative , but i find too many women underestimate the impact of their personality : if she is a warm, consistent ( very important to me ) lady who has the persistence to repeatedly show her interest in me ( i can be surprisingly dense in not picking up those signals ) in a clear way , she's in. ( i'm a direct , clear and persistent person myself ) Unfortunately , a big majority of women are not like that. By the way , you saying the vulnerability sentence " ... and i can't deal with it " sounded Scottish ... lassie ! ( not the dog ) Sorry for the long comment , smart lady , but at least i didn't insult your outfit this time !
Glad you enjoyed the video and are good at it (conversation, that is)! ;) Too many women also lack conversation skills so to be the only one holding it together takes extra skill. Think about those situations as practice to see if you can pull more engagement out of her. No loss if not, something learned if you can. ~ Lassie (not the dog) ;)
@@YourWingmamWoof ! LOL
Great outfit and earrings Anna!❤️💯
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👍🏻 Heartfelt examples. Very striking.
🎭 A fool who can't take anything useful from this!
I like the “giggle” that pops up unexpectedly every now and then. I will definitely stay loyal to this channel. 🤭
Glad you enjoyed it! 💕
Back in the 80's in my 20's I worked at the local Hardware Store. It was so easy to meet and date single ladies who were shopping and doing there own DIY projects. I enjoyed working on Saturday's cuz that was perfect to meet a lady for a Saturday night date 👍🏻😀
That is awesome! Fellas, this is a good idea!! And if she's into DIY she's likely not completely lazy.
@@YourWingmam Hi Anna, It was a good ice breaker to walk up to lady and ask if she needed help with her DIY project ..
She had no ring on and said she was doing this project herself. It was a great signal to me that she didn't have a man ..It was really enjoyable to get to first base 😃
Sure do miss those days 👍
I have a question about my girlfriend talking with her ex and how that has affected our relationship and my trust in her
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
You have the best-trained cat there has ever been. How do you get that cat to hold so still, all through the video?
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It is my experience there are guys who can talk to women and those that cant. I cannot. So makes death more agreeable.
I don't know why but it feels like I would never be able to even approach a person dating anyone is just another thing , if I approach with this attitude it will never work and I don't have a clue on how to fix this.
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Great topic thanks
You are my heart Queen. I can't even imagine controlling you my dear.
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this day started out great and keeps getting better ! how's life been treating you ? if she comes back with negative ,just keep Rollin !
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I'd be interested in your opinion, Anna, on.....when concluding a brief conversation, rather than asking for her number, you offer to give her yours? (putting the ball in her court) It seems that's a very "non-threatening" way to let HER exercise her own choice as to whether there's a follow-up meeting. If she was just being polite talking to you, (without any real interest) she'll simply never call, and there's your answer. Will women (in general) have the courage and integrity to make the next move? Or, do they have so many options (or think they do) they'll just wait for the next simp to come along, and feed her ego by chasing her? Thanks.
Good question, could be worth a video! Get her number. If she's unsure of you she won't want to initiate and give you hope on a maybe. It also shows leadership. The good ones have options because dominant men get their numbers. It's not about ego unless she's damaged. :)
Just curious , what if you just spill a little coffee on her book and don't say sorry ? 😁 he he
Thank you Anna
Stunning as usual , and your videos just get better and better ! 👍
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Thanks for another confidence boosting video.
My pleasure!
So was it better back in the day when the village elders would pair match a young couple for marriage? Since they have already been through it all while the young ones have no idea yet.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
03:18 Excellent line 😂
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I once tried reading a book in a park but there were too many distractions so I went to the quiet atmosphere of a library.
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Confidence and breath mints 😎
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Tell us more about vulnerability based on love and compassion 8:25
Anna, I'm so glad I'm not young anymore and don't have to do any more of this shit. Going up to a stranger in a park and starting a conversation. The mere thought of it is sickening. "Listen and be curious", haha. "Don't interrogate or interview her". Right. "Ask open-ended questions" because she is too dull to carry on a conversation. Good Grief, Charlie Brown.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@YourWingmam I am in the process of bringing my woman here from Ukraine. Things could go wrong but I am hopeful.
for gods sake all she said is so correct.
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Hi Anna, that's a yes please for a video on vulnerability, which types are sexy and non-sexy
every single woman who read this comments dried up like he sahara. do not take advice from a femaie.
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Wingmam I wish I could meet you and learn from you… I believe you could also guide me on how to go for a kiss on first dates as I also need some kissing tutorials from you
You will find my step-by-step guide on how to kiss a girl interesting. Check it out here 👉 ruclips.net/video/HJ6RfH5mU4c/видео.html
Beautiful video. I was moved to tears.
Wow, thank you, so glad it resonated with you!
@@YourWingmam thank you. Your passion is infectious.
This is useful content. Be selective guys. Don't be led around by your crank.
Thanks and I agree!
Brilliant stuff.
Fortune favors the bold
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You want the woman to think wow… this guy is good… or “he just gets it.”
Absolutely!
Please make more videos on showing vulnerability and having boundaries with women
You'll like next week's video!
Occasionally I will go speed dating. I bring four roses with me. At the end of the night I pass out the four roses, attached is my number.
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I am genuine, I don’t use pickup lines
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yup, the way the man talks and interacts is what makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around, what do you think? the way the man talks or performs in an interaction, conversation, between a man and a woman, is what makes or breaks attraction, thats what it seems. The way a woman talks or interacts in conversation, interaction, doesn't really get the man attracted to her as much as the other way around it seems. I don't like it but it will never change no doubt.
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ya, when people and society think men have the better end of the stick, it pisses me off so much, it makes me feel like wanting to just literally hit them in the face