Totally. And I really don’t think she’ll have trouble making friends. She’s, smart, interesting, authentic and . . . Stunning. When she cut to “oh, I went with the big wig” I literally gasped out loud, even though my partner’s trying to sleep next to me. It’s a whole lot more than the wig!!! (Besides, how many people could bring that off???) She’s a goddess.
Lol. The disconnect between "I needed more people to keep the price down" and "You're just mad because you're too broke to afford it." Seems like she couldn't afford her own trip without help.
Every accusation is a projection. Friend couldn't afford the trip without everyone else plus the TikToker, so when the TikToker said she couldn't go, the friend started posting that because friend knew she couldn't afford it without the TikToker.
Ugh!!!! That's EXACTLY what I thought when she subbed in her story about "broke" people. It's like bih' that's YOU. You can't afford your trip, that's why you need others to fund it for you.
Yup. I love the people in my life, but not like that. That’s a car for my son, that’s new windows for the downstairs, and perhaps a thousand other things. I would never *ever* expect a single person I love to chuck out that money for funsies. Put it to good use and then tell me about it lol
for my birthday this year (this past saturday) i literally went out to dinner to texas roadhouse and built separate lego sets for the next 4 hours. just hanging out watching movies and honestly it was one of the best birthdays ive had in awhile
Happy belated birthday! My mom’s birthday is today and we’re going to a movie and eating dinner at Olive Garden, which I haven’t had in ages. I’m going to bake her cake pretty soon!
@@caljones thank you! and happy birthday to your mom!! i hope you guys have an amazing day and enjoy olive garden!! we were going to go there originally, but my dad made some homemade lasagna for my family dinner sunday
I've been to Italy 8 times over a DECADE and I've NEVER booked a luxury villa for MORE than $1,500-2000 total for 7 days. This woman was SCAMMMINNNNNNGGG
This was my exact though process too! I wasn't just about having 10 people there so it made it cheaper for everyone... She wanted those 10 people to pay their way plus some of her's so it would essentially be free for her.
Doing the math in my head for the Italy trip: $1,350 for airbnb, plus round trip airfare, a boat excursion, two expensive dinners, and car/amenities/gift. At least $3,000 for a trip. Probably more. For a birthday friend of five years? Nope.
Edit: Also doing the math for the airbnb.. $1,350 per person for 10 people. That's $13,500 for 5 days?? Italy can be expensive but I think the "friend" is looking to make a profit.
And b'day girl isn't paying for her trip. That is divided & added to your price. That's how these things work. You're paying your expense & 1/10 [or more] of her trip. She needs you there or everyone's price goes up &/or she may have to pay at least some of her own trip. Her gift is you [friends] being there.
I'm even mad about having to buy my brother, his 2 kids and his wive birthday and christmas presents every year whilst they only have to gift me, 1 person 😂 Costs me about 150/200euro's a year. It costs them like 50/75. And they have a shared budget which I do not. (I am in a deep train of thought about this now.. I have 2 cats, they don't buy my cats gifts. Should I stop gifting their children?) 👹
For my friends 30th birthday, she planned on a food tour in Las Vegas. After sharing joy and excitement for her I gently brought up and reminded her, I have Epilepsy and though I have an electronic device to help control them,.. they were so consistent I require a device to control them, and don’t think it’s the safest city for me. She apologized and was like omg I didn’t think of that I just wanted you to know you’re not excluded. I really appreciated our conversation and we ended up celebrating her birthday together before she left. Bought her lunch and had a painting party together where we painted positive affirmations we needed.
To be fair, I bought my friend apple pie moonshine for Christmas once....forgetting that "apple pie" has cinnamon and she's super allergic to cinnamon. 😅😅 Needless to say I bought her a new gift when she was like "um babes this has cinnamon." It wasn't my brightest moment lol
She’s a good friend for being understanding and making sure you didn’t feel purposely not included, but you’re also a good friend for not getting upset at her and demanding she change her party to fit your needs. You both sound really nice and respectful to each other’s autonomy and you’re very lucky to have a friendship like that 🫶
This is a great friendship story. On the topic of epilepsy, I wish it was talked about more and explained. There are so many different types of seizures and people can be triggered many ways or no way at all. I’m lucky medication keeps mine in check, and I enjoy educating people about if the topic arises. Love from Canada! ❤
My single childless BFF of decades threw herself a milestone birthday party, rented an outdoor recreation venue, paid for catering and drinks, and provided recreational fun for all the guests. People did bring presents and paid for a cake, and also brought extra potluck food. There was a mike time "roasting" her and someone made a slide show. It was so fun and memorable, and really spoke to the kind of person she was, there were hundreds of people there. More people should do this kind of thing before they die, so we can all enjoy and appreciate people while they're still around.
A trip to ITALY for her BIRTHDAY?! That girl is delulu! My last birthday a friend came over, we went for a walk in the woods (free, I live right next to the woods) and baked gingerbread and I was thrilled to have such a good friend who would take the time out of her very busy life to come over!
@@jennieeveleighlamond that sounds awesome. Like I literally want to do exactly that with my bf or bestie this year for my birthday. Just an afternoon and maybe evening with one of my two very favorite people doing chill activities? That's the perfect day!
About the first story with the Italian birthday trip? It's hilarious that the friend says she's no longer hanging out with "broke people". I've had friends and acquaintances who were always up for things like this and looked at me with pity if I said "Thank you for inviting me, but I really can't afford that." They spent money like drunken sailors on expensive dinners, cars, clothes, trips with friends, Disney Vacation Club and other timeshares, etc. They were the ones who always were in to group things with shared expenses. They were the ones who had extravagant parties for spouses and kids and weddings. They were also the ones who continually cried to me that they were living on the edge and weren't sure how they were getting through the next month. They were the ones constantly asking their parents or siblings to bail them out. They were the ones with terrible credit scores, collection accounts, etc. They were the ones who filed bankruptcy with many tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt. So I always laughed to myself at the look of pity on their faces when I said, "I'm sorry, but I don't have the money for that." Because they heard, "I don't have the money" and completely missed the rest of the sentence - "for that". I actually had the ability to pay the money - in cash - whereas they did not and were simply putting things on various credit cards. I had priorities for my money and they just spent somebody else's money with no priorities at all. Never feel bad about saying no to spending money on something that isn't part of your plans or goals simply to save face. Save that money to use on the things you want or to save for your future.
Absolutely. You've got to build up a buffer for when/if hard times hit. It's scary how many people just have no common sense when it comes to money. A former friend (in his early 50s) has absolutely nothing to show for his entire adult life. He's bummed about, sponging off whatever gullible woman he's managed to charm his way into. He's never paid any income tax, hasn't saved a bean and is constantly broke. I crossed paths with him when we were in our mid 40s and he was broke, unemployed and all-but homeless (his Mum took him back in). I wouldn't mind betting that he's still in the same state of chaos that he was then. You've got to be careful that these people don't drag you down with them
@@WhimsicalWorm honestly I've heard it from more wannabe rich middle-class people than broke people but yeah that self hatred does seem to get to some people.
First story- it’s no only the expectation for people to spend time and money but to do it for you instead of themselves. If I can afford to take a 5 day, thousands of dollars, international vacation I’m not using my cash nor my PTO to be on someone else’s schedule! I’d want to go where I want with who I want. What an insane thing to expect
EXACTLY! I could see someone initiating a friends trip by saying, "hey I'd like to travel somewhere during my bday, would anyone be instead?" If so, we can plan a trip together that appeals to everyone.
I had a bit of a funny good "Karen" encounter today. I was in Tim Hortons and noticed that the server's name tag said her name was Karen. I jokingly commented that I'm surprised that people named Karen don't use their middle names today. She said she is a nice Karen and I agreed. Then she said, "You know what we joke about here? I'M THE MANAGER!: 😂😂😂
@deehmon lol. And yup, I'm Canadian! Funny story about Timmy's being everywhere. When my daughter was having her first ultrasound with my first grandchild I wanted to be there and allowed extra time in case there was a screw up with my buses. I was coming from out of town and the bus ride was expected to be 2 hours including the city bus, so I allowed 3. I got there an hour and a half early. I thought, "Now I know exactly where it is, I can just keep walking and probably come to a Tim Hortons within 10 minutes." I was right.
In response to the first story: My best friend before and all throughout HS had a HUGE crush on this one guy. The guy always made it clear he "didn't like her like that" so she basically dated around a tiny bit but always kinda wished she'd end up with him. Then, out of no where, he finally decided to date her after stringing her along for literally years. He took this time to also tell me that the reason he hadn't dated her was because he "found me so annoying and couldn't imagine being around me all of the time." (conveniently he told me this immediately after I kicked his a** at Tekken lol) I didn't tell her he'd said this, cause honestly, I talk a lot and over-explain so I felt it was fair. (Don't worry, my self esteem and how I let myself be treated has gotten much better and I would probably laugh in the face of anyone saying the same now) Unsurprisingly, my best friend suddenly had no time for me. I didn't complain. At first I didn't complain because I was trying not to ruin her chance with they guy of her dreams, then I didn't complain because I literally never had a chance. Then, one day when I'm chilling at home with my sister playing Halo, she calls up wanting to go to the local ice cream parlor. She had a car but said she didn't want to drive it due to some issue so she wanted to see if I could come pick her up and we could go hang out. I wanted to hang out but was already hanging out with my sister (who I didn't spend much fun time with) so I reluctantly turned her down. She told me to ask my sister if she wanted to come and that she'd pay for ice cream. My sister agreed so I agreed. We go and pick her up, she's pretty quiet, but my sister and I are just chatting away about the game so I don't think much about it. We get to the ice cream parlor and she doesn't order anything. I ask her why and she's just like "oh, I just wanted to hang out and get out of the house for a bit." Again, weird since she's basically just sitting there not talking, staring out the window of the shop. Then, not 5 minutes later, her boyfriend shows up to pick her up and take her to some lake party nearby. She didn't want to hang out, she didn't care that she was interrupting a rare day with my sister, she just wanted to get out of the house without her dad realizing her car was gone, and her boyfriend didn't want to drive back and forth through the bad traffic at that time of day to go get her. I tried calling her after this to talk to her. I tried for months, never getting her on the phone for more than 2 minutes at a time. So... I finally made a blog post about it. Basically I made a post about how "you can't call someone your friend when they treat you like this" leaving out details of who/where/etc so that she would be the only one who knew who it was about. She was SO offended by this that "she ended the friendship" then and there (the irony of her missing the point that that it was long over before that was not lost on me I promise) In our first verbal conversation in a MONTH she had the nerve to tell me I should have "tried to talk to her." I remember just laughing in this sad "really?!" way. I was beyond done the moment she dragged others into her neglect of me. Sometimes people want the benefits, but they don't appreciate you enough to try and see things from your pov. They want you to put in the work, while they just sit there taking you for granted. Friendships like that are not worth it, and you usually end up realizing how much they were weighing you down once you finally find yourself cut free. (edit: Wanted to add that the two are married with kids now at least, they seem to be happy and I'm happy for them. If you ever go to a Renaissance festival you might even meet her and her get to see her lovely bronze jewelry. She really does do amazing work, but I'm in a similar field and Rhianna has bought my stuff soooooooooo I guess we're both soaring
right?! I spent a couple hundred getting myself some presents I wanted, and I felt guilty for it, despite the fact that I had a 3 week flu and could literally do nothing else anyway.
Same! Maybe to throw a party for my 60th but not a destination for thousands!!! I was thinking I would just rent out part of a restaurant and have a playlist.
Yea, but that's the point though, isn't it? She didn't want to pay that amount for her own vacation. So she came up with a way for her friends to foot the bill for her trip and she would get it totally free. You can guarantee the cost of the Air BnB was probably worked out in such a way that it didn't just cover her contribution in everyone else's payment, but probably the cost of her air fares, too! It's her (the birthday girl), _she_ is the broke b.
It’s the ‘babe you shouldn’t take everything online so seriously’ for me. And then get mad if she outs herself for being a horrible person. Girl she was never your friend, don’t waste your time. But omg she is gorgeous, and seems like such a sweet person. No wonder that girl was jealous….
$13,500 for an airbnb for FIVE DAYS??? Was she renting a castle?? Me thinks she was looking to skim some of that cash off the top and keep for herself...just sayin'
To the lady that said "For 17 years I begged him..." I've been there, Sis, and I can tell you from personal experience if he wanted to he would. I say that to say this...There is someone out there who will want to and will...all the things that you never got from him...there is someone willing to give you everything. Find him and never beg another person for anything. Hard lesson learned.
That poor crying woman reminded me of my dad. When I moved to States and got married, my parents came to visit and my dad was just so so so negative about everything, he didn't even want to be here, didn't want to go to trips, said if my husband wants to comunicate with him he should learn czech (my native language which is much more difficult than learning basic english), even couple times said that he will not be coming because the trip is too much of a struggle. Two years later he leaves my mom (terrible divorce) for a woman he had an affair with for those whole two years and her daughter lives in the States too and suddenly he he wants to fly to the States with his new gf to visit her daughter, suddenly he wants to learn english to comunicate with the daughters husband, suddenly he wants to do everything he wouldn't do for me. It just somehow hurts more cause you don't expect this from your own dad 🤯
My dad walked my step sister down the aisle I got a microwave.. was told it was too little notice to travel from ON to AB.. 6weeks Only time he told me he was proud of me..i was pregnant.
I am so sorry. My dad left my mom for a woman he was having an affair with. He treated the new ladies kids better than me. When I was hospitalized twice this year and fighting pneumonia since January, I reached out to him bc I thought I was going to die. He didn't even call back or reply. The cruelty is a stab in the heart that is so hard to overcome. You are not alone with a dad that has betrayed and them. I'm sorry and I feel you. Best to you my dear ❤
And her hypocrisy was jaw-dropping. "How dare you put me on blast in public" like she didn't start with the public shaming. "Why didn't you just call me and talk it through if you had a problem?" Like she didn't ignore her calls and texts for weeks?? Girl, bye. 💅🏽
“You need to cover airfare, AirBnb, 7-8 course meals, and you need to tip the staff plus pay your share of a boat rental…but don’t worry because everything else is included!” 🤣🤣🤣
The airfare and AirBnB alone are already $7,000+ per girl. This birthday brat is MEGA entitled to expect her friends to foot the bill for a $100,000 (minimum!) birthday party, for which she gave her friends, or at least OP, only 2 weeks notice! I hope they all bail on her, she'd deserve it.
it's wild to me that people ask their friends to pay for their party. I threw a big party for my 30th, rented a relatively expensive air bnb, had live music, the whole shebang. I did not ask a soul for a cent. That was all for me by me.
That's because you are a decent person who was raised right.😁Mines coming up, I've invited friends for dinner at my place. I'm going all out and it'll be great company, good laughs and hopefully great food and drinks. My friends have a mix of financial situations so this way... Like your celebration, if you invite guests, they don't pay. Oh, renting an air bnb is a brilliant idea, I bet you all had a great time... And a decent sleep in the next day. 🍾🥂🍷🍹🍸 Happy 30th! 🎈
When I turned 50 I threw a party with a band and catered by a bbq restaurant (I live in Texas). It was the best I could afford and it was a lot of fun. Only the people who came from out-of-town had to pay a thing.
Last year my friend threw a small suprise party at my local karaoke bar . She made the food and planned the lot. No amount of money can buy moments like that with my friends ❤
For my 60th this year I invited 9 of the closest people whom I adore and consider as family to join me for dinner. All arrived ready to celebrate and we had a wonderful evening. No drama just love.
Sounds like birthday girl was gonna scam her friends out of about $8-$9,000. Babe you do not want a friend who judges you by your paycheck. She is awful.
At my old gym I used to see our local fire chief most days I went. The thing I thought was so cool about him is that I'd see him walk in in his fancy white uniform with his thick dark hair and moustache and a few minutes later he would emerge from the locker room, completely rocking a bald head. It always impressed me that he was so confident he could wear a toupee one minute and just rip that f vcker off the next. Respect.
11:06 when Charlotte said "yea, i can't do that.. i don't want to do that" i felt relieved. Like someone had to say this! And there are many who needs to hear this!
Re: the woman who begged for 17 1/2 years to go out of the country on a trip. Even if she could've gone on her own, she probably wanted to go with her husband.
I would not wait that long to do something. I would find someone else to do that with. I have patience for my job but not for something like that lol. I like to move on, and quick. Life is too short
That being said, their travel styles may be very different. She may not be the kind of person who he likes traveling with, so he didn't want to blow too much monies on bigger trips. This is why things may have gone differently if they'd talked openly about it. There are people I hate traveling with. But activities and itinerary can be compromised...
Some years ago, a friend of mine invited a bunch of us to a villa on a Caribbean island and paid for our stay and the food herself. It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience, made possible by her enormous generosity (I don't even know how much she spent, but I imagine it was more than I could ever hope to afford). Now it's one of my favorite memories ever
The first story, she didn't lose anything of quality. As a broke person with a close broke circle, it's always the ones who have the least money who do the most for you when it really matters.
Same, which is why this man earned some respect. I find these group dances to be so obnoxious, so of course it must be combated with equally obnoxious behavior.
On my birthday two weeks ago, I legit took myself on a three day getaway because all of my friends couldn’t get time off. Which I was perfectly okay with, and if they could have managed to get the time off, the only thing they would have had to pay for was one event ticket. This weekend we are all going to dinner to celebrate because the time works for us all. You don’t need friends who make you feel like shit or will talk about you like that. Protect your peace always!
“We accept what we think we deserve…” spot on! Never beg for anything! If a man doesn't give you what you want either get it yourself or find one that will…
exactly!! and that's what A LOT of women don't get. they just expect the man to listen but if he's not listening then HE DOESNT CARE and that's a reason to drop him
Also, I think she is still married to him, the woman she was talking about was her daughter-in-law, or did I get that wrong? That's why he asked for permission? 🤔🤔 Weird-ass and dick move though, either way. 😵🫠
@@AniRSmNo I think it is her ex-husband, it seemed like he was asking permission because he wanted to take their daughter on the vacation with him and his new girlfriend/wife
I remember "When Harry Met Sally" and her melt down when she realized that her ex wanted marriage, just not with her. That is such a gut wrenching realization when it happens to you.
I was with a guy for 6 years who led me on about possibly getting married. Seeing more than one red flag after going away for work I broke up with him. He married the next woman he dated after barely a year with her. Kinda a gut punch but her red flags now. I’m gonna marry my green flag in July ❤️
At least in that movie Sally was okay with that relationship status until she changed her mind about wanting a family, and it ended there. The relationship fullfilled her original expectations. She didn't allow herself to get strung along, so her grief was limited to wondering why not her when he later married. The woman from the first story was strung along for years, with him refusing to go on the vacations. That's something everyone should avoid - staying with someone who keeps putting off what you want out of the relationship.
@@shadoutThen the woman should've also said something to her ex instead of letting him led her on for 17+ years. I'm sorry but if you keep getting told "next year" year after year for a trip then it will more than likely NEVER happen. Another thing is did they have the money to go to Mexico in those 17+ years of marriage they're money situation may not have been good but now with the new girlfriend the money situation could be good (who knows new girlfriend could be helping pay for the trip). Just a lot of what ifs and probabilities. But like I said earlier if you keep getting told next year AND the relationship isn't going good or you lost the love then GET A DIVORCE don't stay married and make each other miserable along with making your kids miserable. End of my TED talk..
Regarding the birthday trip person getting mad that she was spoken about in a bad light, I always go back to one of my favorite quotes, which is from Anne Lamott: “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”
I'm going on a cruise to Alaska in 2026 for my 60th birthday,by myself. I'm not asking anyone to go with me,so no drama! And many congrats to Charlotte and Mike on the upcoming wedding!
I want to travel alone for mine too but I need someone just in case because of my health. Alaska sounds wonderful, probably out of my budget but lovely. Have fun.
Oh she absolutely was. She doesn’t want “broke” friends because she needs someone to fund the lavish lifestyle she think she deserves. Don’t prize money over people.
That is what I thought. The numbers just don't add up. It's coming in at quite expensive hotel price. I did wonder perhaps if she was sort of planning to make a business out of it by 'hosting and organizing' European trips as a side hustle. In fact, come to think of it, I wondered if she had a job as an online travel agent. I know someone who does that and she would earn quite a commission on a 10 person trip.
You know the birthday girl built in her costs into everybody else - since it is her birthday after all. Then others backed out after seeing the strong one stand up to the bully
1st one- not only did she expect her to come up with that kind of money, she wanted her to come up with it in less than a month. She said the bday was at the end of the month.
The woman with the ex of 17 years reminds me of my own parents. They were married 23 years and my mom always wanted to travel and do things with us as a family, and my dad wasn’t interested. Now with his current wife who is his high school sweetheart (and an awful person), he travels with her. It hurts my mom because he ended the marriage when he reconnected with step monster on Facebook. So, seeing that woman cry, it made me actually sad for her, because it sucks for everyone involved from the previous marriage at some point. I say this as my father moved to Colorado with his wife 2 months ago and I only heard from him when my mom had an aneurysm and was in the hospital. I haven’t heard from him since.
@AlwaysKDawg, I am so sorry for you and your mother as she gave your father beautiful, empathetic, supportive and kind children as I can see how much pain and grief that you are carrying with you and for your mother. His selfish behaviour has impacted and affected you all as a family and you are right to be angry!! Your father treated your mother abhorrently and it resonates with me tremendously. I too lived with a father like yours who was narcissistic, selfish and cruel and he NEVER stopped, even as he hit 95, which is when he passed away. Please take my advice and realize that your father will never change and what you see it what you should all expect from now on as he is sending his message clearly! I suggest your mother sign over all medical documents and records to you, or you and your siblings, and ONLY to who she chooses regarding her health. Your father no longer feels obligated to engage or support anyone of you as he is showing ALL of you that he has emotionally checked out for good. I know that I sound cruel but I have been in your shoes and watched it all play out for 27 years with my mother, which is how old I was when she passed away. Even as the years passed by, I was always hoped he would be the father that I needed but that change never happened and the trauma that I live with is still with me today even 10 years after his death. Please take care of yourself, your mother and your siblings if you have any and don’t expect anything from your father anymore because I don’t want you to be heartbroken every time he lets you down, as he will and unless HE comes to you and wants a relationship make it very clear WHAT you expect from him and do not deviate from it one bit. Please take care of yourself and your mother too and simply change your expectations as you go on with your life.
I am so sorry. Went through something similar, parents were married 25 years. Dad divorced mom, never paid a cent in alimony, somehow didn't get in trouble for it. Then he married his new wife he was seeing while still with my mom. And he treats this new woman's kids better than me. Haven't spoken to him in years. He wouldn't even respond or call back when I thought I was gonna die while in the host, twice, due to fighting severe pneumonia since January. Still fighting it, but it hurts less than the pain my dad has given my heart. Best to you ❤
When I was a teenager my dance school would send us out to dance at mall events. One time a grown man tried to walk through us and got smacked and kicked at the same time. He took a tumble and we just kept jazz dancing, in perfect formation, right over him. Our dance master dragged him out of our way. It was the 80's so you know the jazz hands and kicks were hard. LMAO!!
Yeah we all hear horror stories about how hard jazz dancers in the 80s were. I mean people just don't understand , they could really leave a red mark for at least 30mins with those furious jazz hands.
FR! There's so many comments saying it was a "busy street", but if it was- there wouldn't be whole camera crews and a huge group 💀 There were people watching off to the side, but they weren't trying to get past them, as there was clearly room to walk- The dud was just being an ass and idk why ANYONE is defending him!
I had a feeling it was like that one story where the bride had all the bachelorette party “pay” for their share of the air bnb but then one of the bridesmaids find out that her dad paid for it so they were wondering where that thousands of dollars went and she lied said it was for an ice sculpture but turns out it was for a boob job 😅 I had a feeling that girl was trying to pocket some of the money.
Whenever I put together a group event, I try to make sure it’s as affordable as possible for my friends. A lot of them can’t spare more than $20, so I stick to accessible activities - picnics, board game nights, going to the rollerskating rink, etc. Everyone has a great time and that’s what’s most important!
Lol!! That second part of the first story! As soon as I heard "Why did you make a video about me" hit her with the "Don't take everything online so personally, not everything is about you 😊." Just like she did the first time around!
The first girl, I feel her... I had a friend for 5 years and I discovered that the only person who was a friend on this whole friendship time was me, cause that bish were talking sh*t about me to other people and she was envious of me and my relationship. About the girl who said that her ex gave everything she begged for to the new girl and not her...well, same happened to me and after a few years he saw me and said that if back in time I was the person I am today, he would never let me go...and my response was "if I were the person I am today, I would not be with you not even a day, much less 7 years 😅😂"
Advance notice for that big of a trip is 6 months to 1 year, so people can save up, find deals on airfare, and take off work in time. Telling someone the SAME month is not advanced notice and unacceptable
I agree. Five friends and I (we being in Europe), have a trip planned for Scotland for a few days in September, which we planned about 5 to 6 months in advance. We managed to book the trains, flights, airbnb there and back, for 2500 to 3000 euros tops, divided between the six of us. So roughly around 470 euros each for the several days stay in Scotland. That ex best friend is just trying to mooch a lavish lifestyle vacation off of her so-called friends so she can feel unrealistically rich for her birthday.
@@pascaleelliott63 Absolutely agreed. My dad and I are going skiing in Italy next year. Total each for the package holiday including equipment hire: £1500. I figure maybe £150-200 total for food at the mountain cafes over the course of the week. It's a bit expensive for me but with a bit of budgeting I can manage it because that's my DAD; I wouldn't plan a trip that costs so much even with my friends of ten years unless we had at least twice the notice. Hope you have fun over here! If you're in or around Glasgow I can give some recommendations for things to do or places to eat.
@@Fyreflier Thankyou, we've been hoping to get a chance to go organise a trip to Scotland since 2017 ^^ We're gonna be in Edimbourg for our stay, but if we have a chance and means to go to Glasgow while we're there, we'd love some recommendations, thankyou! :)
The first one is exactly why I don’t invite people to do things and expect them to pay for it. If I’m inviting you to do something, it’s because I want you there and I’m willing to pay for it. 💜
I’ve stayed in Italy. It’s like 300 a night for a luxury 3 bed max if you’re smart. It’s 150 for a nice one or two bed with sofa beds and such. And you don’t usually tip in Italy. That’s rare.
My husband took me away to Toronto for my 30th birthday and secretly invited others to come. My brother and 4 friends surprised me. I was overwhelmed by the whole thing. I would never expect that from anyone, but I was so grateful. I also gotto tell them all I was expecting too. Surprises all around!
The 1st story is crazy, I've been to Italy thanks to Wowcher for 3 days in Rome ,visited Napels pompey, and then 4 days in Venice included flights, luggage, hotel's (4*)& train travel, got the tickets for the colosseum, Vatican and the hard rock cafe from TripAdvisor and booked Napels and pompey the same way . All for under £800. Her friend is cray-cray😮
My 40th birthday was in 2020 so obviously I didn’t do anything to celebrate it. So last year I did something for my 43rd birthday. I went alone to Padre Island in Texas, a four hour drive for me. I got a tiny room on the beach and spent four days bird watching, swimming, collecting shells, drinking on the beach and it was fantastic. I spent less than $500 on everything combined, lodging and gas and food and drinks. It’s the most I’ve ever spent on a birthday. Kudos to anyone who has the money for an international vacation that costs thousands but that ain’t most of us.
I also made many friends on the beach lol. For anyone familiar with Texas, this was Port Aransas, not South Padre. Port Aransas is much smaller and more chill than South Padre. It’s also a generally older crowd, especially in the off season. So I just hung out with older people on the beach or the even older bird watchers at Leonabelle Park. It was fantastic.
Not everyone is looking around being observant, like he came up from behind and might not have seen the camera's etc... it's a public foot path, if you want privacy go somewhere private.
@@kublakhan2342 He have seen it clean enough to part ways with his laughing friends and change his trajectory just to go past the very center of a formation. This was deliberate, not an accident.
@@kublakhan2342bro I watched it again and he CHANGED DIRECTION to walk through it and pulled away from his friends to do it. Then did a thumbs up to their camera at the end. He ruined the take to ruin the take.
I took my husband to Mexico and Jamaica. I adore him and want to expose him to even more travel destinations, next up Scotland. He was very poor as a kid and never had vacations, I want to give him everything. He has worked his bottom off and he needs to see the world.
@@sparklemotion8377bro imagine being so bitter that a person spoiling their parter is seen as a charity case BRO THAT THE PERSON THEY’RE MARRIED AND MAKES TRAVELING MAKES HIM HAPPY YOU ARE BITTER!!!
Can we just bask in the glory that it the color matching on the makeup from the first video 🤩🤩 what an absolute queen, that foundation was 😮💨😮💨 But this story is the epitome of “if the truth calls your character into question, the issue is not with the truth, it’s with your character”
For the group of dancers dancing in public. This is a kpop dance cover group. And as friend of people who do this often. We understand that it’s a public place and if we are disrupting a really busy place we will move. The performance is only 10-20mins long. But these dancers work for weeks on these dancers and pay the camera guys a lot of money to do so. Most of us are really considerate of the public place and will move to avoid busy areas too. It’s an art, they are performing and they work really hard so please take that into account. And we understand that not ever dance crew are not as understanding and kind as others 💖💖💖 Also stan Twice
It’s possible to pick a spot that is not busy though. If you worked for weeks on the dance and paid the cameraman a lot of money, why do it in a busy public place and risk getting this kind of disruption. I completely agree that it is an art and it is really cool, but when using and obstructing a public space without a permit you do not have any more rights than anyone else there.
One summer (before I graduated from college) I was teaching beginner horseback riding classes at a large city riding school, located next to a park with bridle trails. I was taking a group of 8-10 year old kids (after several weeks of ring lessons) on their first ever trail ride in the park. As I was leading them out of a woodland onto an open lawn, there was a couple “embracing” on a blanket. I called to the kids “Everyone prepare trot. Trot on!”, and I didn’t slow to a walk until we were back in the trees. Back at the stable, my boss told me that she had been driving down the road by that open area and that I “shouldn’t have had those beginners trotting on their first trail ride”. I asked if she had noticed a couple on a blanket, but from the road she didn’t see them. When I told her that I was preventing the trail ride from becoming an unwanted educational event, we had a big laugh.
There's a sketch by Jordan Prince where he pokes fun at German birthdays, highlighting how it's the birthday person's responsibility to cover expenses. Of course, there are surprise parties, but typically we bring our own cake and snacks to the office, cover the bill at a restaurant, or buy some rounds of drinks at the pub. This way, everyone can decide for themselves how much they want to spend on "the birthday topic" each year. In return, we receive gifts, and smaller events are generally preferred over large ones, so as not to raise expectations unnecessarily. 😅
I'm a native Texan. I was raised that whoever does the inviting pays for the person or people invited - for a party, out to dinner, an activity, or a trip - it doesn't matter. Now if multiple people start a conversation and begin brainstorming '& planning a trip, then they agree on how to share the costs.
@@belladonna8747 I love vacations with friends, but we are also mindful to plan around the person with the smallest budget. And those with a little more money in the pocket will always offer to cover a bigger trip to the supermarket. It just has to feel fair for everyone.
I used to be a lifeguard at a community pool. You wouldn’t believe how many people we had to either call the cops on or just ban due to similar things happening at the beach depending on how early or late we caught them. This happened with both teens AND adults. The adults doing it at the community pool were the ones I was always most baffled by.
My boyfriend and I were at the movies one day. Mid movie this couple maybe in their 40s (it's dark, but from what little we could see we asume they were around there) come into the theater all the way to the top where we were and the guy just starts fondling the woman. She says to him that she's never done this before, was probably embarrassed that people could hear them. They then continue to move down the aisles until they find an empty one and did who knows what.
Happy Birthday! My Birthday was Sunday, 45 full-time single mother with two young boys, and they let me sleep all day.... It was exactly what I needed!
For the dance cover, that man had all the space in the world to go around plus that area specifically is used a lot for this. He just wanted to disturb them😅
@@heatherlowe7330 still makes him the jerk. It ruined the take so they can't use it so they had to start from the beginning again taking up the path when this could have been the one and they could have finished up and be out.
@@J_Isak true enough. But couldn't they have just come when the local businesses were closed and people weren't walking around? Seems easy enough to film at a time with less foot traffic.
@@heatherlowe7330 a lot of dance groups like dancing in public spaces because they work hard to learn the routine, and want to entertain people with it. I agree if it's a tight space there shouldn't be groups taking up a whole walkway, but just from the angle we saw there was plenty of space for the man to walk. Also, if you look again, you can see his friend he was walking with turned and said something to him, I assume daring him to walk through, right before he interrupted the routine (while his friend kept walking along with no trouble in the back). The man could have also either gotten hurt, or could have made one of the performers get hurt, just because he thinks it's okay to look down on others. Like, that's honestly some bully behavior right there :/
@@skadiyoko not saying it wasn't inconsiderate of him. And yeah, things could have gone bad. Just saying if you gonna perform in a public space, be prepared for the public to share that space. And the dance group did have options to film at less congested times of day. Honestly, I am surprised it wasn't some Karen trying to police the whole thing 😂
@18:22 I don’t agree with that comment. :( not in this case when they were literally together for 17yrs. When you agree to be in a relationship with someone, you should already be willing to do things for and with each other. Telling her she just wasn’t the one for him so that’s why he didn’t take her anywhere is just another slap in the face/ stab in the heart. She doesn’t need those kinds of comments on an already heartbreaking situation.
Agreed. My wasband (WAS my husband) did this 💩 when he left me after 30+ years and it upset me to no end. However, he was sorry within the year; so, sooo sorry. Today, another girl is living my old, sad life.
Its good to know about that person now. Let her go, she's a fair weather friend. My last birthday, we got takeout cupcakes, ate homemade tacos, and painted rocks for my garden. Loved it so much that I'm doing it every year.
I moved in 2003 to another state about 1800 miles away from where I/we lived for almost my whole life. I had friends in a particular group that I had known for over 20 years - never heard a single word from any of them, no text, no call, nothing! I know have friends that I would die for and they reciprocate. One even helped me when I had a health “situation” in 2022 - stayed with me at the ER, took me to her home so we could get her husband to go find my car in a public garage and drive it miles to my home while she took me home! My husband was away at the time so I was alone! This is what real friends do!!! I drive another friend who is in her 80s to most of her doctor appointments because she needs help and I’m more than happy to help! This is what real friends do! They don’t want to go to another country for a birthday that 10 of her friends must pay for everything! Not a real friend!
That last one had me laughing. Back in the 70's and 80's, I decided to ask out guys and let them know, my treat. I casually dated several guys like this. I never once paid for anything! The men would always say thank you and pay. My friends would just say, I wish I could do that. Now, there were plenty of men who asked me out, too. I used to offer to pay for my half. Never did one accept. And I never, ever, slept with a man on the first date (second or third...😉). I got so many flowers sent to me at the office and had so much fun! The only thing more fun for me was raising my children and now grandchild. Enjoy life, my friends. It's so very short! ❤❤❤😂😂😂
The dancers aren't there for 8 hours and they don't practice in the streets. There's this "kpop in public" challenge and that's what they're doing. Believe me, they'd rather do this in one go but they can't because of technical difficulties and people LIKE THAT DUDE who just decided to go through them instead of around them. Imagine there's a group of friends,all chatting and what not but then you decide to break their company by walking through them instead of avoiding them 😂
This is also just inside the pedestrian-only zone at Covent Garden, London, famous for being a centre for street performers, singers, dancers etc. the guy is walking towards the square’s centre and covered market, so more than likely knew to expect this sort of thing and I’d put money on him doing this to others further down the street.
Did they ask for the permission to every passerby to record their faces? They are on public space, if they want to ibteruption they should have resserved a private space. The streets looks crowded and they seem to take up alot of space so people have to walk around them. Good for the guy for not giving two shts about them.
@@truli91 key word, public space. They don't have to ask. If the guy didn't want to get recorded,he could have just avoided the camera 🧐. He just interrupted for the sake of interrupting. I personally consider that bad manners. What if it wasn't a dance group but a film crew instead? He could get in trouble for purposely interrupting but just bcs they aren't professionals it is somehow okay to interrupt?
@@marugav6632 pretty sure you need a licence to shoot a movie and create a set. This is nowhere near to proffesionals shooting a movie, this is just some entitled kids taking up space for the sake of getting attention.
@@truli91 you sound salty xD. You can make movies without a license too. For school or any other project which doesn't require a license. Idk in which country you live in but it is common courtesy not to interrupt people for no reason unless they actually disturb your peace by invading your space or something which didn't happen since they were already there when this person arrived.
for my 30th birthday i made my own cake, had friends and family over for a BBQ dinner and cake. and thats the biggest thing i've done lol some people are so extra
I absolutely love your reactions and advice. As a senior “79” fan it’s so nice to see someone who has common sense. I am so happy for you that you found Mike, he’s a lucky guy ❤️👍🎉🎶
I never believed the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" until Charlotte stopped posting daily ❤❤ P.S. My Charlotte Merch arrived today I am SOOOO EXCITED
My bestie wanted to go to a brazilian steakhouse for her birthday. About $60 per person. I was SO broke but she wanted me there. So we compromised. I was her driver for the night so she could get drunk 😂 i tipped for both of us and she paid my tab. Everyone else at the table split her tab. If my birthday rolls around and shes in that situation, I would definitely pay her way. I can't understand being so rude to FRIENDS over MONEY.
23:24 you can see he told his friends what he was going to do and they laughed and went around the group while he walked thru going the opposite direction then his friends did
“We accept what we think we deserve” this made me question alot of things in my life!! But also, how do we stop “accepting” the things we don’t want? Asking for myself..
You grow a backbone and learn to say “No” and to do what you want even if it means doing it alone. Even if you said “Yes” a thousand times, you are entitled to refuse at any time. The number one is to build your own confidence and self worth. Explore what you desire in life. Once you’re convinced this is something that belongs in your life, anyone who goes against it, gets automatically rejected. For example, I want to travel to a few places. One of the first things I discussed with my now fiance is that traveling and going to those places was non negotiable. Recently we were talking and he kinda said, he wasn’t sure he wanted to travel to a few places I want to go. I basically told him, I can either go alone, or we can not get married. He changed his mind, thankfully. We don’t always need to want what our significant other wants. But, we need to advocate for ourselves too. If I am willing to go and do things just because it would make him happy. I expect nothing less.
Put your foot down and leave. People will try to make you feel guilty and make you the bad guy some will even try to spread lies but you have to ignore and realize your choices are the best for yourself.
As a side note, I love watching people do their make-up. I know its been a trend for awhile 😊 The first lady has supernatural gorgeous skin, loved watching how she contours, highlights & shadows. It was mesmerising. Her final looks were magnificent. These are true life skills in my book! 😅❤
Guess I’m way too old as I completely dislike watching ladies apply 2 tons of makeup while talking faster than anyone! I skipped through this story! I really like Charlotte and the stories but……..!!!
@@sandybruce9092 I genuinely couldn't tell the difference on them. I also thought both ladies looked lovely without the makeup, but everyone has their routines.
A good friend , a REAL friend would not have an expectation like a trip to Italy for a birthday. Let alone treats you stably. A real true friend is with you even when you're at your worst
I would bet a birthday trip to Italy that that girl is mad because she has to pay for her portion of the trip now instead of splitting the cost between her friends.
@@amyswabe5571that’s what I meant, like now she has to cough up the $3000 or whatever instead of just getting to go for free by splitting the bill 10 ways. She sounds awful enough to be like that 😅
Back when I was still married, I was in the same situation as one of the woman in the video. Me and my ex husband lived very close to the borders of three different countries (around 1h to 3h away), but whenever vacation time came around, he refused to travel to anywhere else other than to his family. Yes, the kids where always happy to see the family of my ex husband, because they lived 8h away, but why did we always go there for our summer vacation!? Well, after we split up and he got into a new relationship, he almost immediately started to travel around the world with his new girlfriend. In the beginning I was hurt and angry, because he never did this with me, no matter how often I asked for it. I needed to learn and realize that he always wanted to travel around, he just didn't wanted to do it with me alone or later together as a family. Realising that I wasn't the pain he wanted to share this with helped me a tremendously to let go of the hurt and anger and come to terms with the end of my marriage.
If a guy I asked out told me to my face that "I don't do 50-50" I would never want to see them. I'd pay my own and leave him to deal with his own crap. It goes without saying that you have to be prepared to pay your own order. I just cannot fathom people who expect to be treated without actually having that conversation where one says "It's my treat".
It was a sarire though. It's about all these ladies who go out with a man and say "I don't do 50/50" because they expect to be paid for. If you flip the genders, it shows how truly ridiculous it is. To your point, you should be prepared to pay for yourself.
It is satire. He is trying to mock how women expect to be paid for by flipping the genders..however he is just making a fool of himself. Men and women have roles. The whole purpose of men paying on first dates is to show he can be a provider. How will a serious relationship ever form if men refuse to be providers ? I get it though, a lot of selfish women started using men for free meals/dates..etc. Everyone is in the wrong. No one is courting anymore, no one is holding out til marriage anymore..men use women as objects and women use men as wallets. The world is collapsing.
Lmao. I find it hilarious how most women think the whole Drizzle Drizzle thing is serious, and it's almost always the ones that buy into the whole Sprinkle Sprinkle thing. It's all satire. It's mocking the entire sprinkle sprinkle movement. Nothing that guy said was meant to be taken seriously behind the scathing rebuke it was meant to be.
@@agavictoriaIt's ridiculous when girls say it. And very few people would say otherwise. Why do we have to pick the most extreme of everything and say well if you flip the genders it would be ridiculous. No it is ridiculous to the high majority of people when they do it. Also, I hate it when people are like. Oh, I'm a king. I'm a queen b**** you're not. You're a peasant like the rest of us get up and do the work.
22:00 Yeah, I'm with you on this Charlotte, that dude, from what I could tell, went out of his way to ruin their recording. Had it been a situation where he'd just walked behind or around them and they got upset, then I'd be on his side, but he went straight through the group when, as you said, there was space on the sidewalk where he could have continued going straight and then walked behind the camera person if he needed to cross.
what’s wild is he REALLY went out of his way to do that, and he thought it was funny… he left the group he was walking with (they all walked around) and walked right through the center and gave a thumbs up. SO rude for no reason…
@@cammy.eloise It was funny, even the dancers laughed. Btw rude is blocking 90% of the pavement for hours because everyone MUST see their silly generic pop video dancing. Same rubbish you can see in 1 million music videos.
6:06 The text says "If you had an issue why bring it up on social media like that ur a child for that!" REALLY? I would have thrown her own words back at her: "Don't take everything online so seriously." 🤷♀
There's a line from Friends (Phoebe's line) that I aspire to be comfortable saying some day: "Oh, I wish I could but I don't want to."
Was literally going to comment this but you beat me to it. One of my favorite Phoebe lines! I am way too comfortable saying it lmao.
Never watched that but I AM using that line!
@@bcayeSeason 1, Epidode 1
That’s been my “bio” on Facebook for the past 10 years. 😆
I've used it, it's very freeing!
"You didn't lose a friend, an enemy was revealed" I'm stealing this, perfect.
My grandma used to say don’t step on the golden snakes in the grass 🤷♀️ I guess she meant sometimes your closest friends can be your biggest enemies
Totally. And I really don’t think she’ll have trouble making friends. She’s, smart, interesting, authentic and . . . Stunning. When she cut to “oh, I went with the big wig” I literally gasped out loud, even though my partner’s trying to sleep next to me. It’s a whole lot more than the wig!!! (Besides, how many people could bring that off???)
She’s a goddess.
Lol. The disconnect between "I needed more people to keep the price down" and "You're just mad because you're too broke to afford it." Seems like she couldn't afford her own trip without help.
Every accusation is a projection. Friend couldn't afford the trip without everyone else plus the TikToker, so when the TikToker said she couldn't go, the friend started posting that because friend knew she couldn't afford it without the TikToker.
“Your network is your net worth.” What a load of BS. No one owns this delusional woman a vacation for her birthday.
Woman leaving the TikTok shoulda responded “Sorry, I don’t hang with broke people. Sounds you’re just using me for my money”
Ugh!!!! That's EXACTLY what I thought when she subbed in her story about "broke" people. It's like bih' that's YOU. You can't afford your trip, that's why you need others to fund it for you.
I bet she jacked up the price so her way was free
“I’m gonna only hang out with wealthy people…”
“😩 But we can’t afford this trip unless 10 people come!”
Hahahahaha
She's not collecting friends, she's collecting people who can help her fund the lifestyle she believes she deserves but can't afford.
My thoughts exactly!!!
"Not everyone can afford several thousand dollars." MOST people can't afford to blow several thousand dollars on some random trip!
I couldn't afford several hundreds, let alone thousands 🤦♀️
Yup. I love the people in my life, but not like that. That’s a car for my son, that’s new windows for the downstairs, and perhaps a thousand other things. I would never *ever* expect a single person I love to chuck out that money for funsies. Put it to good use and then tell me about it lol
I think this was comedic understating.
Like saying someone is “a little upset” when they’re obviously raging mad. So “not everyone can afford that”…
She's talking the cost of a new driveway!
your response should have been you think I like you That Much ???
for my birthday this year (this past saturday) i literally went out to dinner to texas roadhouse and built separate lego sets for the next 4 hours. just hanging out watching movies and honestly it was one of the best birthdays ive had in awhile
Happy belated birthday!!!
Happy belated birthday! My mom’s birthday is today and we’re going to a movie and eating dinner at Olive Garden, which I haven’t had in ages. I’m going to bake her cake pretty soon!
Happy belated birthday! Sounds like my kind of birthday!
@@caljones thank you! and happy birthday to your mom!! i hope you guys have an amazing day and enjoy olive garden!! we were going to go there originally, but my dad made some homemade lasagna for my family dinner sunday
Bet your Dad's lasagna was better than Olive Gardens. Tell Mama Happy Burthday, love your parents as long as you can. I miss mine every day. 😊💙
I've been to Italy 8 times over a DECADE and I've NEVER booked a luxury villa for MORE than $1,500-2000 total for 7 days. This woman was SCAMMMINNNNNNGGG
This was my exact though process too! I wasn't just about having 10 people there so it made it cheaper for everyone... She wanted those 10 people to pay their way plus some of her's so it would essentially be free for her.
YUP!!
I thought the same thing! She was getting a free trip and probably some spending money on top of it🤔
I was thinking the same thing.
The guy could have gone around
Just a quick note to the editor: absolutely love the sound edit on Charlotte’s blinks, absolutely chefs kiss, just wanted to let you know I noticed.
Agree 🎉
I'm here for the drama, but I LOVE the way her editor KILLS the background and sound effects.
Doing the math in my head for the Italy trip: $1,350 for airbnb, plus round trip airfare, a boat excursion, two expensive dinners, and car/amenities/gift. At least $3,000 for a trip. Probably more.
For a birthday friend of five years? Nope.
wayyyyy more
Edit: Also doing the math for the airbnb.. $1,350 per person for 10 people. That's $13,500 for 5 days?? Italy can be expensive but I think the "friend" is looking to make a profit.
I’m thinking more along the lines of $5000 honestly. And airfare can be DRASTICALLY different depending on the time of year you’re going.
And b'day girl isn't paying for her trip. That is divided & added to your price. That's how these things work. You're paying your expense & 1/10 [or more] of her trip.
She needs you there or everyone's price goes up &/or she may have to pay at least some of her own trip.
Her gift is you [friends] being there.
I'm even mad about having to buy my brother, his 2 kids and his wive birthday and christmas presents every year whilst they only have to gift me, 1 person 😂
Costs me about 150/200euro's a year. It costs them like 50/75. And they have a shared budget which I do not.
(I am in a deep train of thought about this now.. I have 2 cats, they don't buy my cats gifts. Should I stop gifting their children?) 👹
For my friends 30th birthday, she planned on a food tour in Las Vegas.
After sharing joy and excitement for her I gently brought up and reminded her, I have Epilepsy and though I have an electronic device to help control them,.. they were so consistent I require a device to control them, and don’t think it’s the safest city for me.
She apologized and was like omg I didn’t think of that I just wanted you to know you’re not excluded.
I really appreciated our conversation and we ended up celebrating her birthday together before she left.
Bought her lunch and had a painting party together where we painted positive affirmations we needed.
That's how true friendship works ❤
To be fair, I bought my friend apple pie moonshine for Christmas once....forgetting that "apple pie" has cinnamon and she's super allergic to cinnamon. 😅😅 Needless to say I bought her a new gift when she was like "um babes this has cinnamon." It wasn't my brightest moment lol
Thats a true friend
She’s a good friend for being understanding and making sure you didn’t feel purposely not included, but you’re also a good friend for not getting upset at her and demanding she change her party to fit your needs. You both sound really nice and respectful to each other’s autonomy and you’re very lucky to have a friendship like that 🫶
This is a great friendship story. On the topic of epilepsy, I wish it was talked about more and explained. There are so many different types of seizures and people can be triggered many ways or no way at all. I’m lucky medication keeps mine in check, and I enjoy educating people about if the topic arises. Love from Canada! ❤
My single childless BFF of decades threw herself a milestone birthday party, rented an outdoor recreation venue, paid for catering and drinks, and provided recreational fun for all the guests. People did bring presents and paid for a cake, and also brought extra potluck food. There was a mike time "roasting" her and someone made a slide show. It was so fun and memorable, and really spoke to the kind of person she was, there were hundreds of people there. More people should do this kind of thing before they die, so we can all enjoy and appreciate people while they're still around.
I bet it didn't cost $30k either!
That's what this delulu person expected of her 9 friends😬
Did she pass away? If so, I'm sorry for your loss. ❤
Anyone who does s*xual things in public need to be arrested, charged and placed on the registry. Period.
Absolutely! Especially when children are nearby or could be nearby
That first one . . . Her friend isn’t really a friend. A true friend wouldn’t ghost her for not being financially wealthy.
*ONE-*
*HUN-*
*DRED* 💯
One hundred percent!
A friend wouldn't make it a requirement to spend thousands on them even if you could afford it!
Bday toddler, entitled, empty, narcissistic twit. Guaranteed, Bday gal would go cray-cray furious if script was flipped🤦♀️
@@dr.ko1👌Truth
A trip to ITALY for her BIRTHDAY?! That girl is delulu! My last birthday a friend came over, we went for a walk in the woods (free, I live right next to the woods) and baked gingerbread and I was thrilled to have such a good friend who would take the time out of her very busy life to come over!
Sounds effing awesome. Quality over quantity ANY DAY! ❤
Please show that friend your comment. That's an awesome birthday and lucky you living next to some woods. Good friends are worth their weight in gold.
This seems like a very lovely and fun birthday!
This sounds amazing ❤
@@jennieeveleighlamond that sounds awesome. Like I literally want to do exactly that with my bf or bestie this year for my birthday. Just an afternoon and maybe evening with one of my two very favorite people doing chill activities? That's the perfect day!
About the first story with the Italian birthday trip? It's hilarious that the friend says she's no longer hanging out with "broke people". I've had friends and acquaintances who were always up for things like this and looked at me with pity if I said "Thank you for inviting me, but I really can't afford that." They spent money like drunken sailors on expensive dinners, cars, clothes, trips with friends, Disney Vacation Club and other timeshares, etc. They were the ones who always were in to group things with shared expenses. They were the ones who had extravagant parties for spouses and kids and weddings. They were also the ones who continually cried to me that they were living on the edge and weren't sure how they were getting through the next month. They were the ones constantly asking their parents or siblings to bail them out. They were the ones with terrible credit scores, collection accounts, etc. They were the ones who filed bankruptcy with many tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt.
So I always laughed to myself at the look of pity on their faces when I said, "I'm sorry, but I don't have the money for that." Because they heard, "I don't have the money" and completely missed the rest of the sentence - "for that". I actually had the ability to pay the money - in cash - whereas they did not and were simply putting things on various credit cards. I had priorities for my money and they just spent somebody else's money with no priorities at all. Never feel bad about saying no to spending money on something that isn't part of your plans or goals simply to save face. Save that money to use on the things you want or to save for your future.
90% of the time people spending that much money on a birthday... they're probably broke trying to keep up with the Jones.
Financial responsibility is not taught in school.
Absolutely. You've got to build up a buffer for when/if hard times hit. It's scary how many people just have no common sense when it comes to money. A former friend (in his early 50s) has absolutely nothing to show for his entire adult life. He's bummed about, sponging off whatever gullible woman he's managed to charm his way into. He's never paid any income tax, hasn't saved a bean and is constantly broke. I crossed paths with him when we were in our mid 40s and he was broke, unemployed and all-but homeless (his Mum took him back in). I wouldn't mind betting that he's still in the same state of chaos that he was then. You've got to be careful that these people don't drag you down with them
This.
Yes. I'm frugal, not frivolous.
Can we just talk for a second about how STUNNING this womens final makeup look is, TWICE now...just WOW!! 😮❤❤❤
And hair. ❤❤❤ Gorgeous
I want her to make me up!! She’s gorgeous ❤
"I'm no longer hanging out with broke people" is the new classism dog whistle I stg. That's not what "know your worth" is supposed to be about babes 🙄
And it's usually broke people saying it! I wish they knew it's ok to be broke 😂
@@WhimsicalWorm honestly I've heard it from more wannabe rich middle-class people than broke people but yeah that self hatred does seem to get to some people.
"know your worth" on social media means this person's friendship is quite worthless
Why is it, they can only think of money?
@@stpfs9281 because capitalism is a hell of a drug 😔
First story- it’s no only the expectation for people to spend time and money but to do it for you instead of themselves. If I can afford to take a 5 day, thousands of dollars, international vacation I’m not using my cash nor my PTO to be on someone else’s schedule! I’d want to go where I want with who I want. What an insane thing to expect
Exactly, is a lot of money for somebody. Friends a part the economy are not in a good moment for extravagant birthdays in the other side of the ocean.
Right? The narcissism is unreal
EXACTLY! I could see someone initiating a friends trip by saying, "hey I'd like to travel somewhere during my bday, would anyone be instead?" If so, we can plan a trip together that appeals to everyone.
For me and my husband, sure.
Main Character Syndrome
I had a bit of a funny good "Karen" encounter today.
I was in Tim Hortons and noticed that the server's name tag said her name was Karen. I jokingly commented that I'm surprised that people named Karen don't use their middle names today. She said she is a nice Karen and I agreed.
Then she said, "You know what we joke about here? I'M THE MANAGER!: 😂😂😂
Haha. That barista's (true) joke has made its way to Ohio and made my night. I needed a laugh
I love tim hortons cold coffee! Tims has taken over my city here in Mexico. 😂
Its crazy how i used to spot canadians because of tim horton, but now they have it everywhere ☺
@deehmon lol. And yup, I'm Canadian! Funny story about Timmy's being everywhere.
When my daughter was having her first ultrasound with my first grandchild I wanted to be there and allowed extra time in case there was a screw up with my buses. I was coming from out of town and the bus ride was expected to be 2 hours including the city bus, so I allowed 3.
I got there an hour and a half early. I thought, "Now I know exactly where it is, I can just keep walking and probably come to a Tim Hortons within 10 minutes." I was right.
In response to the first story:
My best friend before and all throughout HS had a HUGE crush on this one guy. The guy always made it clear he "didn't like her like that" so she basically dated around a tiny bit but always kinda wished she'd end up with him. Then, out of no where, he finally decided to date her after stringing her along for literally years. He took this time to also tell me that the reason he hadn't dated her was because he "found me so annoying and couldn't imagine being around me all of the time." (conveniently he told me this immediately after I kicked his a** at Tekken lol) I didn't tell her he'd said this, cause honestly, I talk a lot and over-explain so I felt it was fair. (Don't worry, my self esteem and how I let myself be treated has gotten much better and I would probably laugh in the face of anyone saying the same now)
Unsurprisingly, my best friend suddenly had no time for me. I didn't complain. At first I didn't complain because I was trying not to ruin her chance with they guy of her dreams, then I didn't complain because I literally never had a chance. Then, one day when I'm chilling at home with my sister playing Halo, she calls up wanting to go to the local ice cream parlor. She had a car but said she didn't want to drive it due to some issue so she wanted to see if I could come pick her up and we could go hang out. I wanted to hang out but was already hanging out with my sister (who I didn't spend much fun time with) so I reluctantly turned her down. She told me to ask my sister if she wanted to come and that she'd pay for ice cream. My sister agreed so I agreed.
We go and pick her up, she's pretty quiet, but my sister and I are just chatting away about the game so I don't think much about it. We get to the ice cream parlor and she doesn't order anything. I ask her why and she's just like "oh, I just wanted to hang out and get out of the house for a bit." Again, weird since she's basically just sitting there not talking, staring out the window of the shop. Then, not 5 minutes later, her boyfriend shows up to pick her up and take her to some lake party nearby. She didn't want to hang out, she didn't care that she was interrupting a rare day with my sister, she just wanted to get out of the house without her dad realizing her car was gone, and her boyfriend didn't want to drive back and forth through the bad traffic at that time of day to go get her.
I tried calling her after this to talk to her. I tried for months, never getting her on the phone for more than 2 minutes at a time. So... I finally made a blog post about it. Basically I made a post about how "you can't call someone your friend when they treat you like this" leaving out details of who/where/etc so that she would be the only one who knew who it was about. She was SO offended by this that "she ended the friendship" then and there (the irony of her missing the point that that it was long over before that was not lost on me I promise) In our first verbal conversation in a MONTH she had the nerve to tell me I should have "tried to talk to her." I remember just laughing in this sad "really?!" way. I was beyond done the moment she dragged others into her neglect of me.
Sometimes people want the benefits, but they don't appreciate you enough to try and see things from your pov. They want you to put in the work, while they just sit there taking you for granted. Friendships like that are not worth it, and you usually end up realizing how much they were weighing you down once you finally find yourself cut free.
(edit: Wanted to add that the two are married with kids now at least, they seem to be happy and I'm happy for them. If you ever go to a Renaissance festival you might even meet her and her get to see her lovely bronze jewelry. She really does do amazing work, but I'm in a similar field and Rhianna has bought my stuff soooooooooo I guess we're both soaring
I wouldn’t spend a couple thousand on my own birthday, let alone someone else’s birthday. That’s insane.
right?! I spent a couple hundred getting myself some presents I wanted, and I felt guilty for it, despite the fact that I had a 3 week flu and could literally do nothing else anyway.
Same! Maybe to throw a party for my 60th but not a destination for thousands!!! I was thinking I would just rent out part of a restaurant and have a playlist.
Yea, but that's the point though, isn't it? She didn't want to pay that amount for her own vacation. So she came up with a way for her friends to foot the bill for her trip and she would get it totally free. You can guarantee the cost of the Air BnB was probably worked out in such a way that it didn't just cover her contribution in everyone else's payment, but probably the cost of her air fares, too! It's her (the birthday girl), _she_ is the broke b.
@@hawkeyescoffee6399 what a jerk. Who’s the broke one here? I just want cake.
I barely paid over 200$ for my wedding ain't no way I'm paying that for a BIRTHDAY PARTY
It’s the ‘babe you shouldn’t take everything online so seriously’ for me.
And then get mad if she outs herself for being a horrible person.
Girl she was never your friend, don’t waste your time.
But omg she is gorgeous, and seems like such a sweet person.
No wonder that girl was jealous….
$13,500 for an airbnb for FIVE DAYS??? Was she renting a castle?? Me thinks she was looking to skim some of that cash off the top and keep for herself...just sayin'
that's what I thought, in house chef?? like daily massages? why so much
*T H I S*
Yep
She's gonna tell herself she manifested that abundance lol
Didn’t she say 1350?
To the lady that said "For 17 years I begged him..." I've been there, Sis, and I can tell you from personal experience if he wanted to he would. I say that to say this...There is someone out there who will want to and will...all the things that you never got from him...there is someone willing to give you everything. Find him and never beg another person for anything. Hard lesson learned.
That poor crying woman reminded me of my dad. When I moved to States and got married, my parents came to visit and my dad was just so so so negative about everything, he didn't even want to be here, didn't want to go to trips, said if my husband wants to comunicate with him he should learn czech (my native language which is much more difficult than learning basic english), even couple times said that he will not be coming because the trip is too much of a struggle. Two years later he leaves my mom (terrible divorce) for a woman he had an affair with for those whole two years and her daughter lives in the States too and suddenly he he wants to fly to the States with his new gf to visit her daughter, suddenly he wants to learn english to comunicate with the daughters husband, suddenly he wants to do everything he wouldn't do for me. It just somehow hurts more cause you don't expect this from your own dad 🤯
My dad walked my step sister down the aisle
I got a microwave.. was told it was too little notice to travel from ON to AB.. 6weeks Only time he told me he was proud of me..i was pregnant.
❤ hugs
My heart breaks for you😭
I am so sorry. My dad left my mom for a woman he was having an affair with. He treated the new ladies kids better than me. When I was hospitalized twice this year and fighting pneumonia since January, I reached out to him bc I thought I was going to die. He didn't even call back or reply. The cruelty is a stab in the heart that is so hard to overcome. You are not alone with a dad that has betrayed and them. I'm sorry and I feel you. Best to you my dear ❤
Dang I’m so sorry your dad did this to you and your family *hugs*
That first woman had so much class, and her “friend” sounded like an absolute clown for losing her mind like that 😂😂
And her hypocrisy was jaw-dropping. "How dare you put me on blast in public" like she didn't start with the public shaming. "Why didn't you just call me and talk it through if you had a problem?" Like she didn't ignore her calls and texts for weeks??
Girl, bye. 💅🏽
One wonders how much mind she had to lose. Not much.
“You need to cover airfare, AirBnb, 7-8 course meals, and you need to tip the staff plus pay your share of a boat rental…but don’t worry because everything else is included!” 🤣🤣🤣
I had the same thought 😂😂😂 I was like what else is there?!?!
So... toilettpaper is included?
I'm pretty certain the "included" is the birthday girl not spending a cent of her own money for any part of this entire trip.
The airfare and AirBnB alone are already $7,000+ per girl. This birthday brat is MEGA entitled to expect her friends to foot the bill for a $100,000 (minimum!) birthday party, for which she gave her friends, or at least OP, only 2 weeks notice! I hope they all bail on her, she'd deserve it.
But would she also expect a gift?
One of the biggest life lessons I learned was that people will only treat you as poorly as you ALLOW them to. 💯
I saw a clip of a guy getting asked who should pay on a date. His response was "The one who asked/arranged the date." And I completely agree
That was 50 cent.
I think it should always be the man because women are oppressed. They owe it to us. Unless you're a lesbian, the man should pay.
VVomen know they can ask men on dates too tho right? ...
@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fhdid this imply they shouldn't? Like where was the gender of the person planning said?
@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh I'm also curious as to what you are implying with this question
it's wild to me that people ask their friends to pay for their party. I threw a big party for my 30th, rented a relatively expensive air bnb, had live music, the whole shebang. I did not ask a soul for a cent. That was all for me by me.
Yah, it's one thing to accept a very expensive gift from someone who wants to give it❤, but totally something else, to ask for it😮!!!
That's because you are a decent person who was raised right.😁Mines coming up, I've invited friends for dinner at my place. I'm going all out and it'll be great company, good laughs and hopefully great food and drinks. My friends have a mix of financial situations so this way... Like your celebration, if you invite guests, they don't pay.
Oh, renting an air bnb is a brilliant idea, I bet you all had a great time... And a decent sleep in the next day. 🍾🥂🍷🍹🍸
Happy 30th! 🎈
When I turned 50 I threw a party with a band and catered by a bbq restaurant (I live in Texas). It was the best I could afford and it was a lot of fun. Only the people who came from out-of-town had to pay a thing.
When I turned 50 my husband threw a big surprise party for me. Amazing man.
Last year my friend threw a small suprise party at my local karaoke bar . She made the food and planned the lot.
No amount of money can buy moments like that with my friends ❤
For my 60th this year I invited 9 of the closest people whom I adore and consider as family to join me for dinner. All arrived ready to celebrate and we had a wonderful evening. No drama just love.
Sounds like birthday girl was gonna scam her friends out of about $8-$9,000. Babe you do not want a friend who judges you by your paycheck. She is awful.
Reminds me of the one where the bride got her bachelorette trip funded by her dad and then got her friends to pay for it too
Had to have money for that ice swan.
Was that the one where she had a chest enhancing procedure?@@Isa-yp2rr
@@Isa-yp2rris that one with the supposed swan ice sculture. She arrived from hospital with a boob job. 😂
Really like... Girl, I would be happy to receive only a Happy Birthday text xDD
At my old gym I used to see our local fire chief most days I went. The thing I thought was so cool about him is that I'd see him walk in in his fancy white uniform with his thick dark hair and moustache and a few minutes later he would emerge from the locker room, completely rocking a bald head. It always impressed me that he was so confident he could wear a toupee one minute and just rip that f vcker off the next. Respect.
11:06 when Charlotte said "yea, i can't do that.. i don't want to do that" i felt relieved. Like someone had to say this! And there are many who needs to hear this!
Re: the woman who begged for 17 1/2 years to go out of the country on a trip. Even if she could've gone on her own, she probably wanted to go with her husband.
I would not wait that long to do something. I would find someone else to do that with. I have patience for my job but not for something like that lol. I like to move on, and quick. Life is too short
That being said, their travel styles may be very different. She may not be the kind of person who he likes traveling with, so he didn't want to blow too much monies on bigger trips.
This is why things may have gone differently if they'd talked openly about it. There are people I hate traveling with. But activities and itinerary can be compromised...
Some years ago, a friend of mine invited a bunch of us to a villa on a Caribbean island and paid for our stay and the food herself. It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience, made possible by her enormous generosity (I don't even know how much she spent, but I imagine it was more than I could ever hope to afford). Now it's one of my favorite memories ever
The first story, she didn't lose anything of quality. As a broke person with a close broke circle, it's always the ones who have the least money who do the most for you when it really matters.
For the dancing one, my social anxiety would NEVER let me walk THROUGH a full on dance sesh 🤣🙈
Same, which is why this man earned some respect. I find these group dances to be so obnoxious, so of course it must be combated with equally obnoxious behavior.
It is frustrating whan you are in public that you have to watch out not to be in the background of some random people video's.
@@Siencja it's not hard to walk around, he could've got hurt doing what he did
@@Siencja eh I bet u can prob tell the difference between an influencer recording vs street performances
For the walking guy, yes you CAN walk through but you also can choose not to do that lol
On my birthday two weeks ago, I legit took myself on a three day getaway because all of my friends couldn’t get time off. Which I was perfectly okay with, and if they could have managed to get the time off, the only thing they would have had to pay for was one event ticket. This weekend we are all going to dinner to celebrate because the time works for us all. You don’t need friends who make you feel like shit or will talk about you like that. Protect your peace always!
“We accept what we think we deserve…” spot on! Never beg for anything! If a man doesn't give you what you want either get it yourself or find one that will…
exactly!! and that's what A LOT of women don't get. they just expect the man to listen but if he's not listening then HE DOESNT CARE and that's a reason to drop him
I so would not have put up with him. No begging from me. If he doesn't want to take me I'll take myself. I would ask him once and that's it.
The same line works for friends, too!
Also, I think she is still married to him, the woman she was talking about was her daughter-in-law, or did I get that wrong? That's why he asked for permission? 🤔🤔
Weird-ass and dick move though, either way. 😵🫠
@@AniRSmNo I think it is her ex-husband, it seemed like he was asking permission because he wanted to take their daughter on the vacation with him and his new girlfriend/wife
I remember "When Harry Met Sally" and her melt down when she realized that her ex wanted marriage, just not with her. That is such a gut wrenching realization when it happens to you.
I was with a guy for 6 years who led me on about possibly getting married. Seeing more than one red flag after going away for work I broke up with him. He married the next woman he dated after barely a year with her.
Kinda a gut punch but her red flags now. I’m gonna marry my green flag in July ❤️
At least in that movie Sally was okay with that relationship status until she changed her mind about wanting a family, and it ended there. The relationship fullfilled her original expectations. She didn't allow herself to get strung along, so her grief was limited to wondering why not her when he later married. The woman from the first story was strung along for years, with him refusing to go on the vacations. That's something everyone should avoid - staying with someone who keeps putting off what you want out of the relationship.
@@shadoutThen the woman should've also said something to her ex instead of letting him led her on for 17+ years. I'm sorry but if you keep getting told "next year" year after year for a trip then it will more than likely NEVER happen. Another thing is did they have the money to go to Mexico in those 17+ years of marriage they're money situation may not have been good but now with the new girlfriend the money situation could be good (who knows new girlfriend could be helping pay for the trip). Just a lot of what ifs and probabilities. But like I said earlier if you keep getting told next year AND the relationship isn't going good or you lost the love then GET A DIVORCE don't stay married and make each other miserable along with making your kids miserable. End of my TED talk..
ugh, this guy told me he didn't want a relationship. he got married within that year and has a child. oh well. lol I have a car and he doesn't 😅
My ex husband wanted kids just not with me. Sucks but there you have it. I have my baby girl and I'm so happy
Regarding the birthday trip person getting mad that she was spoken about in a bad light, I always go back to one of my favorite quotes, which is from Anne Lamott:
“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”
I'm going on a cruise to Alaska in 2026 for my 60th birthday,by myself. I'm not asking anyone to go with me,so no drama! And many congrats to Charlotte and Mike on the upcoming wedding!
I want to travel alone for mine too but I need someone just in case because of my health. Alaska sounds wonderful, probably out of my budget but lovely. Have fun.
Wohoo, awesome, have the best time. Happy 60th in advance ❤❤
Alaska sounds amazing! I wanna do a cruise there one day, too
Omg enjoy, Alaska is wonderful!
Have a ball. Doing what you want, when you want, with whomever you want... Aah, sounds brilliant.
I hope you enjoy Alaska. Happy 60th.
I’m not convinced that the first “birthday girl” wasn’t trying to get HER portion of the trip paid for by dividing the cost between her “friends”.
Oh she absolutely was. She doesn’t want “broke” friends because she needs someone to fund the lavish lifestyle she think she deserves. Don’t prize money over people.
That is what I thought. The numbers just don't add up. It's coming in at quite expensive hotel price. I did wonder perhaps if she was sort of planning to make a business out of it by 'hosting and organizing' European trips as a side hustle.
In fact, come to think of it, I wondered if she had a job as an online travel agent. I know someone who does that and she would earn quite a commission on a 10 person trip.
I bet I bet you are right
The first one.. her friend got mad because her bowing out screwed up the math for everyone else paying for everything
Yes! The friend wasn’t as rich as she was pretending.
And the friend needed everyone to step up so she wouldn’t have to pay her own way.
You know the birthday girl built in her costs into everybody else - since it is her birthday after all.
Then others backed out after seeing the strong one stand up to the bully
That first girl's skin is AMAZING! Filters dont even give me that texture and radiance. 🤩
I don't know why she felt the need to put in so much makeup. Her skin already looks great!
Love her hair 😍
My thoughts, too. She's GORGEOUS!!
@@sarahwbsbecause she wanted to!!
1st one- not only did she expect her to come up with that kind of money, she wanted her to come up with it in less than a month. She said the bday was at the end of the month.
The woman with the ex of 17 years reminds me of my own parents. They were married 23 years and my mom always wanted to travel and do things with us as a family, and my dad wasn’t interested. Now with his current wife who is his high school sweetheart (and an awful person), he travels with her. It hurts my mom because he ended the marriage when he reconnected with step monster on Facebook. So, seeing that woman cry, it made me actually sad for her, because it sucks for everyone involved from the previous marriage at some point. I say this as my father moved to Colorado with his wife 2 months ago and I only heard from him when my mom had an aneurysm and was in the hospital. I haven’t heard from him since.
I hope there's time for you guys to start going on trips together now that she's not being stopped by her ex.
Oh you will hear from him when he is diagnosed with cancer or on his deathbed. Don’t respond.
@AlwaysKDawg, I am so sorry for you and your mother as she gave your father beautiful, empathetic, supportive and kind children as I can see how much pain and grief that you are carrying with you and for your mother. His selfish behaviour has impacted and affected you all as a family and you are right to be angry!! Your father treated your mother abhorrently and it resonates with me tremendously. I too lived with a father like yours who was narcissistic, selfish and cruel and he NEVER stopped, even as he hit 95, which is when he passed away. Please take my advice and realize that your father will never change and what you see it what you should all expect from now on as he is sending his message clearly! I suggest your mother sign over all medical documents and records to you, or you and your siblings, and ONLY to who she chooses regarding her health. Your father no longer feels obligated to engage or support anyone of you as he is showing ALL of you that he has emotionally checked out for good. I know that I sound cruel but I have been in your shoes and watched it all play out for 27 years with my mother, which is how old I was when she passed away. Even as the years passed by, I was always hoped he would be the father that I needed but that change never happened and the trauma that I live with is still with me today even 10 years after his death. Please take care of yourself, your mother and your siblings if you have any and don’t expect anything from your father anymore because I don’t want you to be heartbroken every time he lets you down, as he will and unless HE comes to you and wants a relationship make it very clear WHAT you expect from him and do not deviate from it one bit. Please take care of yourself and your mother too and simply change your expectations as you go on with your life.
I am so sorry. Went through something similar, parents were married 25 years. Dad divorced mom, never paid a cent in alimony, somehow didn't get in trouble for it. Then he married his new wife he was seeing while still with my mom. And he treats this new woman's kids better than me. Haven't spoken to him in years. He wouldn't even respond or call back when I thought I was gonna die while in the host, twice, due to fighting severe pneumonia since January. Still fighting it, but it hurts less than the pain my dad has given my heart. Best to you ❤
I've even had to tell people who told me, "YOU can afford it!" That, "Yeh, but I don't WANT to afford it." 😂
I was in the same boat. 30 years of doing holidays alone,vacations alone. Raising children is a full time underrated underpaid job....
When I was a teenager my dance school would send us out to dance at mall events. One time a grown man tried to walk through us and got smacked and kicked at the same time. He took a tumble and we just kept jazz dancing, in perfect formation, right over him. Our dance master dragged him out of our way. It was the 80's so you know the jazz hands and kicks were hard. LMAO!!
The visual I have in my head is HILARIOUS! Thanks for the giggle. 😂❤
Yeah we all hear horror stories about how hard jazz dancers in the 80s were. I mean people just don't understand , they could really leave a red mark for at least 30mins with those furious jazz hands.
"You should have just come to me if you had a problem" She *DID*. You denied it all.
I wish i could give the lady who was heartbroken a hug
The guy who walked through the dancers is the REASON THEY HAVE TO BE THERE FOR 8 HOURS.
FR! There's so many comments saying it was a "busy street", but if it was- there wouldn't be whole camera crews and a huge group 💀
There were people watching off to the side, but they weren't trying to get past them, as there was clearly room to walk- The dud was just being an ass and idk why ANYONE is defending him!
Sorry $1350 each from 10 people is $13,500....what kinda property are they trying to rent ?? The f?
Probably 9 people paying - birthday girl likely expects her trip to be paid for
Oh birthday girl was actually expecting to take some of that off top.
@@sheilaflory2541 Even with her share it's so expensive !
9 people paying for a whole villa
I had a feeling it was like that one story where the bride had all the bachelorette party “pay” for their share of the air bnb but then one of the bridesmaids find out that her dad paid for it so they were wondering where that thousands of dollars went and she lied said it was for an ice sculpture but turns out it was for a boob job 😅 I had a feeling that girl was trying to pocket some of the money.
I'll say it again: I need Charlotte's facial expressions as an emoji set! 😂😮😌😲😳
OH MY GOD WE NEED THIS. someone find the guy Kim stole the idea from. Let’s pay him for some charmoji’s
Omfg yes! I want it 😂❤
Oh…Yes please! Sign me up!
That would be soooooo great!!!!
Brilliant idea!!! I’d pay for those!
Whenever I put together a group event, I try to make sure it’s as affordable as possible for my friends. A lot of them can’t spare more than $20, so I stick to accessible activities - picnics, board game nights, going to the rollerskating rink, etc. Everyone has a great time and that’s what’s most important!
Lol!! That second part of the first story! As soon as I heard "Why did you make a video about me" hit her with the "Don't take everything online so personally, not everything is about you 😊." Just like she did the first time around!
The first girl, I feel her... I had a friend for 5 years and I discovered that the only person who was a friend on this whole friendship time was me, cause that bish were talking sh*t about me to other people and she was envious of me and my relationship.
About the girl who said that her ex gave everything she begged for to the new girl and not her...well, same happened to me and after a few years he saw me and said that if back in time I was the person I am today, he would never let me go...and my response was "if I were the person I am today, I would not be with you not even a day, much less 7 years 😅😂"
He really tried to make you feel bad for his own decisions!! The projection of it all!
Advance notice for that big of a trip is 6 months to 1 year, so people can save up, find deals on airfare, and take off work in time. Telling someone the SAME month is not advanced notice and unacceptable
I agree. Five friends and I (we being in Europe), have a trip planned for Scotland for a few days in September, which we planned about 5 to 6 months in advance. We managed to book the trains, flights, airbnb there and back, for 2500 to 3000 euros tops, divided between the six of us. So roughly around 470 euros each for the several days stay in Scotland.
That ex best friend is just trying to mooch a lavish lifestyle vacation off of her so-called friends so she can feel unrealistically rich for her birthday.
also that is a vacation not a birthday trip xD Girl was expecting them to pay for her meals and stuff too i bet. Since "its her birthday trip"
@@pascaleelliott63 Absolutely agreed. My dad and I are going skiing in Italy next year. Total each for the package holiday including equipment hire: £1500. I figure maybe £150-200 total for food at the mountain cafes over the course of the week.
It's a bit expensive for me but with a bit of budgeting I can manage it because that's my DAD; I wouldn't plan a trip that costs so much even with my friends of ten years unless we had at least twice the notice.
Hope you have fun over here! If you're in or around Glasgow I can give some recommendations for things to do or places to eat.
Plus getting a passport.
@@Fyreflier Thankyou, we've been hoping to get a chance to go organise a trip to Scotland since 2017 ^^ We're gonna be in Edimbourg for our stay, but if we have a chance and means to go to Glasgow while we're there, we'd love some recommendations, thankyou! :)
11:57 She didn’t lose friends, she outgrew a group of people who’ve gone stale.
and sour lol
This 💯💯💯
They have started fermenting...
The first one is exactly why I don’t invite people to do things and expect them to pay for it.
If I’m inviting you to do something, it’s because I want you there and I’m willing to pay for it. 💜
For the first one, here's me thinking $13.50/day, not $1,350! That's some airbnb!
For 10 people! So that’s a 13 thousand dollar AirBnb
Me too!
I’ve stayed in Italy. It’s like 300 a night for a luxury 3 bed max if you’re smart. It’s 150 for a nice one or two bed with sofa beds and such. And you don’t usually tip in Italy. That’s rare.
@@mythogenesis4788 i was also thinking about that like you don’t tip in italy tf
My husband took me away to Toronto for my 30th birthday and secretly invited others to come. My brother and 4 friends surprised me. I was overwhelmed by the whole thing. I would never expect that from anyone, but I was so grateful. I also gotto tell them all I was expecting too. Surprises all around!
Congratulations omg
The 1st story is crazy, I've been to Italy thanks to Wowcher for 3 days in Rome ,visited Napels pompey, and then 4 days in Venice included flights, luggage, hotel's (4*)& train travel, got the tickets for the colosseum, Vatican and the hard rock cafe from TripAdvisor and booked Napels and pompey the same way . All for under £800. Her friend is cray-cray😮
My 40th birthday was in 2020 so obviously I didn’t do anything to celebrate it. So last year I did something for my 43rd birthday. I went alone to Padre Island in Texas, a four hour drive for me. I got a tiny room on the beach and spent four days bird watching, swimming, collecting shells, drinking on the beach and it was fantastic. I spent less than $500 on everything combined, lodging and gas and food and drinks. It’s the most I’ve ever spent on a birthday. Kudos to anyone who has the money for an international vacation that costs thousands but that ain’t most of us.
I also made many friends on the beach lol. For anyone familiar with Texas, this was Port Aransas, not South Padre. Port Aransas is much smaller and more chill than South Padre. It’s also a generally older crowd, especially in the off season. So I just hung out with older people on the beach or the even older bird watchers at Leonabelle Park. It was fantastic.
RE; Dancers/ walk thru. Teachable moment to my son for many years...."Just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD!" Don't ruin things for others.
Not everyone is looking around being observant, like he came up from behind and might not have seen the camera's etc... it's a public foot path, if you want privacy go somewhere private.
@@kublakhan2342 He have seen it clean enough to part ways with his laughing friends and change his trajectory just to go past the very center of a formation. This was deliberate, not an accident.
@@kublakhan2342bro I watched it again and he CHANGED DIRECTION to walk through it and pulled away from his friends to do it. Then did a thumbs up to their camera at the end. He ruined the take to ruin the take.
I took my husband to Mexico and Jamaica. I adore him and want to expose him to even more travel destinations, next up Scotland. He was very poor as a kid and never had vacations, I want to give him everything. He has worked his bottom off and he needs to see the world.
Is he working hard for you?
Why do you make him sound like a charity case?
Awww! That's really sweet!
@@sparklemotion8377bro imagine being so bitter that a person spoiling their parter is seen as a charity case BRO THAT THE PERSON THEY’RE MARRIED AND MAKES TRAVELING MAKES HIM HAPPY YOU ARE BITTER!!!
@@godregretsme6955 Said someone calling themselves God regrets me.
@@sparklemotion8377Wow! You really are bitter aren't you.
Can we just bask in the glory that it the color matching on the makeup from the first video 🤩🤩 what an absolute queen, that foundation was 😮💨😮💨
But this story is the epitome of “if the truth calls your character into question, the issue is not with the truth, it’s with your character”
For the group of dancers dancing in public. This is a kpop dance cover group. And as friend of people who do this often. We understand that it’s a public place and if we are disrupting a really busy place we will move. The performance is only 10-20mins long. But these dancers work for weeks on these dancers and pay the camera guys a lot of money to do so. Most of us are really considerate of the public place and will move to avoid busy areas too. It’s an art, they are performing and they work really hard so please take that into account.
And we understand that not ever dance crew are not as understanding and kind as others 💖💖💖
Also stan Twice
It’s possible to pick a spot that is not busy though. If you worked for weeks on the dance and paid the cameraman a lot of money, why do it in a busy public place and risk getting this kind of disruption. I completely agree that it is an art and it is really cool, but when using and obstructing a public space without a permit you do not have any more rights than anyone else there.
The thing is that he was walking beside them and then stopped when he saw them to then just walk right thru them for no reason at all!
@@s.a.4358 yeah that is so valid, not every performer is considerate this way. It’s a public space so they don’t own it. Some dancers are like this.
@@idakristin4 preach 🙏🏻
Very true. It is sad 😢
One summer (before I graduated from college) I was teaching beginner horseback riding classes at a large city riding school, located next to a park with bridle trails. I was taking a group of 8-10 year old kids (after several weeks of ring lessons) on their first ever trail ride in the park. As I was leading them out of a woodland onto an open lawn, there was a couple “embracing” on a blanket. I called to the kids “Everyone prepare trot. Trot on!”, and I didn’t slow to a walk until we were back in the trees. Back at the stable, my boss told me that she had been driving down the road by that open area and that I “shouldn’t have had those beginners trotting on their first trail ride”. I asked if she had noticed a couple on a blanket, but from the road she didn’t see them. When I told her that I was preventing the trail ride from becoming an unwanted educational event, we had a big laugh.
"We're not all doing crazy birthdays anymore"
Me (a big ol introvert): Pffft, some of us never did LOL
Same, the craziest thing I ever did for my birthday was go on a camping trip for 2 days with 2 friends :D
*exactly*. I mean my big 40th birthday was literally me just getting a colonoscopy. some of us just wanna be at home chilling.
Cake is a must though… and it is okay to buy one and eat it yourself. 😉
I always buy my own birthday cake haha.
Yep, nothing I love more than NOT having to socialize with strangers 😂
There's a sketch by Jordan Prince where he pokes fun at German birthdays, highlighting how it's the birthday person's responsibility to cover expenses. Of course, there are surprise parties, but typically we bring our own cake and snacks to the office, cover the bill at a restaurant, or buy some rounds of drinks at the pub. This way, everyone can decide for themselves how much they want to spend on "the birthday topic" each year. In return, we receive gifts, and smaller events are generally preferred over large ones, so as not to raise expectations unnecessarily. 😅
It's the same in Mexico. The birthday person pays for their whole party, cake, food and everything! I moved here from England and that blew my mind!
The same thing in Greece. I've taken my friends out numerous times.
I'm a native Texan. I was raised that whoever does the inviting pays for the person or people invited - for a party, out to dinner, an activity, or a trip - it doesn't matter. Now if multiple people start a conversation and begin brainstorming '& planning a trip, then they agree on how to share the costs.
In Italy it's the same. The birthday person pays the bill.
@@belladonna8747 I love vacations with friends, but we are also mindful to plan around the person with the smallest budget. And those with a little more money in the pocket will always offer to cover a bigger trip to the supermarket. It just has to feel fair for everyone.
I'm with Charlotte on beholding the artwork. His whole crew walked around and he broke off to spoil the beholding.
I used to be a lifeguard at a community pool. You wouldn’t believe how many people we had to either call the cops on or just ban due to similar things happening at the beach depending on how early or late we caught them. This happened with both teens AND adults. The adults doing it at the community pool were the ones I was always most baffled by.
My boyfriend and I were at the movies one day. Mid movie this couple maybe in their 40s (it's dark, but from what little we could see we asume they were around there) come into the theater all the way to the top where we were and the guy just starts fondling the woman. She says to him that she's never done this before, was probably embarrassed that people could hear them. They then continue to move down the aisles until they find an empty one and did who knows what.
You couldn't do those things in a nude beach let alone a public pool.
My experience is that whether anyone else is around and you get away with it-you won't want sex on the beach ever again. Sand is EVERYWHERE.
I just had my 81st birthday and it was a blast , out on a boat on Okanagan Lake in B C. They just keep getting better!
Happy Birthday! My Birthday was Sunday, 45 full-time single mother with two young boys, and they let me sleep all day.... It was exactly what I needed!
@@janai5074 Thanks and right back at ya. The best birthday presents are the simplest from the people who love us most!
81! Babes I love that! Happy birthday!
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday!
For the dance cover, that man had all the space in the world to go around plus that area specifically is used a lot for this. He just wanted to disturb them😅
😂 honestly though, that's the chance you take when film in a public space
@@heatherlowe7330 still makes him the jerk. It ruined the take so they can't use it so they had to start from the beginning again taking up the path when this could have been the one and they could have finished up and be out.
@@J_Isak true enough. But couldn't they have just come when the local businesses were closed and people weren't walking around? Seems easy enough to film at a time with less foot traffic.
@@heatherlowe7330
a lot of dance groups like dancing in public spaces because they work hard to learn the routine, and want to entertain people with it.
I agree if it's a tight space there shouldn't be groups taking up a whole walkway, but just from the angle we saw there was plenty of space for the man to walk. Also, if you look again, you can see his friend he was walking with turned and said something to him, I assume daring him to walk through, right before he interrupted the routine (while his friend kept walking along with no trouble in the back). The man could have also either gotten hurt, or could have made one of the performers get hurt, just because he thinks it's okay to look down on others. Like, that's honestly some bully behavior right there :/
@@skadiyoko not saying it wasn't inconsiderate of him. And yeah, things could have gone bad. Just saying if you gonna perform in a public space, be prepared for the public to share that space. And the dance group did have options to film at less congested times of day. Honestly, I am surprised it wasn't some Karen trying to police the whole thing 😂
@18:22 I don’t agree with that comment. :( not in this case when they were literally together for 17yrs. When you agree to be in a relationship with someone, you should already be willing to do things for and with each other. Telling her she just wasn’t the one for him so that’s why he didn’t take her anywhere is just another slap in the face/ stab in the heart. She doesn’t need those kinds of comments on an already heartbreaking situation.
Agreed. My wasband (WAS my husband) did this 💩 when he left me after 30+ years and it upset me to no end. However, he was sorry within the year; so, sooo sorry. Today, another girl is living my old, sad life.
Its good to know about that person now. Let her go, she's a fair weather friend.
My last birthday, we got takeout cupcakes, ate homemade tacos, and painted rocks for my garden. Loved it so much that I'm doing it every year.
I moved in 2003 to another state about 1800 miles away from where I/we lived for almost my whole life. I had friends in a particular group that I had known for over 20 years - never heard a single word from any of them, no text, no call, nothing! I know have friends that I would die for and they reciprocate. One even helped me when I had a health “situation” in 2022 - stayed with me at the ER, took me to her home so we could get her husband to go find my car in a public garage and drive it miles to my home while she took me home! My husband was away at the time so I was alone! This is what real friends do!!! I drive another friend who is in her 80s to most of her doctor appointments because she needs help and I’m more than happy to help! This is what real friends do! They don’t want to go to another country for a birthday that 10 of her friends must pay for everything! Not a real friend!
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That last one had me laughing. Back in the 70's and 80's, I decided to ask out guys and let them know, my treat. I casually dated several guys like this. I never once paid for anything! The men would always say thank you and pay. My friends would just say, I wish I could do that. Now, there were plenty of men who asked me out, too. I used to offer to pay for my half. Never did one accept. And I never, ever, slept with a man on the first date (second or third...😉). I got so many flowers sent to me at the office and had so much fun! The only thing more fun for me was raising my children and now grandchild. Enjoy life, my friends. It's so very short! ❤❤❤😂😂😂
The dancers aren't there for 8 hours and they don't practice in the streets. There's this "kpop in public" challenge and that's what they're doing. Believe me, they'd rather do this in one go but they can't because of technical difficulties and people LIKE THAT DUDE who just decided to go through them instead of around them. Imagine there's a group of friends,all chatting and what not but then you decide to break their company by walking through them instead of avoiding them 😂
This is also just inside the pedestrian-only zone at Covent Garden, London, famous for being a centre for street performers, singers, dancers etc. the guy is walking towards the square’s centre and covered market, so more than likely knew to expect this sort of thing and I’d put money on him doing this to others further down the street.
Did they ask for the permission to every passerby to record their faces? They are on public space, if they want to ibteruption they should have resserved a private space. The streets looks crowded and they seem to take up alot of space so people have to walk around them. Good for the guy for not giving two shts about them.
@@truli91 key word, public space. They don't have to ask. If the guy didn't want to get recorded,he could have just avoided the camera 🧐. He just interrupted for the sake of interrupting. I personally consider that bad manners. What if it wasn't a dance group but a film crew instead? He could get in trouble for purposely interrupting but just bcs they aren't professionals it is somehow okay to interrupt?
@@marugav6632 pretty sure you need a licence to shoot a movie and create a set. This is nowhere near to proffesionals shooting a movie, this is just some entitled kids taking up space for the sake of getting attention.
@@truli91 you sound salty xD. You can make movies without a license too. For school or any other project which doesn't require a license. Idk in which country you live in but it is common courtesy not to interrupt people for no reason unless they actually disturb your peace by invading your space or something which didn't happen since they were already there when this person arrived.
for my 30th birthday i made my own cake, had friends and family over for a BBQ dinner and cake. and thats the biggest thing i've done lol some people are so extra
I absolutely love your reactions and advice. As a senior “79” fan it’s so nice to see someone who has common sense. I am so happy for you that you found Mike, he’s a lucky guy ❤️👍🎉🎶
I never believed the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" until Charlotte stopped posting daily ❤❤ P.S. My Charlotte Merch arrived today I am SOOOO EXCITED
Eyy congrats I'm jealous 💕💕 and true that about longing for even more Charlotte content 😭😹
My bestie wanted to go to a brazilian steakhouse for her birthday. About $60 per person. I was SO broke but she wanted me there. So we compromised. I was her driver for the night so she could get drunk 😂 i tipped for both of us and she paid my tab. Everyone else at the table split her tab. If my birthday rolls around and shes in that situation, I would definitely pay her way. I can't understand being so rude to FRIENDS over MONEY.
23:24 you can see he told his friends what he was going to do and they laughed and went around the group while he walked thru going the opposite direction then his friends did
“We accept what we think we deserve” this made me question alot of things in my life!! But also, how do we stop “accepting” the things we don’t want? Asking for myself..
You grow a backbone and learn to say “No” and to do what you want even if it means doing it alone. Even if you said “Yes” a thousand times, you are entitled to refuse at any time. The number one is to build your own confidence and self worth. Explore what you desire in life. Once you’re convinced this is something that belongs in your life, anyone who goes against it, gets automatically rejected.
For example, I want to travel to a few places. One of the first things I discussed with my now fiance is that traveling and going to those places was non negotiable. Recently we were talking and he kinda said, he wasn’t sure he wanted to travel to a few places I want to go. I basically told him, I can either go alone, or we can not get married. He changed his mind, thankfully. We don’t always need to want what our significant other wants. But, we need to advocate for ourselves too. If I am willing to go and do things just because it would make him happy. I expect nothing less.
Put your foot down and leave. People will try to make you feel guilty and make you the bad guy some will even try to spread lies but you have to ignore and realize your choices are the best for yourself.
As a side note, I love watching people do their make-up. I know its been a trend for awhile 😊 The first lady has supernatural gorgeous skin, loved watching how she contours, highlights & shadows. It was mesmerising. Her final looks were magnificent. These are true life skills in my book! 😅❤
Guess I’m way too old as I completely dislike watching ladies apply 2 tons of makeup while talking faster than anyone! I skipped through this story! I really like Charlotte and the stories but……..!!!
@@sandybruce9092 I genuinely couldn't tell the difference on them. I also thought both ladies looked lovely without the makeup, but everyone has their routines.
A good friend , a REAL friend would not have an expectation like a trip to Italy for a birthday. Let alone treats you stably. A real true friend is with you even when you're at your worst
"We teach ppl how we want to be treated" is one of the best quotes that helped me stop accepting LESS THAN. ❤
All the advance notice in the world is not going to make more money magically appear in one's bank account.
Truth
That's a lot to work into any budget
I would bet a birthday trip to Italy that that girl is mad because she has to pay for her portion of the trip now instead of splitting the cost between her friends.
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Girlie had herself a convenient filler friend 😩
Or she didn’t have the money and was splitting the total cost between the others and “gifting” herself the trip.
@@amyswabe5571that’s what I meant, like now she has to cough up the $3000 or whatever instead of just getting to go for free by splitting the bill 10 ways. She sounds awful enough to be like that 😅
Back when I was still married, I was in the same situation as one of the woman in the video.
Me and my ex husband lived very close to the borders of three different countries (around 1h to 3h away), but whenever vacation time came around, he refused to travel to anywhere else other than to his family. Yes, the kids where always happy to see the family of my ex husband, because they lived 8h away, but why did we always go there for our summer vacation!?
Well, after we split up and he got into a new relationship, he almost immediately started to travel around the world with his new girlfriend. In the beginning I was hurt and angry, because he never did this with me, no matter how often I asked for it.
I needed to learn and realize that he always wanted to travel around, he just didn't wanted to do it with me alone or later together as a family.
Realising that I wasn't the pain he wanted to share this with helped me a tremendously to let go of the hurt and anger and come to terms with the end of my marriage.
16:49 “We accept the love we think we deserve” from the book The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Real.
The 1st should be relieved that friendship is over
If a guy I asked out told me to my face that "I don't do 50-50" I would never want to see them. I'd pay my own and leave him to deal with his own crap. It goes without saying that you have to be prepared to pay your own order. I just cannot fathom people who expect to be treated without actually having that conversation where one says "It's my treat".
Was the guy in the video being serious? I thought it was satire about how some women will do the same thing, but I could be wrong
It was a sarire though. It's about all these ladies who go out with a man and say "I don't do 50/50" because they expect to be paid for. If you flip the genders, it shows how truly ridiculous it is. To your point, you should be prepared to pay for yourself.
It is satire. He is trying to mock how women expect to be paid for by flipping the genders..however he is just making a fool of himself. Men and women have roles. The whole purpose of men paying on first dates is to show he can be a provider. How will a serious relationship ever form if men refuse to be providers ? I get it though, a lot of selfish women started using men for free meals/dates..etc. Everyone is in the wrong. No one is courting anymore, no one is holding out til marriage anymore..men use women as objects and women use men as wallets. The world is collapsing.
Lmao. I find it hilarious how most women think the whole Drizzle Drizzle thing is serious, and it's almost always the ones that buy into the whole Sprinkle Sprinkle thing. It's all satire. It's mocking the entire sprinkle sprinkle movement. Nothing that guy said was meant to be taken seriously behind the scathing rebuke it was meant to be.
@@agavictoriaIt's ridiculous when girls say it. And very few people would say otherwise. Why do we have to pick the most extreme of everything and say well if you flip the genders it would be ridiculous. No it is ridiculous to the high majority of people when they do it. Also, I hate it when people are like. Oh, I'm a king. I'm a queen b**** you're not. You're a peasant like the rest of us get up and do the work.
22:00 Yeah, I'm with you on this Charlotte, that dude, from what I could tell, went out of his way to ruin their recording. Had it been a situation where he'd just walked behind or around them and they got upset, then I'd be on his side, but he went straight through the group when, as you said, there was space on the sidewalk where he could have continued going straight and then walked behind the camera person if he needed to cross.
what’s wild is he REALLY went out of his way to do that, and he thought it was funny… he left the group he was walking with (they all walked around) and walked right through the center and gave a thumbs up. SO rude for no reason…
I'd only go through if I needed the loo or the last bus was in 3 minutes
And he probably still lives on as a hero in his own mind
@@cammy.eloise It was funny, even the dancers laughed. Btw rude is blocking 90% of the pavement for hours because everyone MUST see their silly generic pop video dancing. Same rubbish you can see in 1 million music videos.
6:06 The text says "If you had an issue why bring it up on social media like that ur a child for that!" REALLY? I would have thrown her own words back at her: "Don't take everything online so seriously." 🤷♀