I used to be a teacher too. I quit after 7 years . But I get what you mean about how some teachers are. They cant switch it off. Sorry to hear about your relationship with your mum. Am glad though that you have now come to terms with it.
I'm not surprised you quit. I've known a lot of teachers (both my parents, a few of my friends, etc.) They never seem to last. It seems like a really intense job. Thanks for your kind words. But like you said, I came to terms with it and I regret nothing. Everything happens for a reason, and I am grateful for all of it.
@@LivingOutLoud-LWS4C you are right everything happens for a reason. Somethings we cant change , we cant control how people are even our own family. So we sometimes have to distance ourselves for our own peace of mind.
@@LivingOutLoud-LWS4C Yes, I did for a time but it worked out well eventually. There was a certain member of our family we had to distance ourselves from due to toxic comments and too much interference. However after 12 years a family energency brought us together and we were glad to see she had changed. So we have left the past behind and moved fwd . We are on good terms now but we only see each other twice a year or so. We dont live in the same city so it is easy. We keep in touch via whatsapp about once a month. Most importantly boundaries are now being respected when previously they were not. I had to do some forgiving too as she had at one time made a false accusation against me. As I age I prefer to keep things cordial within the family and realise with some the way to do this is to not get too close. There isnt anyone we need to cut off completely. However I do understand that in some situations that is warranted. Even if it is a parent, for self preservation that is sometimes necessary.
My mother is not a teacher, but she is - get this! - *a psychologist* 🤕 Even though she is not a narcissist (not by a long shot) and she happens to be an amazing person, plenty of friends blah blah blah blah..... But I get 100% what you're talking about.
I actually groaned out loud when I got to the part about your mother being a psychologist 🤣. I'm glad she's not a narcissist and that you have a good relationship with her. That's awesome!
🤕I am older than you (id est: not a kid by any stretch of imagination). But she (my mother) is treating me and my dad like we're her patients. "I understand you're angry, but for starters: do you think you are being too hard on yourself at the moment? How does this situation make you _feel_ ?" 🤬 is how it makes me 🙄 _feel_ // even more angry 😡
@@mv848 Hahaha. I definitely see how that could be frustrating. Sorry you have to deal with that. But in glad that you still have a good relationship with her.
Sometimes you just got to do what is best for yourself. Especially at this time, you dont need any aggravation. Besides it sounds like you really tried for many years, even years after she walked out on you. Leave it be for now, if you are meant to reconcile you will.
I can’t remember how old you are, but my son is 30 and he and I have a thing going where we wrangle back and forth. Whatever your mom says, she is still used to looking out for you and making decisions for you. So she goes on and on. The trick is to just remove yourself from her midst. The adult you does not want to deal with her problems, so just do not allow her into your space so much. You will get back to your own centre and be happy. My son is stuck living with me right now because rents are high. We just do our own thing most of the time. Sometimes there is fireworks. Let her be nuts, just stay away from her! Obviously just my opinion. I hope I didn’t irritate you! She will probably never change, so why let her disturb your days?
I'm 34. And you're absolutely right. I let her infect my life for far too long and when I recorded this video, it was time for me to put an end to it. I don't regret doing it, and I hold no ill will towards her or any of that things she did. Everything happened exactly as it was meant to and I'm grateful for all of it. I'm glad you and your son can coexist in a way that suits you both (even if there are the occasional fireworks). And don't worry, you didn't irritate me. I always appreciate hearing others' perspectives.
I used to be a teacher too. I quit after 7 years . But I get what you mean about how some teachers are. They cant switch it off.
Sorry to hear about your relationship with your mum. Am glad though that you have now come to terms with it.
I'm not surprised you quit. I've known a lot of teachers (both my parents, a few of my friends, etc.) They never seem to last. It seems like a really intense job.
Thanks for your kind words. But like you said, I came to terms with it and I regret nothing. Everything happens for a reason, and I am grateful for all of it.
@@LivingOutLoud-LWS4C you are right everything happens for a reason. Somethings we cant change , we cant control how people are even our own family. So we sometimes have to distance ourselves for our own peace of mind.
@@lindc1070 Yeah. It's not always easy, but it's all part of the process. Sounds like you had to make some hard choices of your own.
@@LivingOutLoud-LWS4C Yes, I did for a time but it worked out well eventually. There was a certain member of our family we had to distance ourselves from due to toxic comments and too much interference. However after 12 years a family energency brought us together and we were glad to see she had changed. So we have left the past behind and moved fwd . We are on good terms now but we only see each other twice a year or so. We dont live in the same city so it is easy. We keep in touch via whatsapp about once a month. Most importantly boundaries are now being respected when previously they were not. I had to do some forgiving too as she had at one time made a false accusation against me. As I age I prefer to keep things cordial within the family and realise with some the way to do this is to not get too close. There isnt anyone we need to cut off completely. However I do understand that in some situations that is warranted. Even if it is a parent, for self preservation that is sometimes necessary.
My mother is not a teacher, but she is - get this! - *a psychologist* 🤕 Even though she is not a narcissist (not by a long shot) and she happens to be an amazing person, plenty of friends blah blah blah blah..... But I get 100% what you're talking about.
I actually groaned out loud when I got to the part about your mother being a psychologist 🤣. I'm glad she's not a narcissist and that you have a good relationship with her. That's awesome!
🤕I am older than you (id est: not a kid by any stretch of imagination). But she (my mother) is treating me and my dad like we're her patients. "I understand you're angry, but for starters: do you think you are being too hard on yourself at the moment? How does this situation make you _feel_ ?"
🤬 is how it makes me 🙄 _feel_
// even more angry 😡
@@mv848 Hahaha. I definitely see how that could be frustrating. Sorry you have to deal with that. But in glad that you still have a good relationship with her.
Narcissist! You can't stop it! 😢
You're entitled to your opinion, but I don't regret my decision. My life has been so much better without my mother's negative influence
Rest in Peace
Sometimes you just got to do what is best for yourself. Especially at this time, you dont need any aggravation. Besides it sounds like you really tried for many years, even years after she walked out on you. Leave it be for now, if you are meant to reconcile you will.
You're absolutely right. I did what I had to do and I have no regrets. This is how it was meant to be.
@@LivingOutLoud-LWS4C ❤️
I can’t remember how old you are, but my son is 30 and he and I have a thing going where we wrangle back and forth. Whatever your mom says, she is still used to looking out for you and making decisions for you. So she goes on and on. The trick is to just remove yourself from her midst. The adult you does not want to deal with her problems, so just do not allow her into your space so much. You will get back to your own centre and be happy. My son is stuck living with me right now because rents are high. We just do our own thing most of the time. Sometimes there is fireworks. Let her be nuts, just stay away from her! Obviously just my opinion. I hope I didn’t irritate you! She will probably never change, so why let her disturb your days?
I'm 34. And you're absolutely right. I let her infect my life for far too long and when I recorded this video, it was time for me to put an end to it. I don't regret doing it, and I hold no ill will towards her or any of that things she did. Everything happened exactly as it was meant to and I'm grateful for all of it.
I'm glad you and your son can coexist in a way that suits you both (even if there are the occasional fireworks). And don't worry, you didn't irritate me. I always appreciate hearing others' perspectives.
I knew your mom couldn't have been deceased, because that wording is really harsh. Anyways I hope you are doing well.
Yeah. I didn't want people to think she was actually dead. But she is dead to me. And it feels REALLY freeing!