TRUTH ABOUT BLACK SORORITIES + WHY I STOPPED DURING THE PROCESS
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Check out this video where I'll give you the TRUTH about black sororities, and why I decided to stop during the process. There's definitely good that comes with the bad and I'm prepared to spill it. So check this video out!
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I feel like this process didn’t work for you because in order to break someone to make them better they have to be in a place where they actually NEED to be broken. It sounds like you were already fulfilled and you didn’t need their validation. God had already built you up. You didn’t need them to build you into something better so you didn’t need them to break you down in the first place. You made the right choice for yourself. You’re a queen 👸🏾💅🏾
Dev Coco thank you 💓 I appreciate your kind words!!
You didn’t need them. You made the best decision not too👏🏾
Amen! I wish more people knew this. What God has built up, no man can tear down.
Dev Coco love this!
Yeeess, well said 👏👏👏
Her: "That's not how you address me"
Me: *click*
BeautifulWhispers 🤣🤣🤣🤣
PERIOD
Lmao and lays back down.
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LMFAO.
I'm glad I ain't have no problems like this in my fraternity Broke Phi Broke..... WE AIN'T GOT IT
XTC2525 omg I love you for that lmao #iMissTheOldKanye 😭
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I pledged Me Phi Me🤣🤣🤣
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What does one have to do to join such a prestigious organization? I'm hella broke 😭😭😭😭
Hazing. Is. Never. Ok. It doesn’t matter if it’s your mental health, or physical health. Anything that causes you that level of anxiety that’s optional, is not worth it.
Horehay15 😣 💯 😣
Yet year after year hazing keeps happening. Not just fraternities and sororities. Med students go through horrible hazing.
Definitely not worth it
Sun Rai girl where??? spill the tea
The majority of the hazing I hear is not funny either. Why is being a complete bitch to someone & insulting them funny? It is just an excuse to be mean & feel superior while acting inferior.
One of my biggest takeaways from this video is that we need to support first-generation college students. There is a huge push to attend college, but not a lot of preparation for dealing with these types of ancillary events; while being academically successful.
Be it, first second or third, support. is always paramount. Why the need for only supporting first generation? Sounds classist. Not because they are first in a generation to attend doesn't make them less prepared than a Rockefeller, Trump, Loughlin or Smollett...ti each his/her own in sourcing information to succeed.
Pat lui I’m not being classist. My response was in relation to the young woman who made this video and stated that she is a first gen college student. Of course, support is needed for anyone wanting to attend college.
@@NikkiCFO , I think I understand what you're saying and you're absolutely right. Many times there are young women and men who attend college, but they didn't know anyone who could explain some of the other things (besides academic experiences) that they will experience while in college. As a result, since certain things were never explained, once they start having certain experiences, it will seem a bit strange and come as a surprise to them. I know since I fell into that same category. I had to learn a lot on my own.
First generation college students need that support. Most people who have family members in college help them during college preparation. Like visit different colleges, different scholarships etc. We come in blind because no one has prepared us for the process and eventually dropping out after freshman year. Most people want you to go t college but won’t support you in the long run. They never have tips or suggestions when college starts to get difficult besides go to college.
There’s programs specifically for first generation students that most people aren’t aware of, TRIO student support services. See if your college has a TRIO program and apply it’s def worth it - it’s also free
I went through the exact same thing and I also dropped the process because it wasn’t worth selling my soul for a “sisterhood”. As you stated many times, sisters would NEVER treat you the way those girls do. I chose my academics and even though it came with consequences (socially) I am now about to graduate from my PWI in less than a month. I’ve never been more proud of my individuality. I know how it feels to be ostracized by the black community because of this decision. We are so strong.
Often, nowadays, it's better to be around non-African Americans than African Americans. Also, I know someone who wanted to pledge AKA, but after AKAs learned that she initially wanted to pledge Delta but changed her mind, they wouldn't let her pledge AKA. She still attends a top HBCU. However, she is now in medical school and has done well without them.
Makala Conner see what type of self hate comments you brung to this video. Pledging didn’t work out for you and that’s cool. Perfectly fine. I’m not mad at it.
But to make it seem like you were ostracized by the entire black community for your decision. Is total bullshit.
It’s that type of narrative that leads self hate and division in the black community.
Hold your head up and be proud of your individuality. While still respecting the cultural impact of black Greeks.
Black is beautiful, black is strong. So love your black people and stay black.
I brought no self hate comments to this video. I simply shared my story. You do not know me or my life, therefore you cannot speak on my experiences. Black Greek underground hazing processes are done at the hands of blacks who hate themselves. The separation that black greeks causes in itself is a divisive tactic fueling elitism. I do not owe my respect to any organization, especially one that does not respect me. I love all my black brothers and sisters.@@professorxaviour3649
@@filethisinformation3277 Better? Really? Stop falling for the divide and conquer self-hate within the diaspora. If you're Black, everyone non-Black still sees you as Black like any other in the end. That cop's bullet sees all Blacks as BLACK. Get over yourself.
@@makalaconner5721 Your comments ARE very broad generalizations. I know BGLO members and GDIs that get along VERY WELL. I'm sorry your area has such a division between the two groups, but don't blame the entire Black community for it.
Judging by everything you've shared and the way you carry yourself, one thing is super clear: it is truly and *only* THEIR loss. God bless you, sis.
Consciously Candace thanks sis. I appreciate your kind words. 💓
For some reason black people just don't like seeing other black people up on the pyramid. If they talk articulate and carry themselves right and if they go to school they have this oh she think she's better than us mentality and treats you like shit. They like bringing down their own race it's been like that for decades. I've been in that position many times it sucks. They don't like to hear the truth so they ignore it or get mad and nothing changes yet they complain about other races when we as a people can't take a look in the mirror first.
Consciously Candace Amen
THAT PART!! AS AN AKA PAST PRESIDENT AND DEAN- SHE WOULD HAVE DEF BEEN MY FIRST PICK BASED OFF THE WAY SHE CARRIES HERSELF AND HOW ARTICULATE AND GENIUNE HER SPIRIT IS. :). ALOT OF TIMES- UNDERGRADUATE MEMBERS ARE TRASH ESPECIALLY NOW DAYS- I CROSSED IN 2003 ( SO I AM CONSIDERED AN "OLD HEAD" ) LOLOL. THE STANDARDS OF WHOM IS SELECTED AND INITIATED INTO THESE ORGANIZATIONS NOW DAYS- THE STANDARDS ARE ASS BACKWARD!!! I AM PISSED AND LITERALLY WILL GO FIND AND BEAT UP WHOMEVER PUT HER THRU THIS FOOLISHNESS! LOLOLOLOL.
I could never be in a Sorority. I will be fighting someone's daughter. I'm not with the pettiness. Glad you got out!
Some people think they're going to have connections to better jobs and perks. Most sororities don't.....but even the few that do are not worth it. They are a cover for devil worshiper cults. The few that offer the benefits would only select either the smartest students with high IQ...or popular with charisma. It's all about power to influence other people
Actually, she never got in!
@@tarasimmons337, that's a way better position. 🤷🏿♀️
faith robinson PERIODT
Sis!! I’m SAYING try me if U WANT😂😂😂😂
I don’t see what’s so deep about being in a sorority... and allowing another person to “break” u... that’s weird af.... I wish someone would 🙄
rita michelle I’ve seen it happen to someone. She went through “hell plus more” and didn’t even get in till damn near senior year. By that time I would have been too focused on my graduation. Definitely overrated!
A true "SISTERHOOD" and "BROTHERHOOD" must be forged thru adversity. The military lives by the same principles.
Yeah they break down the weak ones
rita michelle 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Whitney Lan'ee 💪🏾💪🏾
I think sororities and fraternities hazing experiences are not about proving sisterhood and brotherhood..... Its all sadistic..... No matter the race of the organization.....Its only good for networking.
Many people join these sororities but don't actually know what they are getting into. They only see the good like they provide community services, but it's all to deceive people and at a price! Too many cases of people dying while being hazed.
gurl bye! I completely agree!
gurl bye! C
BGLOs are more than just networking. I've been a member for 31 years and know that I can call on my sisters anywhere, at any time, if I need them and they will be there for me. What's really only good for networking? Ivy League schools. Buy that degree and get those high paying jobs from your fellow alumni (if you're white, especially.)
@@joyfoster4342 I agree! I've been in 5 years and the Sisterhood is real! I've seen a Soror's daughter get help in Virginia by another D9 member because her mom got on a FB page and asked a bunch of D9 members (strangers) if they were in that area. I've seen mother's picked up at an airport because an emergency left the Soror stuck. I've seen a Soror get stranded in another city, get picked up by some local Sorors, fed, housed, and transported back home, no questions asked. Yes there is exclusivity and tight requirements to become a member. But if anyone can join, no one would. It's a lot of work that's being asked of each member. Exclusivity means you are more likely to be there for the work and not just the T-Shirt. It's not for everybody, and that's ok too.
I joined a black sorority10 years ago. I am still ashamed of the pain I personally went thru and the potential hurt and pain that I may have caused other beautiful, strong black women. The letters mean absolutely nothing. I am not the same person at 29 that I was at 19 when I joined. We do not have the mental capacity as teens and early 20s to make rational decisions and be responsible especially in situations were we have "power." its absolute nonsense to have African ancestry and put on Greek letters. I could go on and on about the inconsistencies and damage these orgs cause, especially in perpetuating classism , colorism, etc. My org did nothing but cause me anguish and destroy relationships. The best thing to come out of it was connecting with my LSs. Its literally a hustle. Do not feel incomplete or less than. Your loyalty, time, and talent belong to building God's kingdom, not glorifying man and stroking egos to the detriment of your own soul and self esteem and those of other women. your worth is not in the letters/colors you wear. You dodged and bullet sis! And you saved some coins. You can volunteer and mentor for free! Be blessed.
wow! thanks for your powerful message!
...do not feel incomplete or less than...
that hit a soft spot and im in tears bcuz ive let that happen to me!
thanks again for your wisdom though!
XOXO
_KENDRA J_
@WorshipLiz131
I agree with you. I too am apart of a D9 sorority and thought the same. Thanks for sharing your feelings/experience.
☝yes sis.
Wonderful advice
Not only do Greeks go through this. HBCU Marching bands do as well. I went through it and I regret wasting my time entertaining them. I totally understand you.
Jay Fields oh crap i’m going to be in the band this year @grambling 😭😭
Wow!
Band and divine 9 are totally different... marching band is military found and grown... there are commands and way you call certain people.... you should have prolly learns that in high school... but to each its own it ain’t for everybody..... I’m glad you had the experience.
Jay Fields marching band is most definitely a cult 😭😭😭😭😭
hiimlonii woah good luck there, the social system is a bit much but just stay true to your values and don’t try to change yourself to please others
What angers me most are the adults at the grad chapter and turn a blind eye to what they know is really going on to these young people! That is NOT sisterhood.
Robbin G PREACH!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
They're either sell outs or corrupt, getting bribed for benefits and good jobs.
They do the same things to older women who want to join. They see the hazing as a right of passage
@Pooh Asia wow thats scary...
Living in England ive always been curious about Frats and so glad i came accrosss this video and your comment.
Clearly some one needs to expose this on mainstream.
Will do some research for sure.
And love and hugs to the young lady in the video
Not into malignant narcs and gas lighters.
What ones should i look up?
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To lady in the video:
White or not its your mum and she is your protector as well as provider. Should of let mum know.
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Sounds like they went through it themselves, stayed (stockholm syndrome) and carried on like nothing happened and if they took part in any of the process of hazing and such they too are at fault and liable... by then they are involved and as bad as the direct instigators.... disensertised and conditioned...
So sad as i wanted to believe different about soroities but this shows otherwise and the comments say alot.
Anyone want to do a docomentary with me we can call it From England to Soroities?
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Aint nobody blind folding me and taking me anywhere. Sis you crazy 😂😂😂
Alize Cook riiiiight!!!
LMAO, I knew nothing crazy would happen. But looking back, that was crazy lmao.
Alize Cook 😂😂😂😂🙌🏼🙌🏼
Lmaooo major facts !!!
Right!!!
I don’t care what no one tells me. You don’t need Greek life for validation.
TONY DPHAX KING I pray Jesus will soften your heart and draw you close to him.
@TONY DPHAX KING Um, just fyi- your misogyny is showing.
@TONY DPHAX KING you’re too grown to be talking like that, that’s why people don’t like those cults
@TONY DPHAX KING the average bitch?
be a lame 😒
The hazing is horrible! A Georgia tech student was dropped off at a hospital. His"brothers" left him to die! And he did. Very sad situation. I don't think it is worth it
Yes, I agree completely. That was a very sad situation, and even just one was enough to show that it has no place.
Bri Lovely was it on the news?
It got a little news coverage.
Summer Myrick they made a movie based off that called burning sands it’s on Netflix
yeah that's some satanic shit smdh
I went to an HBCU and A LOT of people who pledged did not have their own identity until they joined. I showed some interest to join one of the sororities my sophomore year but the way the ladies were acting, I decided to stay Me Phi Me! I did not need letters to shine ✨
love it lolol!!!
Me phi me 😂😂
hahah Me Phi Me!!! hahah LOVE it!!!
J Bell periodt
LMAO 😂 Me phi me
All the friends you lost, WERE NEVER YOUR TRUE FRIENDS. You just weeded out a bunch of fake people in your life.
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Fraternities and Sororities are no different from religious organizations. They're all full of fake people and drama.
real talk I had a friend who is no longer a friend that told me I have to befriend fake people to get ahead in life. this is absolutely not true. it's a rockier journey, but success is yours when you find true friends and acquaintances who want to help you succeed and you help them. I literally had to circumvent the globe to find those people at different points in my life. Despite this, the journey was well worth it, and I am glad I never had to pledge into a toxic group. Though I do understand that with greek orgs it really varies chapter to chapter. With the right people in a chapter it can be a great and supportive experience. With the wrong people, it can be the most toxic experience of your life. It can even turn you into a toxic person. You might have some semblance of success, but you might risk not being able to fully enjoy the benefits of that success.
This at the end of the day is just life. Identifying toxic environments and people and finding an exit should always be a priority. I always tell folks don't let a bad experience dictate your entire life. If you wanna crossover, do it, if you find the chapter you're pledging with is toxic then get out of that chapter. there will be other opportunities to crossover. You don't only get 1 opportunity. They will make it seem like it is your one and only chance it isn't. Likewise, if you decide it isn't for you then don't do it. I never crossed over. I don't regret that decision. This is my life and I have to own the decisions I make and understand the bad experiences I go through in order to move forward. Life is hard AF. The truth is, the people that the presenter in this video encountered are everywhere in society. I see her experience as one that will guide her for the rest of her life. I hope she always choose to walk towards the light and not into darkness that is toxicity.
The closest experience I had to her's was my time in Peace Corps as a volunteer. I was medically released from service and was so glad. I heard from other black volunteers their experiences, and it sounded like hell on earth.
Good for you beautiful!!!! You're the real Class Act in all of this at the end of the day. Remember that!😍😊
Exactly why im I the best sorority in the world ME PHI ME ! ;D
@Demia Me that was very bitchy of you
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LMFFFAAAOOOO!!!!!
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India Abdul I know that’s right hell im my own team 🤣🥰
I find it interesting that being an individual is seen as negative for some of these orgs. I’d rather embrace my individuality 💁🏾♀️
incorrect. I've had friends call other friends GDI's as a joke after they probate and not tell them the meaning. every chapter, every school, every individual is not the same or has the same morals and virtues despite the organization they join.
Teaira, First Of My Name right that sounds cultist too me.
As a member of a sorority, that just isn't' the truth. In my 31 years as a member, I've had many a GDI come and tell me years later, that THEY felt 'some kind of way' about the BGLO members tight-knit relationships and were projecting because they felt left out or jealous (not all GDIs, because it didn't BOTHER most, one way or the other). I also could care less if someone is in a fraternity or sorority or if they are not. I have friends and family that are both GDIs AND members.
Joy Foster referring to “friends” as “GDI”s is problematic and divisive.
Lovelyjay Bae b
GOD, is not the author of CONFUSION... PAYING to be humiliated, and "broken down" after YEARS of building yourself up to go college (as a 1st generation), was definitely NOT something I wanted part of either. Even when they present joining a Grad Chapter...we all KNOW how undergrad initiates, view people who join Grad chapters,
-after undergrad. 👀 👀
We were all born alone, and will be buried alone. College is definitely all about Discovery of SELF, as an individual. I'm glad you stood up & spoke up for yourself and figured out what was BEST for you... THAT is..... a "process" in and of itself.
Those who figure out that they can STILL serve the community and form lasting friendships OUTSIDE of a BGLO... WIN.
@TONY DPHAX KING Fraternity and sorority life is against God. It is hidden in plain sight and the best way to hide something is in plain sight. They perform masonic rituals, and they worship greek gods (demons). You can see it in their videos they put up the triangle some of them even put up devil horns.
@@miscellaneousstuff137 THIS!
@@miscellaneousstuff137 yep they throw up the devil horns the 3 6s the baphament signs. Signs and symbols rule their world and that Greek god Jesus AKA Zeus leadin em right astray.
The hazing kept me away from joining my dream sorority and I know the grad chapter they don't view you the same. So I never joined. I think my mother was happy because she didn't want me to be in a trap of having to be an x to feel accomplished but rather trust in God to supply all my needs and lead me to success, which happened. I understand the initial need and honor of the Divine 9 and the network is a part of collegiate history and culture. Have plenty of friends who are Greek...just wasn't for me. I am thinking of creating one for those that don't appreciate the hazing.
I am Greek and I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm sorry you had such an experience and I salute you for having the courage to share your story.
j Pat the only thing Greek is the letters. It’s not the same as saying I identify as Greek. I’m more so referring to the fact I am a part of a BGLO.
Terrance Shaheed hey. #ALPHA wife here.
Janice Hylton hey there! You chose well to be married to a Man of Distinction!
Thank you, Terrance. 💓
@@TheRealErikaF Anytime sweetheart! I just hope that you're in a more healed place in life!
Sororities never have interested me personally bc I never felt the need for "sisterhood." Groups of women are bound to be catty :/
Lol oh yeah and then they tend to kill each other in the end. It's very toxic. I'm a nurse but I work with both men and women in the OR so there's no bullshit going on
Very true. I worked at a job that was comprised of 99% female employees, and after about 2 months I quit. Women can be so cruel to each other for no reason.
Why are women motivated to join a sorority instead of just focus on college? Am I missing something?
@@tiahnagrace6325 where I work I saw a major difference in how men and women talk to each other. In the OR the surgeon, anesthesiologist MD are men and the way they brush off a little disagreement is amazing. After 5 minutes they say good job to each other and have a good conversation. The women though they take one scan at you (when I was a new nurse it was hell) and hate your guts even when you say hello or good morning. The surgeon allowed me to look at the surgeries, allowed me to ask questions and joke around. So different.
@@mariekano9730 There was a study done where they found that in a male dominant office space, women are less likely to work together and instead compete against each other. It's a sad phenomenon especially if you're the type that wants to make genuine connections void of dysfunction.
I had the worst experience. It started out terrible for me with the girls initiating. I had a child he semester before entering undergrad. The sisters from the chapter that already graduated would attend and be horrible: one talked so down on me about being irresponsible enough to have a child that I could do anything for as a broke college student and talked down so negatively in public. I still didn’t stop at that point and we were invited to a sisters house: At which point we were mentally tested and forced to do calisthenics and humiliated. My jewelry which I was forced to removed was missing. The next morning at 5am I had to call a big sister and she told me to go get her dry cleaning. At this point with a sleep baby on my side I told them to go jump in the river. I completed undergrad, went on to get my Masters, I worked my career and now hold a directors position in government and my son just finished his freshmen college year at a HBCU. Point: Do what works best for your life and end game!
You sound like it still gives you anxiety. So sorry you went through such a crappy experience
@TONY DPHAX KING plz say you're joking...
Malcolm I. I pray she is cause whewwww chile. 🙄🤦🏽♀️
To everyone who has shared words of comfort and support, whether in comments, on Twitter, Instagram, texts and phone calls, I want to say THANK YOU, I appreciate you greatly.
To address a couple other things: I graduated from college (a semester early) in Dec. 2017, so no need to wish me luck in school lol. I now live in Los Angeles and work in the music industry. Feel free to check out my other videos about that, I have a bunch!
Also - not looking to be greek anymore. While this was once an important accomplishment for me, I now know my life has much more to be accomplished, and I can live without this.
As stated in the video, I'm not providing the name of the sorority. It is not pertinent to the message of the video
Again, this video is what happened to me personally, in which technically was mental and emotional abuse, and I know in some instances for some sororities and fraternities continues into physical abuse. I said nothing wrong in this video, simply spoke my own truth. If you find any issues, please take that up with God and yourself as that must be a personal issue you're facing. My conscious is clear. If you would like to tell your side, feel free to make another video speaking your truth and link it below. :)
Lastly, the camera was sitting in my window, so that's dust floating around in the light around the camera lmao. I didn't realize until after the fact, and definitely wasn't sitting for another hour to re-record.
Thanks everyone for the support and I hope this was able to help those who needed it. I know when I was depressed from this moment I felt completely alone, so I hope it can bring some solace to someone.
Would you ever consider doing a grad chapter
Jonathan Lacy she said she isn’t interested in being greek anymore
TheRealErikaF and now that you are now working in your career, now the girls probably have wished to not have treated the way they did but then again they would not have been the best friend to you but will only ride your coattail because you are the celebrity with the status lol. Wish you the best!
I'm a member of a BGLO and you are speaking truth. I went through it and I put those lines after through it. It got progressively worse with each line we took every semester. I would like to apologize to you for what you went through. In our defense we, as line sisters wanted to be made right and did not want to skate. No one wants the yard to get wind about your process, so every subsequent line we put them through the same underground process. I also went through the same process with my LGBT sorority in my 40's, not as bad because I had bad knees.
But totally off topic. How did you end up working in the music industry? My son writes and sings music. My email is cldillworth@gmail.com.
Sororities are actually a cover for cults very similar to gangs. Also, be careful with the music industries there many many sororities members in there and devil worshipers as well.
A GDI = a Got Damn Indivdual 💀😂
I'm a GDI and a DST my Sorority doesn't define me as a person only GOD does🤗
Karen S Turner that doesn’t even make any sense... sounds like skater talk...
@@Fallaciez it stands for Goddamn Individual !
Amen!
Lmmfao yes!
Unpopular Opinion: Fraternities & Sororities are just legalized gangs
Amen!
@Althea Bourne Do you even know what a REAL gang is? Not what they try to feed you on tv. THE PURPOSE OF A GANG IS UNITY AND FAMILY. THEY WEAR A SPECIFIC COLOR. THEY HAVE THEIR OWN HAND SIGNS. YOU CAN'T CLAIM THAT YOU ARE A MEMBER OR THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES. YOU HAVE TO GET JUMPED IN (HAZING). YOU MESS WITH ONE YOU FEEL THE WHOLE ORGANIZATION. Violence occurs based on the people. My entire family is apart of the divine 9 except for my parents who did not attend college. My life has been around greek life. I also had an ex boyfriend that was a gang member himself and I was around that for over a year. So yea I believe I have a right to speak on factual shit. I've seen horrible things happen within the divine 9 for myself in order for me to type that statement.
SO BITCH DON'T COME FOR ME UNLESS I SEND FOR YOUR DUMB ASS!
Dam. All Althea had to do was hit the thumbs down button.
Brianna Hoskins period’T
@@thebloopsound4241 LMAO!!!!
It’s okay, don’t cry. You’re a beautiful girl, you don’t need to join a sorority. Be yourself and live college to the fullest.
Thank you so much for your kind words, Michelle! I've already graduated and am living a life I couldn't have even imagined I would be blessed with.
I joined an International Honor Society I think that's good enough for me! 🤗
Right..I graduated with honors and am a member of 4 society's.... pledged Greek and dropped the line because I want the organization not the BS
MayaD TV same!
MayaD TV That’s what I’m joining soon
Ayyyee me too!!!
Sis SAMEEEEE ✊🏾✊🏾 🤗
Volunteer opportunities? Nah.
Sisterhood? NO!! They are always divided .
The only benefit I can see about greek life is the networking. For the ones who wasted their college years by focusing on greek life are the main ones who have to worry about getting the job they want. If you are really hardworking, smart, well-rounded, and have things to add to your resume, you are going to get the job . Being in a greek org is not the determining factor of your future job especiallyyyy in the health field. They could care less.
I definitely agree with the fact that you can still network and if you have all of those qualities you'll be successful regardless.
Preach 👏👏👏
That part PERIODDD!
@@TheRealErikaF yess!!
Maureen Nwozo wanna network. Join a fb group
I wanted to join but my spirit wont let me. Something odd just ain't adding up for me, for these sororities. It's like a modern cult for eternity Haha. Since obv you're in there for life.
SunKissNicole omg same! I started with the paperwork and everything. That same week I was already feeling drained, stressed, and lacking sleep. My spirit put me in check real quick right before I rushed. I ended up deciding it wasn’t right for me
I feel you, Nicole. I couldn't do it either. God led me to a Christian sorority called Iota Chi Kappa and it has been a blessing. There is no hazing and it's truly about uplifting women and helping them to grow in God/ministry and even their own businesses. You can check it out (facebook.com/groups/IotaChiKappa07/).
Hey Nicole, I pray that what I have shared has encouraged you in some way. Here is a direct link to my sorority website where you can receive more info (moneyandimpact.lpages.co/ixk1/)
Sequoia Gillyard how about join no sorority, & just follow Jesus Christ 💯
SunKissNicole 😂 lol. But seriously, it’s sad that sororities are not trying to impress upon young women that there is work to be done. Work on ourselves, our community and the world as a whole.
If a sorority is not doing things in the community, mentoring young woman, fund raising for women to go to college, it’s not something I want to be a part of. Hazing is petty, small and reflective badly on the sorority itself. Time is too valuable for nonsense.
I was on line for a sorority and we had to do a task. We had to pick a big sister and get to know her by asking 10 questions. The one I was interviewing was so freaking rude and she was very cocky. It took all that was in me NOT to cuss her out. Once the interview was over, I called the secretary of the chapter... told her what I just went through and dropped. The president of the chapter called me and I snapped on her. I told her, this is not how a potential sister should be treated. i wouldnt even take that mouth off my own sister so Im not taking it off of her. Surprisingly, she agreed and asked me if she got the chick to aplogize would I not drop. And I told the president as much as Ive always wanted to be in a sorority... this sorority is not for me. I also told her that I can understand the process on becoming a member, I will not tolerate being disrespected. The big sister called me anyway and said sorry and I told her, if I wouldve continued.... I wouldve crossed and immediately punched you in the throat.
lol. thank you for sharing your experience too!
Nice!!! Im glad you stood up for yourself
Good for you, I’m surprised they acknowledged your feelings. Most of the time, they’re aware of how they’re acting and wouldn’t give 2 f**ks about how a person feels.
Good for you sticking up for yourself. Most people beg for that abuse then claim they love the abuser after they've crossed
I actually saw this happen...
I was never into paying for friends
pleeeease say it louder!!
yall never bought lunch for friends, or let them borrow money. Yall full of shit
@@richardtwellsjr6533 you don't need to do any of those things to have friends...
PR RP what a racist Little shit you are
Queen Maya You can still be black and racist, being black doesn’t make you immune, even against your own race. 😂 Get a dictionary girl.
How do you do your research on a “secret society” every time I ask someone about their Greek experience, GROWN people act like they’re scared to tell me😭
Everyone's experience is different so you'll get a different answer based on school, chapter, year, etc... Research via the internet on the organization you are interested in. Visit their corporate and regional websites. Attend events at your school and you'll learn about the chapter. That's the best advice I can give you. Hope it helps. I've seen the dynamics change over the years on so many levels. I've been an AKA for almost 17 years but my focus the last few years is on Christ Yahshua. Hope this helps you both.
Bryana Crump they won’t tell you everything! I went through the process of a D9 and we were sworn to secrecy
Exactly, they're traumatized..
I’m not even Greek, but I have friends who are and it’s just an important thing to them that they shared with their brothers or sisters. Most of them don’t want
@@SoundsofMelodyOfficial so if u died no one could say where they buried you or how u died and u still went through with it.. u really most have been longing for attention. That's sad.
They would’ve called and got my voicemail because my phone automatically goes on DO NOT DISTURB at 12am and don’t turn off until 9am 😂😂😂😂
THIS IS FACTS! LMAO
I wish someone would REALLY be truthful and share what EXACTLY HAPPENS during an UNDERGROUND PROCESS!
Why? Why would someone share their process in detail to the public? Especially if your a person whose not apart of the organization. Those conversations aren’t for all ears. At all. You or anyone else knowing what happens throughout the process would be pointless. You’d have some information... then what? Then you gonna decide if you wanna go through that process or not? Tf outta here lol
Submission. Trust. Be humble. Open your mind. Unlock. Grow more.
@@baforce5093 touchy subject for you huh?
BA Force So you don’t believe in people making informed decisions and consenting to what happens to them?
@@baforce5093 Lmao what? "Submission". "Trust". Why should we be expected just to blindly submit to and trust people who clearly don't give a shit about us and our mental health during that process? You just seem like one of those people who is a part of this underground hazing and you don't want to get found out.
You can Debate all day long but what this Brotha @BA Force is saying is Truth. Informed Decision? You got to be kidding me even if you were told everything that went on during an underground process that would make no difference on your decision making. Your either built for a process or not! A lot of you Speak from a place you no nothing about and yet you have opinion.
Guaranteed God was nowhere even remotely involved in this wickedness....
Fact!
He is
Prove that....
Reign could just be a lesson!!
FACTS 💯 they're following a Greek pagan ritualistic demonic system
You didn’t lose friends. You just discovered those girls weren’t your friends. Being mean has nothing to do with “breaking down to build up”. That’s just a rationalization to be mean to people. I never pledged in college, and now at 50 I can look at it and see how ridiculous the whole thing is to allow people to be mean to you in order to be accepted in a club. I advise my own kids who are in college not to get mixed up in that stuff. You said it right when you said you already have those that truly love you and your family. No one needs fake friends.
I only wanted to be in a sorority to step. But I just made my own step team. Im good with that
Caveka M wow
@@beedubbya2278 ??
Many people join these sororities but don't actually know what they are getting into. They only see the good like they provide community services, but it's all to deceive people and at a price! Too many cases of dying while getting hazed.
Lmao
@@susieblanco2722 ??
Girl a lot of these people don't do community service. They're a joke in 2019.
C Brooks right i never see none of these people in our communities. like what do they even do??
I don’t see them either. It’s a social group to socialize. Most of them are inactive after they finish undergrad
babymck09 this is true bcs i worked for a nonprofit where the director was a zeta and she couldn’t even get all her sorors to her fundraising events cause they all moved on with their lives lol
That’s one of the reasons why I left a local org (supposed to be strictly community service) at my school and on top of that, I was one of the most dedicated members. It is what it is, I’m over it
C Brooks 💪🏾
I’m Greek and I’m glad you shared your experience. SOME Greeks try to make it toooooo deep. You will absolutely continue on your life path and do great things, just keep letting your light shine ✌🏾
thank you!!
I always wanted to be apart of D9 but as I started researching and watching videos on here I changed my mind.. the way my attitude is set up no ma’am there was no way in hell I would’ve made it past day 1. 😩
Lol. I understand completely!😂
Lol. Me either, too feisty for that shit.
Miss Dwayna Dee with your ATTITUDE; you would’ve been great...it’s the WEAK ONES we despise...Jus sayin
Altina Wilson Agreed!
The Real Housewives Of Arkansas sounds very demonic
I can relate to this story. I had a very similar experience in college. I did end up joining a graduate chapter, and that was a really wonderful experience. We had a process, but it was designed to build the bonds of sisterhood, not tear you down. Undergrad fraternities & sororities are just an example of giving too much power to those who are too young to wield it responsibly.
That sound like joining AA,NA that's for recovering addicts
Why is it such a difference between undergrad and graduate chapter?? I’ve heard this before
I wish you had someone in the chapter to confide in that you really trusted. It makes a huge difference. Smh. These girls didn't handle you the right way at all. I see that you've graduated now, and as a member of a BGLO, I just want to say that I am so sorry that you had this experience. I wish you would've had the opportunity to be a light within that chapter and maybe make things better for the young ladies that came after you. Best to you moving forward!
@TONY DPHAX KING you actually don’t have a high standard at all if you refer to women as bitches. You are a disgrace to your chapter and are lowing down the standard of your chapter. If you want to be a high standard man learn how to refer to women.
@TONY DPHAX KING Hell has a place for you...
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I'm in a black sorority (but not active) and went through the same thing 30 years ago. I didn't and still don't understand the point of hazing. You are good enough without those letters, and you didn't have to prove anything to another student. A sister doesn't treat another sister like dirt. My sorority doesn't define me or has done NOTHING to get me where I am today. It's just a money maker for someone else. I refuse to give then another dime on my money. You can still do community service with an organization.
Sororities aren’t beneficial after graduating and as an adult?
member of Alpha Phi Alpha here and i agree 100%. It's all just as scheme to pull money out of already struggling college students while getting beat like a slave in the process. I am a successful electrical engineer now and Alpha didnt help with that at ALL. It was a waste of time and something you can only convince an impressionable 19 year old to do. I've been seen as an outcast a lot because i don't "love" the organization like the rest of my "brothers" do.
I was member of a sorority as well. And I paid dues twice and that's it. Once you're a member your a member! I always felt what you said, you can do community service anytime. You had to do it to join anyway! For me when I pledged 12 years I wanted to have more attention, honestly. I wanted to stroll and wear letters and be in the "in" crowd plain and simple.
@@GoogleAccount00 I'm a member of a black Greek Organization and right out of college and throughout the yrs as a adult I have gotten help from my brothers and sisters so that is not necessarily true for all
ErrythingPhroze wow that’s unfortunate
This sounds like a cult! There is no way I would want to be involved. No way🙅🏽
Que The Essential Esthetician Does Dallas it is. it’s not from the most high so it gotta be from satan
It is a cult
Thanks for sharing your story. I always said that I would join a sorority if I went to a university but I ended up joining the military. Im glad you listened to yourself and trusted God giving you that inner decision.
Thank you for serving this country!
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Why is it necessary to humiliate people in order to be accepted and pay fees for the privilege? They tried to recruit me in college at the undergrad and graduate levels. No dice. I had to work and pay for my car and home. I had no time for it. I also had friends that pledged and the humiliating things these sororities and fraternities did to people. Be independent. Love yourself and people that WANT to be in your life honestly. This shit is inorganic and fake.
This part. I couldn't do it either.
God has absolutely nothing to do with those sorority's girl, at least not the God of the Bible.
Jackie M she’s talking about FAITH
Right
@@brianaanderson9165 no she specifically said God gave her the words to say during the interview
Sis... please don't group us all... God is definitely the head of my life... I'm happy to share my church's website so you can see me serving as well as my Pastor who is Greek. Not everyone is like what is described in this video which is sad to hear. Our Founders all created each organization through faith and trust in God. It breaks my heart to see your comment... I will say God is not in the sad actions we hear of some but everyone is not like that... just like everyone is not the same in church or anywhere else.
I’m sorry you had to go through that.😔 You can take courage and know they will reap what they sow.
Wow this is healthy. I thought from the title you were gonna be messy and bashing, but you were very neutral and explanatory of your perspective. Very mature. *Slow 👏*. You're gonna be just fine sweetheart.
Well said. She is going to be fine and stronger for the life lesson.
"I thought you did horrible" What a stupid thing to call at midnight and say to someone. Then having you make a bunch of calls...the national office needs to be called on them. Clowns
Perhaps she was simply giving an honest, unfiltered opinion on how she thought she did. 🤷🏾♂️
CHIreppa if that was the case then why was she calling?
When I pledged my fraternity, we were boldly hazed consistently and in public on campus. After a grueling night of torment, when we got back to the crib and turned on the TV, at Morehouse, CNN was covering how they murdered one of the guys that was online. Then my phone rang and they told us one of us would be next. I thought this HAZING and CRUEL TREATMENT was STOPPED for pledges, but it's still ongoing. Don't fret or regret stopping Erika, it's not worth it. I remember a slew of females from a host of universities coming to our campus and DOGGING the Delta pledges. They treated those girls like Slaves...SAD!!!
kc454 Dan Rest In Peace to that young man
So sorry for what you had to endure. I understand people do it for many reasons, and there is alleged reasoning behind it all, but I’m happy you’re safe and they didn’t make good on that threat. 💓 stay blessed
Lol...you made this up dude. Someone told you you were next? What org? On line or online? This post was a joke.
@@SuperKshepherd Too bad you can't HANDLE THE TRUTH. Pledging was far different back then than it is today, although today it is still BAD! I was #1 when I pledged that Fall. We dressed professionally the first 4 weeks, then wore military style pants and boots the last 4 weeks before crossing over. I am not CALLING OUT my fraternity, and my card is still in my wallet, I am looking at it as I am typing. You can Google different organizations and their pledging troubles, it's online, or are you just INCAPABLE of handling the truth???
@@kc454 i was #1 when i pledged that fall. Lol. Your attire is what you share. What org. You pledge and when did you cross? My dad crossed in #72. Im legacy. Do share.
I'm so glad you did this video. No one really talks about this side of being in Sororities especially for 1st Gen college students and pledges.
Hazing is abuse. Never let anyone abuse you, and insult your intelligence by trying to disguise it as anything other than what it is. Every one's pledge process is different. I'm grateful for the experience my linesisters and I had. There are way too many horror stories. I'm sorry your process didn't end the way you wanted it to, and that the girls in charge of taking care of you were negligent and power stricken.
When I was a junior in college I decided to pledge a sorority, it was not a D9 organization. There we were things we couldn’t eat, I had to pay mad bread up front, we had to wear the same clothes everyday, we had to carry around “our brain” in our pants, memorize all this info, we couldn’t talk to anyone except the members and our professors- not even our family (they would check our phones), I couldn’t even go home for the holidays smh, they would tell us to drive to an address and we didn’t know what to expect when we got there, we had to go to “set” at nights... then one night we had set and I had a paper due the next day. I spoke to my professor and let him know what was going on and he said if I didn’t hand it on time, I’d fail. My ass did not go to set that night ... everyone was pissed but 🤷🏾♀️ school comes first. Then they started to treat me worse after that day so I finally just quit. The day I quit I was at work. I worked on campus and the person I was pledging with came to get me so we could go back to the our spot and I refused to go... I had a complete mental breakdown that day and so did she. We both cried like babies. Although by that point I had already wasted my money and time .... my spirit couldn’t rest until I was out. It sure isn’t for everyone but all the best to those who can use it to benefit them
Wow, I'm so sorry you experienced this. School definitely comes first. I'm a part of a Christian sorority called Iota Chi Kappa and we welcome college-age women and working women in the org. Our desire is to support you and help you grow in Christ. Check us out at (facebook.com/groups/IotaChiKappa07/)
LifeOfDyme Your story sounds very similar to a lot of men and women I know, so believe me you aren’t alone. I’m so sorry you had to experience that, but I’m so happy you were able to stand up for yourself. I’m sure a lot of people will appreciate your story. 💓
And the morale of the story is....if you weak, dont pledge. Life offers challenges never easy. Had to maintain my 3.5 while going to set 4 nights a week for 6 months. Kids today are soft. Not for everyone.
ITRY can you define pledge?
ITRY that’s the difference between an organization and life... one is optional. Dropping line isn’t an indication of weakness. And to say that is pretty ignorant... my life could have caused me way more hardship than pledging ever did.
woow. being a college girl myself, I attended a PWI and HBCU, this is very eye opening. Girl, you can build your own sisterhood, a youtube sisterhood!
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Erika, that feeling of uneasiness that made you decide to drop was the Holy Spirit protecting you from making a mistake. I am proud of you for listening. All that glitters is not gold. I have said everything that you are saying in an effort to convince myself and others that it is the right thing to do. Been there. Done that. Denounced my membership in a BGLO earlier this year.
Definitely the holy spirit. I wanted to pledge also when I was in college but it didn't sit right with my soul. When you really get closer to God and spirituality you will be more fine tuned to what is right and what is wrong. I remember at a greek talk I asked if they felt they upheld what God wanted them to do since they alleged they were a Christian based organization. They didnt even answer my question properly. Also look at the origins of these greek organizations and the greek Gods they take their oath to. Its way deeper than it seems. Im good on all that lol
It was intuition. You KNOW when something is off. The problem is most people don't listen to that inner voice telling them that something is off and then they have to learn a hard lesson at the end. Glad she paid attention to it.
I’d love to hear more. I’ve never considered denouncing, but I do want to hear people’s perspective and learn a lot.
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God allowed you to dodge that bullett cause HE is calling you to a greater work. A work that involves HIM.
In VAIN do they worship, teaching for doctrine the commandments of men rather than after Christ. KJV..
King James slept with his mother, was a pedophile, and stole. Stop with that Christ bs
Just fucking stop
Natalie McCoy maybe read the Bible more in depth before you come for someone, or the Bible in general. I’m sure your not perfect and you have things to work on too. Just a thought.
she _kinda_ looks like penny proud and kyla pratt 😂 and kyla voiced penny too 😂
Yep. So cute
Outside of the collegiate Black circles, these groups have no value.
Yes. In most professions, the top people are not black what do they care you are part of a black greek organization.
Exactly. They go to school lost, and leave lost.
LOL def not true but when u on the outside, you come up with assumptions.
It can help. But I can tell you I work for the biggest staffing software company in America and there are no black Greeks so 🤷🏽♀️😂 connections may or may not be had.
This is incorrect. Every black Greek organization comes with a commitment that thoroughly surpasses an undergraduate collegiate experience.
In addition to the familial gains, it is a business. We are taught and then teach members how to effectively and efficiently run a business (inside and outside our immediate Greek circles). How has that have no value?
Everything that glitters ain't gold and sororities and fraternities are a prime example of it. I've known people to sacrifice so much for them and lose themselves in the process .... you will never get back or more of what you invested. It drains you spiritually, financially, physically, and emotionally. And if anyone thinks that hot mess is true brotherhood and sisterhood ... they losing! You see how quick and nasty they turned on you as soon as you did something they didnt approve of ... why u think that's ok to encourage ppl to get involved in I dont understand
No different than hood gangs. Beat you in, beat you out, no loyalty. Ugh.
Sororities and fraternities are a cover for devil worshiper cults. They make it sound innocent, but they don't care about no one unless you are popular and can influence other people. Delta sororities stands for killers, and beta stands for high price prostitutes.
Then they will say they will always remain cool with you if you don’t want to join their organization, quit as a pledge or member, and have disagreements/differences with certain members of the organization. The moment you literally put their words into action then they all turn against you in a blink of an eye.
I thought about joining a frat, then I realized I already knew who I was and it wasn't anything they could offer me worth sacrificing my integrity and health.
THIS !!!
I am a member of BGLO sorority and I applaud you for your courage to tell your story. I am so sorry that you had that experience. Just keep in mind that these organizations have thousands of members and not all chapters are the same. Thank you for sharing your story.
I definitely agree. 100% chapter by chapter basis. Some do not haze at all, while some do much worse than anything I mentioned. Thank you for watching and providing feedback
Most of the sorority girls I have encountered have been extremely rude and harsh. I don’t understand how you can be a part of a sisterhood and not lead by example on how women should treat each other. How can you build someone and mold someone when you are clearly still maturing yourself. I feel a lot of these sorority members are not genuine. They are just people that will do almost anything for social status. They have to enforce that status by putting others down because the status is an illusion.
I view sororities as gangs, just the college edition.
"Gangs: The College Edition"😂😂😂😂
@Michael Tucker it looks silly even just reading it. I can only imagine how it sounded. I'd kick my daughter ass if she ever. Acting like a thug.
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See the way my attitude and social skills are set up...☕👀 id be cussing them out...tuh 😕
Especially ,with them blindfolding people!
I went through the same exact thing with the fraternity. I went through part of the process and about a month prior to crossing the sands I dropped the line. That shit wasn’t worth it. I’ve learned that a lot of people want to join these chapters for popularity and validation. I’ve always wanted to join every since middle school and I never thought that I would have a change of opinion. I stressed so bad and couldn’t focus throughout the day because of it. I had to call EVERY SINGLE DAY more that 5 ppl and be on the phone for an hour at least begging to get info about them out of them. I just felt stupid on top of working and studying. Do I regret it NO but I realized who I was, during those times
hotboy0789 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
It was stupid only after you dropped...
Shpuldve just sign that name on that paper dont wrry wat ppl say bout u
@@antoinejackson1800it was stupid from the get go honestly. But hind sight is 20/20.
A student from my University just died from HAZING. I urge everybody to watch out for yourself and love yourself, a brotherhood/sisterhood should never make you feel like trash or push you to do something that would physically or mentally harm you. Also it's illegal af. Be careful.
"Break you down to build you up"
And you pay for it. Damn thats sadistic.
Join the military if you want to live by that rhetoric.They pay you and the benefits and perks are way better.
They still both break you so what’s the point
😂😂😂😂🎯
Y’all complain about the military but who else gon fight for the country...🧐I’m just asking
I being apart of a BLGO loved my experience however I am sorry your experience was traumatic it sounds like the woman in the chapter were little girls and took advantage of your vulnerability. During my experience I never did anything I didn’t want to. No time during my experience or bringing in my neos I felt something ungodly. We made sure to place God First. I will say some woman do idolize sorority culture which is evil. I loved my big sisters and pour love and faith into my neos (little sisters). That’s ridiculous and traumatizing and I wish I could give you a big hug.
Those girls are on power trips
I’m so happy you loved your experience, and as I said I completely support the good parts. I love that you’re able to share your side because as I said, I know it doesn’t happen in every chapter. There’s definitely so much good to it, I just couldn’t didn’t want to be a part of the situation I was being put through.
TheRealErikaF As a fellow child of God I completely support that decision you made. 💗
@@TheRealErikaF which sorority was it ?
I feel the same way about my Sorority, my process, and bringing in 2 sets of neos. There are better ways of handling things although so many do not get to experience it.
I love how you keep reverting back to God. thats so real and beautiful to hear.
Hey Erika, Maybe pursue a grad chapter even though they are invite only. Those girls who stopped being your friend after all that happened weren't your real friends from the get-go in my opinion. Continue doing service because whether or not you join a blgo, serving people in the community is so rewarding.
hollisterkelsea21 ummm no...she needs to stay her vulnerable azz away from US...she ACCEPTED HAZING(she could have contacted corporate) BUT she didn’t b/c she wanted to BE ONE OF US...so please don’t iggggg her to come KCAB
And going grad doesn’t guarantee that hazing doesn’t happen.... blind leading the blind. GDI stay where you are!
Thank you so much for your kind words. 💓
The Real Housewives Of Arkansas 1. If I wanted to join many chapters would love to have me. 2. I don’t want to join any. Thank you. Have a wonderfully blessed day.
The Real Housewives Of Arkansas you legit need a life sis. You’re on every post for what? & who the fuck goes by RHO Arkansas? Lmfao cornball.
I have an older sister also and when she was in college ; you couldn’t tell her she wasn’t ready for her new chapter. As time went on my sister decided to join AKA 💗💚sorority.. she was so excited but then her excitement turned into disgust on how they would bully you and make you feel less of a person. Just to make it clear my sister is a very strong woman but that experience was phycological abuse ; eventually she left and never looked back. I don’t knock those organizations but they need to be more mindful on how they deal with a person’s delicate mind and what their backgrounds may have been.
I used to want to join a sorority in the Devine 9, but my intuition was just telling me no. There was numerous red flags and I didn’t even go through the hazing process. Thank you for being transparent. Your story confirmed what I felt in my gut
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Wow, this just really breaks my heart. I fail to understand why you cant remain friends when others people take turns in their journey; just mind boggling. I'm so sorry this happened to you
A sorority doesn't make you sisters. I had 15 line sisters and I barely keep in contact with one. I pick my friends. Believe me you saved yourself a lot of aggravation, time and money. If I would have known I would have never joined.
There is absolutely no reason why that type of behavior needs to be going on. I'm glad you got out.
I attended and graduated from a PWI. I am a member of a BGLO, and there is nothing wrong with being a GDI. Scholarship is a part of EVERY D9 fundamental values. You chose school and sounds like you made the best description for you !
Leak C thank you for your kind words! 💓
I never got to pledge I ended up going to a international university based in japan. a completely different experience from a PWI and HBCU. Greek orgs don't really share that level of prominence in non-western societies.
Girl, I feel your pain same thing kind of happened to me. Unfortunately, I couldn’t cross cuz I didn’t have enough support from my line or in my personal life. Plus, it was just too much. I invested money that I barely had and tried to meet the requirements, plus the group projects but with my line icing me out it was hard to do everything on my own. Hard to make new friends when there are clicks within your line. Honestly, it just became too much and took a mental toll on me to the point I had to be hospitalized. I’m a first-generation student to, but my parents are immigrants and live outside the states. Initially, that’s why I considered going Greek to meet new people and build bonds. Cuz going to school full-time and working at the same time is incredibly stressful especially when you have zero support of any kind. I was going through so much and had no one to confide in. On top of everything, I was going through a crisis of which I wasn’t able to get help. Ultimately, my time trying to join a sorority last semester was a complete waste of time, money, and energy. Because I encountered fake people that pretended to be my friends and then later disregarded me the minute I left. Refusing to acknowledge me on campus. The icing on the cake was because I tried to make the sorority a priority I failed one of my classes. Erika, I feel your pain you did your best and it's their loss.
I appreciate you so much for taking the time out to watch my video and also share your story! It means a lot and brings me comfort. I'm sure it will also help many other interests who are doing research. Thank you!
I passed on crossing over because from the start I saw how cliquey & judgemental the sororities were. I had no interest in belonging to an organization which dictates what you do, what you wear, what color you wear, where you go, who you can be friends with, who you can hang out with, etc. Also the arrogance is outrageous.
Yet they call you sisters.
What if I don’t like you like that?
Nah, no thanks.
Thank you for sharing your story.
As a PROUD and ACTIVE member of a D9 sorority, it’s very unfortunate to hear your story and that you were not able to obtain what was once a goal.
I watch these videos because i believe these perspectives are important in knowing how non-Greek persons view our organizations.
What I do not appreciate, which has mainly come from the comments, is how FAST we put down and demonize Greek organizations without any knowledge of the work/purpose. Yes, there are “bad” stories, but they do not wholly reflect the true essence of what our Founders created. (In the video she clearly states this lol)
As someone who is an Interest, it is imperative that you find an org to belong to and NOT one that you must fit in. You must realize that every org isn’t meant for you, but that doesn’t necessarily negate the fact that you don’t “deserve” to be Greek.
Everyone’s experience is different. Some have great stories and some have bad. But you should never alter yourself for the name of some letters. She realized this about herself and moved forward. But y’all in these comments (whew chilay 😂).
She also went for a very specific organization and a chapter (though unmentioned I can assume lol) that obviously maintains the negative stereotypes. But please let me inform you that, that DOES NOT EXIST IN EVERY ORGANIZATION. Yes, you must put in work and show that you are able to handle the load of your org, but when done correctly that will never steer you away from your individual purpose and goal. It will only add to it.
Worded perfectly! #20yrs #NoRegrets #ZPhiB
I agree with you wholeheartedly... I too am a member of a D9 Sorority. Yes I had a process to go through, and it was rough at times, but it made me stronger, and I have a long-lasting relationship with a beautiful sisterhood! Unfortunately, one of my LS denounced her membership (after 10 years) stating that we are idolatrous, etc. I have NEVER and WILL NEVER put my Sorority over God.
I dont get it.. you're black but become greek? loool
sumeya aa I’m black and I have stayed black. The only thing that represents being “Greek” is the letters of our organizations. At their foundation, blacks were banned from gaining membership in elite collegiate groups so they create their own. Within the American culture of academia we utilize Latin and Greek language.
If your hesitation is the idea of being black and labeled “Greek” then I strongly charge you to do some research on black Greek life. You’d be surprised how many of our most noteworthy brothers and sister old membership in these organizations.
It is much more than the name of the letters.
I agree 100% and I don't fully understand why people still think that we are somehow "brainwashed" or sold our souls to be a part of a NPHC org. Moreover, these claims are unfounded and false. I've been an Alpha for nearly a year and a half and there was nothing demonic or satanic about any experience I've had. I've made strong connections with other Alphas and other D9 orgs and yet it bugs me that people make such claims. On the flipside I empathize with her experience. Clearly the chapter she was trying to pledge were immature and were more focused on hazing than actually sticking to the process.
I completely understand how you feel. I’m a legacy and my entire life I had it set in my mind that this was something I would go after, my mom and other family encouraging me the whole way, making me want it even more. But at this time things at my school just aren’t working out. Might have to do grad chapter. Sorry you had to go through that experience, some people aren’t in it for the right reasons. Thanks for sharing your story! :)
I joined a grad chapter, best decision I ever made! True networking and community service.
Can you elaborate on your grad chapter experience?
@@Simonetraceyxo No hazing, everyone is an adult, working with families, so they aren't strict, yes we do community service, outreach, and volunteer with other sororities and fraternities around the country. Lots of networking and support. You still get to do everything that you would do if you joined on campus just without a lot of the immaturity.
@@cloemarshall7237 I agree, I joined a grad chapter and they seem more established and relevant. Everyone in the chapter is bonded thru sisterhood as well as a connection in their communities because they live in the area or close by. They seem to have more vested in because they can see the fruits of their labors each and everyday. Undergrads seem so disconnected once they graduated from college. They all graduate and go their separate ways. Yeah...they may be bonded together by going thru the process and being together on campus. That's all cute and everything, BUT, what are you doing after college. Its more to it than wearing letters, strolling, stepping and your colors. If you aren't doing anything worthwhile than you are not being an asste to the organization.
I would love to join a grad chapter but I heard you have to get an invitation and the only way to get that is to attend some of their public forums but how do you find out about when they have them? I can’t find it on their website or twitter page.
What school? @cloemarshall
Whew when she said I was already enough and they made her feel like she wasn’t 😭😭😭
As a BGLO member, I really hate that this was your experience.
I soon realized a lot of these was trauma bonding with others, which can be very toxic and dangerous. While I still think there can be some validity to these orgs (some of my mentors were), I think a lot of them have been corrupted by people who wish to exert power on others to make themselves feel big. A lot of them also, in my opinion, seem to not be as revolutionary and progressive as I thought, are moderate (politically) at best. I guess it will never happen for me, but as the saying goes, life goes on. This video was a Godsend. Thank you!
I went through this same thing! They blindfolded me and made me do things I did not want to do. I ended the process so quick. It hurts because you think these women care and let go of hazing. I’m happy you got out
Courtney Livers what did u have to do?
" Break you down to build you up".That's some BS for a sorority to push. I'm in the military and that's the only place that that phrase is used. Great video
Sounds like pimpin to me ...chuuuuuuch!
Good evening, I'm texting you from Charlotte, NC. I've been in the sorority over 30 yrs. now and I was in your shoes when I attended undergraduate school (NC A&TState University). I decided not to pledge because I felt that my studies came first. The sisters of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. weren't pleased with my decision because they knew one of my oldest sisters was a member (Spr. 77). I graduated from the University and went on with my life. A few yes later I approached my next door neighbor who was an Old School AKA and shared with her that I was interested. All it took was her " influenced" and I was selected to pledge Graduated Chapter. I have enjoyed my 30 + yrs. in the Sorority and no one can ever take my Letters away from me as long as I respect myself and the sisterhood. I received my calling as a Prophetttess now so what happened then only made me stronger in my Faith and Walk with God. What matters most now is serving God to the fullest and not Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. (Spr' 89).
Have you denounced it?
This makes me feel so much better, I was so bitter about not making the cut after my interview, similar to you I just knew I made it... and I felt like I had prepared so long for that moment I just knew I was the kind of girl they wanted to be apart of their org, and one of my biggest frustrations was that I had bonded with the advisor of the chapter at my uni she was so nice, every time we spoke she would tell me “you got this girl no need to be nervous trust me” she was personable and would even bring up things from past convos. In fact all the older women in that org were so nice understanding and respectful and I know for a fact if the younger girls weren’t making the decisions I would have def made it for sure!!! After the interview I didn’t hear anything back for a while and I knew I must not have made it but my mentor told me that no matter what they are still supposed to send out letters. So one day I called to find out where my letter was, when I called the first time there was no answer, the second time there was an answer and I asked if the letters were sent out? And she said what’s your name I said my first name and she quickly said my last name and that confused me because mind you, over 200 girls rushed so idk why she would know my last name off the top of her head. But hey I got my letter of denial eventually and I will still continue to live as I was before, my ideals, morals and values are the same my service to my community continues and I will succeed with out membership, because I have to! it is what it is and I was depressed about it for a while but now I feel much better knowing I’m not the only one!!!
Thank you for watching and sharing your story! Don't feel alone at all!! I know it's easy to see all the probate pics/videos and feel left out, but that's only because that's what you're surrounded by in the moment. I've had over 100 people reach out to me personally with their stories. Trust me, you aren't alone. These orgs have missed out on many AMAZING women, and when it's for you, the opportunity will return and it will be better than what you could have imagined. Trust it, and you!
THANK YOU so much for this video. It is something that I will keep in mind as I move forward in pursuing a sorority. Your courage to follow your instinct and take a step back is admirable.
I went to the AKA table and the lovely black girl looked me up and down and scoffed me off and didn’t want to hand me the sign up sheet. This was freshman year and now I’m a Texas southern senior and I’m glad I didn’t do it. There is a clique mob type of mentality and I’m a very opinionated and loner type of person. It has it’s downfalls being ostracized from the black community at my HBCU, but I do know at the end of the day I don’t have to report and stress myself out. No thank you ✨
I don’t usually say this but this girl looks is breathtaking
Superpaul205 she’s super naturally beautiful.
Tina Walker hopefully she have an personality to match.. 🤔
That's because black men can't and won't keep their dicks out of white women.
Superpaul205 yes I agree she is naturally beautiful, pretty eyes, not a mark on her skin, very little make up, seems like an honest, good, down to earth person. I’m so sorry she’s been hurt but I know her future is bright.
Yes she does!!
Girl this was not for you, but that's okay. It's good that you followed your intuition and stuck to your own convictions.
It seems like these organizations want weak minded individuals who won't think for themselves. If these ladies are suppose to be your "sister" they shouldn't have to "break you down to build you up". All of it seem like a bunch of bs. Thanks again for sharing experience with the rest of us.
My sister is hardcore into her sorority and I never really understood the culture until I have gotten older. I had to compete with her sorority sisters to be her sister, but they always came first. For a long time I thought it was something wrong with me because I never fit in. Her sorority sisters stole my sister and I will never get her back.
Pray for her
Ashley Mitchell yes pray for her
Wow, that’s crazy. I’ve never seen that happen. That was all your sister. You can’t blame her line sisters for that. I’m sorry you lost your sister.
I realized I didn’t wanna do it when I saw how ppl would stab you in the back just to be in it. A friend of mines stabbed me in the back to join. Ppl that hated me and my girlfriends in college, now my friend joined and they’re best buddies it just don’t make sense to me. It’s like you’re paying to have friends 🤷🏽♀️ So many people I know changed and completely ditched all their real friends who loved them way before any of this and they’re so different now. Either way I got sick of chasing around a sorority and constantly feeling like I’m not good enough. I don’t wanna spend forever proving myself just to get on.
I also went to my friend HBCU for homecoming, she has 80 line sisters. Not one of them tried to help her get a ride to campus for the yard shows and stuff. They would drive past her and everything like she was nobody. The girls were divided and argued all the time. It was sad as hell 🤦🏽♀️no sisterhood at all and this was one of the big HBCU campuses, Alpha Chapter.
Another instance is my cousin is pre med major and she’s graduating soon. 4.0 students, plenty of interns, in every honor society, club, etc you can think of. She went to the rush and found out that they didn’t make it a little while after. She found out that this girl was her boyfriends side chick the whole time so she convinced everybody to decline her application due to jealousy. It’s too many politics I can’t do it!
Wow
I’m an Aries ♈️ my hands start working on they own
No way was I ever a good fit for any of these orgs bc I’m a beat da lil baby to sleep 💤
Edit: an unknown location blind folded 😔 I’m so glad you got your beautiful self out of there sister ❤️ you made the right choice queen
NO MA'AM! Not me!
#♈ GANG
Y’all already know us Aries ain’t with that! Not EVER!
Lmfao I’m an Aries too and I understand this on a strong level. I’m too much of my own person to be in a group.
April 3rd
We not submitting to nobody just to turn around & pay for friendship
Joined Zeta 2007... my big sisters never acted like that at the beginning. But I believe this to be true for other orgs.
Hyp Kreationz hey Sis I joined Zeta 2006.. exactly never came close to hazing they were not having it!! Great sisters and bros..Finer Women .. sorry you had a horrible experience , but you have PEACE and those letters are priceless..