I wish some old people's homes and yes hospital wards gave Thier elderly and especially confused patients the same respect. I've seen an elderly lady who her family told me was a real lady. In her youth she looked like Audrey Hepburn. Her family came each day talking to her about all the things she had done in her life while she lay silent. She had worked for the resistance in france during the war. Risked her life to save a downed airman ...yet every time they changed her on a MIXED WARD she was left naked on the bed while staff just came and went. It broke my heart. So I got out of my bed and covered her she smiled at me the sweetest smile. Yes Audrey Hepburn was still in there. When the nurse came back I said do you realise this lady was a war heroine and raised a family while working for charity ... She's earned dignity. And care.
Oh that's so awful. I am with you it makes me so mad when staff treat the elderly like that, for goodness sake no one in their right mind would leave a person naked no matter what the age when these people have to rely on others to care for them. What an absolute amazing story of that ladies life. I would have loved to be able to listen to her stories when she was able to chat about them, remarkable. Thank you for been so kind and caring in helping that lady 🙏 your an angel ❤️❤️
When I was in nursing school and doing a rotation in the hospital, we were in the surgery suite where a woman was about to have a vaginal hysterectomy. The room was full of not only us, but other students too. We were all new to this and were totally not expecting what was to happen. Of course, in order to perform that surgery, the patient is put in high stirrups with her legs spread as far as they would go. Not only could a room full of people see everything, there were other males who worked in surgery and they were going back and forth at the end of the table. I was practically in tears and felt like disappearing. I know that students have to learn, but as a woman, I felt violated. I'm glad that y'all at least don't expose a person's body.
Hi, must have been difficult if you felt so uncomfortable, but you are right students have to learn. We would never display a full exposed body. Thank you for sharing take care 💚💚
I worked in and around the mortuary for 35 years. I was only a head porter but I insisted on decency and respect to all those I took there; they all belonged to someone. I passed on this to all who I taught. Whenever placing a body in the fridge, from the ward, I always said God Bless mate, or God Bless love! I've been retired 13 years now but I was told recently all the porters still say that! In the early years it was expected of us to assist the mortician at a Post Mortem, but this duty was removed when we were privatised.
I used to know a lady who was a funeral director/embalmer and I asked her about this. She basically said the same thing; there is always a sense of respect for the deceased person and for that person’s family. She also said, “And remember we are all born naked and when we die we’ll probably be naked at some point (hospital, funeral home, etc.) and funeral people see everything and there is a great deal of compassion and respect.” I thought that was a wonderful point.
The whole thing is respect. Just because someone is deceased doesn’t mean it has to be disrespectful. I love that you care about the deceased enough not to expose them. Thank you, Tracy!! You deserve flowers 💐 💐💐💐
Thank you for addressing such a sensitive topic. I bet a lot of people worry about this. For me, it's about dealing with a funeral home that you trust.
@@AreyoudyingtoknowI don't mind being naked during my embalming I want to be embalmed by a female embalmer then a male embalmer can I request a female embalmer instead though.😊
I know it's not the same but I am a support worker look after the elderly, I do exactly the same as you with towels when doing personal care or bath/ shower etc. also when resident passes sometimes we have to clean areas and the same happens again with towels covering our residents to protect their dignity. It so nice to know you do the same x
That was something I thought about when I worked my first autopsy, I started at the MEs office before medical school and had never seen a naked person other than myself. We undressed the two people and for a second, I was like “oh, their naked”, then totally forgot about it. It’s like the job itself, whether it’s in medicine or mortuary sciences, you get used to a lot of the unpleasantries of the job. Loved the video, Ladies. 😊🖤
Thank you for your very informative video. I enjoy your dry sense of humour...turn your head...that was great. This is something that I have never worried about because I think that embalmers have probably seen everything on the table. Since my body is not sensational, I would think this is not a problem. Also, an embalmer is a professional - performing a service for the client. I know when I get a massage, I am never naked on the table. When I am examined by the doctor, I am never naked on the table. So, I would suggest that 99.99% of embalmers are the same. I did not say 100% because there is always somebody in every crowd!
Hi ladies xx Thanks for the video this week and thanks for giving advice trish regarding making our wishes known as I will be requesting that myself for my care when the time comes 😊 see you both soon xx
Thanks for this it's really interesting. I think it's important that the person who's passed is handled with care and respect. The lady for everything 😊
I’ve seen several tv shows that show naked bodies at the ME’s exams. I find the idea of lying naked on the table very unsettling. Especially if your local mortician is a personal friend.
When we went as a family group to a relatives viewing the mortician did that flat straight back hairstyle. After the viewing one of us told the arranger the way she wore her hair which hadn’t been discussed before. She said something like oh, okay. My apologies. Of course I’ll get it changed for her today. They were really nice about it.
Interesting Question from Angela. Informative answers from Tracy. When we die certain procedures have to be performed some more invasive (like an autopsy) than others. Everything is done by professionals with the object of doing their best for the individual they are caring for and the grieving family. Trish's suggestion of leaving instructions in the will is worth considering. Tracy naked in the Mortuary😮? I can picture her , Kal and little betty in swim suits and wraps in loungers drinking chilled white wine with the fridge door open while everyone outside is melting in the Australian Summer Sun 😊. If I have any hair left when I hit the mortuary table my instruction would be "just do your best!" I remember going into the barbers in the late 70's and asking for a haircut like Mick Jagger. He gave me a buzz cut. Furious I screamed "You idiot Mick Jagger's hair doesn't look like this!" He replied with a smile "No? Well it would do if he came here. That'll be 75 pence..oh and anything for the weekend sir😉? Tracy's claim "I can usually tell where the hair falls after I've washed it how the hair should be." Good luck with me mine ends up falling on the floor! Another classic video thanks ladies!
Exactly what I was thinking ; you're dead , you won't know . Here in Kentucky the funeral home usually has a beautician come do the hair . Getting to be fewer that will do it ; the younger one's aren't keen on doing hair in the funeral home.
Thanks Francis for your comment - I would think it would be a good training ground for the youngsters to practice on the deceased - still, I guess it's not what they sign up for when they go to hairdresser or beauty school, so can probably understand why they might decline :)
Hi trish hi tracey hi kal, hope your all well :) 2 great questions, very interesting, i wouldnt want to be left naked, id probably scare the mortician 😂😂 but no, modesty is important Take care ladies (still wearing my facemask by the way) :) xx
Hello ladies! When I read the title, I thought that we were going to be talking about a weird mortician fetish. 🤣 If I were to go the embalming route, being a guy, I don't think it would bother me. But, I will be cremated, so it shouldn't matter. It reminded me of a fascinating video I watched about preparing the body for a Muslim funeral where modesty is paramount. The mortician goes so far as to wrap their hand in a towel so they cannot feel the genitals when washing. Interestingly, they believe the body can still feel, so don't do anything the deceased would find painful or uncomfortable. The beginning of the video title is Ghusal and Shroudung Workshop with Brother...and then his name. It's over an hour long, but thought you might find it interesting. Take care beautiful ladies!
Hi David, lovely to hear from you 🤗 ok we will have a look at that, definitely different to the normal preps. Different cultures have lots of different traditions. Hope you and your family are well, take care 😊💚
I have watched a video about cremations, which I'm planning on also, but they said that they bathe the bodies before the procedure. I don't know why. I guess it's just a respect thing.
Ladies, I have no concerns but one, about my passing. I know 'modesty cloths' are standard practice, but I still fear that my local FD may choose, or otherwise, to 'forget' to the deceased's dignity....I understand that anything that happens 'down below' is very embarrassing, especially when the deceased can do nothing about it...I hope the 5 gents in my local funeral home are as professional and ethical! 🥰🥰👍👍
Hi Gaggy, when you have been doing the job for so long, you actually just do this without thinking. You just do it so much that you automatically just cover up the body instantly. I would like to think those gentleman would do this automatic also. Take good care 😚💚
I cant say being naked after death has crossed my mind but what HAS crossed my mind is some of the pervs out there that have sex with the dead body That creeps me out ALOT! Great video as always ladies! Thank u! 😘💙
Going to the doctor when you are alive often requires disrobing. I don't think I'll care much after I'm dead. People sometimes pee or poo when they die, and that has to be cleaned up.
I’m thinking that if I’m dead on the mortician’s table, or having a post-mortem then my body being ‘naked’ is really less than important. I’ll know nothing about it, none of my family or friends will see me like that and it would be a bit late to matter if they did. My body has nothing unusual about it, nothing that 99% of the general public won’t have seen many times over their own lives. Yes, I’d expect anyone’s body to be treated respectfully, eg not played games with it or other silliness, not for remarking on in a pejorative manner, or to be photographed unless necessary for some legal procedure, etc. A professional worker dealing with bodies will have standards that are expected to be maintained at all times, and I’d have faith in that expectation as I would in any other professional offering services to the public. Of course, there are occasionally people who abuse or misuse their standing, but generally so few that it’s not worth worrying about.
Hello Tracy and Trish. This is Angela again I had a question couple actually if a person has severe acne is there anything special that you can do to make them look better before you apply makeup and my second question is my brother-in-law has cancer and after chemo he lost every hair that he had from head to toe I understand that you can put a wig on someone but do you do anything about their eyebrows? I love your shirts as soon as I can get one I would love to have there's nothing like that in the little town that I live in. LOL. thank you girls I always enjoy watching you.
Hi Angela, lovely to hear from you. Think we will answer these questions on video in the coming weeks 🙂 We are so sorry to hear about your brother sending lots of positive vibes and get well wishes his way 🙏💚 The t-shirt and masks are cool we need to re stock soon too ☺️ You take care & have a wonderful weekend 😊💚💚
Hi guys thinking about when you said you could colour hair on the prep table, does the colour take to the deceased hair as it would a living person? Or is there a special colour kit you would use 🤔 hope you are both well and have a lovely day. Lot's of love from Nancy in Scotland x ❤
Hi Nancy, lovely to hear from you. It's just a regular colour from the chemist. It will not cover as good as it does on the living but it works ok. A great product I use in the mortuary is coloured hair mascara it works a treat 😊 take good care out in Bonnie Scotland 😍💚💚
I do understand this there is a channel on RUclips about a young lady went to Mexico for a tummy tuck about 8 weeks after giving birth to her second child. Sadly she passed away and when the family got her body back to theUS they had an autopsy done. She died on the operating table do to an allergic reaction to a medication. The really worst of the whole ordeal for her family was the fact that dna from 3 males was found inside her body. That must have happened after she passed away.
Hi Pete, this is a good question to answer on the channel. We have a few films done for the next few weeks so will get to this as soon as possible 😁 thank you again, take care 😊💚
Hi David, don't worry about it, we are all trained to be very respectful and it becomes the normal, as soon as you uncover you cover instantly again without think of it. Take care 😊💚
When my clients pass and I give them a wash and make them presentable for family, I don't treat them any differently to when they were alive and I would give them a bed bath
I'm more worried about being viewed without eye makeup and lipstick or with weird makeup. My humble little mother never wore makeup and when my siblings saw her deceased with bright red lipstick and rouge in her coffin our mouths dropped. Our religion believes that the persons spirit stays with the body until it's buried or cremated so we were sure she was either laughing or horrified.
What I hate is that people got more respect for a dead body than a person alive.Theyll burn you alive of hatred but caressing a dead body.Am I the only one who noticed?
This is only an issue for the living, I promise that the deceased don't have a clue and could care less whether they're covered or not. The only thing we should be worried about now is if soul is right with God.
Hi Mechelle, we have answered that in a few videos. It's a long story 🙃 I had to leave hairdresser due to developing server dermatitis, then worked at the NHS National Blood Services as a phlebotomist taken the blood donation (actually helping in saving lives) in the first 2 weeks of working for the NHS BS my mum was killed 😞 this changed my life forever and our family was not able to view her as we were told her injuries are to traumatic to see and the mortician could not do anything to help 😞 unable to view my mum effected me badly and I was not able to get closure from here death. This triggered an interest that I had had for many years and used to talk to my mum about working in a mortuary. In the meantime I had moved to Australia from the UK got a job in pathology collection (taken blood sample & other pathology samples) did this for a while. Then became a medical rep for a few years travelling around Australia, during this time I applied for jobs in the funeral industry to just get my foot in the door to work towards becoming a mortician/embalmer. This happened I went on to specialise in reconstruction from traumatic injuries to help families to view they loved ones if at all possible. If I can help one family get closure from a traumatic death then that helps me with the loss of my mum. Thanks for your question take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thankyou so much for getting back to me and sharing your story ,you are amazing turning such trauma into a positive force to help others .Blessings to both you ladies and your loved ones .🥰
hi ladies interesting video im guessing once iv passed i be being fully unclothed as im going to be embalmed ??must be maybe harder to unclothe an guy like me who's over 7ft tall ??
Hi Michael, we hope you are doing ok. No not hard doesn't really matter how tall you are but we do use modesty clothes so you are never totally uncovered. All about care, respect and dignity 💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow hi ladies hope your wll just wishing to know as d has said he may have m body autopsied after iv passed to find out y so much fluid is building inside my lungs and body cavities may i ask would this effect embalming my body and the fact of being viewed after death ?
For the person concerned NOW about being exposed in the morgue, you won't be when you get there. Folks who work with people in such personal jobs try their best to maintain the dignity of the people they care for.
Thank you so much for your comments 🙏 we do as you say, always respect the dignity of the deceased person. Thank you again and have a wonderful weekend ❤️❤️
Hi Tracy and Trish, regarding dressing and modesty, my husband has many metal piercings some in embarrassing places and I have one in my cheek which is implanted, would you need to research the removal of these if its a cremation or are you already knowledgeable about how to remove the piercing ? Thanks lady's love your videos as always 😍 xx
Hi Lauraine, just had a thought, since we are doing a video on this in the next week or two, any chance you could please send us a few pics via email of yours or your husband's piercings just to illustrate what we are talking about? You could send to areyoudyingtoknow@gmail.com Doesn't have to be pics of the (erm) hidden ones... :) Thanks!
I understand people’s concerns but it doesn’t seem anywhere nearly as invasive as hospitals & surgeries and what women go through when giving birth. 🤷🏼♀️
Hi, yes we understand what you are saying but in situations like you say every care is taken to look after the patient and personal areas need access to for what ever reason, childbirth ect. However in a mortuary setting there is no reason to leave a deceased body expose and remember the deceased have no voice to protect themselves, that's up to us as morticians/embalmers to take on the role of been dignified and respectful. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
I have a question .. I heard that when someone is to long for the coffin that the persons legs are broken to fit the coffin my question is ( Is that True ??)
It's a common myth but I would never, ever in a million years do that, ever. I have never met a mortician that would. Thanks for asking, we have an upcoming vid that touches on this.💜
Hi Prince, everyone hair is dead as soon as it leaves our roots. Colour does work on the deseased just not as good as when we are alive. Thanks again take care 😊💚
Hi Prince, here in Australia, if you donate your body to science, we here at a funeral home would not do any prep on the body, that is all done at the donation place. Take care 😊💚
Hi Wilbyos, I know it is very difficult for some to give they loved one to a complete stranger and I do hope your mum was taken care of in a kind respectful way. We are all taught in the mortuary to be respectful, caring and dignified with a deceased person and I think most of us are. It's an honour and privilege to be give the care of someone loved one. I know it's a bit late with your mother 😔 but you can ask to help in the dressing of a loved one in the future, please don't be afraid to ask these questions in a funeral home it's your loved one. We both send you or best please take care 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thanks 🙏 you guys are great and thanks I did all that even did her hair and makeup 💄 just I did worry about her dignity. I do hope they did follow the rules as we have had a great scandal here in the Uk 🇬🇧 xxxx take care
Thank you for letting us know that you did take of your mum 🙏💚that is so special 💚 Unfortunately we do hear horror story now and I think I know the story your talking about it's so bloody awful make me so mad😡. But we have to remember that the very few bad eggs give us all a bad name and reputation however I do think it is only a handful that do the wrong things, You take good care hugs from us 🤗💚
Hi, well spotted she is well and truly alive, our friend is kind enough to be a model for us. It does also say on the screen at that moment "live model" maybe you missed it when her toes moved 😉 thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Thank you so much for your lovely comment 💚 I don't look like your typical mortician/Embalmer 😉 people are always surprised when finding out what my occupation is. Thank you again 🙏 take good care 💚
Hi Elizabeth, It's a long story 😉 I will try and condense it. I had to leave hairdresser due to server dermatitis. I ended up working for the NHS National Blood Services (in the UK) taking units of blood (ironically saving lives). My mum was killed and her injuries were so horrific that our family were not allowed to ID her or ever see her again 😔 it was the most traumatic time in my life and for my dad and sisters. This change me forever ( you will know that from the loss of your daughter 😔) I did not cope well with this loss and struggled with it for many years. I was always interested in mortuary work (long before I lost my mum) I came to Australia and started to look for work in the funeral industry, eventually got in. I specialised in reconstruction so I could help families view their loved ones that die in traumatic circumstances (like my mum) because I know how hard it is to never see you loved one that has been taken away suddenly and unexpectedly. This then helped me in dealing with my own grief. Sorry I went on a bit. So that's why I am were I am today 😊 thanks for your question, hope you are ok 💚💚
Im so so sorry I asked you that now I'm so very sorry that happened 😢 Just saw Naomi Judd lost her life to suicide. That's how my little girl went 2 days after her birthday. You might not know her, but she is a huge country singer here in the USA. I'm originally from N.Ireland, loved her music when I came to the states. She struggled with mental illness like myself and my daughter. The suicide rates here are a major pandemic, worse than covid 😪
Don't be sorry, I can talk about it easier now than in the beginning. Time does help in healing a little but it takes a long time, you never get over the loss you learn to adjust your life to cope with it. That's very sad about Naomi Judd 😔 unfortunately suicide is very high everywhere it's just not reported that much in daily news. I can look after a few suicides a week and that's just in 1 mortuary out of hundreds across the country. I am certainly no expert in this area at all but I do hope you seek out help in your times of need and have a support next work around you 🤞 just know you and your life are as important as another person, we all matter, big hugs and take really good care 💚💚
We are interested to know if this is a religious custom or cultural? We haven't encountered this but we are sure there would be a way if it was important to you. 💜💜💜💜
What worries me is the aspiration you do to stop any leaking. I really, really hate the thought of that being done to me (or my mother for that matter). It's much worse than being nude on a table. I'd rather be cremated at once without all that.
Hi, here in Australia we don't embalm everyone, only when requested by family, cultural reasons, buried in an above ground vault and flown overseas. Aspiration is part on embalming so in our natural preps washing and dressing is mostly all you need. If you don't want to be embalmed after death then I suggest having something written by you to inform the funeral home of no kind of prep to happen or do a pre-arranged funeral plan. I have lots of deseased come into my care and instructions are for the body not to be touched, I always honour theses wishes. Please don't worry like I say it's not a thing that happens to everyone. Take good care 💚💚
Hi, bodies general smell ok. But lots of factors come into play for different smells such as decomposition, what the person died from, trauma the list goes on. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
For the mortician, yes, it's just another day, but there are many people out there that feel the same as Angela, so we do what we can to ease their anxiety. ❤️Thanks for watching x
Come on people..... the person is dead. This earthly life is gone. The body is only a shell of what was. The spirit lives on. I doubt what's left behind matters.
Interesting video but the name of the channel is a bit disrespectful no one is really dying to know and it's no laughing matter to joke around with death or words related to death
We never joke or make fun of death or dying. There is a whole day that's dedicated to talking about death and dying (like this channel) it's an annual event, happens on the 8th of August and the event is called 'Dying to Know day' If you read our comments and watch more of our video you will see how we have helped many thousands of people and answered questions that others in the industry won't. So please be kind 🙏 we are certainly not disrespectful and take good care of yourself 🌹
What a nasty thing to say. It's not a hairdresser competition. And there is nothing wrong with anyone hair. If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all
I wish some old people's homes and yes hospital wards gave Thier elderly and especially confused patients the same respect. I've seen an elderly lady who her family told me was a real lady. In her youth she looked like Audrey Hepburn. Her family came each day talking to her about all the things she had done in her life while she lay silent. She had worked for the resistance in france during the war. Risked her life to save a downed airman ...yet every time they changed her on a MIXED WARD she was left naked on the bed while staff just came and went. It broke my heart. So I got out of my bed and covered her she smiled at me the sweetest smile. Yes Audrey Hepburn was still in there. When the nurse came back I said do you realise this lady was a war heroine and raised a family while working for charity ... She's earned dignity. And care.
Oh that's so awful. I am with you it makes me so mad when staff treat the elderly like that, for goodness sake no one in their right mind would leave a person naked no matter what the age when these people have to rely on others to care for them.
What an absolute amazing story of that ladies life. I would have loved to be able to listen to her stories when she was able to chat about them, remarkable. Thank you for been so kind and caring in helping that lady 🙏 your an angel ❤️❤️
When I was in nursing school and doing a rotation in the hospital, we were in the surgery suite where a woman was about to have a vaginal hysterectomy. The room was full of not only us, but other students too. We were all new to this and were totally not expecting what was to happen. Of course, in order to perform that surgery, the patient is put in high stirrups with her legs spread as far as they would go. Not only could a room full of people see everything, there were other males who worked in surgery and they were going back and forth at the end of the table. I was practically in tears and felt like disappearing. I know that students have to learn, but as a woman, I felt violated. I'm glad that y'all at least don't expose a person's body.
Hi, must have been difficult if you felt so uncomfortable, but you are right students have to learn. We would never display a full exposed body. Thank you for sharing take care 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow It might have been too explicit, but it was unnerving to say the least. Thank you for being so respectful of the deceased!
🙏 thank you 💚
I had a colonscopy and 4 students in watching. I didn't mind though everyone has to learn. I'll pick my dignity up.on the way out 😂
Happens to men as well
I worked in and around the mortuary for 35 years. I was only a head porter but I insisted on decency and respect to all those I took there; they all belonged to someone. I passed on this to all who I taught. Whenever placing a body in the fridge, from the ward, I always said God Bless mate, or God Bless love! I've been retired 13 years now but I was told recently all the porters still say that! In the early years it was expected of us to assist the mortician at a Post Mortem, but this duty was removed when we were privatised.
What a lovely tradition to pass on. Thank you for your years of service 🙏
I used to know a lady who was a funeral director/embalmer and I asked her about this. She basically said the same thing; there is always a sense of respect for the deceased person and for that person’s family. She also said, “And remember we are all born naked and when we die we’ll probably be naked at some point (hospital, funeral home, etc.) and funeral people see everything and there is a great deal of compassion and respect.” I thought that was a wonderful point.
It certainly is a wonderful point. Thank you for sharing 🤗💚💚
The whole thing is respect. Just because someone is deceased doesn’t mean it has to be disrespectful. I love that you care about the deceased enough not to expose them. Thank you, Tracy!! You deserve flowers 💐 💐💐💐
I alway worried about this too. What an important video to make. Thanks ladies!
Hi Kristi, thank you for watching 🙏 take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow I don't worry to be naked in the mortuary after my death 🙂.
These ladies are very compassionate and kind.
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚💚
Thank you for addressing such a sensitive topic. I bet a lot of people worry about this. For me, it's about dealing with a funeral home that you trust.
Hi Teofane, yes it's important to find the correct home that your comfortable with. Word of mouth is a good way to find a good one. Take care 😊💚
@@AreyoudyingtoknowI don't mind being naked during my embalming I want to be embalmed by a female embalmer then a male embalmer can I request a female embalmer instead though.😊
I totally agree dignity has to be respectful for the families
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I know it's not the same but I am a support worker look after the elderly, I do exactly the same as you with towels when doing personal care or bath/ shower etc. also when resident passes sometimes we have to clean areas and the same happens again with towels covering our residents to protect their dignity. It so nice to know you do the same x
That's good to know Becks 🙏 you have a very special job, thank you for sharing 😙💚
That was something I thought about when I worked my first autopsy, I started at the MEs office before medical school and had never seen a naked person other than myself. We undressed the two people and for a second, I was like “oh, their naked”, then totally forgot about it. It’s like the job itself, whether it’s in medicine or mortuary sciences, you get used to a lot of the unpleasantries of the job. Loved the video, Ladies. 😊🖤
Hi Missy, you are so right, we just don't look and think about it. Just make sure we take good care as we work. Thank you 🌹 take good care lovely 💚💚
Thank you for your very informative video. I enjoy your dry sense of humour...turn your head...that was great. This is something that I have never worried about because I think that embalmers have probably seen everything on the table. Since my body is not sensational, I would think this is not a problem. Also, an embalmer is a professional - performing a service for the client. I know when I get a massage, I am never naked on the table. When I am examined by the doctor, I am never naked on the table. So, I would suggest that 99.99% of embalmers are the same. I did not say 100% because there is always somebody in every crowd!
Hi, thank you 😊
We would all like to think we all work with care respect and dignity 🤞 take care 💚💚
Hi ladies xx Thanks for the video this week and thanks for giving advice trish regarding making our wishes known as I will be requesting that myself for my care when the time comes 😊 see you both soon xx
Your welcome Lorraine 😁 any time 😘💚
Love the respect demonstrated in all your videos. It’s plain to see you both truly care for the people that find their way to you.
Aww thanks Sally for your beautiful comment and thank you for watching x 🤩💚
Great video! I'm loving watching through all of your content. You two and Caitlin Doughty are my faves!
Hi Lady A, thank you so much 🥰 and look at you putting us next to Caitlin🌹 she is a superstar 🌻 have a wonderful day and take care 😊💚
oh yes they are my faves after Caitlin
Hi Leigh, Thank you for your kind words 🙏 take good care 😊💚
Totally agree the same 3 fab women for me to.😊
Thanks for this it's really interesting. I think it's important that the person who's passed is handled with care and respect. The lady for everything 😊
Hi, totally agree. Care, respect & dignity 💚💚
Thank you so much. This has been a fear for years. So glad I won't be exposed to the world
Your welcome Donna 💚
I hope everything went splendid last week. Have a healing, healthy blessed week.
Hi Tonis, 😜 never give it a thought that Kal was naked behind me 😳 oops 🙈
Thank you so much all went well and I qualified 😁😁 take care 😊💚
I’ve seen several tv shows that show naked bodies at the ME’s exams. I find the idea of lying naked on the table very unsettling. Especially if your local mortician is a personal friend.
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When we went as a family group to a relatives viewing the mortician did that flat straight back hairstyle. After the viewing one of us told the arranger the way she wore her hair which hadn’t been discussed before. She said something like oh, okay. My apologies. Of course I’ll get it changed for her today. They were really nice about it.
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Great question....good to know! ❤Thank you ladies.
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Interesting Question from Angela. Informative answers from Tracy. When we die certain procedures have to be performed some more invasive (like an autopsy) than others. Everything is done by professionals with the object of doing their best for the individual they are caring for and the grieving family.
Trish's suggestion of leaving instructions in the will is worth considering.
Tracy naked in the Mortuary😮? I can picture her , Kal and little betty in swim suits and wraps in loungers drinking chilled white wine with the fridge door open while everyone outside is melting in the Australian Summer Sun 😊.
If I have any hair left when I hit the mortuary table my instruction would be "just do your best!"
I remember going into the barbers in the late 70's and asking for a haircut like Mick Jagger. He gave me a buzz cut.
Furious I screamed "You idiot Mick Jagger's hair doesn't look like this!"
He replied with a smile "No? Well it would do if he came here. That'll be 75 pence..oh and anything for the weekend sir😉?
Tracy's claim "I can usually tell where the hair falls after I've washed it how the hair should be." Good luck with me mine ends up falling on the floor!
Another classic video thanks ladies!
Oh Steve 😂😂😂😂 you are so funny 😁 thanks for making us smile 😘💚💚
God Bless You for this information, it’s great to hear that there is dignity and respect in the patients final time of need!!!
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@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you, the world could use more love, hope and great people as you are!!!
Yes we agree, it costs nothing to be kind caring and considerate to others. Have a wonderful weekend 🤗😍
Exactly what I was thinking ; you're dead , you won't know . Here in Kentucky the funeral home usually has a beautician come do the hair . Getting to be fewer that will do it ; the younger one's aren't keen on doing hair in the funeral home.
Thanks Francis for your comment - I would think it would be a good training ground for the youngsters to practice on the deceased - still, I guess it's not what they sign up for when they go to hairdresser or beauty school, so can probably understand why they might decline :)
Hi trish hi tracey hi kal, hope your all well :) 2 great questions, very interesting, i wouldnt want to be left naked, id probably scare the mortician 😂😂 but no, modesty is important
Take care ladies (still wearing my facemask by the way) :) xx
Nither would we, but we are all the same really. Yeah that's great news that you still wear the face mask 💚💚 take good care Lisa 😘💚
Hello ladies! When I read the title, I thought that we were going to be talking about a weird mortician fetish. 🤣 If I were to go the embalming route, being a guy, I don't think it would bother me. But, I will be cremated, so it shouldn't matter. It reminded me of a fascinating video I watched about preparing the body for a Muslim funeral where modesty is paramount. The mortician goes so far as to wrap their hand in a towel so they cannot feel the genitals when washing. Interestingly, they believe the body can still feel, so don't do anything the deceased would find painful or uncomfortable. The beginning of the video title is Ghusal and Shroudung Workshop with Brother...and then his name. It's over an hour long, but thought you might find it interesting. Take care beautiful ladies!
Hi David, lovely to hear from you 🤗 ok we will have a look at that, definitely different to the normal preps. Different cultures have lots of different traditions. Hope you and your family are well, take care 😊💚
I have watched a video about cremations, which I'm planning on also, but they said that they bathe the bodies before the procedure. I don't know why. I guess it's just a respect thing.
Ladies, I have no concerns but one, about my passing. I know 'modesty cloths' are standard practice, but I still fear that my local FD may choose, or otherwise, to 'forget' to the deceased's dignity....I understand that anything that happens 'down below' is very embarrassing, especially when the deceased can do nothing about it...I hope the 5 gents in my local funeral home are as professional and ethical! 🥰🥰👍👍
Hi Gaggy, when you have been doing the job for so long, you actually just do this without thinking. You just do it so much that you automatically just cover up the body instantly. I would like to think those gentleman would do this automatic also. Take good care 😚💚
There is a picture of a woman jumper from the 911 attacks. She was photographed head down and holding her skirt down. That picture always gets to me.
Hi Frank, Tracy here, sends a shiver down my spine hearing that 😔 I just can bring myself to look at those photos 😔 Take care 💚
That is just heartbreaking! God bless all of those precious souls.
I cant say being naked after death has crossed my mind
but what HAS crossed my mind is some of the pervs out there
that have sex with the dead body That creeps me out ALOT!
Great video as always ladies! Thank u! 😘💙
Hi Kim, we hear you 🤬 just hope it's extremely rare 🤞
Take good care and thank you 😙💚
That British electrician who worked at hospitals and had sex with corpses.
The will is usually read after the person's body has been taken away and dealt with by the Mortuary.
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Just as I thought you protect dignity in death xxx as carers do in life xxx
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Going to the doctor when you are alive often requires disrobing. I don't think I'll care much after I'm dead. People sometimes pee or poo when they die, and that has to be cleaned up.
I’m thinking that if I’m dead on the mortician’s table, or having a post-mortem then my body being ‘naked’ is really less than important. I’ll know nothing about it, none of my family or friends will see me like that and it would be a bit late to matter if they did.
My body has nothing unusual about it, nothing that 99% of the general public won’t have seen many times over their own lives. Yes, I’d expect anyone’s body to be treated respectfully, eg not played games with it or other silliness, not for remarking on in a pejorative manner, or to be photographed unless necessary for some legal procedure, etc. A professional worker dealing with bodies will have standards that are expected to be maintained at all times, and I’d have faith in that expectation as I would in any other professional offering services to the public. Of course, there are occasionally people who abuse or misuse their standing, but generally so few that it’s not worth worrying about.
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Hello Tracy and Trish. This is Angela again I had a question couple actually if a person has severe acne is there anything special that you can do to make them look better before you apply makeup and my second question is my brother-in-law has cancer and after chemo he lost every hair that he had from head to toe I understand that you can put a wig on someone but do you do anything about their eyebrows? I love your shirts as soon as I can get one I would love to have there's nothing like that in the little town that I live in. LOL. thank you girls I always enjoy watching you.
Hi Angela, lovely to hear from you. Think we will answer these questions on video in the coming weeks 🙂
We are so sorry to hear about your brother sending lots of positive vibes and get well wishes his way 🙏💚
The t-shirt and masks are cool we need to re stock soon too ☺️
You take care & have a wonderful weekend 😊💚💚
Hi guys thinking about when you said you could colour hair on the prep table, does the colour take to the deceased hair as it would a living person? Or is there a special colour kit you would use 🤔 hope you are both well and have a lovely day. Lot's of love from Nancy in Scotland x ❤
Hi Nancy, lovely to hear from you. It's just a regular colour from the chemist. It will not cover as good as it does on the living but it works ok. A great product I use in the mortuary is coloured hair mascara it works a treat 😊 take good care out in Bonnie Scotland 😍💚💚
I do understand this there is a channel on RUclips about a young lady went to Mexico for a tummy tuck about 8 weeks after giving birth to her second child. Sadly she passed away and when the family got her body back to theUS they had an autopsy done. She died on the operating table do to an allergic reaction to a medication. The really worst of the whole ordeal for her family was the fact that dna from 3 males was found inside her body. That must have happened after she passed away.
Oh my goodness that's so awful 😞 turns our stomachs to hear this. Have no words 😢
Very informative video as always ladies. Tracy how do you feel your assessments went? When do you know the results? I'm sure you aced it 👍
Hi Kim, thank you, I qualified 🎓🤓📚💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow fantastic, I saw on the community page and left a comment, hi to Trish also you are a great duo on this channel
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Trish, aside from your tattoos, you are a true beauty. Bet I could learn to ignore them. To each their own. Cheers!
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Question:
Can a body’s skin stick to the table inside the cooling unit, especially if the body is kept very cold/frozen ?
Hi Pete, this is a good question to answer on the channel. We have a few films done for the next few weeks so will get to this as soon as possible 😁 thank you again, take care 😊💚
That is what I was worried about
Hi David, don't worry about it, we are all trained to be very respectful and it becomes the normal, as soon as you uncover you cover instantly again without think of it. Take care 😊💚
When my clients pass and I give them a wash and make them presentable for family, I don't treat them any differently to when they were alive and I would give them a bed bath
Hello Hope, that is lovely to hear, care and respect all the way to the end 🙏 thank you for the job you do, take care 😊💚
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I'm more worried about being viewed without eye makeup and lipstick or with weird makeup. My humble little mother never wore makeup and when my siblings saw her deceased with bright red lipstick and rouge in her coffin our mouths dropped. Our religion believes that the persons spirit stays with the body until it's buried or cremated so we were sure she was either laughing or horrified.
Oh, bless. Just make sure everyone knows your wishes and you'll be sweet. 💙Thanks for your comment xx
What I hate is that people got more respect for a dead body than a person alive.Theyll burn you alive of hatred but caressing a dead body.Am I the only one who noticed?
This is only an issue for the living, I promise that the deceased don't have a clue and could care less whether they're covered or not. The only thing we should be worried about now is if soul is right with God.
I care very much that the body is covered.
You may have already answered this question , I'm curious how did you make the jump from hairdressing to mortician . Loving the videos Ladies.🤗
Hi Mechelle, we have answered that in a few videos. It's a long story 🙃
I had to leave hairdresser due to developing server dermatitis, then worked at the NHS National Blood Services as a phlebotomist taken the blood donation (actually helping in saving lives) in the first 2 weeks of working for the NHS BS my mum was killed 😞 this changed my life forever and our family was not able to view her as we were told her injuries are to traumatic to see and the mortician could not do anything to help 😞 unable to view my mum effected me badly and I was not able to get closure from here death. This triggered an interest that I had had for many years and used to talk to my mum about working in a mortuary. In the meantime I had
moved to Australia from the UK got a job in pathology collection (taken blood sample & other pathology samples) did this for a while. Then became a medical rep for a few years travelling around Australia, during this time I applied for jobs in the funeral industry to just get my foot in the door to work towards becoming a mortician/embalmer. This happened I went on to specialise in reconstruction from traumatic injuries to help families to view they loved ones if at all possible. If I can help one family get closure from a traumatic death then that helps me with the loss of my mum. Thanks for your question take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thankyou so much for getting back to me and sharing your story ,you are amazing turning such trauma into a positive force to help others .Blessings to both you ladies and your loved ones .🥰
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hi ladies interesting video im guessing once iv passed i be being fully unclothed as im going to be embalmed ??must be maybe harder to unclothe an guy like me who's over 7ft tall ??
Hi Michael, we hope you are doing ok. No not hard doesn't really matter how tall you are but we do use modesty clothes so you are never totally uncovered. All about care, respect and dignity 💚
hi ladies many thanks for kind reply hope your both keeping well
We are thank you 💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow hi ladies hope your wll just wishing to know as d has said he may have m body autopsied after iv passed to find out y so much fluid is building inside my lungs and body cavities may i ask would this effect embalming my body and the fact of being viewed after death ?
Good Day beautiful ladies. Have a wonderful week.
Hi George 😚 you too stay safe 💚💚
For the person concerned NOW about being exposed in the morgue, you won't be when you get there. Folks who work with people in such personal jobs try their best to maintain the dignity of the people they care for.
Thank you so much for your comments 🙏 we do as you say, always respect the dignity of the deceased person.
Thank you again and have a wonderful weekend ❤️❤️
Hi Tracy and Trish, regarding dressing and modesty, my husband has many metal piercings some in embarrassing places and I have one in my cheek which is implanted, would you need to research the removal of these if its a cremation or are you already knowledgeable about how to remove the piercing ? Thanks lady's love your videos as always 😍 xx
Hi Lauraine, Think this is a great one to answer on the channel 😊 in the coming weeks. Thank you for your kind words and support 😚💚
Hi Lauraine, just had a thought, since we are doing a video on this in the next week or two, any chance you could please send us a few pics via email of yours or your husband's piercings just to illustrate what we are talking about? You could send to areyoudyingtoknow@gmail.com
Doesn't have to be pics of the (erm) hidden ones... :) Thanks!
Is it true that bodies are bathed before cremation?
Hi Linda, yes we was and dress the deasesed person. Always with care, respect and dignity 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thanks so much.
I understand people’s concerns but it doesn’t seem anywhere nearly as invasive as hospitals & surgeries and what women go through when giving birth. 🤷🏼♀️
Hi, yes we understand what you are saying but in situations like you say every care is taken to look after the patient and personal areas need access to for what ever reason, childbirth ect. However in a mortuary setting there is no reason to leave a deceased body expose and remember the deceased have no voice to protect themselves, that's up to us as morticians/embalmers to take on the role of been dignified and respectful. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
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I have a question, is there any parts of your job where sometimes it makes you nervous or hesitant about doing
Hi, not really. Some days can more traumatic than others but it doesn't stop me helping these poor people. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
I have a question .. I heard that when someone is to long for the coffin that the persons legs are broken to fit the coffin my question is ( Is that True ??)
It's a common myth but I would never, ever in a million years do that, ever. I have never met a mortician that would. Thanks for asking, we have an upcoming vid that touches on this.💜
Will hair colour still work on deceases person ? Cuticle will be dead ?
Hi Prince, everyone hair is dead as soon as it leaves our roots. Colour does work on the deseased just not as good as when we are alive. Thanks again take care 😊💚
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My Aunty is going to donate her body to science, will you still prep her body ? How does this work ?
Hi Prince, here in Australia, if you donate your body to science, we here at a funeral home would not do any prep on the body, that is all done at the donation place. Take care 😊💚
I like to think this is true but how do me know they all take care to do this if nobody’s there. I felt helpless giving my mother up
Hi Wilbyos, I know it is very difficult for some to give they loved one to a complete stranger and I do hope your mum was taken care of in a kind respectful way. We are all taught in the mortuary to be respectful, caring and dignified with a deceased person and I think most of us are. It's an honour and privilege to be give the care of someone loved one. I know it's a bit late with your mother 😔 but you can ask to help in the dressing of a loved one in the future, please don't be afraid to ask these questions in a funeral home it's your loved one.
We both send you or best please take care 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thanks 🙏 you guys are great and thanks I did all that even did her hair and makeup 💄 just I did worry about her dignity. I do hope they did follow the rules as we have had a great scandal here in the Uk 🇬🇧 xxxx take care
Thank you for letting us know that you did take of your mum 🙏💚that is so special 💚
Unfortunately we do hear horror story now and I think I know the story your talking about it's so bloody awful make me so mad😡. But we have to remember that the very few bad eggs give us all a bad name and reputation however I do think it is only a handful that do the wrong things, You take good care hugs from us 🤗💚
At 2.49 when u are doing to the body. The toes moved so is it staged and not dead body ???
Hi, well spotted she is well and truly alive, our friend is kind enough to be a model for us. It does also say on the screen at that moment "live model" maybe you missed it when her toes moved 😉 thank you for your question take care 😊💚
@Are you dying to know? lol I did miss the caption. Lol. Scared me for a second.
Sorry about that 😬
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I am shocked Tracy is so pretty being a Mortician :o
Thank you so much for your lovely comment 💚
I don't look like your typical mortician/Embalmer 😉 people are always surprised when finding out what my occupation is. Thank you again 🙏 take good care 💚
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How do you go from hairdresser to mortician?
Hi Elizabeth, It's a long story 😉 I will try and condense it. I had to leave hairdresser due to server dermatitis. I ended up working for the NHS National Blood Services (in the UK) taking units of blood (ironically saving lives).
My mum was killed and her injuries were so horrific that our family were not allowed to ID her or ever see her again 😔 it was the most traumatic time in my life and for my dad and sisters. This change me forever ( you will know that from the loss of your daughter 😔) I did not cope well with this loss and struggled with it for many years.
I was always interested in mortuary work (long before I lost my mum)
I came to Australia and started to look for work in the funeral industry, eventually got in. I specialised in reconstruction so I could help families view their loved ones that die in traumatic circumstances (like my mum) because I know how hard it is to never see you loved one that has been taken away suddenly and unexpectedly. This then helped me in dealing with my own grief. Sorry I went on a bit.
So that's why I am were I am today 😊 thanks for your question, hope you are ok 💚💚
Im so so sorry I asked you that now
I'm so very sorry that happened 😢
Just saw Naomi Judd lost her life to suicide. That's how my little girl went 2 days after her birthday.
You might not know her, but she is a huge country singer here in the USA.
I'm originally from N.Ireland, loved her music when I came to the states.
She struggled with mental illness like myself and my daughter.
The suicide rates here are a major pandemic, worse than covid 😪
Don't be sorry, I can talk about it easier now than in the beginning. Time does help in healing a little but it takes a long time, you never get over the loss you learn to adjust your life to cope with it.
That's very sad about Naomi Judd 😔 unfortunately suicide is very high everywhere it's just not reported that much in daily news. I can look after a few suicides a week and that's just in 1 mortuary out of hundreds across the country.
I am certainly no expert in this area at all but I do hope you seek out help in your times of need and have a support next work around you 🤞 just know you and your life are as important as another person, we all matter, big hugs and take really good care 💚💚
Can they make sure my organs stay even thou I'm getting cremated because it's our custom😮
We are interested to know if this is a religious custom or cultural? We haven't encountered this but we are sure there would be a way if it was important to you.
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What worries me is the aspiration you do to stop any leaking. I really, really hate the thought of that being done to me (or my mother for that matter). It's much worse than being nude on a table. I'd rather be cremated at once without all that.
Hi, here in Australia we don't embalm everyone, only when requested by family, cultural reasons, buried in an above ground vault and flown overseas. Aspiration is part on embalming so in our natural preps washing and dressing is mostly all you need. If you don't want to be embalmed after death then I suggest having something written by you to inform the funeral home of no kind of prep to happen or do a pre-arranged funeral plan. I have lots of deseased come into my care and instructions are for the body not to be touched, I always honour theses wishes. Please don't worry like I say it's not a thing that happens to everyone. Take good care 💚💚
I worked at a funeral home for years
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Did anyone catch the toe wiggle at 2:48?
Everyone did, it does say on the screen we are using a live model ☺️
What is that smell on the bodies its very strong? Plz
Hi, bodies general smell ok. But lots of factors come into play for different smells such as decomposition, what the person died from, trauma the list goes on. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
What about carls dignity?
He's always well cared for 😊💚
Angela will have stopped worrying by the time she goes in there
Well, yes. Very true 👍
Do you mean a hairdressing term called bangers?
I haven't heard that term before but yes it possible is the same, as sausage are referred to as bangers 😊 thank you for your comments take care 💚💚
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The body's big toe moved @ 2;51 !😊
Hi, we used a live model sometimes and it tells you on the screen also that the model is alive, thanks for your comments take care 😊💚
They don’t really want to see that.
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How is Angela going to know? I would think that it would just be another day in the office, for a mortician, not like you're going to point and laugh
For the mortician, yes, it's just another day, but there are many people out there that feel the same as Angela, so we do what we can to ease their anxiety. ❤️Thanks for watching x
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You might want to check the girl you’re working on she just was moving her left foot around 😂😂
😊 that will be our live model, we state that she is live on the screen. Have a good day 😊
Come on people..... the person is dead. This earthly life is gone. The body is only a shell of what was. The spirit lives on. I doubt what's left behind matters.
Very true, but everyone has their own options 🙏but regardless, someone has to deal with what is left behind.💚
Kind of concerned why a 15 year old is asking these questions
Young minds are always learning ❤️
Tellings don't get me no where, iexpect to see the natural body
👍we won't show anyone without permission so you had better check out some other channels.
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When I'm dead you can laugh at me all you like. I won't care.
Oh dear no one is going to laugh at you. Take care ❤️
Interesting video but the name of the channel is a bit disrespectful no one is really dying to know and it's no laughing matter to joke around with death or words related to death
We never joke or make fun of death or dying.
There is a whole day that's dedicated to talking about death and dying (like this channel) it's an annual event, happens on the 8th of August and the event is called 'Dying to Know day'
If you read our comments and watch more of our video you will see how we have helped many thousands of people and answered questions that others in the industry won't. So please be kind 🙏 we are certainly not disrespectful and take good care of yourself 🌹
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Have you looked after whos trans ?
Hi Prince, I have taken care of many transgender people. Take care 😊💚
I find it ridiculous to have to cover each part as you go. They are NOT there and their families are not in that room
It's called respect of that person, it certainly how I would want any of my family treat. Thank you for your comments take care.
Im guessing you don’t do this job and if you do you should look for another job as you seem to lack empathy!
Being a hairdresser her hair in the video is aweful!!
What a nasty thing to say. It's not a hairdresser competition. And there is nothing wrong with anyone hair. If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all
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You've got to be kidding???? If you are modest, i would suggest you would be beyond caring at that point. LOL
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You are dead - Why would you care???
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