Not at all creepy. We are all going to die and to be treated with respect and dignity during that time is so amazing as I’m sure, unfortunately this compassion isn’t gifted to each of us at all. From what I know it’s just a business to make money. The deceased are just a product. A lady at work recently had her Dad pass, when she spoke her face lit up as the doctor kept talking to him even though he’d passed. It’s respectful and my colleague was so grateful of those memories. Let’s all try to judge less and be kind 🌻🌸🌻
My father died this yr and the way the funeral directors spoke about him “being in our care now” was so gentle and comforting. I have nothing but awe and respect for these people. Amazing. He told me “don’t worry, he’s just around the corner, we’ll keep him here until it’s time for the funeral” as if they were taking care of my living breathing dad. It changed everything for me.
This lady oozes care and empathy and she speaks with compassion and kindness that must bring comfort to the family’s that have lost love ones. Remarkable lady.
I like her a lot, it feels like the interviewer is trying to get her to talk about all the ‘gory’ details eg smells, decomposition, horror stories, but she is so respectful and compassionate about the people under her care.
It isn’t so salacious. Those “gory” details are just the job and what is relevant to such a field. It’s simply the areas of the job that make most people shy away from it, which makes the questions feel far more salacious than they truly are. It’s a dark career. We’re hardwired to be uncomfortable with death. The only reason those topics are considered “gory” details is because of how taboo death is. As she said in the interview, “Death is the topic everyone wants to know but no one wants to talk about”. The purpose of these interviews is having one person (the interviewer) who has the courage to ask the questions people want to know, so the one person who is knowledgeable on the topic can provide that knowledge for everyone else. Those questions on their own aren’t really gory or inappropriate, but they could certainly be answered in a gory or inappropriate way. I didn’t get the impression that the interviewer was pushing for more inappropriate or gory answers than what the interviewee provided. I agree that the interviewee did an excellent job treating the topic with compassion and care.
Just what I was thinking. She’s so straightforward, matter of fact and undramatic while showing the utmost respect and understanding. Awesome lady, doing a job not everyone could cope with and doing it with such grace ❤️🙏🏼
those gory details won’t be seen often by morticians who work in a single funeral home, if you want details on that you’d need a freelance/trade enbalmer
I agree, I've noticed that with a few of the Minutes With videos. The interviewers try to get people to tell gross clickbait-worthy stories about their job, but the interviewees refuse to put down the people in their care. Mad respect to these guys
I don’t know who did the make up on my mother in law. When we went for the viewing it was a bit of a shock. She looked like Barbara Cartland and draped over the top half of the coffin was a net. Like a net curtain the coffin was balanced on two trestles. My father in law had dementia and he pulled of the net to be confronted by this lady. She didn’t look like her he started to slap her face trying to wake her up. My hubby and sister in law really couldn’t cope with this. The coffin was rocking on the trestles it was a nightmare. They left me as I worked within care for years. Death wasn’t as much of a loss for me. I managed to get him outside he was furious it took all my skills to calm him down. When I tried telling my colleagues how bad it was, I couldn’t stop laughing it sounded so over the top. The worst scenario ever but really funny. Now my husband and sister in law find it funny as well.
I done my sister’s hair and make up when she passed away last year .Talked to her as I was doing it and felt privileged that it was the last thing I could do for her .
I did too for my Granda, he just passed last month. He always took pride in his hair, it was naturally really curly and he’d never let anyone cut it for him, always did it himself. He was well known locally for his hair. For some reason I felt really reluctant to see him in his coffin, something that’s never bothered me before, but when I finally did see him I was like 🙈 what did they do to your hair?! It was poker straight all combed back off his face. So I got some curlers, hairspray, done a bit of back combing lol. Had a good chat with him while I got him back looking like himself again. It actually really helped me cope with seeing him like that and I know he’d appreciate it. I can imagine exactly how he’d have reacted if he could’ve seen his hair the way it was before 🤭
When I was very ill, the nurses spoke to me constantly telling me what they were going to do, then telling me what they were doing, then telling me what they'd done ; it made everything less fearful. Talking that way to someone in your care is compassion.
This lady is EXACTLY the woman i would want looking after my mom or grandma for their final viewing. You are a true gem and there should be wayyyyy more people in the profession just like you. ❤
A funeral director deals with people on some of the worst day's of their lives. It takes a great deal of empathy, sensitivity and understanding to do it well. This lady has all of those in spades. She's a delight.
@@deanwitt7903dude stop being fucking condescending and nasty about this shit. I understand that the process of a death and the funeral after is difficult and the expenses are horrible but don't hold onto resentment for people who also did not choose to live in a world controlled by money.
@deanwitt7903 Working in the funeral industry looking after deceased bodies, with utmost respect and bereaved family members requires good /exceptional inter relationships people's skills compassion and emotionally itteligence, Not everyone possess these kinds of skills in life believe me, Of course they the funeral services need to be paid just like any other vocational skills career jobs, It's not materialistic, it's just a fact of life in the kind of world we live in, What do you expect of them, to live on fresh air and foraging for mushrooms 🍄 in the forest for free somewhere or something 😂 Be real for heavens sake !
I was 21 when a close friend aged 23 died of cancer. Besides the obvious devastation, viewing the open coffin and seeing his hair not done they way he always had it was very upsetting. I was glad to hear her say that it is important to have the person look as when they were alive and that is her goal.
As someone who’s mother died when I was rather young I wish I had known that I could have brought a photograph and her regular makeup to the funeral home. It’s something that you don’t think about. My mother had cancer and she was just skin and bones but it was the pink lipstick that helped my father and I decide to have a closed casket. She never wore pink in her life.
@@butterbeanqueen8148My mother died of cancer too almost 2 years ago now and she was also skin and bones. I decided to have an open casket; they didn’t put too much makeup on her (if any at all actually), apart from her favourite wig on her head. I often wonder if I made the right decision having an open casket, but my theory was I wanted to afford her friends the opportunity to say goodbye to her. I’m still wondering if I made the decision. I don’t know.
It’s a privilege to look after the ones that have passed. As a nurse I have held many hands when patients pass and have the privilege of washing them and wrapping them ready for the morgue, I was lucky enough to do my Nana too.
@@sophieandwayne Registered Nurse (UK) for over 20 years here - That's how I was taught and how I teach all my students, it's the last thing we can do for someone in our care.
What a courageous and kind woman. One could only hope that someone so caring and thoughtful would be the last to dress us and to make us appear like we were when alive.
I managed funeral homes for a time and I did hair and sometimes cosmetics. I played music from their time and talked to them like they were my own family. God bless this lady. 🩷
My beautiful father passed in 2014 after a long stay in hospital. The mortician that cared for him was the kindest soul I have ever and will ever meet. She was so thoughtful and respectful. I remember looking at my father and saying he looked better than I had seen him look in months. She did his goatee and haircut perfectly and sprayed him in his cologne. These people are the angels amongst us and should be so respected for the work they do ♥️
So sorry for your loss , my dad passed in 2014 too April 11th… im so moved to know your dear dad was so respected and cared for at such a sad time for you 🦋
My Granny died in October in Ireland and the undertaker and the people involved were amazing. As a family we were so grateful for the respect and time and patience they gave us with her. I don't think she could have got a better send off. These people do such an important job. Thank you for sharing your story Debbie.
I was on the ground crew at a large cemetery over in Seattle, and I was impressed and comforted by how much care they put into the whole process. We were crude guys for the most part, and we were so mean to each other, in the name of fun, but no one EVER talked shit about the dead or their families. It just wasn't done. Every person I knew and worked with was meticulous about how they took care of the dead and their families and friends. I was deeply moved by this wide range of people, all doing a part of the process and all with differing styles and behaviors, but every one of them determined to do their very best, in the most respectful way they could.
My Nan died in 2018 and we used cribbs in Beckton. I do wonder if this lady worked on my Nan. If she did, I would be glad she had such a lovely lady helping her transition to the other side 😢❤
My aunty has the same job. She prepared my father for his funeral, and prepared her own father for his funeral. She said when she did her own dad that the entire time it was just like any other person and she never felt overwhelmed until the day of the funeral when she saw him in the open casket. true professional.
I graduated from cosmetology school the week before my grandma died. I’m forever kicking myself for not cutting her hair when she was still in the hospital. She was so excited for me to be able to do that for her. I’m getting emotional as I type this. I’ll be forever grateful for the day she came to visit me while I was in school. I’m so grateful that my instructors let me abandon my lessons for the day so I could sit with her. Even when she was dying, she was able to remember me and tell me that she was so proud of me. I miss her so much. RIP, Grammy. I hope you’re in a better place now. ❤
I officially graduate this May and began my morgue internship. I am so so so excited to be a part of this industry. Debbie did a wonderful job, and provided such great insight, and I felt nothing but peace and serenity while watching her speak. She naturally has a very calming aura and I look forward to helping many families during their moments of grief. ❤
Licensed Esthetician/makeup artist here! I very much look up to this woman, and the others that do this. I did a brides makeup today, which I thought was stressful. God bless her, and all that have passed. 🙏🙏🙏
There are certain people in this world who are truly wonderful for what they do...The Emergency People...and people like this lady...Lovely human being.
What a wonderful lady, hearing that people who have passed have been in such loving hands is very comforting. Nothing but respect for this lady, and all the others like her who help our loved ones look how they usually would when they pass on :)
Absolute diamond of a lady. A great heart. A convo I've had a few times with my friend about someone doing our make-up. I've said I'll do hers, and she'll do mine depending who goes first 😂
This is one of those jobs that makes me believe in humanity still. The compassion and care she shows to those who are deceased is fantastic. What she does really helps the relatives process what happened and grieve for their loved one.
Thank you for being so dignified. This brings me comfort in the way my mum will be treated by people like yourself. Thank you. My mum is currently on end of life palliative care 😭💔
I appreciate it thanks people. My mum was young she passed this evening with all her family bothers and sister mum n dad sons an daughter all around her. All her children was holding her when she passed it was beautiful. It brings me great comfort in the way she has passed. I have just watched this vid again and asked my sister to watch it and help her understand mum will be treated with dignity
This woman is incredible. It takes a loving soul to tend to the deceased and their families the way she does. And to take on caring for those closest to her while grieving their loss at the same time. ❤️ And I love that dress 👏🏼
I worked as a Funeral Arranger, my training was very comprehensive. I've dressed, made up, trimmed hair, whatever was required for the deceased in my care. It's an absolute honour to be able to do this for families loved ones. And I, too, would talk to them and tell them what I was doing all the way through my care of them. You're dealing with families in the most raw stage of their grief, I'm proud and honoured to have worked with the families I have. And to make the last image of loved ones as easy as I could. ❤
What a wonderful lady, the interviewer let it down with the style of questioning and this lady kept it on the right track and where it should be. I'm glad i watched it and listened to her story, fantastic positive person. We need more of her on this planet.
This woman clearly takes great pride in her work & clearly treats these dead bodies with the utmost care, respect & compassion. I mean it's quite a difficult job to do but she makes it sound like it's easy. Good on her for enjoying what she does. Not many women would do such a job
I lost both grandparents in the same week two. They were on different sides of the family. Miss them very much. Amazing person you are. We all must go at some stage but also to be who we are when we leave. Thank you. 😇
I think this lady is amazing. Taking care of someone to make sure they look good shows just how caring she is. Not only that. The fact that she speaks to them is touching. I would love to have her whenever i die.
This lady has such an enormous and loving heart! She is truly a blessing to the families of the deceased. She is assisting the angels through her work! God bless you Madam!❤❤❤
This beautiful lady puts so much love and care into what she does it’s like she treats them all as if they are family members of hers, this is the person we all want looking after our loved ones 🙏❤️
This woman is incredibly beautiful and has all the class in the world. She really takes pride in her job, this is the type of person you would want to take care of your loved one.
The bit about the medium and Rose saying thank you really stopped me in my tracks. I get such a sense of honesty from this woman- so this gives me hope. As much of a realist as I am, I always look for glimmers that there’s something else after all this. ❤
So much respect for this lady. My mom died due to complications from ovarian cancer. Eventually her organs didn’t receive any blood/oxygen anymore so eventually it lead to her lungs turning blue and her suffocating in my arms. I did everything i could during her dying; holding her, talking to her, telling it was okay to let go. After that I washed her, put on the clothes she wanted and did her make-up one last time. For one part it was completely heartbreaking and on the other hand it was loving and I'm thankful my hands were the last hands that took care of her and held her. Hope your dancing with the angels now, Mom ⭐️❤
For me, my situation is bad. I’m gonna turn 19 this month. My life is a mess. I don’t know what to do. I feel lost and alone. I don’t know where I’m headed. I got no future so it’s better to end it.
@Nightwing-xs2xl I'm so sorry to hear that. Nobody should have to go through that. Know that you're worthy, beautiful and you have a special place in this world. Please take care of yourself. It might be a good idea to seek help because you deserve help. We all need some help during our lives. I hope the sun will start shining soon and your days will get better. 🍀
This lady is an angel!! God love and bless her! This is her calling, and she is focused on helping the family, and I’m sure if the decedent could tell her, they would thank you for doing what she does for the family.
As a nurse I speak to the deceased as I care for them. It is a humbling, solemn, and intimate act to wash, shroud, and bag a body. Providing post mortem care is a privilege, and I do everything I can to protect the dignity of the dead and treat them with the same care and compassion that I would if they were still living.
I agree. It was hospital policy to send a person down in just a shroud but I always put a clean gown on them as well and never regretted giving them that last little piece of dignity.
We need to stop being freaked out by death and dying , it's a normal part of life. Only a few hundred years ago we used to deal with our own dead at home, and some families still practice this, which I find beautiful 🕊️
In my country we do it at home, well they will usually get picked up and embalmed and then come back home in the coffin and we have a open casket and sit and sleep around the coffin for 3 days and then its the final day. Putting the lid on is the hardest part!
It takes such a special person to be able to do this work. Thank you for having the strength, courage and heart to do the work and help people say goodbye to their loved ones. ♥️
I just want to give her a hug. She’s so lovely, and I’d absolutely trust her with any of my loved ones who has passed on. I hope she realises the difference that she makes and the comfort she brings to the families, not just with her work, but with who she is as a person. She’s definitely one of those lovely people that are rare to find 🥺
Bless you Debbie. There are certainly loads of blessings and gratitude sent your way both by the living and those who have passed. You impact more lives than you know. What a special and beautiful soul you are. ❤
This is an absolute dedication to all of us once we have passed. The level of care that happens after someone has passed is very impressive. As a college lecturer I trained a young lady who acquired a very good qualification completely unrelated to being a funeral director. She wanted to go straight into the family business . These are very special professionals & we are fortunate to have people like them.
We all need a Debbie…. We all belong to someone and in those moments, when we can’t be there for our darlings, Debbie is that someone … a truly beautiful lady and surrounded by love ❤️ xx
@@cje3247 why the hostility? You can educate without being so hostile…, you took a comment made from a place of love and made it hostile. In life, or death we all need someone with compassion and love, Debbie the nurse in the hospital, Debbie the paramedic, Debbie the shop keeper, Debbie, the person at the store… someone in a moment of personal distress that comforts and aids you…. I don’t mean we all need to be embalmed, please read my initial comment again but this time, through the lens of kindness, not offence…. I appreciate your comment for educating me to something I was not aware of, thank you. For the rest of my life, this will always be my first interaction with a Jewish person, I’m gutted 😞 xx
@@charlotte583please know, we ain’t all like that. You sound nice. I’m sorry this is your first impression! I’m Jewish, I thought your comment was kind.
My dad was a forensic Pathologist. He was devoted to his job.a lovely Lady who loves her job.❤ at school people used to think his job was weird .... but nowadays they are highly respected and rightly so.
As you said you work at Cribbs in Beckton you must have done my sister who died 31st March 2020, from Covid. May I thank you for the beautiful way you made her look. Having worked in the funeral business myself I know the good and the bad results - my sister looked just as though she was in a peaceful sleep with a slight smile, and an amazing natural colour. I cannot thank you enough. 🙏💞
I couldn't do it, im 53 and my father is housebound and we know its coming as hes been told it could be weeks it could be 18 months , i won't go see my Dad like i couldn't see my mum or my wife. On 15/98 i found my best mate and promised i would never physically see a dead loved 1 again. She looks and sounds caring my father had his own business and has always dressed immaculately hope he has someone so caring when it comes.
Me either. My parents want to be cremated I have enough of memories of them in my head for the rest of my life. I wouldn't want to see them dead. My dad is the same way he told my mom he won't go see me if I die. He said he couldn't handle it so my mom would have to ID me when I die. They talked bout it because I was on drugs and could have died any day
That's how I found my best friend he had overdosed drugs don't discriminate I went to private schools , my Dad 35 years later still says it was the biggest waste of money he spent my private education lol and college for 4 years and I've still been on and off drug's.
🥰🥰🥰🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 Thank you Debbie for taking such care. It reminds me of my mom. Her hair and makeup were fabulous but sadly I didn’t think to provide feedback to the mortician. Thank you too for talking to them. I know they are there with you. I watch a lot of NDE videos and believe more in the afterlife than ever. I’ve thought often that if I’m ever in a coma I hope that my family will have my favourite music playing for me as it calms me down! I worked as an ICU nurse and did talk to the patients as I bathed them, turned them, suctioned them etc. I encouraged families to talk with them and I found the families felt much less stressed. I wonder now if music would have helped the patients I cared for. Music heals and calms! God bless you for the care you provide!
What a wonderful and caring woman. We need to take the stigma out of death and discussing death and pieces like this are vital in that. Thank you LADBible for interviewing this woman.
When my mother was prepped for viewing, she looked very pretty & peaceful. She'd never worn more than lipstick, but the funeral home gave her just the lightest bit of shadow and facial makeup - it was quite lovely, and very, very tastefully done & natural looking.
What a beautiful soul Debbie is So much compassion and empathy for loved ones who have passed She would be the right person who could talk on a tv show to raise awareness about loved ones who have passed & what happens with the utter most respect ✨️ I really think this lady would help put so many peoples minds at ease ❤❤
When she said I speak to them and tell them I am going to do your hair and nails. I found that quite emotional. These people are angels.🙏
As a hairdresser I had the privilege of doing the hair and makeup of a deceased older woman once with my boss, and it felt like an honor!❤
Quite creepy
My aunt does this too, she said it makes her feel better talking to them, it’s very intimate and she feels better talking every thing out loud
Not at all creepy. We are all going to die and to be treated with respect and dignity during that time is so amazing as I’m sure, unfortunately this compassion isn’t gifted to each of us at all. From what I know it’s just a business to make money. The deceased are just a product.
A lady at work recently had her Dad pass, when she spoke her face lit up as the doctor kept talking to him even though he’d passed. It’s respectful and my colleague was so grateful of those memories. Let’s all try to judge less and be kind 🌻🌸🌻
My father died this yr and the way the funeral directors spoke about him “being in our care now” was so gentle and comforting. I have nothing but awe and respect for these people. Amazing. He told me “don’t worry, he’s just around the corner, we’ll keep him here until it’s time for the funeral” as if they were taking care of my living breathing dad. It changed everything for me.
This lady oozes care and empathy and she speaks with compassion and kindness that must bring comfort to the family’s that have lost love ones.
Remarkable lady.
She is so kind!
Very caring and kind lady
Oozes maybe not be the right choice of word given her job
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I didn’t get kind 🤔 I thought see came across as abit patronising
I like her a lot, it feels like the interviewer is trying to get her to talk about all the ‘gory’ details eg smells, decomposition, horror stories, but she is so respectful and compassionate about the people under her care.
It isn’t so salacious. Those “gory” details are just the job and what is relevant to such a field. It’s simply the areas of the job that make most people shy away from it, which makes the questions feel far more salacious than they truly are. It’s a dark career. We’re hardwired to be uncomfortable with death. The only reason those topics are considered “gory” details is because of how taboo death is.
As she said in the interview, “Death is the topic everyone wants to know but no one wants to talk about”.
The purpose of these interviews is having one person (the interviewer) who has the courage to ask the questions people want to know, so the one person who is knowledgeable on the topic can provide that knowledge for everyone else. Those questions on their own aren’t really gory or inappropriate, but they could certainly be answered in a gory or inappropriate way. I didn’t get the impression that the interviewer was pushing for more inappropriate or gory answers than what the interviewee provided. I agree that the interviewee did an excellent job treating the topic with compassion and care.
Just what I was thinking. She’s so straightforward, matter of fact and undramatic while showing the utmost respect and understanding. Awesome lady, doing a job not everyone could cope with and doing it with such grace ❤️🙏🏼
those gory details won’t be seen often by morticians who work in a single funeral home, if you want details on that you’d need a freelance/trade enbalmer
I agree, I've noticed that with a few of the Minutes With videos. The interviewers try to get people to tell gross clickbait-worthy stories about their job, but the interviewees refuse to put down the people in their care. Mad respect to these guys
She is awesum doing her job by helping people. I also did my friends make up she asked me to do it for her before she passed on
She just wanted to help people…she’s truly a gem!
I don’t know who did the make up on my mother in law. When we went for the viewing it was a bit of a shock. She looked like Barbara Cartland and draped over the top half of the coffin was a net. Like a net curtain the coffin was balanced on two trestles. My father in law had dementia and he pulled of the net to be confronted by this lady. She didn’t look like her he started to slap her face trying to wake her up. My hubby and sister in law really couldn’t cope with this. The coffin was rocking on the trestles it was a nightmare. They left me as I worked within care for years. Death wasn’t as much of a loss for me.
I managed to get him outside he was furious it took all my skills to calm him down. When I tried telling my colleagues how bad it was, I couldn’t stop laughing it sounded so over the top. The worst scenario ever but really funny. Now my husband and sister in law find it funny as well.
I done my sister’s hair and make up when she passed away last year .Talked to her as I was doing it and felt privileged that it was the last thing I could do for her .
This touched me, such a loving act.
I’m sorry for your loss. 😓
You're a strong, loving person. I could not imagine.
I did too for my Granda, he just passed last month. He always took pride in his hair, it was naturally really curly and he’d never let anyone cut it for him, always did it himself. He was well known locally for his hair. For some reason I felt really reluctant to see him in his coffin, something that’s never bothered me before, but when I finally did see him I was like 🙈 what did they do to your hair?! It was poker straight all combed back off his face. So I got some curlers, hairspray, done a bit of back combing lol. Had a good chat with him while I got him back looking like himself again. It actually really helped me cope with seeing him like that and I know he’d appreciate it. I can imagine exactly how he’d have reacted if he could’ve seen his hair the way it was before 🤭
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@@tallulah6342oh how sweet of you!! I'm sure he appreciated that ❤
My daughter is a mortician. It takes a very certain person to do this. Thank you so so much.
I think a lot of what they do really can't be taught. The huge amount of empathy and care they show.
A special person ❤
I have a niece that is
It’s definitely a calling, I believe.
When I was very ill, the nurses spoke to me constantly telling me what they were going to do, then telling me what they were doing, then telling me what they'd done ; it made everything less fearful. Talking that way to someone in your care is compassion.
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This lady is EXACTLY the woman i would want looking after my mom or grandma for their final viewing.
You are a true gem and there should be wayyyyy more people in the profession just like you. ❤
No viewings for us. Ugh.
A funeral director deals with people on some of the worst day's of their lives. It takes a great deal of empathy, sensitivity and understanding to do it well. This lady has all of those in spades. She's a delight.
A funeral director has zero empathy . They have 1 goal and that is to rid a family of their money .
@@deanwitt7903dude stop being fucking condescending and nasty about this shit. I understand that the process of a death and the funeral after is difficult and the expenses are horrible but don't hold onto resentment for people who also did not choose to live in a world controlled by money.
@@valhallamma687 thats not what " condescending" means.. also not all funeral directors care, so are only in the business for money
That is not true!@@deanwitt7903
@deanwitt7903
Working in the funeral industry looking after deceased bodies,
with utmost respect and bereaved family members requires good /exceptional inter relationships people's skills compassion and emotionally itteligence,
Not everyone possess these kinds of skills in life believe me,
Of course they the funeral services need to be paid just like any other vocational skills career jobs,
It's not materialistic,
it's just a fact of life in the kind of world we live in,
What do you expect of them,
to live on fresh air and foraging for mushrooms 🍄 in the forest for free somewhere or something 😂
Be real for heavens sake !
My 83 yo darling died this year, and when I viewed her, the mortitians had done a brilliant job. Many thanks to Forsey's of Glastonbury
I was 21 when a close friend aged 23 died of cancer. Besides the obvious devastation, viewing the open coffin and seeing his hair not done they way he always had it was very upsetting. I was glad to hear her say that it is important to have the person look as when they were alive and that is her goal.
As someone who’s mother died when I was rather young I wish I had known that I could have brought a photograph and her regular makeup to the funeral home. It’s something that you don’t think about.
My mother had cancer and she was just skin and bones but it was the pink lipstick that helped my father and I decide to have a closed casket. She never wore pink in her life.
@@butterbeanqueen8148so unfortunate
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@@butterbeanqueen8148My mother died of cancer too almost 2 years ago now and she was also skin and bones. I decided to have an open casket; they didn’t put too much makeup on her (if any at all actually), apart from her favourite wig on her head. I often wonder if I made the right decision having an open casket, but my theory was I wanted to afford her friends the opportunity to say goodbye to her. I’m still wondering if I made the decision. I don’t know.
It’s a privilege to look after the ones that have passed. As a nurse I have held many hands when patients pass and have the privilege of washing them and wrapping them ready for the morgue, I was lucky enough to do my Nana too.
God bless you wonderful human
@@jennagalina 🥰 thank you but it truly is an honour, I even open the window so their spirit can be freed. A lot of nurses will tell you the same.
@@sophieandwayne Registered Nurse (UK) for over 20 years here - That's how I was taught and how I teach all my students, it's the last thing we can do for someone in our care.
Much respect 🙏🏼
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@@nurseyj9 me too! U.K. nurse, I think we have much respect for those who pass in our care ❤️
I hope I get someone like this to look after me when I go
She’s a lovely lady inside and out. What a living angel.
What a courageous and kind woman. One could only hope that someone so caring and thoughtful would be the last to dress us and to make us appear like we were when alive.
I managed funeral homes for a time and I did hair and sometimes cosmetics. I played music from their time and talked to them like they were my own family. God bless this lady. 🩷
My beautiful father passed in 2014 after a long stay in hospital. The mortician that cared for him was the kindest soul I have ever and will ever meet. She was so thoughtful and respectful. I remember looking at my father and saying he looked better than I had seen him look in months. She did his goatee and haircut perfectly and sprayed him in his cologne. These people are the angels amongst us and should be so respected for the work they do ♥️
BLESSINGS for your compassion/ respect/ expertise for those who have died.
So sorry for your loss , my dad passed in 2014 too April 11th… im so moved to know your dear dad was so respected and cared for at such a sad time for you 🦋
This person has my deepest respect.
My Granny died in October in Ireland and the undertaker and the people involved were amazing. As a family we were so grateful for the respect and time and patience they gave us with her. I don't think she could have got a better send off. These people do such an important job. Thank you for sharing your story Debbie.
I’m so sorry about your grandma.
love to u and your family
@@geebee3256 oh thank you. She had a good life and we had her for so long.
@@mejohn101 thank you so much x
She is such a sweet woman. No coldness expected of such a tough job, just empathy and love.
Very noble! I like how she speaks about them with care and compassion.
She is a person where you feel safe with them taking responsibility for your loved one. She seems like a wonderful woman.
I was on the ground crew at a large cemetery over in Seattle, and I was impressed and comforted by how much care they put into the whole process. We were crude guys for the most part, and we were so mean to each other, in the name of fun, but no one EVER talked shit about the dead or their families. It just wasn't done.
Every person I knew and worked with was meticulous about how they took care of the dead and their families and friends. I was deeply moved by this wide range of people, all doing a part of the process and all with differing styles and behaviors, but every one of them determined to do their very best, in the most respectful way they could.
That's very comforting to know
My Nan died in 2018 and we used cribbs in Beckton. I do wonder if this lady worked on my Nan. If she did, I would be glad she had such a lovely lady helping her transition to the other side 😢❤
She radiates such a comforting energy. Some people are just made for these jobs, really interesting video.
What a lovely lady we all need someone like her
We can only dream to be in such good hands like this wonderful empathic lady when we pass
@ellie3365 Miss. Debbie sound like a great mortician.
I have the greatest Respect for this lady, She is a true angel.
My aunty has the same job. She prepared my father for his funeral, and prepared her own father for his funeral. She said when she did her own dad that the entire time it was just like any other person and she never felt overwhelmed until the day of the funeral when she saw him in the open casket. true professional.
I graduated from cosmetology school the week before my grandma died. I’m forever kicking myself for not cutting her hair when she was still in the hospital. She was so excited for me to be able to do that for her. I’m getting emotional as I type this. I’ll be forever grateful for the day she came to visit me while I was in school. I’m so grateful that my instructors let me abandon my lessons for the day so I could sit with her. Even when she was dying, she was able to remember me and tell me that she was so proud of me. I miss her so much. RIP, Grammy. I hope you’re in a better place now. ❤
I officially graduate this May and began my morgue internship. I am so so so excited to be a part of this industry. Debbie did a wonderful job, and provided such great insight, and I felt nothing but peace and serenity while watching her speak. She naturally has a very calming aura and I look forward to helping many families during their moments of grief. ❤
I could never be a mortician God bless this lady what a good heart she has
Her respect and empathy are a comfort.
What a lovely compassionate lady 💜
My mum looked so sad when she passed. A mortician made her look beaitifil and peaceful and i will be forever grateful to have that be my last memory
Licensed Esthetician/makeup artist here! I very much look up to this woman, and the others that do this. I did a brides makeup today, which I thought was stressful. God bless her, and all that have passed. 🙏🙏🙏
There are certain people in this world who are truly wonderful for what they do...The Emergency People...and people like this lady...Lovely human being.
She sounds so sweet, gentle and warm.. If were dead but my spirit was still aware, I'd definitely feel comforted to be around her.
Remarkable lady! A good example of the right person in the right profession. Not just a job but a genuine desire to help people during a rough time.
What a wonderful lady, hearing that people who have passed have been in such loving hands is very comforting. Nothing but respect for this lady, and all the others like her who help our loved ones look how they usually would when they pass on :)
Absolute diamond of a lady. A great heart. A convo I've had a few times with my friend about someone doing our make-up. I've said I'll do hers, and she'll do mine depending who goes first 😂
This is one of those jobs that makes me believe in humanity still. The compassion and care she shows to those who are deceased is fantastic. What she does really helps the relatives process what happened and grieve for their loved one.
Thank you for being so dignified. This brings me comfort in the way my mum will be treated by people like yourself. Thank you. My mum is currently on end of life palliative care 😭💔
Strength and peace to you Alex
I’m so sorry Alex, sending you sooo much peace and love ❤️
I appreciate it thanks people. My mum was young she passed this evening with all her family bothers and sister mum n dad sons an daughter all around her. All her children was holding her when she passed it was beautiful. It brings me great comfort in the way she has passed. I have just watched this vid again and asked my sister to watch it and help her understand mum will be treated with dignity
@@alexn8583 🥺😔 May she rest in peace, my deepest condolences to you and your family. 💐 I hope this video helps your sister 🫂
@@alexn8583 may your mom rest in peace, so sorry for your loss, sending you a lot of strength
This woman is incredible. It takes a loving soul to tend to the deceased and their families the way she does. And to take on caring for those closest to her while grieving their loss at the same time. ❤️
And I love that dress 👏🏼
I worked as a Funeral Arranger, my training was very comprehensive.
I've dressed, made up, trimmed hair, whatever was required for the deceased in my care.
It's an absolute honour to be able to do this for families loved ones. And I, too, would talk to them and tell them what I was doing all the way through my care of them.
You're dealing with families in the most raw stage of their grief, I'm proud and honoured to have worked with the families I have. And to make the last image of loved ones as easy as I could.
❤
Bless you
What a beautiful woman inside and out. Her speaking voice and compassion is amazing!
What a wonderful lady, the interviewer let it down with the style of questioning and this lady kept it on the right track and where it should be.
I'm glad i watched it and listened to her story, fantastic positive person. We need more of her on this planet.
What a beautiful lady, inside and out. Her caring and respectful nature shines bright. Absolute gem of a soul ❤
Very important work. What an absolute sweetheart this woman is.
This woman clearly takes great pride in her work & clearly treats these dead bodies with the utmost care, respect & compassion. I mean it's quite a difficult job to do but she makes it sound like it's easy. Good on her for enjoying what she does. Not many women would do such a job
I lost both grandparents in the same week two. They were on different sides of the family. Miss them very much. Amazing person you are. We all must go at some stage but also to be who we are when we leave. Thank you. 😇
This lady has a great heart. She makes my heart feel warm
Wonderfully kind and compassionate lady! Definitely earth angel ❤
What an absolutely intelligent and compassionate woman!
What a lovely lady she seems so kind and real.
This is the kind of lovely, respectful person that you’d want to deal with following the death of a loved one.
I think this lady is amazing. Taking care of someone to make sure they look good shows just how caring she is. Not only that. The fact that she speaks to them is touching. I would love to have her whenever i die.
This lady has such an enormous and loving heart! She is truly a blessing to the families of the deceased. She is assisting the angels through her work! God bless you Madam!❤❤❤
What a wonderful soul. ❤
This beautiful lady puts so much love and care into what she does it’s like she treats them all as if they are family members of hers, this is the person we all want looking after our loved ones 🙏❤️
This woman is incredibly beautiful and has all the class in the world. She really takes pride in her job, this is the type of person you would want to take care of your loved one.
The bit about the medium and Rose saying thank you really stopped me in my tracks. I get such a sense of honesty from this woman- so this gives me hope. As much of a realist as I am, I always look for glimmers that there’s something else after all this. ❤
I admire her so much! Beautiful compassion! ❤
Debbie, you are the sweetest and most thoughtful person. Thank you for bringing comfort to families in the most difficult moments of their lives.
Strong woman . Not everyone could do this type of work . My respect
Absolutely...she is a loving person!
So much respect for this lady. My mom died due to complications from ovarian cancer. Eventually her organs didn’t receive any blood/oxygen anymore so eventually it lead to her lungs turning blue and her suffocating in my arms. I did everything i could during her dying; holding her, talking to her, telling it was okay to let go. After that I washed her, put on the clothes she wanted and did her make-up one last time. For one part it was completely heartbreaking and on the other hand it was loving and I'm thankful my hands were the last hands that took care of her and held her. Hope your dancing with the angels now, Mom ⭐️❤
For me, my situation is bad. I’m gonna turn 19 this month. My life is a mess. I don’t know what to do. I feel lost and alone. I don’t know where I’m headed.
I got no future so it’s better to end it.
@Nightwing-xs2xl I'm so sorry to hear that. Nobody should have to go through that. Know that you're worthy, beautiful and you have a special place in this world. Please take care of yourself. It might be a good idea to seek help because you deserve help. We all need some help during our lives. I hope the sun will start shining soon and your days will get better. 🍀
What a lovely person. Thank you for your compassion.
This lady is an angel!! God love and bless her! This is her calling, and she is focused on helping the family, and I’m sure if the decedent could tell her, they would thank you for doing what she does for the family.
As a nurse I speak to the deceased as I care for them. It is a humbling, solemn, and intimate act to wash, shroud, and bag a body. Providing post mortem care is a privilege, and I do everything I can to protect the dignity of the dead and treat them with the same care and compassion that I would if they were still living.
I agree. It was hospital policy to send a person down in just a shroud but I always put a clean gown on them as well and never regretted giving them that last little piece of dignity.
We need to stop being freaked out by death and dying , it's a normal part of life. Only a few hundred years ago we used to deal with our own dead at home, and some families still practice this, which I find beautiful 🕊️
In my country we do it at home, well they will usually get picked up and embalmed and then come back home in the coffin and we have a open casket and sit and sleep around the coffin for 3 days and then its the final day. Putting the lid on is the hardest part!
Bless this dear lady for the job she does, with such a endearing heart ❤️. It's something I couldn't do, but I have great respect for those that do.
What a lovely lady. I hope I get someone as caring when I go ❤
It takes such a special person to be able to do this work. Thank you for having the strength, courage and heart to do the work and help people say goodbye to their loved ones. ♥️
Lovely lady. Much respect for her.
❤ Huge respect and responsibility during a difficult time in a families life. Can see it being very rewarding and very hard too.
I’m so grateful for those who do this work.
I just want to give her a hug. She’s so lovely, and I’d absolutely trust her with any of my loved ones who has passed on. I hope she realises the difference that she makes and the comfort she brings to the families, not just with her work, but with who she is as a person. She’s definitely one of those lovely people that are rare to find 🥺
Bless you Debbie. There are certainly loads of blessings and gratitude sent your way both by the living and those who have passed. You impact more lives than you know. What a special and beautiful soul you are. ❤
This is an absolute dedication to all of us once we have passed.
The level of care that happens after someone has passed is very impressive.
As a college lecturer I trained a young lady who acquired a very good qualification completely unrelated to being a funeral director. She wanted to go straight into the family business .
These are very special professionals & we are fortunate to have people like them.
She seems so beautiful and compassionate. Thank you ❤️
We all need a Debbie…. We all belong to someone and in those moments, when we can’t be there for our darlings, Debbie is that someone … a truly beautiful lady and surrounded by love ❤️ xx
No “we” don’t. I’m Jewish. No embalming. No viewing. No make-up. Respect for the deceased person.
@@cje3247 why the hostility? You can educate without being so hostile…, you took a comment made from a place of love and made it hostile. In life, or death we all need someone with compassion and love, Debbie the nurse in the hospital, Debbie the paramedic, Debbie the shop keeper, Debbie, the person at the store… someone in a moment of personal distress that comforts and aids you…. I don’t mean we all need to be embalmed, please read my initial comment again but this time, through the lens of kindness, not offence…. I appreciate your comment for educating me to something I was not aware of, thank you.
For the rest of my life, this will always be my first interaction with a Jewish person, I’m gutted 😞 xx
@@charlotte583please know, we ain’t all like that. You sound nice. I’m sorry this is your first impression! I’m Jewish, I thought your comment was kind.
What a lovely, compassionate and caring nature this lady has xx
i really hope in america we have angels like this to give our last goodbyes to be as if we are asleep in peace 🥹
Amazing lady ..thank you for what you do 🙏💜
My dad was a forensic Pathologist. He was devoted to his job.a lovely Lady who loves her job.❤ at school people used to think his job was weird .... but nowadays they are highly respected and rightly so.
As you said you work at Cribbs in Beckton you must have done my sister who died 31st March 2020, from Covid. May I thank you for the beautiful way you made her look. Having worked in the funeral business myself I know the good and the bad results - my sister looked just as though she was in a peaceful sleep with a slight smile, and an amazing natural colour. I cannot thank you enough. 🙏💞
This is someone who you would
Want to care for your loved ones
Truly empathetic and dedicated
My mum and dad died in 2016 and 2019. We used Cribbs and they were looked after at Becton. I know they were looked after so respectfully ❤
A living Angel 😇 God bless you for all you do.
I couldn't do it, im 53 and my father is housebound and we know its coming as hes been told it could be weeks it could be 18 months , i won't go see my Dad like i couldn't see my mum or my wife. On 15/98 i found my best mate and promised i would never physically see a dead loved 1 again. She looks and sounds caring my father had his own business and has always dressed immaculately hope he has someone so caring when it comes.
Me either. My parents want to be cremated I have enough of memories of them in my head for the rest of my life. I wouldn't want to see them dead. My dad is the same way he told my mom he won't go see me if I die. He said he couldn't handle it so my mom would have to ID me when I die. They talked bout it because I was on drugs and could have died any day
That's how I found my best friend he had overdosed drugs don't discriminate I went to private schools , my Dad 35 years later still says it was the biggest waste of money he spent my private education lol and college for 4 years and I've still been on and off drug's.
Beautiful person inside and outside ❤
What a lovely lady. Thank you, you make a difference, you should be very proud❤
what she does is absolutely so selfless and incredibly important. I really enjoyed hearing about this process.
🥰🥰🥰🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 Thank you Debbie for taking such care. It reminds me of my mom. Her hair and makeup were fabulous but sadly I didn’t think to provide feedback to the mortician. Thank you too for talking to them. I know they are there with you. I watch a lot of NDE videos and believe more in the afterlife than ever. I’ve thought often that if I’m ever in a coma I hope that my family will have my favourite music playing for me as it calms me down! I worked as an ICU nurse and did talk to the patients as I bathed them, turned them, suctioned them etc. I encouraged families to talk with them and I found the families felt much less stressed. I wonder now if music would have helped the patients I cared for. Music heals and calms! God bless you for the care you provide!
I admire this lady greatly.
What a wonderful and caring woman. We need to take the stigma out of death and discussing death and pieces like this are vital in that. Thank you LADBible for interviewing this woman.
When my mother was prepped for viewing, she looked very pretty & peaceful. She'd never worn more than lipstick, but the funeral home gave her just the lightest bit of shadow and facial makeup - it was quite lovely, and very, very tastefully done & natural looking.
What a beautiful soul Debbie is So much compassion and empathy for loved ones who have passed She would be the right person who could talk on a tv show to raise awareness about loved ones who have passed & what happens with the utter most respect ✨️ I really think this lady would help put so many peoples minds at ease ❤❤
What a Wonderful Lady.