I know this sounds so off-topic, but I once went to a dentist’s office who was much older and hadn’t changed the look since the mid-60s. It’s so cool to go somewhere like that!
It's always incredible how tasteful funeral directors are able to be with their calm and soothing demeanors. All the ones I've met / worked with have shown the same level of class as this guy.
@@beepboop9464 second this! She has several videos she's done with an embalmer who specializes in traumatic cases, if you want more of that content specifically. But she covers lots of different death topics, including historical deaths and death industry practices ❤
Totally gets rid of the taboo aspect. I think part of the problem people have with death is that we avoid the subject so much. Victor has been around it so much (before he was a mortician) that it’s normal to him.
I was a mortician for 6 years. I love how accurate this FD describes the process. And he is so matter-of-fact about it. No gimmicks, no scare tactics. Just transparency. that is something the industry really lacks and I appreciate him and the Wired team educating the public on the topic (:
According to your comment. Why do gimmicks and scare tactics flows, and transparency lacking in mortician industry? I mean this is literally the type of service everybody needs in one point of their life.
@@b19931228 Well death talk as a concept is a taboo for general audienced, and sometimes the audience freaks out over something so brutally honest in that religion is out the window, and people get nervous about what happens to their loved ones post mortem. That's what someone I knew said when I asked him why people look at him weird when he says what he does.
I'm mostly just curious - are the practices shown in this video done primarily for open casket funerals, or are they general practice for everyone? I've donated my body to science, so I guess this'll happen to my body, but is everyone embalmed regardless?
@@OnlyTheFinestPizza It depends on how they use the body. I worked in a cadaver lab in college and a person waives their right to how their body is used by "science." So sometimes a person is used in fresh-study- for teaching intubation or something. And sometimes they're for long-term-study- so embalmed to last a few years even. We used phenol for long-term cases, which is an even more caustic chemical (it would eat through our gloves, so you had to wear two pairs and swap out the top ones every few hours) and preservation in anatomical study is pretty important.
Seeing Victor become a fan favorite of the entire internet is something cool to see. I have a very bad fear of death, and the way Victor calmly and clearly explains everything has genuinely helped me get over my fear.
We are the earth come to life for a little time in a conscious body. We will simply return to our roots again and who knows, maybe we will come back again.
@@Kylewrapsdepends on everyone. I personally am not religious by any means, yet I still do it for the families in need. For me, it’s about helping the families say their last goodbyes or by being with their loved ones. It’s all about helping families for me
Same here, I was a Funeral Director’s Assistant for 3 years and am not religious. This is a biased view ofc but I feel like it’s easier to get comfortable around dead bodies without a belief in the afterlife because I don’t view them as empty vessels, it’s just a person who’s gone. It is definitely about helping the grieving families and to respect the dead. To some friends I would say it eventually just felt like taking care of someone (though much easier than being a nurse etc).
@@Kylewraps For me I want to become a Mortician because I want to be able to help people in a way really no one else can. It depends on the person for if something can cause PTSD or something. For the afterlife question, I'm not religious but I don't think it affects the way a Mortician can do the job lol
As a Funeral Director and Embalmer for 20 years this is a very well put together and informative video. I really appreciate his method of involving the family in closing the casket and inviting them to participate. While some may choose not to it means a vastly world of difference when you allow families to be involved and add their personal touches to the funeral service.
I had read this information about families closing the casket and how helpful it was to see their loved one safe and ready for their final journey, l did this for my sister in 2004 after a long illness, l also removed her jewelry per her request to give later on to our nieces , my other sister and brother joined me in closing her casket, it brought me much peace knowing her final wishes were done
I lost my grandfather a month ago, and it was devastating to have to say goodbye so suddenly. Seeing this process, and how each body is treated with care and dignity is such a comfort to me. He was a great man, and knowing that he was in such good hands for this process is absolutely what he deserved.
"Variety is the spice of death here." This man's sense of humor is incredible. Being able to make ppl laugh about something so somber without being disrespectful is true talent.
Give this guy his own documentary ! He is essentially the Mr. Rogers of Death. Mr. Rogers made me feel OK about life and Victor makes me feel OK about death.
My Grandma recently passed and I had the honor of being able to cut/ style her hair and do her make up. I've been a cosmetologist for 34 yrs and she was the first deceased I had worked on. It was surreal but I'm so glad I got to do that for her one last time.❤
Im a terminally ill teenager. I lost my best friend in the whole world 4 months ago to the exact same genetic condition that’s killing me. And this series with Victor is actually providing a lot of comfort to me, regarding both how my best friend was cared for in her arguably most vulnerable state, and also how I will be cared for too when my time comes. So I just wanted to say thank you, it’s very obvious you care abt these people as people rather than just a job & you treat everyone with such respect. A prime example in this specific vid was when you were talking about closing the casket with the family members. So yeah, thank you again because you’ve made this very daunting process seem even a little less scary, which makes it so much easier for me to accept the inevitable 💛
I guess the best thing to tell you young man, is that no one gets through life Alive! We all have to accept the inevitable, and hope we go peacefully. I’m 76 so my time is coming sooner than most. But in my Heart I know my family, friends and many pets will be waiting to greet me. Enjoy each day and each moment.
My mom passed about a year and a half ago, she was cremated but beforehand they made her ready for me and my brother to view her and say our final goodbyes. I cannot thank the people enough for the care and effort they took on my mom, she looked fantastic when I said goodbye.
i hope you’re doing well🫶 i lucky haven’t lost a parent but both my paternal grandparents are gone and it was really hard both times. it’s always good to see them looking peaceful one last time, when they were struggling before.
I can't get over how sweet and gentle he was when he spoke about lowering the lid gently. Like this isn't just a job to this guy. People like him make me think that maybe humanity isn't doomed. And even if we go at least someone will be there to take care of us but not because they have to but because they actually care ❤
Wild that they made The Mortuary Assistant a real job! In all seriousness, we need to have a better, more open discourse about death and I have mad respect for the RUclipsrs that are making that happen, including lovely Victor here, who is always a treat to watch.
I just teared up at him closing the casket-so much care and respect even when it’s just a demonstration. Victor’s videos are always fascinating and comforting.
@jhona3304 nothing is wrong with it, it's just that Victor is an older name that is more associated with vampires/gravekeepers/villians in movies and Sweeney is the name of a famous movie serial killer (Sweeney Todd). So a name like Victor Sweeney is going to conjure the idea of someone associated with death in some way or another.
Victor is so incredibly charming and is part of the reason I want to become a mortician myself. Thank you so much WIRED for making this happen and giving Victor the opportunity to share with us information about his job which he obviously loves and cares so much about ❤
Victor is a wonderful presenter; he speaks with the right amount of care while still showing enthusiasm and just really communicating why this stuff is important. I love his Mortician Support videos, and I'm glad to see him in another educational video!
Why do I feel conflicted about being so incredibly attracted to a mortician? Not only is he super attractive, but he exudes such genuine warmth and kindness. His wife/husband/partner (I couldn’t help checking for a wedding band) is one lucky individual.
I found it hilarious when Victor was describing the hearse that he felt the need to include the fact that they could reach speeds exceeding 100mph, I can't get the idea of Mr Sweeney gunning the hearse down some back roads off company hours out of my head.
My grandmother died almost 2 years ago. Watching this video made me cry the first time I saw this video a few months ago because of the catharsis of watching the steps it took for my grandmother's body to be prepared for the funeral. Watching it again today makes me feel better knowing that the morticians who took care of her probably did their best to let us send her off. Thank you Victor for explaining the process in a calm and friendly way.
@@youngtattedgoonthat’s if you need an autopsy. Not everyone has one. If you die young without any known cause you will likely have an autopsy. But not everyone needs one.
I'm very thankful for Victor. I thought they would "go to town" during the embalming process but I'm relieved that it is respectful and thorough as need be.
I have lost three family members in one month. It has been a horrible time - tonight strangely this video popped up, but I decided to watch because my grandmother (the most recent funeral) looked BEAUTIFUL in her casket, as if she was alive. I don’t normally like open caskets but it was such a powerful moment of closure for me. It made me wonder how they did it! To see how loved ones are prepared for viewing and burial, even if some parts are not so pretty, actually brought me a lot of comfort. Thank you for this great, sensitive, informative video.
I'm freaked out by the embalming, to be honest. Just seeing the Catheters , for some reason. Just kept thinking that it happened to my dad. I found it really upsetting. Which is weird, as I'm a Nurse/ Neonatal Midwife, who sees death quite a lot, and sees worse procedures carried out, to save the lives of our patients
I am going through the same thing as you i turned 18 2 months ago and i’ve lost both grandparents + my dad in the last month and when i saw my dad i thought the same thing. condolences to you ❤
Victor is such an amazing presenter. He takes something difficult and uncomfortable to talk about and makes it so friendly and approachable. Also love the Wes Anderson vibe of the video, kudos WIRED team. All of these videos are fantastic.
Spot on, yet done very tasteful. I worked in the funeral industry for many years, and I don't think this subject could've been done any better. Thank you!
I just love how he shows respect for what he does. I love watching his videos even considering that this subjuct is a bit painfull to me. He somehow makes it really comfortable to listen and watch this. And the moment when he shows how he and the relatives say goodbye - man, that was the best moment in the video! Thank you, Victor! Please make more videos!
There's an air of genuine kindness to this man. It's not the sort of video I'd normally watch but his presentation is wonderful. He's not pretentious or forceful in educating us at all.
I lost my little brother who was 15 a couple years ago, ever since I saw his body in the casket I have been curious but also so scared and upset to know what happens to a body after death, you come across so kind,and approachable, and sensitive and I finally am able to learn about it. Thank you for helping people like you do.
This dude is so awesome. He's got a great demeanor and is JUST weird enough to be interesting without being creepy. He's obviously passionate about his job, and the way he gets excited about the nice hearse is just the bee's knees.
I think it's wonderful to have such a easygoing, down-to-earth guide to what is normally a scary or taboo subject. Victor has such an approachable vibe!
It is less invasive than a plastic surgeon. He’s just creating the lasting impression/ viewing for the family. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. It shouldn’t be scary, just like how he is so nonchalant saying everything :)
I've watched Victor's videos for years now on WIRED and always been intrigued. A couple months ago, my grandma passed. Revisiting some of these videos is oddly giving me comfort, knowing the care and love she received even after her passing
I always enjoy watching Victor's videos. He has this sense of professionalism but also very relaxed and seems like the kind of guy to throw in a pun to catch someone off guard. He's definitely someone I'd hang out with. Love when Wired does videos with him.
as a hospice nurse, this is helpful for me to explain after death processes. Families want to know everything to expect and this presenter is amazingly calm and friendly
Mortuary student almost apprentice here, thank you Victor you help me get people to understand what we do isnt all doom and gloom or werid like the public think! Despite what big new stories show! I promise you most funeral directors are great and arent trying to swindle or miss treat your loved one!
My great grandmother passed away in 2019 and it was really devastating to me but finally I feel like I understand a part of her journey that I wasn't with her on...I had always wondered what they did to her after they took her away, i'm grateful that this video was uploaded. thank you.
The vibe of this was so strange, but in a good way! In other videos, Victor has talked a lot about how death being taboo doesn't really help anyone, so it's cool to see a tour done in such an approachable way, and I appreciate that the WIRED team editing it to be more or less like any other explainer on RUclips.
I love how everyone just loves Victor. The way he talks makes me think of Bob Ross - he’s just so soft spoken and empathetic, while also excited about what he does and happy to share that with others
When he did my grandpa's funeral they put in a picture of our family Saint with a rosary and he took a photo of him holding the photo before he closed the casket. That one touch ment the world to my family and still does.
That feeling of solid support for the absolutely torn and broken relatives at the moment of final glimpse of the passed relative must be so assuring. It was like a dad leading the rest of the family to help them over one difficult part.
Dude needs his own show or something. Super charismatic and funny, but informative and respectful as well. He really said variety was the spice of death 💀 (emoji pun intended)
I love how, even though he in no way sees his job as a joke, he keeps everything warm and calming. He doesn't go over the top and try to make the topic "FUN!!!" like so many people on RUclips do. 100% respect.
Victor here: I worked at a Anatomical Bequest lab at my university, preparing bodies and generally helping keep the med students happy. It was a pretty cool job for the time- though I’m glad I’m not doing it anymore.
I have always said that I wanted to donate that can possibly be used, like eyes, skin, organs. I hoped to leave the rest to scientific/medical study. Is that possible, or would the whole body be required intact? It would be a difficult decision if I could only do one or the other.
I see Victor M Sweeney, I click. His videos are refreshing to watch, and so respectfully crafted and edited. Much appreciated insight to the profession no one wants to talk about!
Idk what crazy ideas you have to come up with to keep bringing Victor back, but keep bringing him back! Idk why but it's always delightful seeing and hearing him talk about his job despite how morbid it is.
Victor should have his own channel, the way he calmly explains what is a pretty somber subject is wonderful. Personally, I want no part of being embalmed, put me in a cheap box and do whatever is necessary.
I could really feel his fascination with his career when he was describing the tools, almost like a kid showing his toys. I love seeing people who love their jobs, and with him being a Mortician I LOVE love that he loves his job. I'm sure everyone's loved ones have been and will be taken care of with great respect by him.
I needed a giggle this morning - "Where the magic happens." did it for me. I just love the videos with Mr. Sweeney, I can't see getting tired of seeing videos with him. I'm not worried about death and I just might have a morbid fascination with this WIRED series...
I remember when my mom died I was basically in charge of handling everything (I was 20 years old) and the funeral directors were very forward. The most touching thing was asking me since mom wore makeup before she was sick, what did she wear? I brought them photos and her makeup and her wig and they made her look like she was asleep when they let me view her body. She didn't look like when she was sick. Dad and I saw her and she looked great, but all of us decided cremation for us still. Thanks for everything you do.
True. At such moments when everything felt heavy, kind funeral staff are like a consolation. Somehow, they made you feel they are really willing to help you and your departed have a proper goodbye.
I was in a relationship with a Mortician for a couple of years, and learned all about this. It’s fascinating, but I’ve talked all my loved ones into cremation ever since. There’s no reason to put a loved one’s body through all this just for a viewing. But this guy is very professional.
Victor's videos made me interested in the profession and now I am a licensed Funeral Director and embalmer. His videos are always so informative, respectful and you can tell he really loves his profession. Thank you for shedding light on a profession not many people know about!! I'm in a rewarding career that I love because of you. Thank you ❤
That’s amazing! It’s been so incredible to see how many lives these seemingly silly internet videos have touched. Makes me proud. And I’m proud of you. +Victor
I'm very happily surprised. I'm currently in school for Funeral Directing and Embalming, and there were so many little points that he mentioned. I got a little too excited when he mentioned the locking mechanism in the casket because so many people don't know about it and think you can close the lid like you would anything else. Very well done.
Thank you for the clarity and compassion with which you demystify death. My family lost their minds when my dying grandmother wanted to discuss plans for her funeral, but it seemed perfectly reasonable to me. She was a fierce woman who exuded confidence and knew what she wanted. She was spot on with her planning, of course, and we all appreciated some of her more unusual requests - like an Irish bagpiper that continued to play as he walked away. It was perfect and not something any of us would have considered.
Love how you put everything so succinctly but it's not traumatizing or anything, but very detailed and knowledgeable. One of the best languages to use with a family, as they don't want too much fluff or hesitation, but also want to be spared gory details. Signed, a former funeral preplanner.
I am 1 minute and 8 seconds into this video and I already absolutely love it. I've watched all his Wired interviews multiple times. He's just a delightful human being. Someone give this man his own television show.
I love the Wired videos with Victor in them. He is so comforting, and manages to be both professional and lighthearted at the same time. I’ve lost so many loved ones in my life and his videos just help normalize my curiosity around death.
It's always incredible how tasteful funeral directors are able to be with their calm and soothing demeanors. All the ones I've met / worked with have shown the same level of class as Victor here.
This video is very well timed. We are in the process of preparing for my father's death and everything that comes with that. I have watched this gentleman in previous videos and I very much appreciate the education and the way it has been tactfully and sensitivity presented. The process of loss is not easy, but this helps. Thank you.
Victor here: I hope it all goes as well as it can, my friend. Death is always hard. I am glad to hear that this has helped you. It was kind of my hope in doing it that it would acclimate folks like yourself to a place/time that is really strange and special for all involved. Peace to you. +Victor
Victor!! Wow! Thanks for your reply and well wishes. Dad ended up passing this last Saturday, two days after my original comment here. I was able to say goodbye to him the night before, and now know he is no longer miserable. Which I am so grateful for that closure. We met with our funeral director today and again, I was so happy to be more prepared for that process. Thanks again for all you do!
This actually killed my morbid curiosity haha. I don't want my family paying insane amounts of money to preserve the empty husk I used to live in. I'll be dead, I'm not using it anymore. Just dispose of the left overs and remember me some other way. You won't even see my weird and obviously dead face once I'm buried anyways.
This guy is absolutely brilliant! I really wish he had his own series or RUclips channel or something, there's just something about him that's so intriguing in the way he talks about things and explains all this stuff because you can tell he has the upmost respect and he genuinely enjoys what he does and best of all he has a great sense of humour surrounding it which makes it a whole lot easier to take in the information. I hope we see more of Victor around some place! I still can't get over how fitting his name is, Victor M Sweeney. What a great name! It's like he was destined for this job. 😂
This guy needs his own series.
This is his third (that I know of) appearance on WIRED so I'd call that a series for sure!
@@ferfymoe2093 Fifth. He's done 3 twitter answers and one reviewing specific movies.
He kinda has one already
I totally agree with you. I was thinking about his previous videos last night, then suddenly there is a video today!
He seems like such a nice down-to-earth guy. I could watch him all day.
I'm glad Wired understands how we're huge fans of this guy.
I agree but I also LOVE Jonna Mendez! They have a lot of great hosts really.
Exactly!
Yup
Yes! He makes an uneasy subject better with his demeanor.
Right Period 😭💁🏾♀️❤️
He's so dapper & handsome. Having a crush on a mortician is really on brand for me. (looking respectfully)
Me too girl me toooo
👀 (respectfully)
You and I both 😍
Yup! I find him attractive.
reeeeal
He looks like he stepped right out of the 1950s, but in the best possible way. Love the style I hope all morticians dress with such class
Looks awful. Far more practical wear would be better instead of the traditional wear of morons imitating dumber but richer people before them
What does a large mass of cancer look like? One was found in my husband attached to his spine and hip. Inoperable and he died 6 months later. 9:48
I know this sounds so off-topic, but I once went to a dentist’s office who was much older and hadn’t changed the look since the mid-60s. It’s so cool to go somewhere like that!
It's always incredible how tasteful funeral directors are able to be with their calm and soothing demeanors. All the ones I've met / worked with have shown the same level of class as this guy.
No. There was one at my grandma’s Catholic funeral who was wearing 5” stilettos and had her tattoos showing.
I love this guy. Having someone explain all of this kind of morbid and upsetting stuff, in such a calm, approachable, and sweet way is lovely.
You should check out ask a mortician. She's amazing.
I love her. I wonder if they would agree/disagree on certain things.@@beepboop9464
@@beepboop9464 second this! She has several videos she's done with an embalmer who specializes in traumatic cases, if you want more of that content specifically. But she covers lots of different death topics, including historical deaths and death industry practices ❤
Totally gets rid of the taboo aspect. I think part of the problem people have with death is that we avoid the subject so much.
Victor has been around it so much (before he was a mortician) that it’s normal to him.
I can imagine his sense of humor is unfamothably dark
R.I.P Dummy Mike, thank you for your sacrifice to make this video possible 🪦
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I was a mortician for 6 years. I love how accurate this FD describes the process. And he is so matter-of-fact about it. No gimmicks, no scare tactics. Just transparency. that is something the industry really lacks and I appreciate him and the Wired team educating the public on the topic (:
According to your comment. Why do gimmicks and scare tactics flows, and transparency lacking in mortician industry? I mean this is literally the type of service everybody needs in one point of their life.
@@b19931228 Well death talk as a concept is a taboo for general audienced, and sometimes the audience freaks out over something so brutally honest in that religion is out the window, and people get nervous about what happens to their loved ones post mortem. That's what someone I knew said when I asked him why people look at him weird when he says what he does.
I'm mostly just curious - are the practices shown in this video done primarily for open casket funerals, or are they general practice for everyone? I've donated my body to science, so I guess this'll happen to my body, but is everyone embalmed regardless?
@pestbarn i would assume that if a body is ment to be donated to science they wouldint pump it full of formaldehyde.
@@OnlyTheFinestPizza It depends on how they use the body. I worked in a cadaver lab in college and a person waives their right to how their body is used by "science." So sometimes a person is used in fresh-study- for teaching intubation or something. And sometimes they're for long-term-study- so embalmed to last a few years even. We used phenol for long-term cases, which is an even more caustic chemical (it would eat through our gloves, so you had to wear two pairs and swap out the top ones every few hours) and preservation in anatomical study is pretty important.
Seeing Victor become a fan favorite of the entire internet is something cool to see. I have a very bad fear of death, and the way Victor calmly and clearly explains everything has genuinely helped me get over my fear.
I'm still scared.
We are the earth come to life for a little time in a conscious body. We will simply return to our roots again and who knows, maybe we will come back again.
Petition to give Victor his own Netflix series
He already has a great name for it, “Variety is the Spice of Death”
He’s too good for Netflix
As a mortuary student I love how he presents the industry and normalizes what happens behind close doors. 10/10
How do you mentally handle being in this industry?
Like do you believe in an afterlife? I feel that’s the only legitimate way to do this job
@@Kylewrapsdepends on everyone. I personally am not religious by any means, yet I still do it for the families in need. For me, it’s about helping the families say their last goodbyes or by being with their loved ones.
It’s all about helping families for me
Same here, I was a Funeral Director’s Assistant for 3 years and am not religious. This is a biased view ofc but I feel like it’s easier to get comfortable around dead bodies without a belief in the afterlife because I don’t view them as empty vessels, it’s just a person who’s gone. It is definitely about helping the grieving families and to respect the dead. To some friends I would say it eventually just felt like taking care of someone (though much easier than being a nurse etc).
What draws people to mortuary science, to being a funeral director?
@@Kylewraps For me I want to become a Mortician because I want to be able to help people in a way really no one else can. It depends on the person for if something can cause PTSD or something. For the afterlife question, I'm not religious but I don't think it affects the way a Mortician can do the job lol
As a Funeral Director and Embalmer for 20 years this is a very well put together and informative video. I really appreciate his method of involving the family in closing the casket and inviting them to participate. While some may choose not to it means a vastly world of difference when you allow families to be involved and add their personal touches to the funeral service.
I had read this information about families closing the casket and how helpful it was to see their loved one safe and ready for their final journey, l did this for my sister in 2004 after a long illness, l also removed her jewelry per her request to give later on to our nieces , my other sister and brother joined me in closing her casket, it brought me much peace knowing her final wishes were done
Yeah I definitely cried at that part.
Haha yeah. I still shake my head when people open the ground floor Aquarium doors.. "YOU'RE GOING TO LET ALL THE BOTS IN!!!" 🤣
I really want to begin a career in the funeral industry. Where is a good place to start?
@0rangeJu1c3
The best thing you can do, honestly, is just go talk to your local mortician. They’ll know what you need to do, go to school, etc.
I lost my grandfather a month ago, and it was devastating to have to say goodbye so suddenly. Seeing this process, and how each body is treated with care and dignity is such a comfort to me. He was a great man, and knowing that he was in such good hands for this process is absolutely what he deserved.
Does the process clean out the intestines?
"Variety is the spice of death here." This man's sense of humor is incredible. Being able to make ppl laugh about something so somber without being disrespectful is true talent.
I laughed so hard at that stupid pun that I choked
That part but also when he said the hearse can go over 100mph “if necessary” 😮😅
Glad I am not the only one was is curious about the morbid stuff.
Give this guy his own documentary ! He is essentially the Mr. Rogers of Death. Mr. Rogers made me feel OK about life and Victor makes me feel OK about death.
For some reason this made me cry😭🩵
Omg same
🎶It's a funeral day in the neighborhood...🎶
Me. Rogers of death, now that’s a good one , RIP Mike!
Haha yes! Mr Roger’s of Death is the perfect fact way to describe him!
My Grandma recently passed and I had the honor of being able to cut/ style her hair and do her make up.
I've been a cosmetologist for 34 yrs and she was the first deceased I had worked on.
It was surreal but I'm so glad I got to do that for her one last time.❤
that's so beautiful, i'm sincerely sorry for your loss, it's amazing that you were able to get her ready for a proper goodbye🥺💜
Sweet of you I wish I would have did this for my mother because I thought you weren't allowed to touch the disease😢
I'm so sorry for your loss
Im a terminally ill teenager. I lost my best friend in the whole world 4 months ago to the exact same genetic condition that’s killing me. And this series with Victor is actually providing a lot of comfort to me, regarding both how my best friend was cared for in her arguably most vulnerable state, and also how I will be cared for too when my time comes.
So I just wanted to say thank you, it’s very obvious you care abt these people as people rather than just a job & you treat everyone with such respect. A prime example in this specific vid was when you were talking about closing the casket with the family members. So yeah, thank you again because you’ve made this very daunting process seem even a little less scary, which makes it so much easier for me to accept the inevitable 💛
I guess the best thing to tell you young man, is that no one gets through life Alive! We all have to accept the inevitable, and hope we go peacefully. I’m 76 so my time is coming sooner than most. But in my Heart I know my family, friends and many pets will be waiting to greet me. Enjoy each day and each moment.
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as a fellow teenager, i wish you the best friend
Too young 😪 💔
Is there a way to follow you on social media ??
My mom passed about a year and a half ago, she was cremated but beforehand they made her ready for me and my brother to view her and say our final goodbyes. I cannot thank the people enough for the care and effort they took on my mom, she looked fantastic when I said goodbye.
Some with my grandma ❤
Same with my mom almost 5 years ago🥺
i hope you’re doing well🫶 i lucky haven’t lost a parent but both my paternal grandparents are gone and it was really hard both times. it’s always good to see them looking peaceful one last time, when they were struggling before.
You know I did not open RUclips today to cry. Darn you!!😢😢
I'm sorry for the loss of your mom. But I'm glad she was well cared for, and that is so important for all of us I think.
This man can literally be a teacher for people who want to be a mortician/ funeral director.
I can't get over how sweet and gentle he was when he spoke about lowering the lid gently. Like this isn't just a job to this guy. People like him make me think that maybe humanity isn't doomed. And even if we go at least someone will be there to take care of us but not because they have to but because they actually care ❤
Exactly ❤
Yeah. He doesn't see it as a job. He sees it as a calling and is doing a very good job of helping people through the toughest part of the journey.
Wild that they made The Mortuary Assistant a real job!
In all seriousness, we need to have a better, more open discourse about death and I have mad respect for the RUclipsrs that are making that happen, including lovely Victor here, who is always a treat to watch.
I was waiting for a The Mortuary Assistant related comment
@@mad0131he needs to play the game 🤣
@@kelseyoakes803 I was just thinking the same thing! Yes!
I wouldn't say "Treat" ...comforting is better ;-)
gamer discovers real life
I just teared up at him closing the casket-so much care and respect even when it’s just a demonstration. Victor’s videos are always fascinating and comforting.
I’ve never seen someone so qualified. He’s so professional. So knowledgeable. So respectful. I can imagine how he is when dealing with family ♥️
I mean, with a name like that, what other career was he going to do? :)
@@shadowscall7758hi. Sorry to ask, I'm not american so I dont get it. But what was wrong with his name?
@jhona3304 nothing is wrong with it, it's just that Victor is an older name that is more associated with vampires/gravekeepers/villians in movies and Sweeney is the name of a famous movie serial killer (Sweeney Todd).
So a name like Victor Sweeney is going to conjure the idea of someone associated with death in some way or another.
@@shadowscall7758 thanks for the explanation. I've just searched about sweeney todd. Now it makes sense why people comment about his name 😂
@@shadowscall7758 I've always imagined whenever I hear his name an 1880's funeral parlor with a wooden sign with "Vic. Sweeney Mortuary"
Well this was a special tour, very big thanks to everyone that made this happen !
PLEASE give Victor M. Sweeney a tv show/documentary. I'm begging you, I need more
Victor is so incredibly charming and is part of the reason I want to become a mortician myself. Thank you so much WIRED for making this happen and giving Victor the opportunity to share with us information about his job which he obviously loves and cares so much about ❤
@lilrawri8446?
Thank YOU for becoming a Mortician.
Victor is a wonderful presenter; he speaks with the right amount of care while still showing enthusiasm and just really communicating why this stuff is important. I love his Mortician Support videos, and I'm glad to see him in another educational video!
Why do I feel conflicted about being so incredibly attracted to a mortician? Not only is he super attractive, but he exudes such genuine warmth and kindness. His wife/husband/partner (I couldn’t help checking for a wedding band) is one lucky individual.
Wife*
Hes a married Catholic with a few kids!
If Victor isn't my mortician, i'm not dying. I love this guy.
Bro this guy is literally the most loved guest that’s ever been on WIRED
Okay this thing just convinced me that natural burial is the way to go
Absolutely. Why would you fill your body with chemicals. Too expensive. All natural is the way to go.
I found it hilarious when Victor was describing the hearse that he felt the need to include the fact that they could reach speeds exceeding 100mph, I can't get the idea of Mr Sweeney gunning the hearse down some back roads off company hours out of my head.
I need a Fast and Furious spinoff about rival funeral homes racing hearses.
i mean….hes a looker, high speed ride, spacious back seat….. 😁 im not the only one who thinks hes mad attractive right?
@@ten-hx2xi Oh not at all honey, I'd let him hit it on the prep table 😂
@@SharpForceTrauma cackling at the thought of your latula pfp saying that exact sentence
I love how he said it, too:
“They go well over a hundred miles, if needed.”
I am desperate to know when this would be needed.
“The spice of death” 😂I like how he can bring a bit of light humour to quite a sad subject.
I literally LOL when I heard that.
Or even a drop of "dark" humor
@@fredosim3567 me too 😂😂😂
My grandmother died almost 2 years ago. Watching this video made me cry the first time I saw this video a few months ago because of the catharsis of watching the steps it took for my grandmother's body to be prepared for the funeral. Watching it again today makes me feel better knowing that the morticians who took care of her probably did their best to let us send her off. Thank you Victor for explaining the process in a calm and friendly way.
As someone who is really scared of death and dying, this guy really have a calming presence in explaining this process, which helps.
He forgot the part where they cut you up and clean you out😢 they they stitch you up😮
@@youngtattedgoonthat’s if you need an autopsy. Not everyone has one. If you die young without any known cause you will likely have an autopsy. But not everyone needs one.
@@AmyMahy oh I see like say if someone gets shot ?
This guy runs an excellent business.
His customers are dying to get in.
good one dudee🤣
AIN’T NO WAY 🤣💀
these are actual great puns.
They’re dying to see him
I see what you did there😂
I'm very thankful for Victor. I thought they would "go to town" during the embalming process but I'm relieved that it is respectful and thorough as need be.
I have lost three family members in one month. It has been a horrible time - tonight strangely this video popped up, but I decided to watch because my grandmother (the most recent funeral) looked BEAUTIFUL in her casket, as if she was alive. I don’t normally like open caskets but it was such a powerful moment of closure for me. It made me wonder how they did it!
To see how loved ones are prepared for viewing and burial, even if some parts are not so pretty, actually brought me a lot of comfort. Thank you for this great, sensitive, informative video.
I'm freaked out by the embalming, to be honest. Just seeing the Catheters , for some reason. Just kept thinking that it happened to my dad. I found it really upsetting. Which is weird, as I'm a Nurse/ Neonatal Midwife, who sees death quite a lot, and sees worse procedures carried out, to save the lives of our patients
I am going through the same thing as you i turned 18 2 months ago and i’ve lost both grandparents + my dad in the last month and when i saw my dad i thought the same thing. condolences to you ❤
AWWWWWWWW PRAYING FOR YOU
Victor is such an amazing presenter. He takes something difficult and uncomfortable to talk about and makes it so friendly and approachable. Also love the Wes Anderson vibe of the video, kudos WIRED team. All of these videos are fantastic.
Spot on, yet done very tasteful.
I worked in the funeral industry for many years, and I don't think this subject could've been done any better.
Thank you!
Thanks! That means a lot.
Thank you for your time in the field.
+Victor
I just love how he shows respect for what he does. I love watching his videos even considering that this subjuct is a bit painfull to me. He somehow makes it really comfortable to listen and watch this. And the moment when he shows how he and the relatives say goodbye - man, that was the best moment in the video! Thank you, Victor! Please make more videos!
There's an air of genuine kindness to this man. It's not the sort of video I'd normally watch but his presentation is wonderful. He's not pretentious or forceful in educating us at all.
I lost my little brother who was 15 a couple years ago, ever since I saw his body in the casket I have been curious but also so scared and upset to know what happens to a body after death, you come across so kind,and approachable, and sensitive and I finally am able to learn about it. Thank you for helping people like you do.
I'm sorry for your loss 😢🌼
I love Victor. As an autopsy tech, I highly appreciate his insights to the other side of post-mortem care!
He's so charismatic, smart, teaches things in understandable ways. Great find with this guy, Wired
This dude is so awesome. He's got a great demeanor and is JUST weird enough to be interesting without being creepy. He's obviously passionate about his job, and the way he gets excited about the nice hearse is just the bee's knees.
This guy can be a Hollywood actor. He gets the look
Ikr. Everybody be talking about death, and there’s me thinking bruh he’s hot. Help lol
@@whatamidoingwithmylifelol_😂😂
@@whatamidoingwithmylifelol_Agreed. 🔥
@@whatamidoingwithmylifelol_ bro same, I over here simpin'
I think it's wonderful to have such a easygoing, down-to-earth guide to what is normally a scary or taboo subject. Victor has such an approachable vibe!
It is less invasive than a plastic surgeon. He’s just creating the lasting impression/ viewing for the family. Funerals are for the living, not the dead.
It shouldn’t be scary, just like how he is so nonchalant saying everything :)
I've watched Victor's videos for years now on WIRED and always been intrigued. A couple months ago, my grandma passed. Revisiting some of these videos is oddly giving me comfort, knowing the care and love she received even after her passing
Victor is an absolute delight. I will never tire of watching his videos! ❤
I always enjoy watching Victor's videos. He has this sense of professionalism but also very relaxed and seems like the kind of guy to throw in a pun to catch someone off guard. He's definitely someone I'd hang out with. Love when Wired does videos with him.
as a hospice nurse, this is helpful for me to explain after death processes. Families want to know everything to expect and this presenter is amazingly calm and friendly
Yes! Victor is back! I have such a big smile on my face right now. Thank you, Wired!
Yes!!
Yes!!!!!!!!!! I love victor, he is an awesome guy there is no doubt in my mind about that!!
Mortuary student almost apprentice here, thank you Victor you help me get people to understand what we do isnt all doom and gloom or werid like the public think! Despite what big new stories show! I promise you most funeral directors are great and arent trying to swindle or miss treat your loved one!
Hear, Hear! 😉
+Victor
My great grandmother passed away in 2019 and it was really devastating to me but finally I feel like I understand a part of her journey that I wasn't with her on...I had always wondered what they did to her after they took her away, i'm grateful that this video was uploaded. thank you.
The vibe of this was so strange, but in a good way! In other videos, Victor has talked a lot about how death being taboo doesn't really help anyone, so it's cool to see a tour done in such an approachable way, and I appreciate that the WIRED team editing it to be more or less like any other explainer on RUclips.
Never thought I'd be attracted to a mortician. But he's so charming, knowledgeable, well-spoken, and compassionate.
Me, too! 😂😊
I agree
If this guy isn't my mortician I'm not dying
I love how everyone just loves Victor. The way he talks makes me think of Bob Ross - he’s just so soft spoken and empathetic, while also excited about what he does and happy to share that with others
I love whenever Victor is featured on here. He's so good at what he does and so enthusiastic about teaching everyone. We need more videos!
I appreciate thoughtful content such as this. Conversations surrounding this profession are necessary, and arguably, overdue.
Wired keeps bringing Victor back cause they know I’m in love with him 😍
This man is so wonderfully interesting, charismatic, and passionate about what he does. Please bring him back for another video soon!
Man. You can tell how much he respects his career by how he closed the casket. I felt that.
When he did my grandpa's funeral they put in a picture of our family Saint with a rosary and he took a photo of him holding the photo before he closed the casket. That one touch ment the world to my family and still does.
That feeling of solid support for the absolutely torn and broken relatives at the moment of final glimpse of the passed relative must be so assuring.
It was like a dad leading the rest of the family to help them over one difficult part.
Dude needs his own show or something. Super charismatic and funny, but informative and respectful as well. He really said variety was the spice of death 💀 (emoji pun intended)
I love how, even though he in no way sees his job as a joke, he keeps everything warm and calming. He doesn't go over the top and try to make the topic "FUN!!!" like so many people on RUclips do. 100% respect.
We rely heavily on donated bodies in medical education and the safe care and handling of these amazing donors is critical. This is a great video.
Victor here:
I worked at a Anatomical Bequest lab at my university, preparing bodies and generally helping keep the med students happy. It was a pretty cool job for the time- though I’m glad I’m not doing it anymore.
@@victorm.sweeney8828 Appreciate all you did. The time was more valuable to your learners than you know.
I have always said that I wanted to donate that can possibly be used, like eyes, skin, organs. I hoped to leave the rest to scientific/medical study. Is that possible, or would the whole body be required intact? It would be a difficult decision if I could only do one or the other.
11:20 the way he gets excited about the hearse and compliments the other person on it is so wholesome 💕
I see Victor M Sweeney, I click. His videos are refreshing to watch, and so respectfully crafted and edited. Much appreciated insight to the profession no one wants to talk about!
Idk what crazy ideas you have to come up with to keep bringing Victor back, but keep bringing him back! Idk why but it's always delightful seeing and hearing him talk about his job despite how morbid it is.
Variety is the spice of death!!!! I freaking love Vic, his videos are so informative and he seems like a genuine dude
He is definitely living in his purpose. This was such a detailed, respectful, and professional video presentation.
Victor is so handsome and charismatic and engaging. I can watch a whole series about him and what he does!
Victor should have his own channel, the way he calmly explains what is a pretty somber subject is wonderful. Personally, I want no part of being embalmed, put me in a cheap box and do whatever is necessary.
I completely agree. Back to mother Earth with the remains.
put my body out with the recycling
that’s a valid burial option in some areas! you can be buried in a biodegradable casket with no embalming and become one with the soil :)
I could really feel his fascination with his career when he was describing the tools, almost like a kid showing his toys. I love seeing people who love their jobs, and with him being a Mortician I LOVE love that he loves his job. I'm sure everyone's loved ones have been and will be taken care of with great respect by him.
I needed a giggle this morning - "Where the magic happens." did it for me. I just love the videos with Mr. Sweeney, I can't see getting tired of seeing videos with him. I'm not worried about death and I just might have a morbid fascination with this WIRED series...
Same😂😂😂
I remember when my mom died I was basically in charge of handling everything (I was 20 years old) and the funeral directors were very forward. The most touching thing was asking me since mom wore makeup before she was sick, what did she wear? I brought them photos and her makeup and her wig and they made her look like she was asleep when they let me view her body. She didn't look like when she was sick.
Dad and I saw her and she looked great, but all of us decided cremation for us still.
Thanks for everything you do.
True. At such moments when everything felt heavy, kind funeral staff are like a consolation. Somehow, they made you feel they are really willing to help you and your departed have a proper goodbye.
This guy is a fantastic presenter. Thanks for this great video that helps understand how our loved ones are cared for after they're gone.
I was in a relationship with a Mortician for a couple of years, and learned all about this. It’s fascinating, but I’ve talked all my loved ones into cremation ever since. There’s no reason to put a loved one’s body through all this just for a viewing. But this guy is very professional.
I'm sorry to hear it was a dead-end relationship. 😉
@@NorthernSeaWitchi swear every pun i read in these comments is better than the last 😭🤣
You don't need to be embalmed for a funeral either
Did you pet name her, Morticia? 😁
Victor's videos made me interested in the profession and now I am a licensed Funeral Director and embalmer. His videos are always so informative, respectful and you can tell he really loves his profession. Thank you for shedding light on a profession not many people know about!! I'm in a rewarding career that I love because of you. Thank you ❤
That’s amazing!
It’s been so incredible to see how many lives these seemingly silly internet videos have touched. Makes me proud.
And I’m proud of you.
+Victor
he’s so smart and handsomeeee, he definitely needs to be on the channel more
I'm very happily surprised. I'm currently in school for Funeral Directing and Embalming, and there were so many little points that he mentioned. I got a little too excited when he mentioned the locking mechanism in the casket because so many people don't know about it and think you can close the lid like you would anything else. Very well done.
Thank you for the clarity and compassion with which you demystify death.
My family lost their minds when my dying grandmother wanted to discuss plans for her funeral, but it seemed perfectly reasonable to me. She was a fierce woman who exuded confidence and knew what she wanted. She was spot on with her planning, of course, and we all appreciated some of her more unusual requests - like an Irish bagpiper that continued to play as he walked away. It was perfect and not something any of us would have considered.
What a wonderful sendoff ❤
Victor seems so personable and relatable! He needs his own show!
Sweeney is the best! Give him his own show please. I’d especially love to see him show all the different kinds of burials around the world
NYC Funeral Director here. Great job as always Sweeney.
Love how you put everything so succinctly but it's not traumatizing or anything, but very detailed and knowledgeable. One of the best languages to use with a family, as they don't want too much fluff or hesitation, but also want to be spared gory details. Signed, a former funeral preplanner.
I love watching Victor M Sweeney explain the embalming process because it's so different than what it's done where I live. It's really fascinating!
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I am 1 minute and 8 seconds into this video and I already absolutely love it. I've watched all his Wired interviews multiple times. He's just a delightful human being. Someone give this man his own television show.
Can I just say thank you for explaining all this at a generous speed! Victor you are a gifted orator & funeral embalming expert!
I love the Wired videos with Victor in them. He is so comforting, and manages to be both professional and lighthearted at the same time. I’ve lost so many loved ones in my life and his videos just help normalize my curiosity around death.
It's always incredible how tasteful funeral directors are able to be with their calm and soothing demeanors. All the ones I've met / worked with have shown the same level of class as Victor here.
This man's smile is beyond contagious. Victor exudes charisma
This video is very well timed. We are in the process of preparing for my father's death and everything that comes with that. I have watched this gentleman in previous videos and I very much appreciate the education and the way it has been tactfully and sensitivity presented. The process of loss is not easy, but this helps. Thank you.
Victor here:
I hope it all goes as well as it can, my friend.
Death is always hard.
I am glad to hear that this has helped you. It was kind of my hope in doing it that it would acclimate folks like yourself to a place/time that is really strange and special for all involved.
Peace to you.
+Victor
Victor!! Wow! Thanks for your reply and well wishes.
Dad ended up passing this last Saturday, two days after my original comment here. I was able to say goodbye to him the night before, and now know he is no longer miserable. Which I am so grateful for that closure.
We met with our funeral director today and again, I was so happy to be more prepared for that process. Thanks again for all you do!
This actually killed my morbid curiosity haha. I don't want my family paying insane amounts of money to preserve the empty husk I used to live in. I'll be dead, I'm not using it anymore. Just dispose of the left overs and remember me some other way. You won't even see my weird and obviously dead face once I'm buried anyways.
We love Victor over here! Y'all have no idea how fast I clicked on this video when I see it. WE NEED MORE VICTOR!
Mr Sweeney is legit the most amazing man on Wired and this needs to be a regular thing.
This was probably the most informative video I’ve ever seen. Thank you for making it so we know what happens.
This guy is absolutely brilliant! I really wish he had his own series or RUclips channel or something, there's just something about him that's so intriguing in the way he talks about things and explains all this stuff because you can tell he has the upmost respect and he genuinely enjoys what he does and best of all he has a great sense of humour surrounding it which makes it a whole lot easier to take in the information. I hope we see more of Victor around some place! I still can't get over how fitting his name is, Victor M Sweeney. What a great name! It's like he was destined for this job. 😂
Give this man his own series already or better yet he needs his own RUclips channel. He is very informative and will have a great audience
Victor is like everybody's best friend...the kind of person who is never grouchy or cross. We like you a lot, Victor! And thank you so much.