Absolutely! I have executive dysfunction so that throws another wrench in the works. But, I do understand that the action comes first in a consistent manner! Thanks for your insights!!
Yes! I am going through clinical depression. I am sleeping all day. I get up 5 pm and then I have some energy after having matcha. Took a shower and went to the supermarket. But my motivation I don’t how maybe my kids.
I have comorbid ADHD, depression and anxiety disorder. I am at the lowest point ever, just completely drained mentally and physically. My apartment is a mess, I can barely get out of bed and take care of myself. I feel guilty for not cleaning. I’m in my last semester of college now and I’m behind 2 weeks in assignments. I feel like a failure and ashamed of myself for letting everything fall apart. I used to be so happy until my early 20s. Now even doing my favorite things like playing games or being around friends feels like nothing. I’m empty and numb on the inside. These videos help stop my negative thinking for a while. I really do feel “stuck” in this mental state but I’m trying to retrain myself to stop being negative because it’s making everything worse. Thank you for making videos to help and give advice for everyone struggling with mental health now.
I hope you are doing better ❤ sending u a huge virtual hug!! I am in the same Position as not cleaning, not taking care of myself and Falling behind in university and the cherry on top is not really working. As weird as it sounds i am happy to See that i am not the only one feeling that way because a lot of my friends dont really get it. We will come out of it, Till then stay strong and Lots of love ❤
I agree, this is great but simple information. I haven't been able to see a therapist since 2 years ago because they said they don't accept my insurance and I've called everywhere where I live and no one will take it. Very sad so I've said oh well. I can't afford it. I''m trying to get my undergraduate degree and I'm over 50 years old and its been overwhelming. I'm in my last year too. This simple but yet good and very relateable info makes me feel better just knowing that I don't have to beat myself up about something I can't get motivated to do. :)
Just hearing someone say that it doesn’t mean that when you’re not doing something means you must not really want it, helped me so much right now. I can easily imagine how happy I could be making this crafting project. I see it vividly how I’m sitting at the table, completely in “the zone” with all my colorful fabrics, beads, threads and shiny ornaments around me.. But I sit down, I actually managed to do that today, and my spirit starts kicking and screaming internally and I just feel like crying! Lol! Ugh. But what yoi said helped enough for me to go sit down at the table again in a minute. ❤️ Try again
I'm so sorry you're struggling. Hugs. 🤗 What's something that you're procrastinating on, or lacking the motivation to do that I could try to help with?
I struggle with this too, i think well what does one more day of not having a shower matter, who cares anyway, why would I bother etc etc. I shower only when I start to smell or my hair gets too greasy. Otherwise I have no motivation to do it and I don’t think doing it every day would help me be motivated. I have no answer 😢
I’m so there! It’s the little forward movements that help me feel accomplished in some thing, and I celebrate it. If you can try not to think about it and just do it maybe that will help. Take action and you might start to get some motivation. Just go easy on yourself, One day at a time sometimes even just minute to minute but we will get there. ❤
I have depression ( on meds for years) & ADD. Even showering, shopping, necessary chores are difficult for me to start. It's easier for me to do things for others than for myself. I feel like a loser, so guilty, but I literally have to for e myself to do basics - only because someone might come by or need my help. My family doesn't know how much I'm enveloped in apathy. I know this isn't normal or healthy, but I can't seem to drag myself out of this pit.
I feel like I’ve been in depression for 5 years honestly. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing well but then I cycle back down to feeling helpless and unmotivated. I also have anxiety and executive dysfunction. I’m so ready to get out of this cycle!
I am currently in a very bad depression and really scared. It’s been two months and everything is getting worse. I have no motivation for anything. My family is not being very supportive anymore as they are all getting fed up. I’m so worried this won’t go away..
I am in the same exact boat. I have been slowly overcoming it by thinking of better times that have to eventually come ahead. I close my eyes, and i envision it. And it brings so much relief.
@@Anyoneoutthere89 same here You’re not alone in that feeling but it will get better. Life is like a roller coaster of emotions and you’ll get that God feeling back just have to fight back
First time I’ve ever seen her video … amazingly - she summarized in a 5 min video about the key to get over depression.. take actions but taking actions inspite of “lack of motivation”… In other words - take action first against feelings - then eventually - habits form and then motivation is a by product because of the results of the actions already taken in-spite of feelings.
I've been losing the old me since 4 years. I've stopped drawing as much as i did, I've stopped writing short stories because i wanted to, and I've been more and more insecure about myself. I was a really confident and energetic girl, hyperactive even most times, but when something happens and it just makes me feel so, so embarrassed, i lost everhthing. I've started rethinking all of my decision, i started feeling insecure and closing myself up from others more and more often. but out of nowhere, just close to 2024 new year, i had the feeling to get my old self back. I almost lost grasp of that motivation, but here i am now at 4 am looking up video on how to get those motivation back. and when this video is the one that pops up, you dont know how grateful i am. you've brought up that little excitement and motivation in me, knowing what I've lacked after these years and what i need to do. Thank you, i will definitely come back here when I've find my old self once again ❤❤
I lost my job then I separated from my wife only to come back to care for her when she was dying from cancer I have been devastated for the last two and a half years I am suffering and see no hope since she died
I have ADHD and MDD so it took me a long time to really get into the habit of organizing. But seriously one of the most helpful habits is writing down daily goals. These daily goals (no matter how small) give me a little rush of happiness when I complete them, which makes me feel like I have control of my life lol. Also, this is going to sound super embarassing.... but sometimes I imagine myself as a little character doing quests in a videogame. I think its because I'm putting myself in a perspective outside of the intrusive thoughts and personal trauma.
That is the problem. Taking action, over the long haul, has not paid off at all. If I had just stayed in bed all year, my situation would be essentially unchanged. Effort-reward imbalance over time is devastating to motivation, and action can actually put you in a deeper hole
You amazing heaven sent woman, you have no idea how much this video spoke to me. I went from having the most productive 4 months of my life and getting perfect grades in my courses w/o procrastination and actually enjoying everything I learned to going through the most depressed funk I've experienced with worsening mental health, memory and anhedonia. I was thinking of visiting a hypnotherapist because everything overwhelms me now. Even doing something as simple as the dishes or sending an e-mail has become too effortful. I may start by cleaning out my room in the morning to get a head start
the part about "if you really want to do something, you will find a way." is so true. That is such an annoying quote. I am extremely passionate about music but i feel more and more anxious to involve myself with it these days. This quote makes me feel like I'm not passionate enough, which really is not true at all.
I have glimmers of times when I have found energy to do something around the house, but then I hit a wall. I then do the opposite and I barely eat, don’t cook, don’t do anything but sit and worry and cry all day. I question the meaning of any of this.
For me it’s the fear, mental illness (anxiety and unmedicated diagnosed add), and trauma. I just need to find a good therapist but it’s hard with these wait lists :( I’m trying though
I don’t know…. It’s the making a habit by being consistent that gets me. I’ll do yoga for the first time in years and be like wow that feel so good I should keep doing it, and then more years go by until I ever do it again.
I literally can not do anything. Im a recovering addict, I'm on buprenorphine, yet i still can not, do anything. Can't go begin a real job, can't commit to anything at all. Nothing. Yet being home and isolated, makes it worse at the same time. I literally can not live like this anymore. It is literally killing me. Im afraid of everything life related. Even though i am a muay thai Fighter/practitioner, love the woods, hiking, native American history/lore and myths, i have things i love, dropped out of med school due to depression, yet studied enough to have finished if i stayed. But now, i can not even perform a routine. I'm almost catatonic. Days go by so fast and i get more angry and depressed at the fact I'm not doing anything, yet can't do anything because my body goes into shock. Sweating, cortisol, i mean it feels like opiate withdrawal but without opiates. I need to heal but idk what I'm supposed to do. I do attend meetings and keep up with treatment yet Still can not do anything 😢😢 I'm afraid im going to stress myself into a heart attack 😢
Hey, I’ve pulled myself out of low mood depression grief and I can feel again. I’m still struggling to get things done, but I’m in a much better place. The fact that you watched this video means your taking steps to be in a better place. Don’t give up on yourself and keep taking small steps. Usually the simple stuff works the best
Wow. That's amazing. And a lightning bolt to my brain. Having never done the thing I want to do, of course I can't imagine how it will feel to accomplish it. And if I can't picture it, I shy away from it. Like the quote "better the devil you know than the devil you don't". Time to go put my butt in a chair, I guess. :) Thank you!! What great content!
Just do something,anything even if your minds telling you ‘NO’. The next day do 2 things, then 3 things until you can complete all your tasks in one day. Start iff with something as simple as getting out of bed and making a meal for yourself
What you say here is so true. I have heard it a lot from people that if you won't immediately do something, you don’t want to do it. And in fact we don't do it cause it means a lot and it's scary if we have a disappointment.
I totally get it. One, because usually once I am actively doing something I can easily keep going. It’s the first step that is the hardest. Two, if I’m trying to do something that has to be done, the more eminent the danger or consequences of not doing the thing gets the more likely I am to do it. Sorta like I won’t do it unless I Have to and Need to do it. Or else blank will happen. Like doing my redetermination packet from DHHS for food stamps. There is a due date that if you pass you lose the benefits. My entire issue beyond it is my depression and isolation is rooted in grief and fear of loss and lack of purpose. All my friends and my only sibling are dead. I’m 38, have chronic pain and live with my mom and aunt. I’m on SSI. I do some household chores everyday but that’s it. Nothing feels worth it because nothing I gain will last. Even my Mom and Aunt. What will happen when they pass? I’ll prolly check out then too to be honest. Hopefully I won’t have to worry about that for another 20 years. But life takes everything. Nothing lasts. So why get back up on the proverbial horse if you already know it’s going to throw you off and that fall will hurt or can kill you? The definition of insanity is repeating something over and over expecting a different result. I’m broken and disillusioned not insane! F the horse.
This is a beautiful video! I am someone who has 0 motivation to work out anymore (inspite of spending years motivated , dedicated and REALLY fit). But after going through major depression and burnout in the last couple of years, I just cannot get myself to workout. I finally found some solace in this video, thank you for making me feel so heard.
For me (I don't know if this is more depression, ADHD, OCD or other), I can't seem to start anything unless at least some tiny piece of my brain clicks into place and/or there's a speck of dopamine. Cleaning and organizing are major areas I struggle with. I know that having someone body doubling with me for tasks would be really helpful, but I don't usually have access to that. So lately I've been looking into videos online that have people also cleaning/organizing, etc. and that can help me feel more motivated and capable if I use that as a sort of body-doubling for me. Maybe this could help someone else too?
Body doubling is simply having someone like a friend or relative sit in the area you are cleaning or focusing on to keep you in that area and on task. You can talk with them while working, and when you start to veer off to the next shiny thing, that person ropes you back to your task you want to complete. They don't need to work alongside you, just be there to keep you in one place. @majeedmohamed9523
Doesn't really help when you can't imagine it. For example, I have been messy all my life. I don't know what it feels like for things to be clean. The job is so big I don't believe I can do it. Also I have chronic pain. I don't have anyone to help. Our air conditioning doesn't work. It can't be fixed until the house is clean. Even that is not enough to make me clean. Throughout my life I have periodically worked on cleaning and then I just let it go back to the way it was. So I believe even if I get it clean it will just go back to the way it was. It looks like a hoarder house because I don't clean
I feel this. I used to have a big imagination, but it went away once I developed my CPTSD. This included picturing plans / steps etc. I cannot imagine improving my life or what it would look like if it got better. Like the ability to do that is gone. You know when you grew up wanting to be a vet, type thing? Usually that stays with you, but mine left! Aagghhh!
@@laurac91192 years since my comment, 11 months since yours. I hope things are better for you. I still haven't cleaned the house, and air conditioning still broken. Interesting that you say your imagination is gone. I remember thinking decades ago that whatever made me creative was gone. I didn't think about that being linked to depression.
It seems like your saying that the hard part is just getting started and once you do, the motivation kicks in and you can quickly work and complete your task. This makes sense to me since I procrastinate but once I’m “under the gun” to start, I finish what I need to do fairly quickly and feel good once I’m done. It’s all about getting started!!!
What if when u do stuff it doesn’t feel good? I can imagine anything feeling good but in reality, shit I do just don’t make me feel good usually. Even stuff I “like”. Anhedonia, I guess. How do you overcome that? Lack of motivation and the inability to feel pleasure are the worst symptoms of my depression.
Im motivated enough to START.. start working out, start working on an assignment but then my brain and body literally will not comprehend the words or I cannot connect with my body to do a squat in correct form. So then I let myself "rest" and the cycle continues..
Sometimes, you don't feel motivated- so, you just push forward & the secret is- you focus on the 'work' not the outcome! It took me a long time to learn this. Then, you feel motivated after you do your squats.
I can't even feel pleasure in my imagination. Even of my past experiences. I became an empty nester in September 😢, Then my Mom, my Grandma, my Uncle , his son my cousin, died in October,.. the overwhelming stress, anxiety and insomnia.. destroyed my mental health, and i lost my career job of 20yrs in November. I lost everything else... i have severe depression. There is no motivation for anything at all. ..... im mentally paralyzed, have no hope, or will. I don't want to exist like this anymore.
I just subscribed. I'm so overwhelmed by cancer, paperwork, disability and I can't find a neurologist. I am disabled then got into it bad car accident and I have been bullied all of my life and the only reason I get out of bed is to feed the dogs. I don't see your program in the description... Help
Mushrooms containing psilocybin saved my life. They aided my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quit illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would’ve become medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with a mental wealth symptoms like anxiety and depression i would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr_carmen_adams* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
Omgosh, I love it, the butt in chair for almost a decade.. I laughed so hard, this is me and I'm just laughing so hard you helped me out of my depression. I love it. I'll be watching very much so and your masterclass. Thank you so much. This is great! I stumbled across your channel just putting in need motivation from depression in the search box and boy I'm glad I did. You're great. See you soon on your next video.
Lack of belief that we cud get back on our feet_ lack of faith. already feeling defeated because of past experiences - having already been there- tried and tried but didn't work out. i did it before but it didn't work out so the thought of trying again makes me want to already give up before trying again solely on past results. that's how i feel. i been thru war against demons.
There’s this argument among my friends and I think you won it for them. They said discipline is greater than motivation and I said that’s not necessarily true because motivation creates discipline. I used to argue that it is rude to tell those with depression and other low motivation mental illnesses that telling them discipline is rude because their lack of motivation would be so severe. But hearing it from you, it being as simple as one step in front of the other makes their argument of discipline make more sense.
I learned more in this 5 minutes video about my depression than I hav from months of therapy and years of self analization. The WHY, altho important in its own right, isn't the key to regaining my motivation to enjoying my hobbies and living a social and productive life again. Knowing, finally, helped me but to become myself again will take the same steps as everyone else. Will medication be a good thing or a bad thing if my depression stems from emotional, mental, verbal and physical trauma due to abuse?
im in a position where my sorrounding cause most of the problem to me and in order for me to change my surroundings is to move out but for that i need to work. and depression hit me in high school so i never went to collage. now i learned about web development and it truly fits me and my skills. but just like everything to me it's almost unbearable. i want to be like the really succesfull who wake up early and be active, mindful all that stuff but i chose to sink because it's easier. because doing something, anything makes me feel like i'm being squished or choked. i have high resistance for anything positive. like i dont even watch movies that once i added in my watch later list. because yeah in the end i have my dream life but i don't even like living y'know. and no medication helped me so far. i never got anything too strong don't know why. the last doctor told me to get electric shots in my brain which sounded like medieval times torture machine even though i know it can't be but it still doesn't sound safe
Normally people with chronic illness, depression, and other such difficulties are still getting things done and making progress, I cannot relate. I literally rot and get nothing done. I am suffering extremely in mind and body. I am victim of bullying, racism, hostility and hatred too despite best efforts to attract good people. I cry, oversleep, endure chronic skin disease and pain, struggle for nothing. I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemies.
I have so much to do that I don't know where to start and it's overwhelming/paralyzing. I also have all these little quirks/expectations because I am an all or nothing kind of personality but all often don't have the energy for "all" so I do "nothing" and am miserable. Currently stuck in a major rut. 😐
When the juice isn't worth the squeeze... miserable in a career that i had a layoff in, dumped money into a career coach to market myself in other industries unsuccessfully, broken engagement, a $6k dog surgery and now living with family with no career path in sight. I'm tired of trying to align the flipping stars to another position (programs, certificates, degrees, hard/soft skills).
Not helpful. I usually like to draw, but too depressed to draw. Forcing myself to draw just makes me want to hurl my stomach up. Even if I forced myself to the end I’d feel worse than when I started. Why attribute negativity to something I rather enjoy. How do I go back to enjoying it?
I feel that my dreams are so out of reach ; depression , solitude, anxiety disorder , feeling like an outcast and as an autistic of high functioning level; really has affected my adult life so far to the point of hallucinations, and feeling nothing to live for; what is the point ; that I failed I be been told by professionals to do things anyways even feeling low but yeah better said than done 😞
My issue is since I have depression even when I imagine it I just imagine what bad things would come with it I’ve been told I always look at the negative not the positive but I can’t even see the positive and I don’t know what to do
I am very consistent with my routine and to do lists, but some days I feel so burnt out / depressed that I can’t get myself to do anything. Is it better to just rest at that point?
I started talking Caplyta. The crying spells went and so did the suicidal thoughts. I am not all my problems went away but I am 60 percent better. I actually want to shower and brush my teeth. And I want to get a job and I started going to acting class on zoom! Caplyta may or may not be right for you but check with doctor it worth a shot!
I have been doing Blacksmithing for the last 18 month because it was something I was enthusiastic about at one time. I still have no motivation to do it.
How do i get a habit or consistency? I dont have trouble starting i have trouble getting myself back on track when i get distracted ? because i forget that i am not thinking about the thing i need to do.
I have stop doing things because I find its too hard my meds have done that to me but without them i would not sleep not even for 5 mins once i didn't sleep for 3 weeks i couldn't cope with that every recently i didn't take my meds i didn't sleep for 3 days i hate take something but the sooooo numbing not wanting to go nowhere.
You describe perfectly how I feel. But I also feel it's far too late for me, I'm far too deep into depression, too deep into the drag of daily life, even dropped motivation for things that I used to like (gaming for instance, I see it even happening that watching yt drops soon)
I understand that. You’re not alone in that feeling as I’m nearly right there with you. For me I noticed that doing physical things throughout my day helps. I sit in front of a computer all day. So before I start my day and after I’ve been trying to either exercise or do things around the house and I’ve noticed it’s helped my depression. Even forcing myself to go out and socialize has helped my motivation to just finish other tasks. I believe in you and us. We can do this
@@b.iannan9656 thx, but I dunno anymore. I'm beyond tired lately. At most an hour in the day I feel like I need deep sleep again, I powerhouse through, but to no avail.
So what you're saying is we should build up habits? That's the answer? Im sorry but that sounds even harder and unrealistic than to just do one thing. I've tried to establish habits into my life over and over again. I guess I've given up on that and accepted that life for me has too many ups and downs that I can never keep up with any habit.
Building habits is an end result of learning the in-the-moment tools to help oneself take action. It's the in-the-moment tools that most coaches gloss over or outright ignore. This video was simply an introduction as to why learning how to take action in the moment is the most powerful thing someone can do for themselves. And there are LOTS of tools to help with this. Many of my videos cover different tools, and my paid program covers lots more.
@@CassieWinter Thanks for the reply. My mind is kinda foggy right now. I don't really understand. But thank you for taking the time to reply. Have a nice day.
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Do you relate to this description of depression and lack of motivation?
Absolutely! I have executive dysfunction so that throws another wrench in the works. But, I do understand that the action comes first in a consistent manner! Thanks for your insights!!
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Thank you 🙏
Oh I just left a comment and subscribed. Can't find your description box....how can I find it? Its way past time for me to start getting help
Yes! I am going through clinical depression. I am sleeping all day. I get up 5 pm and then I have some energy after having matcha. Took a shower and went to the supermarket. But my motivation I don’t how maybe my kids.
I have comorbid ADHD, depression and anxiety disorder. I am at the lowest point ever, just completely drained mentally and physically. My apartment is a mess, I can barely get out of bed and take care of myself. I feel guilty for not cleaning. I’m in my last semester of college now and I’m behind 2 weeks in assignments. I feel like a failure and ashamed of myself for letting everything fall apart. I used to be so happy until my early 20s. Now even doing my favorite things like playing games or being around friends feels like nothing. I’m empty and numb on the inside. These videos help stop my negative thinking for a while. I really do feel “stuck” in this mental state but I’m trying to retrain myself to stop being negative because it’s making everything worse. Thank you for making videos to help and give advice for everyone struggling with mental health now.
Are you still feeling this way?
start listening to your favorite music again. that saves me some times.
How do you feel now ?
I hope you are doing better ❤ sending u a huge virtual hug!! I am in the same Position as not cleaning, not taking care of myself and Falling behind in university and the cherry on top is not really working. As weird as it sounds i am happy to See that i am not the only one feeling that way because a lot of my friends dont really get it. We will come out of it, Till then stay strong and Lots of love ❤
Hey you still feeling like that?
Why is this video so poorly viewed? This creator is MUCH more helpful than most of the "how to get over depression" videos that are trending
Thank you 💖 Your engagement helps!
I agree, this is great but simple information. I haven't been able to see a therapist since 2 years ago because they said they don't accept my insurance and I've called everywhere where I live and no one will take it. Very sad so I've said oh well. I can't afford it. I''m trying to get my undergraduate degree and I'm over 50 years old and its been overwhelming. I'm in my last year too. This simple but yet good and very relateable info makes me feel better just knowing that I don't have to beat myself up about something I can't get motivated to do. :)
Are you kidding. It’s just as BAD as those
It starts off slow
I agree with you. Most of those videos are these fake motivational speakers who have never even had experience with depression.
Just hearing someone say that it doesn’t mean that when you’re not doing something means you must not really want it, helped me so much right now. I can easily imagine how happy I could be making this crafting project. I see it vividly how I’m sitting at the table, completely in “the zone” with all my colorful fabrics, beads, threads and shiny ornaments around me.. But I sit down, I actually managed to do that today, and my spirit starts kicking and screaming internally and I just feel like crying! Lol! Ugh. But what yoi said helped enough for me to go sit down at the table again in a minute. ❤️ Try again
Big hugs 💖
This is how i feel about my job search. I dislike my job, but I feel depressed, so i procrastinate looking for a job.
I feel you on that. I’m in that situation now
@@joshhough6353I am too
this is exactly how I feel. it's like, what's the point of doing anything? its not going to change anything. I'm going to feel the same way afterward.
I'm so sorry you're struggling. Hugs. 🤗 What's something that you're procrastinating on, or lacking the motivation to do that I could try to help with?
Even getting a shower in the morning, somedays it's a big struggle. Back to basics once more 😢
@@monicacaseySomg same here wish some 1 can help us
I struggle with this too, i think well what does one more day of not having a shower matter, who cares anyway, why would I bother etc etc. I shower only when I start to smell or my hair gets too greasy. Otherwise I have no motivation to do it and I don’t think doing it every day would help me be motivated. I have no answer 😢
I’m so there! It’s the little forward movements that help me feel accomplished in some thing, and I celebrate it. If you can try not to think about it and just do it maybe that will help. Take action and you might start to get some motivation. Just go easy on yourself, One day at a time sometimes even just minute to minute but we will get there. ❤
I have depression ( on meds for years) & ADD. Even showering, shopping, necessary chores are difficult for me to start. It's easier for me to do things for others than for myself. I feel like a loser, so guilty, but I literally have to for e myself to do basics - only because someone might come by or need my help. My family doesn't know how much I'm enveloped in apathy. I know this isn't normal or healthy, but I can't seem to drag myself out of this pit.
I feel like I’ve been in depression for 5 years honestly. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing well but then I cycle back down to feeling helpless and unmotivated. I also have anxiety and executive dysfunction. I’m so ready to get out of this cycle!
I am currently in a very bad depression and really scared. It’s been two months and everything is getting worse. I have no motivation for anything. My family is not being very supportive anymore as they are all getting fed up. I’m so worried this won’t go away..
I am in the same exact boat. I have been slowly overcoming it by thinking of better times that have to eventually come ahead. I close my eyes, and i envision it. And it brings so much relief.
Same here. I can tell my adult child I’m depressed the response I get is oh ok
@@felixalonzo2847 how are you doing now? I’m even worse than I was when I posted this a month ago…💔
@@Sancocho8 hope you are feeling better even though I don’t know you. It’s the hardest feeling in this entire world…
@@Anyoneoutthere89 same here You’re not alone in that feeling but it will get better. Life is like a roller coaster of emotions and you’ll get that God feeling back just have to fight back
First time I’ve ever seen her video … amazingly - she summarized in a 5 min video about the key to get over depression.. take actions but taking actions inspite of “lack of motivation”… In other words - take action first against feelings - then eventually - habits form and then motivation is a by product because of the results of the actions already taken in-spite of feelings.
I've been losing the old me since 4 years. I've stopped drawing as much as i did, I've stopped writing short stories because i wanted to, and I've been more and more insecure about myself. I was a really confident and energetic girl, hyperactive even most times, but when something happens and it just makes me feel so, so embarrassed, i lost everhthing. I've started rethinking all of my decision, i started feeling insecure and closing myself up from others more and more often. but out of nowhere, just close to 2024 new year, i had the feeling to get my old self back. I almost lost grasp of that motivation, but here i am now at 4 am looking up video on how to get those motivation back. and when this video is the one that pops up, you dont know how grateful i am. you've brought up that little excitement and motivation in me, knowing what I've lacked after these years and what i need to do. Thank you, i will definitely come back here when I've find my old self once again ❤❤
I lost my job then I separated from my wife only to come back to care for her when she was dying from cancer I have been devastated for the last two and a half years I am suffering and see no hope since she died
I have ADHD and MDD so it took me a long time to really get into the habit of organizing. But seriously one of the most helpful habits is writing down daily goals. These daily goals (no matter how small) give me a little rush of happiness when I complete them, which makes me feel like I have control of my life lol. Also, this is going to sound super embarassing.... but sometimes I imagine myself as a little character doing quests in a videogame. I think its because I'm putting myself in a perspective outside of the intrusive thoughts and personal trauma.
Yay quests! 🛡️🐲 (P.S. If you haven't heard of Habitica I bet you'd like it.)
This helps me too!
Going to try this! I want to watch my lil avatar get it done. ✅ YES!
That is the problem. Taking action, over the long haul, has not paid off at all. If I had just stayed in bed all year, my situation would be essentially unchanged. Effort-reward imbalance over time is devastating to motivation, and action can actually put you in a deeper hole
This. This right here. This is where I'm at now and I don't think I'm going to make it.
You amazing heaven sent woman, you have no idea how much this video spoke to me. I went from having the most productive 4 months of my life and getting perfect grades in my courses w/o procrastination and actually enjoying everything I learned to going through the most depressed funk I've experienced with worsening mental health, memory and anhedonia. I was thinking of visiting a hypnotherapist because everything overwhelms me now. Even doing something as simple as the dishes or sending an e-mail has become too effortful. I may start by cleaning out my room in the morning to get a head start
Keep sending disabled/neurodivergent/spoonie/chronically ill friends your way :) grateful for your time.
Thank you!!! 🥰
the part about "if you really want to do something, you will find a way." is so true. That is such an annoying quote. I am extremely passionate about music but i feel more and more anxious to involve myself with it these days. This quote makes me feel like I'm not passionate enough, which really is not true at all.
I have glimmers of times when I have found energy to do something around the house, but then I hit a wall. I then do the opposite and I barely eat, don’t cook, don’t do anything but sit and worry and cry all day. I question the meaning of any of this.
For me it’s the fear, mental illness (anxiety and unmedicated diagnosed add), and trauma. I just need to find a good therapist but it’s hard with these wait lists :( I’m trying though
I don’t know…. It’s the making a habit by being consistent that gets me. I’ll do yoga for the first time in years and be like wow that feel so good I should keep doing it, and then more years go by until I ever do it again.
Yes, I can relate. Thanks for this video.
I literally can not do anything. Im a recovering addict, I'm on buprenorphine, yet i still can not, do anything. Can't go begin a real job, can't commit to anything at all. Nothing. Yet being home and isolated, makes it worse at the same time. I literally can not live like this anymore. It is literally killing me. Im afraid of everything life related. Even though i am a muay thai Fighter/practitioner, love the woods, hiking, native American history/lore and myths, i have things i love, dropped out of med school due to depression, yet studied enough to have finished if i stayed. But now, i can not even perform a routine. I'm almost catatonic. Days go by so fast and i get more angry and depressed at the fact I'm not doing anything, yet can't do anything because my body goes into shock. Sweating, cortisol, i mean it feels like opiate withdrawal but without opiates. I need to heal but idk what I'm supposed to do. I do attend meetings and keep up with treatment yet Still can not do anything 😢😢 I'm afraid im going to stress myself into a heart attack 😢
Hey, I’ve pulled myself out of low mood depression grief and I can feel again. I’m still struggling to get things done, but I’m in a much better place. The fact that you watched this video means your taking steps to be in a better place. Don’t give up on yourself and keep taking small steps. Usually the simple stuff works the best
Wow. That's amazing. And a lightning bolt to my brain. Having never done the thing I want to do, of course I can't imagine how it will feel to accomplish it. And if I can't picture it, I shy away from it. Like the quote "better the devil you know than the devil you don't". Time to go put my butt in a chair, I guess. :) Thank you!! What great content!
So glad it helped!
When you have a crippling anxiety and depression, it's all hell. I don't know how to get out of this!
Just do something,anything even if your minds telling you ‘NO’. The next day do 2 things, then 3 things until you can complete all your tasks in one day. Start iff with something as simple as getting out of bed and making a meal for yourself
What you say here is so true. I have heard it a lot from people that if you won't immediately do something, you don’t want to do it. And in fact we don't do it cause it means a lot and it's scary if we have a disappointment.
I totally get it. One, because usually once I am actively doing something I can easily keep going. It’s the first step that is the hardest. Two, if I’m trying to do something that has to be done, the more eminent the danger or consequences of not doing the thing gets the more likely I am to do it. Sorta like I won’t do it unless I Have to and Need to do it. Or else blank will happen. Like doing my redetermination packet from DHHS for food stamps. There is a due date that if you pass you lose the benefits. My entire issue beyond it is my depression and isolation is rooted in grief and fear of loss and lack of purpose. All my friends and my only sibling are dead. I’m 38, have chronic pain and live with my mom and aunt. I’m on SSI. I do some household chores everyday but that’s it. Nothing feels worth it because nothing I gain will last. Even my Mom and Aunt. What will happen when they pass? I’ll prolly check out then too to be honest. Hopefully I won’t have to worry about that for another 20 years. But life takes everything. Nothing lasts. So why get back up on the proverbial horse if you already know it’s going to throw you off and that fall will hurt or can kill you? The definition of insanity is repeating something over and over expecting a different result. I’m broken and disillusioned not insane! F the horse.
This is a beautiful video! I am someone who has 0 motivation to work out anymore (inspite of spending years motivated , dedicated and REALLY fit). But after going through major depression and burnout in the last couple of years, I just cannot get myself to workout. I finally found some solace in this video, thank you for making me feel so heard.
Big hugs! I believe in you 💖
For me (I don't know if this is more depression, ADHD, OCD or other), I can't seem to start anything unless at least some tiny piece of my brain clicks into place and/or there's a speck of dopamine. Cleaning and organizing are major areas I struggle with. I know that having someone body doubling with me for tasks would be really helpful, but I don't usually have access to that. So lately I've been looking into videos online that have people also cleaning/organizing, etc. and that can help me feel more motivated and capable if I use that as a sort of body-doubling for me. Maybe this could help someone else too?
Body doubling is a great tool and something a lot of students inside my program do together 💖
Same here
@@CassieWinterwhat is that please
Body doubling is simply having someone like a friend or relative sit in the area you are cleaning or focusing on to keep you in that area and on task. You can talk with them while working, and when you start to veer off to the next shiny thing, that person ropes you back to your task you want to complete. They don't need to work alongside you, just be there to keep you in one place. @majeedmohamed9523
I have ADD, SAD, and depression, and am having more than the usual motivation and energy issues than previous years too.
Doesn't really help when you can't imagine it. For example, I have been messy all my life. I don't know what it feels like for things to be clean. The job is so big I don't believe I can do it. Also I have chronic pain. I don't have anyone to help. Our air conditioning doesn't work. It can't be fixed until the house is clean. Even that is not enough to make me clean. Throughout my life I have periodically worked on cleaning and then I just let it go back to the way it was. So I believe even if I get it clean it will just go back to the way it was. It looks like a hoarder house because I don't clean
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I feel this. I used to have a big imagination, but it went away once I developed my CPTSD. This included picturing plans / steps etc. I cannot imagine improving my life or what it would look like if it got better. Like the ability to do that is gone. You know when you grew up wanting to be a vet, type thing? Usually that stays with you, but mine left! Aagghhh!
@@laurac91192 years since my comment, 11 months since yours. I hope things are better for you. I still haven't cleaned the house, and air conditioning still broken.
Interesting that you say your imagination is gone. I remember thinking decades ago that whatever made me creative was gone. I didn't think about that being linked to depression.
It seems like your saying that the hard part is just getting started and once you do, the motivation kicks in and you can quickly work and complete your task. This makes sense to me since I procrastinate but once I’m “under the gun” to start, I finish what I need to do fairly quickly and feel good once I’m done. It’s all about getting started!!!
What if when u do stuff it doesn’t feel good? I can imagine anything feeling good but in reality, shit I do just don’t make me feel good usually. Even stuff I “like”. Anhedonia, I guess. How do you overcome that? Lack of motivation and the inability to feel pleasure are the worst symptoms of my depression.
I want to do something but am fearful or unmotivated
Im motivated enough to START.. start working out, start working on an assignment but then my brain and body literally will not comprehend the words or I cannot connect with my body to do a squat in correct form. So then I let myself "rest" and the cycle continues..
Sometimes, you don't feel motivated- so, you just push forward & the secret is- you focus on the 'work' not the outcome! It took me a long time to learn this. Then, you feel motivated after you do your squats.
I can't even feel pleasure in my imagination. Even of my past experiences. I became an empty nester in September 😢, Then my Mom, my Grandma, my Uncle , his son my cousin, died in October,.. the overwhelming stress, anxiety and insomnia.. destroyed my mental health, and i lost my career job of 20yrs in November. I lost everything else... i have severe depression. There is no motivation for anything at all. ..... im mentally paralyzed, have no hope, or will. I don't want to exist like this anymore.
I know that feeling
I just subscribed. I'm so overwhelmed by cancer, paperwork, disability and I can't find a neurologist. I am disabled then got into it bad car accident and I have been bullied all of my life and the only reason I get out of bed is to feed the dogs. I don't see your program in the description... Help
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Mushrooms containing psilocybin saved my life. They aided my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quit illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would’ve become medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with a mental wealth symptoms like anxiety and depression i would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr_carmen_adams* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
I meet him on Instagram the same place I meet the owner of this video whom I have learnt alot from
All you need is to find a mycologist who can teach you the proper techniques.
Tripping isn't all that bad,
@@KatSerace He also sells gardening supplies.
Yes, he ships in an anonymously manner to any part of the world
Omgosh, I love it, the butt in chair for almost a decade.. I laughed so hard, this is me and I'm just laughing so hard you helped me out of my depression. I love it. I'll be watching very much so and your masterclass. Thank you so much. This is great! I stumbled across your channel just putting in need motivation from depression in the search box and boy I'm glad I did. You're great. See you soon on your next video.
Lack of belief that we cud get back on our feet_ lack of faith. already feeling defeated because of past experiences - having already been there- tried and tried but didn't work out. i did it before but it didn't work out so the thought of trying again makes me want to already give up before trying again solely on past results. that's how i feel. i been thru war against demons.
You explain it so well, thank you so much for this video!
There’s this argument among my friends and I think you won it for them. They said discipline is greater than motivation and I said that’s not necessarily true because motivation creates discipline. I used to argue that it is rude to tell those with depression and other low motivation mental illnesses that telling them discipline is rude because their lack of motivation would be so severe. But hearing it from you, it being as simple as one step in front of the other makes their argument of discipline make more sense.
I will start doing things just by habit, this is great information.
im so depressed i dont want to do anything at all idc i can't. there's nothing i like or want. but your makeup is slay
Groundhog day. Ain't that the truth 🥴. Thank you. Will watch another 10 times or so before I can actually comprehend it. I am what I am 😊
I cant connect with people or find any meaningful connections
What about when you dont even want to do anything? Is this the point of no return with depression?
I learned more in this 5 minutes video about my depression than I hav from months of therapy and years of self analization. The WHY, altho important in its own right, isn't the key to regaining my motivation to enjoying my hobbies and living a social and productive life again. Knowing, finally, helped me but to become myself again will take the same steps as everyone else. Will medication be a good thing or a bad thing if my depression stems from emotional, mental, verbal and physical trauma due to abuse?
I have never heard anybody else say they have been experiencing groundhog Day over and over. That's exactly what it's been feeling like to me
im in a position where my sorrounding cause most of the problem to me and in order for me to change my surroundings is to move out but for that i need to work. and depression hit me in high school so i never went to collage. now i learned about web development and it truly fits me and my skills. but just like everything to me it's almost unbearable. i want to be like the really succesfull who wake up early and be active, mindful all that stuff but i chose to sink because it's easier. because doing something, anything makes me feel like i'm being squished or choked. i have high resistance for anything positive. like i dont even watch movies that once i added in my watch later list. because yeah in the end i have my dream life but i don't even like living y'know. and no medication helped me so far. i never got anything too strong don't know why. the last doctor told me to get electric shots in my brain which sounded like medieval times torture machine even though i know it can't be but it still doesn't sound safe
Yes, I'm stuck too.
I need all the help I can get, I am 28, rotting away, not coping, in dire need of help!
One of the worst thing about all of this is the lack of medical support and lack of diagnosis and treatment.
Normally people with chronic illness, depression, and other such difficulties are still getting things done and making progress, I cannot relate. I literally rot and get nothing done. I am suffering extremely in mind and body. I am victim of bullying, racism, hostility and hatred too despite best efforts to attract good people. I cry, oversleep, endure chronic skin disease and pain, struggle for nothing. I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemies.
Yes many times if I just make myself do one thing it motivates me to do more!!! I even surprise myself how much I get done lol.
I have so much to do that I don't know where to start and it's overwhelming/paralyzing. I also have all these little quirks/expectations because I am an all or nothing kind of personality but all often don't have the energy for "all" so I do "nothing" and am miserable. Currently stuck in a major rut. 😐
Somebody tell me why I’m crying-
Big hug 💖
This is a great video thank you
When the juice isn't worth the squeeze... miserable in a career that i had a layoff in, dumped money into a career coach to market myself in other industries unsuccessfully, broken engagement, a $6k dog surgery and now living with family with no career path in sight. I'm tired of trying to align the flipping stars to another position (programs, certificates, degrees, hard/soft skills).
Great video, thank you
Not helpful. I usually like to draw, but too depressed to draw. Forcing myself to draw just makes me want to hurl my stomach up. Even if I forced myself to the end I’d feel worse than when I started. Why attribute negativity to something I rather enjoy. How do I go back to enjoying it?
same foe me. i loved gaming, until my major depressive disorder hits. i can't force myself to play games anymore.
thank you I really needed this :)
I feel that my dreams are so out of reach ; depression , solitude, anxiety disorder , feeling like an outcast and as an autistic of high functioning level; really has affected my adult life so far to the point of hallucinations, and feeling nothing to live for; what is the point ; that I failed
I be been told by professionals to do things anyways even feeling low but yeah better said than done 😞
My issue is since I have depression even when I imagine it I just imagine what bad things would come with it I’ve been told I always look at the negative not the positive but I can’t even see the positive and I don’t know what to do
I am very consistent with my routine and to do lists, but some days I feel so burnt out / depressed that I can’t get myself to do anything. Is it better to just rest at that point?
Yes. Rest is really important 💖
I started talking Caplyta. The crying spells went and so did the suicidal thoughts. I am not all my problems went away but I am 60 percent better. I actually want to shower and brush my teeth. And I want to get a job and I started going to acting class on zoom! Caplyta may or may not be right for you but check with doctor it worth a shot!
I have been doing Blacksmithing for the last 18 month because it was something I was enthusiastic about at one time. I still have no motivation to do it.
How do i get a habit or consistency? I dont have trouble starting i have trouble getting myself back on track when i get distracted ? because i forget that i am not thinking about the thing i need to do.
If you haven't watched it yet, I recommend watching this video of mine: ruclips.net/video/wYVVsrlv96M/видео.html
Motivation Come with action. Motivation come after taking action, taking action consistensi. Imagine I can do it.
Truth! Thank you!
great vid thank you
We experience life, we are not the vessel
I have stop doing things because I find its too hard my meds have done that to me but without them i would not sleep not even for 5 mins once i didn't sleep for 3 weeks i couldn't cope with that every recently i didn't take my meds i didn't sleep for 3 days i hate take something but the sooooo numbing not wanting to go nowhere.
This really helped thank you ❤ 2:55
I wanted to do the "Butt in Chair" workshop, but the mobile link put me in this "sign up for newsletter" loop. I couldn't access the free workshop :(
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I can relate totally
Only 5 seconds in the video: you’re so sweet!!!
Aww schucks 😊
I don't know if I have depression or burn out
Sometimes it's both 🫠
1:50 that smile got me laughing way to hard
Thank You
You describe perfectly how I feel. But I also feel it's far too late for me, I'm far too deep into depression, too deep into the drag of daily life, even dropped motivation for things that I used to like (gaming for instance, I see it even happening that watching yt drops soon)
I understand that. You’re not alone in that feeling as I’m nearly right there with you. For me I noticed that doing physical things throughout my day helps. I sit in front of a computer all day. So before I start my day and after I’ve been trying to either exercise or do things around the house and I’ve noticed it’s helped my depression. Even forcing myself to go out and socialize has helped my motivation to just finish other tasks. I believe in you and us. We can do this
@@b.iannan9656 thx, but I dunno anymore. I'm beyond tired lately. At most an hour in the day I feel like I need deep sleep again, I powerhouse through, but to no avail.
This hurts me in my sooouuuulllll
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Im beyond stressed out no money no nothing. Now what
Okay, but seriously, what if your depression is strong enough you can't imagine enjoying anything? Can't remember the good feeling
Literally talked about this in my newest video! ruclips.net/video/bvgrz0PteSA/видео.html
So what you're saying is we should build up habits? That's the answer?
Im sorry but that sounds even harder and unrealistic than to just do one thing.
I've tried to establish habits into my life over and over again. I guess I've given up on that and accepted that life for me has too many ups and downs that I can never keep up with any habit.
Building habits is an end result of learning the in-the-moment tools to help oneself take action. It's the in-the-moment tools that most coaches gloss over or outright ignore. This video was simply an introduction as to why learning how to take action in the moment is the most powerful thing someone can do for themselves. And there are LOTS of tools to help with this. Many of my videos cover different tools, and my paid program covers lots more.
@@CassieWinter Thanks for the reply. My mind is kinda foggy right now. I don't really understand. But thank you for taking the time to reply. Have a nice day.
i hate not having anyone to turn to
This is not about lack of motivation its about procrastination, i dont want to do anything atalll but sleep
I have mental illness, trauma and neurodivergence ToT
Ready to die since i can't picture myself having peace any onther way
Still feel depressed. Did not help me.
There's no quick simple fix
I can relate
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Sometimes I hate my brain…lazy bastard
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