Therapist Analysis of Blitzø's Self-Hatred - Helluva Boss (Apology Tour Season 2 Episode 9)
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In her latest video, psychotherapist Georgia Dow delves into Helluva Boss Season 2, Episode 9, "Apology Tour." She explores the deep-seated self-hatred that drives Blitzø to self-sabotage and hurt Stolas emotionally. Join Georgia as she analyzes Blitzø’s complex psyche and the painful dynamics at play in his relationship with Stolas.
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Stolas part vid?? ❤
Hey Georgina there's a theory that's really got me thinking, that Blitz was in relationship with Andreaphlus before meeting Veroskia and Stolas someone who pretended to love him and pulled the rug out from under him showing his true colors and looking at how Blitz acts it's makes sense his words and action speak of the relationship we haven't see in the show yet.
Stolas' drunken monologue about wanting someone to want him. These two were finally talking together and are both sharing their own vulnerable sides with each other... but they’ve hurt each other too much at this point to really appreciate it.
Something that really hurts, to me, is Stolas' answer after Blitzo exposes his vulnerabilities. Blitzø all but straight up asks Stolas "What do you see in me? Why do you 'love' me?"
And Stolas....never actually answers him, but instead goes "You want to know what I want?..." and goes on his spiel about romance. Which is totally not what Blitzø was asking.
Yes, there's a chance that it was just because he was drunk, but Stolas has shown to have a bad habit of staying too inside his own head/feelings to notice how his words and actions are affecting others (this isn't just me saying this, Vivziepop and the team have said in Tweets and even the video descriptions that this is something Stolas does).
So, his whole bit about romantic relationships kind of gave the impression that Stolas is more in love with love, or at least, the idea of love, than any actual person, including Blitzø.
Which, for someone with as much emotional baggage as Blitzø, would have been devastating to hear/realise...that anyone could have been in Blitzø's place, and that Stolas doesn't even actually know or want Blitzø himself, just a stand-in for a romance novel plot.
I completely feel the same same way as Stolas, all I ever wanted was to be loved and wanted but a lot of people are cruel
@@AnInsideJokeThis all the way. And for someone like Blitz, he also has a complex about only being worth what he can provide. So that is basically being solidified to him. That he isn't (and therefore can't be) cared about for being him, but for giving Stolas his body.
@@AnInsideJokeThat or not, Stolas doesn't know Blitz well, and is therefore in love with a fantasy of him. Which can be super devasting for someone if the fantasy doesn't turn out to be very much the person. So I wonder what happens later in the series.
@@AnInsideJoke Blitz might be kinda right with this though. Because how deep is love at first sight really? Did the ever did some real bonding?
I'm afraid that Stolas is indeed only just in love with his idea of Blitz.
Which doesn't go to say that there won't be any chances later on for them to actually really fall in love with the real versions of each other. Actually, I'm counting on it. Those moments will be golden!
Nobody deserves to be on those Anti-Blitz parties more than Blitz himself.
At this point this sentence is a meme (true tho)
Verosika's pain at being dumped after saying "I love you" to Blitz was made 10x worse b/c, as a succub*s, true intmacy is so much harder for her. And, regarding Stolas, he needs to see how his casual talking down to Blitz and other imps gives exactly the impression that Blitz sees.
Exactly. Stolas has to work out his own problems too. That whole casual bigotry towards the Imps has got to go.
The sad part is that Stolas probably doesn’t even realize that he does. It’s a good showcase of micro aggressions in a way: Stolas doesn’t look down on Blitz, but some comments he makes aren’t a great show of that
@@beccamoore2402 Stolas was definitely taught to talk this way, judging by the s2 ep1. And whilst he might believe of not having arrogance towards imps as towards serving class as well even treating them more softly, than others, he still uses condescending language towards them, probably even without understanding that it doesn't sound nice for imps, who are being constantly looked down at by other creatures
@@BeastRedAsh especially since it seems like Stolas has a lot of friends to bounce around ideas and truly be supportive. I think Stolas meeting with new people socially(besides Stella and other goetia royalty)would do him some good.
@beccamoore2402 yeah he told moxie and millie that he wants HIS imp not these littler ones. Like dude, if that's not the most self BS. If anything, Moxie and Millie are far more qualified to take out striker without Blitz then Blitz without them but he is blind to reason at this point. He really says "I dont look down on you when have I ever" like he hasn't called him a toy, called him his without the relationship aspect even present meaning he wants speaking as if he owned him. Dude is blinded by his telenovellas
The one time Stolas needs to be paying attention, he is completely blitzed
The ONE time?!?!!!!!!?!???
...sure
‘Blitzed’ 😂
Intentional pun?
Lol, Blitzed 🥴
@@karmaburch4477 REAL
HA I get it
This is what's been getting me for DAYS. Not ONLY does Blitz catch and cradle Stolas - though I doubt he's trying to CRADLE him. But he takes Stolas by the hand after he falls, and helps him back to his feet!!! It's almost invisible! But he does it unselfconciously!!!
You also have Stolas very gently shield him from other guests before speaking to him at the party, which is super soft and sweet.
@@toni2309 anger and hurt - not hate. Makes Stolas different from other exes
It's nice and subtle to the point that neither side even recognizes how they are protecting and doing these minor things for each other. During probably one of the first times they are actually having an honest conversation with each other they are performing all those small acts that show that while they are upset with each other that their instincts and wants are to protect and care for the other.
It's just sad it took their relationship blowing up to get there
I think about this constantly
They have such potential to make eachother so happy! Uuuuugh!
I don't think anyone understands the weight and meaning of Verosika essentially handing Blitz his own heart on a plate. I think its her saying "here's your heart; it's been missing for sometime. Take it or leave it cause i don't want it"
Gave me chills so true
Or, it could be her telling him to “eat his heart out”
@@biohazard9164yeah sounds like that, to see what he was missing. Like an expression of regret, which Blitz hasnt been able to convey at ALL until this party
Well the phrase "Steal your heart" could be a metaphor for intense attraction and infuatuation. So in a way she's giving him his heart back as a reminder to love himself.
I just realized that the ONLY person Blitzø is securely attached to is Fizz, and that was because he was securely attached to him/best friends with him before the fire.
Which is why Blitzø got along fine with him in the Mammon special, I think. Huh.
I think Fizz and his friendship is very important to helping Blitzø start to change for the better. He has a template of appropriate behavior - the way he was before, and Fizz who sees him for who he is and knows the best parts of him. His reconciliation with Fizzarolli was incredibly healing for him, I think. This'll help him in the long run!
Sorry, but Blitz giving out his favorite snack as an “apology” was such a cool detail. Cheese and hot sauce.
When you are bad at reading others, go with what you know I suppose
Thank you for having a nuanced take, it's so frustrating not being able to go 5 comments in on ANY video talking about this episode without running into people acting like Stolas was the only problem to ever exist, that his every act doomed them and it was his lack of respect throughout (everyone forgot Ozzie's the moment it was convenient) and it's really refreshing seeing a sympathetic breakdown of Blitz's issues and thought processes that doesn't just devolve into pointing fingers
thank you for appreciating it
Same here. I’m really frustrated that everyone is siding with either Blitzo and Stolas in this and frankly, both of them contributed to the relationship not working.
Stolas lives in the clouds and Blitzø doesn't think he deserves to be raised out of the dump. It's a two person problem but Blitzø is definitely the main problem
@@X-SPONGED EXACTLY
@@X-SPONGEDbro stolas doesn’t have any to give him advice
you can tell Georgia is a real fan because she didn't have to include the crack ship with the gift basket scene, but she couldn't resist adding it to the video XD
ha
1:08 to be fair, taking all the other episodes of Stolas into play, Stolas has given blitz a LOOOOT of reasons to think that he looks down on him.
you can't look down on someone you are breaking demon law for it's literally a dumb take from yall die hard Blitz fans
i love that all the characters who have been hurt by blitz have real and valid reactions to him. fizz just wanted to know why blitz abandoned him and never tried to get in contact, Barbie wire wants nothing to do with him, and Verosika (in a very petty, and maladaptive way) channeled her hurt into trying to help others. all of which are pretty fair responses.
On top of all those great points we also have to keep in mind that someone was keeping Blitz and Fizz rom even considering contacting eachother. We don't know who yet, there's a few options (imo Blitz' dad is most likely), I hope we get some answers to that. I also hope during Blitz' self improvement arc that he confronts his dad and all the shitty things he did to him.
“Apology Tour” hurt so much to watch, but it was also so good and at least Blitz had his wakeup call to try and be better.🥺💕 I’m still really worried though about how bad the fallout between Stolas and Octavia is going to be based on the trailer.😥🥺
I do find it funny that Blitz said he apologized Fizz so hard he cried when in actuality he did the crying.😅
Can we talk more about love languages? Stolas’ way of showing affection is to use pet names, to be silly but doting, and use baby talk. (Probably because he never got that from his parents when he was little) Blitzo of course sees it as disrespect, but Stolas might not mean it that way. The social power imbalance weighs heavily on Blitzo, and his love language seems to be a lot more aggressive and dominant. Makes me wonder how compatible they actually are…
They're not compatible, but they can make compromises to find a middle ground that makes them compatible. There's the obvious sexual attraction. But beyond one day as children, they never spent much actual 'together' time with one another and get to know one another.
I think that Blitzo's love language will turn out to be words of affirmation. He's definitely only using aggression to hide something. Stolas absolutely is capable of giving that to him, but does not understand that's what he's been missing. After all, Blitz seems so dominant it looks like he has natural self esteem, but that's not the case.
@@BrokensoulRider Tbh, i think they are compatible, the issue is the circumstances surrounding them, Blitz sees Stolas as a prince, someone who is utterly unattainable and that's what leads to him looking down on him and Stolas is social inept due to his upbringing so he doesn't understand how his flirting can come off. If they both understood where the other was coming from, i'd say they'd be pretty compatible.
“What went wrong”.
So much. So much from both people.
Stolas’ “WHEN HAVE I EVER?!” at the beginning. You have. Many times, my friend.
I can definitely see that. But can also see it being from the perspective of someone who has sheltered their whole life and didn't really know how to properly Express action, so he thought he was just doing little pet things that you do with your significant other and didn't realize they were coming across as demeaning. This is reinforced to me by the fact that he unwittingly treats the imps under his service as simple objects to be moved around. It's all he's ever known and he hasn't really had any meanings of looking at it any differently. So for him, it's not necessarily about the actions, it's about the intent. While I realize that's not how it is in real life, that doesn't change the fact that not everybody has this idealized guidebook of how to act with people.
@@nicholasmullins3693still doesn’t make it right. Yeah it’s not malicious, but this tendency he has is something pretty noticeable to somebody like Blitzø
I think there’s a difference between looking down on, and talking down on. Stolas has, like you said, talked down to Blitz SO many times, but Blitz is assigning intentions to Stolas when Stolas, although his heart is in the right place, he has a baffling lack of understanding that Blitzø has to live discriminated against by his class and identity Every Single Day. Blitzø, as we’ve seen throughout the show, is especially hyper-aware to it, let alone just the regular amount of talking-down-to that I think anyone could identity from their situation. Stolas hasn’t come from that upbringing so he can’t really imagine it, which isn’t inherently bad but it’s also not a valid excuse, Stolas DOES need to learn how Blitzø’s identity as an imp, and being raised in a family that used him for their own benefit, has massively affected Blitzø’s sense of self and how the world has wrongfully treated him as a result of his class/identity. And on both sides, they need to move past their insecurities and accept themselves for who they are, ++ being able to ACTUALLY communicate (which they at least started to do in this episode)
It's not just Blitzø he does it to either, but imps in general. Hell, he even did it just a few minutes before during the Striker argument. Stolas straight up says that Blitzø "couldn't be bothered to come help" him, completely ignoring that Blitzø sent Moxxie and Millie in as a whole team to help him.
Millie is even stronger of a hand-to-hand fighter than Blitzø, and Moxxie is better with guns than Blitzø (not that Blitzø is a slouch in either, however), making them stronger and more effective than if Blitzø has gone by himself.
And most people in that situation would have been fine with just knowing that ANY help was sent, that they were thinking of them.
Stolas wasn't. It's a direct repeat of his lines from the Loo Loo Land episode, where he said *straight to Moxxie and Millie's faces* that they weren't good enough for him, and that he wanted Blitzø. It's been at least 6 months in-universe since then, and Stolas not only *still* hasn't stopped this behavior, he remains completely oblivious to even *having* this be one of his faults.
@rach3092 But the argument can be told that Stolas doesn't realize it's something that's hurting Blitz. And he's not going to come to those conclusions himself. Of course he's not going to think he's done anything when in his perspective, he hasnt. It's not fair to expect him to take accountability when no one has even corrected him for him to realize it. Can't fix what you don't know is broken.
Blitzø desperately wants a relationship but he's far from ready for one. I've always said that Stoliz was going to crash and burn for a number of reasons, the abusive power dynamic with Stolas being above Blitzø likely didn't help while Blitzø is super guarded and aggressively avoident.
Stolas learned and decided to even the scales and that absolutely freaked Blitzø out when he was already in a state of panic I call 'I can fix this' mode that Loona unintentionally set off. That kind of change so abruptly triggered him to lash out.
Fun fact: The gift baskets Blitzø hands out are filled with cheese and hot sauce because that's Brandon Rodgers favorite snack. He'd often be eating them during meetings and recordings which made it into the show as a fun easter egg
Cheese and hot sauce are a good combination
'Cheese and Hot sauce' was also used as a substitute swear in the flashback of the Mammon episode!
@@nimhfinitepossibilities7609 and Blitz is also seen snacking on cheese and hot sauce a couple of times, once in the harvest moon festival when he's telling Moxxie that he offered Striker a job, and again when Ozzie calls him asking to help convince Fizz to stop doing the Mammon gig
Yeah I hope they tackle how Stolas is hypocritical and flawed too especially with some of his statements and he did give the wrong signals to Blitz aka “my impish little plaything” on top the fact he does have a subconscious prejudice towards imps whether he knows it or not. He can say he views Blitz equally but squeezing his imp servants contradicts that.
@@CornierBread Yeah like I said the dynamic was abusive and I'm pretty sure he's acknowledged it at some point but I'm tired so I don't remember when.
This episode was so sad, especially because people are quick in taking sides, when in these cases it is a mess for both sides. These two suck in communication, mixed with the fact that their conflict & trauma response are totally opposite and that they don't even know their lives in a more intimate matter to know the why for what they do or act... It just ended in both being hurt.
Ironically they can BE can each other need, but they must get their shit together, a really good healing separately, and proper talk, to even have a normal start to a relationship being a friendship and maybe a romantic one.
THIS! Precisely this!
Sorry, I've been finding it so frustrating with people picking sides with these characters, because narratively speaking, the whole thing was/is a mess...and this is the first step in resolving that overall conflict. I don't know what is going to happen with these two in the end. I sincerely hope for the better, but that said, it's clear to me that the writers know what they want to do with these characters and they have a direction they are wanting to go with exploring their potential relationship, be it romantic or not. I am honestly down for the ride...the painful, gut-wrenching ride in all of its glory. But that is strictly my own opinion here...I know others feel differently and that's okay too.
@@CelticMagician RIGHT?! WHY PEOPLE DO THAT?!
Of course Stolas never realized he was being condescending to Blitz in the past, he was raised in a privileged and elitist environment, but maybe he never thought of himself as someone as bad as the rest of the royals, we tend to do that when we want to make distance of the bad aspect of our families, but the tendencies are still there, but who could tell him that? Nobody has ever taught him this, ignorant privileged people that lack self awareness like Stolas, he NEED someone to tell them when something is wrong, we have seen how when he did something wrong he apologized in an instant and reflects his mistakes.
The same thing with Blitz, he hurt so many people that maybe even love him enough to allow him to open up to them, but he run away when they tried to get to close, even the one night stand, nobody is that hurt for a one they sleep maybe once, but maybe was the way he ended the things?
Blitz has a tendency of being very hurtful with his words, because he thinks is better that way, yet he's so loving with his daughter, yes he has a problem of respecting her boundaries, but he takes her because he knew what it was feeling leftover and unwanted.
People tend to forget that the reason why the full moon deal was sexual in first place was because Blitz opened that door when he wanted to book, but Stolas continued it, both took this too far, both make this messy, both ended up cashing feelings...
This is not an easy discussion, it's a very hard and painful side for both, because news flash Blitz&Stolas were hurting each other without noticing in different ways. Pain isn't a competition, both traumas are valid, these two have been victims of such horrible circumstances, one with such unhealthy life home that only makes him feel that he needs to prove his worth for everything, for later that this accident produces a crushing guilt of basically destroying his family&home and, creating this mentality of "I'm poison everyone is better without me", and the other was trapped in an arranged marriage (it's sad that Stella was also trap in these situations but choose to take her frustrations with Stolas, that's at least what I think, not excusing the abuse, but it happens, misery loves company after all) that ended being toxic while he worked so hard to make it look like a happy one for the most important person in his live, his beloved daughter (he did such good job that she didn't even knew their parents never loved each other) and he was so alone, not even a friend for company while going through this.
But they know these things about each other? NO, but how could they? These two never ask or talk about it.
Hearing Blitzø actually _admit_ to his self-hatred felt *_huge_* in the moment. We've seen that self-loathing on display in all the photos he's redacted himself from, but he's never been able to let himself be vulnerable enough to admit it to anyone else -- he acts like he's been conditioned to see that kind of vulnerability as being a _bad_ thing (which, having _met_ Cash, may well be the case!), and so consistently avoids letting down those defenses and gets agitated when he's seen in that space.
We even see how Blitzø's moments of vulnerability can be beneficial for him in his conversation with Verosika. The instant he let himself admit that he _wants_ to change, to stop being the awful person who's hurt so many people, she actually _softens_ a bit: cracks a smile, gives him some unironically good relationship advice, and perhaps most significantly, _she calls him 'Blitzø'._ Up until then, she'd been spitefully deadnaming him, but in that moment, it's as if she decided maybe this Blitzø guy sitting next to her could be a better person than the Blitzo she used to know.
I do hope we see Blitzø allow himself to be vulnerable more in future episodes. There's moments in the trailer that suggest he _will,_ but it'd be a _huge_ step in his development if he allows himself to show someone else that fractured core of his and is supported and comforted when he does -- from what we've been shown, Millie's the next person who'll see him at his lowest, and she's got a _lot_ of experience being a comforting, grounding influence on high-maintenance, neurotic guys trying to work through their traumas.
He did kind of let slip his self hatred in his conversation with Fizz S2 Episode 6 when he says "I mean its all my fault. I'd hate me too. I do hate-" and then he gets cut off by getting attacked but it's obvious that he meant to end it by saying me.
But I also agree with what else you're saying, just thought I'd point it out because I've been rewatching the scene I just quoted over and over again.
The "eat your heart out" gag had me ROLLING 😂
I hope at some point later down the line we actually get Stolas addressing his issues, because it's pretty obvious from the set up he gets WAY too caught up in his feelings and daydreams about what he wants with Blitz and is oblivious to the reality of what is going on. I'm pretty sure that's the clinical definition of delusional, but I also think it's important to look back at how Stolas was raised to see why he has these delusions. He grew up in an environment with no actual friends for him to interact with, meaning he never really developed proper social skills or how to properly read people. There's also the fact that, unlike every other imp in Hell, he's viewed Blitz as an equal, which makes him blind to just how classist his tendencies are and how degrading his behavior and words pre-Ozzie's comes across. Like it isn't just Blitz's issues causing this relationship to not work, it's Stolas' ignorance as well. And Stolas was ABOUT to self reflect before Verosika and Vortex dissuade him, which also highlights an issue of Verosika's party basically being a horrible way to work through past trauma. Keep reminding yourself once a year about a traumatic person in your life instead of taking your time to grieve then moving on. Even Stolas seems visibly uncomfortable by it at first
Blitz needs to keep his positive change going.
Stolas needs to realize how he’s wronged Blitz as well.
Verosika needs to let go.
Everyone needs therapy
Stolis could not change at all and still be a fantastic person. He doesn't need to change.
@@cablefeed3738 Stolas is absolutely terrible at listening to people and just assuming things until it's too late. We saw that in Episode Two with Octavia. Stolas 100% didn't realize how fucked up his treatment of Blitzø and their relationship was until basically Ozzie's. He ignored Blitzø's very obvious feelings and never really tried to actually talk things out. Even when he tried to make things better he gave Blitzø no time to process and when Blitzø was misunderstanding things just decided to end things without wanting to talk about it further.
Now I understand why he is the way he is, and they should not be together at this point at all, but Stolas was an equal partner in this trainwreck and if he doesn't change or improve that will continue to be a problem for himself and others going forward.
Oh, we also can't forget how he's pretty clearly classist/racist and how much that casual classism/racism affected Blitzø. I'm not even saying he's consciously bigoted. He's just grown up in an environment that's instilled it into him so much that he doesn't even realize it. As can be seen by his many demeaning comments towards Blitzø and other imps and the way he treats Pringles.
Georgia, will you ever look into Verosika as an analysis? I think that her resentment of Blitz changes from the context. When she's out in public, she lets her resentment be very over the top. Even privately, it's still there but not as much. In spite of the hurt she has gone through, I think Verosika is more emotionally mature than Blitz when her anger isn't in control.
will look into it i think lots of people want Verosika
That little catch in Blitz’s voice after Stolas slams the door. “*Everyone but YOU.”
I appreciate that Blitz is set up for a real redemption arc became his character type so rarely gets that.
Yeah, Blitz is my favorite and the fact that he's getting redemption and payback for his mistakes, instead of having the show excusing his behavior because he's the protagonist or something (like it usually happens), makes me appreciate him even more. He can only grow from now on and I root for him.
@@hana_flower875 All too often characters like Blitz either get a full pass or they get labeled irredeemable, I'm so into him getting proper redemption.
@@hana_flower875yes this! I cannot choose between the two because in reality there is no "binary" between them. He needs this!
I like the details the showrunners put in, like for example Verosica calling Blitz BlitzO with emphasis on the "O" that makes him angry, but the moment he acnowledged his mistake and seriously thought about it she called him "Blitz" it shows that she still cares and is willing to put bad things aside in favor of fairness
“Actions speak louder than words” and blitz did that for fizz since he finally redeemed himself by truly apologizing that he got fizz so hurt and saving his life something he couldn’t done in the past If Blitz can make things right with fizz and verosika, he can definitely do the same with stolas and Barbie
The way I see it, Fizz laid everything on the table about what went wrong the day of the fire and the aftermath and how Blitz hurt him. When Blitz couldn't excuse or deny his actions from that day, he fell to pieces and admitted that he was the cause of the accident.
@@kittylover62 so you agree or disagree of what I’m saying?
@@galaxy_cat9575 I agree. Judging by the trailer, Blitz and Stolas will have a similar situation like with Fizz and both of them will have to tell each other how they feel in order to gain common ground, at least
I love the little details of how Stolas and Blitz relate to each other physically during the party. Even though they're both hurt and struggling to be understood, their actions reveal so clearly that they both still care. Stolas shields Blitz from view and gently guides him away from the crowd. Blitz holds Stolas and helps him up when he falls. I think they both have a lot of healing and reflecting to do before they can be any good for each other, but I have hope they'll pull it off.
I relate to both Blitzø and Stolas in different ways. It hurts to see them both want affection but miscommunicate and push each other away. However, I do agree that they both have to work on healing themselves before Stolitz has a chance at a healthier relationship. 💕
Something I have to say is, Blitz wasn't wrong for thinking Stolas thinks or thought little of him, the language Stolas used in the past was honestly very belittling
I’ve been using with the Keyser Söze philosophy in my private life: “one cannot be betrayed, if one has no people.”
I’ve been so excited to see her analysis of this episode. Hopefully Stolas can have his own “This is how he messed up, as well, and how they can fix it.”
oh hell yeah he will! "You never loved mother or me - YOU ONLY LOVE HIM!" -octavia from trailer
yes lets goooooooo
One thing I've noticed is that in the song Stolas sings during the party he sort of acknowledges that he missed a lot of signs; "What if it's all on me for missing every sign and every glance and every turn.". However, we also hear Verosika and Vortex singing in the background denying that it was all his fault; "No, no, no, he's a motherf###er". He says that maybe there's something he can learn from Blitzo and again Verosika and Vortex repeat the same line. I don't think it's *all* Stolas' fault but I think he recognizes that he must've missed something, that he must've done something wrong as well, but those around him who just met him don't know that. To us it might be obvious but to him he might not notice. For instance, he might not fully recognize what he's said to Blitzo is offensive or what he's done is taken as a microagression, or maybe he just thinks Blitzo is into whatever he's doing when in actuality he's sick of it. Sure, maybe Stolas should've clarified and asked "hey, this is okay, right?" but that also lands on Blitzo to clearly state "hey, can you not do that, I don't like you calling me that" when Stolas clearly keeps missing more subtle cues. Idk man, clear communication seems to be both of their worst enemies plus low self worth.
I still shake my head at Stolas' "I never looked down on you" this episode.
He explicitly did for the first half of season 1
I feel like the episode take Stolas side to much honestly
Stolas started the transactions and mabey thought he was being flirty but blitz didn’t find it comfortable….
Blitz literally can’t grasp the relationship boundaries
Hope there’s an episode where Stolas apologizes too
@@Dolly.956.A lot of it is just shown from Stolas' perspective, like the song. And with Verosika and Blitz, it was really Blitz who fucked up and not her. So her taking Stolas' side seems natural. I think it makes sense to bring up Stolas' and Blitz' issues seperately, so here's to hoping Stolas' stuff will be brought up in later expisodes.
@@Dolly.956. Going by Octavia’s line in the trailer, it seems there actually might be at some point
Thank you !
This episode of Helluva Boss hit me pretty hard because Blitz is acting like I did when I was younger. I was abused by my family and bullied at school. I still have the trust issues, but I am no longer self sabatoging my relationships. It's not easy and it takes a lot of work to heal from that trauma.
"I don't want to be like this anymore"-I said those words to myself 15 years ago. I was 25 at the time.
It's been hard work, getting better. But... The most important step one can take isn't the first, it's the _next one._ And the next. And the next, day after day.
(To anyone reading this: don't hesitate to reach out to a therapist. If you've tried and it's gone poorly, don't be disheartened-it's okay to look for another one. It took me countless tries to find one that worked for me, but it's been so very worth it.)
I hope others have the courage to do the same. Thank you for sharing
It was 18 for me, I don't know if you did it intentionally but that next step statement is almost a direct quote from one of my favorite books Oathbringer.
Gave me some hope at a dark times that things could be better, that I could be better. Hope you are doing well now.
Internet comments are a great example of love turned hatred. Your posting to make the video better cause you think the author can do better but then it turns into an argument and love can flash into rage in an instant.
Blitz' apology baskets are interesting cuz it's sort of the opposite of what you said? Like, they're personalized, but for HIS preference, and not for the recipients? It's hot sauce and cheese, which he's been shown to snack on--something HE likes. It's definitely a choice to do that and not an actually generic basket or flowers.. Not sure of its implications though. 🤔
He's relying on the power of cheese.
@@angrytheclown801 Honestly so real of him *nod* 😅
@@angrytheclown801 He knows that he can fascinate a woman by giving her a piece of cheese
"I dont look down on you, when have I ever" meanwhile through the series we see scenes of Stolas calling Blitzø "my little imp" or making a sexual deal with him with a massive power imbalance. Not to mention they made the deal with Blitzø being shot at. Truth is Blitzø is right, Stoals may care but he has treated Blitzø as lesser than.
As much as I realize that both Stolas and Blitzø screwed up and have genuine apologies to give and work/growing to do, I was proud of Stolas for how he stood up for himself at the beginning when he told Blitzø he was no longer comfortable with how he was being spoken to. I really hope we get to see the other side of their traumas, and that the rest of the series is them healing.
To be completely fair to Blitz. Stolas has looked down on imps on several occasions. "My little immp" calling mnm "you shorter ones" and a few other occasions
Exactly
I hadn't really noticed before, but Blitz is really calling out Stolas' hypocrisy. Honestly, they're *both* in the wrong and both need healing on their own before attempting to try at a secure relationship. In the state they're in currently, they're far too toxic to be together.
Im not gonna lie this last episode really hit me hard. Whenever love starts to form in my life I always end up pushing them away. I always end up self sabotaging. I really hope it works out for blitz and stolas.
As much as I wanted Blitz to go after Stolas, to put effort into showing he actually cares and live up to what Stolas wants... Blitz needs therapy before he gets into another romantic relationship, seriously. As much as this was heartbreaking, it was needed. Stolas will be there, we all know it. Blitz, go get help... if Hell even has therapists. And you have a couple friends, Fizz and Ozzie, who can get you ANY therapist you want or need. You also have a whole support system that cares for you that won't let you give up or run away. Millie, Moxxie, Loona, Fizz, and Ozzie. Hell, Octavia might even help. She didn't DISLIKE Blitz and she loves seeing her dad happy, and she knows he's happy with Blitz.
Side note; I love how Verosika didn't even react to Blitz being at that party. She knows no one hates Blitz more than he hates himself. He deserves to be there more than anyone else.
Would love to see a follow up video on Verosika. She was very much vindicated in this episode by sharing her side of the story, but she's still so vindictive that she holds a grudge and badly needs better coping skills, especially with her alcoholism.
As someone who escaped a bad relationship, I know what it's like to carry a weird guilt where you still feel like the bad guy for holding onto that anger, no matter how justified it is. It's a dangerous way for us to keep letting "gone" people continue to hurt us by lashing out at ourselves, and that can very much use a therapist's insight.
I think the song pretty much summed it up for her. She doesn’t have any more feelings for Blitzo, but she still has deep seated issues that go past him.
When Blitzo lashed out when Stolas asked him if he has ever said sorry to anyone, I was shocked by what he said. Blitzo always struck me as someone who lived in the moment. He's not the type to think long-term or consider possibilities. It was kind of cool to see him be so introspective.
Like in the aftermath of the Ozzie's disaster?
It's kind of interesting that he does seem to have a working idea of people that he has hurt and would need to apologize to even if he doesn't actually mean it. He does actually recognize that there are people he has hurt unjustly but is just unwilling to do anything atm.
I'm glad I found your videos. I have mental health issues, BPD and PTSD trauma, and is really hard even with medication to deal with it. Watching Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel, I am finding myself in certain characters and traits such as self destruction, avoidance of emotions and social ties, avoiding love etc and is good to see your analysis of it. Obviously this isn't a replacement for seeing someone but also helps explain a few things to me.
The opposite of love is not hatred, it's not caring at all.
Hot-damn that's a profound statement.
How easy it is to mistake a loved ones harsh criticism for a sign that they don't care. If they truly didn't, they wouldn't go through the effort to criticize at all.
Just walk away, not put in the effort, not bother hoping. Just walk away and heal.
I did that, i healed, move on. Partner is a wreck. But idk. They never treated me with a oz of respect and the person i chose was Warm, strong, kind and loving. And maybe he wasn't perfect, but he was the best i found in a thousand.
Blitz Realationship with Stolas is a complext one.
Both are at fault. (Blitz for not trying to heal in possitive way and Stolas for making it about the deal in first place and droping Biggest bombshells out of nowhere)
3:54 i think Blitz was trying to sound indifferent and sarcastic but instead Blitz said something that hurt himself. Blitz' body is against him and i don't think he realizes what's coming out of his mouth sometimes, he just explodes everything out because he repressed his feelings for so long. This is why you shouldn't repress your feelings because one day you'll just explode on someone that doesn't deserve it. Blitz' mood swings are so hard to watch, poor guy.
1. really love what you had to say about what a meaningful apology requires
2. didn’t say it in the last video but seriously love the helluva boss themed costume design, the horns are sick af
Aww thanks yes I really love the blitzø horns also
Inside of Every Demon Is A Rainbow.. But you can't have rainbows without rain.
Stolas and Blitz will take a bit of time away to go sort through their personal trauma, but by the end we are all gonna be crying our eyes out when they both finally open up. I can't wait to see those tears of joy. I hope Vivzie gives us a good helping of Stolitz fluff before the show finally ends.
Something that really sets your videos apart, and something I love seeing, is how you talk about the characters and universe as if they were real people and not just scripted entities. It’s easy to just brush it off and be like “oh I’m sure the writers will just ensure that they get together in the end, so all of it doesn’t matter.” You talk about it as if it’s actually happening and it’s up to the characters themselves to fix the problems they created, not the writers. Makes it feel more immersive, all these characters could use a therapist.
It's important to go over what Blitz did to Verosika. He stole her car and money on the same day she poured her heart out to him.
Respectfully, I have an alternate thought on Blitz letting Stolas go dance instead of keeping him there. I see where it could be avoidant behavior, but I actually think it was one of Blitz's more selfless moments. He's just heard Stolas pour his heart out about just wanting someone to *want him*, to care for him and show genuine interest in him. And Blitz has just tried....and failed.... to do it. He reached, but could not yet bring himself to cross the divide.
And then here comes someone who does *exactly that*. Notices Stolas, shows care, compliments him in a non-creepy way, shows interest and wants to spend time with him. And Stolas looks to *Blitz* for permission. He could have said no, and Stolas would have stayed; he has to know that now after what's been said. But he *lets him go*. He doesn't stand in the way of Stolas having a chance to feel what he desires most, because Blitz recognizes that he can't give that to him. Not yet. If he had said no, not only would he be a huge hypocrite, it would also very much imply that he cares less about Stolas' happiness than he does possessing him and his heart.
So I was SO very proud of Blitz in that moment. 😊
Well, actually, Stolas DOES look down on Blitzø, though not in a malicious or conscious way. He calls him his "little imp," he uses a nickname Blitzø doesn't like, and calls him cute when he's serious. Blitzø HAS resisted these things but Stolas still did them throughout their relationship. Blitzø just stopped bothering to say anything because of his struggle with communication I think. I feel like Stolas just saw it as fun and games without thinking about how Blitzø really felt about it and didn't take Blitzø very seriously. He doesn't think he looks down on Blitzø because he doesn't realise he does as someone who came from royalty. I feel like it's a lot more than projection on Blitzø's part, with obliviousness on Stolas's.
A critique about the "you can't love anyone else until you love yourself" cliche, and the concept that you'll poison relationships you're in if you don't love yourself. I think that no matter how hard you work on healing yourself, humans are a social animal and shouldn't put off human connection until we fix ourselves.
When I had fresh PTSD from an incident that led to my friend group taking my abuser's side, I would've agreed. I would make connections (nonromantic ones) but then feel this guilt - I was broken and depressed and if I ended up unaliving myself, I would hurt them. So I lived in a cycle of pushing people away and then getting close to them or others again because, as much as I tried, I could not live my life completely isolated.
No matter how much work you do on yourself, PTSD doesn't heal overnight. What did facilitate my healing was having a few people that were consistently there for me over the years, who I loved and who loved me. Even though I couldn't love myself, not yet.
I think "you can't love anyone until you love yourself" just encourages people to isolate and get worse and worse until the need for human connection overwhelms them and they get close to others anyway. I understand it is often meant about romantic relationships, but a broken person won't necessarily get that. Especially because there are a lot of types of love.
To be fair: He had no reason to apologize to Martha. Somebody needed to put her down.
plus she got a girlfriend now since she got killed.. sooo good for her ig
The sad thing is; their "friendship" wasn't even real. Blitz was essentially bought and asked to rob them. He didn't of course and they "became friends" but Stolas didn't know and genuinely thought he was his first friend. That moment along with the fire and the "I wish you were my son" on that card Blitz's dad gave fizz. I'm sorry but Blitz isn't the bad guy tbh. He was set up to fail; took it in and cut anyone off the moment they said "I love you" I'm guessing the only imp he'd heard that from was his mom. Who died in the fire killing his "love"
Can we talk about that brief moment when Blitz attempts to reach out to Stolas and the music is the only thing you can hear just as the lyrics go “don’t touch the pretty thing”? 😩 let the waterworks pour out man 😭
Personally, I can really relate to Blitz. While I probably have much more self-awareness, don't personally hate myself so much and have learnt to keep my behaviour in check, I really know how it feels to get constant microaggressions and then have someone be like "I didn't know you thought so low of me" when you call it out, or generally just feeling like...like things can't happen, generally, because of such different social standing and lived reality. Honestly, it sucks and I can understand Blitz there...and am happy to see that represented in media.
Honestly, stoles did look down on Blitz many times at the first season. He literally called him his little imp and a play thing, and when he was talking about his clients, he said oh I sory ur clients have to wait, as if it was not an important thing
The intensity of Blitzø's disorganized attachment style, self hatred, emotional outbursts, going through hoops to avoid abandonment, bouts of hypers*xuality, and overall sh*tty childhood leads me to believing Blitzø has BPD. The fact Blitzø's character was closely inspired by Bojack Horseman makes me believe this as well. Blitzø is the BPD to Bojack's NPD, both closely related cluster B personality disorders that stem from trauma.
You do know who's with Martha right? The teacher from "murder family" lol good on them tbh
Who else was dying to hear Verosika say "it starts with sorry"?
I heard that in Charlie’s voice
@@GeorgiaDowsame! 😂
"I sorried Fizz so hard, he cried." When in fact, Blitz is the one in tears....
I would be intrigued to see an analysis on the dynamic of the Cherubs from their transition to being happy in heaven serving god to turning spiteful and vindictive towards the Imps. I think your videos are very detailed and informative about the awareness on potential reasons for these characters being who they are and what they do especially at this century ad mental health is vital for everyone to learn. 😊
Now to note: Collin isn’t exactly shown to genuinely be vengeful which could mean he could get a separate video but it mainly applies to Cletus and Keenie.
Blitzø: "I come from poison; I have poison inside me, and I destroy everything I touch. That's my legacy. I have nothing to show for the life that I've lived, and I have nobody in my life who's better off for having known me."
where did you get that quote it sounds cool
@@sskklover69 BoJack Horseman.
@@origamipein18 thanks bro :)
@@sskklover69 You're welcome.
Saw the title and was like "boy, where do you even start with this"
I always love your analysis because it makes me feel like I’m not reading into the shows too much. As an example I have NPD so it was refreshing to see you explain narcissism in a way that didn’t demonize people who suffer from it, and actually explains the emotional struggle and self hatred that can be the root cause of it all.
I also have BPD though, and I see a lot of my own emotions and behavior in how Blitzo feels and acts in his relationships, and I’m not the first to notice either. I was wondering what you thought about that interpretation? Without “diagnosing” him, of course
I WAS WAITING FOR THIS VIDEO! Thank you. :3
But seriously, you hit EVERYTHING on the head. My heart breaks with these two. I do genuinely think they need each other because they would balance each other out beautifully. They are good for each other...BUT in order for their relationship to even remotely be healthy, they need to sort through their shit. As much as it hurts not having them together, they need this.
as lizzo once said: "How am I supposed to love somebody else? When I don't like myself, like, ooh"
“Oh oh oh it’s lizzo!”
Then she'll fat shame her dancers in the next breath. But yeah. Gotta love yourself first lol.
You can definitely love someone else and not yourself tho.
@@pie1o1morris46 Yea but trying to have a deep loving relationship while you do not love yourself will involve you having poor standards for how you should be treated or may cause assuming the other person doesn’t really care and lashing like Blitzo and a variety of other issues, basically it’s hard to maintain proper relationships that involve loving someone else if you don’t love yourself, it tends to poison the relationship to an extent and make it more toxic.
Rupauls been saying that for years
Not to be hostile, but over time, I've found that while the meaning of, "You can't love somebody until you love yourself," is one thing, the effect of this becoming common wisdom in the world is discriminatory: "If you don't love yourself, you aren't worthy of love." We may say that nobody is an island, that we're social animals, that we're designed for affection ... but those sentiments disappear as soon as somebody is inconvenient, then we treat them like they deserve to die alone because they're not the Übermensch, that they might as well have never been born if they're not willing to break their own bones and beliefs for self-actualization. My heart breaks from Apology Tour, not because of what happens, but because of what will happen later: a cycle of development and reward that most people never experience in real life. The show will sell us on a psychological/interpersonal fairy tale of healing and strength that almost never actually happens. I want Blitzø to never have a future with Stolas, because that resonates so much more authentically with real life. I want Blitzø to hurt for the rest of his life, not because I relish the thought, but because I feel the next step forward is letting the suffering have Dignity.
We have to acknowledge that Stolas is not the one who has left a string of emotionally injured exes in his wake over what is apparently over the course of YEARS, and I am saying this as someone who loves these characters, although I'm not entirely certain I need them to be together to like them. (Eh, on further thought I think I actually would like them to be endgame, really. 😢)
There are a lot of folk, for example, pointing out Stolas's behavior at Ozzie's, as if Blitz hadn't been using him just to be a convenient plus-one to basically stalk Millie and Moxxie since he'd failed to seduce the bouncer; as if Blitz wasn't actually trying his damndest to horn in on Moxxie and Millie's marriage from the actual get go of the series; when that pair have clearly indicated that they have no interest whatsoever in a third, or a switch, (or whatever the jargon is now, I know I'm bad at it, I'm genuinely sorry!) Stolas was not even a second choice, though he thought he was a first one.
I would say both Blitz and Stolas were calling undue attention to themselves, but Blitz began it, and he began it, honestly, so he could harass a couple on their honeymoon who'd been begging him from the absolute beginning of the series to *quit it* . Blitz, causing extra attention to Moxxie and Millie, brought more attention on himself and by proxy onto Stolas than anyone needed to have in that situation. Of course they were going to get mocked. Of course Stolas was going to hide behind his menu, he thought he was going on a date, not a roast. This is a person who has been getting smacked around by his arranged wife and disassociating/staring at the walls to conceive a child (numbers seem to put him at age 19 when he became a father).
The saddest thing is that *neither* of them seem to like themselves very much. 😢
The best take on the Ozzie's episode I have seen so far.
I’ve been looking forward to this video since the episode came out. This episode made me cry more than any previous episode, it _consistently_ makes me cry, and the worst part is that I still find Blitzø the more relatable one between him and Stolas. That’s the real pain of watching _Helluva Boss:_ sympathizing with such a self-destructive protagonist. If Blitzø were a song, he’d probably be “And If I Did, You Deserved It”, now with a dash of “Against The Kitchen Floor” (both by Will Wood).
But he’s such a special little guy. I don’t even think everyone at that party necessarily slept with him, because I don’t even live in the same reality as he does and I still might possibly consider attending if I were invited, because if he ever did anything that hurt me that much, I wouldn’t want to suffer alone either. It’s not like I’d *_want_* to be mad at this badass, scrappy, circus brat underdog; he’s incredibly special to me and I love him and want to know him. I’ve hated myself a lot, too. I just want Blitzø to finally be happy, whatever that takes.
Also semi-spoilers but not really since he was in the Season 2B trailer, but a new Goetia character named Vassago is supposed to show up later this season. His namesake has clear vision of things past and future and can locate things that have been lost. I bring this up because those powers honestly sound like they’d be really helpful for a potential therapist friend to have. I look forward to meeting him. Lovely analysis as usual ❤
Stolas has a huge issue with the concept of love due to his only real concepts of it being from Telanovelas and the romance novels he reads.
Granted, yeah, his being married off to Stella did NOT help. His father's lack of attention, only to be told that his only use to this family is to have a kid and then just read prophecies in the stars added to that
Not to mention the constant abuse from Stella which Olivia was privy to and has given her psychological issues as well which Stolas probably hasn't gotten her help for has not helped his relationship with her, has also made him want to feel those things he told Blitz about wanting to be wanted and everything are all VERY valid.
But I think when Blitz broke into the house and started showing him some interest, he went off the deep end. Stolas is sheltered and socially inept and with his lack of intimate relationships and his only perspective on those being from idealized or dramatized versions of romance, a childhood friend that you have been harboring affection for suddenly shows up and shows an interest in you flipped a switch I mean look at the things he was saying to Blitz, the poor guy was weirded out and we all know what a freak Blitz is, especially after Fizz gave him that chainsaw engine powered bad dragon knockoff toy.
And while I agree with Blitz asking Stolas to stay would have been wise, I think letting him go was the smarter thing in the long run.
Stolas was married to Stella, who was an emotionally and physically abusive wife, and Blitz, a guy who matches his freak and had a previous connection with but also has lived a life that Stolas is ignorant of is not the most ideal way to go about forming healthy romantic bonds with.
Stolas needs to play the field a bit. He needs to see life outside his station and with others and learn about the world he's been blinded to.
Stolas constantly and unintentionally was demanding to Blitz. In episode 1, he calls Blitz who was under duress and forced the arrangement on him, constantly flirted with him after hiring him even after Blitz said not to, talks down a bit to Moxie and Millie and let's not even get into his treatment of his staff, especially the one small imp who we see at Ozzie's that has massive game, I guess he's called Chip because people think he's a snack, along with so many other instances. He called him his impish little play thing and reminded Blitz that "Itty bitty imps" weren't allowed to have his book and that they'd be in big trouble if anyone found out.
So yeah, Blitz and the others have every right to be worried about the book, which explains I.M.P tailing Blitz.
If Blitz hadn't got that crystal and Stolas took the book, I.M.P was done. They'd have been out of jobs and destitute. Hell Moxie and Mille might be fine, but Blitzo and Loona live in a one bedroom apartment with the bedroom being Loona's and Blitz sleeping on the couch and Loona is lower on the societal ladder than Blitz, there may be little chance of recovery while Stolas, eh financially he'd have been fine. So there's a lot I think people forget that while yes, Blitz is messing up a lot and it's all totally inexcusable, Stolas had a lot more power in their relationship than he knew which I believe he's starting to understand but has not fully reconciled with and I'm fine with the relationship as it is right now.
Based on merch Stolitz is the end game, but it's gonna be a long and painful journey and both are gonna need to work on themselves.
I do like that Georgia said what I said on twitter to someone after said this sucked, although my wording was, "You can't be happy in love, unless you're happy with yourself," and I think people want this ship to work SO BADLY that they forget that life is messy and complicated at times and we've been spoiled by our expectations thanks to movies and books and T.V.
JUST LIKE STOLAS!
They both need time apart and help and honestly if Stolas gets a one night stand with that incubi, hey, good for you bud.
Also I do think Stolas would be understanding about Blitz not dealing with Striker the second time if he knew Blitz was being a good dad to Loona, but we may never know.
Also, also, I think Blitz was the one who cried not Fizz, so yeah he's lying again because he thinks showing that emotion is week.
And Martha was sleeping with Mrs. Mayberry, the teacher that hired I.M.P to kill her. How messed up is that?
Okay, so this is where I may be in the wrong for saying this but Stolas choosing to go dance with the other Imp instead of staying with Blitz was better than him staying with Blitz. That conversation could've gone any way just like the others but it also shows Blitz that Stolas was always there. Stolas was always ready to talk and listen, but now that Blitz pushed Stolas out of his life, Stolas doesn't feel obligated to be there anymore. He Blitz the choice to listen to his words, hear his heart, and Blitz mocked him, degraded him, and made him to be a villain in the world of Blitz. Stolas isn't 100% innocent, but Blitz had no right to treat Stolas with such disregard and hatred.
Blitz waves his hand as a signal that he can leave, though. Stolas would probably stay if Blitz said something but he literally shoos him away.
Honestly, as someone with serious issues with theirself, I empathize with Blitzø a lot. Now, granted, I'm not self-sabotaging level of self-hatred, but I'm not very fond of myself as a person. I just can't help but wonder why anyone ever tolerates me, why anyone puts up with my bullsh*t. Of course, I've had a lot of help, and I've had a lot of people there to motivate me and assure me I deserve the amazing stuff I have in my life. But, I don't if I can bring my accept that. And I don't know if I ever will.
SORRY Didn't mean to get anyone involved with MY problems, who wants jambalaya?
*insert Alastor's Mr. Krabs ahh laugh from the Hazbin Hotel Japanese dub*
THE STORY OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP JOURNEY IS MESSY AND THEY NEED TO WORK ON THEMSELVES AND WE ARE HERE FOR IT
I'm kind of curious how they will deal with the ways Stolas contributed to the relationship going badly. The way I read it, while it's primarily Blitz' mental health issues that make him bring issues to the relationship, for Stolas, to me it seems less like his psychological issues and more his unawareness of the social issues that makes him make things problematic.
Considering how he was raised and who he was forcibly married to, are you surprised??
How does one heal from Blitzo’s attachment style? All that self hate and attachment style runs so deep and we all know he won’t be getting therapy.
That's the question I ask myself every day. I don't have the trail Blitz has, but because I realized it in time and started skipping straight to the breakup. It doesn't feel good to be in Blitz' place I can tell you.
@@angrytheclown801 I hope things get better for you. There's always a sunny side, I swear.
Self-flagellating before the idol of the youtube algorithm, absolving my sins so that my purified soul can request Scavenger's Reign content and be heard.
Yes please do scavenger's reign!!! Loving that show!!
17:52 it's in your voice, how much you're frustrated and sad for verosika...❤
The song in the background when Blitz is trying to offer comfort saying "don't touch that pretty thing" kills me
I feel like Blitzø needs to improve himself first before he can have a genuine relationship with Stolas
So glad to see you post again about Helluva Boss ❤ also what a lovely voice you have ❤
I'm hoping your analysis of Blitz's self-hatred can help me analyze my own.
Same
I do have to point out that blitz isn't completely wrong. Stolas did definitely fetishize the class difference between the two so it's completely understandable why blitz would think that
Even though Blitzo is trying to change. I can't give him a pass on any of his, lack for a better word, sins because people are still getting hurt because of him. Moxie, Millie, and Luna are going to pay through the nose because of his transgressions. As the saying goes, things gets worse before things gets better.
I always appreciate your videos so much. Your takes on these characters are so insightful, and you really pick up on the nuance of these characters. People are quick to take sides and blame either Stolas or Blitz completely without considering why they behave the way they do and that this is not simply a situation where one side is the wronged/victim.
Out of curiosity, how long does it take you to make one of these videos?
Can be fair to blitz and point out when he asked to "just say my name right" he won't and many other examples of stoles seemingly to use blitz
21:06 also she called him Blitz not BlitzO how she used to
It’s also worth noting that the cake at the party was modeled to look like blitz so she quite literally gave him his own heart, wich I interpreted as she finally letting go and getting over him because she is giving him his heart back. Verosika clearly wasn’t over blitz yet as she literally says that in her songs and also throws a party about hating him? If you vividly hate your ex you’re clearly not over them so I like to see this as her finally finishing up with him.
Maybe I’m overinterpreting this, but I like to see it as symbolism^^
The Butcher episode and this one have really resonated with me. I find it really easy to get along with friends, but struggle with love and deep intimacy. I'm working on that, but it's always a struggle. I'm really glad you ended up covering Helluva Boss and I hope you've enjoyed it :)
Thank you for the amazing work you do and for sharing such amazing advice. You're helping a lot of us out here and making therapy really accessible.
aww thanks for the support so kind and I am happy that these videos resonated with you as well
Sorry miss but I’m skipping this vid, the episode was too personal so I’m intentionally avoiding rewatching and discussions of this episode. If that’s a problem or anything I’m sorry
Hey, it's alright, I mean, if it's really that personal and painful, then you are under NO obligation to hurt yourself over a piece of media.
It was thoughtful that you took the time to let her know that you support and love her work, even if you had to skip this particular one for personal reasons.
Ok but blitz has a lot of reason to believe stolas looks down on him
'When have I ever?'
- s1e1 'does that sound fair, my little imp?'
- s1e1 *explicit rant about how carnal the affection is and how he only wants blitz's body*
- s1e2 *pays blitz for a bodyguard job, flirts with him the entire time, even when he tells him not to*
- s1e2 *nickname blitz never agreed to, plus it's outside of their arrangement deal*
- s1e5 calls blitz an 'itty bitty imp' that's actually degrading, and they're not fucking at the moment so it's not part of the game just racism
- s1e5 more nicknames, disregards objections, and parading him around agaisnt his will isn't going public, it's freak show and attention blitz never asked for and that would only punish him if people had opinions cause again, racism/classism (aka blitz would immediately be assumed to be the bad guy and lynched)
- s1e6 he calls blitz 'impish little plaything' in front of not just his coworkers and daughter but also strangers
- calls the IMP gang 'little creatures'
- e1s6 demands out of contract fucking for rescuing him, making it very clear every action between them is conditional
- s1e7 *hides when called out at ozzie's*
- s2e2 *praises blitz only for his actions in bed as encouragement, again solidifying that's all he's good for*
- western energy, the text convos show he takes no accountability for what happened at ozzies and instead blames ozzie
- full moon, repeatedly talks over blitz
- full moon, repeatedly disregards blitz's objections or questioning
- full moon, dismisses him constantly
- full moon, puts words in his mouth
- full moon, refuses to take accountability when blitz calls him out
- full moon, is too up in his head about his own hurt that he refuses to acknowledge how he's hurt blitz
- apology tour, all of the above
'Do you feel any remorse for what you do?' That's a good question isn't it? For someone that actually has a long list of evidence.
Out of all the exes blitz should apologoze to, stolas is not one of them. Abuse is abuse whether it's portrayed as a joke or not and it shouldn't have to take a poc pov to figure that out. Unless stolas self reflects and acknowledges what he's done and apologizes first, blitz shouldn't have to apolgize to his abuser
I recently took a in-depth quiz with my therapist and the result was also an anxious-avoidant (disorganized) attachment style. It was shocking because I’m told this is usually seen in people with unstable/abusive households which I’m not from. This was (so far) the best breakdown of the attachment style I have heard and appreciate your insight ❤
The writing for Hellava Boss is so good. I love how they take characters who act a certain way toward the main cast, and a few episodes later your opinion completely shifts because you find out why or see a new side of people. They did it with Fitz and Ozzie and now they are doing it with Veroska.
Ive seen some hot takes that say Blitzø or Stolas are abusing each other. And. No. See Valentino.
But they are broken people. And the broken edges of themselves cut the other person, and themselves.
Anywho. I really like this series. I've got my own mental health struggles. It's been helping me look at things differently
Am actually on blitzes side with regards to the break up. While stolaz never meant to intentionally belittle him, he did do so accidentally a bunch of times. In spite of blitz's protest, stolas kept calling him blitzy and other pet names. If I remember correctly, he once called him his little play thing. Also, at Ozie's , stolas covered his face with the menu, which sent a signal to blitz that reaffirmed his anxious and avoidant concerns that stolas could never be seen with him in a serious relationship. While we as an audience manage to see all of stolas' love songs , blitz never managed to see any of that. Blitz only ever saw the side of stolas that treats him as a sex buddy. He was completely blindsided by the conversation, and if you read the messages between him and stolaz , stolaz did nothing to imply that their meeting in full moon was going to be about anything other than sex. Most importantly, Stolas had all the power in the relationship. Stolas set up the conditions of their meeting and established the boundaries of their relationship, and blitz had no say on it because he was dependent on stolaz to keep his business running. This power inbalance is exactly what blitz is trying to convey to stolas ,but stolas ;although not purposefully, lacks the social awareness to see things from blitz's point of view. Now , I understand that blitz , as established in this episode, has a pattern of avoidant behaviours that he needs to overcome , but my point is, it wasn't just blitz messing up.