1. Extremely private. 2. Read others like a book. 3. Surprisingly impulsive. 4. Problem standing ground. 5. Predict the future. 6. Everything must be perfect. 7. Weirdest around strangers. 8. Many varied interests & hobbies. 9. Fight for others more than themselves.
All good qualities, not weird. #3 I do not agree with. We are much more indecisive than impulsive. We think things through from all angles do as not to make a mistake.
@@jenniferrevilla5298 it will improve overtime dont worry. im so indecisive when im young. now at 40s i would just make decision much more quicker and thats probably because ive gone thru similar decision making stage that i tend to remember past results and remember newer info to compensate that
@@jenniferrevilla5298 yup agree. Although there are times that I think this quality you cite quite accurately actually allows us to act suddenly with uncharacteristic speed and looks impulsive and out of character for us. When it's really just more a case of us being more aware and having thought it all through and can act faster than someone else.
Tested several times as INFJ. After one a tyrant boss said they hated INFJ. Then proceeded to be very mentally & emotionally abusive. I don't have all the traits listed here. 1. Not terribly private but absolutely prefer to be alone. And quiet, no TV, Radio, etc. much the time. I enjoy being with others in small doses. 2. Not very impulsive. Wasn't something I could indulge in most of my life and I prefer to be prepared, even over prepared. 4. If injustice or morality is involved, I stand my ground totally. Also don't bend rules or like others doing that. 6. The older I get the easier it is for me to accept being imperfect.
Being private is weird. Being able to be alone is weird. Being able to read people is weird. Empathy is weird. Compassion is weird. Thinking about the future is weird. (btw. not the ability to create pretty well fitting prediction makes an INFJ secretive, it's people criticizing the sht out of us). Being a perfectionist, who is responsible and well-organized is weird. Having many interests and hobbies, being open/creative is weird. Fighting for someone else more than for yourself is weird. Maybe the world would be a better place if people would be weirder.
I honestly dont understand how *all* of those can be categorized as weird. The one thing that's weird is the person who is calling all of these things weird.
Honestly, I think the terms normal and weird are little more than subjective theory at this point. What's weird to some is normal to others and vice versa. The words themselves hold next to no meaning to me. What do I know though, ahahaha
I think "unique" is more appropriate than the word "weird" because these characteristics are unique to INFJ personality. It has a more positive connotation. I embrace being an INFJ and don't consider my behaviors overall "weird".
We aren’t weird, we are simply misunderstood by 97% of the population and if we seem reserved, that’s a good first reason why. The only thing I had real issue with was how he said we have to tell the future. Introverted intuition is not fortune-telling. It’s an innate sensitivity to subtle patterns that give us an idea of what will happen based on information already provided that not everyone can perceive. Other than that and calling these behaviors weird, I’d say it’s pretty much spot on.
How is that not predicting the future though, if you can see patterns that will give you a relatively good idea of what’s about to happen and then it comes true?
@@wonkygustav4457 I see what you mean, but id say that fortune-telling/future prediction are done without context. It’s just asking someone what will happen and they tell you. The intuition an INFJ has CAN, but not always will, arrive at the same “telling” but through a different means. Without crystal ball, magic, tarot cards, reading the bones, or some other supernatural method we often associate with predictions, INFJ is more like an unconscious statistician - seeing patterns and working out a probability of the likelihood of something happening, given a particular context. I’m not an authority on the subject by any means, but I hope the example provides some clarity to the difference. Be well.
@@wonkygustav4457It’s not a psychic kind of prediction. We have an innate ability to see patterns, on a conscious and subconscious level. And by noticing these patterns, we can often predict how things will play out. It also helps us read body language. We notice subtleties most others don’t.
I think it is very unfair to call any of these behaviours weird. Weird according to whom? By who's standards? They are just behaviours. It is damaging for us to be told that so many perfectly ordinary things are weird. Is it any wonder we are so private when we are being judged that way.
The human world is full a concepts and concepts don’t have any futility it’s just how we define the world from a certain perspective it’s like describing the color blue. We are only acquainted to our own experience. Judgement is another form of concept we must watch our own judgement of the world, fyi I agree with this comment.
Well being a toxic a hole is normalized. I think being weird is a breath of fresh air at times. Don't think of it as a negative aspect. Love yourself no matter what other people's perspectives are. Your mind is where peace is cultivated.
It's definitely weird. Probably becuase it's uncommon. Sorry but these things are weird. Even something as obviously normal as planning ahead and trying to have a long view on things. People can barely plan what they're going to do from minute to minute. So actually being mindful and forward thinking is considered weird. Sucks that the world is full of dummies but it is what it is
As an INFJ, I hate conflict. They state that disagreements can lead to an open give-and-take discussion, except that in my experience conflict leads to people steamrolling me. There is no give-and-take. Other people just take...then I disappear.
Yep, I have tried to open up about my opinions to friends I’ve become close with for years, and everyone immediately ditches me when I show an opposing opinion even though I’m okay with them not agreeing with me. I’m not trying to change their opinion, just share mine, but they seem to not be okay with me not having the same opinions as them 😢 I always try to say “let’s agree to disagree” because I don’t need everyone to think what I think, we can coexist! But they don’t want to… I want to hang out with people even if they don’t agree with me on everything, I can’t find anyone who agrees with me on enough to be okay with my opinions, I guess I have too many opinions that come from both sides and people expect you to pick one extreme and stick with that side in every part of your life, but it’s not always like that. I always get a bad reaction from open honest communication, people don’t like the real sh*t, they want the fake cr*p.
@@benilyadovein2434Life circumstances + biological factors I presume? Or in other words, a combination of nature and nurture. You can't really become an INFJ by choice it's just something that happens. People don't really have a say in what temperament they come with, the most you can do is be aware of your proclivity towards a certain direction of attitude.
Confronting other is a real pet peeve of mine. I don’t like being in arguments or discord because it’s too taxing on me emotionally and mentally. But if I witness others getting bullied, watch out, I won’t stand for it. I will (and won’t hesitate) to fight those who bully others. And have done this time and time again since I was in elementary school. So it’s true that we advocate for others but not ourselves. Well, at least in my case it is.
I ( INFJ ) have a friend who always say to me " I've never saw a boy like you " ( positively ) and this is the best compliment someone can ever give me
@maryzimmerman2699... The degree to which I am accurate? It is truly uncanny. However, if I could choose, I would not "read" anyone or (too often) feel the many painful things (sometimes even of complete strangers). To look at a picture of a person (just last week) and sense so much pain that you want to cry??? 🥺💔 (My eyes are watering even as I write this.) It was just a picture!!! Just a picture. 😞 My friend wanted to know "how do you know how unhappy this child is", and all I could say is that I felt it... By end of conversation, I found out the particulars and that, following the initial phone conversation of the adults and this child (who the main couple had never met) all 3 of the adults ended up crying after the call ended. All that to state, anyone who would be less than humble that they can "read" people might have more serious issues. As someone who is (at times) what I call "morbidly quiet" (inwardly and sometimes outwardly) I find it to be a heartbreaking responsibility. 😓
I'm ENFJ and my co-worker is INFJ, we have level 5 telepathy and mostly communicate with animal sounds, other co-workers are human and don't understand this.
Once an INFJ matures a bit more many of these issues resolve, such as avoiding conflict and not being able to draw proper boundaries and take care of ourselves. Oh and we’re not actually perfectionists, we just require aesthetics which make us seem perfectionistic. And for those commenting, weird is only bad until you accurately define it. Be blessed fellow INFJs and Happy New Year. -xo
As far as perfectionism goes. It's true, we are perfectionists, but I feel like we still have a good understanding that nothing is perfect. If you aim for perfection, you may hit 80% of that. For me, that's the goal. Shoot for perfectionism so that you'll land somewhere closer to it than the other direction. I feel like most people go in to things hoping for the best, but if they don't plan for the best they can fall really short of their goal. If you're aiming for a bullseye, you're more likely to get close rather than if you just aim for the whole target in general.
I can totally relate to this as an INFJ with ADHD, I actually do enjoy the hyper-fixation on multifarious topics..always manage to surprise my friends with the randomest knowledge outta the blue 😛
We’re definitely seen as “different”, and misunderstood. My job requires me to advocate for others (I work in a medical group that cares for military members), but advocating for myself is hard AF.
Stay setting advocating for yourself as a tool! If someone's annunciation use it so they leave you alone! 🧠 🥳 for example I tell my aunt when she visits unannounced I experience "failure to thrive in my daily routines" see 😀
I can't keep new friends 😢 I recently started work at a place with a lot of people. I'm good at making acquaintances but I push people away once they disappoint me. I'll try and mend the relationship but most just brush me off.
I have had co workers that said i scared the hell out of them because i would predict an event and it would happen. They thought i was psychic but the truth was that i could see 5 moves ahead on the chessboard! Some people liked me but most didn't and i was ok with that but there were some corporations that i went Norma Rae on and they hated me for standing up for danger/ injustice in the workplace! I love my alone time! This video was great!
I have had workmates before who misunderstood my isolation. I was struggling at that time to not compare myself to others. I decided to isolate myself for a short period, just to self-reflect and to be able to remove that negative energy from me. However, they thought I had something against them. I was still talking to them at that time but only those related to work but for other stuff like personal ones, I tend not to talk it with them like I used to. They misinterpreted that. Eventually, I became an outcast even after that self-reflection. They changed the way they treat me. When I could no longer tolerate their behavior, I decided to leave to protect my inner peace. I understand why they changed. I even blamed myself that time for the way they acted towards me. But I learned that I am just different. I accepted the fact that many people will not understand me. And I learned that I should not please everyone. If they don't understand, that's fine. As long as I am not stepping on someone and I am doing the good thing, I am good.
So true im a super infj... I can't lie the things are correct.. As infj reading people like a book is awesome sometimeit may funny for other but we can feel and know from first expression or whatever i can't explain we just read like book,, we know who like us who dislike us who have mental ptoblem who have stress many manyyy
The list provided applies to unhealed or unascended INFJs. The ones that are healed don’t have a problem standing their ground, talking to strangers, and all the other stuff that are nonsense on that list. It doesn’t apply to all INFJs. Only the ones that don’t want to work on themselves.
I’m an introvert but extremely social at times which is kind of weird I guess. I love (and have a need to) connect with people but then I need to retreat for a while afterwards and love to spend time alone before the need to go out again and connect. The thing that freaks people out the most is how I uncover their secrets and know things which I shouldn’t know. Not sure if I just have some psychic ability or if it’s just because I’m an INFJ. Analytical yet highly sensitive at the same time. I guess it’s a paradox.
I remember when my Sister and I took the MBTI Test and we both learned what type of people we were. I turned out to be an INFJ and when I learned about the quirks that came with the type, it made sense to me why I was the person I was. I pretty much have all of the tendencies listed above, especially the one about confrontation. Frankly, I'm glad I am this way, and I don't think I'd trade my personality for any other.
Every comment I have read makes my heart feel warm. I do not feel nearly so alone in a world full of people anymore. These are my people, as if we came from the same planet. Thank you for providing this platform for us to see we are not alone, just spread out. Cheers
Ngl I'm slightly offended by the depicted cracked out crazy looking woman crawling through the wall.. I don't believe that even slightly represents my quirky persona 😂
I agree on the most part but don't see any of these attributes as weird, special yes, weird no. Also, I've never had a problem with standing my ground. Even as a child, if I knew I was right, even if I stood alone I never budged or cared. Am still that way. I agree with the rest but though I've told others that they might not want to know what I'm thinking when they ask me what do you think, if they push, I'll tell them...That often scares ppl. 😂😂😂😂 I will fight for others, always will fight for the underdog but not so much for myself because it's too exhausting and not that important. I've learned to be comfortable in my own skin and don't care what others think. It's taken me a long time to get where I am but it's all worth it. The world is weird to INFJs not the other way around.
So very true for me as well. Spending time alone is comfortable and critical. And, INFJ + ADHD is challenging. I also have random people just start telling me all about their lives. I am a clinical social worker and must have "therapist" stamped on my forhead! Great post.😊
I'm both INFJ and a sigma male, I prefer to be alone all the time, I don't like in a place full of people or crowded people, small talk, I easily get bored on topics that are gossips or life of other people it's like a waste of my time, I want topics that I can learn something, interesting topics about how things work, how it is made or about anything in science, I even enjoy topics that are out of the ordinary that will made me think, I like spending time alone planning, watching and learning things that I want to learn and thinking something productive, like fixing things, cleaning and maintaining my motorcycle and car, creating or inventing things, cooking, painting etc... I'm jack of all trades and I'm still yearning to learn more and acquire more skills... for me learning is limitless until I die...
This is good ❤ I sets my boundaries and speak my truth though I've learned to use it to get more peace !! 😂 ppl leave me alone because I'll call myself out and others even if it's awkward
How is being private and enjoying our own energy/soul enough to not need a crowd to be happy along with whatever else is coming up in this video "weird"? Seems like some angry gossips list... Happy weirdo here...
As an INFJ female, I actually am the one always confronting and a come across as intimidating (according to friends or family) I rather nip things in the butt and come to an understanding ASAP. I may have this quality bc I grew up family always avoiding any sort of confrontation- and I hated that! I felt they weren’t standing up for themselves. So now I’m the bull and always seem to be standing up for others too.
It’s/ I’m strange bc I’m known as a talkative person (though I’ve come to the conclusion it’s due to undiagnosed anxiety) but I love being alone. I’m very perceptive. I’ve even been speaking to someone and called them by their name and they’ll tell me they haven’t told me their name yet!!! 🤯
This is 100% me. Totally misunderstood and unappreciated. I have called the bad thing with 100% accuracy. I am not clarivoyant. I can see things others can't.
For me, there’s no such thing as “normal” because everyone has their own quirks. Some people who seem “normal” tend to hide their flaws to appear “perfect” in order to fit in or because of pressure from peers who criticize them. It’s best if we embrace authenticity as long as we’re not hurting anyone on purpose and I don’t think others should hate/pick on someone just because they don’t understand their authenticity
its not weird, its normal, plain or typical... weird is walking late at night, eat icecream outdoor during winter, use umbrella when walking under sun or smoke coffe buns...
being an infj and also a mom, my kids absolutely hated my guts when i call out their lies or secrets. mom, its just 5 min and havent talked yet, how would u know that??!! 😂
My teenagers absolutely "hated" me because I would "turn up" where they are, at precisely the moment when they were about to, " get up to no good"...I would sometimes leave work abruptly having a strong need to go to their school, or go home..or that I'm on the road going one way, the feel a strong urge to take a completely different way only to find me daughter on the road where she was not supposed to be!!!
I laughed out loud at fhe way it said ”it may seem as though they are “psychos”” 😂 just so deadpan 😆 I’d think it was funny if people thought that. It wouldn’t really bug me if others don’t see me like I see myself.
Na they not weird just unique and different. Its like saying all human behaviour is listed in the DSM 5 just categorising them as Disorders, so everyone has some sort of undiagnosed condition they aren't aware of.
9 is especialy true of me and i like to be alone for daydand find crowds stressfull. i studied science, i like the tidyness of it, but i took ecology, which is all about paterns and invisible lines, but has an eliment of artestry about it
Any other INFJs struggling with group assignments in Uni? My brain shuts down and I require solitude to think about topics.😂 As soon as multiple ppl speak I start to dissociate 🙉
I believe I can see the future 'Cause I repeat the same routine I think I used to have a purpose Then again, that might have been a dream I think I used to have a voice Now I never make a sound I just do what I've been told I really don't want them to come around, oh no" nin I wanted more Than life could ever grant me Bored by the chore Of saving face" smashing pumpkins i used to want it all now i just want nothing you know what they say be careful what you wish for. " Watch out, you might get what you're after Cool, babies - strange but not a stranger I'm an ordinary guy Burning down the house" talking heads i can see the future but really i hope i'm just crazy if i'm right very bad times ahead. trick or treat
People who aren't INFJs don't understand that INFJs just know things based on careful observations and pattern recognition of other humans and society at large. It takes me about 2 months of consistent talking to a person to know things most wouldn't be able to know for years down the line.
Me an INFJ wanting arts and so I take Arts and Design as my strand in High School but end up in a Science based course in college which is in the medical field HAHAAHHA I also song lead to our church
I don’t think I’m weird 😪✌🏼 you can be you. It’s okay to be me. You don’t have to understand me because I already figured you out and drawn my circle where you are and where you will be in my life. You don’t have to impress me. Just be you and don’t lie 😊
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1. Extremely private.
2. Read others like a book.
3. Surprisingly impulsive.
4. Problem standing ground.
5. Predict the future.
6. Everything must be perfect.
7. Weirdest around strangers.
8. Many varied interests & hobbies.
9. Fight for others more than themselves.
All good qualities, not weird.
#3 I do not agree with. We are much more indecisive than impulsive. We think things through from all angles do as not to make a mistake.
@@jenniferrevilla5298 it will improve overtime dont worry. im so indecisive when im young. now at 40s i would just make decision much more quicker and thats probably because ive gone thru similar decision making stage that i tend to remember past results and remember newer info to compensate that
For the #9 .. i was scolded by my friends, i help them by standing up for them but i would never stand up for myself.. i mean most of the time.
@@jenniferrevilla5298 yup agree. Although there are times that I think this quality you cite quite accurately actually allows us to act suddenly with uncharacteristic speed and looks impulsive and out of character for us. When it's really just more a case of us being more aware and having thought it all through and can act faster than someone else.
Tested several times as INFJ. After one a tyrant boss said they hated INFJ. Then proceeded to be very mentally & emotionally abusive.
I don't have all the traits listed here.
1. Not terribly private but absolutely prefer to be alone. And quiet, no TV, Radio, etc. much the time. I enjoy being with others in small doses.
2. Not very impulsive. Wasn't something I could indulge in most of my life and I prefer to be prepared, even over prepared.
4. If injustice or morality is involved, I stand my ground totally. Also don't bend rules or like others doing that.
6. The older I get the easier it is for me to accept being imperfect.
Being private is weird.
Being able to be alone is weird.
Being able to read people is weird.
Empathy is weird.
Compassion is weird.
Thinking about the future is weird. (btw. not the ability to create pretty well fitting prediction makes an INFJ secretive, it's people criticizing the sht out of us).
Being a perfectionist, who is responsible and well-organized is weird.
Having many interests and hobbies, being open/creative is weird.
Fighting for someone else more than for yourself is weird.
Maybe the world would be a better place if people would be weirder.
I honestly dont understand how *all* of those can be categorized as weird. The one thing that's weird is the person who is calling all of these things weird.
Amen!
Honestly, I think the terms normal and weird are little more than subjective theory at this point. What's weird to some is normal to others and vice versa. The words themselves hold next to no meaning to me. What do I know though, ahahaha
@DTheHAge... Yes.
At the deep levels at which we live most of these things?
It is weird. ☺️
You're right, every single thing about a introverts or INFJ doing or thinking is weird. What you can Do, that's the personality.
I think "unique" is more appropriate than the word "weird" because these characteristics are unique to INFJ personality. It has a more positive connotation. I embrace being an INFJ and don't consider my behaviors overall "weird".
Beautifully said
We keep others at a distance because we are looking for worthy souls…
That’s such a dick thing to say 😆. They are “worthy” for you lol
Couldn't agree more
Amen.
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We aren’t weird, we are simply misunderstood by 97% of the population and if we seem reserved, that’s a good first reason why. The only thing I had real issue with was how he said we have to tell the future. Introverted intuition is not fortune-telling. It’s an innate sensitivity to subtle patterns that give us an idea of what will happen based on information already provided that not everyone can perceive. Other than that and calling these behaviors weird, I’d say it’s pretty much spot on.
How is that not predicting the future though, if you can see patterns that will give you a relatively good idea of what’s about to happen and then it comes true?
@@wonkygustav4457 I see what you mean, but id say that fortune-telling/future prediction are done without context. It’s just asking someone what will happen and they tell you. The intuition an INFJ has CAN, but not always will, arrive at the same “telling” but through a different means. Without crystal ball, magic, tarot cards, reading the bones, or some other supernatural method we often associate with predictions, INFJ is more like an unconscious statistician - seeing patterns and working out a probability of the likelihood of something happening, given a particular context. I’m not an authority on the subject by any means, but I hope the example provides some clarity to the difference. Be well.
I like how you explained that
Omg this is the best comment i ever found. Thanks for explaining myself 😊
@@wonkygustav4457It’s not a psychic kind of prediction. We have an innate ability to see patterns, on a conscious and subconscious level. And by noticing these patterns, we can often predict how things will play out. It also helps us read body language. We notice subtleties most others don’t.
I think it is very unfair to call any of these behaviours weird. Weird according to whom? By who's standards? They are just behaviours. It is damaging for us to be told that so many perfectly ordinary things are weird. Is it any wonder we are so private when we are being judged that way.
The human world is full a concepts and concepts don’t have any futility it’s just how we define the world from a certain perspective it’s like describing the color blue. We are only acquainted to our own experience. Judgement is another form of concept we must watch our own judgement of the world, fyi I agree with this comment.
Interesting insight!
Well being a toxic a hole is normalized. I think being weird is a breath of fresh air at times. Don't think of it as a negative aspect. Love yourself no matter what other people's perspectives are. Your mind is where peace is cultivated.
It's definitely weird. Probably becuase it's uncommon. Sorry but these things are weird. Even something as obviously normal as planning ahead and trying to have a long view on things. People can barely plan what they're going to do from minute to minute. So actually being mindful and forward thinking is considered weird. Sucks that the world is full of dummies but it is what it is
100% agree
As an INFJ, I hate conflict. They state that disagreements can lead to an open give-and-take discussion, except that in my experience conflict leads to people steamrolling me. There is no give-and-take. Other people just take...then I disappear.
Yep, I have tried to open up about my opinions to friends I’ve become close with for years, and everyone immediately ditches me when I show an opposing opinion even though I’m okay with them not agreeing with me. I’m not trying to change their opinion, just share mine, but they seem to not be okay with me not having the same opinions as them 😢 I always try to say “let’s agree to disagree” because I don’t need everyone to think what I think, we can coexist! But they don’t want to… I want to hang out with people even if they don’t agree with me on everything, I can’t find anyone who agrees with me on enough to be okay with my opinions, I guess I have too many opinions that come from both sides and people expect you to pick one extreme and stick with that side in every part of your life, but it’s not always like that. I always get a bad reaction from open honest communication, people don’t like the real sh*t, they want the fake cr*p.
This is EXACTLY my experience with conflict as an INFJ. Wow.
Agreeable people earn less money in their careers
How are you an infj? What influenced you to be one?
@@benilyadovein2434Life circumstances + biological factors I presume? Or in other words, a combination of nature and nurture.
You can't really become an INFJ by choice it's just something that happens. People don't really have a say in what temperament they come with, the most you can do is be aware of your proclivity towards a certain direction of attitude.
Confronting other is a real pet peeve of mine. I don’t like being in arguments or discord because it’s too taxing on me emotionally and mentally. But if I witness others getting bullied, watch out, I won’t stand for it. I will (and won’t hesitate) to fight those who bully others. And have done this time and time again since I was in elementary school.
So it’s true that we advocate for others but not ourselves. Well, at least in my case it is.
So true!!
Same
I’d say they isolate themselves because they absorb so much information that they get overstimulated
Exhausted from absorbing other’s energy
@@Clevelandsteamer324 from absorbing information in their environment
You both are right! But energy, emotions is more draining than data analysis
I ( INFJ ) have a friend who always say to me " I've never saw a boy like you " ( positively ) and this is the best compliment someone can ever give me
But let humble ourselves and remember just because we can read people well does not mean we are always correct with our reading.
Yea-
I think the secret behind being able to read people well is to think you may read them wrongly. Means, I totally agree with you :).
True
@maryzimmerman2699... The degree to which I am accurate?
It is truly uncanny.
However, if I could choose, I would not "read" anyone or (too often) feel the many painful things (sometimes even of complete strangers).
To look at a picture of a person (just last week) and sense so much pain that you want to cry??? 🥺💔 (My eyes are watering even as I write this.)
It was just a picture!!! Just a picture. 😞
My friend wanted to know "how do you know how unhappy this child is", and all I could say is that I felt it...
By end of conversation, I found out the particulars and that, following the initial phone conversation of the adults and this child (who the main couple had never met) all 3 of the adults ended up crying after the call ended.
All that to state, anyone who would be less than humble that they can "read" people might have more serious issues.
As someone who is (at times) what I call "morbidly quiet" (inwardly and sometimes outwardly) I find it to be a heartbreaking responsibility. 😓
I'm ENFJ and my co-worker is INFJ, we have level 5 telepathy and mostly communicate with animal sounds, other co-workers are human and don't understand this.
Thanks for sharing!
Sounds about right 😂
"Other co-workers are human" ???? What, like your a monkey or something????
Love it! Meow. 🐱
😅😅🤣🤣
"Weirdness" is my badge of honor. Thank you!
Once an INFJ matures a bit more many of these issues resolve, such as avoiding conflict and not being able to draw proper boundaries and take care of ourselves. Oh and we’re not actually perfectionists, we just require aesthetics which make us seem perfectionistic. And for those commenting, weird is only bad until you accurately define it. Be blessed fellow INFJs and Happy New Year. -xo
Unique is an appropriate descriptor.
@TruthsHandmaid4444... I agree. ☺️
But it takes a long time and some pain.
aesthetics to make us seem like it, yes !! never heard anyone explain it perfectly like you did !!
Yes, totally agree on the perfectionism
I love this comment ,and feel like you have explain our perfectionisme so perfectly✨
I Sympathize with batteries, I'm not included either.
I don't want to be special, I just want to be valued. - INFJ
Value is important.
🫥 yep
Being alone a lot is not some kind of a disability. We don't like groups, small talk, or people who enjoy talking about superficial things.
Well said!!!
Yes!
As far as perfectionism goes. It's true, we are perfectionists, but I feel like we still have a good understanding that nothing is perfect. If you aim for perfection, you may hit 80% of that. For me, that's the goal. Shoot for perfectionism so that you'll land somewhere closer to it than the other direction. I feel like most people go in to things hoping for the best, but if they don't plan for the best they can fall really short of their goal. If you're aiming for a bullseye, you're more likely to get close rather than if you just aim for the whole target in general.
The hobbies one though 😭 combined with a little ADHD and I'm always onto learning something new
I can totally relate to this as an INFJ with ADHD, I actually do enjoy the hyper-fixation on multifarious topics..always manage to surprise my friends with the randomest knowledge outta the blue 😛
Here ❤😂
“Finds it easy to make friends” sorry, I think may have skipped that part in my infj handbook…
Same..-
As an INFJ I find life exciting
We’re definitely seen as “different”, and misunderstood. My job requires me to advocate for others (I work in a medical group that cares for military members), but advocating for myself is hard AF.
Stay setting advocating for yourself as a tool! If someone's annunciation use it so they leave you alone! 🧠 🥳 for example I tell my aunt when she visits unannounced I experience "failure to thrive in my daily routines" see 😀
I can't keep new friends 😢 I recently started work at a place with a lot of people. I'm good at making acquaintances but I push people away once they disappoint me. I'll try and mend the relationship but most just brush me off.
Surface level relationships are not worth the time
I have had co workers that said i scared the hell out of them because i would predict an event and it would happen. They thought i was psychic but the truth was that i could see 5 moves ahead on the chessboard! Some people liked me but most didn't and i was ok with that but there were some corporations that i went Norma Rae on and they hated me for standing up for danger/ injustice in the workplace! I love my alone time! This video was great!
I am INFJ ,I love Me and I am so special and unique where ppl can't keep up with me ,hence they call me Weirdly awsome😂❤❤❤
I have had workmates before who misunderstood my isolation. I was struggling at that time to not compare myself to others. I decided to isolate myself for a short period, just to self-reflect and to be able to remove that negative energy from me. However, they thought I had something against them. I was still talking to them at that time but only those related to work but for other stuff like personal ones, I tend not to talk it with them like I used to. They misinterpreted that. Eventually, I became an outcast even after that self-reflection. They changed the way they treat me. When I could no longer tolerate their behavior, I decided to leave to protect my inner peace. I understand why they changed. I even blamed myself that time for the way they acted towards me. But I learned that I am just different. I accepted the fact that many people will not understand me. And I learned that I should not please everyone. If they don't understand, that's fine. As long as I am not stepping on someone and I am doing the good thing, I am good.
So true im a super infj... I can't lie the things are correct.. As infj reading people like a book is awesome sometimeit may funny for other but we can feel and know from first expression or whatever i can't explain we just read like book,, we know who like us who dislike us who have mental ptoblem who have stress many manyyy
The list provided applies to unhealed or unascended INFJs. The ones that are healed don’t have a problem standing their ground, talking to strangers, and all the other stuff that are nonsense on that list. It doesn’t apply to all INFJs. Only the ones that don’t want to work on themselves.
Please stop describing us as *weird, when every personality type has their own attributes.
It's just clickbait, relax
Great: another video that makes me think I’m an INFJ/INTJ hybrid. 😂. Never thought I was until recently and now I’m stuck questioning where I fall.
Interesting!
Are you more ruled by logic or feelings? INFJ is the most logical of the feeling types but still feelings play a large role in our decision making.
I’m an introvert but extremely social at times which is kind of weird I guess. I love (and have a need to) connect with people but then I need to retreat for a while afterwards and love to spend time alone before the need to go out again and connect. The thing that freaks people out the most is how I uncover their secrets and know things which I shouldn’t know. Not sure if I just have some psychic ability or if it’s just because I’m an INFJ. Analytical yet highly sensitive at the same time. I guess it’s a paradox.
Being that intuitive can make us hella jaded I feel
I remember when my Sister and I took the MBTI Test and we both learned what type of people we were. I turned out to be an INFJ and when I learned about the quirks that came with the type, it made sense to me why I was the person I was. I pretty much have all of the tendencies listed above, especially the one about confrontation. Frankly, I'm glad I am this way, and I don't think I'd trade my personality for any other.
Interesting!
Every comment I have read makes my heart feel warm. I do not feel nearly so alone in a world full of people anymore. These are my people, as if we came from the same planet. Thank you for providing this platform for us to see we are not alone, just spread out. Cheers
Ngl I'm slightly offended by the depicted cracked out crazy looking woman crawling through the wall.. I don't believe that even slightly represents my quirky persona 😂
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:)
I agree on the most part but don't see any of these attributes as weird, special yes, weird no. Also, I've never had a problem with standing my ground. Even as a child, if I knew I was right, even if I stood alone I never budged or cared. Am still that way. I agree with the rest but though I've told others that they might not want to know what I'm thinking when they ask me what do you think, if they push, I'll tell them...That often scares ppl. 😂😂😂😂 I will fight for others, always will fight for the underdog but not so much for myself because it's too exhausting and not that important. I've learned to be comfortable in my own skin and don't care what others think. It's taken me a long time to get where I am but it's all worth it. The world is weird to INFJs not the other way around.
Sounds like me..
Weird aka can't tolerate most mainstream silliness. It's only weird to those living and loving the mainstream silliness.
So very true for me as well. Spending time alone is comfortable and critical. And, INFJ + ADHD is challenging. I also have random people just start telling me all about their lives. I am a clinical social worker and must have "therapist" stamped on my forhead! Great post.😊
As an INFJ I am blissfully stressed
😎 "Brilliant."
🙃 "Spot on."
🕵️ "Nailed it."
INFJ here, It's easy to make friends but it's hard to keep friends 😭
I'm both INFJ and a sigma male, I prefer to be alone all the time, I don't like in a place full of people or crowded people, small talk, I easily get bored on topics that are gossips or life of other people it's like a waste of my time, I want topics that I can learn something, interesting topics about how things work, how it is made or about anything in science, I even enjoy topics that are out of the ordinary that will made me think, I like spending time alone planning, watching and learning things that I want to learn and thinking something productive, like fixing things, cleaning and maintaining my motorcycle and car, creating or inventing things, cooking, painting etc... I'm jack of all trades and I'm still yearning to learn more and acquire more skills... for me learning is limitless until I die...
This is good ❤ I sets my boundaries and speak my truth though I've learned to use it to get more peace !! 😂 ppl leave me alone because I'll call myself out and others even if it's awkward
To all my fellow INFJ's out there, harness your emotions and thoughts and you'll be the man or woman lol.
As an INFJ I have nothing but quirks
#5 is called "Sentinel Intelligence".
I did a lot of art when i was young but ended up doing nursing. I dont have a lot of hobbies, except sleeping, reading and watching K dramas lol.
3:56 nah, thanks to growing up with a narcissist for a parent, I stand my ground and am always ready to fight for it🙃
Thanks for sharing!
Holy guacamole.
I see possible futures.
If I'm not seeing futures,
something is seriously
wrong in my life.
How is being private and enjoying our own energy/soul enough to not need a crowd to be happy along with whatever else is coming up in this video "weird"?
Seems like some angry gossips list...
Happy weirdo here...
could you do a video about the enfj personality type? would really appreciate that:)
Sure, stay tuned!
4:04 I have difficulty Not communicating openly and honestly when an important relationship is involved.
I have truly embraced and accepted my weirdness fully and completely actually thank you ! hahahahah…
As an INFJ female, I actually am the one always confronting and a come across as intimidating (according to friends or family) I rather nip things in the butt and come to an understanding ASAP. I may have this quality bc I grew up family always avoiding any sort of confrontation- and I hated that! I felt they weren’t standing up for themselves. So now I’m the bull and always seem to be standing up for others too.
Be careful with that last one. It’s definitely a problem. I’m still learning how to be an advocate for myself. It’s really stupid.
It’s/ I’m strange bc I’m known as a talkative person (though I’ve come to the conclusion it’s due to undiagnosed anxiety) but I love being alone. I’m very perceptive. I’ve even been speaking to someone and called them by their name and they’ll tell me they haven’t told me their name yet!!! 🤯
This is 100% me. Totally misunderstood and unappreciated. I have called the bad thing with 100% accuracy. I am not clarivoyant. I can see things others can't.
Please bless us with estp centered videos
We will!
I ACT EXTRA EXTROVERT 🌚 BUT I LIKE SOLO ACTIVITIES AND VALUE MY ALONE TIME ALLLOT 💆🏻♀️🦹🏻♀️👩🏻🏫
For me, there’s no such thing as “normal” because everyone has their own quirks. Some people who seem “normal” tend to hide their flaws to appear “perfect” in order to fit in or because of pressure from peers who criticize them. It’s best if we embrace authenticity as long as we’re not hurting anyone on purpose and I don’t think others should hate/pick on someone just because they don’t understand their authenticity
Psycho or psychic. Big difference!
Wow! I'm called out!!!! Finally, someone gets it!!!!❤️
thank was on point 😮
I admit I feel as though some of the accusations that any personality is weird or contradictory is not true and just comes from misconception.
its not weird, its normal, plain or typical...
weird is walking late at night, eat icecream outdoor during winter, use umbrella when walking under sun or smoke coffe buns...
1 2 and 5 really resonate
being an infj and also a mom, my kids absolutely hated my guts when i call out their lies or secrets. mom, its just 5 min and havent talked yet, how would u know that??!! 😂
I used to tell mine, "A little bird told me.", lol.
My teenagers absolutely "hated" me because I would "turn up" where they are, at precisely the moment when they were about to, " get up to no good"...I would sometimes leave work abruptly having a strong need to go to their school, or go home..or that I'm on the road going one way, the feel a strong urge to take a completely different way only to find me daughter on the road where she was not supposed to be!!!
i really felt that last clip 😂
This sounds about right 👍
This INFJ feels that it’s very disrespectful to refer to us and our behavior as weird and that we’re “psychos”. You’ve lost a viewer.
I love one Infj, I'm intj
This list is way too accurate to describe my younger self.
Now those traits has become milder😅
Maybe age and experience matters
I laughed out loud at fhe way it said ”it may seem as though they are “psychos”” 😂 just so deadpan 😆 I’d think it was funny if people thought that. It wouldn’t really bug me if others don’t see me like I see myself.
I’m an intj and my youngest adult daughter is an infj- we are best friends.
weird. we call weird what is unknown and surprisingly- and accurately beyond us.
Weird = Unique
Na they not weird just unique and different. Its like saying all human behaviour is listed in the DSM 5 just categorising them as Disorders, so everyone has some sort of undiagnosed condition they aren't aware of.
before see this, I think I am a weird person. but now I know that I am just become INFJ
None of these behaviors I would consider “weird”
I have zero problem standing my ground.
I'm an INFJ and I didn't get offended by the word "weird". Some INFJs are sensitive too, don't forget that ;)
There is a huge difference between perfection and functionality
9 is especialy true of me and i like to be alone for daydand find crowds stressfull. i studied science, i like the tidyness of it, but i took ecology, which is all about paterns and invisible lines, but has an eliment of artestry about it
Any other INFJs struggling with group assignments in Uni? My brain shuts down and I require solitude to think about topics.😂
As soon as multiple ppl speak I start to dissociate 🙉
I'm weird and I'm loving it! ❤
I used to think I have social anxiety and now I know I am an INFJ
Sheesh this is creepily accurate😂
1000% accurate! 😮🤯
Good to hear!
As am INFJ, be proud of who you are.
#5 is so crazy, I think I'm psychic.
Would have been nice to explain what INFJ stands. I still don’t know…
Behavior 4 is wrong. Every infj I know and I am one myself don’t fall to peer pressure at all we stand firm in our beliefs.
I believe I can see the future
'Cause I repeat the same routine
I think I used to have a purpose
Then again, that might have been a dream
I think I used to have a voice
Now I never make a sound
I just do what I've been told
I really don't want them to come around, oh no" nin
I wanted more
Than life could ever grant me
Bored by the chore
Of saving face" smashing pumpkins
i used to want it all now i just want nothing you know what they say be careful what you wish for.
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Watch out, you might get what you're after
Cool, babies - strange but not a stranger
I'm an ordinary guy
Burning down the house" talking heads
i can see the future but really i hope i'm just crazy if i'm right very bad times ahead. trick or treat
Play at x1.25 speed, you're welcome :)
You are welcome to!
I always look at everything on 2x..)
Lol I’m at 1.5
People who aren't INFJs don't understand that INFJs just know things based on careful observations and pattern recognition of other humans and society at large. It takes me about 2 months of consistent talking to a person to know things most wouldn't be able to know for years down the line.
as an INFJ....... I don't want to get involved in this comment section
Me an INFJ wanting arts and so I take Arts and Design as my strand in High School but end up in a Science based course in college which is in the medical field HAHAAHHA I also song lead to our church
As an INFJ
(Unbothered)
Infj rage, should have spoken about that little lovely tidbit
WHEN OTHERS SEE THE HOUR ON THE CLOCK WE SEE THE SECONDS ‼️🤩 7:50
I don’t think I’m weird 😪✌🏼 you can be you. It’s okay to be me. You don’t have to understand me because I already figured you out and drawn my circle where you are and where you will be in my life. You don’t have to impress me. Just be you and don’t lie 😊