It's so difficult to resist temptation. Sometimes I feel like without thinking I isolate myself from others because they judge me because I don't do normal stuff like partying, drinking, smoking or having sex. I had to lie to my sister that I had sex because she was worried about me. She even thought I was a lesbian because I don't have a partner. My family has a different opinion on sex before marriage and it makes me sad. I just want to wait because I know God will find a person who fears and put him first. I know he will. Being a Christian is getting so difficult. My dad introduced me to God but now he doesn't want anything to do with him. It's so difficult to have morals when people tell you a different thing. Please pray for me so that I don't lose faith.
Oh well! I sing and praise God in public and don’t care. Some people just don’t get it. You’re doing the right thing sex causes so many problems it’s not even worth it
I have had premarital sex and everything this brother says is true! I was with a girl who I wanted to marry and she wanted to marry me, but after we have in and had premarital sex our relationship went down hill and introduced other problems. It made me more needy of her and drove her away. We also, lost respect for each other. I hope God heals me so I can have a real fruitful relationship. Guys and girls who are virgins or have decided to become abstinent whatever you do, do not give in if you want to save love, it is something made for the union of a husband and wife. The sad thing is you dont know what you have lost until you have lost it, like the fall of Adam and Eve in the garden of eden
I renounce sexual sin today I will not look back I will present my body as a living sacrifice. Thank you Lord for this word and the opportunity to repent AMEN
Lauren The Heiress what if you’ve been together for two years and have had sex almost that whole time then all of a sudden decide u don’t want to til marriage. That’s my situation 😂
Mark, I'm a 48 year old virgin. The Best decision I ever made. I have had my heart broken twice. I always walked away wanting to be a good Man. Awesome Video Friend .
Serpico 7 me too but a v-card doesn’t mean that a person is good or that will respect you. That are thing determined by your upbringings and morals, when I was a virgin I wasn’t less of a b when my buttons where pushed and I wasn’t more of sweetheart than I’m now. If you treat me respectfully I’ll give you everything and more, play with me and I’ll show you how a game is played..easy as that.
I agree completely. God makes our bodies ready for sex and childbearing in our teens. Our culture often asks us to wait for many years while we get our career going to get married. This long period of abstinence can lead us to engaging in premarital sex simply because the sexual instinct is so hard to suppress. I think our culture should change to prepare us for marriage much earlier in life so that premarital sexual temptation is not so difficult to endure.
Insidious Sid Exactky! I wish God gave us a button or switch that if we flicked the sexual desire would go away in a non-pleasurable way. Instead, we would get high on the most high and this is coming from a girl😅
If he truly loves me, he will not talk me into sex before marriage. I want him badly, but I want him when the time is right, on our honeymoon. It is too bad that he, and I are not young anymore, but the grace of God can redeem both of us.
I've heard it said 'Sex in marriage is like a fireplace, it keeps the house warm, bright and comforting but once the fire gets out of that fireplace it can easily burn down the entire house endangering everyone inside.'
Thank you for posting this. A lot of people talk about sexual compatibility, but I don’t see how you could feel the way your first time or if you really like the person. Tv and porn fills our head with that nonsense.
Araminta Williams This is becase "television PROGRAMS" do exactly that. It was designed for mind PROGRAMMING purposes. It is one of the many aspects of the beast system.
RP McMurphy I was saying that because of the sexual compatibility part and how people aren’t satisfied because they see things on tv they want to try because they think it looks fun.
Araminta Williams Yes. And that is how television, programs people's minds! It morphs reality, pushes unhealthy narratives, and persuades folks to think and act in particular ways ( magazines and social media included)
Real love is self-sacrificing. You want the highest good for the other person and it develops through the practice of the virtue of chastity. You're willing to get to know the other person and love them for their own sake not for how they may make you feel. The initial passion that happens when you fall in love is great but it resides on the emotional and sensual plane. To go deeper, there must be a permanent commitment between two people in such a way that it reflects how God loves us in a permanent, exclusive, committed and fruitful way. When you practice chastity, respect for self and the other grows. I really wish more people understood that.
You’re spot on on everything! I love how you told all these truths in such an honest, but gentle way. None of it sounds judgmental, just factual scripturally.
Amen brother..... It's hard though, I'm a 19 year old guy and a virgin, but I look around me and nobody shares my views on this subject, no matter how much I show them the pitfalls from doing so. But the future is in God's hands.... I bet I just see it this way because I can only see so much
Hey same here, 19 year old Virgin girl, good to see your comment, I thought all men are same, they all want just sex in name of love and relationships,I am literally not interested in dating or anything, my completely trust God, I believe he will find a good partner for me in future... ❤
@Max Nielsen i agree how is it lmfao all them crazy bible bashers telling me what to do and if i dont i will go to hell and suffer eternal pain and suffering forever and ever and ever.i call that manipulating people by making them fear something thats not real.
Thank you for sharing this vid! I am 30 years old and I will abstain from sex and foreplay until I am married. Unfortunately, I am not a virgin, but I lifted up my past to God and asked him for forgiveness. I am now in my second virginity. When I meet my future husband we will not be having sex until we married! I will also not love with him until we are married for obvious reasons.
Wow. I was recently asked (in a Christian capacity) why not to have sex before marriage and I couldn't come up with a coherent answer. I was prepared to sit down for the next few hours until I found the best explanation. This is the second video I've watched and I don't think I need to keep looking. Excellent video, I am sharing this one. Thank you!!!
People who are addicted to sex or stuck in it with a current partner. Wont admit how they truly feel. That they feel gross and dirty and depressed. The happiest relationships I have met are the ones in Christ that are experiencing peace and joy in there marriage.
I'm so sorry, LaT How. It makes sense that you are grieving. I pray the Lord will comfort you even now and fill your heart with hope to "see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living" (Psalm 27:13-14).
If it is any comfort (and I understand if it is not), I am 41, single, never married and a virgin. I know it can get hard and that the grief can come in wave after wave... especially when we hit certain "mile markers" along the way. One story that encouraged me, though, was that of Nancy Leigh DeMoss (of Revive Our Hearts Ministry) - who got married for the first time - quite unexpectedly - at age 57. You may find her story encouraging as well. Blessings and strength to us in our unique journeys with the Lord.
@@lindstheteacher1611 , I'm not sure to whom you're replying here (me?)... regardless, I will say that I personally don't have the gift of singleness. I definitely want to be married, but I am content in the Lord - through a process of LEARNING contentment! It seems that if a person has the desire for marriage, they probably do not have the gift of singleness long-term (although, obviously, in the "short"-term, that IS the gift they do have ;) )... but it seems like only time will tell for sure on that one. It will be interesting to see how you view singleness as your life progresses. Be blessed and enjoy the journey, however it plays out in God's sovereign plan + your free will choices. :-)
I have had failed relationship after failed relationship because of this and has brought me nothing but pain. I really didn’t realize pre-marital sex was such a toxic and terrible sin, I’m convinced this is why you see the same people on dating sites year after year, I have realized what a sinner I was after finding Jesus Christ and starting reading the Bible.
This is the best breakdown on why premarital sex is not the best for us. I was searching scripture to support my kid who is choosing to abstain until marriage. I was left unsatisfied with what scripture had to say and was looking for more. This was very helpful. Thanks.
@@nannerlchanel5045 its easy when you see something weighing against you so many people would find the joke offensive but my view its just a joke its not my intent to offend so i avoid it to avoid hassle for later sometimes this self control is easier than we make it.
My fiancé and I fell into sexual sin for pretty much 2 straight months. We tried to hold off, then we did oral, then further and further. I felt superficially confident for a moment when she wanted to be with me that way, and I thought it helped my relationship anxiety. Now we’re pregnant from the one time we took the condom off, we don’t have much money, she doesn’t want to be with me anymore, but she’s going to stay because of the baby. I don’t think she would’ve stayed if the baby wasn’t coming. I had given up porn during that entire dating season, and when I decided to give up on sex with her I went back to porn to keep me sane. I started watching porn daily at 9. When I don’t have sexual releases or watch porn I get angry at everything, I feel permanently addicted. I wanted to marry her quickly to do it God’s way, but my parents were rude about it and wanted me to wait at least a year or two of dating first. I can’t do that, they don’t understand. If only we had gotten married right away like we wanted to, instead my parents shamed me for something good and now I’m in sin.
You’ve take a huge step by admitting your mistakes and issues. You can overcome your addiction to porn through prayer and fasting. And is not to late to still restore your relationship with your fiancée you two have to work together and put God first in y’all relationship he will make it work this time. Don’t just give up because you have given into temptation. Move forward and focus on how God can and will turn your situation for the better.
So I was married 25 years lost my husband. I am a Christian and want to date again. Ideas of where to go in the winter for meeting a Christian man . Not a bar , where and what to wear to glorify God
Could you do a series for teenagers?, Around 17-19 yrs old about dating and stuff and if one (as a teen) really means when he says he wants marriage. Maybe like a series on everything you talk about but talking to the youth because I'm going through stuff like this and it would be cool if you could talk to the youth
It’s hard to except those of us who refrain from premarital sex have a hard time getting married, but others who engage in premarital sex get married most of the time and have great marriages!
You know, it's very hard if the girl refuses to get pregnant, whether they're married or not! Getting married means you want to introduce your children to God's love!
It's definitely hard... I know what it is I want long-term and I know that I want to be as faithful as I can to God and my partner. The mistakes or sins that I've put myself through have made me feel uncomfortable the older I've gotten, but the temptation is still there... for the longest time, I've been trying to find ways to wage my sins or mistakes by twisting what I know is wrong with logic that I know is from my own selfish nature... I corrupted myself in more ways than one when I first entered my 20's. Now I need God's support and strength more than ever so that I can fully experience what He wants for me. ❤
This topic is always shared by married people. Yes it's according to scriptures but what a married person knows about a single person's life? The endless loneliness, unfulfilled desires years after years? And when you are a middle aged lady it's particularly tough to listen to this from a married man.
Now days this is tough. Its nice to know what you're dealing with eith before getting married . Alot of men who are Christians get married lile this, yet they don't look happy
This has been a burden on me for a little over two years when I started dating my love. I fell in love with this beautiful girl and she did the same for me. I didn't want to wait for marriage and threw my virginity away to her as she did to me. Everyday I feel guilty for doing this, as it's a binding of marriage, and I really want to marry this woman. I'm just so confused and never want to lose this wondeeful woman in my life. I'm crying as I type this cause I don't know if she'll leave me because of this changes I want to have. This is by far, the biggest sin I have struggled with and have no idea what to do. I want to chase God and at the same time, marry this woman. I feel like I did it the wrong way. 💔
Do not beat up yourself. Pray with your woman and confess to God. God will forgive and deliver you. And ask her to marry you because you love each other, not because of love ties.
There are exceptions to your theory. I was a virgin until age 27 and wanted to try sex. I did learn that sex without love was "bankrupt", but slept with a couple of partners in close relationships on occasion. My wife of 25 years was previously married to a bad man that beat her, and cheated on her. We met and lived together for 2 years before getting married. We have been happy, and trusting during our 27 years together, and could not imagine being apart. We both grew up as Catholic, and that sex was a somewhat dirty topic. We do believe that sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed between 2 committed people that love each other....
I'm a 37 year old man and my girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years. I love her but we are not married but we are having sex 3-4 times a week. I love her and I love having sex with her and she loves me and loves having sex with me.
Ive heard Dozens of these over the years. But one thing that I really wish is that they would balance this with the downsides of waiting until marriage So people can make a truly informed decision
I'm a 37 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. The first and last thought of every single day is "I still haven't had sex." I'm Christian so from an early age decided it's best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I feel I have missed out on one of the greatest joys in life - true love and sex. It may not be too late but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now. Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me because a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Yet at the same time I have such a strong desire for one.
My friend, God cares for you and loves you deeply. But God wants you to take some action too and pray for wisdom to choose right. Sometimes we have too high of standards for a partner ( I struggle with that too) and we forget that we have to accept other people’s flaws too and show grace. Maybe your wife is a divorced woman, maybe she has a child or she might simply not be a virgin at your age. But she could be changed now. Be open to some more options and find someone to love for who they are, as long as they have a relationship with God now. Don’t look at their past.
@@alinabuzulanofficial2915 Thank you for your response. It so happens I only just read it as I woke up this morning and I was thinking about singleness and was dreaming about it. I hope our time is coming soon.
I just discovered my cousin is having sex before marriage and in lust is looking forward to be married as early as possible just so they could have sex. it breaks my heart. She is a Christian. I was so shocked. 😥 I thought his boyfriend was good. i was so wrong. He did not protect her purity and has no self control.
I mean I have a weight loss goal/ journey. It’s really hard to not eat an entire sheet cake. It will taste good in the moment but the numbers on the scale will just keep climbing 😢
Excellent, excellent, excellent video. Born again Christian here and I would have loved to be exposed to these arguments as a kid. So sane. That's the truth. Crazy how we're encouraged to have premarital sex + how parents raise us with no morals and wisdom on this topic - wihtout wishing to cast a stone. It will change with my generation!
This is my desire to honor God in my life! I seek your will Oh Lord because You love more than anyone else could. I lay my life before You do what is pleasing for You oh Lord, and make me obey thy will. In Jesus,name, Amen.💙🙏
I am married. I have a friend that is living with her boyfriend. They are Christians. I asked her why he would allow her to live with him but not marry her. I find that odd.
To me the biggest question is: what is marriage? How can you get married right in Biblical perspective? Where in Bible is written who to get married? I am asking, because there are many teories about this, what is your thoghts?
It's sad that so very few actually do it God's way as shown in some data I saw recently I think it's about less than 1% in the church attending virgin in America before marriage crowd.
I am 35, strong believer in "no sex before marriage". Waiting for the right person to marry. No hurry, Whenever I meet the right person :) Divinity is most important, and staying with God and sex only after holy marriage bond is the most appropriate for me. It's a personal choice. I am Hindu, it's a way of life and values we grew up and lived with all our lives. And even most of your explanation solidifies my existing beliefs about same.
One thing I don't like about couples rushing into marriages is sometimes in order to have sex faster. I am unsure what to do atm. Me and my boyfriend are serious together, we are planning to get married in the future but we are not married yet because of financial reasons(other people's reason is their parents not accepting them as a couple), I don't want to rush into marriage and make it unspecial, we really do feel married in our hearts already in front of God since God is Omnipresent. What even is Marriage according to the Bible? Public announcement? or private ceremony between the couple and God to join them together? People say that they don't take marriage seriously, but I think people just don't take the COMMITMENT seriously, even when they are married. Why does it matter if we marry later or now I wonder? God still knows if the two are serious or not.
Awesome advise Mark-right on point!!! I couldn't help but to think about 2 other reasons to abstain from premarital sex: The possibility of a STD and the probability of an unplanned pregnancy. Just a thought... 🙂 Thank you for your teachings! God bless and Happy Thanksgiving!
Rose Morales yep... People give the advice "just use protection" but as you can see.... how many non monogamous ppl actually practice safe sex nowadays? You can't choose the the consequences of your actions(super gonorrhea, herpes, HIV, HPV, etc).. God can protect you from alot of things in this life if you make wise decisions.. Yeah its hard to stay abstinate but its worth it!!
@@dsetgetatme I agree. I like waking up and not worrying about something that could have been avoided. Obedience to our Abba/God is not for His benefit...it's for ours. God bless!
Hmm you can get an STD post marriage too!! You don't know if your husband will be faithful to you?? He might be going to prostitutes to satisfy his needs if you don't do that for him...
Can anyone define specifically how the original bible language translates “sexual immorality” as sex outside of marriage for a non-virgin? As in someone who has been married before.
Two important things that are never brought up in these videos are; unintended pregnancy with someone that you may not be Godly aligned with and temporarily/permanent STDs. These two important things are never discussed but potentially have profound consequences you will have to carry for your lifetime.
What about masturbation? Is it really that bad? Some people NEVER get to enjoy the POWER of sexual intimacy in marriage and I'm VERY RIGHTFULLY ANGRY at God that He just simply CAN'T and or WON'T bless me with someone special! He has truly let me down BIG TIME and then some.
Your story is not uncommon... Don't be so hard on yourself. God's grace is sufficient. God is willing to forgive. Repent, Forgive yourself and live better than that :) God Bless
A lesson thats sorely lacking in society today. Many would do good to look within and practice some self discipline and self control. Stop letting the body control your actions. Who is in contol, the flesh or you? If its the flesh you better reign that in and hard because it will only ever lead you to problems and destruction.
To avoid the consequences i remain standing on the words of God and waiting on God to lead me at 39 now I chose to keep my body under and i have remain celibate till this moment.
Thank you so much for explaining this the way you did In a way we can understand it. I know there is all kinds of terrible judgments in the Bible about sexual immorality, but I had no idea that it did all the other things you just mentioned. For the first time in my life I’m with a real Christian woman who won’t have sex before marriage. I thank God for her because I have prayed every day for years to find a woman like her. SHE IS SOOOOO worth the wait. If we honor God 1st he will bless our marriage. THANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE
Quite logical & convincing Thank you for the answers💕 This generation requires more sight on this sort of Topics..... As Media, TV & Movies embraces premarital sex & other stuffs to earn a good profit but at the same time all this things are corrupting young minds.......
#5 and #6 aka Soul Ties. The reason why you leave a toxic relationship but cant stay away or cant stop thinking of them😪. Most BAD soulties (some r good, like positive fam/friends) are made via sex but are also made by bonding/opening up to another person. Can be good or bad depending on the person. Easy way to get over a breakup is to break soulties with your ex and STAY AWAY from them. Their Demons r transferred from them to u and now u have insecurities ,anxiety,jealousy and u cant figure out why🤔And like Mark said, it can all be avoided by staying sexfree and asking God for help to defeat spirit of Lust, believers should be fighting those spirits and temptations with scriptures and praying. Nice video bro
Thank you for reminding me to ask our dear Lord Jesus for help. I'm a widower gong on 4 years in sept? And I have basically experienced all you mentioned.
All was on point and what i experience... I'm waiting on my Kingdom Husband..before i have sex..he will already know that we're going to do things GOD’S way!!@❤❤❤❤❤
I'm so confused I told someone that sex before marriage is sin and they don't believe me the Bible say fornication is sin means having sex with someone not married to this is what he replied ... Sex without contractional agreement is a transgression at what point does the Bible consider you a married it is not when you stand before a pastor and he pronounces you man and wife that is church tradition they think Christian Church of tradition has framed my response and not the word of God please what's the truth how can I know the word of God
I'm about to be 32 in a couple of months, still single, and tried to have a girlfriend, but never had one. I have done things to cope with being single, by watching porn, and going to prostitutes.
I am 32, and been saving my purity for my husband...been praying for a husband that has same goals like this...im really praying fervently...
How about now? Any updates?
No one is pure if you think about it. I hate that term Purity because we are all sinners
I’m 36 and this is what I want to after repenting and turning back to him
@@mariahconklin4150 dang that’s kinda too long? No disrespect
I don't believe that.
American is always have free sex before marriage. That's american stupid culture.
this is the reason I'm 20 years old and waiting for my husband thank you for restoring hope
Alexis Edge
That’s so awesome! Keep being patient girl God’s got someone for you💛
Same. Except there’s no guy in sight.
Alexis Edge Amen! You're not alone!
Good for you!! I wish I would’ve waited.
Alexi God bless you always. Amen
It's so difficult to resist temptation. Sometimes I feel like without thinking I isolate myself from others because they judge me because I don't do normal stuff like partying, drinking, smoking or having sex. I had to lie to my sister that I had sex because she was worried about me. She even thought I was a lesbian because I don't have a partner. My family has a different opinion on sex before marriage and it makes me sad. I just want to wait because I know God will find a person who fears and put him first. I know he will. Being a Christian is getting so difficult. My dad introduced me to God but now he doesn't want anything to do with him. It's so difficult to have morals when people tell you a different thing. Please pray for me so that I don't lose faith.
Shadow624 ofc❤️
God is with you....Trust Him
You father was a way to the Lord, now it's your choice to accept or deny him!
Choose wisely. May God bless you.
Oh well! I sing and praise God in public and don’t care. Some people just don’t get it. You’re doing the right thing sex causes so many problems it’s not even worth it
I am in a very similar situation, it is really hard. Praying for you sister, don't lose hope < 3
I have had premarital sex and everything this brother says is true! I was with a girl who I wanted to marry and she wanted to marry me, but after we have in and had premarital sex our relationship went down hill and introduced other problems. It made me more needy of her and drove her away. We also, lost respect for each other. I hope God heals me so I can have a real fruitful relationship. Guys and girls who are virgins or have decided to become abstinent whatever you do, do not give in if you want to save love, it is something made for the union of a husband and wife. The sad thing is you dont know what you have lost until you have lost it, like the fall of Adam and Eve in the garden of eden
That's sad but true.
"Introduced other problems" Is unwanted pregnancy one of them?
@@madkhaliqfarhan no actually, it left me open to manipulation, and created a soul tie to the wrong person.
@@christianlopez5189 Awww... May God forgive you for what you have done before... And I hope that you can marry a better, faithful lady soon!
@@christianlopez5189 why did you lose respect for her ?
I renounce sexual sin today I will not look back I will present my body as a living sacrifice. Thank you Lord for this word and the opportunity to repent AMEN
Ladies: if some guy won't wait, he doesn't love you and you should RUN - DUMP HIM.
Before i was saved I would've hated this comment...but then my eyes were opened and I see the reasoning behind it
100% right
Lauren The Heiress what if you’ve been together for two years and have had sex almost that whole time then all of a sudden decide u don’t want to til marriage. That’s my situation 😂
John Mburu Marriage doesn’t make sex great. It’s true love that does.
Spot on....applicable to both men and women who won't wait....call it off and move on if still in the dating/courting stage.
Mark, I'm a 48 year old virgin.
The Best decision I ever made.
I have had my heart broken twice.
I always walked away wanting to be a good Man.
Awesome Video Friend .
Serpico 7 sorry but I imagine 40 years virgin, you know the movie? 😂 OMG😂😂😂
Really? You should hunt then.
Or maybe you are single by God's grace.
@@heyclaire6894 lol I know what You mean.
But every relationship I walk out of, is the same way I walk in.
Just wanting to be a good Man.
Serpico 7 me too but a v-card doesn’t mean that a person is good or that will respect you. That are thing determined by your upbringings and morals, when I was a virgin I wasn’t less of a b when my buttons where pushed and I wasn’t more of sweetheart than I’m now. If you treat me respectfully I’ll give you everything and more, play with me and I’ll show you how a game is played..easy as that.
God bless you for waiting!
47yrs old....single.
....no kids...no husband...not having Sex...I have in the past ...NO MORE!!!
conchetta m you are maybe called for singleness in your life ! That’s also a blessing you are able to glorify God in a different way ❕🙏🏽
I think you might be asexual.
@@tessack2777 it is not ever a blessing to be single so shhh
@@sonatacg8690 I mean some people down for it
Yes if she dies any want to be with unbelievers
I know people who attend church that try to justify premarital sex but I agree 1000% with this gentlemen
I agree completely. God makes our bodies ready for sex and childbearing in our teens. Our culture often asks us to wait for many years while we get our career going to get married. This long period of abstinence can lead us to engaging in premarital sex simply because the sexual instinct is so hard to suppress. I think our culture should change to prepare us for marriage much earlier in life so that premarital sexual temptation is not so difficult to endure.
Meesh AMEN!
Insidious Sid Exactky! I wish God gave us a button or switch that if we flicked the sexual desire would go away in a non-pleasurable way. Instead, we would get high on the most high and this is coming from a girl😅
If he truly loves me, he will not talk me into sex before marriage. I want him badly, but I want him when the time is right, on our honeymoon. It is too bad that he, and I are not young anymore, but the grace of God can redeem both of us.
Even better, if you can still work on your career whilst your married young, so you can still live the life you want career wise and romantic wise
Some have difficulty some have none.
I've heard it said 'Sex in marriage is like a fireplace, it keeps the house warm, bright and comforting but once the fire gets out of that fireplace it can easily burn down the entire house endangering everyone inside.'
Thank you for posting this. A lot of people talk about sexual compatibility, but I don’t see how you could feel the way your first time or if you really like the person. Tv and porn fills our head with that nonsense.
Araminta Williams
This is becase "television PROGRAMS" do exactly that. It was designed for mind PROGRAMMING purposes. It is one of the many aspects of the beast system.
RP McMurphy communication is key if you tell the person what you want then I don’t see how it’s a problem.
Araminta Williams
I agree with you to an extent, but I'm not sure how your response resonates with the point behind my comment ❤🤙🏼
RP McMurphy I was saying that because of the sexual compatibility part and how people aren’t satisfied because they see things on tv they want to try because they think it looks fun.
Araminta Williams
Yes. And that is how television, programs people's minds!
It morphs reality, pushes unhealthy narratives, and persuades folks to think and act in particular ways ( magazines and social media included)
Real love is self-sacrificing. You want the highest good for the other person and it develops through the practice of the virtue of chastity. You're willing to get to know the other person and love them for their own sake not for how they may make you feel. The initial passion that happens when you fall in love is great but it resides on the emotional and sensual plane. To go deeper, there must be a permanent commitment between two people in such a way that it reflects how God loves us in a permanent, exclusive, committed and fruitful way. When you practice chastity, respect for self and the other grows. I really wish more people understood that.
I'm muslim and everything you said was right. Good job brother guiding people on the right path.
Jesus loves you 😘
He’s not your brother, satan.
@@australia5766 lol
@@australia5766 no
@@fbee6844 We are all brothers my friend, love from a Muslim.
You’re spot on on everything! I love how you told all these truths in such an honest, but gentle way. None of it sounds judgmental, just factual scripturally.
Amen brother..... It's hard though, I'm a 19 year old guy and a virgin, but I look around me and nobody shares my views on this subject, no matter how much I show them the pitfalls from doing so.
But the future is in God's hands.... I bet I just see it this way because I can only see so much
@@youtubeusername1965 hard ain't it? I'm not in a church right now so I know I'm missing that community that is like minded
Yes. There could be a girl near you age god wants you to marry feeling the same way. He will provide ;)
I commend you. Please review your inner circle of friends and seek out godly people who share your beliefs
Hey same here, 19 year old Virgin girl, good to see your comment, I thought all men are same, they all want just sex in name of love and relationships,I am literally not interested in dating or anything, my completely trust God, I believe he will find a good partner for me in future... ❤
Hope you are still continuing your Christian faithful life..
Thank you for your message, will take this advice and wait !
Premarital sex is like cheating on your future spouse. We'll need to do some explaining just something I think about.
i love that
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@Max Nielsen i agree how is it lmfao all them crazy bible bashers telling me what to do and if i dont i will go to hell and suffer eternal pain and suffering forever and ever and ever.i call that manipulating people by making them fear something thats not real.
Thank you for sharing this vid! I am 30 years old and I will abstain from sex and foreplay until I am married. Unfortunately, I am not a virgin, but I lifted up my past to God and asked him for forgiveness. I am now in my second virginity. When I meet my future husband we will not be having sex until we married! I will also not love with him until we are married for obvious reasons.
Second Virginity, wow.
Wow. I was recently asked (in a Christian capacity) why not to have sex before marriage and I couldn't come up with a coherent answer. I was prepared to sit down for the next few hours until I found the best explanation. This is the second video I've watched and I don't think I need to keep looking. Excellent video, I am sharing this one. Thank you!!!
I'm glad that not only has the LORD kept me from pornography, but from premarital sex. I'm still a work in progress please pray & intercede for me.
God forgive me, i repent for having sex all the time i was not married!!!!!!! Hallelujah, and thank you Jesus Christ !!!!!!!
People who are addicted to sex or stuck in it with a current partner. Wont admit how they truly feel. That they feel gross and dirty and depressed. The happiest relationships I have met are the ones in Christ that are experiencing peace and joy in there marriage.
That because they had sex before marriage
When you've been waiting since puberty but now you're in menopause with no prospects -- you start going through the 5 stages of grief. Over and over.
I'm so sorry, LaT How. It makes sense that you are grieving. I pray the Lord will comfort you even now and fill your heart with hope to "see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living" (Psalm 27:13-14).
If it is any comfort (and I understand if it is not), I am 41, single, never married and a virgin. I know it can get hard and that the grief can come in wave after wave... especially when we hit certain "mile markers" along the way. One story that encouraged me, though, was that of Nancy Leigh DeMoss (of Revive Our Hearts Ministry) - who got married for the first time - quite unexpectedly - at age 57. You may find her story encouraging as well. Blessings and strength to us in our unique journeys with the Lord.
Gift of singleness? It’s ok, I think I might have it too only I’m 21.
@@lindstheteacher1611 , I'm not sure to whom you're replying here (me?)... regardless, I will say that I personally don't have the gift of singleness. I definitely want to be married, but I am content in the Lord - through a process of LEARNING contentment! It seems that if a person has the desire for marriage, they probably do not have the gift of singleness long-term (although, obviously, in the "short"-term, that IS the gift they do have ;) )... but it seems like only time will tell for sure on that one. It will be interesting to see how you view singleness as your life progresses. Be blessed and enjoy the journey, however it plays out in God's sovereign plan + your free will choices. :-)
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Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing your story. It is an act of service to others.
I have had failed relationship after failed relationship because of this and has brought me nothing but pain. I really didn’t realize pre-marital sex was such a toxic and terrible sin, I’m convinced this is why you see the same people on dating sites year after year, I have realized what a sinner I was after finding Jesus Christ and starting reading the Bible.
So true! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on it. I needed to hear that!! God bless you Myron!
There is only one reason why we are called to remain chaste before marriage -- and that is because God Himself commands us to. Blessings 💕💕
Lois Debrobander
Amen! That’s the only reason we need🙌🏼
Lois Debrobander true. Maybe unbelievers or people who struggle with this (tempted to stumble) are watching. Jmo
Except he doesn't
@@communistx8691 really?
This is the best breakdown on why premarital sex is not the best for us. I was searching scripture to support my kid who is choosing to abstain until marriage. I was left unsatisfied with what scripture had to say and was looking for more. This was very helpful. Thanks.
Don’t forgot unwanted pregnancies and STDs.
well there are other things to add but theyre more for guys like us and i dont to offend abyone who may read this comment so ill stop here 😂
@@nannerlchanel5045 its easy when you see something weighing against you so many people would find the joke offensive but my view its just a joke its not my intent to offend so i avoid it to avoid hassle for later sometimes this self control is easier than we make it.
@@nannerlchanel5045 thats actually life in general but again for the safety of their feels i wont say anything
@@nannerlchanel5045 word✌
Use protections and you are good to go buddy.
Thank you for being real. This video made me realize a lot of things and I wish someone would have told me this a long time ago. God bless you ❤️
My fiancé and I fell into sexual sin for pretty much 2 straight months. We tried to hold off, then we did oral, then further and further. I felt superficially confident for a moment when she wanted to be with me that way, and I thought it helped my relationship anxiety. Now we’re pregnant from the one time we took the condom off, we don’t have much money, she doesn’t want to be with me anymore, but she’s going to stay because of the baby. I don’t think she would’ve stayed if the baby wasn’t coming. I had given up porn during that entire dating season, and when I decided to give up on sex with her I went back to porn to keep me sane. I started watching porn daily at 9. When I don’t have sexual releases or watch porn I get angry at everything, I feel permanently addicted. I wanted to marry her quickly to do it God’s way, but my parents were rude about it and wanted me to wait at least a year or two of dating first. I can’t do that, they don’t understand. If only we had gotten married right away like we wanted to, instead my parents shamed me for something good and now I’m in sin.
You’ve take a huge step by admitting your mistakes and issues. You can overcome your addiction to porn through prayer and fasting. And is not to late to still restore your relationship with your fiancée you two have to work together and put God first in y’all relationship he will make it work this time. Don’t just give up because you have given into temptation. Move forward and focus on how God can and will turn your situation for the better.
So I was married 25 years lost my husband. I am a Christian and want to date again. Ideas of where to go in the winter for meeting a Christian man . Not a bar , where and what to wear to glorify God
Muslim here, i 100% agree with everything you say.
Oh how I love your videos. Such a blessing 🙌🏾
Sex isnt love.
Girls,If a man loves you he will take the time to get to know you outside of the bedroom, then marry you.
26 and still a virgin. Sometimes I feel like I'll never find a guy who wants to wait with me. 😞
im 32 and still waiting dont lose hope! (:
Get rid of that Stone Age thinking
@@guillermocas2877 In the Stone Age, there was probably no such thing as marriage. If anything, it's Biblical thinking.
No dont give up,true man will stay if he doesn't ain't the one ur still young
Going on 2 years... Thank you I needed to hear this I feel I'm headed in the right direction❤🙏❤🙏
Could you do a series for teenagers?, Around 17-19 yrs old about dating and stuff and if one (as a teen) really means when he says he wants marriage. Maybe like a series on everything you talk about but talking to the youth because I'm going through stuff like this and it would be cool if you could talk to the youth
Great idea, I'll see what I can do :)
Make that 14 to 19, please. Thank you!
Rachel McClain 🙏🏼♥️
Thank you for that information, they are needed. I am on that mission.
Thanks for your videos Pastor. May the Lord bless your ministry!
Thanks, God bless you too!
It’s hard to except those of us who refrain from premarital sex have a hard time getting married, but others who engage in premarital sex get married most of the time and have great marriages!
You know, it's very hard if the girl refuses to get pregnant, whether they're married or not! Getting married means you want to introduce your children to God's love!
Yeah those who engage in premarital sex without god will eventually fall. And it will be rare for even unbelievers to have great marriages
Excuse me do u have proof cause ik Christian couple rn that having a hard time wait is because they didn't connect before getting married@@gbd-oq1rz
It's definitely hard... I know what it is I want long-term and I know that I want to be as faithful as I can to God and my partner. The mistakes or sins that I've put myself through have made me feel uncomfortable the older I've gotten, but the temptation is still there... for the longest time, I've been trying to find ways to wage my sins or mistakes by twisting what I know is wrong with logic that I know is from my own selfish nature... I corrupted myself in more ways than one when I first entered my 20's. Now I need God's support and strength more than ever so that I can fully experience what He wants for me. ❤
This topic is always shared by married people. Yes it's according to scriptures but what a married person knows about a single person's life? The endless loneliness, unfulfilled desires years after years? And when you are a middle aged lady it's particularly tough to listen to this from a married man.
Now days this is tough. Its nice to know what you're dealing with eith before getting married . Alot of men who are Christians get married lile this, yet they don't look happy
This has been a burden on me for a little over two years when I started dating my love. I fell in love with this beautiful girl and she did the same for me. I didn't want to wait for marriage and threw my virginity away to her as she did to me. Everyday I feel guilty for doing this, as it's a binding of marriage, and I really want to marry this woman. I'm just so confused and never want to lose this wondeeful woman in my life. I'm crying as I type this cause I don't know if she'll leave me because of this changes I want to have. This is by far, the biggest sin I have struggled with and have no idea what to do. I want to chase God and at the same time, marry this woman. I feel like I did it the wrong way. 💔
Do not beat up yourself. Pray with your woman and confess to God.
God will forgive and deliver you.
And ask her to marry you because you love each other, not because of love ties.
Soul ties I mean.
Please don't be too hard on yourself.
Rosh Lepz we broke up...
@@MonsterSlayer7 why did you end up breaking up? :(
Also, premarital sex can also lead to the common phrase/excuse :
" I cheated on her/him, because we don't have sex like BEFORE we got married"
There are exceptions to your theory. I was a virgin until age 27 and wanted to try sex. I did learn that sex without love was "bankrupt", but slept with a couple of partners in close relationships on occasion. My wife of 25 years was previously married to a bad man that beat her, and cheated on her. We met and lived together for 2 years before getting married. We have been happy, and trusting during our 27 years together, and could not imagine being apart. We both grew up as Catholic, and that sex was a somewhat dirty topic. We do believe that sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed between 2 committed people that love each other....
I'm a 37 year old man and my girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years. I love her but we are not married but we are having sex 3-4 times a week. I love her and I love having sex with her and she loves me and loves having sex with me.
Ive heard Dozens of these over the years. But one thing that I really wish is that they would balance this with the downsides of waiting until marriage So people can make a truly informed decision
I'm a 37 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. The first and last thought of every single day is "I still haven't had sex." I'm Christian so from an early age decided it's best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I feel I have missed out on one of the greatest joys in life - true love and sex. It may not be too late but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now.
Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me because a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Yet at the same time I have such a strong desire for one.
My friend, God cares for you and loves you deeply. But God wants you to take some action too and pray for wisdom to choose right. Sometimes we have too high of standards for a partner ( I struggle with that too) and we forget that we have to accept other people’s flaws too and show grace. Maybe your wife is a divorced woman, maybe she has a child or she might simply not be a virgin at your age. But she could be changed now. Be open to some more options and find someone to love for who they are, as long as they have a relationship with God now. Don’t look at their past.
@@alinabuzulanofficial2915 Thank you for your response. It so happens I only just read it as I woke up this morning and I was thinking about singleness and was dreaming about it. I hope our time is coming soon.
I just discovered my cousin is having sex before marriage and in lust is looking forward to be married as early as possible just so they could have sex. it breaks my heart. She is a Christian. I was so shocked. 😥 I thought his boyfriend was good. i was so wrong. He did not protect her purity and has no self control.
4 years passed, i wonder how it ended, would you like to share?
Am turning 28 this september and still waiting,filling confident all the time
A comprehensive list, my bro! Thank you. 💯💖👍
My pleasure!
I mean I have a weight loss goal/ journey. It’s really hard to not eat an entire sheet cake. It will taste good in the moment but the numbers on the scale will just keep climbing 😢
Excellent, excellent, excellent video. Born again Christian here and I would have loved to be exposed to these arguments as a kid. So sane. That's the truth. Crazy how we're encouraged to have premarital sex + how parents raise us with no morals and wisdom on this topic - wihtout wishing to cast a stone. It will change with my generation!
I’m so proud of my sister who is choosing college over men. It will be her first year of college and I don’t think she’s ever even had a boyfriend.
This is my desire to honor God in my life! I seek your will Oh Lord because You love more than anyone else could. I lay my life before You do what is pleasing for You oh Lord, and make me obey thy will. In Jesus,name, Amen.💙🙏
Awesome man keep it coming..❤
So glad you enjoyed this!
Absolutely agree 😔.. Should've waited.. Definitely adds to the problems and ruins things
Dawg I'm 21 and I've had 4 breakups by now because of me not wanting to have sex before marriage...and I honestly can't blame my exes lol
I hope your ex-girlfriends won't regret having to deal with unwanted pregnancies soon...
@@madkhaliqfarhan 😂😂😂 i mean who knows lmao
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📕📖↪" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. " Philippians 4:13 ↩🔹🔷
I am married. I have a friend that is living with her boyfriend. They are Christians. I asked her why he would allow her to live with him but not marry her. I find that odd.
This was beautifully explained. God bless! 😇❤️🙏🏽
To me the biggest question is: what is marriage? How can you get married right in Biblical perspective? Where in Bible is written who to get married? I am asking, because there are many teories about this, what is your thoghts?
*Where in Bible is written HOW to get married?
Also If you live in America, to be on the safe side, I’d just get married the traditional way
It's sad that so very few actually do it God's way as shown in some data I saw recently I think it's about less than 1% in the church attending virgin in America before marriage crowd.
Reasons #8 and #12 are the main ones
Ones man actually agrees with
Thank you for the godly wisdom you shared today. 🙏🏼
This is so great and so True! I am sharing this. Thank you so much!
I am 35, strong believer in "no sex before marriage". Waiting for the right person to marry. No hurry, Whenever I meet the right person :)
Divinity is most important, and staying with God and sex only after holy marriage bond is the most appropriate for me. It's a personal choice.
I am Hindu, it's a way of life and values we grew up and lived with all our lives.
And even most of your explanation solidifies my existing beliefs about same.
One thing I don't like about couples rushing into marriages is sometimes in order to have sex faster.
I am unsure what to do atm. Me and my boyfriend are serious together, we are planning to get married in the future but we are not married yet because of financial reasons(other people's reason is their parents not accepting them as a couple), I don't want to rush into marriage and make it unspecial, we really do feel married in our hearts already in front of God since God is Omnipresent. What even is Marriage according to the Bible? Public announcement? or private ceremony between the couple and God to join them together? People say that they don't take marriage seriously, but I think people just don't take the COMMITMENT seriously, even when they are married. Why does it matter if we marry later or now I wonder? God still knows if the two are serious or not.
A public ceremony is needed to hold the couple accountable to their vows. This is why you need witnesses at the altar.
Awesome advise Mark-right on point!!! I couldn't help but to think about 2 other reasons to abstain from premarital sex: The possibility of a STD and the probability of an unplanned pregnancy. Just a thought... 🙂 Thank you for your teachings! God bless and Happy Thanksgiving!
Rose Morales yep... People give the advice "just use protection" but as you can see.... how many non monogamous ppl actually practice safe sex nowadays?
You can't choose the the consequences of your actions(super gonorrhea, herpes, HIV, HPV, etc).. God can protect you from alot of things in this life if you make wise decisions.. Yeah its hard to stay abstinate but its worth it!!
@@dsetgetatme I agree. I like waking up and not worrying about something that could have been avoided. Obedience to our Abba/God is not for His benefit...it's for ours. God bless!
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A person can still engage in premarital sex and not be promiscuous. The high STD risk applies only if you are promiscuous.
I agree with you on the 2nd extra reason! If one don't want to get pregnant, then she should never think about having sex!
Hmm you can get an STD post marriage too!! You don't know if your husband will be faithful to you?? He might be going to prostitutes to satisfy his needs if you don't do that for him...
Can anyone define specifically how the original bible language translates “sexual immorality” as sex outside of marriage for a non-virgin? As in someone who has been married before.
Am 25 and a single mother i feel is hard to marry a single mother without having sex
But i believe dat nothing is too hard for God
Probably the most powerful video i’v ever heard. Thanks so much. 👍
By God's grace, we can.
Two important things that are never brought up in these videos are; unintended pregnancy with someone that you may not be Godly aligned with and temporarily/permanent STDs. These two important things are never discussed but potentially have profound consequences you will have to carry for your lifetime.
This makes so much sense. I wish I knew this sooner. Thank you. 🙏💕
What about masturbation? Is it really that bad? Some people NEVER get to enjoy the POWER of sexual intimacy in marriage and I'm VERY RIGHTFULLY ANGRY at God that He just simply CAN'T and or WON'T bless me with someone special! He has truly let me down BIG TIME and then some.
Unfortunately I lost myself as a teenager; that's a regret I will have to live with for the remainder of my existence. :(
@@nannerlchanel5045 thats one of the most refreshing things I've heard. Thabk you so much
God forgave you and that’s all that matters now❤️
Your story is not uncommon... Don't be so hard on yourself. God's grace is sufficient. God is willing to forgive. Repent, Forgive yourself and live better than that :)
God Bless
Excellent advice!!!!!!!!!
A lesson thats sorely lacking in society today. Many would do good to look within and practice some self discipline and self control. Stop letting the body control your actions. Who is in contol, the flesh or you? If its the flesh you better reign that in and hard because it will only ever lead you to problems and destruction.
To avoid the consequences i remain standing on the words of God and waiting on God to lead me at 39 now I chose to keep my body under and i have remain celibate till this moment.
I will not have sex again until I marry my future husband.
Bro...
Very true
Thank you
Thank you for this video! I had heard of the term "not before marriage" but didn't really know why.
Thank you so much for explaining this the way you did In a way we can understand it. I know there is all kinds of terrible judgments in the Bible about sexual immorality, but I had no idea that it did all the other things you just mentioned. For the first time in my life I’m with a real Christian woman who won’t have sex before marriage. I thank God for her because I have prayed every day for years to find a woman like her. SHE IS SOOOOO worth the wait. If we honor God 1st he will bless our marriage. THANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE
So true Brother, the same mistakes I've been making all my life.
Quite logical & convincing
Thank you for the answers💕
This generation requires more sight on this sort of Topics.....
As Media, TV & Movies embraces premarital sex & other stuffs to earn a good profit but at the same time all this things are corrupting young minds.......
So glad it was useful!
Great vid, thanks.
Glad you liked it!
#5 and #6 aka Soul Ties. The reason why you leave a toxic relationship but cant stay away or cant stop thinking of them😪. Most BAD soulties (some r good, like positive fam/friends) are made via sex but are also made by bonding/opening up to another person. Can be good or bad depending on the person. Easy way to get over a breakup is to break soulties with your ex and STAY AWAY from them. Their Demons r transferred from them to u and now u have insecurities ,anxiety,jealousy and u cant figure out why🤔And like Mark said, it can all be avoided by staying sexfree and asking God for help to defeat spirit of Lust, believers should be fighting those spirits and temptations with scriptures and praying. Nice video bro
Precisely! Very comprehensive... keep it up!
Thank you for reminding me to ask our dear Lord Jesus for help. I'm a widower gong on 4 years in sept? And I have basically experienced all you mentioned.
In reality, it is far harder for those of us that have been married & are now not (for awful reasons such as abuse)
All was on point and what i experience...
I'm waiting on my Kingdom Husband..before i have sex..he will already know that we're going to do things GOD’S way!!@❤❤❤❤❤
Well said brother
I'm so confused I told someone that sex before marriage is sin and they don't believe me the Bible say fornication is sin means having sex with someone not married to this is what he replied ... Sex without contractional agreement is a transgression at what point does the Bible consider you a married it is not when you stand before a pastor and he pronounces you man and wife that is church tradition they think Christian Church of tradition has framed my response and not the word of God please what's the truth how can I know the word of God
Grace is greater than Sin
Amen! Romans 5:20
I'm about to be 32 in a couple of months, still single, and tried to have a girlfriend, but never had one. I have done things to cope with being single, by watching porn, and going to prostitutes.
That was really good that really helped me 👌🏼👍🏼
Awesome video really speaks to me thank you.
My pleasure!
I’m here for that meme and ya’ll are making it real life lmao