Thanks for dealing with such a hard to talk about topic and meeting us with Grace! Our next series is on boundaries! Comment below what you want us to talk about!
i would love if you two talk about emotional & spiritual boundaries beside physical ones :)) and maybe like boundaries in friendships with the other gender, I think they depend per person but I would love to hear your thoughts
I am eagerly loking forward to this series! I would like to know your thoughts on platonic relationships, what constitutes boundaries and how it forms an important basis in romantic relations and friendships.
Can you guys talk about boundaries regarding to how much one should share about their emotions/feelings/thoughts to their boyfriend/girlfriend? Often time, I hear that you should never tell the other person “too much information” as it can come off as “too much baggage” or the feeling of that you’re “weighing them down” with all your emotional stress/worries. I remember in one of the videos you guys made regarding to long distance relationship that you had set a boundary of when to stop talking about business related things in phone calls. I was just wondering how to share while not “sharing too much” but at the same time feel deeply emotionally connected to the other person
Tori looks so compassionate and understanding towards Chad the whole time 😭❤️ Chad, thank you for being so honest and helpful. Also, I’m sure you get this a lot but you are really good at speaking!
“I’m not interested in a world where men really want to watch porn but resist because they’ve been shamed; I’m interested in a world where men are raised from birth with such an unshakable understanding of women as living human beings that they are incapable of being aroused by their exploitation.” ― Jonah Mix
@@user-lb1fl7sh8m That men who consume sexual exploitation aren't the victims of what they demand, which is the narrative of the church and people who like Tori and Chad who only focus on how porn 'harms' men (though men choose to consume, share and produce it for supremacy), instead of the women and girls being trafficked and coerced in the footage and image-based abuse that they consume to sexually subjugate women as a whole. The issue with porn isn't sex before marriage, it's that men are jacking off to what they damn well know is violence against an entire sex class. They are voyeuristic johns, as porn is just filmed prostitution, which is paid rape. If you told a prostituted girl 'you can leave and keep the money, or stay for the sex and keep the money' no girl would stay for the sex. Prostitution is the act of a dick paying to be where it isn't wanted, and overriding consent due to the financial need of the girl/woman. If Tori did know exactly what he and other men consumed, she would be terrified.
I just want to say thank you. I have been a Christian my entire life, but I’ve struggled with this addiction ever since I was 13. As a 17 year old, I have backed away from it a lot, but it stills holds me down. I am extremely embarrassed because of it, and I haven’t confided in anyone about it because I feel like they will judge me. I hope someday soon I can trust someone enough to keep me accountable for my actions. I love you guys so much. You’re amazing💛
Praying for you, I struggled with it too when I was younger and couldn’t tell anyone I just prayed vulnerably and read the word and He is a good God and He definitely completely deliverers me . He’ll do it for you too 💞💞
I’ve gone through something similar. I’ve never told anyone about it. It might be nice to have a conversation at some point. My IG: is @kyra.j.mck hope this isn’t too weird!!
Y’all are literally one of my favorite couples. There’s such a genuine transparency. I can tell that you both have the Holy Spirit; it’s so undeniable.
this topic was something that I felt no one struggled with and God has continuously shown me so much that it needs to be talked about in this community! it’s not easy but thank you thank you thank you for saying yes even when it’s difficult, uncomfortable, and horrible. I believe that God is using so many influencers, leaders, youtubers and especially people to break down the walls and shame and talk about it. Thank you so much I knew I found great people to look up to and fill my life with great advice and joy. Love you guys so much💓
Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this topic! How ironic that porn is everywhere online, and yet there is hardly any well done videos online that expose the truth about how damaging pornography actually is! Also, I just want to add that like Tori said in the beginning...yes, it’s good to give your bf/fiancé/husband grace when he struggles with lust/porn...BUT sometimes grace and love are not enough. Porn kills love, destroys trust, poisons intimacy, breaks hearts and ruins relationships! It can even cause betrayal trauma and PTSD in severe cases. It’s not a joke. My point is, that sometimes it’s out of your control. Like chad said, it’s not your job to fix him or his addiction. Sometimes you have to let them go. We all need to be praying for an end to the porn industry!!! 🙏
As someone who once dated someone who did those things and was not ashamed of it, I can confirm the emotional damage it has done to me. I had only dated him for a month (and he was my first relationship), but it took me almost a year and half to heal and be okay with the idea of dating someone new.
Thank you for being obedient to God and putting this video out. It will help so many people! I can testify that God healed me from my struggles with sexual immortality and pornography. Free from porn and masturbation and sex outside of marriage since about 2018! And when confronted with temptation I pray immediately and rebuke the enemy and choose not to act on what my flesh may want. It is SO FREEING!!! Praise you Lord!!! May everyone who watches this video be blessed and healed!
Can I just say- I've been watching some videos about pornography through the christian perspective and it's so crazy how dismissive some christian perspectives can be. How "easy" it was for them to get rid of it, and I'm just so thankful for sharing a real, raw version of the struggle, sending lots of love to you from Mexico :)
I'm not going to lie, I haven't have much exposure to this topic because nobody that I am close to openly struggles with this. Thank you for shedding light on this! These are important conversations that need to be had and you have truly taken up God's call to be vulnerable with thousands of people to help them grow in the love of the Lord.
Just some notes from this video: •I’m not scared because I have such a trust in who God is. •God can’t use your story if you don’t tell it! •God loves you just the way you are but He loves you too much to leave you that way! Thanks for sharing your past with us and for encouraging us!🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
I struggled with pornography for about two and a half years, from half way through my freshman year until the summer before my senior year. I was extremely sheltered in a Christian household growing up and didn’t even know it was a thing. I wasn’t even given “the talk” growing up. I found out about porn from classmates and checked it out. I quickly became hooked. I would look at porn almost every day for a while then go for a break for a week or a month just to try to prove to myself that I wasn’t addicted. But as soon as the break was over, I’d go back to it fiercely. I knew it was wrong and felt guilt for it. Eventually, I started dating a girl and really cared about her. Out of respect to her and following a conversation we had about porn, I was able to stop for several months. But the motivation for stopping was all wrong. I was stopping for her, instead of my savior. Sure enough, when things started to go wrong in our relationship and the writing seemed to be on the wall that our relationship would end soon, I went back to porn. We broke up, and God met me where I was. God worked through me to help me realize that life is nothing without Him! Even though I had a resurgence of faith, I still struggled with porn for a while. Just a few months following our break up and my renewed effort in my walk with Christ, I was going through the book of Romans. I read Romans 6 where it describes that we are no longer slaves to sin, but set free in Christ. At that literal moment, I am not lying, I felt a weight removed and I knew porn was gone. I had done nothing, but my Savior had done everything. Christ won my struggle against porn when I couldn’t. Since that day, I haven’t looked at porn or fallen to sin in that way. I still get tempted occasionally, but God always allows a way out. I know I’ll never struggle with porn again because I realized porn was not something I could beat on my own, but something my Savior could beat alone, despite me sinful nature. God is so amazing; He rescued me!
This was such a brave thing to do!!! There is one saying which I love in this regard - monsters can only hide in the dark. Once you open up about it and let the light of God reach every corner, the enemy can no longer use something to torment you with. I also love that you shared the facts. So often the church avoids going in to details and just says "do not do it". It is about time that we let people in on the information that there are ACTUAL HARMFUL consequences and that God really does say no to things for our protection. Thank you for starting this conversation and for being so transparent about the facts and the reality of the struggle - you shall surely reap the rewards :) May God bless you guys richly xx
I struggle with compulsive overeating and binge eating. I was inspired to tell this story out in the public after hearing your testimony. I know this is an issue that I keep falling into when I don't rely on God but it's just so hard when food isn't something I can just avoid. Giving it all up to God today❤
Tori and Chad- You guys are such a blessing and love your heart and seeing what God is doing through you guys. Thank you for your transparency and rawness! I know this is such a taboo subject and I know people who struggle with this and I definitely have too but now I’m delivered from that and working on becoming the woman God intends me to be and feel so passionate about this subject and love and relationships. I feel God is calling me to speak truth into young girls and boys lives about all these topics and with that, I have to give my own testimony and I have peace about it. I’m not shameful of it now, I used to be, but God is so good and I know his grace for me so I can extend that grace to others. Thankyou for putting your hearts out there! You guys are amazing! Keep being your amazing selves!
Thanks for all the encouragement, Nadya! That means so much! And you keep being amazing! Love that you are encouraging and educating the younger generations!
Thank you so much for sharing this Tori and Chad. It really meant so much to me. Chad, this is something that as a 27 year old, I have struggled with since I was 12. So for me, more than half my life as well. I am single and not in any relationship right now, but the Lord has truly convicted me about the changes I need to make in my life and strive to be a better Godly man for my future wife. Although it is a constant struggle but I have been free of porn for several months, longer than I have ever been. And I cannot tell you how incredibly freeing it is and how in control of myself and confident, shameless and strong I feel in my faith and in my relationships with others. It is truly a blessing. Praying for you both and praying that God continues to work in you heart Chad. Thank you both again so much for sharing. It really means SO much!
So much respect for you, Chad. I know it’s not easy to share such testimony but this is so inspiring especially for those who are struggling the same. Love you guys so much!! Continue to be a blessing to others 🤍
First off love the description box, chad never fails to give great description. Secondly i love how you guys were able to film this. Such a sensitive topic to discuss yet you guys filmed it with so much maturity and understanding. I love how vhad gave facts to let how this industry works. It gives insights and preview of how the industry works. Sevondly, love how chad discusses his engagement to this kind of hobby. For someone who has been in this kind of situation, its very helpful for those who have the same engagement to it to know the realization directly to someone who has been in the same situation. Aside from this, chad was able to discuss it with great knowledge and the complexity of how what we think is a solution may become a problem in the future. I love how chad give situational story ( which i think the same example he give (the alcoholic story) in one of the lives of you before or one of your videos). Love how Tori has been there as support and seeing how she maturely handles the situation when chad opened upthis thing to her. I love the honestyin your relationship in such a way that those things that makes someone shameful do not make them feel the shame yet overcome it through acceptance and change. Love the video hoomans. And im so proud of Chad for opening this sensitive part of him where possibilities are he can be judged by others yet he still did it to inform that theres ways to overcome it. Love tori's wisdom words too🐢🐨
I struggled with substance abuse and have 1 year and some months sober but seeing Tori’s grace helped me understand my husbands grace to me when I was going through that. I feel a lot of shame for the patterns I developed and seeing someone so forgiving is inspiring.
Really proud of you Chad for sharing something so vulnerable & difficult to talk about I’m sure. God is working so well in you & Tori. Thankful for y’all
Im 43 years old and struggled with porn through most of my 20's and 30"s. The thing that helped me most is I had to take a in depth look at porn and identify the things that I didnt like about it. For me its a lack of authenticity meaning its not an accurate view of what it means to love and please your partner. Another part for me was the drug use within the porn community. Many of those girls are out of their mind high on drugs in order to be able to do those acts. These are just a few examples of many things I hated about porn that I used to retrain my brain from looking at porn as a source of pleasure into seeing it as a vile and degrading thing. When my brain made that shift I didnt desire the porn in the same way anymore. I never want my wife to feel like shes not enough for me or that she isnt my number 1 priority. I love her much more than porn and the intimate experience with her porn can never compare to. I hope this can help anyone who may read it
"God can't use your story if you don't tell it." I love that. Thank you both for pouring your hearts out into this series , you guys do in every one of your videos but I know how heavy and tough this must have been for you both. I really learned a lot , it's helped me in so many ways and I have no doubt that is has helped so many others as well. Again , thank you for being so inspiring , encouraging , loving and just straight up amazing people. Blessed to have you both in my life and seriously love you guys more than words can say. Stef .. (aka Steffieeee) lol
So proud of you, Chad, for your vulnerability! Your transparency on this topic is going to help so many people to be honest with themselves & their partner. I love you guys! Sharing this!! 💛
Tori and Chad-this is a message of life. Thank you for letting your hearts voice it. Tori, I personally understand, and I can’t even say how much respect I have for you. Your deep love for your husband and deeper trust in Father is beautiful to see! Thank you for flowing with grace and for never forgetting your own need for our Redeemer. You are the type of person everyone wants to have on their team. ❤️❤️ Chad, Your openness breathes truth, not hopelessness-and that looks just like someone who has been showered with grace and knows it. Thank you for encouraging all of us that God is bigger than sin.
Also, thinking about what people ask when they say, “If I don’t watch porn how will I know how to have sex?” I remember I applied for a sales job once at a sporting goods store. They said, “I don’t need people who know products. Products are easy, I can teach you how to learn and memorize all that stuff easily. What I need are people who know how to sell and be good employees.” Just like that, focus on being a good husband/wife. Build the characteristics and values that build a strong foundation in your love and intimacy with each other. The rest is easy. It’s just about learning the physicality. The heart of it is where your HEART is at. Haha see what I did there?
It's so true what you said about the hidden needs behind this stuff, whether it's a lack of control or for women I think more often it's the issue of not feeling desired. I think we use it as a crutch to try and fill that "God-shaped hole" you guys are always talking about. Thank you for being so open! *Also I really want Tori's sweater :)
Thank you for being open and honest. I’ve also struggled with this for several years. When it becomes a habit, any instance of boredom or anxiety can lead to this even though you know it’s wrong. I’m trying to overcome this struggle and am trying to lean into God’s will more every day. If anyone reading this would pray for me and others going through this struggle, I’d greatly appreciate it
This is one of the hardest problems that individuals and society have to deal with. Thank you for your openness and your willingness to let God walk with you in your battle.
I just want to share this quote in hopes that it helps someone out there: "The giant in front of you is never bigger than the God who lives in you" - Levi Lusko
thank you so much for making a video about this! I feel like this can be a series in and of itself. I believe that the enemy has kept the church silent about for far too long. It is for freedom we have been set free. I love how you guys addressed that it is a multi-faceted issue (psychological, emotional, spiritual, physical) that impacts beyond the ways it affects romantic relationships. Please continue to proclaim the truth as beloved sons and daughter of our good and great Father. So much love and respect for you both!
Not gonna lie, the words at the end made me tear up,,,,,, God loves you too much to leave you that way...Thank you so much for talking about this topic..Love you Guys!!!!
God can't use your story unless you share it! That was so good! 🙏🏽 thanks again for sharing. Chad your story is going to help many people! Thanks for being vulnerable and transparent with us 😊🙏🏽🙌🏽
Not only does the church not talk about it but sometimes they make it seem like you should be so shameful and feel a lot of guilt for being tempted by/giving in to porn. I have watched multiple sermons where they throw in statistics but then say nothing about what can be done. Props to y'all for speaking the truth, people need to hear this!
'When you're sad about something you go to something you can control.' Something familiar. Wow ! That is exactly it. I have struggled with this issue that Chad has dealt with but I see it always linked to a time in the valley. Loneliness. Thank you for sharing your heart. Thanks for the boldness. 2 Corinthinans 3 vs 12 Therefore since we have such a hope, we can be very bold.
Somebody needed to talk about this and very glad it was you guys. You guys really know how to communicate with love and truth without condemning, thank you 💜.
i am so grateful that you guys are willing to share this information with us. it's so nice to know that people struggle with the same things you do. coming from a Christian family it's so easy to just get told "what you did was wrong," but it feels a lot better when someone isn't criticizing you for it and when you can actually have a conversation. this series has been amazing for me so far, can't wait for more! also the end quotes of encouragement always hit me in my feels :')
Love this so much! This hits right in the core. I'm so happy that God used you two to speak about this such a heavy and also really uncomfortable topic. I feel like alot of young people especially teenagers struggle with it, I was one of them I'm not gonna lie and it was in my younger teenagers years(13/14). But watching this just made me so relieved to know that I wasn't alone. May God always bless you guys and everything you do in His ministry. I love you guys 💛!
One of the best ways to overcome any addiction is to find something that is more meaningful in your life to carefully replace it with. Whenever I've struggled with any addiction, regardless of whether it's sexual or not, the way I get out of it for good is to replace it with the good, especially the good that is God. I'm grateful to have found your channel and I love that you both know God and Jesus well enough to have made the decision to share your testimonies through the Spirit with all of us!
There is so many good nuggets in this video!! Chad, thank you so much for being willing to share your story!! God used what the devil intended to bring you shame but turns it into something beautiful that can be used to encourage and walk with people who are struggling with the same thing! Man, I am so proud to be in this community - a community that extends Grace to our mistakes, a community that love on each other and people that walk with each other! Chad, I honour you for doing this! Thank you for allowing the Holy spirit to speak through you and to speak through your story!💕 Tori, you have the kindest heart! Thank you for taking on the heart of Jesus and loving people beyond the faults, sin, and mistakes 💕. Lotsa love xx
wow, so proud of you chad! this is such an insightful video, so grateful you guys have felt comfortable to talk about topics that lots of people shy away from, bc its all brilliant to hear!
Oh my goodness🔥🔥 This video is one of my favorites that y’all have posted! I love how you are so real on the camera. I just love this sm!!🤍😭 I TOTALLY agree! “It’s not talked about enough in the church”!!!!!! My dad is the Pastor of my church and he speaks on it a lot and I have seen lives become changed every time he speaks on it!!!! Love this!
Aww thank you so much Payten! We always get nervous sharing things like this, but people like you that enjoy these help us continue to get real on them! Love that your dad talks about it!!! So powerful of him!
Very very helpful video. This topic couldn't be more urgent today😊 I thank God for the strength that He's given Chad to share this and the grace Tori has in being supportive.🤍 love you guys so much🤗
when tori said “that doesn’t scare me”. oh, my heart. My friend broke up with her boyfriend because of his porn addiction. I hope and pray I can give my future man grace when he messes up whether porn or anything else when dating/engaged, so I can continue giving him grace and fight alongside of him in our marriage. He is still worth my loving him; he is enough. Thank you Tori for the grace you gave Chad. Thanks Chad for the strength of your transparency and heart for sharing.
Chad, your vulnerability and openness are inspiring. Your willingness to dig deep into this and resolve the issue is praiseworthy. This topic isn't easy to talk about openly with the world, you should be so proud. Tori, the way you love, support, and look at Chad with so much compassion and understanding is so heartwarming. You two are relationship goals for some of us singles. ❤❤❤
I truly admire Tori's ability to tolerate that situation. Personally, I could never accept marrying someone who has a porn addiction because it would cause me to feel cheated on everytime he stumbles again. Just like I could never see myself marrying an alcoholic, marrying a porn addict is a big no for me. I pray Chad experiences complete freedom one day and that his story turns into a beautiful testimony ❤️
I love your videos so much. As a Christian in Germany it is not that easy but your videos are such encouraging and helpful. ❤️❤️ Love you, greetings from Germany
Thankyou so much Chad for sharing your story. It’s beautiful that Tori is supporting you in your journey. Thankyou for being honest and raw God bless you both 🤗🤗🙏🙏
I think the main problem is also how our society is just completely filled with sex content all the time. I have been in struggling with it too and it’s good to know that there is so many people that is also in the battlefield. It’s hard because it lies your self worth and also I have even feel scared of relationships in generals. Thanks for sharing. God bless you and helps us overcome it.
Dear Mr. Chad Masters, thank you for acknowledging the actual real struggle sometimes with this deceptive lie, thank you also for letting millions of people see that your wife supports you in this battle. You two are a blessing of support for millions of souls. Thanks again and may the Good Lord continue to Bless you and your family. Amen.
Grace upon grace. We have to extend grace to others. Tori clearly showed grace but in some way, Chad also showed grace. How? By sharing his testimony. Sadly, most of us have fallen short in this and I wished someone talked about this when I was younger. I just knew it was bad. But that was it. Hearing testimonies like this one, it's an example of God's love, grace, and strength. Thank you for doing this series. The world really needs it.
Love this series that you guys are doing! The church doesn’t talk about this stuff enough. Another idea for this series is to do an episode on the fears of sex (maybe q+a style?). I know for me, I am terrrrrrrrrrified for the day I get married and have sex. Pain, vulnerability, not being good at it, being naked, spouse being disappointed in pleasure or my body, etc etc.
That could be a great idea! The next videos we are doing is the boundaries series and we may revisit the sex series to answer things like that! I know this won't help much as it's just one sentence, but I don't think you will need to worry about the things you are terrified about! I think all of those fears will disappear when you give yourself to the right man in marriage! Also remember that God does not work in the spirit of Fear, but in the spirit of POWER, and LOVE and SOUND MIND! If you are feeling fear, that is not from God! Kick it out!!!
My respect for chad has gone to a level i didn't expect it to ever go for any person! YOU OPENING UP TO US IS HIGHLY COMMENDABLE! so proud of you chad for the journey you've had and for the one you're leading right now!!! THIS HEART TO HEART CONVO THAT YOU TOOK UP IS TRULY ALL HEART!!
thankyou guys!!! this was very much needed. even tho our counselor in our school talks about it a lot..it never had an impact on me....but you guys are dope! grow stronger in christ!
Thank you so much for sharing chad!!! As a woman who used to watch p***, I can confirm that it's a coping device for when you feel stressed or lonely. It also adds a lot of spiritual Darkness to your life. There is something inherently dark and twisted about it. I'm so glad that you and Tori have each other and that she was so supportive of you!!! That is beautiful. and I'm hoping that this reaches many people who need it, and that we will see the darkness exposed in the light and obliterated by it in Jesus Christ's name.
Thank you guys..it really gave me more insight for those battling with it! You too are honestly a breath of fresh air! Sending you lots of love from Ireland! Keep shining bright🥰🥰
What a powerful video. Thank you so much for being so open, honest and vulnerable. This is going to help set so, so many people free ❤️ keeping you guys in my prayers x
such BOLDNESS, SUCH PURITY!!!! (purity is the ability of complete transparency toward God) I pray that with their clean hands and pure hearts that they shall continually see the face/victory/goodness of God.
Thank you so much for sharing this and being vulnerable on this topic. I am 41 and have struggled with this since I was in Junior High. If you might have more information or anything in regards to working on this addiction. Thank you again, you guys are awesome! God bless you guys.
Chad you are a testimony for so many in wanting to help others in this area. Gods Grace was upon you as I could see and feel your discernment. He will bless you and those you reached. I will keep you both in prayer. 🙏
I love you guys and all of your wisdom you share with us!! I was watching another Christian couple and the guy said that he had a text message support group where if one of them were feeling tempted they would send a pineapple emoji and everyone would pray for that person. Also, I love this podcast called Real Christianity and they are constantly advocating for their Christian program on freedom from pornography so that might be a valuable resource for someone💞
I just had the biggest realization... Thank you, for letting me understand why we tend to run to those harmful "solutions" that just like you say, later become the problem. Whenever we are sad o disappointed, it's because things that aren't in our control happened, so we run to *something we CAN control*. So the problem is really something so much more deep, where we need to learn to trust God, trust his plans, and learn to control our thoughts.
You guys are amazing. I love that you have grace for Christians and non. I love that you are transparent about your problems. I think you guys really will get transform the Christian community and their taboo mind sets about taboo subjects. Love how real you are! Thank you!
Chad, thank you for sharing your story with us! I know that God is making you and Tori stronger and gracious through this. And sharing it really helps people as well. You guys are loved by God , and blessed!
Saw this and had to watch it because I struggled with watching porn and I can't wait to hear what you two have to say about this, thank you for your channel!! i love both of you for being such godly people
@@ToriAndChad It does help to know that I am not the only one that was going through this, Chad I am praying for you because I am sure both of you know that Christ can help us overcome our past even with Porn, He is stronger then porn ever will be!
Thank you Tori &Chad for these series, you’ve really built my Christian walk as a Youth! Am Dianah watching from Uganda. I love you.. may God bless you greatly!
This was heavy! All of us have vices and we use them as a crutch not to have to deal with life. It becomes a problem when we don’t accept its a fantasy and its a form of escape. Some people don’t do that and it causes them great harm. Indulging in a fantasy isn’t wrong but allowing it to take away our self control ought to be more than we can bear. Men have been destroyed by nothing more than unchecked passion. Its a lesson we should all take to heart.
Major props to Chad for talking about this subject. Something that just isn't talked about enough, especially within the Christian community. And kudos to Tori for not running from Chad when he told you about his struggle.
Thank you so very much to you both for opening up , for telling your stories . In this moment i feel whole world needs the healing and you both are definitely healing tons of heart . Your words are powerful , they impact directly . I am thankful for the timing when I found your instagrams and soon youtube channel . It's been a delight ever since to learn something new and enjoy . ❤ Thank you once again for being so brave . ✨
Wow, Chad thank you for sharing with us, just thank you!! And thank you Tori for standing with him full of love and grace!! Thank you Chad for all the preparation and research you did on this topic, to give us tools to fight this battle. Praying for you guys that God will just bless you in abundance and that He will use this story to impact so many people struggling. And may He give you both the wisdom, insight and capacity to continue walking in obedience with Him and encouraging other. Blessings :]
Ahh!! Another great video! Thank you Chad for sharing your story, being so open and real, and providing knowledge, evidence, and research. You definitely have put a lot of thought and effort into making this video - I appreciate it. Thank you Tori for showing us how to be supportive and how to extend God’s grace. I hope you guys have a blessed day and THANK YOU for continuing this series 🙌 I look forward to the next video!
So much wisdom in this video . Thank you so much for talking about this topic. I personally don’t struggle with this topic but I know you are helping others tremendously. God bless you both in abundance ! 💟 love y’all
The struggle is real and that's how you guys keep it. I can totaly relate to everything you're saying Chad. I too struggle with this desire as a Christian. Well said.
Hey tori and chad, I am a Christian for approx 7 years and recently I am really struggling with this problem, so can you keep me in your prayers. Love the vid. Really needed it. The point that you gave on being open about it really hit. Until now, I was really ashamed about it so I didn’t really talk about it. But I am trusting God and his and his chain breaking power that he will use my life and my story to impact those who struggle as well.
Thanks for dealing with such a hard to talk about topic and meeting us with Grace! Our next series is on boundaries! Comment below what you want us to talk about!
i would love if you two talk about emotional & spiritual boundaries beside physical ones :)) and maybe like boundaries in friendships with the other gender, I think they depend per person but I would love to hear your thoughts
@@angelavanoosten1 exactly!!
I am eagerly loking forward to this series!
I would like to know your thoughts on platonic relationships, what constitutes boundaries and how it forms an important basis in romantic relations and friendships.
Can you guys talk about boundaries regarding to how much one should share about their emotions/feelings/thoughts to their boyfriend/girlfriend? Often time, I hear that you should never tell the other person “too much information” as it can come off as “too much baggage” or the feeling of that you’re “weighing them down” with all your emotional stress/worries. I remember in one of the videos you guys made regarding to long distance relationship that you had set a boundary of when to stop talking about business related things in phone calls.
I was just wondering how to share while not “sharing too much” but at the same time feel deeply emotionally connected to the other person
How far is too far, when do you cross the line of purity
i like how structured Chad is with the way he shares things
Tori looks so compassionate and understanding towards Chad the whole time 😭❤️
Chad, thank you for being so honest and helpful. Also, I’m sure you get this a lot but you are really good at speaking!
She is the best! And thanks for being so supportive of us!!!
“I’m not interested in a world where men really want to watch porn but resist because they’ve been shamed; I’m interested in a world where men are raised from birth with such an unshakable understanding of women as living human beings that they are incapable of being aroused by their exploitation.”
― Jonah Mix
which means ?
@@user-lb1fl7sh8m That men who consume sexual exploitation aren't the victims of what they demand, which is the narrative of the church and people who like Tori and Chad who only focus on how porn 'harms' men (though men choose to consume, share and produce it for supremacy), instead of the women and girls being trafficked and coerced in the footage and image-based abuse that they consume to sexually subjugate women as a whole. The issue with porn isn't sex before marriage, it's that men are jacking off to what they damn well know is violence against an entire sex class. They are voyeuristic johns, as porn is just filmed prostitution, which is paid rape. If you told a prostituted girl 'you can leave and keep the money, or stay for the sex and keep the money' no girl would stay for the sex. Prostitution is the act of a dick paying to be where it isn't wanted, and overriding consent due to the financial need of the girl/woman. If Tori did know exactly what he and other men consumed, she would be terrified.
@@cheryl5667 Well said.
@@arbretree5463 Thank you very much. I appreciate your support, especially among a Christian, anti-feminist community.
Amazing
I just want to say thank you. I have been a Christian my entire life, but I’ve struggled with this addiction ever since I was 13. As a 17 year old, I have backed away from it a lot, but it stills holds me down. I am extremely embarrassed because of it, and I haven’t confided in anyone about it because I feel like they will judge me. I hope someday soon I can trust someone enough to keep me accountable for my actions. I love you guys so much. You’re amazing💛
We pray that over your life too, Emma! We love you!
Praying for you, I struggled with it too when I was younger and couldn’t tell anyone I just prayed vulnerably and read the word and He is a good God and He definitely completely deliverers me . He’ll do it for you too 💞💞
Chad and Tori, We love you.. Love you so much!
@@eliceiam_ thank you so so much for your encouragement!
I’ve gone through something similar. I’ve never told anyone about it. It might be nice to have a conversation at some point. My IG: is @kyra.j.mck hope this isn’t too weird!!
Y’all are literally one of my favorite couples. There’s such a genuine transparency. I can tell that you both have the Holy Spirit; it’s so undeniable.
Thank you so much for encouraging us!
it's lovely
this topic was something that I felt no one struggled with and God has continuously shown me so much that it needs to be talked about in this community! it’s not easy but thank you thank you thank you for saying yes even when it’s difficult, uncomfortable, and horrible. I believe that God is using so many influencers, leaders, youtubers and especially people to break down the walls and shame and talk about it. Thank you so much I knew I found great people to look up to and fill my life with great advice and joy. Love you guys so much💓
We love you, Trinity!!! Thanks for being a light and a ball of joy in our life!!
Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this topic! How ironic that porn is everywhere online, and yet there is hardly any well done videos online that expose the truth about how damaging pornography actually is!
Also, I just want to add that like Tori said in the beginning...yes, it’s good to give your bf/fiancé/husband grace when he struggles with lust/porn...BUT sometimes grace and love are not enough. Porn kills love, destroys trust, poisons intimacy, breaks hearts and ruins relationships! It can even cause betrayal trauma and PTSD in severe cases. It’s not a joke. My point is, that sometimes it’s out of your control. Like chad said, it’s not your job to fix him or his addiction. Sometimes you have to let them go.
We all need to be praying for an end to the porn industry!!! 🙏
You are so right!!! Love what you said that it kills love. so powerful!
@@ToriAndChad Thanks for taking the time to read my comment and respond! :)
How do I forget it? Like every time I close my eyes it's there
As someone who once dated someone who did those things and was not ashamed of it, I can confirm the emotional damage it has done to me. I had only dated him for a month (and he was my first relationship), but it took me almost a year and half to heal and be okay with the idea of dating someone new.
Thank you for being obedient to God and putting this video out. It will help so many people! I can testify that God healed me from my struggles with sexual immortality and pornography. Free from porn and masturbation and sex outside of marriage since about 2018! And when confronted with temptation I pray immediately and rebuke the enemy and choose not to act on what my flesh may want. It is SO FREEING!!! Praise you Lord!!! May everyone who watches this video be blessed and healed!
Love that you have been healed! What a praise report! Love it! wow!
Amen. Thank you for commwnting this❤️
Can I just say- I've been watching some videos about pornography through the christian perspective and it's so crazy how dismissive some christian perspectives can be. How "easy" it was for them to get rid of it, and I'm just so thankful for sharing a real, raw version of the struggle, sending lots of love to you from Mexico :)
Why thank you for saying that! Sending you love right back!
I'm not going to lie, I haven't have much exposure to this topic because nobody that I am close to openly struggles with this. Thank you for shedding light on this! These are important conversations that need to be had and you have truly taken up God's call to be vulnerable with thousands of people to help them grow in the love of the Lord.
Aww thank for meeting us with Grace, Madison! That means so much!
Just some notes from this video:
•I’m not scared because I have such a trust in who God is.
•God can’t use your story if you don’t tell it!
•God loves you just the way you are but He loves you too much to leave you that way!
Thanks for sharing your past with us and for encouraging us!🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
Awww love these notes, Andreea!!
I struggled with pornography for about two and a half years, from half way through my freshman year until the summer before my senior year. I was extremely sheltered in a Christian household growing up and didn’t even know it was a thing. I wasn’t even given “the talk” growing up. I found out about porn from classmates and checked it out. I quickly became hooked. I would look at porn almost every day for a while then go for a break for a week or a month just to try to prove to myself that I wasn’t addicted. But as soon as the break was over, I’d go back to it fiercely. I knew it was wrong and felt guilt for it. Eventually, I started dating a girl and really cared about her. Out of respect to her and following a conversation we had about porn, I was able to stop for several months. But the motivation for stopping was all wrong. I was stopping for her, instead of my savior. Sure enough, when things started to go wrong in our relationship and the writing seemed to be on the wall that our relationship would end soon, I went back to porn. We broke up, and God met me where I was. God worked through me to help me realize that life is nothing without Him! Even though I had a resurgence of faith, I still struggled with porn for a while. Just a few months following our break up and my renewed effort in my walk with Christ, I was going through the book of Romans. I read Romans 6 where it describes that we are no longer slaves to sin, but set free in Christ. At that literal moment, I am not lying, I felt a weight removed and I knew porn was gone. I had done nothing, but my Savior had done everything. Christ won my struggle against porn when I couldn’t. Since that day, I haven’t looked at porn or fallen to sin in that way. I still get tempted occasionally, but God always allows a way out. I know I’ll never struggle with porn again because I realized porn was not something I could beat on my own, but something my Savior could beat alone, despite me sinful nature. God is so amazing; He rescued me!
I needed this
This was such a brave thing to do!!! There is one saying which I love in this regard - monsters can only hide in the dark. Once you open up about it and let the light of God reach every corner, the enemy can no longer use something to torment you with. I also love that you shared the facts. So often the church avoids going in to details and just says "do not do it". It is about time that we let people in on the information that there are ACTUAL HARMFUL consequences and that God really does say no to things for our protection. Thank you for starting this conversation and for being so transparent about the facts and the reality of the struggle - you shall surely reap the rewards :) May God bless you guys richly xx
Preach it, Sarah!!! Love that analogy about the hiding in the dark! God bless you too, Sarah!!!
aww the dedication and preparation you put into this is amazing and we appreciate you Chad!!!
So sweet of you to say that!!! I appreciate you, Angela!!
I struggle with compulsive overeating and binge eating. I was inspired to tell this story out in the public after hearing your testimony. I know this is an issue that I keep falling into when I don't rely on God but it's just so hard when food isn't something I can just avoid. Giving it all up to God today❤
Tori and Chad- You guys are such a blessing and love your heart and seeing what God is doing through you guys. Thank you for your transparency and rawness! I know this is such a taboo subject and I know people who struggle with this and I definitely have too but now I’m delivered from that and working on becoming the woman God intends me to be and feel so passionate about this subject and love and relationships. I feel God is calling me to speak truth into young girls and boys lives about all these topics and with that, I have to give my own testimony and I have peace about it. I’m not shameful of it now, I used to be, but God is so good and I know his grace for me so I can extend that grace to others. Thankyou for putting your hearts out there! You guys are amazing! Keep being your amazing selves!
Thanks for all the encouragement, Nadya! That means so much! And you keep being amazing! Love that you are encouraging and educating the younger generations!
Thank you so much for sharing this Tori and Chad. It really meant so much to me. Chad, this is something that as a 27 year old, I have struggled with since I was 12. So for me, more than half my life as well. I am single and not in any relationship right now, but the Lord has truly convicted me about the changes I need to make in my life and strive to be a better Godly man for my future wife. Although it is a constant struggle but I have been free of porn for several months, longer than I have ever been. And I cannot tell you how incredibly freeing it is and how in control of myself and confident, shameless and strong I feel in my faith and in my relationships with others. It is truly a blessing. Praying for you both and praying that God continues to work in you heart Chad. Thank you both again so much for sharing. It really means SO much!
So much respect for you, Chad. I know it’s not easy to share such testimony but this is so inspiring especially for those who are struggling the same. Love you guys so much!! Continue to be a blessing to others 🤍
Thanks for watching and lifting us up, Patricia! Means a lot! We love you!
Run to the video as fast as I can, can’t wait for this part. God bless you guys. Love from Vietnam
hahah God bless you! Sending love to Vietnam as well!
First off love the description box, chad never fails to give great description. Secondly i love how you guys were able to film this. Such a sensitive topic to discuss yet you guys filmed it with so much maturity and understanding. I love how vhad gave facts to let how this industry works. It gives insights and preview of how the industry works. Sevondly, love how chad discusses his engagement to this kind of hobby. For someone who has been in this kind of situation, its very helpful for those who have the same engagement to it to know the realization directly to someone who has been in the same situation. Aside from this, chad was able to discuss it with great knowledge and the complexity of how what we think is a solution may become a problem in the future. I love how chad give situational story ( which i think the same example he give (the alcoholic story) in one of the lives of you before or one of your videos). Love how Tori has been there as support and seeing how she maturely handles the situation when chad opened upthis thing to her. I love the honestyin your relationship in such a way that those things that makes someone shameful do not make them feel the shame yet overcome it through acceptance and change. Love the video hoomans. And im so proud of Chad for opening this sensitive part of him where possibilities are he can be judged by others yet he still did it to inform that theres ways to overcome it. Love tori's wisdom words too🐢🐨
We love you baby Yoda! Thanks for the thoughtful message as always! We can't wait to meet you in person! hahah
I struggled with substance abuse and have 1 year and some months sober but seeing Tori’s grace helped me understand my husbands grace to me when I was going through that. I feel a lot of shame for the patterns I developed and seeing someone so forgiving is inspiring.
Wowo that is so powerful....
Really proud of you Chad for sharing something so vulnerable & difficult to talk about I’m sure. God is working so well in you & Tori. Thankful for y’all
Thanks for the love, Caroline! Very kind of you!!!
Im 43 years old and struggled with porn through most of my 20's and 30"s. The thing that helped me most is I had to take a in depth look at porn and identify the things that I didnt like about it. For me its a lack of authenticity meaning its not an accurate view of what it means to love and please your partner. Another part for me was the drug use within the porn community. Many of those girls are out of their mind high on drugs in order to be able to do those acts. These are just a few examples of many things I hated about porn that I used to retrain my brain from looking at porn as a source of pleasure into seeing it as a vile and degrading thing. When my brain made that shift I didnt desire the porn in the same way anymore. I never want my wife to feel like shes not enough for me or that she isnt my number 1 priority. I love her much more than porn and the intimate experience with her porn can never compare to.
I hope this can help anyone who may read it
"God can't use your story if you don't tell it." I love that. Thank you both for pouring your hearts out into this series , you guys do in every one of your videos but I know how heavy and tough this must have been for you both. I really learned a lot , it's helped me in so many ways and I have no doubt that is has helped so many others as well. Again , thank you for being so inspiring , encouraging , loving and just straight up amazing people. Blessed to have you both in my life and seriously love you guys more than words can say.
Stef .. (aka Steffieeee) lol
We love you Steffieeeee hahah Thanks for being willing to watch this awkward video!
So proud of you, Chad, for your vulnerability! Your transparency on this topic is going to help so many people to be honest with themselves & their partner. I love you guys! Sharing this!! 💛
Aww noodle neens! We love you guys so much! Thanks for taking the time to watch and lift us up! Means a lot...
Tori and Chad-this is a message of life. Thank you for letting your hearts voice it.
Tori, I personally understand, and I can’t even say how much respect I have for you. Your deep love for your husband and deeper trust in Father is beautiful to see! Thank you for flowing with grace and for never forgetting your own need for our Redeemer. You are the type of person everyone wants to have on their team. ❤️❤️
Chad, Your openness breathes truth, not hopelessness-and that looks just like someone who has been showered with grace and knows it. Thank you for encouraging all of us that God is bigger than sin.
Wow! Such a great comment ! Thank you so much for encouraging the both of us! It means so much!
Also, thinking about what people ask when they say, “If I don’t watch porn how will I know how to have sex?”
I remember I applied for a sales job once at a sporting goods store. They said, “I don’t need people who know products. Products are easy, I can teach you how to learn and memorize all that stuff easily. What I need are people who know how to sell and be good employees.” Just like that, focus on being a good husband/wife. Build the characteristics and values that build a strong foundation in your love and intimacy with each other. The rest is easy. It’s just about learning the physicality. The heart of it is where your HEART is at. Haha see what I did there?
COME ON NOW 🔥🔥🔥 you killed it with this. NEEDS to be talked about. Thanks you two!!!
It's so true what you said about the hidden needs behind this stuff, whether it's a lack of control or for women I think more often it's the issue of not feeling desired. I think we use it as a crutch to try and fill that "God-shaped hole" you guys are always talking about. Thank you for being so open!
*Also I really want Tori's sweater :)
Aww thanks forthe love and the kind words!!! Check out Shop Twenties that is where the sweater is from!
who the Son sets free, is free indeed.
God bless you guys, and everyone watching this video 🧡
FREE INDEED!
yall came for me... but im here for it lol.
i NEED this 💗
love this series 😇
hahah I feel you.. thankful you liked this series!
Thank you for being open and honest. I’ve also struggled with this for several years. When it becomes a habit, any instance of boredom or anxiety can lead to this even though you know it’s wrong. I’m trying to overcome this struggle and am trying to lean into God’s will more every day. If anyone reading this would pray for me and others going through this struggle, I’d greatly appreciate it
We are praying with and for you!
This is one of the hardest problems that individuals and society have to deal with. Thank you for your openness and your willingness to let God walk with you in your battle.
I just want to share this quote in hopes that it helps someone out there:
"The giant in front of you is never bigger than the God who lives in you"
- Levi Lusko
thank you so much for making a video about this! I feel like this can be a series in and of itself. I believe that the enemy has kept the church silent about for far too long. It is for freedom we have been set free. I love how you guys addressed that it is a multi-faceted issue (psychological, emotional, spiritual, physical) that impacts beyond the ways it affects romantic relationships. Please continue to proclaim the truth as beloved sons and daughter of our good and great Father. So much love and respect for you both!
I love Chad's honesty and how supportive Tori is.
As a teen who's been exposed to porn since I was 5, this was so needed. Thank you. Those are the only words I can think of to say. Just thank you.
Thanks for watching it!!!
Not gonna lie, the words at the end made me tear up,,,,,, God loves you too much to leave you that way...Thank you so much for talking about this topic..Love you Guys!!!!
Aww that means a lot! Thank you for telling us that! We love you!
So incredible! As someone who has struggled and does still struggle with porn, this was incredibly meaningful to watch!
Aww thank you!!!
God can't use your story unless you share it! That was so good! 🙏🏽 thanks again for sharing. Chad your story is going to help many people! Thanks for being vulnerable and transparent with us 😊🙏🏽🙌🏽
Y'all are unique. What you're doing is right. What other couples doing on RUclips is utterly disgusting.
What is it that other Christian couples do that you find utterly disgusting
Not only does the church not talk about it but sometimes they make it seem like you should be so shameful and feel a lot of guilt for being tempted by/giving in to porn. I have watched multiple sermons where they throw in statistics but then say nothing about what can be done. Props to y'all for speaking the truth, people need to hear this!
Yes, that's so true... Thanks for watching and speaking life into us, Tanya!
'When you're sad about something you go to something you can control.' Something familiar.
Wow ! That is exactly it. I have struggled with this issue that Chad has dealt with but I see it always linked to a time in the valley. Loneliness.
Thank you for sharing your heart. Thanks for the boldness.
2 Corinthinans 3 vs 12
Therefore since we have such a hope, we can be very bold.
Thanks so much for sharing and encouraging us, Carmen!!!
Somebody needed to talk about this and very glad it was you guys. You guys really know how to communicate with love and truth without condemning, thank you 💜.
Aww that means so much!
i am so grateful that you guys are willing to share this information with us. it's so nice to know that people struggle with the same things you do. coming from a Christian family it's so easy to just get told "what you did was wrong," but it feels a lot better when someone isn't criticizing you for it and when you can actually have a conversation. this series has been amazing for me so far, can't wait for more! also the end quotes of encouragement always hit me in my feels :')
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! It means so much to feel embraced in those moments...
Love this so much! This hits right in the core. I'm so happy that God used you two to speak about this such a heavy and also really uncomfortable topic. I feel like alot of young people especially teenagers struggle with it, I was one of them I'm not gonna lie and it was in my younger teenagers years(13/14). But watching this just made me so relieved to know that I wasn't alone. May God always bless you guys and everything you do in His ministry. I love you guys 💛!
Thank you for watching sweet Kirstie! We love you!
One of the best ways to overcome any addiction is to find something that is more meaningful in your life to carefully replace it with. Whenever I've struggled with any addiction, regardless of whether it's sexual or not, the way I get out of it for good is to replace it with the good, especially the good that is God.
I'm grateful to have found your channel and I love that you both know God and Jesus well enough to have made the decision to share your testimonies through the Spirit with all of us!
There is so many good nuggets in this video!! Chad, thank you so much for being willing to share your story!! God used what the devil intended to bring you shame but turns it into something beautiful that can be used to encourage and walk with people who are struggling with the same thing! Man, I am so proud to be in this community - a community that extends Grace to our mistakes, a community that love on each other and people that walk with each other!
Chad, I honour you for doing this! Thank you for allowing the Holy spirit to speak through you and to speak through your story!💕
Tori, you have the kindest heart! Thank you for taking on the heart of Jesus and loving people beyond the faults, sin, and mistakes 💕.
Lotsa love xx
Thanks so much, Sweet Whitney! Love that you are in this community!!! We love you so much!
wow, so proud of you chad! this is such an insightful video, so grateful you guys have felt comfortable to talk about topics that lots of people shy away from, bc its all brilliant to hear!
Thanks a lot, Clemi! Very thankful for you!
Oh my goodness🔥🔥 This video is one of my favorites that y’all have posted! I love how you are so real on the camera. I just love this sm!!🤍😭
I TOTALLY agree! “It’s not talked about enough in the church”!!!!!! My dad is the Pastor of my church and he speaks on it a lot and I have seen lives become changed every time he speaks on it!!!! Love this!
Aww thank you so much Payten! We always get nervous sharing things like this, but people like you that enjoy these help us continue to get real on them! Love that your dad talks about it!!! So powerful of him!
Very very helpful video. This topic couldn't be more urgent today😊 I thank God for the strength that He's given Chad to share this and the grace Tori has in being supportive.🤍 love you guys so much🤗
Yes it's so important in this time! We love you!
when tori said “that doesn’t scare me”. oh, my heart.
My friend broke up with her boyfriend because of his porn addiction. I hope and pray I can give my future man grace when he messes up whether porn or anything else when dating/engaged, so I can continue giving him grace and fight alongside of him in our marriage. He is still worth my loving him; he is enough.
Thank you Tori for the grace you gave Chad. Thanks Chad for the strength of your transparency and heart for sharing.
I pray you just find a good man who has the decency not to consume filmed prostitution and the sexual exploitation of destitute women and girls
@@cheryl5667 I agree. It is a non-negotiable for me
Chad, your vulnerability and openness are inspiring. Your willingness to dig deep into this and resolve the issue is praiseworthy. This topic isn't easy to talk about openly with the world, you should be so proud.
Tori, the way you love, support, and look at Chad with so much compassion and understanding is so heartwarming.
You two are relationship goals for some of us singles. ❤❤❤
Love the honesty and realness. Thank you for talking about this
I truly admire Tori's ability to tolerate that situation. Personally, I could never accept marrying someone who has a porn addiction because it would cause me to feel cheated on everytime he stumbles again. Just like I could never see myself marrying an alcoholic, marrying a porn addict is a big no for me.
I pray Chad experiences complete freedom one day and that his story turns into a beautiful testimony ❤️
I was waiting for this! I was praying for you both if there’s any attempt of the enemy trying to bother you from uploading this!
Aww thanks! hahah there was definitely resistance but God wins those battles!
I love your videos so much.
As a Christian in Germany it is not that easy but your videos are such encouraging and helpful. ❤️❤️ Love you, greetings from Germany
Aww that means so much, Miriam! Danke Schon!
Thank you for this!!! So thankful that there are people of God to talk about real life issues! Love y'all so much and thank you for all you've done!
We love you! Thanks for the love, Micah!
Love the rawness and realness. This is setting people free. If the church won’t do it we will.
Love it
AMEN! We will!
Thankyou so much Chad for sharing your story. It’s beautiful that Tori is supporting you in your journey. Thankyou for being honest and raw
God bless you both 🤗🤗🙏🙏
I think the main problem is also how our society is just completely filled with sex content all the time. I have been in struggling with it too and it’s good to know that there is so many people that is also in the battlefield. It’s hard because it lies your self worth and also I have even feel scared of relationships in generals. Thanks for sharing. God bless you and helps us overcome it.
Dear Mr. Chad Masters, thank you for acknowledging the actual real struggle sometimes with this deceptive lie, thank you also for letting millions of people see that your wife supports you in this battle. You two are a blessing of support for millions of souls. Thanks again and may the Good Lord continue to Bless you and your family. Amen.
Grace upon grace. We have to extend grace to others. Tori clearly showed grace but in some way, Chad also showed grace. How? By sharing his testimony. Sadly, most of us have fallen short in this and I wished someone talked about this when I was younger. I just knew it was bad. But that was it. Hearing testimonies like this one, it's an example of God's love, grace, and strength. Thank you for doing this series. The world really needs it.
Love that! Grace upon Grace upon GRACE! Also your name! hahah GRACE!
Great way you described dopamine and reward centres Chad, I'm a doctor and am proud of the way you described the concept ! Great work!
Aww thank you! I was hoping I didn't say a bunch of wrong stuff haha
Tori and Chad Masters no you were very accurate! :)
Love this series that you guys are doing! The church doesn’t talk about this stuff enough. Another idea for this series is to do an episode on the fears of sex (maybe q+a style?). I know for me, I am terrrrrrrrrrified for the day I get married and have sex. Pain, vulnerability, not being good at it, being naked, spouse being disappointed in pleasure or my body, etc etc.
That could be a great idea! The next videos we are doing is the boundaries series and we may revisit the sex series to answer things like that! I know this won't help much as it's just one sentence, but I don't think you will need to worry about the things you are terrified about! I think all of those fears will disappear when you give yourself to the right man in marriage! Also remember that God does not work in the spirit of Fear, but in the spirit of POWER, and LOVE and SOUND MIND! If you are feeling fear, that is not from God! Kick it out!!!
My respect for chad has gone to a level i didn't expect it to ever go for any person!
YOU OPENING UP TO US IS HIGHLY COMMENDABLE!
so proud of you chad for the journey you've had and for the one you're leading right now!!!
THIS HEART TO HEART CONVO THAT YOU TOOK UP IS TRULY ALL HEART!!
Oh wow... well thank you for saying that... It means so much to me to read that and feel grace and appreciation from you!
Chad you choose so true words. That shows your strength.
Thank you
Very sweet of you to say!
thankyou guys!!!
this was very much needed.
even tho our counselor in our school talks about it a lot..it never had an impact on me....but you guys are dope!
grow stronger in christ!
Thanks a lot for the love!!!
“The solution became the problem” wow that hit me hard
Thank you so much for sharing chad!!! As a woman who used to watch p***, I can confirm that it's a coping device for when you feel stressed or lonely. It also adds a lot of spiritual Darkness to your life. There is something inherently dark and twisted about it. I'm so glad that you and Tori have each other and that she was so supportive of you!!! That is beautiful. and I'm hoping that this reaches many people who need it, and that we will see the darkness exposed in the light and obliterated by it in Jesus Christ's name.
Yes it does... Thanks for the love and thanks for the encouragement in Jesus Name!
You guys are awesome! Your life is testimony of His love and grace and it most certainly shines through the both of you!
Love you guys !! Thanks for opening up ! These are awkward but important topics 🤍
We are happy too because people like you make it so easy for us!
@@ToriAndChad always here !!
Thank you guys..it really gave me more insight for those battling with it! You too are honestly a breath of fresh air! Sending you lots of love from Ireland! Keep shining bright🥰🥰
Thanks for the love all the way from Ireland!!! I love it there!
What a powerful video. Thank you so much for being so open, honest and vulnerable. This is going to help set so, so many people free ❤️ keeping you guys in my prayers x
such BOLDNESS, SUCH PURITY!!!! (purity is the ability of complete transparency toward God) I pray that with their clean hands and pure hearts that they shall continually see the face/victory/goodness of God.
Thanks for taking the time to share that! I love the way you described purity! You are so powerful!
You guys are like the big brother and sister we never had🥺
We love that!!!
Thank you so much Chad for sharing this. It has really helped me and I will continue to work on this 💓 "There is hope".
Thank you so much for sharing this and being vulnerable on this topic. I am 41 and have struggled with this since I was in Junior High. If you might have more information or anything in regards to working on this addiction. Thank you again, you guys are awesome! God bless you guys.
Thanks for sharing this! Hope you got my messages on IG!
Chad you are a testimony for so many in wanting to help others in this area. Gods Grace was upon you as I could see and feel your discernment. He will bless you and those you reached. I will keep you both in prayer. 🙏
I took a full page of notes 😂 not to put that lightly because I appreciate you guys taking the time to talk about pornography. Praise Jesus
Dang that means so much!!! You're so awesome!
I love you guys and all of your wisdom you share with us!! I was watching another Christian couple and the guy said that he had a text message support group where if one of them were feeling tempted they would send a pineapple emoji and everyone would pray for that person. Also, I love this podcast called Real Christianity and they are constantly advocating for their Christian program on freedom from pornography so that might be a valuable resource for someone💞
This video came right before I was about to give into lust. Thank you
What the heck. I’m crying. This was seriously so good. Love you two so much!
Aww thanks a ton Ash! We love yall so much!
Wow. You guys are amazing! Thank you for opening up and sharing. This world needs more people like you guys! ♥️
Thank you for supporting us!!!
I just had the biggest realization... Thank you, for letting me understand why we tend to run to those harmful "solutions" that just like you say, later become the problem. Whenever we are sad o disappointed, it's because things that aren't in our control happened, so we run to *something we CAN control*. So the problem is really something so much more deep, where we need to learn to trust God, trust his plans, and learn to control our thoughts.
You guys are amazing. I love that you have grace for Christians and non. I love that you are transparent about your problems. I think you guys really will get transform the Christian community and their taboo mind sets about taboo subjects. Love how real you are! Thank you!
Chad, thank you for sharing your story with us! I know that God is making you and Tori stronger and gracious through this. And sharing it really helps people as well. You guys are loved by God , and blessed!
You're so sweet, Ioana! Thank you! You are also loved and we are praying blessings over you!
@@ToriAndChad Thank you! You re so kind!
Saw this and had to watch it because I struggled with watching porn and I can't wait to hear what you two have to say about this, thank you for your channel!! i love both of you for being such godly people
Hope it helps a bit! We love you, Rebekah!
@@ToriAndChad It does help to know that I am not the only one that was going through this, Chad I am praying for you because I am sure both of you know that Christ can help us overcome our past even with Porn, He is stronger then porn ever will be!
Amen!!!
Thank you Tori &Chad for these series, you’ve really built my Christian walk as a Youth! Am Dianah watching from Uganda. I love you.. may God bless you greatly!
This was heavy! All of us have vices and we use them as a crutch not to have to deal with life. It becomes a problem when we don’t accept its a fantasy and its a form of escape. Some people don’t do that and it causes them great harm. Indulging in a fantasy isn’t wrong but allowing it to take away our self control ought to be more than we can bear. Men have been destroyed by nothing more than unchecked passion. Its a lesson we should all take to heart.
Major props to Chad for talking about this subject. Something that just isn't talked about enough, especially within the Christian community. And kudos to Tori for not running from Chad when he told you about his struggle.
Thanks a lot my guy! Appreciate you encouraging us!
Thank you so very much to you both for opening up , for telling your stories . In this moment i feel whole world needs the healing and you both are definitely healing tons of heart .
Your words are powerful , they impact directly .
I am thankful for the timing when I found your instagrams and soon youtube channel . It's been a delight ever since to learn something new and enjoy . ❤
Thank you once again for being so brave . ✨
Amen to that Ananya! Thanks for taking the time to engage with us and lift us up! We couldn't do this with the support of people like you!
@@ToriAndChad :")
Wow, Chad thank you for sharing with us, just thank you!! And thank you Tori for standing with him full of love and grace!! Thank you Chad for all the preparation and research you did on this topic, to give us tools to fight this battle. Praying for you guys that God will just bless you in abundance and that He will use this story to impact so many people struggling. And may He give you both the wisdom, insight and capacity to continue walking in obedience with Him and encouraging other. Blessings :]
I'm so happy to share this! We love you!
Ahh!! Another great video! Thank you Chad for sharing your story, being so open and real, and providing knowledge, evidence, and research. You definitely have put a lot of thought and effort into making this video - I appreciate it. Thank you Tori for showing us how to be supportive and how to extend God’s grace. I hope you guys have a blessed day and THANK YOU for continuing this series 🙌 I look forward to the next video!
We can't wait to make more! The next series is on boundaries and we have a fun vlog coming next week!!! Thanks for believing in us, Hanna!
So much wisdom in this video . Thank you so much for talking about this topic.
I personally don’t struggle with this topic but I know you are helping others tremendously. God bless you both in abundance ! 💟 love y’all
Thanks a lot for the love! We love you!
Thank you for being so open Chad! I love how vulnerable you guys are !! ❤❤
You are both amazing! Your honesty is so refreshing! Thanks so much for these kind of videos.
Thanks for the love Janice!!!
The struggle is real and that's how you guys keep it. I can totaly relate to everything you're saying Chad. I too struggle with this desire as a Christian. Well said.
Hey tori and chad, I am a Christian for approx 7 years and recently I am really struggling with this problem, so can you keep me in your prayers. Love the vid. Really needed it.
The point that you gave on being open about it really hit. Until now, I was really ashamed about it so I didn’t really talk about it. But I am trusting God and his and his chain breaking power that he will use my life and my story to impact those who struggle as well.
Praying for you! Yes find good people to speak to about it and the weight will start to lift off your shoulders!
@@ToriAndChad thank you